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After a painful journey through divorce and domestic violence, Janice Formichella changed her life by turning heartbreak into empowerment. She found strength in solitude, a story we've been waiting to share. As a breakup coach and host of "The EX-Files" podcast, Janice guided herself from rock bottom to new heights, and she's here to offer you a roadmap to transform heartbreak into personal growth. Her candid reflection on moving to Australia for a supposed short escape, which became a five-year journey of self-discovery, speaks to the power of resilience and embracing change.

Janice shares her strategies for rebuilding confidence after heartbreak by engaging in meaningful pursuits and embracing what she calls her sexy single time. Learn about the “sexy solo date nights” that replaced weekend dread with self-determination and how goal-setting and new projects helped Janice and others move forward from the pain of a broken heart. Her insights highlight the importance of changing environments and finding joy in one’s own company, as well as powerful tools to break negative thought cycles and foster self-confidence.

Discover how media consumption can shape your mental health, and hear Janice's personal experience of cutting out negativity to pave the way for a mindful lifestyle. She shares how uplifting shows like "Queer Eye" and "Grace and Frankie" became part of her healing process, transforming her from a party lifestyle to a more purposeful existence. With practical tips on building confidence and reclaiming self-worth post-breakup, Janice offers hope and guidance, encouraging you to embrace independence and cherish the journey to self-reliance.

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With the holiday season upon us, it's time to rethink your dating strategy. This episode is filled with strategies for holiday dating. Dr. Christie's Holidating 101 program offers actionable tips to keep your love life moving forward without burning out. Whether optimizing your online presence, attending festive events, or maintaining a positive attitude, we provide the tools you need to navigate this busy period. With consistency and a clear plan akin to a fitness routine, you'll be ready to tackle the surge in dating activity and find the connection you've been searching for. Get inspired to take control of your dating journey and open the door to the love you deserve.

Unlock the science behind love with Dr. Christie Kederian, an acclaimed therapist, dating coach, and former eHarmony matchmaker. Join me, Kerry Brett, as we unravel how cultural and faith influences have shaped Dr. Christie's journey to becoming a relationship expert. With her profound insights, we challenge pop culture myths and explore the sophisticated eHarmony algorithm that measures 32 dimensions of compatibility. Are you curious about how attachment styles impact your love life? Discover how understanding these styles can change the dating game for you.

Venture into the heart of the dating journey as we decode why recognizing intentions early is vital and how chemistry or scarcity mentality can hinder women from seeing the truth. Dr. Christie introduces the clever "criteria sandwich" to help you sift through deal breakers and must-haves, while the concept of "soulmate sunglasses" encourages authenticity over approval-seeking. Learn to avoid the pitfalls of dismissing good matches or overlooking red flags as we prioritize your desires.

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In this week's Shot@Love episode From 'Wolf of Wall Street" Ex-Wife to Empowered Psychotherapist: Dr. Nadine Macaluso's Story of Resilience and Love, we talk all about surviving toxic relationships, trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and healing. Have you ever found yourself trapped in a story that wasn't your own? Today, Shot@Love features Dr. Nadine Macaluso, whose life once sounded like a plot from a Hollywood movie; in fact, it was. But behind the glittering facade of a marriage to the notorious "Wolf of Wall Street," Jordan Belfort, lay a reality far removed from the glamorous image. From a model navigating the gritty streets of Brooklyn to a psychotherapist and author, Dr. Macaluso's narrative is one of profound transformation and resilience. She shares her journey of self-discovery, the intense dynamics of her past relationship, and how she used her experiences to fuel her passion for helping others in their own quests for healing.

The struggle to find one's voice amidst the chaos is a journey many can relate to. Dr. Macaluso’s account spills light on the often unseen trauma bonds underpinning some relationships. Her insights into the trials she faced during her marriage and the challenges of managing a turbulent household while nurturing a career are both sobering and inspiring. In this raw conversation, we also dissect the cultural shifts that have propelled women from a place of competition to one of mutual support—celebrating the newfound strength in women's solidarity through movements like #MeToo and the push against victim-blaming.

But beyond the past lies a blueprint for the future. Dr. Macaluso offers hope and guidance on how to rebuild life after escaping abuse and trauma. She discusses the power of setting boundaries, the role of recovery, and the significance of trust in forging authentic relationships. Her story is more than an echo of her former life; it's a testament to the courage it takes to step into the light of self-truth and to love oneself fiercely in the aftermath. Join us as we embrace Dr. Macaluso's message of empowerment, hope, and the enduring quest for love and safety in our relationships.

To learn more about Dr. Nadine Macaluso, follow her on Instagram @therealdrnadine or visit her website, www.drnae.com. You can also purchase her best-selling book Run Like Hell on Amazon. For more episodes of Shot@Love, you can listen to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and other platforms.

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Today's guests are Hello Prenup's Co-Founders Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe, and they discuss one of the most important topics around love PRENUP'S! Julia and Sarabeth are fearless female entrepreneurs and disrupters in divorce. They recently landed a deal on Shark Tank. A lot has happened during the pandemic. Although 80 percent of new couples found love online, divorce is still rising. People are three times more likely to get engaged during the holidays, but if you don't talk about money before you get married, bring on the problems and complications. In this episode, Julia and Sarabeth share ideas around moving to the next level or moving on. At the same time, offering tips that will put you in a place of power by protecting your pocketbook. We cover all the things – life, legal, and love. 

Hello Prenup's Co-founders are CEO Julia Rodgers, a Boston-based family law attorney, and CTO Sarabeth Jaffe, a software engineer. Julia could identify a need when she witnessed the enormous cost and hesitancy of couples looking for prenuptial agreements. With her legal training in law and experience drafting prenups, Hello Prenup was born. Hello Prenup is a company created by women with women in mind because it's no secret women's finances are negatively impacted by divorce more than their husbands. People's desire for prenups has increased by 500% in the last twenty years. Millennials want prenups because most get married later in life and are more established. Julia Rodgers and Sarabeth Jaffe tell us all about their passion Hello Prenup, the first digital platform where you can create a prenup quickly from your own home for a fraction of the price. Hello Prenup has been featured in the Boston Globe, Geek Wire, Forbes, Reuters, Biz Women, and WCVB Channel 5, to name a few. For those who missed Hello Prenup's debut on ABC's Shark Tank, it was viewed by 5 million people.

Kerry Brett, Julia Rodgers, and Sarabeth Jaffe cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
Why do people want prenups, especially millennials?
The three reasons why people are hesitant to create a prenup, and how to overcome those challenges.
262,000 people search google monthly looking for information around prenups. Hello Prenup has the most knowledge and content on prenups and is the #1 resource.
Why a prenup decreases the stress in your relationship, enhances communication, and builds trust around the important things in marriage.
Communication is key, especially around finances. Finances affect everything, your health, well-being, where you live, and the trajectory of your life.
Make sure you're operating under the same basic principles and values; while making sure you have the big questions answered before the big day. Remember, you can always change your answers down the line as long as you communicate effectively.
Why a relationship is a collaboration and essentially a business deal.
Why women are more susceptible to financial ruin after divorce.
How to overcome anxiety around talking about your finances and put yourself in the best position to protect the assets you have.

If you'd like tips on discussing a prenup, go to helloprenup/discuss. To find out more information you can go to their website www.helloprenup.com. Follow on all social platforms, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter under Hello Prenup.

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Today's guest is Dr. Christie Kedrian, and she's a therapist, dating coach, and previous matchmaker for eHarmony. Finding love is an art, yet there is a science around chemistry. Knowledge is power, and when you implement specific strategies, you raise productivity and increase the opportunity for success when online dating. In this week's episode, we discuss holiDATING 101 how to navigate dating during the holidays to find the one. When we come back, Christie will share tips that can help you find love during the holiday season and beyond. 

Dr. Christie Kederian is a nationally-renowned relationship expert specializing in helping clients create the lives they want and find the love they deserve. With an extensive career as a professional matchmaker and relationship expert for eHarmony and Match.com, Christie has helped hundreds of people find love and improve relationships. She is a "Triple Trojan" receiving her Bachelor's, Master's & doctoral degree at the University of Southern California in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy. Christie has been a featured expert in ABC, NBC, KTLA, The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, and many more. She is also a professional speaker and provides training with the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Kerry Brett and Dr. Christie Kederian cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
How to navigate dating during the holidays.
How relationships impact who we are as people.
Dr. Christie's online and offline dating strategies for dating during the holidays.
What Dr. Christie's learned about compatibility from working at eHarmony.
How to avoid falling into the scarcity mindset.
How to reset when you get discouraged with the online dating process.
Dr. Christie's Criteria Sandwich and why you should get clear about your core values.
Dr. Christie's Silver Bullet Swipe and why you should focus on the main thing you're looking for in another person.
Dr. Christie's five messages to meet method.
Why face-time pre-screener calls help vet people before the date.
Why the holiday season is a great time to be out there.
Dr. Christie shares tips and strategies from her HoliDATING 101 program.
Why you should utilize the down time during the holiday's to get back out there and date.
January 2nd is the highest dating day, so you want to be on an app.
Dr. Christie's three dating roadblocks and how to remove them.
Dr. Christie's ten dates to finding love roadmap.
How important photographs are when online dating and why you should invest in professional headshots.

To find out more about Dr. Christie Kederian, you can go to her website www.therapyfordating.com or on Instagram @thedatedoctorchristie.

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Today's guest is Michelle Oliver, and she's an entrepreneur who's been building small businesses for over three decades. She's also a business consultant and coach. If you’re going through a major life transition and need some direction, this episode is for you! You don't have to let past failures define you. Regardless of how you feel about yourself or the mistakes you've made, you can take things to the next level and pull in a healthy relationship. She discusses how you can use the same principles that it takes to build a business to create personal development and find success within a relationship. When we come back, Michelle will explain what she's learned in the trenches of dating while sharing her guidance and real-life inspiration so you can be at your best through your journey of finding love.

Michelle Oliver's business strategies help women believe in themselves and help them build the business of their dreams. She specializes in guiding women in their 40’s and 50’s who are at a point in their life where they are ready to commit to go in directions that they didn’t believe were possible. Through her coaching and consulting Michelle provides resources, support, collaboration, and community which allows you to move quickly and efficiently in achieving your goals. 

Kerry Brett and Michelle Oliver cover a lot of ground. We discuss why it makes sense when looking for love to apply the same principles as you would in any successful business endeavor. If your goal is to find a relationship it can be a lot easier and less stressful than you think. Why it’s not too late to start your own business or find love and YES you can have it all! In this episode you will learn about these topics:

Tips and strategies from a successful business coach and why these same principles work went applied to finding love.
Why you’ve got to get clear around who you are, what value you bring to the table and what you are looking for in relationship.
The importance of holding your value.
Why finding love is 95 percent mindset.
Why attracting the right people comes down to marketing and advertising yourself the right way?
Why you can’t approach dating half-heartedly.
Why people are successful because they are married to their vision.
Michelle’s start anyway philosophy. 
Showcasing your best version online and 90 percent of your success comes down to great photographs of yourself.
How to date strategically and move quickly when things don’t work out.
How to remain positive and look at every encounter or chance meeting as an opportunity.

To find out more about Michelle Oliver you can follow her on Instagram @iammichelleoliver or go to her website https://www.iammichelleoliver.com

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Today's guest is Angela Gentile, and she's the founder of Sweat Remix and a leader in fitness and wellness. Angela believes that if you can change your mindset and change your body, you can change your life. Her goal is to help you break down the inhibitions that stand between you and your best life. In this week's episode, we look at why we might be stuck and how we can shift from trying to survive, learning to reevaluate and make adjustments so we can thrive. Angela was inspired by loss, and her vision is to bring the Sweat Remix to people across the country who are stuck in jobs, relationships, and situations that are not working from them and are ready to make a change. Angela shares tips around changing a negative mindset, owning our part in our suffering, and why we should start where we are.

Angela's path to fitness evolved; as a high school English teacher when she had a vision for a healthier school community.  With fierce determination, Angela launched TEACH Fitness, a fitness, and wellness program aimed at helping teachers take better care of themselves. At the time, she felt stifled in her job as a teacher, stuck in a cycle of bad relationships, and paralyzed by the sudden loss of her father. As she worked through her anger, frustration, and grief, she developed the #ZenRageHeal process, and Teach fitness became Sweat Remix. Angela has many certifications in exercise, and she's taught at Boston's Equinox and built a fitness community across the country. She's been highlighted in Boston Magazine, Bustle, Boston Voyager, BeWellBoston, and Boston 25 News, to name a few. Her mission is to help bring your issues to the surface so you can be the epic person you're meant to be.

Kerry Brett and Angela Gentile cover a lot of ground and topics include:
How to get motivated when you're stuck in a rut.
How to use movement to heal from trauma and loss.
Why your story can be someone else's survival guide.
Why the best way to honor a loved one you've lost is to move forward and create a beautiful life.
How to move through negative energy with movement and exercise.
Why you should use exercise to create a higher vibration of energy.
Why do we battle with how we think things should be and how we can end our suffering.
How to unpack "how did I get here?"
How to move negative and stale energy .
Why energy attracts more energy.
How to get out of the shame cycle.
How to move our spirit in a positive way.
How to make the conscious effort to shift and move.
How to overcome weight gain while dating because it's not about the weight. It's about the underlying fear around self-worth.
How to overcome limiting beliefs and move through that.
Angela's advice for people pleasers and someone who lives outside themselves.
Why if you come from a scarcity mindset, more of the same will show up.
When you decide that you matter and feel good about yourself, the world will respond to that.

