Explore every episode of the podcast Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. My 4 year old is trapping people with his legs and being a barnacle on my leg.  

Q2. My daughter is playing me against my ex-wife in asking for money and I feel played.

Q3. Should I use phone tracking for my daughter who is in first year uni?

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If you are raising boys, you need to listen to this episode. Dr Leonard Sax and I discuss the new content added to the latest edition of his book “Boys Adrift”. We discussed why boys fall behind their sisters in school and what parents and teachers can do about it. I also learned about the very real and scary reality of endocrine disruptors and how male testosterone levels are dropping which impacts many things, including motivation. He also gives some shocking information from his research where he had discussions with adolescent boys about pornography consumption and having AI girlfriends. Did you know that 39% of boys age 13 -17 have made deepfake porn of a classmate without her permission? Again, this is vital information for parents of boys. Please listen in and share. 

You can learn more about Dr Leonard Sax and his latest edition of Boys Adrift as well as his other parenting books here: 

https://www.leonardsax.com/books/boys-adrift/

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We all know connection is the basis of a relationship but what does it mean and how do we get it? Listen in! Valerie learned Adlerian parenting from me, and I learned about the Enneagram from her. She brings both together in order to gain a deeper understanding of what it means to really connect with our children, and she discusses her formula “Presence + Self Awareness + Self Compassion = Connection”. Valerie breaks it it all down and you get to hear about me as an example of being an Enneagram 2 - “The Helper” - and how that helps me as well as how it can be my saboteur!  

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Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerietih/ 

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Are you familiar with Human Design? Kelly Flood, Parent Coach, joins me to explain what Human Design is and how it can help you as a parent. This field of study involves understanding people by knowing their unique energy blueprint. She explains that this level of understanding is not simply about putting people into typologies, although there are energetic styles to consider when looking at human behaviour and motivations. Kelly explains how she uses Human Design to help parents truly understand how their children are meant to operate in the world, which then helps to decide on the best approach to responding to conflicts in the family. This is a tool that is very helpful in learning how to deal differently when typical parenting conflicts like bedtime meltdowns occur. As well, it also helps improve everyday connection between family members. A fascinating conversation.               

You can learn more about Kelly Flood and her parent coaching practice at www.kellyflood.ca, or on social media:

IG: @coach_kelly_flood 

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelly-flood-767ba647/ 

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Q1. 14 year old won’t shower – what to do?  

Q2. Kids already complaining they are bored this summer, and it’s only 3 weeks into the break!

Q3. 6 year old won’t get in the water for swim lessons.

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With his signature humour and relatable storytelling, Dr Dan Dalton discusses the important concepts of winning a child’s cooperation rather than forcing their obedience. He reminds us of psychologists Alfred Adler’s and Rudolf Dreikurs’ major concerns for social equality in all human relations, including children. We also discuss how the counselling tool of asking parents to review a day in the life of the family as a way to discover dynamics at play. Dr Dalton also explains the 4 levels of discouragement and using parental emotions as the diagnostic clue to the purposiveness of the child’s behaviour.  

You can find Adlerian counselling services at Dalton and Associates here. 

Other Adlerian organizations we mentioned were: 

NASAP 

ICASSI 

IAIP

Adler Graduate School

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“Breaking the Boy Code” is Dr Katie Hurley’s latest book, following the success of the award-winning “No More Mean Girls”.  In this episode, Katie discusses how boys are socialized into a narrow description of manhood that is detrimental to their well-being. While that issue is not new – the “man-o-sphere” has created a world of social influencers who insidiously influence our young sons pushing them down a funnel of increasingly more severe beliefs about what it is to be a man including wealth, physique, dehumanizing women for sex / ra*pe. Katie has studied this system and explains how this online system is akin to brainwashing people into a religious cult. We discuss what a parent can do to help prevent and respond to this concerning situation. 

Buy Katie’s book “Breaking The Boy Code” here. 

Follow Katie on IG: @drkatiehurleylcsw

Dr Hurley’s website can be found here. 

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Q1. Teen daughter home from uni assumes she can just take my car anytime.  

Q2. 4 year old daughter is stealing and lying.  

Q3. When should you start allowance?  

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Margot Denomme is my guest on this episode, and she brings her 26 years of experience as a Crown Attorney where she saw first-hand how low self-esteem and social media can harm children, leading to mental health issues, bullying and legal troubles.  

She discusses the importance of parents’ taking collective action to bring about the changes needed to protect our vulnerable children. She has founded an organization called “Raising Awareness About Digital Dangers” (RAADD) which offers a host of resources for youth and their parents, including her book “The Smart Phone Guide”. 

Check out her book and all the resources at RAADD: https://raadd.ca/

You can find Margot Demonne’s RAADD movement of “Control The Scroll” on IG at @RAADDMovement 

And Margot herself on LinkedIn

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Do you worry about your child’s weight and wonder if you are doing the right thing in how you encourage them to eat better and exercise more? Turns out sometimes so-called helpful prompts are not helpful. In fact, they could make matters worse. But what is a parent to do? Watch will their kiddo eats a bag of chips while gaming the day away? 

I had the privilege of discussing the book, “Your Child Is Not Their Weight: Parenting in a Size-Obsessed World”, with the authors, Dr Joey Skelton and Dara Garner-Edwards. Their research at the Brenner FIT Program, and their approach in the book, recommends that we don’t focus on weight, but rather we need to emphasize a strong family connection, tackling lifestyle choices together as a family, and utilizing planning and structure with involvement from the children. Listen in to learn more! 

Check out more resources at Dr Skelton’s website 

www.BrennerChildrens.org/BrennerFIT 

You can find Dr Skelton on social media here: 

X: @DrJoeySkelton 

Bluesky: @drjoeyskelton.bsky.social 

Instagram: @brenner_fit 

Facebook: Brenner FIT

And purchase the book here:  

Your Child Is Not Their Weight – Parenting in a Size Obsessed World

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Dr Will Dobud’s book, “Kids These Days”, shines the light on how the emphasis on youth mental health has paradoxically resulted in more pathologizing, more labelling, more medication and more institutionalizing of young people – all while rates of youth mental health skyrocket.  Something is not right. He argues that our systems don’t support human flourishing and in fact create harm in youth. Dr Will is an advocate for co-adventure therapy and other forms of building egalitarian and respectful relationships with youth that allow them to be the hero of their journey and to face and overcome the hurdles of life through micro-adventuring. 

The book:

www.kidsthesedaysbook.com

His website: 

www.willdobud.com

Follow Will Dobud on social media: 

FB: https://www.facebook.com/WillDobudPhD 

Instagram: @WillDobud 

Instagram: @Kids_These_Days_Book

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-dobud-5209ab74

X: @WillDobud

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Q1. How hard can I push my kiddo to go back to camp?

Q2. 17yr old wants to spend most of her savings on a bday gift for her new boyfriend 

Q3. 3yr old doesn’t play with other kids at daycare. Is he lonely?

Q4. How to start family meetings with a 3 and a 4yr old? 

(You can find my Family Meeting Playlist on YouTube Here.

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Sophia Galano has been providing therapy to teens and their families since 2015. In this episode, we discussed her book “Calming Teenage Anxiety: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Your Teenager Cope with Worry”. Sophia helps unpack the Gen Z anxiety effect, and how parents can find the messy middle between supporting but not enabling their anxious teen. Sophia is a big believer in helping youth develop skills and abilities to manage their emotions and to discover and challenge their thinking traps. Check out the podcast to get more of her useful tools. 

You can find Sophia on social media here: 

https://www.instagram.com/sophiavale_galano/

And purchase her book here:  

Calming Teenage Anxiety: A Parent's Guide to Helping Your Teenager Cope with Worry." 

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We assume when our teens start dating, they are going to pick good partners and be in good relationships, but wow – sometimes that is not the case! In this eye-opening conversation with the leading research experts from the University of Calgary who have developed an education texting-based tool for parents, we talk about the definition of relationship violence, the role of parents as a protective factor and how their text-based app solved the hurdle of parents not feeling adequately prepared to have these conversations about healthy vs unhealthy relationships. 

You can find them here: 

Instagram: @connected_parents_canada

LinkedIn: ConnectED Parents 

Website: https://preventdomesticviolence.ca/our-work/children-youth-parents/connected-parents-project/

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Marjie Longshore and Paige Trevor are seasoned parent educators. Part of their curriculum is teaching the importance of holding regular family meetings. They also recognize that while parents are keen on the idea of family meetings, they also tend to give up quickly on this importance practice, for a variety of reasons. With research into the problems of consistency and compliance, and the ingenuity to solve for it, Marjie created the Family Meeting Kit as well as an online community platform to help support parents. We discuss all the benefits she has to offer families with these new creations and why they work. 

Family Leadership Center https://www.familyleadershipcenter.org 

Podcast: The Family Leadership Center Podcast: Circle In with co-hosts Marjie and Paige  

Join our Online Circle In Community: circlein.circle.so

Visit our website at www.circlein.org  

IG: @circlein.familymeetingkit and @familyleadershipctr

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Ted Page is on a journey to discover how to be a wonderful grandparent and help his grandchildren become The New Greatest Generation. We discuss some of the insights he learned after interviewing grandfathers from diverse backgrounds – everyone from John Cleese and Tom Brokaw, to veterans, rabbis, Imams and grandpas across cultures and socio-economic backgrounds. He heard and recorded their stories, capturing and distilling their wisdom to convey what our children (and all of us!) can learn from.   

You can purchase Ted’s book, “Good Grandpa – Stories from The Heart of Grandfatherhood” here

Check out his blog for ongoing stories and to reach out to Ted with your own stories: 

www.goodgrandpa.com 

Follow Ted on social media:

IG at @GoodGrandpaBlog 

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ted.page.923

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Q1. 13yr old son doesn’t open up and share his feelings anymore.

Q2. Divorcing parents looking for best shared custody plan for kids. 

Q3. How to wean a 3yr old off his pacifier.  

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Master Celtic fiddler from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia, Natalie MacMaster, has received the Order of Canada and played with such greats as Yo-Yo Ma, Alison Krauss, The Boston Pops, The Chieftains and many more. Her rise to fame happened while she was navigating both a demanding career of a musician performing on the road and raising 7 children. If anyone knows about balance of career and family, it’s Natalie! Tune in to this episode as she shares her journey and how she manages to keep it all together! 

Purchase Natalie’s Book book: “I Have a Love Story” here. 

Follow Natalie on social media: 

IG: @nataliemacmasterofficial 

FB: https://www.facebook.com/nataliemacmaster/ 

Website: https://natalieanddonnell.com/ 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@macmasterleahy

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Amber Mac has been following the progress and proliferation of AI since it came onto the tech scene. Amber brings us up to speed on what AI is, the many places where you may not realize it is at work in the background, and how tech corporations are using our children as their test market for building algorithms. While there are many positives to AI that can benefit our children, Amber also offers advice about how parents can buffer the pull of our technology with "IRL" experiences and lobby for better government legislation that we're beginning to see in other countries. 

You can learn more about Amber Mac and her work through her website AmberMac.com

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Are you a perfectionist? Are you worried your child might be too? In this episode, I chat with two fellow Adlerian counsellors who have co-authored a book to help. We discussed the definition of perfectionism, why it originates, some of the various signs you might watch for, as well as the impacts perfectionism has. 

You can purchase their book, “Living Well With Perfectionism” here.

And, here’s where to follow them on their social sites.

Caroline Faifman:

www.thebaycounselinggroup.com

www.styleoflifecounseling.com

IG @styeoflife_counseling

Lindsay Turner: 

LinkedIn liturner227

IG @reimaginelifetoday 

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Leslie and I discuss the new parenting challenge of how to best manage our children as AI becomes a part of everybody’s life – adults and children included. We discuss mitigating risk while helping our children get the benefits of AI. Leslie also discusses the dangerous downsides of AI companionships, AI and homework, as well as offering up some tools and strategies to help parents keep their kids safe online. 

Here are some links Leslie recommends parents check out: 

Your Healthy Tech Playbook/Blog

Digital Wellness Lab

Look for more info on on Pinwheel kid’s phones here: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepinwheelphone/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pinwheelphone

Youtube: @thepinwheelphone

X: @pinwheelphone

LinkedIn

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Q1. 6yr old son enjoys showing others his strength and prowess but that can suddenly turn and look like aggression. 

Q2. Potty training a boy who refuses to poop in either diaper or potty and wants to touch his stool as he is passing it. 

Q3. My two children live in a trilingual home, and I want to ensure my ethnic language is taught to my children, but my eldest is giving me push back and refusing. 

Q4. 10yr old daughter has 50/50 time between divorced parents. Father’s ADHD and vision impairment leads to her not having her homework and other responsibilities done. 

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This is a must-listen episode if you are a working parent. I spoke with Bree Groff, the author of the book “Today Was Fun: A Book About Work (Seriously)”. Her mission is to illuminate the need for parents to model a positive attitude about being a working parent and the role work has in our life because our children are watching very closely. She reminds us that “when you overwork, your kids pay the price. It’s one thing for you to willingly overwork and pay the price yourself, it’s quite another to take the payments for it out of someone else’s bank account.”  

You can find her book here: 

Today Was Fun: A Book About Work (Seriously).

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This was a fascinating conversation with Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir whose TED talk, documentary and book have opened our eyes to a new concept of what intuition is, and how and why we need to plug into its potential. She shares her personal story of working at the UN after the war in Kosovo and the disconnection she felt along with her journey back to the Icelandic concept of Innseai. In this episode we discuss parenting with innsaei: intuitive listening, how to model emotional openness, the need to create space for stillness, foster creative freedom and connecting our kids and ourselves with nature. 

Listen to Hrund’s TED Talk

Check out her documentary

Her book Innsaei: Heal, Revive and Reset with the Icelandic Art of Intuition

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Q1. Should my 18yr old son who is going into the trades and starting a paid 20mo apprenticeship be charged rent while living at home?

Q2.15 yr old boy with major truancy issues for the past three years. How do I handle?

Q3. Toddler who has experienced trauma has outbursts and bangs their head. 

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In this episode, I’m joined by John Bromley to explore how we can foster social awareness and generosity in our children through charitable giving.

We dive into the concept of a charitable allowance—a practical way to teach kids how to give with intention and empathy. John shares insights on how parents can equip children to become thoughtful givers by involving them in the giving process from an early age.

We also discuss:

• the power of modeling generosity as a parent.
• why recognition and feedback are key when kids show (or miss) opportunities to be generous.
• practical ways to nurture empathy and social interest in everyday life.

Join us for a thoughtful conversation about raising kids who care about others—and are empowered to make a difference!

Connect with John here: 

https://www.linkedin.com/company/wearecharitable/mycompany/  

https://x.com/wearecharitable  

https://www.instagram.com/wearecharitable/ 

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Are you too kind? Are you a nice person who has trouble setting boundaries in your relationships, including with your children? If that is you, then check out this episode.  I interviewed Jennifer Febel who is the author of “How to Set Boundaries (without feeling like a d*ck)”. She and I talked about what a boundary actually is, and the hurdles we need to overcome in order to set and enforce them. Jennifer shares the beauty of their purpose as well as how to start by delving into your own self-discovery. 

