Harry, 9, is an impulsive, Integrity kid* reacting, as kids do, to how he has come to view himself—not good enough, not as loved as his sister, a problem, bad. His parents have raised him by the common myth that ordering and criticizing a child for bad behavior will cause that child to change that behavior—and that one should never give positive attention to negative behavior. Harry has developed a strong defense of clownish yet aggressive and hurtful “silliness”—a defense that protects his belief in himself. Tune in to learn where Harry’s resentment and anger comes from and how his mother must first see Harry differently before he can see himself differently.
Other podcasts about Integrity and Harmony kids:
Episode 12 – Oct. 6, ’20 The Orchid Child and the Dandelion Child Pt. 2
Episode 13 - Oct. 13, ’20 Stubborn Kid, Frustrated Parents
Episode 34 – March 18, 21 The Squeaky Wheel Gets the Most but Wrong Kind of Attention
Episode 40 – April 29, 21 Controlling the Fight
Episode 49 – July 1, ’21 “Parenting him is like a full-time job”
Episode 73 – Dec. 16, ’21 “This behavior has got to stop!”
Episode 89 – April 7, 22 Dealing with Emotion Explosions
Episode 99 – June 16, ’22 “Why don’t I ever get to decide?” Helping an Integrity Kid Feel Heard
Episode 124 – Dec. 15, ’23 When It Feels Like You’ve Lost Control without Punishment
Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents.
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Website: bonnieharris.com
Email: bh@bonnieharris.com
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