Explore every episode of the podcast Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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| The 1% Rule: How We Learn from Relationships with Andrea Miller | 03 Sep 2024 | 00:40:21 | |
Founder and CEO of YourTango, Andrea Miller, joins Dr. Share to share the power of being a lifelong “seeker” of relational wisdom. Andrea has dedicated her life to connecting her audience with relationship experts and celebrating relational wisdom, and today, invites us into her journey of opening herself up to love’s lessons. Relevant links: | |||
| Love and Loss: Expanding Compassion as You Grieve with J.S. Park | 27 Aug 2024 | 00:47:23 | |
Loss and grief are universal and profoundly human. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a trauma that drastically shifts the trajectory of a life—each spurs a unique grieving process that can be difficult to navigate for both the people grieving and their support systems. As a chaplain at a Level One Trauma Center in Florida, J.S. Park provides emotional and spiritual care for and comfort to those experiencing grief. His support of patients at the end of their lives, and of the loved ones who remain, adds tremendous impact and compassion to his most recent book, As Long As You Need: Permission to Grieve. In this episode, J.S. shares with Dr. Alexandra what his education and experience have taught him about the “right” things to say and the ways to support grieving loved ones. He offers deeply considered insights into our misguided fear of bringing up the deceased, the impact of loss on the past and the future, and how to care for both a loved one and oneself during the grieving process. Relevant Links:
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| Mental Health and Relationships in Post-Roe America with Shefali Luthra and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin | 25 Jun 2024 | 00:56:56 | |
June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court’s decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality. Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness. Shefali and Dr. Pooja’s powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar. Relevant Links: Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali Luthra Read Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin The UCSF Turnaway Study Two years after Roe’s overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they’re harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th Connect with Shefali on X or through email Learn more about Dr. Pooja’s work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on Instagram Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||
| Love Stories: Partnership & Parenthood with Cathy & Todd Adams | 30 Aug 2022 | 01:07:42 | |
On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth. Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adams Zen Parenting Radio: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318 Zen Parenting Website: https://zenparentingradio.com/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit | |||
| Loving and Loving Again: Personal Evolution in Relationships with Mark Groves | 23 Aug 2022 | 00:47:06 | |
Mark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves. Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App: peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode: | |||
| Tuning into You: How Self-Reflection Creates Healthy Relationships with Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken | 16 Aug 2022 | 00:47:35 | |
The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way. Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App: peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet from last week's episode: | |||
| Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two) | 09 Aug 2022 | 00:44:54 | |
In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity. Listen to Part 1 of this series: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271 Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/ E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”: https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645 Mark Groves Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=en Book: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman: Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One) | 02 Aug 2022 | 00:38:17 | |
Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you. Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App: peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Love Stories: Toddcast | 28 Jun 2022 | 01:10:01 | |
Dr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way. Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App: peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Getting to Zero: Conflict & Repair with Jayson Gaddis | 21 Jun 2022 | 00:50:18 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership. The Family Institute at Northwestern University: https://www.family-institute.org/ Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis: The Relationship School: https://relationshipschool.com/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Learning to Cherish: From "You & Me" to "Us" with Terry Real | 14 Jun 2022 | 00:47:32 | |
World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more. The Family Institute at Northwestern University: https://www.family-institute.org/ Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real: Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout): https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning Dynamic | 07 Jun 2022 | 00:59:10 | |
Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced. Get the companion worksheet for this episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamic The Family Institute at Northwestern University: https://www.family-institute.org/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 “Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek: https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/ “Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017): https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/ “I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor: How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017): https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/ Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky: | |||
| Love Stories: Permission for Pleasure with Al Fine, Co-Founder & CEO of Dame Products | 31 May 2022 | 00:47:40 | |
On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition. Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout): Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Modern Masculinity: From Toxic to Communicative with Dr. Ish Major | 18 Jun 2024 | 00:54:38 | |
Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity. Relevant links: Connect with Dr. Ish online and on Instagram Watch Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon Reimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski” Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||
