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| From People-Pleaser to Confidently Authentic: What I Learned in 2024 and What’s Next | 07 Jan 2025 | 00:15:41 | |
2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to reflect on your own growth and set meaningful intentions for the year ahead. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Things Aren’t Bad Enough for Therapy? Myths, Benefits, and How It Can Transform Your Life | 31 Dec 2024 | 00:20:18 | |
Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would actually want therapy for. Maybe deep down you know you want to stop people-pleasing but worried about becoming mean or selfish? You’re not alone. In this episode I talk about some of the common myths that stop you from accessing therapy, why these might be keeping you stuck and some of the ways therapy can help you step into your authentic self, create a life you love, and feel free from old patterns holding you back. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word... for People-Pleasers to Stop Saying | Ep 9 | 29 Oct 2024 | 00:13:50 | |
Have you noticed 'sorry' is often an automatic response? Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| How People-Pleasing Is Making You Ill | Ep 8 | 22 Oct 2024 | 00:23:36 | |
I talk about how constantly trying to please others can take it's toll on your mental and physical health. Feeling the pressure to meet everyone’s expectations can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout, making boundary-setting even more important. I share practical tips for breaking free from the cycle of people-pleasing and prioritising your own well-being. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| 'Charlotte, You're Such A Knob!' - Ways To Tackle Self-Doubt & Anxiety | Ep 7 | 15 Oct 2024 | 00:16:29 | |
In this episode, I'm reflecting on my recent experience of being a guest on a podcast for the first time and how imposter syndrome and anxiety showed up. If you ever struggle with feelings of not being good enough, please know you're not alone! I talk you through techniques you can use to help you shift your mindset, reframe negative thoughts, and stop self-doubt controlling what you do or don't do. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| ADHD and People-Pleasing | Ep 6 | 08 Oct 2024 | 00:16:41 | |
This episode explores the link between ADHD, trauma, and people-pleasing, and how these patterns can stop you from living authentically. I discuss how being told you are 'too much' has a lasting impact on you and can lead to masking, approval-seeking, and shrinking your true self to be accepted and feel like you fit in. I share insights on recognising these patterns and practical steps to break-fee to embrace your authentic self. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| When Confrontation Makes Your Body Feel Like It's Going Into Battle! | Ep 5 | 01 Oct 2024 | 00:18:13 | |
If the thought of confrontation makes you feel sick, perhaps your body shakes and your brain feels scrambled when it comes to trying to articulate yourself, this one's for you. I explore the very common fear of confrontation - the why behind it and the what to do about it. If this resonates with you please reach out on instagram and let me know, I'd love to hear from you. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Stressing When It Comes To Getting Ready and Choosing What To Wear? This one's for you | Ep 4 | 25 Sep 2024 | 00:24:31 | |
When it comes to going on a night out or meeting friends do you find yourself stressing out about what to wear and worrying what people will think of how you look? Perhaps you end up with clothes all over the place after so many outfit changes and scrutinising yourself in the mirror. You might ring your friends to see what they're wearing because you feel paralysed by indecision. Please know you're not alone! I've been there and so have lots of women I've worked with. In this episode I explore all of this and how you can start embracing more of your authentic self when it comes to getting ready. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| A 4-Year-Old's Life Changing Lesson | Ep 3 | 21 Sep 2024 | 00:12:16 | |
In this episode I share the simple yet profound words my daughter said that prompted me to reflect on how we treat and speak to ourselves. I share an easy technique you can use to help break free from your inner critic so you can start speaking to yourself with less hate and more kindness and self-compassion. Don't forget to Like, Share and Subscribe if you found this helpful. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Why That Person Makes You Feel So Anxious | Ep 2 | 20 Sep 2024 | 00:23:11 | |
Do you notice you always seem to feel particularly anxious when you're around a certain person in your life? Perhaps it's more than one person. Despite 'knowing' you don't need to feel anxious you can't help but feel uncomfortable or on edge around them. In this episode we'll explore why you might feel that way and you'll discover how to figure out what's going on for you when you're around that person and what to start doing about it. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| 5 Things You Think Are Normal But Are Probably People-Pleasing (and what to do about it) | Ep 1 | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:15:14 | |
You are probably familiar with the more obvious signs of people-pleasing such as struggling to say no to things you don't want to do or bending over backwards for people at the expense of your own needs, but what about the less obvious signs? Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Welcome to Let's Talk People-Pleasing! | Trailer / Introduction | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:00:44 | |
If you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, always putting others first and feeling burnt out in the process, then this podcast is for you. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an experienced attachment and trauma-informed psychotherapist—and a former anxious people-pleaser myself. With 15 years as a therapist and 20 years of studying psychology, I help people get to the root of their people-pleasing so they can say no without guilt and anxiety, and start living life on their own terms—authentically and unapologetically. In this podcast, we’ll explore the ins and outs of people-pleasing: why it happens, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on your life. I'll be sharing personal and professional insights, tips and strategies you can use to help you break free from people-pleasing and finally put yourself first without feeling like a bad person. I’m passionate about normalising therapy and making it more relatable, so expect down-to-earth, no-nonsense conversations—with the occasional bit of humour thrown in (fingers crossed!). My aim is to help you feel empowered to discover who you truly are, and experience the freedom that comes with letting go of the need to constantly please others. So, if you're ready to stop bending over backwards for everyone else and start living the life you want, stay tuned. Let's dive in and break free from people-pleasing, together. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| 12 Practical Ways to Start Tackling Day-to-Day People-Pleasing Habits | Ep 17 | 24 Dec 2024 | 00:13:50 | |
In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I'll talk about the importance of learning how to observe your habits with curiosity - paying attention to when people-pleasing shows up, why certain situations feel harder, and how small shifts can create big change over time. This isn’t about flipping a switch and turning people-pleasing off; it’s about gathering insight, trying different things and taking steps towards change. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Is People-Pleasing Sabotaging your Career? | Ep 16 | 17 Dec 2024 | 00:17:52 | |
If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in your career, even in ways you might not expect, and what you can start doing about it today Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Why Boundaries Are Good For Your Health - with Sheena, The Pain Therapist | Ep 15 | 10 Dec 2024 | 00:29:00 | |
My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance - for your emotional AND physical health! This is a must listen for anyone regardless of whether you have a health condition or not, the mind and body is so connected and it's really important to be aware of just how much people-pleasing can impact us and our quality of life. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Is Parentification Behind Your People-Pleasing? | Ep 14 | 03 Dec 2024 | 00:17:58 | |
In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practical steps to help you start breaking free from these patterns, like challenging unhelpful beliefs, tuning into your own needs, and acknowledging the impact of being a parentified child. I touch on inner child work and how therapy can help you let go of feeling responsible for everyone else. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Here's A Sneaky Way Good-Girl Conditioning Might Be Showing Up For You! | Ep 13 | 26 Nov 2024 | 00:10:34 | |
Have you ever caught yourself downplaying your achievements? In this episode, I’m sharing a recent moment where I noticed myself minimising my success and how it’s a sneaky habit rooted in good girl conditioning. I explore why so many women feel the need to shrink themselves, the subtle ways it shows up in our lives, and how to start breaking free from it. If you’ve ever deflected praise or felt uncomfortable owning your wins, this one’s for you. Let’s learn to take up space unapologetically! Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| People-Pleasing & Setting Boundaries At Christmas | Ep 12 | 19 Nov 2024 | 00:30:14 | |
The festive season can feel overwhelming, especially when you're pulled in all directions, trying to please everyone and make everything perfect. In this episode, I talk about signs you're going into people-pleasing mode this Christmas and explore how to set boundaries. From managing family expectations to prioritising your well-being, I’ll share practical tips to help you navigate the stress and avoid burnout. I hope this episode is helpful in encouraging you to consider 'you' when it comes to planning Christmas. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| When You’re Growing and They’re Not: Navigating the Disconnect | Ep 11 | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:13:25 | |
If you’re working on yourself, making progress with your psychological insights and new perspectives, you may have come across times where certain people in your life just aren’t on board or on the same path. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||
| Why You Say You’re OK With What Your Partner Does (Even When You’re Not) | Ep 10 | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:12:44 | |
Does your partner do things that make you feel uncomfortable, but it feels easier to ignore it and pretend you’re OK with it? Perhaps you don’t want to come across as a nag or seem insecure, or maybe that’s exactly what you’ve been told when you’ve tried to express how you feel! In this episode, I explore why people-pleasers often suppress their true feelings and ignore their own boundaries in romantic relationships, the emotional cost and how you can start respecting and embracing your needs. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ | |||