Self Care IRL – Details, episodes & analysis

Friendship is a beautiful thing, but let’s be real—some friendships can be more work than others. We’ve all had those friends who need constant check-ins, and then there are the ones you don’t talk to for weeks (or months) and pick up right where you left off like no time has passed. Both types of friendships have their pros and cons, and understanding where they fall on the maintenance spectrum can save you a lot of headaches. Let’s dive into what makes a friendship high-maintenance versus low-maintenance, and how you can navigate both in a way that keeps your friendships thriving. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, you and I are going to discuss how to BEGIN to overcome unresolved trauma. Now I say begin because I recognize that (1) this isn't a one and done kinda of practice (2) with everything great and worthy you must at least just start. So this is the beginning for us. Now. This is a heavy topic, but I promise we will tackle it together. We might need to make this a series or even a live podcast with some special guests. Let me know on social media or in the reviews section. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, I am going to give you some suggestions on how we can reframe our sadness. Now all of these suggestions are under the assumption that you have already sat with the sadness, you have reconciled that you are sad, you have determined why you are sad, and you are now ready to reframe it. This absolutely does that mean that the minute that you begin to feel sadness rising that you "quote unquote" reframe it. Because now, that is avoidance and we're not doing that. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

With the holidays creeping up on us it’s easy to sink into situational depression. In this episode, I reveal how depression has held me hostage and how I keep pushing even when there is little push left. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time to lessen likability’s hold on you. In this episode, I break down our obsession with being well-liked and share what I have unpacked about not being liked from my experiences living in New York. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm breaking down why ghosting should not be your first choice of communication and giving you a cheat sheet on how to be a better communicator. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm exploring the idea of accepting death as a blessing rather than a curse. I also offer listeners advice on how to grieve without guilt while celebrating your own life. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I celebrate "Be Kind to Humankind" week by asking, are you a kind person...to yourself? I help you unpack what being kind actually feels like and give you three approachable tips on how you can be kinder to yourself. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I hosted Self Care IRL's inaugural retreat in Mexico. I sat down for an intimate conversation with super-creative and web series creator, Tracie Mae. We chat about what it's like to be a motherless child, things we would have done differently, and how to cope if you're in the storm now. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I gets super intimate about how I friend and really break down how I protect my own energy in any situation. I also give you four gems that will help you keep your energy fresh and clean (without "saging" people to death!). RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CONNECT WITH US: Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotes Also. Consider subscribing on Apple Podcasts to unlock our besties subscriber only audio experience. You'll get exclusive audio, interviews, ad free episodes, and monthly guided meditations. FOLLOW US: Self Care IRL on IG: https://tyalx.com/selfcareirl-ig Ty Alexander on IG: https://tyalx.com/instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices