Rat Girls – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, we are covering the Vogue article by Chanté Joseph, "Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing now?"

We talk about boyfriends stealing their girlfriends' aura, having to compromise your morals for a man, why this culture shift happened, how to be your own person in a relationship, not doing things because social media says to, living life for yourself, the generalization of men, how Instagram affects relationships, and more. 

We also nibble on being a dog mom, taxes, vet bills, Live Laugh Love, billionaires, SNAP benefits, RHOSLC, etc.  

This week, I am answering your questions! I answer: What is the key to a happy and healthy marriage? How do I get over kink shame? What books are you reading? What is the best way to give a bj? Have you ever had a threesome? What do I do about UTIs? Do you identify as neurodivergent? What are the best tips for booty stuff aftercare? What is your favorite movie?

We also nibble on Jumanji, bed death, The Gottmans, How to fight, Bridge Kingdom, ADHD, hemorrhoids, Dancing with the Stars, etc.

Codes from the episode: 

Cheex: VIBESLUT 

LEESA: Abigail50 

Happy v: HAPPYVIBE

Kenneth Play, the maker of good lovers, joins us on this week's episode! He teaches us all about how to get the men in our lives to help us come. We talk through how to be the top 1% of lovers, discovering what you like in the bedroom, how men can learn to pleasure women, verbal and non-verbal feedback from your partner, how to tell your partner what you want, how to use sm*t books to get better in bed, positive reinforcement, etc. 

We also nibble on vibes, Oing techniques, squ!rting, dark romance, the importance of breaks, and more. 

Sex therapist and author of Drink Water and Mind Your Business, Dr. Donna Oriowo, joins us to talk about self-esteem and how it relates to every aspect of your life! She teaches us how to identify our self-esteem type, how to build self-esteem, and how to establish boundaries to maintain our self-esteem. She also walks us through the aspects of our lives that having good self-esteem improves-- like our sex lives! 

We also nibble on DC, Fruit Flies, immigrants making America great, air travel, male loneliness, Emily Nagoski, and more.  

Comedy Writer and Survivor Runner-up, Hannah Shapiro, joins us to chat about Love Island! She's using her experience on Survivor to share what it's like to be on reality TV and offer us some insights into what the islanders might be going through, both inside and outside the villa. We chat about mental health, mob mentality, how social media changed reality TV, personal growth, and of course, all our Love Island thoughts. 

We also nibble on Buffy, Ariana Maddix, The Traitors, Survivor 50, reactive dogs, LGBTQ+ rights, and more! 

Hanna Anderson, co-host of the Dating Detectives Podcast, joins us to chat about trusting your intuition and dating safety. She's teaching us: what intuition is and how to hear it through all the noise, listening to your body and pattern recognition, steps to take before a first date to date safely, self-defense techniques to get out of a bad dating situation, and more. 

We also nibble on Kyle Cooke, Zach Noe Towers, Are we dating the same guy?, Cadet Kelley, Wicked, pepper spray, Yellow Jackets, Love Island, Harry Potter, ICE, All The Young Dudes, etc. 

Ya'll, I am freaking out because one of my biggest inspirations is on the pod! Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of Becoming Cliterate and basically wrote the handbook on how to help women org*sm! If you want to org*sm or want to help your partner with a vulv@ org*sm, this episode is for you. 

We discuss the pleasure gap and its prevalence, as well as how to close it. She touches on penetration, s*x in mainstream media, body confidence, the patriarchy, stress impacting desire, pain from s*x, s*xual communication, unlearning shame, the cl!t, and anything you might need to know to come. 

We also nibble on Mizzou, Columbia, Missouri, big bush summer, romantasy, reboots, vibes, and d!ldos. 

Morgan Lorraine Gallo, host of "My Body, My Jokes," joins us to talk about eating disorder recovery and how to seek help if you are struggling! She teaches us how to listen to our bodies, the first steps we can take, how to continue our recovery, celebrate our wins, why decentering from men is helpful, and why community is so important. 

We also nibble on Burlesque, female friendship, the toxic comedy scene, reply guys, astrology, home ownership, and more. 

Hannah Johnson, the Libido Fairy, joins us to teach us how to increase our libido! She walks us through how to go from faking orgasms and pretending to be asleep to enjoying mind-blowing sex with your partner and finding pleasure in yourself! 

We walk through how to regulate the nervous system, enjoy pleasure, identify our turn-offs, make room for our turn-ons, discuss our preferences with our partner, and identify our desire type! 

We also nibble on romantasy, high faes, TV show binge drops, Secret Lives of Mormon Lives, reply guys, and hate comments on social media. 

Jessica Stahl, the creator of Vanilla Cooldance, joins us to chat about how to speak up about what you want in the bedroom!