Today’s caller, Ron from California, is wondering what to do about cell phone addiction, especially as it relates to your marriage and relationships. How do you handle the issue of cell phone addiction before it has a negative impact on a marriage? What are some practical ways you can bring this area to the attention of your spouse, or other loved ones who struggle with being on their phone too much without getting into an argument? To help me answer this question, I’m joined by Larinda, one of the DFCN counselors, and together we unpack the neurological and relational impacts of cell phone addiction, as well as some really practical and gentle ways you can begin bringing up the conversation and making changes in your family and in your marriage with regard to screen time addiction. If you or someone you know is distracted by their screens more often than not (and let’s get real – we ALL need to work on this) this episode is for you! Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. Go deeper with the 60 minute RESET from screens and social media seminar HERE.  

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What do you do when a long-term friendship suddenly comes to an end? How do you deal with the pain of rejection, misunderstanding, and even abandonment in close relationships — especially when you didn’t see it coming. Today on the podcast, Pastor and Author Alex Seeley opens up about a recent rupture of a close friendship that left her feeling misunderstood and abandoned. In our on-air session, we talk about healthy ways vs unhealthy ways to deal with the sudden loss of a friendship, how to know what's yours to own vs. what’s not yours to own, and where to go from here. If you’ve dealt with the loss of a friendship, this episode will be life-giving and encouraging, and it will give you loads of practical next steps as you heal and decide whether or not you can move toward repair. Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. 

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Will called in to Talk To Me about his journey through deep betrayal by his best friend – someone he never imagined would hurt him. How do you walk through this kind of betrayal, when you’ve been completely blindsided? Today, we talk through his story of pain and friendship betrayal, and the number one thing that helped him move into healing: forgiveness. Forgiveness is an important people skill, because it untethers you from the pain that others have caused you – so that you can be free to move forward and not stay stuck. We talk through how to do that, and why it’s necessary in this important episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by preordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. 

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 DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren't. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She's seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs...until it's become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY - so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history- and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She's wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships! Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses.... And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal! When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up - but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today's episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf. In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down. In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about medical trauma, and how she has processed these things moving forward. We talk about her childhood, and how God was preparing her for suffering, even from a young age. It is one of the most encouraging episodes, so go give it a listen! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life - versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen - considering some people think it's wrong for a woman to take an initiative. We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn't mean... And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!! It's an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!! - Connect with Faith on Instagram: @ugafaith09 Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of my good friend - Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness. Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human.  If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I talk with Lauryn, who is struggling with navigating friendships in this season of singleness. She's single, but all her friends are married... and she can sometimes feel a bit out of place. She feels as though some of her relationships are becoming unbalanced and she called in looking for some advice. We dug a little deeper into her relationship history, and found out that unbalanced relationships aren't as new as she thought they were ... they are just a little more prominent in this season. I encouraged her to take ownership of her role in relationships, addressing and communicating her needs... and learning to bring balance to her relationships. The most interesting thing about our conversation is what it revealed about her (tune in to find out!) I think this is an important conversation for everyone to listen to, especially if you've ever felt the lack of balance in your closest friendships. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, "why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?" Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you! Are you ready to talk to me? Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, "How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?" After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed... And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different... But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting. Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She's having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately. She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help! I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways instead... It's a really insightful conversation! If you've ever felt triggered in conflict, you need to listen to this episode! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In one of the most vulnerable conversations of the year, I sat down with Pastor Shawn Johnson and processed the moment that literally almost took his life -- the moment he broke mentally and emotionally. After suffering from intense and continuous panic attacks behind the scenes for many years, one day he could take it no more. Thank God he chose vulnerability in that dark and desperate moment, and reached out for help, because it was vulnerability: letting people in on his darkest moments, that ultimately saved his life. We spend some time talking about the series of events leading up to this dark season in his life, what kept him from opening up before this moment, and how he's keeping track of his mental health and well being today. If you suffer from mental illness, panic attacks, depression or anxiety -- his journey will truly challenge and inspire you to continue moving toward healing, and to learn to let people in.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce... wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that. We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn't something that you necessarily "find" as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs. We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships. If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you! Tune in to this powerful conversation! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating! She's having a hard time figuring out if the fears she's having are legitimate or not! Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn't the right fit or do I have anxiety because I'm just scared? And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating! Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he's actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He's battling feelings of regret from the decisions he's made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward. In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart...including his personal sexual struggles- and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing. Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way! The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!! She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone... And she got started on her own journey of healing!! Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversation with her... And it's a testament to the fact that when you begin to do the personal work in your life, things begin to shift in your life!!! You are not going to believe her story!! It brought tears to my eyes. For anyone who is in the middle of an unhealthy or difficult marriage, I believe this conversation will give you hope and the perspective you need to take the next steps - even if your spouse is not willing to do the same. Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship? On this final of couples therapy, I'm joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years. Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder. The ups and downs of their relationship have correlated to her mental health, and they have found themselves struggling to know how to move forward. this conversation is so important, because too many people failed to address the underlying mental health issues that may be having a significant impact on a relationship!! In order for the marriage to heal, the mental illness has to be healed and addressed. Today we talked through what that looks like... and steps for them moving forward. Tune into this important couples therapy session!!! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's episode of couples therapy, I talk with Tim and Kathy Bush! This couple has been through so many hard things yet has come out the other side.... From addiction to affairs to control and trauma, and everything in between, it's truly a miracle that they are together today and have a message to share. It's amazing how little we often know about marriage going into it. But like I always say, marriage is a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses... It exposes everything. But it also invites us into healing!! This couple has definitely proved that to be true. So sit back and listen to their unbelievable story!! And then ask yourself, what needs to be healed in your life and in your relationships? Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Upcoming Events: 02/24/24 - Choosing Marriage Event, Lancaster, PA (Register Here) The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before.  Today's couple is struggling with boundaries with the opposite sex! After overcoming an affair, they find themselves navigating what is OK and not OK in their marriage. She's feeling insecure and jealous, and he's feeling misunderstood and controlled... And in this episode, I help them unpack their needs, fears, and struggles as they come head to head with their differences. I can't wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories.  The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before.  Today's couple is Dave and Ashley Willis! You may recognize their name from their ministry and work at XO marriage. Today, Dave and Ashley get real about a really difficult season they navigated in their marriage including stress, porn addiction, and deceit. But I know they are not alone. I hear from so many of you that are battling porn problems in your marriage right now, and it's an epidemic we have to face head on! Their journey of healing has not stopped, and God has used their healing to impact so many other couples... I know you will be blessed by this on air session! I can't wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I have an on air session with Faith Eury Cho.  Faith and I talk about a difficult season she went through when everything was falling apart and it seemed like she had no one to blame but herself. We talk through the concept of self-blame, where it comes from, and how we can begin to take ownership of what's ours to own vs. what's not!  In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of her childhood, her Korean-American upbringing, increasing our expectations of God, and learning to let others own what belongs to them. We process why it's so easy for her to take more blame and responsibility on her shoulders than she deserves.  Listen to this powerful session with Faith, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to "shift" some of the responsibility and ownership in your life in healthy ways.  Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I have an on air session with Havilah Cunnington. Havilah and I talk through the crisis that happens when people of faith go through a significant mental illness! Having come from a church background where mental illness was denied or simply seen as an attack from the enemy - the solutions that were given to her were to pray more and confess more. But what happens when those solutions don't work? What happens when you are plagued by depression and anxiety? In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of the darkest season she walked through in her life... And how she got out the other side. We affirm the importance of Jesus plus therapy and medication as needed. Listen to this powerful session with Havilah, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to take next steps in your own healing journey. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your people pleasing tendencies continue to come up again and again? How do you navigate the desire to please people, but ultimately continue to strive to please God? Today, I talk to Judah Smith about his tendencies to care too much about what people think, and the self-serving, self-protecting, selfish nature behind being a person who cares too much about what people think. We unpack the idea that ultimately, the root of people-pleasing is actually selfish -- because it's the desire to be wanted, loved, accepted, and validated -- is actually a desire to meet a deep, unquenchable need in us. If you struggle with people-pleasing, you need to tune in to this one.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Today I have an on-air session with Anh Lin (@girlandtheworld). Anh opens up about her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, navigating through the hardships of enmeshment and codependency. What do you do when you feel like you are the only one who can care for your family, but you come from a dysfunctional family? How do you navigate the toxicity in a culture where boundaries and limits are frowned upon? Listen in on this heart felt counseling session with Anh - and as you do, ask yourself what role you have in your own family dynamics. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I'm having an on-air counseling session with Joshua Broome, a former male porn star. We talk about the struggles of life working the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years. Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn't even realize. we talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many things that can get in the way of believing the truth about who we are. It's a powerful conversation about letting go of shame, and dealing with the pain of the past. if there is anything in your past that still haunts you today, I know his counseling session will inspire and challenge you to deal with your past and be freed from your past. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm so excited to kick off the New Year with this episode of Talk To Me with Madison Prewett Troutt. In this on-air counseling session, Madison talks to me about the massive amount of pressure she faced being on national TV show called The Bachelor, but we also trace that feeling of pressure back to old feelings and experiences that have followed her the majority of her life. We talk through how to break free of the pressure, of people pleasing, and learning to get to the bottom of the unhealthy beliefs that keep us feeling under pressure. It's a powerful counseling session to tune into, especially for anyone who has ever struggled with feelings of insecurity, people pleasing tendencies, or feeling like you never measure up. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am excited to start 2024 with a bang! Thanks to your love and support, the podcast has grown into something that I never could have imagined and together we've been able to reach millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Thank you so much for being a part of our journey! On January 1st, The Love + Relationships Podcast is getting a little makeover to reach even more people with our message of hope! The show will be renamed, Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air authentic counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers the opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing-mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. So if you're ready... Let's talk. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When today's question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one. Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage. Today we talk through what it looks like to get through those early years of marriage and come out stronger on the other side. They open their heart in talking about confession, vulnerability, and intimacy in marriage through all areas of their life, and we spend some time talking about how they dealt with the intruder of pornography in their relationship. This episode will encourage and inspire you in your current marriage, and help you dream about your future marriage. Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're continuing our Marriage series with the bad relationship advice that says, "A happy wife makes a happy life".  I can't even tell you how many times I've heard this bad relationship advice. It's advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships. But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage?  Happy Wife Makes A Happy Life? This short, 5-minute episode will offer you a counter perspective to this common advice, and challenge you to see things differently when it comes to marriage and relationships. In this short episode, we cover: Why this is bad advice. Talk about how this advice encourages passivity. What happens when we follow this advice and why it forms one-sided relationships. How to approach marriage from a healthier perspective. Learning to adapt a mutual model in marriage. The BETTER formula to apply instead of Happy Wife = Happy Life I hope this episode encourages you and challenges you to say no to this bad relationship advice! Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You need to go on a weekly date night outside of the house every single week to keep your marriage strong...." I remember the first time I ever heard that phrase. My husband and I were married with an infant and a toddler at the time, born only 20 short months apart, trying to survive the madness of parenting young children.  I was staying at home with the kids 6 out of the 7 days a week and also working desperately to complete my very first book, and John was halfway through his extremely busy medical residency. Needless to say, we were short on cash, short on energy, and short on time.  As much as I wanted to have "one date night out a week", to be completely honest with you, it was nearly impossible. Trying to find a babysitter we trusted, find time in his crazy schedule, and then fork out the minimum $100 dollars to cover dinner and a sitter just seemed way out of our "weekly" budget. Heck, I was trying to simply stay under $100/week for groceries, much less a date night.  So when I heard those words coming from a trusted leader at the time, my heart kinda sank. We're doomed, I thought to myself.  Over the next few years, I've actually heard that phrase many-a-time in sermons, books (not mine!), and even in one-on-one conversations. On one hand, I absolutely agree that couples need focused time carved out in their week for one another. But on the other hand, the traditional thought of a "date night out" can really amount to a lot of pressure. Especially when you're in the stage of having young children.  If you want my personal opinion, the idea that you HAVE to go out every single week in order to keep your marriage strong is actually a harmful idea. The expectation for fancy date nights out, fine dining and dancing, or whatever it is you put on your list, is not only impossible (and unwise) for some people's budgets, but doesn't always work out in the daily grind of life (finding a sitter, collaborating schedules, etc).  And trying to meet unrealistic expectations can leave one or both partners feeling disappointed, bitter, and discouraged in their marriage. DATE NIGHT IN NOT DATE NIGHT OUT Healthy marriages don't hinge on going out, but on going IN. Connecting with one another on a deep and meaningful way. In today's episode I'm going to tell you what it means to "go in" in your relationship. Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to tune in to 10 Date Night In Ideas....hopefully they inspire you to take the time to go in with your relationship! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from...

