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| EP 72: Navigating the Journey of Healing: Self-Love, Boundaries, and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse with Tiffany K | 04 Mar 2026 | 00:52:00 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Tiffany K—a school teacher, yoga instructor, hiking enthusiast, coffee lover, devoted mom to three adult children, proud grandmother, and narcissistic abuse survivor turned thriver. Tiffany brings both professional insight and deeply personal experience to this conversation, sharing her powerful journey from surviving toxic relationships to embracing healing, self-love, and authentic living. As the host of The Journey Within with Tiffany K., a show dedicated to helping women reconnect with themselves and cultivate personal growth, Tiffany is passionate about guiding others toward emotional freedom and empowerment. Together, Laura and Tiffany explore the realities of trauma, the courage it takes to leave abusive dynamics, and practical tools for recovery—including meditation, journaling, boundaries, and community support. Tiffany's story is a testament to resilience and serves as an inspiring reminder that healing is possible and thriving is within reach.
Key Topics & Timestamps Tiffany's Background and Podcast Journey (00:02:10) Tiffany shares her diverse background and how she started her podcast focused on healing. Discovering the Healing Journey (00:02:54) Tiffany explains how her healing journey led to podcasting and the importance of addressing trauma stored in the body. Healing Modalities and Nervous System Regulation (00:03:55) Discussion about different healing methods, including journaling, meditation, and the impact of trauma on the nervous system. Recognizing Narcissistic Traits and Trauma Bonds (00:09:42) Tiffany details the common traits of narcissists and the addictive cycle of trauma bonding. Leaving Abusive Relationships and the Seven-Times Statistic (00:12:26) Discussion about why it takes multiple attempts to leave abusive relationships and the emotional manipulation involved. Tools for Breaking Trauma Bonds (00:19:22) Strategies like making lists or videos to remember the bad times and resist returning to abusers. Abusers Moving On Quickly and Self-Healing (00:20:08) Discussion about how abusers move on fast, while survivors focus on healing and self-growth. Learning and Setting Boundaries (00:24:40) Laura and Tiffany discuss the importance of boundaries as an act of self-love and protection. Boundaries in Practice and Societal Messages (00:25:09) Practical advice on setting boundaries and recognizing unhealthy relationship dynamics. Does the Label Matter? (00:29:06) Emphasis that the label "narcissist" is less important than how someone treats you. Conditional Gifts and Manipulation (00:29:49) Examples of manipulation through conditional gift-giving and emotional control. Self-Love and Rebuilding Identity (00:31:07) The journey of learning self-love, accepting compliments, and rebuilding identity after abuse. Journaling and Tracking Progress (00:37:22) The value of journaling to observe healing progress and rediscover personal interests. Discovering Self and Enjoying Solitude (00:39:15) Tiffany describes finding joy in her own company and exploring new hobbies. Trying New Things and Finding Peace (00:41:17) Encouragement to try new activities, focus on mental health, and find peace after leaving abuse. Guided Meditation and Healing the Mind (00:42:24) The benefits of guided meditation and mindfulness for healing trauma and regulating the nervous system. Rest, Fatigue, and the Body's Recovery (00:47:40) Discussion about post-abuse fatigue, the body's need for rest, and the transition to peace.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Tiffany, 'I remember moving out of my nice, fancy house into this little tiny apartment, and I thought, this is it. I'm free. I'm going to feel amazing now. But I had no clue about the healing journey I was about to begin.' Tiffany', 'Whenever I would go back to him, it was always those good times that would come up first, which is why I got towards the end, where I would start recording myself with tears running down my face, leaving his house, so I could go back and watch it every time I craved him.' Tiffany, 'I didn't love myself. I didn't respect myself, or I wouldn't have continued to put up with the shit for so long.' Tiffany, 'It does not matter if there's a label. It does not matter if they have NPD and it's stamped on something. The point is, do they show you love? And if you don't really know what love is, let me tell you something: when you're constantly walking on eggshells or your boundaries are constantly crossed, that is not love.' Tiffany, 'It really is so much better on the other side when you're living in peace, you know?'RESOURCES:
"Leaving was the first step—but learning to love myself, rebuild my identity, and finally live in peace was the true healing."
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| EP 71: Empowering Women: Learning to Trust Yourself and Set Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life with Vanessa Kavulish | 18 Feb 2026 | 00:37:47 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Vanessa Kavulish, a business strategist, speaker, entrepreneur, and founder of VK Growth Consulting. Vanessa helps founders scale their businesses with clarity and alignment—without losing themselves in the process. Having advised and coached hundreds of entrepreneurs, and as the founder of Benefit Bar, an elevated eco-friendly event brand known for exceptional execution and unforgettable experiences, Vanessa brings both strategic expertise and lived insight into sustainable growth and authentic leadership. In this empowering conversation, Vanessa shares her personal journey from seeking external validation to trusting her intuition, setting strong boundaries, and prioritizing self-respect. She and Laura explore the impact of societal conditioning, the importance of rest, and how relationships evolve as women step into their true selves. Vanessa also offers practical guidance on building confidence, strengthening self-trust, and growing both personally and professionally without sacrificing well-being. This episode is a powerful reminder that true success comes from alignment, authenticity, and honoring who you are becoming.
Key Topics & Timestamps Content Warning (00:01:16) A brief warning about potentially triggering subjects in the episode. Guest Introduction: Vanessa the Empowerment Coach (00:01:25) Laura introduces Vanessa, her background, and her work as an empowerment coach. Vanessa's Journey: Overachieving & Seeking Validation (00:02:15) Vanessa shares her upbringing, need for external validation, and how it led to her career and eventual unhappiness. Breaking Free from Others' Expectations (00:04:18) Discussion about filtering advice from well-meaning people and learning to trust your own path. Weeding Out External Voices & Self-Trust (00:07:22) The process of identifying which internal voices are truly your own and learning self-trust. Reframing Self-Validation & Self-Respect (00:08:02) Vanessa explains the importance of self-respect and treating yourself as your own best friend. Vanessa's Epiphanies & Empowerment (00:09:25) Vanessa shares how self-trust led to empowerment, new opportunities, and the start of her coaching journey. Coaching Focus: Women & Setting Boundaries (00:12:38) Vanessa explains her focus on coaching women and the importance of practicing saying no and setting boundaries. Self-Reflection: Judging Others & Internal Beliefs (00:17:28) Vanessa discusses how our judgments of others reflect our own internal struggles with boundaries. Learning Boundaries Through Experience (00:18:34) Laura shares her personal journey of discovering boundaries and the challenges of asserting them. Levels of Boundaries: With Others & Self (00:20:15) Vanessa explains that boundaries exist on many levels, including with oneself, and shares her own experiences. Rest, Burnout, and Permission to Slow Down (00:21:12) Discussion about the importance of rest, recognizing burnout, and giving yourself permission to take breaks. Losing & Gaining Relationships During Growth (00:26:29) Discussion on how healing and setting boundaries can lead to losing some relationships but making space for new, supportive ones. Normalizing Change in Social Circles (00:30:02) Vanessa normalizes the cycling of people in and out of our lives as we grow and change. Coping with the Pain of Losing Connections (00:31:20) Acknowledging the emotional difficulty of losing close connections during personal transformation. Final Thoughts: Trusting Your Authentic Self (00:32:40) Vanessa's closing advice to trust yourself, embrace your authentic self, and reconnect with your inner child. Being Yourself Attracts Your Tribe (00:34:12) Laura and Vanessa discuss how authenticity and humor help attract like-minded people and foster healing.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Vanessa, 'We have to learn to trust ourselves before we trust anybody else.' Vanessa, 'The person you have from the moment you're born until the moment you die is you, so you really have to learn how to be your best friend.' Laura, 'The ultimate act of self-love for me was learning how to set boundaries.' Vanessa, 'You have to give yourself permission to slow down, because we can't pour from an empty cup.' Vanessa, 'The key is just trusting yourself and leaning into who you are.'RESOURCES:
"Self-trust is the foundation of every boundary, every decision, and every aligned life." Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 62: Rebuilding After Divorce — Finding Yourself Again with Heidi Bee | 15 Oct 2025 | 00:48:25 | |
In this empowering episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Heidi Bee, the Divorce Comeback Coach, to explore the emotional journey of rebuilding life after divorce. Heidi Bee is a certified and trauma-informed divorce coach and somatic breathwork facilitator. Through her 3-month Comeback Course & Coaching Community, she helps women navigate their "new normal" by providing the roadmap, resources, and relationships needed to move forward with confidence. She's also the host of the Divorce Comeback Coach podcast, where she shares truth-telling conversations and practical guidance to help women take their next best step toward the life they deserve and desire. In this heartfelt conversation, Laura and Heidi open up about:
Together, they remind listeners that while the road to healing may be difficult, it is also filled with opportunities for renewal, empowerment, and rediscovery of one's true self.
Key Topics & Timestamps Heidi's Divorce Story and the "Divorce Ditch" (00:03:06) Heidi shares her personal experience of feeling lost and stuck after divorce, describing it as the "divorce ditch." Coping Mechanisms and Avoidance (00:06:41) Heidi describes unhealthy coping mechanisms she used to avoid pain, such as overworking and numbing behaviors. Shame, Stigma, and the Need for Conversation (00:08:28) Exploring the shame and societal stigma around divorce, and the importance of open conversations. Coaching, Dreaming, and Finding Your Voice (00:17:28) Laura and Heidi discuss the role of coaching in helping women dream again and reclaim their voices. Relationship with Uncertainty and Healing (00:25:45) Learning to manage uncertainty, calm the nervous system, and develop new tools for emotional regulation. Attracting Healthy Relationships Through Self-Love (00:31:37) Heidi shares how self-love and authenticity attract healthier relationships, both romantic and platonic. Protecting Emotional Energy and Reclaiming Space (00:40:48) Heidi emphasizes protecting your emotional landscape and reclaiming energy from unhealthy attachments. Making a "Shit List" and Tracking Emotional Impact (00:44:52) Using a list to remember the negative impacts of an ex and tracking emotional responses to avoid repeating pain. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Heidi, 'I didn't want to admit I was depressed, but I was grieving and resisting it.' Heidi, 'I woke up one day thinking, I don't even know who I am anymore.' Laura, 'You deserve to trust your gut again. Spoiler alert: you were never the problem.' Laura, 'I started my podcast and realized no one ever let me talk.' Heidi, 'Recovery is self-discovery, and I forgot to continue to decide who I was going to be.' Heidi, 'It's more about trusting yourself, trusting that no matter what happens, you can handle it.' Heidi, 'I want people to know you don't have to be afraid of not knowing who you are. All that is, is uncertainty.' Heidi, 'The more I let go of things that no longer serve me, the more I have space to receive what is.' RESOURCES:
"The more you let go of what's gone, the more space you create for what's meant for you."
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| EP 61: The Power of Sobriety & Self-Discovery with Kate Vitela | 01 Oct 2025 | 00:54:13 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Kate, a nurse of more than 20 years and a personal development coach, to talk about sobriety, self-worth, and healing after narcissistic relationships. Together, they explore how alcohol, food, and limiting beliefs can leave women vulnerable to toxic dynamics—and how breaking free requires courage, boundaries, and a new story. Kate shares her personal journey of getting sober, healing from toxic relationships, and reclaiming her power through coaching and self-discovery. With a focus on mental health and sobriety in her nursing career, Kate now runs a private practice helping women move past numbing behaviors and self-defeating patterns so they can step into their divine purpose. This heartfelt conversation offers practical strategies, hope, and encouragement for women ready to rewrite their narratives, reclaim their worth, and create healthier, more authentic lives. Key Topics & Timestamps Alcohol, Vulnerability, and Narcissistic Relationships (00:03:14) Kate explains how heavy drinking made her vulnerable to narcissistic partners and losing her sense of self. Drinking's Impact on Women (00:06:33) Discussion on how alcohol affects women differently and the societal normalization of drinking. Boundaries and Coaching Women (00:14:42) The importance of boundaries, self-sabotage, and how Kate coaches women to recognize and address these issues. Gaslighting and Reclaiming Sanity (00:19:44) Laura and Kate discuss gaslighting in narcissistic relationships and the importance of trusting your gut. Losing and Gaining Friends in Sobriety (00:28:48) Kate and Laura talk about losing old friends and gaining more authentic connections after getting sober. Love Bombing, Alcohol, and the Nervous System (00:37:19) How love bombing and alcohol both create emotional highs and lows, destabilizing women in toxic relationships. Coaching vs. Therapy: The House Painting Analogy (00:41:51) Kate explains the difference between coaching and therapy, using the analogy of missing a spot while painting. Kate's Coaching Practice (00:49:33) Kate describes her coaching services, approach, and how women can work with her for personal development and sobriety. Powerful Quotes from the Episode"Nobody plans on being an alcoholic; it's a very insidious drug that creeps up on us." - Kate "Give yourself permission to question your relationships when you get sober." - Kate "Alcohol only fuels your anxiety, and your superpower is getting really clear." - Kate "Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated." - Kate "A lot of healing has to do with just discovering our own power through sobriety." - Kate RESOURCES:
Sobriety is where self-worth begins, and healing truly takes root. Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 60: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Allison Dagney | 17 Sep 2025 | 01:03:34 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura and guest Allison K. Dagney share their experiences of healing after covert narcissistic relationships. They explore the challenges of recognizing emotional abuse, navigating divorce, and rebuilding self-worth through therapy, journaling, and supportive communities. Together, they offer hope and practical tools for women on their own healing journeys. Allison is a best-selling memoirist and emotional abuse recovery coach who helps women rise above toxic cycles and reclaim their strength. After nearly 20 years in a covertly abusive marriage, she transformed her trauma into triumph, later sharing her journey in her books When Tears Leave Scars and Radiate and Rise.