| Understanding Ourselves: The Challenge & Gift of Therapy with Lori Gottlieb | 24 May 2022 | 00:51:37 | |
Lori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together. Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb: "Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/ Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb & Guy Winch (podcast): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696 Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Self-Advocacy in Action: Finding Your Voice in Relationships with Nedra Tawwab | 17 May 2022 | 00:51:56 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship. Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101 Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://bookshop.org/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself/9780593192092 Nedra's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| Reaching the Summit: The Challenges & Possibilities of Modern Love with Dr. Eli Finkel | 10 May 2022 | 00:49:37 | |
Dr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Alexandra for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship. The Family Institute at Northwestern University: https://www.family-institute.org/ The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel: https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345 Dr. Eli Finkel's Website: Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: | |||
| We Need to Talk About Ghosting | 03 May 2022 | 00:59:05 | |
Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment. Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit We Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1 Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: | |||
| Love Stories: Writing Relationships with Novelist Monica Ali | 26 Apr 2022 | 00:55:38 | |
In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below). Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475 Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Monica Ali's website: https://www.monicaali.com/ | |||
| Somatic Abolitionism: Understanding Racialized Trauma Through the Body with Resmaa Menakem | 19 Apr 2022 | 00:46:33 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing. Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Resmaa's website: The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakem My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem | |||
| Relational Authenticity: How Boundaries Protect Us, and Connect Us with Terri Cole | 12 Apr 2022 | 00:49:44 | |
Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Dr. Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue. Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/ Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole: Terri’s Boundary Quiz: Terri’s website: | |||
| Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two) | 05 Apr 2022 | 01:09:00 | |
In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team. Listen to Part I of the Conflict series: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444 Get the companion worksheet for this episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skills Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Couples therapy directories: https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Domestic violence resources: | |||
| Ten Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One) | 29 Mar 2022 | 00:40:12 | |
In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team. Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout) https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds Get the companion worksheet for this episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skills Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Couples therapy directories: https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Domestic violence resources: | |||
| Relational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona Fishbane | 22 Mar 2022 | 00:50:54 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D. Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MD https://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730 The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW): https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.x Dr. Fishbane's website: | |||
| Rewrite Your Story: Healing from Trauma with Dr. Frank Anderson | 11 Jun 2024 | 00:57:58 | |
Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves. Relevant links: To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank Anderson Connect with Dr. Anderson online and on Instagram Learn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||
| Tending to Loss: What We Get Wrong About Grief with Megan Devine | 15 Mar 2022 | 00:49:05 | |
Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine: How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine: https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708 Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community: Connect with Megan: megandevine.co Here After, Megan's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505 | |||
| What Women Lose in Marriage: The Case for a Radical Awakening with Dr Shefali Tsabary | 08 Mar 2022 | 00:50:11 | |
Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by Dr. Shefali Tsabary https://bookshop.org/books/a-radical-awakening-turn-pain-into-power-embrace-your-truth-live-free/9780062985897 | |||
| "I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With Them" | 01 Mar 2022 | 00:42:36 | |
This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED): https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love?language=en Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon: | |||
| From Performance to Pleasure: A New Vision for Sexuality with Dr. Emily Nagoski | 22 Feb 2022 | 00:47:57 | |
Dr. Emily Nagoski comes on the show to talk all things sexuality and pleasure with Dr. Alexandra. They answer two listener questions together and discuss Dr. Emily's work and research around female pleasure as well as burnout and the stress cycle. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. & Amelia Nagoski, DMA https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324 Dr. Emily Nagoski's Worksheets: Sexual Temperament Questionnaire Sexual Cues Assessment Worksheet Turning Off the Offs Worksheet The Nap Ministry @thenapministry | |||
| From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel | 15 Feb 2022 | 00:52:07 | |
Dr. Dan Siegel joins Dr. Alexandra to talk about attachment theory, parenting, and healing intergenerational trauma. Dr. Siegel's work looms large in the worlds of psychology, psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology, and he has published many bestselling books, linked below. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Links to a selection of Dr. Dan Siegel's books: Mentioned in this episode: | |||
