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What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process.

What happens when I’m navigating my own sobriety while someone I love is still caught in addiction’s grip?

In this episode, I sit down with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth, founder of Put the Shovel Down, to talk about what it really looks like to support a loved one through addiction without losing yourself in the process.

Amber shares why the belief that “you can’t help until they want it” keeps families stuck, the powerful difference between boundaries and rules, and how anger and control can actually fuel addiction. With 20+ years of experience, she brings a compassionate, strength-based approach that focuses on what is working instead of only on the problems.

I also open up about my own experience discovering a partner’s hidden addiction—the betrayal, confusion, and self-doubt it created—and Amber breaks down the psychology behind denial and delusion so you can finally understand what’s really happening in your loved one’s mind.

✨ You’ll hear:

• How to support loved ones without enabling
• Why boundaries protect you (and why they’re not rules)
• The sneaky ways anger and control can actually backfire
• Why women in over-functioning roles often turn to substances as an escape valve
• How reclaiming your feminine energy shifts the entire dynamic

If you’ve ever felt responsible for carrying the weight of someone else’s addiction, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools to protect your own wellbeing.

✨ Don’t miss the free resource in the show notes: 60 Seconds to Calm — the same quick practice I use to ground myself in moments of overwhelm.

About Amber Hollingsworth

Amber Hollingsworth is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Master Addiction Counselor, and the founder of the popular YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down. With over 20 years of experience, she specializes in helping families understand addiction, create effective boundaries, and support recovery without falling into enabling patterns. Her strength-based, practical approach empowers families to stop feeling helpless and start creating meaningful change.

Connect with Amber:

• 🌐 Website: hopeforefamiliesrecoverycenter.com
• 📺 YouTube: Put the Shovel Down
• 📘 Free Resources: puttheshoveldown.com

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Calm isn’t just a mood—it’s the baseline your body must return to if you want to break free from the cycle of drinking. When you’re stuck in overwhelm—overthinking, overworking, and over-giving—your nervous system never resets. That constant stress is exactly what makes pouring a glass of wine at the end of the day feel so tempting.

Here’s the truth most sobriety methods miss: alcohol was never the problem. It was just your body’s quick fix for a frazzled nervous system. The deeper issue is self-abandonment—constantly outsourcing your energy, trying to hold everything together with willpower, and disconnecting from your feminine wisdom. That’s what fuels the decision fatigue, the mental load, and the endless responsibilities that make you want to check out.

The feminine way flips the script. Instead of piling on more rules, tools, and self-improvement hacks, what if you simply learned to generate calm from within? A few small shifts—like softening your breath, feeling the support of your back body, and asking, “How would my Calm Queen respond here?”—create the safety your brain has been chasing in a bottle.

✨ Key Takeaways from this episode:

• Calm is your true superpower—it dissolves the urge to numb.
• Alcohol is not the root problem—it’s a nervous system coping mechanism.
• The feminine way isn’t about doing more, it’s about feeling safe enough to do less.
• Simple daily practices can rewire your body to choose calm over craving.

When you feel safe in your own skin, you don’t need a drink to take the edge off—you have a the CALM codes with in you. 

👉 Ready to test this out in real life? Download my free guide “60 Seconds to Calm” in the show notes. It works faster than a drink—and it actually gives you your power back.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ever wonder why quitting alcohol feels like a full-on identity shift? It’s because sobriety isn’t just about abstaining—it’s about reclaiming the parts of you that got buried under performance, people-pleasing, and perfectionism.

In this episode, we explore why alcohol is often just a placeholder for authenticity, and how perimenopause marks a powerful rite of passage—not a crisis, but a coronation.

You’ll walk away with:

• A deeper understanding of why your nervous system craves authenticity over belonging
• How midlife and sobriety unlock your next level of leadership, pleasure, and personal power
• The sneaky ways achievement can become the “new numbing”
• What it actually means to access your feminine essence—without a drink in your hand

This is your sacred invitation to come home to yourself.
✨ Your next evolution of awakened empowerment starts now.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What if nothing’s actually “wrong”—you’re just seeing it from an outdated perspective?

In this episode, you'll learn how to interrupt spirals of stress, resentment, or drinking urges without needing to fix anyone else or wait for the perfect conditions.

We’ll explore:

• The mindset shift that instantly diffuses urges to numb
• Why “it’s just a thought” can be the most liberating realization
• How to take radical responsibility without bypassing your emotions
• The Sacred Pause process that rewires your nervous system from reactivity to trust

This isn’t about giving up alcohol—it’s about giving up the need to abandon yourself.

🔗 Tap the show notes to grab your free urge guide or book a consultation to learn how the Sacred Pause Method can change your relationship with alcohol—and everything else.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Freedom from alcohol isn't found in white-knuckling or temporary breaks — it emerges when you stay engaged with the process of transformation.

In this episode, I share a powerful moment from a recent family reunion where, for the first time, everyone had shifted their relationship with alcohol. What came from that wasn't awkwardness — it was deeper connection, true presence, and genuine joy without needing a single drop.

This is what happens when we stop performing and start participating in our own change.

You’ll hear:

• Why temporary breaks often reinforce the desire to drink
• The truth about alcohol and connection (it’s not what you think)
• How the Sacred Pause Method “front-loads” your healing — and shortens the timeline
• What one client said that changed everything for her: “This finally feels real. And sustainable.”
• How lifting the veil on your habits gives you a completely new perspective — one you can’t unsee

✨ Download the 60-Second Urge Codes for instant relief from your next craving — in less time than it takes to pour a drink.

🎁 And if you’re ready to go deeper, my Christmas in July offer is available through August 3rd:
Book a free consultation and you’ll get $250 off your first payment, instant access to the Sobriety Starter Kit, and a 75-minute emotional support session to simply receive and reset.

This is your sacred pause. Let’s make it count.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ever wonder why “just have one” never actually works?

In this no-fluff episode, we unpack the deeper truth behind that tiny phrase—and why your body already knows alcohol doesn’t feel good anymore. If you're tired of the start-stop cycle and craving a way of living that actually supports your goals, your energy, and your feminine power… this one’s for you.

Sobriety isn't just about saying no to alcohol—it’s about saying yes to yourself. To living fully expressed, in your truth, and from a place of deep connection and intuition. We’re flipping the script on outdated advice and taking back our authority.

Inside, we dive into:

• Why your body’s wisdom always wins over external opinions
• How sobriety becomes the path to so much more than not drinking
• What to do when others question your choice to quit
• The sneaky ways alcohol dulls your potential
• Why not knowing what's possible is more painful than failure
• The #1 rule: don’t take advice from people who don’t have the results you want
• How feminine leadership begins by trusting yourself—fully

✨ You don’t need to justify your sobriety. You just need to embody it.

🌿 Ready to handle urges without willpower or deprivation?
Download the free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com
Five minutes. Total shift. Deep relief.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine?

In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower farm. And what I thought would be found through achievement, I discovered through simplicity, presence, and letting go of alcohol.

Midlife sobriety is more than just quitting drinking—it's a rite of passage we were never taught to honor. And when you pair it with the hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause, something magical happens: you reclaim your energy, your intuition, and your power.

We explore:

• What it really means to meet your future self
• Why letting go of outcomes opens the door to unexpected joy
• How sobriety teaches you to trust your desires more than your conditioning
• Using perimenopause as a sacred portal, not a problem to fix
• Replacing perfectionism with consistency and self-compassion
• Optimizing energy (not balance) as a woman in transition
• Tapping into your intuition as your ultimate guide

✨ The woman who confidently orders iced tea instead of wine?
She’s the wise one. The whole one. The next evolution of you.

🌿 Download the free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com
Five minutes a day is all it takes to begin transforming your relationship with alcohol—for good.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Have you ever caught yourself pouring a glass of wine just because you were “bored”? Let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that go-to excuse — and why it matters so much to your feminine wellbeing.

In this episode, we get real about how our culture conditions women to fear stillness and how alcohol has become a sneaky permission slip to rest. But what if you could grant yourself that permission — no wine required?

✨ This one’s for the woman who’s ready to reclaim her energy, her creativity, and her right to just be.

We’ll explore:

• Why “boredom” is often a mask for your body’s need to rest
• How productivity culture suppresses feminine creativity
• The real shift that happens when you drink — and why it’s not what you think
• How alcohol has become a socially acceptable way to pause
• What it feels like to build the muscle of receptivity instead of numbing
• The feminine magic waiting for you on the other side of the “antsy” feeling

Your feminine energy doesn’t thrive in constant doing — it thrives in presence, in play, in permission to follow your own rhythm.

🌹 Ready to experience rest and relief without deprivation?
Download your free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com

Your creative spirit is waiting. Let’s set her free.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Women are wired to handle a lot. It’s our superpower—but it can also be our kryptonite. The mental load we carry—anticipating needs, managing tasks, and caring for everyone around us—can easily become overwhelming, especially during perimenopause and beyond.

Takeaways:

• The mental load is both a gift and a curse for high-achieving women
• Overwhelm often peaks during perimenopause, turning our superpower into burnout
• Setting clear boundaries and dividing tasks creates clarity and peace
• Letting go of control and practicing surrender is essential for mental health
• Alcohol often becomes a coping mechanism when we feel mentally overloaded

In this episode, I break down why women, especially during life transitions, get caught in the trap of doing everything. I share a powerful exercise to help you reclaim your mental space: drawing a line between what's truly yours to hold and what's not. Plus, I’ll show you how to protect your peace by honoring your non-negotiables—like my 10pm bedtime rule—while letting go of what isn’t serving you.

Ready to reclaim your energy, mental space, and freedom without alcohol? Tune in to find out how.

CTA:
Join our monthly women's circle on the first Thursday of every month at 5pm Pacific. Grab the Zoom link in the show notes! And, don’t forget to download my free urge guide to break the cycle of cravings in just five minutes—no deprivation needed. Your nervous system will thank you.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Are you wondering why alcohol doesn't work for you the way it used to?
Your body might be signaling a profound transformation – perimenopause. As a holistic alcohol coach working with women for over five years, I’ve discovered that this transitional phase requires a sacred pause from alcohol to truly understand what’s happening within.

Perimenopause literally means "the time before the pausing of the month/moon" – it’s a threshold experience inviting you into an unbothered, unapologetic era of your life. 

But here's the crucial insight: you cannot navigate this transition effectively while alcohol is in your system. It creates an imbalance on top of an already fluctuating hormonal landscape, making it impossible to gather accurate data about your changing body.

Key Takeaways:

• Perimenopause is a transformational phase that alcohol can distort.
• Alcohol disrupts hormonal balance, masking the signals your body is trying to send.
• Shifting your perspective from "problem" to "possibility" helps you navigate change with ease.
• The same tools that help you quit alcohol also support you through perimenopause: awareness, body literacy, and perspective shifts.
• Taking a sacred pause from alcohol allows you to reconnect with your true self in this new phase of life.

Ready to discover what your changing body is trying to tell you?
Grab my free urge guide in the show notes to find relief without a drink—no deprivation required. Your unbothered, unapologetic era awaits.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste.

We talk about how to:

• Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be present
• Use discernment to practice your sacred yes and no
• Shift from controlling circumstances to mastering your mindset
• Build belief brick by brick until alcohol becomes irrelevant

🔗 And if you’re ready to create predictable, sustainable results, click here to book a  1:1 consult with Mary to identify exactly where you're holding yourself back—and build the bridge to change.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey beautiful listener 💋

This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency.

Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm hug and a nudge to try one thingthat shifts you back into alignment with the woman you want to be.

Take yourself on a coffee walk. Smile at strangers. Put on some music and dance in your kitchen. Seriously—sometimes it’s that simple. You’re not solving for alcohol. You’re solving for aliveness, regulation, and the space to hold your realemotions—yes, even the exciting ones.

✨ Here’s what we get into:

• Why your hangover isn’t really about alcohol
• What “throw a better party” means and how to do it today
• The nervous system's role in holding pleasure, excitement, and desire
• A personal DJ win that made me feel like I could explode with joy (and how I did it without a drink)

💌 Tell me how you throw a better party! Did you take the coffee walk? Did you try the happy juice? Did my DJ set make you cry tears of joy?! Email me at mary@marywagstaffcoach.com or drop into my DMs on Instagram @marywagstaffcoach. I live for your shares.

Let’s make this week a vibe. You’re not just here to get through it—you’re here to feel it all.

With so much love,
Mary

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You don’t have to quit drinking to start changing your relationship with alcohol. In this episode, I share why the process might already be working in your favor—even if it doesn’t look like it yet. I talk about what’s been helping me lately: from gut health and hormone shifts to the supplement that’s actually making a difference. Plus, the one mindset shift that changes everything: asking yourself what you’re really reaching for before the drink.

Takeaways:

• Why mindset is only half the story
• How physical support (like healing your gut and regulating hormones) can reduce cravings
• The supplement that helped stabilize my moods
• How to shift from black-and-white thinking to real progress
• The question that puts you back in control—without needing to be “perfect”

Give your body a chance to balance and optimize your efforts:

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Your craving for alcohol isn’t about the drink — it’s about what you think the drink will give you. Connection. Joy. Freedom.

Over time, your brain has fused alcohol with emotional relief, narrowing your perspective. You believe drinking is the only way to get what you want — but it's actually blocking you from it.

The key is knowing the difference between desire and attachment. Desire is the emotional state you long for. Attachment is insisting alcohol is the only way to get there. That grip keeps the cycle going — even when the drink stops delivering.

Breaking free isn't about willpower. It’s about nervous system regulation, aligned values, and radical self-honesty. Next time you’re triggered, ask: What am I really seeking? Why does it matter?

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you’ve ever thought, “Is this as good as it gets?” or “I don’t want to keep doing this,” this episode is for you.

I invite you to consider a radical new idea: What if your rock bottom doesn’t have to be dramatic, destructive, or public? What if it’s just a quiet whisper—telling you that you’re meant for more? This episode explores the hidden beliefs and subconscious fears that keep us stuck in drinking patterns, even when our lives look “fine” from the outside. We unpack why alcohol feels so hard to let go of, the societal conditioning around what it means to have a "problem," and why making this shift is more about self-honoring than self-discipline.

Whether you're waking up foggy, skipping your morning intentions, or just feel out of alignment with the woman you know you could be—this episode is your loving nudge that it’s okay to want more. You don’t need to crash to rise.

What We Cover:

• The subconscious fear of what quitting might “mean” about you
• Why the label “alcoholic” keeps many women stuck in secrecy
• How cultural narratives and inner child wounds fuel the habit
• Why “not bad enough” is the biggest trap
• The biology of change—why alcohol affects us differently as we age
• How honoring the whisper is more powerful than waiting for a crash
• Why your desire for more is enough
• Real examples of women from all walks of life outgrowing alcohol
• What happens when we show up in integrity—with energy, clarity, and courage
• The transformational power of private coaching & sacred support

🌀 Free Private Coaching Consultation – Explore your own whisper in a confidential, zero-pressure call. Book now via the link in the show notes.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

One of the most surprising and empowering truths in the alcohol-free journey:

The best time to change your relationship with alcohol is when you’re already feeling good.

If that sounds counterintuitive, you’re not alone. Most of us only commit to change when we’ve hit a low—after a fight, a blackout, a painful moment of regret. But what if that’s why it hasn’t stuck?

Inside this episode:

• Why feeling good can be the most powerful time to quit drinking
• How your brain tricks you into thinking it’s “not that bad”
• Why waiting for a rock-bottom moment often backfires
• How to leverage joy, momentum, and natural alignment for lasting change
• What it means to build a life you don’t need to escape from
• Why “just feeling better” isn’t a reason to stop doing the work
• How I use dance, connection, and embodiment as part of my own alcohol-free lifestyle

You’ll also hear about my first-ever ecstatic dance DJ gig (dreams do come true!), and the kind of weekend that reminds me why I keep choosing this path, over and over again.

If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your joy and learn how to amplify your good feelings instead of dulling them, this episode is your invitation.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

I’m sharing about what it actually takes to make a lasting shift in your relationship with alcohol—and why “feeling good” can often be the very thing that triggers a return to old habits.

We explore:

• Why you break your promises to yourself (and how to rebuild trust)
• What really needs to change to create a new self-concept
• How intention, not willpower, changes everything
• What clients say made this time different—and how it can be different for you too
• The truth about emotional alignment and identity shifts
• Why accountability and presence are essential, especially when you feel good

This is about so much more than just “not drinking.” It’s about stepping into the woman you know you are. One who leads. One who listens to herself. One who lives from her values.

Ready to finally do this differently?

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

It’s been six years since I took my last sip of alcohol—and not only do I not miss it, I truly don’t want it. In this soul-deep episode, I’m reflecting on what made lasting change possible for me (spoiler: it wasn’t willpower) and sharing the feminine path that helped me create a life so rich and connected, alcohol couldn’t compete.

Whether you’re just starting or somewhere in the middle, I want to show you how to stop drinking in a way that actually feels nourishing, powerful, and aligned with who you really are. If you’re ready to do it better—not harder—this one’s for you.

Key Takeaways:

• Honor the feminine journey—rooted in rhythm, intuition, and wholeness
• You don’t need to start over—awareness is always progress
• Real change happens when you build a life that’s better than the buzz
• There is no “one way”—but the feminine way is often the missing link 
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Are you ready to do what alcohol promises—but better? My private coaching experience, From Burnout to Bliss Out, is open for enrollment. Let this be the summer you stop drinking and start living, fully and freely. Schedule a private consultation now. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

There is no greater honor than reconnecting with a client years after we’ve worked together and seeing her thriving—more empowered, more present, and more alive than ever before.

In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie, a mother of four, a generational cycle-breaker, and a woman who has redefined what’s possible when you choose yourself. Two years after going through my holistic alcohol coaching container, she’s not only still sober—she’s living her truth out loud.

When Bonnie found me, she was navigating a painful divorce and the deep overwhelm of motherhood. She could have easily chosen to numb, to check out, to drink. But instead, she said yes to herself. She said yes to healing. And in doing so, she didn’t just learn how to stop drinking—she learned how to live fully.

Today, she’s her own career as a holistic alcohol coach, using the very same tools she practiced in our work together.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• How to stay rooted through big transitions
• What it means to embody your emotions instead of escape them
• The power of breaking generational cycles
• And how sobriety can be the portal to your most empowered self

Bonnie’s story is your story. If you’re going through a major life shift, know that grounding into your power—without checking out—is the most courageous gift you can give yourself and your family.

Ready to take the first step? Join me in my private coaching container and learn how to create little shifts that make a big impact. The first step is to schedule a private consultation so I can help you navigate your biggest sticking points. Click here!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity.

This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:

💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.

In this episode, we’ll break down:

✨ Why you resist relaxation and what’s really behind it
✨ How busyness and stress addiction keep you disconnected from pleasure
✨ The power of intentionally softening & creating safety in rest
✨ How to shift from exhaustion to luxurious spaciousness—without guilt
✨ Why “I don’t have time” is a lie & how to own your choices

⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.

👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This episode is a special one—I’m sharing an incredible conversation I had on The Truth About Mental Health podcast with host Andrea Clark. Andrea is a former family psychologist who’s pulling back the curtain on the limitations of the mental health industry and advocating for a more holistic, empowering approach to healing.

We had so many synchronicities in our conversation, from shifting away from the need to control everything to fully embracing our feminine energy. We also talked about the societal conditioning that keeps high-achieving women stuck in stress, overwhelm, and alcohol reliance—and how the feminine way offers a path to liberation, joy, and deep trust in life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✨ Why stepping into the feminine is the key to sustainable well-being
✨ How alcohol mimics trauma and keeps the nervous system in survival mode
✨ The link between high-achieving women, stress, and dissociation
✨ How surrendering control and honoring your cycle leads to more success
✨ Why luxurious space and exquisite care are essential to true empowerment

Connect with Andrea Clark's Work Here!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This week, we’re diving into Exquisite Care, the third principle of The Feminine Way. And no, I’m not just talking about bubble baths and spa days—this is about deep, soul-level nourishment that actually supports your body, your nervous system, and your expansion.

We’re still in the vibe of finding out instead of figuring it out, and sometimes, that means letting go of control, asking for support, and allowing yourself to truly receive. I share how exquisite care has shown up in my life, from checking in with my inner child to rethinking what relaxation really means. Plus, I walk through examples of how my clients have transformed by shifting from control and micromanagement into ease, joy, and presence.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 Exquisite care is about giving yourself what you actually need—not what you think you should need.
🌿 You’re already supporting your inner child in some way—how can you do it with more love and intention?
🌿 Control is a false sense of safety. Real safety comes from trust and resourcing yourself deeply.
🌿 There’s no rush—soften, listen, and see what happens when you stop forcing.
🌿 Pleasure is not an indulgence. It’s a way of life.

If this resonates with you, let’s take it deeper. Book a Sober Glow Up Activation Session, where we’ll work through a heart altar activation, rewrite your story, and create a new vision of what’s possible.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Let’s start with this: you don’t need me. You don’t need another book, another podcast, another guru telling you what to do. You already have everything you need inside of you. The problem? We’ve been conditioned to search outside of ourselves instead of trusting what’s already there.

In today’s episode, we’re continuing our conversation about The Feminine Way by diving into Principle #2: Luxurious Space. We’re talking about releasing the urgency, softening into trust, and giving yourself permission to slow the hell down.

I’ll share how this shift has shown up in my life—from honoring my body’s rhythms to restructuring my mornings and even how Matthew and I changed our financial dynamic to create more flow. It all comes down to this: There’s no rush.Everything will get done, and when we stop forcing and start listening, life meets us where we are.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 There's no rush—stop gripping so tightly and let life unfold.
🌿 Your schedule should support you, not control you.
🌿 If you’re pushing through resistance, ask: What happens if I just pause?
🌿 You don’t have to figure it all out—just find out by taking the next step.
🌿 The feminine way is about trusting that the answers will come when you stop forcing them.

This week, I invite you to pause. To stop trying to figure things out and instead just be in the experience. What shifts when you stop rushing?

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

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Last week, we talked about silent sobriety—not as a way to hide, but as a practice of deepening your relationship with yourself. This week, we’re taking that a step further and exploring how to create safety from within—because the first principle of the feminine way is knowing that true safety isn’t something we find outside of ourselves.

We’ve been so conditioned to push, prove, and hustle that we’ve lost touch with the pleasure of receiving—whether it’s in our businesses, our relationships, or even in motherhood. But the feminine doesn’t operate on force; she flows, she softens, she trusts.

In this episode, I share how shifting the financial dynamic in my marriage completely changed the energy in our home, allowing both Matthew and me to step more fully into our natural strengths. I also talk about how I’ve been reworking my relationship with coffee (yes, again!) and why loosening the grip—whether on money, alcohol, or expectations—is where real expansion begins.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 You don’t have to “figure it out.” You can just find out.
🌿 Resistance is a sign of growth—on the other side of it is expansion.
🌿 True giving is free of expectation. If it’s not, it’s not really giving.
🌿 Creating safety in your life starts with assessing your actual resources and challenging scarcity thinking.
🌿 When you soften and trust, you allow more pleasure, ease, and abundance to come in.

I’d love to hear what’s resonating for you—where in your life do you need to create more safety and ease? Send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Crush Brain Fog! Grab your 20% discount on your first order of Magic Mind use the link here for discount code MaryW20 at check out! 

Do you ever feel the pressure to announce your big life changes? In today’s episode, I’m diving into silent sobriety and silent activism—why sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when we keep it just for ourselves.

There’s so much talk about “recovering out loud,” and while that can be empowering, there’s also deep value in solitude and private commitment. When I quit drinking, I didn’t make a big deal about it. I was just making choices for me. And that shifted everything.

I also share a personal story about how Matthew proposed to me (spoiler: it was magical and completely unexpected) and how my deep connection to the Divine has shaped the way I experience life. Some things I just don’t feel the need to share—because they’re mine.

This episode will challenge you to look at your relationship with external validation and ask: What would change if you didn’t need anyone else’s approval?

Key Takeaways:

• Silence is powerful. Before seeking validation, take time to understand your why.
• Solitude and loneliness are not the same thing. How can you embrace time alone?
• Instead of figuring things out, try finding out—get curious and trust the process.
• Expect that there will be moments when old habits or thoughts resurface. It’s normal.
• Big life shifts don’t always need to be announced. Sometimes they’re more potent when they’re just yours.

If something in today’s episode spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you! Send me a DM on Instagram. And if you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and send it my way—I’ll send you a free gift to support your journey.

Want to go deeper? Book a Sober Glow Up Activation Session with me and rewrite your alcohol story. Find the link in the show notes or head over to marywagstaffcoach.com.

Thanks for being here. See you next week!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

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Today, we’re diving into what it really means to surrender and trust your next evolution. Whether it's shifting your relationship with alcohol, your career, or any part of your life, the key isn’t figuring it out—it’s finding out by loosening your grip and stepping into curiosity.

I share personal updates on balancing my online work with the new life my family and I are building on our farm. I also reflect on how resistance shows up when we’re being called to something new and how sometimes, we need to let go of “the way things have always been” to allow something even better to emerge.

With the arrival of Lent, Venus retrograde, and the shift into spring, this is an invitation to pause, empty out, and make space for what’s truly calling you.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 Your next evolution is already calling—you just have to listen.
🌿 FOMO isn’t real when you’ve already experienced something. What if you stopped holding on so tightly?
🌿 Loosening your grip doesn’t mean failure. It means creating space for clarity and divine timing.
🌿 Personal transformation isn’t about “figuring it out” but rather allowing it to unfold.
🌿 This season is about deepening your devotion—to yourself, to what’s right in front of you, and to the unknown possibilities ahead.

Want to step into your own awakening? Try 40 days of releasing control—whether it’s alcohol, caffeine, social media, or the need to have all the answers. See what happens when you stop forcing and start receiving.

I’d love to hear what’s calling you right now! Send me a DM on Instagram or email me. And don’t forget—leave a review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and send it my way for a free gift to support your journey.

Let’s loosen our grip and step into the Feminine Way together.

✨ Resources & Links:
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Let me know if you want any tweaks!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You get to decide what sobriety means for you.

Today’s episode is inspired by a listener question:

“How do we ensure we're not using not drinking alcohol as a form of punishment or deprivation?”

This question is huge, because how you think about alcohol—and about quitting it—determines your experience of sobriety. The feminine way to releasing alcohol isn’t about willpower or restriction; it’s about embodying a new way of being—one where not drinking becomes an act of self-honor, not self-denial.

•  What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
•  Why the belief that sobriety is punishment is just that—a belief
•  How to shift your mindset so that quitting drinking feels like a gift, not a loss
•  The role of safety in the feminine way of transformation
•  How to explore and rewrite your beliefs about alcohol
•  Why your body is already designed to generate real pleasure—without alcohol

This Is Not Deprivation—It’s Awakening
Sobriety is not about taking something away. It’s about waking up to the truth of who you are. It’s about stepping into an embodied experience of peace, power, and pleasure.

Listen and Apply

•  What do you believe about alcohol?
•  How does that belief shape your experience?
•  What if quitting drinking was the most loving thing you could do for yourself?

This is your invitation to step back, create space, and start questioning everything you thought was true.

• 🎧 Tune in now, and if this episode resonates, send me a message with your own reflections and questions for coaching. Let’s keep this conversation going!

- Ready to quit drinking without feeling like you’re missing out? Book a free call here.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We've all been there. Totally sick or disappointed from doing the thing you said you wouldn't do, DRINK. 

This ONE simple thing will not only change how you feel after a night of drinking, but it will interrupt the cycle from happening again later, because you will be feeling better. 

It's also a trick you can use when you don't show up with integrity in another area of life. Use it often, share it, change your life. And don't bring yesterday's disappointment into tomorrow.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

The question isn't will I drink or not. The question is will I FEEL ALIVE? 

 In this episode, I share my personal breakthrough and how we live in cycles of transformation. I give you the exact thought you need to dig deep and emerge brighter than ever. 

What I Dive Into:

• My Breakthrough: How I discovered that true change wasn’t about quitting drinking—it was about reclaiming my inner light and feminine essence.
• Digging Deep: I reveal the intimate process of mining for your life force and transforming pain into power.
• Life & Motherhood: I open up about how motherhood and personal challenges ignited a powerful shift in my perspective.
• Living Fully: I share real, relatable stories and simple, heartfelt tools to help you embrace a life bursting with energy and authenticity.

If you’re ready to stop drinking and start living the feminine way, join me as I celebrate every layer of being a woman. 

Don’t miss out on my free guide—“The Six Cheat Phrases to Calm the Urge to Drink and End the Inner Battle”—to help you transform your inner dialogue and reclaim your spark.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

“If I don’t stop disappearing from my higher self, I’ll never live the life I want.”

This is it—the final part of the most transformational story shared on this podcast. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 and Part 2, go back and commit to hearing the full journey.

This is the most valuable case study in not just quitting drinking, but in stepping into self-trust, personal power, and an entirely new way of living.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

•  The single most important decision that changed everything for Marianne
•  Why the real problem wasn’t alcohol—but disappearing from herself
•  How she stopped looking for an escape and started facing her emotions head-on
•  The importance of safety in transformation (and how to create it for yourself)
•  What it actually means to reclaim your power and embody self-trust

Why This Episode is Different
This isn’t about “willpower” or just stopping drinking. It’s about awakening to yourself. It’s about getting to the other side of emotional overwhelm, self-doubt, and feeling lost in your own life.

Marianne’s story is proof that when you commit to truly seeing yourself and stepping out of old patterns, you don’t just quit drinking—you transform into the woman you were always meant to be.

Listen and Apply
Where in your life are you disappearing from yourself?
What emotions are you afraid to face?
What if you stopped waiting and stepped fully into the life that’s meant for you?

Tune in now, and don’t miss Marianne’s final message to you—it’s exactly what you need to hear.

- If you’re ready to stop disappearing and start fully living, book a free call here:.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

This is not just about quitting drinking. It’s about claiming your sovereignty.

We are back with Part 2 of this powerful three-part series featuring my incredible client, Marianne, who shares her raw and transformational journey of stepping fully into her power.

This isn’t just another conversation about sobriety. This is about self-mastery, peace, and reclaiming your mind from the chaos of addiction.

 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

•  How alcohol blocks access to self-trust, intuition, and peace
•  Why even years of self-help books weren’t enough until this shift happened
•  The truth about alcohol’s role in emotional dysregulation and overwhelm
•  How to break free from the exhausting mental preoccupation of “Should I drink or not?”
• The game-changing realization that helped Marianne finally feel SAFE with herself

Why This Episode is Different
Marianne’s story is a masterclass in what’s possible when you stop seeing alcohol as a solution and start seeing it as the thing keeping you from peace, clarity, and the life you want.

This is about women stepping into their power—not just by quitting drinking, but by reclaiming the ability to be present, at peace, and fully embodied in their lives.

Listen and Apply
This episode isn’t just for inspiration—it’s here for your transformation.

What’s keeping you from true peace?
Where are you looking for relief outside of yourself instead of within?
What happens when you trust yourself completely?

This is the feminine way. This is change in action.

Tune in now and prepare for the final episode next week, where we dive into the last piece of the puzzle—what finally made everything click.

If you're ready to release alcohol and step into your feminine power, book a free call here

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

The Best Case Study You’ll Ever Hear: Reclaiming Your Power and Inner Peace

This is not like any other sobriety show.

In this episode, you’ll hear one of the most transformational case studies ever shared on the show.

I sit down with my incredible client, Marianne, a high-achieving woman who knew that if she wanted to live the life she truly desired, alcohol had to go. But what happened next was something she never expected.

 She didn’t just become a non-drinker—she became a woman in total control of her emotions, her peace, and her power.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why quitting drinking is just the beginning of true transformation
•  How Marianne went from feeling emotionally on fire to becoming the calm, steady presence in her life and relationships
•  The secret to stopping emotional reactivity and reclaiming inner peace
•  How feminine leadership and personal responsibility impact relationships—without forcing change on others
•  The key to staying committed when life throws its hardest challenges at you

Listen and Apply
This episode isn’t just for listening—it’s for learning. I invite you to commit to these three episodes featuring Marianne’s journey. Take something from each and apply it to your own life.

What if peace became your default?
What if emotional overwhelm was no longer your identity?
What if you had the tools to face life’s biggest challenges without needing to escape?

This is change in action. This is the feminine way.

 Listen now, take notes, and start stepping into your sovereignty.

-If you’re ready to release alcohol and embrace the feminine way, let’s talk. Book a free call here.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Every choice you make shapes your reality, yet most of us are stuck in cycles of indecision or overwhelm, which drains our energy and leaves us disconnected from our power. Decision fatigue impacts every area of your life—especially your relationship with alcohol.

Here’s why this matters: when you’re exhausted from constant decision-making or stuck overthinking, you’re more likely to default to old habits like drinking. But what if you could trust that every decision is working for you? Imagine what could shift if you didn’t waste energy worrying about making the “right” choice and instead embraced aligned action.

In this episode, I share:

• Why decision fatigue is the hidden reason you feel stuck and overwhelmed.
• How to reframe decision-making as an act of empowerment rather than fear.
• The connection between simplifying your decisions and breaking free from alcohol.
• A step-by-step process to reduce decision fatigue and trust yourself again.

This episode will help you reclaim your mental energy, simplify your life, and start making choices that align with the empowered, sovereign woman you’re becoming.

Thank you for being here! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates.💕

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

AND WE ARE BACK!
Welcome back, my beautiful listeners—it's Mary Wagstaff, and I am beyond thrilled to be here with you today. I can hardly contain my excitement as we relaunch Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a safe space for exploring sobriety, feminine empowerment, and reclaiming the authentic essence of being a woman. Together, we’re diving into a new version of the show, and I’m so honored you’re here for it.

In this episode:

• Rediscover the feminine way: We’re not just talking about sobriety; we’re embracing life through archetypal wisdom, intuition, and self-trust.
• Let’s explore together: This is a circle of sisters. Bring your curiosity, compassion, and openness to new perspectives.
• Write in to the show: Share your stories and questions using the 'Fan Mail' link in the show notes, or email me at Mary@MaryWagstaffCoach.com. I’ll answer submissions on upcoming episodes!
• Pause and reflect: This week, ask yourself, “What kind of woman do I want to be?” and honor your journey with approval and self-compassion.
• Next week’s topic: We’ll tackle decision fatigue—how it affects you and actionable steps to find clarity and ease.

Thank you for tuning in. Remember, there is no rush; the beautiful life you’re seeking is right in front of you. Take a deep breath, savor the moment, and join me every Wednesday for new episodes.

I love you and can’t wait to connect again next week! ❤️

Subscribe, share, and let’s grow this sisterhood together.

Music by the exquisite talent of Scott Nice

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Welcome to Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way

What kind of woman do you want to be? The answer to this question holds the key to releasing alcohol, breaking free from numbing cycles, and reclaiming your power, pleasure, and purpose.

In this trailer episode, I’m sharing the vision for this new season of the podcast: a space for transformation, connection, and rediscovering what it means to live as an empowered woman.

Here’s what you can expect from The Feminine Way:

• Weekly episodes exploring spirituality, archetypal wisdom, and embodied practices.
• Tools to help you effortlessly release alcohol and meet your own needs.
• Insights into how to create safety, spaciousness, and joy in your life.
• And an invitation to be part of the show—this is now a write-in podcast!

🎙 Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way isn’t just about sobriety—it’s about redefining what’s possible for you, honoring your innate truth, and finding satisfaction in the life that’s right in front of you.

💌 Got a story or question? Use the ‘Send Me a Text’ link in the show notes. I’ll answer your submissions on the show because your voice matters here.

👉 Subscribe now to join the journey. New episodes drop every Wednesday.

✨ The life you desire is already within you. Now is the time to claim it. ✨

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In this episode of Stop Drinking and Start Living, I'm excited to share my 100-day urge tracking protocol to help you gain awareness and control over alcohol cravings. 

Through tracking circumstances, emotions, thoughts and sensations around urges, you can shift your perspective on alcohol and create more freedom and relaxation in their lives. 

Key takeaways include:

1. cultivating embodied awareness of one's nervous system responses
2. moving towards new experiences rather than away from drinking
3. practicing techniques like meditation to balance the nervous system and break habitual coping mechanisms. 
4. I encourage listeners to join my challenge and download my free resources to generate insight and move forward in their sobriety journey.

• Download the urge tracking guide and meditation from Mary's website.
• Track 100 days of circumstances, emotions, thoughts, sensations and actions around alcohol/urges from a neutral perspective.
• Consider doing the tracking with a friend/accountability partner.
• Sign up on Mary's website to access a fearless sobriety masterclass for additional support.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

 Ready to reclaim your health and vitality? Susannah is back and we go even deeper into how to support your health holistically with insulin support and diet.  Discover a holistic approach to wellness, alcohol freedom and transforming your lifestyle by stabilizing blood sugar levels.

Key Takeaways:

• Blood Sugar Balance: Understand how balanced blood sugar reduces cravings and supports healthier habits.
• Energized Living: Focus on feeling energized and mobile to lead a vibrant, joyful life.
• Medical Self-Advocacy: Learn the importance of self-advocacy in the medical field for better health outcomes.
• Diet Transition: Get practical strategies for transitioning to a healthier diet without feeling deprived.
• Hormonal Health & Breathwork: Explore cycle awareness and the benefits of breathwork for optimizing health.

Connect with Susannah here:
Website
Instagram
Join A Thursday Breath Work Session On Zoom!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Join wellness coach Susannah LaPoint as we explore a revolutionary approach to vibrant health beyond alcohol, focusing on nutrition, insulin control, breathwork, fasting, and mindful living.

Key Takeaways:

• Achieve Vibrant Health: Discover Susannah's approach to Mastering your wellness through nutrition, breathwork, and fasting.
• Blood Sugar & Hormonal Balance: Understand the connections between blood sugar levels, ketogenic diets, and hormonal balance.
• Hormetic Stress Benefits: Learn how controlled stressors like fasting and exercise can enhance your health.
• Mindful Activities: Shifting the mindset around diet and exercise culture to support your metabolic health long term.
• Support your alcohol journey with diet : How low carb and keto can make it easier to quit drinking. 

Connect with Susannah here:
Website
Instagram
Join A Thursday Breath Work Session On Zoom!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Today I share the profound transformations I observed on our Women's retreat and why it is so important to put yourself in new intentional environments, to make big change. I offer insight into how you can apply these to your life now and transform your relationship to self and to alcohol.

Key Takeaways:
-People are ready for more meaning and connection. 
-Many women are missing real intimacy in their lives.
-Sobriety creates an opportunity for authentic relating.
-Manifestation is real. 
-Co-creating from trust, detachment, pleasure and personal responsibility.
-Establishing safety creates more space for bravery. 
-Nature supports us. 
-We can't grow in isolation. 
-Intentional containers create expedited results. 
-Embodiment is non-negotiable.
-All sensations are neutral.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Today I share my personal journey and insights into the world of non-alcoholic beverages, and learn how to forge a path to intentional living that transcends the need for alcohol or pretending. 

Take aways:

•  The potential impact of drinks that mimic the taste of alcohol
• Understanding the pivotal role embodiment  and conscious movement play in fostering comfort and trust in our bodies and how they help navigate the challenges of sobriety.
• Finding new rituals and rather than substitutes for traditional alcoholic drinks, we uncover the brain's powerful response to visualization and its influence on our habits and cravings. 
• Redefine your sensory experiences with elixirs that celebrate our commitment to sobriety, differentiating them from mere mocktails. 
• The significance of ceremonies, like cacao and tea rituals, is illuminated, providing a communal and intentional backdrop to our alcohol-free existence. 

Share our own stories and insights, with the opportunity to engage directly through Buzzsprout's text feature or on social media, fostering a supportive community for those on this transformative journey.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Have you ever considered the profound changes that take root when you put down the Have you ever considered the profound changes that occur when you put down the wine glass and join hands with a community of women on a journey of awakened, sensual living?

In today's episode, we explore part 2 of the transformative power of sisterhood and sobriety, weaving through tales of personal growth and connection from the Ignite Your Vision retreat. Celebrate the courage to live intentionally and the magic of sober interactions.

Key Takeaways:

• Sisterhood and Sobriety: Discover the power of a supportive community and the clarity that comes with sobriety.
• Transformational Stories: Hear personal journeys of women transitioning from indulgence to conscious clarity.
• Intentional Living: Learn about the intentional connections and daily rituals that infuse life with purpose.
• Emotional Healing: Explore how sobriety becomes an act of self-care and emotional healing.
• Awakened Life: Celebrate the joy and spiritual alignment found in living an awakened, sober life.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What would it take to believe, as long as you were being yourself, you couldn't do it wrong and that you belonged? This was the transformative power of our Woman's Retreat in Mexico.

In today's episode, we weave tales of feminine healing and the power of women's retreat and sacred sisterhood.  Our sanctuary of conversation opens its arms to the stories of strength and vulnerability, shared by the women, who have walked the path towards rekindling their inner light alongside us. 

Step into our circle and light a candle for your own self-discovery, as we recount the emotional revelations and the deep sense of belonging that blossoms when women support and understand one another.

The heart of our discussion begins with a grounding meditation, heartfelt connections, and the mantra "solutions for situations only," as we navigate the waters of personal reclamation. 

We explore the sacred space where saying yes to oneself fosters courage to face resistance, and the importance of collective integrity shines bright. Together, we affirm the journey of integrating profound experiences into our everyday lives, cherishing the small steps and daily rituals that cement our growth.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you have ever felt like you've tried everything when it comes to quitting drinking, this episode is for you. 
My client Janet finally flipped the script in her mind when she discovered the holistic approach of the five shifts process. She had countless attempts at other programs that just didn't get to the root of the problem.  She could only get so far without befriending her emotions and learning to work with her thoughts to make the neutral. 

I am so honored to share Janets amazing story. Listen and take something away to apply to your life today! 

Key Takeaways :

• What's reaquired for Personal Growth and Transformation and how to paving the way for a more fulfilling life.
• How to shift your mindset with emotional management
• Reduce the desire to drinking my practicing healthy boundaries
• Overcoming shame and guilt
• Utilizing support to create accountability, commitment and break free from limiting belief. 
• Achieve an authentic sense of personal freedom and live your best life!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Today's epidote is crucial for your success in sobriety and beyond. It is the starting point you must establish for all new endeavors: establishing a sense safety and authenticity.

• Safety in the Known: Despite knowing alcohol isn't serving us, we often return to it because of the safety and familiarity it provides.
• Establishing New Safety: To move beyond alcohol, we must unpack our self-concept around it and create a sense of safety from a place of neutrality.
• The Need for Belonging: True belonging comes from being accepted for who we are, not from conforming to external expectations.
• Authentic Expression: The journey towards authenticity involves questioning the conformity we've agreed to and building evidence for our authentic selves.
• Empowerment Through Safety: Establishing safety within ourselves allows for empowerment and confidence, enabling us to navigate life's challenges without relying on alcohol.

Share your experiences and tag me on IG @marywagstaffcoaching responding to others about your drinking. Your feedback is invaluable and can help others on their journey. Together, let's create a world where all women can confidently say, "I've got this."

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If you have ever thought, " I don't want to make anyone feel bad because I'm not drinking." You are in the right place. 

You don't want your drinking to impact other people in a negative way, so when you are asked about it, you freeze.  

You don't know how to respond and end up defending, explaining yourself or pointing the blame at you. 

This is not the way to establish confidence in your alcohol free journey. 

How you  respond to others as you go along your alcohol free journey, will dictate your success in a huge way.  

In today's episode you will learn:

• The thoughts you have that aren't true about other people
• What you need to understand about yourself to be confident responding to others about your drinking.
• Exactly what to say and how to say it in a way that invites people in to a conversation rather than creates shame or defiensiveness.
• Where to focus your attention when you are in social settings that will reduce your fear and desire to drink.
• Why we go into freeze and need to defend or explain ourselves. 
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How alive are you willing to feel, is really the question I am asking today? Can you show up even bigger for life than you thought possible? Sobriety does stop giving after you get it out of your way. It's a mindset of removing the veil of illusions that have kept you stick in fear.

In today's episode you will take away:

• the questions you need to keep asking to stay motivated
• how authenticity is now a means of survival
• how to rediscover your vibrancy 
• sobriety as a gateway to a more mindful, conscious life
• alcohol as a starting point to a more confident empowered you
• AND MUCH MORE...

PLEASE SHARE, LIKE & SUBSCRIBE. It helps weave the web of awakening the planet. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You might know what you don't want, but knowing what your deepest desires are and tapping into them, mind, body heart and soul, will create your inevitable success in sobriety.  Today we dive into the depths of our desires, showing that sobriety empowers us to manifest a life beyond imagination. Let's uncover your truest yearnings, fostering a lifestyle of authenticity and fulfillment. 

Key takeaways:

• Sobriety is a stepping stone to a life filled with vision and dreams.
• Mindfulness and somatic practices are invaluable in transcending cravings and anchoring in genuine aspirations.
• Embodying desires while releasing alcohol's  grip requires courage and commitment.
• The journey to becoming Naturally Sober is within reach with the five-shift process.
• Embrace your desires and chart a course for a life of true pleasure and alignment.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Today we are having an eye-opening conversation about alcohols so-called benefits. We're breaking down the myth that alcohol affects us all differently, revealing the universal chemical impact it has on our bodies—whether it's wreaking havoc on our nervous systems, disrupting our gut biomes, or throwing our endocrine systems out of balance. 

My five shifts process is set to challenge your current beliefs about drinking, peeling back the veil to expose the illusions of pleasure and connection that alcohol promises but doesn't deliver.

• Redefine self-concept in a world where alcohol loses its grip, transitioning from a central role to a mere afterthought in your life. 
• Learn how to step away from damaging comparative narratives that hold us back, and embrace a path of self-love and compassion. 
• Merge spiritual alignment and a feminine perspective to cultivate a sobriety that's not just a fleeting phase, but a lasting transformation. 
• How to realign with your deepest sense of self

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Have you ever found yourself caught up in the enchanting haze of alcohol's promise, believing it holds the key to life's most thrilling chapters? Unpacking  the cultural narrative that paints alcohol as the hero of our stories, the liberator of our inhibitions, and the spark in the romance of life. Explore how these potent tales influence our perceptions and entice us to chase an illusion of freedom that alcohol seems to offer.

Through the intricacies of pleasure, autonomy, and the societal pressures that shape our experiences—especially through the lens of women's voices. 

We'll confront the authenticity of joy as it's often depicted, intertwined with alcohol, and challenge the notion that our past indulgences are somehow superior to the possibilities that await us.  With a blend of coaching, mindfulness, and vibrant conversation, let's reimagine a life of romance and connection unclouded by expectations—a journey where each step is an authentic expression of self, crafted by our own hands and hearts. 

Learn how every moment can be savored to its fullest without the need for a glass in hand. Join us! 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Self-acceptance is crucial  if you've ever questioned your relationship with alcohol. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to peel back the layers of self-doubt and limiting beliefs, revealing the bright essence of who you truly are. 

Learn how to rekindle  trust in your instincts, and together, we'll confront the stories we've constructed about our worth, our habits, and our need for external validation. 

In a world brimming with comparison, learn to embrace your unique narrative and uncover the joy of expressing your deepest, most authentic thoughts.

Dance and music serve as our companions in the journey of reconnecting to self. 

We'll explore the synergy of sobriety and self-acceptance, finding refuge in the safety of our own skin. 

I'll share techniques like breathwork and visualization to anchor your journey in gratitude for the vessel that carries you through life. 

From the grounding energy of the root chakra to the gentle embrace of mindfulness, witness the power of presence in transforming everyday experiences into profound moments of clarity and belonging.

I want to celebrate the clarity that sobriety brings to our lives.  These insights offer the next step to recognizing your fundamental human rights, to feeling rooted in your existence, and to expressing thanks for the many facets of your being. 

Whether you're yearning to break free from old patterns or seeking spiritual alignment for a more fulfilling life, this episode holds space for your personal evolution. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.