0:00 intro

1:08 Definition

4:12 Procrastination and perfectionism are best friends

6:30 You Tie Your Worth to Outcomes, Not Effort

12:29 Avoidance behaviours

14:45 Face the emotion, face the problem

This is one of the most personal topics I’ve ever spoken about because I have BEEN IN THE TRENCHES of procrastinating so bad and hating myself for it.

Procrastination isn’t just about laziness or distractions—it’s about fear.

The fear that we won’t do it right, that we’ll fall short, or that we’ll fail in front of everyone.

I’ve been the person who delays sending that text, starting that project, or speaking up in a meeting because I wasn’t “ready” or I was too scared of the outcome. I’ve told myself, just research a little more, prepare a little better, or wait for the right time. But deep down, I knew the truth: I wasn’t avoiding the task—I was avoiding the emotions that came with it.

The fear of rejection, inadequacy, or imperfection has held me back from so much. And honestly? It’s exhausting. But I’m learning to face it. I’m learning that I can’t tie my worth to an outcome or wait for things to be “perfect” before I start.

In this video, I talk about the real reasons behind procrastination—the ones we don’t always want to admit. It’s about the discomfort, the self-doubt, and the pressure we put on ourselves to be extraordinary. And I share how I’m slowly learning to celebrate the small wins, face the uncomfortable emotions, and take action—even when it’s scary.

If this resonates with you, let’s figure it out together. Give yourself grace. Start small. Because you deserve to try, even if the outcome isn’t perfect.

0:00 intro

2:24 grades fuel your self esteem

6:33 parental pressure

12:38 “the trophy child”

14:36 relationships act as “shock absorbers”

0:00 intro

1:17 validation

4:54 being busy

7:17 relationships

10:02 friendships

12:30 success

0:00 intro

2:22 prioritisation

5:29 self-sabotage

6:57 good news

8:03 wealth

11:08 rejection

12:56 vulnerability

17:01 love

0:41 you can have a conversation with anyone

1:40 you live in the present moment

3:31 you’re a good mix of relatable and aspirational

5:20 right mix sense of humour and intelligence

7:03 strong sense of self

8:36 negativity is just as important as positivity

10:56 you’re comfortable being seen

0:00 intro 1:52 you have to work to get approval 2:57 low self esteem 4:38 are you trying to save them 8:18 what do boundaries look like 11:50 boundaries are an act of self-respect

0:00 intro

1:41 social media

3:39 hyper individualist culture /hustle culture

8:24 Lack of third spaces

14:37 people are less open

8:24 lack of third spaces

16:06 neurodivergence

2:56 hating yourself became your safe space

5:26 you make up for your lack of beauty elsewhere

6:45 friendships

9:45 relationships

14:56 confidence

1:25 society places value on extroversion

3:49 you’re exhausted from pretending

7:38 lonely v alone

10:01 you thrive 1:1 and not in groups

13:00 feel like you’re in the outside looking in

0:00 intro

2:08 being your authentic self isn’t about adding, it’s about revealing

4:50 Suppressed emotions

9:37 journal prompts to help you be yourself

13:21 the authentic you doesn’t need approval

0:00 intro

2:17 self improvement creates excellence, but acceptance creates happiness

4:39 what is self acceptance?

7:53 forgiveness is your biggest barrier to self improvement (last chapter??)

13:47 pursuing perfection only makes you more insecure

16:18 elebrating yourself is a habit not an occasion

0:53 micro habit 1

2:41 micro habit 2

5:00 micro habit 3

7:31 micro habit 4

11:04 micro habit 5

13:48 micro habit 6

15:48 micro habit 7

0:00 intro 2:47 undervaluing the work you’ve done 6:01 your goals aren’t aligned with your values 8:53 emotions are signals 9:49 what you hide, owns you 15:15 not acknowledging your progress

0:00 intro

2:16 respect is long term, likability is short term

5:34 why respect matters more

10:52 deep relationships over superficial relationships

14:20 being liked = validation, being respected = confidence

0:00 intro

0:40 compliments

1:50 being nice

4:19 instagram

5:45 groups

7:02 saying no

9:58 being alone

11:18 unshakable confidence

0:00 intro

2:10 placing too much emphasis on being similar

6:53 self esteem

12:19 expectations

15:04 difficulty in reading social cues

17:58 fear of rejection

0:00 intro

2:51 hook up culture

4:21 men are wick of women + women are sick of men

9:00 we are motivated by fear, not by hope

13:06 we don’t date people we date avatars

16:12 unlimited options

20:27 attachment styles

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

0:00 intro 1:25 the chase 13:30 men don’t respond to words they respond to no contact 16:36 be his lover, not his mother 20:08 the nice girl is easily impressed, the dream girl is not 24:38 hold them accountable

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

00:00- intro

01:36 -you’re used to thinking and not feeling

05:03 - you feel like you have to hide who you are

09:37 - Work life comes before social life

13:00 - fuelled by curiosity, not entertainment

15:29- you’re used to being lonely

16:46 - you hate small talk

📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:15 how to stop overthinking 3:18 interview with einstein or Picasso 3:47 have you ever experienced racism 5:13 dealing with feelings of inadequacy 7:16 how do you make time for yourself 9:14 working as a doctor 10:10 posting on social media 12:19 dream vacation

0:00 intro

1:04 the recipe for a good conversation

4:03 give them a signal

5:43 make them feel interesting

7:47 find a common ground

9:44 bE yOuRsElf

11:52 how to deal with people talking over you 

13:17   them liking you <<< you liking you

0:00 intro

2:30 motivation vs self-criticism

5:15 some things are better in your head, than in reality

9:12 some friends are temporary lessons

11:27 don’t take being ignored personally

14:54 trust your gut

16:45 achievement can happen through action

0:00 - intro

2:36 your childhood is everything

4:28 acceptance matters more than improvement

8:30 avoiding burnout

12:21 you deserve to be picky with friendships

14:24 you’ll never feel accomplished if you don’t celebrate yourself

16:44 you have way less control than you think

19:52 you don’t need advice

21:23 if you don’t listen you must feel 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

0:00 -intro

2:25 -body language is everything

7:34- release expectations

11:24- start with a compliment

13:49- never take things personally they don’t know you

16:12- having mind blanks

20:35- leave the conversation when things are going well

📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 2:18 work is not only a distraction, but it’s also an addiction 5:38 work is your emotional outlet of choice 9:54 you often say no to yourself but you say yes to other people 13:20 working is a shield against opening up 16:04 the process matters more than the destination 22:01 stillness is your friend not your enemy 😌 meditations 13 min You are enough https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73_ykVHLVQ8&t=1s 10 min Balance your nervous system https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1BfsW3JKSOI 20 min Silence unguided meditation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XenTtjaQuSM 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

0:00 intro

2:47 you don’t need to be more

7:03 embrace your quirks

9:56 act like you’re correct

11:37 don’t rely on people to believe you 

13:28 create your own identity

16:07 say no more

18:25 master the deep convo

💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

0:00 - intro 1:22 self acceptance over self improvement 4:11 attachment styles 8:21 your standards don’t matter but your self worth does 11:35 people aren’t as put together as you think 15:18 work on your confidence not on your looks 18:21 being interesting over being attractive 19:28 outro 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

you’re not boring, you’re just hiding your personality 📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:47 having nothing to say = putting pressure on yourself 4:34 you’re not boring you’re just performing 10:19 do you even like the performative version of you? 14:00 stop hiding the thing you’re so afraid of 20:00 start journaling 21:53 not knowing what to say isn’t the problem 23:46 summary 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah email → christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com

📌 timestamps (0:00) - intro (1:32) how to approach people (6:42) there is no 'right or wrong' thing to talk about (10:42) stop deflecting (14:55) i DoN'T KnoW wHaT tO sAy (20:42) stop hiding your opinion (24:25) cut the BS and say how you actually feel (27:50) summary (28:47) outro 💭 get to know me buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

📌 timestamps (0:00) - intro (01:17) - you want luck but you don’t trust it (05:02)- you don’t find the right relationship, you create it (08:29) - you don’t find love you build it (11:19) - perfect partner vs good enough partner (17:49) - settling isn’t bad (22:09) - relationships aren’t special

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:00) Intro (1:13) Trying too hard (3:00) Low standards (4:58) Overcommunication (7:32) Older guys (9:59) Don’t take it too seriously (12:56) Outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

If you’re the sort of person that - cries when you get criticism - gets emotional when you’re getting told off - can’t get something wrong without taking it personally I feel you This was me for the longest time and I realised the reason why is because we have suuuuper high standards for ourselves. In this video I unpack: - Your relationship with perfectionism - Your detest for asking for help - Your weirdly low but also high self-esteem

