Explore every episode of the podcast Probing In The Sheets
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| S3E10 Come CLIMAX with Kosmick | 23 Oct 2026 | 00:45:12 | |
Kosmick, the resident rope instructor at Probe, joins us in the bondage bed, and ties us up in the process. They share how a childhood of getting captured by pirates in make-believe games grew into a life in rope, and how a self-tie practice during the pandemic led them to teach. Kosmick, Jamie and Miel get into power exchange, loving cruelty, and why the real story of a rope scene lives in the flow between partners rather than the finished tie. This very intimate, and very playful conversation is a reminder that sometimes the best way to figure something out is to just start doing it. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Kosmick Kosmick (they/them) has been getting tangled in knots most of their adult life, with an interest in the beauty and narrative power of bondage reaching back into childhood stories of damsels in distress. They began studying rope bondage in 2011, and intensified that study in 2016 after joining the Ottawa BDSM community. As an instructor, Kosmick takes an approach of breaking down classic structures and forms, with an emphasis on *why* things are tied the way they are, and an examination of the decision making processes of a tie. They are committed to demystifying rope bondage and empowering learners at all levels to experiment with what they know and pursue avenues to have fun with their rope. They view rope as a tool of expression, and look to inspire others to build connection and intimacy through their tying. Website: www.kosmickropes.com Instagram: @kosmick.kreationz @kosmick.kvlt About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E9 Come CLIMAX with Maddie and Natalia | 19 Oct 2026 | 00:38:54 | |
Natalia and Maddie, the duo behind Climax Conference and House of Kink, join us for our very first foursome in the bondage bed. They take us behind the scenes of building a conference, sharing how a constant stream of voice notes, gut instinct and deep trust keep it all running. We get into how the Climax program is co-created with speakers, what makes it different from other sex conferences, including the oysters, custom totes and dedicated podcasting space. They also preview Dark Desires, House of Kink’s upcoming party in a decommissioned church. This four-way conversation is a reminder that you never stop learning about sex, and that the best things get built with people you trust. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Maddie Madelaine Dorion (she/her) is a sex educator and entrepreneur with over 13 years of experience in the intimate wellness industry. Her work spans retail, product development, manufacturing, wholesale, education, and event creation. Through this work, she’s had the opportunity to learn from thousands of people and gain a real-world understanding of how individuals connect with sex, pleasure, and the tools that support them. With academic roots in Sexuality Studies at Concordia University and hands-on training from leading brands, Madelaine has consulted with everyone from curious individuals to healthcare professionals looking to better support their clients. Her approach is practical, inclusive, and anti-shame. Currently, she co-runs a community-focused pleasure shop with her mom that doubles as an educational space and platform for connection. Her mission is to normalize real conversations about sex, make high-quality products more accessible, and center pleasure as a core part of wellness. Website: wickedwandas.ca Instagram: @madlenhuxley About Natalia Natalia Jaczkowski (she/her) is a sex educator, event producer, and founder of Kinks & Coffee, a sexual wellness brand dedicated to making conversations around intimacy, desire, and pleasure more approachable, inclusive, and stigma-free. Through immersive educational programming and community-centered events, Natalia creates spaces where people can explore sexuality with curiosity and confidence. Since founding Kinks & Coffee in 2020, Natalia has produced a wide range of sex-positive workshops, discussion panels, social experiences, and educational events that blend sexuality education with arts, culture, nightlife, and wellness. Her work has brought together hundreds of participants across intimate gatherings, large-scale community events, and collaborative experiences with local businesses and practitioners. Natalia’s work is informed by both lived experience and ongoing professional development in the field of human sexuality. In 2024, she studied under Dr. Justin Lehmiller through the Sexual Health Alliance Berlin Bound program, expanding her knowledge of evidence-based sexual science and contemporary research on relationships and desire. In 2025, she completed both the Mistress Class mentorship program and the advanced Shadow Series mentorship program led by Dr. Colette Pervette (PhD), refining her expertise in dominance, power exchange, and the transformative and therapeutic dimensions of kink. Natalia is also a 2026 participant in the Human Sexuality Intensive professional certificate program grounded in interdisciplinary research from the Kinsey Institute. Instagram: @kinksandcoffee LinkedIn: Natalia Jaczkowski (Sex Educator & Event Producer) Connect on IG @walkerxox Connect on IG @daddy.miel IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E8 Come CLIMAX with Muse | 16 Oct 2026 | 00:49:17 | |
