Pure Desire Podcast – Details, episodes &amp; analysis

Intimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Betrayal

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

Join A Pure Desire Online Group

SOCIALS

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Read moreCollapse

378 - Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Denham-Keffer

Episode 378

Tuesday, October 1, 2024 • Duration 52:36

Today’s guest, Dr. Sheri Denham-Keffer, is the author of Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, a therapist, and betrayed partner herself.

Dr. Denham-Keffer shares insights on betrayal trauma, healing, and recovery. This episode offers hope and guidance for those facing betrayal or compulsive sexual behaviors. The discussion covers the impact of sexual deception, the importance of truth-telling, and practical steps for partners to rebuild their lives.

Resources

Full Episode On Youtube

FREE MONTH Of Brave One Community

Betrayal Recovery Roadmap

Brave One Recommended Resources

FREE Pure Desire Counseling Consultation

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

Join A Pure Desire

369 - From Isolation To Collaboration w/ Nate Larkin

Episode 369

Tuesday, July 30, 2024 • Duration 49:21

Recovery doesn’t have to feel like solitary confinement.

As with many areas of our lives, we need others to walk alongside us, to encourage and support us. And this is especially true when it comes to our recovery and healing journey.

Today we’re revisiting Nate Larkin’s session from the 2023 Pure Desire Summit to learn what it looks like to redefine recovery as a team sport. In community is where recovery happens best.

RESOURCES

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

Join A Pure Desire Online Group

SOCIALS

279 - How To Support Pure Desire Groups At Your Church

Episode 279

Tuesday, November 8, 2022 • Duration 41:23

Effectively supporting our church’s Pure Desire groups is multi-faceted. The words we use from the stage during a weekend service, the oversight offered to group leaders, and the frequency of announcing groups—these all impact recovery and healing groups in our church. On today’s episode, we’re joined by one of our newest team members, Immanuel Garraway, our Church Relations Specialist. We talk through what to do and not do as we support our groups. We discuss what level of pastoral involvement we encourage. Plus, we talk through resources to help churches run effective, life-changing Pure Desire groups.

RESOURCES

Group Leader Training (video course)

Church Membership

Individual Membership

Sexual Integrity 101 (video course)

Immanuelg@puredesire.org (Immanuel Garraway's contact)

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

278 - The Four Pillars Of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery

Episode 278

Tuesday, November 1, 2022 • Duration 01:03:18

Sexual love is God’s beautiful creation. But for so many of us, our brokenness negatively impacts it. This past September at the Pure Desire Summit, Dr. Juli Slattery spoke on the four pillars of sexual love and what makes it such a beautiful gift from God. On today’s episode, we feature her Summit breakout session. Dr. Slattery covers how the importance of faithfulness, intimate knowing, sacrificial love, and a passionate celebration of covenant love all impact our sex life.

RESOURCES

2022 Pure Desire Summit Lifetime Access

Authentic Intimacy (Juli's organization)

God, Sex, and Your Marriage (Juli's new book)

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

Join A Pure Desire Online Group

277 - FAQ #14: Singles & Unmarried

Episode 277

Tuesday, October 25, 2022 • Duration 56:36

Recovery and healing as a single or unmarried person can often seem confusing. Is there something wrong or lesser about me because I'm not married? What does sexual health look like as a single or unmarried person? On today's frequently asked questions episode, we cover many different aspects of being single or unmarried in recovery and healing. We talk about sexual health and its expression as an unmarried person, what is "too much" to share with a significant other or friends, betrayal trauma as a single person, and A LOT MORE!

RESOURCES

Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)

Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)

Living Free (College-Aged Men's Recovery Resource)

Pure Desire Counseling

Relapse Prevention Plan (Free Tool)

Recovery Action Plan (Free Tool)

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

276 - A Partner Sensitive Approach To Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens

Episode 276

Tuesday, October 18, 2022 • Duration 56:07

Healing from sexual betrayal is an incredibly important journey. In order to best help partners heal from the trauma experienced through sexual betrayal, we must understand what the partner needs. On today’s episode, we interview the founding president of The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), Dr. Barbara Steffens. Dr. Steffens helps us understand what a partner-sensitive approach looks like (featured in our NEW Betrayal & Beyond resource), how this approach differs from other historical approaches, how the church can better serve betrayed partners, and why healing from betrayal trauma is so important.

RESOURCES

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse (Dr. Steffens' Book)

APSATS

APSATS Training

Betrayal & Beyond Preorder (Women's Betrayal Resource)

GET STARTED

Summit 2026!: Register Now

Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

275 - Running Effective Groups: Betrayal & Beyond

Episode 275

Tuesday, October 11, 2022 • Duration 56:50

Women who experience sexual betrayal need healing just as much as their addicted spouses. The damage that betrayal trauma creates is massive. Women need a place to heal and process their experiences. This is what Betrayal & Beyond was created for—a group context and healing resource that facilitates the healing God provides those who’ve experienced sexual betrayal. We are in week 4 of our Running Effective Groups series. Today, we’re focused on running effective Betrayal & Beyond groups. We look at why these groups are so important, what the NEW and UPDATED Betrayal & Beyond resource covers, and how to help facilitate this healing environment for women.

RESOURCES

Betrayal & Beyond—available for preorder (Women's Betrayal Resource)

Groups Pathway (Free Resource)

7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma (Free eBook)

Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)

Group Leader Training (Video Course)

Connected (Marriage Resource)

Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)

Pure Desire Counseling

274 - Running Effective Groups: Unraveled

Episode 274

Tuesday, October 4, 2022 • Duration 59:11

Women who struggle with unwanted sexual behavior feel double shame. First off, they feel shame because of their struggle. Secondly, they feel shame because they struggle with an area often addressed as a “man’s issue.” Sexual brokenness is not a respecter of gender. Men and women both struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors. We are now in week 3 of our Running Effective Groups series. Today, we talk about running effective Unraveled groups—our recovery resource for women. We talk through why these groups are needed, how they fit into the discipleship model, and what challenges may arise when leading recovery groups for women.

RESOURCES

Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)

Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)

The Female Addict & Unraveled (Podcast)

Leading Unraveled Groups (Podcast)

Unraveled (Podcast)

Recovery Action Plan (Tool)

Relapse Prevention Plan (Tool)

Group Pathway (Free Resource)

Group Leader Training (Video Course)

273 - Running Effective Groups: Seven Pillars Of Freedom

Episode 273

Tuesday, September 27, 2022 • Duration 01:06:38

Today is week 2 of our 4-week Running Effective Pure Desire Groups series. This week we look at our recovery groups for men: Seven Pillars Of Freedom. We spend time unpacking how to best run these 8-week Sexual Integrity 101 groups. We talk through who these groups are for, what is covered in the 8 weeks, and how this course is a catalyst for launching Pure Desire recovery and support groups.

RESOURCES

Group Pathway (Free Resource)

Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)

Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)

Group Leader Training (Video Course)