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Mocktails 101: Tips, Tricks, and Trends with the Mocktail Wiz02 Sep 202400:53:09

Join us on Sisters in Sobriety as we chat with the incredibly talented Derick Santiago, also known as the Mocktail Wiz. Derick’s passion for creating delicious, alcohol-free drinks has inspired many to rethink what a good drink can be. In this episode, he shares his journey to sobriety, his love for mixology, and his latest creations—a book called The Mocktail Club and the Make It a Mocktail Recipe Deck. These projects are all about making it easy and fun to enjoy tasty mocktails.

Throughout the episode, we’ll touch on how the culture of social drinking is changing and how mocktails are playing a big part in that shift. We’ll ask Derick about the common myths around mocktails and how he’s helping to debunk them. If you’ve ever wondered how to make a mocktail that’s just as satisfying as the real thing, this episode is for you.

Derick also shares some practical tips on setting up your own mocktail bar at home. From choosing the right mixers to getting creative with garnishes, he’s got plenty of ideas to help you craft your perfect drink. Plus, we’ll dive into some of the health benefits of mocktails and how they can be a great alternative for those looking to cut down on alcohol.

But it’s not all about the drinks—Derick opens up about his personal journey, including how losing his parents and dealing with work stress pushed him to quit drinking and eventually become the Mocktail Wiz. His story is both inspiring and relatable, offering hope and motivation for anyone looking to make a positive change in their life.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Don’t forget to check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights

[00:00:54] - Introduction to Derick Santiago, also known as the Mocktail Wiz, and his innovative approach to non-alcoholic beverages.

[00:01:50] - Derick shares his background, growing up in the Philippines, and how alcohol was never a significant part of his life.

[00:04:31] - Derick describes his first experience with happy hours in the U.S. and how he learned to "train" for them.

[00:06:03] - The turning point: how losing his mom in 2020 led to an increase in his alcohol consumption.

[00:10:07] - Discovering This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and how it resonated with Derick’s own experiences with alcohol.

[00:12:11] - Derick's first mocktail creation and how it helped him navigate early sobriety.

[00:12:34] - The birth of the "Mocktail Wiz" brand on Instagram and how it gained popularity.

[00:14:37] - Derick’s go-to non-alcoholic drinks when out at bars, including his preference for spicy margaritas and virgin mojitos.

[00:19:00] - The growing acceptance of mocktails in social settings and how people are using them to moderate their alcohol intake.

[00:22:08] - Common misconceptions about mocktails, including the idea that they are just boring, sugary drinks.

[00:25:27] - Essential tools and equipment for setting up a mocktail bar at home, from shakers to mason jars.

[00:28:05] - The versatility of ginger beer as a mixer and how it can mimic the burn of alcohol in mocktails.

[00:32:48] - Derick’s favorite non-alcoholic spirit alternatives, including Ritual’s rum and Free Spirits' tequila.

[00:34:45] - Tips for creating low-sugar or sugar-free mocktails using ingredients like monk fruit sweetener.

[00:36:39] - Derick’s creative process behind developing new mocktail recipes, including his use of over-steeped tea as a base.

[00:38:25] - The importance of presentation in mocktails, from the type of glass to the garnishes used.

[00:41:02] - An overview of Derick’s book, The Mocktail Club, and the Make It a Mocktail Recipe Deck, and how they make creating mocktails accessible and fun.

[00:46:00] - Derick’s favorite recipes from his book and deck, including the Fiery Squad and Holiday Punch.

[00:47:11] - Upcoming trends in the mocktail world, with a focus on original, non-alcoholic elixirs and beverages that don’t try to mimic alcohol.

[00:50:23] - Derick’s current project: a Filipino flavor mocktail series on Instagram, showcasing unique ingredients like banana and jackfruit.


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Unlocking Purpose: Karolina Rzadkowolska on the Power of Living Alcohol-Free26 Aug 202400:47:13

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we delve into the transformative journey of embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle with Karolina Rzadkowolska, an alcohol-free empowerment expert and the founder of Euphoric Alcohol-Free. Through her programs, she’s worked with thousands of clients to change their drinking habits and unleash a new level of health, happiness, and drive to go after their biggest dreams. She is the bestselling author of the book, Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You (HarperCollins).

Throughout the episode, we explore essential questions like: What does it truly mean to live alcohol-free? How can removing alcohol from your life unlock deeper levels of purpose and fulfillment? Karolina sheds light on the emotional, psychological, and physical shifts that occur when one chooses to live without alcohol, and how this decision can catalyze a powerful transformation in other areas of life. If you've ever wondered about the benefits of taking a break from alcohol or how to start an alcohol-free journey, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice.

Listeners will walk away with a deep understanding of the concepts of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and emotional freedom techniques (EFT) as they relate to changing alcohol beliefs. Karolina explains how these tools can help reprogram the subconscious mind, remove limiting beliefs, and foster a new identity that aligns with your true self. The episode also covers the importance of creativity and purpose in sustaining an alcohol-free lifestyle, highlighting how finding and pursuing your passions can be a game-changer in this journey.

In the personal story segment, Karolina opens up about her pivotal moments, including the contrast she felt between her former drinking life and her alcohol-free lifestyle during a vacation in Hawaii. She shares the joys and challenges of this transformation, illustrating how her identity and perception of herself evolved. Karolina's story is a testament to the profound shifts that can occur when one chooses to live authentically and without alcohol.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:
[00:01:00] - Introduction of Karolina Rzadkowolska, her role in the alcohol-free movement, and her certifications as a mindset coach and NLP practitioner.

[00:02:00] - Karolina shares her turning point that led her to embrace an alcohol-free lifestyle, starting with her participation in Dry January.

[00:03:00] - The realization Karolina had about the contrast between her weekends involving alcohol and the rest of her healthy lifestyle.

[00:04:30] - Discussion on how alcohol-free living helped Karolina discover her true purpose and fulfillment in life.

[00:06:00] - Karolina describes the mental energy drain and frustration that came from her previous drinking habits.

[00:07:30] - Karolina talks about the mindset shift that allowed her to view being alcohol-free as a "power move" and a status symbol.

[00:09:00] - The identity transformation Karolina experienced as she stepped into her alcohol-free life and how it enabled her to pursue her dreams.

[00:10:30] - Karolina's insight on how society glamorizes alcohol and the importance of questioning these beliefs.

[00:12:00] - Karolina shares a transformative experience during her first alcohol-free vacation in Hawaii, where she fully embraced the natural world.

[00:14:00] - The contrast between her alcohol-free experience in Hawaii and the behavior of those still entrenched in alcohol culture.

[00:16:30] - Karolina's reflection on how society is "duped" into believing that alcohol is essential for fun, relaxation, and social acceptance.

[00:18:00] - The importance of finding a community that supports alcohol-free living and how Karolina's work with Euphoric Alcohol Free provides that support.

[00:20:00] - Karolina explains the concept of "parts integration" in NLP and how it helps reconcile conflicting desires within ourselves.

[00:22:00] - Discussion on the role of subconscious beliefs in maintaining alcohol habits and how to reprogram them for lasting change.

[00:24:30] - Karolina highlights the significance of discovering and pursuing passions as a way to sustain an alcohol-free lifestyle.

[00:27:00] - The story of a client who used NLP and other techniques to transform her identity and achieve her dreams, such as becoming an author.

[00:30:00] - Karolina describes how her certification program helps women become successful alcohol-free life coaches and entrepreneurs.

[00:33:00] - The connection between living alcohol-free and tapping into the legacy of our ancestors to fulfill our deepest purposes.

[00:36:00] - The role of creativity in finding joy and fulfillment without alcohol, and why it’s essential to explore new activities.

[00:39:00] - Final thoughts on the importance of community in the alcohol-free journey and what’s next for Euphoric Alcohol Free, including in-person events and a new book project.


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VACATIONING SOBER: How to Enjoy Time Away Without Alcohol24 Jun 202400:42:54

Today on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the unique challenges and joys of vacationing while maintaining sobriety. They share their personal journeys and practical tips to help you navigate your next getaway with confidence and ease. Whether you're planning a family visit, a beach retreat, or a solo adventure, this episode is packed with insights to support your sober travel experience.

In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen tackle the big questions that come with sober vacationing. How do you handle unexpected triggers? What strategies can you use to maintain your routine? And how do you navigate cultural differences around alcohol consumption? These discussions are crucial for anyone in recovery, ensuring you're well-prepared and supported on your trip.

You'll walk away with practical tips for packing, creating a supportive itinerary, and developing strategies for social situations involving alcohol. The hosts cover essential topics like managing anxiety, setting boundaries, and finding joy in new experiences, all while staying true to your sobriety. 

Sonia shares her transformative experience of a trip to Italy booked before her sobriety journey, offering candid insights on navigating wine tours and social pressures. Kathleen recounts her enriching, sober trip to Hawaii, highlighting how sobriety opened up new opportunities for connection and self-care.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:

0:00 - Introduction: Navigating Sobriety on Vacation
6:30 - The Unique Challenges of Vacationing Sober
8:45 - Planning Ahead: Why It’s Crucial
10:20 - Strategies for Managing Triggers
12:15 - Importance of Maintaining Routine
14:05 - How to Handle Social Situations with Alcohol
16:10 - Tips for Navigating Airports and Flights Sober
18:50 - Kathleen’s Experience with FOMO on Vacation
21:00 - Sonia’s Story: Sober Trip to Italy
24:30 - Kathleen’s Story: Sober Trip to Hawaii
26:45 - Cultural Differences Around Alcohol Consumption
29:20 - How to Communicate Sobriety to Friends and Family
32:15 - Creating a Supportive Travel Itinerary
34:00 - Finding Joy in New, Alcohol-Free Experiences
36:10 - Practical Tips for Packing and Preparing
38:00 - Mocktail Hour: Favorite Non-Alcoholic Beverages
40:25 - Personal Story: Sonia’s Struggles and Triumphs
42:00 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts

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Part II of Art as Therapy: Transforming Recovery with Sarah Smith17 Jun 202400:27:24

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, we explore the transformative power of art therapy in addiction recovery. Joining us is Sarah Smith who will guide us through the fascinating intersections of creativity and healing. Sarah is a passionate artist and non-traditional art therapist, owning Soul-Full Art Therapy where she helps individuals explore the wellness benefits of the creative process. Sarah is a member of the Canadian Art Therapy Association (CATA) and has chosen to maintain her focus on art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO). She facilitates art workshops at Sweet Spot Family Counselling and offers private sessions for individuals seeking a creative outlet for wellness. Her serv

In this episode, we dive deep into the role of art as a therapeutic tool. Key questions we'll explore include: How can art therapy support individuals in their recovery journey? Do you need to be artistically talented to benefit from art therapy? What are some practical ways to incorporate art therapy techniques at home? These discussions will highlight keywords such as "art therapy," "addiction recovery," and "creative healing."

 
Listeners will gain insight into several key concepts, including the importance of open-mindedness in art therapy, how art therapy can complement other forms of therapy like mindfulness and physical exercise, and the cognitive and emotional benefits of engaging in creative processes. We'll also discuss practical art therapy exercises like art journaling, and how to identify and interpret personal symbols in your artwork.


 Our guest, Sarah, shares her compelling personal story about her journey with art therapy. You'll hear about a transformative moment in her own art therapy experience, where she discovered hidden themes in her work that led to profound personal insights. This segment underscores the deep emotional connections that art can reveal and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Highlights:

[00:00:00] - Sonia introduces the self-paced seven-day reset program designed to help reset your relationship with alcohol.

[00:01:34] - Kathleen shares her initial hesitation about art therapy due to perceived lack of artistic talent.

[00:01:55] - Sarah explains that no artistic talent is needed; an open mind is what counts in art therapy.

[00:02:19] - Sarah describes starting with collage and art journaling for those who feel intimidated by drawing.

[00:02:56] - Sarah recounts her personal story about discovering a recurring heart theme in her artwork during art therapy school.

[00:04:00] - Sarah reflects on how she realized she wasn't paying attention to her own needs, leading to an emotional breakthrough.

[00:05:02] - Discussion about the importance of a non-judgmental, supportive environment in art therapy.

[00:06:06] - Sarah emphasizes that there is no judgment in art therapy and encourages self-expression without self-criticism.

[00:07:13] - Sarah explains the benefits of focusing on the process and feelings rather than the final product in art therapy.

[00:09:16] - Kathleen suggests using art therapy techniques in couples therapy and mindfulness practices.

[00:10:00] - Sarah talks about the art therapist's role in helping clients interpret and understand their artwork.

[00:11:00] - Sarah shares a story about a boy who stopped speaking and how art therapy helped uncover and address his trauma.

[00:12:33] - Kathleen recalls her childhood trauma and how it influenced her drawings, highlighting the subconscious power of art.

[00:14:00] - Sarah discusses the use of repetitive and grounding activities, like mandala drawing, to manage overwhelming emotions.

[00:15:22] - Sarah identifies common challenges clients face when starting art therapy, such as apprehension about their artistic skills.
[00:16:56] - Sarah shares her experience working with dementia patients and how art therapy helps them express themselves.
[00:18:46] - Sonia and Sarah discuss the cognitive and emotional benefits of art therapy, such as improved mood and emotional expression.
[00:20:31] - Sarah provides practical advice for starting an art journal at home, emphasizing the importance of just starting and letting the process unfold.
[00:25:00] - Kathleen and Sarah talk about the holistic benefits of art therapy in conjunction with other therapeutic modalities, emphasizing the mind-body-soul connection.

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Art as Therapy: Transforming Recovery with Sarah Smith10 Jun 202400:31:03

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen explore the powerful role of art in healing, wellness, and recovery from alcohol use disorder. Joined by Sarah Smith, the compassionate owner of Soulful Art Therapy, the discussion delves into how art therapy can transform lives, providing a unique and effective outlet for emotional expression and long-term sobriety. Today, Sonia and Kathleen will guide you through the fascinating world of art therapy, sharing insights and stories of transformation.

Sarah is a passionate artist and non-traditional art therapist, owning Soul-Full Art Therapy where she helps individuals explore the wellness benefits of the creative process. Sarah is a member of the Canadian Art Therapy Association (CATA) and has chosen to maintain her focus on art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO). She facilitates art workshops at Sweet Spot Family Counselling and offers private sessions for individuals seeking a creative outlet for wellness. Her services are not a replacement for therapy and are not covered by insurance, serving instead as a tool for healing and recreation.


This episode unpacks the multifaceted role of art as therapy in the recovery process. Key questions addressed include: How can engaging in creative processes provide a powerful outlet for emotions? What are the unique benefits of art therapy compared to traditional talk therapy? How does art therapy support long-term sobriety and emotional well-being? Through these discussions, listeners will gain a comprehensive understanding of how art therapy can be a vital tool in their recovery journey.

 Listeners will learn about the core concepts of art therapy, including its ability to foster self-awareness, emotional expression, and healing. The episode highlights how art therapy can address common misconceptions and explains how the creative process can help individuals regain a sense of control and manage their emotions effectively. Sarah shares practical insights and examples of art therapy in action, demonstrating its therapeutic impact and the potential for profound personal transformation.

Sarah shares a touching story from her practice about a man who initially resisted art therapy but ultimately experienced a significant emotional breakthrough. This powerful narrative illustrates the deep impact art therapy can have, revealing underlying emotions and facilitating healing in unexpected ways. Through Sarah’s compassionate guidance, this story serves as a testament to the transformative power of art in recovery.


This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Highlights:

[00:01:00] - Introduction of guest Sarah Smith, owner of Soulful Art Therapy, and her work in guiding people on their wellness journeys through art.

[00:01:34] - Kathleen discusses the role of art as therapy in recovery, exploring its benefits in providing an outlet for emotions and supporting long-term sobriety.

[00:02:03] - Sarah introduces her sidekick, Louie the dog, who might be heard snoring during the episode.

[00:02:31] - Sarah shares her background, how she became an art therapist, and her journey from being an artist to discovering art therapy.

[00:04:10] - Sarah explains why she chose to practice art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Psychotherapists.

[00:04:38] - Sarah defines art therapy and explains how it differs from other forms of therapy.

[00:05:30] - Discussion on common misconceptions about art therapy, such as it being child's play or requiring artistic skill.

[00:07:00] - Kathleen and Sarah discuss the judgment people face in school art classes and how it impacts their willingness to engage in art therapy.

[00:08:12] - Sarah explains how art therapy can help people in addiction recovery by providing a sense of control and a healthy outlet for emotions.

[00:09:13] - Sarah talks about the unique elements of art therapy that make it effective for those dealing with addiction, such as self-expression and emotional release.

[00:10:13] - The importance of the process and how art holds the space for individuals, helping to lighten their emotional load.

[00:11:00] - Sonia shares her experience with photography as a form of art therapy during her sobriety journey.

[00:12:59] - Sarah explains the various art mediums used in art therapy and how they are chosen based on individual needs.

[00:15:00] - Discussion on how the process of creating art, rather than the finished piece, is essential in art therapy.

[00:17:06] - Sarah describes the typical process of an art therapy session, including grounding exercises and personalized art directives

[00:20:09] - Sarah explains that the art therapy process for those in recovery is the same but tailored to individual needs, addressing physical, emotional, and mental aspects.

[00:21:00] - Discussion on how creating art helps people process their emotions by shrinking them to a manageable size.

[00:22:00] - Sarah shares a powerful story about an inpatient unit participant who found emotional release and self-discovery through art therapy.

[00:29:00] - Sarah discusses how art therapy addresses trauma and severe anxiety, commonly associated with addiction, by providing a healthy escape and emotional management.


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Mastering Mindfulness: A Step-By-Step Guided Meditation03 Jun 202400:24:43

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen continue their insightful discussion on mindfulness and its vital role in the recovery process. Today, they delve deeper into practical mindfulness techniques and guide listeners through a mindful meditation practice designed to foster grounding and mindful decision-making.

Expect a comprehensive exploration of mindfulness, addressing key questions such as: How can mindfulness be effectively integrated into daily life? What are common challenges in starting a mindfulness practice? How can group settings enhance the practice of mindfulness in recovery? These questions set the stage for a rich discussion filled with practical advice and personal experiences.

Kathleen and will educate listeners on several mindfulness concepts, including the "SOBER" meditation technique, urge surfing, and grounding exercises. She will also discuss the importance of starting small and gradually building a mindfulness routine. Key terms such as "mindfulness," "grounding techniques," and "urge surfing" will be thoroughly explored.

Sonia shares how the guided meditation has transformed her understanding of mindfulness. She discusses the challenges she faced with traditional silent meditation and how Kathleen's guidance has provided the support she needed to stay focused and present.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:

[00:01:13] - Kathleen begins guiding listeners through a meditation practice.

[00:02:43] - Kathleen introduces the SOBER meditation technique.

[00:03:02] - The first step: Stop, pause, and take a deep breath.

[00:03:25] - The second step: Observe thoughts and feelings without judgment.

[00:04:19] - Observing physical sensations and surroundings.

[00:05:00] - The third step: Breathe deeply and slowly to calm the mind.

[00:05:14] - The fourth step: Expand awareness to include all observations.

[00:06:00] - The fifth step: Respond mindfully to the situation or set an intention.

[00:07:08] - Sonia shares how guided meditation was helpful for her.

[00:08:21] - Kathleen addresses common misconceptions about mindfulness.

[00:09:15] - Discussing the benefits of group mindfulness sessions in recovery.

[00:10:25] - Kathleen explains common challenges when starting mindfulness practices in sobriety.

[00:11:43] - Kathleen emphasizes starting small with mindfulness practices.

[00:12:10] - Techniques like urge surfing are explained.

[00:13:26] - Discussing the importance of grounding techniques.

[00:14:22] - Best practices for mindfulness when feeling overwhelmed or in a crisis.


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Your Questions Answered: A Guide to Alcohol-Free Vacations30 May 202400:13:54

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia tackles the timely topic of staying sober while on vacation. She dives deep into how to keep your recovery journey strong, even when you are sipping mocktails poolside. Whether you're facing social gatherings, airport temptations, or hotel happy hours, Sonia will help you pack your bags with tools and confidence for your next trip.


Throughout this episode, she'll answer some key questions like: How can you handle social events that often involve alcohol? What strategies can you employ to stay strong in airports and hotels where alcohol is readily available? How do you communicate your sobriety needs to travel companions? With practical advice and relatable insights, this episode is packed with tips on how to manage common triggers and stay sober during your travels.

Listeners will learn how to identify and avoid triggers in various vacation settings, the importance of planning and setting boundaries with travel companions, and engaging in sober-friendly activities. Sonia emphasizes the benefits of staying engaged in activities that do not involve alcohol, helping you to appreciate your vacation spot better and maintain your sobriety.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights: 

[00:01:15] - Listener Question: Jill from Houston asks about staying sober at an all-inclusive resort.

[00:01:38] - Temptations on Vacation: Discussion on the various temptations one might face while on vacation.

[00:02:00] - Common Triggers: Exploring common settings where triggers for drinking might appear.

[00:02:20] - Social Gatherings: Tips on managing social gatherings that involve alcohol.

[00:02:41] - Airports: How to handle the stress and accessibility of alcohol in airports.

[00:03:00] - Hotels: Managing the availability of alcohol in hotels and during happy hours.

[00:03:04] - Planning Ahead: Importance of having a plan for social situations where alcohol is present.

[00:03:21] - Sober-Friendly Destinations: Choosing vacation spots that support sobriety.

[00:03:39] - Travel Companions: The importance of traveling with supportive people.

[00:04:01] - Engaging in Sober Activities: Planning activities that don't involve alcohol to stay engaged.

[00:04:21] - Mental Preparation: Preparing mentally for the presence of alcohol in airports.

[00:04:35] - Alternative Relaxation Spots: Finding quieter zones in airports to avoid bars and lounges.

[00:04:57] - Alcohol-Free Accommodations: Requesting alcohol-free rooms in hotels.

[00:05:16] - Avoiding Happy Hour: Planning activities during happy hour times to avoid temptation.

[00:05:39] - Communicating Sobriety: Tips on explaining your sobriety to travel companions.

[00:06:14] - Setting Boundaries: Importance of setting and maintaining boundaries with companions.

[00:07:00] - Sober Activities: Ideas for engaging in sober activities while on vacation.

[00:08:00] - Overcoming FOMO: Strategies to handle the fear of missing out when others are drinking.

[00:10:25] - Enhanced Engagement: Benefits of engaging fully with your environment while staying sober.

[00:11:51] - Playing the Tape Forward: A technique to visualize the consequences of drinking.


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Sobriety And Mindfulness: Finding Peace in the Present Moment27 May 202400:27:26

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen explore the transformative power of mindfulness in the recovery journey. They will delve into how mindfulness can help manage stress, recognize triggers, and cultivate a sense of peace and stability, all of which are crucial for long-term sobriety.

Join the discussion as Sonia and Kathleen unpack the concept of mindfulness. What does mindfulness really mean? How can it be integrated into daily life and recovery efforts? They will answer these questions and more, providing valuable insights into emotional regulation, improving focus, and fostering a deeper connection with your inner self. 

Listeners will learn about the key principles of mindfulness and its significant impact on both physical and mental health. The episode will cover how mindfulness helps in recognizing triggers, managing stressors, and creating a calming effect. Non-judgmental awareness, present moment focus, and mindfulness techniques for managing cravings and emotional triggers will be discussed. 

Kathleen shares her personal journey with mindfulness, from her initial intimidation to integrating it into her daily life through yoga and meditation. Her story highlights how mindfulness has helped her manage ADHD, anxiety, and depression, providing a relatable and inspiring example of its benefits. Tune in to hear more about how mindfulness has transformed her life and can potentially transform yours too.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:

[00:01:06] - Kathleen talks about the importance of mindfulness and her excitement for the topic.

[00:01:33] - Sonia shares a personal story about running for the first time in years and the impact on her physically.

[00:02:07] - Discussion on the concept of mindfulness and its relevance in a fast-paced world.

[00:02:27] - Kathleen outlines the key principles of mindfulness and its benefits in recovery.

[00:03:00] - Kathleen introduces Jon Kabat-Zinn and his definition of mindfulness.

[00:04:14] - Sonia shares her initial struggles with understanding and practicing mindfulness.

[00:05:02] - Kathleen defines mindfulness in her own words as being fully present in the here and now.

[00:05:21] - Kathleen talks about integrating mindfulness into her life through yoga.

[00:06:47] - Kathleen shares her experience with meditation during her yoga teacher training in Mexico.

[00:08:00] - Discussion on how mindfulness helps manage stress and recognize triggers in recovery.

[00:08:46] - Kathleen explains the physical and mental benefits of mindfulness for those recovering from addiction.

[00:10:07] - Sonia and Kathleen discuss the impact of mindfulness on anxiety and how it helps manage emotional triggers.

[00:11:36] - Kathleen explains how mindfulness allows for mindful choices rather than impulsive reactions to triggers.

[00:12:47] - Kathleen describes the process of observing cravings and urges like waves, emphasizing the temporary nature of these feelings.

[00:14:41] - Sonia talks about her personal experience with cravings and how they typically last about 20 minutes.

[00:16:38] - Discussion on the stages of recovery where mindfulness is especially beneficial, particularly in early sobriety.

[00:18:59] - Kathleen shares how mindfulness reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression by focusing on the present moment.

[00:19:58] - Sonia and Kathleen discuss integrating mindfulness with other forms of therapy and treatment.

[00:25:25] - Kathleen talks about her participation in a mindfulness-based cognitive therapy group and the positive impact of mindfulness research.


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The Power of Personalized Recovery Plans With Alida Flannery20 May 202400:26:35

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore the multifaceted world of recovery support, diving deep into the roles of one-on-one coaching, sober companions, and group support systems. They are joined by Alida Flannery. Alida is the Founder of Epiphany Recovery Inc., an organization that provides Recovery Coaching, Companioning, and Case Management services to individuals who are struggling with substance use and disordered eating. She is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach and Companion, who completed her Intervention training with Earl Hightower in 2018, and has previously worked for several in-patient treatment centres across Canada. Alida is the Co-Founder of SOULBRIETY, a sober collective for women offering retreats, events, and group workshops to those who are sober-curious, sober-exploring and sober-serious. She also works with Amazing Grace Canada, a charity whose mission is to bring recovery to families and communities affected by addiction in developing nations.

Throughout the episode, listeners will hear a broad discussion on the different paths to successful recovery. Key questions include: What is the role of a sober companion in the recovery process? How does one tailor recovery support to meet individual needs? What are some common misconceptions about sober companionship? These questions are dissected, offering a thorough understanding of the nuances involved in each recovery pathway.

Listeners will gain valuable knowledge on the educational aspects of recovery support, such as the importance of a safe transition from rehab to home, the challenges of maintaining sobriety in a familiar environment, and the need for personalized recovery plans.


Alida shares her own experiences and stories from her work as a sober companion. She reveals the small yet significant victories in recovery, such as a client successfully setting boundaries or enjoying a sober weekend with family. These stories underscore the emotional and transformative journey of recovery, making the episode relatable and inspiring.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Highlights:

[00:01:08] – Alida explains the public perception of sober companionship, mentioning its association with the rich and famous.

[00:01:27] – Alida describes the role of a sober companion, providing support throughout the day.

[00:02:00] – Alida talks about the challenges of returning home from rehab and the importance of having a sober companion during this transition.

[00:03:06] – Discussion on the need to navigate interpersonal relationships and daily challenges after rehab.

[00:03:45] – Alida elaborates on providing support for those who can't leave their lives for extended treatment, such as single parents.

[00:04:22] – Kathleen asks how Alida tailors her companionship to individual clients, and Alida explains her intuitive approach.

[00:05:18] – Alida talks about receiving briefings from families or treatment centers and the importance of the right fit for effective companionship.

[00:07:06] – Alida emphasizes observing and understanding the client's daily routines and interpersonal interactions.

[00:08:00] – Kathleen inquires about common misconceptions of sober companionship, and Alida addresses these.

[00:09:34] – Alida clarifies her role as a motivator, cheerleader, problem solver, and advocate, not a housekeeper or chef.

[00:10:17] – Discussion on the importance of the recovery doing the work themselves for successful outcomes.

[00:12:08] – Alida shares her personal commitment to protecting her own recovery fiercely.

[00:13:14] – Sonia asks Alida to describe a typical day as a sober companion, and Alida explains the variability in her daily routines.

[00:15:17] – Alida highlights the importance of establishing a new recovery routine and lifestyle at home.

[00:17:49] – Alida discusses the challenge of rewiring daily activities that were previously associated with substance use.

[00:19:22] – Establishing a daily routine involving making the bed, nourishing oneself, and incorporating activities like prayer, meditation, and journaling.

[00:20:00] – Alida reflects on the transformational moments and small victories that signify successful recovery.

[00:24:41] – Closing remarks by Kathleen, expressing gratitude to Alida and inviting her for future discussions.

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Navigating Paths to Recovery with Alida Flannery13 May 202400:28:52

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are excited to welcome Alida Flannery, a passionate advocate for sobriety and the founder of Epiphany Recovery. Alida brings her unique experience as both a sober companion and recovery coach to the conversation, sharing her inspiring journey from addiction to aiding others on their paths to sobriety. Stay tuned as Sonia and Kathleen delve into Alida's multifaceted approach to recovery.

Alida is the Founder of Epiphany Recovery Inc., an organization that provides Recovery Coaching, Companioning, and Case Management services to individuals who are struggling with substance use and disordered eating. She is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach and Companion, who completed her Intervention training with Earl Hightower in 2018, and has previously worked for several in-patient treatment centres across Canada. Alida is the Co-Founder of SOULBRIETY, a sober collective for women offering retreats, events, and group workshops to those who are sober-curious, sober-exploring and sober-serious. She also works with Amazing Grace Canada, a charity whose mission is to bring recovery to families and communities affected by addiction in developing nations.

This episode will explore various paths to recovery, including one-on-one coaching, sober companionship, and the benefits of group support. Alida will address key questions like: What are the unique challenges and benefits of each recovery approach? How can someone determine the best recovery path for their individual needs? These discussions will be enriched with Alida's personal insights and experiences, providing a comprehensive look at addiction recovery.

Listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the recovery process, including practical strategies for managing triggers and maintaining sobriety in real-world scenarios. Alida will discuss the importance of creating a supportive environment and how tailored recovery plans can significantly enhance the success of one's sobriety journey. 

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights

[00:03:10] - Alida's role as a sober companion is explained, highlighting her commitment to 24/7 support for her clients.

[00:04:18] - Alida joins the conversation, expressing her gratitude for being part of the podcast.

[00:04:33] - Alida shares her personal journey with addiction and the impact of hitting a profound emotional and physical bottom.

[00:06:44] - Discussion about the pivotal moments that lead to seeking change and the universal nature of pain in the journey to recovery.

[00:07:26] - Alida speaks about the challenges she faced in recovery, particularly the overhaul of her lifestyle centered around substance use.

[00:08:39] - The concept of 'rewiring behaviors' in sobriety is explored, discussing the difficulties of adapting to a sober life.

[00:10:05] - The personal story continues with Alida discussing how recovery coaching and sober companionship work in practical scenarios.

[00:11:57] - Alida discusses the inspiration behind starting Epiphany Recovery, linking her experiences in the corporate and philanthropic worlds.

[00:13:49] - Alida recounts her early experiences as a COVID coach during the pandemic, aiding clients in isolation.

[00:15:20] - Sonia and Alida discuss the integration of personal recovery experiences into coaching methods, stressing authenticity and relatability.

[00:17:15] - The conversation shifts to the importance of not using personal sobriety metrics as a standard for others' recovery.

[00:18:12] - Alida and Kathleen discuss misconceptions about addiction, like not having a DUI meaning you don't have a problem.

[00:20:11] - The discussion touches on the personal lows and the concept of 'slipping faster than lowering standards' in addiction.

[00:22:04] - Alida explains the brain science behind addiction, particularly how substances affect the prefrontal cortex and decision-making.

[00:23:32] - How Alida's approach to recovery has evolved over time, emphasizing a need to stay informed about new methods and therapies.

[00:25:19] - Closing thoughts on resilience in recovery, discussing whether it's something that can be taught or needs to be embodied and lived.


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Get In Touch With Alida
https://www.epiphanyrecovery.com/

https://www.soulbriety.ca/

info@epiphanyrecovery.com

Your Questions Answered: Create A Summer Sobriety Toolkit09 May 202400:16:49

Today, we're addressing a common concern among our listeners—navigating the temptations of summer while maintaining sobriety. This episode is dedicated to answering questions from you, our listeners, about dealing with the triggers that come with warm weather and social gatherings.

Understanding and Managing Triggers
Our listener SP from Houston shares her anxiety about summer being a trigger to drink. We start by acknowledging that feeling anxious about seasonal changes is normal and discusses strategies for managing these feelings. Sonia emphasizes the importance of recognizing triggers and preparing mentally, akin to packing sunscreen to protect your skin, to maintain sobriety during challenging situations.


Proactive Planning for Social Events
Sonia shares practical tips for planning ahead when attending social gatherings. Suggestions include:

  • Bringing a tasty non-alcoholic drink or a sober-friendly friend to help navigate through drinking pressures.
  • Setting personal boundaries and declining invitations that might jeopardize your recovery.
  • Establishing a support plan with your sober circle to stay strong during tougher times.


Setting Boundaries

Understanding when to say no and how to communicate your needs is crucial. The episode covers how to set boundaries effectively:

  • Being honest with yourself and others about your limits.
  • Offering alternatives to typical alcohol-centered activities.
  • Preparing responses for uncomfortable situations to ease pressure.


Establishing New Traditions

Sonia encourages listeners to create new, sober-friendly traditions that focus on connection and fun without alcohol. Some ideas include:

  • Morning hikes, sober picnics, group workouts, craft nights, and exploring new recipes.
  • Hosting game or movie nights where the focus remains on fun, not drinks.


Keeping Non-Alcoholic Options Handy

The importance of having non-alcoholic beverages available is discussed, with suggestions on how to incorporate them into various social settings effectively.


Feeling nervous about seasonal changes is normal but manageable with the right tools and support. She encourages all listeners to embrace the summer with confidence, knowing they are equipped to enjoy it sober and strong.

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Finding Calm: Self-Soothing in Sobriety06 May 202400:45:12

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen take a deep dive into the world of self-soothing and its crucial role in maintaining sobriety. Self-soothing isn't just about keeping calm; it's a vital skill for balancing emotions and preventing relapse, which can be a tricky path to navigate. Join them as they unpack strategies and personal stories, providing you with tools and insights to bolster your recovery journey.


Throughout the episode, Sonia and Kathleen will explore essential questions that touch the core of self-soothing: What exactly does it mean to self-soothe? Why is it so important, especially during recovery? How can you transition from harmful old habits to beneficial new routines that genuinely support your well-being? They'll also tackle the nitty-gritty challenges many face, like finding the focus to meditate amidst chaos or discovering hobbies that genuinely soothe rather than inadvertently stress you out.

Listeners can look forward to gaining a richer understanding of emotional regulation, the transformative power of mindfulness, and how to craft a personalized toolkit of strategies for tough times. Whether you’re just starting your sober journey or you’re a seasoned veteran, this discussion is packed with insights on fostering resilience and emotional autonomy.

Join us at "Sisters in Sobriety," where we mix honest talks with hearty laughter, all while supporting each other in redefining our relationship with alcohol. Don’t forget to check out our substack for a treasure trove of supportive advice and to connect with a community that roots for you every step of the way. Come for the strategies, stay for the stories, and leave feeling empowered!


Highlights:

03:19 - Discussion of common pitfalls when trying to meditate and how social media can be a distraction.

00:03:44 - Sonia and Kathleen address significant questions on beginning the self-soothing process.

00:04:12 - Kathleen describes various self-soothing techniques and emphasizes the importance of finding what uniquely works for each individual.

00:05:31 - Sonia relates self-soothing to the concept of infants learning to calm themselves, drawing parallels to adults in recovery.

00:06:09 - Exploration of how self-soothing helps manage triggers and stressors without resorting to alcohol.

00:07:00 - Sonia explains the emotional, mental, and physical aspects of self-soothing.

00:08:11 - Sonia shares a personal story about recognizing the need for self-soothing in challenging moments.

00:10:05 - Discussion on the transformation from using substances as self-soothing to finding healthier alternatives.

00:14:06 - The hosts delve into how the journey of self-soothing began with their sobriety.

00:15:00 - Sonia shares insights into the early difficult days of sobriety and finding things that calmed her mind.

00:17:20 - Kathleen discusses misconceptions about self-soothing and emphasizes its immediate and practical benefits.

00:18:35 - Kathleen explains the RAIN technique for emotional awareness and self-soothing.

00:20:36 - Discussion of specific triggers for self-soothing and personal responses to emotional challenges.

00:22:31 - Advice on recognizing the need for self-soothing and developing mindful awareness throughout daily activities.

00:25:20 - Kathleen clarifies that successful self-soothing is about managing, not suppressing, emotions.

00:28:01 - Sonia shares how self-soothing techniques helped prevent potential relapses during her divorce.


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Recovering Out Loud: A Conversation with Charles LeVoir19 Aug 202400:56:15

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen sit down with a special guest, Charles LeVoir, the inspiring host of The Way Out, a sobriety and recovery podcast. Charles has been a ray of hope in the recovery community, sharing countless stories that resonate with those on their own journeys. Today, Sonia and Kathleen dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of sobriety, with Charles offering his wisdom and experiences to help guide listeners through their own paths to recovery.

The episode touches on some of the most pressing issues in sobriety, such as navigating social pressures, overcoming emotional hurdles, and dealing with the psychological struggles that come with long-term recovery. Questions like “How do you stay committed to sobriety when social pressures feel overwhelming?” and “What strategies can help manage triggers that might lead to relapse?” are explored in detail. Charles opens up about his own journey, sharing insights on how to maintain friendships, handle professional situations, and find strength in vulnerability.

Listeners will walk away with practical advice on recovering out loud, the importance of community in sobriety, and how to navigate the complexities of maintaining relationships while staying true to their recovery journey. Key concepts such as the power of surrender, the benefits of engaging with a recovery community, and strategies for handling triggers and emotional challenges are all covered, providing valuable takeaways for anyone on their sobriety path.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights

[00:00:00] - Sonia welcomes listeners to Sisters in Sobriety and introduces Charles Labore, host of The Way Out, a sobriety and recovery podcast.

[00:01:20] - Kathleen outlines the key challenges of sobriety, including social pressures and emotional hurdles.

[00:02:02] - Charles begins sharing his background and what led him to start The Way Out podcast.

[00:03:26] - Charles talks about his moment of surrender in a treatment counselor's office, which marked a turning point in his recovery journey.

[00:04:49] - Charles explains how he started listening to recovery stories and felt the need to share them through his podcast.

[00:07:00] - Charles reflects on how hosting his podcast has been one of the greatest gifts in his recovery journey.

[00:09:28] - Charles discusses the challenges of recovering out loud, particularly in professional settings.

[00:11:07] - Charles shares a practical tip: always have a club soda in hand at social events to avoid questions about drinking.

[00:13:00] - Sonia shares her own experience of the difficulty in recovering out loud and asks Charles for advice.

[00:18:00] - Charles and Sonia discuss the challenges of dating sober and how to be upfront about sobriety with new acquaintances.

[00:20:56] - Charles talks about the importance of loving people from afar if their presence threatens one's sobriety.

[00:22:39] - Sonia opens up about her triggers during the summer and asks Charles for strategies to stay committed to sobriety.

[00:24:00] - Charles advocates for finding sober events and recovery meetings, especially during triggering times like holidays.

[00:27:00] - Charles explains how EMDR therapy helped him process traumatic experiences and unlocked his recovery.

[00:30:56] - Charles discusses the importance of self-forgiveness and taking responsibility for one's own actions in recovery.

[00:34:00] - Charles shares a story about making amends and how spiritual actions can have physical consequences.

[00:38:00] - Charles emphasizes the need to actively seek connection with others in recovery to combat isolation.

[00:42:30] - Sonia reflects on the importance of routines and habits in recovery, and how they helped her avoid isolation.

[00:48:00] - Charles shares the importance of being honest about triggers and the power of reaching out for support.

[00:52:00] - Charles encourages those considering sobriety to "run the experiment" and see the benefits of a sober life



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Peacekeepers: Emotional Equilibrium in Sobriety29 Apr 202400:39:08

On today's episode, Sonia and Kathleen delve into the vital topic of protecting your peace. As life throws its many challenges at us, finding and maintaining inner tranquility is more crucial than ever, especially when it comes to sustaining sobriety and mental health. Join them as they explore strategies to safeguard your emotional and mental balance, ensuring you stay strong and serene no matter what life brings your way!

Ever wonder how to keep your cool when life gets tricky? Or how to say 'no' without feeling guilty? Sonia and Kathleen have got you covered! They’ll be unpacking how to set boundaries that stick, ways to dodge life’s curveballs, and the secrets to building your personal calm zone. It's all about finding peace in the chaos and making sure it stays that way.

Today’s takeaway is all about real-life strategies: learning how to recognize when you’re stressed before it’s too late, setting up your personal boundaries like a pro, and mastering the art of 'me time.' By the end of the episode, you’ll have a toolkit full of ideas for maintaining your emotional balance that you can start using right away.

And because everyone loves a good story, Sonia and Kathleen will share their own experiences with keeping peace at the forefront. They'll tell tales of personal trials and triumphs, bringing to life the strategies discussed and showing that if they can do it, so can you!

This is Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to community for transforming your relationship with alcohol. Don't forget to check out our substack for more handy tips and heartfelt advice.

Highlights

[00:02:01] Explanation of what "protecting your peace" means in the context of maintaining emotional and mental balance.

[00:02:19] Kathleen talks about the importance of setting boundaries for peace protection.

[00:03:01] Kathleen explains protecting peace in simple terms and how to filter experiences.

[00:04:24] Sonia relates protecting peace to both physical environment and emotional stability.

[00:05:14] Kathleen shares a personal anecdote about changing job environments to protect her mental health.

[00:06:07] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the role of self-awareness in avoiding emotional spirals.

[00:07:51] A detailed account of how Sonia has learned to handle family disagreements without spiraling.

[00:10:30] Sonia and Kathleen delve into how gossip can affect personal peace and discuss strategies to avoid it.

[00:12:44] Celebration of Sonia's seventh sobriety anniversary and its emotional significance.

[00:14:26] Sonia recounts a poignant memory tied to a breakup and how seasonal changes can trigger emotional responses.

[00:16:30] Discussion on the impact of social media on emotional well-being and how to manage exposure.

[00:19:00] Sonia talks about the physical symptoms she experiences when her peace is disturbed, particularly by family dynamics.

[00:20:21] First-time disagreement story shared by Sonia, focusing on maintaining peace during confrontations.

[00:22:10] Kathleen emphasizes that healthy conflict is possible and shares insights from her professional experience as a couples therapist.

[00:23:27] The complexities of family relationships and how they challenge personal peace discussed by Kathleen.

[00:25:13] Kathleen explains her need to step back from family drama to protect her peace, ensuring it wasn't perceived as abandonment.

[00:27:31] Strategies for managing unexpected changes and maintaining stability during uncertain times.

[00:33:13] Sonia and Kathleen discuss essential self-care practices and rituals that help maintain their peace.



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Managing Anger on the Road to Sobriety With Gillian Tietz22 Apr 202400:37:47

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia delve into the critical connection between anger management and recovery. They are joined by Gill Tietz, an educator, who sheds light on how anger can act as a major hurdle on the path to recovery, its origins, and the practical steps to navigate it. This discussion promises to enlighten listeners on dealing with anger in healthy ways, especially within the context of overcoming addiction.

The episode is an insightful discussion on the prevalence of anger among individuals struggling with addiction, exploring why anger is often a secondary emotion masking deeper issues such as shame, pain, or humiliation. Gill emphasizes the importance of recognizing anger's roots and provides practical advice for managing it effectively. Listeners will be intrigued by the exploration of questions like how prevalent is anger in those dealing with addiction, in what forms does it manifest, and why is it considered a significant trigger for relapse?


Listeners can expect to walk away with valuable knowledge on identifying and managing anger, understanding its impact on recovery, and learning coping strategies to navigate through the emotions underlying anger. The conversation will cover key concepts such as the importance of acknowledging anger as a secondary emotion, the role of empathy and humor in anger management, and the crucial steps towards recognizing and managing one's anger in the journey of recovery. The discussion also highlights the significance of self-esteem work in addressing the root causes of anger.

Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal. 


This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey.

Get In Touch With Gill!
Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered

Highlights

  • [00:02:42] Gill explains anger as a secondary emotion, hinting at deeper, more uncomfortable feelings that lead to anger.
  • [00:04:03] The conversation touches on the ironic behavior of 'drinking at people' as a misguided attempt to manage anger.
  • [00:04:48] The first steps towards recognizing and managing anger in recovery are outlined by Gill, emphasizing awareness and coping skills.
  • [00:07:26] Gill shares unique anger management techniques, including the use of humor to diffuse anger.
  • [00:10:16] A shift in demeanor, from tension to calmness, is highlighted as a visible sign of progress in managing anger.
  • [00:13:32] The role of family and friends in supporting loved ones through their anger is discussed, with validation and humor being key.
  • [00:15:38] The episode delves into how anger can act as a barrier to seeking help and acknowledging addiction issues.
  • [00:18:29] Forgiveness's place in managing anger and facilitating recovery is pondered, emphasizing the difficulty but necessity of the process.
  • [00:20:35] Gill defines crisis intervention within the context of addiction recovery, painting a vivid picture of the aim and process.
  • [00:23:24] Real-life applications of crisis intervention strategies are shared, illustrating the importance of staying calm and regulated.
  • [00:26:47] A family's intervention experience is recounted, showcasing the power of calmness and brevity in communication.
  • [00:31:04] Triggers that might precipitate a crisis needing intervention are explored, with unmet basic needs being a common theme.
  • [00:34:06] Gill teases potential projects, including refining her anger management program and the idea of writing a book.
  • [00:36:15] How to sign up for Gill’s upcoming anger management course is shared, pointing listeners to useful resources.


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Unpacking The Science Of Sobriety With Gillian Tietz15 Apr 202400:36:18

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen get into the intricacies of sobriety with the insightful Gillian Tietz from the Sober Powered Podcast. This conversation sheds light on the nuanced relationship between biochemistry, personal experiences, and alcohol use disorder, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding and relatable perspectives on sobriety.

The episode teases out broad discussions on prevalent myths surrounding willpower in addiction, the significant roles of anger management and crisis intervention in recovery, and the biochemical effects of alcohol on the brain. These topics promise to unravel misconceptions and offer new insights into the journey toward sobriety.

Listeners can expect to walk away with key educational takeaways on how alcohol affects the brain, contributing to the challenge of quitting drinking. With Gill's background in biochemistry and her own journey to sobriety, she brings a unique blend of expertise and personal insight, making complex scientific concepts accessible to all. The discussion aims to empower listeners with knowledge on the underlying causes of addiction and the brain's ability to recover, highlighting the importance of support and community in the path to sobriety.


Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal. 


This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey.

Get In Touch With Gill!
Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered

Highlights

  • [00:02:16] Gill's mission to demystify alcohol's effects on the brain explained.
  • [00:03:33] Gill shares her personal journey to sobriety, highlighting her late start to drinking.
  • [00:04:56] The role of grad school in intensifying Gill's drinking habits.
  • [00:07:57] Discussion on the early consequences of Gill's drinking and her initial denial.
  • [00:09:00] Sonia and Kathleen relate their experiences with alcohol in academic and professional settings.
  • [00:10:09] Gill confronts the reality of her increasing tolerance and its implications.
  • [00:11:34] Examination of willpower in the context of addiction and the myths surrounding it.
  • [00:14:32] Exploring the vulnerabilities and factors that predispose individuals to addiction.
  • [00:17:00] How drinking affects brain adaptability and decision-making processes.
  • [00:19:11] Gill discusses the critical phase of brain development in teens and its susceptibility to alcohol.
  • [00:20:26] Long-term effects of alcohol on brain function and recovery challenges.
  • [00:23:58] The importance of time and lifestyle changes in recalibrating the brain's reward system.
  • [00:25:14] Discussion on activities that may aid in the brain's healing process.
  • [00:28:41] Clarification on the concept of cycles of detox and its impact on addiction recovery.
  • [00:32:35] Gill's stance on moderation versus abstinence for people with a history of problem drinking.
  • [00:34:36] Comparison of the brain's response to drugs and alcohol, and the similarities in addiction mechanisms.
  • [00:35:23] The concept of behavioral addictions and the challenges they pose in recovery.

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Your Questions Answered: Am I Just Replacing Drinking With Something Else?11 Apr 202400:13:28

Welcome to another Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," where your host, Sonia, delves into the complex emotions and questions surrounding the journey to sobriety. Today's focus is on a common concern among individuals in recovery: the fear of replacing one addiction with another, such as substituting alcohol with excessive running, Netflix binge-watching, or indulging in ice cream.

Insights:

  • Healthy vs. Unhealthy Activities: It's essential to evaluate new activities based on their impact on your life. Are they adding value, or are they becoming a new form of avoidance or compulsion?
  • Evaluating New Habits: Sonia provides actionable steps for assessing whether a new activity, like running, is beneficial or potentially problematic. Key considerations include examining your motivations, assessing the activity's impact on your life, ensuring balance, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking support when needed.
  • The Power of Choice and Change: The episode challenges the notion of "once an addict, always an addict," highlighting the importance of recognizing the human capacity for growth, change, and adaptation. Healthy coping mechanisms, when integrated mindfully, promote well-being and recovery.


This episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" offers a compassionate and thoughtful exploration of how individuals in recovery can navigate the process of replacing old habits with new, healthier ones. By emphasizing the importance of understanding one's motivations, seeking balance, and embracing a holistic approach to recovery, Sonia provides valuable guidance for anyone looking to build a more fulfilling and sober life.

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True Connections: The Impact of Sobriety on Friendships08 Apr 202400:34:42

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the world of friendships through the lens of sobriety. They tackle how navigating sobriety not only changes us but also shines a light on our friendships, encouraging us to think deeply about who we choose to spend our time with. This episode is all about finding the joy in discovering and nurturing relationships that truly reflect our sober selves.

Get ready to explore the highs and lows of friendship in sobriety, from the tough goodbyes to the joy of making new connections that really get it. Sonia and Kathleen will touch on important questions like how sobriety can reshape our friendships, what it means for our social lives, and how to create a circle that supports our sober journey.

Listeners will learn about the key ingredients of friendships that flourish in sobriety, including tips on how to spot the ones worth holding onto, setting healthy boundaries, and how to make new friends who share your love for a sober lifestyle. This episode is packed with advice for anyone looking to enrich their social life in a way that aligns with their sobriety.

You won’t want to miss Sonia and Kathleen share their own friendship adventures in sobriety. Their stories showcase the beautiful, sometimes messy journey of building deep, meaningful connections in sobriety.

Join us at Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to spot for making sobriety feel like the ultimate friendship adventure. Don't forget to swing by our substack for all the best sobriety tips, tricks, and tales. We’re all about helping you find your tribe and keep your sobriety journey fun and fulfilling.

Highlights:

  • [00:01:59] The conversation shifts to how sobriety transforms friendships and the need to reevaluate relationships.
  • [00:02:17] Kathleen emphasizes the journey of peeling back layers of oneself in recovery and its impact on friendships.
  • [00:03:18] The hosts discuss the importance of understanding how sobriety reshapes personal connections.
  • [00:04:08] Sonia delves into how sobriety can deepen some friendships while leading to the end of others.
  • [00:05:08] A discussion on the isolation and loneliness that can accompany sobriety, and how to navigate these feelings.
  • [00:06:19] Kathleen shares her personal story of how her friendships changed dramatically after she stopped drinking and using drugs.
  • [00:07:28] Sonia talks about her initial isolation in sobriety and how she gradually built a new social circle.
  • [00:09:49] The hosts explore normal feelings about changing friendships post-sobriety and how to deal with them.
  • [00:11:18] Kathleen gives advice on how to discuss sobriety with friends who still drink.
  • [00:12:56] Sonia reflects on the importance of finding a sober community to combat feelings of isolation.
  • [00:14:12] A candid conversation about when and how to let go of friendships that challenge sobriety.
  • [00:16:19] Discussion on recognizing signs that a friendship may not be conducive to recovery.
  • [00:17:29] The impact of social media on sobriety and friendships, exploring both the positive aspects and potential triggers.
  • [00:19:09] How to approach a friend you believe may have a drinking problem.
  • [00:21:07] Kathleen recounts how her social circle and partying habits changed after she became sober.
  • [00:23:36] Sonia provides tips on building new, healthy friendships in recovery.
  • [00:25:20] The significance of having sober friends and the positive impact they can have on one’s recovery journey.
  • [00:27:15] A discussion on navigating social situations and gatherings as a sober individual.
  • [00:30:34] Closing thoughts on how sobriety can improve the quality and depth of friendships, even with those who aren't in recovery.

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Habit Hacks: Transforming Your Relationship with Alcohol01 Apr 202400:42:03

Join Sonia and Kathleen on a lively journey into the world of breaking free from the cycles of alcohol use in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, by shining a light on the patterns that can ensnare us and offering hope for breaking free. The episode poses crucial questions that resonate with many: What are the cycles of drinking that keep us trapped in a loop of consumption and abstinence? How can we identify and confront our triggers to break free from these patterns? And crucially, what steps can we take towards lasting change, moving beyond mere recognition of the problem to actively reshaping our relationship with alcohol? 

Join us as we explore the power of mindfulness, habit change, and the support of community in reclaiming our lives from the grip of alcohol. They're here to chat, share, and dive deep into how we can spot those sneaky habits that keep us in a loop and how to jump off that not-so-merry-go-round for good. 

Listeners will leave this episode armed with key insights into cycle breaking, trigger identification, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms. The episode demystifies the process of changing ingrained behaviors, offering practical advice on creating a supportive environment for recovery. Through an understanding of habit loops and the importance of small, consistent changes, the episode illuminates the path toward a life unburdened by alcohol.

In this episode is Sonia’s personal story, a raw and real look at the journey through the lens of someone who’s walked the path. 

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety, where we're all about making changes, finding joy, and supporting each other in the journey away from alcohol. Don’t forget to swing by our substack for more tips, stories, and a little extra sunshine for your day. See you there!

Highlights:

  • [00:01:44] - Discussion on the importance of recognizing and confronting unhealthy patterns of drinking.
  • [00:02:12] - The concept of mindfulness in confronting triggers and making lasting habit changes is introduced.
  • [00:03:10] - Kathleen explains the cycle of drinking: from initial overuse to attempts at moderation, and the frustrating return to old habits.
  • [00:04:30] - Sonia dives into what "cycle breaking" means and the steps involved in actively changing one's relationship with alcohol.
  • [00:07:29] - Sonia shares her personal story of daily cycles of anxiety, drinking, and the temporary relief it brought, highlighting the challenges of breaking free.
  • [00:10:11] - Strategies for becoming more mindful of alcohol consumption, including the importance of tracking drinking habits.
  • [00:13:40] - Kathleen shares techniques for managing cravings and urges to drink through distraction and delay tactics.
  • [00:17:08] - Sonia reflects on the process of acknowledging triggers and the role of honest self-reflection in cycle breaking.
  • [00:20:08] - Discussion on the significance of understanding the root causes of one’s drinking patterns and whether delving into the past is essential for recovery.
  • [00:23:25] - The therapeutic journey of connecting past experiences to current behaviors and how therapy can aid in uncovering and addressing these connections.
  • [00:27:57] - Kathleen recounts how her triggers and cycles evolved over time, illustrating the complexity of addiction.
  • [00:31:29] - Sonia discusses the importance of not panicking in response to emotional triggers as a step towards breaking the cycle.
  • [00:33:32] - The role of routine and structure in supporting recovery efforts, including the concept of habit stacking, is explored.
  • [00:37:54] - The importance of forgiveness, both of oneself and others, in the recovery journey and how it can impact cycle breaking.
  • [00:38:11] - How to build and leverage a support system for breaking cycles, including the different forms that support can take.
  • [00:40:13] - Sonia highlights the "delay and distract" technique as a memorable takeaway for managing cravings.
  • [00:41:05] - Kathleen emphasizes the value of small, manageable steps in the process of changing habits and breaking cycles.
  • [00:42:00] - Closing remarks, summarizing the episode's key messages and encouraging listeners to seek support and resources available through Sisters in Sobriety.
  • [Throughout] - The episode is punctuated by relatable anecdotes, practical advice, and supportive dialogue that underscores the theme of community and mutual support in the journey to sobriety.


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Your Questions Answered: I Just Had A Slip! What Should I Do?27 Mar 202400:09:59

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we delve into the complexities of relapse, or as some prefer, a return to use or a slip. Patricia shares her recent experience of drinking after a period of sobriety, grappling with feelings of guilt, shame, and disappointment. This moment opens a door to discussing the importance of acknowledging these emotions as part of many people's journeys, emphasizing the necessity of self-compassion and the avoidance of self-judgment.


 Insights:

  • Acknowledgment Without Judgment: We explore the significance of acknowledging a slip as a fact rather than a moral failing. This approach helps us heal and grow by observing our experiences without harsh self-criticism, much like observing clouds in the sky - they pass without defining the sky.
  • Reflect, Learn, and Adapt: We delve into the importance of reflection to understand triggers and stressors that led to the slip. This insight acts as a roadmap for fortifying recovery strategies and making necessary adjustments to our plans, coping mechanisms, and environments.
  • Reaffirming Your 'Why': Rediscovering the reasons behind choosing sobriety can reignite motivation. This segment emphasizes reconnecting with one's 'why' to refuel determination and remember the life one is striving to build.


This episode underscores that recovery is a journey marked by moments of vulnerability, learning, and growth. Patricia's story and the insights shared illuminate the path forward, reminding us that we are not defined by our slips but by our resilience and the compassionate strides we take towards sobriety. In embracing this journey with empathy and support, we move closer to becoming the best versions of ourselves, together.

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The Sobriety Diet: Understanding Nutrition's Impact with Dr. Brooke Scheller25 Mar 202400:53:48

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we're diving into the transformative journey of balancing nutrition and sobriety with our special guest, Dr. Brooke Scheller, a pioneer in the field of clinical nutrition with a focus on sobriety. Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through an enlightening discussion on how to harness the power of functional foods to not only manage alcohol consumption but to thrive in your recovery journey.

Throughout the episode, we'll be exploring pivotal questions: How can nutrition profoundly impact your sobriety? What are the myths surrounding alcohol consumption and health? And how can the intentional inclusion of functional foods in our diet support not just our physical well-being, but our emotional and psychological recovery as well? These questions will uncover the interconnectedness of diet, health, and sobriety, shedding light on common misconceptions and empowering you with knowledge. This conversation is not just about abstaining from alcohol; it's about nurturing the body and mind to foster a resilient, sustainable sober lifestyle.


Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the effects of alcohol on nutrient absorption, the importance of a balanced diet in managing cravings, and the role of specific functional foods in enhancing overall well-being. This educational journey is designed to inspire and inform, helping you make informed decisions about your health and recovery.


Dr. Scheller shares her personal story, providing a candid look at her own challenges and triumphs in the realm of nutrition and sobriety. This intimate narrative promises to resonate with many, offering hope and practical strategies for those navigating their own paths to wellness.

*Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition, stands at the forefront of a transformative movement in health and wellness. As the esteemed founder of Functional Sobriety and the author of "How to Eat to Change How You Drink," Dr. Scheller has dedicated her career to revolutionizing the approach to alcohol recovery and holistic well-being.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.



Highlights:

  • [00:02:06] Dr. Scheller's unique approach to combining nutrition with sobriety efforts is outlined, highlighting the importance of diet in managing alcohol consumption.
  • [00:02:49] Brooke shares her personal motivation for writing her book and diving deep into the relationship between eating habits and drinking behavior.
  • [00:03:30] Discussion on the struggle with alcohol and the realization of its impact on mental health and professional integrity.
  • [00:04:16] Brooke's journey from research on substance use disorders to personal sobriety, highlighting the role of nutrition and supplements.
  • [00:06:32] Exploration of high-functioning alcoholism and the difficult decision to quit drinking, shedding light on the complex dynamics of success and substance dependence.
  • [00:10:19] Debunking common misconceptions about alcohol's impact on health, emphasizing the widespread physiological effects beyond liver damage.
  • [00:14:03] Discussion on persistent myths about alcohol, including the misleading belief in moderate drinking benefits for health.
  • [00:16:38] Challenging the notion of "everything in moderation," especially in the context of alcohol consumption and its universal harm.
  • [00:20:44] Insights into the various types and effects of alcohol, debunking the myth of "healthier" alcoholic beverages.
  • [00:22:17] The connection between alcohol consumption and nutrient depletion, and its profound effects on the body's functions.
  • [00:25:27] The psychological and physiological repercussions of using alcohol as a stress relief tool, emphasizing its counterproductive nature.
  • [00:29:23] Highlighting the statistic that 95% of alcoholics may suffer from low blood sugar, exploring its implications for cravings and recovery.
  • [00:32:54] The critical role of the gut microbiome in overall health and how alcohol adversely affects it, underlining the need for dietary intervention in sobriety.
  • [00:37:49] Introduction of the concept of "functional foods" and their significance in supporting sobriety and physical well-being.
  • [00:41:18] Explanation of drinking archetypes (social, stress, habitual drinkers) to help listeners identify their patterns and find tailored nutrition advice.
  • [00:45:29] How functional foods directly influence mood, decision-making, and, by extension, alcohol consumption habits.
  • [00:48:19] Brooke offers practical tips for integrating functional foods into one's diet without feeling overwhelmed, advocating for incremental changes.


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Beyond Willpower: The Role of Medication in Alcohol Recovery18 Mar 202400:47:55

This episode, delves into the innovative realm of medically assisted treatment for alcohol use disorder with guest, Jonathan Hunt Glassman, the visionary behind OAR Health. This episode promises to enlighten listeners about the scientific and personal dimensions of recovery, offering a new perspective on the role of medication in the path to sobriety.


The conversation aims to address common curiosities surrounding recovery options beyond traditional methods. It explores naltrexone, a medication used in treating alcohol use disorder, examining its place within a holistic approach to recovery. The episode poses critical questions about integrating medically assisted treatment with therapy and lifestyle changes, underscoring the importance of personalized recovery plans.

Listeners can expect to gain valuable insights into combining naltrexone with psychotherapy and other support mechanisms to create a comprehensive treatment strategy. The episode highlights the significance of tailoring recovery efforts to fit individual needs and preferences, emphasizing the diversity of effective recovery paths.

Featuring compelling narratives of individuals who have experienced significant transformations through medically assisted treatment, the episode showcases the profound impact of incorporating medication into the recovery process. These stories not only provide educational value but also offer inspiration, demonstrating the multifaceted nature of recovery and the potential for renewal and change.

*Jonathan Hunt-Glassman is the CEO of Oar Health, which makes it private and convenient for people who want to drink less or quit to get access to safe, effective medication proven to help. Jonathan founded Oar to help others get access to the same medication that helped him take back control over alcohol after struggling with alcohol misuse for most of his adult life. 


Sisters in Sobriety serves as a supportive community for women seeking to alter their relationship with alcohol. The podcast encourages its audience to visit their substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that foster hope and encouragement on the journey toward sobriety.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:37] - Introduction of Jonathan Hunt Glassman, founder of OAR, and discussion on naltrexone.
  • [00:03:09] - Exploring the impact of naltrexone on redefining recovery pathways.
  • [00:03:28] - Jonathan shares his personal journey and the inspiration behind starting OAR.
  • [00:04:59] - Discussion on the historical approach to treating alcohol dependence and the evolution towards medication-assisted treatments.
  • [00:07:42] - The shift in understanding addiction as a chronic brain disease and its treatment implications.
  • [00:10:14] - Exploring the diversity of recovery goals beyond abstinence.
  • [00:11:53] - Detailed explanation of how naltrexone works and its benefits.
  • [00:14:21] - Addressing the under-prescription of naltrexone and exploring reasons behind it.
  • [00:17:18] - Introduction to the Sinclair Method and its application in ORR's treatment plans.
  • [00:19:33] - A typical initial treatment plan at ORR, combining naltrexone with psychosocial support.
  • [00:22:25] - The ongoing support and resources provided by OAR post-initial treatment.
  • [00:24:28] - Addressing common side effects of naltrexone and how to manage them.
  • [00:26:16] - Jonathan's approach to defining and managing relapse or return to use among patients.
  • [00:30:13] - Strategies for addressing the stigma and public perception challenges of medically assisted treatment.
  • [00:32:12] - Advice for individuals hesitant about changing their relationship with alcohol.
  • [00:34:25] - The synergy between naltrexone and psychotherapy or holistic approaches in treatment.

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Your Questions Answered: Rebuilding Trust In Relationships14 Mar 202400:10:37

In this Q&A session, we'll talk about reconciling past behaviors influenced by alcohol, and the path to healing without shame or guilt. We'll discuss the importance of moving forward, offering heartfelt advice on apologizing, rebuilding trust, and self-kindness throughout recovery.
Topics discussed are:


  • Understanding Apologies in Recovery: Learn how to apologize for past mistakes while respecting your sobriety journey. We explore how sincerity, accountability, and acknowledging the impact of your actions can pave the way for meaningful amends. 
  • Rebuilding Trust: Hear inspiring stories from individuals who have successfully rebuilt trust in their relationships post-sobriety. From Alex's commitment to open communication and therapy to Anne's heartfelt letters and engagement in family activities, these stories highlight the power of consistent behavior change and transparency in mending relationships.
  • Managing Guilt and Shame: Discover effective techniques for dealing with guilt over past actions. The episode covers the importance of apologies, self-forgiveness, mindfulness,  and engaging in peer support to navigate these challenging emotions


Thank you for joining another episode of "Sisters in Sobriety." Remember, you're not alone on this journey. The path to recovery is paved with challenges, but with the right support and dedication to healing, it's possible to rebuild trust, manage guilt, and move forward with integrity and kindness.


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Rewiring the Brain: The Role of Psychedelics in Addiction Treatment With Michelle Hudasko12 Aug 202400:46:36

In this exciting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the buzzy topic of using psychedelics in addiction recovery. From psilocybin to ketamine, these substances are being explored for their potential to help break the cycle of addiction. Today's guest, Michelle Hudasko, is here to share her unique journey from working with new moms to becoming a certified ketamine-assisted psychotherapist.

Get ready for an engaging chat as Sonia and Kathleen ask all the burning questions: How can psychedelics help with addiction? What makes someone a good fit for this kind of therapy? How does ketamine work to treat conditions like depression and PTSD? You'll find out the answers to these questions and more as we unpack the potential and the science behind these therapies.

Listeners will walk away with a better understanding of the benefits of psychedelics, the importance of having the right support, and what to expect from these treatments. Michelle breaks down the different ways psychedelics can be administered and how therapists create a safe and supportive environment for their clients. This episode is packed with insights and information for anyone curious about this innovative approach to mental health and recovery.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:

[00:01:06] - Kathleen discusses the potential of psychedelics like psilocybin and ayahuasca for addiction treatment.

[00:01:24] - Michelle introduces ketamine and its use in controlled therapeutic settings for treating depression, PTSD, and addiction.

[00:01:55] - Guest introduction: Michelle Hodesco, a therapist with experience in perinatal psychotherapy and a certification in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy.

[00:02:51] - Michelle shares her personal journey and how she became interested in psychedelic therapies.

[00:03:40] - Discussion on the historical and cultural significance of psychedelics.

[00:04:29] - Michelle talks about the potential of psychedelics for treatment-resistant depression and acute PTSD.

[00:05:01] - Addressing skepticism and resistance towards psychedelic therapy.

[00:06:34] - Explanation of who might be excluded from psychedelic therapy.

[00:07:23] - Misconceptions about psychedelic therapy and its medical model versus sacred, ritualistic use.

[00:09:00] - The role of psychedelics in addiction treatment and their neuroplastic effects.

[00:10:57] - The importance of setting and guidance in psychedelic therapy.

[00:12:07] - Criteria for being a suitable candidate for psychedelic therapy.

[00:16:00] - Handling challenging experiences during psychedelic sessions.

[00:18:04] - Potential for substance abuse or dependency on psychedelics.

[00:20:20] - The process and benefits of microdosing psychedelics.

[00:22:00] - Differences between psilocybin and ketamine in terms of their impact on mental health.

[00:26:05] - Psychological preparations needed for a safe and effective treatment session.

[00:30:35] - Description of a typical psychedelic therapy session, including administration methods and the importance of music.

[00:35:00] - The role of the therapist during a psychedelic session, focusing on holding space and providing support.

[00:38:19] - Discussion on the concept of "bad trips" and reframing them as challenging but meaningful experiences.

[00:41:00] - Strategies for handling breakthroughs and insights during and after psychedelic sessions.

[00:43:00] - Frequency and scheduling of follow-up and integration sessions post-psychedelic treatment.

[00:45:00] - Collaboration between psychedelic therapists and primary therapists for comprehensive care.


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Breaking the Cycle: Transforming Family Dynamics in Recovery (Featuring - Samantha Barnes)11 Mar 202400:50:26

In today’s episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Samantha Barnes, a Registered Psychotherapist with over two decades of experience. Samantha brings an invaluable perspective on guiding families through the tribulations of addiction. Their conversation illuminates the profound effects of addiction on family dynamics, highlighting the pathways to recovery and the indispensable role of communication and support.

Samantha shares insights into how addiction reshapes relationships within the family, especially impacting children, and offers strategies for families to navigate these challenging times. The discussion reveals how addiction influences children’s roles within the family, fostering environments of secrecy and instability, which can significantly affect their self-esteem and ability to form healthy relationships.

Listeners will discover the critical importance of self-care in recovery, learning that taking care of oneself is not an act of selfishness but a foundation for being able to support others. Samantha stresses the significance of supportive environments and provides practical advice for building strong family connections despite the hurdles posed by addiction. Key concepts include viewing addiction as a disease, the necessity of honest conversations about addiction with children, and expanding the definition of self-care to include reaching out for support and prioritizing one’s well-being.

The episode also addresses the complexities surrounding "mommy wine culture," challenging the normalization of alcohol use as a coping mechanism for parenting stress. Samantha emphasizes the need for redefining self-care and seeking genuine support systems that respect individual needs in the journey toward sobriety.

Furthermore, they delve into the importance of having open, age-appropriate conversations about alcohol and drug use with children and teenagers, highlighting the value of early discussions to foster a safe and understanding family environment. Samantha’s advice underscores the significance of creating a non-judgmental space where family members can express their emotions and struggles freely.


Join them for an enlightening episode filled with empathy, guidance, and a deep dive into the challenges and triumphs of overcoming addiction within the family. Don’t forget to check out our substack for additional resources, tips, and support on your journey to change your relationship with alcohol.


*Samantha Barnes is a Registered Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor with over two decades of experience working with children, youth, and families on their wellness journeys. She leads a small group practice based in Barrie, Ontario, dedicated to supporting both local families and those across Ontario through virtual services. Her practice offers individual, couples, and family counseling, in addition to hosting a variety of workshops and events tailored for children and parents. To learn more about her work or to get in touch, visit her website at www.sweetspotcounselling.com or follow her on social media at @sweetspotcounselling.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:36] Discussion on addiction's impact on family dynamics begins.
  • [00:04:34] Samantha explains the ripple effect of changing a family dynamic.
  • [00:06:00] Insights into the specific effects of addiction on children.
  • [00:07:28] Sonia addresses the misconception about "functional" alcoholism.
  • [00:08:21] Challenges kids face in forming healthy relationships.
  • [00:10:34] The impact of addiction on children's self-esteem.
  • [00:14:16] Exploring the nuances of sobriety and parenting responsibilities.
  • [00:18:07] Importance of self-care in the journey of sobriety.
  • [00:22:35] Recommendations for managing stress and triggers.
  • [00:26:19] Advice on building supportive environments for sobriety.
  • [00:27:17] Discussing how to talk to children about addiction and recovery.
  • [00:33:41] Importance of open conversation about drugs and alcohol with teenagers.
  • [00:37:14] Explaining addiction as a disease to children.
  • [00:40:37] Discussion on the "mommy wine culture."
  • [00:44:23] Finding new activities and communities in sobriety.
  • [00:46:13] Final advice from Samantha on not giving up in finding supportive spaces.

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Your Questions Answered: How Can I Be More Mindful Of My Drinking?07 Mar 202400:13:30

In this insightful Q&A episode, we delve into a commonly asked question regarding the desire to cultivate a more mindful relationship with alcohol without fully committing to sobriety. We understand that the journey towards altering one's drinking habits is deeply personal and not a one-size-fits-all. This episode is especially tailored for individuals identifying as "gray area drinkers" who are looking to redefine their relationship with alcohol through moderation rather than abstinence. We explore what it means to be mindful about alcohol consumption and how it differs from total abstinence, addressing the significant, often overlooked segment of our community seeking moderation. We offer actionable tips and strategies to help you navigate moderation. This episode is a must-listen for anyone contemplating moderation or seeking to maintain a mindful relationship with alcohol. Whether you're taking your first steps towards moderation or looking for ways to sustain it, you'll find valuable insights and support in our community's shared experiences and strategies.

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Marking Progress: The Power of Sobriety Milestones04 Mar 202400:27:49

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen delve into the pivotal role of celebrating sobriety milestones, emphasizing how each milestone, whether it's the first day sober or decades of sobriety, symbolizes a significant victory in the journey of recovery. They explore the varied meanings of sobriety milestones, how these commemorations serve as markers of personal growth, healing, and self-discovery, and the impact of milestones on mental health and overall well-being.

Listeners will gain insight into the importance of recognizing and honoring their own milestones, understanding that these are not merely about the absence of alcohol but are reflective of the hard work, resilience, and transformation experienced along the way. Sonia and Kathleen also share their personal stories, highlighting how milestones have shaped their own sobriety journeys, offering listeners a blend of practical advice, encouragement, and inspiration. Expect to walk away with a new appreciation for your journey and practical tips for celebrating your own milestones.

They remind us that sobriety isn't just a series of dates but a deeply personal journey filled with growth, learning, and plenty of memorable moments."Sisters in Sobriety" invites its audience to reflect on their own milestones and the profound journey of sobriety. Join them on their Substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that support women in changing their relationship with alcohol.

Highlights:

  • [00:02:27] Discussion on the essence of sobriety being more about personal growth than just abstaining from alcohol.
  • [00:03:32] Sonia explains the importance of celebrating sobriety milestones as acknowledgments of progress and healing.
  • [00:04:07] Kathleen adds the psychological benefits of recognizing sobriety milestones, emphasizing their positive impact on mental health.
  • [00:05:28] Variability in the significance of sobriety milestones among different individuals is explored.
  • [00:06:32] Kathleen discusses personal milestones beyond conventional dates, focusing on life seasons and personal development.
  • [00:07:26] Personal significance of sobriety milestones and their impact on Kathleen's journey.
  • [00:08:14] Sonia shares her unique approach to sobriety and divorce milestones, highlighting personal growth.
  • [00:09:13] The initial challenges and fears associated with early sobriety milestones.
  • [00:10:37] Sonia's recount of her first major milestones in sobriety and their personal significance.
  • [00:12:34] Creative ways to celebrate sobriety milestones that resonate with individual journeys.
  • [00:14:18] Addressing the challenges of feeling unworthy of celebration during difficult times in recovery.
  • [00:15:47] The role of sharing sobriety milestones in building community and inspiring others.
  • [00:16:53] Kathleen shares her preference for non-tangible milestones and reflects on significant life changes.
  • [00:19:05] Discussion on setting personal goals within the context of sobriety and recovery.
  • [00:21:31] Sonia talks about non-traditional milestones that are personally significant in recovery.
  • [00:22:33] The importance of gratitude in celebrating sobriety milestones and its overall role in a fulfilling life.
  • [00:23:34] Sonia reflects on how her perspective on celebrating milestones has evolved with her sobriety journey.

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Your Questions Answered: Now What? Navigating Sobriety Fatigue 29 Feb 202400:09:57

In this special Q&A episode, we tackle the pivotal question: "Now what?" After laying the foundation for a sober life, many find themselves searching for what comes next. We delve into practical strategies for breathing new life into the sobriety journey. Our host shares actionable advice on overcoming the feeling of stagnation by discovering new hobbies and interests that align with a sober lifestyle. We explore how to create fulfilling routines, the benefits of engaging with supportive communities, and the joy of rediscovering old passions through a fresh perspective. This episode serves as a roadmap for anyone looking to enrich their recovery with meaningful activities and connections, encouraging listeners to embrace the possibilities that sobriety offers.

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Your Questions Answered: Navigating Cravings28 Feb 202400:11:18

In this special Q&A episode, we delve into strategies for handling urges to drink during high-stress periods, categorizing approaches into immediate, need-help-now tactics and long-term, resilience-building strategies. We’ll highlight creating a personalized emergency plan with activities, support contacts, mindfulness and grounding exercises, physical activities, creative engagement, comfort kits, and self-reminders of sobriety's benefits. Additionally, we’ll discuss establishing healthy routines, identifying triggers, practicing self-compassion, and seeking professional help as part of long-term recovery support.

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Coloring Outside the Lines: Creativity in the Sobriety Journey26 Feb 202400:29:24

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, join Sonia and Kathleen as they discuss the intersection of art and sobriety. Discover how creativity becomes a sanctuary, offering solace and self-expression to those navigating the complexities of recovery. With their warm and insightful guidance, they'll show you how art can transform the recovery experience, making it more vibrant and fulfilling.


Dive deep into the heart of this episode as we explore pivotal questions: How can art aid in healing and recovery? What makes creative expression a powerful tool for emotional and psychological well-being? How do individuals find their unique artistic voice in their sobriety journey? Sonia and Kathleen tease out these inquiries, shedding light on the profound impact creativity has on the path to wellness.

Listeners will walk away with valuable insights into key concepts such as the therapeutic benefits of engaging in art, the role of creative activities in developing resilience and coping strategies, and how art therapy can be integrated into recovery programs. This episode is rich with educational takeaways, emphasizing the accessibility of art as a healing tool, regardless of one’s artistic skill level.

The personal story segment is a highlight, featuring Sonia’s own journey with art as a pivotal element of her recovery. Listeners will find inspiration and perhaps see reflections of their own experiences. T


This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources, where we continue the conversation, offering more depth, encouragement, and companionship on your journey to a healthier relationship with alcohol through the power of creativity and shared experiences.

Highlights:

  • [00:03:32] Kathleen's insights on how art intersects with sobriety.
  • [00:05:17] Sonia's perspective on art as a medium for emotional expression.
  • [00:07:19] Personal impact of art on Sonia's recovery journey discussed.
  • [00:08:28] Kathleen shares her own creative outlets and their therapeutic effects.
  • [00:10:04] Sonia shares her realization of the newfound time and possibilities post-sobriety.
  • [00:12:14] Exploration of various artistic pursuits Sonia engaged in during her recovery.
  • [00:13:24] Encouragement for listeners to find their artistic pursuits.
  • [00:14:50] Discussion on the importance of exploring creativity regardless of skill level.
  • [00:18:15] Sonia delves into her personal evolution through photography and writing.
  • [00:20:33] Kathleen talks about the psychological and emotional benefits of creative activities.
  • [00:23:34] Explanation of formal art therapy sessions and their benefits.
  • [00:25:49] How art and creativity foster a sense of community in recovery.
  • [00:27:02] Reflecting on the episode's takeaways about creativity and brain chemistry.
  • [00:21:40] Discussion on art as a stress relief and mindfulness practice.
  • [00:24:39] Sonia on finding new aspects of her identity through art during recovery.

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Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community
Sisters In Sobriety Email 

Sonia's EverBlume Website
Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram

Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*
Kathleen’s Instagram


The Sober Professional: Building Your Career Alcohol-Free19 Feb 202400:34:51

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are diving into the world of work and sobriety, chatting about how our jobs and careers can play a big role in our journey towards a sober life. They're here to share laughs, stories, and tips on keeping your sobriety on track amidst deadlines and work functions.


Get ready to ponder some juicy questions: Can our careers really affect our sobriety? How do you dodge the wine at work events? And what's the best way to deal with stress without reaching for a drink? Sonia and Kathleen have got some thoughts!

You'll walk away with some handy advice on setting boundaries at work, finding supportive buddies in the office, and mastering the art of self-care to keep the stress (and the booze) at bay.

Diving deeper into their personal stories, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own sobriety and work-life journeys, sharing the highs, lows, and all the moments in between. They discuss how their careers impacted their sobriety, from the pressures of work events filled with alcohol to the challenges of maintaining balance in high-stress environments.

And...join us for our exciting MOCKTAIL SEGMENT, where we'll indulge in tasting and reviewing two delightful mocktails, offering a refreshing twist on your favorite beverages without the alcohol.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your go-to place for making sobriety and work-life not just manageable, but enjoyable. Don't forget to check out our substack for more tips, guidance, and sobriety support!


Highlights 

[00:01:48] Discussion on work and sobriety as part of one's identity.

[00:02:46] The challenge of balancing professional life with sobriety.

[00:03:41] Work cultures that value partying as a challenge.

[00:04:35] The empowerment found in navigating work stress soberly.

[00:06:27] Kathleen shares her experience balancing professional life and sobriety.

[00:07:39] Sonia discusses her stressors and triggers related to work and sobriety.

[00:10:14] Sonia's story of selling her business and its impact on her sobriety.

[00:11:32] Discussion on baseline mental health and workplace stress.

[00:13:48] Sonia and Kathleen talk about workplace triggers and coping mechanisms.

[00:17:38] Insight into Kathleen’s experience in corporate socializing and sobriety.

[00:19:56] Managing professional relationships previously intertwined with alcohol.

[00:22:18] Strategies for navigating work events where alcohol is present.

[00:23:27] Disclosing a substance use disorder in the workplace.

[00:27:28] Introduction to tasting mocktails segment.

[00:28:50] Tasting and review of Gruvi Dry Secco.

[00:31:06] Tasting and review of Gruvi Bubbly Rosé.



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Relationships & Sobriety Q&A: Your Questions Answered15 Feb 202400:09:55

In this special Q&A episode, we delve into the complexities of maintaining sobriety while managing personal relationships. Through listener-submitted questions, Sonia offers insights into how sobriety can reshape dynamics, emphasizing the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, finding shared activities, and seeking external support. These practical tips aim to assist individuals and their partners in navigating the journey of sobriety together, fostering understanding and strengthening connections. This episode is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to balance their sobriety with healthy, supportive relationships.

Love Unbottled: Dating Without Drinking16 Sep 202400:35:21

This classic episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" is part of our new Dating Sober Series! Join Sonia and Kathleen as they share laughs, wisdom, and a few awkward moments they’ve faced while navigating the dating world alcohol-free. They promise to make you smile and maybe blush, as they help you explore the joys and jitters of sober dating.


What does dating look like when you're sober? Can you find true love without liquid courage? How do you handle a date at a bar? We're chatting about all this and more, sprinkling in some juicy stories and practical advice.


You'll walk away with a fresh perspective on sober dating, armed with tips on how to enjoy authentic connections, communicate your needs, and why sobriety might just be your secret weapon in love. We’re breaking down the myths and celebrating the perks of clear-headed courting.

And, because we love a good story, Sonia shares hilariously enlightening tales from her own dating adventures. It’s a reminder that the most memorable moments often come from the most unexpected situations and that sharing these moments with others can shift our outlook, encourage us to embrace vulnerability, celebrate spontaneity, and find beauty in the chaos of life. 

This is Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to place for changing your relationship with alcohol into something you love even more than your favorite rom-com. Don’t forget to check out our substack for all the tips, tricks, and tales you need to navigate sobriety with a smile!

Highlights

  • [00:02:00] Discussion on the opportunity sobriety provides for genuine relationships.
  • [00:02:44] The positive impacts of sobriety on deepening relationships.
  • [00:03:32] Comparison of sober dating to dating under the influence.
  • [00:06:26] Advice on preparing for dating and establishing non-negotiables.
  • [00:10:45] Sonia recounts dating experiences post-divorce and sober.
  • [00:12:35] Discussion on setting boundaries in dating while sober.
  • [00:14:02] Navigating early dating conversations about sobriety.
  • [00:18:16] Setting and respecting boundaries with partners who drink.
  • [00:20:02] Evaluating a partner's drinking habits in relation to personal comfort.
  • [00:22:13] Identifying red flags in dating that could threaten sobriety.
  • [00:24:20] Kathleen shares her experience of entering a new relationship sober.
  • [00:27:05] Finding sober-friendly date activities.
  • [00:28:22] Managing social situations involving alcohol with a new partner.
  • [00:29:51] How sobriety impacts emotional vulnerability in relationships.
  • [00:30:37] Characteristics of a healthy, supportive relationship for someone in recovery.
  • [00:32:00] Dealing with rejection related to sobriety in the dating scene.

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Socializing & Sobriety Q&A: Your Questions Answered08 Feb 202400:06:47

This special Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" focuses on navigating social situations while maintaining sobriety. Sonia, answers listener questions about handling events like work happy hours and bachelorette parties without alcohol. Key advice includes mental preparation, having non-alcoholic drinks handy, setting time limits, having a support system, and practicing self-care. Sonia emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's recovery goals and celebrating personal victories in sobriety.

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Understanding the Power of Parts: Erin Gilmour on Internal Family Systems05 Aug 202400:45:10

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen chat with Erin Gilmour, the founder of Rose Psychotherapy. Erin is a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) and Certified Canadian Addiction Counsellor (CCAC), known for her warm, down-to-earth approach to therapy. Specializing in helping individuals with addictions and eating disorders, Erin brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the table. Her own recovery journey informs her empathetic and understanding approach, and she is also a strong advocate for marginalized communities, addressing systemic issues in her practice.

Today, Sonia and Kathleen will be diving into the fascinating Internal Family Systems (IFS) model with Erin. Erin will explain the IFS model in simple terms. Imagine that inside each of us, there are different "parts" or aspects of our personality that influence how we think, feel, and behave. For example, there might be a part of you that gets really critical when you make a mistake, and another part that just wants to comfort you with a treat. IFS helps us recognize these parts and understand their roles. Here are a few key parts:

  1. Managers: These parts try to keep us in control and avoid pain. They might be the inner critic that pushes us to do better or the planner that keeps us organized.
  2. Firefighters: These parts jump in to distract us from pain. They might urge us to eat, drink, or binge-watch TV when we're feeling stressed.
  3. Exiles: These are the hurt parts of us that hold pain and trauma. They often get pushed aside or "exiled" because the other parts want to protect us from feeling that pain.

By understanding these parts and learning to work with them, we can start to heal and make healthier choices. Erin will also talk about why being kind to ourselves is so important and how mindfulness can help us stay grounded

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.


Highlights:

[00:01:10] - Introduction to Erin Gilmour: Erin's background in providing compassionate, evidence-based therapy for mental health issues, including addiction, using the IFS model.

[00:02:10] - Erin’s Journey: Erin shares her personal story and what led her to become a psychotherapist.

[00:03:50] - Founding Rose Psychotherapy: Erin discusses the motivation and challenges behind starting her own practice.

[00:06:34] - Explanation of IFS: Erin gives an overview of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model.

[00:07:35] - Parts of the Self: Introduction to the concept of different “parts” within us, such as managers, firefighters, and exiles.

[00:10:00] - Managers and Firefighters: Erin explains the roles of managers and firefighters in our internal system.

[00:13:00] - Exiles: Discussion on exiles, the parts of us that hold pain and trauma.

[00:14:30] - No Bad Parts: Emphasizing that there are no bad parts, only parts trying to help in their own ways.

[00:16:20] - Practical Examples: Erin gives practical examples of how these parts might manifest in daily life.

[00:18:50] - Introducing IFS to Clients: How Erin introduces the concept of IFS to her clients in a relatable way.

[00:21:40] - Working with Protectors: The process of working with managers and firefighters before addressing exiles.

[00:25:00] - Addiction and IFS: How the IFS model specifically addresses addiction and helps in recovery.

[00:27:30] - Healing Exiles: The gentle process of working with and healing exiled parts.

[00:31:00] - Self-Compassion: The importance of self-compassion in the healing process.

[00:34:00] - Integrating Mindfulness: How mindfulness practices complement the IFS model in therapy.

[00:37:15] - Client Success Stories: Erin shares success stories from her practice where IFS made a significant impact.

[00:40:00] - Continuing IFS Outside Therapy: Practical tips for clients to continue working with their parts outside of therapy sessions.

[00:42:30] - IFS Tools: Introduction to IFS journaling activities, meditations, and parts mapping exercises.

[00:44:10] - Overcoming Misconceptions: Addressing common misconceptions about IFS and how it’s different from other therapeutic models.

[00:45:00] - Closing Thoughts: Final thoughts from Erin on the power of IFS in addiction recovery and overall mental health.

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Sobriety Together: Navigating Relationships in Recovery05 Feb 202400:36:25

Welcome to an uplifting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety"! Your hosts, Sonia and Kathleen, are here to sprinkle some fun and wisdom into the discussion of sobriety and relationships. They're bringing their own brand of humor and heartfelt advice to help you navigate the world of love and friendship without alcohol. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is all about finding joy and connection in sober living.

Today, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into some of the big questions that come up when alcohol is no longer the third wheel in your relationships. How does becoming sober change your dating life? What happens to friendships when you're the only one not drinking? They'll tackle these questions with a mix of personal stories and listener experiences, making sure to keep the conversation light-hearted yet insightful.

Get ready to walk away with some tangible advice and a fresh perspective on sober socializing. Our hosts will share their top tips for navigating social gatherings alcohol-free, maintaining meaningful connections, and even enhancing relationships with honesty and vulnerability. It's all about embracing the positives that come with a sober lifestyle and how it can lead to deeper, more authentic relationships.

In our personal story segment, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own journeys through sobriety and how it's impacted their romantic and platonic relationships. They'll share the laughs, the awkward moments, and the heartwarming realizations they've had along the way. It's a candid look at the ups and downs of navigating love and friendship while staying true to your sober self.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your friendly neighborhood podcast for keeping life fun and fulfilling in sobriety. For more stories, laughs, and tips, be sure to check out our substack.

 Highlights

  • [1:19] Sonia shares her personal struggles with relationships and sobriety.
  • [1:44] Discussion on how sobriety changes relationship dynamics.
  • [2:20] Kathleen highlights the positive impacts of sobriety on relationships.
  • [00:03:10] Kathleen, as a couple's therapist, discusses the significant impact of substance abuse on relationships.
  • [00:04:11] Sonia reflects on the alignment of behavior with values in sober relationships.
  • [00:05:10] Examination of how different types of drinkers impact their relationships.
  • [00:06:08] Sonia's personal experience of alcohol's role in her early relationship.
  • [00:07:17] Kathleen shares how her drug use affected her past relationships.
  • [00:08:24] Discussion on how socializing changes post-sobriety.
  • [00:09:33] Challenges of being in social situations where others are drinking.
  • [00:10:47] Importance of communication in adjusting to a partner's sobriety.
  • [00:11:38] Discussion on how sobriety impacts communication in conflicts.
  • [00:12:42] Insights into how sobriety affects intimacy in relationships.
  • [00:14:12] Exploring personal growth in sobriety within a relationship.
  • [00:15:11] The role of self-awareness in understanding the impact of sobriety on relationships.
  • [00:16:57] Sonia's experience with personal growth and sobriety during the pandemic.
  • [00:18:29] How creative outlets like photography and writing helped Sonia in her sobriety journey.
  • [00:19:45] Sonia's ex-partner's reaction to her sobriety and the end of their relationship.
  • [00:20:31] Strategies for finding new sober-friendly activities as a couple.
  • [00:21:19] Effective communication strategies for couples in sobriety.
  • [00:23:31] Steps to rebuild trust in a relationship affected by addiction.
  • [00:25:16] Coping with feelings of betrayal in a relationship with a recovering addict.
  • [00:26:52] Preparing for and handling potential relapses in a partner's recovery.
  • [00:29:51] Addressing challenges with intimacy and trust rebuilding in sober relationships.
  • [31:03]: Supporting a partner through addiction and sobriety, and the potential for sobriety to bring partners closer.

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True North: Navigating Values on the Sober Journey29 Jan 202400:34:39

Get ready for a heart-to-heart on something we all think about but rarely chat about – our personal values! In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," your hosts Sonia and Kathleen are here to be your guides in a lively discussion. They'll help us uncover how our values can change and grow, especially through the ups and downs of sobriety. It's all about finding what truly matters to you and how it can light up your life in the most unexpected ways.

So, what's on the table today? We're diving into all things values – those little nuggets that steer our lives. Ever wondered how our values shape who we are, especially when life throws us a curveball like sobriety? How do we even figure out what our true values are, and what happens when they clash with what others expect of us? Sonia and Kathleen are ready to tackle these big questions with a mix of humor and heart.

In today's chat, you're not just listening; you're taking away some real gems to think about. We're breaking down how to spot your core values and why they're the secret sauce to making choices that really feel right. There's a little bit of soul-searching, a sprinkle of psychology, and a whole lot of real talk about how our values shift and grow, especially through the journey of recovery.

Sonia opens up about her own rollercoaster ride – from chasing what she thought she should value to discovering what truly makes her heart sing. She recounts her journey from adopting externally imposed values, such as success and financial achievement, to discovering and embracing her true values during her sobriety journey.  It's a story many of us can relate to, full of twists, turns, and those lightbulb moments that change everything.

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00:02:00 | Importance of listening to one's body and slowing down
00:03:00 | Taking steps to minimize stress and prioritize self-care
00:05:00 | Importance of defining personal values
00:06:00 | Definition of values as guiding principles
00:08:00 | Practical ways to define values through reflection and introspection
00:09:00 | Using a peak experience exercise to identify values
00:10:00 | Utilizing worksheets to explore and choose values
00:11:00 | Benefits of having defined values as a guiding force
00:12:00 | Personal values as a north star for decision making and life direction
00:12:41 | Freedom and courage as core values
00:13:18 | The changing meaning of courage
00:14:00 | James Baldwin quote: "Nothing can be changed until it is faced"
00:15:00 | Reflection on values before sobriety
00:16:00 | The emptiness of pursuing values without a why
00:17:00 | Struggling with values and feeling unfulfilled
00:18:00 | The shift in values after getting sober
00:19:00 | Embracing values that don't align with ourselves
00:20:00 | Reasons for adopting values from others
00:21:00 | The impact of cultural, societal, and familial values
00:22:00 | The value of money and its impact on self-worth
00:23:00 | Reflecting on past luxury vacations
00:24:00 | The importance of time and meaningful gestures
00:24:13 | Giving time vs. giving money
00:26:00 | Changing values in relationships
00:26:36 | Reflecting on past values
00:27:22 | How values affected relationships
00:28:00 | Sobriety as a catalyst for value shift
00:29:00 | Divorce as a reflection of values
00:30:00 | Aligning values with authentic self
00:31:00 | Techniques to define values
00:32:00 | Shifting values over time
00:33:00 | Reflecting on inherited values

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Imperfectly Sober: Embracing Self-Compassion to Navigate Recovery22 Jan 202400:34:31

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the importance of self-compassion in sobriety and everyday life. They explore the concept of self-compassion, its role in personal growth, and practical tips for implementing self-compassion practices. The conversation highlights the need to treat oneself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, and how self-compassion can lead to healthier relationships and boundaries. The episode emphasizes the power of self-compassion in overcoming setbacks and embracing one's humanity.

In today's discussion, we tackle essential questions: How do we define self-compassion in the context of recovery? What makes it different from self-indulgence or self-pity? Sonia and Kathleen explore these themes, delving into the psychology behind self-compassion and its impact on healing and growth. They discuss how self-compassion can be a transformative tool in the recovery journey, helping individuals to overcome setbacks and build resilience.

Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the balance between self-compassion and accountability, the role of mindfulness in recognizing self-critical thoughts, and strategies for nurturing a compassionate inner voice. These insights are grounded in real-life experiences and psychological principles, providing listeners with practical and empathetic approaches to integrating self-compassion into their recovery process.

Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-compassion in their sobriety journey and the challenges and victories in practicing self-kindness.

By the end of the episode, listeners will have a richer understanding of self-compassion's role in recovery, equipped with strategies and insights to apply in their own journey toward healing and growth.
 
