Episode 2: The Conversation We Almost Had
I had the chance to ask my mom how she wanted to be buried. We were watching TV. It was just the two of us. Nothing heavy about the moment.
I let it go.
In this episode, Bola opens up about the conversation she almost had with her mother, and the cost of letting it slip past. But this episode isn't only about the conversations we don't have. It's about what happens to everyone around a loss, not just the person grieving.
You'll meet four types of people in this episode. One of them is you.
What you'll take away from this episode:
The four types of people who exist in every loss, and which one you might be without realizing it. Why "let me know if you need anything" is the lazy way out, and what to do instead. The decision Bola and her four siblings made together that held their family up when nothing else could.
What showing up actually looks like when you don't have the words. Why it's never too late to reach out, even if weeks, months, or years have passed.
Whether you've recently lost someone, you're supporting someone who has, or you're simply preparing for a conversation you've been putting off, this episode gives you language for what you're carrying, and permission to put some of it down.
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What's Coming Next
Episode 3 — Dust Off The Shelf: Start Here. We open the Future Readiness Check together and walk through every single item. Plain language. Real-life examples. One clear step forward for each.
Episode 4 — Our first guest episode. An honest, unforgettable conversation about losing a mother suddenly; and what it really means to show up for the people who are grieving.
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Reflect With Us
Which of the four types of people are you in this season? Are you the one holding everyone together? The friend who went quiet? The one who showed up and felt lost? The one who didn't come at all?
Write to the show. Bola reads everything personally, and your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
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ABOUT THE HOST
Bola is the founder and host of Shifted on Purpose, a podcast and platform about grief, legacy, and the conversations most families avoid until it's too late. After losing both parents within 100 days of each other she turned the hardest season of her life into a mission, to make sure no family is left unprepared for life's most inevitable moments.
The shift starts now.
