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Are you a people pleaser who struggles with saying no? Do you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no, leading to feelings of resentment, burnout, and regret? In this episode, I’ll explore what it means to honor your Nos and why it's essential for your well-being.

I’ll guide you through identifying what a true yes feels like in your body and how to recognize the physical and emotional signs that it's time to say no. Learn how to communicate your boundaries clearly, stand firm in your decisions, and reclaim your energy by prioritizing yourself. Honoring your Nos is about respecting your boundaries, living authentically, and giving others the chance to know the real you.

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2. https://www.giastorms.com/single-post/owning-your-no 

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Learn how to support someone you love through grief.

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Learn how to raise your sexual standards. 

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Learn how to be in alignment with your life purpose.

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Learn how to be wrong.

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Learn how to manage rejecting and being rejected while dating. 

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Learn how to calm a woman's mind during sex or any level of intimacy. 

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Learn about mistakes I made in 2023 that turned into lessons Learned for 2024

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Learn how to calm your anxiety and feel your true feelings fully.

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Learn how to manage being afraid.

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Learn how to let go when the sexual chemistry is intense 

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Learn how to leave a positive impact on people's lives. 

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1. https://lifexchangesolutions.com/reticular-activating-system/ 

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Learn how to be approachable to people you find attractive.

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1. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513805000176?via%3Dihub
2. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/the-face-of-fertility-why-do-men-find-women-who-are-near-ovulation-more-attractive-10359906.html

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Learn how to protect yourself in relationships with envious people.

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Learn how to let your lady know you want more sex in the relationship.

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1. https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
2. https://sexcoachu.com/emily-nagoski-come-as-you-are-inform-practice/ 
3. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-ethical-non-monogamy-5176515 

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Learn how to process making a mistake. 

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Learn how to manage your inner self-critic.

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Learn how to comfortably receive pleasure during sex.

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Learn how to attract love into your life.

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Learn how to choose wisely when dating. 

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Learn 5 green flags to look for in a sexual partner.

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Learn how to be a safe space for the “Strong Ones” in your life.

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Learn how to let go of someone that isn't choosing you. 

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Today’s show features my childhood friend, Habibat Shittu, the brilliant mind behind "Activate God" and "Single as a Joke." She’s here to discuss tips on How to Enjoy Dating with me.

Join us as we dive into 10 tips on enjoying dating and hear Habibat and I's insights and experiences!

Follow Habibat Shittu---> https://linktr.ee/habibattshittu

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Learn how to believe people when they show you who they are.

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Learn how to keep a lady sexually satisfied. 

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1. https://shq.org.au/2020/07/pleasure/
2. The Principles of Pleasure; https://www.netflix.com/title/81137265
3.  https://intimatemarriage.org/relationship-builder-exercises/brakes-accelerators/

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Learn how to manage overreacting. 

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Learn how to forgive yourself and enhance your relationship with yourself.

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2. https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-forgive-yourself

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Learn how to ask for the sex you want.

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Learn how to create better friendships.

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Learn how to hold a good conversation.

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Learn a lady’s guide to a successful one-night stand

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Learn how to protect yourself from emotional vampires.

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1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-freedom/201101/the-5-kinds-emotional-vampires-you-could-encounter
2. https://www.growingself.com/emotional-vampires/
3. https://www.betterup.com/blog/emotional-vampires#:~:text=care%20most%20about.-,What%20are%20emotional%20vampires%3F,depressed%2C%20anxious%2C%20and%20insecure.

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Learn how to let go of someone you love. 

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Learn how to be sexually free. 

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Learn how to practice restraint of the vulva, when what the vulva wants doesn't align with your personal values. 

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A great convo with Dana Killion, the author of "Where the Shadows Dance". We talk about her experiences supporting her husband through his alcohol addiction and becoming collateral damage in the process. 

This episode is for the fixers of the world. Those that fight to care for and save their loved ones, even at the expense of themself. 

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Learn how to successfully fail. 

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Learn how to get your needs met during sex

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Learn how to walk in your authenticity. 

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Learn how to identify your repetition compulsion pattern in relationships to make more loving and healthier connections. 

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1. https://psychcentral.com/blog/repetition-compulsion-why-do-we-repeat-the-past#causes
2. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/repetition-compulsion#relationships
3. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00207578.2020.1809154

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Learn how to respectfully manage your vulva. 

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1. https://www.amazon.com/Pussypedia-Comprehensive-Guide-Zoe-Mendelson/dp/0306924285
2. https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/lifestyle/hygiene-and-beauty/how-to-clean-your-vagina

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Learn how to be a good listener.

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Learn how to build mental strength 

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• https://positivepsychology.com/mentally-strong/

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Learn how to be the best she ever had.

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1.  https://www.intimina.com/blog/what-is-sexual-aftercare/
2. https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-satisfyer-pro-nd-generation-104151.aspx 
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Learn how to strengthen your relationship with money.

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1. https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Pocket-Money-Expanded-Study/dp/1571747362
2. https://marcuslemonis.com/business/respect-money
3. https://open.spotify.com/episode/7lLk4Ru2qDSbAczGbtyoSP?si=5i_-dBupQCKfNwQQ1jzDvQ 

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1. https://www.verywellmind.com/highly-sensitive-persons-traits-that-create-more-stress-4126393
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Learn how to stop attracting relationships you don’t want 

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Learn the 6 Easiest Ways to Turn A Lady Off

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Learn how to reparent yourself.

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