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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	How To Get Your Sex Life Back When Your Kinks Don't Match	08 nov. 2026	00:23:00
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	How Reading Smut Can Turbocharge Your Sex Life	02 nov. 2026	00:46:58
Curious about coaching with Heather? Request your free consultation call now: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite ABOUT THIS EPISODE Could reading smut help turbocharge your sex life? Certified sex therapist Heather Shannon welcomes Allison Whaley, founder of Bothered Stories, to explore how written erotica can spark desire, fuel sexual creativity, and help you discover what turns you on. They discuss how sexy stories offer a low-pressure way to reconnect with your erotic side—whether you’re struggling to get in the mood, feeling disconnected from your body, or craving something beyond your usual bedroom routine. Heather and Allison also explore how couples can use erotica to start conversations about fantasies without making either partner feel criticized or put on the spot. From understanding female desire to finding inspiration for dirty talk, this conversation highlights what makes a story sexy—and how those same ingredients can translate into real-life intimacy. You’ll also hear why enjoying a fantasy doesn’t necessarily mean you want to act it out, and how getting curious about what appeals to you can reveal desires worth sharing. In this episode, we cover: • How reading erotica can help you explore arousal at your own pace, without pressure to have sex. • Sharing a scene with your partner as an easier starting point for talking about turn-ons and fantasies. • What men can learn from stories that center female pleasure, anticipation, and emotional connection. • Why monster and alien romance appeal to some readers—and how fantasy can offer distance from body-image concerns. • Using smut as inspiration for dirty talk, power play, and exploring unfamiliar kinks. • How consent and check-ins can become part of the chemistry instead of interrupting it. • What an attraction to dark romance might reveal about wanting attention, devotion, or feeling deeply desired. Start Saving Time With Your Tovala Smart Oven For Only $69 with code HEATHER - https://tovala.pxf.io/AgDmKJ Join Beducated--the Netflix of sex education--For 50% Off With Code HEATHER - https://beducate.me/heather Curious About Working With Heather As Your Coach? Click Below To Request Your Free Consultation For The Pathway To Passion Program: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Surprising Turn-Ons Most Women Have (From A Certified Sex Therapist)	26 oct. 2026	00:20:30
What actually turns women on? The answer might surprise you—and it often starts long before you get to the bedroom. In this solo episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist Heather Shannon explores three major turn-ons for women: emotional intelligence, feeling wanted, and consideration. Through real-life examples, she explains how everyday interactions can build emotional connection and help create the conditions for sexual desire. From staying present during a conversation to expressing attraction in ways your partner can receive, Heather shares practical ways to strengthen intimacy. She also explores how resentment, an unequal mental load, and struggles with body image can get in the way of desire. This isn’t a checklist that guarantees more sex: it’s an invitation to understand your partner and show up with the care, confidence, and thoughtfulness that make connection more appealing. Why seeing a partner being a patient, caring parent can spark sexual attraction. How listening, empathy, and managing your emotions help your partner feel safe and relaxed. The difference between kindness with healthy boundaries and being the “nice guy” who has none. How flirting, compliments, thoughtful gestures, and expressing attraction can help your partner feel wanted. Why body-image struggles can make it difficult to take in a partner’s affection and desire. How sharing the mental load—and anticipating needs without being asked—can help your partner feel considered. Why treating kindness or household responsibilities as a transaction for sex can undermine attraction. Start Saving Time With Your Tovala Smart Oven For Only $69 with code HEATHER - https://tovala.pxf.io/AgDmKJ Join Beducated--the Netflix of sex education--For 50% Off With Code HEATHER - https://beducate.me/heather Curious About Working With Heather As Your Coach? Click Below To Request Your Free Consultation For The Pathway To Passion Program: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Sex After 50: It Ain't Over!	19 oct. 2026	00:51:50
Stuck in a sex rut? Take my free quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com Have you noticed that as you get older, what used to turn you on just isn't working anymore? In this episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist Heather Shannon welcomes Suzanne Noble, host of Sex Advice for Seniors, for a candid conversation about sex after 50. Together, they explore changing desire, menopause, erection concerns, and the belief that your sex life has an expiration date. Suzanne shares her experiences with intimacy in later life, from navigating physical changes to building anticipation and getting creative with pleasure. We discuss why adapting your approach can help you feel more confident and less pressured, how to ask for what you need, and what getting older has taught Suzanne about her body and relationships. Expect practical ideas, honest stories, and plenty of humor. In this episode, we get into: • Myths about aging, sexual desire, and when people supposedly stop wanting sex • Suzanne's experiences with vaginal estrogen and testosterone, and advocating for care • Changing arousal patterns and why anticipation, touch, and scheduling can help • Erection concerns, performance anxiety, and pleasure beyond penetration • Adapting to mobility challenges with positioning, pillows, and creativity • Body confidence, communication, and giving yourself permission to take your time • Dating younger men and how Suzanne's relationship priorities have changed Start Saving Time With Your Tovala Smart Oven For Only $69 with code HEATHER - https://tovala.pxf.io/AgDmKJ Join Beducated--the Netflix of sex education--For 50% Off With Code HEATHER - https://beducate.me/heather Curious About Working With Heather As Your Coach? Click Below To Request Your Free Consultation For The Pathway To Passion Program: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite Connect with Suzanne: Website and podcast: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com Social accounts and resources: https://linktr.ee/sexadviceforseniors This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Mistakes Men Make When It Comes To Female Desire	12 oct. 2026	00:24:08
Get 50% off Beducated where you can learn the skill of great sex! Use promo code HEATHER for your discount: https://beducate.me/heather Want expert help figuring out what’s getting in the way of your sex life? Sign up for a Quickie Assessment with me for personalized guidance and a clearer direction forward: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/pZLVQLgG/checkout ABOUT THIS EPISODE Feeling sexually frustrated or rejected in your relationship? In this solo episode of Sex for Couples, I’m breaking down three common mistakes I see men make when their female partners have less desire—and how those approaches can accidentally make connection harder. We explore why physical and emotional safety matter for female desire, how mental load and resentment can affect intimacy, and what it looks like to help your partner feel understood and supported. Your sexual needs matter, too. I share how to express them without turning sex into a negotiation, obligation, or another item on your partner’s to-do list. We also explore how repeated rejection can create a scarcity mindset, why low libido often has several overlapping causes, and how to move toward more confidence, curiosity, flirting, and fun. The goal is a sexual connection you both genuinely want. In this episode: Why emotional safety extends beyond physical boundaries to feeling heard, respected, and free from sexual pressure. How unequal mental load, decision fatigue, and a “project manager” dynamic can get in the way of desire. Practical ways to take initiative and share responsibility without making your partner assign every task. Why bargaining for sexual contact can create obligation and negative associations with sex. How to communicate your sexual needs and feelings while staying curious about your partner’s experience. What a sexual scarcity mindset looks like—and how to start rebuilding confidence when you’ve felt unwanted. How stress, health, hormones, relationship dynamics, and daily routines can overlap to affect libido. Wondering what’s keeping you stuck? Take my free quiz, Why You’re Stuck In A Sex Rut: https://TheBetterBedroom.com Want personalized support? Request a consultation for coaching with me at https://HeatherShannon.co This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Listener Q & A: Too Busy For Sex, Hormones, Asexuality and Best Advice	05 oct. 2026	00:37:02
Stuck in a sex rut? Take my free quiz to discover what could be keeping you stuck—and where to start: https://TheBetterBedroom.com What do you do when your partner comes out as asexual and you have a high sex drive? How do you get in the mood when life feels like an endless to-do list? In this listener Q&A episode of Sex for Couples, I’m answering your questions as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. We explore mismatched desire, different ways to experience intimacy, and how to stay curious about your options when your sex life takes an unexpected turn. I also discuss how hormonal changes throughout the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, breastfeeding, and perimenopause can influence libido—and why hormones aren’t the whole picture. Plus, I share my advice for building a satisfying relationship from the beginning, including talking openly about sex, maintaining your individuality, and bringing more playfulness into your connection. Whether you’re navigating a desire discrepancy or simply feeling too busy for intimacy, this episode offers starting points for less pressure and more connection. In this episode, we cover: Navigating a relationship with an asexual partner, including conversations about boundaries, sexual needs, and shared intimacy. Why persistent, painful arousal deserves medical attention—and exploring the emotional needs that can accompany a desire for sex. Making room for intimacy when you’re overwhelmed, with mental foreplay, responsive desire, and small moments of connection. How menstrual cycles and life stages such as breastfeeding and perimenopause can affect sexual desire. Talking about sexual preferences and giving feedback in a positive, playful way—including trying a “kissing lab.” Keeping curiosity and attraction alive through individuality, novelty, emotional honesty, and a shared willingness to grow. Want personalized support with your sex life or relationship? Reach out to explore coaching with me at https://HeatherShannon.co This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How To Let Go In The Bedroom: Dominance vs. Surrender	25 sept. 2026	00:52:39
Want your partner to take charge in bed, but struggle to actually let go? Or curious about being dominant without feeling like you’re playing a character? In this episode of Sex For Couples, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon welcomes professional dominatrix and erotic leadership expert Kimi Inch to explore conscious kink, dominance and submission, and building sexual confidence through connection. Heather and Kimi unpack why trust, self-worth, and relationship patterns can get in the way of surrender—and how to explore BDSM with more curiosity and less pressure to perform. Through real examples from her work with couples, Kimi shares how to develop an authentic dominant style, communicate sexual fantasies and boundaries, and use a verbal rehearsal to discover what excites you both before trying it in the bedroom. Key takeaways: Why being in charge all day doesn’t automatically make surrender easy in bed. How trust, self-worth, and unresolved relationship dynamics can affect dominance and submission. What subspace and Dom space can feel like—and why both partners need to let go in different ways. How erotic leadership uses presence, responsiveness, and creativity to build connection. How to use a kink checklist to discuss desires, boundaries, and sexual compatibility. Why talking through a fantasy before acting it out can build anticipation and clarify what feels good. How short play sessions, check-ins, and permission to make mistakes can take the pressure off exploring kink. Connect with Heather: Take the free “Why You’re Stuck in a Sex Rut” quiz Visit Heather’s website and explore intimacy coaching Connect with Kimi: Visit &More for Kimi’s coaching, classes, and events Download the free Conscious Kink Checklist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why You Don’t Need Intercourse To Be Intimate	21 sept. 2026	00:22:53
Stuck in a sex rut? Take the free quiz at https://TheBetterBedroom.com. Tired of the all or nothing sex cycle? Learn how to enjoy intimacy without pressure, even when your energy is running low. If you feel like every affectionate moment needs to lead to intercourse, you might be trapped in an all or nothing sex mindset. This pattern often leaves partners feeling exhausted or disconnected, as it narrows the definition of what intimacy can be. This episode is for anyone who wants to break that cycle and find more room to breathe in their relationship. Certified Sex Therapist and host Heather Shannon explains how to build intimacy without pressure, helping you explore diverse forms of intimacy that do not require high energy or a high libido. By shifting your focus away from the performance of intercourse, you can start reclaiming your sexual experiences and finding connection in the small, everyday moments. Subscribe for weekly relationship insights, and comment if you have felt the pressure to perform in your own relationship. Want Heather to be your sex and relationship coach? Request your free consultation call here: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Stop Trying To Get Your Old Sex Life Back	14 sept. 2026	00:55:13
In this episode of Sex For Couples, Heather Shannon talks with relationship coach Ally Iseman about non-monogamy, consensual open relationships, and how to build a sex life and relationship that's designed on purpose instead of running on autopilot. They get into why exclusivity and commitment aren't the same thing, why jealousy shows up in monogamous relationships too, and how monogamous couples can borrow the same tools non-monogamous couples use to keep things exciting. Ally is the founder of Passport to Pleasure, offering relationship coaching and curated travel experiences for couples who want to have the conversations they don't get to have anywhere else. She and Heather talk about relationship scripts, the difference between fantasy and desire, why living together or splitting things a certain way isn't required for commitment, and why curiosity — not effort — is the real antidote to a stuck sex life. In this episode: Why exclusivity and commitment are not the same thing Jealousy is an emotional experience, not a character trait — and it shows up in monogamous relationships too The difference between a fantasy and a desire, and why you can share one without acting on it How "relationship scripts" (living together, marriage, monogamy by default) keep couples from designing what actually works for them Why avoiding a hard conversation with your partner is still a choice, not neutral How non-monogamous couples build novelty and variety — and how monogamous couples can borrow the same tools Why your sex life is supposed to change over time, and what that means for your relationship Connect with Ally Iseman: Website: https://www.passport2pleasure.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman Connect with Heather: Stuck In A Sex Rut? Take the free quiz: TheBetterBedroom.com Work with Heather As Your Coach: https://HeatherShannon.co This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How To Stop Being Sexually Inhibited	07 sept. 2026	00:25:30
Stuck in a sex rut? Take the free quiz at https://TheBetterBedroom.com If you've ever wondered if you're sexually repressed or inhibited, this is the eipsode for you! Discover the signs that you're sexually inhibited, why so many people hold back sexually and what to do to become more sexually authentic and free to be yourself! Let your freak flag (or vanilla flag) fly. Host and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon goes over common patterns she sees with clients as well as her own past experiences feeling repressed and uncomfortable with sexuality. In this episode, Heather shares practical ways to notice when you are holding back, how to talk about desires with a partner, and how to work with the parts of yourself that feel protective or ashamed. Key topics Sexual inhibition can show up as keeping fantasies private, staying quiet during sex, or feeling like your desires are weird or inappropriate. A “low libido” may actually be hidden desire that has been buried by self-judgment, fear of being judged, or difficulty naming wants. Private sexual interests, like porn fantasies, romance novels, or kink scenarios, can be a sign that part of your sexuality is not being shared with a partner. Cultural conditioning plays a major role, including messages from family, friends, school, church, purity culture, and gender socialization. Safety matters first. Heather notes that sexual inhibition can be tied to real concerns about unwanted attention, objectification, and sexual aggression. Substance use during sex can be a clue that inhibition is getting in the way of pleasure and ease. Timestamps 00:00 - What sexual inhibition is and what this episode will cover 00:31 - Signs you may be repressed or censoring yourself 05:36 - How socialization teaches people what sex is “allowed” to be 06:06 - Church, purity culture, and shame-based sexual messaging 07:03 - Sexual safety, unwanted attention, and guardedness 09:25 - Family modeling, mixed examples, and emotional risk around sex 13:36 - How civilization can lead us to exile our primal side 15:00 - Reconciling the proper self with the sexual self 16:25 - Integrating lust and emotional connection 17:24 - Using parts work to welcome the more wild parts 19:50 - How sharing desires can create intimacy and closeness 20:49 - Substance use as a sign that inhibition may be present 21:10 - Befriending the protective inner voice 21:40 - Freeing your sexuality without needing to be stereotypically wild 23:06 - How to ask for curiosity and safety from a partner Looking for coaching? Request a free consultation with Heather: Unlock Your Passion - Consultation Call This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Sex With ADHD: Why Your Brain Checks Out	24 août 2026	00:50:57
Feeling stuck in your sex life? Take the free quiz to find your sexy spark again: https://thebetterbedroom.com SEX WITH ADHD You're in the middle of sex and somehow your brain wanders off to grocery lists, Hamilton the musical, or the ceiling fan clicking. Then the shame kicks in. If that's you, this episode is going to change how you think about it completely. Heather sits down with Cate Osborn, ADHD content creator, sex educator, and best-selling author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to break down what ADHD and neurodivergence actually have to do with sex and intimacy. Spoiler: everything. They cover why the ADHD brain treats sex like just another series of tasks (same as making a sandwich), why kink might be the most naturally ADHD-friendly toolbox there is, how executive dysfunction shows up in the bedroom, the surprising links between ADHD and erectile dysfunction, orgasm difficulty, and hormonal shifts, and, for partners of someone with ADHD, where explanation ends and excuse begins. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:35 Why so many of Heather's clients turn out to be neurodivergent 02:53 Executive functioning and how it touches every part of your sex life 04:15 The comorbidities nobody talks about (anxiety, OCD, disordered eating) 04:42 What "AuDHD" is and why it matters 06:45 The sexual assault statistics that stopped Heather in her tracks 08:04 Inside The ADHD Field Guide for Adults 14:11 Why kink might be the perfect tool for an ADHD brain 18:20 The real reason you get distracted during sex 23:50 "I'm thinking about Hamilton the musical", checking out mid-sex 25:10 Eye contact, communication, and knowing your own needs 36:12 The partner side: what's fair to ask, and where accountability comes in 44:34 Resentment, parentified relationships, and sex drive 45:43 Orgasm difficulty and erectile dysfunction, explained Curious about coaching with Heather? Book a free Pathway to Passion consult More from Cate Osborn: Instagram Buy The Book This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why More Frequent Sex Isn't the Fix You Need	10 août 2026	00:39:44
Feeling stuck in your sex life or wondering how to reignite intimacy with your partner? Take the free quiz at TheBetterBedroom.com to find out what's really going on. Why More Frequent Sex Isn't the Fix You Need Most couples who feel stuck in their sex life assume the answer is just having sex more often. Couples therapist Zach Brittle (host of Marriage Therapy Radio) joins host and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon to explain why chasing frequency backfires, and why sex is actually a skill you build, not something you either have or don't. They dig into what people get wrong when they try to "work harder" at sex, why outcome-focused sex (orgasm, erection, intercourse) narrows what counts as intimacy, and how one couple in Zach's practice eliminated the guesswork around initiation entirely with a simple negotiated system. Topics covered: Why "more sex" is the wrong goal for a low sex life Reframing sex as a skill instead of a talent you either have or don't What "what's it for?" and "what counts?" reveal about your sex life Why rejection in the bedroom is rarely about attraction A real couple's negotiated system for ending initiation anxiety Treating sex like a hobby instead of a performance More from Zach Brittle: Marriage Therapy Radio — https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ More from Heather: AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, host of Sex For Couples. Want personalized support for your relationship? Book a coaching consultation at https://HeatherShannon.co. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Is Your Cell Phone Accidentally Killing Your Sex Life?	27 juil. 2026	00:21:42
Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut Quiz now! https://TheBetterBedroom.com If you feel more like roommates, co-parents, or logistical planning partners than lovers, your phone might be a bigger part of the problem than you think. In this episode, Heather Shannon — certified sex therapist with 20 years of counseling experience — breaks down what constant phone use is actually doing to your sex drive and your relationship, and how getting present again brings your desire back with it. What You'll Learn 00:02 — Why phone use might be quietly killing your sex life, and what a 2025 University of Connecticut/Columbia study found about phone use, conflict, and intimacy in relationships 02:27 — The societal shift toward disconnection: distracted driving, ignored bids for attention, and the disappearing "hello" when you walk into a shop 04:54 — Why being "in your head" instead of "in your body" is one of the biggest hidden causes of performance anxiety, difficulty orgasming, and disconnection from your partner 07:16 — How to audit your own phone use: what you actually want vs. what your actions show, and why this matters even more for men who weren't encouraged to be in touch with their emotions 09:38 — What you get back when you put the phone down: presence, laughter, working out as a body-awareness practice, and why boredom can actually be good for your sex life 11:52 — The trade-off most people don't examine: what you're sacrificing for a quick dopamine hit (and a mention of the book Dopamine Nation) 14:15 — Heather's own 48-hour phone experiment: turning off text, WhatsApp, social media, and email for a weekend — and what it did to her nervous system and her sex drive 16:32 — Practical solutions: checking in with yourself before you scroll, using Screen Time/Downtime limits, and why limits alone aren't enough — you have to decide how you actually want to spend your time Join the 30-Day Challenge Heather's considering building a 30-day cell-phone-reducing, relationship-presence-boosting challenge. If that's something you'd want in on, comment "CHALLENGE" on YouTube or Spotify, or email Hello@HeatherShannon.co directly. If there's enough interest, she'll build it. Resources & Links 📋 Take the quiz: TheBetterBedroom.com 📅 Book a consultation call for coaching: HeatherShannon.co 📖 Mentioned in this episode: Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke 🧘 Mentioned in this episode: Eckhart Tolle's perspective on digital society and presence This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Feel Confident Dominating Your Partner - A Former Dominatrix Shares How	13 juil. 2026	00:50:37
Take the free quiz to find out why you're stuck in a sex rut: https://TheBetterBedroom.com What does it actually take to feel dominant in the bedroom, and why do so many of us freeze up when it's our turn to lead? In this episode, Heather sits down with Amanda Dames, a kink consultant and former professional dominatrix, to break down the real skills behind dominance, submission, and power dynamics in a relationship. Amanda spent two years working at a dungeon while holding down a corporate job at the Wall Street Journal, and she brings that hands-on experience into a real conversation about how dominant and submissive roles actually work, how to figure out your own authentic style, and how to vet a partner for safety before you ever get started. They cover the different types of Doms (Master, Traditional Dom, Caretaker Dom, and Pleasure Dom), the different types of submissives (service subs, slaves, baby girls and boys), the red flags that signal an unhealthy power dynamic, and why most of what we see about kink and BDSM in movies sets totally unrealistic expectations. If you're ready to go deeper than a podcast episode, visit https://HeatherShannon.co to request a free consultation and learn about Heather's signature Pathway to Passion coaching program. Timestamps: 0:00 Amanda's path from marine biology to the Wall Street Journal to a Craigslist dominatrix job 4:30 Discovering a more powerful, dominant version of herself 8:00 What a Dom's real job actually is, and how to avoid burnout 17:00 Why you need to talk to your partner before you talk divorce 19:30 How a real negotiation between a Dom and a client actually works 26:30 Why being patient with yourself matters more than getting it right the first time 30:00 The four types of Dominants, explained 36:20 The submissive types, and how to find your own style 37:50 How to vet a Dom (or any partner) for safety 45:00 Why movies like Secretary and Baby Girl are not how-to videos 51:00 Amanda's free worksheet for talking about your desires with confidence Take the free quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com Learn more about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching: https://HeatherShannon.co Get Amanda's free worksheet, Speaking Your Desires With Confidence: https://AmandaDames.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	6 Ways To Effectively Communicate Your Sexual Needs	29 juin 2026	00:29:49
Want help figuring out your own needs before you bring them to your partner? Take the free Intimacy Audit: https://HeatherShannon.co (click the pop-up) In this episode . . . Great sex isn't about mind reading. If you've stayed silent about what you want, tried to bring it up and gotten shut down, or you're with someone who clams up at the mention of sex, this episode gives you six steps to actually say what you need without putting your partner on the defensive. AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon breaks down how to talk about your sexual needs, desires, and fantasies in a way that builds connection instead of conflict. You'll learn the difference between framing something as a "need" versus a "want," how to figure out what you actually desire when you're not sure, and how to bring up bigger topics, like having a threesome, without blowing up the conversation. Find out: Why calling something a sexual "need" instead of a "want" can create unintended pressure or resentment How to start identifying your own desires, even if you've never really thought about it before The difference between healthy support and codependency in a relationship, and why it matters for your sex life A real example of how to bring up a fantasy with your partner without making it weird What to say when your partner brings up something you're not into How to negotiate sexual differences so both people still feel like themselves Curious about coaching with Heather? Request a free consultation at https://HeatherShannon.co. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	The Truth About Female Sexual Desire After 40	15 juin 2026	00:51:07
Can women really have the best sex of their lives after 50... or even 60? In this episode, sex therapist, relationship coach, and tantra educator Maria Merloni shares why many women lose interest in sex, what might actually be causing it, and how one surprising practice transformed her own sex life at age 60. We discuss desire, orgasm quality, menopause, body confidence, trauma, tantra, and why feeling more connected to your body may be the missing piece for a more fulfilling sex life. In this episode, you'll learn: 💜 Why women often lose interest in sex as they age 💜 The connection between pleasure, desire, and orgasm quality 💜 Why great sex doesn't have to decline after menopause 💜 How body image affects sexual confidence 💜 The role of tantra in healing and intimacy 💜 The difference between masturbation and self-yoni massage 💜 How presence and body awareness can improve your sex life Connect with Maria: Free Yoni Ritual Guide: https://mariamerloni.com/ritual/ Website: https://mariamerloni.com Ready to improve your relationship and sex life? Take my free quiz: https://heathershannon.co/quiz Work with Heather: https://heathershannon.co This is a reminder I'm publishing every other week June-August of 2026 and will resume weekly publishing in September! This is a great time to catch up on past episodes. #SexForCouples #WomenOver50 #Menopause #LowLibido #Tantra #SexTherapy #Relationships #Intimacy #FemaleDesire #SexAfter50 This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Crossdressing Kink: Married To A Women But Want to Wear Her Clothes?	31 mai 2026	00:29:17
SUMMER SCHEDULE! I'll be publishing every other week during June, July & August so we can all enjoy our family time and travels. I'll resume weekly publishing September 7th, 2026. If you’re secretly wondering what your cross-dressing means about you — or terrified what would happen if your partner fully knew — this episode is for you. Many men who cross-dress struggle with shame, confusion, secrecy, and questions about identity. And hiding it for too long can create much bigger relationship problems than the dressing itself. In this episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist and intimacy coach Heather Shannon breaks down the psychology of cross-dressing, why it can feel emotionally and sexually powerful, and how couples can navigate it honestly inside a committed relationship. You’ll learn the difference between cross-dressing, kink, drag, and gender identity — plus why secrecy, shame, and emotional suppression often become part of the cycle. Heather also explores feminization, sissification, submissive dynamics, internal family systems (IFS), and the emotional relief many people experience when they’re finally allowed to express hidden parts of themselves. Whether you’re exploring this personally or trying to understand your partner better, this episode offers a compassionate, nuanced perspective without shame or judgment. In This Episode: The difference between cross-dressing and being transgender Why cross-dressing can feel emotionally relieving or sexually exciting The psychology behind feminization and sissification kinks How masculinity pressures contribute to secrecy and shame Why many people use cross-dressing as emotional escape or self-expression The connection between cross-dressing and submissive dynamics How Internal Family Systems (IFS) explains different “parts” of ourselves What healthy honesty and integration can look like in long-term relationships How secrecy around kinks can damage trust and intimacy Questions to ask yourself if you’re exploring gender identity If this episode helped you better understand yourself, your partner, or your relationship dynamic, follow Sex for Couples for honest conversations about intimacy, desire, emotional connection, and sexual psychology. Take My Free Relationship & Intimacy Quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com Interested in coaching with Heather? Request a consultation: https://HeatherShannon.co Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or mental health treatment. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why So Many Couples End Up in a Dead Bedroom	25 mai 2026	00:45:16
If you still love each other but sex has become rare, tense, or complicated, this episode will help you understand what changed. In this episode of Sex for Couples, Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon talks with Author & Founder Ralph Brewer who wrote The Dead Bedroom Fix and founded of HelpForMen.com. The explore why sex can feel effortless early in a relationship — and then slowly start to feel like work. They discuss the emotional reality of dead bedrooms, sexless marriage, mismatched libido, attachment styles, long-term monogamy, parenting stress, and why many couples feel confused when love is still there but desire has faded. You’ll hear why this pattern is so common, why it can feel especially painful for men, and what couples can start paying attention to if they want to rebuild sexual connection without blame or pressure. 🔑 In This Episode • Why sex often changes after marriage, commitment, and kids • How dead bedrooms happen even in loving relationships • Why men often experience low sexual connection as rejection • How anxious and avoidant attachment patterns affect intimacy • What self-improvement has to do with rebuilding desire ⏱ Chapters 00:00 – Introduction to Ralph Brewer and His Journey 02:43 – Coping with Infidelity and the Importance of Male Friendships 05:36 – The Impact of Sexual Dynamics in Long-Term Relationships 08:31 – Understanding the Dead Bedroom Phenomenon 11:27 – The Role of Hormones and Aging in Relationships 14:14 – Community Support and Its Importance in Parenting 17:13 – Adjusting Expectations in Long-Term Relationships 21:42 – Navigating Relationship Changes 23:50 – The Impact of Life Stressors on Relationships 25:31 – Reviving the Bedroom: A Focus on Self-Improvement 28:40 – The Importance of Secure Communication 30:32 – Understanding Attachment Styles 34:33 – The Balance of Masculinity and Femininity 40:07 – Exploring Monogamy and Novelty in Relationships 👤 Connect with Ralph Brewer 🌐 Help For Men https://helpformen.com ❤️ Work with Heather 🌐 Coaching & Resources https://HeatherShannon.co 🔥 Take the Free Quiz: Why You’re Stuck In A Sex Rut https://TheBetterBedroom.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Feel Sexy Despite Aging and Body Changes	18 mai 2026	00:34:13
Sometimes your body changes — weight gain, new wrinkles, giving birth, surgery, balding, etc. And when that happens, it can deeply affect the way you experience desire, sexual confidence, intimacy, and your whole identity as a sexual being. In this episode, Heather explores the grief of bodily change, the unrealistic expectations many people have about sexuality staying the same forever, and the ways self-monitoring and body image struggles can create barriers to intimacy and pleasure. You’ll also hear practical mindset shifts and emotional tools to help you reconnect with feeling sexy, desirable, embodied, and alive in the body you have now. Topics include: • Sexual identity and changing bodies • Aging, perimenopause, and body image • Erection changes and vaginal dryness • Chronic pain, surgery, and disability • Feeling disconnected from your body sexually • Why self-monitoring kills pleasure • Cultural beauty standards and desirability • Botox, cosmetic procedures, and body optimization culture • Reclaiming confidence and sexuality • How thoughts shape sexual confidence and desire Resources & Links: Heather’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc Take The Why You’re Stuck In A Sex Rut Quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com Request an Unlock Your Passion Call with Heather: https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite Prior Episode – Confidence From The Outside In with Kimmy Seltzer: https://pod.fo/e/16fa44 If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review, share it with someone who may need it, and follow the show for more conversations about sex, intimacy, relationships, and emotional connection. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why Sex Starts Feeling Like Another Chore	11 mai 2026	00:45:24
If sex has started feeling like one more thing you're supposed to do in your relationship . . . this episode is for you. Maybe you still love your partner… but sex feels heavy, pressured, awkward, or emotionally draining. You want to want it — but instead you find yourself avoiding initiation, feeling disconnected, or wondering why intimacy feels so different than it used to. In this episode, Heather talks with sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet about the emotional patterns that quietly turn passionate relationships into roommate dynamics — including resentment, emotional disconnection, unresolved conflict, and feeling emotionally unsafe with your partner. They also discuss: Why couples stop wanting sex over time The emotional roots of sexless marriages Why unresolved resentment kills intimacy How emotional safety impacts desire Why many couples feel lonely even when they “never fight” The hidden patterns underneath low desire Why sex can start feeling like another chore How couples rebuild emotional and sexual connection Xanet also shares her personal story of surviving a 26-year sexless marriage, healing sexual shame and vaginismus, and eventually becoming a sex and intimacy coach helping couples reconnect emotionally and physically. If you’ve been feeling emotionally disconnected, stuck in resentment, or struggling to understand why attraction has faded in your relationship, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening underneath the surface. 🎧 Listen now to understand why sex changes in long-term relationships — and what actually helps couples feel close again. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Fix Mismatched Libidos Without Pressure or Resentment	04 mai 2026	00:45:05
Struggling with mismatched libidos in your relationship? You’re not alone—and the real problem isn’t what you think. In this episode, I’m joined by relationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner to unpack the hidden dynamics behind desire discrepancy. We dive into why couples get stuck in cycles of pressure and rejection, how small disappointments turn into long-term resentment, and what both partners may be doing (without realizing it) to keep the pattern going. If you’ve ever felt like: Your partner “should” want sex more You’re constantly navigating pressure or rejection Emotional connection isn’t translating into a better sex life …this episode will help you understand why—and what to do differently. What You’ll Learn: Why desire discrepancy is really a relationship dynamic (not just a libido issue) How “building a case” against your partner destroys intimacy The hidden ways higher desire partners create pressure Why emotional intimacy alone doesn’t fix sex How to expand your definition of sex and reduce pressure The role of childhood conditioning in your sex life Guest Resources Mentioned: Monica Tanner’s book: Bad Marriage Advice Monica Tanner's website: https://www.monicatanner.com/ ❤️ Ready to improve your sex life? Take my free quiz to discover what’s really blocking intimacy in your relationship: 👉 https://TheBetterBedroom.com Or, if you’re ready for personalized support, book a free consultation: 👉 https://HeatherShannon.co This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Ways Non-Monogamy Goes Wrong (And Why It Feels So Unsafe)	27 avr. 2026	00:24:28
Thinking about opening your relationship—but already feeling tension, anxiety, or uncertainty? You’re not alone. For many couples, conversations about non-monogamy or open relationships quickly become overwhelming. One partner may feel excited and ready to explore, while the other feels hesitant, worried, or emotionally unsafe. In this episode, I break down why that happens—and how to approach non-monogamy in a way that actually supports your relationship instead of destabilizing it. Because the truth is: 👉 Non-monogamy isn’t the problem. 👉 The issue is how couples navigate it—especially when emotional safety isn’t fully established. 🔑 What You’ll Learn Why non-monogamy often feels unsafe early on (even when both people are open to it) The #1 mistake couples make: moving too fast—in conversations or actions How non-monogamy can quietly become one-sided (and lead to resentment) Why staying surface-level in communication creates more insecurity What it actually takes to build emotional safety in open relationships Why even doing everything “right” won’t make the process perfect—and what to expect instead ❤️ Who This Episode Is For This episode is especially helpful if: You’re just starting to discuss non-monogamy One of you is excited—and the other is unsure You’ve tried opening things up and it didn’t go well You want to explore ethically without damaging trust You’re navigating differences in sexual desire, curiosity, or identity 🧭 Free Resource Want help figuring out what non-monogamy could actually look like for you? Download my Quick Start Guide to Non-Monogamy Options—a practical overview of different relationship structures and ways to explore safely: 👉 https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/ELDCt5tG 💬 Work With Me If you want support navigating this with your partner—especially if things feel tense, confusing, or emotionally loaded—I can help. I specialize in helping couples work through: navigating non-monogamy, kink differences, and mismatched libidos. 👉 Book a consultation here: https://HeatherShannon.co 🔗 Keywords non-monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, how to open a relationship, non-monogamous relationship advice, relationship communication, emotional safety in relationships, polyamory, swinging, sexual compatibility, couples therapy, intimacy coaching This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why Non-Monogamy Can Save Your Relationship	20 avr. 2026	00:53:12
Non-monogamy is usually seen as something that destroys relationships. But what if, in some cases, it can actually save them? In this episode, I’m talking with a non-monogamy expert about a perspective that challenges everything most couples have been taught about love, sex, and commitment. We explore how Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) can sometimes be a more honest and sustainable way to navigate real relationship challenges—especially when it comes to mismatched libidos, unmet needs, and resentment. This isn’t about telling you to open your relationship. It’s about helping you think more clearly about: What you actually need What your partner can realistically provide And what options exist beyond the default model of monogamy We also get into: Why expecting one person to meet all your needs can create pressure and disconnection How resentment builds when sexual needs go unmet The difference between choosing monogamy vs defaulting into it How people navigate open relationships, polyamory, and other forms of non-monogamy The role of honesty, communication, and emotional security in polyamorous relationships Why some couples explore swinging, swingers communities, or other forms of shared sexual experiences The emotional realities (not just the fantasy) of ethical non-monogamy We also talk about the different roles partners can play—and why one person often can’t be everything for you over time. Whether you’re firmly monogamous, curious about ENM, or somewhere in between, this episode will give you a new lens on relationships, desire, and what it actually means to get your needs met. 🔗 Links & Resources Take the quiz: Discover what’s really causing your intimacy issues 👉 https://TheBetterBedroom.com Request a consultation for Heather's Pathway To Passion Coaching Program 👉 https://calendly.com/hshann1/ignite Learn more about our guest Cidney Green and buy her new book All 3 Of Me 👉 https://www.all3inme.com/ This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Mistakes Couples Make When Sharing Sexual Fantasies	13 avr. 2026	00:24:58
Thinking about sharing a sexual fantasy—but worried your partner will see you differently? This is where most couples unknowingly start creating distance instead of deeper intimacy. In this episode, we break down the 3 biggest mistakes couples make when sharing sexual fantasies—and why these patterns often lead to pressure, resentment, or emotional disconnection instead of closeness. If you’ve ever struggled with how to talk about sex, navigate kinks or fantasies, or handle differences in desire, this episode will give you a clear framework for doing it in a way that builds trust, emotional safety, and a more satisfying sex life What You’ll LearnHow shame around sexual fantasies creates distance in relationships Why avoiding conversations about sex limits intimacy and connection The hidden risk of pushing a fantasy too quickly after sharing it How pressure and urgency can lead to coercion (even unintentionally) Why your partner’s reaction is shaped by conditioning—not you The truth about being “sex-positive” without abandoning your boundaries How to handle mismatched sexual interests in a healthy way Ways to explore fantasies without being 100% sexually compatible Key Takeaways Open communication about sex is essential for long-term intimacy Fantasies require consent, pacing, and emotional safety Shame, pressure, and people-pleasing are the biggest intimacy killers You can accept your partner’s desires without participating in everything Great sex lives aren’t about perfect compatibility—they’re about how you navigate differences together Chapters 0:00 Introduction to the topic of sharing sexual fantasies and the common issues couples face.1:05 Introduction to the three biggest mistakes couples make.2:02 Mistake #13:23 Importance of openness and being sex-positive.4:19 Benefits of discussing sex more frequently.5:16 Normalizing conversations about sex.6:34 Importance of consent and communication in sexual relationships.7:31 Variety and novelty in long-term relationships.8:28 Understanding each other fully through sharing fantasies.9:27 Mistake #212:04 Mistake #316:03 Encouragement to maintain personal boundaries.21:32 Exploring fantasies in a healthy way.22:52 Conclusion and encouragement to seek help if needed.Resources & Next Steps If you’re noticing patterns like holding back, pushing too fast, or going along with things that don’t feel right, that’s exactly what I help couples work through. 👉 Take the quiz to discover your relationship pattern and what’s really driving your sexual disconnect: https://TheBetterBedroom.com 👉 Want personalized support? Apply for a free consultation for my Pathway to Passion coaching program: https://HeatherShannon.co This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why You Get Anxious During Sex (Even When You Want It)	06 avr. 2026	00:51:03
You want sex. You care about your relationship. But when things actually start to happen… something shifts. You get in your head. You feel anxious, disconnected, or unsure of yourself. And sometimes, you walk away wondering why it didn’t feel as good as you hoped—or even feeling shame or guilt. In this episode, I’m joined by sex therapist and Certified IFS Therapist, Patricia Rich, to unpack what’s really going on beneath that experience. Because it’s not just about libido. And it’s not something you can fix by trying harder or “being more confident.” We’re diving into how different “parts” of you can take over during sex—pulling you out of the moment, creating tension, and leaving you feeling disconnected from your own desire. Once you understand this, everything starts to make a lot more sense. 💡 What You’ll Learn Why anxiety shows up during sex (even when you genuinely want it) How “parts” of you can override your desire and create inner conflict The difference between being present vs. going on autopilot during sex Why you might feel regret or disconnection afterward A simple way to start reconnecting with yourself in the moment Chapters 00:00 Introduction to IFS and Sex Therapy 02:45 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) 05:34 Exploring Parts in Sexuality 08:27 Vulnerability and Intimacy in Relationships 11:22 Self-Led Sexuality and Awareness 14:12 Curiosity and Differentiating Parts 17:05 Practical Application of IFS in Sexuality 23:21 Exploring Vulnerability and Playfulness 25:41 Navigating Safety and Judgment in Relationships 28:07 Understanding Parts and Their Needs 32:13 The Complexity of Human Emotions 36:28 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships 41:06 The Goldilocks Approach to Therapy 44:58 Training and Resources for IFS in Sexuality 👩‍⚕️ About the Guest Patricia Rich is a sex therapist and certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and consultant. She specializes in helping people understand their inner world so they can experience more connection, clarity, and ease in their relationships and sex lives. 🔗 Learn more about Patricia’s work: https://patriciarich.com (update if needed based on exact link you prefer) Want Help Applying This? If this episode resonated with you, there are a couple ways to go deeper: 🔥 Take the Free Quiz Find out what’s actually keeping you stuck: 👉 https://TheBetterBedroom.com 💫 Work With Me If you’re ready for personalized support, my Pathway to Passion coaching program helps you reconnect with your desire, improve communication, and create a sex life that actually feels good again. 👉 https://HeatherShannon.co 🎧 Loved This Episode? Make sure you’re following the show so you don’t miss future episodes on emotional intimacy, desire, and building a better sex life in your relationship. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How To Figure Out Your Top Turn-Ons: A Simple Guide To Better Sex	30 mars 2026	00:25:07
Sick of not knowing what you want in bed? Download The Free Sexy Scorecard now - https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/km5Dd3rf Figure out your sexual self so you can communicate better with your partner and experience more pleasure together. In this episode: Discover how understanding your current patterns can open doors to new experiences Learn why stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to deeper connections Find out how curiosity can be your best friend in exploring desires Get practical tips for trying new things without any pressure Hear stories about how surprises can lead to delightful discoveries Create and share your own "treasure map" of interests with your partner Embrace lifelong learning and celebrate your evolving relationship Navigate fears with kindness and authenticity Timestamps: 00:00 - Breaking free from routines and finding joy in the bedroom 02:14 - How comfort zones can be cozy yet limiting 03:37 - Recognizing patterns and opening up to new possibilities 05:02 - Keeping the conversation alive about what you truly desire 06:25 - Letting curiosity guide you past limiting beliefs 07:55 - Personal stories of growth and learning at any age 10:01 - Fun ways to categorize and explore your pleasures 11:27 - Crafting your own "pleasure menu" to savor life 12:23 - How desires change and grow over time 14:15 - Exploring safely and authentically, with a gentle touch 15:42 - Embracing surprises as clues to what lights you up 17:37 - Turning insights into shared moments of joy 19:03 - Keeping a "treasure map" of your evolving desires 21:13 - Understanding and celebrating your partner's journey too 22:38 - Remembering there's no "right" way—just your way 23:07 - Final thoughts: Celebrating sexuality as a lifelong adventure Resources & Links: Request a free consult for Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching program: https://HeatherShannon.co Sexual Exploraion Scorecard (Free Download) Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut quiz! https://TheBetterBedroom.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Explore Your Attraction to Other Women (While Married to a Man)	23 mars 2026	00:42:47
What happens when you feel attracted to another woman… but you’re in a committed relationship with a man? For a lot of women, this curiosity brings a mix of excitement, confusion, and uncertainty. You might wonder what it means, whether it’s worth exploring, or how to even begin without creating problems in your current relationship. In this episode, I’m joined by Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global community for bicurious and bisexual women—to talk about what this experience is actually like in real life. We get into the most common obstacles women face when exploring attraction to other women, why this can feel so hard to navigate, and what helps women feel safe enough to be honest with themselves and try something new. We also talk about: Why so many women discover this curiosity later in life The difference between performance and genuine desire What makes exploration feel safe (and what doesn’t) How women navigate this while staying in a relationship with a man What it’s actually like to connect with another woman for the first time This is a grounded, real conversation about curiosity, identity, and creating space for parts of yourself that may have been pushed aside. Chapters00:00 -Overview of the community for bicurious women.01:30 - Genevieve LeJeune's journey from personal experience to creating a global movement.02:14 - The importance of removing men to foster genuine expression.04:27 - Tips and advice for women beginning their journey.13:50 -Navigating monogamy and non-monogamy in women's exploration.16:42 -How diverse age ranges influence openness to exploring sexuality.19:42 - Workshops and resources for building sexual confidence.22:17 - The impact of media portrayal on perceptions and expectations.33:30 - The role of shared vulnerability in healing and confidence.41:00 - Encouragement to explore sexuality with courage and authenticity. Links Check out Skirt Club: https://skirtclub.co.uk/ Schedule a free consult with Heather for the Pathway to Passion coaching program: Unlock Your Passion - Consultation Call https://HeatherShannon.co Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut quiz: https://TheBetterBedroom.com This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Reasons You Don’t Feel Desired by Your Partner	16 mars 2026	00:30:17
You can have a loving partner who compliments you, supports you, and chooses you every day—and still feel completely undesired. The surprising truth is that the problem usually isn’t your partner’s attraction… it’s how desire is being interpreted and received in your relationship. Feeling sexually desired is one of the most powerful emotional experiences in a relationship. It boosts confidence, deepens connection, and brings energy into your partnership. But many people in long-term relationships quietly struggle with the opposite feeling: “My partner loves me… but I don’t feel wanted.” In this episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist and intimacy coach Heather Shannon explains why feeling desired can be more complicated than it seems. Even when your partner appreciates you and cares deeply about the relationship, subtle psychological patterns can block you from actually feeling their attraction. Heather breaks down three common reasons people stop feeling sexually desired by their partner, and how shifting your perspective can dramatically change how you experience attraction, connection, and intimacy. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why feeling desired is partly an internal experience, not just something your partner creates How an external locus of control can unintentionally make you feel rejected or unwanted The subtle ways your partner may already be choosing you and expressing attraction that you might be missing How old beliefs about worthiness or attractiveness can block you from receiving desire Why couples often experience “mixed signals” around attraction even when both partners care deeply How body image, stress, and life transitions (like parenting or aging) can impact your ability to feel wanted Practical ways to start receiving your partner’s desire instead of dismissing it Want Help Improving Your Sex Life? If you’re struggling with mismatched libidos, emotional disconnect, or feeling unwanted in your relationship, Heather works with couples and individuals to address the deeper psychological patterns behind intimacy issues. Learn more about her Pathway to Passion coaching program and request a free consultation at: 👉 https://heathershannon.co Take the Why You're Stuck In A Sex Rut Quiz at https://TheBetterBedroom.com 🎧 Subscribe to Sex for Couples for weekly conversations about sex, intimacy, and emotional connection in long-term relationships. Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/66GEEzOy8zIeXQoyMQKmdV Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-for-couples-with-heather-shannon/id1656078749 YouTube - https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Too Busy for Sex? 3 Lies Couples Tell Themselves	09 mars 2026	00:24:50
You think you're too busy for sex, but you're not! Listen in for the top 3 lies that couples tell themselves about being too busy for sex. Hosted by Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon, we'll cover: Why viewing time for sex as a luxury hinders intimacy and how to reframe it The myth that life must calm down before prioritizing sex, and what to do instead The connection between stress, attachment styles, and sexual availability How to reallocate priorities using the big rocks theory for a balanced life The importance of understanding your unique desire patterns (spontaneous vs. responsive) The benefits of fun, relaxation, and play for sustaining a healthy sex life Timestamps:00:00 - Common myths about being too busy for sex and what they cost02:11 - The illusion that sex should just happen naturally in a relationship03:35 - Understanding hormonal changes and setting realistic expectations04:05 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire — what it means for you05:00 - How daily routines impact sexual desire and intentional connection06:26 - Practical ways to foster flirtation and intimacy during busy days07:50 - Why couples need to nurture their erotic connection actively08:45 - Rethinking time for sex as a luxury and its physical and mental health benefits10:02 - The damaging myth that life needs to calm down first11:45 - How stress and perfectionism sabotage intimacy12:15 - Fun, relaxation, and pleasure as productivity boosters13:14 - The importance of valuing and protecting your sexual connection14:09 - Recognizing when busyness conceals avoidance of intimacy15:04 - The reality that life won't slow down, and how to adapt16:29 - Using the big rocks analogy to prioritize what truly matters17:57 - Managing your schedule to prevent burnout and create space for intimacy19:23 - How energy, mindset, and self-care enhance desire20:50 - The question to ask: Do I want or make time for sex?21:46 - Exploring attachment styles and their influence on busyness and intimacy22:15 - The danger of waiting for a "better" time that never comes22:45 - How nurturing your sexual connection boosts energy, calmness, and bond23:39 - Tools like the Why You're Stuck in a Sex Rut quiz to gain clarity Resources & Links: Find Your Hidden Psychological Pattern! Why You're Stuck in a Sex Rut Quiz Follow the Show: Follow the Show on Apple Podcasts Follow the Show on Spotify Follow the Show on YouTube This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Navigate Your Cuckolding Kink With Your Partner	02 mars 2026	00:27:53
If you’re in a committed relationship and exploring a cuckolding kink, this episode will help you navigate it without blowing up your connection. Cuckolding is one of the more common fantasies people have — but integrating it into a real relationship requires emotional steadiness, communication, and clarity. In this episode of Sex for Couples, we break down: • The difference between hotwife, stag/vixen, and cuckolding dynamics • Why taboo fantasies are often tied to insecurity and power • How to reclaim shame instead of being driven by it • How to talk to your partner about your cuckolding kink without pressure • What healthy integration can actually look like inside a committed relationship This is not about shock value. It’s about reducing stress around sex and creating more honesty and more fun in your relationship. If you’re trying to figure out how to navigate a cuckolding kink with your partner in a grounded, emotionally mature way — this episode is for you. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Cuckolding in Relationships 01:31 Understanding Cuckolding: Definitions and Dynamics 09:01 Getting Comfortable with Your Kink 15:21 Bringing It Up with Your Partner 23:09 Exploring Options and Variations Work With Heather Learn more about working with me inside my 6-month coaching program here: https://HeatherShannon.co More connection. Less stress. More fun in the bedroom. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why You Keep Getting Told No to Sex (And It’s Not About Attraction)	23 févr. 2026	00:21:22
Many higher sex drive partners are accidentally reinforcing the cycle of getting told no. This episode will help you break the cycle. Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon, explores the patterns and emotional dynamics behind rejection in relationships, especially when one partner has a higher sex drive. In this episode, we'll break down common behaviors like withdrawal, performance, and story-telling, offering insights into how to shift these patterns for healthier intimacy. Chapters 00:00 The Rejection Loop in Relationships 00:29 Why Rejection Isn't About Attraction 00:56 Understanding the Pattern of Withdrawal 02:17 The Impact of Withdrawal on Emotional Needs 03:08 Attachment to Outcomes and Anxiety 03:54 Introducing Self-Energy and Spaciousness 05:15 Performance and Doing Sex for Your Partner 07:00 Authentic Desire vs. Performing Sex 08:18 The Power of Honest Communication 09:32 Managing Pressure and Expectations 11:37 The Stories We Tell About Rejection 12:52 Facts vs. Stories in Relationships 14:35 Relating to Thoughts and Stories 15:28 Protective and Exiled Parts in Emotional Regulation 17:11 Living at the Mercy of External Factors 17:37 Achieving Emotional Equanimity 18:26 Creating Space for Authentic Desire 19:20 Personalized Healing and Emotional Management Work with Heather Find out more about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching program and see if it can help you stop stressing about sex and start having fun in the bedroom again! https://HeatherShannon.co Keywords relationship advice, sex drive, emotional mastery, attachment, communication, Heather Shannon, intimacy, relationship patterns, self-energy, emotional regulation This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Is Your Sex Life Being Ruined By Hormones? A Hormone Doctor Explains	16 févr. 2026	00:44:38
Perimenopause libido dropping after 40? If sex feels different—lower desire, more dryness, shorter fuse, less connection—your hormones (not your relationship) may be the missing piece. In this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon talks with board-certified OB-GYN + functional/integrative hormone expert Dr. Tara Scott about the most common hormone shifts that impact women’s sex drive across postpartum, perimenopause, and menopause—and why women’s desire is often more “Goldilocks” than linear (too little or too much estrogen can cause problems). You’ll learn how hormone testing can be interpreted when timing is right, why blood levels don’t always match what’s happening in your tissues, and how chronic stress can quietly deplete DHEA and testosterone (even in your 30s and 40s). Dr. Scott also breaks down practical, realistic ways to support hormone health—movement, food quality, sleep, stress tools, and reducing endocrine disruptors—without trying to overhaul your entire life overnight. If you’re dealing with low libido, vaginal dryness, painful sex, fatigue, sleep changes, or irritability, this conversation will help you understand what’s normal, what’s treatable, and how to advocate for better care. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Hormonal Health 01:22 Understanding Hormonal Shifts Throughout Life 03:41 Differences in Male and Female Libido 14:00 Personalizing Hormonal Treatment 28:46 The Impact of Lifestyle on Hormonal Balance Want to address the emotional and psychological factors blocking your sex life? Request a free consultation for coaching/therapy with Heather or a member of her team here: Booking A Consultation With The Right Person Learn more about our guest Dr. Tara Scott at: Website - https://drtarascott.com/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TaraScottMD This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Reasons You Feel Awkward Instead of Sexy	09 févr. 2026	00:23:11
Summary Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon explores the complexities of sexual awkwardness and the pressures that come with performance in intimate relationships. She discusses the importance of shifting from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset regarding sexuality, emphasizing the need to connect with one's body rather than living in one's head. Heather also delves into the protective parts and wounds that can hinder sexual expression and the judgment that often accompanies feelings of inadequacy. The episode concludes with an announcement about the podcast's rebranding to 'Sex for Couples', aimed at helping individuals in committed relationships navigate their sexual lives with confidence and joy. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Awkwardness in Sexuality 02:38 The Pressure of Performance in Sex 05:17 Mindset Matters: Fixed vs. Growth 07:55 Living in Your Head vs. Your Body 10:55 The Impact of Past Experiences 19:06 Judgment and Authenticity in Sexuality 20:50 Podcast Transition: New Name and Focus Curious about working with Heather or someone from her team? Book A Free Consultation Keywords sexuality, sexual energy, performance anxiety, self-acceptance, growth mindset, intimacy, relationships, sexual confidence, body awareness, emotional healing This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Sex After 50: Why It Can Actually Get Better With Age	02 févr. 2026	00:45:30
Sex After 50 doesn’t have to decline — in fact, for many people, it gets better. In this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, Heather is joined by Karen Bigman, a sex and relationship coach specializing in midlife and sex after 50, for an honest, funny, and deeply validating conversation about aging, desire, body changes, and intimacy. They explore why so many couples assume that low libido, painful sex, or loss of desire is just “part of getting older” — and why that belief is often what actually harms a sex life the most. From menopause and perimenopause to body image, shame, communication, and emotional intimacy, this episode reframes sex after 50 as something that can be playful, connected, and deeply satisfying. You’ll hear practical insights about: Why sex drive changes with age — and why that doesn’t mean sex is over How menopause, hormones, and vaginal health affect desire and pleasure Why mental foreplay, laughter, and connection matter more than performance How to talk about sex with a partner when it feels awkward or intimidating Letting go of obligatory sex and rebuilding pleasure without pressure Why kissing, novelty, and communication are essential for long-term intimacy This conversation is especially helpful for: People navigating midlife, perimenopause, or menopause Couples wondering how to keep sex fun and connected after 50 Anyone struggling with desire discrepancy, body confidence, or sexual shame People curious about sex and aging Partners who want to better support each other through aging and change If you’ve ever wondered whether great sex is still possible later in life, this episode offers reassurance, science-backed insight, and permission to stop forcing what doesn’t work — and start enjoying what does. Find out more about Karen Bigman, her podcast, courses and ARYA discount at: https://www.taboototruth.com/podcast Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sex and Aging 04:03 Debunking Myths About Sex After 50 08:33 The Role of Hormones in Sexual Health 11:56 The Importance of Self-Compassion 14:21 Body Image and Self-Perception 17:16 Common Struggles in Sexuality After 50 21:13 The Necessity of Sex for Health 22:54 Dating and Communication in Later Life 23:33 Navigating Aging and Intimacy 24:28 Emotional Intimacy and Communication 25:48 The Art of Kissing 27:21 Exploring Playfulness in Relationships 28:32 Mental Foreplay and Connection 29:00 Kissing Techniques for Better Connection 31:17 Addressing Kissing Preferences 32:50 Overcoming Communication Barriers 34:29 Small Steps to Enhance Intimacy 36:00 The Importance of Novelty in Relationships 37:28 Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships 39:12 Resources for Enhancing Intimacy This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	3 Sexual Assumptions That Erode Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships	26 janv. 2026	00:25:31
Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon explores the common sexual assumptions and misunderstandings that derail couples' sex lives. She discusses how past experiences shape current perceptions, the importance of maintaining a growth mindset, the influence of hedonic conditioning and the need for open communication to navigate assumptions. The conversation emphasizes the role of curiosity in fostering intimacy and understanding between partners. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Sexual Assumptions 05:40 The Impact of Past Experiences on Present Relationships 10:46 Mindset and Its Role in Sexual Communication 14:34 Navigating Assumptions in Long-Term Relationships 20:40 The Importance of Curiosity in Intimacy Work With Heather Want to get out of your sex rut? Request a free consultation for Heather's signature Pathway to Passion coaching program. Unlock Your Passion - Consultation Call Video Version Check out the video version of this epsiode on our YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/hyyz4ZyY65A This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	4 Hidden Reasons Sex Becomes Frustrating In Long-Term Relationships	19 janv. 2026	00:33:38
In this episode, Heather Shannon delves into the hidden reasons why sex becomes frustrating in long-term relationships. She explores four types of stories and meanings that couples attach to their sex lives, which often lead to emotional suffering. Through examples and frameworks like existential kink and internal family systems, Heather provides insights into how these unconscious belief patterns affect relationships and offers ways to reframe and address them for healthier connections. Looking to get past sexual pressure or frustration and feel authentically close and excited again? Book a free consultation to see if coaching with Heather or a member of her team could be a good fit! Booking A Consultation With The Right Person This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Discover Your Sexual Desires Using 1,000 Self-Inquiry Questions	12 janv. 2026	00:37:57
Want to get personalized coaching to improve your sex life? Book a free consultation with Certified Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon or her team. Booking A Consultation With The Right Person Summary In this conversation, Heather Shannon and Laura Alyn explore the journey of self-discovery in sexuality through self-inquiry and writing. Laura shares insights from her book, 'A Thousand Questions and Activities to Embrace Your Sexuality,' discussing the importance of understanding one's desires, the role of writing in processing thoughts, and the significance of open communication in relationships. They delve into the connection between body and mind, the exploration of kinks, and the necessity of creating a safe space for sexual expression. The discussion emphasizes the ongoing nature of personal growth and the importance of embracing one's sexuality without shame. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sexual Self-Discovery 02:47 The Journey of Self-Inquiry 05:44 The Importance of Writing in Self-Discovery 08:48 Exploring Sexual Questions and Preferences 11:05 Diving Deeper into Kinks and Desires 13:46 Understanding Safety in Sexual Exploration 17:40 Connecting the Layers of Self 18:59 The Body-Mind Connection in Sexual Desire 20:31 Overriding Body Signals and Hustle Culture 21:37 Self-Inquiry and Personal Growth 22:28 The Ornelian Framework: A Path to Self-Discovery 23:55 Understanding Soul and Spirit in Intimacy 25:33 Navigating the Anxiety of Self-Inquiry 28:50 Complaints as Indicators of Deeper Desires 31:31 Responsibility in Relationships 32:40 Exploring Intimacy and Connection 34:34 Embracing Adventure in Sexual Exploration Visit Laura Alyn's website and check out her framework here: https://theornelian.com/2025/08/27/framework/ Video Episode Check out the video version of this episode on our YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/GbUngjPy1nQ Keywords sexuality, self-inquiry, communication, desire, intimacy, kinks, writing, personal growth, relationships, self-discovery This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	5 Emotional Mistakes That Are Quietly Destroying Your Sex Life	05 janv. 2026	00:24:48
Sex doesn’t usually disappear because people stop loving each other. It disappears because of emotional mistakes no one teaches us to recognize. In this episode, I’m breaking down five patterns that quietly destroy sex — and what to understand instead Work With Heather Feeling frustrated with your sex life or lack thereof? Book a free consultation with Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon or someone from her team! Click here to start. Episode Summary Heather discusses the 5 common emotional mistakes that can negatively impact a couple's sex life. She emphasizes the importance of understanding emotional dynamics rather than focusing solely on physical aspects of intimacy. The conversation covers common pitfalls such as taking a partner's lack of desire personally, moralizing around sex, recognizing emotional wounds, and the expectations surrounding sex in relationships. Heather encourages couples to foster empathy, curiosity, and open communication to enhance their emotional and sexual connection. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Emotional Mistakes in Sex Life 02:05 Taking Desire Personally: A Common Misconception 05:35 Blaming and Moralizing: The Impact on Relationships 10:46 Lack of Empathy for Sexual Wounds 15:11 Expecting Sex as an Obligation 20:35 The Honeymoon Phase: Unmasking Real Issues Keywords emotional mistakes, sex life, relationship advice, intimacy, sexual desire, communication, emotional wounds, libido, sexual health, couples therapy This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why BDSM Can Be Therapeutic When Done the Right Way	29 déc. 2025	00:44:37
Looking to improve sex and intimacy? Find the right coach or therapist for you here - Book A Free Consultation In this episode, Heather Shannon and Doc Yu Roc (Dr. Yulinda Rahman) explore the therapeutic use of BDSM, discussing how trauma is stored in the body and the importance of intersectionality in healing. They delve into the power dynamics present in everyday life and how understanding these can aid in personal growth. Doc Yu Roc shares insights on the Kink Professional Standards Alliance and the therapeutic potential of kink, emphasizing the need for intentionality and awareness in BDSM practices. Heather and Yulinda also discuss the importance of knowing and expressing your personal boundaries for feeling safe in your body and having positive kink experiences. Find Out More About Dr. Rahman (DocYuRoc) and her programs! General Website: https://docyuroc.org/ Ecosystem Of Excellence: https://ecosystemofexcellence.org/ Chapters 0:00 Intro 2:53 Therapeutic Use Of BDSM 6:03 Understanding Body Based Trauma 9:02 Reconnecting With The Body 12:00 Exploring Kink & Sensation 15:03 Therapeutic Benefits 18:02 Healing Through Touch And Sensation 21:54 Understanding Power Dynamics 25:22 The Importance Of Awareness In Power Dynamics 28:39 Exploring Intersectionality 31:59 A New Approach To Healing 38:56 Resources For Learning More View the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/avOmaFbntg0 Keywords BDSM, trauma, intersectionality, power dynamics, therapeutic kink, King Professional Standards Alliance, healing, intentionality, awareness, body-based trauma This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Why High-Achieving Women Lose Desire (It’s Not Hormones)	22 déc. 2025	01:12:05
Looking to get out of your sex rut? Book a free consultation with a member of the Ask A Sex Therapist coaching team! https://form.jotform.com/253156356665060 AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and host Heather Shannon speaks with Naturopathic Doctor Jordin Wiggins about the challenges faced by high achieving women in their intimate relationships. In particular, Jordin share how women's "supertraits" can lead to burnout and hinder their ability to connect emotionally. The discussion covers the importance of understanding emotional needs, setting boundaries, and recognizing coercive control in relationships. Jordin emphasizes the need for self-care and the prioritization of pleasure in both personal and sexual life, offering insights into how women can learn to receive and create fulfilling relationships. Find out more about Dr. Jordin Wiggins and her work with Supertraits here: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/education Follow Dr. Jordin Wiggins on IG - https://www.instagram.com/drjordinwiggins/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction to High Achieving Women and Pleasure 02:34 Understanding Burnout and the Pleasure Problem 05:27 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships 08:08 The Connection Between Childhood and Adult Relationships 10:43 Navigating Boundaries and Emotional Safety 13:27 The Role of Sensitivity and Empathy 16:05 The Importance of Emotional Needs in Relationships 18:42 The Messy Middle of Change 21:15 Learning to Receive and Shift Dynamics 23:37 Creating a Pleasure-Centered Life 31:44 Navigating Life's Pleasures and Challenges 33:38 The Cultural Disconnect from Pleasure 35:46 The Shift Towards a Pleasure-Centered Life 37:42 Understanding Power Dynamics in Relationships 39:55 The Impact of Coercive Control 45:54 Transforming Sexual Relationships 53:44 Finding Support and Resources 58:32 Embracing Change and Vulnerability Check out the video version of this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/bWUnwluNffI Keywords pleasure, high achieving women, super traits, burnout, intimacy, relationships, emotional needs, coercive control, self-care, sexual health This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How to Have Incredible Sex Without a Perfect Erection	15 déc. 2025	00:58:08
If sex is feeling stressful, book a free Unlock Your Passion call with Heather to find out about her Pathway to Passion coaching program. https://HeatherShannon.co. In this episode, Heather introduces Kristin Vyas, a sex and intimacy coach who has joined the Ask A Sex Therapist team. Kristen shares the top sex issues she sees with clients including erectile dysfunction, mismatched libidos and shame around kinks. Heather and Kristen discuss the impact of societal pressures on masculinity. They talk about the importance of open communication about kinks and desires, the role of anxiety in sexual performance, and the necessity of ongoing sex education. The conversation emphasizes the importance of viewing yourself and your partner as a whole person. Learn why curiosity and understanding in relationships can be your secret weapon to a great sex life and start redefining sexual experiences beyond traditional norms. Chapters 00:00 Introduction of Kristin Vyas 01:00 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction 02:41 Redefining Pleasure and Connection 05:47 The Role of Anxiety in Sexual Performance 06:51 The Power of Thoughts in Sexual Experiences 09:18 The Impact of Adult Content on Sexual Expectations 11:56 The Importance of Ongoing Sex Education 15:28 Exploring Kinks and Shame 19:04 The Need for Acceptance in Kink 20:38 Common Kinks and Societal Pressures 23:02 The Pressure on Men in Sexual Relationships 26:11 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Labels 27:38 The Evolution of Sex Education 29:47 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 32:50 Understanding Boundaries and Safety 35:56 Navigating Kinks and Preferences 41:13 The Complexity of Desire 45:53 Rediscovering Core Desires 48:34 Curiosity and Empathy in Relationships Keywords erectile dysfunction, sex therapy, intimacy coaching, sexual health, kink, communication, consent, masculinity, sexual desire, sex education This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	The Real Benefits of Ethical Non-Monogamy When You Do It Right (ep 154)	08 déc. 2025	00:28:25
Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses ethical non-monogamy, addressing common fears, misconceptions, and the various forms it can take. She emphasizes the importance of timing, communication, and setting boundaries in non-monogamous relationships. The conversation also explores the emotional complexities involved, including jealousy and compersion, and how non-monogamy can serve as a means for individuals to explore their sexuality and identity. Book a free consultation with a coach or therapist from the Ask A Sex Therapist team --> https://form.jotform.com/253156356665060 Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy 02:38 Common Fears and Misconceptions 05:26 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy 07:53 Timing and Relationship Readiness 10:46 Setting Boundaries and Parameters 13:31 Navigating Jealousy and Compersion 15:46 The Emotional Work of Non-Monogamy 18:38 Exploring Sexuality and Identity 21:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Keywords ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, jealousy, boundaries, compersion, relationship advice, sexuality, emotional work, communication This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How a Former Disney Employee Learned to Embrace Dark Sexual Fantasies Without Shame (ep. 153)	01 déc. 2025	00:42:41
Tap into your sexual creativity and get past fear and repression. Embrace your darker fantasies without having to make them real! Certified Sex Therapist & Host, Heather Shannon, interviews guest Bria Rose about her journey from working at Disney to becoming a successful author of dark, sexy fairy tales. She discusses the importance of exploring fantasies through fiction, and her personal journey towards sex positivity. Bria emphasizes the significance of communication in relationships and the need for sexual compatibility. She also shares insights on character creation, overcoming writer's block, and the role of inspiration in sexy writing. The conversation concludes with Bria's advice on navigating relationships and where to find her work. Chapters 00:00 From Disney to Dark Fairy Tales 02:42 Exploring Morality in Storytelling 05:32 The Role of Fantasy in Healing 08:30 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth 10:30 Character Development in Dark Romance 13:20 Reimagining Classic Tales As Dark, Sexy Ones 16:14 Feminism and Modern Storytelling 21:53 Exploring Character Dynamics in Fiction 25:30 Generating Sexy Ideas and Finding Inspiration 28:25 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 34:10 Navigating Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics 38:34 Creating Characters and Their Therapeutic Journeys Keywords Bria Rose, dark fairy tales, Disney fan fiction, storytelling, morality, erotic novels, sex positivity, character creation, relationships, communication, romance novels, romantasy, sexy books, dark sexual fantasies, sex and healing This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	The Science of Sexual Desire: The 1 Factor That Changes Everything (Ep 152)	24 nov. 2025	00:27:27
Learn about Dr. Jack Morin's equation for sexual desire and how you can make that equation work more in your favor! One of the most common things we all want in our sex lives is feeling wanted. And yet it can be elusive! Even when we have mutual physical attraction with our partner, it doesn't always spark sexual desire. Listen in to learn why feeling wanted is important to us, how we feel affected when we don't feel desired and a few things we can do for our partner and for ourselves to turn up the volume on sexual desire. Book A Free Consultation with Heather or one of her team members Keywords belonging, connection, attraction, desire, specialness, relationships, emotional needs, human connection, self-worth, intimacy This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Become Sexually Magnetic: Best-Selling Author Shares How (Ep. 151)	17 nov. 2025	01:15:29
This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, we explore how aligning with your authentic feminine energy can transform not only your confidence but your sex life. With the help of Inna Segal, an intuitive energy healer and award-winning author of The Secret Language Of Your Body, we break down how polarity builds sexual attraction, why balance within is magnetic, and how shifting your energy can reignite that spark in your relationship. Check out the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/V98D5jC5_Yo Find out more about intimacy coaching with Heather and her team at https://HeatherShannon.co Learn more about Inna Segal's books and programs at: https://www.innasegal.com/ Chapters 0:00 - About the episode 1:37 - Inna Segal (guest) 9:21 - The importance of feminine energy 14:51 - The importance of sexuality related to age 20:36 - How to have a good sex life with your partner 24:44 - Color as a way to explore your feminine energy 32:16 - Teaching the feminine love 40:16 - Reconnecting with feminine energy after a breakup or divorce 51:21 - Ways to embrace the feminine 59: 18 - Healing with Inna's heart-based card deck Keywords creativity, self-discovery, societal expectations, personal growth, emotional expression, sex therapist, energy healer, intuitive healing, best selling author, award winning author, color therapy This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Listener Q & A: Double Penetration Strap-On, Fluctuating Sex Drives, Performance Anxiety & Sex Without Pleasure	10 nov. 2025	00:31:12
Certified Sex Therapist answers questions about strap-ons for double penetration, managing mismatched sex drives, psychological erection issues, and the importance of emotional intimacy in relationships. Heather provides insights and advice on how to navigate these personal challenges, emphasizing communication and mindfulness as key tools for improving sexual health and relationship satisfaction. Chapters 00:00 Listener Q&A Introduction 00:27 Exploring Double Penetration with Strap-Ons 05:07 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives 12:36 Understanding Psychological Erection Issues 19:50 Reclaiming Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships Keywords Heather Shannon, listener Q&A, double penetration, sex drives, sex questions, libido, erection issues, performance anxiety, emotional intimacy, improve communication, mindfulness, sex therapy, sex education, podcast, Ask A Sex Therapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Feeling Like Roommates? How To Create Sexual Tension and Excitement (ep. 149)	03 nov. 2025	00:31:43
Stop feeling like roommates and start feeling like lovers again! Figure out how you fell into this rut and how to change up your patterns. This solo episode gets into the themes of social dynamics, charisma, and embracing healthy obstacles as a good thing for sexual attraction. Host and Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses the importance of healthy boundaries, having your own thing going on and putting your best foot forward no matter how long you've been togehter. She also explores the allure of open relationships, emphasizing the excitement that comes from seeing a partner embrace their sexuality and the dynamics of attraction involved. Join the new Intimacy Collective as a Founding Member --> https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/aBom4mE2 Watch the video version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Bp9YZ4e6et4 Chapters 00:00 From Roommates to Lovers: Understanding the Shift 02:30 Creating Attraction: The Equation of Desire 10:05 Seeing Each Other as Sexual Beings 17:10 Solutions to Rekindle Passion 24:25 Creating Polarity and Space in Relationships Takeaways Being social and charismatic can enhance personal interactions. Compliments can boost confidence and encourage social engagement. Flirting can be a playful exploration of attraction. Open relationships can provide new perspectives on partnership. Seeing a partner's sexuality can be a turn-on for some. The idea of attraction from others can enhance relationship dynamics. Embracing one's own sexuality is important for personal growth. Social interactions can lead to deeper connections. Understanding the nuances of attraction is key in relationships. Exploring boundaries in relationships can lead to fulfillment. Keywords social dynamics, charisma, open relationships, sexuality, flirting, compliments, partner attraction This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	How To Stop Letting Past Sexual Trauma Interfere With Your Sex Life with Shannon Curtis	27 oct. 2025	00:56:16
Apply for Founding Member status and help shape Heather's new Intimacy Collective program --> https://forms.gle/hyLr3LSoxadrvusM6 EPISODE SUMMARY In this conversation, Shannon Curtis shares her profound journey of healing from sexual trauma, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming personal power, understanding shame, and fostering intimacy. She discusses her experiences with trauma, the role of forgiveness, and the significance of body awareness in healing. Shannon also highlights the need for curiosity in recognizing signs of trauma and the importance of connecting with nature. Through her work, she aims to empower others to find their authentic selves and heal from their past experiences. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Healing Sexual Trauma 02:00 Shannon's Personal Journey with Trauma 05:58 Understanding Shame and Its Impact 10:08 The Role of Forgiveness in Healing 12:16 Teaching the Next Generation 16:26 The Importance of Body Awareness 19:40 Healing Through Connection with Nature 22:32 The Power of Intuition in Healing 25:33 Finding Your Path to Healing 29:26 The Journey of Self-Discovery 33:41 Reclaiming Power in Relationships 38:22 Recognizing Signs of Trauma 42:58 The Importance of Curiosity in Healing 47:28 How to Work with Shannon Curtis KEYWORDS sexual trauma, healing, intimacy, forgiveness, body awareness, empowerment, personal growth, trauma signs, self-discovery, coaching This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	Creating Intimacy After Loss and Heartbreak (Ep 147)	20 oct. 2025	00:23:31
In this conversation, Heather Shannon discusses the themes of loss, heartbreak, and the resilience of the human spirit. Drawing from her personal experiences, she emphasizes the importance of finding inner security and embracing vulnerability in relationships. Heather shares insights on how to navigate grief, the significance of community, and the necessity of self-reflection in fostering intimacy and connection with others. Takeaways We are wired to find balance and resilience. It's crucial to change the narrative we tell ourselves about loss. Life is short; we should seize opportunities for love and connection. Heartbreak is inevitable, but we can choose how to respond. All relationships eventually end, but that shouldn't deter us from starting them. Embracing vulnerability is essential for deeper connections. Grief can slow us down and remind us of what matters. Building inner security helps us to love more openly. Understanding our parts can aid in healing from loss. Community support is vital during times of grief. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Loss and Heartbreak 05:16 Finding Inner Security and Resilience 10:33 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships 15:32 Understanding and Healing Through Grief Keywords loss, heartbreak, resilience, vulnerability, relationships, grief, inner security, personal growth, intimacy, healing This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
	The Thing Most People Are Missing About How To Be A Great Lover! (Ep 146)	13 oct. 2025	00:32:40
Go deep on how to be a great lover! It's not the surface level stuff that we often get hung up on that makes someone "good at sex." Learn about the importance of presence and attunement for higher quality sex and better connection. --- Curious about coaching with Heather? Start out with her quickie assessment so you can identify your patterns and get an action plan to change them. The Quickie For Partners --- Keywords: Better sex, sex therapy, sex coach, better intimacy, attunement, listening, paying attention This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

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