T, Christina Hepburn, meets with Wry, a speaker, events planner & fetish performer, to talk fire play (that's right, fire ...on the skin!), the BDSM scene, healthy consent communication, and all of its challenges - the ways someone can fall short of using their voice, and what we can do about it.  He also share about his own journey into this world! It's a lively conversation on both ends, sharing about our personal lives and perspectives.  AND THEN T gets "fleshed" (and makes a video to show you all what it looks & feels like!) It's a pretty wild topic - DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME! Find more from Wry HERE: https://www.youtube.com/user/awryperspective

There's a lot of sparring on social media over whether the Aziz Ansari story amounts to "just bad sex" or if it speaks to something more about our relationship to sex in American culture, and how we can educate ourselves to practice true consent.  Christina chats with Dating Advice Girl, Erin Tillman, @datingadvicegrl, about the nuances of the encounter, what's really going on in our culture around objectification and dehumanization, the new definition of consent and a generational disagreement, and what Erin's ideal version of a date would look like (healthy communication about respective intentions), and the space for each person to decide.  

On this month's episode of Ask T&A, a young listener writes in about her concerns entering the casual sex scene.  At 23 y.o and having one sexual partner, she asks her potential lovers to show her paper proof of their STI history even if they're going to use a condom.  Is this too much, or just enough?  Plus, given all the recent hubbub about birth control, what are the best options?  Then - low libido at 23, how can I get more into it and managing pubic hair?  And T&A share their newest sexual adventures! (not together:)  A jam-packed, super honest and hilarious episode- one of our favorites!

T&A talk with Melinda Penny Washington, a registered dietician, about her jourey from a successful but sick sales rep to a happy, healthy and whole person by changing her diet.  Hear Melinda talk about the importance of a healthy diet for our hormones and sexuality and her discovery of the magic, and science, of Essential Oils.  No, they arent's just natural perfumes... each has a scientific affect on the body, mind, and emotions.  Hear about how they work, how to detect quality and which ones turned Melinda into a sensual goddess.   Young Living Essential Oils: https://www.youngliving.com/en_US Melinda's company - Healthy Balance 3:  http://healthybalance3.com/ https://www.facebook.com/pages/Healthy-Balance-3/178969952859?sk=info&tab=page_info  

'A' gets seduced... FOR REAL.  Hear A's recent revelation about being charmed and seduced and the cultural belief that kept her from embracing it when T&A discuss modern dating and the lost importance of seduction in courtship.  What is at the core of seduction? Is it really necessary any more and please don't get tricked by fake seduction.      

You've heard all the crazy sex stories at Burning Man from orgies, insta-stranger sex and all the kink ... but what is it REALLY like at Burning Man?  T&A talk with 10- year Burning Man Veteran and film maker, Gina Levy (www.GinaLevy.com) along with two-time Burner and comedian, Madison Shepard (@MadisonShepard) about the history and inside scoop on what's really going on, and why Burning Man is for everyone.  Yes, even you. An inside look into the sexual culture of the Burning Man Festival.

T&A talk with Andrew McGregor, international writer and humanitarian, about his experience in the dating and mating game durring his extensive stays in countries all over the world, including Japan, Kenya, the Netherlands, Europe (and many more!) and how it all compares to relationships from his hometown country, America.  They talk about what he loves, hates and where Americans fall behind.  A fascinating and intelligent cross-cultural comparison from one of the most interesting men you'll ever meet, writer, humanitarian and founder of Chess-Boxing, he is also known by his fans and friends as King Drew- you'll have to listen in to hear that story:)   You can find his work at www.mightykingdrew.com  

T&A take a look at the CA Yes-Means-Yes Sexual Consent Law in this heated round table chat with actor Evan O'Brien and comedian Madison Shepard.  Listen in as they discuss why it's so necessary, but is the need for such a law the result of the discomfort American's have talking about sex?   And... is it really the best we can do to empower women?  

T&A discuss their recent adventures in navigating sexual openess when A shares her epiphany from Magic Mike XXL and her fears of being TOO sexually open (ehem, slutty) after an amazing sex body work session.  Meanwhile, T wonders if she's as open as she thought when a lover acuses her of being in her head.  Wha?? As the ladies are still recording in little closets around the country, please forgive the travel audio :)

**Sorry for the technical difficulties and 3 min of empty space!  HERE is the REAL episode:)  growing pains UGH. While 'T' is away and working it at a comedy fest, 'A' shares some 'strange', sex practices from around the world.  From ritual cheating to adolescent love huts to wife stealing, it all sounds kind of out there... but is it really?  Maybe there is more to learn from these 'backward' countries than we think?   

Happy 4th of July, dear Americans!  Did you know many states have antiquated sex laws still on the books? You could even be arrested for PDA in some states.  T reads a list of outrageous laws in each state of America with guest, Rena Hundert, comedian and character actress, chiming in with her thoughts and opinions on the matter.   Sadly, A is still away, supporting her family in a time of emergency.  We are sending her lots of love and support!  

T&A chat with Diego Wallraff, a Sexological bodyworker, who explains how breaking through your sexual barriers isn’t just about the orgasm. Plus, A meets her sexual match, the band ADAM’s new masturbation music video, and T’s busy mind dulls her orgasm – how do you keep THAT from happening?? Due to a family emergency, T&A are posting episode 11 of their podcast.  A sort of "rerun", except that, until now it's been unavailable! 

T attends her first 'FemDom' BDSM party and deals with the challenges of becoming a dominant female.  Hear what it's really like to be inside a BDSM 'Dungeon', who really attends these parties and why, and why T is going back for more!    Want to check one out for yourself? This is a good place to start www.fetlife.com    

While 'T's away in europe, 'A' interviews her insightful friend 'Richard' who looks back on his marriage of just under 20 years to share his key takeaways of what exactly went wrong and shares the major pitfalls and what he would have done to avoid them.  It's always hepful to learn from our mistakes, and the mistakes of others!  And Richard's story is no exception.  A great episode to hear for any human being who might ever be in reationship with any other human being.

People are baffled by Bruce Jenner's transition to Caitlyn, but are more people attracted to transgender than we think? T&A talk with comedian Christopher Corbin from Jane the Virgin on his recent coming out as 'transgender attracted' in an effort to understand the transgender community.

T&A examine the need for fidelity and explore when boundaries can hurt us and help us.  Plus A shares her experience with being the 'other woman' and the girls offer a new definition of fidelity in this fresh look at cheating. See Esther Perel's TED TALK here

T&A chat with Carol Reynolds, famed Body Dynamics coach to the actors, on her work in body awareness.  Hear how our posture and our bodies can be key to understanding our deepest hang-ups, including our sexuality!  Carol shares specific examples, and discusses the importance of awareness, how certain exercises can release lifelong-held emotions that hold us back in life, in relationships and in the bedroom. Find out more about her classes and body dynamics at T. Schreiber Studio or at Caymichael Patton Studio in New York City.

T&A host an all women’s round-table discussion with Carie Belin, nurse practitioner and creator of online magazine, The Valorist (http://www.valorist.com/),  and Melissa Macedo, actress, musician (https://m.soundcloud.com/musicmacedo), and creator of the live show, Dirty Talk (http://Www.worldkinensemble.com), on the real motivations for female-on-female cattiness and how this attitude towards our own sex may be holding women back in the workplace.  And If so, what on earth can we do about it?

T&A talk with co-author, Nikita Coulumbe, of The Demise of Guys (along with co-author, Dr. Philip Zimbardo out May 7th) and Keeley Rankin on what's really going on with young men today? How did they fall behind the curve? And what can we do for healthy development, both sexually and emotionally. Nikita and Keeley are co-creators of the blog, www.bettersexed.org, and chat with us about today's challenges for men. See Philip Zimbardo's TED TALK here: http://www.ted.com/talks/zimchallenge?language=en 

T&A talk with actor Luzer Twersky from the film 'Felix and Meira' about his life in the Hasidic Jewish community, why he left and his relationship to sexuality then and now.

Bonus Side Chat: T&A discuss Bruce Jenner's interview with Diane Sawyer, and ponder what the decision to go transgender says about our culture and our societal pressures to identify as "male" or "female".  Traditional gender roles are blurring from the workplace to the home: is transgender a physical representation of that? We mention a great TED TALK: Norman Spack: How I Help Transgender Teens Become Who They Want to Be

T&A talk with Dan Ilic, investigative humorist & Senior Satire Producer at Al Jazeera America, and Stuart Campbell, screenwriter & actor,on the elements of control and surrender in relationship dynamics.  Do overly accomodating men kill our sex drive?  And in the modern day are we ok with women submitting and men dominating? Or is this oppressive?

T&A face their future as possible baby makers and open up with comedian Madison Shepard (@madisonshepard). As the birth rate declines in America, and European countries watch their populations dwindle, hear the fears, concerns, thoughts and desires of three women in America facing the choice of whether or not to have kids.

T&A talk with Lucky Mor, creator of F*ck, I love You, and filmmaker, Sean S. Bloch, on the Buddhist perspective of love and monogamy from Zen practitioner, Fabrizio Chiesa's new blog, A Buddhist’s Insights: Sustaining Love In Relationships, on the film Monogamish &... is how can sustained love be possible for me?

Talking about your sex life publicly isn't always easy.  In this week's mini-episode, 'T&A' grab a quick chat with Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson from the hit podcast Guys We F*cked on just that topic.  Listen in as the girls talk shop and share an inside look at how speaking openly about their action has both hurt and helped their sex lives.  Always in support of those raising their voices to change the game on female sexuality, check out their podcast wherever you do your listening and grab a ticket to their live show at www.sorryaboutlastnightcomedy.com

A explores a mansion party and hooks up with a married couple while T tries to grow some balls to make the first move. On #Trending, a new documentary Monogamish is set for 9/2015 release featuring Dan Savage, Chris Ryan and more taking a look at how we love in the modern day.  Meanwhile Purvi Patel is caught in the Modern Witch Hunt and millenials are all for contraception... but are we fighting the right fight?

It's not that your sex drive isn't there - it might not be lighting up due to the backwards way we understand women's desire and arousal cycle. This is a must listen!! Plus, Emily talks about the need to get over our cultural shame around sex because it's killing our desire! Emily Nagoski is author of Come As You Are: The New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life and blogs at TheDirtyNormal.com

T&A unlock the mysteries of our pleasure chemical with guest, Susan Kuchinskas, author ofThe Chemistry of Connection - the science behind oxytocin in our bodies,  and its implications for us as social beings, Is monogamy natural or a social construct? Plus, how our behavioral patterns & the way we love are shaped as early as the first time we breast feed, and how can we adapt to be better at loving.  The good news is we're pretty good at learning & evolving!

a.k.a. Eating Out, Muff Diving or any other Euphemism you prefer! T&A talk honestly with comedian, Brigitte Dow (queer POV) and cinematographer, Brendan Swift (male POV) on the art of cunnilingus, and the complicated relationship we have with it.  What are common stigmas about hygiene and why? Can diet improve taste down there? And ladies, if a man wants to dive, don't be your own worst enemy by getting in your head! Learn a few tips & truths along the way. 

T&A talk latest trending topics: Emily Nagoski's NY Times article, Nothing is Wrong with Your Sex Drive, and ladies, ain't no shame in arousing your desire the way you want - research that even if it means watching your kind of , a vibrator with a facetime camera - say what?, and why we should have sex before marriage! 

T&A talk with sociologist Chauntelle Tibbals, author of "Exposure: A Sociologist Explores, Sex, Society and Adult Entertainment" about her research in the industry. If you have any judgements and concerns about the effects of (as A does), listen in as Dr. Chauntelle reports back from deep inside 's world and offers the inside scoop to help shed light on all our misconceptions, including the ill-use of you and how, and why, we need to develop our palette.

T&A talk with somatic sex educator and relationship coach Charlie Glickman, co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure” on masculinity in the modern day and prostate pleasure- our resistance to getting it, our resistance to giving it and how to make it the hottest (and most pleasurable) thing you’ve ever done in the bedroom. Show Notes What is Somatic Sex Education?  (26:09/30:32) Just as in all other areas of our lives, our sexual tastes change as we get older. (27:20) So many of us tune out or ‘go inside our heads’ during sex-that will inhibit the experience you are able to have. (31:05) How can working with a Somatic Sex Educator be a totally different experience than exploring sexuality with your partner?  (32:25) When speaking on Masculinity, Charlie starts with a brainstorm exercise that asks the group to describe the aspects of a ‘Real Man’.   (33:10) Over the many years he’s been doing this exercise across all spectrums of society, the results are pretty consistent regardless of the specific group.  (33:47) Find Links, Resources & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/?p=274

T&A watch #50shadesofgrey and report back with BDSM expert Jean Franzblau Jean Franzblau who explains what makes Anastasi and Christian tick and reveals the ins and outs of the BDSM world.  Plus, how to safely get into your own #50shadesofgrey life and resources galore on where to find your own dominant, submissive and play dungeon.  

‘A’ shares the ins and outs getting her first ‘Sexological Body Work’ session and then the girls talk with Veronica Monet, a former Courtesan of 14 years who made $20k a date!  Veronica, author of ‘Veronica Monet’s Sex Secrets of Escorts: Tips from a Pro’ shares her fascinating journey through the sex industry, along with some of her insightful discoveries into sex and intimacy only a gifted pro could know.  Plus, listen in on her thoughts on sex trafficking, where the real solutions lie, and #sexworkerrights.  A fascinating woman and a must listen!

T&A share their own forays with group sex, then talk with anthropologist Dr. Kate Frank, who submerged herself in researching the world of sex clubs and sex parties to uncover the truth about why we do it… and why we fear it. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150120_Ep29_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

After months of seperation due to 'A's travel sabbatical, T&A are back together and have so. much. to. talk. about.  'A' sums up here travel experience- why she went and what she got out of it and then the girls give a sexy reading in english of the hot lyrics to the latin smash hit Despacito. 'T' shares her latest professional endeavor- Cuddling! Yep, she's a professional cuddler (what could be more appropriate?!) as well as her adventures with the Diva Cup.  Plus, the new summer trend: teen girls in thong bikinis- too much or just right?  And 'A' shares her latest revelations on finding a partner after insights from her little bro's wedding.  And finally, the T&A are launching their Patreon page (finally!) which means if you love the show, now you can show your support and help keep the lights on!  Check it out at www.patreon.com/tatalksex     

A gets called out on her #vesperstyle vibrator necklace! Then T&A talk with Erika Lyremark, business coach and author of ‘Think Like a Stripper: Business Lessons to up your confidence, attract more clients and rule your market’ about her journey from stripper to international mogul and her veteran’s perspective on the strip club industry and why it may not be so ...

T&A talk with Veronica Monet (www.theshamefreezone.com), veteran escort turned Sexologist, about the new research on female ejaculation- what is it, who can do it and how?  Plus, how to make your anger empower you, your relationship and bring you hotter sex. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150114_Ep27_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

Why do men love it? Why do woman avoid it? T&A talk with C Dexter, a homosexual makeup  artist, about his experience giving and receiving and all the insights and tricks he has to offer. Plus, T&A share how they turned from blowjob prudes to hungry fellatio goddesses and what might be getting in the way of the bliss of the blowjob. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/150107_Ep26_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

T&A chat with a panel of filmmakers and comedian, @EdGalvez (www.edgalvez.net, please link), about their craziest ‘meet up’ stories.  Then the gang gets deep in reflection on their lessons learned (and not) from past loves, and how to make the new ones count. http://archives.radiotitans.com/TandA/141217_Ep25_PushingBoundariesWithTAndA.mp3

Ladies, the Period Repair Manual is here! We are not small men, meaning we have our own complex hormone system that has purpose and works in our favor if we maintain it! T talks with Dr. Lara Briden, naturopathic doctor with 20 years experience and author of Period Repair Manual, who breaks it down for us. Tate of Cuddle Domme from ep. 140 guest co-hosts, and shares their experience with endometriosis, allowing Dr. Briden to discuss natural treatments.  Your menstrual cycle is a report card to how you're treating your body and managing stress.  Tune in to learn facts about your hormones, and how to get closer to that goal of "no pain" on your period! 

Guest, Tate, a queer cuddle domme, chats thoughtfully and articulately with T (Christina Hepburn) about whether or not "over-analyzing sex kills the beauty of sex?" If it doesn't kill the beauty, why not? How can we avoid monotony with sex? And furthermore, what exaclty is a cuddle domme? Tate explains their work as a cuddle domme, and what they accomplish in a session with individuals seeking their skill set.  T and Tate get personal about childhood gender expectations, and how it impacted them for better or worse. 

Is the foot fetishist more evolved than the rest of us? T questions what the foot has to offer & if we are overlooking an opportunity for greater connection through our feet & ears by chatting with a foot, hand, and ear reflexologist, Christina Crabtree (https://www.facebook.com/touchbalanceyoga). David Rodwin, guest co-host (www.jadelake.com), storyteller & filmmaker, inquires about her kundalini yoga practice.  How is kundalini defined?  What are the stigmas around our bodies that prevent healing, increase stress, and suppress our sexuality? What is the science and art of reflexology, and how can it benefit all of us? David and Christina share anecdotes and observations around arousal, and stigmas around what is considered sexually acceptable in our culture.  It's a raucous, full conversation that covers everything from the healing affects of reflexology to the concept of pleasure, and how we can experience a rounded healthy life in general! 

Ep. 138, What is a pelvic floor therapist? There's a whole doctor dedicated to my vagina? Sara Chan Reardon, a women's pelvic health therapist chats with T and the hilarious and smart guest host, Lora Somoza, from the podcast Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza, about how we can all benefit from pelvic muscle relaxation, and all the things that could be causing you trouble down there without you even knowing about it! We also get into the challenges that come up after child birth, and how to remedy those issues ...which could be the reason you or your partner doesn't want to have sex post-babies!  It's a fun episode full of great facts & recommeded info! Also don't forget to check out our sponsors' skin care & acne treatment, BIOCLARITY, and use our code TATALKSEX (T's been using all month, and loves it!)

In this episode 137, T has an intimate chat with Dave Booda of the Dude Panel Podcast, a favorite guest, about our personal approach to relationships, how we've handled pitfalls, and grown, and how the way we, as a culture, approach dating is hurting our ability to connect with that person, how more physical touch amongst friends can be good & not creepy (while Booda massages my feet during the show, hooray), and how to manage that guy friend who won't take no for an answer, and may even "gaslight" you as a woman to wear you down. In fact, you can conquer this dude's determination, and survive to still be friends at the end of it!   

T discusses the wild new frontier of sex tech with expert, Bryony Cole from The Future of Sex podcast and comedian, Malie Mason, and what that might mean for real life in-person relationships.  Is it good or bad, or neither? What does it say about our society? How can it help us? How can it hurt us? And how do we use the future of sex to our benefit? We get deep, we laugh, learn and have a good convo about VR , our vibrators, and if those genital gadgets can really preserve a long distance relationship?!! A chimes in about her adventures in Europe!  

Get inspired to make a difference! Christina met up with Lauren Stephenson in NYC to find out how she started the organization Women to the Front.  The conversation starts in media res discussing the current feminism movements and how to navigate all the differnt opinions, and launches in to how Lauren went from feeling powerless after the 2016 election, to empowering herself and a group of friends to take action on the specific issues she is most passionate about.  Women to the Front specifically holds fundraisers for the organizations that are already doing the great work Lauren admires.  She discovered they needed PR support, so that's just what her group did!  Feeling like you want to go from powerless to proactive? Listen to this episode to get some ideas on how to do just that! Find more about Women to the Front Here: https://www.facebook.com/womentothefront/?rc=p

Due to a technical glitch (damn those internet elves!) last week's show cut out at 10 minutes.  Sorry about that!  It was such a good show and we really want you to hear the whole talk given many listerners have written in requesting this topic, so we're repsoting the FULL episode this week.  Thanks for your patience!  T had so many conversations with distressed husbands, and mothers who also felt anxiety about their low sex drive, that she sought out some answers from mothers Heather Brooker of Motherhood in Hollywood podcast and Sheri Winston who have made it through the sex drought. Sheri Winston is also a sex expert-midwife/nurse turned sexuality teacher of Intimate Arts Center.  There's good news, and lots of insight into the actual pregnancy process, the sensual pleasures of it, and how we can still maintain intimate, sensual connection, even after the pregnancy.  How can we best stay connected with our partners and feel appreciated on both ends? These ladies know best!   Don't miss our discount Promo Code 'TATALKSEX' for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITY that we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 135, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage

T had so many conversations with distressed husbands, and mothers who also felt anxiety about their low sex drive, that she sought out some answers from mothers Heather Brooker of Motherhood in Hollywood podcast and Sheri Winston who have made it through the sex drought. Sheri Winston is also a sex expert-midwife/nurse turned sexuality teacher of Intimate Arts Center.  There's good news, and lots of insight into the actual pregnancy process, the sensual pleasures of it, and how we can still maintain intimate, sensual connection, even after the pregnancy.  How can we best stay connected with our partners and feel appreciated on both ends? These ladies know best!   Don't miss our discount Promo Code 'TATALKSEX' for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITYthat we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 135, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage  

ASK T&A! T of T&A discusses our listeners' burning questions and biggest problems with guest hosts, Lindsey and Krista from Almost 30 Podcast.  T shares fun tweets from our listeners, all three ladies talk about their own greatest life lessons, then launch into the important questions from our guests! Will the older guy commit to her with all of his post-divorce baggage? and What she can do to show him she's a great partner he can trust! What happens when he cums inside you withouth asking? Do you have to have the safe sex talk after the fact? AND UBER lands in hot water when Susan J. Fowler shares her personal experience of gender discrimination and sexual harrassment while working there for 1 year.  The show gets deep when Krista discusses her own experience with sexual harrassment in the workplace, what happened next, and how we as women can protect ourselves from victimization (how men can play a part in shaping a safer work environment for their favorite women too!)  Don't miss our discount PROMO Code for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITY that we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 134, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage