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| Brian Janes - came out after 26 years of marriage, now finding his place in his new community | 28 Aug 2024 | 00:31:33 | |
Summary Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 49 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After years of therapy and self-help, his wife eventually told him she wanted a divorce. Brian knew he was gay from a young age but didn't know how to embrace it. He suppressed his true self and lived in fear of being found out. After his divorce, he made the decision to come out and started a podcast for men coming out later in life. Keywords: comingout, marriage, divorce, self-discovery, suppression, fear, loneliness, podcast, outlate, gay, alwaysgay Takeaways Suppressing your true self can lead to frustration and strain in relationships. Coming out later in life can be a difficult and lonely process. Embracing your true self can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling life. Sharing your story and being vulnerable can help others going through similar experiences. Titles The Journey of Coming Out Later in Life Embracing Your True Self and Finding Personal Growth Sound Bites "Don't Let Your Wonder Turn Into Closure" "Here I Am, a Proud Gay Man" "You're Not Alone, We're All Out Here" Chapters (audio) 00:00 Introduction: Brian James' Journey 01:15 The Love and Connection of Marriage 03:11 The Strain and Separation in Divorce 04:09 Suppressing Identity and Fear of Coming Out 08:27 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery 14:13 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children 18:12 Starting the Podcast: Coming Inside Out 23:09 Loneliness and Struggles After Coming Out 28:14 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance 30:31 Conclusion: Forgiving and Loving Yourself Chapters (video) 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:04 Suppressing True Self in a Marriage 07:50 The Decision to Come Out 10:43 The Power of Wonder and Curiosity 13:36 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children 17:23 Exploring the New World 19:17 Regrets and Self-Kindness 21:2 0Loneliness and Self-Discovery 24:19 Starting the Podcast 27:37 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance 29:54 Summary and Closing Song Lyric Reflection: Ben Platt's "Older."
YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/n3Iuqhu2K5M YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Ron Bunnell - 39 years into his marriage before he came out to his wife; now living a full life | 20 Jul 2024 | 00:34:14 | |
Summary Ron Bunnell shares his journey of coming out as gay later in life and the impact it had on his marriage. Despite initial fears, Ron's wife, Barb, showed love and support, and they were able to rebuild their relationship. Ron emphasizes the importance of being authentic and true to oneself, even if it means facing challenges. He also highlights the significance of finding support from others in similar situations. Ron's story serves as an inspiration for those navigating mixed orientation marriages and coming out later in life. Keywords coming out, late in life, marriage, support, authenticity Takeaways
00:00 - Introduction: David Cotton's Out Late Podcast 01:13- Ron's Decision to Come Out to His Wife 03:11- Barb's Surprising Reaction and the Rebuilding of Their Relationship 08:27- Challenges and Complications in Ron's Journey 13:43- Ron's Childhood and Early Signs of His Sexual Orientation 17:53- The Social and Cultural Context of Ron's Coming Out Journey 19:19- The Impact of Ron's Sexual Orientation on His Marriage 22:00- Finding Support and Meeting Scott 25:14- The Kidney Donation and Its Impact on Ron and Barb's Relationship 28:36- Barb's Lasting Support and Ron's Advice for Others 33:02- Closing Remarks: Ron's Inspiring Journey Book Recommendation: Over the Cliff: Gay Husbands in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer - https://a.co/d/cMEgHNO Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/ep8EEuvEn1U YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Sara Abrams - came out as a trans woman at age 57…now living the life she always wanted | 14 Nov 2023 | 00:27:53 | |
This epidsode released in honor of National Transgender Awareness Week 2023. Sara Abrams spent most of her life identifying as a man. While she never considered herself a member of the LGBTQ+ community, at age 57, she came out and transitioned from male to female, while remaining in a relationship with her female partner of 28 years. Book Recommendation: Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource by and for Transgender Communities https://a.co/d/98A3Ocy Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Dr. Loren Olson - a successful psychiatrist, husband & father, came out at 40 after 18 years of marriage | 19 Oct 2023 | 00:29:35 | |
Dr. Loren Olson is a successful psychiatrist, and a husband and grandfather who came out at age 40 after 18 years of marriage. He is highly respected in his field, having presented extensive research on mature gay men to the World Congress in Psychiatry. An award-winning author… he’s most well-known for his book, “Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight.” Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Dr. Loren Olson https://a.co/d/hDUZ4FO Other Writings By Dr. Olson:
Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Marc Gravallese - came out at 40 with 4 kids and successfully redesigned his family | 01 Oct 2023 | 00:30:18 | |
Marc Gravallese spent much of his life convincing himself that he couldn’t be gay, despite all evidence to the contrary. Married with four kids, he came out to his wife at age 40… and together they successfully redesigned their family. Today he believes that what most men really need… is a good hug. Book Recommendation: Our Family Outing: A Memoir of Coming Out and Coming Through - https://a.co/d/09DOavT Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Rand Bishop - Grammy nominated artist identifies as bisexual after 3 marriages to women | 19 Sep 2023 | 00:35:24 | |
Rand Bishop is a Grammy nominated songwriter, a musician, a singer, an author and a columnist. He’s neither straight, nor gay. At age 73, after three traditional marriages, he now identifies as bisexual. From his home in Oregon, Rand Bishop is here to share the joys, and challenges of being…bi. Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life - Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life Rand Bishop’s One Man Show: "Songs, Observations, and Confessions" - https://tinyurl.com/m9vmbt7 Rand Bishop’s book: TREK: My Peace Pilgrimage in Search of a Kinder America - https://a.co/d/6XcfV7i amBI, a community for bi people, our partners, and allies: https://www.ambi.org/ Amid ‘unicorn hunters’ and sterotypes, here’s how bisexual people are finding support - USA Today via amBi - https://www.ambi.org/pressblog/bisexual-community-helps-break-stereotypes Gallup Poll: U.S. LGBT Identification Steady at 7.2%; over 58% of LGBT adults identify as bisexual - https://news.gallup.com/poll/470708/lgbt-identification-steady.aspx Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Rich Rumsey - overcame conservative upbringing & proximity to gay hate crime before coming out 20 years later | 29 Aug 2023 | 00:27:56 | |
Rich Rumsey attended the University of Wyoming at the same time as Matthew Shepard, the gay student who was beaten and tragically left for dead near Laramie in 1998. It was a hate crime that shook him to his core. 20 years later…he would come to understand why, when he finally came out as gay to his own wife and children. Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, “Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.” Matthew Shepard: https://www.matthewshepard.org Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Dr. Ginger Campbell - host of podcast Graying Rainbows shares her story and insights from her guests | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:27:42 | |
Dr. Ginger Campbell, host of podcast Graying Rainbows about coming out later in life LGBT, shares her personal story and insights from her guests. She was married for 38 years and came out at age 60. She also has hosted two other podcasts and is in the Podcaster Hall of Fame. Book Recommendation: https://a.co/d/7Jg9damFrankly My Dear I'm Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide To Coming Out - https://a.co/d/eTryXNj Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Ryan Redmond - coming out at 49 after two marriages, four children, and two divorces | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:29:12 | |
Ryan Redmond, successful business consultant and business owner, was married, not just once, but twice! After four children, and two divorces, he finally came out at age 49. He is now living with his partner in Salt Lake City. Book Recommendation: David Christel’s book, Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be - https://a.co/d/6F6jabV Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Jonathan Wilson - comes out on live TV, a respected attorney and school board member | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:24:22 | |
Jonathan Wilson has seen the best of people and the worst. A long serving member of the Des Moines, Iowa, School Board and successful attorney, married with kids, he came out publicaly on live TV at age 50. When e tried to run for reelection he received death threats and feared for his life. Hear his story how Jonathan came to understand and accept his sexual orientation, the impact he made on others, how he handled the threats of violence towards his family, and how he turned his life experience into a force for good to help others of all generations. Book Recommendation: Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straigh by Dr. Loren Olson - https://a.co/d/4GOJxUv https://a.co/d/4GOJxUvFIrst Friday Breakfast Club: https://www.ffbciowa.org The Saggy Baggy Elephant: https://a.co/d/dciIDD5 Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Brian Beaudette - after being married for 20 years he struggled with the impact on his family | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:26:46 | |
Summary David's guest, Brian, first came out to his wife over 20 years ago but chose to stay married for the sake of his family. It took ten years for him to decide it was time to live a different kind of life. Today, at age 59 he can finally say he’s “found his tribe.” Takeaways
00:00 The Struggle of Coming Out After 20 Years of Marriage 05:57 Finding Support and Belonging in the LGBTQ+ Community 11:41 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Discovery After Coming Out Book Recommendation: Gay Men and The New Way Forward, by Raymond L. Rigoglioso - https://a.co/d/7uByFA9 Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/X5L6lz_TX64 YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Kristin Kalbli - The Impact of Coming Out on Straight Spouses | 05 May 2024 | 00:40:25 | |
Summary In this episode, David Cotton interviews Kristin Kalbli, the host of Our Voices podcast and an LGBT ally. Kristin shares her experience as a straight spouse and her mission to help others in similar situations. They discuss the signs that Kristin missed in her marriage, the impact of her husband's coming out on their relationship, and the importance of honesty and communication in the coming out process. Kristin asks David about his own coming out to his spouse. They also talk about the creation of a guide for coming out to straight partners and spouses, and the need for support and understanding for both parties involved. Takeaways
00:00 Introduction and Background 01:09 Kristin's Experience as a Straight Spouse 09:49 Resources for Straight Spouses 14:11 The Coming Out Process and Its Impact 28:46 Preparing to Come Out to a Straight Spouse 31:31 Supporting the Straight Spouse 35:42 Honesty and Accountability 39:34 Conclusion Information About Kristin Kalbli and OurPath
YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/vv20ZumingY YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact David: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Charles Vollmar - successful chef…married with 2 kids; wife discovers he's gay and outed him to everyone | 12 Apr 2024 | 00:34:07 | |
Summary Charles Vollmer, a successful California chef, shares his journey of coming out later in life and the challenges he faced. After being outed by his wife, he left his possessions behind and started a new life in San Miguel, Mexico. He is rebuilding his career as a culinary teacher and started sharing his story on social media. Charles discusses the unique challenges faced by men who come out later in life, the impact on their families, and the need for support and understanding. He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and finding a community of like-minded individuals. Keywords: coming out, late in life, challenges, rebuilding, support, community Takeaways
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/SLJXxU-wUaw YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Dan Bolen - at age 70 came out as gay, kicked out of his church and ended his 2nd marriage | 08 Mar 2024 | 00:30:52 | |
Dan Bolen - at age 70 he came out as gay, was kicked out of his church and ended his second marriage Summary Dan Bolen shares his journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a gay man after living a life of denial and fear. He discusses the challenges he faced in a restrictive religious community and the fear of losing his family and friends. Dan's story highlights the importance of being honest with oneself and embracing authenticity. He emphasizes the power of finding a supportive community and having a voice. Dan's memoir and podcast serve as a source of inspiration and empowerment for others on a similar journey. Takeaways
00:00 Introduction and Background 01:02 Realizing Difference and Fear of Rejection 03:17 Burying and Denying One's True Self 04:13 Marriage and Denial of Sexuality 05:38 Disfellowshiped and Shunned by the Church 07:30 Accepting Bisexuality as a Coping Mechanism 08:55 Accepting and Embracing Authentic Self 1 0:07 Coming Out and the Lowest Point 11:02 First Experience with a Man and Validation 12:29 Divorce and Finding a New Community 15:17 Defining Self and Having a Voice 24:21 Being Honest with Yourself 27:32 Advice for Those Questioning Their Sexuality 29:06 Reflection and Impact Dan Bolen's Memoir: The Courage to be Courageous: https://a.co/d/6x7yl0r Dan Bolen's Website: https://danbolen.com/ Book Recommendation: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. https://a.co/d/ah7pXuT Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/Axp2j_lgVMM Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Larry Best - retired trial lawyer, came out 20 years into his marriage; now living a full life with partner and husband of 20 years | 16 Feb 2024 | 00:32:07 | |
Summary In this episode David interviews Larry Best, a retired trial lawyer who came out 20 years into his marriage, now living a full life with his partner and husband of 20 years. Their conversation explores the coming out journey of Larry, who shares his unique story of coming out to his business partner and wife. Larry's decision to come out was driven by a combination of personal factors, including the need to be true to himself and the impact it was having on his mental health. The reactions from his business partner and wife varied, with his business partner making a joke and his wife experiencing a range of emotions. Larry's decision to get married was influenced by societal expectations and the belief that he could suppress his attraction to men. However, he eventually realized that he had been living a lie and needed to come out. The process of telling his wife and children was challenging, with mixed reactions from each family member. Larry and his wife initially tried to maintain a co-parenting relationship, but over time, their