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This episode will change how you see conflict.

We’re talking about the proven communication patterns that destroy connection and how to replace them with healthier ones.

You’ll learn:

• the Four Horsemen (with real examples)
• how the demand–withdraw cycle keeps couples stuck
• the shocking research: negative conflict literally slows wound healing
• how your nervous system shapes your reactions (before your thoughts do)
• 3 simple questions from Jefferson Fisher that can change the next conversation

This is not about fixing the last fight.

This is about changing the next one.

If you shut down, explode, or get stuck repeating the same arguments this episode is for you.

Read our full blog post about this topic (it has all the research I mentioned in this episode):

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/11/09/the-science-of-healthy-conflict-patterns-in-couples/

Get the book The Next Conversation here

Don't miss this podcast episode to help you out with conflict:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/reflective-parenting-by-curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000735018841

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If you’ve ever wondered why you become a different version of yourself during conflict… this episode is going to change the way you see those moments forever.

I’m sitting down with psychologists and authors Rachel Samson and Dr. Jessie Stern to unpack the science beneath conflict: your attachment history, your temperament, your nervous system sensitivity, and how all of this shapes the way you argue, withdraw, pursue, or shut down.

This episode is not about “how to argue better.”
It’s about understanding why you show up the way you do in the first place.

You’ll learn why some of us chase repair desperately…
why others shut down to survive the moment…
and why conflict can feel like it happens faster than your ability to think.

We also talk about emotional flooding and the moment when your nervous system takes over the conversation before your communication skills even get a chance.

And if you are a parent, you will hear how this shows up not only with your partner but also with your child and what you can do starting today to interrupt the cycle.

You will walk away from this episode with clarity, hope, and self compassion because conflict is not just about skills.
It is about state.

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I am going to be taking a short break. 

Meanwhile, enjoy this replay of one of my favourite episodes with Dr. Mona Delahooke. If you have a young child that has tantrums or that acts out in ways you don't know how to support, this episode will help you understand how to support your child in these challenging moments. 

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https://monadelahooke.com/

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Ever wondered why your toddler's tantrums seem uncontrollable or why your teenager is always sulking? Is it a sign of underlying distress, or a normal part of growing up? These questions and more are answered in this episode where we welcome developmental psychologist, Dr. Amanda Sheffield Morris. She helps us unlock the mysteries of emotional regulation in children, emphasizing the crucial role it plays in their overall health and well-being. We also delve into the intricacies of the parent-child relationship, discussing how it changes as your child progresses through different stages of life. And to top it all off, Dr. Morris shares some practical nuggets from her new book, "Raising a Resilient Child."

But it's not just about the kids. Parents, we're in this too! Our inner world affects our outer reactions, especially when it comes to managing our child's emotions. How we regulate our own emotions can significantly impact our children's emotional development. We're not perfect – and we're not expected to be – but understanding our emotional triggers can help us respond more effectively to our children's needs. In this episode, we also navigate the tumultuous waters of emotions like anger, sadness, worry, and anxiety. We provide tips on how parents can set routines and rituals that support emotional regulation and offer insights into the importance of patience and understanding, especially during the early stages of your child's life.

Towards the end of our discussion, we dive deeper into the world of emotional well-being in parenting. Dr. Morris introduces the concept of "shark music" – the scripts and patterns we have in our minds when it comes to parenting – and how this affects our interactions with our children.

Amanda's Book is out now! Raising a Resilient Child in a World of Adversity: Effective Parenting for Every Family
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Publications:
Parents’ adverse childhood experiences and current relationships with their young children

Parent and Peer Emotion Responsivity Styles: An Extension of Gottman’s Emotion Socialization Parenting Typologies

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From my personal encounters with teaching empathy to my six and eight-year-old to sparking young minds' curiosity for neuroscience, this episode has a lot to offer. I'll share how a Nintendo dispute became a perfect opportunity to teach my kids the power of perspective taking in arguments and the crucial role of empathy in conflict resolution. It's a lesson that goes beyond parenthood – it's fundamentally about understanding and communicating with each other. 

The importance of parental mental health is often underappreciated, and that's what we'll be delving into in the later half of our episode. As a community, we ought to acknowledge the emotional and mental toll parenting can take and work together to provide the support needed. I encourage you to help us understand better what parents need to maintain their mental and emotional wellbeing by providing your input. Let's wrap up the week with a meaningful discussion about empathy, perspective, and mental health. Here's to a positive end to the week and a wonderful week ahead!

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Many parents with neurodivergent children have told me that parenting advice they read early helps them support their child. With the help of renowned neuropsychologist Dr. Julie Scorah, explore the unique challenges often faced by neurodivergent children. 

We'll talk about the need to plan ahead to prevent stress, the significance of responding over reacting, and the importance of teaching your child coping skills in their calm moments. We'll also touch upon proactive strategies like relaxation techniques and utilizing sensory breaks and social stories. With Dr. Scorah's expertise and our collective experiences, we aim to navigate you through these troubled waters with patience and understanding.

In this final section, we'll explore the impact of neurodiversity on children's social skills and behavior. We'll underline the importance of teaching neurodivergent children alternative means of communication, which can lead to a marked improvement in their behavior over time. Moreover, we'll discuss the societal pressure on children to be social and share some strategies to support their social development in a manageable and beneficial way.  So, join us on this enlightening journey and let's learn together.

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Today, we unravel the profound effects of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and the potential consequences of parental burnout and stress. It's time to break intergenerational cycles for the well-being of future generations. I'll be sharing the latest eye-opening research and statistics.

Neglect, abuse, divorce, parental incarceration, these adversities can lead to chronic illness and mental health issues later in life. It's crucial to scrutinize the negative impacts of spanking and shaming while cultivating a positive home environment. Remember, our children's well-being starts with us.

Lastly, we'll dive into the essence of reflection and how it contributes to nurturing parental well-being.

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Sources: 

https://vetoviolence.cdc.gov/apps/aces-infographic/

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2516103220967937

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8205446/

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Ever felt like you're drowning in the deep end of parenthood, with the overwhelming demands of child-rearing overshadowing your own needs? I've got you! This week, I chatted with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. She sheds light on the delicate balance of meeting the needs of your family while honoring your own. We take a frank and honest look at the emotional milieu of motherhood, unpacking expectations, and the importance of self-care, all while discussing Dr. Cutlip's riveting new book "Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself."

We offer insights on overcoming defensiveness, different worldviews, and role expectations to help navigate the mental load of parenting with your partner. Join us!

About our guest:
Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD in Psychology and highly sought-after relationship expert, knows what it feels like to lose yourself in motherhood, and she’s determined to help mothers navigate it better.

Her book:  Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself
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Wondering why your two-year-old is not keen on sharing toys with their playmates? I have a reel that is about to hit 4 MILLION views...and it's about sharing. Many people don't agree with my post so today's episode is all about understanding child development and sharing - a concept that genuinely blossoms around the age of four.  Let's unravel the misconceptions and shed light on the research behind this fascinating aspect of child growth.

Developing pro-social behavior in children is an art. And the canvas - relationships! Yes, kids are more likely to share with people they're familiar with. But how can we, as parents and educators, encourage these skills? Let's get practical as we discuss everything from how to inspire your child to pass on their balloon to their best bud, to sharing a yummy cookie with grandma. We explore the importance of patience, understanding, and excellent guidance in nurturing these essential life skills.

Play, the universal language of children, is our secret weapon. We dive into how play can teach children about sharing, mine vs. yours, patience, and even conflict resolution. The episode wraps up with some love for our wonderful listeners, emphasizing how much we appreciate your ratings and reviews. We hope to continue delivering insightful episodes and wish you a beautiful week ahead! Don't miss out on this enlightening journey into the world of child development and sharing.

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Sources:

 https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxdAEjzOVua/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Mine or Yours? Development of Sharing in Toddlers in Relation to Ownership Understanding HERE

The development of recipient-dependent sharing behavior and sharing expectations in preschool children HERE

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Growing up, I was no stranger to criticism. Now, as an adult, I can't help but notice its lingering effects on my self-esteem, my internal narrative, and my motivation. For better or worse, that criticism has shaped me. In this episode, we explore how a critical environment can influence marriages and parenting. We unpack the early warning signs that criticism could signal in marriages, and draw parallels with our relationships with our children.

Moving into the second half, we shift our focus to communication with our children. The weight of criticism is heavy on their growing shoulders. It can knock their self-esteem down, and shape their inner voice, sometimes in damaging ways. It's a balance we have to strike - maintaining firmness without sacrificing warmth and sensitivity. Listen in as we delve into the power and potential of language. We discuss how our words can inspire our children, rather than criticize them, and how we can foster their growth, instead of stifling it. This episode is not just about the impact of criticism; it's a conversation about resilience, nurturing positive relationships, and the immeasurable power we hold as parents.

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Curious Neuron Podcast Episode about negotiation:
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000618304723

Sources:
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman HERE

Parental behavioural control in adolescence: How does it affect self-esteem and self-criticism? HERE

How to Make Repair Attempts So Your Partner Feels Loved HERE

Parents’ Use of Praise and Criticism in a Sample of Young Children Seeking Mental Health Services HERE

Family Emotional Processes and Adolescents' Adjustment HERE

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Everything you need to know about your child's temperament!  Concetta Ferretti brings a unique perspective to parenting and child development. As we delve into the complexities of temperament, Concetta brilliantly dissects its genetic and environmental influences, and its transformative relationship with personality.

As parents, it's crucial to understand how temperament impacts a child's sensitivity and overall growth. Concetta sheds light on why children with more challenging temperaments may be more susceptible to negative environments, and how they can truly flourish under positive parenting. With an exploration of the science of high brain plasticity, she reveals its evolutionary implications, its potential as both a strength and vulnerability, and the pivotal role parents play in shaping their child's brain development.

This enlightening chat is a goldmine for parents grappling with the challenges of raising a highly sensitive child. The conversation traverses societal pressures to conform, the importance of acknowledging our children's inherent sensitivities, and valuable strategies to transition from survival mode to a thriving environment. Concetta also discusses the power of repair in relationships, offering hope that our mistakes don't define us, and reminding us that our actions shape our identities. So, tune in for a conversation that leaves you better equipped, inspired, and empowered to embrace the parenting journey.

Sources:

Concetta's Instagram: @the.stressed.species
https://www.instagram.com/the.stressed.species/

The influence of temperament and mothering on attachment and exploration: an experimental manipulation of sensitive responsiveness among lower-class mothers with irritable infants:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7982362/

Biological sensitivity to context: I. An evolutionary-developmental theory of the origins and functions of stress reactivity:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16761546/

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Relating to your child's fear or shyness can be disheartening and challenging. I vividly remember the time when my 3-year-old daughter was hesitant to join a community center due to fear. This episode shares the journey we embarked on to help her face her fears and build resilience. 

We break down strategies such as acknowledging the fear instead of dismissing it, breaking tasks into smaller manageable steps, and empowering children to explore their feelings. We touch on the valuable teachings from 'Emotional Agility' by Dr. Susan David that can help children gain emotional agility and learn to respond effectively to their fears.

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Ever wondered how to weave mindfulness into the bustling tapestry of your everyday life? Prepare to discover new threads of wisdom with our special guest, Tatianna, an experienced physiotherapist with a particular knack for connecting the dots between mental and physical well-being. Together, we poke at the curious interplay of mindfulness and our bodies, unearthing the profound impacts of achievable daily practices.

Fascinatingly, as Tatianna shines a light on mindful movement, it becomes evident that even amid the whirlwind of our lives, there's always room for a quick XYZ spine exercise to maximize the benefits of movement. Tatiana's expertise extends into the realm of self-awareness, painting a vivid picture of how mindfulness can recalibrate our nervous systems and dial down our stress levels. She champions the power of journaling as a tool for accountability, a testament to her commitment to nurturing a balance in both our mental and physical facets.

As we drift into the calming realm of mindful breathing, Tatianna unveils the power behind this practice in stress reduction and regulation of our nervous systems. She shares valuable techniques, such as focusing on the three-part breath and using one hand on the heart and one hand on the belly.

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About Tatianna: 
Tatianna is the founder of The Move With Ease Method, is a comprehensive 12-week transformational program that helps women overcome feeling stuck in their bodies, with pain, stress and tension, to feeling confident and free in their own bodies.  She's passionate about helping women set themselves up for success in the second half of life so that they can enjoy all of life's activities and joys, and be able to show up the way they want as a mom, as a spouse, a boss, an athlete, an employee, a friend, a caregiver, and anything else!  The Move With Ease Method helps women achieve this success all through the convenience of online coaching and content. 

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Is your child ready for kindergarten from an emotional perspective?

In this episode, Cindy discusses the emotional aspects of kindergarten readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional intelligence and self-awareness in children. She introduces the tripartite model of parental socialization, which highlights how parents' emotional coping, parenting styles, and conflict resolution impact children's emotional development. The conversation also covers practical strategies for parents to support their children's emotional growth and prepare them for school.

Takeaways

• Kindergarten readiness involves emotional preparation, not just academic skills.
• Self-awareness is crucial for coping with emotions.
• Parents should model emotional regulation for their children.
• Understanding triggers helps children manage their emotions better.
• Emotional intelligence is built through conversations about feelings.
• Expecting children to be emotionally perfect is unrealistic.
• Parental emotional coping styles influence children's behavior.
• Setting boundaries while being sensitive is key in parenting.
• Conflict resolution in the home teaches children about emotions.
• Curiosity and relationship-building are essential for school readiness.

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Ever wondered what it takes to shift gears from pursuing a PhD in neuroscience to the demanding commitment of homeschooling? Well, today, your host Cindy Hovington opens up about her intriguing life journey, sharing the valuable lessons she's learned along the way. In this riveting conversation, I recount how I've learned to trust my gut, embrace failure, and never neglect self-care. We'll discuss my conscious decision to prioritize privacy by avoiding the exposure of my children's identities on social media. 

Delve deeper into the intricacies of mental health, as I share my personal insights about the profound impact emotional well-being can have on us and our parenting. Hear about my own experiences and learn how understanding our emotions can have a profound effect on our children's emotional and mental health. Also, I share my thoughts on the therapeutic benefits of journaling, and how making time for joy can positively influence our lives. We'll also go through some insightful questions about parenting from our online followers. Listen in for an enlightening exploration of my life lessons and join me in making joy a priority this week.

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Ever wondered how your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your parenting? Prepare to gain a deeper understanding of your own emotional triggers and responses as we delve into the complexities of parenting with clinical psychologist Dr. Sarah Bren. This episode is a masterclass in mindful parenting, giving you insights and practical tools to help you respond better to your child's behavior. 

We tackle the all-important subject of parental triggers, exploring how understanding our vulnerabilities and personal history can help us better interpret our child's behavior. Learn to recognize your feelings and urges in the moment and practice the skills to manage them effectively. We assure you, this isn't about achieving parental perfection but gaining understanding and awareness that leads to a more effective response. 

By the end, you'll understand why following the 'rules' of parenting isn't enough. It's about understanding yourself to become a more mindful and effective parent. Join us and Dr. Sarah Bren on this insightful journey into the heart of parenting.

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Do you know the power of your own mind and how journaling can unlock that potential? Let's embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth. This episode is a deep dive into the transformative power of journaling, an instrumental tool in shaping thoughts and managing anxieties. We explore how journaling helps in understanding oneself better and how it can be used to tackle everyday issues. It is a candid conversation about the journey of self-reflection, learning and understanding propelled by journaling. 

But we don't stop there. We broaden the conversation to focus on the realm of parenting. We explore reflective parenting, asking hard questions about our roles as parents. We talk about how to communicate with kids effectively, teaching them to criticize constructively, and fostering an environment where they feel loved and valued. We delve into the significance of instilling our values in our kids and the importance of quality time. This episode wraps up with a thought-provoking discussion on the power of values in parenting and the impact of reflective journaling. Prepare to be inspired, challenged, and enlightened.

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Why do some struggle so much with their relationship after having kids? Has your relationship changed?  Tune in for some marriage advice in today's episode!

As an experienced clinical psychologist and couples therapist, our guest Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares marriage advice about the complexities of relationships post-parenthood. In her new book "I Didn't Sign Up for This", she uncovers the harsh reality that 67% of couples experience a decrease in relationship satisfaction after having a baby. We dig deep into this topic, exploring the negative cycles that trap partners and the strategies available to break free and foster healthier relationships.

Drawing from the research of Drs John and Julie Gottman and Dr Sue Johnson, we identify four destructive communication patterns often seen in strained relationships. But knowing is only half the battle. How do we turn this knowledge into actionable steps? Dr. Dalgleish provides invaluable insights into recognizing our own attachment styles, understanding how our past experiences shape our coping mechanisms, and how to navigate the delicate balance of intimacy and autonomy in relationships.

Finally, we tackle the tricky world of relationship labels, emotional regulation and the impact of parental disagreements on children. Dr. Dalgleish emphasizes the importance of respectful communication and the valuable role of repairing connections.

Get her book I Didn't Sign Up for This (out on September 12th, 2023!):
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Ever wondered how emotional intelligence impacts our lives? Can understanding your own emotions positively influence your relationships and success? This episode invites you on a journey of self-exploration, examining emotional intelligence and its profound effects on our well-being. With the guidance of two remarkable books - Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goldman and Emotional Agility by Dr. Susan David, we'll demystify this often misunderstood concept and how it shapes our every day.

We delve into the significance of self-awareness, a vital aspect of emotional intelligence. Honing your emotional agility is all about 'showing up' - acknowledging, accepting, and being mindful of our emotions. We discuss the crucial 'step out' concept, inviting you to create a healthy distance between yourself and your emotions. This episode introduces the practice of journaling, a powerful tool to gain perspective and understanding of our emotions.

As we navigate the path of emotional intelligence, we also spotlight the development of coping skills. We draw upon Dr. Susan David's concept of 'Walking Your Why', a strategy to align actions with core values and long-term goals, and how understanding these values can help manage emotional triggers. We conclude the episode with an invitation - to you, our listeners, to share your topic suggestions. If there's a particular topic you'd like us to discuss, we're all ears! Let's connect on Instagram at cures underscore neuron. Remember, emotional intelligence is not a destination, but a journey. So, let's begin this journey together. Tune in, learn, connect and grow with us.

Resources:
https://jamesclear.com/core-values

Amazon (Canada):
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

Emotional Agility by Susan David

Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett 

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Get ready to discover how media shapes our children's perception of the world in our insightful conversation with Kim and Adriana, leading voices in children's media. We delve deeper into how children's media, while entertaining, can also be a powerful tool to support their learning and social skills. With these experts, we unpack the importance of diversity and inclusivity in children's media - from South Asian representation to Indigenous characters, and 2SLGBTQ characters - and the conscious efforts to bridge the gap between content creators and academia.

Did you ever wonder how the process of creating kids' shows ensures that children's experiences are accurately represented on screen? Kim and Adriana reveal the fascinating behind-the-scenes look at the making of children's media. We touch on the importance of having diverse and authentic voices behind the scenes and the intricate process of creating content that resonates with kids. Plus, we examine the unconscious biases that may influence gender representation in STEM characters!

As we navigate our way around the children's media landscape, Kim and Adriana share their tips on media literacy and how parents can initiate meaningful conversations with their children about inclusivity and difference. We learn about the powerful impact of media representation on children and how it shapes their understanding of the world around them. We wrap up by exploring the importance of testing in children's media, revealing how user testing helps create content that both kids and parents enjoy. Tune in to this enlightening conversation, and let's use media as a tool for education and sparking meaningful conversations with our children.

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What if the arguments you have in front of your children are shaping their future emotional well-being? That's what we're tackling in today's episode with the help of some intriguing science and my background in neuroscience and parenting. We go beyond the surface-level understanding, exploring how even a young child's heart rate can increase and their fight or flight response can be triggered by loud, intense arguments. It's a fascinating discussion that uncovers the significant impact of our behaviors as parents.

We don't just discuss the problem, but we also jump into the solution. We delve into three vital aspects: respect, emotion regulation, and repair, which can make a difference when disagreements happen. With a nod to the insightful work of Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of "I Didn't Sign Up for This," we share resources and tools to help you have healthier arguments and model positive behavior for your children. We emphasize the power of connection and the importance of seeking professional help if needed. This conversation is an essential one for every parent, offering valuable insights into our influence on our children's emotional health and our relationship with them.

Sources:
https://www.jwatch.org/jp201305240000001/2013/05/24/do-sleeping-babies-react-parental-arguments

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-019-01380-1

https://www.curiousneuron.com/blog/2016/8/23/why-we-should-all-learn-to-refrain-from-arguing-in-front-of-a-baby

Resources:

https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/

https://www.gottman.com/

https://www.drtracyd.com/

https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute/

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-moms/

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A parent asked me "Is screen time messing up my child?" and I thought it would be important to address this in a podcast episode. 

We've all had those moments of guilt, especially around screen time. Well, it's time to say goodbye to that guilt! This episode encourages you to establish clear screen time boundaries and involve your kids in the process, whether it's by designing a visual schedule with Canva or deciding on activities to enjoy as a family. You'll learn how devoting intentional time to your kids, devoid of screens, can drastically improve your relationship. 

So, tune in and let's embark on this enlightening journey together!

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Ever wondered why your child's emotional outbursts seem to trigger your own? It's time to break free from this exhaustive cycle! We're unravelling the wisdom behind Dr. Susan David's 'Emotional Agility'. This episode shifts the focus from managing our children's emotions to assisting them in emotional regulation - it's all about creating a constructive pause or space between a child's action and our reaction.

Let's dive into the heart of emotional agility and explore the profound impact our emotions have on our reactions to our children's behavior. Discover the power of validating our own feelings, reframing our limiting beliefs into facts, and the magic of engaging with our children through activities like storytelling. This journey is about empowering you to help your children feel seen, heard, and validated. Buckle up for an insightful episode that not only explores the science behind emotional agility but also equips you with practical tools to assist you on this extraordinary parenting voyage.

Read the article and get the free PDF by clicking the link below:
https://www.curiousneuron.com/blog/2023/7/31/responding-rather-than-reacting-to-your-childs-behavior-is-about-your-ability-to-cope-with-emotions

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Drawing from my grandmother's experiences wrangling with dementia, I share five crucial life lessons on being present, practicing self-care, speaking your truth, forgiveness, and generosity with time. 

These teachings provide a pathway towards a fulfilling life and a positive influence on our children. Through a thoughtful exploration of family dynamics, we delve into the often-ignored need to truly understand our children beyond the material gifts and the impact of childhood trauma lasting into old age.

Don't miss these 5 important lessons!

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In this episode, we explore the idea of “shifting your lens” — a powerful metaphor grounded in science that helps parents understand how their interpretation of a situation shapes their emotional response. Drawing on the work of psychologist James Gross and his research on cognitive reappraisal, we break down how the lens you’re wearing (like blame, control, or shame) can fuel conflict and dysregulation, especially in moments of parenting stress.

You’ll learn how to identify the lens you’re in, how to shift your lens to something more helpful (like curiosity or compassion), and how this shift not only supports your own regulation but also helps you model emotional intelligence for your child. Real-life parenting examples, practical tips, and reflection prompts will help you bring this tool into everyday moments even when things get messy.

Read our blog post here:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/08/03/how-to-shift-your-lens-and-stay-calm-in-parenting-conflicts/

Read a science article:

For Whom and What Does Cognitive Reappraisal Help? A Prospective

Study

Watch it on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/TOURlBqtmIc

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Welcome to a deeply personal journey, where I open the doors to my home and share a heartfelt practice that has transformed our lives. 

This episode is an open book, revealing how urging positive reflection in children can heighten their emotional articulation and deepen their connections. 

Listen to the steps I took to help my child shift his perspective from the "bad moments" to the brighter side of life. Discover the importance of mindful communication about our day and the art of turning a bad moment into a not-so-bad one. Join this enlightening conversation and absorb real-life, practical tips on bringing the tenets of science into your home and sprinkling positivity into your children's lives.

