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| How To Feel Your Feelings (So They Stop Controlling You) | 08 May 2025 | 00:31:54 | |
What if feeling your feelings didn’t mean falling apart — but actually gave you more control, not less? If white knuckling or pushing through is the best way you know how to feel your feelings. You’re not alone.Discover the hidden mistake keeping perfectionists stuck feeling on edge, why you can never outthink your feelings and the right way to feel your feelings. Want to bring rewiring into your reality? Where being confident, certain and playful is just how you roll? Perfectionist Solutions 1-1 coaching is your next step. Mentioned In Episode 254:
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Timestamps: 00:00-Your thoughts create your feelings LIE #1 Q: Why does “changing my thoughts” never changes my feelings—especially as a perfectionist? A: This episode breaks down the myth that thoughts drive feelings (hint: it’s the other way around!). Discover why “thought work” is a torture device for perfectionidtic people and how the “CTFAR Model” does not actually work for any human with a brain Q: What’s really going on when I’m overwhelmed by emotions even if everything looks fine on the outside? A: You’ll learn the neuroscientific difference between feelings and emotions, plus why this distinction puts an to the cycle of overthinking feelings and asking “what is wrong with me” Q: What's the biggest misconception high-achievers have about feelings? A: Most of us have a totally backward understanding of where feelings come from (and it’s not just psychological!). Courtney reveals the real, science-backed answer. Q: How can I feel my feelings without getting “lost” in them or falling apart? A: Tune in for a client success story and discover a practical tool—the “mood meter”—to help you regain control and function, even on tough days. Q: Does thinking rationally mean I can escape feelings? A: Logic and rationality can’t bypass feelings. Find out why every decision (yes, even the “rational” ones!) are shaped by your mood — and how to use this... | |||
| Access Your Abilities in a Way Burnt Out You Could Never Compete With | 08 Apr 2025 | 00:18:36 | |
You’re doing everything right. You’re ambitious, successful + driven. So why is it your energy is nonexistent, patience is razor-thin + your mind can't stop overthinking? If your days are starting with dread and ending in exhaustion — this episode is your wake-up call. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or accessing your abilities in a way burnt out you could never compete with, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire In this Episode You’ll Learn:
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| The #1 Thing That Stops Perfectionists from Growth | 28 Mar 2025 | 00:16:58 | |
Feel like you're working hard but not seeing the progress you want? It's NOT YOU or your PERFECTIONISM – it's your Person Account™ . Discover my proprietary framework that’s changing the game for Perfectionist Solution’s clients, and will do the same for you. In this Episode You’ll Learn:
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Resources Mentioned In Episode 252:
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| Neuroplasticity | 24 Mar 2025 | 00:07:20 | |
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire In this Episode You’ll Learn:
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TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why Age 45 Is a Brain Plasticity Tipping Point
Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why | 15 Mar 2025 | 00:21:52 | |
"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc. Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits, how chronic stress impacts your brain’s ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS:00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating
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| Perfectionist Tendencies Begin In Your Brain | 01 Mar 2025 | 00:17:18 | |
Constantly overthinking? Still ruminating over that convo with your boss? You're not alone. Uncover how perfectionistic tendencies like being super rigid, people pleasing, over-preparing, excessively worrying — are actually signs your perfectionistic brain is misfiring. Plus, learn the neuroscience-backed solution to take charge of your perfectionist tendencies + start feeling better. TIMESTAMPS:00:00-What Makes Perfectionistic Brains Unique On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today! Resources Mentioned In Episode 249:
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| Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here | 17 Feb 2025 | 00:22:06 | |
Feeling overwhelmed? Stressed out? Anxious? Being vague about your emotions is like saying you're "craving food" for dinner—utterly unhelpful! Your perfectionist brain needs precision to create the right action plan for you. Learn why labeling your emotions accurately is crucial for regulating your body's responses and the essential skillset all perfectionists need to understand their emotions. TIMESTAMPS:01:08-Controlling of emotions On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Resources Mentioned In Episode 248:
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| The Right Way To Compare Yourself | 06 Feb 2025 | 00:23:39 | |
It’s impossible to stop self-comparison as a perfectionist. You.Are.Going.To.Compare.Yourself and here’s the best way to do it! Discover 6 empowering ways to rewire unhealthy self-comparisons, perfectionism trash trades, how to tell if you’re fear-based striving, live coaching on 4 IRL examples of comparing, the only skillset you need for this to work 100% of the time and a tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS:01:26-Choosing Your Response to Comparisons
