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In this episode we talk about one of the most misunderstood teachings in the church — forgiveness.

If you've ever felt guilty because you can't forget, confused because you forgave but still set boundaries, or exhausted because you're still carrying something everyone said you should have let go by now — this episode is for you.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why forgiveness does not mean forgetting — and what the Bible actually says
• How you can forgive and protect yourself at the same time without feeling like a bad Christian
• Why forgiveness is a layered process, not a one-time decision

Anchor verse: Ephesians 4:31-32 — "Get rid of all bitterness… Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

 

Were you told that forgiveness means forgetting — and that left you more confused than free? In this episode we uncover the full biblical truth about forgiveness: what it means, what it does NOT mean, and how it sets you free — not the other person. For Christian women over 40 who are ready to heal for real, without guilt and without confusion.

 

 

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You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

Feeling forgotten by God after divorce? This episode breaks down why His silence isn't His absence — and how to feel Him again, one small step at a time.

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• 3 teaching points as bullet takeaways
• Scripture list: Psalm 34:18, Isaiah 43:18-19, Romans 8:1

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You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

 

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After my divorce, fear made almost every decision for me — the job I took, the man I stayed with, the dreams I shrunk. Today I'm showing you how to spot fear-made decisions before you make another one."

• The one question that exposes a fear-based decision
• The 24-48 hour rule for panic decisions
• Why shrinking your life doesn't protect you from more pain
• The verse that breaks fear's grip: 2 Timothy 1:7

Ready to go deeper?

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Have you ever found yourself scrolling through a dating app at midnight — not because you're ready, but because the silence in your house feels too loud?

Friend, you're not alone. And in today's episode, we're going to talk about something nobody told you to do after your divorce — fall in love with YOU first.

Before the next relationship. Before the next first date. Before anything else.

In this episode you will learn:

✅ Why you don't recognize yourself anymore — and how to find your way back

✅ Why being alone doesn't mean something is wrong with you

✅ Why you keep giving love to everyone but yourself — and how to finally stop

✅ Simple things you can start doing THIS WEEK to come home to yourself

We also look at what Psalm 139:14 and Matthew 22:39 say about why loving yourself is not selfish — it's actually scriptural.

The right love is not going to complete you. The right love is going to find you already whole. And that wholeness starts with you.

🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:

 

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💬 DID THIS EPISODE SPEAK TO YOUR HEART?

Share it with a friend who needs to hear it today. And if you're ready to go deeper, come join us inside the Healing After Divorce membership. You don't have to do this alone.

Rising After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is a faith-based podcast to help you heal, rediscover yourself, and step into the woman God created you to be — after divorce.

Have you noticed you keep picking the same kind of man... and getting hurt the same way? In this episode, we talk about the difference between dating from a wound and dating from a healed heart — and why most women don't even realize they're doing it.

You'll learn:

• Why you keep choosing unavailable men (and how the abandonment wound drives it)
• Why you hide your true self on dates (and how the rejection wound drives it)
• How to fill yourself first, so you date from want — not need
• One Bible verse to help you see your own heart clearly

If you're tired of opening your heart, getting hurt, and closing it again — this episode is for you. Healing comes first. Love that lasts comes after.

🎙️ Listen now and start dating from a healed heart, not a wound.

💛 Want support walking this out, not just hearing about it? Join Dating After Divorce — text RISE to get started.

 

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📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

 

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Have you ever looked in the mirror after your divorce and not recognized the woman looking back at you? Not because of how you look — but because somewhere along the way, you stopped knowing what you liked, what you wanted, and who you even were.

In this episode, we are talking about something most women are afraid to say out loud: I lost myself being his wife. And we are going to walk through why it happens, what it costs you, and — most importantly — how to find your way back to being you.

This is not about blaming your marriage. This is about reclaiming what God always intended you to keep: yourself.

 

Ready to go deeper?

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You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

 

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Have you ever said yes when everything inside you wanted to say no?

Do you ever feel resentful after giving so much — and then feel guilty for feeling that way?

What if the reason you over-give has nothing to do with generosity — and everything to do with a wound you haven't healed yet?

Ready to go deeper?

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📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

 

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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You keep saying you're fine. But late at night, when it's quiet... you know you're not.

This episode is for the woman who has been holding it together for everyone else — and quietly falling apart alone. It's time to stop pretending. Real healing starts here.

• Are you tired of saying "I'm fine" when you are anything but?
• Have you been staying busy just so you don't have to feel it?
• Do you feel like you should be "over it" by now — but you're not?
• What if the breakdown you've been avoiding is actually the breakthrough you've been waiting for?
• Are you healing — or are you just surviving?

🎙️ In this episode you will discover:

• Why saying "I'm fine" is keeping you emotionally stuck after divorce

• The one grief step most women skip — and why it makes everything harder

• How comparing your healing timeline to others is a lie rooted in shame

• What real emotional recovery actually looks like for a Christian woman over 40

• The simple shift that moves you from performing recovery to actually living it

 

• The mask of "I'm fine" is a protection tool — but it becomes a prison

• Grief is not weakness. It is love with nowhere to go

• Your healing does not have a deadline — growth matters more than speed

• "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." — Psalm 34:18

 Resources and Links Mentioned

• 📖 Scripture: Psalm 34:18 — "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

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• 📲 DM Patty the word RISE on Instagram for more healing resources → @pattymartinlifecoach

 Connecting + Next Steps

Loved this episode? You will also love these:

• 🎧 "Why You're Not Over Your Divorce Yet — And What to Do About It"

• 🎧 "When God Feels Silent After Divorce"

• 🎧 "How to Stop Living in Survival Mode After Divorce"

Your next step: If this episode hit home, don't just listen — take one action today. Pick one person you trust and tell them the truth about how you really are. That one moment of honesty can change everything.

Ready to go deeper?

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📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

 

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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You are not damaged goods because of your divorce....

 

Ready to go deeper?

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📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

 

You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

 

Have you ever stayed in a situation — a relationship, a dynamic, a version of yourself — just because it felt safer than asking for more?

Do you second-guess your own judgment when it comes to dating because you still blame yourself for your marriage not working?

Have you ever heard "don't be picky" or "at your age you can't afford to be choosy" — and somewhere deep down, believed it?

 

Ready to go deeper?

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📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one.

You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛

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  RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical 

Did you do everything right after your divorce, you prayed, you cried, you kept going, and yet something still feels… stuck?

You're not weak. You're not faithless. And you are absolutely not alone.

In this episode, we're having the honest conversation that most people are too afraid to start, because the reason your healing is taking longer than expected might not be what you think.

Ask yourself honestly…

• Have you been telling everyone — and yourself — that you're "fine" when deep down you know you're not?
• Do you feel like you've forgiven, moved on, and done the work… but the pain still shows up uninvited?
• Are you secretly comparing your healing timeline to other women and wondering what's wrong with you?
• Does it feel like you don't even know who you are anymore — outside of being a wife, a mom, or the woman who went through a divorce?
• Have you rushed into dating, a new routine, or a "new you" to escape the grief — only to find it caught up with you?
• Do you feel guilty for still hurting, especially as a woman of faith who believes God is in control?
• Are you exhausted from performing okayness for your kids, your church, and your family — while quietly falling apart inside?

If you said yes to even one of these — this episode was made for you.

✦ The Difference Between Coping and Actually Healing There's a version of "strong" that looks like healing on the outside but is actually suppression on the inside. We talk about why managing your emotions is NOT the same as processing them — and why faith culture can sometimes accidentally reinforce this pattern. You'll leave knowing the difference, and what to do about it.

✦ Why You Might Be Grieving More Than Just Your Marriage Your divorce didn't just end a relationship. It dismantled a story — the story of who you were, who you thought you'd become, and what your future was supposed to look like. If healing feels impossible, it might be because you're trying to heal back to a woman who no longer exists. This is the conversation that changes everything.

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" — Isaiah 43:18-19

God isn't asking you to forget the pain. He's inviting you to look up — and see what He's already building in you.

 

📖 Scripture Referenced

• Isaiah 43:18-19 — "See, I am doing a new thing!"

 

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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Podcast 

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Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women

 

FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART

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Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Protect Your Peace

If co-parenting with your ex leaves you feeling anxious, angry, or emotionally exhausted — this episode is for you.

One text. One phone call. One unexpected change in plans. And suddenly your entire day is derailed. Your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and you can't focus on anything else. Sound familiar?

Co-parenting after divorce is one of the hardest emotional challenges a woman can face — especially when the relationship ended in pain. You're trying to heal. You're trying to show up for your kids. But every interaction with your ex feels like a step backward in your recovery.

Here's what I want you to know, you are not weak, and you are not broken. You just haven't been given the tools to protect your emotional space while still being the mom your kids need.

In this episode we're talking about:

 

✅ Why your ex still has the power to trigger you, even after the divorce

✅ How one interaction can completely hijack your emotions and your day

✅ Practical tools to protect your peace so YOU decide how your day goes, not him

✅ How to show up for your kids from a place of calm instead of chaos

✅ The faith-based mindset shift that will change how you approach every co-parenting interaction

 

By the end of this episode you will have real, actionable tools to take your emotional power back, one interaction at a time.

Because you deserve peace, sis. Not when he finally changes. Right now. Today.

 

🎧 This episode is for you if:

You feel like your ex still controls your emotions even though the marriage is over

Co-parenting stress is spilling over into your home and your relationship with your kids

You're tired of feeling anxious every time his name pops up on your phone

You want to heal completely, not just on the outside

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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  RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

Today is my birthday — and the best gift I can give you is the truth.

I found real love at 49. Not by luck. Not by magic. But by doing the work — even when I didn't feel like it, even when I doubted myself, even when I wondered if it was too late.

If you've been praying, waiting, and wondering why nothing is changing — this episode is for you.

In this episode I share:

• Why passive hope is not the same as active faith
• The invisible emotional wall that might be blocking real connection
• The "I'll be ready when…" trap that keeps you stuck longer than anything else
• My personal story of what I actually did to find love after divorce

"Faith without works is dead." — James 2:17

You don't have to be finished. You just have to be available.

🎧 Listen now — and share this with a friend who needs to hear it today.

Ready to stop waiting and start doing the work? Join the Dating After Divorce membership — link below.

 

 

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  RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF

• ✅ You feel like God stopped listening when your marriage fell apart
• ✅ You are angry and ashamed of how angry you are
• ✅ You don't recognize yourself anymore after the divorce
• ✅ You have stopped praying because it feels pointless
• ✅ You need someone to tell you healing is still possible for you

 

FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART

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Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

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Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

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Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

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RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical 

 

Tired of just getting through the day? Feeling like you should be further along by now — but the weight of everything divorce left behind is still keeping you stuck? Do you find yourself exhausted at night, not from living, but from simply surviving? What if the peace you've been desperately searching for... was actually closer than you think?

In this episode of Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40, we're going somewhere deeply personal — your life after divorce. Not the highlight reel. Not the version you post on social media. The real one. The one where you're holding it all together on the outside but quietly falling apart on the inside. The one where you lie awake at night wondering, "Is this really all there is for me now?" and "Why does everyone else seem to be moving on but me?"

If divorce already made you feel like you lost a piece of yourself, the last thing you want is to admit that you still don't feel okay — even months or years later. So you've kept going. Pushing through. Telling everyone you're fine when deep down you're running on empty.

But here's what I need you to know before you press play — you are not broken. You are not behind. You are a woman walking through one of the most transformative seasons of her life, and survival mode was never meant to be your permanent address.