0:00 intro

3:09 the pressure to live up to an ideal

6:36 pretending you’re okay

11:50 ambition

17:22 self-critical

(0:00) intro (0:44) ‘I have nothing to say’ (3:49) good conversation is not your responsibility (7:02) only smile half of the time (9:15) share stories about yourself (11:35) you need to ask about them (12:27) ask them about their expertise (13:21) open up to get them to open up (15:30) take things less personally (18:16) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:00) intro (2:24) what you should be doing (2:54) you're hype fixating (3:45) insecurities (4:16) it makes you boring (5:50) your higher self (6:37) jealousy (7:20) a perfect life (8:50) self love (9:24) achievements (10:52) a fun life (12:26) comparison (13:43) what you should do (15:38) being the best (16:54) the real winner (18:13) what truly matters (19:10) the antidote for comparison

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

0:00 intro 1:07 easy target 2:52 feelings 3:57 bad feeling 4:40 one basket 7:03 confidence 10:06 lonely 12:17 out

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

📌 timestamps (0:00) intro (1:32) how to approach people (6:42) there is no 'right or wrong' thing to talk about (10:42) stop deflecting (14:55) i DoN'T KnoW wHaT tO sAy (20:42) stop hiding your opinion (24:25) cut the BS and say how you actually feel (27:50) summary (28:47) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:00) intro (1:43) you want to be perfect (8:39) you don’t open up (13:04) you refuse to get hurt (20:15) you’re allergic to red flags (22:25) you don’t know what you want

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

it's giving a highly motivated but self destructive personality (0:00) intro (1:00) the worst personality combo (2:25) why are we like this (5:20) personality trait 1 (9:01) personality trait 2 (11:26) personality trait 3

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:00) intro (1:26) friendships don’t guarantee connection (4:13) you don’t want your life to look like instagram (7:56) one friendship group = recipe for disaster (10:03) the KEY to making lasting friendships (14:38) the best advice I can give you (16:12) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

you don’t need friends, you need connection Friends won't guarantee you the feeling of connection you're longing for , and they might not even fix your loneliness. For a multitude of reasons, but here's a few. (0:00) intro (1:26) friendships don’t guarantee connection (4:13) you don’t want your life to look like instagram (7:56) one friendship group = recipe for disaster (10:03) the KEY to making lasting friendships (14:38) the best advice I can give you (16:12) outro 💭 get to know me buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

(0:00) intro (1:38) You don’t need another book (3:04) you’re missing the key thing (6:15) no one has better advice for you , than you (10:46) sometimes the answer isn’t in another book (11:46) information isn’t the key to achieving your goals (15:15) self help keeps you trapped in the past or the future (16:54) goals don’t make you accept yourself (20:38) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

lonely but not alone 💭 7 reasons why you're not as lonely as you think ✨ (0:00) intro (1:11) connection (3:04) social skills (5:01) listening (6:09) fake (7:48) fear (9:39) emotions (11:20) social media (13:25) outro

0:00 intro

2:26 desire for friendship

4:32 being seen

8:13 validation

11:16 the value gap

14:55 diversify your identity

18:09 self discovery

19:49 live in the moment

insecure people are the most lonely and here's why ... (0:00) intro (1:13) loneliness (3:02) withdrawal (5:11) isolation (7:25) jealousy (10:27) self-talk (12:22) validation (14:14) unlovable (16:13) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aali

(0:00) intro (1:10) listening to other people (2:12) being desperate (3:12) small talk (4:28) hiding from people (7:19) high expectations (9:17) insecurities (11:51) not being memorable (13:55) win-lose (16:44) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah

Certainly! Here are the timestamps with brackets added around the numbers:

(0:00) intro

(1:22) Your problem

(3:15) Your problem pt. 2

(4:21) Friends v Acquaintances

(4:56) Quality over Quantity

(6:14) High expectations

(7:15) Solitude

(8:02) Vulnerability

(9:04)outro

pov you ask people about themselves, but they never ask about you (0:00) intro (1:42) personality (3:47) burden (5:43) open up (8:03) selfish (11:13) say no (12:24) your fault? (14:43) outro

💭 get to know me

buy me a coffee →  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah

insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna

tiktok →  https://www.tiktok.com/@christina.aaliyah