Marriage should make you happy. That's the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How much weight do we need to put on our happiness? What is the secret ingredient to creating happiness in marriage? Does happiness create a good marriage, or does a good marriage create happiness? And what happens when you're not happy? Is it even realistic to say we're going to be happy all the time in marriage?  We need to take the time to evaluate this relationship advice, and make sure we're questioning it and seeing it for what it's worth. Marriage Should Make You Happy - or Should It? Today, my friend, pastor, and bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas, helps me tackle this important bad relationship advice, because it's advice that's hurting many marriages. We're going to take a look at both scripture and psychology and get to the root of this bad relationship advice, and offer you a BETTER perspective - a perspective that helps us look at holiness before we look at happiness. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time is everything. In fact, it's one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you...because it's the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we've been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 264, our interactions in episode 265, and today we're talking about our time. Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream of Netflix at your fingertips, it's easy for your time to get away from you. But if you're not careful, you can find that your time is going to the inanimate - instead of the intimate. TIME MATTERS One of the survey results I write about in Choosing Marriage, has to do with the amount of married people who report spending their time on separate hobbies and interests. There's a lot of time getting lost on things that don't really matter, and it's having serious impact on our marriages. In this episode, we talk through some of the things we do in our marriage and how we prioritize our time for one another, because if you're not intentional - it just won't happen. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we're comfortable talking about, but it's a necessary conversation. It's easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don't actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked some additional controversy as well. It's clear this is a topic people don't always agree on. So what's too much when it comes to boundaries, and what is not enough? Boundaries With the Opposite Sex What does it practically look like to protect your marriage by setting boundaries, specifically with your interactions with the opposite sex? Last week on the Love + Relationships Podcast we talked through the boundaries we set with our emotions, and today on the podcast we're talking through the boundaries we set up with our interactions. The conversation you're about to hear is about the things WE have chosen to do for our marriage. You may agree with some of it, and you may not...but let's start by having the conversation, and getting comfortable talking through it. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's hard enough to deal with feeling offended by people, but what do you do when you feel offended by God? In this on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, we talk about healthy vs. unhealthy ways to handle offense from people who hurt us deeply, and then we move into healthy ways to deal with feeling offended by God. We talk about important mindset shifts that need to happen, in order for us to be able to deal with our real and significant hurts, disappointment, and pain. How can offense bring us closer to God, rather than push us away from Him? If you've ever felt disappointed by God or by people, this conversation is just what you need

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

How do you protect your marriage?  What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What's your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage?  Today on the podcast, we're starting a new Marriage Series by discussing a topic that's close to our hearts: How to PROTECT your marriage. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE Specifically, we're talking about the three intruders that are known to get in the way of a healthy marriage. These intruders are quiet, and sly, and sneaky - but if you aren't careful, you'll find them starting to creep in and separate your hearts and your lives from one another. Join John and me, and get a front-row look into our relationship and the things we do to be DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL about protecting our love and drawing closer to one another. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: In today's episode, we're addressing a question that was sent in by one of our listeners. The listener is seeking advice on how to maintain a positive perspective despite the difficulties they're experiencing. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Bewindi Jackson, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Bewindi offers Christ-Centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  BEWINDI JACKSON, LCSW- Bewindi Jackson is a licensed clinical social worker and is a part of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bewindi offers Christ-centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Book a session with Bewindi today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Larinda is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry.  Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  LARINDA HORTON, M.A., LPC- Larinda Horton, is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. She is a woman who loves Jesus and out of this love desires to help bring a sense of hope and freedom to all she works with. A passionate therapist, mentor, and speaker Larinda enjoys combining her passions for mental health and ministry as an invitation into a deeper relationship with Jesus while developing healthier mindsets. She has an extensive history in providing therapy for all age groups and working with multiple diagnoses, providing spiritual guidance and mentorship, and providing teaching on mental health and spiritual topics. Her education includes a B.A. in Bible and Leadership Education, M.A. in Professional Counseling, and two years of courses towards a Ph.D. in Professional Counseling. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional counselor with over a decade of experience in the counseling field and nearly two decades of experience in ministry. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  ALLISON FISHER, M.A., LPC - Allison's areas of specialty are marriage and family relationships, trauma, depression and anxiety, grief and loss, and spiritual hurt. She utilizes practical and evidence-based clinical interventions integrated with a Christ-centered perspective in her counseling approach. Allison holds a M.A. in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. She and her husband have been married for 23 years, and live in Alabama, where they have raised their two sons. Her family has recently gained a daughter, through their oldest son's marriage. She is currently navigating life with her husband and their adult children. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who wants to establish healthy boundaries around unhealthy people in their life. We are excited to welcome Danielle Day, MSSW, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master's of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary.  Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DANIELLE DAY, MSSW, LCSW - Dani is passionate about helping you gain the skills and knowledge you need to get unstuck. Some of the areas that Dani helps individuals address include boundaries, core beliefs, communication, healthy ways to manage emotions, overseas living, forgiveness and more. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master's of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. She has experience working in a wide variety of settings, but most recently has been worked with women requesting Bible-based Christian counseling.  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks if there is really one person out there for you to marry. In this episode, we are talking about The Myth of The One. We are thrilled to welcome John Perez, LMFT, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. He is working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has a bachelor's degree in pastoral counseling and a master's degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  JOHN PEREZ, LMFT - If you are looking to change and help heal past wounds. You found the right person to join you in your healing journey. You can expect to feel heard and supported. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. Working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has his bachelors degree in pastoral counseling and his masters degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. John invites the Holy Spirit to his counseling work and uses an integrative approach from different psychology models. John is bilingual (Spanish/English) DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's episode of our podcast series, "Ask a Counselor". Julie encourages her clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  JULIE LUNDY is a Licensed Professional Counselor who focuses on helping build an authentic, trusting, and connected relationship with her clients as they work toward their coaching goals. She encourages clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up another wonderful question! Our caller today is interested in learning more about The Imposter Syndrome. She's curious to know what it is, what it means for her, and how to define it. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's episode of our podcast series, "Ask a Counselor". Lesly Moreno is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health and is honored to create a safe space for others to process life's demands, stressors, and trauma. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC  is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health, and honored to create a safe space for others to process life's demands, stressors, trauma and even celebrate milestones. She is also passionate about trauma informed care. Her strengths as a therapist include being an active listener, providing unconditional positive care, empathy, compassion, gentleness, resourcefulness. She loves to guide and lead orders to help them discover who God has created them to be and be their encouragement as they achieve their social emotional health goals. As a first generational Hispanic professional, she has a keen interest in advocating for migrant families and helping them navigate life transitions in a new world. Lesly believes in the power of a safe space that helps cultivate healthy singles in order for our communities to have healthy families, which lead to healthy churches and a healthy world. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives? We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Melissa has worked for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  MELISSA CRUTCHFIELD, M.A., LPC has worked in the "people business" for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Melissa has a passion for helping individuals step into the freedom and fullness of who they were made to be. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how we can maintain friendships as an adult. In this episode, we will be discussing some helpful tips on how to navigate the challenges of friendships during this season of our lives, and ways to foster healthier relationships with our friends. We are joined by Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley, MS MHP, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care. She has experience in community mental health, crisis, suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019.  Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  JENNIFER HINKLE-STANLEY, MS MHP Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley has been married for 24 years, and has 3 teenage daughters as well as a granddaughter. She has worked in Missouri, Kansas, and now Pennsylvania. Her husband is in full time ministry and together they lead the Freedom ministry in their church. Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care.She has experience in community mental health, crisis and suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. She is the co-founder of Busted Biscuits, a program teaching women to be in healthy relationships with one another through in person group sessions and podcast. Her desire is to promote healing and growth within her sessions, helping each individual to find their identity and purpose, while also healing their relationships. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We know God's heart is for a healthy marriage, but what happens when life has other plans? Today, I sit down with Lysa Terkeurst and unpack the series of events and discoveries leading up to the letting go of her marriage. She shares what she's learned along the way about boundaries, and her tendency to do more than her fair share of work in a relationship. We get to the root of the why, and what made her susceptible to this type of relational dynamic -- and ultimately, how she found healing in spite of it all.

 

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We'll discover that answer in today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're talking through this important topic today....so if you feel like you're having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you pray for love? And what if you don't even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship?  If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school. Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs.  So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin?  Whether you're praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love.  8 Ways To Pray For Love Today on the podcast, we're talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one.  So check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life.  SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY -  iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices