In this episode, Em speaks with host of the Wine, Dine, and 69 podcast Rachel about self-love, masturbation, boundaries, and more. 

 

In this episode, Rachel discusses an extensive number of resources, that can all be found here.

Learn more about Wine, Dine, & 69: https://linktr.ee/winedinepod  

This week, Em speaks with Melissa and Heather of Safe Journeys, a 501(c )(3) non-profit agency that provides supportive services to survivors of domestic and sexual violence in LaSalle and Livingston counties. Safe Journeys also provides a series of sexuality education services for youth and adults alike. 

This episode addresses porn and media literacy, and the relevancy of both to comprehensive sex education. Caregivers and parents --- this one is for YOU!!! Tune in for an absolutely educational (and wonderful) discussion.

 

You can find SafeR Journeys Podcast on Instagram and Facebook. Donate to Safe Journeys at https://www.facebook.com/Safe.Journeys.Illinois. Visit Safe Journeys at safejourneysillinois.org.

Relevant, Age-Appropriate Resources for Caregivers:

• Sex Positive Families
• The Porn Conversation 

 

In this episode, Em speaks with Dr. Clarissa Francis, a scholar-activist and consultant who specializes in the Hot Girl Movement, exploring its connection to Pleasure Activism and Megan Thee Stallion's Hot Girl Summer as pivotal aspects of Black women's journey toward sexual liberation. 

 

Visit Dr. Francis's website for more information on the A Real Hot Girl Movement and her work

Follow her on Instagram and Facebook  for educational content and latest events.

Dr. Francis also published her memoir "Phreak Like Me: Becoming The Real Hot Girl Doc" in 2022 which encourages Black women to start their self-discovery journey for a better understanding of themselves, their feelings around sex, relationships, sexual expression, and pleasure. It also includes self-reflection worksheets and playlists!

 

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In this week's episode, Em connects with Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast and Psychologist in Training. Together, the two discuss psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, the healing nature of k*nk, deeper embodiment, nonmonogamy, relationship anarchy, and more. 

 

Learn more about Modern Anarchy via Nicole's website or Instagram.

Listen to Modern Anarchy anywhere you can listen to podcasts!

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In this episode, Em chats with Alice Little. Alice is best known as America's most successful legal s*x worker, and currently works at the Chicken Ranch Brothel in Las Vegas Nevada. Her services are vast and varied, and her story demonstrates that s*x work is so much more than "in out, in out, bye!" Alice is also an advocate for s*x workers rights, often speaking with politicians and legislators to increase their understanding about the industry.

Their discussion branches from Alice's experiences and unique expertise, a day in the life of a brothel s*x worker, and the importance of s*x work decriminalization, legislation, and overall rights. 

 

Learn about working with Alice (in person, online, etc!) via her website.  Follow Alice on Instagram and Twitter.

 

Looking to support s*x workers? Here are a few Alice-approved organizations! If you're looking to support more organizations in your community, DM Sexistentialist on Instagram and we can help you research :) 

SWAID Collective: SW Mutual Aid Collective is a fund created by sex workers for use by sex workers.

SWOP USA: S*x Workers Outreach Project-USA is a national social justice network dedicated to the fundamental human rights of people involved in the sex trade and their communities, focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy.

SWOP Behind Bars: SWOP Behind Bars is a national grassroots social justice network dedicated to the fundamental human rights of s*x workers, victims of trafficking, and their communities with a focus on those currently incarcerated or seeking re-entry.

Meals4Heels: Meal delivery service, catering to Portland s*x worker community. 

 

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Season 4 is on the horizon but, in the meantime, let's get a lil taste. 

In this episode, Em is joined by the wonderful Dr. Meghanne Bartlett-Chase, a former sex educator and sexual violence crisis counselor who recently received her PhD in education policy with a research focus on sex education policy, practice, and controversy. Together, the two talk all things sex education policy and accessibility, how we all learn about sex growing up, and a bit of Twilight. 

 

Meg is writing an anthology all about the ways we learn about sex! She is looking for more individuals to share their stories (this is LGBTQIA+ friendly). To contact Meg and share, email meg.bartlettchase@gmail.com

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It's official!! Season 4 will be live in 2024. In the meantime, Em checks in and shares excitement for upcoming seasons.

If you haven't already, please rate and review Sexistentialist anywhere you listen, and be sure to follow the podcast and Instagram @sexistentialistpod for all show updates. 

Stay tuned for more.

The shenanigans are back, and gayer than ever in honor of PRIDE MONTH! Em chats with her podcast bestie Tim of SexEdWithTim to play games. Literally -- not in the toxic way! Tune in for laughter and, as usual, graphic imagery. 

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Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim.

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What is the difference between polyamory and swinging and open relationships? Have you ever pondered the terms "kitchen table polyamory" or "garden party polyamory?" What is the point in having multiple partners? LET'S GET INTO IT!

In this episode, Em chats with friend Zach -- a close friend, member of the queer community, and happily hierarchically open. They chat through Zach's nonmonogamy journey, and how best to go about exploring what that may look like for you.

 

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THIS IS AN EPISODE ABOUT PEDRO PASCAL. Just kidding :) Ever wanted to call a partner Daddy? Ever actually done it? In this KinkCast, Em breaks down DDLG (Daddy Dom / Little Girl) dynamics. Let's get into it, Daddy.

 

Clarification: DDLG dynamics are consensual and do not involve children or minors

 

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This week, Em and Jenae of Instagram account birdsandbeesask.me discuss consent education, sexuality education and language in academia, and dispelling myths about sexual violence.

 

CW: Though this episode is not graphic, we discuss topics of abuse and violence from an objective and research-oriented perspective.

 

Be sure to follow Jenae for accessible and relatable consent and sexual health education! Visit Jenae's Linktree for resources.

 

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Em and Jonas are BACK to discuss Pornhub Insights. What searches defined 2022? Why do the British love naked wrestling? Tune in to find out.

Shauna Burns-Thomson, MSc., is a Registered Clinical Counsellor in British Columbia, Canada. As an RCC with a focus on Sex Therapy, trauma, and related disorders, Shauna works with clients virtually from all over BC and beyond in a holistic way so that they can both find healing on their journey, while also embracing all of the juicy, pleasurable moments life has to offer in between! In this episode, Shauna and Em talk about establishing a sense of safety and connectivity, first with ourselves, and then with others. Visit the Fraser Valley Sex Therapy website to learn more from and work with Shauna!  Follow Shauna on Instagram. Get 15% off using FRASERVALLEYSEXTHERAPIST and snag some 12/10 lube and other goodies from IntimateWellbeing.com. Try out the Better Sex Through Mindfulness workbook.   Please note that Shauna is honored to live, work, and play on the land of the Sto:lo and Matsqui people :) 

Tune in for Sploshing's cousin! What's a wetlook fetish? Why is it so hard to find things about it on mainstream internet? Idk guess you should listen :) 

 

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This week, Em is joined by Javay da BAE,  sex educator, content creator, writer, erotic model, and activist. In this episode, Em and Javay talk about exploring kink(s) for the first time, as well as introducing a kink or fetish to a partner. Truly just two nerd kinksters having a good time and answering meaningful, deep questions about gettin' down and dirty.

 

Visit Javay's website, The Millennial Sexpert

LEARN SOMETHING ! by watching Javay's Youtube videos.

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A bunch of other links! https://linktr.ee/millennialsexpert

 

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Em is joined by fellow sex podcaster and pal Jenay of My Naked Mindset, a podcast that seeks to normalize taboo topics while having fun doing it! In this episode, Em and Jenay basically just hang out! They talk about starting their podcasts, how being in the sex ed / sex coaching world informs their individual sex lives, sex bucket lists, and more! 

 

Find all My Naked Mindset info here.

Listen to My Naked Mindset on Spotify (but also anywhere!)

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Buy Jenay's recommended toys and blow job gel here.

 

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He's back, back, back again! Em is joined by pal Neo (see S2Ep14) to discuss the ~art~ of pulling out or the "withdrawal method." They also go on a few tangents along the way. Tune in for a statistic and anecdotally driven conversation about WHERE you should splooj!

 

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This week, Em discusses all things communication and boundary setting with Nadège! Nadège is a sex scholar who graduated from UC Berkeley as well as a professional Astrologer. In 2019, she founded Pleasure Science, an erotic wellness brand that helps you feel healthier and empowered in your sexuality. She writes articles, hosts events, and works one-on-one with clients who want to empower their erotic life. Nadège’s work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Bustle Magazine, Kink.com, and the History Channel. Check out her new book Sextrology: the Astrology of your Sexual Subconscious, Secret Erogenous Zones, & Lust Compatibility, available on Amazon! On an average day, you’ll find Nadège in her home office, hair in a power ponytail, as she uses her nerd powers for good. When she isn’t busy researching sex, she’s hanging out at the beach with her dog Momo. Head to PleasureScience.com to learn more, and follow Nadège @pleasurescience on Instagram & TikTok for the latest tips and research on sex. You can also book a sextrology reading with Nadège here.   Follow Sexistentialist on Instagram @sexistentialistpod

YEEHAW! Starting 2023 off right with Tyomi Morgan, a sexologist, intimacy coordinator, sex writer and blogger, creator of The Cowgirl Workout ™, and more! In our Season 3 premiere, Tyomi joins Em to discuss all things riding and -- trust us -- she knows her stuff! 

 

Follow Tyomi on Instagram @realglamazontyomi and view her links here: https://linktr.ee/realglamazontyomi

Follow Tyomi on Twitter @glamazontyomi

Join Tyomi’s Pleasure Academy

Schedule a pleasure coaching session.

Get your body and mind in SHAPE and riding ready with The Cowgirl Workout.

Learn how to ride & other sex tips via Youtube.

Read Tyomi's blog, Glamerotica 101.

Tyomi also works with Exxxotica Expo!The Exxxotica Expo 2023 Tour kicks off in Chicago on 4/21. Attend the Largest Expo dedicated to Love and Sex in the US over three  erotic filled days. Ladies Free Friday! Check it out and see if there's one near you.  

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Coming to you LIVE! Em is joined once again by podcasting bestie Tim of @SexEdwithTim. Em and Tim record together in person from Em's home to discuss f*cking your way around the country, navigating casual sex, and, frankly, how many margaritas they had beforehand. 

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Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim.

It's Halloween Special time!! From Lestat to Edward Cullen to my bedroom??? We're talking fangs and nibbles and sweet sweet power play. Buckle up. 

 

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What REALLY are the sexting best practices? Em sits down with longtime pal Neo and they have one main thing in common: the both love to sext (just not with each other). Tune in for raunchy anecdotes, the genuine do's and don'ts of sexting, how to do it tastefully and artfully, fantasy exploration and more. 

 

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This week, Em is joined by THE Samantha Jones of the And I Wondered podcast, a show dedicated to talking about adulthood through tough questions asked by Carrie Bradshaw herself. 

Tune in to hear millennial dating anecdotes, how romantic comedies of the 1990s and early 2000s still impact us today, and authenticity in a public world. 

 

Listen to And I Wondered & follow the podcast on Instagram.

 

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This week, Em speaks to Dr. Zackarina Jenny-hoe (not a doctor) about harm reduction, public health activism, queer social justice, and more! Dr. Zackarina is a Denver, CO based drag queen who sits right at the intersection of campy, Gen Z fun and public health activism. 

 

Find all of Dr. Zackarina's links here. Follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

For Denver-based folks looking for harm reduction resources, support, STI testing and more, visit Bee the Vibe.

Shawn of the Tough Titties podcast joins Em in talking attachment styles! Can you guess which one these two are? Hint: they're the same and they are clingy as f*ck. Listen in to hear more fuck sex and dating stories from Shawn and Em's respective pasts, as well as talking through the realities of today's dating landscape. 

 

Listen to Tough Titties anywhere you can find podcasts. 

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Leather belongs at Pride! 

 

For this especially LGBTQ+ flavored KinkCast, Em gives a brief history of the leather community and it's relationship to gay and lesbian history, activism, and more. 

 

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It's a Pride Party, baby! June is Pride month, and in this week's episode, Em is joined by THREE queer sex educators (who have each been on previous episodes... check them out) to discuss lots of things, but one big question: what do you know now as a queer sex educator that you wish you knew before?

 

The foursome talks all things bad sex ed, queer "ah-ha" moments, virginity, and more.

• Ari Antwine
  • Listen to the SensuElle Podcast here. Follow Ari on Instagram @Sensuelle.Education and @SensuellePodcast 
  • Sign up for a coaching session with Ari. Use code KEEPIT100 for $50 off a clarity call!!
  • Group Coaching:
    • Getting Bi: Sexual Confidence for Late-Blooming Bi Women & Vulva-owners.  Apply here.
    • Sensual Embodiment Series for Vulva-owners. 9 weeks. Summer 2022.
    • Holistic Sensuality Coaching. 5 weeks. Rolling application. More on both here.
• Ellie Goldstein
  • Listen to Embarrassed to Ask and follow them on Instagram!
  • To submit questions or follow their Patreon (it's literally $1/month-- that's $12 for a YEAR'S WORTH OF GAURANTEED CONTENT), see here.
• Tim Lagman
  • Visit Tim's website.
  • Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown
  • Listen to Sex Ed With Tim.

Cum one cum all!! It's the last weekend of Masturbation May and, in this week's episode, Em and her partner review the 2021 Pornhub Insights. Yes-- they plan to do it every May. Yes-- they know it's 5 months late. Enjoy!

 

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View Pornhub 2021 Insights for Infographics and details discussed in this week's episode.

It's Masturbation May, and your podcast pal Em just popped by to talk about fapping. That's all really :) 

 

Some exciting podcast news mentioned at the end of the episode! Stay tuned for more information.

 

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This week, Em is joined by her day 1 (more like ep 1) pal Claire to talk about HPV! 

 

When Claire received her HPV diagnosis, it was scary as f*ck. What she'd really needed at the time, was someone who could talk with her about it like a big sister, rather than as a medical professional.

 

To wrap up STI Awareness Month, we demystify HPV in hopes of bringing comfort and support to anyone currently anxious about it, or who might be in the future. 

 

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APRIL IS STI AWARENESS MONTH

This week, Em is joined by Stephanie Boyd, a spiritual life coach who utilizes breathwork, subconscious and energy work to help individuals process shame, smash stigma, and live better lives! Diagnosed with Herpes (HSV) in 2017, Stephanie has worked to shed negative feelings surrounding the diagnosis in her own lives and in others.

 

Work with Stephanie: Sign up for a one-on-one coaching session, enroll in a stigma-shedding workshop, or enhance your pleasure (herpes-unrelated!!)

Follow Stephanie on Instagram and Tiktok @stephanielboyd_

This week, Em is joined by a fellow queer femme, the fabulous Arielle “Ari” Antwine, a Sex Educator, Podcaster, trauma-informed Sex Coach, Yoga Instructor, Burlesque Artist, and International Showgirl! She prefers the title Sensual Educator & Facilitator to encompass her work. 

In addition to discussing her background, Ari talks about bisexuality+, sexploration in adulthood, relearning sexuality, and working towards confidence in your identity. Plus, the anecdotes in this episode are *chef's kiss*

 

Sign up for a coaching session with Ari. Use code KEEPIT100 for $50 off a clarity call!!

Group Coaching: Getting Bi: Sexual Confidence for Late-Blooming Bi Women & Vulva-owners. May 3 to July 19, 2022. Apply here.

Sensual Embodiment Series for Vulva-owners. 9 weeks. Summer 2022. 

Holistic Sensuality Coaching. 5 weeks. Rolling application. More on both here.

 

Listen to the SensuElle Podcast here. Follow Ari on Instagram @Sensuelle.Education and @SensuellePodcast

"At your age, you're going to have a lot of urges. You're going to want to take off your clothes, and touch each other. But if you do touch each other, you will get chlamydia... and die."

 

In this week's episode, Em is joined by Embarrassed to Ask hosts and sex educators Christine and Ellie. The trio share stories of teaching sex ed to youth, and discuss learning moments as adults hoping to pave the way for a more inclusive and comprehensive future. 

 

Listen to Embarrassed to Ask and follow them on Instagram! From there, you can submit questions of your own, and subscribe to their patreon.

Do you like n00dz? Sending or receiving? Have you ever fantasized about getting caught? Or catching someone else? 

 

In this KinkCast, Em reviews exhibitionism and voyeurism, and chats through a few easy ways to explore either and incorporate aspects of each into your routine seggs play.

 

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WE'RE BACK with another KinkCast! In this fabulously fetishistic breakdown, Em discusses a recent study on tickling as a fetish. The more you learn, folks! 

Jordan D'Nelle is a physician assistant by trade, and women's health educator by night. Host of the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast, she is a guru on all things health and wellness, as well as working towards self empowerment and better sex.

In this week's episode, Em and Jordan dive into the difference between arousal and the physical response cycle for vulva-owners, self-discovery and exploration, and sh*tting bubbles. 

 

Listen to the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast.

Work with Jordan so YOU can have the sex life you want!

Check out her library of FREE curated resources.

Follow Jordan on Instagram for her tips, tricks, content, and announcements @jordandnelle.

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Em and her partner use "naughty" couples conversation starters to spark conversations about love languages, turn ons, and the negative impact aging has on sex position selection.

 

Be sure to follow us on Instagram @sexistentialistpod if you don't already :) See you next week.

In this week's episode, Em is joined by sex educator and former escort Tim, host of the Sex Ed With Tim podcast. Tim and Em discuss a*s play, sex shenanigans, getting k*nky, the unexpected of sex work, and more.

Buckle up for this bad boy of an episode, because Em and Tim can't resist a good d*ck joke, nor a scrumptious segue. 

 

Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim. Get 25% off jock straps, tank tops, harnesses and more at dalekuda.com with code SEXEDWITHTIM

 

"Some people are born to a*s. Some people have a*s thrust upon them. And some people earn a*s." - Tim Lagman

Em is joined by The Curious Girl Diaries' Layla in this funny, sexy, and insightful episode. The gals talk all things sexual discovery, GOOD casual sex, and d*ck pic-ers!

 

Listen to and get in touch with The Curious Girl at thecuriousgirldiaries.com.

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We are BACK for season 2 BABIES! 

CW: Sexual assault / abusive relationships 

 

Enrique has returned to talk about sex and dating after a break up, loss, or heart ache. Join Em as the two of them discuss what not to do after a break up, how to avoid the unhealthy, and how to strive towards loving you for you! P.S. Take a shot every time Em uses the term "rail." 

 

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In this fun lil KinkCast, Em talks about the wet and messy fetish, also known as "sploshing." Tune in to see if this wets your whistle!!

 

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In this Sexual Health Month special, Em chats with therapist, sex coach, and orgasm expert @AwareMoma to discuss the nuances and psychology of orgasms, specifically for vulva-owners. If you've ever experienced difficulty achieving an orgasm, this one is for you!

 

Moma is a brilliant and talented sex coach! She can be found on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @AwareMoma, or contacted via her website https://awaremoma.com/. 

In this episode, Em talks to Andy about their/his trans nonbinary identity, the basics of understanding gender and its nuances, and more! If you have questions about identity, expression, and what it's all about, check it out :) 

Ever thought about what sharing your partner could be like? In the first ever KinkCast, Em talks about cuckolding! What is it? Why do people enjoy it? What's a hotwife? Sexistentialist breaks it down. If you're a member of this or any kink community and would like to be on the show, DM us @sexistentialistpod on Instagram or email us at sexistentialistpod@gmail.com. 

Em, Claire, Connor, and Dina wrap up their conversation about sex toys, talking about partnered toy use, misogyny, and more!

This week, Em speaks with Noelle Benach, LCPC, CST, an AASECT Certified sex therapist, educator, and speaker. In this episode, the two identify and unpack myths and misconceptions associated with fatness / being larger-bodied, particularly as it pertains to sexuality. If you don't listen -- this is your reminder that all bodies are deserving of and capable of whatever pleasure they aspire to!

Learn this and more throughout the discussion.

 

Noelle's work is fat, queer, kink, and ENM friendly! She works with individuals, couples, businesses and more. Learn more and book her via her website! 

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During the episode, Noelle recommends several resources. They're listed here:

• Maintenance Phase Podcast
• Fat and Queer: An Anthology of Queer and Trans Bodies and Lives
• "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People by Aubrey Gordon
• What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon
• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, PhD

 

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Em, Connor, Dina, and Claire sit down to talk all things toys: From water to vibrators to food to whatever the hell you can find! 

This week, Em talks to purity culture escapee Kat about truly horrendous sex ed, pearl necklaces, and, most importantly, finding the cl*t. Listen in to hear Kat's journey as she reconciles progressive politics, healthy sexuality, and reshaping faith!

This week, Em and guest Enrique talk all things homosexuality and religion. What is it like to grow up gay, Mexican, and Catholic? Words of advice for those seeking to reconcile faith and sexuality, PLUS he can smash for three hours straight?!

Content Warning: sexual assault / self-punishment & depression

Back again but this time 2020, baby! When weren't we fapping during lockdown? What were you thinking about most leading up to the election? Em and her partner talk data insights and long lasting societal impact of COVID-19 and quarantine masturbatory habits.