Explore every episode of the podcast Stories Lived. Stories Told.
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| On Trading Super-Coherence for Incoherence with Anokh Goodman and Rana Kökçinar | Ep. 136 | 30 Apr 2025 | 01:06:32 | |
How are we generating possibilities in every moment? ... Rana Kökçinar is a Systemic Psychotherapist and Family Therapist working on unceded Kaurna Land, South Australia. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. | |||
| On Appreciative Inquiry and Positive Change with Diana Whitney | Ep. 135 | 16 Apr 2025 | 00:56:37 | |
Is your communication relationship-enhancing or relationship-destroying? | |||
| On Conversational Jazz and Improvisation with Rik Spann | Embodiment Series | Ep. 127 | 02 Dec 2024 | 01:09:55 | |
How can we leave ourselves open to more spontaneity by letting go of some of our expectations? | |||
| Complex Grief, Child Loss & Finding Peace Even Without Answers | Michelle Colpean | Part 1 | 06 Mar 2023 | 00:43:15 | |
How do we find peace when there is no sense to be made of our pain? What can we do to lean into a more complex understanding of loss and grief? How can we trade platitudes like "everything happens for a reason" for a deeper understanding of the way pain and joy can coexist in our lives? ... Dr. Michelle Colpean is a communication professor at the University of Cincinnati. She received her Bachelor's in Psychology and Master's in Communication Studies from Ball State University and her Ph.D. in Communication Studies (Rhetoric) from the University of Iowa. She is the mother of Sami, who passed away suddenly on January 12, 2021, at 8 months old, and Salma, who is about to turn 1 year old. Michelle uses her background in communication to help her survive the grief of losing her son and continues to write and present on the topic of grief, among other things. Michelle also makes Personalized Car Charms which she sells on Etsy, to support others in remembering the people they love that they have lost. In this conversation, Michelle talks about the many roles and relationships in her life that define her and how she doesn't try to compartmentalize them. Michelle shares about her son Sami, who passed away when he was 8 months old. Abbie and Michelle discuss how Michelle experiences grief, how her memory was affected during that time, and how she finds meaning in her life now. Importantly, Abbie and Michelle explore the perspective and beauty that Michelle has found after Sami's passing, while questioning the helpfulness of any comment that starts with "at least" and the idea of finding a "silver lining." Finally, Michelle shares her experience of both joy and pain and how she has come to understand their relationship in her life. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on YouTube. ... Follow Michelle on Instagram Check out Michelle's Etsy Shop Read more about Sami Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube Check out my website Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How Can We Create a New Story About Death and Dying? | Madison Gonzalez | Part 2 | 27 Feb 2023 | 00:43:51 | |
Why does a fear of the unknown keep us from leaning into the hard conversations and experiences around death and dying? How can we hold onto the things we can control so that we can feel steady enough to keep leaning into this big thing that we can't? How can we let go of unhelpful stories and write new ones for ourselves by learning better ways to recognize the deeply human pain we feel around death and better ways to support and show up for those in our life who are dying? Why do we wait until people are gone to celebrate their lives? How can we find beauty and connection, even in the painful last moments of life? ... Madison Gonzalez is a poet and the author of Dear Mirror; the Executive Director of Morning Light Inc., a non-profit located in Indianapolis, Indiana that provides end-of-life care to those in hospice; a mother to two (very lucky) kids; and Abbie's former babysitter (among many other things). Madison has used her passion for storytelling and her aptitude for event planning to organize fundraising efforts for Morning Light Inc., including the highest-grossing fundraising events in Morning Light history. She also teaches her non-profit communication methods nationally to help other organizations advance their missions as well. Today, Madison shares about the work that she does with Morning Light Inc., as they provide a home, comfort, and community to those in hospice care with nowhere else to go. Abbie and Madison consider why we tend to "look the other way" when it comes to death and dying and how our culture has contributed to the current systems we have now (and why we might need something new). Madison shares the words from a former resident that guide her ("Too many of us leave this world with our stories untold.") and other stories from the Abbie Hunt Bryce Home. Abbie and Madison talk about the importance of the work of giving people a new story when the one they have been always been told made them believe that no one cared about them. Finally, Abbie and Madison explore some Next Turns to keep this conversation going in our social worlds. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on YouTube. ... Follow Madison on Instagram! Buy Dear Mirror! Learn more about Morning Light Inc. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! Subscribe on YouTube! Check out my website! Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. | |||
| Postpartum, Celebration & Creating Connection | Madison Gonzalez | Part 1 | 20 Feb 2023 | 00:46:00 | |
How can we embrace celebrating every part of ourselves (even the parts we don't feel like celebrating) as a way to recognize our full humanity? What connection happens when we share our most vulnerable parts with others, especially when we are still in the middle of figuring them out? How can we make time to pursue creation (in any of its many forms) as a way to "check-in" with ourselves and reflect? ... Madison Gonzalez is a poet and the author of Dear Mirror; the Executive Director of Morning Light Inc., a non-profit located in Indianapolis, Indiana that provides end-of-life care to those in hospice; a mother to two (very lucky) kids; and Abbie's former babysitter (among many other things). Madison has used her passion for storytelling and her aptitude for event planning to organize fundraising efforts for Morning Light Inc., including the highest-grossing fundraising events in Morning Light history. She also teaches her non-profit communication methods nationally to help other organizations advance their missions as well. In today's conversation, Madison shares how she learned to stop running from herself and listen to what her Postpartum Depression had to teach her. Abbie and Madison discuss "the creative power of communication" and how we can think of our work and its impact using the metaphor of a dandelion. Madison talks about her book of poetry, Dear Mirror, and what it means to her. Finally, Abbie and Madison discuss the stories the world tells us, how those often become the stories we tell ourselves, and the new kind of story that Madison is hoping to tell herself (and her kids). ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on YouTube. ... Follow Madison on Instagram! Buy Dear Mirror! Learn more about Morning Light Inc. Get Involved with Morning Light Inc. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! Subscribe on YouTube! Check out my website! Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Teaching Openmindedness, Cultivating Relationships & Setting Boundaries | Stephanie Higgs | Part 2 | 13 Feb 2023 | 00:47:12 | |
How do we create meaning through shared language in every space? Why is it helpful to ask ourselves if what we know is being "Confirmed," "Challenged," or "Changed"? What does it look like to set boundaries that allow us to say our "Best Yes"? ... Stephanie Higgs is, above all else, a passionate educator. Since graduating with her Master's Degree in Education she has taught pre-K, second grade, and fourth grade; she now works as a gifted educator and differentiation coach, where she supports both students and her fellow teachers in accommodating individual learning needs. In 2021, Stephanie was named the Tennessee Performing Arts Center (TPAC) Teacher of the Year. After 13 years in education, Stephanie is expanding her reach by sharing resources, ideas, and advice for educators around the world on her Instagram page and YouTube channel. Today, Stephanie shares how learning about self-regulation has helped her heal and find more empathy for herself and others. Abbie and Stephanie talk about the classroom through the lens of social worlds. Stephanie explains Morning Meetings, Themed Walks, and Sunshine Phone Calls, and the ways that these allow her to intentionally create the kind of social world she wants. Finally, Abbie and Stephanie discuss what it means to really believe that "clarity is kindness," how we miss out on connection when we let technology control us, and why it feels so important to start learning to "stop glorifying busy." ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on YouTube. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! @storieslivedstoriestoldpod Subscribe on YouTube! Stories Lived. Stories Told. Check out my website! www.storieslivedstoriestold.com Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Unexpected Paths, "Story-Hearing" & Feeling Known | Stephanie Higgs | Part 1 | 06 Feb 2023 | 00:45:16 | |
How can we celebrate our own individuality (and the individuality of others) by being honest about our needs, finding unique ways to meet them, and saying out loud the things we appreciate about each other? How can we celebrate children's individuality in school settings and beyond? What happens when we learn, not only how to tell our own story, but to hear the stories of others as well? Why does it matter for us to be honest about the things we are struggling with, uncertain of, or just don't know? ... Stephanie Higgs is, above all else, a passionate educator. Since graduating with her Master's Degree in Education she has taught pre-K, second grade, and fourth grade; she now works as a gifted educator and differentiation coach, where she supports both students and her fellow teachers in accommodating individual learning needs. In 2021, Stephanie was named the Tennessee Performing Arts Center (TPAC) Teacher of the Year. After 13 years in education, Stephanie is expanding her reach by sharing resources, ideas, and advice for educators around the world on her Instagram page and YouTube channel. In this conversation, Stephanie shares her passion for her role as a gifted educator and how it wasn't always the path she saw for herself. Abbie and Stephanie discuss differentiation, what it looks like for her to balance educational standards with individual needs, and the value of the support system of teachers that Stephanie collaborates with. Stephanie shares her teacher's perspective on stories. Stephanie and Abbie talk about their shared love of quotes, how "there are years in life that ask questions, and there are years in life that answer questions," and how Stephanie is handling the question-asking kind of year she is in right now. Finally, Stephanie reflects back on the main theme that emerged during this conversation-- feeling known. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann. Find Rik on YouTube. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! @storieslivedstoriestoldpod Subscribe on YouTube! Stories Lived. Stories Told. Check out my website! www.storieslivedstoriestold.com Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Season Two Trailer | 20 Jan 2023 | 00:02:18 | |