Key Topics & Timestamps Laura's Divorce & Realization (00:04:08) Laura recounts her divorce, discovering her ex's infidelity, and the clarity that followed about narcissistic abuse. Leaving a Narcissist: Planning & Survival (00:12:29) They discuss the importance of secret planning, survival mode, and the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship. Financial Abuse & Legal Strategies (00:20:56) Alison explains legal strategies like "status quo" to maintain financial stability during divorce. Finding Peace & Adjusting to Freedom (00:28:06) They discuss the unfamiliar feeling of peace and freedom after leaving an abusive relationship. Writing & Healing: Books and Podcasts (00:33:10) Laura describes her book's structure, the non-linear nature of healing, and the importance of sharing personal stories. Identity Loss & Rediscovery (00:40:23) They explore how abusive relationships cause loss of identity and the process of rediscovering personal interests. Quality Over Quantity in Relationships (00:58:11) They reflect on the value of having a smaller, higher-quality support network after leaving abuse. Powerful Quotes from the Episode "I didn't know the depths of hell that a narcissist can do to you." - Alison "I had to choose me. I'd never chosen me, so I had to choose me.' - Laura "I cried because I was good at something I was never allowed to try, and someone was saying something nice to me." - Laura "I totally did not know what self-love was or how to love myself." - Alison "You have to take the first step, even if you don't see the whole staircase." - Laura "The key to me is boundaries, but you're not going to get there without self-love." - Laura "I am changing in a very good way, but that causes people to walk themselves right out of my life. I don't need those kinds of people anymore." - Alison "People are out there. Your tribe is out there. Unfortunately, you have to let go of the rest to find them." - Laura RESOURCES:
Connect with Allison
Your past may shape you, but it does not define your future.
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| EP 59: From Surviving to Thriving: Reclaiming Your Power After Narcissistic Abuse with Dr. Tina | 03 Sep 2025 | 00:43:48 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura welcomes Dr. Tina, a holistic brain health practitioner and survivor-turned-guide specializing in recovery from narcissistic abuse. Dr. Tina received her Ph.D. in Neuroscience from the University of Rochester and completed postdoctoral fellowships in psychiatric and nutritional epidemiology at Johns Hopkins and Tufts University. Drawing on both neuroscience and medical intuition, she helps sensitive souls address root causes beyond relationships, surroundings, or symptoms. Together, Laura and Dr. Tina discuss the challenges of toxic relationships, the importance of boundaries, and the path toward self-love. Dr. Tina shares her personal journey of once feeling like a magnet for toxic people, the strategies she developed to reclaim her power, and how those discoveries shaped her 7-Step UPLIFTS Program—a powerful framework to help clients heal from narcissistic abuse and learn to love again. Throughout the conversation, she offers practical tools such as somatic practices, mindfulness, and energy protection techniques, while Laura reflects on her own healing journey and advocates for women to share their stories. Known as a dynamic speaker who inspires hope in those navigating chronic health challenges and toxic relationships, Dr. Tina brings wisdom, compassion, and encouragement to anyone ready to reclaim their voice and their power. Key Topics & Timestamps Dr. Tina's Personal Journey & Becoming a Practitioner (00:02:33) Dr. Tina shares her experiences with toxic people and how it led her to specialize in this field. Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing (00:03:52) Discussion about the importance of boundaries, people-pleasing, and how these patterns attract toxic individuals. Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Trauma Release (00:07:14) The role of trauma responses and subconscious work in healing from abuse. Gray Rock Method & Emotional Detachment (00:10:16) Explanation of the gray rock method and its effectiveness in dealing with narcissists. Self-Love and Healing Journey (00:13:35) The importance of self-love, inner work, and the ripple effects of personal healing. Who Should Seek Dr. Tina's Help (00:39:28) Description of ideal clients and readiness for healing or relationship change. Powerful Quotes from the Episode"Never too late. Why not live the life you want, right?" "People with a lot of trauma can have very, very thick heart walls. I had a lot." "I grew up with narcissists and then I had a narcissist that destroyed my career." "I like that idea of celebrating your personal best because I think that's so important. It really makes me happy to think about where I was and now where I am." "I like to tell people, don't try hard. Try easy. Releasing subconscious barriers is the easiest and fastest way to get to where you want to go." RESOURCES:
Connect with Tina
Boundaries aren't walls—they're bridges back to yourself.
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| EP 58: From Silence to Strength: Laura's Journey of Healing, Boundaries, and Finding Her Voice | 20 Aug 2025 | 01:21:16 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura and her guest, Gabi Garland—her podcast producer and close friend—discuss Laura's healing journey after divorcing a narcissistic ex-husband. They explore the challenges of setting boundaries, overcoming shame, and breaking generational cycles of trauma. Laura shares how creating the podcast has empowered her and built a supportive community for survivors. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, self-love, and storytelling in healing, offering hope and practical advice to listeners navigating their own paths to recovery and self-discovery. Key Topics & Timestamps Celebrating Two Years & Laura's Transformation (00:01:56) Producer reflects on Laura's growth from fearful to empowered over the past three years. The Impact of Abuse on Self-Belief (00:09:53) How abuse rewires beliefs and the importance of doing deep inner work. Support Systems & Newfound Family (00:11:58) The importance of supportive friends and chosen family during healing. Celebrating Successes & Achievements (00:17:05) Laura's milestones: media appearances, bestselling books, and learning to celebrate herself. Podcast Growth & External Recognition (00:22:58) Reaching top podcast rankings, media invitations, and the impact of authenticity. Accountability & Choosing to Heal (00:53:07) Encouragement to seek therapy, question inherited identities, and choose change. Generational Healing & Family Reconciliation (01:04:46) Changing generational patterns, healing with her children, and doing it for future generations. The Power of Telling Your Story (01:16:26) Encouragement to share your story, as it may be the key to someone else's healing. The Worth of the Healing Journey (01:19:00) Reflecting on the value of the healing process and excitement for the future. Powerful Quotes from the Episode"If it feels hard, that doesn't mean it's wrong. The wrong people are leaving, and there's room for the right ones." "Gaslighting isn't just a buzzword—it's the sick, spiraling feeling when they say, 'You're too sensitive.'" "You're never going to get to boundaries if you don't love yourself." "The only person we're protecting when we stay silent is the abuser." "There's a woman who was me three years ago—if I don't tell my story, she's going to die." "It's never too late. Please hear this—you can change." RESOURCES:
The moment I broke my silence, I found my strength.
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| EP 57: Breaking the Cycle: Healing from Abuse Through Soul Work and Self-Worth with Michal Spiegelman | 06 Aug 2025 | 00:24:52 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura interviews Michal Spiegelman, a certified professional life coach, Reiki master, spiritual mentor, medical intuitive, and social worker, about healing from abuse and trauma, especially for women. Michal shares her journey from social work to holistic healing after her own trauma, emphasizing that true recovery involves body, soul, and spiritual work—not just talk therapy. The conversation explores practical tools like soul journaling and guided visualization, the importance of self-worth, and setting boundaries. Listeners are encouraged to seek holistic healing approaches and connect deeply with their inner selves for lasting transformation. Michal is the author of 'Becoming Soulful: Six Keys for Profound Transformation in Your Therapy, Coaching, or Healing Practice,' and is passionate about elevating consciousness in the world, one soul at a time. She empowers women and healing professionals alike to become soulful and shine in their personal and professional lives.
Key Topics & Timestamps The Limits of Talk Therapy (00:03:17) The Role of the Soul in Healing (00:05:05) Soul Journaling and Practical Practices (00:11:50) Patterns from Past Trauma (00:14:10) Kindness vs. Tolerating Abuse (00:14:34) Self-Love and Breaking Patterns (00:18:50) Not All Healing Means Divorce (00:21:50) Laura, 00:18:50, 'The biggest thing for me was learning how to love myself and that I had value.' Michal, 00:19:01, 'Until you feel that you're worthy and until you really learn to love yourself, that's why many women attract relationship after relationship with abuse.' Laura, 00:20:58, 'I have value, I have worth, and he was unwilling to participate in our life.' Michal, 00:22:01, 'If we get a divorce and we don't do the inner work, then we just bring the same patterns into the next relationship.' Michal, 00:22:51, 'To know and to remember that the trauma is stored in the body.' RESOURCES:
Healing begins when you remember your worth.
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| EP 56: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships with Marla Bollak | 23 Jul 2025 | 00:20:42 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Marla Bollak, an Interpersonal Relationship Coach and Certified Sacred Depths Coach trained in NLP, neuro-coaching, and trauma. Marla's mission is to empower professionals to clear blocks from within themselves and from toxic relationships in the workplace or family. Her holistic approach integrates the body, mind, emotions, and energetics. She specializes in working with highly functioning, successful professionals who have read all the books, attended all the seminars, tried all the things — with some success — yet the problem remains. Together, Laura and Marla explore:
Whether you're on the path to healing or supporting someone who is, this episode offers practical tools, hope, and encouragement. Key Topics & Timestamps Marla's Background and Healing Journey (00:02:58) Marla shares her childhood experiences, her healing journey, and her motivation for coaching others. Why People Don't Intervene (00:08:28) Marla and Laura discuss conflict avoidance, enablers, and the challenges of getting support from others. Clients' Experiences and Trauma Responses (00:09:24) Marla describes common issues clients face, trauma responses like fawning, and the importance of nervous system regulation. The Role of the Empathetic Witness (00:12:31) Marla explains the importance of having an empathetic witness in healing and how memories can be changed. Growth Through Healing and No Longer Attracting Bullies (00:15:49) Marla and Laura talk about using adversity for growth and how healing changes their reactions to toxic people. Energetics and No Longer Attracting Abuse (00:17:06) Marla explains how energetic shifts mean toxic people no longer affect or are attracted to you. Triggers, Healing with Family, and Vulnerability (00:17:59) Laura shares about being triggered, healing with her children, and the importance of vulnerability in family healing. Excuses vs. Reasons for Trauma Responses (00:19:09) Marla reframes "excuses" as reasons for trauma responses, encouraging self-compassion. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Laura, 00:00:34, 'Keeping secrets will make you sick, and they always come to light in the end.' Marla, 00:04:07, 'Don't give up on yourself.' Laura, 00:07:17, 'I spent 33 years with someone who made me feel like I was the problem every time, no matter what.' Laura, 00:07:17, 'You deserve to trust your gut again. You deserve to trust you.' Marla, 00:06:20, 'People would see me being abused in full daylight and nobody stood up for me. They acted like it was normal.' Laura, 00:12:13, 'What I found was that I wasn't being loved the way I needed to be loved.' Laura, 00:19:02, 'We've had a lot of good healing and it's taken a lot of vulnerability to get there.' RESOURCES:
Website: https://marlabollak.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marla/ Healing takes vulnerability — but it leads to deeper connection. Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 55: Rebuilding Self-Worth After Emotional Abuse with Dr. Jill Rosenthal | 09 Jul 2025 | 00:21:26 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura and guest Dr. Jill Rosenthal, an award-winning Harvard and Stanford educated physician who retired after a 35+ year career and became certified as a wellness and mindset coach, share their personal journeys through trauma, loss, and healing. Dr. Rosenthal's extensive experience and training, coupled with her own transformation from a stressed, overworked, unhealthy physician, wife, and mother into a happy, healthy, thriving coach, make her uniquely equipped to help others release unconscious thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that hold them back, so they can create their dream life. Together, Laura and Dr. Rosenthal discuss the impact of emotional and psychological abuse, the challenges of rebuilding self-worth, and the importance of processing difficult emotions. Through candid conversation, they highlight the power of storytelling, community, and self-compassion in overcoming adversity and reclaiming one's life after trauma.