You can find Jennifer’s book here: 

How to Set Boundaries (without feeling like a d*ck) 

You can learn more about Jennifer and her services at:

www.btgwellness.com

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Dr Twenge’s latest book is a must read for parents who are overwhelmed by managing their children’s tech. We discuss the research behind the 10 rules she outlines in her book, as well as how to address the likely pushback from your kids, and the pragmatic action steps for implementation. This book is just what every family needs. Dr Twenge also shares about the new digital landscape and the hurdles that she and other parents face in managing kids, and she also offers a clear path forward. Do not miss this episode! 

Dr Jean’s Twenge’s book “Ten Rules for Raising Kids In a High-Tech World” can be found here:

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/10-Rules-for-Raising-Kids-in-a-High-Tech-World/Jean-M-Twenge/9781668099995

OR

 https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Raising-Kids-High-Tech-World/dp/1668099993

Follow Dr Jean Twenge here: 

www.JeanTwenge.com

X.com @jean_twenge

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Q1. Boy/girl twins placed in the same class and already bickering over what the teacher said, who’s following the teacher’s instructions better etc… 

Q2. Teen athlete is not eating breakfast or lunch, not enough water, and then throwing off the evening schedule by eating right after school. 

Q3. Child in daycare is potty trained, eats everything and very co-operative, but at home they have accidents, are a picky eater and won’t listen. 

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Jessica Holmes is an internationally recognized comedian who has opened for such big names as Oprah, Ellen DeGeneres and Jerry Seinfeld. Yet, she still struggled with depression. In this episode she courageously tells her story and shares how we can all be aware of the grips that depression can have and ways to cope and overcome it. An inspiring conversation!

www.Jessicaholmes.com 

IG @happyfunholmes

FB https://facebook.com/HappyFunHolmes 

LinkedIn: Jessica Holmes 

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Parenting infants is a high demand job, and the single most important thing new parents can do is to establish a deep emotional bond. In this episode Dr Joanna and I discuss how exactly to go about that, as well as the things that can get in the way. We talk about maternal mental health, father bonding, breast vs bottle, bed sharing and much more! 

To get a copy of her book: 

The Baby Bonding Book: Connecting With Your Newborn 

Listen to her podcast here: “Pediatrics on Call” 

Follow her on social media at:

IG @jopargalinkiemd

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/

And her website is: www.jpbelinkiemd.com

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We often overlook the important transition from having been a student your whole life, to addressing the question of “what’s next?”. This is a time of self-discovery like never before. Hillary Spiritos joins me on the podcast to talk about this unique phase of life and her “Bat Outta Hell” coaching company with her model and method for helping this cohort challenge themselves to look deep and see if the choices they are making are from their authentic selves that is blossoming or are they still following the pressure of parents, peers, and society. A fascinating conversation!

Learn more about her coaching programs on her website:

Website: https://batouttahell.net/ 

Follow her on social media: 

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bat.outta_hell 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bat.outta_hell

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Q1. First grader doesn’t want to go to school or do homework.

Q2. Parents with three children - including one with gluten and sugar sensitivities and global developmental delay and ADHD – want to ensure they eat well and don’t develop a bad relationship with food. 

Q3. Should all kids be made to experience a consequence when only one child misbehaved?

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I had a great discussion with world-leading expert and author, Jonathan Alderson, about autism, it’s changed definition, and rising occurrence rates. He emphasized the need for individual treatment plans that consider time and order and the importance of early intervention. I was shocked at the number of families on long wait lists for services. To solve this, he created The Thrive Guide, a digital platform where parents can do a child assessment to generate a customize plan for their child and begin helping right away. 

Check out the parent resources at: 

The Thrive Guide

Read Jonathan’s Book: 

The Myths of Autism 

Instagram = @thriveguide.co 

Facebook = @thriveguide 

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In this episode, Titania shares key insights from her latest book on how parents can keep their kids safe online without getting overwhelmed or feeling guilty. We discuss the importance of learning how to use your kids’ tech, why “delay is the way”, and how to ensure that we as parents don’t fall into the trap of 'NMK' (Not My Kid).

Follow Titania Jordan here: 

https://www.instagram.com/titaniajordan/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZepYDQBoOjwXlKfkHU_9lA

https://www.facebook.com/titaniajordan/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/titaniajordan/

Read her books: 

Raising Kids In A Tech World 

Parental Control: A Guide To Raising Balanced Kids in the Digital Era

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Q1. Nanny wants to respond properly to a 2yr old’s large emotional displays.

Q2. 7yr old still needs a parent laying down with her to fall asleep – and this can take hours!

Q3. 7yr old behaves at school but is kicking, hitting, swearing, and taunting brother at home.

Q4. How to teach my 5 1/2yr old to be more co-operative and less bossy. 

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Dr. Shonna Masse has been practicing dentistry for 27 years. She is a board-certified paediatric dentist and is the founder of The Children’s Dental Centre and The Orthodontic Dental Centre, in Toronto, Ontario. In this episode I learned the difference between pediatric and family dentistry.  The distinction is important, and her additional qualifications means she is armed with the best approaches for working with children. We talked about preparing for a child’s first appointment, how to handle resistance, weaning off pacifiers, the surprising worst foods for cavities, parent guilt and much more! 

Dr Shonna Masse’s practices are:  

 The Children’s Dental Centre 

The Orthodontic Dental Centre 

Follow The Children’s Dental Centre on IG @TheChildrensDentalCentre

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Former pediatric occupational therapist Lisa Chan learned a great deal from her years working with children in schools, homes and in her office. During that time, she saw a gap in the services available. While she would offer important help to children, it was more likely the teachers and parents who were the “first responders”, and they did not always know how to respond to these children’s unique needs. Lisa solved that by turning her attention to education and skills training for the adults that nurture and support these children. 

You can follow Lisa Chan on all her social media platforms @lisaparentcoach

Her website for her courses and coaching is www.TheLisaChan

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Q1. 4yr old insists that all the Easter candy is hers to eat. How to manage the deluge of sweets? 

Q2. Adult child moved back home but spends his day gaming. A tech agreement isn’t age appropriate now. What else can we do as parents? 

Q3. My daughter wants a pet but is irresponsible, so I have said no, and it’s now a fight.

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Kyla Fox is an eating disorder specialist, survivor and advocate who reframes the way that we think about, and treat, eating disorders. As someone who struggled with disordered eating during her teen years, Kyla experienced the large care gaps and fundamental flaws in the treatment and recovery approach that prevents patients from getting the help that they need. Listen in as we discuss what parents need to know to address this issue in their families.  

Checkout the services provided at the Kyla Fox Center 

IG: @kylafoxrecovery 

Twitter: @KylaFoxCentre

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It was wonderful to have Ned Johnson back on the podcast to talk about his new workbook for parents. This is a companion book to “The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives”. We discuss the importance of having control as a protective factor in preventing youth mental health challenges, especially with anxiety and depression.  

Here are links to Ned Johnson and William Stixrud’s other co-authored books: 

The Seven Principles for Raising Self-Driven Children – A Workbook 

The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives

What Do You Say? How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home. 

You can follow Ned’s Fabulous advice on his IG and Tik Tok: 

@theothernedjohnson 

And on LinkedIn here.

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Q1. Anxious about letting my 12yr old daughter walk home from school alone.

Q2. Considerations for allowing 17 yr old daughter to go on a beach vacation without supervision? 

Q3. Helping a hurting 13yr old girl who told a boy she likes him and then all her friends turned on her. 

Q4. Small-for-his-age 8yr old might get hurt playing hockey. Should I encourage a different sport? 

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It’s not every day that you get to interview the former editor of the New York Times parenting section! I have been following KJ Dell’Antonia since she managed Motherlode and it was great meeting her finally, and discussing her book, “How To Be a Happier Parent”. KJ generously provided some of the research and practical wisdom that every parent can benefit from if they want to be happier while they do the inevitable hard work of parenting. 

If you’d like to read one of KJ’s books, here are the links! 

How to Be a Happier Parent: https://tinyurl.com/HappierParentBookAmazon

The Chicken Sisters: https://tinyurl.com/ChickenSistersAmazon 

Playing the Witch Card: https://tinyurl.com/WitchCardAmazon

In Her Boots: https://tinyurl.com/InHerBootsAmazon

Substack #AmReading: https://kjda.substack.com/

KJ’s website https://kjdellantonia.com/

Instagram: @kjda https://www.instagram.com/kjda/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kjdellantonia

The #AmWriting Podcast: https://itun.es/i67F2zJ

 or http://amwritingpodcast.com

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I met Nick Moon in Nepal on a recent service / trekking trip in support of the NGO “Empowering Nepali Girls”. Over our time together I learned about Nick’s childhood diagnosis of autism and how the education system failed him, how a special teacher finally understood him, and a mother who was also a counsellor advocated for him. He was a marine, a tradesman and now a counsellor in practice sharing his wisdom with clients. A gem of a person who shared his experience about living life with neurodiversity. An enlightening conversation!

You can get a copy of Nick Moon’s mother’s book “Tough and Cheerful: The Life And Times Of Kancha Sherpa, Last Living Member From The First Ascent Of Mount Everest” by Patricia Moon here.  

Learn more about the organization, Empowering Nepali Girls.

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Q1. 12yr old girl who has become super-quiet. What to do?

Q2. My teen doesn’t want to join any clubs, do I force him? 

Q3. My son says he is trying to find a job, but not really. Do I cut off his allowance?

Q4. My kids leave their stuff laying around and I nag but they never pick it up.

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In this episode, I talk with James Rilling, psychologist and author of “Father Nature: The Science of Paternal Potential”. Did you know that only five percent of mammals care for their young? Yup, and humans are one of the species that do! James explains the science behind testosterone, oxytocin and changes that occur for fathers. Plus, the importance of father caregiving and provisioning and the hidden benefits of rough play to teach emotional regulation and more! A fascinating conversation.

You can get a copy of James Rilling’s book here. 

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Rocky Garrison is one of our Adlerian greats. In this interview Rocky talks about the Individual Psychology model of human development including the development of a fictional final goal and how we develop beliefs about self, others, and the world to sustain this goal and the movement toward it. In this model of development, Rocky shares that the courage to meet the challenges of life constructively is developed primarily within the family constellation. 

If you have questions for Rocky, he can be reached at rockygarrison@gmail.com

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Q1. Teen boy is shutting down outside interests and turning to tech but won’t open up about it.

Q2. 13yr old daughter won’t wear her orthodontic elastics and teeth are shifting now. 

Q3. Ways for 3 and 5 year olds to find their sense of power in pro-social ways (instead of power over others). 

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Sarah Allen Benton has been a parent in recovery from alcoholism for more than 20 years. She is a counselling psychologist who specializes in addiction and recognizes how parents and their children can quietly but significantly be impacted by alcoholism. We discuss her “field guide to recovery” for parents that is based on a growth-focused lifestyle change, including emotional sobriety across the life span. 

Check out Sarah Benton’s book: Understanding The High-Functioning Alcoholic 

Have a look at her website too.

You can read Sarah’s column “The High Functioning Alcoholic” for Psychology Today here. 

On social media you can follow Sarah on these platforms: 

Sarah’s FB Page

Sarah’s FB Community: Parents in Recovery Support Group 

LinkedIn

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Q1. Teen boy makes the same unreasonable requests and then storms about, rude and angry. 

Q2. How to establish authority and connection when you are the less dominant parent in a traditional family where the dominant father works, and the less dominant mother stays home and does all the child care. 

Q3. How can I help my 10 and 13 year old boys get along peacefully? 

Q4. How to support a teen daughter who is getting excluded from her friends’ parties and sleepovers?

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