| Values & Communication: The Next Sexual Revolution with Cindy Gallop | 08 Feb 2022 | 00:46:27 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Alexandra. Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit MakeLoveNotPorn: | |||
| Can We Rebuild After Infidelity? | 01 Feb 2022 | 00:44:52 | |
Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Alexandra walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Alexandra also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below. Get the companion worksheet for this episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/trust Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit CU Boulder Infidelity Study Infidelity Around the World (The Economist) https://www.economist.com/1843/2018/01/16/infidelity-around-the-world Extramarital Affairs (Pew Research Center) https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2014/01/14/extramarital-affairs-topline/ Post-Traumatic Stress & Infidelity Study (Stress & Health) | |||
| Love Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde | 25 Jan 2022 | 01:36:28 | |
On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together. Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Books on infidelity and related topics: What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman) New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson) The State of Affairs (Esther Perel) The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk) Kristi's website: Rainier's website: | |||
| Discernment in Dating: Cutting Through the Noise with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh | 18 Jan 2022 | 00:45:38 | |
Dating is hard enough, and with so many voices offering advice, opinions, and hot takes, it can be challenging to tune in with yourself and how you really feel about a new prospect. Dr. Alexandra invites Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh on the show to answer a question from a listener who is having this exact challenge, and they discuss ways to regulate the nervous system and tune in with the body before, during, and after a date. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski: https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324 Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s website: https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/ Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s Instagram: | |||
| Reclaiming Pleasure: Trauma, Healing, & Communicating Boundaries with Holly Richmond | 11 Jan 2022 | 00:46:34 | |
Dr. Holly Richmond joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. They also answer a listener question about communicating sexual boundaries in dating situations. (CW: sexual trauma) Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Dr. Holly Richmond’s book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life: Dr. Holly Richmond’s free mini-course, “Grounding Exercises for Survivors Reclaiming Pleasure after Sexual Trauma” https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com/freeminicourse Dr. Holly Richmond’s Instagram, @drhollyrichmond https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond/ National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN) Additional resources and help lines: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship (Re-release) | 04 Jun 2024 | 01:04:51 | |
Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you. Relevant links: Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet here Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||
| Working Through Jealousy as a Couple | 04 Jan 2022 | 00:48:06 | |
In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra gets into the nitty gritty of a common relational challenge: jealousy. Addressing both the jealous individual and their partner, Dr. Alexandra illustrates how jealousy can manifest, what it says about a relationship and how couples can move through the emotion as a team. Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit Get the companion worksheet for this episode: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/jealousy Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Resources and help lines for relationship abuse and domestic abuse: The Widespread Suspicion of Opposite-Sex Friendships (The Atlantic) https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/08/mistrust-opposite-sex-friendships/596437/ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Romantic Jealousy (Psychology Today) Study: The Price of Distrust: Trust, Anxious Attachment, Jealousy, and Partner Abuse https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5380380/ Study: Romantic Attachment and Subtypes/Dimensions of Jealousy | |||
| Love Stories: Embodied Sisterhood with Drs. Lindsay & Lexie Kite | 28 Dec 2021 | 01:16:03 | |
For this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes identical twins Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite to Reimagining Love. Lindsay and Lexie received PhDs in the study of women’s body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Dr. Alexandra dives deep with the Kites to hear about their childhood growing up as identical twins, tracing how the challenges and joys of their sisterhood led them to the important work they do today and how their relationship has evolved through every stage of life. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ More Than a Body: Your Body is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Drs. Lindsay and Lexie Kite The Kites’ website: | |||
| Relocating for Love: Finding Agency in Accommodation with Vienna Pharaon | 21 Dec 2021 | 00:51:32 | |
How do we know when we are too accommodating in relationships, or not accommodating enough? Dr. Alexandra invites therapist and friend Vienna Pharaon on the show to talk about major life transitions and how they can impact our intimate partnerships. Together, they answer a question from a listener who is struggling to adjust to a new city and lifestyle, after having moved where her partner is doing his med school residency. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Vienna Pharaon’s e-course, “The Origins of You”: http://www.newyorkcouplescounseling.com/ Vienna Pharaon’s Instagram, @mindfulmft | |||
| Dating Again: Healing the Past, Embracing the Present with Elizabeth Earnshaw | 14 Dec 2021 | 00:48:43 | |
A listener question about dating after divorce spurs a fascinating discussion between Dr. Alexandra and guest expert Liz Earnshaw, a marriage and family therapist and author of the new book I Want This To Work. Liz and Dr. Alexandra offer encouragement and possibilities to this listener as he considers looking for love in this new chapter. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Referenced in this episode: Liz Earnshaw's book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age Gottman’s “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” | |||
| (Re)Gathering for the Holidays | 07 Dec 2021 | 00:55:26 | |
