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"Why does it feel like a year lasts a lifetime when you're in the thick of a 'Tower Moment'?"

In this episode of the Pussy Whispers Podcast, I'm joined by my dear friend and intuitive tea leaf reader, Michaela.

We dive deep into the messy, beautiful reality of learning a "new state of being"—moving from the "I've got this" survival muscle into the soft, vulnerable power of receiving care.

If you've ever felt frustrated by your own timeline or wondered why your intuition seems "blocked" during seasons of grief, this conversation is for you.

We explore how to maintain boundaries as a healer, the difference between friendship and "free coaching," and why sometimes your life has to rupture so you can finally meet the depth of your own well. 

In this episode, we discuss: 

0:00 - Why the "Healing Journey" can't be rushed.

02:45 - Introducing Michaela: From Tarot to Tea Leaves.

05:10 - The challenge of being your own guide.

08:20 - Setting boundaries as an Intimacy Coach & Psychic.

12:45 - Why "Self-Responsibility" is the ultimate aphrodisiac for the nervous system.

18:30 - Learning to ask for help after a lifetime of independence.

25:00 - Digging up "old grief": Why the threads of the past get tugged now.

Connect with Mikayla: https://www.instagram.com/lilithrosei...    / @lilithroseintuitive  

Work with Me: www.tareaselixir.com   / theflowershopdance  

In this episode I look back two years since my breakup and share what I learned, how I thought it was going to go, and how it actually went. 

Plus, here are three earlier episodes if you want to listen before or after this episode to experience the entire healing arc of the heartbreak process. 

One month after breakup: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XNu3hm9103kAjVxAFMfo3?si=819ed6c2733e482d

Conscious Uncoupling interview with my friend Ann: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5tAk52ICTZ0YjBOELeQXWx?si=21bd4470d1b44bb8

One year later: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bpEhIaIo9wazfYBeYUvgC?si=f6f63fb3236c49ce

If you liked this episode and want to see more raw and intimate episodes, please consider giving me a review and supporting my podcast in anyway that feels true to you. 

In this episode, I spill the T on my Burning Man story, which I call my "EpeePhany." 

Enjoy me sharing the inside scoop on my shame healing journey that led me to becoming a specialized shame healer! Turns out, peeing on forbidden places can be liberating AF! 

If you want to book a session with me, you can do so on my website

www.tareaselixir.com 

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Tarea spills the T on her second queer awakening and what that is like as an intimacy coach to go from hetero to queer sex, what she notice was different and what was the same. 

"Honestly, I feel SO shy to share this episode"

Why?

Because I'm actually quiet sassy and blunt in it and very raw and uncensored.

It was one of the few episodes I made that was less about teaching you (although it's still very educational) 

And more about "spilling the T" out of pure joy and aliveness for this topic I share on.

The topic of my second queer awakening, hetero to queer sex, and everything I noticed in the process, from my very specific knowledge background as an intimacy coach.

Because when I started my career, I was in a monogamous hetero very long term relationship. And opening up into the queer dating world after that was so fascinating to me on so many levels of discovery.

I felt like the lesbian David Attenborough.

Anywho, this is me being honest and vulnerable AF, in a very different flavor episode 2 on season 2 of my pussy whispers podcast. 

I hope you enjoy! And hopefully there will be more gain than risk in me sharing 🙈

So when you listen, please share the love with your likes, shares, and comments for my bravery and entertainment 🤣

Honestly, when I rewatched it, I was fully immersed in it as if I was the audience, it was a wild feeling. 

Welcome back to season 2!
In this episode, I walk you through the in-depth process of an inner child healing session using the tools: parts work, felt sense, and gestalt theory. I offer clarity and insight into inner child healing and some of the terms you might hear in the therapeutic world, to give you a greater understanding and an informed lens for your own inner child healing process. My intention in this episode is also to offer a space rooted in love so that your inner child can feel heard, seen, and understood. I hope this video offers you a path forward and an opportunity to understand your inner child a little bit more and integrate them into your life with your adult self as the healthy parent and leader.

What does it truly mean to listen to your intuition and trust yourself through life's most difficult transitions? 

I, your host Tarea, take you through the messy, powerful, and heart-wrenching realities of my own personal grief, heartbreak, and courage to rebuild. AKA surviving the hardest year of my life. 

What does it take to release control, toss out the script, and trust that life will catch you even when you're freefalling? I'm not gonna lie — it's terrifying AF. Raw. Uncomfortable. But it's also the most liberating thing I've ever done for myself. Leaving that relationship, saying goodbye to my home, walking away from the safety net of a job… it cracked me open in ways I only had a faint whisper that I needed. And somewhere in that chaos, I started to find pieces of me that I had forgotten. Pieces that had been quietly waiting for me to come back.