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Ready to embark on a journey of personal growth and self-discovery? Brace yourselves for a deep and insightful conversation with the esteemed Andrea Navedo, famed for her role as Jane's mother in the hit show Jane the Virgin and author of The Otherness Is Our Strength. Andrea and I delve into her values of connection and growth, and discuss how these principles have shaped her personal journey and acting career.

Have you ever wondered about the struggles single moms face and how they cope with it? Hear, as Andrea candidly shares her experiences of becoming a single mother, redefining her parenting style, and using her personal growth to guide her children. Our discussion also touches upon the significance of setting boundaries and self-care, lessons she learnt from her own experiences with bullying and an abusive relationship.

Andrea shares how Steven Pressfield's book, The War of Art, has been instrumental in her life, aiding her to conquer creative blocks and strive for excellence in all life facets. We also delve into the power of self-discipline, caring for oneself, and creativity in nurturing connection and growth. Through all these insights, Andrea Navedo's journey and experiences are sure to leave you feeling empowered and inspired. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation!

Resources:

You can purchase her book The Otherness is our Strength:
Amazon in the US
Amazon in Canada

Visit her website:
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Join me on an eye-opening journey as we confront an issue that's often left in the shadows - parental child maltreatment, and the risks surrounding it. Promise me you won't shy away from this uncomfortable conversation, as we aim to shed light on the importance of emotional regulation. We're not pointing fingers here, but acknowledging the powerful role of our own emotions, and learning how to better regulate them to construct a secure and nurturing milieu for our children.

We're diving headfirst into a recent Italian study that highlights the specific dimensions of emotion dysregulation among parents, and how they can predict maltreatment. It's no secret dads tend to struggle in identifying their emotions, while moms often find themselves suppressing their emotions. Remember, it's okay to feel, and it's essential to express. So, here's to starting conversations, to promoting emotional awareness, and to creating environments where our children can thrive. Join me, won't you?


Read the article here:
https://www.curiousneuron.com/blog/2023/7/6/understanding-the-risk-factors-of-parental-child-maltreatment-exploring-emotion-regulation-deficits


Books (links are for amazon.com):

Permission to Feel by Mark Brackett

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

Self-compassion by Kristen Neff. Ph.D.

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Do you ever feel like your relationship takes a backseat once kids come into the picture? I'm Cindy Hovington, and I promise you, by the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with the tools to ensure your relationship doesn't falter while you're navigating parenthood.

With the insights shared by our esteemed guests,Rachel and Stacey, two licensed marriage and family therapists from Decoding Couples, you'll learn how to regulate emotions, handle heated conversations and model these behaviors for your children. We also discuss how to maintain a solid connection with your partner during challenging times like a pandemic.

As the conversation unfolds, we journey into uncharted territories of relationship communication and emotional intelligence. Our experts share valuable advice on ensuring respect during disagreements, the pivotal role of accountability, and offer a lifeline to repair communication when it seems irreparable. But what about listening? Often overlooked, we discuss the power of effective listening and the benefits of nurturing a 'we' mindset in parenting.

In the final part of our discussion, we tackle the tough stuff - unhealthy relationships, signs of an abusive relationship, dealing with narcissism, and navigating through a divorce. We provide strategies to ensure children aren't negatively affected by a divorce and wrap up with valuable advice on maintaining a healthy relationship, particularly when transitioning from a two-parent household to a single-parent home. So buckle up for an enlightening journey on striking the perfect equilibrium between parenting and keeping your relationship robust and healthy.

Learn more from Rachel and Stacey:
https://www.decodingcouples.com/

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https://www.decodingcouples.com/podcast

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Can parenting advice be found in a book about negotiation? Surprisingly, the answer is yes! As I recently explored the book Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss, I discovered that the lessons I gained from this read not only improved my business negotiation skills but also offered valuable insights into parenting. Join me in this enlightening episode that will change your perspective on parenting conversations, arguments, and even interactions with your partner.

Being attuned to emotions is essential in both negotiation and parenting. Today, we discuss the power of empathy, inspired by Dr. Marc Brackett's book Permission to Feel, and its role in understanding our children's emotions. Learn how emotional awareness and labelling emotions can lead to more effective communication and better parenting. This conversation will undoubtedly transform the way you approach communication in both your personal and professional life. Don't miss it!


Never split the difference book:
https://amzn.to/3JvDcoB

Permission to feel book:
https://amzn.to/42WeBQy

Research study:
What to Teach Parents to Reduce Disruptive Child Behavior: Two Meta-Analyses of Parenting Program Components
https://ora.ox.ac.uk/objects/uuid:7c3ad0a2-b215-4d45-9509-4ad724cd77c6/download_file?safe_filename=2019%2BLeijten%2Bet%2Bal_accepted_JAACAP_what%2Bto%2Bteach%2Bparents%2Bto%2Breduce%2Bdisruptive%2Bchild%2Bbehavior.pdf&file_format=application%2Fpdf&type_of_work=Journal+article

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How can we better support dads in their crucial roles during prenatal and postpartum stages, and why is it so vital to address their mental health?

Join us as we explore this essential topic with Dr. Deborah Da Costa, a researcher at McGill University, and my guest co-host, Travis Goodman, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and returning guest and father. Together, we aim to break the stigma surrounding dads in mental health and shed light on the importance of open, compassionate conversations.

We'll discuss the impact of men's mental health on the family dynamic and the potential benefits of engaging dads in mental health conversations. Our conversation also covers the importance of paternity leave, the varying policies across Canada and the US, and the effects of maternal gatekeeping on fathers' mental health. Dr. Da Costa shares her insights on the lack of resources available for fathers, while Travis provides his invaluable perspective as a dad and family therapist.

You will also learn more about Dr. Da Costa's new research study, Fathers Matter, where scientists are trying to better understand fathers’ involvement in pregnancy and develop resources to help with the transition to parenthood. They are currently recruiting (please see the link below).

In this eye-opening conversation, we advocate for greater acceptance and support for men's mental health issues, including tailored resources and community programs. We address the lack of funding for initiatives to support men's mental health and stress the importance of recognizing fathers in the prenatal and postpartum stages. By challenging the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality, we aim to dismantle the narrative of failure that may prevent men and fathers from seeking the help they need. Don't miss this vital discussion on the role of dads in parenting and mental health!

