Stacey Stewart, the CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), talks with me about the impact that our parenting style has on saving lives by the way we approach prevention of drinking and driving. MADD has created a free, evidence-based, resource to help parents apply the best approach – download it here: 

Power of Parents Handbook

https://online.flippingbook.com/view/320259548/

MADD’s Social Media:

https://www.instagram.com/maddnational/MADD 

https://www.tiktok.com/@maddnational 

https://x.com/MADDNational 

https://www.linkedin.com/company/mothers-against-drunk-driving 

You can find Stacey on social media here:

https://www.instagram.com/staceydstewart/ 

X: @StaceyDStew

https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacey-d-stewart-mba-9b5472

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Q1. How to respond to the dramatic emotional displays of my son?

Q2. Strategies to give my son more responsibilities when he is not following through?

Q3. As a mom, how do I stay out of the power struggles between dad and son when it impacts me?

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Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?

Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don’t trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?

Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?

Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?

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Q1. 7yr old boy goes from sweet to angry and explosive with pushover mom

Q2. Husband says our democratic approaches don’t work for teen who needs stricter rules re: eating

Q3. 11 yr boy constantly blurts and talks over or repeats what he sees in the movie we are watching

Q4. 4 year old lying by telling stories that are not true and sneaking candy to school.

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Q2.  4 year old has clothing sensitivities 

Q3. 18 yr old daughter uses my toiletries and refuses to wash her clothes.

Q4. 13yr son hates school and refuses to talk about with me. 

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In this episode, I speak with the most qualified person there is to answer parents tech questions:  Amber Mac, a mom and the nation’s leading tech expert.  We’ll talk about screen time, appropriate ages for apps, tracking and blocking apps, useful apps parents should know about, mental health impact from being online and more. 

You can follow Amber on social media at @ambermac everywhere. 

Check out her book Outsmarting Your Kids Online here

Subscribe to the Amber Mac Weekly newsletter:  www.ambermac.com/newsletter 

Check out #TheFeed podcast wherever you listen

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Register for my upcoming webinar “Parenting Strategies for Tweens or Teens” here

Q1. 15 yr old girl, A student, caught smoking e-cigs in the school bathroom

Q2. 3.5 yr old boy, talkative at home, but won’t say hello / good-bye to others

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Got stressed kids?  Check out my convo with child and adolescent psychotherapist Katie Hurley. She has 20+ years working with kids and used that experience to compiled her latest book called “The Stress Buster Workbook For Kids” to pull together all the tools, skills and techniques she has gathered for her clients over the years into one great book.  While it is written for children 4-11 it’s clearly helpful to EVERYONE of all ages, including parents, teachers, clinicians and more.  Take a listen! 

Here is Katie’s website: 

https://practicalkatie.com/about-me/

Her book is here: 

https://practicalkatie.com/the-stress-buster-workbook-for-kids/

You can follow her on social media too: 

IG @katiehurley

FB https://www.facebook.com/katiehurleylcsw

Twitter: https://twitter.com/katiefhurley

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Terry Kottman is the creator of Adlerian Play Therapy.  In this episode we discuss what play therapy is, why Adlerian play therapy is different from other modalities, what types of children benefit from our work, what a session might look like, how gaming is integral to the process and so much more. 

You can learn more about Terry here: 

www.adlerianplaytherapy.com

http://leapt.arlo.co/w/

Here books are here: 

Partners in Play

Co-operative games: 

Pandemic

Forbidden Desert 

Gnomes at night

Dinosaur Escape

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Q1. 4yr girl leaves tables and sneaks food from fridge – do I lock it?

Q2. 4.5yr boy can’t settle and wait in line at JK

Q3. 11yr son refused to leave car.  We sat for an hour.  Did he win the power struggle?

Q4. 15yr son is getting angry with my rule that his phone has to be in my room at night.

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Feeding the family can be a chore.  Planning, cooking, table manners and picky eaters all present challenges, so I invited Canada’s Master of Mealtime, Claire Tansey, onto the podcast to give parents tips and tricks to not only navigate these challenges, but also to see the importance of happy meal times and teaching your own children to be inspired in the kitchen.  Listen in! 

You can follow Claire here: 

Twitter @tanseyclaire

FB  facebook.com/clairetanseyskitchen

IG @tanseyclaire

YouTube Claire Tansey’s Kitchen

Claire’s book! Dinner, Uncomplicated is available everywhere books are sold or right here:

Claire’s classes:  Visit learn.clairetansey.com to see what’s coming next or to sign up for the 60-minute Picky Eaters masterclass.

Claire's private counselling! Visit clairetansey.com

Meal Planner Type Quiz:   https://quiz.clairetansey.com/sf/f4c2fbf5

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I am so excited to introduce you to Ned Johnson, co-author of  What Do You Say: How to talk with kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home. Written during COVID but useful anytime. I met Ned years ago when he attended a presentation of mine in MD for the Adlerian organization in the Washington DC area known as PEP ( Parent Encouragement Program). Ned and Bill Stixrud have written an amazing follow-on book to their first national bestselling book The Self-Driven Child. I am so happy to see so many references to Adlerian quotes, books, concepts being catapulted into the mainstream through this important book. Enjoy the interview! He’s a gem. 

You can find the books here: 

What Do You Say? 

The Self-Driven Child

And follow Ned here:

Linkedin

Twitter

Facebook

Instagram

YouTube

TikTok

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Could it be that your “monkey child” who annoyingly hangs upside down from the furniture is actually not seeking your attention, but is a kid solving their own vestibular issues? Sabrina Adair (M. Sc. O.T.) discusses her new book “Understanding a Child The Occupational Therapy Way; Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child. 

Sabrina is not your every day occupational therapist! She is a like-minded professional working to help the world understand children through a developmental, holistic perspective that includes the Adlerian usefulness of behaviour but so much more.  Sabrina invites us to be curious instead of reactionary to use the wisdom of OT’s to really getting to know your child inside and out, so you can make educated decisions and choices in creating an environment at home and school that helps them thrive!  Everyone experiences the world uniquely.  Your kids don’t have to be symptomatic for you to learn how to best foster their potential. 

Sabrina’s website is www.enablingadaptations.com

You can email her at info@enablingadaptations.com

You can follow Sabrina through any of her social media handles: 

Linkedin  linkedin.com/in/sabrinaadair

Twitter  @EnablingAdaptn

FB Facebook.com/enablingadaptations/

IG @enablingadaptations

YouTube  Enabling Adaptations Inc You can find Sabrina’s new book here:  Understanding a Child the Occupational Therapy Way: Recognizing and Communicating the Unique Potential of a Child

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Q1. I am using your Adlerian parenting approaches but my husband has not studied them yet. How can I manage our different parenting styles? 

Q2. I am trying your techniques on ignoring when the kids fight and just walking away, but they follow me or they get physical with one another. What do I do?

Q3. My kids are using Zoom calls to stay connected with friends but when I check they were being disrespectful and just watching a friend play instead of visiting with one another.  

Q4. My daughter is using tech to stay connected with her friends more since Covid. Now that they are all online, they are excluding my daughter on FaceTime group chats like “mean girls”.

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Q1. How do I deal with perfectionism? Beats themselves up if they don’t win, get a good grade. 

Q2. How do you make a kid more organized?

Q3. Getting your child started on a clothing allowance.

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Q1. My 14 yr old lies and we don’t want her dating 

Q2. What are the signs of anxiety and how can we help kids manage?

Q3. How do we manage FOMO in the age of social media?

Centre for Humane Technology:  https://www.humanetech.com

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Jane and Chip just launched their co-authored book “Positive Discipline in the Montessori Classroom”.   We discuss the shared philosophies of Adler and Montessori, and the need to incorporate a consistent classroom management plan.

You can find more about Chip here:  

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chip-delorenzo-53568a10/

FB:  https://www.facebook.com/pdformontessori

You can find out more about Jane, all her book titles and Positive Discipline here: 

https://www.positivediscipline.com

https://www.positivediscipline.org

https://www.facebook.com/positivediscipline https://www.twitter.com/PDTweets https://www.pinterest.com/pdpins1 https://www.instagram.com/positivediscipline https://www.youtube.com/user/PositiveDiscipline

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Q1. 5yr old son is biting in kindergarten class 

Q2. 3.5yr son keeps sitting on his 5 mo baby brother 

Q3. 3.5yr daughter makes shy / anxious with strangers  (esp. men)

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Encouragement is one of the main tenets of Adler psychology, so I called on my friend and colleague Pascale Brady, Parent Educator and Certified Life Coach to help unpack this complicated word while sharing our personal stories.  

You can find Pascale here:  

https://www.facebook.com/Pascale.Brady.TheChallengeCoach

www.linkedin.com/in/TheChallengeCoach

https://twitter.com/PascaleBrady

https://www.instagram.com/the_challenge_coach

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIOFPqTy0v3G2_waTVMeDfA

And the PEP workshops here:  

https://pepparent.org

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Q1. Best way to help kids wind down after school and prevent them from meltdowns.

Q2. Help with creating consequences versus punishment for when a kid is turning off the bathroom light and jumping on the bed. 

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End of summer is a common time for parents to decide to end their marriage.  Family Law Lawyer Nathalie Boutet is my guest this week to discuss the different options available to parents as they move through separation and divorce.   There is much that parents don’t know!  I learned a lot myself. 

Here’s where you can connect with Nathalie: 

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/nathalieboutetlawyer 

Twitter: @BoutetFamilyLaw

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Q1. My boyfriend’s kids are not vaccinated and not following protocols which puts my kids in danger. 

Q2. How can I help my 14yo and 16yo discover themselves and their career / job skills? 

Q3. What are your thoughts on setting boundaries and guidelines for dating? 

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Kathy Buckworth has spent the last 20 years speaking and writing books about modern motherhood.  Now that she is a grandmother, she’s on to new subject matter and has launched her own radio show and “grandfluencer” brand “ The Go To Grama”.   Come listen to how grandparenting is in 2020 and this important relationship. 

Here’s where you can keep up with Kathy: 

www.kathybuckworth.com

Linkedin Kathy Buckworth | LinkedIn

Twitter https://twitter.com/KathyBuckworth 

IG https://www.instagram.com/kathybuckworth/ 

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Q1. 15 yr son used $2K money we put in his savings to pay for uber eats and games. 

Q2. Grade 3 daughter is clingy and likely won’t want to go back to school in the fall. 

Books on teaching children financial literacy:  Financially Fit Kids 

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Alyson’s thoughts on education and homeschooling during Covid. 

Q1. My daughter struggles with math and says “I’m stupid”. How do I get her to do her online math homework without a fight? 

Q2. My son does his homeschooling online in the morning from his bedroom, but when I check on him, he is on YouTube. How do I get him to do schoolwork without policing? 

Q3. (24:24) My son won’t sit still to do his homework. He gets up and down and it ends up taking him twice as long.

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Q1. 9yr old can’t explain why she is crying

Q2. 9yr old says “don’t cheer for me” when I say “way to go – you did it”

Q3. 9 &13 yr old boys who complain about nothing being fair between them

Q4. 9 &13 yr old boys who constantly fight and bicker 

Q5. 9 & 13 yr old boys with a dad who is a bad role model and the marriage is not working

Q6. 13 yr old boy who is sneaking

Aug 4th Do’s and Don’ts of Managing Teens’ Partying webinar link for details and registration here. 

Books on encouragement:  

Encouraging Children To Learn https://tinyurl.com/26h25w82

Turning People On: How to be an encouraging person:  https://tinyurl.com/59e88bta

Calvin Armerding podcast interview on the co-operative family: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-the-adlerian-way/id1508655119?i=1000522893991

Paul Rasmussen podcast interview on emotions: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-the-adlerian-way/id1508655119?i=1000503066250

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Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach for ambitious and overwhelmed women.  Sound familiar?  In this podcast we talk about her personal journey as a cancer survivor and how the cultural norms for motherhood have to be challenged.  Being a good mother should not kill us.  Listen as Heather shares advice for how to make parenting a beautiful spiritual journey instead. 

Here’s where you can keep up with Heather: 

www.facebook.com/heatherchauvincoaching

www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_/

http://heatherchauvin.com/podcast

http://heatherchauvin.com/book

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Raffi is a music legend.  He has been touching the lives of children with his music for 5 decades.  Just over 10 years ago, he founded the Raffi Foundation for Child Honouring.  We discuss its mission and how parents can learn online through the foundation's parenting course, and MORE! 

Here are links to the topics we discussed and more: 

Raffi’s new single and video, “Song For Healing” – video, etc.

More info here for you - https://raffifoundation.org/news/a-song-for-healing/

Raffi’s Foundation for Child Honouring - https://raffifoundation.org

Child Honouring online course - https://raffifoundation.org/take-the-course/

Raffi Foundation YouTube videos - https://www.youtube.com/user/childhonouring/videos

These include his talk with the Dalai Lama, Receiving an Honorary Degree of Letters from UBC, etc

Recent Globe and Mail profile - https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/music/article-a-lesson-from-the-very-young-why-raffi-could-be-what-the-world-needs/

Other Recent songs -

Baby Beluga 40th anniversary edition with Yo-Yo Ma -

https://www.facebook.com/YoYoMa/videos/736120667200251

For All You Do - Raffi’s song of gratitude for essential workers, with Lindsay Munroe, featuring Yo-Yo Ma -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-tQjeT5bD6k

Black Lives Matter To Me - Raffi’s song acknowledging the importance of the current moment for education

and awareness, and expressing a universal longing for justice and freedom - 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wwKSq10DIk

In early 2020, Raffi produced and sang on the first album by new children’s artist, Lindsay Munroe, called I Am Kind: Songs for Unique Kids 

Raffi on Twitter - @Raffi_RC

Raffi FB page - https://www.facebook.com/Raffi.Cavoukian/

Instagram - raffi_music

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Talk to our children about the news of mass children’s graves at residential schools. 

Q1. Do I monitor the money my teen is earning at his job? 

Q2. My 12 yr daughter does not want to take a 3 week vacation with dad (divorced 10 yrs).

Q3. My 23 yr daughter is living at home. Her 18yr old BF has basically moved in here. They never go to his place.  

Raising Financially Fit Kids – By Joline Godfrey 

https://alysonschafer.com/other-resources/

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Ria Simon is a Registered Early Childhood Educator and worked 6 years in the classroom. She taught all ages but mainly preschoolers.  In this episode, we chat about the relationship between parents and their children’s teachers, and why communication is so important. We discuss what is too much, too little and how the pandemic impacted our ability to connect. 

Check out more about Ria and the resources she provides at HiMama as the community ambassador through these links to her social media 

1. www.himama.com
2. https://www.facebook.com/groups/himamacircletime
3. https://www.instagram.com/himamaapp/

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Q1. My 18 daughter has come out to us but not her 15 yr old sister. Can we tell her?

Q2.  My 3yr old’s grama is dying and I don’t know how to tell her. 

Q3. My 4 yr old undoes his seatbelt in the car

https://alysonschafer.com/home-responsibilities-by-age/

June 22nd Power Struggles webinar link for details and registration here. 

Home responsibilities by age is here: 

Support for parents of LGBTQ+ kids here

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Q1. 1 of 3 triplets has sensory issues and getting her dressed is making us late for work.

Q2.  9yr old daughter prefers to be topless, how do I get her to cover up without body shaming?

Q3. 15yr daughter is defiant and I am afraid to DROP the rope – but it worked! 

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Today, I interview another one of our Adlerian greats, Dr Jon Sperry.  Jon is a multi-generational Adlerian like myself.  He joined me on the podcast to talk about how he uses drumming in a variety of ways and settings to build community, social interest and co-operation.  Trust me, you’ll want to dust off your bongo drums as soon as you hear this.  

Check out more about Jon on his website.  Or at LinkedIn

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So excited to bring you a great convo with my Adlerian colleague Calvin, about his book that was launched this month. I had an advance copy and was blown away! Calvin is a Senior Associate at Travelers Rest Counseling Associates in Travelers Rest, SC, where he counsels young adults, couples, and parents. He regularly lectures on Adlerian psychology at regional universities, and facilitates training workshops both locally and internationally.  

Calvin sheds light into how Adlerians conceptualize cooperation and the pitfalls of competitiveness that interferes with family life and personal growth.  

You can order Calvin’s book here:  https://henosis-press.square.site/

You can hear Calvin's band here:  https://open.spotify.com/artist/0K4akTnriO1ftrI1gAy5zy

https://www.travelersrestcounseling.com/

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Q1. 2.5 twins girls peeing in the park Q2. How to heal a broken relationship with your child

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Q1. 2 yr old competitive dancer has gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and I want to bring this up to her properly, and in a healthy way. 

Q2. 2.5 yr old has lost interest in potty training. How do I motivate them?

Q3. 7 yr old loves our new puppy but refuses to follow the rules and be gentle. What should I do? 

Q4. 8 yr old is loud and shrieks all the time. How do I get this to stop? I have tried everything. 

Alyson’s blogs on the topic of encouragement:  

https://alysonschafer.com/category/best-parenting-practices/praise-encouragement/

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Fionnuala gave up her teaching job to become a full time Adlerian Parent Educator and now has expanded to train educators too.  Originally from Ireland, and working in Germany, Fionnuala shares her journey and how others might seek out this fulfilling career, or at least explore more about Adlerian psychology outside of just a parenting class. 

You can check out training programs with Fionnuala at www.parentingtools.de 

Positive Discipline:  www.positivediscipline.org

Parent Encouragement Program P.E.P www.pepparent.org

Adlerian Summer Schools are called ICASSI and they are here: www.ICASSI.net

North American Society of Adlerian Psychology NASAP https://nasap.memberclicks.net

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Q1. 2.5 yo tantrums in public on way home from daycare

Q2. 7yo whistles just to bug us all. 

Q3. 9yo having sleep issues since the pandemic

Q4. How to get child to do homework without both of us ending up in tears?

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Dr Frank Walton is an internationally acclaimed and well respected Adlerian psychologist with more than 40 years’ experience working with families in private practice in Columbia, South Carolina.   He has taught Adlerian family counselling practices around the globe. He has produced and published many resources, articles and manuals on teens and teen suicide. He was the psychological consultant for the critically acclaimed and award winning video “Teen Suicide: An Approach To Prevention”. 

Check out the free downloadable resources on Dr Walton’s website.

The South Carolina Society of Adlerian Psychology’s Annual Conference

International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes  (ICASSI)

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Q1. 5&7 yo refuse to go upstairs to bed when it’s 8:30 bedtime. 

Q2. Son says “I am dumb” or “I am stupid” when he makes a mistake

Q3. 9 yo daughter says she is not good enough and is a perfectionist

Q4. My child has broken my trust and now I find myself ( wrongly) going through their room to “catch them in a lie”.  

Q5. 14yo daughter used to love camp, couldn’t go last year, now refuses to go this year. Do I force her? 

Q6. 18yo daughter lost her friend group, now working a PT job and has friends there, but how do I encourage her to socialize with them outside of work too? 

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Another great interview with NYT best-selling author Jess Lahey discussing her new book! Jess shares how her own journey from addiction to sobriety that led her to want to dig into the research on how best to parent children to prevent them from becoming addicts.  Her book offers up the answers! 

Buy The Addiction Inoculation book here. 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-lahey-b815a366/

Twitter: @jesslahey

FB: https://www.facebook.com/jessicapottslahey

IG: @teacherlahey

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFJ5jb98nTWRKRPm1JS0i_g/featured

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Michele is an educational psychologist and author of 25 parenting books, including Unselfie. She is an internationally renowned speaker and media mainstay. In our discussion Michele explains just how short sited our modern parenting practices are. She explains how we set up our kids to be strivers, but they eventually fail and collapse. Instead she instructs us about the parenting practices to raise kids who thrive and shine! Find Michel here: www.micheleborba.com IG @drmicheleborba Twitter: @micheleborb You can purchase her book from Amazon too:

https://www.amazon.ca/Thrivers-Surprising-Reasons-Struggle-Others/dp/0593085272

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Emma Brown, an author and investigative journalist for the Washing Post, perhaps best known for being responsible for bringing the Dr Christine Blasey Ford / Bett Kavanaugh story to light. In this episode of the podcast, I chat with Emma about the surprisingly scary issues facing boys today.  We discuss boys as silent victims of sexual assault who are not taken seriously; why we should drop the term the toxic masculinity and use the preferred “man box” and how to enlarge that box for our boys; the ambiguity of consent including the Aziz Ansari case; and much more! 

Check out more about Emma Brown and her book here: 

https://www.toraiseaboy.com

Twitter @emmerbrown

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Q1. 12yo thinks he should have full access on his phone and is disrespectful.

