Explore every episode of the podcast Relationship Repair: Making Marriage Work with Kimberly Brenner MSSW your gutsy goddess

Our thought create our feeling. Rather than becoming upset with how we feel or act turn to your thoughts and beliefs for the answers.

Do you notice how lovers gaze into each other’s eyes. Could you see the flow of love? Let’s bring that back into your marriage. Listen to the entire message before you try this.

The Hug is one of the 7 conversations I teach couples It creates physical bonding and connection Try it.

When our heart is filled with resentments there’s no room for love. No matter what your partner does to show you how much they love you it won’t matter. Your heart has turned cold.

It’s not easy to change someone else especially if they can’t see what they’re doing is wrong. So what do you do?

Don’t just brush over that argument learn how you can repair it.

With 45-50% of marriages ending in divorce and more than 70% of second marriages ending in divorce are people better off divorced than finding a way to stay married ? Why is being married an Advantage? What are we looking for when we say we want to get married?

Your marriage will suck if you or your partner looks to blame or find faults. Learn how to be grateful and see the greatness in each other. Learn from my conversations that I teach. Sign up for Mt Communication Course for Couples

When you work for a business the business asks something from you. So does marriage. Are you up to meeting the asking of your marriage?

We asked a lot of questions when we dated. We wanted to get to know if this person is the one. Once married that type of questioning stops. It’s important to know your spouse and because we’re always growing and changing you need to keep asking those questions .

How to get heard by your spouse.

For years the message women were given has been You Don’t Need a Man. But this has back fired. As long as men think that a woman can do it without them they have no reason to give up being a boy. It’s time we women fix this.

Most women expect their husbands to know what they want. And if they have to tell them then it doesn’t count. Ladies, men can’t read your mind. Don’t get mad when they don’t know what you want. Learn to ask.

Laughter makes life better. Bring laughter in to your Marriage.

If you’re not fixing the problem then you’re not working on the right problem. What was your unmet expectation? What was the meaning you gave it? And Why was it a problem?

Don’t let yourself get crazy in your marriage. It happens when you believe your truth but your spouse is telling you the opposite.

When the couple waits too long to figure out why the love is fading then what a counselor gets are two people blaming each other and aren’t willing to change in order to fix things. Don’t wait that long. Get help how to communicate

Clarify the relationship you’re in. Don’t let their expectations lead to disappointment. Follow me at Be Married (FB) and Kimberly Brenner LCSW (IG)

Did you know you have a mental eco system? A system that is operating unbeknownst to your awareness. And that eco system influences how we communicate.

What my is it that my husband doesn’t talk to me? I hear him talking to other people. It makes me feel alone and that he doesn’t care. Help!

Most everyone what’s to be with someone but not everyone what’s to be a husband or wife. When you say I Do you agreed to that role but what if you’re not really ready or know how to be a wife or husband. On the past families readied their children for that role they would eventually take on. That’s not the case now. So young people have to figure it out on their own. Communication is key. This is why I created Conversations for Couples and if you need better communication in your marriage follow me on Facebook Be Married.

It’s crazy time when you first find out your spouse is cheating on you. But getting crazy makes thing worse. So stay calm and breathe. Learn the truth and then figure out what to do.

We lie to protect ourselves from a negative consequence. The pattern was established early on. But now as an adult we need to break that pattern so our spouse can trust us.

Need to learn how to talk to your spouse. Conversations for Couples Course coming soon.

If there’s one thing husbands hate it’s finding out their wife talked badly about them. Men would rather you bring your issues to them directly. And if you feel you can’t then you need better communication

Marriage is challenging enough but parenting can challenge the marriage. Learn how to communicate so you can work together as a team.

When someone tells you you’re being unreasonable the message is I’m not enough and I don’t trust the universe. It’s an opportunity to heal.

How do you change someone’s opinion of you? And what do you do when that someone is your husbands parent?

Who do you go to when your marriage is in trouble? Most people want someone to agree with them. And that advice might hurt your relationship instead of fixing it. Learn My Conversations to fix your problems because when you do you can figure out how to fix your relationship. You can get my free ebook on My Conversations at www.kimberlybrenner.com

It’s the little moments that create connection. A moment can break it and another moment can repair it. My Conversations are designed to repair restore and rebuild your relationship. Can I show you how? Contact me through my website www.kimberlybrenner.com or Facebook Be Married.

Why can’t I feel the same way as when we first got married? Why does love seem to fade? Learn My Conversations to keep love alive

Thoughts create feelings. Can you image how you’d feel about your spouse if you kept those thoughts you had when you were dating?

How we “see” our spouse may not be reality

For you ladies who wish their guy would talk more here’s how to do it.

We are all Meaning Making Machines and the meaning we give it creates our reality. But that meaning might not be true.

Control is an important part of development but if we get married which still in that phase it leads to breakdown.

Letting resentments build up will absolutely lead to divorce. Learn to dissolve them.

How fear changes our language and can hold our partner back.

When we start thinking I Don’t Care the marriage is in trouble.

Why marriage counseling fails.

How secrets can lead to more breakdowns.

Don’t screw up your marriage. Learn how Breakdowns can lead to breakthroughs.

Don’t let your marriage breakdowns lead to a loveless marriage or worse, to divorce. Learn to turn those breakdowns into breakthroughs.

Learn the communication that leads to a marriage breakdown and learn to fix it

Why we make unilateral decisions and how they create Breakdowns in your marriage.