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Sarah speaks to Dr. Kate Stephenson, a historian with a particular set of specialties - school uniforms, sex in Edinburgh, and condoms. Coined as the 'condom historian,' Kate and Sarah speak about sex in Edinburgh throughout time and the history of condoms. Women dominated the industry and people would reuse them again and again. The history is fascinating!

Find Kate's work: http://www.katestephenson.co.uk/p/home.html

or email: epstephenson@gmail.com

Find Sarah:

Instagram: @psychandthecitybk

Bluesky: @psychandthecity.bsky.social

Sarah interviews Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator, sex coach, and author. Stella gives the 4-1-1 on how to ACTUALLY listen, hear, and be a safer person when it comes to communication, especially about some of the scarier stuff - sex, relationships, and kink. Stella's tools will help you put language to what you want and share it.

Stella Harris is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes.

You can find Sarah on instagram @psychandthecitybk & @psychandthecity.bsky.social

and Stella at www.stellaharris.net

@stellaharriserotica on Instagram

or @stellaharris.bsky.social

Today is part two of the dive into Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) and Dissociative Trauma Disorders. Anne and Lexi, co-founders of Beauty After Bruises, are back! This week, we are primarily focusing on dissociative trauma disorders. We debunk myths about DID and dissociation - like, how it's rare (it's not) and discuss the BASK model of dissociation. And finally, Dun dun duuun! the last third of the episode is dedicated to talking coping, grounding, self-care, and management strategies - THEY DO EXIST. This episode is suited for clinicians, survivors, and anyone looking to learn more.  

Some of the topics we discuss may be activating to some folks. 

CW: ritual abuse  

Resources:  

Beauty After Bruises: https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/ 

 Dispelling DID Myths and Misconceptions: https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/didmyths 

International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation: https://www.isst-d.org/ 

DES II: The Dissociative Experiences Scale measures a wide variety of types of dissociation, including both problematic dissociative experiences, and normal dissociative experiences (e.g., day-dreaming). Try it yourself: http://traumadissociation.com/des 

Find Sarah: @Psychandthecitybk, Twitter: @psychndthecity; www.psychandthecitybk.com

This episode serves as an initial dive into Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) and Dissociative Disorders. Sarah speaks with Anne and Lexi, co-founders of Beauty After Bruises, a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing survivors of childhood trauma with both access and funding to receive therapy and/or inpatient care - while creating professional and public awareness for Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. In the first episode of a two-part series, we discuss the basics of CPTSD and dissociative disorders - what they are and what they're not - and how survivors are the most steady and creative people we know. Part two (coming next week) will focus on additional psycho education on the 'smaller' symptoms in addition to offering a healthy supply of coping, healing, and relational supports.   Resources: Beauty After Bruises: https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/ Dispelling DID Myths and Misconceptions: https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/didmyths International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation: https://www.isst-d.org/

Sarah interviews Jim Duffy, harm reduction advocate and founder of Smoke Works - an organization that provides injection alternatives and safe smoking supplies to syringe service providers and groups nationwide. Harm reduction programs often have difficulty obtaining and distributing pipes due to budgetary and legal hurdles. Smoke Works aims to fix that.

Dedicated to drug user health equity and HIV and overdose prevention, Jim Duffy leads with lived experience and Smoke Works shares profits with underfunded groups performing direct-service work.

In this episode we discuss crack, meth, and stimulant use, damaging paraphernalia laws, and why giving people access to pipes is a public health initiative. Jim and Sarah explicitly discuss drug use, stigma, and tips on what to do if you’ve taken too much or how to support someone who has. 

Resources:

patreon.com/SmokeWorks

Instagram: @Smokeworksboston

Smokeworkspipes.com

Sarah // Instagram: @psychandthecitybk

Psych and the City Podcast: www.psychandthecitybk.com

Harm reduction resources mentioned in the episode: 

Good Works: North Alabama Harm Reduction

Rad! Health Resources

Punks With Lunch

Horny after a partner dies? NORMAL.  Body and emotional numbness? NORMAL.  Completely lost or somewhere in between? NORMAL.  THE advocate for ageless sexuality Joan Price, shares insights from her book, Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved. After losing her partner of seven years, being the sex educator and senior sexpert she is, Joan went looking for resources and help. She found resources about sex. She found resources about grief. But found none at the intersection of what to do about grief and sex, particularly after losing a partner. There, Joan experienced the culture of silence surrounding sex and grief. With her book and teachings, Joan's trying to shift the myths and shame embedded in the current way we think about sex and grief, specifically after the death of a partner. Joan tells me that whatever you're feeling, or wanting, or not wanting, it's probably normal.  Learn more about Joan: www.joanprice.com Listen to all the episodes at: www.psychandthecitybk.com

On this fine Monday, Sarah interviews Reb Holmberg, aka Mistress Amanda Wildefyre, about their work and journey as a professional dominatrix for over 30 years. This episode discusses some of the basics of (only!) a few of Mistress Amanda’s specialties and interests: bondage, clinic and medical play, and cross-dressing. Amanda not only shares about their journey from Dominatrix to Educatrix, but speaks fondly of the freedom and healing that comes from permission to break free of the gender binary.

Reb Holmberg, aka Mistress Amanda Wildefyre, is a professional dominatrix, writer, performer and BDSM educator practicing in Minneapolis and worldwide. For over three decades, they have contributed to the BDSM scene by offering workshops on a wide variety of topics, including Predicament Bondage, Suspension, Mummification, Pony Play, Electroplay, Genitorture and Switching for Tops. They are currently studying with the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment (www.InstituteforSexuality.com) towards Sex Educator Certification.

Resources:

www.rebholmberg.com

www.amandawildefyre.com

IG: @realamandawildefyre; @reb.holmberg

IG: @psychandthecitybk

www.sarah-kelleher.com

After a little hiatus, Sarah speaks with Jordan Dann, psychoanalyst and relationship coach specializing in somatic therapy and couples therapy. Jordan and Sarah talk about Gestalt therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy, and Somatic Experiencing, the theoretical underpinnings that inform Jordan's work as a couples therapist. There are so many nuggets of wisdom in this episode - whether you're a fellow therapist or a person that is in relation with others (hello, all of us!), this episode has some one liners that calmed my nervous system. In addition to talking theory and science, Jordan also shares some exercises and concepts individuals and couples can do to improve communication and become more attuned with themselves.  Additional Topics of Discussion: Codependency, Closure, Mirroring, the nervous system, attachment theory, somatics, trauma Resources:  Jordan Dann: https://jordandann.com/ Instagram: @jordandann Getting the Love You Want By: Harville Hendrix, Ph.D Sarah Kelleher: www.sarah-kelleher.com, @psychandthecitybk

Sarah and her friend, end-of-life doula Lucy, discuss - yep, you guessed it: grief, death, and sex. In this episode, Lucy shares about what exactly an end-of-life doula is and all the (some wrong) ways we think about grief. We discuss the dying process, what a consent-focused approach to end of life care can look like, and how grief can show up in our bodies and sex lives. Lucy says, a lot of being an end-of-life doula is reminding people that they have choice and agency over what happens to their bodies throughout the dying process.

Resources:

Guest Contact: Lucy Moran, lucimo91@gmail.com

Host: Sarah K, sarahkelleher91@gmail.com; psychandthecitybk

Book: Ina May's Guide to Childbirth

The Artist’s Grief Deck is a wonderful resource for prompts to move through grief during this pandemic. It has artwork and rituals and can be accessed here: https://griefdeck.com

If someone is interested in finding certified end of life doulas in their area, they can look through the directory in the National End of Life Doula Alliance’s website: https://www.nedalliance.org

This is a great resource to start having conversations around death and dying with your loved ones. They offer free guides and conversation prompts to tackle difficult subjects: https://theconversationproject.org

Sarah speaks to her friend Shaina - one of nine siblings, who was born and raised in the Chabad Chassidic Orthodox Jewish world of Brooklyn, New York. Shaina educates Sarah about what it was like for her growing up Orthodox and shares about some of the history and practices of the Chabad Chassidic community. Shaina shares her experience with sex education (or lack thereof), religion, and ultimately her journey with self and belief. 

Shaina is a licensed social worker in New York State and California. Today, Shaina is a practicing San Francisco and Oakland therapist who works with couples, adults, teenagers, and children. In her work, Shaina is most passionate about educating, and empowering teenagers and children about all things related to body safety and healthy sexuality. In her spare time Shaina can be found singing to Chassidic music, swimming, dreaming of her nieces and nephews, or playing with her puppy, Sivan. Shaina currently resides in San Francisco with her partner. 

Resources: Footsteps, https://footstepsorg.org/

Footsteps is the only organization in the United States providing comprehensive services to people who have chosen to leave their ultra-Orthodox communities and begin new lives. Based in New York, Footsteps provides a range of services, including social and emotional support, educational and career guidance, workshops and social activities, and access to resources. Thanks to Footsteps, former ultra-Orthodox Jews have a safe, supportive, and flourishing community to turn to as they work to define their own identities, build new connections, and lead productive lives on their own terms.

Find me at @psychandthecitybk on instagram; Twitter: @psychndthecity