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Transition day - IYKYK16 Dec 202500:34:31

In this episode of Alyssa and Becca dive into the emotional rollercoaster of "Transition Day": the day when stepkids return home. Join them as they share personal stories and insights on managing the emotional whiplash that comes with these transitions. From the challenges of co-parenting to the unique dynamics of blended families, this episode offers heartfelt advice and practical tips for stepmoms navigating the complexities of transition days. Tune in for an honest conversation about love, patience, and finding balance in a blended family.

BRB- communicating for everyone 09 Dec 202500:27:39

In this episode, Becca and Alyssa dive into the complexities of communication within blended families. As the holidays approaches, they discuss the importance of maintaining clear and positive communication between parents to ensure stability for the children. Becca shares her experiences with group chats and co-parenting apps, while Alyssa emphasizes the need for setting boundaries and keeping communication kid-focused. Tune in for practical advice and heartfelt stories that highlight the challenges and triumphs of stepmotherhood.

Stepmom by day, Grinch by December 09 Dec 202500:22:50

Join Alyssa and Becca as they explore the joys and challenges of the holiday season from a stepmom's perspective. In this episode, they candidly discuss managing custody schedules, crafting cherished traditions, and setting boundaries to keep the festive spirit alive. Discover their personal stories and practical tips for balancing holiday magic with self-care, offering insights for stepmoms and anyone seeking holiday inspiration.


Two stepmoms walk into a pod09 Dec 202500:21:23

In this heartfelt episode, Alyssa and Becca dive into the complexities of step-parenting, sharing their personal journeys and the challenges they face. From navigating relationships with biological parents to finding their own identity as stepmoms, they offer candid insights and support for others in similar situations. Join them as they discuss the importance of having a support system and the realities of blending families. Whether you're a seasoned stepmom or new to the role, this episode provides a comforting space to feel understood and connected.

You should "love them like your own" 23 Dec 202500:24:06

In this episode Alyssa and Becca dive into the complexities of step-parenting, challenging the common advice to "treat them like your own." Alyssa and Becca share personal experiences and insights on why this well-meaning guidance can be harmful, exploring the emotional costs and unrealistic expectations placed on stepmoms. Join the conversation as they discusses the importance of authenticity, setting boundaries, and embracing the unique dynamics of blended families. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that offers support and understanding to stepmoms navigating their unique journeys.

Co-Parenting Without Losing Your Damn Sanity with Emily Ray06 Jan 202601:00:39

In this insightful episode, we welcome Emily Ray, a dedicated parenting coach, to discuss the complexities of co-parenting relationships. Emily shares her journey from early childhood education to becoming a parent coach, emphasizing the importance of supporting parents to foster healthier family dynamics. Tune in as we explore the challenges and solutions in high-conflict situations, the role of step-parents, and the impact on children's emotional well-being. Whether you're navigating co-parenting or simply curious about family dynamics, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice.

Ours baby: the plot twist that rocked the group chat30 Dec 202500:38:32

Having an “ours” baby in a blended family is beautiful… and complicated. In this episode, Rebecca and Alyssa open up about the emotions stepmoms are often too afraid to admit — the grief of not being your partner’s first experience, the guilt of wanting something that’s just yours, the fear of your baby being treated differently, and the pressure of navigating all of it inside stepfamily dynamics.

We talk honestly about what it feels like when your partner has already had his “firsts,” the reality of half-siblings, how stepfamily stress can hijack what should be sacred moments, and why protecting your pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood experience is not selfish: it’s necessary.

If you’ve ever loved your stepchild deeply while still longing for something that belongs to just you, this conversation will remind you: you are not alone, you are not wrong, and you are allowed to protect this chapter with your whole heart.


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Stepmom myths written by people who’ve never done this 20 Jan 202600:47:10

In this episode of Stepmom Sidechats, Alyssa and Becca dive into the myths surrounding stepmotherhood, sharing personal anecdotes and insights. They discuss common misconceptions, such as stepmoms trying to replace biological moms, and the challenges of navigating family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the importance of setting boundaries, the emotional impact of custody changes, and the value of having a supportive community. Alyssa and Becca emphasize the need for self-care and maintaining mental health while managing the complexities of blended families.


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Why Everything Feels So Triggering as a Stepmom (And What To Do About It)13 Jan 202600:37:04

In this episode of Stepmom Side Chats, Alyssa and Becca unpack one of the most common struggles in stepmom life: triggers: why they happen, how they show up, and what we can do about them. From the emotional weight of court and mediation to everyday moments like co-parent communication and kid transitions, they explain why stepmom life can send your nervous system into overdrive.

They explore what a trigger really is (a reaction tied to past experiences, not just the present moment), how attachment styles and role confusion play a part, and why being triggered is not a weakness: it’s a signal. You’ll hear simple, practical tools for calming the spiral, including grounding techniques, sensory resets, and creating a calmer home environment.

The episode closes with listener questions on boundaries, in-laws, co-parent challenges, and the emotional load of loving stepkids without always feeling seen, reminding every stepmom that protecting your peace is not selfish, it’s necessary.


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Boundaries, Burnout & Stepmomming with Kristen Skiles27 Jan 202600:48:41

In this episode, hosts Alyssa and Becca welcome Kristen Skiles, founder of Stepmomming, to share her honest journey into stepmom life and how it unexpectedly led to building a supportive platform for blended families. Kristen opens up about her initial hesitation to date a single dad, the realities she faced stepping into motherhood, and how both the challenges and joys shaped her personal and professional path. She reflects on launching a blog alongside her stepdaughter’s biological mom, navigating the complexities of running a business together, and eventually growing Stepmomming into her own space through blogs, podcasts, coaching, and courses designed to uplift stepmoms.

The conversation dives deep into one of the most important themes for blended families: boundaries. Kristen shares practical, hard-earned insights on protecting your peace, trusting your intuition, and setting healthy limits to avoid resentment and burnout. From handling tough co-parent dynamics and negative comments to figuring out the stepmom-as-disciplinarian role, she offers grounded advice and encouragement to help stepmoms create harmony at home while honoring themselves.

Support from your partner is hot...just sayin'03 Feb 202600:40:50

Most stepmoms feel unseen and overwhelmed, but what if your partner truly understood what you’re carrying? This episode Alyssa and Becca dive deep into the silent struggles and unmet needs in blended families. Discover how communication, boundaries, and emotional safety are the keys to transforming chaos into connection.

We uncover the core issues that fuel resentment between spouses, revealing surprising insights about how men and women process stress and trauma differently, like waffles versus spaghetti! Alyssa and Becca share real stories about feeling unsupported on transition days, managing boundary expectations, and navigating high-conflict bio moms. Learn practical tools to foster alignment with your partner, including the importance of a united front and setting invisible boundaries that protect your sanity.

You'll discover why caregiver burnout isn’t just for healthcare workers: stepmoms face it too and how to prioritize your mental health without guilt. We also explore the power of validating each other's feelings, even when you don’t see eye-to-eye. This episode is perfect for stepmoms struggling to feel seen, supported, and loved in a chaotic world and for partners ready to step up and truly support their women.

Whether you're feeling the weight of scheduling, emotional triggers, or the endless trauma bond, this conversation offers hope and actionable strategies. If you’re tired of feeling alone in your journey, want your partner to get it without drama, and crave a blueprint for healthier co-parenting, listen now and start creating the harmony you deserve.


Keeping Up With Bio Mom (and Why We’re Done Trying)10 Feb 202600:39:03

Most stepmoms struggle with feeling never enough, constantly comparing, overextending, and risking burnout. But what if your confidence and boundaries could transform your experience? Discover the secret to breaking the cycle of guilt and comparison, and learn how to create peace and security in your role, even amid the chaos of co-parenting.In this eye-opening episode, Alyssa and Becca share honest stories about the pitfalls of striving for perfection and the power of good enough. They delve into practical ways to set boundaries around snacks, lunches, birthdays, and holidays without losing your sanity or your sense of self. You'll uncover how children narrate their world to process family dynamics and how to respond with confidence, preventing unnecessary competition between households.We break down:✨ How to avoid stepping into a “comparison trap” that sabotages your peace✨ The mindset shifts that build lasting confidence as a stepmom✨ Simple boundaries you can set around food, gifts, and celebrations to reduce stress✨ Strategies to foster connection and safety that make kids feel truly seen and loved✨ The importance of internal reflection on why feelings of inadequacy surface and how to heal them

Why does all this matter? Because the true goal isn’t perfection: it’s creating a nurturing environment where your stepkids feel secure, loved, and understood. When you stop measuring yourself by the standards of two households, you unlock the freedom to be your authentic self and foster healthier relationships.Perfect for stepmoms feeling overwhelmed by household chaos, gift competition, or their own inner critic. This episode equips you with real tools to reclaim your peace, build confidence, and show up as your best self, not just for your family, but for yourself. Because in the end, your steady confidence is the greatest gift you can give.

Tapping out: Stepmomming teenagers17 Feb 202600:51:54

Teenagers are already a lot… and stepmomming a teenager can feel like the difficulty level just jumped to “expert.” In this episode, Becca (who’s lived through the teen stage firsthand) and Alyssa (entering the preteen years and slightly terrified) break down what’s developmental vs. what’s actual disrespect and how to respond without escalating into a full-blown power struggle.

They talk about the emotional whiplash of mood swings, why long lectures don’t work, and how “connection before correction” can change everything, while still protecting your peace. You’ll hear real-life examples, how to set boundaries without becoming the “bad guy,” when to let dad deliver consequences, and what disengaging looks like when it’s healthy (not giving up).

They also answer listener questions like:

  • How do you stop feeling like the third wheel?

  • Can you discipline without ruining the relationship?

  • What if the teen prefers the other home?

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know what’s normal anymore,” this one’s for you.

The Blurred Line: Step-parenting, authority, & decision making with Gabriella Pomare24 Feb 202600:43:21

In this episode of Stepmom side chats, Alyssa and Becca sit down with Gabriella Pomare Australian family lawyer, co-parent, and author of The Collaborative Co-Parent for a real conversation about what actually makes co-parenting and blended family life work.

We talk about how co-parenting changes over time, why communication and boundaries are everything, and what to do when repartnering shifts the dynamic. Gabriella breaks down the “blurred line” between step-parents and decision-making, how partners can support stepmoms with real unity and authority in the home, and why kids need consistency, even when they’re navigating two households.

We also get into high-conflict moments (like school events), resisting the urge to get pulled back into chaos when someone “plays nice,” and how staying child-focused can protect kids from the long-term impact of adult conflict.

You can connect with Gabriella on Instagram at @thegabriellapomare, where she shares practical co-parenting tips and blended family insights, and find her resources, guides, and book at thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au.


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Handling raw emotions: staying grounded in co-parenting with Jay Skibbens03 Mar 202600:52:35

This week on Stepmom Side Chats, we sit down with co-parent coach Jay Skibbens for a conversation that goes deep, like identity-shifting, nervous-system-resetting deep.

Jay shares his powerful personal story of discovering that the children he had been raising weren’t biologically his and how that experience reshaped his understanding of resentment, emotional regulation, and what co-parenting really requires. From carrying years of anger to learning how to “cook his emotions first,” Jay breaks down why so many blended family conflicts aren’t actually about the kids: they’re about unprocessed triggers.

This episode challenges the scripts we’ve all been handed about co-parenting. It’s not about winning. It’s not about controlling the other house. It’s about learning how to stay grounded when the triggers hit, because in blended families, they will.

If you’ve ever felt dysregulated on transition day, resentful about schedules, frustrated with your spouse, or triggered by the other home, this conversation is for you.

You can find Jay on instagram at @jayskibbens or through his membership, The Grounded Coparent University.

The Grounded Coparent University is a private membership teaching regulated co-parenting through structure, tools, and repeatable growth. $49/month. Doors open March 23rd so use this link to get on the waitlist to save your spot: https://jay-skibbens.mykajabi.com/opt-in-9348c019-f9c1-4b91-8ab2-f6ad95ca18ab


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Mother's Day: Not the Mom… But Doing Everything a Mom Does28 Apr 202600:43:31

In this episode, Alyssa and Becca sit down to unpack what this holiday really feels like as stepmoms, especially when you’re doing all the “mom things” but don’t always get the recognition that comes with it.

They reflect on where they started, navigating Mother’s Day as childless stepmoms, and how their experiences have evolved over time. From awkward first holidays to now balancing life as both stepmoms and biological moms, Alyssa and Becca share the honest, unfiltered reality of what this day brings up.

They get into the tough questions, what hurts more, no acknowledgment or forced acknowledgment? What role should partners actually play? And how do kids experience this day when they’re caught between two homes?

Along the way, Alyssa and Becca talk about expectations, resentment, growth, and why creating your own version of Mother’s Day might be the key to getting through it.

If you’ve ever felt invisible, conflicted, or unsure where you fit on Mother’s Day, this conversation will make you feel seen.


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Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

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Understanding Your Enneagram as a Stepmom with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober21 Apr 202600:48:54

In this episode of Alyssa & Becca, we sit down with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober, an Enneagram coach and speaker, to talk about how understanding your Enneagram type can help you navigate stepmom life with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion.

We get into how different Enneagram types respond to conflict, triggers, boundaries, people-pleasing, resentment, and relationship dynamics, especially inside blended families. We also talk about why stepmom life can feel so emotionally layered, how your core motivations shape the way you react, and what it can look like to better understand both yourself and the people around you.

Whether you are the stepmom who overthinks everything, takes things to heart, avoids conflict, or feels like you always have to prove yourself, this conversation offers insight into why you may respond the way you do and how that awareness can help you move through blended family dynamics with more intention.

We also answer a listener question and share practical takeaways for stepmoms who want to better understand their triggers, communication patterns, and emotional responses.


Connect with Ashton:

Instagram: @enneagramashton Website:https://www.enneagramashton.com/

Click here to: Find out your enneagram


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Stepmoms...we're so back! 14 Apr 202600:40:23

Season 2 is here and we’re starting with a conversation so many stepmoms know by heart. In this first episode, Alyssa & Becca talk about the exact moment they realized stepmom life was not what they thought they signed up for. From overfunctioning, unrealistic expectations, and feeling invisible in your own home, to the emotional labor, criticism, and identity shifts no one prepares you for, we’re getting honest about the parts of stepmom life that hit the hardest.

We’re also sharing what we wish we would’ve known earlier, the boundaries we wish we’d set sooner, and the biggest lessons we’ve learned along the way. If you’ve ever thought, “Wait… this is not what I expected,” this episode is for you.


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Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

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Would you rather: Stepmom edition10 Mar 202600:42:08

It’s our season finale, and we are showing up caffeinated, chaotic, and completely unfiltered. Alyssa and Becca playing “Would You Rather: Stepmom Edition”, from sports practices vs. parent-teacher conferences to stepping on Legos vs. reading a six-paragraph text from the ex. They also tackle listener-submitted questions about dating a partner with a toddler, long-distance stepkids, and what it’s like when you have less than 50/50 time.

Plus, they are sharing a little life update on transition days, stepmom triggers, and why “let it go” is way easier said than done.

They discuss taking a short break before Season 2, but how they still be hanging out inside the Stepmom Side Chats membership with lives, Q&As, and support you don’t have to explain.


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The Friendship Shift No One Talks About in Stepmom Life12 May 202600:40:39

Friendships as a stepmom can feel... complicated. In this raw and honest episode of Stepmom Side Chats, Alyssa and Becca dive into one of the most isolating parts of stepmom life, how friendships shift when your reality becomes blended family drama, court dates, co-parenting chaos, and emotions your friends simply may not understand.

We’re talking about losing friendships, feeling judged, oversharing, emotional boundaries, and why so many stepmoms feel like no one truly gets it. We also share personal stories of friendships that changed, what we wish we had done differently, and how to find the people who can actually support you through this journey.

Plus, we end with one of our favorite segments: Texts I Didn’t Send, and trust us... these submissions are wild.

If you’ve ever felt alone, misunderstood, or like your friendships changed after becoming a stepmom, this episode is for you.


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Present through the Chaos with Randy Keith05 May 202600:50:51

Disclaimer: This episode includes discussion of suicide, domestic violence, and mental health crises. Please take care while listening.

In this episode of Stepmom Sidechats, Alyssa & Becca sit down with Randy Keith, also known as Present Father, a fatherhood advocate, creator, and founder of the Present Father Movement. Randy shares his deeply personal story of divorce, navigating a high-conflict custody battle, parallel parenting, and what it has looked like to fight to stay present for his children through some of the hardest seasons of his life.

We also talk about the impact of mental health, how children can become caught in the middle during high-conflict dynamics, the realities of blended family life, and what support from a partner can look like when co-parenting feels anything but peaceful. Randy offers a rare and honest dad’s perspective on loyalty binds, weaponized parenting, stepmom support, and why consistency, documentation, and emotional regulation matter so much.

This conversation is raw, validating, and full of insight for stepmoms, dads, and anyone navigating the complexities of high-conflict co-parenting and blended family life.


Connect with Randy Keith:

Instagram: @present.fathers

Website: ⁠https://present-father.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Present-Father


✨ Big Ass Candles | www.bigassluxuries.com and use the code STEPMOM for a discount

✨ Episode sponsor | ⁠www.cozyearth.com⁠ and use code STEPMOM

Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.


Your Body Keeps the Score: Stress, Trauma & Why Stepmoms Are Burning Out19 May 202600:46:40

In this powerful episode of Stepmom Side Chats, Alyssa & Becca sit down with somatic healing coach Meggie, a mom of four, who shares how severe burnout, mysterious health symptoms, and nervous system dysregulation completely changed the course of her life. After losing her hair, gaining weight, battling unexplained physical symptoms, and feeling completely disconnected from herself, Meggie discovered that her body wasn’t betraying her, it was trying to protect her.

Together, we unpack how stepmoms and women often carry stress in their shoulders, jaw, hips, and nervous system, why so many of us live in fight-or-flight without realizing it, and how chronic stress can silently impact everything from our relationships to our physical health.

If you've ever felt touched out, emotionally numb, constantly overstimulated, or like your body is screaming for help… this episode may explain why.

Connect with Meggie:

Instagram: ⁠@meggie_m_martin 

Website: https://meggiemartin.com/


Some of Meggie's amazing resources include:

Somatic exercise in 5 bundle:

https://meggiemartin.thrivecart.com/somaticsinfive/

Free BodyBased workshop: https://meggiemartin.thrivecart.com/bodybased-workshop-2026/

Use code STEPMOMSC for a discount


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✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

You’re Not the Cruise Director: Surviving Summer as a Stepmom26 May 202600:46:31

Summer always sounds magical… until the custody schedules change, the kids are home 24/7, your routines disappear, and suddenly your house feels louder, messier, and a lot less like your own.

In this episode, Alyssa and Becca open up about what summer really feels like as a stepmom, the pressure to make memories, plan activities, keep everyone entertained, manage different parenting styles, and somehow not lose yourself in the process. From camp chaos and screen-time guilt to relationship stress and burnout, this is the conversation stepmoms need before summer officially begins.

Because sometimes being a stepmom in the summer doesn’t feel like sunshine and family memories… it feels like emotional overtime.

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✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.


Stepmoms, Boundaries & High-Conflict Chaos with Naja Hall02 Jun 202600:46:14

In this powerful episode, Alyssa and Becca sit down with for one of the most honest conversations we’ve had about high-conflict co-parenting, loyalty binds, and what happens when being the “nice” stepmom stops working.

Naja shares her own journey through parental alienation, conflict, and the emotional toll of loving children who may have been taught to keep their distance. Together, we unpack how chaos from another household can quietly impact your marriage, your identity, your peace, and even the way your stepkids show up in your home. This conversation is raw, funny, validating, and full of the hard truths many stepmoms need to hear, especially if you’ve ever felt misunderstood, pushed to your limits, or wondered how to love deeply while still protecting your peace.


Connect with Naja Hall:

Instagram:@vipstepmom  Website: www.vipstepmom.com

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Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Leave us a review if this episode resonated with you, this helps us reach more stepmoms.

Emotional Neutrality: The Stepmom Skill Nobody Talks About09 Jun 202600:39:29

In high-conflict stepfamily dynamics, it can feel like every text, exchange, or disagreement pulls you into emotional chaos. In this episode, Alyssa and Becca unpack the hidden power of emotional neutrality and why learning not to emotionally enter every conflict can completely shift your experience as a stepmom.

We dive into selective involvement, grey rocking, behavioral psychology, and the ABC model of conflict to explain why some family dynamics keep escalating and how stepmoms can begin protecting their peace without feeling cold, guilty, or disconnected.

You’ll hear practical strategies for de-escalating conflict, regulating your nervous system, setting healthier boundaries, and learning the difference between supporting your family and becoming emotionally consumed by it.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from overthinking texts, carrying everyone’s emotions, or constantly trying to “keep the peace,” this episode is for you.


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Pateron private stepmom membership: ⁠⁠https://patreon.com/Stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

✨ Follow us on Instagram for more stepmom content and to stay connected for future episodes ⁠⁠@stepmomsidechats⁠⁠

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