Hi. My name is Abbie, this is Stories Lived. Stories Told. and here’s what I know... Everything in our social world is created through communication—communication being the stories we live, the stories we tell, and all the other stories in between; it's the patterns we find ourselves in, the contexts that affect us, the meaning we make, the questions we ask, and how we listen; it’s the choices we make about how we show up to each other, and the spaces we create in ourselves, our relationships, and our communities. It makes sense then, that the better we are communicating, the better social worlds we can create—social worlds that have more justice, more human dignity, more inclusion and understanding, more creativity, more imagination, and more authenticity and mindfulness. I have a degree in Interpersonal Communication. And I loved studying it in school. And I don’t think you should have to be a communication scholar to get to know everything I got to learn. After all, all of us are in relationship with each other, communicating in one way or another every moment of every day, building the social worlds we live in through our stories and choices. So, I believe all of us deserve to have access to the tools, skills, and language that comes from taking a communication perspective in your life. Each week I invite you to join me in conversation with a guest who is working toward a better social world in their own way. My hope is that through these conversations, we can be educated, empowered, and energized as we find our own paths to a better social world. That you for showing up. Thank you for being curious. Thank you for being a part of this story. And thank you for helping me to welcome in Season 2. I can’t wait to see what emerges! ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! @storieslivedstoriestoldpod Subscribe on YouTube! Stories Lived. Stories Told. Check out the Complete Collection of Season 1 Episodes here! Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Looking for Untold Stories, Finding the Meaning & Being the Author of Your Own Story | 23 Dec 2022 | 00:26:53 | |
How do we balance looking back, looking forward, and staying present in our stories? How do the stories we tell shape us? But more importantly, how do the stories that we DO NOT tell also shape us? How can we have more empathy and compassion for others by reminding ourselves that we all have Untold Stories? ... In this final Minisode of Season 1, Abbie talks about the complex place that she (and many of us) are in of reflecting on our pasts, asking ourselves "what is next?", and still trying to stay present for the moment we are in all at the same time. Abbie explores stories as the "smallest common denominator" of our lives--the best way to break down our lives into smaller pieces so we can better examine and understand them. Also, Abbie shares some examples from her own life of how she is learning to navigate her own Untold Stories, and at the same time, remember that others have their own Untold Stories, too. She acknowledges that some Untold Stories will never be told, and what it looks like to be at peace with that; she also talks about the flip side of that, which is "How do we create a safe space for ourselves and others to tell those Untold Stories?" Finally, Abbie discusses our creative relationship with meaning and the "Intent vs. Impact" conversation. Today, our Next Turn is to keep our eyes peeled for the Untold Stories in our social worlds, to remember our own agency in writing our story, and to find ways to meet people where they are at. Also, Share, Rate, and Review the show on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Challenging Systems, Empowering Youth & Creating a Secure Society | Aline Mugisho | Part 2 | 08 Dec 2022 | 00:46:10 | |
How does fulfilling basic needs through sustainable agriculture also create space for economic freedom, social justice, and personal dignity in Africa? How is Aline’s work building bridges—for the future and for right now? What does it do for a society to nurture young people, open itself up to innovation, and reject the idea of a “single story”? ... Aline Mugisho is the Executive Manager of the Innovative Youth in Agriculture Project at the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture (IITA). She has a bachelor's in Journalism and Communication, a master's in Forced Migration Studies, and is currently working on her doctorate at the Willy Brandt School of Public Policy at the University of Erfurt. Equally as important, is her role as a daughter, sister, mother, and mentor. From her time as a journalist until now, Aline has been a fearless advocate for youth, women, and those who have been displaced from their homes. Today, Aline and Abbie continue their conversation about Aline’s work in sustainable agriculture. Aline educates Abbie about the needs of people in her community and how improved agriculture, production, and access are at the heart of it. Describing the effects of a society that is “as vulnerable as its food,” Aline makes the case for a new job system and a new economic force. Aline shares her approach to building relationships, which involves “not putting ranks between people” and creating “an environment where [people] can tell their side of the story.” Also, Aline shares about the people she serves, expresses her idea of a better social world, and Abbie and Aline discuss “Next Turns.” ... Learn more about Aline and her work at IITA here: https://www.iita.org/iita-staff/aline-mugisho/ ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Finding Peace in Our Internal Worlds, When Our External Worlds are Anything But | Aline Mugisho | Part 1 | 02 Dec 2022 | 00:48:42 | |
***Content Warning: Mentions of Sexual Violence*** ... How do we understand the parts of our story that we didn't have control over? How do we heal our communities and ourselves by empowering others? How do we create the space for innovation when our society is built on injustice and inequality? ... Aline Mugisho is the Executive Manager of the Innovative Youth in Agriculture Project at the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture (IITA). She has a bachelor's in Journalism and Communication, a master's in Forced Migration Studies, and is currently working on her doctorate at the Willy Brandt School of Public Policy at the University of Erfurt. Equally as important, is her role as a daughter, sister, mother, and mentor. From her time as a journalist until now, Aline has been a fearless advocate for youth, women, and those who have been displaced from their homes. Today, Aline shares some of the stories that shaped her, including her experience fleeing the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) during the Civil War and the way it shaped her, the impact of growing up in a culture that is especially dangerous and disempowering for women, and the power of seeing strength, resilience, and dignity demonstrated in the most unexpected ways. Additionally, Abbie and Aline discuss the importance of making time for quiet reflection in a noisy world, how the small moments add up to create larger narratives that we internalize, and what Aline means when she says that "food in America is overprocessed, but food in Africa is underprocessed." Join us next