Explore every episode of the podcast Secondhand Therapy
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| Unspoken Expectations Ruin Everything | #146 | 14 Sep 2026 | 01:31:23 | |
Support the boys: Play Q-Less: https://grandislegamesllc.sjv.io/k4AGz0 Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when love, friendship, communication, and expectations all collide? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, a tense conversation turns into a deeper look at relationships, emotional triggers, anxiety, resentment, control, communication, and the expectations we place on the people we care about. Sometimes the conflict in front of us isn't the whole story—and sometimes our reactions are shaped by experiences that started long before the current situation. Lou and Michael explore what it means to feel considered, misunderstood, supported, or judged in a relationship, while unpacking the difference between intentions and impact, spoken and unspoken expectations, and taking responsibility for your own emotions without taking responsibility for someone else's. It's an honest, uncomfortable, and occasionally very funny conversation about relationship dynamics, boundaries, emotional regulation, family patterns, codependency, personal growth, and trying to communicate better with the people you love. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Michael Finally Said It | #145 | 07 Sep 2026 | 00:49:48 | |
Support the boys: Play Q-Less: https://grandislegamesllc.sjv.io/k4AGz0 Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when anxiety turns literally everything into a potential problem? On this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Michael goes down the rabbit hole of anxiety, control, uncertainty, and the exhausting need to always have a plan. From needing an exit strategy to questioning every possible worst-case scenario, he starts looking at why his brain has such a hard time believing that things will be okay. A therapy session introduces a surprisingly strange cast of characters from inside his own head—including an extremely anxious robot and a very unexpected voice of reason. Lou and Michael unpack what anxiety is actually trying to accomplish, why uncertainty can feel so threatening, and what it takes to start trusting yourself when your brain keeps insisting that something could go wrong. It's funny, uncomfortable, unexpectedly emotional, and filled with the kind of therapy revelations that make you stop and go, “...oh.” BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Problems and Patterns with Laura Day | #144 | 31 Aug 2026 | 01:03:31 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What if your intuition isn't random—and what if changing your life has less to do with willpower and more to do with paying attention to your patterns? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we sit down with Laura Day to unpack intuition, manifestation, executive dysfunction, personal growth, healing your past self, and the psychology of real change. We explore whether some people are naturally more intuitive, how executive dysfunction may affect the way we process information, and where intuition overlaps with manifestation and intentional living. The conversation gets especially interesting when we dig into why change can feel impossible even when you desperately want it. Instead of relying on belief, trust, or massive life overhauls, we talk about noticing small changes, gathering evidence, and creating a feedback loop that builds confidence over time. We also explore the difference between trying to force yourself to change and understanding the patterns that are already shaping your behavior. Plus: discipline vs. motivation, core values, minimalism, authenticity, kindness vs. niceness, and why being “nicer” might actually be harder than it sounds. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns, struggled to trust yourself, felt stuck trying to change, or questioned whether your intuition is actually telling you something, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: intuition, manifestation, executive dysfunction, self-awareness, personal growth, healing your past self, behavioral patterns, discipline, intentional living, core values, authenticity, confidence, emotional healing, self-improvement, and therapy. | |||
| Low Stuff and Steam | #143 | 24 Aug 2026 | 01:04:23 | |
Trigger Warning: This episode contains a discussion including suicide Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What if your “need for context” is actually just defensiveness in disguise? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack low self-esteem, codependency, validation, people-pleasing, emotional safety, and the surprisingly complicated art of admitting when you’re wrong. A conversation about why some of us struggle to trust our own opinions, constantly look to other people for reassurance, and feel personally attacked when someone points out a mistake. Lou digs into what codependency and low self-esteem look like in everyday life—from difficulty making decisions and valuing other people’s opinions over your own to seeking praise, struggling with healthy boundaries, and needing external validation. They also explore how childhood experiences can shape confidence, emotional regulation, and the ability to process your own feelings. Meanwhile, Michael confronts his own relationship with defensiveness, accountability, perfectionism, and the instinct to explain himself whenever he feels criticized. Is providing context actually helpful—or is it just a very articulate way of avoiding “I fucked up”? The conversation gets into emotional intelligence, conflict in relationships, resentment, holding space, vulnerability, self-worth, childhood emotional neglect, processing emotions, and the difference between taking accountability and beating yourself up. And, naturally, there is an extended discussion about cereal for dinner. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics: low self-esteem, codependency, defensiveness, emotional intelligence, validation, people-pleasing, self-worth, accountability, emotional regulation, childhood emotional neglect, relationships, boundaries | |||
