Are you a woman in your thirties or early forties feeling the relentless tick of a clock, be it biological or otherwise? Are you caught in the comparison game, sensing time slipping away? Look no further! I'm Beth Gulotta, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and the host of Quiet the Clock, your ultimate guide for navigating life's challenges and triumphs on your terms.
In this podcast, we fearlessly explore the uncertainties of this transformative period, breaking away from societal expectations and the pressure we impose on ourselves. From relationships, dating, and the intricacies of egg freezing to crucial discussions on mental health, we're here to support you every step of the way.
Why Quiet the Clock? Because we get it – the unique changes and uncertainties that come with being women. We're committed to providing reliable information and fostering a supportive community to make this life phase extraordinary.
Join me and a lineup of inspired guests as we share insights on breaking social norms, shedding the unnecessary pressure, and offering practical tips for common challenges like career transitions, relationship changes, and fertility concerns. But wait, there's more – we're diving deep into mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and stress, equipping you with the tools to thrive!
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You're Not Behind in Your 30s: Stop Letting Society Decide Your Timeline
Season 8 · Episode 29
Wednesday, August 12, 2026 • Duration 48:39
What if your 30s aren't supposed to look the way you thought they would?
At 34, Kayla Kleinman found herself confronting the gap between the life she imagined she'd have by this point and the life she was actually living. As the creator behind a huge Instagram community focused on the conversations no one seems to be having about your 30s, Kayla has built a following by saying out loud what so many people are quietly thinking. In this candid conversation, Kayla sits down with therapist Beth Gulotta to unpack the pressure women face in their 30s around dating, marriage, career, fertility, relationships, family planning, and the feeling that you're somehow running out of time.
But what happens when the timeline you're chasing isn't actually your timeline?
Beth and Kayla explore why so many women make major life decisions based on what they think they should want instead of what they genuinely want. They talk about the pressure to find a partner, have children, advance your career, and have your entire life figured out by a certain age, and what it takes to step outside those expectations. They also get into the complicated relationship between biological timelines and personal choices, and how fear about the future can cause us to make decisions that don't actually align with the life we want.
If you're in your 30s and wondering, "Am I behind?" "Should I be further along?" or "What if my life doesn't look the way I thought it would?", this conversation is for you.
Your 30s aren't a deadline. They're a decade of figuring out what actually belongs to you.
Subscribe to Quiet The Clock for honest conversations about dating, fertility, relationships, life timelines, and the pressure to have it all figured out.
GUEST: Kayla Kleinman is a New York City-based lifestyle creator, writer, and marketing professional who founded Kayla in the City in 2011, a lifestyle platform centered on authenticity, self-discovery, and navigating life as a millennial woman. Through her work, Kayla explores the realities of life in your 30s, tackling the conversations and challenges that often go unspoken, from dating and relationships to career, personal growth, and figuring out what you actually want from life. Alongside her content creation, Kayla works full-time in marketing at Bookshop.org. She has also taught yoga and fitness classes throughout New York City. When she's not working, Kayla can usually be found reading, watching RuPaul's Drag Race, discovering a new NYC restaurant, or enjoying an iced oat milk latte. Follow Kayla: Instagram: / kaylakleinman Substack: http://kaylakleinman.substack.com Website: https://www.kaylainthecity.com/ FOLLOW BETH: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/quiettheclockpod/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nyctherapeutic/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@quiettheclockpod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nyctherapeuticwellness Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/quiettheclock/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nyctherapeuticwellness/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/quiet-the-clock-podcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/nyc-therapeutic-wellness Twitter: https://twitter.com/QuietTheClock Twitter: https://twitter.com/NycTherapeutic Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NYCTherapeutic Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QuietTheClockPod/
Egg Freezing Isn't About Career. It's About Finding Love.
Season 8 · Episode 28
Wednesday, July 22, 2026 • Duration 30:56
Why are women really freezing their eggs? The answer may surprise you.
For years, we've been told that women delay motherhood because they're focused on building their careers. But what if that's not the real story?
In this eye-opening conversation, Beth sits down with Yale professor and author Marcia C. Inhorn to uncover what she learned after interviewing more than 150 women who chose to freeze their eggs. Her groundbreaking research reveals a very different reality: the biggest reason women are preserving their fertility isn't career ambition... It's the struggle to find a compatible partner.
Together, Beth and Marcia explore the emotional, financial, and deeply personal side of egg freezing, including what many fertility clinics still aren't talking about. They discuss the lack of fertility education, the loneliness many women experience throughout the process, the pressure of the biological clock, and why sharing these stories matters more than ever.
Beth also opens up about her own fertility journey, creating an honest conversation that will resonate with anyone navigating dating, fertility, IVF, or questions about becoming a parent.
Whether you're considering egg freezing, trying to conceive, or simply wondering why more women are having children later in life, this episode offers research-backed insights that challenge some of the biggest myths about modern motherhood. You'll hear why so many women feel forced to make impossible decisions, what the fertility industry gets right and wrong, and how honest conversations like this can help women feel more informed, empowered, and less alone.
If this conversation resonates with you, don't forget to like, subscribe, and share to help more people find honest conversations about fertility, dating, and modern motherhood.
Why More Women Are Choosing Not to Have Kids (And Why That Matters)
Season 8 · Episode 26
Wednesday, July 15, 2026 • Duration 32:36
For generations, women have been told that motherhood is the natural destination. But what happens when someone consciously chooses a different path?
In this thought-provoking episode, Beth sits down with therapist and mental health advocate Joanna Townsend to explore the powerful ideas behind Ruby Warrington's book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. Joanna, who identifies as an "affirmative no" on the motherhood spectrum, shares the deeply personal journey that led her to choose a life without children and why that decision has brought her peace, purpose, and fulfillment.
Together, Beth and Joanna unpack the invisible pressures women face, the assumptions society still makes about fulfillment and identity, and why conversations about being childfree are more important than ever. They also discuss Joanna's unique book club, which brought together women from every point on the motherhood spectrum, creating honest, compassionate conversations that challenged long-held beliefs and reminded everyone that there is no single "right" way to build a meaningful life.
Whether you're a parent, hoping to become one, childfree by choice, childless not by choice, or simply questioning the timeline you've always been told to follow, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on what it truly means to live a life that is authentically your own.
This episode may challenge what you've always believed about motherhood, fulfillment, and the many ways a life can be beautifully complete.
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Joanna Townsend is a therapist, mental health advocate, and intersectional feminist dedicated to helping young adults and adults build more compassionate relationships with themselves. Drawing from her lived experience as a mixed Latina woman, Joanna brings a warm, inclusive, and culturally informed perspective to her work, creating a space where clients feel genuinely seen, heard, and understood.
She specializes in supporting individuals navigating anxiety, depression, grief, relationship challenges, self-worth, and life transitions. Joanna's therapeutic approach is rooted in empathy, curiosity, and the belief that healing begins when we let go of shame, challenge limiting beliefs, and learn to embrace our emotions with self-compassion.
The Dating Reset: Some Of Our Favorite Advice from 4 Relationship Experts
Season 8 · Episode 25
Wednesday, July 8, 2026 • Duration 37:34
What happens when you bring together the best dating advice from four of our favorite relationship experts? You get one powerful conversation packed with practical tips, mindset shifts, and the reminders every single person needs to hear.
In this special Quiet The Clock remix, we're revisiting some of our favorite moments from conversations with Erika Ettin, Sabrina Zohar, Jackie Simek, and Lindsey Metselaar. Whether you're exhausted by dating apps, questioning your relationship patterns, feeling pressured by society's timeline, or simply looking for a fresh perspective, this episode is your reminder that dating doesn't have to feel so overwhelming.
Together, these experts share honest advice about building confidence, breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, embracing authenticity, healing before your next relationship, and dating from a place of curiosity instead of fear.
Inside this episode, you'll hear:
• How to date with more confidence and less anxiety
• The biggest mistakes people make on dating apps
• Why authenticity is your greatest advantage
• How to let go of societal timelines around love and relationships
• The importance of healing and self-worth before finding a partner
• Mindset shifts that can completely transform your dating experience
• Why the right person won't be intimidated by your success
Whether you're newly single, deep in the dating world, or simply looking for a healthier approach to finding love, this compilation is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and actionable advice from some of the best voices in modern dating.
Because finding love isn't about racing the clock. It's about becoming the person who's ready when the right relationship arrives.
When IVF Doesn't Work: The Pain of Letting Go of the Future You Imagined
Season 8 · Episode 7
Wednesday, June 24, 2026 • Duration 57:05
What happens when the life you envisioned doesn't unfold the way you planned?
In this powerful episode, Beth sits down with screenwriter, director, comedian, and creator Dahéli Hall for an honest conversation about infertility, loss, identity, and the courage to keep moving forward when the "happy ending" you've been promised never arrives.
After years of trying to conceive and undergoing multiple rounds of IVF, Dahéli found herself confronting not only the heartbreak of infertility but also the isolation, grief, and societal expectations that often accompany it. Rather than allowing that pain to define her, she transformed it into something meaningful, creating a one-woman show that gave voice to an experience many people endure in silence.
Together, Beth and Dahéli explore the emotional realities of fertility struggles, the pressure women face to follow prescribed life milestones, the complexities of friendships during seasons of loss, and what it means to honor grief without letting it consume you. Dahéli shares how writing, performance, and storytelling became a path toward healing, helping her turn one of the most difficult chapters of her life into art that resonates with others navigating their own challenges.
This conversation is a reminder that resilience isn't about avoiding pain. It's about finding a way to carry it, learn from it, and sometimes transform it into something that can help others feel less alone. Whether you're facing infertility, grieving a different version of your future, or navigating a season of disappointment, this episode offers a compassionate look at how we can move forward without diminishing what we've lost.
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Daheli Hall (pronounced da-hay-lee) is a versatile performer, writer, and director based in Los Angeles. Known for her work on Netflix's Dear White People and Fox's MADtv, she's currently touring with her award-winning comedy show SPADURA, an autobiographical love story that explores Dahéli's journey through fertility challenges with humor and vulnerability. With credits spanning television, film, and video games, Dahéli is a graduate of NYU Tisch and USC's Stark Producing Program. She is dedicated to promoting diversity and professional development in the entertainment industry and is a member of SAG-AFTRA and the WGA unions.
The Truth About Dating That Women Need to Hear
Season 8 · Episode 23
Wednesday, June 17, 2026 • Duration 01:04:08
Why does someone text you every day, make plans, show up consistently... and still avoid commitment?
In this thought-provoking conversation, Beth sits down with Ben Hart to unpack one of the biggest frustrations in modern dating: why effort doesn't always equal intention. Together, they explore the hidden forces shaping today's relationships, from fear of rejection and attachment wounds to the influence of social media, dating apps, and a culture that constantly tells us there might be someone "better" just one swipe away. Beth shares both personal experiences and clinical insights into why so many women find themselves stuck in confusing situationships, second-guessing mixed signals, and wondering whether a partner is genuinely interested or simply enjoying the convenience of connection without commitment.
If you've ever found yourself asking, "If they're so interested, why won't they commit?" this episode is for you. This conversation will challenge some of the most common dating narratives and give you practical tools to stop settling for confusion, trust your intuition, and create the kind of relationship you actually deserve.
Subscribe to Quiet The Clock for honest conversations about dating, relationships, fertility, motherhood, and living life on your own timeline.
Ben Hart is a serial entrepreneur, public speaker, and globally recognized dating strategist with a following of over 700,000. Based in New York City, he is the author of The Zero Mindset, a groundbreaking book on entrepreneurship and creativity as well as the founder of Dating With Purpose, a platform dedicated to those who want to date with more intention and purpose. With a foundation in Psychology and Biology, paired with advanced studies in personal development, Ben has become a sought-after voice on some of the world's most prestigious stages. From the United Nations to Ivy League universities, his impactful lectures resonate with audiences worldwide. Whether delivering a keynote in Mexico on the transformative power of starting from zero or inspiring individuals in their personal dating journeys, Ben Hart is dedicated to educating and empowering doers to achieve the outcomes they desire.
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I Thought I'd Have It All By 30. Here's What Actually Happened
Season 8 · Episode 24
Wednesday, June 3, 2026 • Duration 25:50
What if your 30s don't go according to plan?
For so many women, this decade arrives with unspoken expectations: find the right partner, build a successful career, start a family, and somehow make it all look effortless. But what happens when life takes a different path?
In this deeply personal and honest episode of Quiet The Clock, Beth shares the lessons she never expected to learn throughout her 30s. From navigating heartbreak and uncertainty to questioning timelines, facing fertility concerns, redefining success, and ultimately becoming a mother at 40, this is a conversation about letting go of the life you thought you were supposed to have and embracing the one that's unfolding in front of you.
Beth opens up about the moments that challenged her most, the fears she had to confront, and the surprising gifts that came from experiences she never would have chosen. Whether you're feeling behind, stuck, single, overwhelmed, or simply wondering if you're on the "right" path, this episode offers a powerful reminder that your timeline is your own.
If you have ever looked around and felt like everyone else has life figured out while you're still trying to make sense of your next step, this conversation is for you.
How One Male Founder Is Helping Transform the Fertility Space
Season 8 · Episode 23
Wednesday, May 27, 2026 • Duration 53:09
What happens when a man steps into the fertility conversation with honesty, vulnerability, and a mission to change the experience for everyone? In this powerful episode, Beth Gulotta sits down with Jake Kent, co-founder of Dandi, for a conversation that goes far beyond fertility treatment.
Together, they unpack the silent pressures men carry around masculinity, emotions, relationships, and fertility struggles — and why so many people feel forced to suffer quietly behind carefully curated lives. Jake opens up about his personal journey into the fertility space, the emotional realities men often avoid talking about, and the deeper self-work that can emerge when life doesn't follow the timeline you expected.
Beth and Jake also dive into the inspiration behind Dandi and how the company is working to create a more human, supported, and emotionally connected fertility experience for individuals and couples navigating treatment.
This episode is an honest conversation about identity, vulnerability, modern relationships, and learning how to stop measuring your life against society's invisible checklist. Expect meaningful insights, emotional moments, and a refreshing perspective on what it really means to show up authentically in today's world.
The Hidden Emotional Toll of IVF and Egg Freezing | National Infertility Awareness Week
Season 8 · Episode 20
Wednesday, April 29, 2026 • Duration 20:23
Infertility, egg freezing, and IVF can be as emotionally complex as they are medically complex. In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, we are re-sharing this powerful conversation about the mental health side of fertility treatments.
Beth sits down with fertility specialist Dr. Anate Brauer, MD, Board Certified OBGYN, to talk about what women are rarely prepared for when navigating fertility decisions. From egg freezing and IVF to the emotional rollercoaster of hope, anger, grief, and empowerment, this conversation pulls back the curtain on the real experience many women face. Dr. Brauer explains the key differences between egg freezing vs. embryo freezing, common misconceptions about fertility timelines, and what he wishes more patients understood before starting treatment. They also explore why mental health support, therapy, and compassionate care are essential parts of the fertility journey.
Whether you are considering egg freezing, going through IVF, or simply feeling the pressure of the biological clock, this episode offers reassurance that there is no single timeline for building a family. During National Infertility Awareness Week, we're amplifying conversations like this one to remind you: you are not alone, and your path to family can take many forms.
Dr. Brauer is a member of the American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology, earned her medical degree from George Washington University School of Medicine and completed her OB/GYN residency at New York Presbyterian-Weill Cornell, followed by a fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at Weill Cornell. Formerly an Assistant Clinical Professor at NYU, she specializes in IVF, egg freezing, ovulation induction, pre-implantation genetic testing, and third-party reproduction. Dr. Brauer combines the latest clinical data and technology with a supportive approach to minimize patient stress and optimize outcomes. She has published and presented nationally on fertility treatments for patients with diminished ovarian reserve, PCOS, surrogacy, fertility preservation, and complementary therapies, and serves on the Advisory Board of the Young Survivors Coalition. A regular contributor to media outlets like Shape, Parents, and Refinery29, she also enjoys cooking, running, and spending time with her husband and three children.
From Secondary Infertility to New Mom: My 6 Week Postpartum Reality
Season 8 · Episode 19
Wednesday, April 22, 2026 • Duration 24:47
If you are in the middle of your fertility journey, this episode is for you. After navigating the heartbreak and uncertainty of secondary infertility, Beth shares a deeply honest update at 6 weeks postpartum. This isn't just about what it's like to finally have her baby boy, it's about the emotional reality that doesn't simply disappear once you reach this chapter. In this episode, she opens up about what life truly feels like in the early weeks of motherhood, the unexpected emotional layers that come with having a baby after infertility, and the parts no one really prepares you for. There is joy, of course, but there is also reflection, gratitude, and a continued connection to the version of herself who was still waiting. If you are still trying to conceive, still hoping, still in the unknown, please hear this: you are not behind, you are not forgotten, and your story still matters deeply. Beth is holding space for you in this conversation and always will. This community was built on honesty, and that doesn't end here. Wherever you are in your journey, whether you're trying, grieving, waiting, or healing, we are right here with you.
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Marcia C. Inhorn, PhD, MPH, is the William K. Lanman, Jr. Professor of Anthropology and International Affairs at Yale University and a world-renowned expert on fertility, reproductive technologies, and women's health. For more than 35 years, she has researched infertility and assisted reproduction around the world and is the award-winning author of numerous books, including Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs, which draws on interviews with more than 150 women to challenge common myths about why women choose to freeze their eggs.
Using an integrative, client-centered approach, Joanna helps people gain deeper insight into their thoughts, experiences, and emotions while empowering them to move forward with greater confidence and authenticity. She is passionate about fostering conversations that honor diverse life paths, including the many ways people find purpose, connection, and fulfillment beyond traditional expectations.
Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site.
Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to "get out there."
A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column.
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