Let’s start with this: you don’t need me. You don’t need another book, another podcast, another guru telling you what to do. You already have everything you need inside of you. The problem? We’ve been conditioned to search outside of ourselves instead of trusting what’s already there.

In today’s episode, we’re continuing our conversation about The Feminine Way by diving into Principle #2: Luxurious Space. We’re talking about releasing the urgency, softening into trust, and giving yourself permission to slow the hell down.

I’ll share how this shift has shown up in my life—from honoring my body’s rhythms to restructuring my mornings and even how Matthew and I changed our financial dynamic to create more flow. It all comes down to this: There’s no rush.Everything will get done, and when we stop forcing and start listening, life meets us where we are.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 There's no rush—stop gripping so tightly and let life unfold.
🌿 Your schedule should support you, not control you.
🌿 If you’re pushing through resistance, ask: What happens if I just pause?
🌿 You don’t have to figure it all out—just find out by taking the next step.
🌿 The feminine way is about trusting that the answers will come when you stop forcing them.

This week, I invite you to pause. To stop trying to figure things out and instead just be in the experience. What shifts when you stop rushing?

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Last week, we talked about silent sobriety—not as a way to hide, but as a practice of deepening your relationship with yourself. This week, we’re taking that a step further and exploring how to create safety from within—because the first principle of the feminine way is knowing that true safety isn’t something we find outside of ourselves.

We’ve been so conditioned to push, prove, and hustle that we’ve lost touch with the pleasure of receiving—whether it’s in our businesses, our relationships, or even in motherhood. But the feminine doesn’t operate on force; she flows, she softens, she trusts.

In this episode, I share how shifting the financial dynamic in my marriage completely changed the energy in our home, allowing both Matthew and me to step more fully into our natural strengths. I also talk about how I’ve been reworking my relationship with coffee (yes, again!) and why loosening the grip—whether on money, alcohol, or expectations—is where real expansion begins.

Key Takeaways:

🌿 You don’t have to “figure it out.” You can just find out.
🌿 Resistance is a sign of growth—on the other side of it is expansion.
🌿 True giving is free of expectation. If it’s not, it’s not really giving.
🌿 Creating safety in your life starts with assessing your actual resources and challenging scarcity thinking.
🌿 When you soften and trust, you allow more pleasure, ease, and abundance to come in.

I’d love to hear what’s resonating for you—where in your life do you need to create more safety and ease? Send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Every choice you make shapes your reality, yet most of us are stuck in cycles of indecision or overwhelm, which drains our energy and leaves us disconnected from our power. Decision fatigue impacts every area of your life—especially your relationship with alcohol.

Here’s why this matters: when you’re exhausted from constant decision-making or stuck overthinking, you’re more likely to default to old habits like drinking. But what if you could trust that every decision is working for you? Imagine what could shift if you didn’t waste energy worrying about making the “right” choice and instead embraced aligned action.

In this episode, I share:

• Why decision fatigue is the hidden reason you feel stuck and overwhelmed.
• How to reframe decision-making as an act of empowerment rather than fear.
• The connection between simplifying your decisions and breaking free from alcohol.
• A step-by-step process to reduce decision fatigue and trust yourself again.

This episode will help you reclaim your mental energy, simplify your life, and start making choices that align with the empowered, sovereign woman you’re becoming.

Thank you for being here! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates.💕

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

How much time do you spend while you are trying to not drink focusing on failing?
What if you had a bunch of wins, days that you didn't drink and you knew exactly WHY and you focused on what was working instead?
How would that be a game changer? Find out on today's show!
Don't forget to email me what you want to know more about for the next podcast! 
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Thank you for being an amazing part of my circle. 

I love you.

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How can our trauma be our biggest blessing?
Because it shapes  us. It makes us who we are. It sets us down a path to learn all of our greatest life lessons. 
And the deeper we go, the higher we rise, but only if we are ready to take personal responsibility for our present and future. 
Are you a ready for some reality TV gossip? I wanted to share with you a little about my "hero's journey". Get the popcorn and enjoy.

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How often do you say some version of "I can't handle it"? But do?
What would someone who loves themselves do?
Where does the habit of alcohol having you lying about what you are cable of?
Alcohol will validate every negative statement you have about your self and reinforce it. 
I can't handle it. 
It's too hard. 
I'm so overwhelmed. 
It's too stressful. 
I'm too tired. 
I'm boring. 
It's not enough. 
Are these even true? Where do you have evidence to the contrary of these belifes?
Do you handle it?
How does it feel different to say, I do have this. 
I've just did that.
Join me today to explore this topic more and how it's a sublet sabotage to your success.  

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"It's got to grow or it's got to go", is just one of the power themes available on today's show. Do not miss this jam packed episode of astrological wisdom downloaded from the Astro Queen herself, Nura Rachelle and how it applies to your current transformation around alcohol.  
Nura talks also about the impact of how changing her relationship with alcohol through the lens of the 5 shifts, moving from conformity to self authority, has impacted her life on all levels and allowed astrology to support her even more deeply.
Nura shares deep wised of how astrology informs our live and requires us to step out of the box. 
This current timeline from October 22, 2022 to November 7th, 2022, and beyond, has some BIG energies available to support your deep dive into the confrontation of what's no longer working. 
Nura Speaks To:

• The superior Venus conjunction with the sun as she rests in her "underworld" phase. This can be viewed as a time for returning, reconnecting to source energies of ultimate truth. 
• The "eclipse portal" that bookends the Samhain holy day portal of the new and full moons starting October 25th-November 7th, 2022.
• What is ready during to be grives and cultivated during this time will be ecelorated.
• Releasing the collective energies of grief and tapping into collective support. 
• Everyday rituals to engage in during this time to support the necessary move through resistance of purging so you make space for who you are becoming. 
• And so many more emotional intelligence inquiries and understanding of who we are that we simply may not yet know because of what is yet to be revealed. 

Please visit Nura Rachelle for a deeper exploration into your soul purpose and personal astrological transits and alignments.  Sign up for her amazing weekly astro forecast.
https://nurarachelle.com
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Do NOT miss today's episode! You have achieved a lot and logically you get that alcohol isn't working. 
That's the problem. You have to go beyond the logic. Beyond reason to create what is not mirrored to you in everyday life. 
To tap into your wisdom and intuition. 
If you think you should be able to figure alcohol out on your own, this thought it's self is why. 
Today and the show I tell you why and what you can do to go beyond your logical reasoning. 

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Find out what the powers that be have in store for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Community, today, in a live oracle reading and how to use the elements as tools for manifestation. 

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There is a lot of talk about "work life balance". But what dose that really mean?
What if we could life the effort and surrender in everything we do. Work wouldn't have to become a chore, and surrender could be available to us in every moment.
Tune in to explore this concept.
Ease and flow. Effort and surrender. Focus and soften. Inhale and exhale.
If you haven't yet, please make sure to rate and review the show as well as share it with a friend. It means so much!
Mary's Interview on 12oz Of Sobriety 
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When motivation, inspiration and willpower runout,  
determination is what will get you through the hardest of hard times.
Set your sites on something bigger than yourself right now, and don't look back. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

The main reason people don't create a new relationship to alcohol is because of resistance. Resistance to change. To a new way. 
To an idea they thought they had about themselves.
To not being in control. 
Being okay with resistance is the most important skill you can learn in life and with alcohol that will create the peace and joy you are desiring so you can focus on what matters most. 
Learn why it's important to make peace with resistance and how to do it on today's episode. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

There are three main reasons we quit something, much of the time before we even start. 
Sometimes it's a simple as a lack of awareness, knowing that there are other options available to you.
Most of the time it's out of our basic need to stay safe and avoid the pain of the unknown.  
If we can find the answer right in front of us, then we have no more excuses for why we can't change. 
Explore why we quit and how to help yourself stick it out through the challenging times of change.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

AND WE ARE BACK!
Welcome back, my beautiful listeners—it's Mary Wagstaff, and I am beyond thrilled to be here with you today. I can hardly contain my excitement as we relaunch Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a safe space for exploring sobriety, feminine empowerment, and reclaiming the authentic essence of being a woman. Together, we’re diving into a new version of the show, and I’m so honored you’re here for it.

In this episode:

• Rediscover the feminine way: We’re not just talking about sobriety; we’re embracing life through archetypal wisdom, intuition, and self-trust.
• Let’s explore together: This is a circle of sisters. Bring your curiosity, compassion, and openness to new perspectives.
• Write in to the show: Share your stories and questions using the 'Fan Mail' link in the show notes, or email me at Mary@MaryWagstaffCoach.com. I’ll answer submissions on upcoming episodes!
• Pause and reflect: This week, ask yourself, “What kind of woman do I want to be?” and honor your journey with approval and self-compassion.
• Next week’s topic: We’ll tackle decision fatigue—how it affects you and actionable steps to find clarity and ease.

Thank you for tuning in. Remember, there is no rush; the beautiful life you’re seeking is right in front of you. Take a deep breath, savor the moment, and join me every Wednesday for new episodes.

I love you and can’t wait to connect again next week! ❤️

Subscribe, share, and let’s grow this sisterhood together.

Music by the exquisite talent of Scott Nice

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How do you shift from wanting to avoid the present moment to feeling safe exploring the inner landscape?
So much of coaching is moving from our habitual reactions to responding to life through neural observation.
In today's episode I share the practical steps to go from the habitual "escape" formula, to exploring from a place of grace and ease. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What emotions don't you feel safe to feel?
Where have you been using alcohol in your life to create a sense of safety and security?
We judge our emotions and our unmet desires. 
Alcohol reinforces the invalidation by dismissing the thought and creating an all too familiar vibration we do feel safe in.
Unfortunately, this comfort of familiarity is compounding our unmet needs and lack of self security. 
Getting alcohol out of your way isn't just about not drinking, it's cultivating and inner resourcing the compassionate witness, so you can feel safe however you show up, where ever you go, no matter what you are doing. Start there by learning new skills and building yourself a safety net of self acceptance. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Amplifying the energy of the emotional state we would like to achieve before we arrive there is possible through the use of the mind, body and intuition.
Get your heart in alignment with the state you want to feel when alcohol is no longer in your way and take action from that place.
That it is possible for you to no longer want alcohol and feel amazing about letting it go as an example of next leveling your life and awakening to a new version of you.
Enjoy and share!


Are you ready for the next phase in your spiritual evolution?
schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Getting alcohol out of your way is the next step in your spiritual awakening, that is why you are here.
Our lives are a sacred ceremony. Alcohol belittles the magic of the present moment.
Ritual is an opportunity to invoke the elements and the senses in the present moment.
When we practice being in the present moment we live through the wisdom of the heart vs. the habitual patterns in the head.
Living life through heart coherence amplifies our desires.
It allows us to be brave amongst change because we have befriended our emotions as powerful allies rather than problems.
We are embodied with our emotional selves rather than altering or invalidating how we would naturally feel.
Ritual interrupts the habitual reactivity to life, and allows you to place your attention with your intention, with grace, purpose and reverence for yourself and the moment.

Are you ready for the next phase in your spiritual evolution?
schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We have been conditioned to believe that if we can taste, hold it and touch it, it has more value.
We have been taught to look to the TANGIBLE in our life to make us feel better and solve our problems, IE: alcohol.
We invest our time, money and energy in that which is ultimately out of our control and end up disappointed with it doesn't work out the way we think it should.
Looking to the intangible, or at least the subtle, is where all real change, power, happiness problems and solutions live.
Think about the intangible investments you have made vs. the tangible investments and really see which ones have created more lasting value in your life.
Cultivating a tangible relationship to yourself, is where the money is.
Coaching is making the impossible real.

If you are ready for big moves:
schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We make decisions all day every day.
Decisions equate to time.
Staying in indecision is taking your time away from things that matter most.
Focusing your attention on thoughts that create more fear, vs. deciding on the result you want is robbing you of your vital life force keeping alcohol in the head lines of your life.
In today's episode I share  what to look for when you are making decisions so you don't get stuck where you are.

Need help having a new conversation with yourself :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Episode up dated and fixed! In today's episode, learn how to escape parenthood without wine.
Wine time = escape from parenthood. But why? Why do we need to escape?
What are the expectations you are putting on yourself that requires the need to check out?
What are the expectations you are putting on yourself that says you can't check out so you hide in your head?
How would it benefit all beings everywhere if you allowed yourself to checkout of all labels?

Need help having a new conversation with yourself :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We often wait to figure it out before we decide to commit.
The opposite is true when it comes to creating what has never been created before.
Commit and go all in. When you decide a head of time, you don't set yourself up for failure, you set yourself up to think for solutions outside of the box. Outside of your brains habitual BS.

Need help having a new conversation with yourself :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We resist  " the things we can not change" about our relationship with alcohol, because we think it's US, when in fact, it's the alcohol.
Accepting the reality the alcohol is no longer suited for the life I want to live, is the first step in resisting change.
When you take a break from alcohol, you have to examine your why and what you have really been believing about alcohol.
If a break is only to "figure alcohol out" then it's never going to work.
If a break is to let go of your attachment to is so you can discover who you are, then you'll have plenty to focus on.

Enjoy the process of being you. Get excited about new experiences.

Need help having a new conversation with yourself :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Welcome to Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way

What kind of woman do you want to be? The answer to this question holds the key to releasing alcohol, breaking free from numbing cycles, and reclaiming your power, pleasure, and purpose.

In this trailer episode, I’m sharing the vision for this new season of the podcast: a space for transformation, connection, and rediscovering what it means to live as an empowered woman.

Here’s what you can expect from The Feminine Way:

• Weekly episodes exploring spirituality, archetypal wisdom, and embodied practices.
• Tools to help you effortlessly release alcohol and meet your own needs.
• Insights into how to create safety, spaciousness, and joy in your life.
• And an invitation to be part of the show—this is now a write-in podcast!

🎙 Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way isn’t just about sobriety—it’s about redefining what’s possible for you, honoring your innate truth, and finding satisfaction in the life that’s right in front of you.

💌 Got a story or question? Use the ‘Send Me a Text’ link in the show notes. I’ll answer your submissions on the show because your voice matters here.

👉 Subscribe now to join the journey. New episodes drop every Wednesday.

✨ The life you desire is already within you. Now is the time to claim it. ✨

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Self talk is where you HAVE to start. First, become aware of what you are saying to yourself in your head all day.
Learn the next 3 steps to cultivating the compassionate witness and use it to take your fear with you anyway.
Once you have your own back, fear is a bully who's bark is bigger than it's bite.


Need help having a new conversation with yourself :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Success is a mussel you can build. It's not just for the select few who are born with a natural talent.  Using tools for mindfulness and intentional mindset creation gives you a systematic approach to understanding what your brain is doing and how to override your habitual patterns.
Through this process, success becomes easier and quitting becomes harder. There are hurdles to over come. But once the success switch flips, you can't turn it off.
The reward is life changing.
On today's episode, learn how to switch the success flip and keep it turned on.

Learn the tools to create success :
To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Dr. Andrew Huberman, of The Huberman Lab Podcast, is creating a huge contribution to society through his passion for research and neuroscience.
In his episode on Alcohol and Your Health,  he goes through the current research on what alcohol is doing to your health, body and brain.
The results are in, nothing good.

Although the sciences over lap to help explain the entire human experience. What Huberman neglects, unintentionally, is the BIGGER impact of the behavioral and social science impact of alcohol, addiction and conditioning on the Human. Huberman's personal response alone, shows the listener how deeply accepted "alcohol as normal" is in our world.

I would love to know your take away. Email me: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com

Ready to improve your life, for good?  schedule your complimentary call with Mary HERE.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Let's examine who you really are.  Is NOT drinking being an imposter or is drinking the imposter?

What do you have to convince yourself of more that FEELS the most aligned?
Where are you reaching for resources, inside or outside?

Today I share what to look for when you have thoughts that you are being an imposter and a tool of how to fake it until you make it without anyone knowing.

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all
women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Join me for a sacred story time to inspire you and remind you of the innate gifts we are all born with.

The Twelve Gifts of Birth : by Charlene Costanzo

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all
women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

If we accept our role as an integral part in the whole, we can honor and pay reverence to the space inbetween planting the seeds and the harvest. And the harvest and planting the seeds.

The rest, grief and letting go is a necessary part of the journey of awakening and finding who you are on the other side of alcohol.  Without it , you keep trying to put dead plants in a vase, hoping they might come back to life, rather than using them as compost to support your growth.

It's time to go all in and commit wholeheartedly.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you.

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Alcohol is thwarting your Goddess given magical compass. Your unmet desires, passions and KNOWING, is available to you through your natural cycles and rhythms.
Without aligned access to this, your emotions appear to be problems vs. powerful information to keep you a fully pleasured woman, from internal resourcing.
Don’t let any body tell you different.
Alcohol is a symptom of your unmet desires and invalidated feminine power.
I teach my clients how through the practice of Everyday Ritual.

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hear me when I tell you, emotional freedom from alcohol IS possible for you.
Today I share how I started waking up to my potential, when I put myself in a new room.
On my way to the Goddess Yoga Arts Retreat, with a bottle of tequila in my bag...
Focusing on becoming the solution vs. fixing the problem is the real shift in perspective.

It can only happen when you "put yourself in the room."

When you show up to build evidence against the thought: that a life without alcohol will be a life of deprivation.

Giving yourself a chance to AWAKEN parts of you that you haven't yet met, only happens when you trigger it through a new circumstance.

New circumstances create the opportunity for new emotions, new thinking and ultimately new ways of being.

And challenge our conditioned belifes.

Not all "triggers" are bad.

Coaching, sister circles, intentional family adventures, yoga, moon rituals, prayer, are all how I create what I call,  "spiritual triggers".

Our brains don't go that way unless prompted, naturally.

They stick to the negative bias. To the achievement. To the problem of "not enough".

So we have to intentionally place ourselves in new situations to invoke new ways of being, until they become the new norm.

I wanted to share about my journey of putting myself in the room to trigger the most sacred parts of me that were hiding behind alcohol in plain sight.

You don't need to do anything special to deserve everything you want.

You can just decide, I'm worth it.

Love,
Mary

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Today I share a little secret about why coaching works, that you can't get on your own.
Why it's a process and why accountability matters to make the most of your efforts.
What would happen if you went all in on YOU, like you have on alcohol?
What would happen if you OVER COMMITTED your self to the process of unlearning alcohol?
If you KNEW one day you would no longer WANT it, would you at least try?

I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Alcohol has a way of helping you forget & remember your potential.
This is the struggle. The screw it and the I know there's more.

The question to ask is : which one has more benefit?
If we move towards unlocking our potential, it will carry us down a path away from alcohol, always.

Today I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

In this episode of Stop Drinking and Start Living, I'm excited to share my 100-day urge tracking protocol to help you gain awareness and control over alcohol cravings. 

Through tracking circumstances, emotions, thoughts and sensations around urges, you can shift your perspective on alcohol and create more freedom and relaxation in their lives. 

Key takeaways include:

1. cultivating embodied awareness of one's nervous system responses
2. moving towards new experiences rather than away from drinking
3. practicing techniques like meditation to balance the nervous system and break habitual coping mechanisms. 
4. I encourage listeners to join my challenge and download my free resources to generate insight and move forward in their sobriety journey.

• Download the urge tracking guide and meditation from Mary's website.
• Track 100 days of circumstances, emotions, thoughts, sensations and actions around alcohol/urges from a neutral perspective.
• Consider doing the tracking with a friend/accountability partner.
• Sign up on Mary's website to access a fearless sobriety masterclass for additional support.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

What is it actually like to go through the process of 1:1 coaching?
The Client's Journey Of Awakening is the actual process of how we unlearn, learn and relearn. 
But not in a 100% traditional way. Not through the process of institutionalized dogma, yet by growing cultivating your awareness and strengthening your trust in your intuition.

We use principals of cognitive behavior, feminine wisdom and self inquiry through mindfulness practices.

Awareness, Education & Growth are the the steps.
But first you have to decide to say yes from a place of love.  Giving your future self a change. To your potential.  To not letting alcohol get more of your attention. 
You know what the truth is and you am ready to go beyond. 

We aren’t figuring out how to keep alcohol around. 
We are figuring out why it’s important in the first place and how to make it unimportant. 

Say YES to learning a new way. 

My clients who have the biggest break thoughts the quickest are intrigued to learn about self inquiry. They showed up and did the work because they said they would. They take personal responsibility and have integrity. 

They decide to get the most out of our time together. They are prepared. They take the plan we make, they implement it and they report back. 

You can decide to say yes and be the best client for you, by showing up. 
The first step is one call away. 

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You are "good all week", then Friday comes and all bets are off.
Why can't you keep the same conviction or mindset you had all week and get you through the weekend. 
In today's episode learn how to transition not just into the weekend gracefully and without needing alcohol, but make all of your transitions graceful. 
Why getting good at transitions will make all areas of your life just as satisfying so you can stop working for the weekend.

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You never planned on getting where you are with alcohol.
Because it didn't help you get to where you are.
For this reason, you know it's not necessary for your future.
It appears to be such a huge, famiar part of your past, that the future with out it feels like a void.
Alcohol is not a destination. 
It wasn't the big part of your journey you think it was. 
It's a drug that over rides your experiences because of the unnatural response it has in the body AND how it inhibits your memory to such a huge extent. 

Rather than seeing the past and future as black and white, look at the evidence, not just your conditioned memories. 

Look to your future as possibility of a trajectory, not a void. 

I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me. 
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back. 
It’s your time. 
Alcohol has had its fair share. 
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.

To schedule your complimentary call HERE.  This hour is just for you. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Winning the lottery experience is emotional freedom from alcohol all day, everyday.

Life happens, but it the dramatic distinction between alcohol exhaustion and alcohol freedom, is a very easy place to get into, and it feels SO GOOD.

Eliminating your desire and attachment to alcohol is the solution to alcohol exhaustion, 

but the real result is: freedom, liberation, vitality.

Freedom from alcohol is a self concept, it’s a state of being, it’s an experience. 

In today's episode, learn how you too, can have a winning the lottery experience:
These are the thoughts I think when I am in the experience of alcohol freedom:

• There is nothing I need to resource outside of myself.
• My time is mine.
• I have less stress
• Alcohol doesn’t define how I get to show up in the world
• None of my experiences are limited. 
• I am in control of myself care
• My capacity for what’s possible is expanded. 
• I can drop into this place of bourany whenever I feel stressed

Emotional Freedom From Alcohol Is Waiting For You: Schedule a consultation HERE.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!

New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We've all been there. Screw it, or some version of NOTHING'S working. How can you  be proactive and preventing a downswing from having a bigger impact than it needs to and solve the problems you use alcohol for.
Cycles and rhythms are part of our nature as humans. We love being in the waxing phase of our lives, ( when live is happening FOR US.) But we don’t know how to work with the downswing.  When life seems to be happening TO us, we become our own worst enemy and add to the pain. 

EVERYTHING has a cycle. Including you. Your job is to get to know your waining phase inside and out.
What do you do? What are your typical thoughts? 
Figure these out when you are in your : “Life Is Fantastic, Nothing can stop me” phase.  

In today's episode you will learn:
How to have your own back in every phase. 

What causes a downswing.

How to be proactive to preventing a downswing from having a bigger impact than it needs to and solve the problems you use alcohol for. 

-Recognizing what your waning phases looks like.

-committing to the belief now that it’s just an error in your thinking.

-what you will say to yourself. 

-how will you recognize it. 

-noticing how it compounds.

Start the process of stopping for the last time: Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!

New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Committing to a process helps you solve problems at every level of growth. 
Today I respond to four different circumstances from listeners on the show.
I apply the 5 shifts, the E.T.A process and Emotional Intimacy to showcase how we can use the same tools for various circumstances again and again. 

What if committing to a process vs over consuming new information was how you guaranteed your results?
When we do the same thing again and again, we get better at it. 
This is the power of coaching with one coach, with one method. 
You know exactly what to do, what's working and how to fix what's not.
Today we explore:

• Why starting over isn't useful
• Supporting Grief
• What you say to your self matters the most
• Your challenges are your portals to transformation

Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!

New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

"In order to grow, you must give up the struggle to remain the same, and learn to embrace change at all times." -Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul

In today's episode you will learn:

• Why resistance is the path to freedom.
• Why you avoid resistance.
• How to eliminate half of the pressure creating the resistance.
• Alcohol is both the method of protection and the something you are trying to protect.
• Why you haven't been successful at quitting drinking.
• How to get better at not WANTING alcohol
• Get access to the replay of my new training and discover the five myths of quitting drinking.

Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. 
Together we can change the world!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Did you know overwhelm isn't created by a set of circumstances?
In a world vying for your attention at every turn, overload is inevitable, but YOU can nip it in the bud before overload turns into: "Nothings Working!"

Today empower yourself to learn how to take control were you can: In your mind.
If your overwhelm often leads to drinking, this episode is for you.

GET YOUR COACHING QUESTIONS ANSWERED ON THE SHOW ON AUGUST 17TH!
Send your question into: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com Subject: Coaching For The Podcast

Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Alcohol is a symptom of unprocessed / interrupted emotions. Always.
Good, bad, happy, sad.
We have to have a new conversation with the sensations created by energy flowing through our body, all day, everyday.
Today I teach you a technique to use in conjunction with the 5 Shifts process to come into a closer relationship to your inner energy rather than moving away from it.
How to be with your emotions, normalize them, and let go.

I also read an excerpt from Michale Singers book, " The Untethered Soul",  that teaches us why we close down around emotions, intern we close the heart. We resist change and try to force our outer world to match our inner neurosis, rather than just change the way we interact with the world.

GET YOUR COACHING QUESTIONS ANSWERED ON THE SHOW ON AUGUST 17TH!
Send your question into: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com Subject: Coaching For The Podcast

Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

We are bothering ourselves with our own thinking.
Mindfulness isn't a one and done situation. It is a muscle you build over time. 
Seeing your thoughts as suggests for interpretation. 
Which ones' are useful. Which one's you don't even believe that just bump up against some uncovered insecurities or scarcity mindset. 

In today's episode I share with you a personal story of what I learned during a roofing project my family and I participated in. How the impact of mindfulness and The 5 Shifts  has shaped my life.  How changing my relationship to alcohol has given my the opportunity to explore every other objection my brain offers me that is not useful. 

On today's show:

• Why you should always question your objections.
• How to appreciate why other people do it different than you.
• Why expectations are not useful. 
• Generosity will never steer you wrong. 
• How to get comfortable with the scary unknown.

Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

 Ready to reclaim your health and vitality? Susannah is back and we go even deeper into how to support your health holistically with insulin support and diet.  Discover a holistic approach to wellness, alcohol freedom and transforming your lifestyle by stabilizing blood sugar levels.

Key Takeaways:

• Blood Sugar Balance: Understand how balanced blood sugar reduces cravings and supports healthier habits.
• Energized Living: Focus on feeling energized and mobile to lead a vibrant, joyful life.
• Medical Self-Advocacy: Learn the importance of self-advocacy in the medical field for better health outcomes.
• Diet Transition: Get practical strategies for transitioning to a healthier diet without feeling deprived.
• Hormonal Health & Breathwork: Explore cycle awareness and the benefits of breathwork for optimizing health.

Connect with Susannah here:
Website
Instagram
Join A Thursday Breath Work Session On Zoom!

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

One of the most destructive thoughts keeping you stuck in the rut of alcohol is the dreaded FOREVER.
Forever feels scary for most things, especially when you have felt so out of control. However, when you reduce your desire and attachment to alcohol, alcohol will ALWAYS be a choice, but you won't be making the daily decision to drink.
The truth is, it's not a useful thought when you are trying to create lasting change.
Making decisions around alcohol can be exhausting and it feels just as exhausting NOT drinking because you think you will still having all of those thoughts. Using my 5 shifts process to eliminate your desire for alcohol removes the need to SAY yes, or no all together.
Alcohol can exist in the world, and you can NOT want it. This is possible. Learn how on today's episode. Never say forever, ever again.

Ready to start applying the five shifts process to your life?
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. Leave a five start review with your best take aways so others can be transformed by this paradigm shift. Together we can change the world.  

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You can't swing a dead cat without being triggered by something it seems these days.
The good news is, your emotional reactions, including your desire to drink are 100% in your control.
In a world where so much is out of our control, taking our emotional power back where we can, can lighted the blow, bring greater blacked, healing and more clarity to how to be of service in the world. 
It also gives us the confidence to override the constant invalidation of alcohol that says, YOU CAN'T. 

In today's episode:

• Learn what a trigger is.
• How to process the sensations of emotions as experiences
• Not all triggers are created equal
• What you need to support optimal cognitive functioning to thwart reactivity.
• The emotion is a sensation in the body, not a fact of your thinking.
• Discover where you don't feel safe so you can create a more secure environment.

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. Leave a five start review with your best take aways so others can be transformed by this paradigm shift. Together we can change the world. 

Learn the 3 steps to overcome any urge to drink:
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

"Do things you have never done before to have what you have never had." - Emily Smith.
This and so much more wisdom is waiting for you inside today's epode. 
Join my guest, Emily Smith as she shares with us her journey to find wholeness on the other side of her past and conditioned beliefs, not only from alcohol but what it means to be happy in a career and beyond.

In today's Epidoe we explore:

• How to find your next steps in life when you feel confused.
• What holds you back from living your dream life.
• What is manifesting and how to use it.
• How addiction is a spiritual issue.
• What triggers a spiritual awakening.
• And so much more....

Find out all about Emily and her work here:
Website - Book a Free 20 Minute Clarity Session : Podcast : Instagram : Wholeness Within Book

As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. Leave a five start review with your best take aways so others can be transformed by this paradigm shift. Together we can change the world. 

Coaching is a process of self development in all areas.
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE. 

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.