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Shame vs. Guilt: How Empathy Heals Sexual Wellness and Relationships
05 Dec 2025
00:50:19
**Shame doesn't just make you feel bad, it fundamentally shapes how you experience your own body and desires.**
Returning guest Dr. Alison Ash breaks down exactly why shame is so destructive to sexual wellness. Unlike guilt (which says you did something wrong), shame tells you that *you yourself* are wrong, creating a deep fear of rejection that literally dysregulates your nervous system. This isn't something we're born with. It develops through early experiences where we internalize negative reactions, eventually becoming that harsh inner critic voice.
The contradictory messages are especially confusing: women should look desirable but not actually desire, while men should always be sexually available yet their desire is somehow dangerous. These cultural and religious influences create confusion that conscious rejection alone can't fix.
Here's where it gets interesting: empathy is shame's antidote. When someone truly accepts you without judgment, healing becomes possible. (This is why finding sex-positive communities matters so much.) Dr. Aly explains how even BDSM can be healing for trauma survivors through consensual power exchange—reclaiming control over experiences where they previously had none.
What if the fantasies or interests that make you feel broken are actually completely normal?
Ready to understand the difference between your own feelings and society's expectations? This conversation offers practical strategies for recognizing shame's sources and reclaiming your agency.
Estimated Timeline:
00:00:00 - Moving Through Shame and Sexual Wellness 00:02:09 - Guilt vs Shame: Understanding the Inner Critic 00:04:47 - Inner Shame and Sexuality's Cultural Conditioning 00:08:56 - Shame's Impact on Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment 00:10:48 - Shame, Empathy, and Healing Through Connection 00:14:33 - Power Exchange as Healing and Shame Reframing 00:17:43 - Reading Fiction as Healing and Normalization 00:19:14 - Shame Prevents Us From Enjoying Pleasure 00:21:33 - Building Trust Through Gradual Vulnerability 00:26:02 - Understanding Sexual Non-Concordance and Shame 00:28:45 - Unpacking Body Shame Through Conversation 00:32:56 - Lubrication Myths and Sexual Shame 00:35:17 - Being Selective About Who You Share With 00:37:09 - Sex Toys as Tools, Not Shame 00:41:12 - Internet's Role in Community and Identity 00:44:00 - Building Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love
We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Super early bird tickets available now for $200-$400 off!
Age Gap Excerpt from John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures
02 Dec 2025
00:17:03
Age Gap Excerpt from John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures. This is a short excerpt from the book because the podcast host platform is now censoring me, after five years of being fine with my content. I will be looking for a new host platform that doesn't censor love and romance. We should all be fighting for our rights to free speech. Censorship comes in many forms, like this where they are de-platforming me. Never stop fighting for the right to free speech from the First Amendment of the United States. Protect the First Amendment!
Witches Love Sex, Dark Erotic Fiction: In Scarlet's House Chapter 5
31 Oct 2025
00:17:12
Season 5, Episode 683: Happy Halloween! Witches Love Sex, Dark Erotic Fiction, Dark Fantasy: In Scarlet's House, Chapter 5. Enjoy this dark romance excerpt from Ruan's Audiobook In Scarlet's House. Get the full audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/inscarletshouseaudiobook
Book Blurb:
Scarlet had become a powerful witch. She also had beauty and brains, but what she was missing was a grand house and some wealth to her name, so she sought George. He blubbered his way through their marriage until he was as annoying as a bug, or an overripe houseguest. That didn't take long. She had plans for him though, big plans.
When Scarlet invited Arianna, her secret love, over to her new husband George's mansion, the girl's night she had promised turned out to be quite decadent indeed. It was complete with a much-needed reconnection for the women, a barely clothed muscle clad chef to ogle, and enough servants, with the promise of extra benefits, to satiate even Cleopatra.
But it turns out having everything doesn't sit well with a dominant witch, until she's truly satisfied with everyone where she wants them.
Tropes: sexuality, dark fantasy fiction excerpt, dark romance fiction, Femdom dark fantasy & sci fi, forced proximity, shrinking and growing woman, magic, HEA, humiliation, degradation, explicit scenes and language, LGTBQ.
Other Halloween Erotica/erotic romance by Ruan Willow:
Crafting Gothic Romance, Romantasy, and the Art of Erotic Storytelling with Author Nikki Flynn
27 Dec 2024
01:26:14
Ep 549: Crafting Gothic Romance, Romantasy, and the Art of Erotic Storytelling with Author Nikki Flynn.
Exploring the Depths of Romantasy with Author Nikki Flynn. Join Ruan Willow as she delves into the imaginative world of author Nikki Flynn, a versatile writer whose works span the genres of fantasy, horror, and romantasy. In this episode, Ruan and Nikki discuss the intricacies of writing across genres, the importance of subverting tropes, and the creative process behind Nikki's latest projects, including her modern gothic romance, "Wanting Fangs: A Modern Gothic Romance" (excerpt at the beginning of the episode). Find it on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited (affiliate link, podcast may receive commissions on sales, thank you for the support!) https://amzn.to/3PdJfQZ
Nikki shares her journey from avid reader to author, highlighting the influence of her academic background in psychology, philosophy, and criminology on her writing. Discover how Nikki weaves complex characters and unexpected plot twists into her stories, crafting narratives that challenge conventional storytelling. Explore the role of erotic elements in Nikki's work, her approach to character development, and the challenges of balancing fantasy and romance in her novels.
Whether you're a fan of vampires, werewolves, or intricate world-building, this episode offers a captivating look into the mind of a talented author.
00:00:28 - Nikki Flynn writes against expectations with subverted tropes or underutilized situations 00:02:26 - One easy way to promote your work is to make it easy for yourself 00:04:31 - Your book has erotic elements 00:08:21 - Main love interest or like love interests 00:13:27 - Tell us about your favorite character though. Sebastian's teenage son Gideon 00:14:27 - What brought you to wanting to add some erotic elements to the story 00:22:02 -teenage son does most of his meddling through texting 00:23:52 - She started writing as a child and then expanded into multiple genres 00:29:52 - You'll end up a villain in a book. 00:30:31 - I got the idea for modern Gothic romance from a dream 00:36:40 - You would really have to work to make it stay serious at that point 00:38:42 - Do you tend to start with your characters or your plot idea first when writing 00:45:01 - Do you find that your writing and reading tastes align 00:49:40 - Do you experience writer's block 00:55:27 - There are so many different ways people write when they're writing 00:58:37 - Sometimes there's a typo in a story or a book 01:00:12 - So what are you working on now that you can share with people 01:11:29 - Do you think jargon dictates the genre of the book when writing intimate scenes headliner app
Husband's Friend MFM Threesome Freeuse Hotwife Erotica Fiction Excerpt by Dilana Rose
23 Dec 2024
00:17:46
Episode 548: Husband's Friend MFM Threesome Freeuse Hotwife Erotica Fiction Excerpt from What's in the Box? by Dilana Rose from the 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause Anthology, a spicy romance book of erotic fiction stories from indie authors. Enjoy this hotwife enm snippet!
About the author Dilana Rose: Dilana Rose is an Australian author of erotica. She intended to write about her life babysitting for single fathers, but ended up writing hotwife and freeuse erotica. What's in the Box is the latest installment of Eva's Hotwife Adventures - her husband changed the rules, now his friends can come and introduce her to all their toys.
About the Anthology: Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Want to play Holiday Spicy Book Bingo? You can get free books and win prizes...for a limited time only! Learn more here: https://geni.us/BingoCard
Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!
Holiday erotica! Holiday Beer Wench for the Brothers, A Stranded and Spring Break with her Best Friend's Brothers Short, book 4 Taboo Version, find it here: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/holidaybeerwench
Cowgirl Sex in the Sauna Excerpt & Writing with Erotic Imagination, Exploration, and Bisexuality with Christian Pan
20 Dec 2024
01:23:26
Episode 547: Cowgirl Sex in the Sauna Excerpt & Writing with Erotic Imagination, Exploration, and Bisexuality with Author Christian Pan.
Join Ruan Willow in a captivating conversation with Christian Pan, a prolific author who has published over 100 erotic short stories in 18 books since 2021. In this episode, they dive into Christian's journey as a writer, his unique approach to storytelling, and the intricate layers of erotic fiction.
Christian shares insights into his creative process, discussing how he finds inspiration from everyday experiences and the world around him. He opens up about the challenges and triumphs of writing erotica, exploring themes of sexuality, identity, and the human experience. Discover how Christian navigates the complexities of writing bisexual characters and the importance of representation in the genre.
As they delve deeper into the world of erotic fiction, Christian and Ruan discuss the evolving landscape of self publishing, the impact of technology on the industry, and the significance of platforms like Theo Reads that champion creative freedom. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in the art of storytelling and the limitless possibilities of erotic fiction.
00:00:25 Christian Pan has published more than 100 erotic short stories since 2021 00:02:12 You have quite the array of things you've done. And all your publishing is fantastic 00:03:56 So what do you tend to focus on for tropes in your erotica 00:05:17 You sound like you start with an idea and then the characters come after 00:07:04 Do you think of yourself more of a plotter or pantser 00:12:05 Fiction is a useful kind of art form, like other art forms 00:13:33 You like to add sex to your writing in some stories 00:15:29 Some people review erotic writing as sex work, which floors me 00:20:10 5 simple steps to being a successful self published RO author 00:22:43 Why are you writing? What is compelling you to do it? 00:23:27 How would you define success as a writer? 00:28:16 Did you start with writing erotica or have you written other genres 00:49:26 You do include bisexuality in your work 00:52:19 Bisexuality is often presented as multiple partner or a threesome 00:56:43 When I was a college student in New York City, no one was bisexual 01:01:39 I personally cheer every time someone creates a new erotica book 01:03:02 Do you have a favorite book or a favorite character that you created Show notes headliner app
Sensual Blindfold Erotic MF Dom sub Erotica Fiction Excerpt by Author Cornelia Quick
17 Dec 2024
00:25:15
Ep 545: Sensual Blindfold Erotic MF light Dom/sub Fiction Excerpt from the erotica fiction story "Trust Fall" by author Cornelia Quick focused on female pleasure and heightened sensory experience from sensory deprivation. This man is hot! What an amazing lover!
About the Author Cornelia Quick: I'm just a gal who knows what she likes and that's what I write about; I enjoy exploring new kinks, usually in a lighthearted mode, and helping readers discover new turn-ons.
Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!
Oleander Plume's Erotic Fiction: Her Triumphs in Stroke Recovery to Spicy Stories
13 Dec 2024
00:57:42
Episode 544: Unveiling the World of Erotica with Oleander Plume! Join Ruan Willow in an exciting conversation with Oleander Plume, a talented author who specializes in writing erotica. Discover the fascinating journey of Oleander as she navigates through the world of erotic fiction, sharing her insights on writing from the male perspective, the allure of gay erotica, and the tantalizing art of dirty talk.
In this episode, Oleander opens up about her personal challenges, including overcoming a stroke, and how it shaped her writing career. She discusses her love for crafting stories that push boundaries and explore the depths of human desire. From her initial foray into writing erotica in the early 2000s to her successful anthology projects like "Chemical Sex," Oleander's journey is one of resilience and creativity.
Ruan and Oleander also delve into the exciting launch of Theo Reads, a new platform for erotic stories that promises to break free from traditional censorship and offer a wide range of kinks and genres. Get ready for a spicy discussion that celebrates the freedom of expression and the power of storytelling.
00:02:34 " Well, what brought you to wanting to write erotica 00:06:35 " Some things are just more natural to us and others are forced 00:10:22 " entering short stories for submissions helped hone her writing style 00:14:43 " I wrote a story about sex and chocolate. And who doesn't like both those things 00:17:17 " Your first full length novel was published in 2017 00:20:41 " And then we are both on the upcoming Theo reads that is to launch... 00:25:53 " Grandma arrested for writing dirty stories about naked women 00:29:08 " We were created to do this. Our bodies are created with this in mind 00:29:26 " In 2020, you had a stroke and had double vision 00:33:52 " The thing that was the worst to get over was cognitive dysfunction 00:37:35 " To overcome hardships and still keep going when you have hardships is amazing 00:42:15 " An incognito browser lets you search for keywords without being identified 00:46:42 " Theo Reads is launching soon and it's going to be huge 00:48:38 " So you said you like to write gay erotica 00:52:16 " One of the fun parts of writing is not pigeonhole yourself into one genre 00:56:13 " I think humans like variety. More flavors of ice cream are better
Find writing for both Oleander and Ruan (plus a bunch of other amazing authors) at: https://linkin.bio/gettheoreads/ Show notes created by headliner app
MFM Menage a Trois Erotica Fiction Excerpt by Steli Simeonova
10 Dec 2024
00:17:26
Ep 543: MFM Menage a Trois Erotica Fiction Excerpt from the story Good Top, Bad Top by Steli Simeonova...a sexy spicy book erotic excerpt from an anthology book.
Steli Simeonova is a dark romance and horror erotica author that loves experimenting with spice, BDSM, and different pairs in her writing. If you are looking for sexy books with some thrill in them, and a few weird objects used as sex toys, then you found the right person for it! Find out more about her and her writing here, and dive into the world of fantasy: https://linktr.ee/BitchQueenHsgirl
Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Want to play Holiday Spicy Book Bingo? You can get free books and win prizes...for a limited time only! Learn more here: https://geni.us/BingoCard
Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!
Bisexual MILF and Model LaLa Tada Mattress Actress, Swinging, and Life
06 Dec 2024
00:57:33
Episode 543: Bisexual MILF and Model LaLa Tada Mattress Actress, Swinging, and Life, career, her Psychology and Healthcare Degree, Lactation consulting, family, and pets. She has a hairless cat!
Listen to the fun and intriguing conversation with LaLa Tada as she shares her unique journey into the adult film industry and the swinger lifestyle. Discover how LaLa's path, filled with twists and turns, led her to embrace her true self and find empowerment in her career and personal life.
LaLa Tada opens up about her beginnings in the adult industry, her experiences with OnlyFans, and how she balances her professional life with her family. She candidly discusses the acceptance of her work in Las Vegas versus other parts of the country, and how her psychology degree influences her parenting style.
Explore the dynamics of Lala's relationships, her adventures in the swinger lifestyle, and the importance of setting boundaries. Learn about the various fetishes she's explored, including pee and fart fetishes, and how she navigates the challenges and joys of her career in the adult film industry.
Don't miss this enlightening and empowering conversation that celebrates sexuality, personal freedom, and the journey to self-discovery. Video version https://youtu.be/7wzP2ps_ftU
- 02:07 - How did you end up where you are today? - 07:11 - I am a Board Certified Lactation Consultant - 09:00 - Do you like what you're doing? - 09:53 - Do you feel like living in Vegas it's a little bit more acceptable - 13:44 - Do your kids know what you do or do you hide it - 17:54 - Your psychology degree colors how you interact - 18:29 - So does your husband still like to shoot stuff with you - 22:09 - Do you like the label of milf? - 26:11 - Where do you see yourself going in the future - 29:36 - Do you have certain people that you frequently work - 34:05 - Pee is sterile, right? If it wasn't, you'd have bladder infection - 35:52 - What other fetishes have you done - 40:13 - You've done photo shoots with rope - 40:39 - Would you be willing to talk about your experiences in the lifestyle - 43:48 - How do you generally find people? - 46:35 - Do you really have a hairless cat? Yes, I do and other pets - 52:57 - The rabbits have modified their burrow to stay warm in all weather LaLa Tada's website at https://www.lalatada.com/
Quotes from Lala Tad Da: "My journey, like I always say, was not linear by any means. There's all kinds of twists and turns and ups and downs." "I get to express myself in ways that I feel like I wasn't able to prior to, like, you know, deciding to go all out with this." "I'm 41. I don't mind sharing my age. I celebrate it."
Quote from Ruan Willow: "I bet your kids are growing up without shame about sexuality and I think that is just huge."
Hotwife at the Hotel Erotica Excerpt by Aileen Gallagher
03 Dec 2024
00:18:25
Season 4, Episode 542: Hotwife at the Hotel Erotica Excerpt by Aileen Gallagher, a MF ENM fiction story. It's not cheating when permission is granted! And not only granted but organized by...her hub!
About The Author: Aileen Gallagher is the alter ego to Aila Glass. She writes hotwife, freeuse and steamy erotica. If you are interested in checking her out you can find her first book here: https://geni.us/ubtfpebook
Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!
Erotic Journeys and Horny Humanity: A Chat with Richard "Dick" Erdoun
29 Nov 2024
01:22:29
Episode 540: Erotic Journeys and Horny Humanity: A Chat with Richard "Dick" Erdoun.
Topics: Erotica Writing, Smut Literature, Sex Positivity, Book Talk, ASMR, Romance Novels, Audiobooks, Human Sexuality, Creative Writing, Imagination In Writing, Erotic Novels, sex education culture, Literary Erotica, Friends To Lovers, Sex Stigma, Reading Culture, Erotic Audio, Theo Reads.
Unlocking the World of Erotica with Richard Erdoun and Ruan Willow in an exhilarating conversation with "Dick", a burgeoning talent in the world of erotica. In this episode, Richard shares his journey into writing smut and erotica, revealing his passion for exploring the depths of human desire and longing. Discover how his personal experiences have shaped his storytelling, particularly his fascination with friends-to-lovers narratives and the complexities of rediscovering intimacy within relationships. Dive into the discussion on the societal stigmas surrounding erotica and the importance of embracing one's horniness without shame. Richard and Ruan candidly explore the impact of societal norms on personal expression and the liberating journey of writing and consuming erotica. They also touch on the evolving landscape of erotica, highlighting the potential for audio erotica to break down barriers and reach new audiences. Richard is set to make waves with his upcoming projects on Theo Reads and Blue Sky. Stay tuned for his forthcoming erotic novels and short stories that promise to delve into the psyche of human sexuality with authenticity and depth. Connect with Richard on Blue Sky for updates and to share your story ideas. Embrace your desires and join the conversation as Ruan and Richard celebrate the beauty of erotica and the freedom it brings to explore the intricacies of human connection. Find Richard Erdoun on: Blue Sky and soon on Theo Reads.
🗣️ Quotes from Ruan Willow
"We should be trying things we want to try. Otherwise, we don't want to look back and be like, geez, I wish I would have done that."
"We were created to feel these things. We were given these sensations, these nerve endings on purpose to enjoy sex."
"Readers live thousands and thousands of lives in their lifetime."
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🗣️ Quotes from Richard Erdoun
"Human beings are horny as fuck all the time."
"The imagination never goes out of style."
"Keep paying for your porn. Do it. Find the stuff that you like and just enjoy that shit." made with the assistance of headliner.
MFF Age Gap BJ and Oral Taking His Daughter's BF While His Wife Watches by Ian Snow
26 Nov 2024
00:13:40
Episode 538: MFF threesome Age Gap BJ and Oral Taking His Daughter's BF While His Wife Watches Erotica Excerpt, spicy fiction by Ian Snow.
Author Ian Snow: Internationally recognized as the greatest smutmeister to have ever smutted, Ian Snow pounds words into your brain hole in a variety of subgenres, including age gap, teacher-student fantasies, and MILFs, MILFs, and more MILFs. He kind of has a MILF addiction. B dubs, call him if you're a hot mom. Find more of Ian's writing: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ian-Snow/author/B07JBPRD5R
Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!
Haunted Hayride Sex Surprise Erotic Improv, like enjoying storytelling of a sex story around a bonfire
28 Oct 2025
00:32:25
Episode 682: Open door, NSFW Fiction. Marissa and Humphrey are dressed up in costumes to go on a Halloween haunted hayride and trail, but Humprey has a surprise for his girlfriend. They enjoy all the jump scares and the getting close to each other, cozying up close to get away from the scary monsters! As they progress to the secret spot, Humphrey guides his lover into a dark spot for some sexy fun!
This Haunted Hayride Sex Surprise is an Erotic Improv, like storytelling of a sex story around a bonfire. Imagine you are sitting around a warm bonfire in the dark, cool night, but cozying up to the warmth of the fire as you listen to me spin a tale. Back in the day when stories were only verbal, things like storytelling around bonfires would happen. A spooky tale, but with sex in it is what you will get in this Halloween erotic fiction story. I literally created this story right off the top of my head as I recorded it, I didn't have it written...it was live creation!
Kinky Cartoons and Consent: Emily Blake's Kinkyville
22 Nov 2024
01:19:33
Ep 537: Exploring Sexuality through Kinky Animation and Sex Education with a Strong Focus on Safe Practices in Intimate Relationships with Emily Blake, in an animated series for adults called "Welcome to Kinkyville". Join Ruan Willow in this enlightening episode as she chats with Emily Blake, a talented writer, producer, and "nerd" who is venturing into the world of animation with her project, "Welcome to Kinkyville" (watch the pilot https://youtu.be/_rT6zd_Fg4I?si=x5S5NM8tn_b-9XPv on the PewPewPew Productions channel on YouTube).
Emily shares her journey of discovering her kinky side post-divorce, and how her experiences led her to create an educational, yet entertaining, animated series aimed at demystifying kink for newcomers.
Emily discusses the importance of safe and consensual practices in the kink community, and how "Welcome to Kinkyville" serves as a resource for those curious about exploring their desires safely. Inspired by shows like "Adam Ruins Everything," the animated series aims to educate viewers with humor and warmth, making kink approachable and less intimidating.
Dive into the creative process behind the animation, the challenges of crowdfunding, and the importance of accurate representation in kink education. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster or just curious, this episode promises to be both informative and entertaining, shedding light on the complexities and joys of kink through the lens of animation.
Other topics: sexual health, sexual wellness, mental health, self help, self care.
00:01:53 " Kinkyville is an animated series aimed at new kinkers 00:05:36 " Adam Ruin's Everything" teaches people how to kink safely 00:07:58 " You say you used a Colombian animation studio for the animation 00:17:42 " First of all, you don't want it to be wrong 00:21:05 " Did the animators completely create what you look like 00:22:50 " We're trying to get the word out about this project 00:29:06 " I think we need to encourage people more to do solo play 00:37:38 " People need to also learn about abusive relationships and what that entails 00:41:25 " How about we talk about your favorite kinks that you would love to incorporate 00:46:52 " So do you have any like, kinky stories you like to share 00:51:22 " As long as both people are ok with it, it's ok 00:54:38 " We need to talk more about sex 00:58:53 " Emily Blake says Netflix is very sex positive 01:09:08 " People are hearing good things about sex because I'm very sex positive 01:10:36 " If you decide to crowdfund something, make sure all your rewards are easy Show notes with headliner dot app
BDSM Choking Climax on the Train Erotica Excerpt Alec Lake
19 Nov 2024
00:10:43
Season 4, Episode 536: BDSM Choking Climax on the Train Erotica Excerpt Alec Lake from the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology (any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).
Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
More about the author Alec Lake: Alec Lake writes dominant women and horny hotwives while showing the men who love them. Matt Lake writes stories that explore the freeuse kink, usually with a normal person being thrown into an unusual situation.
From Page to Stage: Exploring Gender and Performance with Queer Erotica Author Titus Androgynous
15 Nov 2024
01:10:12
Season 4, Episode 535: Queer Erotica and Drag: Embracing Spicy Art Forms with Titus Androgynous. Join Ruan Willow in this captivating episode as she dives into the world of queer erotica and performance art with the talented Titus Androgynous. Titus, a transmasculine, non-binary writer and performer from Toronto, Canada, shares their journey through various art forms, including burlesque, drag, and erotica writing. With works featured in acclaimed publications like Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year and Listen to Your Skin, Titus brings a unique perspective on gender, sexuality, and the art of performance. In this episode, Titus discusses the intersection of gender performance and erotic storytelling, exploring how embracing different gender expressions can be both freeing and empowering. They share their experiences as a drag king and the challenges of leaning into sexiness on stage. Titus also reads their story "Demon Lover," a poignant tale that intertwines themes of mental health, anxiety, and sensuality.
Quote from Titus Androgynous: "No one was going to take me seriously until I took myself seriously."
Guest Bio: Titus Androgynous (they/them) is a transmasc nonbinary writer and performer from Toronto, Canada. Their queer erotica has been included in several publications including Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 6; Listen to Your Skin: An Anthology of Queer and Self-Love; and I Write the Body: Queer and Trans Kink, Desire and Defiance. Titus has performed and created pieces in genres including burlesque, sketch comedy, clown and Shakespeare. They have been performing nationally and internationally as a drag king since 2013. Titus is one of the founding authors of Theo Reads, the newest and best place to read spicy stories online.
Book: (affiliate link, podcast may earn a commission) Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 6 https://amzn.to/3CHdrRi
00:01:30 " You're also a singer and an actor and you do spicy art forms 00:02:28 " we can talk about gender and performance 00:09:06 " You know that some people will be reading these stories as a form of sexual play 00:10:55 " Is there really a difference between drag and burlesque 00:14:38 " I'm going back a bit about gender and Gender performance 00:19:34 " There's no room for improv in burlesque because you're working with music 00:20:25 " For the writing you really have to trust yourself. For the presentation you have to wait 00:21:55 " A lot of fiction focuses on that young age and the newness of that 00:25:42 " Would you be willing to read something for us? Absolutely. So this is a piece that will be available on Theo Reads 00:42:49 " When you sit down to write something, what's the first thing that grips you 00:44:05 " Do you consider yourself more of a pantser or a plotter 00:49:20 " Community involvement versus watching with someone else and watching their reactions 00:54:31 " How many times do male authors get sold compared to female authors 00:56:42 " Theo Reads 01:01:26 " People are judging those books by their cover, right headliner app
Erotica Anthology Excerpts 1: Hotwife, Age Gap Hotwife, FFM Threesome by Lacey Cross, Lillia Wett, Delores Swallows
13 Nov 2024
00:40:32
Season 4, Episode 533: Erotica Anthology Excerpts 1: Hotwife, Age Gap Hotwife, FFM Threesome by Lacey Cross, Lillia Wett, Delores Swallows. Enjoy three erotica excerpts from a CHARITY ANTHOLOGY! ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF. Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45 Filthy Stories for a Cause, A Limited Edition Collection from your Favorite Spicy Authors. Get the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology 40+ flavors of spice, one sweet cause.
MEET THE AUTHORS!