Introduction & Coping Mechanisms (00:00:00) Discussion on comfort habits, dopamine hits, and how people push away uncomfortable feelings. Podcast Introduction & Guest Bio (00:00:40) Laura introduces the podcast, shares her mission, and presents Dr. Jill Rosenthal's background and transformation. Dr. Jill's Personal Journey (00:02:16) Dr. Jill summarizes her life challenges, including loss, illness, and her shift from medicine to coaching. Impact of Trauma & Feeling Stuck (00:03:30) Exploring how trauma, stress, and feeling stuck affect decision-making and self-worth. Coping with Trauma & Childhood Programming (00:05:41) Discussion on trauma responses, childhood experiences, and how they shape adult coping mechanisms. Effects of Emotional Abuse & Decision Paralysis (00:06:45) Laura and Dr. Jill discuss the impact of long-term emotional abuse on the ability to make decisions. Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse (00:09:09) Laura explains gaslighting, shares her experience, and introduces her book on healing from narcissistic abuse. Overcoming Conditioning & Taking Action (00:10:22) Dr. Jill describes the process of relearning decision-making and removing internal barriers to action. Overwhelm & Temporary Distractions (00:11:37) Conversation about overwhelm, avoidance behaviors, and why people turn to distractions for comfort. Pushing Away Feelings & the Bop Clown Analogy (00:12:20) Dr. Jill uses the bop clown metaphor to explain how suppressed feelings resurface and the importance of feeling them. Healing After Abuse & Setting Boundaries (00:14:23) Discussion on the necessity of healing emotional wounds, developing self-worth, and setting healthy boundaries. Patterns in Second Relationships (00:17:25) Exploring why unresolved trauma can affect new relationships and the importance of inner work before moving on. Feeling Safe After Abuse (00:18:54) The difference between rational understanding and truly feeling safe in new relationships. Conclusion & Resources (00:19:27) Closing remarks, Dr. Jill's website and free gift, encouragement to connect, and final thoughts on healing and community. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Laura, 00:00:40, "I believe keeping secrets will make you sick, and that they always come to light in the end. As women, we're often told to be quiet, don't share your story, don't talk about the things we go through. It's making women sick, sad, and suicidal. We don't have to be on the other side to share our story." Dr. Jill Rosenthal, 00:02:29, "I went through a two and a half year period where I lost both my parents, managed their care from two to three thousand miles away, had foot reconstruction, my husband went into assisted living and now memory care for Alzheimer's disease, and I had breast cancer—surgery, radiation, chemotherapy. There was so much that would make your average person just run screaming from the room. But Jill 2.0 is thriving and happy despite all of the stuff that's going on. There's still stuff going on—my husband is in memory care and doesn't know who I am the last couple of weeks. I'm getting called every other day because he's hitting, kicking, and punching the staff. So I have things to deal with, but it doesn't have to take me down." Dr. Jill Rosenthal, 00:03:30, "My treatment for my cancer eventually led to a disability retirement from my 35-year medical practice. It was sad, because I loved my patients, I adored my team, I loved what I did, and it was probably killing me with stress. We're so used to taking that—the stress accumulates. We're like the frog in boiling water. Although I was not in a marriage of abuse, my first husband wasn't great to me emotionally, but not like what a lot of people are dealing with. I get what happens when you feel like you have no choices, when you feel stuck in a situation and you can't get out, and when it impacts and changes your thoughts and feelings. You just sort of go, 'Oh, woe is me.' I get that." Laura, 00:05:41, "I remember towards the end, when you're in psychological and emotional abuse, your brain—I just remember my brain was mush. It had been 33 years. My brain was mush. I couldn't make any choices because, exactly, every choice was wrong. So I did feel stuck in a lot of ways, even just making simple decisions. I remember even after leaving my marriage, talking to my therapist and her saying, 'Just say yes to some good things and see if you like them.' Because I'm like, 'I don't know.' I call myself Laura 2.0. I think it's great, but it's so true. We're not dead, so we're not done. There's still time to do what you want to do. But I just remember going, 'I don't know what's next.'" Laura, 00:09:09, "I spent 33 years with someone who made me feel like I was the problem for everything that was wrong in our lives." Laura, 00:12:14, "I need sunshine. I am a houseplant. I need oxygen and sunshine and some water." Dr. Jill Rosenthal, 00:15:49, "Unless you heal this, you're still carrying it around. It's on your shoulders, it's in big, heavy suitcases—the old ones, not the ones with the spinner wheels that you just kind of roll. Unless you heal it, it's still there, and it's still talking to you, and you're still feeling it. So you take it everywhere you go." Dr. Jill Rosenthal, 00:16:44, "If you've been in a relationship where somebody has really beaten you down like that, you have to heal the damage that's been done to your psyche, and you have to heal that feeling of self-worth. You have to learn to get better boundaries, but you have to be able to do it in a way that is constructive." Laura, 00:20:53, "I have a heart for helping women because I felt so alone after my divorce, and I don't want anybody to feel that way." Laura, 00:21:02, "This is why we do these things, right? We didn't want anybody else to feel the way that we did." RESOURCES:
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| EP 54: Navigating Love After Trauma: Tips for Building Healthy Connections With Dawn Bennett | 25 Jun 2025 | 00:25:26 | |
What are Two Things you could do to improve your relationships? Perhaps you've heard the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. You see, your mind doesn't know the difference between past, present, and future. Changing how you think and feel about emotionally stressful times in your life can shift everything! Dawn works to help people find and maintain their ideal relationships. Dawn has Board Designations for Hypnosis & NLP Training & Coaching. She also is an Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner and EFT Relationship and Intimacy Coach. In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura and guest Dawn, a relationship and intimacy coach, discuss healing from past relationship trauma. They explore the impact of past experiences on self-worth, the importance of sharing stories, and practical healing methods like EFT and hypnosis. Dawn shares insights on recognizing unconscious beliefs and setting healthy boundaries, while Laura reflects on her own healing journey. Together, they encourage listeners to prioritize self-care, seek supportive connections, and embrace personal growth on the path to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Transition from Massage Therapy to Emotional Healing (00:02:25) Dawn describes her journey from massage therapy to emotional release and mind-body healing techniques. The Body's Response to Stress and Trauma (00:03:15) Discussion on how the brain and body hold onto stress and trauma, affecting physical and emotional health. Unconscious Mind and Relationship Patterns (00:04:26) Dawn explains the unconscious mind's role in shaping relationship behaviors and reactions. Clearing Emotional Blocks and Beliefs (00:05:27) Dawn details how she uses tapping, hypnosis, and other techniques to clear limiting beliefs and emotional blocks. Adjusting to Healthy Relationships After Toxic Ones (00:06:17) Conversation about how healthy relationships can feel "boring" after chaos, and how to identify and accept positive traits. Self-Worth, Value, and Gaslighting (00:08:49) Laura discusses the impact of gaslighting and the importance of reclaiming self-worth after narcissistic abuse. Personal Story of Lost Self-Worth (00:10:08) Dawn shares her experience of losing self-worth in an abusive relationship and the journey to regain her power. Unpacking Childhood Beliefs and Patterns (00:12:45) Dawn explains how early childhood experiences shape beliefs and how hypnotherapy can gently address these patterns. Setting Goals and Somatic Therapies (00:14:43) Dawn emphasizes individualized healing journeys, the value of somatic therapies, and creating permanent change. Overcoming Fear of Being Alone (00:16:38) Discussion on helping clients who fear being alone, and how to find safety and self-worth outside of relationships. Recognizing Red Flags and Elevated Self-Value (00:18:32) Laura and Dawn discuss how self-work makes it easier to spot red flags and walk away from unhealthy relationships. Letting Go for Healthier Relationships (00:19:01) Dawn explains the importance of releasing relationships that aren't right for both parties' growth. RESOURCES:
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| EP 53: From Attempted Murder to Life Transformation: J Lumen's Journey from Surviving to Thriving | 11 Jun 2025 | 00:26:47 | |
In this powerful episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura sits down with J Lumen, a certified Life Transformation and Empowerment Coach who knows firsthand what it means to feel completely trapped in life. J's story takes a shocking turn when what started as feeling stuck in the wrong relationship and wrong job escalated to a terrifying night that ended with her ex-boyfriend's arrest for attempted murder—her attempted murder. This life-altering experience became the catalyst for J to stop tolerating her life and start truly living it. Through her "Unknown Bucket List Approach," J teaches others how to make "micro shifts" that lead to major life transformations. This conversation dives deep into overcoming the fear of judgment, recognizing the power of "mini moments," building what J calls a "force field of resilience," and learning to live without regret. J shares practical strategies for those feeling trapped by circumstances, guilt, or doubt, showing how to break free from the cycle of tolerance and step into a life worth celebrating. J Lumen is a certified Life Transformation and Empowerment Coach who understands intimately what it means to feel trapped in the wrong life. After years of being stuck in an unfulfilling relationship where she knew she'd say no if proposed to, and a job she hated but felt financially obligated to keep, J made the difficult decision to pay for her boyfriend to move over 1000 miles away to live with his family. Two months later, he returned unexpectedly, and the night ended with his arrest for attempted murder—her attempted murder. This traumatic wake-up call became the turning point that transformed J from someone who was merely surviving to someone truly thriving. She created "The Unknown Bucket List Approach," a methodology focused on making "micro shifts" and collecting "mini moments" to create meaningful life changes. J is passionate about helping others stop tolerating their lives and start living without regret, teaching that you don't have to wait for major life upheavals to begin creating the life you want. Her philosophy centers on the belief that "if you're not dead, you're not done" and that everyone deserves to live a life they don't regret. Key Topics Discussed:
"Life happens. And it's good or bad. It's unexpected, random, unplanned... And then we have to react. And that's what shift happens." "We don't have to wait for that shift to happen before we start living the life that we don't regret." "If you're not dead, you're not done." "It's just about living a life that you don't regret because it is yours. So you should live the one you want without fear or influence." "If you are wanting to do this and also this, then you decide which one you're going to regret the least. And you do that." "You can look back at your life and you can start seeing all the things that you've done and that you've experienced and you can basically uncover the bucket list of your life that you've been living." "Most people would not even give themselves enough credit... But those are the little mini moments that I'm talking about." "Once your way of thinking has been shifted, you'll never go back." "We're taught as adults that we have to suck it up and tolerate so many things... No, so who? That's a story." "Live like life is short and live like life is long. And it's about finding the balance in between." ResourcesHost Laura's Resources:
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| EP 70: Unmasking the "Man of God": Gabrielle Burton on Spiritual Abuse, Narcissism, and Identity Restoration | 04 Feb 2026 | 00:52:28 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura sits down with Gabrielle Burton, a Christian Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in the intersection of faith and clinical mental health. Gabrielle's expertise isn't just professional—it's deeply personal. Growing up as the "Golden Child" of a narcissistic pastor, she lived the confusing reality of reconciling a charismatic public persona with the severe emotional abuse that happened behind closed doors. Gabrielle shares her journey of "performing for love" and how her upbringing in a high-control religious environment shaped her calling to help others heal from spiritual abuse and "church hurt." Together, she and Laura pull back the curtain on how narcissists hide in plain sight within church systems, the psychological toll of "playing dead" to survive, and the path to reclaiming an identity that isn't tied to performance. Meet the Guest: Gabrielle Burton Gabrielle Burton is a Christian Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, author, content creator, and podcast host passionate about helping people heal from trauma, overcome abuse, and walk fully in their God-given calling. With over 10 years of experience, she specializes in narcissistic and spiritual abuse, church hurt, and identity restoration—bridging biblical truth with clinical mental health care. Gabrielle earned her Bachelor's degree in Communications from Bethel University and has an extensive clinical background spanning foster care, hospital intensive outpatient programs, and trauma-focused therapeutic retreats. She is the author of "The Ultimate Guide to Becoming a Gold Digger: Discovering the Hidden Treasures Within" and hosts the YouTube podcast "Hosting Heaven." A former member of the Grammy Award–winning ensemble "Sounds of Blackness," Gabrielle continues to use her background in singing and creative storytelling as a tool for healing and impact. Key Topics & Timestamps The "Golden Child" Experience (00:03:15): Gabrielle describes the moving target of her father's approval and being treated as an extension of his ego. Public Persona vs. Private Reality (00:05:40): The difficulty of reconciling a father who is a "great storyteller" and pastor with the man who inflicted severe mental and emotional abuse at home. Performing for Love (00:08:22): How being a "parentified child" taught Gabrielle that her value was tied to her gifts and "putting on a happy face." The God Complex (00:15:30): Gabrielle recalls the "Made in My Father's Image" portrait—a chilling example of a narcissist's god complex and lack of boundaries. Narcissism in Church Systems (00:19:45): A deep dive into how high-control religious environments prime women for abuse through rules on submission and silence. Peacemakers vs. Peacekeepers (00:24:10): Gabrielle clarifies the difference: Peacekeepers stay silent to survive, while Peacemakers (like Jesus) confront toxicity to bring truth. The "Narc Fog" and Social Rejection (00:29:55): Discussion on the anterior cingulate—how our brains register social rejection from a community as a physical threat to survival. The Madonna-Whore Complex (00:32:40): Gabrielle explains this psychological splitting and how narcissists use it to manipulate and devalue their partners. Authenticity as "Narcissist Repellent" (00:36:15): Why finding your own voice and setting boundaries is the quickest way to end a narcissistic cycle.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Gabrielle: "Narcissism is being more worried about what people think about you than what God thinks about you." Gabrielle: "You play dead in order to survive... you stop questioning things because it's almost more crazy-making to try to have a different reality than just to go with the flow." Laura: "I remember those lectures... like, do I need to be here for this? Can you just record yourself? It's ridiculous." Gabrielle: "Rules without revelation equals resentment, which looks like rebellion." RESOURCES:
"Healing begins the moment you stop performing for a system and start showing up for yourself."
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| From Lost to Thriving | 04 Jun 2025 | 00:07:26 | |
Welcome back to That's Where I'm At! In the last two episodes, we talked about healing after narcissistic abuse, rebuilding trust in yourself, and setting boundaries. Today, we're going even deeper as we focus on reclaiming your identity, learning to dream again, and moving from surviving to truly thriving. If you've been feeling stuck, wondering who you are now, or questioning if you even deserve a joyful future, this episode is for you. Laura breaks down three essential healing truths: What You'll Learn: Resources & Support: 💜 Need support on your healing journey? Book your No More Sleepless Nights discovery call. Let's Connect: If this episode resonated with you... Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 52: It's Never Too Late: Finding Your Voice with Lori Daneke | 28 May 2025 | 00:23:06 | |
In this inspiring episode of "That's Where I'm At" podcast, host Laura welcomes Lori Daneke, a communication and relationship coach who discovered her calling later in life. Lori shares her powerful journey from being a people-pleaser trapped in a silent, emotionally abusive marriage to becoming an empowered coach helping others find their authentic selves. What started as a quest to improve her golf game led to a complete life transformation at age 58. Through candid conversation, Lori explains how 90% of our thoughts aren't our own, stemming from our imprint years (ages 0-7), and how breakthrough work can help us release the emotional baggage we've been carrying. Her story demonstrates that it's truly never too late to make changes, use your voice, and ask for what you want. Lori Daneke is a communication and relationship coach with master certifications in NLP, TLT, Hypnotherapy, Reiki Level 3, and Huna, as well as Advanced Trauma and Addiction training. With over 300 hours of training and having coached over 100 clients, she specializes in supporting women in creating the life they desire and deserve while embracing their authentic selves. Lori's journey into coaching began unexpectedly at age 58 when seeking to improve her golf game led to discovering that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. She is a proud grandmother of three (with another grandchild on the way) and finds her happy places playing with her grandchildren and going to the beach. Key Topics Discussed:
"It'd be grateful for what you have experienced, take the learnings from it, so you can have even more gratitude and love yourself. Because truly, it's never too late to make choices and use your voice and ask for what you want." "In my marriage, I couldn't do that. I wasn't allowed. It was very transactional. And when I asked for what I needed or what I wanted, I got crickets. So that was the abuse that I tolerated. And I tolerated it is silence." "I discovered that not only that golf and life are direct reflections of each other. So what was going on in my golf game was going on in my life. I was angry, frustrated, felt like I was isolated and alone." "90% of our thoughts are not our own. They come from our imprint years or zero to seven... we learned what we learned from the people from the people that are closest to us." "I was the definition of a people pleaser. I did everything that everybody thought I was supposed to do and everybody told me what I was supposed to do." "You can't help other people unless you help yourself first... because you haven't released the blocks around what is actually holding you back from getting what you want." "Everything that happens to us, good, bad, or ugly, is there to teach us a lesson. And the lessons we learn is something positive and it's going forward." "It's never too late to discover that voice and that authentic you, your true purpose in life and what you were put on this planet to do." RESOURCES:
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| Rebuilding Self-Worth, Knowing Your Values & Setting Boundaries | 21 May 2025 | 00:08:52 | |
In today's episode, Laura explores the important topics of self-worth, core values, and boundaries—three crucial elements of your healing journey after leaving a toxic relationship. If you're feeling stuck or questioning why you don't feel "better" yet, this episode is for you. Laura breaks down three essential healing truths: Expect real talk, actionable advice, and a dose of empowerment to help you move forward. What You'll Learn: Resources & Support: 💜 Need someone to talk to? Book your free discovery call, No More Sleepless Nights, and let's explore your healing journey. Let's Connect: If this episode resonated with you... Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 51: Finding Freedom: Healing the Hurt Beneath Emotional Eating with Claudia Braun | 14 May 2025 | 00:38:25 | |
In this powerful episode host Laura welcomes Claudia Braun, a holistic mindset and lifestyle coach certified in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Claudia opens up about her personal journey with emotional eating that began at age 10 when she discovered food could temporarily ease emotional pain. She shares how this coping mechanism followed her through adolescence, college, and into adulthood, creating a vicious cycle of stress eating and dieting. The conversation explores how our relationship with food often masks deeper emotional needs and how the cultural messaging around dieting affects women. Claudia offers practical insights on breaking free from emotional eating patterns by addressing the root emotional causes, embracing authenticity, and learning to own both your "yes" and your "no" instead of living to please others. Claudia Braun is a longtime Chicago resident, certified in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and works as a holistic mindset and lifestyle coach. With 30 years of yoga practice, she brings a wealth of experience to her approach to healing. Claudia has been a keynote speaker at several in-person women's events, hosted the Healing Summit, and been featured on the Holistic Monitor podcast. Drawing from her own journey of healing her relationship with food and emotional eating, Claudia now helps others break free from stress eating patterns and people-pleasing behaviors to live more authentically. She is also a dog mom to Jason, an avid gardener, and enjoys working with clay. Key Topics Discussed:
"One of the things that I'd like to share with y'all is that I have these three strategies to own your yes and own your no. And part of that is kind of getting in touch with what do we actually feel." "I didn't know my yes. I didn't know my no. I knew other people's yes and other people's no. I was a master people pleaser." "It brings me back to that story with my boyfriend's therapist... I was saying to him, 'I don't know how to make my parents happy and my boyfriend happy at the same time.' And he looks at me and I could see that there was something about that statement I made that was really off... I'm not even in the equation." "You can't put a happy face in an empty tank." "I give people permission to say what they don't want to say." "When I work with clients, I have them write a letter to food, like say goodbye to your best friend. It is your best friend. It's been your best friend." "The only way out is through." "Can you imagine what life would be like if you were authentically you instead of constantly living life based on everyone else's judgments and expectations of you?" RESOURCES:
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| Is He a Narcissist? Trusting Yourself & Owning Your Journey | 07 May 2025 | 00:08:00 | |
In this deeply validating episode, Laura explores the questions so many women wrestle with: Was he really a narcissist? Can I trust myself again? Why am I not further along? If you've been stuck in cycles of self-doubt or healing shame, you're not alone—and this episode is here to bring clarity, comfort, and real guidance. Laura breaks down three essential healing truths: Expect myth-busting insights, gentle reminders, and hard-won wisdom that will help you take your next brave step forward. What You'll Learn: Resources & Support: 💜 Need someone to talk to? Book your free discovery call (No More Sleepless Nights) and let's see what healing looks like for you. Let's Connect: If this episode resonated with you... Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 50: Finding Your Authentic Self After Narcissistic Abuse with Angie Marie | 30 Apr 2025 | 00:58:04 | |
In this powerful episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura welcomes Angie Marie, a lifestyle and health coach who spent 20 years in a narcissistic relationship. Together, they explore the insidious nature of covert and overt narcissism, the devastating impact of gaslighting, and the complex emotions that surface when leaving these relationships. Angie shares her journey of reclaiming her authentic self after years of people-pleasing and self-abandonment, discovering that true health encompasses both physical and emotional well-being. This raw conversation offers validation, hope, and practical insights for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Angie Marie is a lifestyle and health coach and upcoming podcaster launching "Reauthenticated." After spending 20 years in a narcissistic marriage and working 25 years as a hairdresser, Angie is on a mission to help people reconnect with their authentic selves. Her journey began with focusing solely on nutrition and physical fitness, but evolved to include emotional healing from trauma as she recognized that self-validation had been missing from her life. Through her platform "Reauthenticated," Angie guides others to build confidence not just through nutrition and physical activity, but through healing past traumas and embracing their spiritual journey. Key Topics Discussed
"But we don't get the opportunity to talk about our feelings with the narcissist because it doesn't do any good. It's not going to be valid. They're going to disregard it." - Angie Marie "I finally learned how to love myself and not seek validation in other people. You know, I don't have to look perfect. I don't have to look pretty all the time... Now instead of everything being so perfect and so polished, I get to just be me." - Angie Marie Timestamps
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| EP 49: Are You Ready to Unsubscribe from What No Longer Serves You? With Barbara Siemen | 16 Apr 2025 | 00:45:32 | |
Barbara Siemen is a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer who helps others find their path to joy and fulfilled living. After a failed business endeavor and subsequent mental illness diagnosis in 2016 caused her to go into a major slump, Barbara questioned her life's purpose. She devoted her time to unlearning what was holding her back and undoing the pain of her childhood trauma. It took over 5 years for her to follow the breadcrumbs but with the help of coaches, therapists, self-help books, spiritual tools, and her own intuition, she is now proud to be unsubscribed from all the things she doesn't want in life, and making room for the things she does want in life.
In this episode of the "That's Where I'm At" podcast, Barbara, a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer, shares her journey of healing from childhood trauma and the process of "unsubscribing" from negative influences. She discusses a rock-bottom moment that led her to seek help and embrace her true self, emphasizing the importance of living fearlessly and authentically. Host Laura, who has overcome a relationship with a narcissist, underscores the healing power of sharing women's stories. The episode centers on personal growth, healing from trauma, and the significance of setting boundaries and living authentically.
(00:02:11) Barbara shares her background and the extensive work she did to heal from childhood trauma. (00:02:38) Barbara reflects on her rock bottom experience and the years it took to understand her past. (00:04:03) Importance of Curiosity Laura and Barbara discuss the significance of curiosity in personal growth and healing. (00:07:00) Creating a False Life, Barbara reflects on the disconnect between her curated online life and her true feelings. (00:07:19) Blog and Its Consequences,Barbara recounts the legal issues surrounding her blog and the stress it caused her family (00:17:12) Mind-body connection between emotional trauma and physical health issues. (00:19:32) Embracing Fearlessness Again ,rediscovering her fearless side and setting boundaries in her life and how self love played a part. (00:21:55) Raising Strong Women. Barbara discusses her commitment to raising her daughter as a strong, independent woman, avoiding the "doormat" mentality. (00:30:14) Mental Load of Women Laura and Barbara discuss the hidden burdens women carry and the need for self-care amidst societal expectations.
Quotables: 'It's really tough to stand and stare at yourself sometimes, you know, even completely naked, and then you look at your entire body and say loving things to your body. But to look in your own eyes in a mirror and say, "I love you, I really, really love you," that's hard. Some people can't do that for a while; it takes some time.' Barbara
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| EP 48: Breaking Generational Cycles: Healing Trauma & Rewiring the Mind with Diane Konkin | 02 Apr 2025 | 00:50:19 | |
In this powerful episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Diane Konkin, a rapid transformational therapy (RTT) practitioner and self-sabotage expert. Diane shares her journey of supporting her late husband through addiction and bipolar disorder, her own healing process, and how she now helps others break free from intrusive emotions and self-limiting beliefs. Diane Konkin is the Founder and CEO of Advanced Mind Health, a virtual, no-repeat client therapy practice, specializing in helping professionals eliminate intrusive emotions, self-sabotage and substance use habits in only 1-3 sessions with a 99% success rate. Diane began her Rapid Transformational Therapy® practice after helping her late husband navigate through his 20 year struggle with bipolar and alcohol use disorder. RTT® is a new, advanced form of curative psychotherapy based on the latest research in neuroscience and is quickly gaining global recognition as one of the most effective treatments available.
Key Topics Discussed: The Power of the Mind: How our subconscious controls our actions, thoughts, and self-worth and how we can rewire it. Surviving and Thriving After Toxic Relationships: Diane and Laura discuss personal experiences with toxic relationships and the process of reclaiming personal power. Healing Through Hypnotherapy & RTT: How rapid transformational therapy works and why it can create lasting change in just 1-3 sessions. Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: Strategies to stop the inner critic and start self-praising to build confidence and self-love. The Emotional Burden of Caregiving: Diane's personal story of caregiving for her husband and finding freedom after his passing. Importance of Emotional Release: How unexpressed emotions can manifest as physical illnesses and why allowing ourselves to grieve is crucial. Powerful Quotes from the Episode: "Your mind is like a taxi driver. If you don't give it a destination, it will take you anywhere." "The words you say to yourself matter stop believing negative thoughts that don't serve you."
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| EP 47: Breaking Free of the Shoulds with Debbie Harrell | 19 Mar 2025 | 00:41:56 | |
Debbie Harrell is the vibrant force behind the New World Normal podcast—a space where questioning and disrupting societal norms is not just encouraged, it's the main event. As the host, Debbie dives into insightful conversations with guest experts and thought leaders, exploring how we can break free from norms that no longer serve us. In her coaching practice, Debbie is a guide for values-focused individuals ready to disrupt their personal norms. She empowers clients to challenge all of their "shoulds" and "have-tos," helping them align with their core principles rather than societal expectations. Beyond her biz, Debbie is a proud mom to two grown humans and caretaker of two rescued fur-babies. Nature, travel, and live music are her happy places, especially when they come together. Debbie's belief in the power of community is the driving force behind her podcast and community—providing comfort and connection in our often chaotic world. Because, in Debbie's view, embracing our similarities and collaborating as a collective offers the best chance for us all thriving in this crazy world. When we face life changes like divorce or a new job, uncertainty often follows. I would ask my friends what they wanted, and most didn't know. We've spent so much time following societal expectations that we're disconnected from our true desires. Today's guest is Debbie from the New World Normal podcast, where she challenges societal norms and guides individuals to align their lives with personal values instead of society's demands. Debbie shares her journey into coaching—realizing she wasn't fulfilled despite doing everything expected of her led her to question life's transitions. She found herself asking others what they truly wanted when faced with similar uncertainties. Her own experiences—a challenging year marked by loss and trauma—prompted deep reflection on how past events impacted her well-being. Recognizing symptoms of trauma helped Debbie understand the importance of addressing these issues before reaching breaking points. We discuss recognizing signs that something might be wrong: feeling numb, relying on distractions like shopping or Netflix too heavily, or saying "that's just who I am" as an excuse for behavior patterns developed for self-protection. The key takeaway is giving yourself permission to explore your feelings without waiting for major life disruptions as catalysts for change. Healing doesn't have to be overwhelming; it's about peeling back layers gently over time while seeking support through communities or professionals when needed. 3:13 Realizing we did all the "shoulds" we're told to do. 04:06 Being caught on a treadmill of what we should do, and reflecting on what we actually want to do. 04:43 Hindsight on divorce & the transition 6:36 From podcasting to coaching 7:38 My Hero's journey & an abrupt loss 08:58 The nation's largest mass shooting 00:15:46The comparison game about trauma 21:23 Feeling trapped in a relationship that leaves you questioning your worth and sanity? 29:07 Needing permission as an adult and borrowing courage 32:06 Oh, wait, who am I? Like, people don't want to hear from me. 33:04 Book recommendations 42:09 Reflections on becoming better Quotes : "We are not getting better for the sake of being better for ourselves. We're getting better for the sake of being better for the world around us. You know, like, it all ripples out. " "Why do we have to wait for big life transitions? Why not start thinking about it now?" "If you're feeling something was traumatic, it probably was." If you are ready to questions some norms please schedule a free discovery call today! RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW DEBBIE: https://www.newworldnormal.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/newworldnormal_Books Mentioned: Check out the list here: Laura's Bookstore Wild & Precious Life Sarah Wilson This One Wild and Precious Life: The Path Back to Connection in a Fractured World: Wilson, Sarah: 9780062962973: Amazon.com: Books Myth of Normal Gabor Mate' Amazon.com: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture (Audible Audio Edition): Gabor Maté MD, Daniel Maté, Daniel Maté, Penguin Audio: Audible Books & Originals The Body Keeps the Score The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: van der Kolk M.D., Bessel: 9780143127741: Amazon.com: Books Untamed Glennon Doyle Amazon.com : untamed by glennon doyle Rest in Resistance Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto (Rest Is Resistance, 1): Hersey, Tricia: 9780316365215: Amazon.com: Books Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 46: How to Protect Your Energy as an Empath with Lisa Campion | 05 Mar 2025 | 00:42:27 | |
Lisa Campion is the author of the #1 best-selling book The Art of Psychic Reiki and the upcoming book Energy Healing for Empaths. She is a psychic counselor and Reiki master teacher with over 25 years of experience. She has trained over 1,000 people in Reiki and conducted over 15,000 individual sessions. She also hosts the radio show and podcast "The Miracle of Healing" on Empower Radio. Lisa specializes in training emerging psychics, empaths, and healers to fully embrace their gifts because the world needs all the healers it can get! In this episode, Lisa talks about energy healing, boundaries, and how empaths can protect their energy in a world that often feels overwhelming. She also discusses energy vampires, the importance of self-care, and how setting boundaries fosters respect and empowerment. Tune in to learn practical tips on harnessing your sensitivity as a superpower and avoiding burnout as an empath! Timestamps:[02:19] Lisa Campion's background and her work
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW LISA: https://www.instagram.com/lisaxcampion https://www.facebook.com/lisaxcampion https://www.youtube.com/@LisaCampionPsychic Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 69: From Pain to Purpose: Alana Sharps on Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Supporting Others | 21 Jan 2026 | 00:41:00 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura sits down with Alana Sharps, founder of SurThrive Tribe, a High Conflict Divorce and Child Custody Consultant, and Best Selling Author. Alana's work is deeply rooted in both professional expertise and lived experience. After navigating a toxic marriage marked by psychological abuse, she transformed her own pain into purpose—emerging as an empowered survivor and a dedicated advocate for others facing similar challenges. Alana shares her personal journey through a psychologically abusive marriage with a covert narcissist, the realities of high-conflict divorce and child custody battles, and the ongoing impact of post-separation abuse. Together, she and Laura discuss the importance of trauma-informed therapy, rebuilding self-worth, and the role of community support in healing. Inspired by her own experiences, Alana explains how she now helps others navigate the complex and often overwhelming landscape of high-conflict divorce. This episode offers hope, practical guidance, and valuable resources for anyone facing similar circumstances.
Key Topics & Timestamps Alana's Timeline: Leaving and Helping Others (00:02:22) Alana shares when she left her marriage (2018) and began helping others (2021). Realizing the Abuse and Awakening (00:02:59) Discussion about recognizing narcissistic abuse and the awakening process after leaving. Therapy and Dismissing Early Warnings (00:04:08) Alana recalls dismissing her therapist's warning about narcissism during her marriage. Love Bombing and Early Relationship Red Flags (00:07:47) Alana describes meeting her ex, early boundary-pushing, and the love bombing phase. Rapid Relationship Progression (00:10:35) The relationship moved quickly: moving in, engagement, and marriage within a year. Cycle of Abuse and Trying to Fix Things (00:14:22) Alana discusses the cycle of trying to regain the "good times" and the reality of abuse. Parenting and Control Over Children (00:18:09) Alana describes her ex's controlling behavior with their children, especially her daughter. Leaving After Witnessing Abuse (00:21:27) Alana decided to leave after witnessing her ex assault her son, prioritizing her children's safety. Supporting Others: Safety Planning (00:22:30) Alana explains how she supports clients, especially around safety planning when leaving abuse. Predictable Abuser Tactics in Court (00:25:36) Alana describes common legal tactics used by abusers, including false accusations and parental alienation. Therapy Challenges with Narcissists (00:27:29) The difficulties and ineffectiveness of couples counseling with narcissists are discussed. Financial Abuse and Hiding Assets (00:32:23) Discussion about financial manipulation and hiding assets during divorce. Becoming a High Conflict Divorce Coach (00:33:58) Alana's journey to becoming a certified high conflict divorce and child custody coach. EMDR and Healing from Trauma (00:37:34) Alana shares her experience with EMDR therapy for complex PTSD and managing triggers.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Alana, 'I wanted to be the person I needed when I was going through my divorce and child custody cases, because it's the worst feeling in the world to be scared you'll lose custody of your children.' Alana, 'In public, he was the perfect father and spouse, but behind closed doors, our family was tormented.' Alana, 'On our wedding night, he flipped out on me and continued to treat me badly on our honeymoon, and I was so confused.' Alana, 'When I saw him assault my oldest son, the light bulb went off and I knew the kids were not safe and I needed to leave.' Alana, 'When you share children, that's the last piece of control an abuser has over you, because now they can use the legal system to control you.' RESOURCES:
From the episode: Complex PTSD (CPTSD) is a condition resulting from prolonged, repeated trauma (like ongoing abuse or captivity) that includes standard PTSD symptoms (flashbacks, avoidance) plus core difficulties in emotional regulation, self-perception (worthlessness, shame), and relationships (mistrust, isolation). It's often linked to childhood trauma, but can affect adults, differing from PTSD by its chronic cause and added disturbances in identity and connection with others. EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, is a psychotherapy that helps people heal from trauma and distressing life events by reprocessing painful memories using bilateral stimulation (like eye movements, taps, or sounds) while focusing on the memory, reducing its emotional impact and helping the brain process it more adaptively. Developed by Francine Shapiro, it's recognized by organizations like the WHO and APA as an effective treatment for PTSD, anxiety, and other conditions stemming from unprocessed past experiences.
"Awareness is the first step from surviving abuse to reclaiming your power."
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| EP 45: Faith, Freedom & Finding Yourself: Lisa Croke's Journey Beyond Narcissistic Abuse | 19 Feb 2025 | 01:07:04 | |
In this episode, Laura speaks with Lisa Croke, an ICF ACC Empowerment Life Coach and Leadership Consultant with over two decades of experience. She is powered by authenticity, non-judgment, and empathy and creates a safe, empowering space for her clients to reframe their challenges into their superpowers. In her life coaching and leadership consulting work, her mission remains the same: Empowering individuals to achieve their highest potential! Lisa's journey has been one of resilience and reinvention. At 42, she emerged from a 20-plus-year abusive marriage. Faced with the loss of her career, community, possessions, and a year of stalking at the hands of her abuser, she went through the court system and relocated 2,000 miles away to rebuild her life. Lisa has since worked tirelessly to transform her personal hardships into a powerful narrative of resilience and transformation. Lisa is dedicated to helping other trauma survivors, particularly high-achieving, accomplished women who have experienced relationship trauma, tap into their superpowers and move from surviving to thriving. Grounded in real-life experience, her warm, empathetic approach validates her clients' experiences and provides practical tools for reframing their stories, claiming their superpowers, and building a thriving life. In addition to her coaching and consulting work, she is available for keynote presentations, workshops, podcasts, and collaboration opportunities. Today, Lisa shares her journey from being a children's pastor and pastor's wife to recognizing and escaping narcissistic abuse within her marriage and religious community. She discusses how the church often fails abuse survivors through inadequate support and harmful messaging about forgiveness and reconciliation. Tune in now! Key Highlights[00:00] Lisa's initial approach to church leadership about marriage concerns [01:33] Lisa's background as an empowerment life coach and leadership consultant [03:39] How domestic abuse affects high-achieving women [06:27] Lisa's religious background and early marriage at age 19 [09:24] Church leadership and ministry roles and how this affected Lisa's marriage [15:32] Experience with jealousy and control in ministry positions [20:05] When Lisa started noticing abusive patterns [29:02] How most Christian women in leadership struggle with the stigma of divorce [38:16] The biblical perspectives and the church's inadequate response to abuse [41:23] Why you need therapy rather than relying solely on prayer for guidance [45:31] Lisa's personal growth and achievements post-divorce [59:03] Perspectives on forgiveness and healing [01:05:21] Final thoughts and how to connect with Lisa Notable Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW LISA: https://helvickcoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/helvickcoaching "The Summer Day," by Mary Oliver https://www.saltproject.org/progressive-christian-blog/2015/6/29/the-summer-day Leslie Vernick Coaching https://leslievernick.com/ Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 44: Breaking Free From Religious Control to Empowered Healing with Brooke Kekos | 05 Feb 2025 | 00:44:33 | |
In this episode, Laura is joined by Brooke Kekos, a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication. Today, Brooke shares her journey of breaking free from the Jehovah's Witnesses organization after 36 years and healing from religious trauma and an abusive marriage. She discusses the parallels between high-control religious systems and narcissistic relationships, the challenges of losing community support, and her path to spiritual awakening. Through her work as a trauma healing coach, Brooke helps others process complex PTSD, rebuild their sense of self, and find authentic connections with their spirituality. As a sought-after speaker, author, and advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice. Are you ready for this? Step into an existence where authenticity thrives! Timestamps:[02:52] Brooke's background in Jehovah's Witnesses and struggles with questioning beliefs [04:27] Brooke's experience with restrictions on holidays and celebrations [07:15] How Brooke discovered abuse cover-ups and left the church [08:05] How high-control religions and narcissistic abuse mirror each other [10:23] How being excommunicated at 16 left Brooke feeling alone and devalued [13:09] Why you should always question beliefs and seek truth for yourself [17:08] The challenge of leaving support systems behind [25:09] Experiencing a spiritual awakening and discovering a high-power connection [34:28] Brooke's approach to trauma healing work [40:55] Why self-acceptance is crucial for a fulfilling life [43:21] How to connect with Brooke Key Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW BROOKE: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/brooke-kekos-253905231 https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachinggoddess https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075036248909 https://www.tiktok.com/@brookekekos?_t=8UL4XMCBiu3&_r=1 https://www.youtube.com/@Lifecoachinggoddess Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 43: Kelsey's Shift From A Survivor Of Abuse To An Empowered Advocate And Leader | 22 Jan 2025 | 01:42:07 | |
In this episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Kelsey Elizabeth Matthews, a first-generation college graduate, published author, and advocate for mental health and empowerment. Kelsey, who graduated Summa Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Social Work degree from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, and was honored as a Truman Scholar, shares her remarkable journey of resilience. From growing up in an abusive environment in East Haven, CT, to overcoming institutional betrayal and narcissistic abuse, Kelsey uses her experiences to advocate for those affected by emotional and verbal harm. Her professional journey spans rehabilitative mental health, substance abuse prevention, non-profit leadership, and community engagement. As the Founder and CEO of Phoenix Rising Coaching & Consulting, LLC, and a Maxwell Leadership Team member, Kelsey empowers individuals and leaders to overcome challenges and become agents of transformative change. Kelsey discusses her passion for ethics, power dynamics, and leadership, shaped by her survival story and advocacy for others. She also shares her journey as a public speaker, including her TEDxUNLV talk, "Transformative Leadership: The Power of Love to Change the World," and her plans for graduate studies in Social Work and Social/Personality Psychology. Tune in now! Timestamps[01:14] Kelsey's background, struggles, and advocacy [03:05] Early childhood challenges [06:19] How Kesley grew up amidst dysfunction and codependency [10:50] Kesley's experience with a traumatic childhood incident [18:01] How lack of care and safety shaped Kesley's emotional well-being [23:43] The impact of addiction and the lack of awareness about overdose prevention [29:24] How our childhood experiences shape who we become [38:53] Boundary violations and manipulation by her therapist [42:01] How intermittent reinforcement prolonged the emotional pain [1:01:00] The unexpected role of Kesley's therapist in leading her to Christ [1:10:12] The contrast between harmful institutions and those that provide real support [1:20:30] Kelsey's path to self-awareness and resilience through therapy and advocacy [1:30:45] The importance of self-love in building healthy relationships [1:39:44] Kelsey's message of hope for others facing similar challenges Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW KELSEY: www.kelseyelizabethmatthews.com https://m.facebook.com/KelseyEMatthews5/ www.medium.com/@kelseyematthews www.instagram.com/kelsey_elizabeth_matthews www.linkedin.com/in/kelsey-elizabeth-matthews Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 42: Overcoming Spiritual Abuse and the Church's Stigma Around Divorce with Kristina Ravenhill | 08 Jan 2025 | 00:55:40 | |
Spiritual abuse and the church's stigma around divorce have silenced and shamed countless women, often leaving them trapped in cycles of pain and self-doubt. But it's time to reclaim the narrative. Overcoming spiritual abuse means breaking free from manipulation cloaked in faith and recognizing your worth beyond judgmental doctrines. Divorce is not a failure; it's an act of courage when choosing yourself and your well-being over harmful dynamics.
In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Kristina Ravenhill. Kristina or Tina as her Father nicknamed her, grew up in the South Pacific. The middle child of three sisters, she grew up as an MK (missionary kid) and a PK (preacher's kid). Eventually, the family moved back to the United States where she went to Bible School in Dallas, Texas, and ultimately met her husband. Together they served in ministry and also owned a successful international sales business. Twenty-two years and 4 children later, Tina filed for divorce after years of narcissism and abuse throughout the marriage. Now free, she spends her extra time helping others come out of spiritual abuse and wants the stigma of divorce from abuse to be changed in the church mindset. Her joy is spending time with her kids and exploring the world.
Kristina shares her powerful journey of overcoming spiritual abuse and navigating the church's stigma around divorce. Kristina candidly recounts the red flags she ignored, the manipulation she endured, and the spiritual abuse she experienced from her ex-husband. She discusses the struggle of leaving an oppressive marriage, the profound impact of trauma bonds, and the societal pressures women face when seeking freedom. Kristina also offers hope and practical steps for healing, including how she reconnected with her dreams, found forgiveness, and rediscovered God's unconditional love. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, self-worth, and spiritual liberation.
Timestamps [03:14] Signs Kristina saw before she was done [06:10] Spiritual abuse Kristina experienced from her ex-husband [10:06] Did Kristina have support when she decided to leave? [15:03] God loves you more than divorce [18:14] Narcissists have the inability to change [24:27] Things Kristina did to heal after divorce [30:53] How Kristina got rid of her oppression and started to dream again [33:50] The thought that things will be great when you leave [41:07] Waking up to the reality [43:24] Kristina's trauma bond experience [48:44] How Kristina dealt with forgiving his ex-husband [51:55] Kristina's final remarks Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW KRISTINA: https://www.instagram.com/k.ravenhill/ Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 41: From Silence to Strength: How Jennifer Found Her Voice After Domestic Violence | 25 Dec 2024 | 00:54:35 | |
From the depths of silence, women who have endured domestic violence are rising to reclaim their power and find their voices. This journey of empowerment is not just about breaking free from abuse but about rediscovering one's strength, worth, and resilience. Through support networks, self-care practices, and advocacy, survivors are transforming their pain into purpose. They are learning to trust themselves again, make their own decisions, and rebuild their lives on their own terms. By sharing their stories, these women not only heal themselves but also inspire and empower others.
In this episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Jennifer Peterkin, an avid traveler, a lover and collector of stories, and the host of the podcast The Human Experience - a platform that seeks to elevate stories, empower the storyteller, and invite the listener into a place of validation, understanding, and compassion. Through her personal story, she illuminates the path from silence to strength, exploring how survivors of abuse can rediscover their worth and resilience. Jennifer discusses the crucial role of support networks, therapy, and self-reflection in her healing process, as well as the red flags she overlooked in her marriage. The conversation delves into societal conditioning that often silences women, the importance of telling one's own story, and the healing power of sharing experiences. Tune in to get insights on recognizing narcissistic abuse, the challenges of marriage counseling in abusive relationships, and practical steps toward healing and empowerment.
Timestamps [02:13] Why Jennifer started her podcast [04:04] Were some of Jennifer's friends sharing their experience of divorce? [08:52] Jennifer's therapist and friends were her biggest validators through divorce [13:50] What made Jennifer wait before launching her podcast [18:10] Red flags Jennifer ignored in her marriage [19:25] Did Jennifer's parents contribute to her being in this toxic marriage? [23:55] How Jennifer got some clarity of who she really was after her divorce [33:02] How young girls are trained not to ruffle up the feathers [36:04] The things that helped Jennifer heal [46:22] Marriage counseling and therapy Notable Quotes
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW JENNIFER: www.thehxpod.com THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-human-experience/id1667193007 Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 40: Trusting Intuition and Embracing Your Calling: Ange's Journey to Spiritual Empowerment | 11 Dec 2024 | 01:03:41 | |
Self-doubt can be a formidable obstacle for women on their spiritual journey, often hindering them from embracing their true calling. Many women struggle with feelings of inadequacy, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotage, which can prevent them from fully realizing their potential. By nurturing a strong spiritual foundation, women can tap into their inner strength, recognize their unique gifts, and courageously pursue their authentic calling. This process of spiritual empowerment enables women to rise above societal expectations and limitations, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and purposeful life. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Ange de Lumiere, a spiritual lawyer and mother of four children with autism. Ange, born in Paris and now residing in the UK, shares her unique path to becoming a spiritual lawyer and how she helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition for success. She talks about her initial hesitations about pursuing psychic work and the pivotal moments that encouraged her to embrace her spiritual calling. Ange discusses the impact of therapy on her childhood resilience, the importance of understanding our body's language, and strategies for dealing with energy vampires. Ange de Lumiere is the mother of four children with autism aged 28 to 12. Born in Paris, she now lives in the UK and helps ambitious entrepreneurs trust their intuition to make smart decisions in order to create success on their terms, rather than someone else's. She calls herself a Spiritual Lawyer and has authored two books and three podcasts, her latest being True Spirituality with Ange. Tune in and gain profound insights on overcoming self-doubt, the power of mindset in achieving success, and the significance of recognizing and trusting one's intuition.