week for part two of this conversation, where Aline and Abbie further discuss how sustainable agriculture is at the core of the fight for economic success, social justice, and personal dignity; what Aline has learned from the people she serves; and what those of us who are on the outside of her story should know. ... Learn more about Aline and her work at IITA here: https://www.iita.org/iita-staff/aline-mugisho/ ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Changing the Moment in the Moment, Seeking Clarity Over Certainty & Learning to Listen | John Burnham | Part 2 | 18 Nov 2022 | 00:44:31 | |
***Content Warning: Mentions of Sexual Abuse*** ... How can you change the moment in the moment? We know what we don’t want to be…. but what do we want to be? What else can you listen for? ... John shares his practice for unfreezing yourself when someone kills your imagination; the things he has learned from those he works with, including the resoluteness of the human spirit and experiencing real awe; and how he learned to be less certain and seek clarity instead. Abbie and John discuss making therapy available to everyone, making the kind of therapy the client wants, and making up words (because all words are made up anyway) to better reflect our experiences. Finally, John explains finding a willingness to understand and being deliberate in every interaction and what it means to “Listen to Speak” and “Speak to Listen.” ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| On Psychology and Democracy with Hossein Kaviani | Engagement Series | Ep. 126 | 25 Nov 2024 | 00:58:14 | |
How can you embody democratic values? | |||
| Turning Off Autopilot, Bringing Awareness & Getting Present to Communication | 04 Nov 2022 | 00:17:21 | |
What does it mean to be aware of our communication? How do we become actively engaged? Can we learn to recognize, acknowledge, note, and be present to our communication in a gentle and neutral way? How do we control our patterns instead of the other way around? What are we swimming in? ... Abbie discusses how it might be easier to go on autopilot when it comes to how we communicate, but the way to create a better social world is through awareness; when we start to bring awareness to our communication, it has to be a nonjudgmental awareness; and how we can look at communication, instead of through it by zooming out and taking a new perspective. Abbie explores the first step to making new choices (remember that you have a choice in the first place), the way to control our patterns through bringing awareness to them, and the way that being aware and present one moment at a time helps us to be more resilient in the face of life’s complexities. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Unbecoming, Not Knowing & Welcoming In The Unexpected | John Burnham | Part 1 | 28 Oct 2022 | 01:04:23 | |
Why are the hardest stories to tell the ones we most need to hear? How do we balance the stories that others tell about us vs. the stories we tell about ourselves? When is blame a resource? When is hope a problem? What does it mean to take a "not knowing position?" ... Today, John shares when he first became a storyteller and why it is important to take the risk of sharing your real, not-so-perfect story so that others feel safe to do the same. Abbie and John discuss learning to appreciate the process of "unbecoming" and celebrating (not judging) others for their experiences and growth; using John's PPRR (Problems, Potential, Resources, and Restraints) to understand the many many layers of everything we do. Finally, Abbie and John explore the wonders of Systemic Therapy, welcoming in the unexpected, good questions, and role-playing interactions. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| What Do You Mean? Recognizing & Reframing How We Create Meaning | 14 Oct 2022 | 00:23:24 | |
What does it mean that we "create meaning?" How can we reframe? ... Abbie explains trying out different meanings like trying on a new pair of glasses; bringing attached meaning into the light by saying it out loud and what it can look like to bring others into the conversation and how we can be empowered to do it; and shares one more example for making meaning, managing meaning, and coordinating meaning. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube Check out my website Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Deep Listening: The Power Of Good Listening To Create Deeper Connections | 07 Oct 2022 | 00:21:54 | |
Why does it matter how we show up as listeners in conversation? What does it mean to create a space for deeper connection? How can we "listen to others the way that we want to be listened to?" ... Abbie discusses seeing our communication as a dialogue, instead of a monologue; becoming conscious of the subconscious with Active Listening; and moving from hearing to listening, listening to Active Listening, and Active Listening to Deep Listening. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Where Do We Start With Climate Action? | Miriam Kashia | 30 Sep 2022 | 01:04:13 | |
Why does it matter how we talk about climate action? How does better language inspire better action? ... Today, Miriam shares her story, including all the challenges that led her to be where (and who) she is now. Abbie and Miriam discuss the lessons, people, and experiences that transformed Miriam from a concerned citizen to a "climate action warrior" and how Miriam is using her platform to educate and empower us with both. Miriam shares the quote, "We will not give into the fear because it is fear that fuels the darkness" and how she is striving to take on daunting issues with love, truth, and justice. Finally, Abbie and Miriam explore the roles, relationships, and rest that help Miriam stay whole and balanced; Miriam's advice for activists and how her perspective has changed; and what it looks like to lean into the chaos that comes when we start to change our social worlds. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How To Change Your Patterns | 16 Sep 2022 | 00:12:17 | |
What are we creating? What do we want to create? How can we learn to become resilient and flexible, physically, mentally, and emotionally? ... Today, Abbie discusses our CMM Roadmap, considering what else we need to get where we are going. Abbie explores the challenge of beginning to embody CMM and change your patterns, shining light into the darkness of both our healthy and unhealthy patterns, and learning to be gentle with yourself when changing patterns. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Communicate Better with Genuine Curiosity | 09 Sep 2022 | 00:12:41 | |
Why does it matter that our curiosity is genuine?How can you look for moments where others approach you with Genuine Curiosity and find opportunities for you to do the same?...Abbie discusses Genuine Curiosity (and how it fits in the process of moving from Imagination to Embodied Realism); Genuine Curiosity as an approach to our relationships, emotions, experiences, and ideas; and using the LUUUUTT model to understand the role of Genuine Curiosity in the practice of CMM. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How Do We See People Through Their Patterns? | Alex Jagiello | 26 Aug 2022 | 00:42:01 | |
Why is it important to seek out spaces that encourage learning and critical thinking? What are imagination, genuine inquiry, and embodied realism? And why do we need them? How can you cultivate interactions that are meaningful, intelligent, loving, and connected? ... Today, Alex Jagiello shares the story that she is currently telling about herself. Abbie and Alex discuss the relationship between technology, education, and communication as a potential force for good. Alex shares her experience as a CMM Institute Fellow, including the impact of ideas like "felt trust" and the development of MILC. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Imagining a Future Society with Cosmopolis 2045 | 19 Aug 2022 | 00:19:14 | |
What is the Cosmopolis 2045 project? And how did it start? How can we pay attention to the "invisible in-between" by re-evaluating whether or not our language is achieving our goals? What does it mean to engage and both personal and social evolution? ... Today, Abbie discusses the importance of "cosmopolitan communication" and how we can be profoundly open to and respectful of others without giving up our own beliefs. Abbie explains how before we can embody CMM, we first have to imagine what that looks like. ... Check out the Cosmopolis 2045 website here. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Mindful Communication Practices | 05 Aug 2022 | 00:17:00 | |
What is mindfulness? How can mindfulness help us in our communication? ... Today, Abbie discusses why we need mindfulness to create better social worlds, how collaboration in creating a space encourages storytelling and vulnerability, and what it can mean to bring mindfulness to even the smallest of moments. ... Find Part 1 with Sara here. Find Part 2 with Sara here. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| On Diversity, Equity, Inclusion & Multiculturalism with Paul Porter | Engagement Series | Ep. 125 | 18 Nov 2024 | 01:27:18 | |
What are the real ways that we can embrace the complexity of our experiences? | |||
| Deconstructing and Reconstructing | Sara Hayden | Part 2 | 29 Jul 2022 | 00:39:17 | |
What does it mean for us to be invited into sacred spaces? What do we believe? And what kind of life do we live as a result? How can we ask thoughtful questions that give people the space to think more deeply and connect them back to themselves? How can we lean into the discomfort of deconstructing and reconstructing what we think that we know and believe? How can we acknowledge our ever changing contexts and become more conscious of the way we live? ... Sara shares her story of becoming a minister. Abbie and Sara discuss the difference between chasing a dream that is outside yourself and letting one emerge that already lives inside you. Abbie shares the story of how she came into the world of Interpersonal Communication. Abbie and Sara consider the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all," whether or not "niceness" is still the measure we want to use, and reconceptualizing the "value" we add to conversations and knowing when to listen and when to stand up for yourself. Sara shares the stories she wants to hear more of and why we need to be intentional about seeking out stories of delight. ... Check out Sara's podcast here! ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Peace And Safety In Our Communities | Sara Hayden | Part 1 | 28 Jul 2022 | 00:51:00 | |
How do we define ourselves in our communities? How does this build empathy? How do we work together to create a pool of shared meaning? How do the little moments shape us just as much as the big moments? How can we better engage with bifurcation points and be intentional about how we show up in the little moments? ... Today, Reverend Sara Hayden shares the story she tells about herself and the story that others tell about her. Abbie and Sara discuss the overcorrection that happened between telling women that they can't do things to telling women they can "have it all" and why we need to find peace in believing that we are enough. Sara teaches Abbie about the role of emergent strategy in helping us to meet each other where we are at. Finally, Abbie and Sara explore re-examining the language we use, recognizing the power in naming things, and being brave and vulnerable in creating the space for change. ... Check out Sara's podcast here! ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Moving From Theory To Practice And Beyond: The Evolution Of CMM | 22 Jul 2022 | 00:18:09 | |
What is CMM to you? What does your "better social world" look like? How does CMM help you get there? ... In this episode Abbie explores one way of understanding how CMM has evolved over the years from an Interpretive Theory, to a Critical Theory, to a Practical Theory, and beyond. Abbie talks about CMM now in our lives as something that can transform us and something we can embody in our own lives. Abbie offers a potential "next phase" for CMM as a Connective Practice because it connects to others and to ourselves. ... The Evolution of CMM 1. Interpretive Theory 2. Critical Theory 3. Practical Theory 4. Spiritual Practice ... Listen to Ep. 4 (LUUUUTT Model) here. Watch this 2011 Interview with Kim and Barnett here. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Creating Better Social Worlds Through Perspective, Practices & Goals | 08 Jul 2022 | 00:11:10 | |
What is the perspective Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) offers us? What are the practices that we can use to embody CMM? What are the goals of CMM that influence our choices? ... Today, Abbie discusses three facets of Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM): perspective, practices, and goals. Abbie explores what changes when we focus on the journey instead of the destination, how we can embrace what it means to be "curious participants," and why it matters that we ask ourselves: "what should we do to make a better social world?" ... Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) is a communication theory that claims: "persons-in-conversation co-construct their own social realities, and are simultaneously shaped by the worlds they create." As "persons-in-conversation" we coordinate with others to create patterns of communication; it is up to us to engage intentionally with our stories and with others to create better social worlds. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How Do We Set The Next Generation Up For Success? | CosmoKidz Teachers Amy, Nicole & Katrina | 01 Jul 2022 | 00:47:06 | |
What does it look like to make that which is "unseen" into that which is "seen"? How can we teach kids that what they say and how they feel matters? How do we center kids' voices? ... In this conversation, Abbie is joined by CosmoKidz teachers Amy, Nicole, and Katrina to discuss the ways that using CMM in the classroom has transformed their experiences and thinking. Amy, Nicole, and Katrina share their stories and how they define themselves by their roles as teachers and mothers. Abbie, Katrina, Nicole, and Amy explore what it is like to teach CosmoKidz, how it changes the way they engage with students, and how their kids have surprised them in the ways they are able to interact with each other when given the right tools and language. Finally, Amy, Nicole, and Katrina explain how kids learn empathy, what it means to "SOAR," and the importance of "listening to understand." Learn more about CosmoKidz here. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Social Emotional Learning for Kids Using CosmoKidz | 23 Jun 2022 | 00:12:02 | |
What is CosmoKidz? And what is the goal? ... Today, Abbie explores CosmoKidz-- a social-emotional learning program created by the CMM Insitute, designed to teach children empathy and healthy communication skills. Abbie talks about how CosmoKidz was developed through a collaborative co-construction process involving kids; the value in making the implicit explicit by teaching kids "soft skills" like empathy and communication; and why it is important for kids to learn these skills, language, and tools while they are young (because kids with emotional intelligence grow into adults with emotional intelligence). ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Reflecting On Conversations And Why Context Matters | 16 Jun 2022 | 00:13:37 | |
What do you need from this podcast? What adds value to your life? Why? How do we change how we relate to storytelling and story"hearing"? ... Today, Abbie explores how building an understanding of CMM takes time (thanks for coming back!); why she desires to create a space for authenticity and vulnerability that allows you to be a part of the conversation, rather than just listening in on it; and what it does when we compare our story to others'. Abbie reflects on the conversation she had with her family, how they actively participate in the creation of their shared social world, and why reflection itself is so important. Finally, Abbie shares about perspectives, patterns, and power in our social worlds and 3 ways she hopes to teach CMM through Stories Lived. Stories Told. .. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| The Power of Telling and Hearing Stories | Grandpa JP & Grammie & Mom | Part 2 | 06 Jun 2022 | 01:00:18 | |
How are our stories shaped by the presence of love? ... In part two of this conversation, Abbie's Grandpa shares the story he tells about himself. Abbie and Grandpa JP discuss the many roles he has had in his life and how he has found fulfillment in each one, his experience witnessing the power of creating a safe space to share and hear stories, and what storytelling means in their family. Grammie and Grandpa JP share travel advice and life lessons. Abbie's Mom, Grammie, and Grandpa JP all share what a "better social world" looks like to them. Finally, Abbie, her Mom, Grammie, and Grandpa JP talk about the quotes they choose to live their lives by and how their value, wisdom, and perspectives show up in their family. .. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How Do We Navigate Family Relationships With Compassion? | Abbie's Mom & Grammie | Part 1 | 03 Jun 2022 | 00:47:09 | |
How do we define ourselves by our relationships? How can we learn to coordinate within our families using grace and compassion? ... Today, Abbie has a very special conversation with her mom (Ann) and grandma (Jeanie). Ann and Jeanie share who they are and some of the stories of their lives. Abbie, Mom, and Grammie discuss what it is like to be part of a storytelling family and where that comes from. Finally, Abbie, Mom, and Grammie look at the ways that CMM shows up in families. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Coherence, Coordination & Mystery | Collaborating In Communication To Make Meaning | 26 May 2022 | 00:11:54 | |
What is Coherence? What is Coordination? What is Mystery? And how can we embody these processes to improve our communication? How can we become friends with Mystery? ... Today. Abbie explores the importance of learning to meta-communicate in our relationships. Abbie discusses three key elements of the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) theory that can guide us in our interactions-- Coherence (the process of making meaning through storytelling), Coordination (the process of collaborating with others to create better social worlds), and Mystery (the process of embracing the unknown and uncontrollable). Finally, Abbie emphasizes that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to make meaning, communicate, or interact with others, as long as we are seeking to do our best. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| On Communities, Disasters & Rebuilding with Sue Wells | Engagement Series | Ep. 124 | 11 Nov 2024 | 01:02:47 | |
What power do you have in your community? | |||