Muse joins us in the bondage bed to talk about squirting, art and the politics of pleasure. She shares how squirting for the first time at thirty brought tears, then rage at everything she had been told about her body growing up. That rage turned into sixteen years of workshops, story-gathering and paintings made from the moment itself. Muse, Jamie and Miel get into the myths and science of squirting, porn as reclamation, and why joy, kink and psychedelics are political. They also take on the manosphere, unpacking why the men chasing alpha status might be more submissive than they think. This bold, unapologetic conversation challenges us to stop letting shame write the rules, and to imagine power that is shared rather than held over us. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Muse Muse Fontaine (she/her) is an erotic content creator and adult performance artist focused on the social and political climate surrounding censorship of femme bodies and female sexuality. She is the founder of The Squirt Project, an educational network committed to the compilation and dissemination of accurate and experiential information on the topic of female ejaculation. Website: musefontaine.com Instagram: @muse.fontaine @thesquirtproject About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E7 come CLIMAX with Fiona MacDonell | 09 Oct 2026 | 00:45:38 | |
Fiona MacDonell, a registered sex therapist with the Ottawa Centre for Relationship and Sex Therapy, joins us to talk about desire, intimacy and the many shapes relationships can take. She shares what she has learned from clients exploring non-monogamy: why shame so often gets in the way when a nervous system is on fire, and why slowing down doesn't have to mean stopping. Fiona, Jamie and Miel get into relationship anarchy, jealousy, attachment panic and the work of repair after rupture, with detours into inner children and psychedelics along the way. This vulnerable, eye-opening conversation reminds us that there is no one right way to connect, and that what we want from our relationships is allowed to change as we do. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nico Hurtubise About Fiona Fiona MacDonell (sher/her) is a Certified Sex therapist and Registered Psychotherapist based in Centretown, Ottawa. She is the founder of the Ottawa Centre for Relationships and Sex Therapy, where she leads a group practice supporting individuals and couples. Her work focuses on desire, intimacy, and alternative relationship structures, including non-monogamy and evolving partnership dynamics. She is passionate about creating an inclusive, non-judgemental space that reflects the realities of people’s lived experience. Through her practice, she helps clients explore their relationships with curiosity, clarity, and consent, with a particular focus on those seeking to better understand themselves and build authentic, fulfilling connections. Website: Ottawa Centre for Relationship and Sex Therapy IG ocr_st About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E6 Come CLIMAX with Martin from Iron Cabaret | 05 Oct 2026 | 00:55:38 | |
Martin Fransham, co-producer of the Iron Cabaret and Cabaret Nova, joins us to share how his team built a home for after-dark entertainment in Ottawa. He talks about creating stages where sex workers, pole dancers, over-forty burlesque performers and first-timers all have full creative freedom. He also explains why running a transparent, team-first business has changed the way performers and crew relate to the work and to each other. Martin, Meil and Jamie also explore hotter monogamy, from negotiating boundaries as a couple in kink spaces to keeping the conversation going as a relationship changes over time. This fun and candid conversation reminds us that community grows when we lift each other up, and that desire and connection don't come with an expiry date. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Martin Martin (he/him) is a multidisciplinary force—father, husband, entrepreneur, combat sports competitor, outdoors enthusiast, and the producer and host of The Iron Cabaret. With a passion for performance and a deep curiosity about how gender norms shape our culture, Martin crafts provocative, boundary-pushing shows that challenge expectations and celebrate individuality. Since its launch, The Iron Cabaret has not only captivated audiences but also made a meaningful impact—raising over $17,000 for charity and awarding 39 performer bursaries to support emerging artists. Martin’s work lives at the intersection of art, identity, and social change, and he is thrilled to bring this conversation to the Ottawa Climax stage. Website: www.ironcabaret.com IG: @ironcabaret YouTube: @TheIronCabaret About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E5 Come CLIMAX with Becky from A Spoonful of Becky | 02 Oct 2026 | 00:48:02 | |
Becky joins us to share her journey of navigating disability, chronic illness, intimacy, and sexuality while building a life and career rooted in self-advocacy and representation. She talks openly about living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and how understanding her body and health has changed the way she thinks about relationships, desirability, pleasure, and connection. Becky, Jamie and Miel explore the importance of communication when navigating intimacy and health challenges, and how pleasure and connection can exist far beyond penetrative sex or traditional ideas of sexuality. This tender conversation invites us to rethink what intimacy can look like and make more space for different bodies, needs, and experiences in conversations about sex, pleasure, and connection. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Becky Becky (she/her) is a Canadian disability advocate, adaptive model, artist, and entrepreneur. Since beginning her first social media account documenting her disability journey, she has had the opportunity to model & collaborate with brands such as Aerie (American Eagle), Knix, Adaptt Apparel, and more. In the summer of 2024, Becky launched “A Spoonful of Becky Designs” – a small business featuring her artwork on a variety of mediums. Some of her most popular categories are greeting cards, disability awareness apparel and fibre art. As a speaker, she ties in her own experiences to help others navigate disability. She advocates for the undiagnosed, the rare disease community, and the disabled community at large. The stigma surrounding young women in the healthcare world is of particular interest to her advocacy and research. Social media was a crucial part of her own diagnostic journey- and in her belief- one of the most powerful tools in advocating for necessary care. Connection is vital to the disabled community. Website: https://aspoonfulofbecky.ca/ About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E4 Come CLIMAX with Meghan from Mindfulness Meghan | 25 Sep 2026 | 00:53:47 | |
In this conversation, Meghan talks about pleasure activism, mindfulness, and the ways that patriarchy, colonialism, capitalism, and racism shape our experiences of ourselves, our bodies, and our relationships. Meghan, Jamie, and Miel also explore how mindfulness can influence our relationships, our experiences of pleasure and conflict. This raw and real episode explores how taking the time to connect with our inner selves can be an act of rebellion against the systems that seek to divide us. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Meghan Meghan (she/her) is certified through Unified Mindfulness as a Mindfulness Trainer/Teacher, located in Ottawa, Canada on unceded and unsurrendered Algonquin Anishinaabe territory. Identifying as she/her, Meghan is a multi-racial, Black Woman with a Jamaican heritage, and the mother of 2 amazing girls. She includes over 15 years of experience within human resources, hospitality and philanthropy into all her projects and offerings. Meghan is currently studying for her B.A. in Human Relations and Spirituality at St. Paul’s University in Ottawa, ON. She continues to partner with and support people and organizations that aim to minimize suffering and harm within humanity and nature. Her philanthropy experiences include advising for Uniting for Children and Youth, an active member in the OCDSB Advisory Committee on Equity, a temporary role in 2020 as Chair of Parents for Diversity and now actively a volunteer within their education committee. In 2021, she launched the Mindful Educator Program as a part of the New Teacher Induction Program for school boards across Canada including the Ottawa Catholic School Board and Durham District School Board. In 2022, she partnered with Dale Allen, to create the Thrive Learning Program for Youth and Educators that fuses restorative justice and the foundations of inclusive wellness practices and approaches. They are currently facilitating this program within schools in the Ottawa/Gatineau area. Identified by Shifter in 2023 as one of 20 Outstanding Black Women in Canada and featured in CBC Ottawa as one of 10 local Women building community by supporting and promoting wellness. Mindfulness is accessible to harness in our emancipation of mental slavery; it empowers self-awareness, self-mastery and equanimity. Website: mindfulnessmeghan.com About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Connect on IG @walkerxox IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E3 Come CLIMAX with Lisa Flanders | Cliterally Obsessed | Bloom Integrated Health | CLIMAX | 18 Sep 2026 | 00:48:30 | |
Lisa Flanders discusses the importance of pelvic health physiotherapy, breaking down the stigma surrounding pelvic health issues, and the need for education on these topics. Lisa shares her journey into pelvic health, the common misconceptions about who can benefit from pelvic floor therapy, and the various issues that can arise for all genders. Lisa, Jamie and Miel speak candidly about the value of open conversations about sexual health, pleasure, and the power of curiosity in overcoming shame. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference. Click Here () 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Lisa Flanders Lisa Flanders (she/her) is a Registered Physiotherapist and co-owner of Bloom Integrative Health & Movement in Ottawa, Ontario, with expertise in pelvic health, sexual health, and pelvic pain. She holds a Bachelor of Arts and a Bachelor of Kinesiology from the University of Manitoba, and a Master of Science in Physical Therapy from Queen’s University. Lisa began her career in orthopedic physiotherapy and continues to integrate this foundation into her pelvic health practice. She has completed extensive post-graduate training in pelvic floor dysfunction, with advanced focus on persistent pelvic pain, sexual health, and the care of transgender and gender-diverse individuals, including post-operative, gender affirming rehabilitation. Lisa is passionate about smashing the stigma and creating safe, inclusive spaces for care. Through clinical work, education, and mentorship, she empowers individuals to better understand their bodies, reconnect with their pelvic health, and return to meaningful movement and participation in life. Website: Bloom Integrated Health About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E2 Come CLIMAX with Dr. Keiko Chan | 18 Sep 2026 | 00:44:02 | |
Dr. Keiko Chan discusses various aspects of sexual health for people with vulvas and vaginas, particularly focusing on perimenopause, menopause, hormone treatments, and misconceptions surrounding testosterone therapy. The conversation explores the complexities of desire, intimacy, and sexual health. Delving into relationship dynamics, the importance of emotional connection, and the impact of societal expectations on libido. Dr. Chan emphasizes the need for a biopsychosocial approach to understanding sexual health and the role of communication in fostering intimacy. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Dr. Chan Dr. Keiko Chan (she/her) is a local women’s health GP in Ottawa. She carries a Focused Practice Designation in gynecology and is a certified Menopause Society Practitioner. She prides herself on providing evidence-based care to patients of all age groups, whether it be at her women’s health clinic or Carleton University family practice. Dr. Chan is also passionate about education in family medicine and serves as a clinical preceptor for medical students and family medicine residents at the University of Ottawa. About Miel Nannini Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. Connect on IG @daddy.miel About Jamie Walker As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. Connect on IG @walkerxox About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all genders and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. IG @probeottawa | |||
| S3E1 Come CLIMAX With Natalia | Kinks And Coffee | House of Kink | CLIMAX | 11 Sep 2026 | 00:41:18 | |
Natalia shares how her personal sexual reawakening evolved into Kinks and Coffee, House of Kink, Climax, and a larger role in Ottawa’s sex-positive community. This candid episode explores moving beyond shame, discovering pleasure, building safer spaces, and turning personal pain into purpose. Natalia also discusses creating inclusive events, making kink more approachable, and why collaboration is essential to a thriving community. Key topics
Get your tickets for CLIMAX Conference Here 15% Off With Code: SPEAKERSPECIAL *Episode produced by Nicole Hurtubise About Natalia Jaczkowski (she/her) A sex educator and founder of Kinks & Coffee, a sexual wellness brand dedicated to making conversations around intimacy, desire, pleasure, and kink more approachable, inclusive, and stigma-free. She is also the co-founder of CLIMAX Conference and an event producer behind Singles Mingle and House of Kink, creating community experiences that bring sexuality, connection, education, arts, and nightlife together. Her work is grounded in curiosity, community, and evidence-informed sexuality education, with professional training through the Kinsey Institute, Sexual Health Alliance, and advanced mentorship in kink and power exchange. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E17 All By Myself | 22 May 2026 | 00:32:51 | |
For this episode, Miel and Jamie got together to chat about the joys of being alone and the many ways solo play can be explored in kink. TW/CW: This episode mentions eating disorders. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E16 Talk Dirty To Me | 15 May 2026 | 00:34:51 | |
In this episode, Jamie and Miel share their experiences with dirty talk and their thoughts on how to get past the awkward stage where we don’t know what to say for fear of being cringey, offensive or downright triggering. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E15 Keep A Lid On It! | 08 May 2026 | 00:35:28 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the intricacies of public exhibitions of kink and D/s dynamics. What is appropriate in public and what constitutes a violation of consent for those who bear witness. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E14 Raevolution (Part 2) | 01 May 2026 | 00:43:02 | |
In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their chat with Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor). In Part Two, they discuss boundaries and triggers in ENM partner dynamics, a radical solution to the male loneliness epidemic, and healing trauma through kink https://www.sharewithrae.com/kinkandtrauma About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E13 Raevolution (Part 1) | 24 Apr 2026 | 00:36:12 | |
In this episode, Jamie and Miel are taking their show on the road and welcoming someone new into their hotel room bed. Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor) is a certified sexual health educator and relationship coach with a background in latex fetish wear design. In Part One of their chat, they learn about Rae’s history with the kink community and navigating ENM dynamics. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E12 Dominant Hands | 17 Apr 2026 | 00:47:15 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie dominate the conversation, converse about dominance and ask themselves: What are the main types of dominants? What makes a good dom/domme? What green flags should you look out for when vetting a dom/domme? What questions should you ask them? About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E11 Manifesting (Part 2) | 10 Apr 2026 | 00:25:57 | |
In Manifesting, Part Two, Miel and Jamie go deeper on the steps required to bring dreams and ideas into reality. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E10 Manifesting (Part 1) | 03 Apr 2026 | 00:29:23 | |
Jamie and Miel have manifested another wonderful two-part episode. In Part One, they open up about what manifesting means to them and share examples of how to put it into practice in kink and in the real world. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E9 Maddy In The Middle | 27 Mar 2026 | 00:49:13 | |
In this episode, our very first guest jumps into bed with Jamie and Miel. Maddy wears many tantalizing hats, from sex educator (@sexedwithmadds) to sex shop owner (@wickedwandas) and event manager (@events.houseofkink & @climax.conference). She talks about being raised by a domme and sex shop owner, finding her own space in the kink community and shares some insights on the culture and business of pleasure. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E8 Q&A Time With Miel & Jamie (Part 2) | 20 Mar 2026 | 00:29:58 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer more questions from listeners. How did they meet their partners? How do they feel about how kink and BDSM are portrayed in the media? What spicy books do they recommend?…and more! About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E7 Q&A Time With Miel & Jamie (Part 1) | 13 Mar 2026 | 00:23:55 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer questions from listeners. What have they learned from their journey through kink? What unusual toy/implement do they recommend? What safe word should people use, other than “red”? …and more! Continued next time in Part 2. Kink Playlists: About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E6 Sex & Kink | 06 Mar 2026 | 00:27:15 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie chat about kink without sex, sex without kink, kinky sex and sexy kinks. Choose your own adventure and join us as we venture to disambiguate and validate the realm of possibilities. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E5 Shame! Who do you think you are? | 27 Feb 2026 | 00:38:05 | |
This episode is all about shame. Jamie and Miel talk about coming out as kinky, vulnerability and openness about our needs and desires, working through internal shame about our kinks, attractions and preferences, social pressure, critics and outside opinions. Who do we think we are? About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E4 The Masks We Wear (Part Two) | 20 Feb 2026 | 00:27:34 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie continue their discussion about the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E3 The Masks We Wear (Part 1) | 13 Feb 2026 | 00:34:13 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie discuss the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E2 Burnout in Kink | 06 Feb 2026 | 00:41:27 | |
Burnout in Kink In this episode, Jamie and Miel discuss the signs of burnout, how burnout affects our kink dynamics, supporting partners who are experiencing burnout, how to listen to our natural cycles and cultivate the power of saying no. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S2E1 Navigating Health Issues and Kink | 30 Jan 2026 | 00:51:45 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie share their experiences with health issues, how illnesses and injuries can affect kink dynamics, the importance of advocating for yourself when communicating with health professionals about kink and BDSM, and how health issues can impact D/s dynamics. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E14 Rupture & Repair in Kink Dynamics (Part 2) | 19 Dec 2025 | 00:39:36 | |
In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their discussion on rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. Part 2 explores tools and practices for repair, power vs. control in relationships, owning our actions, setting boundaries and trusting friends to learn their lessons.
About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E13 Rupture & Repair in Kink Dynamics (Part 1) | 12 Dec 2025 | 00:36:40 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concepts of rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of taking responsibility in relationships and explores the magic of repairing connections, and how it can deepen a dynamic or play partnership. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E12 FRIES: Consent in Kink | 09 Dec 2025 | 01:04:08 | |
In this episode, Jamie and Miel dive into the nuances of consent, focusing on the FRIES acronym to help understand its components: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. The conversation emphasizes the importance of ongoing consent and how it applies in various kink contexts. Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com Takeaways
About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E11 Frenzy Unleashed: Balancing Excitement and Safety | 28 Nov 2025 | 00:46:26 | |
On this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie explore the concept of 'frenzy' within the kink community, discussing its implications for both submissives and dominants. They delve into the emotional and psychological aspects of frenzy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and communication. The hosts share personal experiences and grounding techniques to help listeners navigate their own journeys in kink safely and joyfully. Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E10 Somatics and Negotiation in BDSM | 21 Nov 2025 | 00:46:03 | |
Right on the heels of the Climax Conference, Jamie and Miel dive into a very important topic that was brought forward during the inaugural conference. This episode delves into the art of negotiation, emphasizing its dynamic nature and how it can be adapted to various situations. The discussion highlights the importance of planning and thinking strategically, with insights into somatics and the role they play in negotiations to achieve successful outcomes. Takeaways
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As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E9 Intensity Bonding and Navigating Breakups in Kink | 14 Nov 2025 | 01:15:05 | |
In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the complexities of breakups within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the emotional depth of relationships, the concept of intensity bonding, and the importance of self-care and healing. The conversation touches on the societal norms of relationships, the beauty of evolving connections, and the courage to choose oneself amidst loss and grief. Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E8 (Self) Trust In Kink and BDSM Dynamics | 07 Nov 2025 | 00:39:31 | |
In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate dynamics of trust within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the importance of self-trust, the role of communication in building trust with partners, and how it can transform personal relationships. The conversation also touches on the concept of self-abandonment, the impact of trauma, and the journey towards radical self-love. Learn More About Dr. Gabor Maté Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E7 Villains: Unveiling the Dark Side Of Kink | 31 Oct 2025 | 00:46:58 | |
HAPPY HALLOWEEN 🎃 In this episode, hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intriguing concept of embracing one's villains within the context of kink and BDSM. They discuss the power and liberation found in acknowledging and integrating darker aspects of you, and how this can lead to a more authentic and whole human experience. The conversation touches on manipulation, consent, and the balance between light and dark energies, offering listeners a thought-provoking exploration of self-acceptance and personal growth. Key Takeaways:
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E6 Boundaries in BDSM: Trust, Consent and Communication | 24 Oct 2025 | 00:49:17 | |
In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate world of boundaries within BDSM and relationships. They explore the importance of understanding and setting personal boundaries, the difference between boundaries and rules, and how clear communication can enhance trust and intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they emphasize the significance of respecting each other's needs and the role of consent in maintaining healthy dynamics. Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E5 Turn Up The Spice In Your Life | 17 Oct 2025 | 00:49:49 | |
In this episode of "Probing in the Sheets," hosts Miel and Jamie explore spicing up one's life, both in relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of self-discovery, embracing desires, and the impact of stepping out of comfort zones. The conversation touches on the significance of negotiation, the role of emotions in personal exploration, and the ripple effect of pursuing one's true desires. Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E4 Navigating The Kink World (Part 2) Drop | 10 Oct 2025 | 00:40:27 | |
In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concept of 'drop' in the kink community, exploring its emotional and physical impacts. They discuss personal experiences, the importance of communication, and the role of rest and self-care in navigating drop. The conversation highlights the human experience of emotions and the transformative power of vulnerability and connection. Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. IG @walkerxoxo About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. IG @daddy.miel About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E3 Navigating the Kink World (Part 1) | 03 Oct 2025 | 00:33:19 | |
In the latest episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie are on location at a kink event in Southern Ontario. In this discussion they cover the camp's vibrant atmosphere, the importance of discernment in the kink community, and how to find and navigate events like Camp. Sharing personal experiences and insights into the kink lifestyle, emphasizing the value of learning from mistakes and the power of community. Takeaways
Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||
| S1E2 Exploring Attachment Styles In Kink | 26 Sep 2025 | 00:50:10 | |
This week, Jamie and Miel dive into the complexities of attachment styles within kink relationships, discussing personal experiences and insights into how these dynamics play out in BDSM and alternative lifestyles. The conversation delves into the challenges and healing potential of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. Further Reading: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, By Jessica Fern Attachment Styles in Dom/sub Dynamics Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. Key Episode Takeaways
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| S1E1 Pleasure Activism In Kink | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:42:44 | |
In this first episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie explore the heart of why they built this podcast, rooted in pleasure activism and the pivotal work done by Adrienne Maree Brown. Celebrate with our hosts as they discuss themes of pleasure is rebellious and rest is resistance, woven into the topics of kink and BDSM. Follow Adreinne Maree Brown on Instagram @adriennemareebrown Continue Deepening Your Knowledge Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good - By Adrienne Maree Brown Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto - By Tricia Hersey Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply political act of pleasure activism that challenges societal norms and embraces the beauty and mess of human connection. They believe that pleasure is an inherent right and that diverse expressions of intimacy can provide the rich soil for healing and liberation to grow in. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire. Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. About Probe Ottawa Ottawa’s private members club — a sanctuary where individuals of all gender and orientations can embrace their true selves without fear or judgment. Nestled in the heart of the Byward Market of Ottawa this haven is where the boundaries of pleasure and self-discovery are pushed, empowering attendees to embrace their desires and unlock their inner strength. | |||