The Da Costa Lab is currently recruiting couples having their first baby in order to learn more about fathers’ involvement in pregnancy and early parenthood.
Learn more:
https://fathersmatter.ca/

Join Dr. Da Costa on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dacosta_lab_ri_muhc/

Learn more about Travis Goodman:
https://www.therapy4dads.com/about

Listen to Travis's podcast (Therapy4dads) on Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/therapy4dads/id1569718711

Resources:
Dads Get Sad Too: Depressive Symptoms and Associated Factors in Expectant First-Time Fathers:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1557988315606963

HealthyDads.ca: What Do Men Want in a Website Designed to Promote Emotional Wellness and Healthy Behaviors During the Transition to Parenthood?

https://www.jmir.org/2017/10/e325/

A prospective study of post

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Are you unknowingly fostering unhealthy food relationships in your household? Join us as we chat with Evelyn Tribole, co-author of Intuitive Eating, to discover how to nurture a healthy relationship with food for ourselves and our kids, and break free from the detrimental diet culture that can creep into our homes.

Unintentionally, parents may contribute to the restriction of their kids' eating, causing more harm than good. In this episode, we delve into the intuitive eating framework, which relies on our body's internal wisdom. Evelyn shares valuable insights on setting boundaries and fostering a safe space for teen food relationships, emphasizing the importance of mental health and making peace with food.

Don't miss this enlightening conversation as we also discuss understanding our body's biology and its role in our eating behaviors. Learn how to create a loving environment at home and have respectful conversations about food with family members. Tune in and empower your family with a healthy and intuitive relationship with food.

Resources:
https://www.evelyntribole.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-4th-Anti-Diet-Revolutionary/dp/1250255198/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2XYJ62NWHDJGB&keywords=intuitive+eating&qid=1686543696&sprefix=intuitive+eating%2Caps%2C106&sr=8-1

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1471015318302046

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Ever find yourself stuck in a spiral of what-if thoughts, unable to shake off the anxiety that accompanies them? I've been there, and so have my kids. Let me share with you a powerful conversation I had with them that helped us all better understand and manage our emotions. Listen in as we explore techniques for letting go of these thoughts, such as talking to someone or writing them down, to gain emotional awareness and keep our worries from taking over our lives.

You're not alone if you've struggled with anxiety – I've personally experienced postpartum anxiety and learned the value of journaling and self-talk in processing my emotions. Join me as we discuss how to help our children identify and cope with their feelings, equipping them with the tools they need to navigate their emotions and foster emotional awareness. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from my experiences and adopt new strategies for managing anxiety in both yourself and your children.

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Can you predict your child's attachment style before they're even born? Join us as we unravel the fascinating world of pregnancy, attachment, and mental health with our special guests Drs. Shalaka and Allison. As Shalaka shares her research on predicting attachment through biological predictors and exposure to prenatal and postnatal stress, Allison offers her expertise as a doctor specializing in internal medicine, cardiology, nephrology, and obstetrical medicine.

Together, we debunk myths surrounding pregnancy and gender predictions while emphasizing the importance of evidence-based information when it comes to lifestyle during pregnancy. We also discuss the uncomfortable experience of having strangers touch your belly while pregnant and explore the need for more conversations about pregnancy and childbirth in our society. Our guests also touch on the crucial role community support plays for new parents and the cultural expectations often placed on mothers.

Don't miss out on this engaging discussion about the significance of reflection during pregnancy and the need to focus on both our children's individual needs and our own mental health and stability. Learn about the research surrounding attachment and the importance of recurrent interactions between children and their caregivers, and how Shalaka and Allison's Growing Facts Podcast is helping to create much-needed conversations around pregnancy and parenting.

About our guests:

Hosts of The Growing Facts Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/growing-facts-podcast/id1651492535

Shalaka earned her Ph.D. in child psychology at McGill University. Her thesis is on the influence of maternal prenatal stress, child genetics, and parenting on the development of attachment in children. 

She has completed her clinical residency in Victoria, B.C. She is a registered psychologist and sees children and families in her clinical practice in Montreal. 

During the course of this podcast, she shares her journey to successfully conceiving a child through IVF. She lives with her two cats, Tonks and Remus, and her husband.

Alyson is an internal medicine specialist in Victoriaville, Quebec. She went to medical school at McGill and then did her residency at the Université de Montréal. She has a particular interest in obstetrical medecine, which focuses on illnesses in the pregnant woman, and is involved in the GEMOQ (Groupe d’Étude en Médecine Obstétrical du Québec) as an administrator. 

She is currently living in Victoriaville with her partner, their huge dog ‘Buck’, and her newborn twins!

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Let's talk about both euphoric moments in parenting and rage moments.

I did something very "out of the box" with my kids this weekend and I wanted to share it with you so that you can give it a try too.

Also, I have been talking a lot about "mom rage" online these past 2 weeks but let's get into the science and create a game plan to help you out if this is something you are experiencing.

I hope you enjoy this episode!

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Are you following positive parenting but your partner is more authoritarian? 

This is a common question I receive from parents and so in today's episode, I share a study that was fascinating to me. 

In this solo episode, I talk about how you can address parenting differences with your partner without making them feel bad, I chat about the different parenting style and I answer the question of what the long-term impacts are to having different parenting styles. 

Source: Differences in perceived parenting style between mothers and fathers: Implications for child outcomes and marital conflict.

Read a blog post about this study on our website:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/07/28/can-parenting-style-differences-hurt-your-child-heres-what-the-science-says/

Watch on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/wpl1LkhK4B4?si=AfrHaOtasFd2529q

Listen to this podcast to learn more about parenting styles:

Nurturing a secure attachment with reflection skills

The Science of Modern Parenting

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In today’s episode we are joined for a second time by Susie Allison, M. Ed., a former teacher and creator of Busy Toddler.

• What did Susie post that instigated this conversation?
• Why did Susie make the reel?
• What is the real definition of “social skills”
• How exactly can a parent teach a child social skills?
• How can parents intentionally model emotion regulation skills?
• How and when can a parent teach conflict resolution to their child?
• Are all social skills mostly learned in school?

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Resources:
Development of social skills in children: neural and behavioral evidence for the elaboration of cognitive models

Face it or hide it: parental socialization of reappraisal and response suppression

The Role of the Family Context in the Development of Emotion Regulation

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In today’s episode we are joined by Tarah Schwartz, Canadian journalist and author of Can’t Help Falling - A Long Road to Motherhood.

• Why did Tarah write this book?
• Should you mention anything when you know someone had a pregnancy loss?
• When should you go back to work after a pregnancy loss?
• Are there any local support groups that were helpful?
• What can you do to support the non-pregnant parent after a pregnancy loss?
• How does adoption actually work?
• Was it hard writing the book or part of Tarah’s healing?
• Has a community grown from the book?
• Who’s the book for?

You can join Tarah through her website: https://tarahschwartz.ca/

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In today's solo episode, I chat about a 3 day weekend I had my family and extended family.

By the time it was over,  I had some body discomfort and I couldn't figure out why. The weekend had gone fairly well but I did hold back from saying a few things to my mom. Whenever I do express frustration or anger,  it almost ALWAYS becomes about her.

The weekend I attended was a special occasion and I didn't want to get into an argument with her so I kept my feelings to myself...only to feel physically ill by the end of the weekend for the amount of bottled-up emotions I had.

Can you relate? Listen to this episode to learn more! 

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In today’s episode we are joined by Karl Mercuri a Social-Emotional Learning Consultant and Coach based in Montreal, Canada

3:56 - Who is Karl Mercuri?

6:06 - The increase of complaints from school about child behavior changes since the pandemic, isn’t about behavior… it’s about missing social skills.

8:53 - Do all schools implement social emotional learning programs?

11:00 - What exactly is SEL: Social emotional learning?

12:43 - What are the 5 competencies of SEL and how are they taught?

16:40 - How can we implement discipline in schools keeping in mind SEL?

19:19 - What are community circles?

22:16 - What is a signature practices and how do you know if your school has them? How could a teacher or parent start SEL practices in their school?

27:00 - What are some first steps educators can take with very young children without a full framework implemented in the classroom?

35:50 - How can SEL help us in our adult relationships?

38:48 - What language can teachers use to model SEL in the classroom?

41:00 - Once a teacher knows how the students in the class are doing? How can they structure their activities?

43:51 - What does Karl dream about when it comes to SEL in a classroom?

Join Karl on Twitter or by e-mail: karl.a.mercuri@gmail.com

Read the blog post by Karl: https://www.curiousneuron.com/blog/2023/2/6/the-ultimate-guide-to-choosing-a-school-that-nurtures-your-childs-social-emotional-well-being

Watch the YouTube Live video with Karl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APTILnWzEg8

CASEL: The Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning https://casel.org/

Permission to Feel - Marc Brackett, explains RULER: https://www.marcbrackett.com/about/book-permission-to-feel/

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In today’s episode, we are joined by Bethan O’Riordan, psychotherapist and mom of 3.

5:57 - What does Bethan do?

7:50 - What is the number one thing I need to know before becoming a parent?

9:31 - How do you deal with a partner who isn’t interested in doing the work themselves?

11:57 - How can we make the shift from negative self-talk to having more self-compassion?

17:01 - Is it possible to go forward in our emotional growth journey without learning more about our past?

19:46 - What’s the key to raising a securely attached child?

23:00 - Should parents be stressed about leaving their children alone to play throughout the day?

31:04 - How can a parent start taking steps toward doing the work?

36:10 - Why is Bethan’s #1 advice to hold your tongue in hard moments?

39:51 - What is compassion-focused therapy?

“The greatest therapist a child can ever have is their own parent” - Bethan O’Riordan

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Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey Into The Science Of Attachment - Bethany Saltman

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Today, I want you to change your guilt around yelling to compassion for yourself for being dysregulated.

Sometimes, we power through our days, weeks, months, and years without addressing our needs. Our brain and nervous system have needs too. If we don't address them, we can't nurture them.

What needs does your nervous system have? What causes you to feel "off"? What makes you feel warm and connected inside?

As a challenge this week, I would like you to start using the terms regualted or dysreguated. Listen to this episode to learn how to do this.

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Hello friend! In today's solo episode, I discuss what it means to be an emotionally aware parent.

We are having the Emotionally Aware Parent Challenge over at Wondergrade (I am the co-founder of this company). You can sign up with the link below:
https://forms.gle/cmASL48RhMsWKW1L6

Many parents tell me they easily snap at their kids or often feel their emotions go from 0-100. Working on our emotional awareness helps us recognize aspects of our environment that lead to strong emotions (both positive or negative/uncomforable).

I walk you through 2 questions you can ask yourself this week and 4 skills you can work on to become an emotionally aware parent.

Here are the resources I mention in today's episode:

Podcast episode about our inner voice:
https://www.curiousneuron.com/archive/2021/6/21/ep-31-how-parents-can-manage-their-negative-inner-voice-with-ethan-kross

Podcast episode about mindfulness and self-compassion:
https://www.curiousneuron.com/archive/ep-79-how-can-parents-work-on-self-compassion-and-mindfulness-with-dr-simn-guendelman

Podcast episode: Why Am I yelling at my kids?
https://www.curiousneuron.com/archive/ep-104-ask-yourself-why-am-i-yelling-at-my-kids

Research Publication: The Structure of Emotional Experience and Its Relation to Trait Emotional Awareness: A Theoretical Review:
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Ryan-Smith-13/publication/321325117_The_Structure_of_Emotional_Experience_and_Its_Relation_to_Trait_Emotional_Awareness_A_Theoretical_Review/links/6234a98ad545b7729402656c/The-Structure-of-Emotional-Experience-and-Its-Relation-to-Trait-Emotional-Awareness-A-Theoretical-Review.pdf

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In today’s episode, we are joined by Kishanda Vyboh, MSc and seasoned breastfeeding support parent. We discuss ALL things beautiful and challenging about breastfeeding. We speak about the pressure parents are put under to feed their babies whether it should be by breast milk or formula. This is a judgment-free zone!

5:16 - What is a breastfeeding support parent?

7:27 - Is there other programs like Nourri-Source out there?

8:30 - What is the best way to feed your child and why breastfeeding education is necessary

12:30 - Do you have to follow all the rules that the pre-natal classes give you?

14:56 - Why did Kishanda make her own FREE pre-natal workshop and who can access it?

17:30 - Why are there mood changes during the breast-feeding weaning period

21:42 - Why does the World Health Organization suggest breastfeeding exclusively until 6 months, and then continuing until 2 years? Why is Canada not meeting these milestones?

25:49 - Should I breastfeed my baby every time they cry?

28:03 - If I continue breastfeeding past 2 years, will I ruin my child?

30:04 - What should I do if I don’t want my tongue-tied child to have surgery?

33:40 - What are some common misconceptions Kishanda has seen throughout her years volunteering?

37:30 - What topics are covered in Kishanda’s free course?

Resources:

Join Kishanda on Instagram: @kishanda_jesse

Nourri-source: https://nourri-source.org/en/

Access the free workshop here: https://linktr.ee/kishandajesse?fbclid=PAAaa0hfIrCKX4gNsta4JHbSHpubhuVxUAXr4GMvJcZQaZCXjWUIycRvzvkWk

La leche league: https://www.lllc.ca/

Study from Canadian Journal of Nursing Research

Find an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant in Quebec

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In today’s episode, we are joined by Tracie, a speech-language pathologist.

• What a study found with regard to screen time and a child's cognitive abilities (link below) 
• What is Tracie’s take on Cocomelon and how the characters speak?
• Why is screen time not recommended before the age of 18 months?
• What can parents do if their child is already getting screen time under 2?
• How does language actually develop?

You can follow Tracie on Instagram @tracieb.slp 

Sources to help you make an informed decision for your family: 

Screen media exposure in the first 2 years of life and preschool cognitive development: a longitudinal study (here)

Screen Time and Executive Function in Toddlerhood: A Longitudinal Study (here)

Screen time and the development of emotion understanding from age 4 to age 8: A community study (here)

Mobile Media Device Use is Associated with Expressive Language Delay in 18-Month-Old Children (here)

Theory of Mind and Neurodevelopmental Disorders of Childhood (here)

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In today’s episode, we are joined by Chelsea Conaboy & Dr. Jodi Pawluski. We discuss all things parent brain - if you’re not sure what that is, this episode is for you.

• Why is it important to talk about the postpartum period and the brain?
• Is “mommy brain” negative?
• Does parenting keep you young?
• Does a father or non-birthing parent’s brain change when their child is born?
• Is parental leave adequate around the world?
• What is the “perfect mother myth”
• Do we really need the village to raise our children?
• Is it normal to be stressed and depressed as a new parent?
• What kind of support exists in the US and Canada for mothers and fathers?
• What is “mom rage”?
• Is it normal to have intrusive thoughts about how your child will get hurt?
• What is the definition of the postpartum period?
• #1 tips for new parents from Chelsea and Jodi

Resources:

Chelsea’s book: Mother Brain

Jodi’s book (en Français): Le Mommy Brain Boot camp for new dads in the USA

Postpartum support international

After the Storm: Postnatal Depression and the Utter Weirdness of New Motherhood - Emma Jane Unsworth

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Have you ever asked yourself this question? 

In today's episode, I give you a different perspective on your child's behaviour....understanding how they respond to conflict. This is important because it impacts their behaviour in conflict (which is what we see when they "misbehave").  I hope you enjoy this solo episode!

SOURCES:

I look back at my conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett as well. You can listen to this episode below in case you missed it:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/reflective-parenting-by-curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000640865943

Below is the article I mention "RSA reactivity to parent-child conflict as a predictor of dysregulated emotion and behavior in daily life" 

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7908813/pdf/nihms-1668983.pdf

The blog post related to this podcast:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/07/20/child-conflict-stress-response-behaviour/

Watch it on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/NwH988IDIi4

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In today’s episode, we are joined by Alanna Gallo, a former educator who sold all her stuff and travels with her 4 kids!

3:30 - What did play look like when your children had a home base, compared to when you left to travel?

8:00 - If you come back to living in one home would you re-create it the same way?

10:23 - What is an open-ended toy? What are the most beneficial toys for independent play? What is a close-ended toy?

16:08 - What is a truly educational toy?

20:35 - Alanna and Cindy share what they think about the current schooling system

30:13 - Why did Alanna start her business? Let’s normalize learning from our mistakes and changing our parenting approach.

36:23 - How can parents keep their children occupied while they do daily tasks?

43:11 - If you have to take time for yourself, and you feel guilty, try this!

Follow Alanna @playlearnthrive on Instagram, Twitter and TikTok

For more information visit her website https://playlearnthrive.com/

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Hi friends! I received this question from a listener so I thought I would answer it in today's episode. 

This parent asked, "If my husband and I have been working hard to validate our 13-month-old feelings but our parents do not, will this be harmful to our child's development and emotions?"  

It is important to validate our child's feelings, however, if certain adults do not validate their emotions, it is not necessarily harmful. 

I discuss:

• what validating emotions looked like when we were growing up and what it look like today
• how to have this conversation with grandparents
• whether grandparents can undo the work
• what are some red flags with grandparents that can be harmful to your child 
• the role of emotions in mental health
• how to monitor your child when they come back from their grandparent's house 

Don't forget to review the podcast if you are enjoying it! (and if you are not, feel free to email me to let me know why) 

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We all yell because...we are human. We have moments when we lose our cool and our kids can also have these moments. 

However, in today's episode, I would like to walk you through a process I did to control my own yelling. 

If you are yelling more than you would like at your child, listen to today's episode for a few minutes. It will help you start the work. Are you yelling out of frustration? To control? Because of unmet needs? Because you feel triggered?

Remember, we are all trying our best to parent our kids. Please don't be hard on yourself if you are struggling. Take moments to connect with yourself and remind yourself that you matter. 

Take time to connect with your child as well. 

I know you can do this, and I am honoured that you are listening to this podcast so that I can guide you. 

I  hope you have a lovely week!  

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