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I'm not doing anything wrong. I'm a good person. What's happening?

Why isn't this working? Am I doing it right? What's holding me back? Keep going. Keep heading towards Allah. You're on the right track 🩷

What happens when you are going through a challenging time and your closest people let you down? What does it mean when they don't show up for you? Can we acknowledge our personal limitations around being there for our people, and extend that compassion to them when it's our turn?

All of our timelines for understanding and growth differ and we can't rush or control our own timing or those of others. Instead of questioning whether we could have done more to get a message across, a different question would be whether our audience is ready to hear it.

Where's the line between playing the part and being an entire human being? Thoughts on navigating vulnerability, openness, reality and truth in the context of social media and marketing.

Allah (awj) is inviting you to come back to Him. He has not given up on you. He still wants you. He sees the good in you, even when you no longer see it in yourself. Even after a million mistakes. All you need to do is to turn to Him

You aren't unworthy, corrupt or so lost that you should just give up on yourself. You're not too far gone. If you have nothing else, hold on to the one last thing. It may be the thing that saves you.

Where's the line between trusting in Allah and tying your camel? How do you know when you've done enough? What if you miss out on a chance?

This one is for all of the kindhearted, naturally giving, generous people who have become afraid of being used or taken advantage of. You can set boundaries that protect you and allow you to decide when and how you help others. It doesn't make you withholding or selfish, it just makes you human.

This episode is about the fear of being too needy in relationships and how to manage our expectations and emotions.

A lie has a mother & father. Let's examine our role in creating a safe environment in our marriages, families and the community at large.

What happens to a couple when one person makes their partner the center of their universe? Where are the lines between our individual lives and being part of a couple?

A message for anyone trying to heal, improve, stop or leave but finding themselves slipping up over and over

It makes it a lot easier for them to show up for you in the right way when you tell them how you want to be loved, and vice versa.

We can both accept things that are outside of our control, and allow ourselves to feel how we do about them happening.

Just like you understand its natural to spend time getting to know someone you just met, you also need to take the time to get to know yourself. It isn't arrogant or selfish to ask questions, reflect or pay attention to your inner world.

A person who gives with the expectation of getting the same in return will feel resentful and empty when they don't get that. When you don't love and respect yourself it can actually drive healthy people away from you. Securely attached, emotionally healthy people aren't usually drawn to people-pleasing or martyr behaviour.

It's really hard to mentor someone who isn't willing to get curious about themselves. People tend to be focused on analyzing others' behaviours and choices. A key qualifier for effective healing and growth is being open and curious about your own inner world.

Taking responsibility for the process of your growth and healing means dealing with triggers and setting healthy boundaries.

I haven't met anyone who meets my criteria without deal-breakers. Does this mean I'm being too picky? Where's the line between having impossible standards and settling?

Each person comes with their gift. Can you be receptive to the gift and let the experience go with grace? Can it mean that Allah (swt) is showing you that you are worthy and that this is possible for you?

There are relationships that primarily take from us, others that nourish us and some that do both. Which is which?

You can always come back home. You've never gone too far or changed too much to be welcome.

Start reading Surat Al-Baqarah and go hard on your Istighfar. Watch what it does to your life. Thank you for being here and jazakum Allah khair for listening.

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In the story of Musa (pbuh) and Al-Khidr in Surat Al-Kahf, we witness an interaction between a Prophet who is also a distinguished leader of his people, and a slave of Allah that had been given knowledge and a special understanding of matters.

Reflecting on Ayah (7:43) from the Quran, and how feeling all that we do is part of the Human experience in this world. It doesn't mean anything about who you are or your character.

Do you pause after an experience to check in with yourself and see how it leaves you feeling? Do you pay attention to the effect people, media, places or even food have on you afterwards?

For everyone who apologizes before sharing their thoughts or feels like what they're thinking isn't normal or probably not even acceptable.

Look at the bigger picture.

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For the fighters who are in the heart of the storm. You can put down the armor. You are safe with Him (swt) ❤️

Can we move away from the idea of love being something scarce that must be sought or performed for? And move towards seeing love as something abundant and ever-present. If you knew you were loved and supported unconditionally, what would change for you?

On being stuck and making tough decisions.

You have the ability to meet your own needs. A simple powerful shift towards your personal wellbeing.

This episode is about what happens when Allah wants something to happen for you, waiting for answered Duas, understanding delays and asking what it would cost/mean to be without His blessing and pleasure.

Treat people as you'd like to be treated. Being disrespectful or unkind thinking that people of faith will tolerate it is a flawed assumption.

A letter to you, beautiful girl with the broken heart. You know who you are ❤️

How do you define yourself? Who are you really? Who do you think we need you to be?

You're doing so much and you make it look so easy! How do you do it all?

Is cultivating a spiritual connection to your faith a substitute for applying yourself and doing the work to grow and heal?

How can I accept the past, make the most of the present and have hope for the best possible future?

Labels, roles, criticism & judgement. This is who you need to be. Says who?

We plan and Allah plans. A story about trust in Allah, hardship and ease.

Putting your heart and soul into making something and presenting it to the world is one of the scariest things to do. It isn't just scary for the first timer, but for every single one of us.

It's true you can't control how other people behave towards you. But it's up to you to decide when something isn't working for you, and whether you want to continue to accept that or not.

What happens when you are regular with Surat Al-Baqarah and you slip up and fall back into mistakes you used to do? How do we handle setbacks, delays and being in limbo?

If you knew there was a magical way to fix, heal and bless everything would you do it? Thikr is easy rewards, abundance and blessings that we've been leaving on the table.

Have you tried to start reading Al-Baqarah and stopped? Did you notice yourself getting sleepy, distracted, unwell, or overwhelmed? Do you struggle with thikr, consistency and motivation? Today I'm talking about ways to overcome those obstacles and how to put these different acts of worship into context & perspective.

I’m not sure why the audio is going in and out on this recording but I am sending it anyway. I will not be deterred :) This is probably the most important episode I have ever done. I’m sharing four life-changing habits/practices that you would miss out on if you left them. There’s no gimmick. It’s the real deal on how to turn your life and relationship with Allah around. I cannot wait to hear all of the beauty that comes into your lives and the ways Allah blesses you, fixes your heart, and turns your lives around. Jazakum Allah khair for listening. I look forward to sharing more. Sincerely, Sumayah

The Sincerely, Sumayah podcast is moving to a new platform called Substack. Become a free or paid subscriber to receive new content, videos and podcasts at: https://sumayah.substack.com All of the Sincerely, Sumayah classic edition episodes will remain available for listeners. ______ A brief episode on boundaries, vulnerability and human limitations. “I don't want to let anyone down, and feel like I've failed them if I can't be supportive. Sometimes I am struggling myself and I realized I have no one who actually listens to me.”