Sari Swears – Details, episodes & analysis

Most lawyers would have taken the $400,000…

The plaintiff had healed. No surgery. Relatively modest medical bills. Plenty of risk heading into trial.

But attorney Matthew Wilson saw something bigger.

In this episode of Sari Swears, Matthew breaks down how he turned down the highest offer in the case, took it to verdict, and watched a jury return $1.8 million.

More importantly, he shares what changed his approach in the courtroom.

For years, voir dire was the part of trial that terrified him most. Then he started doing something different—having real conversations with jurors instead of relying on the same old script.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How a "small" injury case became a seven-figure verdict
• The overlooked damages that resonated with jurors
• What focus groups revealed about suing a city
• How authenticity changed Matthew's entire approach to voir dire
• The moment he realized jurors don't need perfection—they need a real person

And perhaps the most powerful part of the story isn't the verdict itself. 😉

Love,
Sari

Today marks five years since the day I learned there was no more cancer in my body.

It's a milestone that means more to me than I can put into words.

In this week's podcast episode, I'm sharing the full story—from the diagnosis that changed everything, to the moments I was certain I couldn't do it, to the people who carried me through when I couldn't carry myself.

It's a story about hope, gratitude, and what it means to keep going when you don't know how the story ends.

If you've ever walked through a hard season—or loved someone who has—I hope you'll listen. 💖

Love,
Sari

Quote: 

"There were many times during treatment when I would look at Kevin and say, 'Tell me how it goes.' I needed him to tell me the story of a future I couldn't see for myself. And every time, he would paint a picture of survival, healing, and getting our life back."

Sari de la Motte

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@SariDLM 

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Have YOU ever thought:

"I don't think I want to do this anymore."

Not forever.

Not dramatically.

Just… quietly, in the back of your mind.

In this week's episode, I sat down with Coach K to talk about why so many trial attorneys hit this exact point.

And no, you're not alone. 😉

What we've seen time and time again is this:

It's not that you actually want to quit… It's that you can't keep doing it the way you've been doing it.

Doing everything yourself.

Carrying too much.

Feeling stuck in a system that's draining you.

And here's the shift…

That moment where you start questioning everything?

That's not the end.

It's the turning point.

Inside the episode, Coach K and I break down:

• Why this feeling is so common for trial attorneys (even my Masterminds)
• The problem in tackling everything alone
• And how to shift out of this mindset

If you've been on the edge of quitting, this one is for you.

Love,
Sari 

Quote: 

"I don't think I want to be a trial attorney anymore… or it's, 'I don't know, I might be crazy for saying this, but I've been wondering if I even want to do this anymore.' We hear that all the time. And out of all the hundreds of trial attorneys we've worked with… almost none of them actually quit."

Coach K

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@SariDLM 

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

I always hear this from attorneys in and out of H2H –

"I learned more from my failures than my successes." 

Well, throw that bullshit out the window because this week's episode is all about debunking the myth that failure is the ultimate teacher.

Tune in to find out how to break the cycle of fixating on mistakes (because let's face it, that only leads to one thing: giving up 😤) and instead, champion a mindset fueled by success.

Xo,

Sari

Mentions:

• The Winner Effect by Ian H. Robertson
  
  

Quote:

• "We learn more from success than failure. Success is more motivating than failure. Success will have you work harder than failure. This is backwards from everything y'all believe. You believe it has to be hard. You believe you have to be hard on yourself. You believe that you can't decide you're amazing before you actually achieve something great. The research backs me up here. It's success that we want to emulate; it is success that we want to focus on."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Have you ever researched jury selection methods?

Well I did. And it is slim fucking pickings. Turns out, predicting verdicts based on juror characteristics is about as reliable as a coin toss.

What method really "WORKS"? Long story short.. YOU! 

This episode is for you if you want to learn the 7 crucial questions to ask yourself when choosing a method. 

If your method hits all these marks, you're golden. But if it's just smoke and mirrors, it's time to toss it.

Bottom line: No matter the method, the real magic is YOU. 

So go on, be brilliant, and own that courtroom.

Tune in on the episode to find out what I mean by that.

Xo,

Sari

Quote:

"Here's what I know for sure works, you. You work. No method will ever replace the brilliance that is you. That's what I know for sure works. I don't create magic in my studio by myself. The magic happens when I'm working with one of you or one of my crew members. They bring the brilliance. I just help them step into it. That's what I do."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

It's time to forget everything you know on the "ideal juror profile" and ditch the outdated playbook. Capeesh?!

Ok, now that's out the window…

This episode is for you if you want to learn powerful ways of creating the ultimate "ideal juror profile".

(Spoiler alert: it's not your typical demographic; a woman between the ages of 40-60, college graduate, blah, blah, blah. #Boring.)

Tune in on the episode to find out what I mean by that.

Xo,
Sari

Quote:

"So, the problem with the ideal juror profile is you're using it for the wrong reasons. You're trying to find the fix to the defense point when it really is meant to show you that your ideal juror exists. And that once you build those beliefs, that there are principles in there that you can mind for, and then start building your funnels."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

From misplaced focus, to survival-mode brains, we're dissecting the TOP FIVE reasons behind those lightning-fast ver-🍆-ts.

If you want to communicate effectively with your jurors—and I know you do—then you have to get out of your head and into theirs.

Join me as I delve into the H2H method: the purpose of my closing template, the psychology of decision-making, the art of compelling content, and why sequencing matters more than you think. 

Xo,
Sari

Quote:

• "This is why exclusionary voir dire just gets under my skin because it does nothing to form groups. You go in there with your big swinging dick, and you come out, and you're like, 'I got eight people off for cause. What do you think about that?' You know what I think about that? You missed a fucking opportunity. That's what I think about that. What the fuck have you done? Nothing. Your group wasn't formed. Nothing."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

If you struggle with constantly feeling like you're not "good enough", this episode is for YOU, my friend.

Today, we are talking about how ABSURD it really is for us humans to relentlessly keep striving to be "enough".

So, if you're ready to embrace your imperfections, laugh in the face of doubt, and rewrite the rules on what it means to be "enough", tune in now. 

Xo,
Sari

Quote:

• "It's like the concept of over-preparing. It's this thing where we're like, "I want to be 100% prepared." That's not a measurable thing. It's not something that we can say, "Okay, now you're enough." How do we decide what that is? Fuck enough. Here's what you're really saying, "I don't know what I'm doing." That's what you mean when you say, "I'm not enough." And here, my darling, is the answer to that, no one does. No one knows what the fuck they're doing. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. Literally, no one knows what the fuck they're doing."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it's about to resurrect your trial game.

Curiosity isn't just about asking questions; it's about forging connections that transcend courtroom formalities. 

Curiosity isn't about having an end goal in mind. It's about embracing the unknown.

I know you're DYING to revolutionize your approach to voir dire, so go ahead and tune in.

Xo,
Sari

Mentions:

• Ian Leslie -  Curious: The Desire to Know and Why Your Future Depends On It

Quote:

• "What trial lawyers do is stand up for human values versus corporate values. And what curiosity does is say that this trial, this case, this voir dire, is a human endeavor. This is getting to know each other. This is connecting you with the themes, with me, with each other. The very work that y'all do is human work. It's about connection. And I honestly believe we cannot have connection when we don't have curiosity."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

Are you ready to shake things up? 

Good, because that's exactly what we're about to do. 

In our latest episode, we're diving deep into the nitty-gritty as to why you HAVE to make the jury uncomfortable in voir dire or in your opening statement (and YES, it will make YOU feel uncomfortable, too, but that's the point.) 

I'll teach you how to captivate, motivate, and inspire action from the jury through the power of storytelling and more.

So if you're tired of playing small and ready to make a real impact, this episode is for you.

Xo,

Sari

Mentions:

• Jesse Wilson - Tell The Winning Story

Quote:

• "Your job in a trial situation is to communicate to the jury that everything is not fine. We are trying to communicate to the jury that things are not fine because discomfort changes things. You've got to relay that things are NOT fine; things are fucked, and your job, jury, is to make that right. So what this means is you've got to make the jury uncomfortable."

* * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 

THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR'S MIND

Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.

Get the training here: 

sariswears.com/jury 

Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears

Watch on Youtube:
https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte

Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/