In this episode, I'm walking you through three powerful truths that will help you begin to loosen the grip that fear, exhaustion, and lost identity have on your life — shifts that are simple enough to start today, and meaningful enough to change everything about how you move forward.

This is not about just getting by anymore. This is about finally, truly living.

God has not forgotten about you — and the life He has planned for you is far greater than the one you've been settling for in survival mode.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." — Jeremiah 29:11

🎧 Press play. You've survived the storm — now it's time to step into the sunshine.

 

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

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Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

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  RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical

In this episode, I sit down with Jamie Love to talk about the powerful connection between physical and mental health — and why caring for both is essential to moving forward in life.

Jamie shares her insights on what it truly means to show up for yourself, inside and out, and how prioritizing your well-being can unlock growth in every area of your life.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why your physical health and mental health are deeply connected
• How neglecting one affects the other
• Practical ways to start caring for your whole self
• What it looks like to prioritize yourself so you can move forward in life

Connect with Jamie Love: https://www.instagram.com/glowgirlwithlove/

 

Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce

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Podcast 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-after-divorce-christian-dating-codependency/id1818255020 

Instagram http://relationshipcoach4women

 

FREE GUIDE - TO HEAL YOUR HEART

 https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page  

 

Next Steps:

Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group

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Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at

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Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Dating/Healing After Divorce Membership at

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RECOMMENDED EPISODES:

EP 32| Rewriting Your Love Story in 2026

EP 40| Being Selective Isn't Bad, It's Biblical 

 

 

 

Tired of living paycheck to paycheck?

Feeling like a failure because your divorce has also contributed to you being behind on bills?

Do you feel ashamed of not being able to manage your money?

 

What if the financial stress you've been carrying alone in silence... didn't have to stay that way?

In this episode of Dating After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40, we're going somewhere tender — your finances after divorce. This might be the topic you haven't dared to whisper out loud, not even to your best friend. The one that makes you lie awake at night wondering, "How did I end up here?" and "Why does it feel like everyone else has it together but me?"

If divorce already made you feel like you were wearing a scarlet letter, the last thing you want is for anyone to see you struggling financially too. So you've been carrying it. Quietly. Alone.

But here's what I want you to know before you press play — you are not failing at life. You are navigating one of the hardest seasons a woman can face. And you don't have to white-knuckle your way through it anymore.

In this episode, I'm walking you through three faith-rooted steps that will help you begin to loosen the grip that financial fear has on your life — steps that are simple enough to start today, and powerful enough to change your trajectory.

This is not about shame. This is about freedom.

God isn't finished with your story — and neither is your financial future.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." — Jeremiah 29:11

🎧 Press play. This one's for you.

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Part 4 Your Turn:

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This episode is for the divorced Christian woman over 40 who is tired of pretending she is fine, who has lost herself somewhere between the marriage and the aftermath, and who is ready to finally give herself permission to heal.

You will walk away with three powerful, faith-based steps to process your pain without drowning in it, reclaim the identity divorce tried to steal from you, and build a daily healing lifestyle that prepares you for everything God still has ahead of you. Your healing is not the end of your story, it is exactly where your real story begins.

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How to stop repeating patterns when dating and begin a God-Led Relationship

 

 

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Women who feel guilty about having standards Women told they're "too picky" Women who need biblical validation to maintain boundaries Women tempted to settle out of loneliness

 

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1. Your divorce gave you something priceless: wisdom, clarity, and zero tolerance for BS. That's not baggage—that's your superpower.
2. Shift your mindset from "I'm damaged" to "I'm refined." You're not starting over; you're starting from a place of experience and strength.
3. Use your divorce as a filter. The right man will see your past as proof of your courage and depth, not as a red flag.
4. Date with boundaries and standards. You know what you don't want, so you can be clear about what you DO want without apology.
5. You survived the end of a marriage. That makes you brave, resilient, and ready for a love that actually deserves you

 

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Praying for someone you know might feel weird. But that is how you make it real.

 

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Divorced women have something that women who've never been married don't have. Experience. Wisdom. Zero tolerance for nonsense.

You've been through the fire. You know what a relationship looks like from the inside—the good, the bad, and the "oh heck no."!

And that makes you dangerous. In the best possible way.

 

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Afraid of being alone after divorce?

Learn why settling for less out of fear of missing out keeps you from the incredible relationship God has planned for you. Discover how to overcome loneliness and trust God's timing in your dating journey.

 

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Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries as a Christian? Do you feel guilty saying no or find yourself people-pleasing instead of being honest? In this episode, we dive deep into James 5:12—'Let your yes be yes and your no be no'—to discover what the Bible really says about healthy boundaries in relationships.

 

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A divorced Christian woman over 40 who is wounded, isolated, and paralyzed by fear—carrying shame about her past, believing she's unworthy or "damaged goods," convinced good men don't exist or won't want her, second-guessing her standards, afraid to trust herself picker or date again. 

Although she “believes” that there is someone out there for her, she feels hopeless and exhausted at times and doubts that God's plan includes real love for her at this stage of life.

TO: 

A healed, confident woman who knows and owns her worth in Christ, clearly understands what she wants in a relationship without apology. 

Has shifted her limiting beliefs about men, dates with discernment and boundaries (not desperation or fear), and she engages in faith-based dating while continuing her growth, and trusts both herself and God's timing to bring the right man to her. 

She is patiently waiting for the right person.

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HUMILIATION WOUND -THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS: What Actually Happened to You: INJUSTICE WOUND - THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS: What Actually Happened to You:

listen to the full episode to find out if you need to heal from these traumas and how they are affecting your current adult life in general, not only your love life.

 

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In this episode we explore how past betrayal trauma affects your current relationships, even with good men who are doing everything right.

 

We discuss the self-sabotaging behaviors many of us develop as protection mechanisms—checking phones, creating loyalty tests, keeping escape plans—and why these patterns keep us trapped in a cycle of distrust.

 

I share Monica's story, a woman who ended a healthy relationship because she couldn't accept that someone could be genuinely transparent, and I give you a practical vulnerability exercise you can start today.

 

If you've experienced betrayal in the past and feel like you can't let your guard down with someone new, this episode will help you understand why—and how to begin healing.

 

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Abandonment Wound Humiliation Wound Betrayal Wound Rejection Wound Injustice Wound

 

Learn: 

What Creates Rejection Wounds? and How to begin to heal from it.

 

This episode is for you if you:

You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems

​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man 

You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return 

You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before 

You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing 

You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past 

You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know 

 

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Learn What Creates Abandonment Wounds? Physical abandonment: absent parent, divorce in childhood, death of a parent Emotional abandonment: parent present physically but emotionally unavailable, neglect Conditional love: love given only when you performed, achieved, or behaved "right" How Abandonment Shows Up in Your Dating Life: Anxious Attachment - You become clingy, need constant reassurance, fear being left Testing Behavior - You push men away to see if they'll stay (self-fulfilling prophecy) Settling - You accept breadcrumbs because any attention feels better than none Hyper-Independence - "I don't need anyone" becomes your armor, preventing intimacy Moving Too Fast - You rush commitment to secure the relationship before they can leave   Does This Sound Like You?

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You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems

​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man 

You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return 

You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before 

You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing 

You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past 

You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know 

 

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You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before 

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Your Person Exists: Why the Wait Is Preparing You for the Love You Deserve If you've been waiting for the right person and starting to wonder if they even exist, this episode is for you.

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Normal (short-term symptoms not long after your divorce): Divorce memory loss, can't remember after divorce, divorce fog, post-divorce trauma, healing after divorce, divorce brain fog.

 

Can't remember details from your first year after divorce?

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The Fog is real when going through such trauma as Divorce!

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Don't miss the blessing that this episode will be to you, and help you to move forward from thinking you as if you are defective.

 

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You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before 

You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing 

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​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man 

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You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before 

You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing 

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You're successful. You've built an incredible career, achieved financial stability, and created a life most people dream of. But when you come home after a long day, there's an emptiness. The one thing missing? A loving, caring husband to share your life with. In this episode, I'm opening up about my own journey—how I had everything at 49 except the right person. I'll share how shifting to a God-led approach to relationships transformed everything and how you can create the same breakthrough, no matter your age.

This conversation is for the woman who has worked hard, achieved her goals, and is ready for the next chapter—a God-centered marriage with a partner who truly sees and values her. If you're frustrated, tired of the dating scene, or wondering if it's even possible for you, this episode is your permission slip to believe again.

If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself  years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. . 

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Dating after divorce is complicated. Dating as a Christian single mom requires additional wisdom, clear boundaries, and a lot of faith. In this episode, we explore five essential steps that every single mom should know before opening her heart again.

Scriptures Mentioned:

2 Corinthians 5:17 Proverbs 4:23 Isaiah 40:31 Psalm 139

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Today we're going to talk about that invisible companion that controls your life without anyone else noticing: anxiety

If you wake up with a weight on your chest and don't know why, this is for you

Key Points:

Anxiety isn't "just stress" It's not cured by positive thinking or "getting over it" It's a prison you build yourself, brick by brick Phrase to repeat: "Anxiety convinces you that if you worry enough, you can prevent bad things"

Description of how it feels:

The constant knot in your stomach The voice saying "something terrible is going to happen" Permanent hypervigilance The exhaustion of always being on guard

Concrete examples:

"You stop accepting invitations because 'what if...?'" "You avoid difficult conversations because conflict terrifies you" "You stay in relationships that don't nourish you because change scares you" "You postpone your dreams because you never feel 'ready'"

Transition: "And so, without realizing it, your life becomes smaller and smaller. You live in your comfort zone, but the truth is there's nothing comfortable about it."

THE REAL COST OF ANXIETY Four areas anxiety destroys: 1. It steals your present

2. It sabotages your relationships

3. It paralyzes your potential

4. It exhausts your body

If you're seeing yourself reflected in this, I want you to know it's not your fault. But it is your responsibility to do something about it. In my personalized sessions, we identify exactly how anxiety is manifesting in YOUR specific life. We don't talk in generalities.

We go straight to YOUR triggers, YOUR patterns, YOUR solutions. And this month I only have space for 5 new women because each session requires my complete attention.

WHY YOU HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO OVERCOME IT  What you've tried (and why it didn't work): Meditation apps

Give temporary relief Don't work on the root of the problem Anxiety comes back stronger

Motivational phrases

"Positive thinking" "Just breathe deeply" Don't work because anxiety isn't logical

Keeping it secret

"I don't want to bother anyone" "Others have worse problems" Isolation makes anxiety worse

Waiting for it to pass on its own

"Someday I'll feel better" Anxiety doesn't disappear without intervention It becomes your new "normal"

The hard truth: If you could get out of anxiety alone, you would have already done it. It's not lack of willpower. It's that anxiety creates deep neurological patterns that require specific intervention and expert guidance. Transformation story:

Client who couldn't sleep without checking doors 10 times Or woman with panic attacks in public places Or the one who avoided everything out of fear How they broke free with specific work

I don't do generic therapy. I don't give you a list of exercises and 'good luck.' I create a specific plan for you. For your type of anxiety. For your circumstances. And I can only do this with a limited number of women because it requires real depth.

WHAT FREEDOM LOOKS LIKE  Close their eyes and imagine:

"Waking up without that immediate weight on your chest" "Making decisions based on what you want, not what you fear" "Having a difficult conversation without your heart jumping out of your chest" "Sleeping deeply, without 'what if...' scenarios" "Being present with people you love, truly present" "Pursuing your dreams without fear paralyzing you"

YOUR MOMENT TO DECIDE Two paths: Path 1: Stay the same

Wait for anxiety to disappear on its own someday Another month, another year with the same weight Watching your life become smaller Losing opportunities, relationships, peace

Path 2: Commit to your freedom

Make the bravest decision of your life Do the deep work Regain control Live without that constant weight

Don't wait for anxiety to get worse. Don't wait to hit rock bottom. Don't wait to 'be ready.' The perfect moment doesn't exist. The moment is now. If the idea of contacting me gives you anxiety, that's exactly the sign you need to do it. Anxiety doesn't want you to change. I do. Contact me today for your personalized session. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today. Because every day that passes with anxiety is one less day of peace you could be living. Because you deserve to wake up without that weight. Because you deserve to live without constant fear. Because you deserve your freedom. Anxiety isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility I've seen hundreds of women break free. You're next.

Your freedom is waiting for you. You just have to take the first step. I'll see you on the other side.

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Your Past Traumas Are Sabotaging Your Love Life (And How to Heal Them)" In this episode we explore:

Why you repeat the same patterns in relationships Signs you need to heal these wounds The first step to transforming your love life

 

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If you've ever stayed awake waiting for an apology that never comes, this episode is going to free you

Stop being a prisoner of external validation

Learn self-forgiveness as a radical act

Learn the freedom that comes with self-acceptance

Learn how to start building your new life without their blessing

 

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Divorce doesn't define you, disqualify you, or diminish your worth in God's eyes. If you've been carrying shame about your past marriage, this episode will help you break free and step into the love and life God has planned for you.

Why God sees your heart, not your marital status How divorce doesn't disqualify you from God's best  Breaking free from shame vs. conviction - knowing your true identity in Christ Practical steps to release shame and embrace who God says you are

Key Scripture: "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." - Romans 8:1 Resources Mentioned:

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The Mirror Effect: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Type of Man" Are you tired of the same relationship patterns repeating in your life?

In this powerful episode, we explore the Mirror Effect - how our past relationships reflect our internal beliefs about love, worth, and God's design for us.

 

Discover the three types of mirrors revealing your heart and learn how to break the cycle once and for all. What You'll Learn:

The biblical foundation of the Mirror Effect in relationships How to identify the three mirrors: Wound, Worth, and Wall God's three-step healing process: Recognition, Repentance, Renewal Practical steps to prepare your heart for your God-given partner

 

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Discover God's blueprint for setting healthy boundaries that honor Him and promote your healing. 🙏 What You'll Learn ✅ Why guarding your heart is a biblical command, not selfishness ✅ Practical boundaries to set with your ex-spouse, family, and yourself ✅ How to protect your heart without hardening it ✅ Signs of a guarded vs. unguarded heart during divorce ✅ How healthy boundaries affect your children and future relationships

📝 Main Scripture Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

Morning Boundary Assessment: Pray for daily heart protection guidance The "Gate Check": Evaluate conversations before engaging Evening Reflection: Journal about how boundaries helped your decisions

📚 Supporting Verses

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (Love and boundaries) Joshua 1:9 (Courage for boundaries) Acts 5:29 (When others criticize boundaries)

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5 Questions Every Christian Woman Must Ask

Ready to date after divorce? Not so fast, beautiful.

Before you swipe right or say yes to that coffee date, there are 5 crucial questions you need to honestly answer. In this episode, I share the exact questions I use with my coaching clients to determine if they're truly ready for healthy love or if they need more healing time first.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

The hidden signs you're not ready to date (even if you feel lonely) How to know if you've truly forgiven your ex and yourself The difference between emotional availability and loneliness Why your relationship patterns matter more than you think How to surrender your timeline to God's perfect timing

 

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