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It's A SIS Classic: The Ultimate Dry January Game Plan29 Dec 202500:47:57

The new year is upon us, and it’s the perfect time to check in with yourself and your habits. Whether you’re feeling the post-holiday burnout or just curious about how alcohol impacts your life, Dry January offers a chance to hit pause and reset. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through the highs, lows, and everything in between, offering tips and real talk to help you make the most of your Dry January journey—whether it's your first time or your fifth.


Ever wonder why Dry January seems to be everywhere? Sonia and Kathleen dive into questions like: What makes it so popular? What physical and mental benefits can you really expect? What if you slip up mid-month? With honest reflections and practical advice, this episode will leave you feeling ready to take it one day at a time.

You’ll come away with simple, effective ways to succeed—like setting realistic goals, building a support system, and swapping old habits for new ones that actually feel good. Sonia and Kathleen also dig into strategies for overcoming cravings, reframing challenges, and creating routines you’ll look forward to. Plus, ways to replace your go-to drink with something delicious, because it’s not just about taking something away—it’s about adding wellness, joy, and calm back into your life.


Sonia shares how her tea bar (complete with hot chocolate mix!) became her nighttime favorite, while Kathleen talks about how even the strongest cravings can be a chance to show yourself some love. It’s a reminder that small wins—like finding joy in a cozy drink or celebrating with a letter to yourself—can make a big difference.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Episode Highlights:

  • [00:00:00] Introduction to Dry January and its purpose
  • [00:01:16] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the origins and rise in popularity
  • [00:02:29] Research spotlight: the link between alcohol and health risks
  • [00:03:34] Health Canada’s new guidelines on alcohol consumption
  • [00:05:15] The role of the sober-curious movement and influencers
  • [00:07:26] Benefits of Dry January: improved sleep, clear skin, mental clarity
  • [00:10:29] How to set a personal “why” for motivation
  • [00:12:10] The importance of planning for social triggers
  • [00:13:36] Kathleen’s breakdown of SMART goals
  • [00:16:25] Strategies for those feeling overwhelmed by a 31-day challenge
  • [00:19:35] Managing cravings and identifying unexpected triggers
  • [00:22:31] Mocktail recommendations and the joy of experimenting with alternative drinks
  • [00:25:48] New evening rituals: small ways to relax and unwind
  • [00:27:04] Celebrating progress without alcohol: creative reward ideas
  • [00:29:59] Kathleen shares her “urge surfing” technique for dealing with cravings
  • [00:32:25] Explanation of the RAIN mindfulness method
  • [00:36:12] What to do if you slip up during Dry January
  • [00:39:00] How to reflect on your Dry January experience
  • [00:41:17] Deciding your next steps after January ends
  • [00:43:40] Sonia’s insights on using Dry January as a springboard for personal growth
  • [00:46:17] Final reflections and key takeaways from Sonia and Kathleen

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The Dharma of Recovery With Randy Hall22 Dec 202500:54:15

This episode features Randy Hall on Buddhist-inspired recovery, mindfulness, and why healing addiction often starts with self-compassion—not judgment.

Randy Hall, is a Program Coordinator with the Addiction Prevention Coalition in Birmingham, Alabama, a person in long-term recovery, a Certified Peer Support Specialist, a SMART Recovery Facilitator, and the former President of the Recovery Dharma Global community. Randy is deeply committed to building peer support spaces and advocating for multiple pathways to recovery that meet people where they are.


Throughout the conversation, Sonia, Kathleen, and Randy explore what happens when someone wants recovery but doesn’t quite fit into a single prescribed model. They dig into questions around craving, identity, trauma, relapse, self-judgment, and why curiosity can be a powerful starting point for change. The episode touches on mindfulness, Buddhist-inspired recovery, peer-led support, and evidence-based tools — all through the lens of real life rather than theory.

Randy breaks down Buddhist principles in an accessible, grounded way, explaining how ideas like impermanence, compassion, and mindful awareness can be used day-to-day in recovery. He shares how practices like meditation, naming emotions, and interrupting judgment helped him learn to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it. Listeners will also hear how SMART Recovery’s rational, skills-based approach complemented these practices — showing how recovery doesn’t have to be either/or, but can be built from multiple supports working together.


At the heart of the episode is Randy’s story — one marked by achievement, addiction, and a dramatic turning point. He shares how years of high-functioning substance use eventually led to a life-altering diagnosis of Guillain-Barré Syndrome that left him temporarily paralyzed. What followed wasn’t a neat or linear recovery, but a painful, human process that included relapse, fear, and ultimately a deep internal shift. Randy reflects on how real change didn’t come from punishment or fear, but from learning self-compassion, finding community, and allowing himself to be honest about his suffering. His story underscores how transformation often comes not from avoiding pain, but from finally meeting it with care and support.


Episode Highlights

00:01 — Randy shares how alcohol first felt like social “magic” — and how quickly it turned into something darker

00:03 — What high-functioning addiction really looks like behind the scenes

00:05 — Using substances to cope with professional pressure and internal conflict

00:06 — The shocking moment Randy’s body shut down during a kids’ soccer game

00:08 — Being paralyzed, hospitalized, and forced to confront mortality

00:10 — Why detox and physical recovery weren’t enough

00:12 — Returning home and relapsing despite everything he’d been through

00:15 — The quiet role of shame and self-loathing in addiction

00:17 — Hitting a point where change was no longer optional

00:18 — Feeling disconnected from recovery spaces that didn’t resonate

00:19 — Discovering Recovery Dharma and Buddhist-inspired recovery

00:21 — How mindfulness and rational tools can work together

00:23 — The Four Noble Truths explained in plain language

00:26 — Understanding craving as part of the human condition

00:28 — How mindfulness helps interrupt urges in real time

00:34 — The difference between awareness and judgment

00:38 — “Having tea with your demons” and learning to work with urges

00:44 — Riding urges like waves instead of fighting them

00:48 — Why community matters more than willpower

00:51 — Practical advice for anyone who feels stuck right now


Randy's Links https://recoverydharma.org/


SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

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The Good Daughter Trap: Guilt, Family & Freedom with Sahaj Kohli20 Oct 202500:49:17

Bicultural identity, authenticity, boundaries, and belonging — this week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with award-winning therapist, author, and Washington Post columnist Sahaj Kaur Kohli, founder of Brown Girl Therapy (@browngirltherapy). Sahaj is the author of But What Will People Say: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love, and Family Between Cultures and host of So We’ve Been Told. Together, Sonia and Sahaj explore how culture shapes our emotional lives and what it really means to honor your identity while protecting your mental health.

This conversation unpacks what happens when cultural expectations collide with personal truth. Sonia and Sahaj discuss why “just be yourself” can be harmful advice for children of immigrants, how boundaries sound different across cultures, and why guilt and shame can linger even in healing. They dive into the nuances of bicultural identity, family dynamics, and how recovery and self-discovery intersect when you grow up between worlds.

You’ll gain a deeper understanding of bicultural identity, intergenerational trauma, authenticity, and decolonizing mental health. Sahaj explains how Western therapy often misses cultural context and why redefining concepts like boundaries, self-care, and recovery through a collectivist lens can change everything. She shares practical frameworks for discernment, emotional safety, and reclaiming ancestral wisdom in modern mental-health practices.

Sonia also shares her personal story of navigating no contact, cultural shame, and the grief that comes with estrangement. Together, she and Sahaj reflect on how to hold compassion for parents shaped by survival, while creating space for your own healing. It’s a candid and heartfelt conversation about identity, duty, and the freedom to choose what wholeness means to you.

This is Sisters in Sobriety — the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Episode Highlights

[00:00:00] Introduction to Sahaj Kaur Kohli and her work bridging mental health and culture
[00:02:00] The origins of Brown Girl Therapy and how identity crises inspired it
[00:04:00] Why “boundaries” can feel unnatural in collectivist families
[00:05:30] Reframing boundaries as compromise, connection, and care
[00:06:30] The myth of authenticity when you live between cultures
[00:08:00] Adapting between cultural spaces without losing yourself
[00:09:30] The difference between hiding and lying in family systems
[00:12:00] When immigrant parents surprise you with growth and empathy
[00:13:30] Narrative therapy and rewriting generational family stories
[00:16:00] “What will people say?” and the survival logic behind shame
[00:18:00] Intergenerational trauma and assimilation through an immigrant lens
[00:20:00] Drinking culture, gender, and coping in Punjabi families
[00:23:30] How recovery language often excludes cultural context
[00:26:00] What culturally responsive recovery could look like
[00:29:00] The role of shame across cultures and its impact on healing
[00:31:00] What it means to decolonize mental-health practices
[00:33:00] When duty is love — and when it becomes control
[00:36:00] Setting boundaries and practicing discernment with family
[00:39:00] Grieving family estrangement and re-parenting yourself
[00:44:00] Redefining self-care as collective and cultural care
[00:47:00] What’s next for Sahaj and Brown Girl Therapy

SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

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Navigating Paths to Recovery with Alida Flannery13 May 202400:28:51

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are excited to welcome Alida Flannery, a passionate advocate for sobriety and the founder of Epiphany Recovery. Alida brings her unique experience as both a sober companion and recovery coach to the conversation, sharing her inspiring journey from addiction to aiding others on their paths to sobriety. Stay tuned as Sonia and Kathleen delve into Alida's multifaceted approach to recovery.

Alida is the Founder of Epiphany Recovery Inc., an organization that provides Recovery Coaching, Companioning, and Case Management services to individuals who are struggling with substance use and disordered eating. She is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach and Companion, who completed her Intervention training with Earl Hightower in 2018, and has previously worked for several in-patient treatment centres across Canada. Alida is the Co-Founder of SOULBRIETY, a sober collective for women offering retreats, events, and group workshops to those who are sober-curious, sober-exploring and sober-serious. She also works with Amazing Grace Canada, a charity whose mission is to bring recovery to families and communities affected by addiction in developing nations.

This episode will explore various paths to recovery, including one-on-one coaching, sober companionship, and the benefits of group support. Alida will address key questions like: What are the unique challenges and benefits of each recovery approach? How can someone determine the best recovery path for their individual needs? These discussions will be enriched with Alida's personal insights and experiences, providing a comprehensive look at addiction recovery.

Listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the recovery process, including practical strategies for managing triggers and maintaining sobriety in real-world scenarios. Alida will discuss the importance of creating a supportive environment and how tailored recovery plans can significantly enhance the success of one's sobriety journey. 

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights

[00:03:10] - Alida's role as a sober companion is explained, highlighting her commitment to 24/7 support for her clients.

[00:04:18] - Alida joins the conversation, expressing her gratitude for being part of the podcast.

[00:04:33] - Alida shares her personal journey with addiction and the impact of hitting a profound emotional and physical bottom.

[00:06:44] - Discussion about the pivotal moments that lead to seeking change and the universal nature of pain in the journey to recovery.

[00:07:26] - Alida speaks about the challenges she faced in recovery, particularly the overhaul of her lifestyle centered around substance use.

[00:08:39] - The concept of 'rewiring behaviors' in sobriety is explored, discussing the difficulties of adapting to a sober life.

[00:10:05] - The personal story continues with Alida discussing how recovery coaching and sober companionship work in practical scenarios.

[00:11:57] - Alida discusses the inspiration behind starting Epiphany Recovery, linking her experiences in the corporate and philanthropic worlds.

[00:13:49] - Alida recounts her early experiences as a COVID coach during the pandemic, aiding clients in isolation.

[00:15:20] - Sonia and Alida discuss the integration of personal recovery experiences into coaching methods, stressing authenticity and relatability.

[00:17:15] - The conversation shifts to the importance of not using personal sobriety metrics as a standard for others' recovery.

[00:18:12] - Alida and Kathleen discuss misconceptions about addiction, like not having a DUI meaning you don't have a problem.

[00:20:11] - The discussion touches on the personal lows and the concept of 'slipping faster than lowering standards' in addiction.

[00:22:04] - Alida explains the brain science behind addiction, particularly how substances affect the prefrontal cortex and decision-making.

[00:23:32] - How Alida's approach to recovery has evolved over time, emphasizing a need to stay informed about new methods and therapies.

[00:25:19] - Closing thoughts on resilience in recovery, discussing whether it's something that can be taught or needs to be embodied and lived.


Links

Get In Touch With Alida
https://www.epiphanyrecovery.com/

https://www.soulbriety.ca/

info@epiphanyrecovery.com



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Your Questions Answered: Create A Summer Sobriety Toolkit09 May 202400:16:48

Today, we're addressing a common concern among our listeners—navigating the temptations of summer while maintaining sobriety. This episode is dedicated to answering questions from you, our listeners, about dealing with the triggers that come with warm weather and social gatherings.

Understanding and Managing Triggers
Our listener SP from Houston shares her anxiety about summer being a trigger to drink. We start by acknowledging that feeling anxious about seasonal changes is normal and discusses strategies for managing these feelings. Sonia emphasizes the importance of recognizing triggers and preparing mentally, akin to packing sunscreen to protect your skin, to maintain sobriety during challenging situations.


Proactive Planning for Social Events
Sonia shares practical tips for planning ahead when attending social gatherings. Suggestions include:

  • Bringing a tasty non-alcoholic drink or a sober-friendly friend to help navigate through drinking pressures.
  • Setting personal boundaries and declining invitations that might jeopardize your recovery.
  • Establishing a support plan with your sober circle to stay strong during tougher times.


Setting Boundaries

Understanding when to say no and how to communicate your needs is crucial. The episode covers how to set boundaries effectively:

  • Being honest with yourself and others about your limits.
  • Offering alternatives to typical alcohol-centered activities.
  • Preparing responses for uncomfortable situations to ease pressure.


Establishing New Traditions

Sonia encourages listeners to create new, sober-friendly traditions that focus on connection and fun without alcohol. Some ideas include:

  • Morning hikes, sober picnics, group workouts, craft nights, and exploring new recipes.
  • Hosting game or movie nights where the focus remains on fun, not drinks.


Keeping Non-Alcoholic Options Handy

The importance of having non-alcoholic beverages available is discussed, with suggestions on how to incorporate them into various social settings effectively.


Feeling nervous about seasonal changes is normal but manageable with the right tools and support. She encourages all listeners to embrace the summer with confidence, knowing they are equipped to enjoy it sober and strong.

Links




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Finding Calm: Self-Soothing in Sobriety06 May 202400:45:11

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen take a deep dive into the world of self-soothing and its crucial role in maintaining sobriety. Self-soothing isn't just about keeping calm; it's a vital skill for balancing emotions and preventing relapse, which can be a tricky path to navigate. Join them as they unpack strategies and personal stories, providing you with tools and insights to bolster your recovery journey.


Throughout the episode, Sonia and Kathleen will explore essential questions that touch the core of self-soothing: What exactly does it mean to self-soothe? Why is it so important, especially during recovery? How can you transition from harmful old habits to beneficial new routines that genuinely support your well-being? They'll also tackle the nitty-gritty challenges many face, like finding the focus to meditate amidst chaos or discovering hobbies that genuinely soothe rather than inadvertently stress you out.

Listeners can look forward to gaining a richer understanding of emotional regulation, the transformative power of mindfulness, and how to craft a personalized toolkit of strategies for tough times. Whether you’re just starting your sober journey or you’re a seasoned veteran, this discussion is packed with insights on fostering resilience and emotional autonomy.

Join us at "Sisters in Sobriety," where we mix honest talks with hearty laughter, all while supporting each other in redefining our relationship with alcohol. Don’t forget to check out our substack for a treasure trove of supportive advice and to connect with a community that roots for you every step of the way. Come for the strategies, stay for the stories, and leave feeling empowered!


Highlights:

03:19 - Discussion of common pitfalls when trying to meditate and how social media can be a distraction.

00:03:44 - Sonia and Kathleen address significant questions on beginning the self-soothing process.

00:04:12 - Kathleen describes various self-soothing techniques and emphasizes the importance of finding what uniquely works for each individual.

00:05:31 - Sonia relates self-soothing to the concept of infants learning to calm themselves, drawing parallels to adults in recovery.

00:06:09 - Exploration of how self-soothing helps manage triggers and stressors without resorting to alcohol.

00:07:00 - Sonia explains the emotional, mental, and physical aspects of self-soothing.

00:08:11 - Sonia shares a personal story about recognizing the need for self-soothing in challenging moments.

00:10:05 - Discussion on the transformation from using substances as self-soothing to finding healthier alternatives.

00:14:06 - The hosts delve into how the journey of self-soothing began with their sobriety.

00:15:00 - Sonia shares insights into the early difficult days of sobriety and finding things that calmed her mind.

00:17:20 - Kathleen discusses misconceptions about self-soothing and emphasizes its immediate and practical benefits.

00:18:35 - Kathleen explains the RAIN technique for emotional awareness and self-soothing.

00:20:36 - Discussion of specific triggers for self-soothing and personal responses to emotional challenges.

00:22:31 - Advice on recognizing the need for self-soothing and developing mindful awareness throughout daily activities.

00:25:20 - Kathleen clarifies that successful self-soothing is about managing, not suppressing, emotions.

00:28:01 - Sonia shares how self-soothing techniques helped prevent potential relapses during her divorce.


Links



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Peacekeepers: Emotional Equilibrium in Sobriety29 Apr 202400:39:07

On today's episode, Sonia and Kathleen delve into the vital topic of protecting your peace. As life throws its many challenges at us, finding and maintaining inner tranquility is more crucial than ever, especially when it comes to sustaining sobriety and mental health. Join them as they explore strategies to safeguard your emotional and mental balance, ensuring you stay strong and serene no matter what life brings your way!

Ever wonder how to keep your cool when life gets tricky? Or how to say 'no' without feeling guilty? Sonia and Kathleen have got you covered! They’ll be unpacking how to set boundaries that stick, ways to dodge life’s curveballs, and the secrets to building your personal calm zone. It's all about finding peace in the chaos and making sure it stays that way.

Today’s takeaway is all about real-life strategies: learning how to recognize when you’re stressed before it’s too late, setting up your personal boundaries like a pro, and mastering the art of 'me time.' By the end of the episode, you’ll have a toolkit full of ideas for maintaining your emotional balance that you can start using right away.

And because everyone loves a good story, Sonia and Kathleen will share their own experiences with keeping peace at the forefront. They'll tell tales of personal trials and triumphs, bringing to life the strategies discussed and showing that if they can do it, so can you!

This is Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to community for transforming your relationship with alcohol. Don't forget to check out our substack for more handy tips and heartfelt advice.

Highlights

[00:02:01] Explanation of what "protecting your peace" means in the context of maintaining emotional and mental balance.

[00:02:19] Kathleen talks about the importance of setting boundaries for peace protection.

[00:03:01] Kathleen explains protecting peace in simple terms and how to filter experiences.

[00:04:24] Sonia relates protecting peace to both physical environment and emotional stability.

[00:05:14] Kathleen shares a personal anecdote about changing job environments to protect her mental health.

[00:06:07] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the role of self-awareness in avoiding emotional spirals.

[00:07:51] A detailed account of how Sonia has learned to handle family disagreements without spiraling.

[00:10:30] Sonia and Kathleen delve into how gossip can affect personal peace and discuss strategies to avoid it.

[00:12:44] Celebration of Sonia's seventh sobriety anniversary and its emotional significance.

[00:14:26] Sonia recounts a poignant memory tied to a breakup and how seasonal changes can trigger emotional responses.

[00:16:30] Discussion on the impact of social media on emotional well-being and how to manage exposure.

[00:19:00] Sonia talks about the physical symptoms she experiences when her peace is disturbed, particularly by family dynamics.

[00:20:21] First-time disagreement story shared by Sonia, focusing on maintaining peace during confrontations.

[00:22:10] Kathleen emphasizes that healthy conflict is possible and shares insights from her professional experience as a couples therapist.

[00:23:27] The complexities of family relationships and how they challenge personal peace discussed by Kathleen.

[00:25:13] Kathleen explains her need to step back from family drama to protect her peace, ensuring it wasn't perceived as abandonment.

[00:27:31] Strategies for managing unexpected changes and maintaining stability during uncertain times.

[00:33:13] Sonia and Kathleen discuss essential self-care practices and rituals that help maintain their peace.



Links



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Managing Anger on the Road to Sobriety With Gillian Tietz22 Apr 202400:37:46

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia delve into the critical connection between anger management and recovery. They are joined by Gill Tietz, an educator, who sheds light on how anger can act as a major hurdle on the path to recovery, its origins, and the practical steps to navigate it. This discussion promises to enlighten listeners on dealing with anger in healthy ways, especially within the context of overcoming addiction.

The episode is an insightful discussion on the prevalence of anger among individuals struggling with addiction, exploring why anger is often a secondary emotion masking deeper issues such as shame, pain, or humiliation. Gill emphasizes the importance of recognizing anger's roots and provides practical advice for managing it effectively. Listeners will be intrigued by the exploration of questions like how prevalent is anger in those dealing with addiction, in what forms does it manifest, and why is it considered a significant trigger for relapse?


Listeners can expect to walk away with valuable knowledge on identifying and managing anger, understanding its impact on recovery, and learning coping strategies to navigate through the emotions underlying anger. The conversation will cover key concepts such as the importance of acknowledging anger as a secondary emotion, the role of empathy and humor in anger management, and the crucial steps towards recognizing and managing one's anger in the journey of recovery. The discussion also highlights the significance of self-esteem work in addressing the root causes of anger.

Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal. 


This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey.

Get In Touch With Gill!
Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered

Highlights

  • [00:02:42] Gill explains anger as a secondary emotion, hinting at deeper, more uncomfortable feelings that lead to anger.
  • [00:04:03] The conversation touches on the ironic behavior of 'drinking at people' as a misguided attempt to manage anger.
  • [00:04:48] The first steps towards recognizing and managing anger in recovery are outlined by Gill, emphasizing awareness and coping skills.
  • [00:07:26] Gill shares unique anger management techniques, including the use of humor to diffuse anger.
  • [00:10:16] A shift in demeanor, from tension to calmness, is highlighted as a visible sign of progress in managing anger.
  • [00:13:32] The role of family and friends in supporting loved ones through their anger is discussed, with validation and humor being key.
  • [00:15:38] The episode delves into how anger can act as a barrier to seeking help and acknowledging addiction issues.
  • [00:18:29] Forgiveness's place in managing anger and facilitating recovery is pondered, emphasizing the difficulty but necessity of the process.
  • [00:20:35] Gill defines crisis intervention within the context of addiction recovery, painting a vivid picture of the aim and process.
  • [00:23:24] Real-life applications of crisis intervention strategies are shared, illustrating the importance of staying calm and regulated.
  • [00:26:47] A family's intervention experience is recounted, showcasing the power of calmness and brevity in communication.
  • [00:31:04] Triggers that might precipitate a crisis needing intervention are explored, with unmet basic needs being a common theme.
  • [00:34:06] Gill teases potential projects, including refining her anger management program and the idea of writing a book.
  • [00:36:15] How to sign up for Gill’s upcoming anger management course is shared, pointing listeners to useful resources.


Links



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Unpacking The Science Of Sobriety With Gillian Tietz15 Apr 202400:36:17

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen get into the intricacies of sobriety with the insightful Gillian Tietz from the Sober Powered Podcast. This conversation sheds light on the nuanced relationship between biochemistry, personal experiences, and alcohol use disorder, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding and relatable perspectives on sobriety.

The episode teases out broad discussions on prevalent myths surrounding willpower in addiction, the significant roles of anger management and crisis intervention in recovery, and the biochemical effects of alcohol on the brain. These topics promise to unravel misconceptions and offer new insights into the journey toward sobriety.

Listeners can expect to walk away with key educational takeaways on how alcohol affects the brain, contributing to the challenge of quitting drinking. With Gill's background in biochemistry and her own journey to sobriety, she brings a unique blend of expertise and personal insight, making complex scientific concepts accessible to all. The discussion aims to empower listeners with knowledge on the underlying causes of addiction and the brain's ability to recover, highlighting the importance of support and community in the path to sobriety.


Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal. 


This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey.

Get In Touch With Gill!
Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered

Highlights

  • [00:02:16] Gill's mission to demystify alcohol's effects on the brain explained.
  • [00:03:33] Gill shares her personal journey to sobriety, highlighting her late start to drinking.
  • [00:04:56] The role of grad school in intensifying Gill's drinking habits.
  • [00:07:57] Discussion on the early consequences of Gill's drinking and her initial denial.
  • [00:09:00] Sonia and Kathleen relate their experiences with alcohol in academic and professional settings.
  • [00:10:09] Gill confronts the reality of her increasing tolerance and its implications.
  • [00:11:34] Examination of willpower in the context of addiction and the myths surrounding it.
  • [00:14:32] Exploring the vulnerabilities and factors that predispose individuals to addiction.
  • [00:17:00] How drinking affects brain adaptability and decision-making processes.
  • [00:19:11] Gill discusses the critical phase of brain development in teens and its susceptibility to alcohol.
  • [00:20:26] Long-term effects of alcohol on brain function and recovery challenges.
  • [00:23:58] The importance of time and lifestyle changes in recalibrating the brain's reward system.
  • [00:25:14] Discussion on activities that may aid in the brain's healing process.
  • [00:28:41] Clarification on the concept of cycles of detox and its impact on addiction recovery.
  • [00:32:35] Gill's stance on moderation versus abstinence for people with a history of problem drinking.
  • [00:34:36] Comparison of the brain's response to drugs and alcohol, and the similarities in addiction mechanisms.
  • [00:35:23] The concept of behavioral addictions and the challenges they pose in recovery.

Links



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Your Questions Answered: Am I Just Replacing Drinking With Something Else?11 Apr 202400:13:27

Welcome to another Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," where your host, Sonia, delves into the complex emotions and questions surrounding the journey to sobriety. Today's focus is on a common concern among individuals in recovery: the fear of replacing one addiction with another, such as substituting alcohol with excessive running, Netflix binge-watching, or indulging in ice cream.

Insights:

  • Healthy vs. Unhealthy Activities: It's essential to evaluate new activities based on their impact on your life. Are they adding value, or are they becoming a new form of avoidance or compulsion?
  • Evaluating New Habits: Sonia provides actionable steps for assessing whether a new activity, like running, is beneficial or potentially problematic. Key considerations include examining your motivations, assessing the activity's impact on your life, ensuring balance, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking support when needed.
  • The Power of Choice and Change: The episode challenges the notion of "once an addict, always an addict," highlighting the importance of recognizing the human capacity for growth, change, and adaptation. Healthy coping mechanisms, when integrated mindfully, promote well-being and recovery.


This episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" offers a compassionate and thoughtful exploration of how individuals in recovery can navigate the process of replacing old habits with new, healthier ones. By emphasizing the importance of understanding one's motivations, seeking balance, and embracing a holistic approach to recovery, Sonia provides valuable guidance for anyone looking to build a more fulfilling and sober life.

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True Connections: The Impact of Sobriety on Friendships08 Apr 202400:34:41

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the world of friendships through the lens of sobriety. They tackle how navigating sobriety not only changes us but also shines a light on our friendships, encouraging us to think deeply about who we choose to spend our time with. This episode is all about finding the joy in discovering and nurturing relationships that truly reflect our sober selves.

Get ready to explore the highs and lows of friendship in sobriety, from the tough goodbyes to the joy of making new connections that really get it. Sonia and Kathleen will touch on important questions like how sobriety can reshape our friendships, what it means for our social lives, and how to create a circle that supports our sober journey.

Listeners will learn about the key ingredients of friendships that flourish in sobriety, including tips on how to spot the ones worth holding onto, setting healthy boundaries, and how to make new friends who share your love for a sober lifestyle. This episode is packed with advice for anyone looking to enrich their social life in a way that aligns with their sobriety.

You won’t want to miss Sonia and Kathleen share their own friendship adventures in sobriety. Their stories showcase the beautiful, sometimes messy journey of building deep, meaningful connections in sobriety.

Join us at Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to spot for making sobriety feel like the ultimate friendship adventure. Don't forget to swing by our substack for all the best sobriety tips, tricks, and tales. We’re all about helping you find your tribe and keep your sobriety journey fun and fulfilling.

Highlights:

  • [00:01:59] The conversation shifts to how sobriety transforms friendships and the need to reevaluate relationships.
  • [00:02:17] Kathleen emphasizes the journey of peeling back layers of oneself in recovery and its impact on friendships.
  • [00:03:18] The hosts discuss the importance of understanding how sobriety reshapes personal connections.
  • [00:04:08] Sonia delves into how sobriety can deepen some friendships while leading to the end of others.
  • [00:05:08] A discussion on the isolation and loneliness that can accompany sobriety, and how to navigate these feelings.
  • [00:06:19] Kathleen shares her personal story of how her friendships changed dramatically after she stopped drinking and using drugs.
  • [00:07:28] Sonia talks about her initial isolation in sobriety and how she gradually built a new social circle.
  • [00:09:49] The hosts explore normal feelings about changing friendships post-sobriety and how to deal with them.
  • [00:11:18] Kathleen gives advice on how to discuss sobriety with friends who still drink.
  • [00:12:56] Sonia reflects on the importance of finding a sober community to combat feelings of isolation.
  • [00:14:12] A candid conversation about when and how to let go of friendships that challenge sobriety.
  • [00:16:19] Discussion on recognizing signs that a friendship may not be conducive to recovery.
  • [00:17:29] The impact of social media on sobriety and friendships, exploring both the positive aspects and potential triggers.
  • [00:19:09] How to approach a friend you believe may have a drinking problem.
  • [00:21:07] Kathleen recounts how her social circle and partying habits changed after she became sober.
  • [00:23:36] Sonia provides tips on building new, healthy friendships in recovery.
  • [00:25:20] The significance of having sober friends and the positive impact they can have on one’s recovery journey.
  • [00:27:15] A discussion on navigating social situations and gatherings as a sober individual.
  • [00:30:34] Closing thoughts on how sobriety can improve the quality and depth of friendships, even with those who aren't in recovery.

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Habit Hacks: Transforming Your Relationship with Alcohol01 Apr 202400:42:02

Join Sonia and Kathleen on a lively journey into the world of breaking free from the cycles of alcohol use in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, by shining a light on the patterns that can ensnare us and offering hope for breaking free. The episode poses crucial questions that resonate with many: What are the cycles of drinking that keep us trapped in a loop of consumption and abstinence? How can we identify and confront our triggers to break free from these patterns? And crucially, what steps can we take towards lasting change, moving beyond mere recognition of the problem to actively reshaping our relationship with alcohol? 

Join us as we explore the power of mindfulness, habit change, and the support of community in reclaiming our lives from the grip of alcohol. They're here to chat, share, and dive deep into how we can spot those sneaky habits that keep us in a loop and how to jump off that not-so-merry-go-round for good. 

Listeners will leave this episode armed with key insights into cycle breaking, trigger identification, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms. The episode demystifies the process of changing ingrained behaviors, offering practical advice on creating a supportive environment for recovery. Through an understanding of habit loops and the importance of small, consistent changes, the episode illuminates the path toward a life unburdened by alcohol.

In this episode is Sonia’s personal story, a raw and real look at the journey through the lens of someone who’s walked the path. 

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety, where we're all about making changes, finding joy, and supporting each other in the journey away from alcohol. Don’t forget to swing by our substack for more tips, stories, and a little extra sunshine for your day. See you there!

Highlights:

  • [00:01:44] - Discussion on the importance of recognizing and confronting unhealthy patterns of drinking.
  • [00:02:12] - The concept of mindfulness in confronting triggers and making lasting habit changes is introduced.
  • [00:03:10] - Kathleen explains the cycle of drinking: from initial overuse to attempts at moderation, and the frustrating return to old habits.
  • [00:04:30] - Sonia dives into what "cycle breaking" means and the steps involved in actively changing one's relationship with alcohol.
  • [00:07:29] - Sonia shares her personal story of daily cycles of anxiety, drinking, and the temporary relief it brought, highlighting the challenges of breaking free.
  • [00:10:11] - Strategies for becoming more mindful of alcohol consumption, including the importance of tracking drinking habits.
  • [00:13:40] - Kathleen shares techniques for managing cravings and urges to drink through distraction and delay tactics.
  • [00:17:08] - Sonia reflects on the process of acknowledging triggers and the role of honest self-reflection in cycle breaking.
  • [00:20:08] - Discussion on the significance of understanding the root causes of one’s drinking patterns and whether delving into the past is essential for recovery.
  • [00:23:25] - The therapeutic journey of connecting past experiences to current behaviors and how therapy can aid in uncovering and addressing these connections.
  • [00:27:57] - Kathleen recounts how her triggers and cycles evolved over time, illustrating the complexity of addiction.
  • [00:31:29] - Sonia discusses the importance of not panicking in response to emotional triggers as a step towards breaking the cycle.
  • [00:33:32] - The role of routine and structure in supporting recovery efforts, including the concept of habit stacking, is explored.
  • [00:37:54] - The importance of forgiveness, both of oneself and others, in the recovery journey and how it can impact cycle breaking.
  • [00:38:11] - How to build and leverage a support system for breaking cycles, including the different forms that support can take.
  • [00:40:13] - Sonia highlights the "delay and distract" technique as a memorable takeaway for managing cravings.
  • [00:41:05] - Kathleen emphasizes the value of small, manageable steps in the process of changing habits and breaking cycles.
  • [00:42:00] - Closing remarks, summarizing the episode's key messages and encouraging listeners to seek support and resources available through Sisters in Sobriety.
  • [Throughout] - The episode is punctuated by relatable anecdotes, practical advice, and supportive dialogue that underscores the theme of community and mutual support in the journey to sobriety.


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Your Questions Answered: I Just Had A Slip! What Should I Do?27 Mar 202400:09:58

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we delve into the complexities of relapse, or as some prefer, a return to use or a slip. Patricia shares her recent experience of drinking after a period of sobriety, grappling with feelings of guilt, shame, and disappointment. This moment opens a door to discussing the importance of acknowledging these emotions as part of many people's journeys, emphasizing the necessity of self-compassion and the avoidance of self-judgment.


 Insights:

  • Acknowledgment Without Judgment: We explore the significance of acknowledging a slip as a fact rather than a moral failing. This approach helps us heal and grow by observing our experiences without harsh self-criticism, much like observing clouds in the sky - they pass without defining the sky.
  • Reflect, Learn, and Adapt: We delve into the importance of reflection to understand triggers and stressors that led to the slip. This insight acts as a roadmap for fortifying recovery strategies and making necessary adjustments to our plans, coping mechanisms, and environments.
  • Reaffirming Your 'Why': Rediscovering the reasons behind choosing sobriety can reignite motivation. This segment emphasizes reconnecting with one's 'why' to refuel determination and remember the life one is striving to build.


This episode underscores that recovery is a journey marked by moments of vulnerability, learning, and growth. Patricia's story and the insights shared illuminate the path forward, reminding us that we are not defined by our slips but by our resilience and the compassionate strides we take towards sobriety. In embracing this journey with empathy and support, we move closer to becoming the best versions of ourselves, together.

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What Science Really Says About Recovery With Dr. John Kelly13 Oct 202500:57:50

Harvard’s Dr. John Kelly joins Sisters in Sobriety to unpack the science of recovery, language, and what really works long-term.

Addiction recovery isn’t a mystery—it’s a science. Dr.Kelly, Professor of Psychiatry in Addiction Medicine and Founder of the Recovery Research Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital. Together, they explore what the data actually shows about recovery, relapse, language, and long-term healing—and how our understanding of addiction has evolved far beyond stigma and shame.

Throughout this conversation, Sonia and Kathleen unpack big questions about recovery and remission: Is addiction really a chronic disease—or does that label sometimes hurt more than it helps? How does the language we use—terms like “abuser,” “addict,” or even “clean”—impact recovery outcomes? And what does the evidence say about the effectiveness of AA compared to other programs and modern approaches to long-term sobriety?

They talk about key scientific and psychological concepts such as behavioral mechanisms of recovery, language-based stigma reduction, chronic disease framing, psychosocial support networks, and gender differences in relapse and recovery. Dr. Kelly explains why AA remains the most evidence-based recovery tool for alcohol use disorder, how social connection drives sustained remission, and why linking clinical care to community-based supports is critical to long-term success.

In the personal story segment, Sonia shares how fear of stigma once kept her from seeking help while she was still a practicing dentist—and how Dr. Kelly’s research validates those fears and offers a new framework for compassionate understanding. Together, they discuss what’s changing in the recovery landscape—from virtual meetings to redefining “recovery” itself—and how science is helping rewrite the story of what healing can look like.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.
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Episode Highlights (Time-Stamped)

00:00 – Sonia and Kathleen introduce Dr. John Kelly, Harvard Professor and Founder of the Recovery Research Institute.
01:30 – Dr. Kelly shares how personal experience drew him to addiction medicine.
03:10 – Why short-term treatment isn’t enough—and the importance of long-term recovery support.
04:20 – Understanding the “chronic disease” model of addiction: when it helps and when it harms.
05:45 – The surprising statistic: 72% of people with substance use disorders achieve sustained remission.
06:50 – How language shapes stigma—why “abuser” versus “person with a substance use disorder” matters.
08:40 – Studies showing clinicians and the public are both biased by the words we use.
10:30 – How self-stigma can lead to treatment dropout and hinder recovery.
12:15 – The neuroscience of addiction: how chronic exposure changes the brain.
14:10 – Why clinicians need better training in screening, coding, and compassionate documentation.
17:00 – Sonia shares her personal fear of seeking help due to professional stigma.
18:20 – What “recovery” really means—and how to define it beyond remission.
21:40 – Dr. Kelly’s analogy of photosynthesis and “psychosynthesis” in human recovery.
24:00 – What decades of research show about AA’s effectiveness and why it works.
26:40 – The difference between process addictions and substance use disorders.
27:40 – AA’s abstinence roots—and how it evolved over time.
31:10 – Who benefits most from AA, and who might need alternative programs.
34:00 – Comparing AA to Smart Recovery, LifeRing, and Women for Sobriety.
39:00 – The science behind why AA works: social networks, coping skills, and self-efficacy.
43:30 – Gender differences in recovery: how AA supports women differently than men.
48:00 – Dr. Kelly’s current research on relapse after long-term remission.
51:00 – His vision for an integrated, wraparound system of recovery support.
54:00 – How to reach the 80% of people with untreated addiction.
56:00 – The future of virtual recovery meetings and what researchers are exploring next.
57:00 – Final reflections on redefining recovery and sustaining remission over a lifetime.

Dr. Kelly's Links

🔗 Recovery Research Institute
🔗 Cochrane Systematic Review: Alcoholics Anonymous and Other 12-Step Programs
🔗 Cochrane Author Interview with Dr. John Kelly

SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

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The Sobriety Diet: Understanding Nutrition’s Impact with Dr. Brooke Scheller25 Mar 202400:53:47

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we're diving into the transformative journey of balancing nutrition and sobriety with our special guest, Dr. Brooke Scheller, a pioneer in the field of clinical nutrition with a focus on sobriety. Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through an enlightening discussion on how to harness the power of functional foods to not only manage alcohol consumption but to thrive in your recovery journey.

Throughout the episode, we'll be exploring pivotal questions: How can nutrition profoundly impact your sobriety? What are the myths surrounding alcohol consumption and health? And how can the intentional inclusion of functional foods in our diet support not just our physical well-being, but our emotional and psychological recovery as well? These questions will uncover the interconnectedness of diet, health, and sobriety, shedding light on common misconceptions and empowering you with knowledge. This conversation is not just about abstaining from alcohol; it's about nurturing the body and mind to foster a resilient, sustainable sober lifestyle.


Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the effects of alcohol on nutrient absorption, the importance of a balanced diet in managing cravings, and the role of specific functional foods in enhancing overall well-being. This educational journey is designed to inspire and inform, helping you make informed decisions about your health and recovery.


Dr. Scheller shares her personal story, providing a candid look at her own challenges and triumphs in the realm of nutrition and sobriety. This intimate narrative promises to resonate with many, offering hope and practical strategies for those navigating their own paths to wellness.

*Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition, stands at the forefront of a transformative movement in health and wellness. As the esteemed founder of Functional Sobriety and the author of "How to Eat to Change How You Drink," Dr. Scheller has dedicated her career to revolutionizing the approach to alcohol recovery and holistic well-being.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.



Highlights:

  • [00:02:06] Dr. Scheller's unique approach to combining nutrition with sobriety efforts is outlined, highlighting the importance of diet in managing alcohol consumption.
  • [00:02:49] Brooke shares her personal motivation for writing her book and diving deep into the relationship between eating habits and drinking behavior.
  • [00:03:30] Discussion on the struggle with alcohol and the realization of its impact on mental health and professional integrity.
  • [00:04:16] Brooke's journey from research on substance use disorders to personal sobriety, highlighting the role of nutrition and supplements.
  • [00:06:32] Exploration of high-functioning alcoholism and the difficult decision to quit drinking, shedding light on the complex dynamics of success and substance dependence.
  • [00:10:19] Debunking common misconceptions about alcohol's impact on health, emphasizing the widespread physiological effects beyond liver damage.
  • [00:14:03] Discussion on persistent myths about alcohol, including the misleading belief in moderate drinking benefits for health.
  • [00:16:38] Challenging the notion of "everything in moderation," especially in the context of alcohol consumption and its universal harm.
  • [00:20:44] Insights into the various types and effects of alcohol, debunking the myth of "healthier" alcoholic beverages.
  • [00:22:17] The connection between alcohol consumption and nutrient depletion, and its profound effects on the body's functions.
  • [00:25:27] The psychological and physiological repercussions of using alcohol as a stress relief tool, emphasizing its counterproductive nature.
  • [00:29:23] Highlighting the statistic that 95% of alcoholics may suffer from low blood sugar, exploring its implications for cravings and recovery.
  • [00:32:54] The critical role of the gut microbiome in overall health and how alcohol adversely affects it, underlining the need for dietary intervention in sobriety.
  • [00:37:49] Introduction of the concept of "functional foods" and their significance in supporting sobriety and physical well-being.
  • [00:41:18] Explanation of drinking archetypes (social, stress, habitual drinkers) to help listeners identify their patterns and find tailored nutrition advice.
  • [00:45:29] How functional foods directly influence mood, decision-making, and, by extension, alcohol consumption habits.
  • [00:48:19] Brooke offers practical tips for integrating functional foods into one's diet without feeling overwhelmed, advocating for incremental changes.


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Beyond Willpower: The Role of Medication in Alcohol Recovery18 Mar 202400:47:54

This episode, delves into the innovative realm of medically assisted treatment for alcohol use disorder with guest, Jonathan Hunt Glassman, the visionary behind OAR Health. This episode promises to enlighten listeners about the scientific and personal dimensions of recovery, offering a new perspective on the role of medication in the path to sobriety.


The conversation aims to address common curiosities surrounding recovery options beyond traditional methods. It explores naltrexone, a medication used in treating alcohol use disorder, examining its place within a holistic approach to recovery. The episode poses critical questions about integrating medically assisted treatment with therapy and lifestyle changes, underscoring the importance of personalized recovery plans.

Listeners can expect to gain valuable insights into combining naltrexone with psychotherapy and other support mechanisms to create a comprehensive treatment strategy. The episode highlights the significance of tailoring recovery efforts to fit individual needs and preferences, emphasizing the diversity of effective recovery paths.

Featuring compelling narratives of individuals who have experienced significant transformations through medically assisted treatment, the episode showcases the profound impact of incorporating medication into the recovery process. These stories not only provide educational value but also offer inspiration, demonstrating the multifaceted nature of recovery and the potential for renewal and change.

*Jonathan Hunt-Glassman is the CEO of Oar Health, which makes it private and convenient for people who want to drink less or quit to get access to safe, effective medication proven to help. Jonathan founded Oar to help others get access to the same medication that helped him take back control over alcohol after struggling with alcohol misuse for most of his adult life. 


Sisters in Sobriety serves as a supportive community for women seeking to alter their relationship with alcohol. The podcast encourages its audience to visit their substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that foster hope and encouragement on the journey toward sobriety.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:37] - Introduction of Jonathan Hunt Glassman, founder of OAR, and discussion on naltrexone.
  • [00:03:09] - Exploring the impact of naltrexone on redefining recovery pathways.
  • [00:03:28] - Jonathan shares his personal journey and the inspiration behind starting OAR.
  • [00:04:59] - Discussion on the historical approach to treating alcohol dependence and the evolution towards medication-assisted treatments.
  • [00:07:42] - The shift in understanding addiction as a chronic brain disease and its treatment implications.
  • [00:10:14] - Exploring the diversity of recovery goals beyond abstinence.
  • [00:11:53] - Detailed explanation of how naltrexone works and its benefits.
  • [00:14:21] - Addressing the under-prescription of naltrexone and exploring reasons behind it.
  • [00:17:18] - Introduction to the Sinclair Method and its application in ORR's treatment plans.
  • [00:19:33] - A typical initial treatment plan at ORR, combining naltrexone with psychosocial support.
  • [00:22:25] - The ongoing support and resources provided by OAR post-initial treatment.
  • [00:24:28] - Addressing common side effects of naltrexone and how to manage them.
  • [00:26:16] - Jonathan's approach to defining and managing relapse or return to use among patients.
  • [00:30:13] - Strategies for addressing the stigma and public perception challenges of medically assisted treatment.
  • [00:32:12] - Advice for individuals hesitant about changing their relationship with alcohol.
  • [00:34:25] - The synergy between naltrexone and psychotherapy or holistic approaches in treatment.

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Your Questions Answered: Rebuilding Trust In Relationships14 Mar 202400:10:36

In this Q&A session, we'll talk about reconciling past behaviors influenced by alcohol, and the path to healing without shame or guilt. We'll discuss the importance of moving forward, offering heartfelt advice on apologizing, rebuilding trust, and self-kindness throughout recovery.
Topics discussed are:


  • Understanding Apologies in Recovery: Learn how to apologize for past mistakes while respecting your sobriety journey. We explore how sincerity, accountability, and acknowledging the impact of your actions can pave the way for meaningful amends. 
  • Rebuilding Trust: Hear inspiring stories from individuals who have successfully rebuilt trust in their relationships post-sobriety. From Alex's commitment to open communication and therapy to Anne's heartfelt letters and engagement in family activities, these stories highlight the power of consistent behavior change and transparency in mending relationships.
  • Managing Guilt and Shame: Discover effective techniques for dealing with guilt over past actions. The episode covers the importance of apologies, self-forgiveness, mindfulness,  and engaging in peer support to navigate these challenging emotions


Thank you for joining another episode of "Sisters in Sobriety." Remember, you're not alone on this journey. The path to recovery is paved with challenges, but with the right support and dedication to healing, it's possible to rebuild trust, manage guilt, and move forward with integrity and kindness.


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Breaking the Cycle: Transforming Family Dynamics in Recovery (Featuring - Samantha Barnes)11 Mar 202400:50:25

In today’s episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Samantha Barnes, a Registered Psychotherapist with over two decades of experience. Samantha brings an invaluable perspective on guiding families through the tribulations of addiction. Their conversation illuminates the profound effects of addiction on family dynamics, highlighting the pathways to recovery and the indispensable role of communication and support.

Samantha shares insights into how addiction reshapes relationships within the family, especially impacting children, and offers strategies for families to navigate these challenging times. The discussion reveals how addiction influences children’s roles within the family, fostering environments of secrecy and instability, which can significantly affect their self-esteem and ability to form healthy relationships.

Listeners will discover the critical importance of self-care in recovery, learning that taking care of oneself is not an act of selfishness but a foundation for being able to support others. Samantha stresses the significance of supportive environments and provides practical advice for building strong family connections despite the hurdles posed by addiction. Key concepts include viewing addiction as a disease, the necessity of honest conversations about addiction with children, and expanding the definition of self-care to include reaching out for support and prioritizing one’s well-being.

The episode also addresses the complexities surrounding "mommy wine culture," challenging the normalization of alcohol use as a coping mechanism for parenting stress. Samantha emphasizes the need for redefining self-care and seeking genuine support systems that respect individual needs in the journey toward sobriety.