Timestamps [02:10] How Ange became a spiritual lawyer [08:02] How Ange works with her clients as a spiritual lawyer [12:06] What led Ange to become a spiritual lawyer [18:06] What happened after Barbra talked to Ange in the lecture [25:18] Why Ange was hesitant about doing psychic word [27:24] What really encouraged Ange to start doing spiritual work [34:35] The mindset of thinking you cannot go forward [41:20] How therapy made Ange so strong as a child [48:00] Our bodies have a language [55:30] How to deal with an energy vampire Notable Quotes
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ANGE: WEBSITE: https://www.angedelumiere.biz/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ange-de-lumiere-992545109 FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/AngedeLum THE FREEDOM PROGRAMME: https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 39: Life After Discard: Identifying the Subtle Traits of a Covert Narcissist with Lauren Wickline | 27 Nov 2024 | 00:48:34 | |
Covert narcissists exhibit subtle signs of narcissism, often masked by a facade of humility. They possess an inflated sense of self-importance yet express it through passive-aggressive behavior and subtle manipulation. Hypersensitive to criticism, they may respond with intense emotions or withdrawal. Their relationships are typically superficial, characterized by emotional withholding, gaslighting, and blame-shifting. Covert narcissists struggle with chronic envy and often play the victim to gain sympathy. They lack genuine empathy and have difficulty forming deep connections. In romantic relationships, they may display jealousy and possessiveness and use tactics like stonewalling or guilt-tripping. Their behavior can significantly impact the mental health of those around them, leading to increased stress, anxiety, and depression in partners and family members. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards welcomes Lauren Wickline, a licensed mental health therapist and podcaster. Lauren shares her personal journey into podcasting and discusses her experiences with covert narcissism. The conversation delves into the traits of covert narcissists, exploring Lauren's own experience of being discarded in public. Lauren reflects on her healing process, addressing whether she's still grieving and if she would have stayed in the relationship had she not been discarded. Lauren sheds more light on the inability of narcissists to be alone, healing from trauma bonds, and practical ways to recover from narcissistic relationships. Throughout the episode, Lauren offers insights on getting back to oneself after such experiences, providing valuable advice for women navigating similar situations. Lauren is a licensed mental health therapist in the state of Virginia. She has been practicing in a variety of settings since 2017 to include public schools, acute inpatient hospitals, and outpatient. She has always been passionate about the performing arts to include, singing, theater, and Irish dance. She is passionate about implementing these experiences to include expressive arts, metaphor, and storytelling in all settings as a form of healing. In April of 2023 Lauren experienced a discard from someone she thought was the love of her life. While she began her spiritual/healing journey, Lauren had some professional as well as personal revelations which has motivated her to tell this story in order to help others. She discovered a concept that was first coined in the 1980s by Dr. Dan Kiley called Peter Pan and Wendy's Syndrome. While these aren't official terms and diagnoses in the DSM-V, she couldn't help but find that these pop culture psychology terms are very relevant in today's society. She hopes to use her story to help and educate others about the damages caused by emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, people. She also hopes to also share information on ways to move past the "Wendy's Syndrome" which includes anxious attachment, people pleasing, and codependent tendencies. As a recovering people pleaser herself, Lauren hopes that her podcast, Life After Discard, will help others see their worth and bring to light ways to avoid being caught in a Peter Pan and Wendy Syndrome dynamic in their relationships. Tune in to gain empowering strategies for recognizing covert narcissism, rebuilding self-esteem, and fostering healthier relationships, as well as practical tools for healing and reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse. Timestamps [02:22] How Lauren got into podcasting [06:00] Is Lauren still grieving? [08:07] Traits of a covert narcissist [10:53] How Lauren was discarded in public [14:00] How Laura was reverse discarded by her ex-husband [22:04] Would Lauren have stayed if she had not been discarded? [28:30] Narcissists cannot be alone for long [34:39] How to heal from a trauma bond [38:05] Ways to help heal from a narcissistic relationship [43:38] Getting back to yourself Notable Quotes
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW LAUREN: WEBSITE: https://laurenwicktherapist.blogspot.com INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lauren_wickywicky PODCAST: Life After Discard, available on Spotify, Amazon, Apple, and iHeart https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lauren-w7 SURVIVING PETER PAN BLOG: https://laurenwicktherapist.blogspot.com Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 38: The Narcissist's Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns | 13 Nov 2024 | 00:51:59 | |
Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy. Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy. As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth. Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves. Timestamps [02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism? [07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional [13:07] How your brain gets trained [17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists [19:45] The origin of narcissism [24:32] Journaling narcissists' patterns [27:31] How to break narcissist patterns [33:20] Attachment styles [35:37] Therapy and narcissism [41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself [42:56] Chelli's thoughts on PTSD [45:27] Trauma therapy training Notable Quotes
RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW CHELLI: https://www.chellipumphrey.com https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey
C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue. ATTACHMENT STYLES: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 37: Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships with Coach Mireille Nicole | 30 Oct 2024 | 00:41:04 | |
Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals can be a challenging and often emotionally draining experience. Finding your voice in these situations is crucial for maintaining your sense of self and making decisions that align with your well-being. It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior, understand its impact on your mental health, and develop strategies to assert your needs and boundaries. This process of self-discovery and empowerment can be both liberating and daunting, requiring courage, self-reflection, and often professional support. By learning to identify narcissistic traits, cultivating self-awareness, and prioritizing your emotional health, you can begin to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship and reclaim your voice in the process. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Mireille Nicole, a certified relationship coach on a mission to empower women in their pursuit of happiness. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating narcissistic relationships, offering valuable guidance on trusting intuition, setting boundaries, and making crucial decisions about staying or leaving. Mireille shares her personal journey and professional expertise, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, healing, and maintaining a sense of fun in relationships. Mireille has been obsessed with anything romantic — books, movies — all of her life. Divorced [by choice] and remarried [but almost failed], she is now navigating "blended family" life with her soulmate. Having gone through a lot in the love department, she's on a mission to help other women ditch the struggle and have their Happily Ever After. She holds a certificate in relationship coaching from IAP Career College and is a member of the IAPO International Association of Professional Relationship Coaches. In her spare time, Mireille enjoys mountain biking, date nights and being a mom. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [03:15] How Mireille became a relationship coach [08:35] Mireille's pivotal moment in her journey [11:18] The variety of women coming to Mireille for coaching [14:06] Trusting your intuition [15:25] How to handle relationship issues [19:47] Having fun as a woman [21:14] Healing [24:09] Mireille's thoughts on Should I stay or should I go situation [27:40] The decision to either leave or stay [29:37] The reality about boundaries [33:43] About Mireille's life now [36:10] Having the tools to recover [38:17] Mireille's mission Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW MIREILLE:WEBSITE: https://stan.store/mireillenicolecoaching FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mireilletheriault1979 YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@mireillenicolecoaching INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mireillenicolecoaching/ Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 36: Rewriting Your Life: Brooke's Secrets to Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma | 16 Oct 2024 | 00:46:03 | |
Rewriting your life after experiencing narcissistic trauma in a marriage is a profound and transformative journey. Narcissistic relationships often leave deep emotional scars that can persist long after the relationship has ended, affecting one's self-esteem, trust, and overall well-being. However, true healing is possible through the powerful process of subconscious reprogramming. By delving into the depths of the subconscious mind, survivors of narcissistic abuse can uncover and rewrite the harmful beliefs and patterns instilled during their toxic marriages. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Brooke Kekos, a trauma healing coach and a rapid transformational therapist who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Brooke, a survivor of complex PTSD and narcissistic abuse, shares her transformative experience of accessing her subconscious mind to rewrite her life story. Through her struggles with dissociation, self-doubt, and codependency, Brooke discovered the profound impact of positive self-talk and the power of challenging ingrained thought patterns. Her journey from victim to coach demonstrates that healing from narcissistic trauma is possible and that by carefully examining our thoughts and beliefs, we can break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse, reclaim our authentic selves, and live a very happy life. Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner, Brooke specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her personal path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication. A sought-after speaker, author, and fervent advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice. With Brooke as your ally, embrace a voyage of transformative healing, armed with potent tools, nurturing guidance, and profound revelations. Step into an existence where authenticity thrives, drawing soul-aligned relationships that foster your truest self. Tune in to learn more!
Timestamps [03:15] How Brooke got into coaching [07:38] Brooke's Complex PTSD [12:36] How dissociation looks like in someone's body [14:34] How it was like for Brooke to write her book [19:02] Does Brooke unpack people when coaching? [20:23] Rewriting our lives [23:03] Brooke returns to her family and church [27:13] Things Brooke talks about in her coaching sessions [28:36] Cutting ties [30:37] How Brooke rewrote her life by accessing her subconscious life [32:14] Talking and thinking positively about ourselves [38:55] Being co-dependent as mothers [44:17] Brooke's final remarks Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW BROOKE:WEBSITE: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachinggoddess/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/brooke.kekos/ Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 68: Permission Granted: How to Prioritize Pleasure and Presence in Your Everyday Life with Amy Jones | 07 Jan 2026 | 00:35:49 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura sits down with Amy Jones — a Reflector Mentor, Sacred Strategist, and award-winning Publisher who generated over $1M in new client revenue in her first year of business while working part-time as a single mom of three. As a rare Reflector (just 1% of the population), Amy blends intuitive clarity with grounded, strategic leadership to help women build sustainable, soul-led businesses rooted in rhythm, purpose, and inner truth. Before founding LIVE WITH INTENT Media Group, Amy spent more than two decades in corporate sales and leadership across IBM, TELUS, and a high-growth digital media start-up, contributing to its expansion from 7 to 300 employees in under two years. Today, she leads a growing ecosystem that includes Okanagan Lake Living Magazine, the Leadership in Rhythm Series, and the Futures Foundation—a circular wealth model directing revenue back into women-led families, emerging founders, and community impact projects. In their conversation, Amy shares her journey from corporate burnout to becoming an intuitive life and business mentor. She and Laura explore what it means to break free from societal pressures, prioritize self-care, and allow yourself permission to experience pleasure, rest, and presence. Amy offers practical insights for nurturing well-being, celebrating small wins, and leading yourself with intention. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of healing, balance, and self-leadership for women seeking more joy and authenticity in their everyday lives.
Key Topics & Timestamps Guest Introduction: Amy's Background (00:01:33) Laura introduces Amy, her business, and her approach to pleasure and business mastery. Laughter and Joy as Medicine (00:02:00) Amy and Laura discuss the importance of laughter, joy, and laughter yoga for well-being. Amy's Path to Healing and Energy Work (00:06:38) Amy describes her journey from codependency and therapy to discovering energy healing and chakras. Helping Women Find Self-Leadership (00:09:47) Amy explains her mission to help women untangle unhealthy patterns and embrace self-leadership. The Instinct for "More" and Midlife Reflection (00:11:33) Discussion about the instinctive longing for more and how it often surfaces at midlife. Rest as a Skill and Societal Pressures (00:13:35) Amy discusses the importance of rest, her husband's experience, and society's struggle with slowing down. Amy's Coaching Approach: Self-Leadership (00:15:36) Amy explains her coaching style, focusing on self-leadership rather than mothering or spoon-feeding. Celebrating Small Wins and Incremental Progress (00:16:54) Amy uses the analogy of learning to ride a bike to illustrate the value of small, celebrated steps. Redefining Success and Life Templates (00:23:18) Amy and Laura question societal templates for success in work and relationships. Recognizing When Life Feels Wrong (00:24:04) Amy shares her realization that her "perfect" life felt unfulfilling and unsafe, prompting change. Permission for Pleasure: Amy's Speaker Series (00:27:45) Amy introduces her "Permission for Pleasure" concept and speaker series, focusing on allowing oneself to receive pleasure. Creating Space for Pleasure and Feminine Embodiment (00:32:24) Amy discusses feminine embodiment, creating space for pleasure, and how small changes can influence family dynamics.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Amy, 'My number one purpose in life is to enjoy life, not to work myself to exhaustion until I'm 65 and then take a vacation.' Amy, 'Resting is a skill that is highly underrated.' Amy, 'When you learn how to slow down and be in the moment and rest, you actually genuinely receive.' Amy, 'I help women slow down so they can really enjoy the depth and richness of everything around them.' Amy, 'Wherever you are, whatever you're going through, you have a mission, a message, and a purpose. You are so, so important.' RESOURCES:
"True leadership begins when you give yourself permission to slow down, receive, and enjoy your own life." Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 35: Breaking Generational Curses and Healing Through Vulnerability with Gabi | 02 Oct 2024 | 00:56:12 | |
In this episode, Laura talks with Gabi, an Authenticity Coach and speaker. She is Certified in NLP, Trauma Hypnosis, and Reiki Attuned. She hosts the Resilient Heart Podcast and is the CEO of her Agency, which has two parts. One part focuses on transformational healing work and healing retreats for women in beautiful locations. Gabi also owns Resilient Voice Media, a Podcast Production Agency. She believes sharing the messy pieces of our lives and how we overcame them creates connection, community, and healing. Her focus is to help the underdog, the one without a million followers on social media, have a powerful message, allowing them to take their small reach and make a BIG impact. She loves podcasting and helping men and women amplify their stories and messages. Today, Gabi shares her journey of healing from past trauma, breaking generational curses, and the power of vulnerability in relationships. She shares her experiences with domestic violence, becoming a single mom, and how she transformed her life. She further discusses the importance of healing, self-discovery, and sharing our stories to help others. Tune in now! Timestamps:[02:40] How Gabi got into podcasting and coaching [05:45] How different parts of the body store various emotional experiences [14:02] Gabi's experience in an abusive relationship [20:32] The complex emotions survivors of abuse experience when their abusers die [23:17] How Gabi found her way into podcasting [28:00] The inspiration behind Gabi's podcast "Resilient Heart" [31:04] The power of sharing your story and releasing shame [41:51] The long-term effects of abusive relationships on children [46:52] The importance of journaling and self-reflection [51:07] Importance of honesty in relationships [52:18] How to connect with Gabi Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources
FOLLOW GABI: TIK TOK: TIK TOK FACEBOOK: FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM: INSTAGRAM LINKEDIN: LINKEDIN LINKTREE: LINKTREE Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 34: From Victim to Coach: Netta's Journey Healing from Narcissistic Abuse | 18 Sep 2024 | 01:00:22 | |
Narcissistic relationships can be incredibly damaging, leaving survivors feeling confused, drained, and questioning their own worth. These toxic dynamics often involve manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse, making it challenging for victims to recognize the true nature of their situation and find a way out. However, recovery from narcissistic abuse is possible, and it's a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Netta, a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, helping women rise above narcissist abuse who shares her insights on how she got into the narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, her childhood behaviors, things she did in order to heal and loving yourself enough. Netta also sheds more light on forgiving and nurturing ourselves, red flags to look out for during early dating, putting yourself first in a good way, taking the steps towards healing, what to do when you get the desire to go back, and making the right decision for yourself. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps[02:23] How Netta got into the narcissist coaching [06:48] Netta's childhood behaviors [09:13] Does Netta talk about how she went from one narcissist to another? [11:51] The things Netta did in order to heal [16:05] Love yourself enough [19:20] How Netta decided to get into coaching [20:20] Is Netta still with her husband? [24:49] Forgiving and nurturing ourselves [29:25] Red flags to look out for during early dating [32:26] Putting yourself first in a good way [36:16] Helping support each other in the family [38:40] Beng disrespected by your kids and husband [45:06] Netta parenting her parents [46:53] Taking the steps towards healing [53:43] What to do when you get the desire to go back [56:51] Making the right decision for yourself Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW NETTA: Website 1: http://nettacoaches.com/ Website 2: https://nettaspeaks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam.nettaspeaks/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nettaspeaks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550204045460 Lee Hammock Video (Girl thrown into a lake): https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/reel/C-86QdZsXQ1/ Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 33: Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt: Breaking Free from Toxic Love with Stephanie | 04 Sep 2024 | 00:56:42 | |
In this l episode, Laura speaks with Stephanie McPhail, M.S., an expert in toxic relationship recovery. With a Double Masters Degree in Health and Education, a Bachelor in Psychology, and certifications as a Crisis Counselor and Coach, Stephanie brings a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. As a Reiki Practitioner and author of the bestselling "Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt" book and workbook, she specializes in helping professional women rediscover themselves after toxic divorces or breakups. Stephanie, who has been interviewed on FOX and featured in New York Weekly, hosts a weekly cable show, "Kick Unhealthy Relationships to the Curb." She serves on the CORE counsel of Experts for Avaiya University and on the board of a non-profit. Today, she shares the complexities of healing after abusive relationships, discussing red flags, trauma bonding, and the critical importance of self-work. Stephanie shares important insights from both her personal experiences and her professional work, offering guidance on how women can rebuild their lives and find happiness, whether single or in a relationship. Timestamps:[05:04] Recognizing toxic patterns in various relationships [05:25] The importance of communication in relationships [08:53] Benefits of assertive communication in relationships [10:06] Benefits of rebuilding self-esteem after toxic relationships [15:39] Why people stay in unhealthy relationships [21:14] Understanding cognitive dissonance and trauma bonding [23:36] How narcissists can manipulate and control their partners [28:28] Focusing on self-healing rather than obsessing over the abuser [35:56] Building self-esteem and learning to set healthy boundaries [49:06] The importance of getting comfortable being alone Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW STEPHANIE: Gift/book a call: Beinglovedshouldnthurt.com/thrive-guide 15 minute discovery call and free resources: https://www.beinglovedshouldnthurt.com/links Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beinglovedshouldnthurt/ Personal FB: https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.mcphail.10 FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/BeingLovedShouldntHurt Podcast: toxiclovepodcast.com Website: beinglovedshouldnthurt.com Book is available on the website or Amazon: Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| One Year of Healing: Celebrating the Anniversary of That's Where I'm At Podcast | 29 Aug 2024 | 00:13:40 | |
Join Laura as she celebrates the one-year anniversary of the "That's Where I'm At" Podcast! In this special episode, Laura reflects on the incredible journey she's been on since launching her show, created out of a deep need to connect with women recovering from narcissistic abuse. From the first episode to becoming a top 5% podcast, Laura shares how her mission to provide a safe space for women to speak their truths has evolved, the power of using her voice, and what's next on the horizon. In this Episode, You'll Hear About:
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Thank you for your incredible support over the past year! Your downloads, shares, and kind words have made this journey possible. Remember, your voice matters. Keep sharing your story because someone out there needs to hear it. RESOURCES:MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 32: Unmasking the Jokers: Our Guide to Overcoming Toxic Relationships | 23 Aug 2024 | 00:45:11 | |
In today's episode, Laura is joined by Monaca Vanderpool, an international podcast host, bestselling author, and highly successful entrepreneur. Monaca shares her journey through personal adversities, including a 13-year toxic relationship, an unexpected health diagnosis, and the challenges of single parenthood. She discusses how these experiences led her to write "Jokers Dressed Up As Kings" and create "The Glitch Mob Podcast" to support others navigating toxic relationships. Monaca highlights the importance of understanding narcissistic traits and behaviors, emphasizing the power of going "no contact" with toxic ex-partners and the effectiveness of "gray rocking" when communication is unavoidable. She also touches on the healing power of journaling and the value of sharing one's story to help others. They both stress the importance of authenticity in storytelling and not letting others' opinions silence them. They further touch on the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist and offer helpful advice for maintaining boundaries. Join the conversation now! Together, we can break the cycle of toxic relationships and empower each other to reclaim our lives. Your story matters, and your voice deserves to be heard. Join our community of survivors and thrivers today! Timestamps:[01:38] Monaca's background and her journey [03:04] The importance of putting words to pain in healing [05:44] How strong, independent women can be targets for narcissists [07:34] Link between narcissistic abuse and the manipulation tactics used in cults [14:56] The freedom of and joy of leaving narcissistic relationships [15:36] How narcissists recycle romantic gestures as part of their love-bombing tactics [18:15] The importance of journaling in healing from narcissistic abuse [19:04] The positive impact of one person's courage on another's healing [23:03] Importance of keeping a list of abusive behaviors [27:42] The need to talk about narcissism and its impacts [29:56] How to handle communication with an ex when co-parenting [33:56] The gray rocking technique in managing communication with an ex [41:12] Monaca's plans for speaking engagements and outreach Quotes:
Connect with Laura on: MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources BOOK COVER DESIGN ARTIST: https://amandapottsdesigns.com/ Connect with Monaca on: FOLLOW MONACA: https://monacavanderpool.com/ JOKERS DRESSED UP AS KINGS: https://monacavanderpool.com/bookmonica/ OUR FAMILY WIZARD co-parenting app Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 31: Rekindling Dreams After Divorce: A Midlife Journey with Angie Bergen | 21 Aug 2024 | 01:03:46 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Angie Bergen, a passionate Life Coach on a mission. She specializes in reigniting the faded dreams of middle-of-life women, breathing fresh life into their aspirations. She is a Medical Intuitive who taps into the world of energy healing. A self-professed personal development geek, Angie always has her nose in a book, enrolling in courses and soaking in the wisdom of retreats. She firmly believes age is just a number when it comes to learning and growth. She lives in sunny Las Vegas, NV, where she and her miniature Dachshund sidekick, Khloe, enjoy life. When the heat's not scorching, you'll find her happily tending to her yard, creating a cozy oasis of green. Angie's journey is one of inspiring others, nurturing dreams, and embracing the journey of self-discovery. Her magic lies in helping women break free from the mundane and embrace their passions, painting their futures with vibrant hues. Today, Angie shares her personal story of leaving a 24-year marriage to a narcissist and how she rebuilt her life. She discusses the challenges of recognizing red flags, leaving controlling relationships, and dreaming again after such experiences. We also explore the importance of self-worth and self-compassion, therapy, and support systems in making major life changes. Angie also talks about the journals and courses she has created to help other women envision a new future. Tune in now! Timestamps:[02:57] Angie's story of divorce after 24 years of marriage [05:26] Abandoning oneself in marriage and gaslighting [14:51] The shift in options and mindset for women considering divorce today [19:37] The importance of writing down dreams and goals [21:10] How to start dreaming again without self-limitation [23:00] How parents' trauma can impact their children [24:41] Visualizing goals and taking small action steps [39:37] Healing methods like therapy and courses on narcissism [43:00] Patterns in relationships and self-talk during healing [49:50] Creating journals and courses to help women rediscover dreams [59:09] Moving forward and listening to your body's needs in healing [1:02:15] How to connect with Angie on social media Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ANGIE: WEBSITE: https://wellnesssoulutions.com/ The Sociopath Next Door: https://a.co/d/8DYvNDBPodcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 30: The Boiling Frog Syndrome: Recognizing and Escaping Toxic Relationships with Coach Rocky | 07 Aug 2024 | 01:38:49 | |
In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Rocky Martinez, an empowering Business Coach and Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author and Facilitator. Rocky is a Brand Strategist, Emotional Intelligence and REBT expert, and the Creator of the Color Your Dreams Masterminds. She is the bestselling author of Color Your Dreams, Paid To Do What You Love: A Woman's Guide To Monetizing Your Gifts & Talents And Build A Business You Love In 7 Easy Steps, a contributing author of the Best Sellers "Co-parenting in Harmony, The Art of Putting Your Child's Soul First" and "Co-parenting in Harmony, Creating a Ripple Effect." In 2019, she was the Creative Director and Columnist of the "Community Magazine Vida Las Vegas." Ready to break free from toxic relationships and reclaim your power? Tune in now! Timestamps:[02:27] Rocky's background and journey into coaching [15:48] How people slowly acclimate to toxic situations [17:46] Factors that contribute to staying in toxic relationships [18:48] Rocky's childhood experiences with toxic family dynamics [30:56] Entering a toxic marriage and not recognizing the abuse [46:00] The subtle and incremental nature of narcissistic abuse in relationships [50:26] The importance of working on yourself [52:50]The boiling frog syndrome and the normalization of abuse [56:05] The importance of outsmarting the narcissist and doing things for yourself [01:03:28] The illogical nature of narcissistic abuse and the childhood patterns that enable it [01:05:10] The importance of feeling heard and the Me Too movement [01:10:48] Steps to break free [01:25:00] Rocky's plan to secretly pack and leave [01:28:00] The importance of having a safety plan when leaving an abusive relationship Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://a.co/d/07nUVKDf FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ROCKY: Coachrockymar.com https://www.instagram.com/coachrockymar https://www.facebook.com/CoachRockyMartinez Get the book: Color Your Dreams, Paid To Do What You Love: A Woman's Guide To Monetizing Your Gifts & Talents And Build A Business You Love In 7 Easy Steps https://a.co/d/08pcsYLX DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 29: Overcoming Trauma and Unlocking Healing with EFT: Transform Your Life with Stephany Ann | 24 Jul 2024 | 00:55:09 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Stephany Ann, an extraordinary individual, a former attorney and recipient of the governor's award for advocacy with survivors of domestic violence, who triumphed over narcissistic abuse. With two marriages to narcissists behind them, she harnessed the transformative power of the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to guide others on their path to healing and personal growth. Stephany is a dedicated advocate for survivors of narcissistic abuse and relationship trauma, specializing in helping them navigate the path to freedom. Her expertise lies in closing the door on past pain and opening new doors on their journey to healing and self-discovery. As a storyteller and conversationalist, she weaves the threads of healing, self-love, and worthiness into empowering narratives. She discusses the importance of using different modalities, such as journaling, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), and intuitive movement, to process trauma and regain control over one's life. Stephany also talks about setting firm boundaries, reframing her narrative, and an upcoming empowering retreat she is leading to Peru. With a touch of Empress energy and an adventurous spirit, Stephany invites you to join her transformative journey toward love and liberation Timestamps:[01:41] Stephany's story and the patterns of unworthiness she experienced [05:45] How Stephany shifted her perspective on her past relationships [10:19] How Stephany used EFT to rewire her brain and heal from the trauma [13:12] How "love bombing" in the beginning a relationships led to patterns of unworthiness [15:53] The importance of sitting with and processing emotions through EFT [19:43] Three-step process of EFT and how it helps clients release negative emotions [23:12] Benefits of positive affirmations and visualizing the person you want to become [25:00] The value of having quiet time for self-reflection [26:17] Discovering different healing modalities beyond just talk therapy [29:26] The importance of vulnerability and being honest with yourself [31:17] The power of journaling as a safe place to express yourself [34:32] Reframing your narrative and finding the lessons in past relationships [45:04] Learning to set firm boundaries and not participate in unproductive interactions Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW STEPHANY: www.linkedin.com/in/stephanyann Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 28: Leaving a Narcissist with Chantal Contorines: Strategic Planning for High-Conflict Divorces | 10 Jul 2024 | 00:57:54 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Chantal, a mom of 2 who was partnered for 25 years and left when she was 39. She is a high-conflict divorce coach who specializes in narcissistic abuse and has created a one-of-a-kind 12-week program for those who are ready to leave and know they need expert support, strategies, and guidance. Chantal shares her expertise on navigating divorces from narcissistic partners. She emphasizes the importance of strategic planning, hiring the right professionals, and understanding the tactics used by narcissists during the divorce process. Chantal also discusses the role of boundaries, self-worth, and healing after such a traumatic experience. Chantal further discusses the covert facade that narcissists often present to the outside world, which can make it challenging for victims to recognize the abuse they're experiencing. She shares insights on how narcissists maintain this facade, triangulate their victims, and gaslight them into doubting their reality. Chantal also emphasizes the importance of understanding these tactics to avoid falling prey to predatory relationships and prioritizing one's healing journey. Join the show for these and many more! Timestamps[02:15] How Chantal became a high-conflict divorce coach [14:13] Setting boundaries and avoiding resentment [17:24] Unlearning the habit of putting others first [21:17] Chantal's coaching process and preparing clients for divorce [26:54] Chantal's 12-week program and post-program support [28:11] The difficulty of recognizing covert abuse due to the narcissist's facade [30:08] Triangulation and how narcissists use it to manipulate their victims [33:39] The impact of the silent treatment as a form of abuse [36:30] Narcissist's tendency to move on quickly and their tactics to secure new supply [40:31] Benefits of understanding love bombing and future faking [45:37] The dangers of couples therapy when dealing with a narcissist. [49:25] The volatility and triggers victims experience, even after recognizing the abuse Quotes
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| EP 27: Dance, Shake, Heal: Techniques for Stress and Trauma Relief with Angie Berrett | 26 Jun 2024 | 00:45:33 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Angie Berrett, an Intuitive Movement Coach, Advanced Trauma-Informed Yoga Instructor, Registered Nurse, and Stand-Up Paddleboard Yoga Instructor who understands the human body and how it works. She helps people use play and movement to connect to their bodies, releasing stress, anxiety, depression and trauma. Having journeyed from a child abuse survivor to a registered nurse and eventually a yoga instructor, she has dedicated much of her life to caring for others. In 2017, she reached a low point and embarked on a path to healing. Through discovering playful movements, she learned to listen to her body and overcome her suffering in ways traditional methods couldn't achieve. Today, she uses these experiences to help others heal their pain and transform their lives. Angie is the Owner and Creator of the Angie Berrett Movement, where she coaches individuals on releasing stored trauma from their bodies while enhancing energy, strength, and flexibility. Her expertise has been featured in Psychology Today, Brainz Magazine, Authority Magazine, Bustle, Subkit, The Feisty News, and NewsBreak. Additionally, she has appeared on several podcasts, including The Bright Side of Life, Caregiver Chronicles, Wellness by Design, and Billy Dee's Podcast, among others.
Tune in to learn why activities like dancing, shaking, and even throwing "temper tantrums" can be powerful tools for processing difficult emotions and experiences. Timestamps:[02:48] Angie's journey of trauma and hitting rock bottom [07:22] Seeking help and starting the healing process [08:59] Discovering yoga and trauma-informed practices [11:40] Learning about the power of play in healing [14:35] How Angie helps clients through playful movement [19:29] Demonstration of swaying exercise for body awareness [22:52] Play vs. competition for adults [25:00] Different play activities and their benefits [28:21] The hand brain model and how stress affects the brain [31:33] The nervous system's stress responses [34:37] How chronic stress builds up in the body over time [37:50] Techniques for releasing stored tension and energy [41:34] The importance of "shaking it off" to discharge stress Quotes:
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://a.co/d/07nUVKDf FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW ANGIE: https://angieberrettmovement.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/angieberrettmovement https://Instagram.com/angieberrettmovement https://www.facebook.com/AngieBerrettMovement https://youtube.com/@angieberrettmovement?si=B4qvgq0VYuMw7ngt Free guidebook on play and movement angieberrettmovement.ac-page.com/healing-in-motion Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 67: How Lynda's Fear-Busting Challenge Changed Everything In Her Life | 24 Dec 2025 | 00:55:27 | |
In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura interviews Lynda Sunshine West, who shares her journey from a traumatic childhood to personal transformation. Lynda recounts running away from home at age five, overcoming years of fear and low self-worth, and breaking through one fear every day for a year. Her story highlights healing from past trauma, building healthy relationships, and finding purpose as a bestselling author and book publisher. The conversation offers hope and practical tools for women seeking to overcome fear, embrace self-acceptance, and create a fulfilling, authentic life.
Key Topics & Timestamps Origin of the Name "Sunshine" (00:03:16) Lynda explains how she adopted the name "Sunshine" during her year of breaking through fears. Running Away at Age Five (00:04:31) Lynda recounts running away from home at age five and the emotional impact it had on her life. Childhood Family Dynamics & Self-Worth (00:06:53) Discussion of Lynda's family environment, feelings of neglect, and how these shaped her self-worth. Personal Growth & Marital Challenges (00:15:39) Lynda shares how personal growth affected her marriage and her husband's reaction to her transformation. Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse (00:18:59) Laura discusses gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and her book on reclaiming self-worth. Catalyst for Change at Age 51 (00:28:18) Lynda describes the breaking point in her career and the decision to hire a life coach. The Power of Choice & Self-Discovery (00:33:22) Discussion on human choice, self-discovery, and the importance of making life changes at any age. Marriage, Support, and Tough Love (00:34:36) Lynda shares a story about her husband's tough love regarding her health and the lessons learned. Breaking Through Fear: The 365-Day Challenge (00:40:32) Lynda details her year-long challenge to break through one fear every day and its impact. The Fear of Judgment & People-Pleasing (00:43:32) Lynda identifies fear of judgment as the root of many of her fears and how she overcame it. Seven Simple Steps to Break Through Fear (00:45:55) Lynda introduces her seven-step method for overcoming fear and explains its logic. Becoming a Book Publisher (00:50:19) Lynda shares how her journey led her to become a book publisher and help others share their stories.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode Lynda, 'At five years old, gone a week, nobody came to get me. That belief was established: they didn't come because they didn't love me or want me around.' Lynda, 'I believed I was stupid because he told me this every single day. I believed I was ignorant. I believed nobody liked me and that people were only nice to me because they felt sorry for me.' Lynda, 'I hate my life. I hate everything I'm doing. I hate this job. Why am I doing this? Why am I here on this planet? What's my purpose?' Lynda, 'I didn't know I was in the dark until I was in the light. I was in the dark for 51 years.' Lynda, 'I have so many fears that are stopping me from living my life. I'm going to break through one fear every day this year.'
"Courage isn't the absence of fear — it's choosing to move anyway." Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 26: Healing Loudly: Escaping the Grip of Narcissistic Parents and Finding Emotional Freedom with Jessica | 12 Jun 2024 | 01:08:47 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Jessica Kazaniwskyj, who had two narcissistic parents (one of which was also an alcoholic). She used her determination to escape their grasp and divorced them when she was sixteen. However, like many raised in that environment, she then found herself under the grasp of a man with similar qualities. She was with him for over fifteen years, even marrying him despite the red flags. Through years of healing and endless curiosity about why she felt the way she felt and wanting to break these patterns desperately, she finally found the courage to walk away from her marriage. Shortly after, she met her current husband, who was everything she had requested. Jessica's journey led her to become an empowerment life coach who specializes in childhood trauma, as so often we repeat those patterns into adulthood. She's an avid reader in her spare time, loves movies and documentaries, and is a die-hard Notre Dame football and Chicago Cubs fan. Today, Jessica shares her compelling story of overcoming a tumultuous childhood, enduring toxic relationships, and breaking free from narcissistic abuse. Jessica's journey involves resilience, self-discovery, and embracing vulnerability. She talks about her journey of healing and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Jessica shares insights on recognizing red flags, understanding trauma bonds, and healing loudly to help others suffering in silence. Tune in to hear Jessica's views on healing, accountability, and the path to emotional freedom. Timestamps[02:45] How Jessica decided to become a life coach [05:15] Jessica's childhood and her emancipation [12:00] Jessica's college and financial aid challenges as an emancipated minor [14:25] Strained relationship with her father after emancipation [17:03] Jessica's feelings about her abusive mother's cancer diagnosis [19:54] Red flags in Jessica's first marriage and being isolated [31:24] Challenges of keeping a clean home with an indifferent partner [34:00] The trauma of the pandemic and personal loss [35:02] Emotional neglect and the end of Jessica's marriage [36:34] Why Jessica remained with her husband for 15 years [41:41] How emotional toll led to Jessica's divorce [45:05] How Jessica met her new husband [58:28] Faking it till you make it and positive self-talk [01:06:49] Feeling happier and glowing after healing Notable Quotes
MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW JESSICA: https://linktr.ee/kazaniwskyjcoaching Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 25: Let's Get Your Shift Together: Adriana's Story of Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse | 29 May 2024 | 01:09:33 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Adriana Bucci, founder of Let's Get Your Shift Together. Having faced nearly three decades of narcissistic abuse and four years of severe chronic pain, Adriana made the courageous decision to embark on her healing journey. Through inner work, she not only found relief from physical suffering but also addressed the deep wounds inflicted by narcissistic upbringing, toxic relationships, and challenging work environments. Inspired by her journey, Adriana became a life coach, aiming to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, establish boundaries, and reclaim their lives on their terms. Today, Adriana shares her journey of escaping an abusive relationship with her narcissistic mother. She recounts the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional turmoil she endured and how she ultimately found the strength to break free and embark on a path of healing. Join the conversation now for this and many more! Timestamps [01:08] Adriana's background [02:22] How chronic pain got Adriana to what she is doing now [06:13] Adriana's openness to exploring new health solutions [12:31] Adriana's traumatic childhood with a narcissistic mother [16:40] How Adriana took control of her finances while in university [20:00] How Adriana's mother guilt-tripped her into moving back home [21:32] How narcissists often display conflicting desires [26:19] Why couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing [29:21] Adriana's path to healing and embracing healthy boundaries and forgiveness [32:13] The journey of self-discovery and recognizing toxic relationships [34:24] The incident that prompted Adriana to finally move out [45:41] Discovering the truth about her father and the child support trust [01:02:07] Adriana's mixed emotions upon learning about her mother's declining health [01:05:18] Adriana's healing journey and moving forward after her mother's passing Quotes
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW ADRIANA: HER WEBSITE: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com GROUP COACHING PROGRAM: https://www.letsgetyourshifttogether.com/bulletproofprogram Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 24: Unpacking Toxic Shame: A Journey to Vibrant Living with Emily | 15 May 2024 | 01:12:01 | |
In this episode, I'm joined by Emily who shares her powerful journey of discovering and healing from toxic shame that stemmed from her childhood. She opens up about the invalidating messages she received growing up that made her feelings feel taboo and shameful. Emily discusses hitting rock bottom despite being a believer, feeling weighed down and like her world was gray. Her turning point came when she went through a program called Regeneration (Celebrate Recovery) that helped her unpack her toxic shame. Emily vividly describes the transformation she experienced, where her world went from gray to vibrant colors and she could finally laugh out loud and celebrate herself. She also explains key lessons like the difference between healthy guilt that provides a warning system, and toxic shame that makes you feel subhuman. Tune in and discover the hope that comes from knowing freedom from toxic shame is achievable! Timestamps:[01:53] Emily's background and journey [02:46] Significance of recognizing and addressing toxic shame [06:44] The pervasive influence of toxic shame, stemming from family and society [10:18] The importance of listening to one's feelings and intuition [15:07] Emily's reflection on her struggle with self-abandonment [19:14] Finding Regeneration (Celebrate Recovery) program [25:45] How Emily discovered her ability to express joy and celebrate herself [29:57] The difference between guilt and toxic shame [32:36] How guilt is a helpful warning, while shame sends you into a "deep dark place" [35:00] The interaction of admiration, emotional hurdles, and personal insecurities in relationships [40:00] Guidance for healing after divorce [44:39] Value of establishing boundaries to prevent pent-up frustration or resentment [51:10] Embracing discomfort and building resilience [59:52] Emily's growth and progress in her healing journey [01:10:20] Strategies for setting boundaries Quotes:
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards FOLLOW EMILY: Emily's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/emily.ehe.5 Emily's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyraecreationsandmore/ Emily's Info: https://msha.ke/emilyraecreations Emily's books: Finding the Root https://a.co/d/8FfnRab Finding Diamonds https://a.co/d/hBQCey8 Book on Boundaries: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/product/boundaries Celebrate Recovery: https://www.celebraterecovery.com Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||
| EP 23: The Trauma Bond: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse in Narcissistic Relationships | 01 May 2024 | 01:23:59 | |
Today Laura is joined by Paris Turner, a beauty, business, and relationship coach who delivers entertaining talks and speeches that challenge audiences to level up and focus on what matters most in life. Audiences love her practical strategies, witty humor, and life wisdom, which they can apply personally and professionally. Paris earned her BA in business management from Northwest University and a UI/UX design certification from Bethel School of Technology. She has received numerous awards for her work in social justice causes and advocacy. Her strong background in leading, and speaking and her life experience make her uniquely qualified to discuss various topics. Organizations love working with Paris because of her unique perspective and ability to help people create solutions to complex problems. In this episode, Paris shares her expertise as a beauty, business, and relationship coach specializing in narcissistic relationships. She talks about the manipulative tactics used by narcissists, such as love bombing, boundary violations, and excessive attention, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags and trusting one's intuition. Paris discusses the aftermath of leaving a narcissistic relationship, including post-separation abuse, smear campaigns, and the struggle to rebuild self-worth. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, highlighting the need for setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care. Paris provides valuable insights into navigating and overcoming the complexities of abusive relationships, empowering listeners to address manipulative behaviors, set healthy boundaries, and prioritize their emotional well-being. Join now! Timestamps[00:02:12] Paris's biography and shared experiences with narcissistic relationships [00:04:38 ] Recognizing narcissistic traits in relationships [00:06:07] Overdramatizing red flags and signs of narcissism [00:09:20] Post-separation abuse and tactics used by narcissists [00:10:32] Long-term effects of narcissistic relationships [00:14:34] The importance of sharing experiences and seeking support [00:22:12] Feeling alone and overcoming shame in abusive relationships [00:25:42] The importance of seeking outside opinions and validation [00:28:26] Escaping from narcissistic relationships and post-separation abuse [00:31:22] Charismatic nature of narcissists and smear campaigns [00:33:34] Recognizing love bombing and red flags in new relationships [00:45:11] Trusting Intuition and Self-Validation [00:51:33] Dating After Abuse [00:59:21] How Paris lost everything due to an abusive partner [01:12:11] Being poised through the healing process while still allowing emotions [01:19:32] The importance of prioritizing healing and self-love after abuse Quotes
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards CONNECT WITH PARIS: www.paristurner.com THERAPY JEFF: https://www.therapyjeff.com Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support. | |||