| Revealing Patterns In Our Communication Using The Serpentine Model | 20 May 2022 | 00:16:11 | |
What is the Serpentine Model? What are Unwanted Repetitive Patterns (URPs)? And how can we acknowledge and avoid them? ... Today, Abbie explores CMM's Serpentine Model, including what it means to be in conversation with others, to be in collaboration with others, and to create patterns (wanted or unwanted) with others. Abbie discusses an example of using the Serpentine Model. Dr. Barbara McKay shares some thoughts on the Serpentine Model. Finally, Abbie offers two ways to put the Serpentine Model to use in our own lives, both as a tool for reflection after a conversation has happened and also as a tool to be used in the moment while a conversation is happening. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Improvisation, Expectations, & Leaving Room For Spontaneity | Rik Spann | 05 May 2022 | 01:03:48 | |
How can we leave ourselves open to more spontaneity by letting go of some of our expectations? How do we suffer when we try to fit ourselves into the mold of "should"? Why do we need personal AND social evolution to create a more welcoming and curious culture? ... Rik Spann is an organizational consultant, applied musicologist, artist, and jazz musician. In his work, he is interested in exploring what happens at the crossroads of various disciplinary fields, including science, art, design, music, theatre, dance, film, and beyond. He also loves to play with weird combinations, humor, paradox, everyday life, blue notes, and stuff that can’t be defined. Rik is the author (with Simon Martin) of Resounding: Introducing an Alternative Metaphor for Organizational Change. In this conversation, Rik shares his journey into musicology. Abbie and Rik discuss bricolage, expectations, and ultra-stability. Rik and Abbie explore saying 'no' from a deeper 'yes' and how 'and' lets us build something richer. Rik talks about conversational jazz, curiosity, and perspective in his work as an organization consultant. Finally, Rik shares how he is working to create better social worlds through helpful noise. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Finding Your Highest Level Context With The Hierarchy Model | 28 Apr 2022 | 00:13:51 | |
What is the Hierarchy Model? What does it mean to exist in "multiple contexts"? How can understanding the various contexts that shape us help us in our interactions? ... In this episode, Abbie explores the Hierarchy Model, another of the models presented by the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) communication theory. Dr. Barbara McKay explains her understanding of the Hierarchy Model and how she uses it in her work with couples therapy. Abbie considers the concepts that we are never only telling one story at a time, that we get to choose our own hierarchies, and that we could use CMM and the Hierarchy Model to heal. ... Watch Kim and Barnett Pearce on the Hierarchy Model here. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube Check out my website Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Why Did I Say That? Using The Daisy Model To Understand Context That Shapes Us | 14 Apr 2022 | 00:13:13 | |
What is the Daisy Model? Why is it important that we recognize the layers of context that shape us? What is "The Socialized Self"? And how does the Daisy Model help us to understand our moral obligation to ourselves and others? ... Today, Abbie discusses her experience with Imposter Syndrome and how the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Theory is helping her to trade those feelings of self-doubt for ones of grace and curiosity. Abbie explores how our lives become richer when we seek a deeper understanding of ourselves and others, offers an example of the Daisy Model using herself as the center, and considers the complexity of nature as a helpful metaphor for the complexity of our own lives. Dr. Barbara McKay describes her understanding of the Daisy Model and gives an example from her own life. Finally, Abbie challenges each of us to put the Daisy Model to work by reflecting on moments in our life that did not meet our expectations. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube Check out my website Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| How Can We Create New Stories & Patterns In Our Relationships? | Dr. Barbara McKay | 06 Apr 2022 | 00:45:02 | |
What is "perceived oughtness"? How does it show up in our lives? How can we reflect on this force and make new choices? How can we embody curiosity to understand ourselves and others well? What is the relationship between "meaning," "action," and "emotion"? How can we come to understand the complex dynamics that exist to find healing for our past and a new way forward for our future? ... Dr. Barbara McKay is a systemic psychotherapist, supervisor, and teacher. She has served on the Board of Trustees for the Association for Family Therapy and the Board of Stewards for the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She worked as Director of the Institute of Family Therapy for 13 years. Barbara works with social work leaders to enhance their systemic and communication abilities. Today, Barbara shares her journey into Systemic Psychotherapy and how she first encountered the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Theory in her work. Barbara explains "unwanted repetitive patterns" and why it's so important to understand and deconstruct them. Abbie and Barbara explore what it means to be "CMM-ish," what it looks like to bring curiosity into our relationships, and what "cosmopolitan communication" can change in our lives. Both Barbara and Abbie discuss the stories they hold around gender and the ways that CMM shows up in their lives. Finally, Barbara explains how she uses the language and tools of CMM to create better social worlds in her overlapping professional and personal life. ... Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube Check out my website Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Uncovering The Stories We Don't Tell With The LUUUUTT Model | 30 Mar 2022 | 00:12:49 | |
How are we arriving today? And why does it matter that we ask? What is the LUUUUTT Model? And how can understanding it help us to see more sides of the story? How can we apply the LUUUUTT Model in our everyday interactions? In this episode, Abbie unpacks the LUUUUTT Model and shares an example of applying the model to our everyday interactions. Next Turn: Try it for yourself! The LUUUUTT Model: Stories Lived Unknown Stories Untold Stories Unheard Stories Untellable Stories Story Telling Stories Told ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram! @storieslivedstoriestoldpod Subscribe on YouTube! Stories Lived. Stories Told. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Follow the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| What Is Abbie's Story? "You Know Who You Are" And Other Things That Matter | 17 Mar 2022 | 00:16:11 | |
How did Abbie's involvement with her high school and college Speech Teams shape her? Where did Abbie's great love affair with words start? And how do certain quotes make her feel seen and understood? How is Abbie working to unlearn some old lessons and make some new choices? ... Abbie shares her story, along with some of her favorite quotes and lessons she is learning. Abbie explores her experiences with "people pleasing" and the very vulnerable act of caring about things. Finally, Abbie offers a challenge... How can you share your story (or one of your many many stories) this week? How can you invite others to share theirs with you? ... Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Check out my website! Follow me on Instagram! Subscribe on YouTube! Learn more about the CMM Institute! Abbie's Favorite Quotes: "At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want." -Lao Tzu "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do... It's not just in some of us. It's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love (1992) | |||
| We Are "Too Emotional!" | Robbie Williford | 02 Mar 2022 | 01:14:20 | |
How do we own our stories? And how do we tell them in a way that is true to our experience and helps people to better understand us? What does it mean to be "intentional"? What does it mean to do things that matter "on purpose"? What is the difference? Why do we edit out the best parts of ourselves to accommodate other people? How do we let go of controlling what other people think? How can we help to cultivate imagination and push boundaries so that we can live in a world where everyone can thrive? In this very first conversation episode, Abbie and Robbie discuss the importance of having a "rich inner world," how we can learn to spend time there, and how it can help heal us. Robbie shares what he has learned about grief, shame, regret, and empathy. Abbie asks Robbie about his own experience with the "too" label. Robbie describes his relationship to and understanding of masculinity, plus his hope for others who identify as men. Finally, Robbie shares the stories that matter, the stories he wants to hear more of, and what a better social world looks like to him. ... Check out Robbie here: https://robbiewilliford.com/ and here: https://www.bravethecycle.com/ | |||
| An Introduction To The Coordinated Management Of Meaning Communication Theory | 01 Mar 2022 | 00:12:35 | |
What is Coordinated Management of Meaning? What does it mean to be "persons-in-conversation"? ... In this first episode, Abbie gives an overview and introduction to the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Communication Theory. Abbie explores the way stories coexist in CMM and walks through the 4 central claims of the theory. .. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter. Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. ... Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg. ... Explore all things Stories Lived. Stories Told. Email me! storieslived.storiestold@gmail.com Follow me on Instagram. Subscribe on YouTube. Check out my website. Learn more about the CMM Institute. Learn more about CMM. Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045. Learn more about CosmoKidz. Learn more about the CosmoTeenz Fellows' work on Instagram. | |||
| Introducing: Stories Lived. Stories Told. A Communication Podcast | Season 1 Trailer | 19 Feb 2022 | 00:02:07 | |
“Hi. My name is Abbie, and you are listening to Stories Lived. Stories Told.-- a podcast celebrating humanity and all our stories- the beautiful ones, the messy ones, and the ones that are a little bit of both. Because here’s what I think: people have thoughts and ideas and feelings about their own lives, the people they love, and the things they are passionate about. But not everyone has been given the space to tell these stories for themselves. This is going to be that space. Together, we will learn to claim agency over our own stories. The kind of theory or foundation for this podcast is a communication theory called Coordinated Management of Meaning or CMM for short. For many, it is easy to get lost in the big words and complex ideas of theories like CMM. But when you break it down it's not so scary and understanding the practice of it can improve our relationships and our lives. So, it’s worth taking the time to unpack. Really, storytelling and healthy communication is something that everyone deserves to know. My hope is to make this more accessible through the podcast. In this podcast, you will hear me and some of my friends telling our own stories. I want you dear listener to be empowered to do the same. Pay attention to what it feels like to hear others give voice to their stories. Pay attention to what it feels like as you begin to give voice to your own stories, too. So lean in. Take a deep breath. Know that this will be uncomfortable at times, and vulnerable all the time. Remember you live your story, so you have the right and the privilege to tell your story. You know what is true. You are capable. You are brave. And you have intelligent things to say. I’m so glad that you are joining us for Stories Lived. Stories Told.” | |||
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How do we, as a community of individuals with individual experiences, thoughts, and feelings, come together to create shared meaning? | |||
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How can you create a sense of “Mattering” for yourself and others in your communities? | |||
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What does it look like for you to celebrate? | |||
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What are your “Undigested Stories”? | |||