Q2. 7yo hits when he is mad. Worried he’ll be out of control at 13yo.

Q3. How do I teach child to self-validate instead of looking outward for approval?

Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com

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Michaeleen is a correspondent for NPR’s Science Desk. When her daughter Rosy was 3 years old, she bundled her up and left San Francisco to live amongst three ancient cultures to experience their parenting first hand.  She spent time with the Maya of the Yucatan, the Inuit of the Artic Circle and the Hadzabe in Tanzania.  In this interview we discuss the pitfalls of Western “WEIRD” parenting and the merits of ancient methods she refers to as “TEAM” parenting. 

You can follow Michaeleen on twitter @FoodieScience 

And her website:  www.michaeleendoucleff.com 

She loves emails:  mdoucleff@npr.org

You can purchase her book from Amazon too:

https://www.amazon.ca/Hunt-Gather-Parent-Ancient-Cultures/dp/1982149671

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Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode. 

In this episode I referred to a great book on encouragement:  

https://www.amazon.ca/Skills-Encouragement-Bringing-Yourself-Others/dp/1574440047  ( I suspect it is crazy expensive because it’s out of print.)  another great book is: 

https://www.amazon.ca/Encouraging-Children-Learn-Rudolf-Dreikurs/dp/1583910824 and 

https://www.amazon.ca/Turning-People-How-Encouraging-Person/dp/0967343941

Q1.  How to encourage a teen to get physically active during online schooling?

Q2.  How to deal with  9 yr old son who is touching his private parts in public?

Q3.  How to help 10 yr old daughter manage her emotions at home?

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Q1. What are the consequences for a 12 yr old daughter who is mean to her 9 yr old brother? 

Q2. When is it okay to swear? My 13 year old just started. 

Q3. Help in bringing back and improving family meetings now that they are teenagers.

Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com 

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Amy Lang has been a sex educator for 25 years.  She has heard it all!  In this episode, Amy leads us through how and what to say about sex at each of age and stage of development.   Amy has also offered up a ton of resources to parents: 

Books:

Find all of these books and more here.

• It’s NOT The Stork (2 - 4) 
• It’s SO Amazing (4 - 11 ) 
• It’s Perfectly Normal (11+ - and you if you are feeling rusty!) 
• The Every Body Book  (9 - 13)

• Consent for Kids (5 - 13)
• Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr (4 - 8)
• Good Pictures Bad Pictures (8+) 

Monitoring and parental controls:

Circle - this link will give $20 off

The Gender Unicorn - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19oRy6p9W67C-W0MSMlJ4Nat4_cEdBiMl/view?usp=sharing

Find Amy Here: 

The Birds & Bees Solution Center- Everything you need to become your kids’ go-to birds and bees source.

Use code BBKFEB21 for $15 off! 

Just Say This! Amy’s advice-column style podcast

IG: @BirdsBeesKids

FB: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeskids/

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Got a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer in an upcoming episode. 

Q1.  8 year old refuses to apologize 

Q2.  Divorced w/ shared custody, but teens want to see friends instead of uphold the parenting agreement to be with me outside the city

Q3.  Improve my patience levels 

Check out my Feb 23rd workshop on sibling rivalry

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Dr Belangee is an Adlerian clinician in private practice in Canton Georgia where she specializes in treating eating disorders from an Adlerian perspective.  In this episode we talk about social media’s impact on body image, family factors and personality traits of people who develop anorexia or bulimia, the difference between the two disorders, signs to watch for, preventative measures in your parenting, and how to approach dieting when it’s actually needed. 

Check out more about Susan here: 

Linkedin:  www.linkedin.com/in/susan-belangee-ph-d-lpc-b5248975

And Susan provided some great resources for listeners: 

National Eating Disorders Association – www.nationaleatingdisorders.org

ED Referral – www.edreferral.com (main page); for outside of US: www.edreferral.com/international

Boys and Eating Disorders - https://childmind.org/article/boys-and-eating-disorders/ (The Child Mind Institute site is a great one for general mental health info as well)

Book – Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher; recently revised 2019 for 25th anniversary

If you are interested in learning more about Adlerian psychology and parenting, check out the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology:  https://www.alfredadler.org and consider membership.

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