This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

00:03:45 | Definition of self-compassion and its importance in sobriety
00:05:11 | The struggle of practicing self-compassion
00:06:00 | Reflecting on the definition of self-compassion
00:07:00 | Viewing mistakes as learning opportunities
00:08:00 | Implementing self-compassion and self-care
00:09:00 | Importance of forgiveness and understanding in self-compassion
00:09:52 | Overcoming self-loathing and trying again
00:10:06 | Personal meaning of self-compassion
00:09:55 | Questioning the point of trying again after making mistakes
00:10:30 | Differentiating between self-pity and self-compassion
00:11:13 | Allowing oneself to feel emotions without self-criticism
00:12:00 | Taking responsibility without placing blame
00:14:41 | Recognizing the significance of self-compassion in life
00:16:00 | Understanding accountability in relationships
00:19:10 | Setting boundaries based on self-compassion
00:20:02 | Identifying and enforcing hard no's in relationships
00:20:54 | The importance of self-compassion in relationships
00:21:48 | The role of mindfulness in self-compassion
00:22:46 | Practical tips for cultivating self-compassion
00:25:00 | The significance of self-compassion in sobriety
00:30:00 | The challenge of practicing self-compassion
00:32:00 | Understanding the humanness and collective nature of self-compassion
00:32:20 | None of us are perfect, showing compassion to ourselves

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Building a Sober Self-Care Toolkit: Reclaiming Joy Through Boundaries and Wellness15 Jan 202400:39:56

Welcome to "Sisters in Sobriety," where hosts Sonia and Kathleen dive into the vital topic of self-care, especially in the context of sobriety. Your hosts Sonia and Kathleen explore the essential theme of self-care in sobriety. In today’s episode, they will guide you, our dear listeners, through understanding and implementing self-care practices that nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

In this episode, they delve into pressing questions. They take self-care beyond the conventional ideas of relaxation. What role does self-care play in the journey of sobriety? And how can self-care practices evolve and adapt to life’s changes?

You'll learn about the critical aspects of self-care, including the importance of setting boundaries, the challenge of finding joy in activities outside of alcohol, and the significance of community and support in maintaining sobriety.

Get ready for a personal story segment, where Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-care. They discuss how their self-care practices have evolved over the years, especially in relation to their sobriety journey.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.


0:01:24 | Definition of self-care as caring for mental, emotional, and physical health
00:03:00 | Importance of self-care in recovery and creating a safe environment
00:03:26 | Importance of self-care tools and routines for sobriety
00:05:01 | Implementing self-care through setting boundaries and removing toxic people
00:05:56 | Self-care as treating oneself with love and nurturing
00:06:39 | Reparenting oneself and talking to oneself with kindness and compassion
00:07:00 | Challenging negative self-talk and body image issues
00:09:44 | Self-care practice of looking in the mirror and expressing self-love
00:09:58 | Kathleen reflects on her journey of self-care and sobriety.
00:13:23 | Sonia shares her self-care journey and the importance of being authentic.
00:15:00 | Sonia discusses the importance of listening to her inner voice.
00:17:00 | Kathleen explains how therapy is a form of self-care.
00:18:52 | Sonia acknowledges that self-care doesn't always feel amazing.
00:19:34 | Kathleen discusses the emotional impact of therapy sessions.
00:20:47 | Setting boundaries in self-care.
00:23:00 | Importance of "doing nothing" as self-care.
00:24:00 | Struggles with prioritizing rest and relaxation.
00:27:00 | Evolution of self-care routine over the past years.
00:29:00 | Finding connection in the sober community.
00:30:00 | Importance of sober community in sobriety journey.
00:31:00 | Challenges of having a spouse or friends who drink.
00:32:00 | Setting clear boundaries around alcohol and prioritizing sobriety.
00:33:45 | Developing a support network and expressing gratitude for support.
00:36:26 | Self-care doesn't always feel good in the moment.


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Sobriety's Ripple Effect: Changes You Didn't See Coming08 Jan 202400:47:07


In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the often unexpected twists and turns that accompany the journey of sobriety. They'll guide you through understanding the far-reaching impacts of choosing a sober lifestyle, revealing both the challenges and triumphs that come with this significant life change.

This episode poses critical questions: What changes, both anticipated and surprising, occur when one adopts a sober lifestyle? How does sobriety affect relationships, personal values, and daily routines? The conversation delves into these aspects, exploring how sobriety can reshape one's life, identity, and interactions with others.

You will gain insights into the complex interplay between sobriety and personal development. The episode highlights how sobriety can lead to a deeper understanding of one’s values, the importance of coping mechanisms, and the impact of sobriety on physical and mental health. These educational takeaways provide a comprehensive view of the transformative journey of sobriety.

Sonia shares her personal story of sobriety, detailing how it led to significant changes in her relationships and self-perception. This segment provides a heartfelt glimpse into the realities of navigating life's changes while maintaining sobriety, offering listeners both inspiration and relatable experiences.

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.


00:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and topic of discussion
00:00:12 | Discussion about Christmas celebrations
00:01:51 | Importance of being organized and sticking to routines
00:02:33 | Conversation about expectations people have of sobriety
00:04:00 | Introduction to the challenges and unexpected changes in sobriety
00:05:00 | Detrimental effects of high expectations on sobriety
00:06:00 | Advice for those considering sobriety and managing expectations
00:08:00 | Importance of ongoing effort and seeking support in recovery
00:09:00 | Discussion about the reality of sobriety compared to expectations
00:10:00 | Personal experiences and surprises in sobriety revealed
00:10:37 | Disappointment with using alcohol to numb emotions during divorce
00:11:21 | Realization that sobriety is an ongoing process
00:11:50 | Unexpected loss of friends due to sobriety
00:12:47 | Underestimation of shame and emotional impact of sobriety
00:16:10 | Physical benefits of sobriety, such as increased energy and better sleep
00:17:21 | Positive surprises of sobriety, including more free time and discovering new hobbies
00:19:27 | Transformation of relationships, health, and daily routine through sobriety
00:21:34 | Need for therapy and treatment of anxiety and depression
00:21:55 | Whole world opening up through the process of transformation
00:21:55 | Transformation process and its impact on relationships, health, and routine
00:23:30 | Self-medicating mental health issues and addiction
00:25:22 | Physical improvements after quitting alcohol
00:26:28 | Possibility of transferring addiction to other areas
00:28:00 | Addressing underlying issues and having support to prevent addiction transfer
00:30:00 | Importance of daily routine and habits for relief
00:32:19 | Mixed impact of sobriety on relationships
00:33:00 | Shift in values as a result of clarity
00:33:24 | Desire to help others get sober and embrace second chances
00:34:34 | Transformation and growth in sobriety
00:35:20 | Lifestyle incompatibility led to growing apart and abrupt separation for Sonia
00:36:12 | Experiencing pain and feeling alienated by partner's new lifestyle
00:38:00 | Importance of valuing and supporting sobriety in relationships
00:38:59 | Changes in values and the impact on relationships in sobriety
00:39:46 | Difficulty reconciling personal growth with partner's choices
00:40:52 | Negative effects on relationships due to lifestyle differences and emotional changes
00:42:53 | Challenges in relationships due to different priorities and codependency
00:44:00 | Realization that sobriety reveals true values and identity
[00:45:28] | Fear of sharing narrative about husband leaving due to sobriety
[00:45:45] | Reframing the reason for the marriage ending
[00:46:10] | Values were revealed and not in alignment
[00:46:29] | Acceptance became easier after realizing the misalignment in values

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Dry January Tips, Tales, and Mocktail Tastes01 Jan 202400:33:22

In today’s episode, we dive into the timely topic of “Dry January” - a month dedicated to abstaining from alcohol. Kathleen will share her inspiring journey, emphasizing how a period of abstinence from drugs was the catalyst for her sobriety, and the unique challenges that alcohol presented due to its social acceptance.

Sonia will explore the various drinking patterns and the importance of recognizing when alcohol may be more than just a casual habit. We'll unpack the importance of medical advice, seeking further abstinence, and finding the right support systems. Kathleen reminds us to do our research and reflects on her all-or-nothing approach to life's indulgences, sharing how an eight-week cleanse from substances dramatically shifted her perspective.

We will chat about the benefits that come with a break from booze: the joys of waking up clear-headed, the potential for weight loss, and the overall boost to your health and relationships. But it's not all smooth sailing, as we'll also talk about the potential for a pendulum swing back to binge drinking.

We don't just theorize. We are also putting our taste buds to the test with a couple of mocktail reviews. Will the complex flavor profile of the St. James 101 bitter aperitif spritz win the day, or will the fruity notes of the Hiyo peach mango drink with natural nootropics and adaptogens come out on top? Kathleen and I have our opinions, and we're excited to sip and share.

So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic beverage, and let's explore the ins and outs of Dry January together. Maybe you'll be inspired to join the movement or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own relationship with alcohol.

And as always, we welcome your stories and insights. Be sure to find us on social media and let's continue the conversation. Ready? Let's get into it!

0:01:48 | Explanation of dry January and its benefits
0:03:20 | Tips and strategies for starting dry January
0:05:12 | Importance of reflection and goal-setting for dry January
0:06:14 | Questions to ask oneself during dry January
0:07:10 | Personal experiences with periods of abstinence
0:08:02 | Challenges and triggers for going back to drinking
0:09:44 | Factors influencing the decision to drink or be abstinent
0:12:06 | Possible outcomes of dry January: positive and negative
[0:12:47] | Epic return to drinking after abstinence discussed
[0:14:08] | Positive effects of abstinence: improved sleep, weight loss, better skin, improved relationships
[0:15:32] | Different experiences during dry January: some find it easy, others struggle
[0:16:09] | Kathleen's experience with abstinence from drugs and alcohol
[0:18:00] | Can't go a month without drinking: possible problematic drinking
[0:19:20] | Various unhealthy patterns of drinking discussed
[0:19:40] | Recommendations for those concerned about their relationship with alcohol
[0:22:23] | Reflection and mindfulness during abstinence
[0:23:24] | Discussion on the potential of dry January as a gateway to sobriety
0:25:14 | Kathleen describes the Sir James 101 Spritz beverage
0:25:36 | Kathleen and Sonia discuss the complexity and refreshing nature of the drink.
0:26:13 | They agree that the drink would be suitable for ordering at a bar.
0:27:14 | Kathleen rates the likelihood of recommending the drink as 8 or 9 out of 10.
0:28:23 | They try the Hiyo peach mango drink and discuss its taste and ingredients.
0:30:00 | Kathleen mentions the marketing of the drink towards people living a sober lifestyle.
0:31:23 | Sonia rates the likelihood of recommending the drink between 5 and 8 out of 10.
0:32:09 | Kathleen expresses that she would not consider the Hiyo peach mango drink a mocktail.
0:32:16 | They conclude that the Sir James 101 Spritz is the winner.

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Sober Holidays: Surviving & Thriving Through Christmas21 Dec 202300:37:00

Hey there, lovely listeners! It's that time of the year again, and Sonia and Kathleen are here to chat about the glitter and tinsel of the holiday season, all while keeping our glasses alcohol-free. They’re sharing our own stories and tips on how to stay sober and joyful during this festive time.

The holidays can be a jolly jumble of joy and stress, right? From the aroma of mulled cider to the clinking of glasses, we're surrounded by cheerful temptations. But fear not, they’ve got some tricks up our sleeves to stay on the merry path of sobriety. They'll delve into those sneaky triggers, like the endless parties, the sometimes overwhelming family gatherings, and even those off-hand comments from Uncle Joe about why you're not having a drink.

Mindfulness is our holiday mantra. They're talking about staying present and savoring each moment, whether it's the twinkle of Christmas lights or the laughter of friends, all without that extra glass of eggnog. And let's not forget about those surprise triggers that pop up like unannounced carolers. They've both been there and will share how they learned to navigate these situations with grace and a good sense of humor.

Setting boundaries is like wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket. They discuss why it's okay to say no to certain events or to step away for a bit of quiet time. It's all about taking care of you.

Lastly, they chat about creating new traditions that don't center around alcohol. From festive mocktails to winter walks, there are so many ways to celebrate that keep the spirit high and the spirits low.

As a special treat they have a review of two alcohol-free bellinis - Cipriani White Peach Bellini and Mingle Blackberry Hibiscus Bellini!


Join them as they laugh, share, and sip a mocktail or two!  Let's make this holiday season one filled with warmth, connection, and sober celebrations! This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 

Highlights:
0:30 | Reasons why the holiday season can be difficult for those avoiding alcohol
3:14 | How mindfulness can help with triggers
4:47 | Unexpected triggers during the holidays
5:58 | Kathleen's struggles during her first sober holiday
8:54 | Sonia's struggles during her first sober holiday
10:37 | Sonia's epic drunken Christmas fail in 2007
12:18 | Triggers for binge drinking during the holidays
13:36 | Coping mechanisms and setting boundaries to avoid binging
16:37 | How to stay sober when you’re having a tough year
17:26 | Importance of showing up and using your tools for sobriety
20:00 | Creating new traditions during holidays
21:17 | Seeking support wherever you can get it
23:32 | Alcohol-free alternatives 
25:00 | The need to address isolation and seek support if feeling isolated.
25:23 | Having a plan before entering difficult situations is crucial.
25:50 | The importance of having a plan to stay sober on New Year's Eve.
26:00 |  A review of 2 Christmas Bellinis!


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Being There Every Step of The Way: Finding Support in Sobriety18 Dec 202300:37:00

At the heart of every sobriety journey, there is a support community. Be it friends, family, or regular community groups… We all get by with a little help! So in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen discuss what true support looks like in sobriety, and how to find it.

As with everything else in sobriety, support is personal; there is no one size fits all solution. So today, Kathleen and Sonia will cover key questions to help you identify your needs: can friends and family be your main support system? What should you do if they’re not helping? What’s the difference between AA and other support communities? Is it normal to feel really uncomfortable in a group setting? And perhaps most importantly: what are the signs that you have found your people?

Throughout this episode, you will hear about different types of support systems, from in-person groups, to online communities. You will learn how accountability and story-telling can help your recovery, and understand better the difference between coaching and therapy.

Last but not least, your hosts will be sharing the fourth and final chapter of their personal story of growth, family and sobriety. Previously, Sonia and Kathleen have told you about their youth, how they became sober, and supported each other through thick and thin. Now, they share how divorce and grief can still lead to a perfect moment, made of undying strength, new life trajectories, and a whole lot of family love. You will hear it at every turn: it takes a village to stay sober in a very non-sober world.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.

Highlights:

  • What does a sobriety support system look like? (2:05)
  • Finding support through big life transitions (3:48)
  • How Kathleen became a life coach and psychotherapist (5:20)
  • When Sonia’s sobriety broke her marriage (6:23)
  • How Sonia’s system helped her maintain sobriety during her divorce (7:33)
  • “I was with her every step of the way”: support seen from the other side (8:44)
  • Hearing people’s stories to find motivation (10:07)
  • Sobriety support comes in many shapes and sizes (11:24)
  • Understanding the different types of sobriety groups (12:40)
  • What’s the difference between therapy and coaching? (13:47)
  • Signs that a group is right for you (16:55)
  • How Sonia got the idea of EverBlume (19:05)
  • Becoming a recovery coach and kicking business into action! (20:36)
  • What EverBlume looks like today (22:18)
  • Back to present time: “You stick together, you get stronger” (23:12)
  • How to recognise that you need additional support (24:53)
  • Accountability as a tool in recovery (27:58)
  • A slip doesn’t mean you are back to square one (29:20)
  • The role of friends and family in sobriety support (30:35)
  • What your close circle should not do (33:36)
  • Kathleen and Sonia’s personal takeaways (35:00)

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Embracing Who You Really Are: Reaching Emotional Sobriety11 Dec 202300:43:00

You’ve heard of early sobriety, you’ve felt the very real changes of physical sobriety… But have you come across “emotional sobriety” yet? No? Well this is your chance to learn!

Welcome back to Sisters in Sobriety, the podcast that talks about sobriety, addiction and everything in between. In this new episode, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the somewhat elusive, yet life-transforming concept of “emotional sobriety”. And if you’re not sure what that means; worry not! Today, Sonia and Kathleen help you figure out what emotional sobriety might look like for you. They also give you the tools you need to reframe your emotional mindset, acquire better coping mechanisms… And make your white-knuckling days feel like a distant nightmare!

As they discuss their own experiences with emotional sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia will also wonder: Do you have to be emotionally sober all the time? What happens if you’re not? How can you change your approach to sobriety with new routines, and mindful practices? What are the signs that you might be losing your balance in sobriety? And how can you turn the hard times into the stuff that keeps you going?

As they walk you through these delicate questions, Kathleen and Sonia also share a new chapter in their personal story of growth, as sisters-in-law and sisters in sobriety! Today, they tell you how they came together as a family, and stood side by side, through the good times and the bad.