| Being Misunderstood is my Toxic Trait | #142 | 17 Aug 2026 | 00:54:54 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when the internet sees 90 seconds of your life and decides they know your entire personality? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack the fallout from a viral clip that sparked a comment-section debate about flirting, relationships, jealousy, safety, and whether Michael crossed a line by giving a woman a drawing. What starts as a conversation about social media judgment turns into something much deeper: the difference between being misunderstood and being wrong, how much weight we should give strangers’ opinions, and why taking accountability for your own emotions matters. They also get into control, projection, relationship boundaries, communication, emotional responsibility, gaslighting, the importance of language, and the uncomfortable reality that sometimes the people criticizing us online might actually have a point. Because growth isn't about being right all the time. It's about being willing to look at yourself when you might be wrong—and figuring out what feedback is actually worth listening to. Secondhand Therapy is a mental health and comedy podcast about relationships, vulnerability, men's mental health, emotional growth, therapy, anxiety, communication, and the messy process of figuring yourself out. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: social media criticism, being misunderstood, internet judgment, relationships, jealousy, flirting, relationship boundaries, emotional accountability, personal responsibility, control, projection, communication, gaslighting, therapy, self-reflection, men's mental health, vulnerability, emotional growth, and learning when to take criticism seriously. | |||
| Can You Flirt by Accident? | #141 | 10 Aug 2026 | 00:51:14 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when your intentions don't match how other people experience you? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Michael shares why he switched to a dumb phone, started drawing at his local coffee shop, and accidentally found himself in a debate about whether kindness can be mistaken for flirting. From there, the conversation turns into something much bigger: emotional intention, dating, relationship communication, trust, boundaries, and how differently men and women move through the world. The guys also explore one of the hardest relationship questions: How do you know when it's time to leave? They discuss emotional exhaustion, falling in and out of love, long-term relationships, fear of commitment, avoiding vulnerability after heartbreak, and whether love is something you choose over and over again. Later, they unpack a book about curiosity, emotional healing, and breaking old thought patterns, leading to a conversation about anxiety, self-awareness, emotional growth, therapy, and rewriting the stories we inherited about ourselves. If you've ever struggled with dating, relationships, overthinking, emotional avoidance, attachment, vulnerability, or figuring out whether to stay or walk away, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: relationships, dating, emotional intelligence, therapy, attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional healing, communication, commitment, anxiety, self-growth, boundaries, curiosity, overthinking, personal development, mental health, breakup advice, emotional resilience, men's mental health, psychology, self-awareness. | |||
| I Am Her | #140 | 03 Aug 2026 | 01:07:05 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when you finally let yourself be angry? This week, Michael shares one of his biggest therapy breakthroughs yet after writing a deeply emotional letter to his late mother. What begins as grief quickly turns into conversations about childhood programming, emotional suppression, people pleasing, inherited coping mechanisms, and the uncomfortable realization that we often become the very people who shaped us. Louie and Michael also explore the difference between happiness and fulfillment, why expressing emotions is essential for human connection, learning new skills as adults, and how fear quietly controls more of our lives than we realize. If you've struggled with grief, emotional neglect, family trauma, unresolved anger, people pleasing, self-worth, or healing your inner child, this episode will probably hit close to home—with plenty of laughs along the way. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: therapy, grief, emotional healing, childhood trauma, parent-child relationships, anger, emotional vulnerability, people pleasing, happiness vs. fulfillment, self-discovery, fear, emotional regulation, personal growth, mental health, and healing from the past. | |||
| I'm In The Business of Misery | #139 | 27 Jul 2026 | 00:51:19 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when your brain mistakes pain for safety? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Michael shares one of his biggest therapy breakthroughs yet after a week filled with recovery conversations, codependency meetings, and difficult realizations about love, grief, and self-sabotage. The guys unpack why fear of abandonment can cause people to sabotage healthy relationships, how childhood attachment wounds shape adult dating patterns, and why some people unconsciously recreate emotional pain because it feels familiar. They also explore love addiction (SLAA), codependency recovery, emotional vulnerability, and the hidden ways grief can prevent happiness. The conversation takes an unexpected turn as Michael opens up about seeing someone who reminded him of his late mother, leading to a powerful discussion about complicated grief, survivor's guilt, healing after losing a parent, and learning how to carry someone forward without letting loss define your life. If you've ever struggled with anxiety, attachment, abandonment fears, people-pleasing, grief, emotional healing, or wondered why healthy love feels uncomfortable, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: grief, therapy, codependency, self-sabotage, fear of abandonment, attachment styles, childhood trauma, emotional healing, love addiction (SLAA), relationships, mental health, vulnerability, recovery, loss, and personal growth. | |||
| Beach Camping and a Control Freak | #138 | 20 Jul 2026 | 01:07:40 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Can you ever truly let go of control? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Louie shares what surprised him most after trying camping for the first time in decades. Away from mirrors, screens, and the constant pace of everyday life, he discovers an unexpected sense of stillness that sparks a much deeper conversation. From there, Michael opens up about a major breakthrough in therapy around control, anxiety, perfectionism, and the exhausting need to predict every possible outcome. Together, they explore how hypervigilance, codependency, people-pleasing, and childhood survival strategies can turn everyday decisions into overwhelming mental battles—and what it takes to begin letting go. They also discuss Internal Family Systems (IFS), parts work, body image, self-consciousness, nervous system regulation, mindfulness, and why learning to tolerate uncertainty may be one of the hardest—and most healing—skills we can develop. If you've ever struggled with overthinking, anxiety, perfectionism, control issues, or feeling like your brain never stops planning for the worst, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics: anxiety, control, overthinking, perfectionism, Internal Family Systems (IFS), parts work, codependency, people pleasing, nervous system healing, emotional healing, self-worth, mindfulness, camping, therapy, mental health podcast. | |||
| Parts Work & A Gay Wedding | #137 | 13 Jul 2026 | 00:53:38 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ We unpack why rejection hurts even when you don't want what you were rejected from. What begins as a conversation about not being invited to a wedding turns into a deeper exploration of ego, attachment, validation, friendship, and the stories we tell ourselves when we feel left out. Then the conversation shifts into an eye-opening therapy session using Parts Work (Internal Family Systems / IFS), where hidden emotional "parts" begin to reveal themselves. Anxiety, anger, people pleasing, emotional suppression, and fear of conflict all collide in an honest discussion about why expressing anger can feel so dangerous—and how childhood conditioning can shape the way we react as adults. If you've ever struggled with rejection sensitivity, conflict avoidance, emotional regulation, overthinking, anxiety, or understanding your own emotional triggers, this episode will probably feel uncomfortably familiar. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: Parts Work (IFS), Internal Family Systems therapy, anxiety, anger, emotional healing, rejection, friendship, people pleasing, attachment, emotional regulation, trauma responses, boundaries, therapy, self-awareness, vulnerability, relationships, personal growth, mental health, emotional intelligence, and healing childhood patterns. | |||
| Toxic F*ckhead Island | #136 | 06 Jul 2026 | 01:03:19 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ This week on Secondhand Therapy, we spiral through the chaos of modern dating, emotional wounds, and why so many of us confuse being chosen with actually choosing. What starts as a breakdown of Love Island turns into a deeper conversation about jealousy, codependency, attachment styles, rejection trauma, emotional accountability, toxic relationship patterns, and the psychology of needing validation. Lou and Michael unpack how childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships, why some people feel they have to earn love, and what happens when anger feels too dangerous to express. From dating red flags to emotional regulation, vulnerability, anxious attachment, self-worth, and healing old wounds—this episode blends therapy talk with comedy in the way only Secondhand Therapy can. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics include: dating anxiety, relationship advice, emotional intelligence, trauma bonding, people pleasing, abandonment wounds, men’s mental health, self-worth, attachment theory, love addiction, and healing from childhood trauma. | |||
| I'm Stuck, Please Don't Hurt Me | #135 | 29 Jun 2026 | 00:53:18 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack the emotional freeze state that can hit during stress, anxiety, and grief — from dissociation in a parking lot to the invisible “reps” it takes to keep showing up. They dive deep into codependency, abandonment wounds, dating anxiety, and the fear of getting hurt when a new connection feels too familiar too fast. The conversation explores attachment styles, emotional regulation, control as self-protection, and how unresolved trauma can shape relationships. Plus: modern dating apps, vulnerability in men, non-monogamy, and why healing isn’t as linear as we hope. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics: anxiety, codependency recovery, emotional overwhelm, dissociation, attachment theory, dating after heartbreak, men’s mental health, trauma healing, relationships, abandonment issues, therapy, grief, vulnerability. | |||
| Reporting Live: I'm Trapped | #134 | 22 Jun 2026 | 01:08:16 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources Why do some people feel trapped even when the door is open? This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack the traits they inherited from their parents — addiction, anxiety, humor, shame, and the constant urge to escape. Lou opens up about a major therapy breakthrough around self-sabotage, ADHD overwhelm, money anxiety, loneliness, and feeling stuck, while Michael explores what it means to feel emotions instead of just reporting them. They dive into childhood trauma, emotional vulnerability, family dynamics, social anxiety, inherited patterns, relationships, and healing, while asking the hard question: Are we living the life we actually want — or the one fear built for us? A raw and funny conversation about men’s mental health, therapy, emotional regulation, connection, and breaking generational cycles. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: Topics: therapy, ADHD, anxiety, emotional suppression, trauma healing, money mindset, self-worth, vulnerability, family trauma, relationships, loneliness, social connection | |||
| A F*ck Boy and a Vasectomy | Replay | 15 Jun 2026 | 01:07:29 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Vasectomies, validation, casual dating, and emotional accountability — this week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou opens up about getting a vasectomy, the fears that came with it, and what the recovery was really like. Meanwhile, Michael unpacks a brutal therapy breakthrough about how his actions in dating don’t match his intentions. The guys get into fear of commitment, people-pleasing, casual relationships vs emotional intimacy, validation addiction, dating apps, self-worth, and why setting boundaries is harder than it sounds. They also explore the uncomfortable truth about using relationships for external validation and what it means to finally choose yourself. If you’ve struggled with attachment styles, dating anxiety, therapy breakthroughs, boundaries in relationships, or learning how to stop seeking validation from others, this episode is for you. Topics: vasectomy recovery, men’s mental health, dating advice, therapy, emotional maturity, people pleasing, casual sex, attachment wounds, self-love, relationships, fear, healing. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Intro to Trauma Zombies | #133 | 08 Jun 2026 | 00:59:51 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Why is it so much easier to think about our feelings than actually feel them? This week, after some needed accountability from Papa Bear, we explore the tension between logic and emotion, the challenge of vulnerability, and what happens when the coping mechanisms that once protected us start getting in the way. We talk about therapy, emotional avoidance, grief, self-awareness, identity, personal growth, and the uncomfortable process of letting people see the parts of ourselves we'd rather keep hidden. Along the way, we discuss relationships, mental health, anxiety, healing, emotional regulation, and the ongoing struggle to balance what we know logically with what we feel emotionally. If you've ever found yourself overthinking instead of feeling, avoiding difficult emotions, or wondering why personal growth can feel so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. Or not. We're not experts. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Stop Complaining, I'm Trying to Protect You | #131 | 25 May 2026 | 01:03:00 | |
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored _____ If you like funny but honest conversations about therapy, mental health, self improvement, relationships, attachment styles, trauma responses, emotional regulation, and modern adulthood — you'll like this one. Or hate it. Sometimes our convos can feel intense because you haven't worked on yourself yet. Who knows. Why do some people turn everything into a story? Why does complaining sometimes feel like connection? And what happens when conflict becomes part of your identity? This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack emotional chaos, overthinking relationships, loneliness, people pleasing, conflict addiction, and the fear of being misunderstood. One conversation about “it’s hot outside” spirals into a deeper discussion about negativity, emotional connection, vulnerability, and why some people create drama just to feel close to others. We also talk about:
Plus: one unexpectedly emotional moment about simply not wanting to be alone. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks | |||
| Vulnerability or Die... Easy Choice | #130 | 18 May 2026 | 00:57:41 | |
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored _____ Why do we run from love even when we want it? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack relationship anxiety, fear of vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the ways childhood experiences shape how we show up in dating. After a surprising reading sparks a deep conversation, we dive into grief, attachment styles, self-sabotage, codependency, and why anxiety can become the perfect escape hatch from intimacy. We talk about long-distance relationships, fear of abandonment, feeling undeserving of love, and why receiving care can feel uncomfortable. This episode blends comedy with real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and personal growth. Topics in this episode: • relationship anxiety • fear of intimacy • attachment styles and dating • grief and emotional avoidance • self-sabotage in relationships • codependency and vulnerability • learning how to receive love If you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel harder than they should, give us a listen. Or if you're into mental health with some humor. It's kinda our thing. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks | |||
| Logically Speaking, You're Being Very Emotional | #129 | 11 May 2026 | 01:12:32 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the battle between logic vs emotion, and how living in your “wise mind” could change your relationships forever. We talk about: • The therapy concept of logical mind, emotional mind, and wise mind • Why partners are often opposites in relationships • The hidden ways control, anxiety, and people-pleasing show up • The difference between situational shame vs character shame • How childhood roles shape adult relationships • Why saying “no” and being authentic feels terrifying • The moment you realize you might be getting in your own way Plus: awkward book signings, therapy homework, identity shifts, and the small moment that felt huge—returning a wallet instead of pretending to want it. If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, authenticity, fear of rejection, or being the version of yourself others need, this episode may ruin your day, Or help. Who knows. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Picky in Love. Avoidant in Reality. | #128 | 04 May 2026 | 01:03:15 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Are you sabotaging your relationships without realizing it? In this hilarious and honest episode, we dive into avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, dating apps burnout, and the uncomfortable role ego plays in heartbreak. We talk about why the “spark” can be misleading, how perfectionism keeps you single, and the psychology behind ending relationships before you get hurt. Inspired by therapy conversations and the Matthew Perry memoir, we unpack attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the fear of not being “enough.” If you’ve ever: • Deleted and re-downloaded dating apps • Compared new partners to your ex • Felt afraid of commitment or intimacy • Wondered if you self-sabotage relationships • Struggled with breakup anxiety or closure This episode will hit hard — and make you laugh while it does. Expect comedy, brutal honesty, and relatable mental health conversations about dating, relationships, therapy, anxiety, and personal growth. Perfect for fans of therapy podcasts, self-improvement, and comedic mental health content. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| I Accidentally Humanized my Mom | #127 | 27 Apr 2026 | 00:56:46 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when you realize you don’t actually know your parents as people? In this episode, we talk about the moment adulthood hits and you suddenly see your mom as a human instead of just “Mom.” We get into parent–child relationships, emotional maturity, grief, family dynamics, divorce, childhood memories, and why so many adults feel regret about not asking their parents deeper questions sooner. We share the emotional experience of trying to intentionally connect with a parent, what changes as parents age, how becoming a grandparent can shift emotional openness, and the complicated feelings that come with realizing your parents had full lives before you. We also talk about:
If you’ve ever wondered: Why don’t we really know our parents? Why does time with family feel more meaningful as we get older? Why do adult children start asking deeper questions later in life? This episode is for you. Maybe. What do we know? We're not experts. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Life is Good, I Should Ruin It | #126 | 20 Apr 2026 | 00:58:52 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Why do we sabotage ourselves right when life is going well? In this deeply honest and funny episode, we talk about self-sabotage, burnout, body image, ADHD overwhelm, emotional contagion, perfectionism, and the fear of slowing down. One host opens up about gaining weight and the shame spiral that followed, while the other calls out the real culprit: feeling defeated before even trying. From driving to Costco and leaving with In-N-Out instead of groceries, to the exhausting pressure of productivity and the inability to truly rest, this episode dives into the psychology of why change feels impossible when you’re already overwhelmed. We also explore: • Why burnout kills motivation • The hidden link between shame and self-sabotage • The pressure to always be “productive” • Why we struggle to feel content or fulfilled • Emotional contagion and childhood emotional patterns • The fear of stopping, slowing down, or “not running” anymore This episode blends mental health, comedy, therapy insights, and real conversations about anxiety, depression, motivation, and personal growth. If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted, or like you’re getting in your own way — this one will hit hard (and make you laugh). BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Can Trauma Fuel Growth and Resilience? (with David Sussillo) | #125 | 13 Apr 2026 | 01:06:42 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ What happens when childhood trauma meets therapy, neuroscience, and personal growth? In this episode, we sit down with David Sussillo, a tech leader and author who grew up in foster care, group homes, and institutional living to explore how early adversity shapes the brain, emotional regulation, confidence, and adult success. Together, we unpack the psychology of trauma, resilience, and the long-term impact of feeling unsafe as a child. We talk about: • Growing up in foster care and surviving a turbulent childhood • How trauma affects curiosity, intelligence, and risk-taking • Emotional regulation, anger, anxiety, and relationship patterns • Therapy, meditation, and learning to “observe” your thoughts • Addiction, family history, and breaking generational cycles • Religion, meaning, and the fear of nothing after death • Neuroscience, AI, and what makes humans conscious This conversation blends mental health, psychology, neuroscience, and real lived experience to answer a big question: Can trauma hold you back—or help you grow? If you’re interested in therapy, healing, self-awareness, personal growth, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression, resilience, and the science of the mind, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| I Don't Want to be Happy | #124 | 06 Apr 2026 | 00:49:02 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Why are some people afraid to be happy? In this episode, we unpack the fear of happiness, losing your identity, and why suffering can feel tied to purpose. We talk about loneliness, the “sad identity,” and the belief that being happy makes you less relatable or useful to others. We dive into emotional immaturity, childhood conditioning, emotionally immature parents, gaslighting vs lying, codependency, people-pleasing, and the urge to help or control others. We explore how trauma, family dynamics, and early experiences shape your self-concept, relationships, and sense of worth. If you struggle with feeling undeserving of happiness, fear being seen as “better than others,” or feel stuck in a helper role, this conversation will feel deeply relatable. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| I'm Afraid To Be Myself | #123 | 30 Mar 2026 | 01:02:02 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Why do we people-please? Why is having opinions so scary? And why do old memories and regrets stay with us for life? This episode dives deep into people pleasing, fear of abandonment, identity, childhood emotional development, and the pressure of expectations. We talk about why we struggle to disappoint others, why external validation feels safer than authenticity, and how regret and unresolved memories shape adulthood. We also unpack a short story about childhood friendship, curiosity, sexuality, nostalgia, and the emotional weight we carry from growing up. Topics include: • people pleasing & fawning response • fear of abandonment • identity & self-worth • regret & shame • childhood emotional development • nostalgia & memory • masculinity & emotional expression • therapy & personal growth If you’ve ever struggled to say no, feared disappointing others, or wondered who you really are — this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Unplugged and Hating It | #122 | 23 Mar 2026 | 00:54:35 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we dive into dopamine detox, phone addiction, and what happens when you remove distractions from your life. One host quits his smartphone, switches to a Light Phone, ditches Bluetooth, and starts living with extreme intention—only to realize it’s way harder (and more uncomfortable) than expected. We talk about doomscrolling, online shopping addiction, constant comparison, and the feeling of always searching for something you can’t define. Is modern technology making us anxious, disconnected, and unhappy? We also get into family dynamics, political tension, overthinking, and the struggle with self-worth—especially when you assume people are judging you. Why do we spiral about what others think? And how do you stop? This episode is about slowing down, being present, and learning how to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it. Topics include:
If you’ve ever felt addicted to your phone, stuck in your thoughts, or unsure if you’re growing or just spiraling—this one’s for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| ADHD Burnout, Executive Dysfunction & EMDR Therapy Breakthroughs | Replay | 16 Mar 2026 | 00:45:40 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ ADHD burnout, perfectionism, EMDR therapy, anxiety, and deciding when you're ready to share your story. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| I Spoke to My Dead Mom Through a Psychic | #121 | 09 Mar 2026 | 00:47:12 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ We called a psychic medium to talk to our dead loved ones… and it got real. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Codependency Is Controlling Your Relationships (And You Don’t See It) | #120 | 02 Mar 2026 | 00:58:06 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Codependency, people-pleasing, and losing yourself in love — how to break the cycle and build real intimacy. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Are You Addicted to Misery? Dry Drunk Behavior, Earned Love & Why Happiness Feels Impossible | #119 | 23 Feb 2026 | 00:56:49 | |
Support the boys: Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value! BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources _____ Exploring dry drunk behavior, earned love, and why misery can feel safer than happiness. _____ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| If the World Ended in 14 Days… Who Would You Choose? | Attachment, Self-Sabotage & Seeking a Friend | #118 | 16 Feb 2026 | 00:52:57 | |
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ What would you do if the world was ending in 14 days? This week on Secondhand Therapy, we break down Seeking a Friend for the End of the World through a therapy lens — and it gets personal fast. We talk about attachment styles, fear of abandonment, self-sabotage, purpose, loneliness, and the urge to unblock your ex when mortality hits. Would you numb out with chaos… or search for connection? Would you end it with family, your partner, or alone? And why does control feel safer than vulnerability? This episode dives into:
It’s funny. It’s uncomfortable. It’s deeply honest. If the clock were ticking — who would you choose? BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Why Happiness Feels Unsafe | #117 | 09 Feb 2026 | 00:56:04 | |
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ Why does happiness feel dangerous? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we break down fear, sadness, guilt, and the belief that joy invites punishment. Using the feelings wheel, therapy insights, and personal stories about grief, superstition, self-sabotage, and emotional isolation, we explore why letting your guard down can feel unsafe—and how protecting yourself might actually be keeping you stuck. This episode covers emotional programming, fear of success, pride vs. gratitude, inherited coping mechanisms, and why some of us feel more comfortable in misery than peace. Dark humor, honesty, and introspection—this is not therapy, but it is real. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Why I Know the Right Thing — and Still Don’t Do It | #116 | 02 Feb 2026 | 00:58:52 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ Why do we avoid the things we know are good for us? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack the frustrating loop of knowing the right choice—and still doing the opposite. From routines, gym habits, food decisions, and productivity, to deeper conversations about permission, self-worth, and why “doing the task” isn’t the same as experiencing it. We talk about:
This is a raw, funny, and uncomfortable conversation about self-discipline, self-compassion, and why taking care of yourself isn’t as simple as “just doing it.” We’re not therapists. This is not professional advice. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Anxiety With No Trigger, Body Image Shame & “Higher Self” | #115 | 26 Jan 2026 | 00:58:50 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ What does it mean when anxiety shows up with no trigger? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we talk about living with anxiety in the body, learning to stop fighting it, and the frustration of being told to “just calm down.” We unpack vulnerability, validation, and why some people need their feelings acknowledged out loud—while others don’t. The conversation turns to body image, weight gain, food guilt, perfectionism, and why moderation feels impossible for some people. We also explore parts work, routines vs survival mode, and the pressure of the “higher self” mindset—when motivation turns into self-shame. This episode is an honest, funny, and uncomfortable look at anxiety, mental health, food, and learning how (and when) to show up for yourself. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Being "Nice" is Ruining Your Life | #114 | 19 Jan 2026 | 01:05:12 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ Why is it so hard to say “I don’t know”? Why does being liked feel like survival? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack people-pleasing, fear of failure, and the invisible ways our parents shape our inner critic. One host shares what therapy is revealing about his need to be “nice,” his terror of messing up, and how his relationship with his mother quietly programmed his fear of rejection. We talk about:
This episode explores how abandonment fear, emotional control, and self-worth get tangled together — and what it looks like to start unlearning those patterns in real time. We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking honestly about what we’re learning. If you struggle with people-pleasing, approval-seeking, fear of being disliked, or feeling like you’re never enough, this episode will hit close to home. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Rage vs Doing the Right Thing | #113 | 12 Jan 2026 | 00:56:46 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ When someone yells at your mom: anger, boundaries, emotional control, and doing the right thing. What do you do when you hear someone raise their voice at your mom — and everything in your body wants to explode? Today, we unpack a tense holiday moment that forces a deeper conversation about anger, boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. Louie shares a confrontation with his mother’s partner, before reflecting on how rage, fear, and protection instincts show up — even after years of therapy. We also talk about:
This episode is about breaking old patterns, choosing accountability over aggression, and learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of acting them out. We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking through what we’re learning in real time. If you’re struggling with family conflict, holiday depression, anger issues, or feeling behind in life, this one’s for you. Thanks for being here... Secondhand Therapy. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Having Emotionally Immature Parents | #070 Replay | 05 Jan 2026 | 00:58:15 | |
Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio. ______ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks | |||
| Coping, Eating Disorders and a Helicopter Ride | #042 Replay | 29 Dec 2025 | 00:58:30 | |
We welcome Jenny Zigrino to discuss loss, coping, addictive behaviors, and disordered eating—and what real recovery looks like when you stop avoiding the pain underneath it all. An honest conversation about grief, relapse, shame, emotional regulation, and learning healthier ways to cope when life feels overwhelming. ______ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ In this episode, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about grief, coping mechanisms, addiction, recovery, and eating disorders—and how deeply connected they often are. We explore how unresolved grief can fuel addictive behaviors, disordered eating, emotional avoidance, and unhealthy coping strategies, and what recovery actually looks like beyond surface-level fixes. We talk about substance addiction, behavioral addiction, food addiction, binge eating, restriction, relapse, emotional regulation, trauma responses, and shame, and how these patterns show up in everyday life and relationships. The conversation also touches on mental health recovery, therapy, self-awareness, harm reduction, relapse prevention, and building healthier coping tools when life feels overwhelming. This episode is for anyone navigating loss, grief, addiction recovery, eating disorder recovery, mental health struggles, or the long, nonlinear process of healing. It’s raw, compassionate, and focused on understanding—not judgment. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks | |||
| Expressing Gratitude But Why Doesn't Dad Love Me? | #029 Replay | 22 Dec 2025 | 00:59:20 | |
Support the boys: Michael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR. ______ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Emotional Defensiveness: Why Softness Feels Unsafe | #111 | 15 Dec 2025 | 00:58:46 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ Louie’s therapist tells him his “direct communication” is actually defensiveness — and it sends him into an identity spiral. We talk about fear, softness, control, relationship triggers, autism traits, wanting to be chosen, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels like death. We dig into the messy reality of defensiveness, vulnerability, emotional expression, fear, control, and communication patterns inside relationships. Louie shares how his therapist told him that his “direct communication” is actually a defense mechanism, and the conversation spirals into emotional avoidance, softness, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels impossible. We break down:
It’s raw, chaotic, vulnerable, funny, and painfully relatable — the perfect mix for a mental health, relationships, therapy talk podcast. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Emotional Numbness, Triggers & Childhood Patterns | #110 | 08 Dec 2025 | 00:58:45 | |
Support the boys: Michael talks about shutting down over Thanksgiving, emotional numbness, and the messy reality of grief. Louie breaks down triggers, embarrassment, childhood patterns, and why certain moments feel like personal attacks. ______ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ In this week’s episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the complicated mix of grief, emotional numbness, triggers, anger, and childhood conditioning that still shapes adult reactions. Michael opens up about spending Thanksgiving in bed, feeling emotionally shut down, and exploring why certain moments hit harder than others. Louie challenges him on avoidance, grief processing, and the stories we tell ourselves when intense emotions show up. We also dive into:
This is a raw, honest conversation about grief, emotional regulation, inner child responses, triggers, vulnerability, self-awareness, and healing,. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| When Grief Finds You - Grief Part III | #109 | 24 Nov 2025 | 00:56:49 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______ Louie shares a dream about his late partner that cracks open a huge conversation about grief, avoidance, triggers, and what it means to actually move forward. Michael challenges him, things get tense, and it turns into one of our most honest episodes yet. In this deeply personal episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack dreams, grief, unresolved emotions, and the complicated ways they show up in everyday life. Louie opens up about a dream involving his late partner and how it challenged his beliefs around meaning, symbolism, and emotional closure. Michael pushes back with questions about avoidance, grief processing, and what it means to “move forward” after loss. Together, we explore:
This episode is a vulnerable, honest look at grief, trauma, emotional regulation, subconscious processing, healing, and the messiness of being human—delivered with the same humor, tension, and real friendship you expect from this show. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Porn Addiction & Monastic Wisdom with Jeremy Lipkowitz | #108 | 17 Nov 2025 | 01:02:59 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Jeremy Lipkowitz breaks down porn addiction, how it affects your relationships, and why it’s more common than people think. He also talks about his time as a Buddhist monk and what that life taught him about discipline, desire, and mindfulness. Jeremy Lipkowitz joins us for a deep, honest conversation about porn addiction, how it develops, and the real ways it impacts mental health, relationships, intimacy, and self-worth. We explore what porn addiction actually is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people struggle with shame and secrecy around it. Jeremy also shares his powerful story of becoming a Buddhist monk, how mindfulness reshaped his relationship with desire, and what monastic life taught him about emotional regulation, discipline, and self-compassion. If you're curious about addiction, mindfulness, or the psychology behind our habits, this episode hits all the big questions. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Why We Struggle With Compliments, FOMO, and Accountability | #107 | 10 Nov 2025 | 01:09:25 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie gets a wild text from his dad and things spiral into talk about cynicism, giving (and taking) compliments, and why we chase what we’re “missing out on.” Louie gets a surprising text from his dad—and it sparks a conversation about how we process emotion, self-worth, and connection. In this episode, we unpack why giving and receiving compliments can feel so uncomfortable, how cynicism masks vulnerability, and what “missing out” really means when it comes to FOMO. Michael opens up about his ongoing struggle with accountability—and Louie calls him out on it. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability | #106 | 03 Nov 2025 | 00:57:32 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie and Michael answer a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability—diving into shame, repression, and the fear of emotional connection. Louie and Michael respond to a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability, emotional awareness, and connection. They dig into childhood conditioning, gender norms, and how shame and emotional repression keep men stuck in outdated ideas of strength. The conversation explores therapy, communication, emotional literacy, masculinity, and healing, asking what it would take for men to feel safe being seen. Equal parts funny and introspective, this episode is a breakdown of why men feel regressed in vulnerability—and how to change that. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response Behind People-Pleasing | #105 | 27 Oct 2025 | 00:54:33 | |
Support the boys: -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet. Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Understanding Misogyny: Gina Martin on Compassion, Gender, and Healing | #104 | 20 Oct 2025 | 01:09:37 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______________ Gina Martin joins to talk misogyny, feminism, and emotional healing—how patriarchy, trauma, and compassion shape identity, relationships, and recovery. Louie and Michael talk with author and activist Gina Martin about misogyny, feminism, gender roles, and emotional safety. Gina breaks down how patriarchy, trauma, and apathy shape men’s and women’s behavior, and what true compassion, forgiveness, and accountability look like in relationships. They explore how to raise boys, gendered social conditioning, and why understanding systems—not just individuals—matters for change. This episode dives deep into feminism, empathy, recovery, therapy, and identity, offering an unfiltered look at how culture shapes our emotional lives. Gina Martin she/her is a British gender equality activist, writer and facilitator known for her work fighting gender stereotypes, misogyny, sexual violence and the manosphere. Gina was responsible for making upskirting illegal in England and Wales (with 3 countries following suit), and changing discriminatory Instagram policy. She is also a writer, has published three books and has a best-selling Substack. Gina now works in schools across Australia running workshops for high schoolers on gender stereotypes. Gina's IG: https://www.instagram.com/ginamartin/?hl=en Gina's Substack: https://ginamartin.substack.com/ Gina's Latest Book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/452339/no-offence-but-by-martin-gina/9781529177572 BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Perfection is the Problem | #103 | 13 Oct 2025 | 01:10:45 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______________ Lou and Michael unpack wabi sabi, the beauty of imperfection—talking therapy, accountability, control, and what it means to be seen before you’re “fixed.” This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael dive into the Japanese philosophy of wabi sabi—the art of imperfection—and unpack what it means to be seen while you’re still in pieces. They talk accountability versus blame, how guilt and control intertwine, and why savoring small moments might be the real therapy. With stories from real life and a mix of humor, ego, and introspection, this episode explores the messy middle of growth, relationships, and being human. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| When Childhood Fear Becomes Adult Anxiety | #102 | 06 Oct 2025 | 01:01:03 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ___________________________ Michael and Lou unpack how childhood trauma fuels anxiety, codependency, and fear of abandonment. A raw mix of therapy insights, humor, and hard truths on boundaries, recovery, and self-worth. In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Michael and Lou dive deep into the messy intersections of childhood trauma, codependency, and the fear of abandonment. What starts as a simple conversation about space in friendship unravels into a raw exploration of why small conflicts can feel catastrophic, how anxiety distorts reality, and why it’s so hard to separate present struggles from old patterns. They talk candidly about boundaries, people-pleasing, and how growing up under constant fear leaves a permanent mark on self-worth. With sharp humor and unfiltered honesty, they reflect on therapy sessions, personal breakthroughs, and the exhausting cycle of trying to protect every relationship at the cost of their own peace. This is an episode for anyone who has wrestled with low self-esteem, overthinking, or the nagging belief that every disagreement might mean the end. Through laughter, vulnerability, and plenty of hard truths, Michael and Lou remind us that recovery is less about erasing the past and more about learning to live with it without letting it define us. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Do Not Have Needs. Ever. | #101 | 29 Sep 2025 | 00:56:10 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Codependency, boundaries, consent, and low self-esteem. Louie and Michael explore addiction, abandonment, and what it means to feel worthy of repair in relationships. In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Louie and Michael unpack codependency, boundaries, and emotional safety. Louie reflects on a moment with his partner that highlighted the importance of consent, nervous system responses, and accountability in relationships. Michael shares insights from Codependents Anonymous meetings, exploring how low self-esteem, people-pleasing, and fear of abandonment shape codependent patterns. Together they discuss family dynamics, addiction, conflict avoidance, and the struggle to feel worthy of repair after ruptures. This conversation dives deep into how childhood experiences with addiction and dysfunction inform adult relationships, self-worth, and emotional expression. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||
| Brad Garrett Tells His Story | #100 | 22 Sep 2025 | 01:02:41 | |
Support the boys: BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ Brad Garrett joins Secondhand Therapy for a candid conversation on mental health, addiction, recovery, and relationships. Together we examine how codependency and family dynamics shape adulthood, and why masculinity often blocks men from showing vulnerability. Garrett reflects on the recovery process, the challenges of identity, and how performance and humor can function as coping strategies. The episode explores men’s mental health, the role of vulnerability in healing, and the importance of reframing connection and personal growth beyond old family patterns. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Contact us: | |||