To find out more about Angela Gentile, follow her on Instagram @theangelagentile and @sweatremix and on FaceBook under Sweat Remix. Her website is www.sweatremix.com.

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Today's guest is legendary event planner AJ Williams, the owner of AJ Events and one of Boston's most influential event planners. When the event industry shut down during the pandemic, AJ knew how to pivot; she continued to raise millions for charities virtually. The challenges she faced did not stop her when it came to her professional career or in love. In this week's episode, AJ discusses how important it is to have confidence in your abilities, why a can-do attitude is a must, and why being resilient is crucial in any success. AJ shares the most valuable lessons she learned while dating; why you should date all types of people because sometimes it's the most unlikely pair that works out. 

AJ Williams is the creative visionary behind AJ Events'. Her work is ambitious and often unconventional. AJ masterminds' cutting-edge experiences for corporate and private events while being recognized as the "Top Event Producers of the Year" by Biz Bash and Biz Bash Top 500. Top Event Planning Companies by the Boston Business Journal and Boston Herald's Top 10 event planners. AJ executes press-worthy fundraisers with celebrities like Jennifer Hudson, Earth, Wind & Fire, Queen Latifah, President Clinton, Michael McDonald, Vanessa Williams, The Eagles, Run DMC, and Jimmy Fallon's the Roots, to name a few. 

She has worked in publishing, catering, fashion, and marketing. Some fun facts about AJ – she was a contestant on the second season of Master Chef. Was runner up for Miss Massachusetts (Teen) under Erin Bartlett, who is married to Oliver Hudson, and Miss Massachusetts (USA) runner up to the famed Maria Menounos.

 Kerry Brett and AJ Williams cover a lot of ground in this episode topics include:

 How to stand out and get noticed.
The importance of being memorable.
AJ's dating experiences while she was building her event planning empire.
How to use your voice and own being a bad ass.
AJ's advice for someone who's struggling to find love.
Why it's important to date all types of people.
The importance of keeping an open mind while dating.
Why you should know your non-negotiables when looking for a partner.
AJ's advice for navigating an interracial relationship.
Why being resilient is the key to finding love.
Why AJ's work hard play hard philosophy is the key to finding balance in work, life, and love.
Why sometimes it's the most unlikely pair that works best.
How to be open to the unexpected while letting go of what you think you want in another person.
Why you should look for someone who can't get enough of you has a tremendous amount of admiration for you personally and professionally.

To find out more about AJ Williams or AJ Events, the award-winning event planning company in Boston and Nantucket, you can go to www.ajwevents.com or follow on FaceBook at AJ Events or on Instagram @ajwevents.

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Finding love on Clubhouse is a thing! Just ask today's guest Kelly Shepherd Watts, a life and relationship coach who found love with relationship coach Louis Morris on Clubhouse. Kelly and I are obsessed with Clubhouse and can't believe howmuch our lives have changed from using this app. We love the connections, learned so much, and met the most amazing people since we've been hanging out on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is filled with successful singles who are not only lookingfor love but looking to level up professionally. These new friendships and connections have deepened our mission to help others find love. In this week'sepisode, Kelly will encourage you to join the conversation, find that community or love interest. Kellydiscusses how to make a powerful impact while sharing tips and strategies to finding love on Clubhouse. 

 Kelly Shepherd Watts has spent 35 years in the non-profit, social work and education industries. She completed her MBA and serves her community in Charlotte, NC while serving on 11 nonprofit boards in leadership roles. She started "The Coaching Concierge” where she has helped people “Make their Dreams a Reality.' Kelly has been a motivational speaker and facilitated leadership and professional development seminars. She’s also the Executive Director of a nonprofit helping single parents create economic success through group and individual coaching. 

Kerry Brett and Kelly Shepherd Watts discuss how and why people are finding love on Clubhouse.
It's easy to find like-minded people who are interested in similar conversations.
Clubhouse fills the feeling of loneliness.
Why Clubhouse is different than dating apps and a great connector.
How the heart can hear what's true and real.
If you are grounded within yourself, you'll do well on Clubhouse.
What makes you stand out on Clubhouse?
You create opportunity because you should up.
You don't know where your people are, so try many rooms to see which rooms resonate.
Why Clubhouse gives you inspiration and motivation.
Why people go to Clubhouse to change their lives.
Why Clubhouse allows people to connect without the pressure of dating.
Why we believe Clubhouse holds the future of dating.
Using Clubhouse to connect is using a different vehicle, just like if you used a variety of dating apps. 
Clubhouse gives you a unique opportunity to use your voice instead of relying on your leading photograph to open the door to a new connection. 
Nowadays, most people work remotely and are open to moving to a new location if they find the right person. 
More people are open to finding love in other states or countries by changing the radius or willing to try different apps to meet others.

To find out more about Kelly Shepherd Watts, you can find her on FaceBook under Iamkellydenise, Instagram @iamkellydenise. She moderates "Let the Gratitude Flow" and "The Heart Matters" rooms on Clubhouse.

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This week's guest is Louis Morris, he's the host of The Heart Matters podcast; he's also a relationship coach who is lovingly known as "Les Brown of Relationships." Attention all singles, did you know that finding love on Clubhouse is a thing? Well, it is! It's a real thing, and in this episode, Louis will share how he found love on Clubhouse and how you can too! In fact, Louis and I feel so strongly about helping others find love on Clubhouse that we've even created a Club together called the 90 Second Pitch To Get Hitched, which we host on Monday and Wednesday at 4 PM (EST) on Clubhouse. Louis shares his expertise about relationships, love and how to find the right person to compliment your life. He'll also teach us how to get our relationship groove back through spirituality, love, intimacy, and trust. 

After pursuing his certification as a life coach in 2018, Louis turned his passion for helping people with intimate heart matters into a career. Louis's mission is to help others who want to work through their relationship issues. He also assists singles who have been through a divorce, break-up, lost their companion, or struggled with past relationship issues. He supports his clients by helping them address their relationship issues from the inside out.

Kerry Brett and Louis Morris make the announcement of the new club, 90 Second Pitch To Get Hitched on Clubhouse,  and how excited they are to bring others together giving them an opportunity to find love. They also share what they've learned from all of the 90 Second Pitch's  while offering advice about how to stand out and make a memorable impact.

Along with coaching, Louis is a published author, writes a weekly blog, has a branded Amazon shop, and hosts his podcast The Heart Matters, which offers relationship tips and advice and exciting interviews with smart and driven guests.  To find out more about Louis go to louismorriscoaching.com, listen to his podcast The Heart Matters or follow on Instagram @louis_morris_coaching.

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Today's guest is Denise Rodgers, and she's a spiritual teacher, healer, and former "Dream Lady" who's appeared on hundreds of television and radio shows internationally. Denise found herself in her early 20’s pregnant and in love. Her life took on new meaning and direction after spiraling out of control and overcoming a traumatic, near-death experience, where she was shot twice, badly beaten, and left to die as her 5-year-old hid in the next room. Denise is the epitome of a survivor and in expert in breaking the cycle with a bad boy. In this episode, Denise will share how to quit bad boys for once and for all. Life with a bad boy is toxic, harmful, exhausting, and can be so destructive that could lead to dangerous situations that could cost you your life. Bad boys use drama, conflict, and confidence while telling us what we want to hear to keep us in the game. When we come back, Denise will share reason why bad boy relationships are highly toxic. How not to get hooked and break the spell to pull in a healthy relationship because love doesn’t equal drama and pain.

Following her near-death experience, Denise Rodgers embarked upon a healing journey by studying the mind and dreams. For the past 30 years, she has been developing and teaching her Mind, Body, & Spirit Self-Empowerment Programs. The results from her program have been published in numerous journals. Denise contributed a chapter on mind & body interventions in the leading medical textbook globally, and she's one of the few non-physician or non-Ph. D. to be featured in this prestigious book. Her program was also a special topics SPECIAL course at the University of Texas school of Medicine. After her deceased husband came to her in a dream, Denise began to study dreams and consciousness. She also appeared on the radio and television for 10 years as an expert on the altered state of Consciousness. Denise has been a Hospice Chaplain and Death Doula for eleven years and finds great satisfaction in helping people cross over to the other side. She strives to change the dialogue about death and dying, and she's interested in facilitating communication from loved ones through the form of Dream Visitations. 

Kerry Brett and Denise Rodgers cover a lot of ground topics include:
Characteristics that draw you into a relationship with a bad boy.
Why women often make the mistake that they can change a man.
Bad boys don’t pretend to be someone they’re not and have a high opinion of themselves.
Why bad boys use confidence and charm to hook you, meanwhile your confidence starts to diminish.
Bad boys are highly unpredictable, they love creating drama and a series of highs and lows.
How to change the cycle of falling for bad boys and kicking patterns of toxicity.
Even if you feel your situation is impossible to change it is possible.
Always chose hope, once you chose hope anything is possible.

To find out more about Denise Rodgers follow on Instagram @mindbodyspirit0921or her website mindbodypotential.org.

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Today's guest is Kait Warman, and she's the author of the book "Thank You for Rejecting Me.” Rejection is one of the hardest things we deal with when dating. In fact, 99.9 percent of us feel defined by our rejections. Kait's journey with setbacks and heartbreak wasn't wasted; it’s made her who she is today. Kait's experiences inspired her to write a book to help women navigate the painful throes of rejection. Kait believes rejection can hurt us - but doesn't need to derail us, destroy our self-esteem, or impact our feelings about ourselves. Kait is willing to go there and talk about how she's been rejected in many painful ways but encourages us and proves that rejection can build our strength. It can also clarify our life purpose so we can call in a more secure love for ourselves. Kait discusses how you can easily be freed from rejection and realize it is part of life, but it doesn’t have to run or affect our future. 

Kait Warman is an author, inspirational speaker, relationship coach, online educator, and host of The Heart of Dating podcast. Kait's mission is to empower others to have the courage to own their story, walk-in victory, discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. Kait is passionate about relationships and has hope that the dating scene can be transformed because let's face it, the struggle is real. She has an extensive dating background, has actively worked to seek hope, growth and a deeper sense of self love. She loves walking along side those on the same journey while showing others that dating can be amazing!

Kerry Brett and Kait Warman cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How Kait realized there wasn’t a lot of information around dating in the Christian culture, so four years ago, she started her podcast The Heart of Dating.
How derailing it can be to hand your power over to someone else.
How to take back your power at your lowest moment.
You have a choice in your pain and suffering and can take control of your healing.
Rejection is protection and redirection plus an opportunity to focus on your self-worth.
Rejection is an opportunity to pivot.
Why you should grab a notebook and write down the truths about you so you don’t believe the lies that someone else tells you about yourself.
Why the right relationship will humble you and make you want to do better, the wrong relationship will have you constantly questioning yourself, feeling anxious, and walking on eggshells.
Why one of the most attractive things is when someone is sure they want to be with you!
Why you should be with someone who is interested in being with you without you trying to convince them to be.
Rejections can keep us small and scared, or they can become things we grow through, learn from, and one day claim as a victory.

To find out more about Kait Warman go to www.heartofdating.com or follow on Instagram @kaitness or @heartofdating.

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Today, we have the MOST special guest—this woman is my HERO, and her books changed my life. Her name is Natalie Lue; she's a podcaster, speaker, artist, and writer of well-known books such as Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, a book that means so much to me I can basically recite it. Like so many women, Natalie had a litany of problems that included bad boundaries, toxic relationships, and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men. Until everything changed in 2005, when a crippling disease and the breakup from a barely-there guy triggered an awakening, igniting the desire to fight back. She wrote down her experiences and documented her journey, which led to self-publishing five best-selling books and creating Baggage Reclaim, including online courses, over 16,000 blog entries, and a podcast that has helped millions of women become "reclaimers" in over 140 countries. Through it all, her mission remains the same: if she can help even one person avoid what she went through and support others who have struggled with abandonment, rejection, trauma, people-pleasing, emotional unavailability, and feeling "not good enough," she's making the world a better place.
 
Natalie Lue is a thought leader in relationships. Her no-nonsense, compassionate, and humorous take has garnered a following in over 140 countries, and she's been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and the BBC, to name a few. She's the author of Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule, The Dreamer and Fantasy Relationship and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, which has sold 140K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 2 million downloads. Harper Horizon is publishing her next book, The Joy of Saying No, in October 2022. Aside from her self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim, she is also the founder of the kids' lifestyle blog Bambino Goodies. She's based in London with her husband, two daughters, and crazy cockerpoo. She left advertising to become a full-time blogger for the past 13.5 years. She's the former relationship columnist for In The Moment Magazine and has spoken worldwide at numerous conferences. Her current work centers around people-pleasing, boundaries, mindfulness, and creativity. 

Kerry Brett and Natalie Lue cover a lot of ground. In my opinion, Natalie is a brilliant writer who channeled this epic book and had the unique and perfect skill set to put it all together. If you struggle to date or think something is wrong with you, unworthy or not good enough, this episode will be a game-changer. Topics include:

Why Natalie has a knack for calling a spade a spade, tune into why she's always 100 percent right when it comes to problems within relationships.
You're not crazy or losing your mind, why it's crazy-making dealing with a "Mr. Unavailable".
Why Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the the gift that keeps on giving.
Why Natalie's books speak to the collective pain women, go through.
Why women are socialized and conditioned to get the short end of the stick when it comes to toxic relationships.
Why this is not the "Last Chance Saloon" and why we should never settle!
What a relationship looks like with a "Mr. Unavailable", spoiler alert it's not pretty and never ends well. EVER!
Why "Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl" was survival for me because society doesn't talk about these things or these types of men who cause all this distribution, havoc, and pain.
The definition of "Future Faking" – when someone fakes a future to get what they want in the present.
What "Fast Forwarding" is and why things start intense and moments later end up in smokes.
Why "Mr. Unavailable's" use "blowing hot or cold" to manage down expectations and control the narrative.

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Today, we'll take a deep dive into the dating world with the one and only Dr. John Gray. He is the mastermind behind the global sensation 'Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,' with over twenty books, including his most recent 'Beyond Mars and Venus. Dr. John Gray's insights have captivated audiences worldwide, from Oprah to Barbara Walters. Stay tuned as we discuss the timeless wisdom of Dr. John Gray's classic Mars and Venus on a Date, uncovering the five stages of dating as your success comes down to attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and engagement. Whether you're single, separated, or newly jumping into the dating pool, this episode is for you!

Dr. John Gray is the most well-known relationship expert in the world! He's the author of the highly acclaimed, widely popular, and most trusted relationship book of all time: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the ten most influential books of the last quarter-century. In hardcover, it was the bestselling book of the 90s. Dr. John Gray's books have been translated into over 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continue to be bestsellers. 

This episode shines a light on the five stages of dating to help you navigate the intricate dance of modern dating; Dr. Gray and I dissect the expectations and pressures influencing how men and women approach the quest for connection. We explore the importance of reciprocity and emotional bonding and how physical closeness can sometimes lead us astray from forming deeper, more meaningful relationships. Tune in as we delve into the art of communication, the significance of small acts of love, and how these elements are crucial in understanding and appreciating the unique language of love between individuals.

As our conversation culminates, we offer insights into the delicate process of building commitment. Dr. Gray imparts his wisdom on the critical role of maintaining individuality and balance in a growing relationship. Whether finding love for the first time or fostering an existing flame, this episode equips you with the tools to converse with depth, deepen emotional connections, and foster a lasting commitment. Prepare to transform your perspective on dating and engage with love in more profound and enriching ways.

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Today’s guest is Lori Mendelsohn; she’s a matchmaker, dating coach, and owner of Smart, Funny Singe, a service that helps divorced, widowed, and singles in their pursuit of finding love. What’s unique about this Milwaukee matchmaker is that Lori uses her intuition to vet possible prospects and is an expert at writing the perfect Bio that helps you get noticed and stand out above the rest. She carefully curates and crafts together words that read so perfectly that the other person can imagine themselves in a relationship with you and believes he’s the person you’re writing about. In this week’s episode, Lori discusses the importance of first impressions and why you should pay attention to body language. She also explains how she creates an exclusive story where the man of your dreams can imagine sharing their life with you.

In 2016, Lori Mendelsohn’s life changed when her husband broke the kitchen sink with his bare hands. Never in her life did she imagine that she would find herself navigating out of an unhealthy relationship or her marriage ending at the age of 61. This day became a turning point in her life, and from that moment on, she decided to walk the path of healing not only her broken heart while helping others who were going through a similar situation.  Lori also realized she could use her intuitive and empathic to help others. Going through a divorce, then entering the dating arena, she understood that being “out of the market” for 13 years, things had changed and changed in a big way. Now Lori coaches others in their mid-life to find themselves first, and in turn, find a partner of substance based on today’s needs and wants. She can help you write a dating profile that stops suitors in their tracks and on the road to finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Lori Mendelsohn cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

How she learned to date in her 60’’s, and how she learned to avoid scammers, and players. Why pain and experience are the most excellent teacher.
You should write your Bio as if you are writing a story while explaining this is who I am, this is what I love doing, and I’d love to see you being a part of that because men want to be included.
Why you should add humor into the Bio.
The do’s and don’ts of what to put in a Bio.
Why the leading photograph is so important and why it needs to be a killer shot.
Why you should lead with something that is unique or special about you when writing your Bio.
Why Lori encourages you to open your radius to a nationwide search. If you are interested in relocating for a job, then finding love shouldn’t be any different.
Why you should have a phone conversation or virtual chat before going on a date because it could save you a lot of time and the emotional investment.
Why you shouldn’t be focused on the outcome when dating and go into it without any expectations.
People often hide who they are and put on this fake persona. The secret to dating is being authentic and showing up as your authentic self, not your representative.
Why you need to drop the end game and don’t be attached to outcomes. Not every relationship is supposed to work. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not supposed to. Brush it off and say to yourself. NEXT!

To find out more about Lori Mendelsohn, go to her website www.SmartFunnySingle.com, on Instagram @smartfunnysingle or follow and ring Lori’s bell on Clubhouse, she’s located under her name Lori Mendelsohn. Follow her clubs, The Single Connection and Single Over 50.

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Today's guest is Carla Romo, and she's the author of the book Contagious Love, Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good, A book for women going through heartbreak. Carla is a firm believer in, failing to succeed, and in this episode, Carla shares how she held herself back from living her best life and was afraid of healthy relationships. How over and over she picked the wrong guys, then things would become toxic, yet she missed the lesson. Until one day, it all changed, and she realized she was exactly where she was supposed to be. We'll discuss why self-love is the foundation of successful relationships and how to ditch codependency, feeling bad about yourself while believing and investing in yourself. 

Carla Romo is an author and certified dating & relationship coach. She's the co-host of the podcast The Love Fix with Sherry Gaba. Carla is a nationwide speaker and leads workshops that inspire self-love regardless of your relationship status. Carla has been featured on BRAVO, also in Cosmopolitan, Lifetime, and the Knot. Melissa Hobley, the Global CMO at Ok Cupid, sings her praise and said her book Contagious Love, is relatable, inspiring, and the perfect guide to self-love and self-worth. 

Kerry Brett and Carlo Romo cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

What's the definition of a codependent relationship?
How do you know if you are codependent? What are the signs?
How to build successful intimate relationships?
How to communicate like a boss?
How to spot the red flags in relationships?
How to create relationship boundaries?
How to cultivate contagious self-love?
Carla’s advice for women who are afraid to leave a relationship that’s not working for them.
How to recognize your self-worth.
How to stop using the past to predict your future.
How to quit second-guessing your gut, your gut is your inner knowing in guide.
Carla’s golden rule for cultivating self-love.
Why boundaries will keep you afloat when you're not getting what you want in a relationship?
How to find the courage to be a confident warrior.
Carla’s advice for avoiding making mistakes online.

To find out more about Carla Romo, you can follow on Instagram @iamcarlaromo, or go to her website at www.iamcarlaromo.com. You can purchase her book Contagious Love on her website or on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Erin Washington, she's Lifestyle blogger, podcaster, and the author of the book Squats and Margaritas, a journey to finding balance - where she shares her story of how she overcame an eating disorder, and after struggling for two decades, two kids later, play dates, and happy hours she finally has the best body of her life. Erin's mission is to offer tips and support for women who feel alone in their struggle, working out, and not seeing results. 90 percent of women aren't happy with the way they look, and having negative feelings about your weight is one of the main reasons people hold themselves back from dating. Erin, shares her advice around getting in shape and feeling good about yourself so you can take the dating world by storm with confidence. 

Erin Washington is a wellness blogger from Northern Virginia. She's a former college athlete who struggled with weight and body image for 20 years. Erin promotes a balanced lifestyle of "Squats and Margaritas" and offers tips and motivation to women who are doing the work and are frustrated by the results.

She was a high school stand-out and went on to play at the collegiate level. After graduating from college, she moved to Washington, DC to work for the Washington Redskins where she met her husband, a former linebacker. In addition to raising a family and staying fit, Erin has contributed to Scary Mommy, Chowhound, and Northern Virginia Style and Living. 

Kerry Brett and Erin Washington cover a lot of ground. Topics they discuss include:

Body image, and worthiness.
How the loss of identity lead to an eating disorder.
How working out compulsively seven days a week didn't work.
Lifting weights, not cardio, is the secret to maintaining the weight you desire.
Why you should get off the cardio machines and lift. 
Weight and dating. 
Why not feeling good about your weight is one of the biggest blocks in online dating.
Advice for the person who thinks they need to lose weight to find love.
Why you don't need to be in the best shape of your life to date.
Advice for someone who's lost confidence in themselves.
Why getting in shape can make you feel better about yourself and motivated to join online dating. 
Erin's tips around fitness.
Erin's advice around finding balance.
If you feel good about yourself, it will shine through. If you don't feel that great about yourself, fake it and know what's inside matters the most. 
When you are dating, pick an outfit that you feel good in flattering and feels most like you. 
Weight affects how we feel about ourselves and if someone thinks we are attractive and wants to date us. 
Don't talk about your weight on a date. It may be a big deal to you but not at all to your date. It's not about fitting into your skinny jeans. It's about finding a person who's a good fit. 

To find out more about Erin Washington, you can go to www.squatsandmargaritas.com, follow on Instagram @squatsandmargaritas, order her book Squats and Margaritas on Amazon or listen to her podcast Squats and Margaritas on all platforms podcasts are found.

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Today's guest is astrologer and psychic healer Jill Jardine, and she'll discuss why love is in the air because Cuffing Season is about to take full effect. Say goodbye to casual summer flings because people are looking to get locked down. From September to March, singles hunt for a romantic partner, looking for someone to weather the colder months. The fall season is an incredible time to take things to the next level. Cuffing Season is a time when singles are more inclined to settle down intoa serious relationship. Just because the temperature turns doesn’t mean things can't heat up. Jill lets us know what in our love forecast for the Fall of 2021. 

Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a former radio personality on95.9 WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras shifts outcomes and proves to be an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, Jill’s helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves wile guiding them with important decisions. It’s no secret that people turn to Astrology in the age of uncertainty and often people look to the stars, as cosmic compass when dating. In today's episode, Jill will bring us up to speed so we can get a clear picture of what will be happening astrologically this fall.

Labor Day is behind us, and it’s that time of year Cuffing Season: for those of you who don’t know what Cuffing Season means? Cuffing Season is a term used to describe the desire to be tied or cuffed during the colder months. 

Cuffing Season is psychological, biological, and scientific. It goes back to the cavemen days and Darwin's theory of survival of the fittest. Data shows that more babies are born in the summer months, meaning those babies were conceived during the colder months. When the darker days settle in, people are more inclined to binge-watch Netflix and stay home, which means the time to get out there is fall for sure. 

Match’s CEO recently stated on CNBC that this fall would be the biggest "cuffing season" in history due toCOVIDlockdowns and vaccines. Match expects online dating to explode, so now is the time to refresh, rebrand yourselfonline and get back out there.

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Today’s guest is Sherry Gaba, and she’s the author of the book “Love Smacked How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love.” Sherry is also a Psychotherapist, Counselor and Life Coach. She was the go-to expert on a series of VH1 show’s such as VH1 Celebrity Rehab, Sober House as well as Celebrity Rehab and Sex Addiction. Sherry shares her experience around relationship addicts and why people who are hopelessly romantic and love being in a relationship continually move from one relationship to another always on the rebound never giving themselves time to heal or learn how to be independent. You’ll learnhow to steer clear of bad relationship choices,how to break unhealthy relationships patterns while living fabulously on your own or with a partner. 

Sherry Gaba helps people cope with codependency, love addiction, toxic relationships, and mental health issues. As a leading expert on addiction and recovery, Sherry’s TV appearances include:  CNN, Inside Edition, the Robert Irvine Show, Access Live, E! News, among others. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s World, the LA Times, the New York Post, and Psychology Today to name a few. She has also been a guest on many SiriusXM radio shows and now hosts her own podcast, The Love Fix. Sherry is also the contributing writer to the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times Tough People.

Kerry Brett and Sherry Gaba cover a lot of ground, topics include:
Why it’s important to dismantle and unpack the shame around failed relationships.
What empty void in your life causes you to jump from one relationship to another and how to fix those unhealthy patterns.
Why do co-dependent love addicts match up with narcissists?
Why it’s so important to be discerning.
Why the universe always brings you what you need to know.
Why having self-esteem is so important and helps you navigate out of unhealthy relationships faster. When you have self-esteem, you don’t put up with unhealthy situations.
Why do love addicts feel so alone and nothingness. If you’re alone and lonely how to address those feelings. You have you; get connected to you first.
The power in being present, people spend most of their time complaining or worrying which doesn't serve you.

To find out more about Sherry Gaba you can follow her on Instagram @codependantlycurious, or listen to her podcast The Love Fix where all podcasts are found. Free Ebook Narcissistic Partners and Love Addiction  https://relationship-quizzes.com/narcissistic-partners-quiz/

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Author of Love Smacked:How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to find Everlasting Love

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Today's guest is Kevin McLemore, and he's a podcast host, fitness trainer, and the author of the new book Dating with a Full Deck. In this week's episode, Kevin shares his relationship experience, lessons he's learned through marriage, divorce, and dating, and why you need to be honest with yourself before bringing others into your life. Kevin will discuss why we need to take responsibility for our actions because we have choices and chances in life. It's what you make of those opportunities that matter. We talk about how dreams become realities when you align perfectly behind them, how to become the hero of your journey to love and why you need to come into dating with a full deck. 

Kevin McLemore is a strength and endurance is coach, track and field coach, marketing specialist, trainer to Ironman athletes, and three Squash World Champions. He's also a television spokesperson. Through the power of story, Kevin is an inspirational speaker encouraging others to reach personal growth. He wants to help continue to improve other people's lives, like his mentor, the famed motivational speaker Les Brown. He's a social activist, Founder of RMK Productions 10 United Podcast Network, co-hosting podcasts such as Talking "Wit" Kevin and Son, Story Time and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings. He's previously published three books, Letters to Elvis, Sprinkles the True Spirit of Christmas and The Indispensable Game of X's and O's, How I learned Everything I'd Ever Need To Know About by Playing High School Football.

Today Shot@Love dive's into Dating with a Full Deck, a book that provides a tangible set of tools, that if applied to your interactions, will lead to the kind of conversations that will allow you to figure out if someone is compatible or not. This book also comes with a deck of cards that act as a conversation started that will leave you laughing and learning an awful lot about the other person setting you up for success when dating. 

Kerry Brett and Kevin McLemore cover a lot of ground topics include:

We have choices and chances in life, and it's what we do with those opportunities matters.
When dating, approach conversations authentically and genuinely.
Why do most people screw up on the first date?
Don't complicate your life by trying to be someone that you're not.
Why it's so important just to be yourself when dating.
Don't go looking for a person that will become your loan officer, bodyguard, babysitter, trophy, chef, or maid. If that's your aim, you'll only be left feeling empty in the end.
Develop what's inside, develop your character, and everything will fall into place.
Life gives you two choices, stay down or get up.
Be honest with yourself before you bring someone else into your life. The truth will set you free.
Do not wish for what you're not willing to work for.

To find out more about Kevin McLemore, go to www.rmkproductions.net. Follow Kevin McLemore on Clubhouse, Instagram @pkmclemore. Listen to his podcasts Talking Wit Kevin and Son, Story and Wine, and One Queen Two Kings.

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Today's guest is Bri Ellison, and she's the author of the book The Love Addict. Love addiction and heartbreak profoundly changed Bri's life when the future she envisioned for herself got destroyed when the love of her life blindsided her and abruptly left. Bri's idea of love continued to get derailed after many failed relationships. The thought of finding love consumed every moment, which eventually caused a pattern of addiction. Bri felt compelled to share her truth by writing about love addiction and how to overcome it. In this episode, Bri shares her story about finding love, kicking behaviors of heartbreak, ending the cycle of failed relationships, and how to find the love that's intended for you. 

Bri Ellison's book The Love Addict is an introspective handbook designed to help women identify and find the love they desire and deserve. If you're someone who creates or ends complicated relationships that have left you feeling like a different person, This book is for you! Bri's story reveals how she became tired of her life, knowing that had to change. She could continue attracting everything that wasn't good for her, or she could scratch everything she knew about herself and love. Bri pressed the reset button on her ideologies around love. Bri shares how she kicked her love addiction and lost her destructive behaviors around love and relationships while gaining transformational tools that dramatically changed her life, leading her to find love and helping women all over the world.

Kerry Brett and Bri Ellison cover a lot of ground topics include:
What can be learned about love from hitting rock bottom?
What exactly is a love addict? 
How does someone become a love addict, and how to unlearn these patterns?
Losing your sense of identity within a relationship.
What does counterfeit love look like?
Why do love addicts go on a journey to find true love, believing it's the only thing to cure her despair. 
Advice for people who are pulling in the wrong person.
Solutions for heal your patterns around relationships.
Common mistakes women make pulling in unavailable men.
Why should you get comfortable with the uncomfortable or the unfamiliar when dating?
Why, once you stopped chasing love that you can find it.

The Love Addict can be purchased on Amazon, and to find out more information about Bri Ellison, you can follow on Instagram @the_love_labb or follow on Clubhouse at Bri Ellison.

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Today's guest is Dolores Gatnik. Dolores is truly an inspiration who has the right idea about dating and living life to the fullest! Dolores had a career for 23 years, but her legacy is her family. She's the mother of 4 children and the grandmother of 4. Dolores met Ron Gatnik when she was 19 years old, and they wed two years later. They remained happily married for 55 years until he passed away. While grieving the loss of her husband, she's adjusted to living alone during a pandemic and is currently battling cancer. Dolores's motto is life is short, and you must live every moment. She's dating on Match.Com but isn't looking to replace the love of her life, simply looking to find a fun companion, and is open to the next chapter of happiness. Her attitude is everything and proof that life comes full circle. I went to my high school prom with her son 30 years ago and recently photographed her headshot for her online dating profile. When we come back, we'll laugh our way through her hilarious and hopeful journey of finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Dolores Gatnik cover a lot of ground. Topics include: 
Why does being a perennial optimist works in your favor?
Dating with the right attitude is the key to success.
The importance of reframing rejection.
Don't be afraid to let your personality shine.
If you have a big personality, people can handle it or not, and if they can't, they aren't your person.
One and done dates.
Why you should suggest fun and out of the box dates.
Why you should always be fun and fabulous!
Why is age just a number?
Dolores Gatnik’s advice is for someone who feels they missed the boat or are too old to find love?
Why you need to have a strong bio.
The importance of hiring a professional for your leading photograph.
The two things you are in total control of in. your life, your attitude, and your effort.
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Why no one ever made a difference by being like everyone else.
You'll never be too much for someone who can't get enough of you.

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This week's guest is C.J. Grace, she's the author of Adulterer's Wife, How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not. C.J. dealt with the double whammy of discovering her husband's Infidelity shortly after being diagnosed with breast cancer. She refused to be a victim and kept her wicked sense of humor. In this episode, we discuss why Infidelity happens, overcoming emotional roller coasters, regaining self-worth, and how to take our power back so we can be happy, with or without a partner. C.J. shares her laugh-out-loud yet profoundly inspiring story while reminding us that life is short and why we should go for what we want now! 

C.J. Grace was a BBC Journalist in the U.K. and China Radio International in Beijing. She's a speaker, voice-over artist, and Infidelity author and authority currently completing Hotel Chemo: My Wild Ride through Breast Cancer and Infidelity. When Arianna Huffington received a copy, she invited her to be a HuffPost contributor. C.J.'s been featured on BBC Radio, HuffPost, Divorce Source Radio, and the Daily Telegraph. She's also the Founder of the Clubhouse Club, Overcoming Infidelity, as well as being a cancer warrior. Now divorced and currently living in Hawaii, C.J. insists that the obstacles she's faced have enabled her to make her midlife better than her younger days. Her mantra is the best revenge is to get past the need for it. 

C.J. Grace and Kerry Brett cover a lot of ground. This episode is an excellent resource for starting over and navigating challenging times such as losing a relationship, health issues, or simply reinventing. Topics include:

How to move past cheating and letting go of anger or vengefulness.
How C.J. survived by creating and using her 6-part system.
Why you shouldn't make important decisions based on emotions.
How to use anger and pain to create the best life possible.
Why Infidelity is considerably more common for men than women.
The old boys club around the subject of adultery.
How to thrive whether you decide to stay or not.
How common Infidelity is, in fact, Infidelity is more common than alcoholism. 
Why people kept secrets and don't talk about this important, heartbreaking subject.
How women get destroyed by being cheated on and how we can help ourselves. 
C.J. offers great advice around getting out of the box of negative emotions.
How cheating creates low self-worth while kicking up shame and fear, and how to overcome these emotions.
How to pull yourself out of a victim mindset when you are deceived by a cheating partner.
Why someone who's left you or cheated on you isn't the end all be all, and why you should quickly take your power back and move forward.
How obstacles and adversity triggers personal transformation.
What you can learn about yourself in your darkest hour.
Trust it if you get a gut feeling that something isn't right about someone or a situation.
Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.
If another woman steals your man, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can't be stolen.
C.J.'s mantra, "the best revenge is to get past the need for it".

To find out more about C.J. Grace, follow her website for more information www.adultererswife.com, or follow her on Instagram @cjgraceauthor. Purchase her book Adulterer's Wife, How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not on Amazon.

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Today's guest is Bobby Shanks, and he's the author of the new upcoming book "Undatable." Do you think dating is the worst? If that's how you feel, Bobby believes you could be perpetuating your undatable tendencies, these same tendencies that afflict millions of adult singles all over the world. To help navigate this problem, Bobby wrote a humorous how-to book to address your blocks, fix them, and find what you want, need, and deserve. In this episode, we discuss the many dating dilemmas facing singles today, such as ghosting, one-night stands, lonely nights, frustrations around dating, and the steps we can take to succeed.

Bobby Shanks is an expert in residential and new construction properties and the owner of Shanks Realty Group with over 15 years of experience working in the Jefferson County & St. Louis area. He's also a podcaster and author of the new book "updateable." In his words, he's a regular, everyday guy who's single and ready to mingle but just hasn't had that "aha" moment where he felt like he wanted to spend more time with the vast majority of people he's gone out with. If you don't want to settle or go on countless dead-end dates to weed through all of the applicants to find gold, this book is for you! Bobby also shares hilarious and embarrassing personal experiences in this new must-read, including specific things to consider that will take you from updateable to an amazing dateable person! 

Bobby grew up in a tiny midwestern town with a high school graduating class of 20 people. He came from a great family, was always a hard worker and provider. He got married in his mid 20's and found himself married twice with three kids by the age of 45. He was hopeful and excited when he began dating but found he was naive about the challenges online dating brings. 

Kerry Brett and Bobby Shanks cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to use sales and business skills and applied them to dating.
We both knew a lot about the opposite sex and were quick studies around online dating.
How Bobby went on 50 dates during Covid-19, and what he learned about dating during the pandemic.
The essence of contract law and how that compares to online dating?
Bobby's three pillars and his second list of bonus things.
The difference between willingness and worthiness. 
Why most singles have a negative experience around online dating rather than a positive.
To be dateable, you need to address your past relationship trauma and resentments of things not working out and find peace with your past.
Why dating isn't a waste of time, it's an investment in yourself and others.
Bobby's advice for people who feel like they are a failure, terrible at dating, or either unworthy or updateable.
The importance of being truly available, and if you think you are too busy to date, you're just not managing your time correctly.
What you focus on expands. If your focus is to date and find love online, you'll have it. It's that simple.How to go from updateable to an amazing dateable person!

To find out more about Bobby Shanks, follow him on Facebook under updateable The Book. He's also on Facebook under Bobby Shanks. On Instagram @askforbobbystl. You can also find him on YouTube or listen to his podcast updateable (The Book) everywhere you find podcasts. "Undatable, Why Singles Struggle with Dating and What to Do About It" will be released in August 2021 on Amazon.

Shot@Love has recently been nominated for the 16th Annual People's Choice Podcast Award and voting closes on July 31st. I would love your vote for Best Female Host. Thank you in advance if you vote or have voted!

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Unlock the transformative power of breakups with relationship scientist Dr. Gary Lewandowski, who joins us to offer a fresh perspective on the end of love affairs. Through the lens of his book "Stronger Than You Think" and the innovative tool StayGo, Dr. Lewandowski guides us through heartbreak's hidden opportunities, drawing on the Japanese art of kintsugi to illustrate finding strength in our fractures. The dialogue promises empowerment, emphasizing personal growth and liberation that often go unrecognized amidst the anguish of a split.

As we navigate the aftermath of a relationship, Dr. Lewandowski shares groundbreaking findings on how rediscovering oneself can be self-care. We discuss the study, revealing a surprising twist: the comfort found in re-engaging with pre-relationship interests outweighs that of new pursuits. This episode probes the complexities of identity and the intertwining that occurs within a partnership, highlighting the importance of a diversified self. We also tackle the weighty decisions that come with potentially ending a relationship, underscoring the gravity of such crossroads in life.

Turning the spotlight on the enigmatic dance of attraction and power within relationships, we scrutinize the halo effect and its deceptive sway. Dr. Lewandowski and I dissect the allure of physical beauty, its fleeting promise, and the stability found in more profound, more compatible matches. Finally, we dive into maintaining an equitable power balance and how authenticity and self-reflection can foster healthier, more balanced connections. This episode promises not just insights, but practical wisdom for those seeking to understand the heart's journey through love and loss.

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This week's guest is Jeff Lubin; he's a nationally known Master Photographer, keynote speaker, a leader in the business and photography world, and an expert in sales. He's also owned one of the most successful studios in the country for over 38 years. Jeff is my mentor and the reason I had my online dating breakthrough. He's also given me some of the best advice in my life. In this episode, we discuss the ways relationships are just like running a business. There are many similarities, like the importance of your brand, your value, networking, connections, down to supply and demand. We also discuss unwritten rules, navigating the highs and lows, and why we should remain confident in our abilities. 

 Jeff Lubin began with humble beginnings in a small studio with a window and a neon sign to becoming the leading portrait photographer in the Washington, D.C. area for nearly four decades. Some of his clients include Lynda Carter, Cal Ripken, Robert & Sheila Johnson, and Larry King. In 2017, The Lubin Studio was commissioned to create seven paintings to adorn the United States Court of Appeals for The Armed Forces work, which will display throughout history. 
 
Jeff's style has won him many national and state awards. He earned the coveted Master of Photography Degree from Professional Photographers of American in 1992, after only three years of competition. The following year, he received his Craftsman Degree. Jeff's work has been featured in several issues of Rangefinder Magazine and The Professional Photographer. He has also published over 100 articles in photography. He's been a renowned keynote speaker at national and state conventions all over the globe. Jeff's style is one of the most emulated in the photography industry over the last quarter-century.

Kerry Brett and Jeff Lubin cover a lot of ground, from photography, building a brand and successful business, to starting over with online dating. Topics include:
How to create a household name brand.
How to be relentless in your pursuit to the top.
How to stand out in a crowd and be memorable.
Why if you be your true authentic self, you will be more likable and relatable.
Often people don't give themselves a chance or realize what makes them different or special is the very thing that will make them stand out in business or on these dating apps. 
Why true growth comes from the experiences you have and things not working out.
Why having a never quit mentality is the reason behind an entrepreneur's success.
Why limiting beliefs keep us stuck in our current situation, either staying in a job that makes you unhappy or in the area of our love lives. 
You are what you think and how thoughts expand.
If you can change your thinking you can change your reality.
What you resist persists, and if you are doing the same patterns repeatedly and things are working, that is the definition of insanity.

To find out more about Jeff Lubin go to www.jefflubin.com. or join 10,000 photographers ib his Facebook group Jeff Lubin's Portrait and Business  Tip of the Day and on Instagram @j_lubin. Follow Jeff Lubin  and ring his bell on clubhouse.

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Today's guest is Clémentine Lalande, and she's the founder and CEO of the dating app Once. Back in 2015, along with a friend, Clémentine created the "slow dating" app, which delivers one match a day to each user. The app is the leading dating App in Europe, which has over 10 million users. Once launched, a matching algorithm based on a user's "emotional profile" created by a team of psychologists and dating experts. Once's vision is to create a post-swipe world. Clémentine discusses how she's changing the online dating culture, why we should give The Love Experiment a shot, and why this quality-over-quantity approach is the solution to the oversaturated dating scene.

Clémentine Lalande has this vision of a new way of dating firmly in her mind. Once leverages AI algorithms to provide just one match per day to each user. Each pair has 24 hours of each other's attention and can continue chatting if they "like" each other. And this method seems to be more than popular. In early 2021, the Dating Group acquired the company, overall valuing the company at 18 million.

Clémentine has over a decade of experience in technology and business development. She's also founded the dating app Pickable, a feminist dating app, which reverses gender power imbalances by requiring only men to create a profile. A few months after its launch, it had two million users. Pickable was awarded by Apple then sold to Once, while she continues to serve as CEO while heading the united company.

Kerry Brett and Clémentine Lalande cover a lot of ground and topics include:
The recent launch of the Love Connection and why this is beneficial to daters. 
The Love Connection is the first dating app algorithm created by an all-female team whose goal is to swap endless, image-centric swiping for meaningful connections by offering users just a single, carefully selected match each day. 
The Love Experiment enlisted the help of French psychoanalyst Fabienne Kramer and British psychologist Dannielle Haig. Together, they created a set of 28 questions inspired by transactional analysis, analytical psychology, and behavioral analysis to identify a person's emotional profile.
Clémentine plans to change the swiping culture, and she feels swiping on a variety of apps is like searching for a number in the phone book. That it simply makes singles unhappy.
Once matches people based on personality. Once, is the only dating site that matches couples based on the Myers-Briggs personality test. 
Clémentine shares advice for women around staying hopeful and optimistic  when dating online.
Why you should be specific in your bio and be specific for what you're looking for.
Remember to keep in mind the profile is not the person.
Don't spend more than three days speaking with someone online. Cross that bridge from digital to real-life ASAP – the sooner you do this, the better off you'll be.

To find out more about Once visit getonce.com. For more information about Clémentine LaLande you can find her on Twitter @clemeentine or on LinkedIn.

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This week's guest is Jeff McMahon. He has the most incredible career in the music industry. He was the keyboardist and vocalist for Tim McGraw's band The Dancehall Doctors for 18 years. Jeff wasn't with Tim from the beginning but early enough before Indian Outlaw came out, so let's say once he hired Jeff, Tim's career took off. Jeff even played "Live Like You're Dying" at the Country Music Awards. A song so special it took on a life of its own, shooting up the charts in record time, breaking a thirty-year record for consecutive weeks at number one on the Billboard Charts. Jeff also wrote the last chapter for Baseball legend Tug McGraw's autobiography "Ya Gotta Believe." He also ran marathons  for the Tug McGraw Foundation while supporting research for brain tumor patients. 

Jeff McMahon went to Nashville all by himself; his Dad used to drive two hours to buy records and wouldn't allow him to buy his first keyboard unless they could afford a case. He's a self-taught piano man who became the 2001 Nominee for "Musician of the Year/Keyboardist" by the Academy of Country Music. He's played with Tim McGraw and the Dancehall Doctors for nearly two decades  and played on countless number one singles. He's edited books, and aside from running 6 marathons himself, coached other runners to raise money for charities while working and producing new artists like Ashlyn Grayce, Jim Brown, Nicole Lewis, and Maddye Trew, and Zach Stone.

In this episode, Jeff discusses moving forward, hit records, and holding onto your heart. He also shares lessons from the road and tips around making stronger connections with others. It where cameras, keyboards, and Clubhouse meet. With a powerful performance at the end! 

Kerry Brett and Jeff McMahon cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Why being authentic allows you to connect with others in a meaningful way.
Slow down and pay attention to others. Paying attention and listening will go a long way when building new relationships online.
You will connect with people for different reasons, so just be yourself, and don't be afraid to say what's on your mind.
Set boundaries with your schedule, don't try to be too available. Men like women who aren't easily assessable.
If you're honest with who you are, you will stand out. Most people are pretending to have a perfect life that doesn't exist.
Listen to what others  say on Clubhouse, which is a great place to hear responses in real-time. If you spend time in rooms on Clubhouse, this will help you improve your communication skills. 
Why being honest and authentic builds trust. Men fall in love with the real you anyway. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there in a big way.
People are so rushed and distracted, so pay attention. Slow it down; it's ok to wait to respond until you find the right words.
Being quiet and being intentional are powerful tools when communicating with others.
If you're always kind, it will go a long way. The struggle is real, so kill them with kindness.
Date a lot. Practice makes perfect. The more you date, the better you'll become.
Lead with your heart, and don't forget to be authentic. Say what you want to say, not what you think you should say. That's how you'll make a significant impact when online dating.

To find out more about Jeff McMahon, you can find him on Instagram @mcmahonsays. You can also find him on Twitter, Facebook and Clubhouse under the same.

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This week’s guest is Kelly Gunther, she’s a motivational speaker, an Olympian, and American Speed Skater. But what’s truly amazing about her is that she’s the ultimate Comeback Kid. Her story is one of inspiration. At the 2010 Olympic trials, she endured a double compound fracture that nearly severed her foot from her leg. A fracture so bad for most a dream of the Olympics would have been over. But, instead, Kelly with tears in her eyes got back on the ice. 

At the 2014 Olympic trials, Kelly skated a personal best on the same track as her accident. This girl is in her own lane of greatness, and she always has been. She realized early on that she had herself, and it was up to her to make it happen. Kelly is also single, and in this episodes, she shares what it takes to have a winning mindset and how having that winning attitude will help you succeed online.

Kelly Gunther is an American Speed Skater who participated in the 2014 Winter Olympics. She began roller skating at age six and briefly tried figure skating, but she was too fast for the music, so she took up speed skating. As an inline speed skater, she won multiple World Championship gold medals on the United States relay team. At the 2010 Olympic trials, Kelly made the United States speed skating team but was bumped from the team after another skater was granted a re-skate. In March 2010, she fell during a race and suffered a tragic injury. After intensive rehab, Kelly returned to skating and set two personal best times in November 2011. She made the 2011–2012 World Cup team and placed third in the 1000 meters national championships. At the 2014 U.S. Olympic trials, she skated a personal best time to place fourth and make the Olympic team.

In her words, she wasn’t first. She wasn’t last; she was always the girl right there. She is the ultimate comeback kid, and sometimes it’s as easy as – just continuing to show up. Kerry Brett and Kelly Gunther cover a lot of ground around dating and being single. Topics include

Why you need to believe that you can find love in online dating.
Why you have to have the determination to find love online.
Why the power of intention is so important?
Keep showing up and be consistent.
It’s all about connecting and dating apps are a tool to connect.
Don’t over think it and like Nike says just do it!
If you can’t find the strength to push yourself have a friend push, you.
How having persistence and patience will help you.
If you get knock down, use that anger and energy to continue to work hard.
The comeback is always stronger than the set back.
What you ask for you will get.
Have confidence and when you walk into the date walk in life.
If you fallen down 7 times you can get back 8.
How to overcome limiting beliefs.
Be in a lane of your own, and don't skate away from who you truly are.

You can find out more about Kelly on Instagram @kellygunther. Follower Kelly Gunther on Clubhouse as well at the Shot@Love club. See this Saturday at 11 AM.

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Charly Lester first entered the dating industry when her blog “30 Dates” went viral. She was hired by The Guardian and Time Out Magazine, where she was the  Global Head of Dating. Then Charly launched The Dating Awards, and the European Dating Awards, which she ran in the US and UK until 2018 when she co-founded Lumen, a dating app for people in their 50s. Lumen received a 3.5m investment from Andrey Andreev – the dating titan behind dating apps like Badoo, and Bumble. Then Lumen, Bumble, and Chappy were bought for $3 billion by the Blackstone Group at the end of 2019. Charly is a nationally recognized dating industry expert, and her journey and dating stories are epic!

Charly has worked with several companies within the dating space.  She was Agony Aunt for eHarmony, and her dating advice appears on national television, radio, and magazines. She also was a guest judge on The Apprentice. 

Charly is a sought-after advisor for start-ups. She teaches business classes at the Guardian and is the author of two books – The Female Entrepreneur and Modern Marketing for Start-Ups.  Charly advocates for female entrepreneurship and is the Co-Founder of ‘A League of Her Own’ – an online training platform for entrepreneurs. Charly was named one of the 5 ‘Women of The Future” in entrepreneurship. She was profiled by Forbes the same year. In 2020 Charly was listed in the Women in Tech 100. After just four months with Lumen, she led the business to number 24 in the Start-Ups 100 List, and she was recently awarded a Stevie Award for entrepreneurship.

Kerry Brett and Charly Lester cover a lot of ground around online dating. Topics include:
How a Facebook post lead to Charly creating a blog “30 Dates” and how that catapulted her to start a dating app.
What Charly’s experience as the dating editor for The Guardian and Global Head of Dating for the Magazine Time Out taught her about dating.
What Charly learned about online dating when she created the Dating Awards in the UK and US as well as the European Dating Awards.
The struggles people have in the age 50 group with online dating.
Why people in their 50's are the fastest group onboarding on dating apps.
The biggest changes and shifts in the dating world during the pandemic.
Charly is also a dating expert for RealMe, so she shares the state and security of online dating.
Why people would feel more safe and secure if they used a company like RealMe and did background check before the date.
Charly shares her best dating tips.
Charly also discusses the top mistakes women make when online dating.

 To find out more about Charly Lester go to https://charlylester.com, follow on Twitter or on Instagram @charly.lester

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Today's guest is Dr. Duana Welch, and she's the best-selling author of the book Love Factually. Her mission is to help other's find the love they want by using science as a guide. Duana has written a series of books filled with relationship advice, but she only writes books that she needed. She became a single mother when her husband's addiction began to spiral.  Their son was born with a life-threatening disease, and she realized she couldn't trust her husband to administer the medication. So, she left and never came back. She had her child but nothing else. She left behind her job, home, friends, and the man she loved. Years later, Duana's life transformed, and she created a new life, but she never forgot how hard it was. If you've lost a relationship, feel lost, or want to find love, this episode is for you. 

 Dr. Duana Welch is an author and coach who applies social science to solve real-life relationship issues. Her books include, Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I do, Love Factually for Single Parents, and the Love Factually Singles series. She's also an expert at the relationship app Paired. She's been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, Redbook, Huffington Post, and Time to name a few. She's the only guest invited to appear three times on Jordan Harbinger's former podcast, The Art of Charm. Her format blends heart, soul, and science. Duana's story is so inspiring. She has walked through the fire and made it through.

Kerry Brett and Duana Welch share lots of strategies and cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Why learning certain information like relationship science around dating helps you be successful or not.
Why attachment style determines the success of your relationships.
Men who have avoidant attachment styles cannot change that.
Both anxious attachment style and avoidant attachment style both have securities; it just manifests in different ways.
Learn what a secure partner looks like, find that, and don't dismiss a secure man as boring.
Finding is love is not luck, and it is possible.
Why you can find love right now, and you don't need to get your ducks in a row first.
Why it's easier to date and more effectively during the pandemic.
How the pandemic can help you date smarter, not harder.
Why secure people don't wait for everything to be perfect in their life to date.
How to write a dating profile that does the work for you.
Qualities people everywhere in the world demand in a partner and why you should too. 
If you look for someone kind and respectful, your love life will go well.
When writing your profile, use words that describe the person you want to meet rather than adding descriptions about yourself.
Be choosey and selective, and don't forget to ask the hard questions.
You can find love online; quickly look at Dr. Duana Welch; she used the strategies in her book and found love in less than a week. 

 To find out more about Dr. Duana Welch or purchase her books, Love Factually, Love Factually for Single Parents (& Those Dating Them), and the Love Factually Single Series, go to www.lovefactually.co or follow on Facebook or Twitter.

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Today's guest is well-known Astrologer and Psychic Healer Jill Jardine, and she'll be sharing why this season is the Summer of Love! Things are going to heat up in the next couple of months! Singles are ready to mingle! In this episode, Jill discusses how this Summer will be a social phenomenon like Woodstock, and it's going to be peace, love, and heart emojis with lots of swiping right! Jill will tell us what's in store for our Lovecast! 

Jill Jardine is an astrologer, therapist, psychic healer, and spiritual advisor. She's also a radio personality on 95.9 WATD and the host of the podcast Cosmic Scene with Jill Jardine. She's also a Reverend in Sanskrit Mantra, and chanting mantras can shift outcomes and is an invaluable tool. For over 30 years, she's helped thousands of people find power and confidence within themselves and help with important decisions. At the end of the episode, Jill will give her Eclipse Zodiac Forecast for the Summer of 2021. 

Astrology and Dating have always gone hand in hand, but astrology has been booming due to the pandemic-like dating apps. Jill will bring us up to speed to get a clear picture of what will be happening astrology-wise this Summer. Kerry Brett and Jill Jardine cover a lot of ground. Topics include:

Why will this new summer season present an opportunity to reassess and rebuild? 
Why it's going to be a busy hot Summer of Love?
People are all about Connection and communication and getting your groove back.
The importance of casting a wide net.
We are in the middle of Eclipse season and how it affects your love life.
Why eclipse's end old patterns and the energy is pushing people to move forward and date.
Why people are making big decisions and creating major moves because they are looking at the big picture.
Heading into Mercury Retrograde is a time for revisiting, reconnecting, reassessing relationships. It's a perfect time to re-do things. Go back and rejoin a dating app with a new attitude. 
Mercury Retrograde forces you to come into alignment with what you want.
Why it's important to have a non-attachment attitude, detaching to whether it works or not works to your advantage.
Why confidence and empowerment are huge.
Why people need to do away with liking a type and why we should be open to trying something new and different.
Why we need to be willing to take a risk and try something different or new.
It's a wide-open field because there are more people out there looking for love.
Most people are serious about getting serious and find real deep connections.
Why we should expect the unexpected.

 To find out more about Jill Jardine, go to her website www.jilljardineastrology.com, or follow Jill Jardine on Facebook and Instagram @thejilljardine or listen to her podcast Cosmic Scene by Jill Jardine.

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Keisha Stubbs is an author, training coach, motivational speaker, and founder of the non-profit Tied Together, geared toward uplifting and providing basic needs for children and public speaking to inspire adults. Keisha teaches others that their miseries are building blocks for their greatness. Keisha took a lifestyle she couldn't afford for herself and her son to one she never imagined. Her life's purpose is to help people who have been dealt a bad hand and can't find their way out of a terrible situation. Keisha has been there. She's lost everything, Twice! She figured out how to use what she had available and increased her income by more than five times! She learned the hard way, so you don't have to. 

In this episode, Keisha teaches us how to leave our struggles behind. She inspires us to win daily, outwork our competition, and how we can be better than yesterday. 

Kerry Brett and Keisha Stubbs cover a lot of ground and talk about how dating and sales are similar. Topics include:

Why you should stay away from black-out circles and negative talk about dating.
Why you need to be upbeat and positive when you're online dating.
How your energy and attitude magnifies.
People can feel your energy when they swipe on you and text you.
People buy from who they like and date who they like.
People want to align with positive winners.
Do not make assumptions, and failure lies in making fixed opinions.
Type of car Men drive doesn't indicate their finances.
Lose stereotypes.
Why men are more complicated than we think.
Why, if you think you can or you think you can't, your right.
If you believe it, you can achieve it.
Why your online success is dependent on your attitude.

To find out more about Keisha Stubbs, you can visit her website www.keishavstubbs.com or follow on Facebook Keisha Stubbs or Instagram @keishavstubbs. You can purchase her book Close or be Closed on her website or Amazon.

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Today's guest is Yeukai Kajidori. He's a renowned podcaster and host of the Yeukai Business Show, which ranks in the top 3 percent of the most popular podcast shows globally. He's a podcasting mentor, CEO, outsourcing expert, and business growth, strategist. He's super successful and passionate about helping others. Like most high-performing entrepreneurs, their schedule leaves little time for dating. But this week, Yeukai will share how he's decided to change that! Oh yeah! He's taken the plunge full-on into the world of online dating. Yeukai discusses the importance of being yourself, text banter by audio, and Virtual Speed Dating.

Yeukai Kajidori is a podcast enthusiast who helps others create a profitable podcast super-fast and use your podcast as a tool to raise your credibility, visibility, and profitability. The Yeukai Business Show is rated #3 on UK iTunes in the business category section. He helps people get their message out there to do business on their terms. He's even interviewed over 300 successful business owners while building an Outsourcing Company. Yeukai, is also one of the moderators for Club Pod, the second largest club for podcasting in Clubhouse. 
He's fueled by faith, family, and the possibility of living life to the max.

Kerry Brett and Yeukai Kajidori, cover a lot of ground from Clubhouse to Dating. Apps. Topics include:
Is Clubhouse the new Tinder?
How Clubhouse like dating apps are growing  fast.
How new users are finding romantic connections on Clubhouse.
How people have connected on social media apps and Clubhouse is no different.
Rooms on Clubhouse dedicated to dating, love, and relationships.
Popular Clubhouse rooms such as Dating after the Pandemic and Shoot Your Shot.
How Matchmakers are using Clubhouse to share their expertise and promote their brands while building a community.
Frequent apps that create connections. You will succeed on those apps because people are desperate for connection.
Look for the circumstances that you want and if you can't find it? Make it!
Raise your hand, join a new dating site, put yourself out there; what do you have to lose?
Success is achieved and maintained by those who try and keep trying. 
If it's important to you, you will find a way, or you'll find an excuse.
How to improve your dating skills through Virtual Speed Dating.

To find out more about Yeukai Kajidori, you can follow on Instagram @yeukaik or visit his website's www.yeukaikajidori.com and www.yeukaimastermindcenter.

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Today's special guest is Vanessa Reiser. She's a survivor of narcissistic domestic abuse; she's also an ultramarathoner, life coach, clinical social worker, and therapist. In a little over a week, she will set out to run 285 miles across the entire state of New York in a wedding dress to raise awareness for domestic abuse. She plans to raise $200,000 for abuse centers in each of the counties she runs through. This force of nature will begin in Osweego, NY, on May 17th, and she'll complete the run on May 29th. The distance is the equivalent of running 11 marathons, which is basically running a marathon a day. Vanessa healed her past by running, and she'll carry all of the stories of the people she's healed, helped, and inspired across the finish line. Talk about filling BIG sneakers! Please support this superwoman by sharing her story or donating to her mission. You can donate at tellatherapist.org.

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Ever wondered how celestial events can shake up your love life? Prepare to be enlightened as we're joined by Jill Jardine, an esteemed astrologer and psychic healer, whose insights on recent eclipses and Pluto's monumental shift into Aquarius will leave you contemplating the cosmic forces at play in your personal relationships. Discover the secrets to navigating these transformative times and how to harness the power of astrology to clear past blockages and invite new beginnings, setting the stage for a period of deep personal growth that could redefine your connections with others.

As the planets dance through their retrogrades and transits, we're here to guide you through the cosmic quicksand. With Mercury throwing curveballs in communication and travel, we share firsthand experiences and practical tips for thriving during these phases. Anticipate a summer pulsing with love and social vibrancy, thanks to Venus glowing in Taurus and Mars charging into Aries. And if you're on the hunt for romance, we've got you covered as Jill is your celestial wingman. Jill's optimism is contagious, offering a glimpse into how the planets are aligning to spice up your social calendar as we approach the warmer months.

But it's not all about the stars; sometimes, the magic lies in the mundane. The Swedish concept of death cleaning might not sound like a love potion, but creating space in your home can open doors to new opportunities. We share how decluttering and aligning your space with feng shui can energetically invite potential partners into your life. Plus, we look at the holistic ties between physical movement, a spring-cleaned liver, and a decluttered mind. Join us as Jill Jardine imparts her wisdom and anecdotes, inspiring you to embrace change, step into a vibrant social scene, and find the love that aligns with the stars.

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Today’s guest is Gabi Conti, she’s an author, dating expert, writer, and comedian. Her book “Twenty Guys you Date in Your Twenties” chronicles countless bad dates from the guy who got away, the guy you always go back to, to the guy who texts "sup" at 2 AM. She’s a woman who’s dated them all, and it’s all in her funny field guide to modern dating. After a world-shattering breakup at 23, this comedian spent the rest of her twenties experiencing firsthand, heartache, and hilarity of swiping right into relationships. Now, in her 30’s she will share helpful insight she’s gathered from 19 exes, (yep, she interviewed them for her book) dating coaches, successful couples and therapists.  In this week's episode Gabi discusses all the different types of men she’s dated—that you’ve probably dated, too!

Gabi gained national attention with her article and video for Cosmopolitan “I went on 30 Dates in 3 Days”. The video was featured by Daily Mail, and she appeared on Access Hollywood, and Inside Edition to name a few. She is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan. She currently hosts celebrity news for You Tube, Snap Chat and Samsung TV. Her podcast Am I Dating A Serial Killer will be launching soon. 

Kerry Brett and Gabi Conti cover a lot of ground. Topic include:

If you’re fully vaccinated, you need to be your own bachelor or bachelorette and get back out there.
If it didn’t work out the first time, it’s probably not going to work out the second time.
Every date isn’t a waste of time because you always learn something.
The more you date, the more confident you become.
People show you their true colors, so when people show you who you 
Don’t find validation by dates, be confident in yourself.
Why if you act like you are hot, guys will find that attractive.
Like Ikea, a relationship can last if it’s assembled properly.
Dating is emotional gambling, so don’t take it too seriously if things don’t work out.
If you’re not sure, ask someone else.
Why Happy Hour is the best first date option.
Why there is so much to learn from our failed relationships.
Gabi shares her tips from her book “The Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties.”

Followed Gabi on Instagram @itsgabiconti, and purchase “The Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties” anywhere you find books.
 

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Today's guest is Ingrid De La Mare – Kenny. Ingrid went from thriving in the fashion industry as a stylist on Sex in the City and styling shoots at Vogue to serving time in federal prison for selling jeans on eBay. This story is unbelievable seriously! After serving 15 months, she was exonerated. Ingrid is the mother of three, who got divorced then moved herself and her children from NYC to Monaco, where she started a new life and career. Ingrid developed the workout The Method, built the brand Gangster Chic, and wrote her Memoir "Fuck My Life." She started over dating at the age of 33, found love, and remarried years later. Ingrid is the epitome of a survivor and a gold medalist in reinvention. Today Ingrid shares her incredible story of how she, against all odds, used her adversities to succeed and propel herself fromshackles to living a charmed life in Monte Carlo.

 Ingrid was the girl who seemed to have it all and then lost it all. Raised by wealthy French parents, she married her first love, fresh out of college in Miami Beach. She followed her handsome Jewish husband to his native New York and quickly became the "It girl" of Fashion Week. Ingrid faced her share of challenges: the tragic loss of her father, an oppressive marriage, and her firstborn being diagnosed with Autism. 

Her story is about a mother's life-long fight, the sacrifices she made for her children and how she found a way back to them. Ingrid is a graduate of NYU Law School, the CEO of The Method, her own Pilates protocol that she developed and patented 348 unique movements, the founder of Gangster Chic lifestyle and host of the podcast Pardon My French. 

Kerry Brett and Ingrid De La Mare–Kenny cover a lot of ground. Topics include:
Don’t be a prisoner of anything, dating, your relationship or diet.
Why you should find freedom in your love story.
Why when you meet someone you shouldn’t fit into their mold.
Don’t dress for woman or for men, dress for yourself.
If people can’t accept your past move on.
Whatever setbacks you have in life don’t create a self -made prison around the past. Fostering thoughts around fear, shame or regret will only hold you back.
Own your story like Ingrid.
Big shifts happen when you change the little things, not the big things.

To find out more about The Method Founder and CEO, Ingrid De La Mare-Kenny or the Gangster Chic Lifestyle Brand go to www.thepilatemethod.com. Purchase her book Fuck My Life: The Memoir of a Chic Gangster on Amazon. Listen to her podcast Pardon My French on all platforms and follow on Instagram @ingriddelamarekenny

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Today's guest is Dr. Gary Lewandowski; he's a professor, relationship scientist, author, and speaker who's given over 120 conference presentations and written articles for over 150 media outlets. Over 2 million people have viewed his Ted Talk about breakups. His new book "Stronger Than You Think" opens readers' eyes so they can accurately and confidently view themselves when searching for a relationship they want. In this week's episode, we discuss blind spots that undermine your relationship and how to see past them so we don't have to learn the hard way! We talk about everything from the science of heartbreak to why learning scientific data leads to making better decisions. And why breakups don't have to leave you broken because you're stronger than you know! 

Dr. Gary Lewandowski has been featured as a relationship expert in hundreds of publications, including The New York Times, NPR, CNN, Time, Marie Claire, Men's Health, and Forbes, to name a few. He is also a professor and former Chair in the Department of Psychology at Monmouth University. Dr. Lewandowski's research, writing, and public speaking focus on romantic relationships, self, and identity. He recently published his first book, "Stronger Than You Think": The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship and How to See Past Them. He also co-created the APP StayGo, which tells you whether it's time to commit or quit. Using this app, you can make informed decisions about your love life while deciding faster to stay or go.  He has dedicated his life to helping people build resilience and find meaning in the face of adversity. 

Kerry Brett and Dr. Gary Lewandowski cover a lot of ground topics include:
Why experience isn't the same as expertise.
Top 10 blind spots and how to overcome them.
How to maintain your power in relationship.
Why a good relationship has equal power.
Why we put so much value on beauty and why it's not a good thing.
The easiest thing is to be drawn in by attractiveness and why you're swayed by this right away.
Attractiveness is not the winningest characteristic if you are looking for a healthy long-term relationship.
What the "halo effect" is and why everyone needs to know about this.
What is attractive equals good which most of the time is not true.
Most people look for people who are 25 percent better looking than them.
Why we all want to date out of our league.
If one person is really good-looking and the other person isn't, it leads to instability. 
Why being in a relationship cannot be great for our waistlines.
Includes a survey of people who were hotter in high school incurred more divorces.
What is the matching hypothesis?
Why opposites attract but eventually could attack, those opposite features lead to conflict.
Personality goes a long way.

To find out more about Dr. Lewandowski or to purchase "Stronger Than You Think" go to www.garylewandowski.com. Follow on Twitter @LewandowskiPhD or on Instagram @lewandowskiphd

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Today’s guest is writer, podcaster, and photographer Kat Harris, A thirty-something-year-old virgin and author of the upcoming book Sexless in the City. In her new book, Kat covers topics that people want answers to but are too afraid to ask. Kat and Kerry cover topics such as sex, singleness, and relationships. Kat share’s her wisdom, what she's learned dating in NYC for a decade, and how she’s discovered to live with sexual integrity in singleness. Kat's passion is giving others the tools they need to navigate today's dating culture with vision, clarity, and freedom. We discuss how to show up in dating, how we choose certain people to date and why we should have faith in God’s master plan for our love life! 

Kat Harris is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast and co-founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. Her first book Sexless in the City will hit bookstores this month on 4/20. She has also been a full-time photographer for the past 15 years with work featured in Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, US Weekly, and Glamour UK, to name A few. Kat coaches people worldwide in dating, relationships, and singleness and how to build a renewed healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in truth and grace instead of the common shame and fear narratives somany experienced growing up in the evangelical culture. 

Dating can be frustrating and lonely, but there are strategies which can be helpful in your dating journey. Kat and Kerry talk about what's possible for today’s single. Topics include:
What photographing weddings taught us about love and marriage.
The importance of mindset and believing in finding love.
How do you approach dating? Do you have a good attitude or are you negative?
If you think dating during a pandemic is too hard then it will be a block.
The importance of identifying the core values you want in a partner.
How society and spiritual beliefs shape what we want in a person.
Why you should be clear and open about what you want. You can’t get what you don’t ask for.
What if we were as intentional in dating as we are in our careers?
How to navigate the highs and lows of dating.
Why you should play big online and every area of your life.
Why we should give up limiting beliefs that keep us playing small.
What if online could work?  Look  for evidence that is does work.
How to stay positive when things don’t work out the way  you planned or hoped.
Why you should give yourself permission to imagine.

To find out more about Kat Harris go to www.therefinedwoman.com, follow on Instagram @therefinedwoman or listen to her podcast The Refined Collective. Purchase her upcoming book Sexless in the City at www.sexlessinthecity.com

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Today's guest is Dara Kurtz; she's a writer, speaker, podcaster, and blogger of "Crazy Perfect Life" and shares her wisdom on life, loss, and love. She discusses why we should take a hard look at what's important in our lives. Dara's secret to having a happy life is living fully and loving deeply. Her mom's death held her back for a long time, and she wasn't able to make the most of her life or relationships because she didn't want to risk getting hurt again. Dara shows us the importance of opening our hearts, letting people in, and why we can't live life to our best ability if we worry about what might happen. Dara also encourages us to go for anything we want because what's the worst that can happen? 

 Dara Kurtz is a wife and mother, and at the age of 42 she was diagnosed with cancer. Going through chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery changed Dara's perspective; what she thought was important wasn't so important anymore. She decided to leave her 20-year career as a personal banker and financial advisor to focus on writing. Her blog, "Crazy Perfect Life," has over 200,000 followers. She is the author of three books, Crush Cancer, The Crush Cancer Workbook, and I Am My Mother's Daughter. When Dara was 28, she lost her mother to cancer. She recently wrote a book about the letters and lessons from both her mother and grandmothers, which includes tips that can help strengthen our relationships or help us move forward in our journey in finding love. 

Kerry Brett and Dara Kurtz cover a lot of ground, topics include;
Embrace that life isn't perfect and messy, and all you can do is the best you can.
Why we need to stop reviewing regrets.
How to keep the keys to your own happiness in your pocket.
Why you need to stop caring or worrying about how other people are going to react to us.
Why it's important to stop trying to be perfect and live a peaceful life.
Why you should challenge yourself, face your fears and ask yourself the worst that can happen?
If you don't push yourself and try different things, you can rob yourself of love and joy.
You develop more confidence by taking risks and bringing in new experiences.
We need to stop being stuck in pain and get back to the business of living.
Why you need to stop putting things off and star living for today.
Why we should make the of precious time with loved ones.
If we close our hearts, then we are cheating ourselves on some of the best positive experiences.
Count your blessings instead of your problems.
You can learn to recognize and replace negative stories and decide what you want to tell yourself to believe.
If you expect good things to happen, they usually do.
The world can be our playground if we let it.

For more information about Dara Kurtz you can find out more on www.crazyperfectlife.com  Follow on Facebook Crazy Perfect Life by Dara Kurtz and Instagram @crazyperflife. 

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In this episode, Shot@Love welcome's back Amy Nobile, the owner of Love, Amy a Dating Concierge service that helps you find love. Amy brings us up to speed with what's happening with love this spring. The dating landscape has dramatically changed, but the basic principles remain. Amy shares the keys to becoming successful online and why your most valuable asset is positive energy and an attitude of yes! She encourages us to stop playing small, get out there and find love regardless of what's happening in the world around us, at the same time, reminding us why optimism and hope are essential in our journey to love.

 Amy Nobile found love on Bumble and was so inspired she decided to share with others what worked for her and Love, Amy was born. She's different than most "Dating Coaches" because she takes a holistic, inside-out look at who you are, what makes you uniquely you, your core values, and who you truly want to attract. Amy is also a successful author who's published four books. She's been featured in the New York Times, Business Insider, and even the Today Show. Amy helps teach you how to become successful and ultimately find love.

Kerry Brett and Amy Nobile cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
How to be in the world now by overcoming social anxiety.
There are more than double the number of users now and why you should lever the edge.
The most significant predictor of success is having positive energy around finding love.
Why you need to have 100 percent certainty that you will find love on an app.
Think about the time we spent mindlessly scrolling through social media, yet why can't people find a few hours a day to spend on dating apps?.
Why you need to be fully invested and "all in" when using dating apps.
How to get to the point of feeling fully worthy of finding love.Why your blocks come out in the form of a million excuses.
It's not about perfection or filters. It's about being true to you.
Why worrying about the future or how things will work out is another block.
If you project out fear, you will only pull in a partner who is also fear-based.
Love is blooming, it's happening, and the time is now. So, go for it!

 For more information about Amy Nobile or Love, Amy go to www.loveamy.co or follow on Instagram @love.amy.nyc.

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Today's guest is Caitlin Arner, the owner of Zelda and Friends, a Dog concierge service that's perfect for you and your Dog's lifestyle. In this week's episode, we will discuss the many ways your Dog can boost your love life. Taking your Dog for a stroll increases your chances of meeting others. There is also a new trend in Al Fresco dining called "Yappy Hour." Did you know you could let your Dog play matchmaker by advertising yourself through your pet on sites such as datemypet.com, Leashes and Lovers, and Tindog, which is Tinder for dogs? Hook up for a play date at the dog park or meet up for coffee at a canine-friendly café. Dogs keep you in better shape, lift your mood, and are great at sniffing out suitors. How putting up a photograph of you and your Dog on a dating site will make you look more friendly, approachable, and attractive. Dating is a numbers game––walking your pup in the park or sitting on a pet-friendly patio gives you more chance encounters. We'll be talking about all things fur babies, puppy love, and how to get a jump on the dog days of summer.

After spending too many uninspired years in front of a computer, sitting at a desk, Caitlin had this "crazy" notion that maybe one day she could find a career that would make her happy, give her purpose, and be sustainable long-term. Until one day, a friend wanted to pay her to watch her two new three-month-old puppies. Caitlin had grown up with dogs, adopted her Dog, Zelda but never considered that this could be the absolute perfect path for her life to take. Caitlin had this special bond with dogs, respected them, loved them if they were humans, and believed every Dog deserved the best care. The kind she would want for her Dog, one where dogs are given personal attention in a way they would typically experience at home with their family. 

Caitlin and I will discuss the reasons why and how people are using dogs to fetch their soulmates. Topics include:

Dating with dogs.
How getting a dog can solidify a relationship.
The Pandemic dog purchase and dog trends during Covid.
How a connection in a relationship is built around raising a dog together.
How a dog can be a symbol of commitment.
How dogs keep you healthy, lower blood pressure, and reduce anxiety.
How dogs help combat loneliness and keep you company.
Why people stay in a relationship that isn't working for the Dog.
When should you introduce a dog into a new relationship?
Dogfishing is a new dating term and the practice of using a dog to attract someone.
How to avoid getting hooked in by a faux Fido.
Research has shown that women flock to men with dogs.
How people stereotype based on type of Dog the owner may have.
How we select people based on friendliness just like dogs do.
Your Dog is the best judge of character and can weed out unkind people who may not be best for you.

To find out more about Caitlin Arner and her Dog Concierge Service, go to
www.zeldaandfriends.com, or follow on Instagram @zeldanfriends.

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Today's guest is Melissa Gould, whose husband tragically died unexpectedly at the age of 50. To help navigate the painful grieving process, she wrote the new best-selling Widow…ish! Melissa has inspired others across the country to heal and manage heartache through speaking engagements and writing, such as the NY Times essay "My Husband Died and All I Got Was This Sweatshirt." Melissa is also an acclaimed screenwriter for shows such as Beverly Hills 90210, Party of Five, Lizzie McGuire, and Bill Nye the Science Guy. She has also written several movies for NBC and the Disney Channel. Melissa inspires sharing her personal story of resilience, loss, and finding love again.

Melissa Gould shared her incredible story of unimaginable loss when she lost her husband from MS and the West Nile Virus. Early on, Melissa realized she did not fit the idea of widowhood. She didn't look like a widow (she was too young) or act like a widow (she had found love again), but she felt like a widow, which is how she came up with the title Widow..ish! In her inspiring memoir, Melissa took this traumatic experience of losing her husband and, in one month, became Amazon's Editor's pick in the category of the best biographies and memoirs. Melissa is an LA-based award-winning screenwriter, and her essay's on grief can be found in the New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, AARP, Buzzfeed, and The Huffington Post, to name a few. She's appeared in front of the camera on shows such as Rachel Ray, Access Hollywood, and KTLA's Morning Show. Melissa's latest essay, "On the Stars Who Helped Her Journey Through Grief," recently appeared in the Hollywood Reporter and was just interviewed for Gabby Reece's podcast. 

Kerry Brett and Melissa Gould cover a lot of ground topics include:
Moving forward in your 40's.
Navigating the grief process and falling in love.
How unconventional relationships could be perfect for you.
The importance of choosing easy.
How you can find love even in a crisis or at your lowest point.
The power of sharing your story.
The importance of not overthinking.
Sometimes a fling can turn into a thing.
Surround yourself with supportive people who want you to be happy, whatever your happiness looks like.
God laughs at your plans, surrender, and have faith that in the end, you'll be alright.

 For more information on Melissa Gould, go to www.widowish.com or follow Instagram @melissagould_author. Melissa's Memoir Widow...ish is currently an Amazon Editor's Best Pick in Biographies & Memoirs and #1 Amazon Kindle Best Seller.

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This week's guest is Zibby Owens, who's superhuman and such an inspiration! At age 40, she found herself crying in the shower, divorced with four kids until her life started over when she found love with Kyle Owens, a former tennis pro and film producer, then later married him on a tennis court. During those years, her therapist gave Zibby the advice to read a book when she felt lonely when her kids were with their Dad. Zibby not only took that advice but created the podcast Mom's Don't Have Time to Read Books, one of the top literary podcasts in the world, and in 3 years, interviewed 600 authors. This month she published, Mom's Don't Have Time Too, A Quarantine Anthology, a moving collection of excellent essays. Zibby shows us that we do have time to do anything we want, especially finding love. 

 Zibby Owens is the creator of the award-winning podcast Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books. Zibby, named "NYC's" Most Powerful Book-influencer" by Vulture. Oprah Winfrey's O Magazine named her one of the top literary podcasts twice! During the quarantine, Zibby hosted two Instagram Live Author talk shows, launched an online magazine with essays called We Found Time, and started Zibby's virtual book club. Zibby has recommended books for the Washington Post, Good Morning America, and Real Simple. She has also contributed to Parents, Marie Claire, Redbook, and New York Times online. She's appeared on CBS This morning, Good Morning America, the BBD, ABC-7 Eyewitness News, Good Day LA, Good Day DC, Good Day Dallas. She has two children's books coming out in 2022, plus a second anthology coming out in November 2021 called Mom's Also Don't Have Time To. Zibby recently launched an Instagram community and podcast called Moms Don't Have Time to Lose Weight. She's a graduate of Yale University and Harvard Business School.

Kerry Brett and Zibby Owen's cover a lot of ground, and topics include:

How picking up a book will immediately get you out of your head.
Some days you need to go minute by minute.
How stories unite, us make us feel more connected and less lonely.
Falling in love at 40.
If you feel lost, you can find the real you again.
How having someone who supports you can change your life.
There is no downside to trying something new.
You can find time for anything you want.
You can find time to read and also spending time on dating apps.
Take action, and one thing leads to another.

To find out more about Zibby Owens, go to www.zibbyowens.com on Instagram @zibbyowens, @momsdonthavetimetoreadbooks, @momsdonthavetimetowrite. Listen to her two excellent podcasts, Moms Don't Have Time to Read, and Moms Don't Have Time to Lose Weight. Purchase her new book Moms Don't Have Time To A Quarantine Anthology, original essays by 60 plus authors from her podcast.

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Today's episode "It's ok, not to be ok” was inspired by Hashtag No Filter's Julie Lauren's recent podcast "If you're going through hell, keep going." We have all experienced low points or even rock bottom. What I've learned while navigating challenging times is "the only way out is through". But what do you do when the emotional piece takes over, and you can't pull yourself up off the floor? In this week's episode, Julie will share her strategies around false narratives, how to avoid tail spinning, and the importance of gaining perspective. Julie will also share dating advice and helpful tips she's learned during these difficult months.

 Julie Lauren is an author, podcaster, writer, and digital strategist. After graduating college in 2008 with a degree in fashion and retail merchandising, Julie immediately jumped into the fashion industry. From 'Intermix' to 'Oscar de la Renta' and then to Petra Nemcova's lifestyle brand. In 2011 she started a lifestyle blog, called initially 'from prosecco to plaid,' and began freelance writing. In 2015 Julie published her first book "Oops!" an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s. In 2018 she started the podcast "Hashtag No Filter," full of real, raw, funny conversations. 

Today we are going to talk about overcoming setbacks, starting over, and everything in between. Kerry Brett and Julie Lauren cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to navigate false narratives.
How to stop yourself from tail spinning out of control with negative thoughts.
The importance of taking ownership and accountability.
How to pause instead of being reactive.
The power and strength that comes from being non-reactive.
How to choose to turn the page and move away from feeling down.
The power of being consistent in online dating.
How to avoid people who are just looking for the next best thing.
How to be selective and hold your value.
How to stop dreaming and start getting serious.
How to avoid the dopamine hit when someone matches you.
How to be less emotional and more professional while dating online.
How to run these dating apps like a business so the lows won't destroy your day or how you feel about yourself.
When the emotional side takes over, remember this isn't you and do what you can to have the perspective you once had.
Hold onto your friends tightly, call a friend to put you in your place, and remind you of your worth.
Take your hands off the steering wheel, let go of controlling everyone outcome and let life happen the way it's supposed to happen.
Never get too high on the highs or too low on the lows, and never go off a dating app because a relationship didn't work out. Just keep going!

 To find out more about Julie Lauren, go to www.julielauren.com, or follow Instagram @byjulielauren. Listen to her podcast Hashtag No Filter on all platforms you find podcasts or purchase her book "Oops!", an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s on Amazon.

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This episode is all about mastering deliberate attraction! Join us as we welcome Michael Losier, renowned author of the Law of Attraction, who has empowered millions worldwide with his wisdom. Discover how to swiftly navigate through resistance and fear on your journey to finding love. Learn Michael's 3-step process for deliberate attraction and how to banish doubt, allowing love to flow effortlessly into your life. Gain clarity on what you desire, and confidently place your order with the universe. Michael emphasizes the power of language, urging us to eliminate words like 'don't,' 'not,' and 'no,' and reset our vibrations to manifest incredible relationships and find the love we truly deserve.

Dive into practical tips with Michael Losier and Kerry Brett as they discuss:

• Becoming a deliberate attractor for your ideal partner.
• Embracing allowance as the antidote to doubt.
• Resetting your vibration to align with love.
• Eliminating limiting language patterns.
• Harnessing the potency of beliefs in attracting love.
• Affirming your intentions daily to magnetize your perfect match.
• The significance of keeping your dating experiences private, but when you talk about them, highlight what worked and what was positive.
• Look for proof to remove doubt; love is all around, and people find love every day.

To find more insights from Michael Losier, visit www.michaellosier.com and connect on Clubhouse (@Michael Losier) or Instagram (@michael_losier_loa). Don't miss out on his transformative book, "Law of Attraction," or book an appointment at www.ReleasingNegativeEmotions.com to assist you on your journey towards love and fulfillment.

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Today's guest is Jordan Harbinger. He's an American Podcaster, Radio Personality, and sought-after speaker. He has the top 10 podcasts in the world, and in 2018, won the award for best of Apple Podcast. He's a relationship expert who has 11 million monthly downloads. Talk about the real deal! The movie Hitch, with Will Smith, was based on his life story. But why I'm such a fan of Jordan is because I can hear his heart on his podcast. When he speaks, you can tell he genuinely cares about others. He believes in giving without gain. If you're looking to build relationships or find a relationship, then this episode is for you.

Jordan Harbinger is a former Wall Street lawyer who learned how to effectively network and build relationships to survive in a competitive industry. Jordan gave up law to do something that he loved podcasting. He started a podcast back in 2006 called "The ART of the Charm," which was pre-online dating when no one even knew what podcasting was. Years and millions of downloads later, he now uses these skills to interview guests on his podcast, the Jordan Harbinger Show, giving listeners insight into becoming a better version of themselves. Forbes named Jordan one of the 50 Best Relationship Builders worldwide. Jordan believes your network is your net worth.

Not only is Jordan super nice, but he's also insanely interesting. He speaks five languages and has been kidnapped twice on two different continents. Jordan even gave tours in North Korea for fun. His relationship and interpersonal relationship skills are so sharp, he's one of the best interviewers globally. Today Jordan will share everything he knows about networking and relationships.

Kerry Brett and Jordan Harbinger cover a lot of ground topics include:
If you act, more confident people will change the way they treat you.
The importance of revision and review. Work on skills your not good at as well as the ones you are good at.
You can act into a newly confident person.
Give without gain, be a giver.
The secret of success is to give without the attachment of getting something in return.
It’s important to figure out the types of things a person is interested in professionally or personally, find a common ground.
How adding value with make a huge difference in connecting with others.
If you are heartbroken, knocked down or need to rebuild or start over don’t skip a beat, do everything you can to get back on your feet. Action ends suffering.
Build a network before you need it.
Never act like anyone owes you a thing. If you act entitled, you will get written off as a “taker”.
Don’t get discouraged. Sometimes you’ll swing and miss but you can always try again later.

If you would like to find out more about Jordan Harbinger, you can listen to his podcast the Jordan Harbinger Show or go to www.jordanharbinger.comand download his free 6 minute networking course.

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This week's episode is "Where Do We Go from Here?" with September 11th Survivor and Photographer Mike Casey. It's January 2021, and it's been a LONG month. Many people are just trying to get by and live their lives the best they can. And many have been forced to rebuild their lives. Today's guest is an expert at starting over.

In the Summer of 2001, Mike Casey had just landed a top position at the largest advertising firm in New England. And TJX Companies had newly created a position for his beautiful young wife, Neilie.  On September 11th, Neilie was on American Airlines Flight 11 when it was flown into the North Tower of the World Trade Center. Mike's life as he knew it…was over. On September 12th, he had no choice but to continue on and take care of their 7-month old baby girl, Riley. Mike explains how he dealt with the loss, picked up the pieces to create a new life, and how he found love again.

For the Casey’s, life was better than good. Together, they were on top of the world. Both had great new jobs.  They had a beautiful baby, little Riley.  A new home. They were happy. When Mike found himself at the center of 911, whether he knew it or not, he found a way to navigate this epic tragedy, an event that would change his life forever. He had to rethink life for his daughter and him. In the days following 911, Mike Casey was determined not to be a victim of that day. And instead, he proudly calls himself a survivor. 

And yes, Mike did find love again.  In 2005, he married WBZ-TV Channel 4 news anchor Lisa Hughes in her home state of Idaho. Lisa adopted Riley.  And, ten years later after 911, Lisa and Mike adopted a newborn baby boy they named Dylan. Mike also changed careers leaving the advertising world for photography. Almost twenty years ago, his life was in shambles, but I can safely say, he in fact did not let 911 define him. 

Kerry Brett and Mike Casey cover a lot of ground. Topics include;
When faced with tragedy or loss rely on three things; faith, family and friends.
Find yourself a great therapist and peel back that onion.
The importance of good-byes.
When overcoming something major lose deadlines or timelines.
The importance of moving forward rather than moving on.
Why having zero expectations helps when dating.
Take things, an hour at a time, 30 minutes at a time, or better yet live moment to moment and do the best you can to stay in the present. 
Keep leaning on people. Let people in, that is the key, learn to let others in.
Give yourself permission to grieve, be afraid, make mistakes. There is no handbook, for surviving a pandemic. We are all trying to figure it out. Allow yourself some grace.
When you lose hope or are filled with despair. Remember you’ve got your whole life ahead of you.
After, this pandemic, our lives will never be the same, but you will be happy again. 

For more information on Mike Casey, you can find him at www.caseyphotography.net or follow on Instagram @caseyphoto101.

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Do you fear joining a dating site or fear online dating in general? Then this episode is for you! Get ready to face your fears head-on and stop limiting your potential. Today's guest is Diana Morris, she's a clarity coach, and she's going to help us remove blocks while showing us how to become fearless in finding love. When we come back, Diana will discuss why it's our responsibility to recognize the fear and do it anyway because the possibility of what could go right outweighs what could go wrong.

Diana was a high performer who excelled at her job but found herself in a situation of no fault of her own. The College that Diana worked for did some unforeseen restructuring, and the result was she was laid off. She knew it was her responsibility to create the life she wanted to live. Since that moment of truth––she started two businesses, wrote and published numerous books, became a Clarity Coach––while traveling the world as a keynote speaker. 

Diana is a genius!  She can help people who feel stuck better than anyone I know. Many of us have experienced the loss of a job or a relationship during this Pandemic. Life felt out of our control for many reasons in 2020, but this is a New Year with new goals. We will discuss why many people feel terrified or even paralyzed when deciding to join online dating. I will share a recent coaching call with Diana and discuss how I face fears myself.

Diana and I cover a lot of ground and topics include:

Fear isn't real; it's an illusion.
It is our responsibility to show up so the universe can guide that right person towards you.
If you want to change your life dramatically, it requires you to get uncomfortable by doing something you've never done before.
Look at what is possible, what will go right instead of looking at what can go wrong.
You are already more ready than you give yourself credit for.
Sometimes people get so caught up in EVERYTHING working they forget they just need something to work.
Remember that you're not looking for 100 percent yes, your just looking for one yes that might start an exciting and beautiful chapter.
Congratulate yourself on progress and wins.

Diana helps others navigate through transitions, pinpoint what they want in their lives, and show them how they can get it. To find out more about Diana Morris, she can be found on www.dianaramorris.com or on Instagram @dianaramorris.