Brace yourself for an episode rich with emotions, and life-long lessons. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

  • Defining “emotional sobriety” (1:46)
  • Emotional sobriety as a very personal thing (3:25)
  • Sonia’s first steps towards emotional sobriety (6:28)
  • From “white knuckling it” to finding support in recovery (7:45)
  • When Kathleen becomes a mom…  (9:24)
  • …And Sonia, an auntie (again!) (10:32)
  • Sonia’s first sober vacation: learning to trust yourself again (12:12)
  • Kathleen and Sonia become family (13:50)
  • Learning to practice emotional sobriety (15:57)
  • Kathleen’s day-to-day meditation tips (18:14)
  • “Turning pain into purpose” (20:36)
  • A fateful holiday to Hawaii (22:14)
  • The end of a marriage (26:00)
  • Navigating significant relationships through a divorce (28:33)
  • When relapse feels like grief (29:36)
  • Being “dry drunk”: how emotional sobriety plays into relapse (31:31)
  • Signs you might not be emotionally sober (32:35)
  • How to encourage someone to work on their emotional sobriety? (36:03)
  • “One minute at a time” (38:20)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (40:14) 


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Mindful Drinking: Derek Brown's Journey from Bartender to Wellness Advocate29 Jul 202400:47:59

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are excited to bring you an insightful discussion with Derek Brown, a renowned author, NASM certified wellness coach, and founder of Positive Damage. Derek is known for his inspiring journey from being one of America's top bartenders to becoming a leading advocate for mindful drinking and inclusive spaces. Today, Derek shares his personal story and insights on how we can all foster a healthier relationship with alcohol.

We delve into Derek's fascinating transition from a celebrated bartender to a mindful drinking advocate. Key questions we explore include: What led Derek to change his relationship with alcohol? How can we incorporate mindful drinking into our daily lives? What are some practical tips for social situations where alcohol is prevalent? These discussions not only provide valuable insights but also help optimize your approach to alcohol and social wellness.

Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of mindful drinking, including key concepts such as intrinsic goal alignment, the RATE (Replace, Avoid, Temper, Elicit help) strategy, and practical steps to make healthier choices in social settings. Derek also sheds light on the evolving landscape of no and low alcohol cocktails, offering tips for creating sophisticated, non-alcoholic drinks at home.
In 2022, Brown published his second book, Mindful Mixology: A Comprehensive Guide to No- and Low-Alcohol Cocktails. 

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

Highlights:
[00:00:00] - Introduction of Derek Brown, renowned author, NASM certified wellness coach, and founder of Positive Damage.

[00:01:13] - Derek's impressive background: from top bartender to advocate for no and low alcohol cocktails.

[00:01:54] - Derek shares his personal journey from bartending to mindful drinking advocacy.

[00:02:18] - Early life experiences with alcohol, including family struggles and personal challenges.

[00:03:01] - Describing the intense lifestyle of bartending and its impact on his relationship with alcohol.

[00:04:16] - Decision to change his relationship with alcohol and seek therapy and wellness coaching.

[00:04:57] - Explanation of Derek's unique approach to mindful drinking and its personal significance.

[00:05:15] - Addressing the concept of mindful drinking and how it differs from traditional sobriety.

[00:07:25] - Challenges faced during his journey to mindful drinking, including social and career obstacles.

[00:08:49] - The importance of finding better coping mechanisms and improving mental health.

[00:09:34] - The process of facing personal problems without the aid of alcohol.

[00:10:25] - Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and its relevance to mindful drinking.

[00:12:00] - Defining mindful drinking and its connection to personal goals and values.

[00:13:56] - Practical steps for incorporating mindful drinking into daily life, such as journaling and setting goals.

[00:14:50] - The RATE acronym: Replace, Avoid, Temper, Elicit help, and how it aids mindful drinking.

[00:15:51] - Social challenges of mindful drinking and tips for navigating social situations.

[00:18:00] - Derek's views on the evolving culture of drinking, especially among different age groups.

[00:22:09] - Addressing misconceptions about alcohol's health benefits and the shift in societal attitudes.

[00:23:50] - Strategies for managing stigma and embarrassment when choosing not to drink.

[00:26:32] - Positive responses from the bar and restaurant industry to Derek's work and advocacy.

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Like a Turtle Without a Shell: Stepping Into Early Sobriety04 Dec 202300:41:05

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia talk about early sobriety, a chapter of your journey that will come with many changes! From new physical sensations, to heightened senses, early sobriety is a time for reset, and stripping your mental health to the bones.

So today, your hosts help you navigate this period of vulnerability and sober reinvention. For both Sonia and Kathleen, early sobriety was synonymous with vivid new emotional experiences and personal reckonings. So they’ll set out to answer the questions you might be pondering yourself: is quitting alcohol a “once and for all” kind of business? Or is moderate drinking an option? How to minimize situations that trigger cravings? How to continue socializing without drinking? What happens if you slip? Do you have to call that “relapse”? And during this transition, what does a good support system look like?

Let Kathleen and Sonia walk you through your first steps into sobriety, as you get acquainted with a whole new alcohol-free life! Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about healthier coping mechanisms, sober routines, mindfulness techniques, goal-setting and sobriety support networks.

This week, you will also hear the second chapter of Kathleen and Sonia's personal story of growth! Last episode, they told you about their early adult years, and Kathleen’s life-changing “rehab” experience. Today, join them again on their journey of family and sobriety, as they tell you how they met! Spoiler alert: Sonia’s brother had something to do with it. But there was still a long way to become family.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 


Highlights:

  • Defining early sobriety (1:30)
  • Kathleen’s first dry date (4:53)
  • Sonia on her brother’s sobriety (7:01)
  • When Kathleen meets Sonia (9:04)
  • A whirlwind romance (10:52)
  • Understanding the goal of early sobriety (12:19)
  • What a healthier lifestyle looks like (15:12)
  • Why the “all or nothing” method does not work (16:25)
  • The ins and outs of seeking professional help (18:00)
  • “Triggers are everything” - how to renew your social environments (20:11)
  • When Kathleen’s engagement wreaks havoc (22:09)
  • Drinking to cope with family feuds (24:18)
  • How to host a sober wedding (24:59)
  • Connecting as a family: when Kathleen gets pregnant (26:06)
  • Sonia’s early thoughts on sobriety (29:03)
  • What to do on a hard day (30:13)
  • Why a slip carries valuable information (32:39)
  • The role of self-compassion in a slip (33:56)
  • Boundaries and a support system: your barrier against a slip (35:32)
  • Personal takes on milestones and anniversaries (36:50)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (38:34)  

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Drinking Works, Until It Doesn’t: Making The Decision to Quit.27 Nov 202300:39:28

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety! In this very first episode, meet your hosts, Kathleen and Sonia, as they bring you to the start of your sobriety journey and discuss the big question: what does it mean to quit drinking? 

Quitting is the first step of many to embrace sobriety! It is your first moment of recognition and empowerment; to let go of what is holding you back, and start building a healthier life, without alcohol. Today, your hosts cover the questions that everyone in the sober community grapples with: what does quitting mean, actually? Is it a once-and-for-all decision? What kind of drinking is considered “problematic”? How can you tell if someone is struggling with their alcohol consumption? And is an intervention a good idea? (Spoiler alert: maybe not!)

In this episode, Kathleen and Sonia also unveil their personal story of growth! Step back in time, to hear their unique tale of family and sobriety. Today, your hosts look back on their early years, reflecting on how they built their own consumption habits in childhood and young adulthood. Between their student life at the University of Toronto, blooming careers fueled by the “work hard play hard” method, and a fateful yoga retreat in Mexico… There is a lot to tell. 

Stay tuned for insights into what grey area drinking is, how habit-stacking works, what constitutes a healthy sober environment, and how you can test out sobriety on your own terms! Because in the end, what matters is that you get there, “whatever it takes” as Sonia would say.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 

Highlights:

  • What does it mean to “quit” drinking? (00:59)
  • Sonia’s early experiences with self-medicating (03:08)
  • How Kathleen grew up as an only child (04:40)
  • Using alcohol to socialize as a student (06:01)
  • Spotting the signs of an alcohol use disorder (08:02)
  • The importance of being honest with yourself (10:11)
  • Why drinking doesn’t work (11:40)
  • Unpacking the concept of “habit stacking” (12:55)
  • How environment impacts your drinking and cravings (15:22)
  • When dental school tamped down Sonia’s drinking (18:52)
  • Kathleen’s corporate career and associated parties (20:56)
  • Sonia’s slow descent into drinking (22:40)
  • A sober awakening: when Kathleen’s life took a turn (24:38)
  • The benefits of rehab (27:30)
  • Defining the concept of “grey area drinking” (29:03)
  • How to talk to a loved one about their drinking? (31:12)
  • Values as a roadmap to sobriety (33:26)
  • Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (35:46)
  • Understanding that your life can improve so much (37:10)

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Introducing Sisters in Sobriety09 Nov 202300:01:58

You know that sinking feeling when you wake up with a hangover and think: “I’m never doing this again”? We’ve all been there. But what happens when you follow through? Sonia Kahlon and Kathleen Killen will tell you, because they did it! They went from sisters-in-law, to Sisters in Sobriety.

In this podcast, Sonia and Kathleen invite you into their world, as they navigate the ups and downs of sobriety, explore stories of personal growth and share their journey of wellness and recovery. Get ready for some real, honest conversations about sobriety, addiction, and everything in between. 

Wherever you are on your sobriety journey, join them! And enjoy a weekly dose of vulnerability, mutual support... And much needed comic relief.

Riding the Pink Cloud: The Highs and Lows of Sobriety - A Deep Dive22 Jul 202400:39:41

Welcome to another episode of "Sisters in Sobriety." Today, Sonia and Kathleen tackle the highs and lows of the early sobriety journey. They'll break down the "pink cloud" phase and share tips on handling sobriety fatigue, making sure you're well-prepared for the ride ahead.

In this chat, Sonia and Kathleen discuss the pink cloud—those early days of sobriety when everything feels amazing. They’ll answer questions like: What is the pink cloud? How long does it last? Why do we experience sobriety fatigue? And how can we deal with it? These insights will help you stay balanced and motivated.

You’ll learn about the temporary nature of the pink cloud, how to stay grounded, and practical strategies to overcome sobriety fatigue. Topics include the physical and mental perks of early sobriety, the challenges of long-term recovery, and the importance of self-care, mindfulness, and support networks.

The episode also features personal stories, including Sonia's struggles with sobriety fatigue and Kathleen's reflections on her early sobriety. 

This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

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Highlights:
 
[00:02:08] What the pink cloud is and why it matters. 
[00:02:29] Introduction to sobriety fatigue. 
[00:04:00] Sonia’s first sober high. 
[00:05:00] Understanding the temporary pink cloud. 
[00:06:53] Kathleen’s personal experience with early sobriety and fatigue. 
[00:09:00] How the pink cloud affects mental health and relationships. 
[00:10:30] Staying grounded during the pink cloud phase. 
[00:11:18] Feelings during the pink cloud. 
[00:12:46] How long the pink cloud lasts. 
[00:13:25] Why the pink cloud can be misleading. 
[00:14:24] Staying motivated after the pink cloud. 
[00:15:33] Navigating relationships while on the pink cloud. 
[00:18:13] Common setbacks after the pink cloud. 
[00:19:18] Managing expectations during early sobriety. 
[00:20:51] Prepping for the end of the pink cloud. 
[00:22:26] Sonia’s experience with sobriety fatigue and how she copes.
[00:24:00] Kathleen talks about the value of gratitude in sobriety.
[00:26:09] Recognizing symptoms of sobriety fatigue.
[00:27:31] Effective strategies for dealing with sobriety fatigue.
[00:28:13] Importance of mindfulness and self-care.
[00:29:00] Impact of sobriety fatigue on mental health.
[00:31:12] Role of therapy and counseling in recovery.
[00:32:45] The significance of self-compassion in overcoming fatigue.
[00:34:44] How support groups like Everbloom can help.
[00:35:39] How family and friends can support during sobriety fatigue.
[00:36:43] Turning challenges into growth opportunities.
[00:37:51] Maintaining a balanced perspective on sobriety.
[00:38:57] Final reflections and takeaways from the discussion.

Changing The Game: Jon Kostas on Psychedelic Therapy for Alcohol Use Disorder15 Jul 202400:55:50

Join Sonia in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety as she sits down with Jon Kostas, an inspiring advocate for addiction recovery and a trailblazer in the field of psychedelic-assisted therapy (PAT) for alcohol use disorder. Jon’s journey from struggling with alcoholism to finding a path to sobriety through PAT is nothing short of transformative. His mission? To make this life-changing treatment accessible to everyone who needs it.

Jon Kostas made history as the first person to complete a clinical trial at New York University studying psilocybin-assisted therapy for alcohol use disorder. He credits this therapy with curing his stubborn alcoholism and saving his life. Now, he’s on a mission to spread the word and help others through his organization, the Apollo Pact, which raises awareness and promotes psychedelic research by working with researchers and Congress.

Sonia and Jon dive into some fascinating topics: What drove Jon to try psilocybin therapy after other treatments failed? How does this unique therapy work, and what sets it apart from traditional methods? What are the potential benefits and risks? This episode sheds light on the exciting world of psychedelic therapy and its promise for addiction recovery.

Get ready to learn about the science behind psilocybin therapy and its potential to treat a range of mental health issues. Jon breaks down the rigorous clinical trial process, why medical supervision is crucial, and how advocacy plays a key role in advancing this groundbreaking research. Keywords like "psilocybin-assisted therapy," "psychedelic research," and "addiction recovery" will pop up throughout, making complex ideas easy to understand.

Jon’s personal story is incredibly relatable. He opens up about his battles with alcohol, the many recovery attempts that didn’t stick, and how psilocybin therapy turned his life around. His journey from hopelessness to hope will resonate with anyone facing similar struggles. As he shares his current advocacy efforts, Jon paints a hopeful picture of the future of addiction treatment.

This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.

*Jon was interviewed by Anderson Cooper for 60 Minutes, Harry Smith for NBC’s TODAY Show, Nightly News with Lester Holt, Sunday TODAY with Willie Geist, and Michael Pollan for How to Change Your Mind. He has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Fox, CBS, NBC, CNN, TIME Magazine, New York Post, Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, among other national outlets.

Highlights:

[00:01:14] - Introduction of Jon Kostas, his journey from alcoholism to recovery through psychedelic-assisted therapy.

[00:02:00] - Jon discusses the founding of the Apollo Pact and its mission to change addiction treatment.

[00:02:37] - Jon shares a bit about his early life and what led him to begin his recovery journey.

[00:04:00] - Jon describes his first experience with AA meetings and how it resonated with him.

[00:07:00] - Sonia asks Jon if he continued drinking after his first AA meeting, and Jon explains his struggle with maintaining sobriety.

[00:08:50] - Jon talks about his experience with numerous treatment attempts and the frustration of treatment-resistant alcoholism.

[00:11:00] - Discussion about the perception of alcoholism as a disease and how it impacts patients.

[00:12:30] - Jon shares his thoughts on the guilt and moral hangovers associated with drinking.

[00:16:00] - Jon explains his initial fear and hesitation about entering the psilocybin-assisted therapy trial.

[00:19:00] - Description of the screening and preparation process for the psilocybin sessions.

[00:21:00] - Jon describes the setup and environment of his first psilocybin therapy session.

[00:24:00] - Jon shares the transformative experience during his first psilocybin session and the realization of its impact.

[00:26:00] - Jon discusses the symbolism he experienced during his sessions, such as seeing a liquor bottle disintegrate.

[00:28:00] - Insights into the peacefulness Jon felt during a death experience in one of his sessions.

[00:30:00] - Jon talks about the difference between psilocybin therapy and other treatments like ketamine.

[00:32:00] - Explanation of the legal status of psilocybin and the importance of clinical trials for approval.

[00:34:00] - Jon emphasizes the need for proper medical supervision and the safety of psilocybin treatment.

[00:36:20] - Discussion about the potential for FDA approval and making psilocybin treatment more accessible.

[00:38:00] - Jon talks about the advocacy work of the Apollo Pact and its role in advancing psychedelic research.

[00:44:00] - Jon reflects on how his understanding of recovery has evolved and the importance of new treatment approaches.



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