relationship deteriorated. Larry also faced challenges in his professional life, with some clients distancing themselves after learning about his sexual orientation. However, he eventually transitioned to a successful career as a plaintiff lawyer. Overall, Larry's story highlights the complexities and emotional impact of coming out and navigating relationships and careers. In this conversation, Larry shares his experience of coming out and how it changed his perception of the world. He discusses the importance of joining LGBTQ political and social organizations to connect with the community. Larry also talks about how he found his partner and offers advice for men who are at the beginning of the coming out process. He emphasizes the need for support and understanding for spouses and family members during this time. Takeaways
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 00:20 Unusual Coming Out Story 02:27 Reactions from Business Partner and Wife 03:31 Emotional Impact on Wife 05:45 Supporting Wife Emotionally 06:12 The Decision to Get Married 08:04 Realization of Being Gay 11:22 Fear of Coming Out 18:26 Divorce and Financial Settlement 24:45 Telling the Children 29:44 Reflections on the Coming Out Process 33:34 Impact on Business and Career 41:15 Changing Perception 44:10 Connecting with the LGBTQ Community 45:53 Finding a Partner 51:06 Advice for Men Coming Out 57:09 Supporting Spouses and Family 58:35 Understanding the Wife's Perspective 59:04 Closing Remarks Larry Best's online memoir: https://medium.com/@laurencebest Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life, edited by Vinnie Kinsella. https://a.co/d/dh3N2yM Gay Fathers Worldwide: https://gayfathersworldwide.wordpress.com/ Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/uLCzcLsxCUo Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Rick Clemons - author, life coach, and host of LIFE (UN)CLOSETED & 40 PLUS…GAY MEN, GAY TALK | 01 Feb 2024 | 00:29:19 | |
Summary In this episode David interviews Rick Clemons, well-known as the host of the popular podcast “Life (UN)Closeted” as well as “40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk.” He is a sought-after public speaker and a successful life coach. He is also the author of the book “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay: the late bloomers guide to coming out." Rick shares his journey of coming out and helping men come out of the closet. He discusses the challenges of living a dual life and the fear of disappointing loved ones. Rick emphasizes the importance of authenticity and unapologetically being oneself. He also addresses common threads among closeted men and the need to overcome limiting fears. Rick shares his plans for a new book and podcast, focusing on living an unapologetic life. The key takeaway is the power of embracing one's true identity and living authentically. Takeaways
00:00 Introduction 00:40 Rick's Life's Work 01:34 Rick's Story: Coming Out 03:00 The Influence of Religious Upbringing 04:27 Living a Dual Life 05:54 The Shift to Authenticity 07:22 The Moment of Falling in Love 09:14 Transactional Sex vs. Intimacy 09:43 Coming Out to Spouse 11:40 Co-Parenting and Balancing Relationships 15:38 Common Threads in Closeted Men 18:57 The Biggest Lie Closeted Men Tell Themselves 20:22 Honesty and Authenticity in Conversations 21:09 Living an Unapologetic Life 23:53 Future Plans: New Book and Podcast 25:48 Message for Men Coming Out Later in Life 27:18 Conclusion Rick Clemons: https://rickclemons.com/ Book Recommendation: Frankly My Dear, I’m Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide to Coming Out - https://a.co/d/aD2vgKD Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/yL6RVDjZugs Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Shaun Williams - founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide and Bent Couch Counselling | 04 Jan 2024 | 00:37:43 | |
Shaun Williams - founder of Gay Fathers Worldwide and Bent Couch Counselling Summary In this episode, David Cotton interviews licensed counselor Shaun Williams; he previously had successful career in construction when he came out as gay after 25 years of marriage. After coming out he changed his career to help others finding their true selves. Shaun shares his experiences growing up in the 80s, discovering his sexuality at a young age, and the weight of keeping his secret. He discusses the impact on his family and the challenges he faced in coming out. Shaun also talks about the creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide, a support group he formed for men who have come out later in life. He emphasizes the importance of finding a safe space and community for support and understanding. Takeaways
00:00 Introduction 00:48 Growing Up in the 80s 02:16 Discovering His Sexuality 03:16 Getting Married 04:15 The Weight of the Secret 05:12 Dealing with Guilt and Shame 06:11 Living a Lie 07:11 Finding Purpose in Helping Others 09:06 Impact on Family 11:30 Inspiration from Daughters 12:56 Coming Out and Seeking Help 13:53 The Process of Coming Out 15:19 Creating Gay Fathers Worldwide 19:11 Regrets and Lessons Learned 23:20 Acceptance in the Gay Community 26:27 Late-Life Coming Out Experience 28:25 Creation of Gay Fathers Worldwide 29:21 Common Experiences of Children 31:48 New Life and Career 36:41 Importance of Community 37:37 Conclusion Bent Couch Counselling: https://www.bentcouch.com.au/ Gay Fathers Worldwide: https://gayfathersworldwide.wordpress.com/ Podcast website: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/C7PJTAcmGT8 Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| William Brown - a counselor and author of 'Coming True' came out late & now helping others | 04 Dec 2023 | 00:37:28 | |
William Brown is an author, a licensed professional counselor, and a man who knows firsthand what it’s like to come out later in life. At age forty he told his wife of 18 years, and his children… that he is gay. What he’s learned since—helped him create the definitive “how to” book for coming out later in life. Book Recommendation: Coming True: Seeking Truth in Self, Later In Life, by today's guest, William Brown. https://a.co/d/6cEM5Jj Video version of this episode: https://youtu.be/5y_GJsqzcXg Podcast website and for more resources about coming out LGBTQ+: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| John Duerler - navigating complexities of coming out while creating community for gay fathers | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:28:46 | |
Summary In this interview David Cotton speaks with John Duerler who shares his journey of self-discovery as a gay man, navigating the complexities of coming out to his family and the challenges of maintaining relationships. He discusses the importance of being true to oneself, the supportive reactions from his family, and the creation of a community for gay fathers. John emphasizes the significance of open communication and offers advice for others in similar situations, highlighting that they are not alone in their struggles. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, family dynamics, self-discovery, relationships, gay fathers, acceptance, mental health, personal growth, community support Takeaways
"I had to be true to myself." "I want to come work for you." "It gets better." "You're not alone." "Be true to yourself. Get help." Audio Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Coming Out Journeys 03:00 Early Experiences and Realizations 05:55 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics 08:49 The Impact of Family and Support Systems 12:13 Coming Out to Family and Friends 15:10 Creating a Supportive Community 18:02 Reflections on Dating and Relationships 20:46 Advice for Others on Their Journey 24:07 Conclusion and Resources Book Recommendation: Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life, edited by Vinnie Kinsella. https://a.co/d/dh3N2yM Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/0Dx2jCfpzlQ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| David Nygaard - divorce, heart attack, bankruptcy…a journey of resilience | 10 Oct 2024 | 00:32:53 | |
In this conversation, David Cotton speaks with David Nygaard about his journey of coming out as gay later in life. They discuss the challenges of recognizing one's identity in a society that often stigmatizes homosexuality, the complexities of navigating relationships and marriage, and the impact of a significant health crisis on Nygaard's life. Nygaard shares his experiences of embracing authenticity, his political aspirations, and the importance of open communication in relationships. The conversation concludes with advice for those in mixed orientation marriages, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and seeking professional guidance. David also offers advice for others who may be struggling with their identity and relationships. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, relationships, authenticity, heart attack, personal growth, life changes, gay marriage, mental health Takeaways
00:00 Awakening to Identity 05:40 Navigating Relationships and Marriage 10:02 Embracing Authenticity Post-Divorce 18:16 Health Crisis and Life Changes 24:32 Political Aspirations and Community Impact 27:55 Building a New Relationship 30:47 Advice for Those in Mixed Orientation Marriages Book Recommendation: “Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi?” by Joe Kort. https://a.co/d/0J2egb1 Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/4ius0O4Y_8U YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2024 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved.The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Mark Dembo - the weight of truth…a journey of self-discovery | 20 Jan 2025 | 00:34:56 | |
Summary Mark Dembo shares his journey of coming out at the age of 59, reflecting on the challenges and transformations he faced in his relationships, particularly with his wife and children. He discusses the emotional weight of living a life that felt inauthentic and the liberation he felt upon embracing his true self. Mark emphasizes the importance of support from family and community, and the complexities of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage. His story highlights the potential for love and acceptance even in the face of significant life changes. Mark emphasizes the significance of love and understanding in navigating the challenges of coming out later in life, offering insights and advice for others on similar journeys. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, self-discovery, relationships, family dynamics, support groups, acceptance, personal growth, authenticity, mental health Takeaways
00:00 Mark's Journey of Self-Discovery 07:51 The Impact of Coming Out on Relationships 15:45 Navigating Family Dynamics 20:57 Finding Community and Support 26:05 Publicly Embracing Authenticity Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/8RrNuddNU-c YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| BONUS - Navigating the Journey of Coming Out with hosts of the Out Loud podcast, Jon and Brian | 07 Jun 2025 | 00:22:21 | |
Thank you to Jon & Brian of Out Loud for allowing me to publish this episode from their podcast. You guys are fantastic! I've been a fan since I first discovered you on YouTube! Keep living your life, OUT LOUD!! Out Loud Podcast with Jon and Brian:
Summary In this episode of Out Late With David, David Cotton is a guest on the podcast, Out Loud, while visiting Key West FL. Along with the hosts of Out Loud, Jon and Brian, they discuss the complexities of coming out later in life, the importance of community support, and the dynamics of relationships, especially for older gay men. He shares insights from his experiences and those of his guests, emphasizing the need for authenticity, compassion, and understanding in navigating personal journeys and family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the challenges faced by older men in the dating world and offers advice on how to approach relationships with clarity and openness. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, age gap relationships, gay community, life coaching, support, authenticity, family dynamics, relationships, self-discovery Takeaways
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Audio Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Out Late with David 01:06 Coming Out Later in Life 04:05 The Role of Community and Support 07:54 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics 12:09 The Impact of Age and Experience 15:54 Living Authentically and Finding Peace 18:45 Advice for Older Men in Dating Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YOGFb9CWCjw YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Wayne Scott - Redefining Marriage: A Journey Through Non-Monogamy | 30 Mar 2025 | 00:31:51 | |
Summary In this conversation, Wayne Scott shares his journey through a mixed orientation marriage, detailing the challenges and transformations he and his wife faced. They navigated the complexities of identity, love, and commitment, ultimately redefining their relationship through non-monogamy. Wayne emphasizes the importance of communication, patience, and the willingness to adapt as individuals grow over time. His story serves as a testament to the possibility of creating a fulfilling partnership that honors both personal and shared desires. Keywords mixed orientation marriage, non-monogamy, relationships, LGBTQ+, marriage advice, communication, love story, personal growth, therapy, bisexuality, coming out, LGBTQ+ Takeaways
00:00 Navigating Mixed Orientation Marriages 09:50 The Shift to Non-Monogamy 20:01 Lessons Learned from Non-Traditional Relationships Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/wHFdiTkYoYk YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Stefan Schneider - building the modern family | 06 Mar 2025 | 00:34:53 | |
In this episode of Out Late with David, Stefan Schneider shares his journey of coming out as gay, navigating relationships, and building a modern family. He reflects on the challenges of coming out in the early 90s, the impact of his sexuality on his marriage, and the emotional turmoil of divorce. Through self-discovery and therapy, Stefan learns to embrace his identity and finds happiness in his new life with his husband and blended family. The conversation highlights the importance of authenticity, communication, and the complexities of family dynamics in the LGBTQ+ community. Takeaways
Chapters 00:00 Navigating Identity and Relationships 15:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery 30:00 Building a Blended Family 33:48 Reflections on Happiness and Authenticity Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/YGWJGVhw2s8 YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Wendy Cole - "Gender is Between the Ears, and Not the Legs" | 15 Jun 2025 | 00:43:13 | |
Summary At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and purpose by finally embracing who she is. Now a mentor and advocate, Wendy is helping others navigate their own gender journeys and working to humanize what it means to be transgender. Keywords transgender, coming out, identity, support, mental health, community, authenticity, transition, LGBTQ+, personal growth Takeaways
00:00 Wendy's Journey of Self-Discovery 11:58 The Struggles of Repression and Acceptance 22:15 Transitioning and Finding Community 32:29 Living Authentically and Educating Others More About Wendy Cole:
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© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Bill Schroeder - Living Authentically at 60 | 04 Aug 2025 | 00:26:38 | |
Summary In this episode of Out Late with David, Bill Schroeder shares his transformative journey of coming out as a gay man at the age of 60 after 37 years of marriage. He reflects on the feelings of fear and authenticity that led him to finally embrace his true self. Bill discusses the emotional challenges he faced, the reactions of his family, and the importance of self-discovery. He emphasizes that it's never too late to live authentically and offers advice for others who may be struggling with their identity. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, authenticity, self-discovery, family dynamics, life coaching, personal growth, emotional journey, gay men, late life coming out Takeaways
"I wanted to feel more authentic." "I could have done this 10 years ago." "Fear kept me in the closet for years." Chapters 00:00 A Turning Point at 60 12:40 The Journey of Coming Out 19:55 Authenticity and Self-Discovery 22:09 Advice for Others in the Closet Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/9TEPfX13JB8 YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Kami Hunley-Jackson - Faith, Family & Findings: The Complex Journey of Coming Out | 05 Jul 2025 | 00:29:25 | |
Summary In this conversation with David, LGBTQ+ ally and researcher Kami Hunley-Jackson, who shares her personal journey and research on the coming out process, particularly focusing on the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. The former Latter Day Saint is the mother of two LGBTQ+ children and sister to her gay brother. She discusses the challenges faced by families, the impact of religion, and the importance of communication and support systems. Kami emphasizes the need for understanding and acceptance, both for those coming out and their loved ones, and highlights the mental health implications of the coming out journey. The conversation also touches on the evolving nature of religious acceptance and the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ+, acceptance, mental health, family support, religion, communication, research, personal stories, allyship Takeaways
00:00 Understanding the Importance of Coming Out 02:36 Personal Journeys: Family and Acceptance 05:25 The Role of Religion in Coming Out 08:35 Research Insights: Communication and Relationships 11:13 Mental Health and the Coming Out Process 14:05 Support Systems and Resources 16:48 Advice for Families and Individuals 19:51 Looking Ahead: Future Research Directions Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/jCsPAB9C2aM YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact David:
© 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Mark D’Agostino: I’m Not Starting Over, I’m Becoming | 03 Feb 2026 | 00:31:50 | |
A retired Army officer and father comes out at 67, choosing authenticity, love, and a fuller life — as himself. In this episode of Out Late With David, Mark D’Agostino, a retired U.S. Army officer and father of three, shares his powerful coming-out story at age 67. After a 43-year marriage and a military career shaped by duty and silence, Mark chose to stop surviving and start becoming. He reflects on family, love, reinvention, and the profound relief that came with finally living authentically — not starting over, but becoming fully himself. Takeaways
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/6zibRI6n1TI YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Greg R. Baird: When Your Story Saves a Life | 09 Jan 2026 | 00:38:33 | |
In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, LGBTQ+ civil rights advocate and global lecturer Greg R. Baird sits down with David in Palm Springs to share his journey from growing up closeted in a small Michigan town to becoming a respected educator, storyteller, and champion for allyship. Greg opens up about coming out at 31, navigating painful family rejection, and the moments that shaped his calling—including a life-changing encounter with a student who credits his story with saving her life. Together, David and Greg explore the transformative power of storytelling, finding community after coming out, and learning to live with courage, connection, and authenticity at any age. This episode offers wisdom, warmth, and hope for anyone on their journey of self-acceptance and belonging. Takeaways & Sound Bites
Greg R. Baird: https://linktr.ee/gregrbaird and www.GregRBaird.com. Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/eEBC-_5dYY8 YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazY4U004NGpVT3Q1SGVhYmxZSUs2a0txdFRHUXxBQ3Jtc0ttOE51VU9CeXRxY3htejdQTHpPbWFYdGkyd2o1dklsZUxYTnhtWUd1T010T2RWSU1famo4a0ctdjdyZldYWUtZcTNRemMzT1hrd2t4OWdyRURBRmxGTlA1ZmNzVXl3Sjd2LVZRUnQ0dGhMNGdoenp3Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.DavidCottonCoaching.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8 https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Charlie Vollmar - From Outed to Reborn: Chef Charlie’s New Chapter | 30 Nov 2025 | 00:41:10 | |
Summary In this powerful follow-up conversation, David talks with Chef Charlie Vollmar on his return to Out Late With David to share how his life has transformed since his first interview 18 months ago. Speaking from Palm Springs, Charlie updates listeners on his reinvention in San Miguel de Allende—rebuilding his life after being outed, creating a new chosen family, relaunching his culinary school, and deepening his work in cultural exchange and philanthropy. With his signature radical vulnerability, he reflects on personal growth, identity, male connection, creativity, and purpose, all while offering honest guidance for others navigating late-in-life coming out journeys. This uplifting episode highlights resilience, authenticity, and the joy of discovering life on the other side of trauma. Keywords #ComingOutLater #GayMen #LGBTQStories #AuthenticLiving #ChosenFamily #ChefCharlieVollmar #SanMiguelDeAllende #PalmSpringsLGBTQ #CulinaryJourneys #GayExpatLife #Self-discovery #Authenticity Takeaways • Reinvention at any age is possible. • Authenticity transforms everything. • Mexico sparked Charlie’s creative and personal rebirth. • Chosen family brings deep healing and joy. • Radical vulnerability can save lives—your own and others’. • Letting go is often the first step to moving forward. • There is hope and purpose on the other side of trauma. • Male connection—emotional, social, spiritual—can be profoundly healing. Sound Bites 1. “I didn’t just come out—I became someone I never knew I was allowed to be.” 2. “Mexico didn’t just give me a new home. It gave me a new mind, a new heart, and a new life.” 3. “Radical vulnerability wasn’t a choice—it was the door that saved me.” 4. “At 60, I thought my story was over. It turns out it was only just beginning.” 5. “I left with two carry-ons, a red backpack, a laptop, and a cup of coffee—and rebuilt everything from nothing.” 6. “My chosen family filled a space in my heart I didn’t even know was empty.” 7. “I wake up every day now with one thought: I can’t wait to see who I become today.” 8. “Authenticity isn’t a destination—it changes every hour with the people you meet and the life you live.” 9. “There is so much life waiting for us on the other side of trauma. Hold on. There’s always another side.” 10. “Teaching isn’t my job—it’s my purpose. It’s the gift I get to give away every day.” The Classic Cocktail Anthony Bourdain Called The 'Perfect Mixed Drink': https://www.tastingtable.com/1360085/classic-cocktail-anthony-bourdain-perfect-drink-negroni/ Boeuf Bourguignon | The French Chef Season 7 | Julia Child: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uruT8FPpeKc Connecting with Chef Charlie Chef Charles Vollmar Epicurean Exchange Culinary Education Aparicio 25, #5, Zona Centro San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, México WhatsApp: +1 925-369-4181 Email: charlie@epicureanexchange.com Websites: Education: www.epicureanexchange.com Travel: www.epexculinarytravel.com Blog: www.epicureanglobalexchange.com Social media: Facebook:
Instagram: @charlesvollmar & @epexculinarytravel Bluesky: @carlitosv.bsky.social January Cover of GoNaked Magazine 😉 https://gonakedmagazine.com Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/BISaHg0YRQs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| Kevin O'Connor - out at 55 after two marriages | 01 Oct 2025 | 00:37:44 | |
Summary Kevin O'Connor shares his profound journey of self-discovery, coming out at 55 after two marriages and raising children. He reflects on his childhood experiences, the struggles of acceptance, and the complexities of navigating relationships. Through candid discussions, he reveals the challenges of living authentically and the joy of finding love with his husband after years of hiding his true self. Kevin emphasizes the importance of embracing one's identity and the lessons learned throughout his life. Keywords coming out, LGBTQ, self-acceptance, relationships, marriage, personal journey, authenticity, love, family, memoir Takeaways
00:00 Kevin O'Connor's Journey of Self-Discovery 02:56 Navigating Early Life and Identity 05:34 College Experiences and Hidden Truths 08:02 Marriage and the Struggle with Identity 10:19 The Complexity of Relationships 11:29 Fatherhood and Compartmentalization 14:11 The Breaking Point of Authenticity 20:41 Embracing Authenticity: The Journey of Coming Out 24:11 Finding Love: The Role of Timing and Connection 29:40 Family Dynamics: Coming Out to Loved Ones 32:46 Reflections on Life: Lessons Learned and Moving Forward 37:05 Closing Book Recommendation: Journey Out: Memoirs of men coming to grips with their orientation, by Gene Probasco Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/IYLGA_lLYGs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
| David Cotton: It’s Never Too Late. My Coming Out Story on The Better Man Podcast | 06 Mar 2026 | 01:05:43 | |
In this special crossover episode of Out Late With David, David shares his personal coming out story as a guest on The Better Man Podcast with Dean Pohlman, founder of ManFlow Yoga. Together, they explore what it means to choose authenticity later in life, the courage required to rewrite your story, and why it is never too late to live more honestly. If you’ve ever questioned parts of your identity, faced a major life transition, or wondered whether change is still possible, this conversation offers reflection, insight, and hope. The Better Man Podcast: https://manflowyoga.com/podcast/ Man Flow Yoga: https://manflowyoga.com/ Takeaways
Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/o96tgoKn1QU YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact me: mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com David Cotton Coaching: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Out Late With David: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com My Links: https://linktr.ee/davidacotton © 2026 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content. | |||
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