In this episode I share the wisdom that came from fully meeting my brokenness to reclaim my wholeness, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I share how somatic and trauma healing allowed me to hold myself in the darkest of moments, honor my intuition, and step into a new chapter of self-acceptance, love, and freedom. 

Whether you're navigating loss, seeking a deeper connection to your intuition, or searching for clarity and empowerment, this episode offers permission to feel, grow, and transform on your own terms. 

Tune in to explore themes of: 

• Trusting your intuition amidst fear and uncertainty 

• The raw process of somatic and emotional healing 

• Rebuilding a life rooted in self-love, pleasure, and authenticity 

For anyone caught in the fire of transformation or standing on the edge of unknowns, this episode is a beacon of hope and empowerment. 

 Connect with Tarea Elixir: 

• Visit my website to explore offerings for somatic healing and sacred ceremonies 

• Follow on Instagram @tareaselixir for more insights and inspiration 

Remember, you're never alone on this journey. 🌿 

Unlock the sacred power of your heart and pussy

Learn how to align your intuition with your pleasure, creating a connection that fosters self-love, healing, and authentic expression.

In this episode, I share tips, guided reflections, and practices to help you step into your divine pussy energy and reclaim your inner wisdom.

This wisdom is channeled for all pussy bodied beings and those with the energy of pussy. All of my work is trans-inclusive and a safe space for my rainbow community. I work to create a more secure, safe, and pleasure-filled world that is rooted in love.

It is my great passion and joy to share this work and bring security to areas of this life that have been mistreated, misunderstood, and oppressed.

To work with me you can book a free call or session by going to my website www.tareaselixir.com

If you struggle with feelings of shame and guilt that hold you back from liking who you are or making choices, this system is designed to disrupt old trauma patterns of shame to help you enjoy who you are and trust yourself to make decisions. 

Identifying your North Star can help shed the weight of shame and so you can have access to your full potential. In this video, we'll explore the concept of a North Star and how it can help you overcome shame, build confidence, and cultivate a more compassionate relationship with yourself. 

Fashion is more than just clothing; it's an expression of who you are and what you stand for. When you dress intuitively, you tap into your inner self, allowing your wardrobe to reflect your true essence.

You're not just picking clothes; you're curating a visual representation of your passions and purpose. Intuitive fashion empowers you to make choices that resonate with your spirit.

Choosing your expression items more intuitively can lead you many places. It could help heal your inner child. It could reclaim a lost part or your power. It could even lead you to a hobby or new career that you might not have found by sticking to what you have always known. 

Your intuition is a wise helper that unfortunately has a really dark history of being shamed, persecuted, and criminalized for using. So there needs to be repair work to build up that trust and safety again. So the world can be a safer and more playful space with intuition on our side. 

Fashion and things like scents or household furniture decorations are such a fun and safe way to explore trusting yourself. The risks are low and payout huge. 

Your life becomes way more intentional and ritualistic which ultimately will lead you to designing it the way you want and experience more happiness in your mind, body, and soul. 

To book a private session with me to help you in this discovery, head to www.tareaselixir.com

In weeks episode I talk to you about energetic hygiene and the value and importance in having energetic boundaries.

If you are a highly sensitive person, emotional person or if you just don't fit into "normie" boxes, you may find yourself feeling even more sensitive and I want you to know that you can use this sensitivity as a superpower and have more aliveness for life. 

You have a gift and I want to help you harness your energy and take care of yourself. 

This is going to help you to keep going every day without feeling so heavy, without feeling stuck, and without feeling like you have to take responsibility for every person and all beings on the planet.

If you feel like you're having a block, a stagnancy, or a stuckness in your energetic body and don't know what energy is yours or what is somebody else's, then let me know what's going on for you in the comments so that I can either answer you specifically or make another video or another talk on more nuanced experiences because there's so much here to practice. 

There is a need to constantly refine and re-attune to the sensitivities of who you are, especially if you've lived your life masking or hiding who you are.

If you want an energy clearing session or to learn about cultivating stronger and healthier boundaries, you can book a 1:1 session with me on my website www.tareaselixir.com

In this video I share insights about the fear of abandonment and how you can care for it in order to take action on things that scare you, while create safety and security inside the hurt places in your body.

I also share how the abandonment can sneakily show up in areas disguised as something else and is connected to really any fear of being not accepted, not loved, and not safe. 

You are so completely valid for these feelings and my hope is that this video will support you on your journey of being a human and healing in a way where you can feel more validated and less alone. 

Sending you so much love. 

www.tareaselixir.com

Ig@tareaselixir

Letting go of putting on a show for others in order to fit in 

We've all done it, put on a fake smile, a fake sound, or even a position that we thought was more appealing EVEN if it wasn't the truth of what was desired during sex. 

I talk about how you might accidentally still be hiding during sex and how that can validate feelings of not good enough and block you from experiencing deep intimacy and pleasure.

To learn more about my pleasure program for pussy bodied humans and beings with the energy of pussy, click this link or head over to my website www.tareaselixir.com

https://tareaselixir.myflodesk.com/pussyportal

For all others looking to explore their pleasure intentionally and reclaim your orgasmic self, click here. This is for all bodies, 

https://tareaselixir.myflodesk.com/orgasmicreclamation

See inside the conscious uncoupling journey with Tarea & Ann. 

Tarea, the host of this podcast and intimacy alignment coach records this weeks episode with a soul sister Ann Hodge who graduated from the same program and is a women's empowerment coach. 

You will get to witness Tarea & Ann in the vulnerable journey of conscious uncoupling and unveil the nitty gritty work of grief & loss that comes with it. 

To learn about working 1:1 with Tarea, head to www.tareaselixir.com

To learn about working with Ann, find her on IG@the.ann.elizabeth

This weeks episode Tarea talks about about how getting caught in the loop of "good" and "bad", "right or wrong", "she" or "he", and the topic of systems that have the facade of safety, love, and belonging, are actually cause a lot of isolation, fear, and being severed from highest truth and deepest love. 

She shares how you can get curious with your own body, mind, heart, and spirit to radically create a sense of safety, love, and belonging in your beingness and true essence outside of the chains, beliefs, and constructs that limit you from thriving, feeling joy, and knowing your authentic self. 

The episode I didn't want to make but new I must.

This week I am going to take you on a journey of grief through the voice of my heart. I am going to share what I have discovered and the intimacy that can open up inside of it all. 

May this be a torch for when you too go into the cave of darkness or the dark night of the soul. May this be your permission to be human. May this be poetry to your sadness. Comedic relief to your rage. 

May this be simply, all that it wants and needs, to be for you.

References:

Sarah Blondin on insight timer 

Heidi Priebe on YouTube 

The wild edge of sorrow by Francis Weller and Michael Lerner

The wisdom of a broken heart by Susan Piver

The spiritual connection between control and surrender. 

This week I share with you what I thought was surrender, and turned out to be control, and how I found the truth of surrender. 

This was a moment I will always remember and has made me so much stronger.

www.tareaselixir.com

This weeks episode I talk to you about the struggle of the spiritual perfectionist mindset and how debilitating it can be to feel constantly not good enough and not worthy of your desires. 

Whether that is romantic desires or life passion & purpose. 

I speak about ways to integrate this so you can start to crawl out of that cave of having to be perfect before you have the romance and life you want. 

When you feel perpetually afraid to be rejected and not accepted as you are it creates this massive inner turmoil that blocks you from sharing your authentic self in relationships which has you feel left alone or prevents you from sharing your medicine with the world and feeling alone in that as well. 

Let me know what you think and share any moments that inspired you so I can celebrate and love you in your vulnerability. 

I want to also acknowledge that if you have been afraid most of your life and are not yet sure how to feel safe as you are, it's going to feely normal and you do not have to do it alone. I am here to support you. 

If you want to learn about working with me you can find me on IG @tareaselixir and on my website www.tareaselixir.com

In this weeks episode I will be talking to you about the eros and aliveness that comes from intimately knowing your desires, being able to own them, and allowing them to come to life.

No matter what that inner critic says, your desires are actually so valid. Your desires are a vital part of your experience being here, and a part of the unique blueprint that is you.

Knowing your desires will support you to feel more freedom, more aliveness in your sex life, and have this inner trust in who you are so taking risks and leaps of faith won't feel as scary. 

Follow me on IG @tareaselixir and keep up to date with all my offerings by heading over to my website www.tareaselixir.com

This weeks episode I will be talking to you about rage, or what I like to call sacred rage, and it's cousins, frustration and jealousy.

I'm going to share and clear the air around common misconceptions around anger and how often it is seen as wrong which leaves the rage stagnant and builds up over time in the form of tension in the body. 

You will explore how anger can be a tool and friend to support you to experience aliveness, self-trust, and deeper sexuality.