In this week’s episode of So What Now, Carla and Dex dive into the tricky topic of whether it’s ever okay to air intimate details of past relationships, discussing the drama surrounding Royce Reed and Dwight Howard’s public feud.

The love theme continues with a deep dive into iconic black love stories from classic films. Carla and Dex go head-to-head over Love and Basketball. While Carla believes it’s one of the greatest love stories, Dex argues that Monica might’ve “settled” for her man. The conversation also touches on other beloved films like Poetic Justice and Boomerang, exploring the highs and lows of love and the lessons we take from them.

To wrap things up, they bring some much-needed levity with a feel-good of the week: Reality TV. In a world full of stress, there’s nothing like escaping into the absurd drama of the rich and famous. From ridiculous fights to jaw-dropping moments, we are reminded to laugh at the unseriousness of it all.

Tune in for laughs, heated debates, and of course, a little dose of reality!

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It’s officially the month of LOVE, and in this episode Carla and Dex dive into some most infamous love stories—from the drama-filled relationship of Kirk and Rasheda to Cleopatra and Marc Anthony’s empire-shattering romance. They explore what happens when love becomes larger than life and, in some cases, leads to downfall.

But it’s not all about toxic love flames! With Valentine’s Day approaching, the duo discusses how to romanticize your own life, especially when it feels like everyone else is celebrating a relationship. Carla and Dex share why it’s important to cultivate your own sense of joy, adventure, and self-love, and not wait for a partner to check off those life experiences.

Plus, to set the mood for the season, they’ve curated a special Valentine’s Day playlist. Each of them shares 5 songs that best capture the essence of love and relationships. Whether you're single or taken, these tracks will have you feeling all the love!

Tune in for a mix of history, self-love advice, and some seriously good tunes.

SWN Valentine's Day Playlist

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In this lively episode of The So What Now Podcast, Carla and Dex tackle everything from neighborhood drama to the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. Carla shares her escalating battle with the local "cat lady," sparking a hilarious yet relatable discussion about boundaries and suburban chaos. 

Meanwhile, the duo dives into mom guilt—whether it’s Carla juggling life with a toddler and a grown daughter or Dex navigating communication in a long distance relationship with her daughter.

With raw honesty and a touch of humor, the hosts reflect on burnout, personal growth, and finding unexpected joys (like crafting and ginger beer). 

It’s a heartwarming reminder that life’s challenges may leave us wondering, “So what now?”—but with the right mindset, a good laugh, and maybe a glue gun, we’ll get through it together.

4 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

💡 Mom Guilt is Real (and Never Ends): Carla and Dex open up about their personal experiences with mom guilt, whether it’s raising a toddler or navigating life as an empty nester, and how they’re learning to let go of unrealistic expectations.

🔥 Burnout Isn’t Just Work-Related: Dex shares her journey of uncovering the deeper layers of life burnout while Carla offers insights on creating boundaries and finding joy amidst chaos.

🌱 Parenting Evolves, So Should We: From toddler meltdowns to adult children’s independence, the duo reflects on how their parenting styles have changed and how they’re redefining what it means to be a “good mom.”

🎉 Finding Joy in the Small Things: Whether it’s crafting, cooking, or just sipping ginger beer, Carla and Dex discuss how leaning into simple joys helps them recharge and stay grounded.

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This week Carla is joined by a couple of the most inspiring entrepreneurs in Orlando, Michelle Welch & Jena Melhberg.

These friends could not stop laughing as they discussed the latest Ray J and Princess mess, their journeys as self made entrepreneurs, and why they don’t like the phrase “women empowerment”! 

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This week Carla is getting a man’s perspective on fatherhood! She is joined by Lil’ Shawn her cohost on FLY Morning Wakeup Show. Join them as they discuss the challenges of being single parents, why vasectomies are on the rise, and when is “getting on your feet” no longer a valid excuse. 

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This Carla discusses how too much positivity can be toxic and, the hurricane she experienced before the actual storm. The question of “hoe-ing” in the mom group is also posed by Paola, and she shares why she was horny and scared in D.C.!

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This week, Carla discusses how being nice can get you in all the right places, her almost run-in with the law, and why the most expensive gifts have the lowest value.

This is a story of resilience, hard work, faith, and obedience. Carla this weeks tells her story from 2015 being fired from her finance to being hired to be the female voice of her city in the SAME BUILDING!!!! 

Carla has been single for 6 months and she says she’s ready for dating and is even in the apps that the girls are using nowadays. This week Carla with Paola go over their current dating situations and it looks like carla has bae’s in every area code. 

This week Carla is back to give you an update about where she has been and the serious Law and Order episode of her life at the moment. One thing that you will for sure take away from the episode is that No Weapon Formed Against You Shall prosper when you are obedient and truly Let Go and Let God!

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This week Carla is joined by Baron Young from Reach One Recovery which dedicated to providing the “spark” of enlightenment for survivors of narcissistic abuse.

We are shinning a light into men that have experienced abuse. As a society we dont allow men to share or express their pain, yet this kind of abuse will cause PTSD so many while the numbers of narcissistic abuse keep rising. 

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• Suicidal rates in men
• Realizing that you are being abused and its not physical
• How to leave a narcissistic relationship

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This Week we are joined by Myshelle also known as My Certified Angel to discuss Carla's first time doing a tarot card reading out of desperation. 

Turns out that Myshelle has dealt with her own trauma that catapulted her into finding her purpose with Tarot Cards and the spirits

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This Thanksgiving episode is all about reflecting on what we're thankful for, finding balance with gratitude and ambition and also Miracle babies. Carla and Dex kick things off by honoring Jenna as Woman of the Week. 

In the Motherhood segment,we’re diving into the controversial tale of a miracle baby conceived by two Miami Dade inmates who passed semen through a vent. Should they face additional charges? Listen in for the full discussion!

In the Womanhood segment, we talk about being thankful for the small moments, the lessons, and the people in our lives—even if we don’t always follow traditional holiday norms. We explore how gratitude plays into both parenting and personal growth— Do our kids owe us gratitude? Dex also opens up about her struggle to balance gratitude with ambition. Can you be grateful for what you have and desire to strive for more? And how do we navigate the negative self-talk that holds us back from our own potential. 

Plus, Carla shares a feel-good moment of the week: her skydiving adventure!

Tune in for laughs, reflections, and some much-needed reminders that we’re all on a journey, and it’s okay to hold space for both gratitude and ambition.

SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS

Remember: You don't have to partake in holiday activities you don’t want to—and that's okay!

Our children learn gratitude by seeing us model this behavior. 

Be thankful for the journey and enjoy it along the way. 

From an early age, we’re often taught to be grateful. While these lessons were well-meaning,the lessons can sometimes make us feel like it’s wrong to experience negative emotions when we have so much to be thankful for. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. Over time, we can internalize beliefs that limit our emotional range. Reframing our understanding of gratitude to focus on our skills or attributes rather than the external objects can allow space for complex feelings. 

You’ve earned and/or deserve all the good things in your life. Don’t let people with limiting beliefs or negative self talk stop you from going after what you truly desire. 

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We have Mac “The Therapist” back for another week to continue to talk about Narcissism. This episode delves deeper in the conversation of how this affects the one on the receiving end. We talked about love- bombing and how its an end to their means. We had moments where realizations were made and gave a different perspective. I learned that I came to terms with the fact that although this person put me through the wildest emotional rollercoaster, I lived through that, there were moments that were good, along with the dark side. 

What Else You Will Hear:

• A narcissist will always have a supply ready before they leave you or you leave them.
• Enabling a narcissist, how does that look like
• Love-bombing, what is it? How long does it last? 
• How long does it take to develop a relationship?
• How you become an asset to boost their ego and status
• Are they capable of love?
• Couples therapy 
• Setting boundaries 
• Thriving in chaos
• Women wanting a ring
• Co-parenting with a narcissist 

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• Proverbs 9:8- So don't bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you.

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We have Mac “The Therapist” back for another week to continue to talk about Narcissism. This episode delves deeper in the conversation of how this affects the one on the receiving end. We talked about love- bombing and how its an end to their means. We had moments where realizations were made and gave a different perspective. I learned that I came to terms with the fact that although this person put me through the wildest emotional rollercoaster, I lived through that, there were moments that were good, along with the dark side. 

What Else You Will Hear:

• A narcissist will always have a supply ready before they leave you or you leave them.
• Enabling a narcissist, how does that look like
• Love-bombing, what is it? How long does it last? 
• How long does it take to develop a relationship?
• How you become an asset to boost their ego and status
• Are they capable of love?
• Couples therapy 
• Setting boundaries 
• Thriving in chaos
• Women wanting a ring
• Co-parenting with a narcissist 

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• Proverbs 9:8- So don't bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you.

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This week Carla Wilmaris is back with recurring guest, Paola and a special guest, Mac “The Therapist”. We get deep this week, so grab some wine, a notebook, some tissues, whatever you need because we are going right into it. We are talking about Narcissism. We started the conversation with statistics and how 1 in every 16 Americans has been affected by someone with NPD, then broke down the differences between traits and the disorder. We went down the rabbit hole, and all I can say is buckle up, this is part one to a very necessary conversation we needed to have.

What You’ll Hear:

• What is Narcissism? Or Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD).
• How the rise of social media is feeding into the pandemic of narcissism
• A narcissistic individual is the opposite of authenticity, they are not able to see what they do to other people
• 80% of males show narcissistic traits
• Is it genetic or caused by upbringing?
• Nature vs. nurture
• Empathy is the ability to feel for others, narcissist can rationalize empathy- from the mouth out
• We now found a language for the term; people have been abused for years and now we have the words for it all
• The social media boom is breeding narcissistic tendencies
• The difference between traits and the disorder
• Plus, much more…

Quote/ Bible verse for this week:

• Isaiah 61:1- “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me because God has anointed me to bring good news to the poor… to bind up the brokenhearted.
  

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What You'll Hear:

• Hold on to your expectations, and do not lower them for no one.
• You cannot force anyone to do anything, even if its to make them better
• Therapy is meant to help you not hurt you
• God-sent friends
• Practicing self-care and love, we touch on the amazing spa days
• Journaling 
• Wanting peace, and unlearning how you thrive in chaos 
• Men saying a soft man (Russell Wilson) is square and unpopular
• Grieving the loss of the idea I thought I had in a relationship
• Feeling like having more purpose as a woman
• What commitment looked like 50 years ago, old fashion and traditional
• I am a partner not a maid

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• Psalm 46:5- God is within her she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.

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Congratulations to Ketanji Brown Jackson on being appointed to the Supreme court. 

This week’s episode we start off with my reservations of turning 35 this year. I realize that I am grieving the thought of where I thought I was going to be, and what didn’t happen or will happen based on changes that have happened in the past almost 2 months. Then dive into this week’s episode, elevating past people’s trauma.  I am now all about BOUNDARIES, at 34 almost 35 I need PEACE.

• What you will hear this week:
• Turning 35 this year
• Grieving loss of what was and where I am now
• The different people around us that are dealing with trauma
• Setting boundaries for yourself, and taking care of yourself first
• Friendships that respect boundaries 
• People who thrive in chaos and negativity
• Loving people from afar
• Therapy helped me understand I wasn’t the problem
• The changing relationship with my mother now with limitations
• You need to work on your emotional intelligence

Bible verse for this week:

1 Peter 5:6-7 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

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I’m back like I never left! And I have my amazing friend, Paola back for another episode.

This week I want to talk about my journey. You have all been with me from corporate, to leaving and starting Shit I’m 30! to saying I didn’t want anymore kids, to getting into a new relationship and being in love, to not now a newly single mom and entrepreneur.

As women we are very judgmental of ourselves and I’m starting to paint a new canvas, reinventing myself as a woman, a mom, and entrepreneur. I’m learning it’s time to put myself first, the future holds happiness for me.

The saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy. -Robin Williams

What You’ll Hear:

• Painting a new canvas
• Why are women so judgmental and hard on themselves
• Therapy is a non-negotiable for me right now
• The different points of view of how we express love
• I learned about my feelings, and now I’m an empath and I feel everything
• Learning to admit when you need help
• Being a parent in 2022, and doing what’s best for you and your child
• Communication and interpretation are two completely different things, and compromise is huge
• Feeling empty, sad, and depressed
• You cannot love someone to change, love is not enough
• Heartbreak after giving it everything

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• What is tradition/ traditional marriage or relationship.
• The healing I have been doing, sitting with my emotions, and discussing the different emotions we forget to name and feel when they are happening.
• Things I did or do to make myself feel good vs. dealing with the emotions themselves.
• Feeling emotions and observing them whether they are good, bad, or ugly.
• Not everything deserves a reaction, I have gained control of my emotions/ reactions.
• Learning to focus on the big picture.
• Our therapy journey, and how religion fits into that.
• How has my personal relationship with God has been my strength throughout this journey.

Three things that I learned from an article:

1. Sit with your emotions by noting what you are experiencing without judging.
2. Validate your emotions, accept them.
3. Focus on the present instead of wallowing in the experience or situation that triggered your feelings.

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In this episode Carla and Dex discuss raising emotionally intelligent children—what it really takes to help kids develop self-awareness, empathy, and strong communication skills. We dive into the tools and practices for fostering emotional intelligence. How do we know if we’re doing it right? We’ll explore how EQ impacts behavior and relationships, and why it’s essential for kids’ long-term success.

Next, we switch gears to talk about the power of saying no. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries—whether in relationships, work, or personal life. Carla shares her journey from employee to boss and how setting boundaries has changed her life, while Dex talks about her struggle to set boundaries with herself, especially when it comes to work. We’ll explore how learning to say no confidently can protect our time and well-being.

It’s an honest conversation about parenting, personal growth, and taking control of your life. Tune in!

SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS

The Power of Boundaries: Setting boundaries is essential in friendships, work,and family relationships to maintain mental well-being and respect.

Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: Carla and Dex discuss the value of teachingchildren emotional intelligence by modeling self-awareness, empathy, and self-regulation.

Self-Care as a Boundary: Dex shares her struggle with setting work boundariesfor herself, reminding listeners that self-care is a crucial form of respect.

Learning and Growth through Therapy: The hosts explore the importance oftherapy, especially tools like the “feelings wheel,” to identify and process emotions moreeffectively.

Navigating Friendships with Honesty**: They reflect on a challenging time in theirfriendship, showing that sometimes setting tough boundaries can ultimately strengthenrelationships

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My life revolves around my kids and my family and now it feels like the woman that I am is in prison.

My spirit got me out of bed and told me to vocalize what I am feeling today and in the coming weeks. 

Who is Carla today? Is she just a mom? Will she ever be a woman again?

Tune in and go on this journey again with me. It is not pretty but it is raw.

She's back! Pivot with Purpose is back and it ain't perfect. If she waited for perfection this episode would have never been released so LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!

How do we pivot when life has thrown all these curve balls and we thought we had it all figured out but we dont!

This week we will go over new segments of the show like Unconventional Side Hustles & start the documented journey of Carla's business and how she is expanding and learning from all of her mistakes.

Come on and join the ride.

Let's Pivot unapologetically and intentionally find our Purpose!

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It is time to Pivot. My vision has become so clear in the last 2.5 years and now I want to serve you in the new space that I'm in.

Today I will share the new vision and direction that Sh*T I'm 30 is going in and trust me it is NOT for the weak!!!

This week the devil was working hard on me. When you are taking steps in the right direction he does not like it and he will attack and TRY to use you to tear everything you have built apart.

My new show Whatever She Says almost didn't make it to its first episode because we were determined to bring you a WORD!

Listen up and be aware of when the devil is trying to use you!

Hey there!

If you have been following me on social media then you know my journey through pregnancy has been very unconventional. I’ve had to go to appointments without the support of my partner, deal with excruciating body changes, and I’ve had drastic hormonal swings.

This week I am joined by the founder of Black Mom Blog and pioneer of black motherhood and self-care Shanica Boswell. You’ll hear about the shaming of single mothers sending their child to stay with their fathers, the benefits of a doula, and trying to have a natural birth after having a C-section.

This episode isn’t only for women with babies or who are currently pregnant, but it’s an episode for everyone to get an inside look at the journey and obstacles or pregnancy and parenting.

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Did you know that people of color spray tan? Yeah I didn’t either until I sat down with my friend Jenna, founder and CEO of Catalyst Salon.  When she isn't spray tanning a client, she has her face by someone’s vagina.

Oh… get your head out of the gutter, it’s because her salon offers waxing services! I sat down with Jenna to gossip about her jarring waxing stories, advice for waxing while pregnant, flawed beauty standards, and so much more!

Join us to look through the lens of an esthetician! You’ll find out what the lady giving you your bikini wax is really thinking!

By the way, don’t forget to tune in to the second season of Tyler Perry’s “Sistahs” Oct 14th 9PM/8PM Central

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Have you ever had this overwhelming sense of calm after so much anxiety, stress, and doubt? Yeah, me too... although it may take a while to get there! 

This week we have a live and interactive conversation with the virtual family I have built through this podcast platform. We chat about manifestation, doubt, clarity, and intentions. 

Personally, this is an episode that I will cherish forever and hopefully, it inspires people to dream big and to just… keep swimming! What are your manifestations over your life? Share them with us on the podcast page or email.

Thank you Patreon family for your continuous support and for your role in this ecosystem of support. 

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Manifestation is a stronger power than most of us recognize.

This  weekend was a true testament of the power of manifestation. When you have an idea in mind, and it’s meant for you to accomplish it, God provides the people, resources, & dismantles any obstacles in the way of your goal.

Join me as I recap the first annual Synergy Women’s Wellness retreat with Beavis and Butthead (May & Wendy). I’ve been working with May virtually and this was the first weekend that we met finally in person…luckily she wasn’t a psycho!

Thank you to my Patreon community you all are amazing, empowering, dynamic women with so much to offer the world! 

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In this episode, Carla and Dex share their raw reactions to the 2024 Presidential election. With no outline or segments, it’s a heartfelt, off-the-cuff conversation as they process the results and how they’re personally navigating the aftermath. From coping with the outcome to confronting the challenges of moving forward in a divided world, this episode is a rollercoaster of feelings and reflections. 

Tune in for a real and honest discussion, as Carla and Dex work through it all—together.

SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS

Election Shock and Disappointment: The hosts express disappointmentover Trump’s re-election, with surprise that his controversial policiesand divisive rhetoric did not prevent his victory. They voice concernabout the country’s future and the social divides it highlights.

Representation Matters: One host discusses the emotional impact ofseeing Kamala Harris, a woman of color, in a leadership position, whichgave her a sense of visibility and pride. However, there is alsofrustration that gender and racial biases may have hindered Harris’ssupport.

Frustration with Social Media and Misinformation: The hosts criticizehow misinformation spread on social media influenced people'sopinions, especially around topics like abortion, LGBTQ rights, andhealthcare.

Importance of Local Politics: Beyond the presidential election, the hostsemphasize the significance of local issues, such as marijuanalegalization and education funding, urging listeners to remainpolitically active and informed at all levels of government.

Self-Care and Emotional Processing: In coping with the electionoutcome, the hosts discuss the importance of processing feelings in asupportive environment rather than engaging in social media debates,aiming to foster resilience and stay involved in the political processdespite setbacks.

Role of Women and Bias: There is a shared feeling of rejection amongthe hosts, particularly regarding gender bias in leadership. They notethe resistance against women, especially women of color, holdingpowerful roles, which feels like a societal setback.

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This week I am joined by filmmaker, photographer, mother, and now author Francesa Andre!

What doesn’t this lovely lady have her hands on?! We talk about her new children’s book titled Phenomenal Black Boy, colorism, mental health, being a first-time mom, and so much more! 

If you have heard of Rachel Dozer, then you have to hear about Rachel 2.0! Tune in!

Links:

Rachel Dolezal 2.0 article:

https://blavity.com/white-college-professor-admits-to-being-rachel-dolezal-20-and-falsely-claiming-multiple-black-identities?category1=news

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Do you ever hear this little voice in your head that tells you  “damn it, something told me to….”?

Have you ever wondered what the heck mercury retrograde is or what full moons represent?

This week we dive into concepts like: intuition, stigmas around tarot cards being witchcraft, spiritual alignment, and so much more. Join in as Che Che & I chat about her journey towards yoga, meditation, and  tarot reading & EVEN DOES A LIVE READING ON ME (& DAMN I WAS SCARED, BUT … I LOVED MY READING!)

Connect with us on social media:

@carlawilmaris

@Shitim30Podcast

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Mixed Minds Book Club:

This month the book club is reading a throwback classic The Coldest Winter Ever by Sister Souljah.

THIS MONTH ONLY if you DM or E-mail me that you are interested in getting a sneak peak of the book club, I will send you the private zoom link so you can get a preview!

We meet once a month and hold each other accountable from week to week to make sure we finish before the month is up!

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This week I am joined by Jordan Hunter, CEO of Say It Loud Media, Former US Navy search and rescue swimmer, & host of his own podcast "Say It Loud"

We chat about the importance of swimming, the legacy he's trying to leave behind, and some types of defense mechanisms that we may use to protect our emotional selves. 

The facts he drops about swimming will shock you. 

Sh*t You Should Know article:

https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/511693-17-year-old-chilis-hostess-beaten-by-group-of-diners-for-enforcing

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In this week’s episode, we are joined by my baby daddy and also the love of my life Wax Kyng to give relationship advice to listeners who have written into the show!

We also discuss what it was like keeping the pregnancy secret from the world, and our experience expecting during COVID.

Tune in to hear our advise for:

- A man who’s wife asked for a threesome with the girl she found out he’s been cheating with

- A girl who is never chosen out of her pretty girlfriend group

- A man that is being treated like a trick by his broke jobless girlfriend

AND SO MUCH MORE!

If you ever want to seek advice on the show email Shitim30Podcast@gmail.com and title the subject “Unsolicited Advice”!

Connect with us on social media:

@carlawilmaris

@Shitim30Podcast

@BullyAndTheBeastPodcast

@WaxKyng  

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In this week’s episode I am joined by one of my best friends and apparently the second mother of my new child  Mandii B. I am attempting to channel my inner Oprah, Iyanla, & Jada to make Mandii confess… she’s in love!

We also discuss growth in all aspects of our lives from business to health and of course….relationships. We are two women who quit our full-time jobs to pursue a career that didn’t come with a blueprint! Since Mandii is the guest for this episode, you know you’re in for a treat.  We may or may not have discussed an 8 person orgy in a sex club during COVID! Guess you’ll have to tune in to find out!

Don't forget to check out her new podcast titled "Period, Sis" on all podcast platforms. It's a podcast discussing the taboo topics of women's sexual and reproductive health!

Connect with us on social media:

@carlawilmaris

@Shitim30Podcast

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Why are we so afraid to have the "define the relationship" talk?

Join me as I chat with Savon & Alex from Need To Know Podcast! We talk about being petty on the internet, dating as a millennial during COVID, and so much more! 

Stick around until the end to hear Alex's super vulnerable & transparent confession about his father! 

Connect with us on social media:

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@needtoknowpod

@balltillwefall

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This week, we take an audio adventure back to some older episodes. I used the word adventure intentionally! You won't want to miss this!

EP 39: 35-Year-Old Virgin, & Recovering from Porn Addiction "Life After Freedom" ft Melodia Shekia:
We dive into a conversation with Melodia Sheika about her book titled Life After Freedom. When I first read that title, I initially thought she was "free" from jail. However, I was surprised to discover she was referring to her freedom from her former porn addiction.

EP 85: Foreplay Objects, Nude Rules, & Penny Flights feat Lex & Drea:
In this clip you'll hear Lex P & Drea Nicole from Pour Minds Podcast talk about the craziest items they've used for foreplay. TRUST ME, YOU WON'T WANT TO MISS THIS! We also chat about the protocol while sending nudes. There are some hidden gems on ways to enhance and repurpose your nudes lol. 

EP 92: Do You Have a Condom? feat WaxKyng & MandiiB:
This is the episode when Wax & I finally decided to go public! Wow, time really flies. In this clip, I am joined by my bestie who loves to debate with me, Mandii B host of the Whoreible Decisions podcast and Wax from Bully and the Beast podcast. We give you all the play by play of how Wax finally professed his love for me! 

EP 98: "The Other Woman" A Story of Growth and Forgiveness:
Have you ever dated a married man?  At some point in your life you will either know someone who has or you will have experienced this BUT will you ever sit across from her and talk about how you felt during this time and what led to it? In this episode, I am joined by Vyky to tell our stories from 7 years ago when I was "The Other Woman". It takes one hell of an incredible woman to agree to come on this show and tell HER story which is one of Strength, Growth, & Purpose!

EP 111: Therapy, Celibacy, & Healing feat Hey Fran Hey:
This episode was a special one for me! Not only do I love Hey Fran Hey from The Friendzone Podcast, but I am also very intrigued by her discipline towards abstaining from sex for the past 4 years. Tune in to hear why she choose abstinence! (edited) 

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Sakara:

Do you want to feel better about what you eat without sacrificing taste? Do you want to improve your digestion, skin, & tap into your overall wellness? Check out the wellness nutrition company Sakara for organic plant-based ingredients, & anything else you could possibly ask for in the wellness space! It doesn't have to be expensive, use my code for 20% off your first order!

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Sponsored by Better Help: 

Better Help wants you to start living a happier life TODAY. https://betterhelp.com/30 and join the over 500,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.

There is a special offer for SHIT IM 30 listeners, you'll get 10% off your first month at:

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I’m Mexican, I was adopted into a white family, & I have a great relationship with my biological mother. Now, that isn’t a sentence you hear often!

In this week’s episode, I am joined by my dear friend Jeannine. We talk about her story as a Mexican-American woman raised in Florida that was adopted into a White family and her journey towards discovering her identity.

Sh*t You Should Know:

• Tik Tok is possibly getting banned in the US and has already been banned in India.
• Kanye announces he is running in the 2020 election race

Unsolicited Advice:

Has Disney brainwashed us all? Tune in to hear our response to a girl that wrote in asking for relationship advice. You also won’t want to miss our advice for a mother considering adoption.

Quote from the show: “Life is the best party I’ve ever been invited to!”

Connect with us on social media:

@carlawilmaris

@shitim30podcast

@wonderwoman_j

Upcoming Episode Announcement:

If you wanted to write in your question for the upcoming “unsolicited advice ONLY” episode w/ Wax Kyng and I, email your questions to shitim30podcast@gmail.com and title the subject “Unsolicited Advice”

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Before we begin, I want to start by giving my condolences to Wax Kyng & his entire family for the loss of his father. 

This week, Wax and I give you 2 hours of content with a live studio Patreon audience! We discuss the death of his father, me cooking in his mother's kitchen the very first time I go to her house, getting cussed out by his auntie, and the cherry on top to a shit week... Wax going to jail! 

With the constant images and videos of police brutality flooding the internet you could only imagine my angst. Oh yeah, did I mention... WE WERE DRIVING THROUGH GLYNN COUNTY, GEORGIA! Does that city sound familiar? If it does, then you know it's the same city Ahmaud Marquez Arbery, an unarmed 25-year-old African-American man, was shot and killed.

You're also going to want to stick around towards the second hour where I share an outrageous story from a zoom consultation! 

Sh*t You Should Know:

Georgia is giving teens drivers licenses without a formal driving test! 

https://www.thedrive.com/news/33366/20000-georgia-teens-that-skipped-road-test-are-now-licensed-drivers

Unsolicited Advice:

This week we take live questions from our studio audience. Tune in to hear our relationship advice to an active caller. If you want to submit a question email your inquiry to Shitim30Podcast@gmail.com & title the email Unsolicited Advice. 

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Better Help: 

I used the hell out of this resource this week! Shout out to my therapist! 

Better Help wants you to start living a happier life TODAY. https://betterhelp.com/30 and join the over 500,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.

There is a special offer for SHIT IM 30 listeners, you'll get 10% off your first month at:

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Patreon:

Join July's Mixed Mind Book Club on Patreon! We have chosen to read Zane: Nervous! 

If you become a patron, you'll also have access to additional content & access to our monthly virtual pajama party!

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In this episode, we’re diving deep into the impact of social media on motherhood and how it’s shaping our children’s lives. We’ll share our personal beliefs about kids and social media, exploring how it influences their upbringing and our parenting choices. From parents who make a business out of sharing their kids' lives to the balance of protecting privacy and staying connected in a digital world, we’re talking all about it.

Next, we dive into how friendships change after motherhood. Dex reflects on her evolving friendships as her child grows into adulthood, while Carla talks about juggling her younger child and the need for a babysitter again. We also touch on the importance of maintaining strong connections with other women, despite the challenges of friendship fatigue.

Lastly, we talk about navigating identity shifts in our 30s and 40s—how we redefine ourselves beyond our roles as mothers and professionals. It’s an honest, real conversation you don’t want to miss!

SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS

Parenting with Awareness in the Social Media Era: Carla and Dex discuss how toset boundaries on social media for kids and navigate privacy challenges to create a safeenvironment online.

Importance of Balance: Balancing work, personal passions, and family time iscrucial, especially when transitioning between careers or creative pursuits.

Honest Communication: Maintaining open communication with friends and familyis essential to prevent misunderstandings and strengthen relationships.

Gentle Parenting Insights: The hosts offer lighthearted advice on modernparenting methods, showing the value of intentional language and mutual respect.

Social Media Humor and Reality: They humorously address the ups and downs ofsocial media’s influence on family life, from silly trends to the challenges of maintainingauthenticity

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Shesh ya'll its already July! You know what that means... Do your damn taxes! The deadline is July 15th. 

July is also national culinary arts month & I think it's safe to say we all love food! Thank you to all of the chefs, farmers, Mukbangers, bloggers, pretty much...everyone & anyone involved in our food supply chain. 

This week, I am joined by the smart & beautiful Steph Styuhls from The Need To Know Podcast. Join us as we talk about quarantine eating, body image, an 8-year situationship, & what it's like working with men! 

Unsolicited Advice:
This week, we are giving advice to a listener that wrote in asking for guidance/tips about setting boundaries with their narcissistic sibling. We also answer an email asking about how to politely decline invitations during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Sh*T Talk:
This week, my shit talk segment was about me! Yeah, that's right, me! I've been getting on my own damn nerves. Does anyone else feel like that? Also, you know this segment is not complete without a message to all Karens. Funny thing is, I didn't even mention it first this time! Stick around until the end to hear what Steph had to say about this topic.

A quote from the episode: "You have to remember you have an internal inherent worth regardless of how much money you're making or how productive you think you are"

Connect with us on social media:
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@shitim30podcast
@Stephstyuhls
@NeedToKnowPod
@theconfirmationseries

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I am so overwhelmed with emotion. We have received yet another phone call with terrible news and I cannot handle another. 

We have people in our lives that we owe it to to take care of our mental health. I have been LOW and I have been HIGH. Recently I have been LOWWWW but I have to do something about it and I cannot be ashamed of that!

If you feel the way that I do and soooo many others take advantage of BETTER HELP please.

The only reason I am here today is because I decided to start when I really did not want to.

https://trybetterhelp.com/30

If you want to connect with me email me at shitim30podcast@gmail.com and tell me what you are going through LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!

EP 120: Sex Clubs, Micro-Cheating, & Porn Hub

WTF is a micro-cheater? You cheated or you didn't, right? Wrong!

Imagine this... you specifically dress up every time you know you’re going to run into a specific person. It’s technically harmless because it doesn’t directly hurt anybody, but it plants the seed of wanting someone else’s attention, who isn't your significant other. Do you consider this micro-cheating?

I had mixed emotions about this scenario! I'm sure you do too! Join me and the fun, sexy, and transparent girl boss, Krysta Monet as we talk about micro-cheating and actions, we thought were harmless.

You also won't want to miss a pro tip Krysta talks about while watching porn. Don't miss out! 

Connect with us on social media:

@carlawilmaris

@shitim30podcast

@krysta.Monet

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HBO New series, I May Destroy You:

HBO’s new series I May Destroy You is a fearless, frank and provocative show written by and starring BAFTA award-winner Michaela Coel. 

Watch new episodes of I May Destroy You on Sundays at 10:30PM  on HBO and stream it on HBO MAX 

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Special offer for SHIT IM 30 listeners get 10% off your first month at www.trybetterhelp.com/30

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