The holidays are upon us. How do we want to do things differently this year? Dr. Alexandra discusses how to make the most of gatherings with loved ones, from having compassionate conversations, to taking breaks, to connecting over shared memories. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Games to spark connection and conversation: Table Topics: Heads Up: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.wb.headsup&hl=en_US&gl=US Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories (Esther Perel) https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game Catch Phrase: https://www.target.com/p/ultimate-catch-phrase-game/-/A-79749959 Love Lingual: Referenced in this episode: Priya Parker in conversation with Krista Tippett: | |||
| Love Stories: Unconditional Love with Moe Ari & Sandra Brown | 30 Nov 2021 | 01:28:09 | |
In this first “Love Stories” episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down in the studio with Moe Ari and his mother, Sandra Brown. Originally assigned female at birth, Moe has used his own gender transition story to help many others discover their authentic voice and navigate the difficult journey of alignment, as a therapist and mindset coach. Moe and Sandra discuss their respective experiences of Moe’s transition, sharing the moments of realization, layers of grief, and unconditional love that allowed them to deepen their relationship through this major transformation. Subscribe to the newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Moe’s website: Moe’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveoutproud/?hl=en
Additional resources: Moe Ari on the Mark Groves Podcast | |||
| Getting Your Needs Met: Relationship Boundaries with Shadeen Francis | 23 Nov 2021 | 00:48:56 | |
Therapist Shadeen Francis joins Dr. Alexandra to respond to a listener who is interested in opening up her marriage, but is facing resistance from her partner. They use this question as a springboard to explore the topic of disclosed non-monogamy, unmet needs, mental health and communication in a long-term partnership. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Shadeen’s Website: Shadeen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis/ Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It": https://terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/
Learn more about the topics covered in this episode: The Flexibility of Female Sexuality with Wednesday Martin (The Psychology Podcast) Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern) Relationship Bill of Rights (Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux) | |||
| Dating & Dealbreakers: Lessons from Reality TV with Nick Viall | 16 Nov 2021 | 00:48:44 | |
Nick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Alexandra answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse) Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon: A Clinical Look at the Break-Up of Katie & Greg (The Viall Files): Breaking Down Marriage 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (The Viall Files): Nick's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/ | |||
| Difference as a Bridge: Cross-Cultural Love with Dr. Adia Gooden | 09 Nov 2021 | 00:43:20 | |
Dr. Alexandra is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Dr. Adia Gooden’s website: Pew: Intermarriage in the U.S. 50 Years After Loving v. Virginia: Pew: Interfaith marriage is common in U.S., particularly among the recently wed: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/06/02/interfaith-marriage/ Pew: Shared religious beliefs in marriage important to some, but not all, married Americans: | |||
| Inviting a Reluctant Partner Into Relationship Work | 02 Nov 2021 | 00:45:12 | |
When one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explores “Relational Self-Awareness Discrepancies,” sharing tools and ideas that couples can use to generate empathy and move to a place of understanding and growth when faced with this common issue. Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Gabor Mate: https://drgabormate.com/ Dr. Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/ | |||
| Money & Marriage: When One Likes to Spend and One Likes to Save with Dr. Scott Rick | 28 May 2024 | 00:51:11 | |
What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick’s research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships. Relevant links: Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott Rick Engage with Dr. Rick’s research and connect with him on Instagram and Twitter Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||
| Loving Through Crisis: How We Reconnect with Esther Perel | 26 Oct 2021 | 00:49:22 | |
How do we reconnect with our loved ones, and ourselves, during times of global crisis? On this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned psychotherapist and author Esther Perel to puzzle through this pressing question. You may recognize Esther’s voice from her celebrated TED talks, which have garnered more than 30 million views. Her bestselling books delve into topics of desire, infidelity, and sustaining mystery and excitement in long-term relationships. Together, Esther and Alexandra address a nuanced listener question about whether to move forward with a relationship that has fallen flat during the COVID-19 lockdown. They also share information about Esther’s upcoming conference, Sessions Live, which is dedicated to therapists, coaches, and other professionals who help people navigate the complexities of modern relationships. Reimagining Love listeners can get a discount on their Sessions Live ticket by using the code “reimagininglove” at checkout: https://sessions.estherperel.com/sessions-live-2021 Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/ Mentioned in this episode: Terry Real: UCSF burnout study: The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller: Adam Grant on Languishing https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_how_to_stop_languishing_and_start_finding_flow Lisa Fortuna: https://www.bumc.bu.edu/busm/profile/lisa-fortuna/ Rachel Botsman: | |||
| Trailer - Reimagining Love | 30 Sep 2021 | 00:02:51 | |
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between — a podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and award-winning author Dr. Alexandra Solomon, featuring conversations with notable guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop-culture. To join our conversation about the relationships that matter most, subscribe or follow the podcast today. (Guest voices include: Esther Perel, Nick Viall, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Dr. Adia Gooden, Shadeen Francis) Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter: | |||
| The Search for Green Flags: Ditch the Dating Myths, Not the Apps with Damona Hoffman | 21 May 2024 | 01:03:24 | |
Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy. Relevant links: F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona Hoffman Listen to Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day | |||