Citations/Sources: Olson, J. M., Buhrmann, O., & Roese, N. J. (2000). Comparing Comparisons. Handbook of Social Comparison, 379–398. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4237-7_18 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences, 119, 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| How Can I Stop Comparing Myself | 30 Jan 2025 | 00:23:46 | |
Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists
Citations/Sources: Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences, 119, 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Comparing Yourself | 29 Jan 2025 | 00:22:30 | |
Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS:00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others
Citations/Sources: McCarthy, P. A., Meyer, T., Back, M. D., & Morina, N. (2023). How we compare: A new approach to assess aspects of the comparison process for appearance-based standards and their associations with individual differences in wellbeing and personality measures. PLOS ONE, 18(1), e0280072–e0280072. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0280072 White, J. B., Langer, E. J., Yariv, L., & Welch, J. C. (2006). Frequent Social Comparisons and Destructive Emotions and Behaviors: The Dark Side of Social Comparisons. Journal of Adult Development, 13(1), 36–44. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0 Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Overexplaining | 27 Oct 2024 | 00:23:41 | |
Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining
Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798 Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Needing to Be 100% Certain + Uncertainty Avoidance | 09 Oct 2024 | 00:08:08 | |
Craving Certainty? Need to be absolutely 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize uncertainty avoidance in your own life and tools to take control of the fear, uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). Discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, before every detail is known. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching, designed exclusively for perfectionists and gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS:00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance
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| Waiting For the Right Time | 08 Oct 2024 | 00:08:45 | |
Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:
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| How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It) | 06 Oct 2024 | 00:10:17 | |
Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today! Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:
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| What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information | 06 Oct 2024 | 00:16:33 | |
Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 240:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215 The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power | 30 Sep 2024 | 00:36:47 | |
Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: - Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love? - Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary - how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries - Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries. - Perks of impeccable boundaries - How who/what hurts you, can't heal you Resources Mentioned In Episode 239:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm | 24 Sep 2024 | 00:15:43 | |
Just as you finally get everything under control, life throws you ANOTHER curve ball. Seems like no matter what you do, you never get a moment of peace bc It’s Always Something. Discover exactly how to break down the elusive barriers that perpetually seem to get in the way of perfectionists and equip you with practical tools to let go of the chaos so you can navigate life’s unexpected twists without getting overwhelmed. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear:
Resources Mentioned In Episode 238: Neuroplasticity (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 178) Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Citations/Sources:
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| Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value | 11 Sep 2024 | 00:14:29 | |
Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements 01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You" 03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists 04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy 06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now 07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge 08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON 09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing 11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions 12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237
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| Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner | 22 Aug 2024 | 00:18:20 | |
Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms. If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:
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| How to Stop Feeling Guilty (lessons from perfectionist parent) | 17 Aug 2024 | 00:16:37 | |
Tired of thinking about work during family time? Feeling guilty whenever work takes you away from your family? Learn step-by-step how to LET GO OF GUILT. Perfectionism Optimized client Nicole shares how she went from mom guilt overload to missing her kids' first day of school and her entire family celebrating it. Also, discover the why behind your guilt, cost of continuing to carry guilt and how other approaches to stop feeling guilty simply *don't work* for perfectionists. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Credible Scientific Sources Cited in Ep. 235:
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| What Fear of Failure is Masking | 21 Jul 2024 | 00:19:09 | |
You've been thinking about fear of failure all wrong. Get it right and find out what fear of failure is protecting you from, the underlying reasons behind fear of failure, the sneaky ways fear of failure shows up for perfectionists, what fear of failure really is (not good enough) why popular advice for overcoming fear of failure isn’t helpful for perfectionists and practical steps you can take today to dissolve this pattern. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Episode 234 Timestamps:00:57-Sneaky Ways Fear of Failure Shows Up For Perfectionists Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| The Crucial Role of Perfectionism Coaching for Women in Leadership | 13 Jul 2024 | 00:14:59 | |
Ever feel like you're constantly walking a tightrope? Expected to be confident but not too intimidating. Be assertive, but don't get aggressive. As women in leadership we've developed coping mechanisms to navigate these obstacles - like over-preparing, always getting it right and making sure we're well liked. These strategies have kept us afloat, but at what cost? Putting our careers ahead of our values, keeping one eye on the inbox even at the playground. So, how do we break free from this cycle? How do we burn bright without burning out and lead without losing ourselves? Your answers are inside this episode. . On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| How Proving Yourself is Career Poison (+ the Cure for Unrivaled Growth) | 10 Jul 2024 | 00:08:50 | |
Discover why proving yourself is career poison, how to recognize the hidden, nuanced ways proving shows up (like when you put $$ in tip jar) and what lies beneath this constant pressure to constantly prove yourself. Finally get to the source of why even when you're at the top of your game, what's driving you to overwork, question your value and seek validation at every turn. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| The REAL Reason Your Inner Critic Won't Shut Up | 05 Jul 2024 | 00:18:57 | |
Did I make the wrong choice? Why does this bother me so much? Am I letting them down? What if I fail? Spinning in self-judgement and second guessing every small move you make, your brain won't stop replaying magnifying your mistakes. Find out the REAL reason your inner critic won't shut up and how to start asking better questions so you can feel better right NOW. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Ep. 231
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| Feeling Clenchy? Fascinating Connection Btwn Your Pelvic Floor + Perfectionism | 27 Jun 2024 | 00:19:06 | |
Discover the clues you’re clenching that you’d NEVER GUESS are rooted in your perfectionistic tendencies. Plus how Perfectionism Optimized client Molly reversed her Osteoporosis diagnosis and regained her sex drive. Learn why we clench, what’s happening inside your body + brain, the 5 core pillars key to releasing the clench You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired ep. 411 on FasciaTruth + Accuracy Brought To You By:
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| How to Prevent Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids | 23 Jun 2024 | 00:15:42 | |
Signs you’re programming your kids for anxiety without knowing it, how children pick up anxiety from perfectionistic parents, why traditional methods like therapy are 15x slower at achieving results, what *actually works* for caring, busy, perfectionist parents who want a physiology of excellence and how developing a physiology of excellence gives you unrivaled resilience, presence, and emotional intelligence On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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| Fascia: The Missing Puzzle Piece for Perfectionists | 20 Jun 2024 | 00:12:29 | |
Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, with over 250 million sensory receptors weaving through its matrix - it’s how emotions are made and where we feel our sensations, instincts and intuition. But if you tend to overthink, ruminate, catastrophize or stress out, you're compromising your fascia which impacts your body's ability to function optimally + think clearly. Discover why fascia is the missing puzzle piece for perfectionists and how to detect if there's dead zones in your own fascial network- where your sensations, instincts and intuition intersect. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized EP 228 TIMESTAMPS:01:38-The Role of Fascia in Mental Clarity and Confidence
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| The Most Important De-Stress Skill for Perfectionists | 15 Jun 2024 | 00:11:58 | |
Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of deep breathing when stressors pop up, you need a personalized process that works instantaneously fast. And that's the first thing I teach Perfectionism Optimized clients, how to de-stress level in any moment, so they can get back in charge. Discover how to solve stress at the source and the exact clues to identify if you need a process to help you handle your stress ASAP.
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| From Pushing Through To Presence (lessons from perfectionist architect) | 13 Jun 2024 | 00:12:05 | |
Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to stop the worry/wish cycle, metabolize her stress an handle excruciating times with confidence and grace, and why it's "the best thing I've ever done for myself, I think, in my entire life." On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Episode 226 Timestamps: Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| On Vacation, Can't Relax | 12 Jun 2024 | 00:10:24 | |
Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:
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| The Secret Solution to Removing OVERWHELM Revealed | 11 Jun 2024 | 00:12:23 | |
Take the overwhelm out of perfectionism, starting today with the one SKILL SET you’ve never been taught. #truthbooth it’s the only skill set that’ll save you from a life that feels frustrating - like you’re always chasing happiness. Because when you put yourself in charge of your internal world and remove overwhelm- the way you show up in the world shifts. Like you're no longer snapping at your partner or seizing up with anxiety when looking at your email. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen To The Full Episode To Learn:
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| Upgrade Compartmentalize for Confidence | 06 Jun 2024 | 00:07:41 | |
Feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world? You want to be a present parent, crush it at work, keep it fresh with your partner, call your bestie back and drink your water, BUT when you compartmentalize and be whoever you need to be to get the result, you end up exhausted. Say goodbye to the exhausting cycle of squishing yourself to fit in. Trade being contrived for exuding confidence, with the only sustainable solution for ambitious perfectionistic people. Plus hear about that one time CLG sharted in her jumpsuit🤣 On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to exude confidence in each + every part of your life and *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:
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| How to Harmonize Striving For Excellence w/ A High-Stakes Career | 11 May 2024 | 00:08:56 | |
Feeling Clenchy? Discover the truth about what *really* happens when you let go of rigid rules that've made you super successful. I'm giving you the uncensored inside scoop on exactly wha happened when I stopped fisting, opened up to new possibilities and began to surf my own ocean--my achieving + energy increased 80%!!!!! If you're exhausted or feel like it's always something, this episode will give you the fuel to rise up. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:
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| "I Should Know This" Lies We Tell Ourselves in Rumination | 03 May 2024 | 00:07:34 | |
If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of I should be past this and using your intellectual smarts as evil tools to hammer yourself with, this episode is for you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles of Self-Criticism, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make your choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:
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| Perfectionism is the New ADHD | 27 Apr 2024 | 00:07:45 | |
Fighting against yourself IS playing life on torture mode AND entirely OPTIONAL. Most solutions for overcoming perfectionism suck. They're not empowering, efficient or any FUN, plus research shows Overcoming Perfectionism simply *doesn’t work*when you are driven, ambitious, caring, high-performer. That’s WHY I’m revealing how you can take your frustrating perfectionistic tendencies—like catastrophizing, people-pleasing and overthinking— and remix them with refreshingly practical perspectives from our neurodiversity neighbor, ADHD. Want to feel as incredible on the inside as your life looks on the outside? Then you gotta check out Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE for driven, ambitious, Type-A high performers with perfectionistic tendencies. Inquire today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by America's leader on rewiring perfectionism, Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) and is committed to neuroscience truth + accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens. WTF does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionist affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” - no victims, powerlessness or fighting against. Instead your perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently. Truth + Accuracy In Episode 220 Is Brought To You By:Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin, 145(4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981 Otsuka T. (2023). ADHD For Smart Ass Women (1st ed.). William Morrow Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Unlearning Learned Helplessness | 22 Apr 2024 | 00:18:47 | |
Feel like Perfectionism is controlling you? That you’re at the mercy of your perfectionist tendencies? Or that life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist? Perfectionism is not a choice. But you can choose how you want to navigate through it, and that choice is powerful. Discover how the greats Dolly Parton, Serena Williams, Kobe Bryant, Sara Blakely, Marie Kondo have leveraged their perfectionism to shine. Through scientific research and personal experiences, you'll discover step-by-step how it's possible to rewire your perfectionistic habits from the inside out, just like CLG did. Rewire the right way (not the hype way) inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Understanding Learned Helplessness Embedded In Perfectionism Recovery 01:28-Challenging Lies About Perfectionists with Science 02:16-Celebrating Famous Perfectionists Behind World-Changing Innovation 03:55-WTF Are Enduring Identity Markers + Why Do They Matter? 05:12-Unlearning Learned Helplessness with Dr. Martin Seligman (Godfather of Positive Psychology) 06:11-The Problem With Blaming Perfectionism 07:03-Flipping Helplessness to Empowerment 08:46-Rediscovering Being In Charge and Response-ability 10:12-Helplessness + Feeling Out of Control Re: Childhood Conditioning 11:58-Reframing Perfectionism as an Empowerment Journey 13:20-How To Quit Fighting Against Your Perfectionism + Work WITH It 15:05-What incest + perfectionism recovery have in common 16:40-Getting Your Perfectionism Right 17:25-Quality Questions To Snuff Out Helplessness Truth + Accuracy In Episode 219 Is Brought To You By:Abramson, L. Y., Seligman, M. E., & Teasdale, J. D. (1978). Learned helplessness in humans: Critique and reformulation. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 87(1), 49–74. https://doi.org/10.1037/0021-843X.87.1.49 Quchani, M. (2023). The mediating role of coping styles in the association between perfectionism and learned helplessness in students’ population. Annales Médico-Psychologiques, 181(7), 619–627. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.amp.2022.07.010 Woodfin, V., Binder, P. E., & Molde, H. (2020). The Psychometric Properties of the Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale–Brief. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 1860. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| How To Let Go Of Resentment (w/o Exploding On Your Partner) | 17 Apr 2024 | 00:15:26 | |
Got resentment? Uncover where resentment is hiding in your home responsibilities and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to communicating your frustration (this takes you out of black and white thinking). Plus the ONE TOOL that makes you 90% less resentful towards your partner + makes 100% sense as to why you feel like it's all on your shoulders. This TOOL is like having the power to show upcoming storms in your relationship, dissolve them ahead of time and avoid saying mean things you feel guilty about later – for both you + partner! Upgrade from resentment to reconnection inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching backed by SCIENCE + exclusively designed for driven, ambitious + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to feel as incredible on the inside as their life looks on the outside. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Truth + Accuracy In Episode 218 Is Brought To You By:
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| High Performance ANXIOUS: Building Resilience + Calming Internal Chaos | 10 Apr 2024 | 00:09:38 | |
Building Resilience IRL Intimate, all access behind-the-scenes look of how I get my anxious, overthinking Type-A high performance perfectionistic brain to calm TF down *when Anxiety strikes*. Previously only available on the Private Client Podcast, sharing with you in celebration of my birthday AND to show you there IS a MUCH better way to deal with your perfectionism. Where you're in charge, confident and connected to YOUR values. If you want to get out of your own way and be more present, this is the episode for you! On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Build confidence, courage and conviction in yourself while you playfully take charge and get out of your own way, with Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching exclusively for driven, Type-A, high achieving perfectionists who are committed to excellence. Get your stress-free start, today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear:
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| Recovering Perfectionist vs REWIRED Perfectionist (lessons from Perfectionist CEO) | 03 Apr 2024 | 00:21:58 | |
Discover the extraordinary scientifically proven benefits of rewiring your perfectionism with special guest and former #recovering perfectionist, CEO Dylan. Plus the hidden costs of unchecked perfectionism and how it's sucking the life out of you (literally). Ready to leverage your perfectionism in WAY YOU LOVE WITHOUT all the victimy #recoveringperfectionist, be less ambitious BS you've been told all your life? Enter Perfectionism Optimized, the ONLY high-integrity private coaching program for perfectionists that empowers neurodiverse, high-achieving and Type A individuals to quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so that you can *FINALLY* feel as amazing as your life looks and embody the powerhouse you’re designed to be. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full episode to Hear:
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| 6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture | 29 Mar 2024 | 00:10:37 | |
For driven perfectionists self-sabotage often appears as status quo success and our unfulfilling choices are applauded. Bc these self-sabotaging perfectionistic patterns go undetected, you’re off chasing an illusion of control, achieving under pressure with an overcrowded schedule, snipping at your spouse, thinking I'll be happy when..." only to find the goalposts keep moving. Discover precisely how to recognize your own self-defeating perfectionism patterns, exactly what's driving your self-sabotaging behaviors and the perfectionist's guide to stop self-sabotage.. If you're committed to intentionally moving beyond autopilot and Perfectionism Optimized high-integrity private coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for tenacious Type-A perfectionists. Get your stress free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:
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| Self Critic Screams: What Your Body Is Dying To Tell You | 26 Mar 2024 | 00:12:01 | |
What if your self critic is actually a caring signal from your unconscious, warning you of danger ahead + to get off this path? Your self critic is not the enemy; it's an alarm bell from your body. But it's near impossible to listen to it with all the NOISE + stigma surrounding criticism, self-love and self-compassion. Discover the health consequences of self-criticism and lessons from pro-athlete perfectionist who finally figured it out. This is the third episode in the self-criticism trilogy. I'm inviting you into the one place that can make your self critic a thing of the past— all you gotta do is take the first step. Go for it today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 214 Timestamps 02:04-The Iceberg of Self-Criticism 03:27-Why Traditional Self Critic Approaches Fail Perfectionists 04:37-Lessons From Pro-Athlete Perfectionism Optimized Client 07:07-Link Between Cancer + Inner Critic 08:02-From Criticism to Critical Condition IRL 09:11-Making the Choice to Change Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:
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| Why Am I So Hard On Myself | 18 Mar 2024 | 00:20:47 | |
The massive opportunity-costs you are blind to every time you self criticize, how habitual self-criticism creates insidious patterns of self-sabotage and 3 simple steps to be high-quality in all areas of your life WITHOUT self-criticism. This is the second episode of the trilogy on self-criticism iceberg. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| Self-Criticism Won’t Quit? Confidently Shut.It.Down | 15 Mar 2024 | 00:19:50 | |
Is your Self-Criticism only getting worse? Overthinking a million ways you suck your mind's go-to? If your self-criticism cycles JUST won't quit, it's not bc you need more self-compassion, self-love or a less tragic childhood. It's simply bc you're focusing on the wrong problem and by misidentifying your problem, you're missing out on all the super simple solutions. That silliness ends NOW. Discover the 8 undercover forces driving your self-criticism cycles AND exactly how to solve each one. If you're DONE with self-criticism holding you back + want to remember what playfully proud of yourself feels like and gain lifetime skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, calmer + more resilient Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for YOUR perfectionistic tendencies. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 212 Timestamps 00:00-Identifying WHY You Self-Criticize Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:
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| The Surprising Relief of RAISING Your Standards | 14 Mar 2024 | 00:16:22 | |
How raising your standards solves the perfectionistic tendencies that've been holding you back. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Brian who was exhausted from being everything to everyone while pulled in a million directions and how making this ONE swap immediately created a cascade of less stress, more presence and legit enjoyment in his dynamic life. Whether it's spending quality time with your family, stop dreading the guilt you’ll feel on vacation or dealing with the pressures of being excellent at everything, this episode gives you a step-by-step guide on the inner workings of perfectionist brains and how to easily structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU. Why lower your standards when raising them upgrades your entire life? If you're committed to being stronger, happier, braver + more resilient and want the only tools designed specifically for driven overachievers to feel as amazing as their life looks Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to learn:
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| Never Good Enough...Ends Now | 12 Mar 2024 | 00:12:45 | |
Exactly how you can end the never good enough cycle right now, for real + for-ever. Plus WHY what you've tried before didn't work + why this will work FOR you. PERIOD. Why settle for good enough when you could be empowered? If you want the only tools designed specifically for perfectionists to move beyond never enough, skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 210 Timestamps 00:00-Never Good Enough No Matter How Hard You Try Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:
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| Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. People Pleaser: Upgrading Your Tools | 05 Mar 2024 | 00:25:15 | |
The MOST productive + positive way to quit people-pleasing, ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking, second guessing yourself, constantly seeking reassurance, answering work emails on vacation, over-apologizing. The real reason WHY you haven’t been able to stop despite knowing harmful side effects. Awesome acronym to identity your own perfectionistic landmines + step-by-step how to get relief that elevates you instead of keeps you stuck spinning out. You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| If I'm Not Judgmental..how do I know i'm right? | 23 Feb 2024 | 00:16:55 | |
Fear of failure holding you back? Can't stop obsessing over what you should've done better? I'm telling you exactly how to stop being judgmental, drop the fear of failure and always know if you're doing a good job with a way that's more useful, feels better + helps you progress wayyyy faster Listen to liberate yo self from the cycle of fear and self-consciousness. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to learn:
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| Perfectionism in Relationships: Resentment | 21 Feb 2024 | 00:18:01 | |
Uncover how perfectionism impacts your intimate relationships and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to resentment, Plus the ONE SKILL that makes you 90% less overwhelmed? It's like having the power to predict and avoid emotional meltdowns – for yourself! Ready to rewire? Upgrade resentment for resilience inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching exclusively made for for driven perfectionists + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to quit fighting against themselves forever. Melt your stress away starting today over at: https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Referenced In the Episode:
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| LAST CHANCE: Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator | 15 Feb 2024 | 00:02:26 | |
Hurry, it’s your last chance to rewire your perfectionistic patterns in an accelerated 6 weeks with just you + CLG inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Be sure to apply NOW or forever hold your peace! Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 1.0 is closing + retiring forever on Friday February 16, 2024. Tp get in on this spaceship before it blasts off, go to courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator today. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||
| How To Rise From Setbacks *without* Beating Yourself Up | 15 Feb 2024 | 00:15:39 | |
Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think). If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:
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Ep. 206 TimeStamps Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create. | |||