Teenagers today are more "connected" than ever—and also more alone than ever. In this episode, I break down what researchers are calling a teenage loneliness epidemic and how it's quietly shaping our kids' emotional, social, and spiritual health.

Large global studies show that about 1 in 9 adolescents worldwide report feeling lonely "most of the time" or "always." Long-term data also shows that by 2018, high loneliness levels in adolescents had nearly doubled compared to 2012. In the U.S., young people hold some of the highest loneliness rates of any age group, with one national report showing 61% of young adults experiencing "serious loneliness."

We'll also get into the conversation around a "male loneliness epidemic." Some recent findings show men ages 15–34 report higher day-to-day loneliness than women the same age, even though overall, large-scale research suggests gender differences in loneliness are actually quite small. So what does that mean for your son—or your daughter?

In this episode, I talk about:

• What's really driving the rise in teen loneliness (and why it's not as simple as "social media = bad").

• How our parental habits—pace, expectations, emotional modeling—can unintentionally deepen the problem or help solve it.

• Practical, realistic ways to create connection with teens who seem withdrawn, prickly, or hard to reach.

• How boys and girls experience loneliness differently, and what each needs from the adults in their lives.

• How to offer yourself compassion as you learn new ways of showing up for your teen.

This isn't about guilt. It's about naming what's real, supporting families with compassion, and giving you tools that bring connection back into the relationship.

I'd love to chat with you about how this is playing out in your home. Book a free call HERE

References

1. World Health Organization (WHO). (2021). Adolescent mental health: Global prevalence of loneliness in 13–17 year olds.
https://www.who.int/publications

2. López Steinmetz, L. C., et al. (2021). Loneliness among adolescents across 37 countries: Trends from 2000–2018. Journal of Adolescent Health, 69(6), 993–1002.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jadohealth.2021.08.009

3. Harvard Graduate School of Education: Making Caring Common Project. (2021). Loneliness in America: How the pandemic has deepened an epidemic of loneliness and what we can do about it.
https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu

4. Cigna. (2020). U.S. Loneliness Index: Gen Z and young adults experience the highest loneliness levels.
https://www.cigna.com

5. Gallup. (2023). Men report higher rates of daily loneliness than women in many age groups.
https://news.gallup.com

6. Maes, M., Van den Noortgate, W., & Goossens, L. (2016). Gender differences in loneliness across the lifespan: A meta-analysis. European Journal of Personality, 30(1), 70–85.
https://doi.org/10.1002/per.2034

Purity culture isn't the opposite of sin—it's the counterfeit of real purity, emotional maturity, and healthy sexuality. In this episode, we unpack how purity culture quietly slips into our parenting, our faith conversations, and our expectations of teens… and how to replace it with something actually healing.

We'll cover five practical steps that help your teen build healthy sexuality, spiritual resilience, emotional wellbeing, and genuine self-trust—without shame, fear, or pressure.

You'll walk away with:

• A clear understanding of how purity culture harms both boys and girls emotionally, spiritually, and developmentally.

• Five actionable ways to support your teen in forming healthy, grounded sexuality rooted in connection and worthiness.

• Tools to model emotional maturity and normalize curiosity, agency, boundaries, and self-expression.

• Shame-free approach for talking about bodies, relationships, desire, and consent.

• A grounded roadmap for raising teens who feel confident, connected, spiritually anchored, and safe being themselves.

If you're ready to parent with more peace, confidence, and connection—and less fear and control—I'd love to help you get there.

Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here

In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.

Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!

We want them there. It won't be the same, plus it's awful to have to tell Grandma that they didn't want to come. But they didn't and now there's contention. 

Nobody wins in this situation, but it doesn't have to be like this. Today I'll walk you through other options, offer you better understanding around this common phenomenon, and generally help make the holidays a little better when it comes to herding our families everywhere. 

To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We all know that our money has limits, so why do we think we should have limitless emotional strength and spending? Today I want to teach you a new way of looking at budgets. It's got nothing to do with money and everything to do with having reasonable expectations for yourself. 

Lost your cool? Have no emotional bandwidth by the end of the day? Feeling drained and hating yourself for not being at your best ALL. THE. TIME...?

Good news in this episode. I love you, and want to share with you this most powerful secret. 

If you'd like to preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Family life is wonderful, and that includes times where we want to cry, scream, and throw in the towel. Mental health, physical health, and tough situations can happen to everyone. In Today's episode I'll walk you through the three most common mistakes parents add needless pain and suffering on top of a hard situation. I will also talk you through the only two places you need to be in for maximum relief and progress through whatever rough waters you're navigating. 

Life can be a challenge. Parenting can be a wild time, and I'm here to help you with all of it. 

To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, learn more about parenting your teen, or search by topic exactly what you're struggling with, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parent's find out what I do and ask me how to get their teen to: like cleaning their room, turn in homework, help out, be nice, stop lying... they want to know how to fix the problem that is their teen's choices. I get it. I was that parent several years ago. 

When we see our teen's as something to be fixed, we parent in a very specific way, and it's not so helpful. Tune in to learn more and how to help your teen in a more powerful way. 

To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen and learn more about parenting, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com

The holidays are wonderful and also we're so glad when the busy, chaotic hum is over. But what if we could enjoy them at a more measured pace so that we didn't have to take that exhausted sigh of relief when they're over? 

It's possible, and Kristen is here to tell us exactly how! If you're feeling the holiday overwhelm, this episode is for you. No more snipping at the kids because they don't want to play along. No more forcing family traditions that you think you should keep. Let's create the perfect family holiday season together. 

To check out Family Connection Design Course (discount code: 100off valid until 12/1/23) and preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: Kristen Mattison is founder of the blog This Routine Life. Kristen is passionate about spreading the word that motherhood doesn't have to feel so hard and daunting, and it IS possible to enjoy the years with your kids without feeling overwhelmed and like you're always behind. When she's avoiding her To-Do list, you'll find her watching Bravo TV, reading, or working on her latest cross-stitch project. She has her master's in counseling and is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. 

You can find her at thisroutinelife.com

A special surprise for you, today! I'm writing a book, How I FIxed My Teen, and this is the trailer!

I'm so excited to introduce you to my baby that I've been working on this past year. We're set to publish in early 2024 and you'll want to preorder. Visit me at heatherfrazier.com to get on the list.

I'll be mailing out signed copies from my website, and even giving you a book club deal if you get +8 books. Also, if you're in the area, or I'm in yours, I'd love to come to your book club! All the details are at heatherfrazier.com so I'll see you there. xoxo 

Is it a sneaky hack like, the magic words that get them to like chores?
Could it be how to never be ruffled by their harsh words?
Perhaps we're missing the key to understanding teen behavior?
What if it's a secret consequence that they actually respond favorably to?
A way of saying it that they don't get mad at?

So many confused, exhausted parents ask me what they're missing, why it's so exhausting, and how they can get their teen to: turn homework in, get up on time, stop lying, start liking family time, stop yelling and swearing at them, help out without the drama, and everything else...

Well- Here's the magic episode that helps you see it all more clearly- after all, seeing is believing, right? 

To learn more about parenting, and check out Family Connection Design Course, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In today's episode I speak with marriage expert, Aimée Gianni. We discuss how to be on the same side of the table with your partner on several pointed struggles parents often face:

- how to see eye to eye when you disagree on phone/video game/curfew/dating rules

-how to 'fight' in front of your kids (show them healthy ways of disagreeing)

-how to be a unified force in your parenting when you don't agree

-how to deal with a spouse who doesn't support your rules, goes around your consequences, undermining behaviors

It all boils down to one simple truth, and it may surprise you... 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
To join my 2 week, Stop Arguing with Your Teen challenge, click HERE

About my guest: Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being.  It's her favorite thing to do!  As a Master Coach Instructor she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients.  You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeegiannims

To sign up for Aimée's love notes, click HERE

"And the truth shall set you free..."  It's applicable to parenting as well.

I've got two formulas that teach us how truth in parenting is the best way forward to where we want to be. Having a poker face for your family isn't the best approach if you want a close relationship. 

Vulnerability + Truth = Intimacy/connection

Knowledge + Skilled application = Wisdom

I'm going to walk you through 4 points to help you navigate exactly how honesty will guide you to be the best, most loving parent possible. 

 

To join my two week challenge, How to Stop Arguing With Your Teen, click HERE. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

"I'm over it."
"I give up!"
"I have no idea what I'm doing, so I make it worse."
"I can't keep doing this."
"They're killing me."
"I'm just avoiding them until they move out."
"I just want to run away/disappear/hide all day..."

Its burnout, and there's a logical explanation and fix for it. 

Raising kids is so wonderful and terrible and the best opportunity to grow ourselves. And sometimes we're ready for it to be over. Listen in as I shed some light on what's going on. You're not alone and it's not a lost cause. Things can get better... and before they move out.

To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.

Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!

We've heard words like enmeshment or codependency within a peer to peer relationship, but did you know that they can also be at play with us and our teens? It messes with us when they don't want to play along with our ideas of what the family should be like, or how they should lead their lives. 

When we misattribute who's responsible for creating our feelings and who needs to change before they can be resolved, what can already be difficulties get 10x bigger. Add fuel to the fire, no more!

In today's episode I talk about a couple of key ways to be a cohesive, interdependent family. One that's emotionally intelligent. So that you can deescalate situations with love, rather than melting down. xoxo

Here's the course I mention, Family Connection Design Course, in this episode.

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at Heatherfrazier.comhttps://heatherfrazier.com/

 

"You can have it all", we're told, as if it were the best prize ever. So we shoot for it and try to hold all the balls in the air and beat ourselves up when we discover that it's hard to live up to society's standards. Today, Monica and I talk about perfectionism in our parenting, how it affects our kids, how to identify unhealthy tendencies in our kids, and when they point out our mistakes. (Sometimes in very harsh ways). 

Our approach to such struggles makes all the difference in our level of parenting happiness, and today's episode will help you pivot where you may not have even seen needs. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: My name is Monica Packer. I'm a recovering perfectionist, podcaster, and Progress Coach. I save women from themselves, by helping them ditch perfectionism, step into their gifts, and move towards real progress. Welcome to a community who knows life is about progress, not perfection! 

To get Monica's free value exercise, click HERE

You can also find Monica at her website and instagram @aboutprogress

Okay, in today's episode I keep it real with the fact that sometimes we just want to be on vaca, far from everyone... including our kids. (Ohh! I said it. And without feeling any mom guilt or shame, to boot.)

We all have human monents, and I'm here to normalize that fact. So sit back, push play, and prepare to feel better about not loving parenting your kids every second of every day- no guilt attached. It's possible, and even ideal, as the end result is being a better parent. 

To get my 4 simple strategies on how to negotiate phone rules, curfews, chores, cars, etc.. with your teen, click HERE. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

Lying, vaping, cussing, fighting, and being obnoxious in class. Parents get a call or email from their teens' teachers and the shame sets in. Gossiping, bullying, and causing neighborhood backlash and you want to hide under a rock. 

Our teens do stuff that we don't appreciate and we try everything to get them to knock it off. Yet they persist. Good news, your kid isn't bad and you aren't a terrible parent. Listen in as I teach you what to focus on that will make the difference, break down the three reasons why our kids do the things they do, and the best perspective to love and teach them. 

If your kid is the one causing the problems, I love you and this episode is for you. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

Having heard it all- a few times over, there are repeat parenting offenders that never end well when you're trying to parent your teens. Listen in as I outline ten of the most popular such as contempt, control, and power struggles.

Also, these ten common pain points often come up when trying to negotiate things like phone rules, curfews, dating, and other points which parents and teens need some kind of understanding... and so I've got the perfect cheat sheet to easily navigate these rough waters. You can get the PDF here. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

 

Do you have a hard time knowing what is true? You're not alone. We tend to not want to see what IS, our brains spin tails about future truths, and others project thier judgments on us like truths. All the while, we parents are trying to love and teach our kids the best we can. With so much confusion, it's easy to not know which end is up when it comes to truth, even when we are interenested in knowing what it is. 

Listen in as I teach about the two kinds of truths, how to use truth to benefit your parenting, and why knowing the difference matters. xoxo

To learn how to better negotiate with your teen, click here for a free PDF on 4 practical strategies.

To learn more about parenting your teen, come visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

What do you think about being selfish? In todays episode, I outline the two ways we can be a selfish parent and where each one leads. I also outline five key pieces of how "selfish" plays out in ideal parenting. 

Don't worry, you're not going to feel bad about about the time you spend sitting in your car or needing a break every once in awhile- I've got a fresh persepective for you that will help your good parenting be easier to sustain and understanding that will foster emotional maturity in all directions. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com 

"shhhhh. Don't talk aobut what is difficult for your family right now." (Except that this is my favorite thing to talk about.)

Far too many parents believe the misconception that it's a bad thing to show your struggles. We've been handed down the unhelpful tradition of silence through our family or culture. While updating social media on your teen vaping may not be the answer, neither is keeping all your struggles to yourself. 

Our parenting pain needs to see the light of day to heal. This means getting the proper help, love and support in safe circles. So why do so many parents think it's an act of betrayal or weakness to so? Listen in as I outline the two most common reasons. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Anxiety is currently a buzzword, and for good reason. It wreaks havoc for our kids, thus for us as their parents. We often experience it as well. 

It's easy to feel helpless against the crush of anxiety, but that doesn't have to be the case any longer. In todays episode of Pivot Parenting, I talk with the anxiety coaching expert, Jill Freestone

We talk about the kinds of anxiety, how they present, how we can help our kids through it and every other question on anxiety that you've been worrying about. You don't have to watch your teen reeling while you sit helpless any longer. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: As a life coach, Jill Freestone  focuses on helping teens and adults handle anxiety and big emotions. Jill has additional training in anxiety, emotions, relationships, mindfulness, meditation, trauma, somatic processing and much more. She loves her work, but her happy place is in the outdoors. She is an avid hiker, biker, and outdoor adventurer. She is the mother of three amazing daughters and wife to an incredibly smart and handsome husband, whom she adores especially because he was willing to write this bio.

You can find Jill here:

• Website:  https://jillfreestone.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillfreestonecoaching/

• 5 Lies of Anxiety PDF to help you stop suffering from Anxiety: https://jillfreestone.com/anxiety-five-lies/
• podcasts: https://jillfreestone.com/podcasts/

In today's episode, I outline three ways that parents self sabotage by not letting go. Perfectionism and expectations are key players, and can sneak up on us in unexpected ways. How do you know if you're holding on? I will run you through a series of questions to help you self confront, and I even teach you want you DO want to hold onto. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, check out Family Connection Design Course, and sign up for my email list to be the first to order my upcoming books, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.

Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!

It can be an uncomfortable conversation with our teens- sex, porn, and the shame that purity culture creates around them. Sara and I discuss the finer points of how to approach our own discomfort and talk to our kids about what is inevitably part of the world we live in. Sara shares misconceptions around porn use, and teaches us the number one best way to porn proof your teen. It's definitely not what you might think. This is a not-to-be-missed episode!

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma informed coach. She has helped hunderds of peple quit porn through her coaching programs and helped thousands of people through her podcast. You can find her at sarabrewer.com and follow her on Instagram @sarabrewercoaching 

The fourth and final episode of coaching Bill and Anne. Today we talk about teens doing as the please and what happens when one makes the lack of controlling them mean that they're a bad parent. Bill has an imposibble time getting their son to stop annoying everyone in the car. He eventually gets close enough to home to make him walk. What happened, and what could have happened? 

It's easy to react poorly right back at them and then beat yourself up, but there is a better way. Listen in as we discuss the nuance of wanting to control your teen. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Part three of Bill and Anne. Today we discuss their thirteen year olds' poor self-talk. He thinks he's the worst and Bill and Anne feel terrible. We discuss their reactions, ways they can help him, and how they are unintentionally creating more of what they don't want. We also discuss the struggle of other kids wanting to parent their siblings, how Anne is affected by this, and how she is buying into the lie that she isn't doing it right. It doesn't play out well for her, but fortunately she sees it and is empowered to move past the lie. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parents can mimic their teens without even realizing it. I coach Anne and Bill for a second time as we discuss how their son disgusts and annoys them with his rude behavior and self importance. They want him to start seeing things like they do. They want him to make progress, which is creating the exact opposite experience than they want. 

Getting stuck on what he's doing wrong is leading them to similar behavior that they don't even see until today. Maybe you're invalidating yourself like they are? Come listen and find out. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Todays episode is the beginning of a series. You will meet Bill and Anne. Their exuberant son, Gilbert, is too much for the whole family to handle and they struggle to see eye to eye on how to help him best while keeping their cool and managing the other children's frustration towards him.

Parenting your teen can be a stress to the marriage, but it doesnt have to be. Both Bill and Anne want the same thing- to feel good and successful and to help their son feel the same. Listen in as I show them how they can both solve for the frustration that is daily. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In todays episode, Katie Parker and I discuss the struggles that our tween ladies are experiencing and how we can encourage, love and support them better. Adolescence is hard but we can educate ourselves to be more supportive. We can also give our girls an opportunity to engage in meaningful emotional education. This is Katie's life work. I loved hearing about her tween program and all of the skills she offers young ladies and I know that you will, too. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

About my guest: Katie is the President/CEO of Bloomfully, LLC and has a passion for building the confidence of young girls, tweens and women. Her mission is to help them grow above the comparing, the criticism, and the self-doubt that are plaguing girls. She honestly believes EVERY girl and EVERY woman is remarkably unique and needed in this world. Katie is married to Matt Parker of Album Surfboards and they live in Orange County, CA with their six children. In the Summer they surf and in the Winter they snowboard. Family and faith are at her core and the blooming businesses are an extension of that foundation. She is the creator of Singers Company, I Believe in Me, Bloomfully and Tavi's Fairy Festival. She received her BA degree in Communications/Public Relations from Brigham Young University. As she watches the world become ever more complex to navigate for girls, she longs to create programs that help them stay grounded/rooted yet willing and able to bloom wherever they may be in the world. After participating in a Bloomfully program she wants women and girls to feel happy and excited about life and empowered to create! She hopes Bloomfully will help girls believe in their gifts, encourage them to grow and motivate them to share with the world. The world needs strong minds, and strong hearts in strong girls. You can find Katie at www.bloomfully.com

Guesting on Pivot Parenting for a fourth visit, Jennifer Finlayson-fife and I discuss triangulation in families. What is this, how it plays out, its relationship to codependency, and the role that our parental anxiety plays in all of it. 

There are 3 typical roles in triangulation: victim, perpetrator and rescuer. We can play all three roles in parenting and none of them are good for us or our teens. 

Listen in as Jennifer describes how we.. "can allow our problem to teach us." She breaks down what triangulation looks like so that we can identify if and how we are participating in an unhealthy dynamic and what to do if we are. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

 

About my guest: 

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.   In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online urses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person.   Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith. She is also the creator and host of Room for Two, a popular sex and intimacy coaching podcast.
Learn more about Dr. Finlayson-FIfe and her work by clicking HERE. or visit her at Finlayson-fife.com

Every parent's worst nightmare: Realizing that they are the worst parent ever. Our teens are happy to tell us the reasons why, their choices are ample evidence, our world is crushed as reality washes over us. 

But what if it's not true? Listen in as I discuss how the fear of failing as a parent plays out it real time and what to do about it. The good news is, you haven't failed and the future is yet to be decided. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

You might not think this applies to you. That you're super open minded and easy going. This can be true and you can also be wanting to be right to the detriment of your relationship. In todays episode I outline 8 sneaky ways that our brain kills connection with the desire to be right, and most of us do at least a few of them. 

In parenting, the details matter. This was the one thing that I needed to change before I could have a quality connection with one of my kids. The desire to be right can be sneaky and hard to see if you don't know what to look for. 

To learn more about parenting, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Put more than one human in a room and what do you get?

Annoyed.

At least eventually.  It's really common for my clients to be upset with themselves, their teen, for the human experience of annoyance. They think they're a terrible person. They think their teen is awful and doomed. Which makes them feel worse. It's a vicious downward spiral that doesn't need to happen. Listen in as I break down what is happening and help you to know what to do instead.  If you get bugged at your teen, this episode is for you. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

What does it really mean to raise powerful daughters in today's world? In this episode of Pivot Parenting, I sit down with Aubin Palmer, author of Power Women, to explore how mothers can model strength, confidence, and resilience in ways that empower the next generation. Aubin shares her transformative acronym P.O.W.E.R., breaking down how each element can be lived out and passed on—not by lectures, but by example.

Together, we talk about the subtle ways moms accidentally give away their power, how to reclaim it with intention, and why embodying self-love, faith, and courage creates a legacy that daughters naturally inherit. If you've ever wondered how to guide your teen girl toward confidence without pushing or preaching, this conversation will give you both clarity and encouragement.

 Don't miss this empowering episode—and while you're at it, grab Aubin's book Power Women and my book Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah! so you can keep building the tools, perspective, and love your family needs.

About my guest: Aubin is a life and business coach devoted to lighting the fire within power women to step into their full potential. Based in utah she is the proud mother of 3 girls- the next generation of power women. With deep intuition, real world experience and unshakable belief, she guides women to claim their power and build the lives they truly want. She believes in the strength women mind through collaboration and leads groups and retreats to help women rise in power everywhere.

  Instagram: @aubinpalmercoaching
Amazon link for book www.aubinpalmercoaching.com

Pretty much every single client I have has some form of: 
I'm not good enough, I don't deserve goodness, I deserve distain, I have to do it all perfect to be valuable, if only me or my kid would be more ....then they'd be good enough for me to know I've done a good job. 

Then I could feel okay with myself, my family, and be happy.

If you feel like you're chasing a pipe dream of happiness, thinking it's just after one more task is done, a couple of accomplishments made by your teen, but the satisfaction is fleeting if at all, this episode is for you!

 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Envy can be described as one of the deadly sins, the thief of joy, something really bad to be avoided at all cost. Sure, when used improperly, but when we recognize it and consciously consider it, the affect can be quite the opposite. 

Many of my clients look around and wish their spouse was more helpful, their teen was more responsible/honest/driven/tidy/friendly, their life to be filled with health and travel and quality looking relationships... because they see other families that they want to be like. You know, the ones who have it all? 

In today's episode of Pivot Parenting I break envy down for you in a way that will forever change how you choose to keep up with the Jones'. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In honor of Mothers Day and our little chickens that we are trying to raise up right, I bring you todays episode. One of the most heartbreaking aspects of family is when our kids walk away from what we hold most dear. Often times this is the family faith. Listen in as I help you navigate being a hen who loves her babies and the little chick who loves the Lord. Peace, happiness, connection and even FUN can still be the familial experience for everyone when the proper approach is taken. xoxo

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Do you think it bad to sing your child's praises? 
Wouldn't want to make other parents feel bad?
Don't want your kid to get a big head? 
Pride is a bad thing, right? Maybe but maybe you're looking at it wrong. Tune in to this week's episode of #pivotparenting to hear a different take on praise, pride, and how we view our teen's accomplishments. 

To learn more about helping your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In all of our relationships we play a role. Sometimes it's authentic and good, sometimes it's graspy and destructive. In today's episode of #pivotparenting I talk about a common dynamic of validation and control. It leads to disaster. Listen in to see how to identify this unhealthy relationship dynamic and change course. 

To learn more about raising your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

One second they're laughing with you, the next, they are yelling, "WHY DON'T YOU LIKE ME?!" as they run out of the kitchen, slamming their bedroom door. 

One day they are organized and have a 5 year plan, the next day they sleep all Saturday and can't remember to get to work on time. 

Sometimes they love you and sometimes you get the stink eye. Literally nothing has changed between the two of you. 

Teens send wack messages to parents when you don't understand how it all makes sense- and it does. Tune in to this week's episode as I decode the seemingly nonsensical behavior that your teenager is presenting with.

 

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You might not think this is you. You might feel like you're good to go. 
But wanting to know the answer to this question is a sneaky trick our subconscious can pull on us without us even realizing, and it can wreak havoc in our relationships. 

Do you: 
-Worry about the choices your teen makes, and lay awake at night trying to figure out a way to get them to change?
-Care about how others view your family?
-Buy into the latest/trending parenting fear, freak out, and try to make lots of changes from your intense emotion?
-Second guess yourself when parenting through tough times?
-Default to the "expert" opinion when it isn't in agreement with your parental intuition?

These are just a few ways that we subconsciously are NOT in agreement that our parenting is stellar. Tune in and I'll tell you how to recognize this and what to do about it. xoxo

It seems like our first is either the golden child, or the one we ruined because we didn't know what we were doing as their parent. Steep learning curves, all the experts, plus our own insecurities play into a disaster in the making. What if it weren't so complicated? Tune in as I break it all down for you and help you get our from under the unhelpful beliefs that may be keeping you trapped form loming them as well as you want. xoxo

To learn more, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

The other day I ran a pole on my insta. I asked if moms felt guilty for being unhappy. YES was the resounding response to one of my more answered poles- and so here I am, showing up for the wonderful mothers who think that because they have so much they can't be human. I love you.

To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Is it my fault that they are making terrible choices? Are they doomed because of what I've done as a parent? If you go the rounds, trying to make sense of their choices and your parenting, and how you coulda woulda shoulda been better so that they wouldn't be where they are, then this episode is for you. xoxo 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please come visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We've all been there. You limit screen time, cook healthy meals, set boundaries... and your kid still finds garbage to watch, makes terrible choices, maybe even walks away from everything you've tried to teach them. So you throw your hands up and think: Why do I even bother?

I get it. My oldest loves telling people they couldn't watch SpongeBob growing up because I didn't want them seeing parents portrayed as idiots. And guess what? They found trash media anyway. A lot of good that did me, right?

You'll learn: 

• The 3 ways we mess this up (spoiler: we're all guilty)
• Why trying to "fix" your kid always backfires
• The one thing we get wrong that creates this exhausting cycle
• How to parent without losing your mind or your relationship
• Why your kid's choices aren't about you (even when it feels personal)

This episode is for you if:

• You're tired of feeling like a failure when your teen makes bad choices
• You've tried everything and nothing seems to work
• Your kid has walked away from church, family values, or just basic respect
• You're ready to stop the micromanaging madness
• You want to love your kid without enabling them

Look, this isn't about giving up or becoming a pushover. It's about getting honest about what you can actually control (hint: it's not them) and focusing your energy where it actually makes a difference.

Ready to stop spinning your wheels? Let's talk about why we parent in the first place. Schedule a call HERE

and if you're ready to take your spiritual parenting to the next level, HERE is my book you need to preorder. 

Nothing hurts worse than when your child rejects or hates you. Your world crashes down and nothing else matters. You become frantic, numb, angry, desperate, a ball of tears, and this cycle repeats over and over... In today's episode, I break it all down for you so that you can see what is really going on, how it makes perfect sense, and what to do about it. 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In honor of my oldest daughter graduating college with a strategic communications degree this spring, and to everyone who asks me what that even means- I'm teaching you all about strategic communication, coaching style! After all, sometimes it does feel like we have to market to our teen, handle PR and HR complaints and issues. Some training would be helpful! So buckle up, I am giving you a crash course in how to be strategic in how you communicate with your teen. It might just be as helpful as a degree... 

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Sending our babies out into the mission field can be hard. It can get complicated when they return before expected. We can want them to have a specific experience. Parents can have so many thoughts and feelings that keep us from helping our missionaries as well as is possible. LIsten in to today's episode with Jennie, the LDS mission coach, to hear all about everything! 

About my guest: Jennie Dildine is the mother of five children and two lovely daughters-in-law.  She loves Amazon, Disney, Taylor Swift, Crumbl Cookies, and music of all kinds. Jennie has a Bachelor's Degree from Brigham Young University in Recreation Management and Youth Leadership, and became a Certified Life Coach in 2019.  She has advanced coach training in Faith-based Coaching Tools and Trauma Informed Coaching. Jennie hosts The LDS Mission Podcast and owns her own coaching practice where she is known as: The LDS Mission Coach. Jennie has helped 100's of missionaries in all stages overcome perfectionism and anxiety, create unwavering confidence and never question their purpose again. You can find her on Instagram @jennie.theldsmissioncoach

To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com