Furthermore, they delve into the importance of having open, age-appropriate conversations about alcohol and drug use with children and teenagers, highlighting the value of early discussions to foster a safe and understanding family environment. Samantha’s advice underscores the significance of creating a non-judgmental space where family members can express their emotions and struggles freely.


Join them for an enlightening episode filled with empathy, guidance, and a deep dive into the challenges and triumphs of overcoming addiction within the family. Don’t forget to check out our substack for additional resources, tips, and support on your journey to change your relationship with alcohol.


*Samantha Barnes is a Registered Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor with over two decades of experience working with children, youth, and families on their wellness journeys. She leads a small group practice based in Barrie, Ontario, dedicated to supporting both local families and those across Ontario through virtual services. Her practice offers individual, couples, and family counseling, in addition to hosting a variety of workshops and events tailored for children and parents. To learn more about her work or to get in touch, visit her website at www.sweetspotcounselling.com or follow her on social media at @sweetspotcounselling.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:36] Discussion on addiction's impact on family dynamics begins.
  • [00:04:34] Samantha explains the ripple effect of changing a family dynamic.
  • [00:06:00] Insights into the specific effects of addiction on children.
  • [00:07:28] Sonia addresses the misconception about "functional" alcoholism.
  • [00:08:21] Challenges kids face in forming healthy relationships.
  • [00:10:34] The impact of addiction on children's self-esteem.
  • [00:14:16] Exploring the nuances of sobriety and parenting responsibilities.
  • [00:18:07] Importance of self-care in the journey of sobriety.
  • [00:22:35] Recommendations for managing stress and triggers.
  • [00:26:19] Advice on building supportive environments for sobriety.
  • [00:27:17] Discussing how to talk to children about addiction and recovery.
  • [00:33:41] Importance of open conversation about drugs and alcohol with teenagers.
  • [00:37:14] Explaining addiction as a disease to children.
  • [00:40:37] Discussion on the "mommy wine culture."
  • [00:44:23] Finding new activities and communities in sobriety.
  • [00:46:13] Final advice from Samantha on not giving up in finding supportive spaces.

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Your Questions Answered: How Can I Be More Mindful Of My Drinking?07 Mar 202400:13:29

In this insightful Q&A episode, we delve into a commonly asked question regarding the desire to cultivate a more mindful relationship with alcohol without fully committing to sobriety. We understand that the journey towards altering one's drinking habits is deeply personal and not a one-size-fits-all. This episode is especially tailored for individuals identifying as "gray area drinkers" who are looking to redefine their relationship with alcohol through moderation rather than abstinence. We explore what it means to be mindful about alcohol consumption and how it differs from total abstinence, addressing the significant, often overlooked segment of our community seeking moderation. We offer actionable tips and strategies to help you navigate moderation. This episode is a must-listen for anyone contemplating moderation or seeking to maintain a mindful relationship with alcohol. Whether you're taking your first steps towards moderation or looking for ways to sustain it, you'll find valuable insights and support in our community's shared experiences and strategies.

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Marking Progress: The Power of Sobriety Milestones04 Mar 202400:27:48

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen delve into the pivotal role of celebrating sobriety milestones, emphasizing how each milestone, whether it's the first day sober or decades of sobriety, symbolizes a significant victory in the journey of recovery. They explore the varied meanings of sobriety milestones, how these commemorations serve as markers of personal growth, healing, and self-discovery, and the impact of milestones on mental health and overall well-being.

Listeners will gain insight into the importance of recognizing and honoring their own milestones, understanding that these are not merely about the absence of alcohol but are reflective of the hard work, resilience, and transformation experienced along the way. Sonia and Kathleen also share their personal stories, highlighting how milestones have shaped their own sobriety journeys, offering listeners a blend of practical advice, encouragement, and inspiration. Expect to walk away with a new appreciation for your journey and practical tips for celebrating your own milestones.

They remind us that sobriety isn't just a series of dates but a deeply personal journey filled with growth, learning, and plenty of memorable moments."Sisters in Sobriety" invites its audience to reflect on their own milestones and the profound journey of sobriety. Join them on their Substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that support women in changing their relationship with alcohol.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:27] Discussion on the essence of sobriety being more about personal growth than just abstaining from alcohol.
  • [00:03:32] Sonia explains the importance of celebrating sobriety milestones as acknowledgments of progress and healing.
  • [00:04:07] Kathleen adds the psychological benefits of recognizing sobriety milestones, emphasizing their positive impact on mental health.
  • [00:05:28] Variability in the significance of sobriety milestones among different individuals is explored.
  • [00:06:32] Kathleen discusses personal milestones beyond conventional dates, focusing on life seasons and personal development.
  • [00:07:26] Personal significance of sobriety milestones and their impact on Kathleen's journey.
  • [00:08:14] Sonia shares her unique approach to sobriety and divorce milestones, highlighting personal growth.
  • [00:09:13] The initial challenges and fears associated with early sobriety milestones.
  • [00:10:37] Sonia's recount of her first major milestones in sobriety and their personal significance.
  • [00:12:34] Creative ways to celebrate sobriety milestones that resonate with individual journeys.
  • [00:14:18] Addressing the challenges of feeling unworthy of celebration during difficult times in recovery.
  • [00:15:47] The role of sharing sobriety milestones in building community and inspiring others.
  • [00:16:53] Kathleen shares her preference for non-tangible milestones and reflects on significant life changes.
  • [00:19:05] Discussion on setting personal goals within the context of sobriety and recovery.
  • [00:21:31] Sonia talks about non-traditional milestones that are personally significant in recovery.
  • [00:22:33] The importance of gratitude in celebrating sobriety milestones and its overall role in a fulfilling life.
  • [00:23:34] Sonia reflects on how her perspective on celebrating milestones has evolved with her sobriety journey.

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Your Questions Answered: Now What? Navigating Sobriety Fatigue29 Feb 202400:09:56

In this special Q&A episode, we tackle the pivotal question: "Now what?" After laying the foundation for a sober life, many find themselves searching for what comes next. We delve into practical strategies for breathing new life into the sobriety journey. Our host shares actionable advice on overcoming the feeling of stagnation by discovering new hobbies and interests that align with a sober lifestyle. We explore how to create fulfilling routines, the benefits of engaging with supportive communities, and the joy of rediscovering old passions through a fresh perspective. This episode serves as a roadmap for anyone looking to enrich their recovery with meaningful activities and connections, encouraging listeners to embrace the possibilities that sobriety offers.

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Your Questions Answered: Navigating Cravings28 Feb 202400:11:17

In this special Q&A episode, we delve into strategies for handling urges to drink during high-stress periods, categorizing approaches into immediate, need-help-now tactics and long-term, resilience-building strategies. We’ll highlight creating a personalized emergency plan with activities, support contacts, mindfulness and grounding exercises, physical activities, creative engagement, comfort kits, and self-reminders of sobriety's benefits. Additionally, we’ll discuss establishing healthy routines, identifying triggers, practicing self-compassion, and seeking professional help as part of long-term recovery support.

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Coloring Outside the Lines: Creativity in the Sobriety Journey26 Feb 202400:29:23

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, join Sonia and Kathleen as they discuss the intersection of art and sobriety. Discover how creativity becomes a sanctuary, offering solace and self-expression to those navigating the complexities of recovery. With their warm and insightful guidance, they'll show you how art can transform the recovery experience, making it more vibrant and fulfilling.


Dive deep into the heart of this episode as we explore pivotal questions: How can art aid in healing and recovery? What makes creative expression a powerful tool for emotional and psychological well-being? How do individuals find their unique artistic voice in their sobriety journey? Sonia and Kathleen tease out these inquiries, shedding light on the profound impact creativity has on the path to wellness.

Listeners will walk away with valuable insights into key concepts such as the therapeutic benefits of engaging in art, the role of creative activities in developing resilience and coping strategies, and how art therapy can be integrated into recovery programs. This episode is rich with educational takeaways, emphasizing the accessibility of art as a healing tool, regardless of one’s artistic skill level.

The personal story segment is a highlight, featuring Sonia’s own journey with art as a pivotal element of her recovery. Listeners will find inspiration and perhaps see reflections of their own experiences. T


This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources, where we continue the conversation, offering more depth, encouragement, and companionship on your journey to a healthier relationship with alcohol through the power of creativity and shared experiences.

Highlights:

  • [00:03:32] Kathleen's insights on how art intersects with sobriety.
  • [00:05:17] Sonia's perspective on art as a medium for emotional expression.
  • [00:07:19] Personal impact of art on Sonia's recovery journey discussed.
  • [00:08:28] Kathleen shares her own creative outlets and their therapeutic effects.
  • [00:10:04] Sonia shares her realization of the newfound time and possibilities post-sobriety.
  • [00:12:14] Exploration of various artistic pursuits Sonia engaged in during her recovery.
  • [00:13:24] Encouragement for listeners to find their artistic pursuits.
  • [00:14:50] Discussion on the importance of exploring creativity regardless of skill level.
  • [00:18:15] Sonia delves into her personal evolution through photography and writing.
  • [00:20:33] Kathleen talks about the psychological and emotional benefits of creative activities.
  • [00:23:34] Explanation of formal art therapy sessions and their benefits.
  • [00:25:49] How art and creativity foster a sense of community in recovery.
  • [00:27:02] Reflecting on the episode's takeaways about creativity and brain chemistry.
  • [00:21:40] Discussion on art as a stress relief and mindfulness practice.
  • [00:24:39] Sonia on finding new aspects of her identity through art during recovery.

Links

Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community
Sisters In Sobriety Email 

Sonia's EverBlume Website
Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram

Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*
Kathleen’s Instagram




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The Sober Professional: Building Your Career Alcohol-Free19 Feb 202400:34:50

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are diving into the world of work and sobriety, chatting about how our jobs and careers can play a big role in our journey towards a sober life. They're here to share laughs, stories, and tips on keeping your sobriety on track amidst deadlines and work functions.


Get ready to ponder some juicy questions: Can our careers really affect our sobriety? How do you dodge the wine at work events? And what's the best way to deal with stress without reaching for a drink? Sonia and Kathleen have got some thoughts!

You'll walk away with some handy advice on setting boundaries at work, finding supportive buddies in the office, and mastering the art of self-care to keep the stress (and the booze) at bay.

Diving deeper into their personal stories, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own sobriety and work-life journeys, sharing the highs, lows, and all the moments in between. They discuss how their careers impacted their sobriety, from the pressures of work events filled with alcohol to the challenges of maintaining balance in high-stress environments.

And...join us for our exciting MOCKTAIL SEGMENT, where we'll indulge in tasting and reviewing two delightful mocktails, offering a refreshing twist on your favorite beverages without the alcohol.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your go-to place for making sobriety and work-life not just manageable, but enjoyable. Don't forget to check out our substack for more tips, guidance, and sobriety support!


Highlights 

[00:01:48] Discussion on work and sobriety as part of one's identity.

[00:02:46] The challenge of balancing professional life with sobriety.

[00:03:41] Work cultures that value partying as a challenge.

[00:04:35] The empowerment found in navigating work stress soberly.

[00:06:27] Kathleen shares her experience balancing professional life and sobriety.

[00:07:39] Sonia discusses her stressors and triggers related to work and sobriety.

[00:10:14] Sonia's story of selling her business and its impact on her sobriety.

[00:11:32] Discussion on baseline mental health and workplace stress.

[00:13:48] Sonia and Kathleen talk about workplace triggers and coping mechanisms.

[00:17:38] Insight into Kathleen’s experience in corporate socializing and sobriety.

[00:19:56] Managing professional relationships previously intertwined with alcohol.

[00:22:18] Strategies for navigating work events where alcohol is present.

[00:23:27] Disclosing a substance use disorder in the workplace.

[00:27:28] Introduction to tasting mocktails segment.

[00:28:50] Tasting and review of Gruvi Dry Secco.

[00:31:06] Tasting and review of Gruvi Bubbly Rosé.



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Feng Shui, Crystals & Biophilic Living with Alejandra Brady06 Oct 202500:59:44

When it comes to transforming your environment, the energy of a space can be just as powerful as its aesthetics. On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we explore how intentional design, Feng Shui, and spiritual alignment can support wellness, recovery, and renewal. Joining Sonia is Alejandra G. Brady—Founder & Visionary of Casa Shui Life, Feng Shui & Biophilic Designer, best-selling author, and energy alchemist. With over two decades in luxury interiors, Alejandra pivoted her career after a profound awakening at age 50, weaving ancient energetic practices into her design work to help clients create sanctuaries that heal, inspire, and uplift.

In their conversation, they dive into what Feng Shui really is (beyond the myths), how our homes can impact health, relationships, and creativity, and the subtle yet powerful shifts that make a space magnetic. Together, they explore questions like: What does it mean to “sleep under knives”? Why is the bedroom the most important room for love and rest? How can unused or cluttered spaces block abundance? And how do color, light, and texture play into energy flow?

Listeners will walk away with practical takeaways on how to shift their own spaces using intentional placement, the Bagua map, biophilic principles, and crystals. You’ll learn why small choices—like moving an heirloom, clearing out old love letters, or balancing elements with plants and lighting—can have ripple effects in your health, wealth, relationships, and emotional clarity. 

Beyond the design tools, Alejandra shares deeply personal stories: her health struggles and surgeries leading up to her 50th birthday, the life-changing consultation with her mentor, and how she became her own first “Feng Shui client.” She recounts the dramatic changes in her own home, her spiritual awakening, and the unexpected calling to write her memoir I Just Can’t Make This Sh!t Up. They reflect with her on how space can heal grief, nurture sobriety, and anchor a new chapter of life with intention and beauty.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Episode Highlights

00:00 – Welcoming Alejandra Brady and her journey from luxury interiors to Feng Shui
02:00 – The health crises at age 50 that became a turning point
04:30 – Her first Feng Shui consultation and the life-changing mentorship that followed
06:15 – Why certification in Feng Shui matters when working with energy
08:00 – How meditation led to writing her memoir and oracle deck
10:00 – The surprising role of silverware under the bed and the connection to surgeries
13:30 – How clearing a client’s old love letters invited in a new partner
16:00 – Bedroom Feng Shui: rest, romance, and relaxation as the foundation
18:00 – The “coffin position” and practical adjustments for better sleep
20:30 – Why single artwork or photos can unintentionally block love
22:00 – Using crystals like rose quartz for love and amethyst for sobriety support
24:00 – Avoiding clutter while integrating crystals intentionally into design
26:00 – Protecting energy as a practitioner with crystals in everyday life
27:00 – Where to source crystals and how to clear them
29:30 – Broken objects, wealth corners, and knowing when to release or repurpose
31:00 – The dramatic story of a client healing after moving a painting of water
34:00 – Literal connections between words (“burnt out”) and home energy
36:00 – Understanding the Bagua map and the nine areas of life it represents
40:00 – How interconnected areas (wealth, career, fame) affect one another
42:00 – Using Feng Shui for both large and micro spaces—even a mattress
44:00 – The importance of keeping unused rooms alive with intention
47:00 – Creating multifunctional rooms that support family and life transitions
50:00 – How colors, textures, and the five elements (fire, water, earth, wood, metal) balance a space
53:00 – Triple-duty design: objects that bring multiple elements into balance
55:00 – Live plants vs. fake plants—what really matters energetically
56:30 – Preserved flowers, sentimental items, and when joy overrides rules
57:00 – Alejandra’s current projects, travel plans, and future online courses

Alejandra's Links

📸 Alejandra G. Brady Instagram

SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

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Relationships & Sobriety Q&A: Your Questions Answered15 Feb 202400:09:54
In this special Q&A episode, we delve into the complexities of maintaining sobriety while managing personal relationships. Through listener-submitted questions, Sonia offers insights into how sobriety can reshape dynamics, emphasizing the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, finding shared activities, and seeking external support. These practical tips aim to assist individuals and their partners in navigating the journey of sobriety together, fostering understanding and strengthening connections. This episode is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to balance their sobriety with healthy, supportive relationships.



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Socializing & Sobriety Q&A: Your Questions Answered08 Feb 202400:06:46

This special Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" focuses on navigating social situations while maintaining sobriety. Sonia, answers listener questions about handling events like work happy hours and bachelorette parties without alcohol. Key advice includes mental preparation, having non-alcoholic drinks handy, setting time limits, having a support system, and practicing self-care. Sonia emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's recovery goals and celebrating personal victories in sobriety.

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Sobriety Together: Navigating Relationships in Recovery05 Feb 202400:36:24

Welcome to an uplifting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety"! Your hosts, Sonia and Kathleen, are here to sprinkle some fun and wisdom into the discussion of sobriety and relationships. They're bringing their own brand of humor and heartfelt advice to help you navigate the world of love and friendship without alcohol. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is all about finding joy and connection in sober living.

Today, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into some of the big questions that come up when alcohol is no longer the third wheel in your relationships. How does becoming sober change your dating life? What happens to friendships when you're the only one not drinking? They'll tackle these questions with a mix of personal stories and listener experiences, making sure to keep the conversation light-hearted yet insightful.

Get ready to walk away with some tangible advice and a fresh perspective on sober socializing. Our hosts will share their top tips for navigating social gatherings alcohol-free, maintaining meaningful connections, and even enhancing relationships with honesty and vulnerability. It's all about embracing the positives that come with a sober lifestyle and how it can lead to deeper, more authentic relationships.

In our personal story segment, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own journeys through sobriety and how it's impacted their romantic and platonic relationships. They'll share the laughs, the awkward moments, and the heartwarming realizations they've had along the way. It's a candid look at the ups and downs of navigating love and friendship while staying true to your sober self.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your friendly neighborhood podcast for keeping life fun and fulfilling in sobriety. For more stories, laughs, and tips, be sure to check out our substack.

 Highlights

  • [1:19] Sonia shares her personal struggles with relationships and sobriety.
  • [1:44] Discussion on how sobriety changes relationship dynamics.
  • [2:20] Kathleen highlights the positive impacts of sobriety on relationships.
  • [00:03:10] Kathleen, as a couple's therapist, discusses the significant impact of substance abuse on relationships.
  • [00:04:11] Sonia reflects on the alignment of behavior with values in sober relationships.
  • [00:05:10] Examination of how different types of drinkers impact their relationships.
  • [00:06:08] Sonia's personal experience of alcohol's role in her early relationship.
  • [00:07:17] Kathleen shares how her drug use affected her past relationships.
  • [00:08:24] Discussion on how socializing changes post-sobriety.
  • [00:09:33] Challenges of being in social situations where others are drinking.
  • [00:10:47] Importance of communication in adjusting to a partner's sobriety.
  • [00:11:38] Discussion on how sobriety impacts communication in conflicts.
  • [00:12:42] Insights into how sobriety affects intimacy in relationships.
  • [00:14:12] Exploring personal growth in sobriety within a relationship.
  • [00:15:11] The role of self-awareness in understanding the impact of sobriety on relationships.
  • [00:16:57] Sonia's experience with personal growth and sobriety during the pandemic.
  • [00:18:29] How creative outlets like photography and writing helped Sonia in her sobriety journey.
  • [00:19:45] Sonia's ex-partner's reaction to her sobriety and the end of their relationship.
  • [00:20:31] Strategies for finding new sober-friendly activities as a couple.
  • [00:21:19] Effective communication strategies for couples in sobriety.
  • [00:23:31] Steps to rebuild trust in a relationship affected by addiction.
  • [00:25:16] Coping with feelings of betrayal in a relationship with a recovering addict.
  • [00:26:52] Preparing for and handling potential relapses in a partner's recovery.
  • [00:29:51] Addressing challenges with intimacy and trust rebuilding in sober relationships.
  • [31:03]: Supporting a partner through addiction and sobriety, and the potential for sobriety to bring partners closer.

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True North: Navigating Values on the Sober Journey29 Jan 202400:34:38

Get ready for a heart-to-heart on something we all think about but rarely chat about – our personal values! In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," your hosts Sonia and Kathleen are here to be your guides in a lively discussion. They'll help us uncover how our values can change and grow, especially through the ups and downs of sobriety. It's all about finding what truly matters to you and how it can light up your life in the most unexpected ways.

So, what's on the table today? We're diving into all things values – those little nuggets that steer our lives. Ever wondered how our values shape who we are, especially when life throws us a curveball like sobriety? How do we even figure out what our true values are, and what happens when they clash with what others expect of us? Sonia and Kathleen are ready to tackle these big questions with a mix of humor and heart.

In today's chat, you're not just listening; you're taking away some real gems to think about. We're breaking down how to spot your core values and why they're the secret sauce to making choices that really feel right. There's a little bit of soul-searching, a sprinkle of psychology, and a whole lot of real talk about how our values shift and grow, especially through the journey of recovery.

Sonia opens up about her own rollercoaster ride – from chasing what she thought she should value to discovering what truly makes her heart sing. She recounts her journey from adopting externally imposed values, such as success and financial achievement, to discovering and embracing her true values during her sobriety journey.  It's a story many of us can relate to, full of twists, turns, and those lightbulb moments that change everything.

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00:02:00 | Importance of listening to one's body and slowing down
00:03:00 | Taking steps to minimize stress and prioritize self-care
00:05:00 | Importance of defining personal values
00:06:00 | Definition of values as guiding principles
00:08:00 | Practical ways to define values through reflection and introspection
00:09:00 | Using a peak experience exercise to identify values
00:10:00 | Utilizing worksheets to explore and choose values
00:11:00 | Benefits of having defined values as a guiding force
00:12:00 | Personal values as a north star for decision making and life direction
00:12:41 | Freedom and courage as core values
00:13:18 | The changing meaning of courage
00:14:00 | James Baldwin quote: "Nothing can be changed until it is faced"
00:15:00 | Reflection on values before sobriety
00:16:00 | The emptiness of pursuing values without a why
00:17:00 | Struggling with values and feeling unfulfilled
00:18:00 | The shift in values after getting sober
00:19:00 | Embracing values that don't align with ourselves
00:20:00 | Reasons for adopting values from others
00:21:00 | The impact of cultural, societal, and familial values
00:22:00 | The value of money and its impact on self-worth
00:23:00 | Reflecting on past luxury vacations
00:24:00 | The importance of time and meaningful gestures
00:24:13 | Giving time vs. giving money
00:26:00 | Changing values in relationships
00:26:36 | Reflecting on past values
00:27:22 | How values affected relationships
00:28:00 | Sobriety as a catalyst for value shift
00:29:00 | Divorce as a reflection of values
00:30:00 | Aligning values with authentic self
00:31:00 | Techniques to define values
00:32:00 | Shifting values over time
00:33:00 | Reflecting on inherited values

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Imperfectly Sober: Embracing Self-Compassion to Navigate Recovery22 Jan 202400:34:34

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the importance of self-compassion in sobriety and everyday life. They explore the concept of self-compassion, its role in personal growth, and practical tips for implementing self-compassion practices. The conversation highlights the need to treat oneself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, and how self-compassion can lead to healthier relationships and boundaries. The episode emphasizes the power of self-compassion in overcoming setbacks and embracing one's humanity.

In today's discussion, we tackle essential questions: How do we define self-compassion in the context of recovery? What makes it different from self-indulgence or self-pity? Sonia and Kathleen explore these themes, delving into the psychology behind self-compassion and its impact on healing and growth. They discuss how self-compassion can be a transformative tool in the recovery journey, helping individuals to overcome setbacks and build resilience.

Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the balance between self-compassion and accountability, the role of mindfulness in recognizing self-critical thoughts, and strategies for nurturing a compassionate inner voice. These insights are grounded in real-life experiences and psychological principles, providing listeners with practical and empathetic approaches to integrating self-compassion into their recovery process.

Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-compassion in their sobriety journey and the challenges and victories in practicing self-kindness.

By the end of the episode, listeners will have a richer understanding of self-compassion's role in recovery, equipped with strategies and insights to apply in their own journey toward healing and growth.
 
This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

00:03:45 | Definition of self-compassion and its importance in sobriety
00:05:11 | The struggle of practicing self-compassion
00:06:00 | Reflecting on the definition of self-compassion
00:07:00 | Viewing mistakes as learning opportunities
00:08:00 | Implementing self-compassion and self-care
00:09:00 | Importance of forgiveness and understanding in self-compassion
00:09:52 | Overcoming self-loathing and trying again
00:10:06 | Personal meaning of self-compassion
00:09:55 | Questioning the point of trying again after making mistakes
00:10:30 | Differentiating between self-pity and self-compassion
00:11:13 | Allowing oneself to feel emotions without self-criticism
00:12:00 | Taking responsibility without placing blame
00:14:41 | Recognizing the significance of self-compassion in life
00:16:00 | Understanding accountability in relationships
00:19:10 | Setting boundaries based on self-compassion
00:20:02 | Identifying and enforcing hard no's in relationships
00:20:54 | The importance of self-compassion in relationships
00:21:48 | The role of mindfulness in self-compassion
00:22:46 | Practical tips for cultivating self-compassion
00:25:00 | The significance of self-compassion in sobriety
00:30:00 | The challenge of practicing self-compassion
00:32:00 | Understanding the humanness and collective nature of self-compassion
00:32:20 | None of us are perfect, showing compassion to ourselves

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Building a Sober Self-Care Toolkit: Reclaiming Joy Through Boundaries and Wellness15 Jan 202400:40:00

Welcome to "Sisters in Sobriety," where hosts Sonia and Kathleen dive into the vital topic of self-care, especially in the context of sobriety. Your hosts Sonia and Kathleen explore the essential theme of self-care in sobriety. In today’s episode, they will guide you, our dear listeners, through understanding and implementing self-care practices that nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

In this episode, they delve into pressing questions. They take self-care beyond the conventional ideas of relaxation. What role does self-care play in the journey of sobriety? And how can self-care practices evolve and adapt to life’s changes?

You'll learn about the critical aspects of self-care, including the importance of setting boundaries, the challenge of finding joy in activities outside of alcohol, and the significance of community and support in maintaining sobriety.

Get ready for a personal story segment, where Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-care. They discuss how their self-care practices have evolved over the years, especially in relation to their sobriety journey.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.


0:01:24 | Definition of self-care as caring for mental, emotional, and physical health
00:03:00 | Importance of self-care in recovery and creating a safe environment
00:03:26 | Importance of self-care tools and routines for sobriety
00:05:01 | Implementing self-care through setting boundaries and removing toxic people
00:05:56 | Self-care as treating oneself with love and nurturing
00:06:39 | Reparenting oneself and talking to oneself with kindness and compassion
00:07:00 | Challenging negative self-talk and body image issues
00:09:44 | Self-care practice of looking in the mirror and expressing self-love
00:09:58 | Kathleen reflects on her journey of self-care and sobriety.
00:13:23 | Sonia shares her self-care journey and the importance of being authentic.
00:15:00 | Sonia discusses the importance of listening to her inner voice.
00:17:00 | Kathleen explains how therapy is a form of self-care.
00:18:52 | Sonia acknowledges that self-care doesn't always feel amazing.
00:19:34 | Kathleen discusses the emotional impact of therapy sessions.
00:20:47 | Setting boundaries in self-care.
00:23:00 | Importance of "doing nothing" as self-care.
00:24:00 | Struggles with prioritizing rest and relaxation.
00:27:00 | Evolution of self-care routine over the past years.
00:29:00 | Finding connection in the sober community.
00:30:00 | Importance of sober community in sobriety journey.
00:31:00 | Challenges of having a spouse or friends who drink.
00:32:00 | Setting clear boundaries around alcohol and prioritizing sobriety.
00:33:45 | Developing a support network and expressing gratitude for support.
00:36:26 | Self-care doesn't always feel good in the moment.


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Sobriety’s Ripple Effect: Changes You Didn’t See Coming08 Jan 202400:47:13


In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the often unexpected twists and turns that accompany the journey of sobriety. They'll guide you through understanding the far-reaching impacts of choosing a sober lifestyle, revealing both the challenges and triumphs that come with this significant life change.

This episode poses critical questions: What changes, both anticipated and surprising, occur when one adopts a sober lifestyle? How does sobriety affect relationships, personal values, and daily routines? The conversation delves into these aspects, exploring how sobriety can reshape one's life, identity, and interactions with others.

You will gain insights into the complex interplay between sobriety and personal development. The episode highlights how sobriety can lead to a deeper understanding of one’s values, the importance of coping mechanisms, and the impact of sobriety on physical and mental health. These educational takeaways provide a comprehensive view of the transformative journey of sobriety.

Sonia shares her personal story of sobriety, detailing how it led to significant changes in her relationships and self-perception. This segment provides a heartfelt glimpse into the realities of navigating life's changes while maintaining sobriety, offering listeners both inspiration and relatable experiences.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.


00:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and topic of discussion
00:00:12 | Discussion about Christmas celebrations
00:01:51 | Importance of being organized and sticking to routines
00:02:33 | Conversation about expectations people have of sobriety
00:04:00 | Introduction to the challenges and unexpected changes in sobriety
00:05:00 | Detrimental effects of high expectations on sobriety
00:06:00 | Advice for those considering sobriety and managing expectations
00:08:00 | Importance of ongoing effort and seeking support in recovery
00:09:00 | Discussion about the reality of sobriety compared to expectations
00:10:00 | Personal experiences and surprises in sobriety revealed
00:10:37 | Disappointment with using alcohol to numb emotions during divorce
00:11:21 | Realization that sobriety is an ongoing process
00:11:50 | Unexpected loss of friends due to sobriety
00:12:47 | Underestimation of shame and emotional impact of sobriety
00:16:10 | Physical benefits of sobriety, such as increased energy and better sleep
00:17:21 | Positive surprises of sobriety, including more free time and discovering new hobbies
00:19:27 | Transformation of relationships, health, and daily routine through sobriety
00:21:34 | Need for therapy and treatment of anxiety and depression
00:21:55 | Whole world opening up through the process of transformation
00:21:55 | Transformation process and its impact on relationships, health, and routine
00:23:30 | Self-medicating mental health issues and addiction
00:25:22 | Physical improvements after quitting alcohol
00:26:28 | Possibility of transferring addiction to other areas
00:28:00 | Addressing underlying issues and having support to prevent addiction transfer
00:30:00 | Importance of daily routine and habits for relief
00:32:19 | Mixed impact of sobriety on relationships
00:33:00 | Shift in values as a result of clarity
00:33:24 | Desire to help others get sober and embrace second chances
00:34:34 | Transformation and growth in sobriety
00:35:20 | Lifestyle incompatibility led to growing apart and abrupt separation for Sonia
00:36:12 | Experiencing pain and feeling alienated by partner's new lifestyle
00:38:00 | Importance of valuing and supporting sobriety in relationships
00:38:59 | Changes in values and the impact on relationships in sobriety
00:39:46 | Difficulty reconciling personal growth with partner's choices
00:40:52 | Negative effects on relationships due to lifestyle differences and emotional changes
00:42:53 | Challenges in relationships due to different priorities and codependency
00:44:00 | Realization that sobriety reveals true values and identity
[00:45:28] | Fear of sharing narrative about husband leaving due to sobriety
[00:45:45] | Reframing the reason for the marriage ending
[00:46:10] | Values were revealed and not in alignment
[00:46:29] | Acceptance became easier after realizing the misalignment in values

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Dry January Tips, Tales, and Mocktail Tastes01 Jan 202400:33:26

In today’s episode, we dive into the timely topic of “Dry January” - a month dedicated to abstaining from alcohol. Kathleen will share her inspiring journey, emphasizing how a period of abstinence from drugs was the catalyst for her sobriety, and the unique challenges that alcohol presented due to its social acceptance.

Sonia will explore the various drinking patterns and the importance of recognizing when alcohol may be more than just a casual habit. We'll unpack the importance of medical advice, seeking further abstinence, and finding the right support systems. Kathleen reminds us to do our research and reflects on her all-or-nothing approach to life's indulgences, sharing how an eight-week cleanse from substances dramatically shifted her perspective.

We will chat about the benefits that come with a break from booze: the joys of waking up clear-headed, the potential for weight loss, and the overall boost to your health and relationships. But it's not all smooth sailing, as we'll also talk about the potential for a pendulum swing back to binge drinking.

We don't just theorize. We are also putting our taste buds to the test with a couple of mocktail reviews. Will the complex flavor profile of the St. James 101 bitter aperitif spritz win the day, or will the fruity notes of the Hiyo peach mango drink with natural nootropics and adaptogens come out on top? Kathleen and I have our opinions, and we're excited to sip and share.

So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic beverage, and let's explore the ins and outs of Dry January together. Maybe you'll be inspired to join the movement or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own relationship with alcohol.

And as always, we welcome your stories and insights. Be sure to find us on social media and let's continue the conversation. Ready? Let's get into it!

0:01:48 | Explanation of dry January and its benefits
0:03:20 | Tips and strategies for starting dry January
0:05:12 | Importance of reflection and goal-setting for dry January
0:06:14 | Questions to ask oneself during dry January
0:07:10 | Personal experiences with periods of abstinence
0:08:02 | Challenges and triggers for going back to drinking
0:09:44 | Factors influencing the decision to drink or be abstinent
0:12:06 | Possible outcomes of dry January: positive and negative
[0:12:47] | Epic return to drinking after abstinence discussed
[0:14:08] | Positive effects of abstinence: improved sleep, weight loss, better skin, improved relationships
[0:15:32] | Different experiences during dry January: some find it easy, others struggle
[0:16:09] | Kathleen's experience with abstinence from drugs and alcohol
[0:18:00] | Can't go a month without drinking: possible problematic drinking
[0:19:20] | Various unhealthy patterns of drinking discussed
[0:19:40] | Recommendations for those concerned about their relationship with alcohol
[0:22:23] | Reflection and mindfulness during abstinence
[0:23:24] | Discussion on the potential of dry January as a gateway to sobriety
0:25:14 | Kathleen describes the Sir James 101 Spritz beverage
0:25:36 | Kathleen and Sonia discuss the complexity and refreshing nature of the drink.
0:26:13 | They agree that the drink would be suitable for ordering at a bar.
0:27:14 | Kathleen rates the likelihood of recommending the drink as 8 or 9 out of 10.
0:28:23 | They try the Hiyo peach mango drink and discuss its taste and ingredients.
0:30:00 | Kathleen mentions the marketing of the drink towards people living a sober lifestyle.
0:31:23 | Sonia rates the likelihood of recommending the drink between 5 and 8 out of 10.
0:32:09 | Kathleen expresses that she would not consider the Hiyo peach mango drink a mocktail.
0:32:16 | They conclude that the Sir James 101 Spritz is the winner.

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Sober Holidays: Surviving & Thriving Through Christmas21 Dec 202300:36:59

Hey there, lovely listeners! It's that time of the year again, and Sonia and Kathleen are here to chat about the glitter and tinsel of the holiday season, all while keeping our glasses alcohol-free. They’re sharing our own stories and tips on how to stay sober and joyful during this festive time.

The holidays can be a jolly jumble of joy and stress, right? From the aroma of mulled cider to the clinking of glasses, we're surrounded by cheerful temptations. But fear not, they’ve got some tricks up our sleeves to stay on the merry path of sobriety. They'll delve into those sneaky triggers, like the endless parties, the sometimes overwhelming family gatherings, and even those off-hand comments from Uncle Joe about why you're not having a drink.

Mindfulness is our holiday mantra. They're talking about staying present and savoring each moment, whether it's the twinkle of Christmas lights or the laughter of friends, all without that extra glass of eggnog. And let's not forget about those surprise triggers that pop up like unannounced carolers. They've both been there and will share how they learned to navigate these situations with grace and a good sense of humor.

Setting boundaries is like wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket. They discuss why it's okay to say no to certain events or to step away for a bit of quiet time. It's all about taking care of you.

Lastly, they chat about creating new traditions that don't center around alcohol. From festive mocktails to winter walks, there are so many ways to celebrate that keep the spirit high and the spirits low.

As a special treat they have a review of two alcohol-free bellinis - Cipriani White Peach Bellini and Mingle Blackberry Hibiscus Bellini!


Join them as they laugh, share, and sip a mocktail or two!  Let's make this holiday season one filled with warmth, connection, and sober celebrations! This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 

Highlights:
0:30 | Reasons why the holiday season can be difficult for those avoiding alcohol
3:14 | How mindfulness can help with triggers
4:47 | Unexpected triggers during the holidays
5:58 | Kathleen's struggles during her first sober holiday
8:54 | Sonia's struggles during her first sober holiday
10:37 | Sonia's epic drunken Christmas fail in 2007
12:18 | Triggers for binge drinking during the holidays
13:36 | Coping mechanisms and setting boundaries to avoid binging
16:37 | How to stay sober when you’re having a tough year
17:26 | Importance of showing up and using your tools for sobriety
20:00 | Creating new traditions during holidays
21:17 | Seeking support wherever you can get it
23:32 | Alcohol-free alternatives 
25:00 | The need to address isolation and seek support if feeling isolated.
25:23 | Having a plan before entering difficult situations is crucial.
25:50 | The importance of having a plan to stay sober on New Year's Eve.
26:00 |  A review of 2 Christmas Bellinis!


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Being There Every Step of The Way: Finding Support in Sobriety18 Dec 202300:36:59

At the heart of every sobriety journey, there is a support community. Be it friends, family, or regular community groups… We all get by with a little help! So in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen discuss what true support looks like in sobriety, and how to find it.

As with everything else in sobriety, support is personal; there is no one size fits all solution. So today, Kathleen and Sonia will cover key questions to help you identify your needs: can friends and family be your main support system? What should you do if they’re not helping? What’s the difference between AA and other support communities? Is it normal to feel really uncomfortable in a group setting? And perhaps most importantly: what are the signs that you have found your people?

Throughout this episode, you will hear about different types of support systems, from in-person groups, to online communities. You will learn how accountability and story-telling can help your recovery, and understand better the difference between coaching and therapy.

Last but not least, your hosts will be sharing the fourth and final chapter of their personal story of growth, family and sobriety. Previously, Sonia and Kathleen have told you about their youth, how they became sober, and supported each other through thick and thin. Now, they share how divorce and grief can still lead to a perfect moment, made of undying strength, new life trajectories, and a whole lot of family love. You will hear it at every turn: it takes a village to stay sober in a very non-sober world.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.

Highlights:

  • What does a sobriety support system look like? (2:05)
  • Finding support through big life transitions (3:48)
  • How Kathleen became a life coach and psychotherapist (5:20)
  • When Sonia’s sobriety broke her marriage (6:23)
  • How Sonia’s system helped her maintain sobriety during her divorce (7:33)
  • “I was with her every step of the way”: support seen from the other side (8:44)
  • Hearing people’s stories to find motivation (10:07)
  • Sobriety support comes in many shapes and sizes (11:24)
  • Understanding the different types of sobriety groups (12:40)
  • What’s the difference between therapy and coaching? (13:47)
  • Signs that a group is right for you (16:55)
  • How Sonia got the idea of EverBlume (19:05)
  • Becoming a recovery coach and kicking business into action! (20:36)
  • What EverBlume looks like today (22:18)
  • Back to present time: “You stick together, you get stronger” (23:12)
  • How to recognise that you need additional support (24:53)
  • Accountability as a tool in recovery (27:58)
  • A slip doesn’t mean you are back to square one (29:20)
  • The role of friends and family in sobriety support (30:35)
  • What your close circle should not do (33:36)
  • Kathleen and Sonia’s personal takeaways (35:00)

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Storytelling, NLP, and Sobriety with Marsha W29 Sep 202501:03:58

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the power of storytelling, resilience, and rewriting our lives with special guest Marsha Vanwynsberghe. Marsha is the founder of OUTSPOKEN, a leadership platform designed to help female entrepreneurs rise as global thought leaders through coaching, writing, speaking, and publishing. As an NLP Trainer, six-time Best-Selling Author, and Boutique Publisher, she empowers her clients to rewire limiting beliefs and build confidence. Today, Sonia and Kathleen explore how her unique blend of personal story and professional expertise helps women transform pain into purpose.

Together, they unpack what it really means to share your story, the difference between wounds and scars, how emotions live in the body, and why resilience doesn’t mean going it alone. They also talk about the role of subconscious patterns in shaping our behavior, the signals cravings send us, and how practices like NLP and reframing beliefs can shift everything from self-worth to success.

Listeners will come away with practical tools for emotional processing, boundary setting, and storytelling. Key takeaways include understanding how emotions last only 90 seconds unless we attach a story, why humor and reframing are powerful tools to loosen old narratives, and how to interrupt negative thought loops with curiosity and new language. You’ll also learn how NLP helps reprogram the subconscious mind so that the conscious goals you set actually stick.

On a more personal note, Marsha opens up about her journey through family addiction, living with endometriosis, and how early experiences with shame shaped her emotional landscape. She shares how storytelling became her healing tool, what it took to forgive herself, and how she moved from silence to speaking boldly. Sonia and Kathleen also bring their own stories to the conversation, making this a raw, relatable, and uplifting episode you won’t want to miss.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Episode Highlights

00:01:00 – Marsha shares her transition from kinesiology to coaching and NLP
00:02:45 – Her experience with teen substance abuse and how it changed her family’s story
00:04:10 – The truth about resilience: why it doesn’t mean doing it alone
00:05:30 – How storytelling became a guidebook for others in similar struggles
00:07:15 – Recognizing the generational silence around addiction and shame
00:08:20 – Forgiving herself and reframing past failures
00:09:40 – Difference between telling your story “in it” vs. “on it”
00:11:10 – Wounds vs. scars: why healing requires more than time
00:13:30 – Writing a book while still in the story and how to cope
00:15:10 – Using humor to loosen the subconscious grip of painful stories
00:17:20 – How emotions live in the body and why they last only 90 seconds
00:20:10 – Identifying trigger emotions and patterns
00:23:15 – How unprocessed emotions manifest as physical illness
00:25:30 – Shame, trauma, and how blocked emotions limit joy
00:28:15 – The difference between feeding and feeling emotions
00:29:40 – What happens when people in sobriety stop numbing emotions
00:33:00 – Curiosity as a tool to manage cravings and triggers
00:36:20 – What NLP is and how it rewires subconscious beliefs
00:40:00 – The role of language in reinforcing or breaking down beliefs
00:57:00 – Visualization, manifestation, and acting “as if”

Marsha’s Links

🔗 Marsha’s Website
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SIS Links

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📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

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Embracing Who You Really Are: Reaching Emotional Sobriety11 Dec 202300:42:59

You’ve heard of early sobriety, you’ve felt the very real changes of physical sobriety… But have you come across “emotional sobriety” yet? No? Well this is your chance to learn!

Welcome back to Sisters in Sobriety, the podcast that talks about sobriety, addiction and everything in between. In this new episode, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the somewhat elusive, yet life-transforming concept of “emotional sobriety”. And if you’re not sure what that means; worry not! Today, Sonia and Kathleen help you figure out what emotional sobriety might look like for you. They also give you the tools you need to reframe your emotional mindset, acquire better coping mechanisms… And make your white-knuckling days feel like a distant nightmare!

As they discuss their own experiences with emotional sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia will also wonder: Do you have to be emotionally sober all the time? What happens if you’re not? How can you change your approach to sobriety with new routines, and mindful practices? What are the signs that you might be losing your balance in sobriety? And how can you turn the hard times into the stuff that keeps you going?

As they walk you through these delicate questions, Kathleen and Sonia also share a new chapter in their personal story of growth, as sisters-in-law and sisters in sobriety! Today, they tell you how they came together as a family, and stood side by side, through the good times and the bad.

Brace yourself for an episode rich with emotions, and life-long lessons. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

  • Defining “emotional sobriety” (1:46)
  • Emotional sobriety as a very personal thing (3:25)
  • Sonia’s first steps towards emotional sobriety (6:28)
  • From “white knuckling it” to finding support in recovery (7:45)
  • When Kathleen becomes a mom…  (9:24)
  • …And Sonia, an auntie (again!) (10:32)
  • Sonia’s first sober vacation: learning to trust yourself again (12:12)
  • Kathleen and Sonia become family (13:50)
  • Learning to practice emotional sobriety (15:57)
  • Kathleen’s day-to-day meditation tips (18:14)
  • “Turning pain into purpose” (20:36)
  • A fateful holiday to Hawaii (22:14)
  • The end of a marriage (26:00)
  • Navigating significant relationships through a divorce (28:33)
  • When relapse feels like grief (29:36)
  • Being “dry drunk”: how emotional sobriety plays into relapse (31:31)
  • Signs you might not be emotionally sober (32:35)
  • How to encourage someone to work on their emotional sobriety? (36:03)
  • “One minute at a time” (38:20)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (40:14) 


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Like a Turtle Without a Shell: Stepping Into Early Sobriety04 Dec 202300:41:06

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia talk about early sobriety, a chapter of your journey that will come with many changes! From new physical sensations, to heightened senses, early sobriety is a time for reset, and stripping your mental health to the bones.

So today, your hosts help you navigate this period of vulnerability and sober reinvention. For both Sonia and Kathleen, early sobriety was synonymous with vivid new emotional experiences and personal reckonings. So they’ll set out to answer the questions you might be pondering yourself: is quitting alcohol a “once and for all” kind of business? Or is moderate drinking an option? How to minimize situations that trigger cravings? How to continue socializing without drinking? What happens if you slip? Do you have to call that “relapse”? And during this transition, what does a good support system look like?

Let Kathleen and Sonia walk you through your first steps into sobriety, as you get acquainted with a whole new alcohol-free life! Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about healthier coping mechanisms, sober routines, mindfulness techniques, goal-setting and sobriety support networks.

This week, you will also hear the second chapter of Kathleen and Sonia's personal story of growth! Last episode, they told you about their early adult years, and Kathleen’s life-changing “rehab” experience. Today, join them again on their journey of family and sobriety, as they tell you how they met! Spoiler alert: Sonia’s brother had something to do with it. But there was still a long way to become family.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

  • Defining early sobriety (1:30)
  • Kathleen’s first dry date (4:53)
  • Sonia on her brother’s sobriety (7:01)
  • When Kathleen meets Sonia (9:04)
  • A whirlwind romance (10:52)
  • Understanding the goal of early sobriety (12:19)
  • What a healthier lifestyle looks like (15:12)
  • Why the “all or nothing” method does not work (16:25)
  • The ins and outs of seeking professional help (18:00)
  • “Triggers are everything” - how to renew your social environments (20:11)
  • When Kathleen’s engagement wreaks havoc (22:09)
  • Drinking to cope with family feuds (24:18)
  • How to host a sober wedding (24:59)
  • Connecting as a family: when Kathleen gets pregnant (26:06)
  • Sonia’s early thoughts on sobriety (29:03)
  • What to do on a hard day (30:13)
  • Why a slip carries valuable information (32:39)
  • The role of self-compassion in a slip (33:56)
  • Boundaries and a support system: your barrier against a slip (35:32)
  • Personal takes on milestones and anniversaries (36:50)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (38:34)  

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Drinking Works, Until It Doesn’t: Making The Decision to Quit.27 Nov 202300:39:29

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety! In this very first episode, meet your hosts, Kathleen and Sonia, as they bring you to the start of your sobriety journey and discuss the big question: what does it mean to quit drinking? 

Quitting is the first step of many to embrace sobriety! It is your first moment of recognition and empowerment; to let go of what is holding you back, and start building a healthier life, without alcohol. Today, your hosts cover the questions that everyone in the sober community grapples with: what does quitting mean, actually? Is it a once-and-for-all decision? What kind of drinking is considered “problematic”? How can you tell if someone is struggling with their alcohol consumption? And is an intervention a good idea? (Spoiler alert: maybe not!)

In this episode, Kathleen and Sonia also unveil their personal story of growth! Step back in time, to hear their unique tale of family and sobriety. Today, your hosts look back on their early years, reflecting on how they built their own consumption habits in childhood and young adulthood. Between their student life at the University of Toronto, blooming careers fueled by the “work hard play hard” method, and a fateful yoga retreat in Mexico… There is a lot to tell. 

Stay tuned for insights into what grey area drinking is, how habit-stacking works, what constitutes a healthy sober environment, and how you can test out sobriety on your own terms! Because in the end, what matters is that you get there, “whatever it takes” as Sonia would say.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 

Highlights:

  • What does it mean to “quit” drinking? (00:59)
  • Sonia’s early experiences with self-medicating (03:08)
  • How Kathleen grew up as an only child (04:40)
  • Using alcohol to socialize as a student (06:01)
  • Spotting the signs of an alcohol use disorder (08:02)
  • The importance of being honest with yourself (10:11)
  • Why drinking doesn’t work (11:40)
  • Unpacking the concept of “habit stacking” (12:55)
  • How environment impacts your drinking and cravings (15:22)
  • When dental school tamped down Sonia’s drinking (18:52)
  • Kathleen’s corporate career and associated parties (20:56)
  • Sonia’s slow descent into drinking (22:40)
  • A sober awakening: when Kathleen’s life took a turn (24:38)
  • The benefits of rehab (27:30)
  • Defining the concept of “grey area drinking” (29:03)
  • How to talk to a loved one about their drinking? (31:12)
  • Values as a roadmap to sobriety (33:26)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (35:46)
  • Understanding that your life can improve so much (37:10)

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Introducing Sisters in Sobriety09 Nov 202300:01:58

You know that sinking feeling when you wake up with a hangover and think: “I’m never doing this again”? We’ve all been there. But what happens when you follow through? Sonia Kahlon and Kathleen Killen will tell you, because they did it! They went from sisters-in-law, to Sisters in Sobriety.

In this podcast, Sonia and Kathleen invite you into their world, as they navigate the ups and downs of sobriety, explore stories of personal growth and share their journey of wellness and recovery. Get ready for some real, honest conversations about sobriety, addiction, and everything in between. 

Wherever you are on your sobriety journey, join them! And enjoy a weekly dose of vulnerability, mutual support... And much needed comic relief.



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Hotter Midlife Sex With Karen Bigman22 Sep 202500:44:10

Sex after 50 doesn’t have to mean slowing down — it can mean leveling up. On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Karen Bigman, a Certified Sex Educator and Sex & Dating Coach who hosts Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. Karen isn’t afraid to talk about what really goes on in the bedroom. With humor and zero shame, she helps women in midlife ditch outdated scripts, embrace their desires, and create hotter, more connected relationships — no matter their age.

They talk about all the things we wish someone had told us sooner: what changes during menopause, how to redefine intimacy, what dating looks like after divorce, and why pleasure and connection don’t come with an expiration date. Sonia asks Karen the tough (and often taboo) questions: How do you rebuild sexual confidence after a breakup? What role do hormones play in libido? How do you navigate kinks, red flags, and sober dating in midlife?

They'll give real-world insights on topics like hormone replacement therapy, the role of testosterone in women’s sexual health, how to reset after a painful sexual experience, and the importance of communication when it comes to intimacy. Karen also shares practical advice on using lube, understanding your body, exploring non-sexual intimacy, and setting healthy expectations in relationships and dating.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.

Time-Stamped Highlights

[00:01:00] Karen’s journey from divorce coach to launching Taboo to Truth
[00:02:30] The book club moment that sparked her mission to break sexual taboos
[00:03:20] Why an old flame’s comment about “women your age” lit a fire under her
[00:04:00] Struggling with orgasm and the surprising role of testosterone
[00:05:00] The doctor’s appointment — and the vibrator — that changed her life
[00:06:00] Finding inclusivity and growth in the Sexual Health Alliance community
[00:07:20] How a lingerie photo shoot helped her feel more comfortable in her body
[00:08:30] The importance of rejecting the outdated “I’m done with sex” script
[00:09:40] Hormone replacement therapy — benefits and misconceptions
[00:11:00] Body acceptance, aging, and wearing bikinis anyway
[00:12:30] Non-sexual intimacy and rebuilding after divorce
[00:14:00] What menopause really does to your vulva and clitoris
[00:15:30] The realities of dating in your 40s, 50s, and 60s
[00:17:30] Red flags to watch for when reentering the dating scene
[00:18:20] Dating sober vs. dating with “beer goggles”
[00:20:00] How to talk about STIs, sobriety, and other “taboo” disclosures
[00:23:00] Why communication about sex and money is non-negotiable
[00:26:00] Decoding kink, fantasies, and consent in midlife dating
[00:32:00] Resetting after painful or disappointing sexual experiences
[00:36:00] How to stop falling into “duty sex” patterns
[00:41:00] Why sexual incompatibility might mean relationship incompatibility
[00:42:00] Karen’s next taboo to explore: sex parties

Karen’s Links

SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

 

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A Boundary Guide With Jessica Miller15 Sep 202500:40:50

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Jessica Miller, clinical therapist and host of Mind Your Boundaries on YouTube. Jessica is a passionate boundary enthusiast who helps peacekeepers and people-pleasers set and maintain healthy boundaries with challenging family members. Together, they dive into the intersection of boundaries, emotional maturity, and sobriety—exploring how clear limits can protect recovery and build healthier relationships.

Jessica, Sonia, and Kathleen explore questions like: How do you know when a relationship is draining and could threaten your sobriety? What’s the difference between a healthy boundary and punishment? When is guilt helpful, and when is it just old conditioning? They talk about estrangement, reconciliation, and why emotional maturity matters when setting boundaries with parents, partners, and friends.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to:

  • Spot when resentment is building and use boundaries to keep relationships strong

  • Tell the difference between a request and a true boundary (and why that difference matters)

  • Recognize emotional immaturity—both in others and in yourself

  • Reframe guilt so it stops running the show

  • Use kind but firm language to hold your boundaries without turning it into a fight

Sonia and Kathleen share real-life examples of what it looks like to set boundaries with family during early sobriety, including tough moments around holidays and parenting decisions. Jessica opens up about her own two-year estrangement with her in-laws, how they reconciled, and the peace that comes from replacing resentment with clarity.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.

Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] Why Jessica started Mind Your Boundaries and the gap she saw during the pandemic
[00:03:00] Her personal journey from “too nice” peacekeeper to boundary-setting advocate
[00:04:00] The painful estrangement with her in-laws that became a turning point
[00:05:00] Reconciling after two years and doing it intentionally, step by step
[00:07:00] Sonia and Kathleen share a family birthday story that triggered years of no-contact
[00:09:00] Direct vs subtle boundaries—why sometimes you can just act instead of announce
[00:10:00] Examples of modern parenting boundaries, like holding a baby to prevent unwanted kisses
[00:12:00] Why someone else’s reaction to your boundary is about their maturity level
[00:13:00] Healthy vs punitive boundaries and how they protect relationships
[00:14:00] Sonia on how getting sober exposed just how few boundaries she had
[00:15:00] Kathleen’s “24-hour rule” with her mom and how the body signals a limit
[00:17:00] Early sobriety: why you can simply decline invitations without a big explanation
[00:18:00] The difference between avoidance and capacity-based boundaries
[00:19:00] Temporary breaks vs permanent cutoffs—and how to heal without an apology
[00:22:00] Preparing mentally and emotionally before you set or enforce a boundary
[00:24:00] Parenting examples: turning requests into real boundaries with action steps
[00:26:00] The “sandwich” script formula: attachment → limit → benefit
[00:27:00] Long-term benefit: resentment melts away and relationships feel lighter
[00:28:00] Healthy guilt vs conditioned guilt—and why picking guilt prevents resentment
[00:31:00] Hallmarks of emotional immaturity: deflection, lack of accountability, me-centered reactions
[00:34:00] Self-check: spotting moments when we might be emotionally immature
[00:38:00] Exercises for growing emotional maturity: journaling, voice notes, nervous system regulation
[00:39:00] Jessica’s printable resource: 13 common sobriety boundary scenarios with scripts

Jessica’s Links

🎥 MYB YouTube
🧰 Boundary Breakthrough Toolkit

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Making Sobriety Fun Again With Kristen McGuiness08 Sep 202500:48:12

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with bestselling author, storyteller, and coach Kristen McGuiness. Kristen is the author of 51/50: The Magical Adventures of a Single Life, her memoir about 51 dates in 50 weeks as a sober thirty-something navigating heartbreak, healing, and reinvention in Los Angeles. Today, she’s the CEO of Rise Literary and writes for outlets like The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Marie Claire

The conversation explores how Kristen created fun in early sobriety, what it took to spot red flags in dating, and how recovery can reshape your ideas of community, love, and marriage. She reflects on her wild twenties, the moment she decided enough was enough, and the role that therapy and 12-step programs played in helping her get sober for good.

Kristen shares powerful insights about creating a social life without alcohol, redefining intimacy, and staying grounded through parenting, marriage, and running a seven-figure business. She opens up about what sobriety looks like for her today, how she maintains a spiritual practice, and why community remains at the heart of her recovery.

Sonia and Kathleen also share their own dating stories and thoughts on marriage, space, and independence, making this a raw, real, and relatable episode for anyone rethinking what love and partnership look like in sobriety.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.

Time-Stamped Highlights

[00:01:00] Kristen introduces herself and shares her messy twenties before getting sober
[00:03:00] Stories of nightlife, risky behavior, and the moment she realized things had to change
[00:06:00] How therapy and 12-step programs became her entry point into sobriety
[00:09:00] Family intervention: the moment her uncles offered her a lifeline
[00:10:00] Kristen reflects on her fear of losing fun when she first got sober
[00:11:00] Building a foundation of fun in sobriety—clubbing sober and creating costumes
[00:13:00] Community as the secret weapon for staying sober and rewiring habits
[00:15:00] Loving life sober—how recovery became about joy, not just abstinence
[00:16:00] The origin story of 51/50 and how dating became a creative project
[00:18:00] Combining therapy, shamanic healing, and deep self-work while dating
[00:20:00] Redefining what she wanted in relationships and how her uncles modeled healthy masculinity
[00:23:00] Growing up emotionally in recovery and feeling “ten years behind”
[00:25:00] Realization that being single was the real adventure—not just a bridge to marriage
[00:28:00] Reinventing marriage rules: two homes, more freedom, and honest conversations
[00:30:00] Kristen’s perspective on ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and independence
[00:31:00] The role of sex in dating—when it’s meaningful and when it’s just fun
[00:34:00] How intimacy has shifted in a long-term marriage and parenting partnership
[00:38:00] Raising kids in sobriety and passing on values of service and generosity
[00:43:00] Sobriety today—spiritual practices, community, and why meetings aren’t her mainstay
[00:46:00] The importance of honesty, accountability, and spiritual tools in long-term recovery

Kristen's Links

Rise Literary website 

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Relearning Intimacy with Taylor McConnachie02 Sep 202500:53:04

This episode of Sisters in Sobriety dives into sober sex, desire, and rebuilding intimacy without substances with guest Taylor McConnachie - Registered Psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and Certified Sexologist, founder of Embodied Sexual Wellness & Psychotherapy in Simcoe, Ontario. Taylor specializes in holistic sex therapy that blends science, somatics, and the sacred to help people heal shame, navigate desire discrepancies, and cultivate empowered sexuality.

The answer questions that many sober (and sober-curious) listeners ask: What actually changes about desire and arousal in sobriety? How do somatic practices, mindful masturbation, and body scans help you get out of your head and into your body? What if there’s a desire discrepancy in a long-term relationship—or you’re dating for the first time sober and can’t tell whether you’re attracted? And how do we redefine intimacy when performance anxiety, shame, or old narratives show up?

They'll talk about clear, trauma-informed steps to rebuild sexual wellbeing: using body scans to notice sensation without judgment; practicing mindful masturbation to shift from performance to presence; understanding spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why sobriety often tilts toward responsive); approaching erectile concerns and arousal blocks through reconnection rather than quick fixes; and reframing “frequency goals” to reduce pressure and increase genuine sexual satisfaction. Expect grounded strategies that integrate attachment, somatics, and practical communication skills.

Taylor also shares personal and clinical stories—from her own journey with pelvic pain and endometriosis in a rural community with few resources to real-world examples of couples rediscovering vulnerability as the engine of intimacy. Sonia opens up about her “sober sexual debut,” fumbling, and learning to feel desire without the shortcut of alcohol. They'll unpack the grief for what sex used to feel like and the hope of what it can become with curiosity and compassion.

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00:00:43 — Why sex therapy needs to be its own specialty (and why many therapists aren’t trained to talk about sex)

00:03:10 — Taylor’s path: pelvic pain, endometriosis, and building the practice she needed but couldn’t find

00:05:02 — When a couples therapist refers to a sex therapist (scope, overlap, and teamwork)

00:07:12 — Certification matters: what AASECT tells you about training and safety

00:09:18 — Only ~14 AASECT-certified sex therapists in Canada—why that scarcity matters for care access

00:10:20 — From CBT to somatics: helping clients get out of their heads and into their bodies

00:12:05 — “Science meets the sacred”: honoring evidence while rejecting rigid pathologizing

00:14:52 — Movement as medicine: reconnecting with arousal and erection through embodied practice

00:16:48 — Pleasure after shame: the first time a client truly feels what their body can do

00:18:07 — Sober sex 101: noticing more (and why that can feel overwhelming and beautiful)

00:20:02 — Mindful masturbation as foundational homework for sober intimacy

00:22:31 — Presence over performance: rewiring dopamine loops without substances

00:23:14 — Performance anxiety myths: why sobriety can improve erectile function

00:26:12 — Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and why sobriety often shifts the balance

00:29:05 — Grieving the old high: processing disappointment when sober sex feels different

00:31:22 — Normalize the fumble: reducing shame to unlock curiosity and desire

00:34:18 — Emotional intimacy as the gateway to sexual intimacy (and how to build it)

00:37:05 — Practicing vulnerability in bite-size reps to increase safety and trust

00:40:02 — Desire discrepancy is common: moving from urgency to understanding

00:45:02 — Taking sex off the pedestal: experiments that reveal what’s really holding a relationship together

00:46:18 — First step if you feel disconnected: body scans, zero judgment, gentle repetition

Taylor's Links

📸 Instagram: @embodiedsexualwellness

🌐 Website: embodiedsexualwellness.com

SIS Links

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📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

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Breaking Negative Patterns With Cheryl Pasieka25 Aug 202500:31:50

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dig into what it really takes to move from white-knuckling it to building a life rooted in calm, purpose, and—yes—joy. They’re joined by Cheryl Pasieka, author of Climbing the Stairs: My Journey from Addiction to Pure Joy, who shares how rehab, mindfulness, and a fierce commitment to self-care helped her stop hiding behind alcohol and start living on her own terms. Cheryl brings hard-won wisdom and practical tools for women in recovery.

Across the conversation, they explore the fears that surface in early sobriety (What if I fail? What will people think?), how to set boundaries with negative energy, and what it means to choose sustainable joy over short-term relief. They touch on midlife purpose, rebuilding self-esteem, creating accountability, and why sharing your story can become someone else’s survival guide. Expect talk of relapse risk, root causes, nervous-system regulation, and using community, routine, and self-inquiry as anchors.

Listeners will learn about reflective journaling (and the game-changer of rereading old entries), building a sobriety plan you revisit every six months, using mindfulness, yoga, and meditation to regulate stress, and creating accountability check-ins with trusted friends. Cheryl explains how to identify triggers, let go of resentments, and replace people-pleasing with “put your own oxygen mask on first.” You’ll also hear a refreshing definition of joy—a daily practice of noticing, gratitude, and positive reframing—that helps prevent drift into rumination or “I’ll just have one” thinking.

Cheryl opens up about losing her mother, the spiral that followed, and the decision to go to rehab on Vancouver Island—phone surrendered, excuses stripped away.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.

00:00 – Toronto roots, quick hellos, and Cheryl’s book intro, Climbing the Stairs

02:05 – “I wanted sustainable joy”—why grief and stress made moderation impossible

03:10 – Vancouver Island rehab: no phone, no running, just the work

04:12 – The first two years: fear of failure, meetings, yoga, and perseverance

05:06 – “What if I fail publicly?”—accountability and shame in early sobriety

06:02 – Why “just cut back” advice from some doctors misses the disease entirely

07:20 – Oxygen mask first: releasing people-pleasing and caring less what others think

08:05 – The quote that sparked the memoir and a surprising push from a psychic

09:18 – From private journaling to “maybe this can help one person” publishing mindset

10:45 – Telling family and friends—acceptance, boundaries, and letting some people drift

12:02 – Owning the past: divorces, resentments, and the freedom of self-acceptance

15:04 – Root causes: self-esteem, secrets, and climbing into the hole when alone

16:10 – Defining joy: reframing the day, gratitude, and the Tim Hortons “rain vs spring” story

18:02 – Calm as part of joy: taking things as they come instead of spiraling

19:06 – Protecting energy: stepping back from chronic negativity without guilt

21:02 – The morning stack: journal, meditation, movement, and a girlfriends’ daily check-in

22:40 – Weekly accountability now, occasional counseling as needed—right-sizing support

23:36 – “Planting my own garden”: self-care as not waiting for permission (or flowers)

24:12 – Midlife meaning: six-month reviews, giving back, quilting for folks in need

27:02 – The power of rereading journals: past you showing present you the way through

Cheryl's Links

www.journeytopurejoy.ca

SIS Links

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Your Wellness Blueprint with Dr. Rao18 Aug 202500:55:11

Sonia and her guest, Dr. Jyothi Rao, are diving into the kind of whole-body wellness that actually sticks. Dr. Rao is the Medical Director of Shakthi Health and Wellness Center in Maryland, blending science and compassion to help people get to the root of what’s going on in their bodies. She has over 25 years of experience helping patients turn their health around—plus she’s the author of Body on Fire and Body on Fire Cookbook.

They’re talking about the big picture: why your energy might still be low even after ditching alcohol, how stress and sleep are secretly running the show, and what small daily shifts can make the biggest difference. Expect an easy-to-follow chat about inflammation, gut health, circadian rhythm, and what’s really going on with midlife hormones.

Dr. Rao breaks down what actually works when it comes to lowering inflammation, balancing blood sugar, and building the kind of energy you can count on. You’ll learn how light exposure affects your sleep, why protein timing matters, and how things like strength training, hydration, and even acupuncture can help your body feel like yours again. This isn’t about overhauling your whole life—it’s about finding simple, doable steps that build on each other.


This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.

Episode Highlights (time-stamped)

00:00 — Why integrative medicine matters in sobriety

02:18 — Dr. Rao’s journey from conventional to functional medicine

05:12 — What “root cause” care actually means

07:45 — The inflammation–fatigue connection after alcohol

10:03 — Balancing blood sugar without overcomplicating meals

12:26 — Mitochondria and how to get your energy back

14:58 — Light, timing, and your circadian rhythm

17:40 — How to set yourself up for better sleep

20:22 — The gut–brain link and how it impacts cravings

23:05 — Staying hydrated without overdoing water

25:41 — Navigating perimenopause symptoms with lifestyle tweaks

28:09 — How stress affects your body (and how to calm it)

30:52 — When acupuncture can help

33:17 — Why strength training is a game changer in midlife

36:01 — Functional lab tests: worth it or not?

38:34 — What “liver detox” really means

41:10 — A real-life patient success story

44:02 — Habit stacking to make changes stick

47:19 — Building your own healthcare dream team

50:11 — Using wellness habits to help prevent relapse

53:28 — Quick recap: small steps, big wins


Dr. Rao Links

https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/all-free-resources

https://mycircadianapp.com/

SIS Links

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Break The Habit Loop With Dr. Jud Brewer15 Dec 202500:53:21

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the science of cravings, anxiety, and habit change—and explore what really keeps us stuck. They’re joined by Judson Brewer, MD, PhD (“Dr. Jud”), New York Times best-selling author, neuroscientist, addiction psychiatrist, and one of the world’s leading experts on mindfulness-based behavior change. As the Director of Research and Innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, Dr. Jud has spent decades decoding how habits form in the brain and developing accessible tools that help people unwind anxiety, disrupt addictive loops, and build healthier patterns.

Today, Sonia and Kathleen help listeners understand the mechanics of their own minds while Dr. Jud offers lived insight, science-backed strategies, and surprising clarity about why we repeat behaviors that don’t serve us—and how to finally change them.

In the conversation, they unpack some of the biggest questions surrounding anxiety, cravings, and self-sabotage: Why does worry function like a habit? Why do some behaviors feel good in the moment but terrible later? How does the brain’s reward system trick us into repeating patterns we’ve outgrown? And what role does curiosity play in breaking addiction cycles—from alcohol to overeating to doom-scrolling? You'll hear how habit loops get encoded, why “willpower” is not the tool we've been taught to rely on, and how mindfulness becomes a practical—not mystical—interruption strategy.

Dr. Jud also breaks down essential educational concepts, including reinforcement learning, negative and positive reward loops, the illusion of control in anxiety, the mechanics of disenchantment, and his three-step framework for unwinding addictive patterns. He explains how curiosity and kindness work neurologically to override craving cycles, why awareness alone can interrupt an unconscious behavior, and how updating the brain’s reward database makes change not only possible but inevitable. Along the way, listeners gain language, tools, and frameworks they can start applying immediately to their own sobriety and emotional regulation.

Dr. Jud does a real-life demonstration of his method as Kathleen explores her own habit loop around stress- and boredom-eating. The conversation gets personal, relatable, and surprisingly funny as the trio walks through how discomfort, dopamine, self-soothing, and long-term values collide inside the brain. The episode closes with a reflective discussion on AI, mental health, and the future of behavior-change technology, highlighting what excites—and concerns—Dr. Jud in this rapidly shifting landscape.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] Sonia and Kathleen introduce Dr. Jud and his work on anxiety, addiction, and the brain.

[00:02:00] Dr. Jud shares how his own anxiety and panic attacks led him into neuroscience and meditation.

[00:03:30] The early research connecting anxiety, addiction, and habit loops.

[00:05:00] How a breakup and “Full Catastrophe Living” started his lifelong meditation practice.

[00:07:00] Childhood curiosity, chemistry, and why humans get stuck in repetitive patterns.

[00:08:30] How shame and self-blame reinforce habit loops.

[00:09:00] Plain-language explanation of reinforcement learning and the habit loop.

[00:11:30] Anxiety as a learned behavior: the illusion of control through worry.

[00:12:30] Clinical trial results showing mindfulness reduces anxiety by 67 percent.

[00:14:00] Awareness vs. identification: shifting from “I am anxious” to “I’m noticing anxiety.”

[00:15:00] Why we return to habits that hurt us, even when we know better.

[00:17:00] Disenchantment and updating the brain’s reward system.

[00:19:30] Why willpower fails: the neuroscience behind “stop it” not working.

[00:20:00] Smoking cessation examples—patients realizing cigarettes taste terrible.

[00:22:00] How paying attention changes overeating behaviors within 10–15 repetitions.

[00:24:00] A patient’s breakthrough using morning reflection to break alcohol dependency.

[00:26:00] How the same loop applies across addictions: food, alcohol, sex, gambling, digital habits.

[00:28:00] Introducing the “pleasure plateau” and learning when a reward stops rewarding.

[00:31:00] How curiosity interrupts craving cycles and builds distress tolerance.

[00:33:30] Dr. Jud’s three-step method for behavior change.

[00:37:00] What to say when someone insists “mindfulness doesn’t work for me.”

[00:38:00] Live demo: Kathleen and Dr. Jud map her stress-eating habit loop.

[00:44:00] The intersection of AI, reinforcement learning, and mental health.

[00:47:00] Expanding access with AI-supported learning assistants in Going Beyond Anxiety.

[00:49:00] The risks of relying on AI for companionship and therapy advice.

[00:52:00] Where listeners struggling with addiction can start with Mindshift Recovery.

 

Dr. Jud Links www.goingbeyondanxiety.comwww.drjud.comJudbrewer.substack.comSIS Links

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How to Get Angry The Healthy Way With Michelle Farris11 Aug 202500:45:54

If you’ve ever swallowed your anger to keep the peace, lost yourself in someone else’s needs, or swapped drinking for late-night snack binges, this episode is for you. On this week’s Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is joined by Michelle Farris—psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management specialist—to talk about the deeper emotional work that comes with recovery. Michelle is known for her relatable approach and tools that help people stop people-pleasing, speak up for themselves, and finally build relationships that feel safe and real.

What happens when we suppress anger in sobriety? How do we even recognize it if we were never taught what healthy anger looks like? Can we be codependent on someone who isn’t codependent on us?

In this episode, Sonia and Michelle unpack what anger can teach us about ourselves, how codependency often hides behind “being nice,” and why food addiction recovery is often the next frontier in sobriety.

Michelle shares practical strategies for identifying emotional triggers, creating healthy boundaries, and noticing the early signs of resentment before it explodes. You'll learn how to reframe your inner dialogue and develop self-talk that actually helps regulate intense emotions.

Michelle also opens up about her own story—getting sober from food addiction at 20, what it was like dating someone in active addiction while working her own program, and the unexpected friendship breakup that made her realize she was still making other people her higher power, and how the desire to be loved can sometimes override our own sense of safety.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Episode Highlights (Timestamps)

00:00 – Meet Michelle Farris, psychotherapist and codependency expert

01:45 – Why she started teaching anger management (and how it cracked her open)

03:15 – What healthy anger actually looks like—and why it’s not yelling

04:40 – Stuffing your feelings vs. naming your hurt

06:00 – Why journaling is the safest place to let your rage out

07:30 – “Anger is rocket fuel”—how to recognize the heat before it explodes

08:45 – The connection between negative self-talk and emotional regulation

10:00 – What resentment really is (and why it’s sneaky)

11:20 – How suppressing anger can sabotage recovery

12:30 – Can you be angry and make amends? What recovery programs miss

14:15 – When anger turns inward—it often looks like guilt or shame

15:00 – Using mindfulness to stay present with your emotions

16:40 – Michelle’s story of getting sober through OA at age 20

18:00 – How food was her comfort and first addiction

19:30 – The sugar trap: what often happens in early sobriety

21:00 – Physical hunger vs. emotional hunger—how to tell the difference

22:15 – Why surrender, not control, is the key to food addiction recovery

23:30 – Trigger foods, writing a food history, and the power of structure

25:00 – Is it okay to wait before addressing food issues in recovery?

26:45 – Codependency 101: what it is, how it shows up, and why it’s a cycle

28:00 – Can you be codependent with a friend? (Michelle’s raw story says yes)

29:30 – Boundaries that work: why “I” statements are your best friend

31:00 – The people-pleasing trap: when kindness costs you your peace

32:15 – Flexible or codependent? The litmus test

34:00 – How to stop saying “yes” when your gut says “no”

35:30 – Michelle’s favorite recovery tools for emotional resilience

36:45 – The power of in-person meetings, especially post-COVID

38:00 – One last reminder: you’re allowed to take up space, feel your anger, and still be sober.


Michelle Farris Links

🌐 Website: counselingrecovery.com

📺 YouTube: @MichelleFarrismft

📸 Instagram: @counseling_recovery


SIS Links

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ADHD in Women With Christina Crowe04 Aug 202500:40:54

Ever feel like you're running on fumes, forgetting everything, and wondering if everyone else got the life manual you missed? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Christina Crowe, a Registered Psychotherapist and founder of Dig a Little Deeper, to unpack how ADHD—especially when undiagnosed—can shape our mental health, relationships, and recovery. Christina brings her clinical expertise and lived experience with ADHD to this conversation.

Together, they explore questions like: Could undiagnosed ADHD be fueling your anxiety or substance use? Why is it so commonly missed in women?

They also talk about how impulsivity, self-medicating, and the pressure to hold it all together affect women differently—and how to spot the signs that something deeper might be going on.

You’ll walk away with a better understanding of how ADHD can show up in everyday life, why it often gets mistaken for depression or anxiety, and what tools actually work.

Christina gets personal, talking about her own late-in-life diagnosis, how her son’s journey opened the door to her own, and what it’s like to finally have words (and support) for what never quite made sense before.

This is Sisters in Sobriety—the support system helping women change their relationship with alcohol and rediscover themselves in the process. For more resources, journal prompts, and mocktail magic, check out our Substack.

Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] Christina’s career pivot: from biotech to therapy

[00:03:30] How her son’s ADHD diagnosis helped her see her own

[00:05:10] The “invisible” nature of ADHD symptoms

[00:06:45] Why so many people with ADHD turn to substances like cocaine, cannabis, or food

[00:08:30] What makes ADHD-related substance use different

[00:09:50] Why it’s not that hard to diagnose ADHD—if you know what you’re looking for

[00:11:30] How substance use can mask ADHD (and delay treatment)

[00:12:50] Christina breaks down the fear of taking stimulants in recovery

[00:14:15] The difference between addiction and dependence (and why it matters)

[00:16:00] The potato chip aisle: a metaphor for cravings and impulse control

[00:17:45] Real talk about impulsivity and Amazon carts

[00:20:30] Why women often get missed—or misdiagnosed—for years

[00:23:00] SSRIs, dopamine, and feeling “stuck”

[00:25:15] Hormones and ADHD: how estrogen impacts symptoms

[00:27:10] Tips for navigating the health system when you have executive dysfunction

[00:30:30] How to talk to your doctor about ADHD (and what might be getting lost in translation)

[00:32:15] The three-legged stool: meds, therapy, and executive function support

[00:34:25] How to find a therapist who truly gets it

[00:36:00] The post-diagnosis “reckoning” (aka rethinking your entire life)

[00:38:00] Mindfulness for ADHD brains—yes, it can actually work (with the right approach)

Christina's Links

💡 Christina Crowe – Dig A Little Deeper, Psychotherapy & Counselling

SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram




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Sexual Wellness in Sobriety With Carlyle Jansen28 Jul 202501:03:28

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen delve into the intersection of intimacy, sexuality, and recovery. They’re joined by the incredible Carlyle Jansen—a sex educator, registered psychotherapist, and founder of Good For Her, Toronto’s groundbreaking sexuality shop and workshop space. Carlyle is also the author of Sex Yourself and Anal Sex Basics, and she brings over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples reclaim pleasure, navigate intimacy, and communicate more effectively. Today, she helps us better understand how our sexual selves evolve in recovery, and how we can reconnect with our bodies and desires—without shame.

Together, we'll explore questions many of us have: What happens to libido after quitting substances? How do we navigate physical connection when sober sex feels so unfamiliar? What do terms like “responsive desire” actually mean, and why do they matter in recovery? This conversation helps deconstruct cultural shame, normalize sexual differences, and guide the path back to pleasurable living.

Carlyle offers practical techniques like mindfulness, post-intimacy debriefs, and body exploration exercises.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Episode Highlights

[00:01:00] Meet Carlisle Jansen: therapist, author, and founder of Good For Her

[00:03:00] Carlisle shares her first experiences with sex, shame, and trying to orgasm

[00:04:30] How a bridal shower kickstarted her career in sex education

[00:06:30] Why she opened a retail shop alongside her workshops

[00:08:00] The impact of growing up in a sex-silent household

[00:10:00] How family history and shame shaped her relationship with sexuality

[00:12:00] From workshops to therapy: how her work evolved

[00:15:00] The most common issue in her practice: mismatched libidos

[00:16:30] What changes sexually during addiction recovery

[00:18:00] What is sexual anorexia? And how is it different from sexual numbness?

[00:20:00] Trauma’s impact on sexual function and emotional availability

[00:21:30] Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the parts that show up during sex

[00:23:00] Why partners need to “start over” after sobriety

[00:25:30] How to rebuild trust and emotional safety during physical intimacy

[00:27:30] Navigating unpleasant emotions and sexual discomfort

[00:29:30] How to rethink consent and boundaries post-recovery

[00:31:30] Why kissing should not be a gateway to sex—and how to communicate about it

[00:34:00] Debriefing after intimacy: how to reflect and stay connected

[00:36:00] How to approach sober dating with clarity and boundaries

[00:40:00] The role of masturbation in recovery and reconnection

[00:44:00] Sex addiction, love addiction, and how to tell if it’s compulsive or just shame

[00:47:00] Why we seek validation through relationships—and how to unlearn it

[00:49:00] Tips to maintain long-term sexual connection with a partner

[00:52:00] Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and how to honor your sexual blueprint

[00:55:00] Pressure kills arousal: why expectation ruins the moment

[01:01:00] Expanding what sex means: intimacy without intercourse

[01:03:00] Closing thoughts and how to keep showing up for your evolving self


Carlyle's Links

Links: carlylejansen.com

TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/12d2o8e9cSU?si=3DcVS-4uiexd4cdC


SIS Links

💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen

📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email

📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram

🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast

📸 Kathleen’s Instagram



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