Lacey Cross: Lacey Cross is a writer of wife-sharing erotica with over 100 short stories published since she started in 2021. Her stories emphasize the pleasure found from the wife living her best slut life and embracing the hotwife lifestyle. She explores themes of free use, submissive wives with dominant bulls, BDSM... and oh-so-many men. https://www.lacey-cross.net/
Lillia Wett: Lillia Wett specializes in erotica about naughty older women and the younger men who know how to please them. Sometimes, it's just a fling but who knows when a romance might pop up? If you're into that kind of thing, has she got the books for you! https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B08WHQFGQB
Delores Swallows: Delores Swallows has many dirty thoughts and, during his free time, he writes them down in the form of stories. Born and bred in the north of England, he has a commoner's accent and a bit of a crush on his future queen. https://www.amazon.com/stores/Delores-Swallows/author/B00RHUCSME
Not So Guilty Pleasures: 40+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).
Podcast host Ruan Willow writes erotica and erotic romance fiction, spicy fiction, sexuality, and creates audiobooks as well. Find her books and audiobooks for entertainment and arts at http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
The Power of Romance and Strong Women with Author GiGi Meier
08 Nov 2024
01:05:01
Ep 532: Exploring Deliciously Dark Romance and Reverse Age Gap with Author GiGi Meier. In this captivating episode, Ruan Willow welcomes GiGi Meier, a romance author who crafts stories of strong female characters and their complex, swoon-worthy partners. After a 30-year corporate career, Gigi now writes romance novels that linger in the hearts of readers, filled with panty-dropping lust and enviable love.
GiGi shares her unique approach to storytelling, offering the first book in each of her series for free on her website, allowing readers to experience her writing style before committing. She discusses her two main series: the dark and intense Canyon series, and the steamy, fun Cougars and Cubs series, which explores reverse age gap dynamics.
Throughout the conversation, GiGi delves into her writing process, the importance of creating relatable characters, and the power of intimate, explicit scenes to push a story forward. She also addresses the challenges of balancing writing with marketing, and the importance of finding support within the writing community.
This episode is a must-listen for romance readers and aspiring authors alike, offering insights into the world of romance writing, and indie publishing, and the journey of creating compelling characters and stories.
Chapters-Author Interview - 05:20 - Meet GiGi Meier: From Corporate office to Romance Writing - 10:45 - Free Books and Writing Series - 15:30 - Crafting Characters and Writing Style - 25:00 - Exploring Dark Romance and Reverse Age Gap - 35:15 - The Role of Explicit Scenes in Storytelling - 45:00 - Writing Process and Marketing Challenges - 55:30 - Finding Support and Overcoming Obstacles - 01:05:00 - Advice for Aspiring Writers
Ep 530: Weekend Hotwife Surprise, Chapter 5. Written and narrated by podcast host, erotica and erotic romance fiction author Ruan Willow (me!). Scroll down to find out about the hurricane relief anthology with 40+ erotica authors and the just released spicy fiction Halloween anthology too! Plus, other new book releases!
Nola and Jasper have been married for many years and love to enjoy each other sexually. Due to work and family life obligations, exercising their marital sex life has been extraordinarily challenging lately. They really need a spicy weekend away, just the two of them to rejuvenate their relationship. Luckily, they found someone to watch the kids and they are heading to a hotel for the weekend. A full weekend of sex! They can't wait. Jasper has dreamt up some hot sexy surprises for Nola, including something really epic she's always fantasized about but never thought they'd ever do. Being open together sexually is taken to the next level and their marriage will never be the same once the most exciting surprise is revealed.
The full story contains spicy open door scenes, alternative lifestyle elements, wife sharing, explicit sex scenes, and hot-wife themes.
Hey y'all! Get the smut!
Enjoy this erotic audio storytelling full of steamy hot spicy sexuality and which focuses on the celebrating of open relationships! This book can be read on Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/weekendhotwifesurprise
CHARITY ANTHOLOGY! ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF. Not So Guilty Pleasures: 40+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, A Limited Edition Collection from your Favorite Spicy Authors. Ge the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology 40+ flavors of spice, one sweet cause.
Unlocking the Secrets to Women's Pleasure, Empowerment, and Sexual Well-being with Danielle Savory
01 Nov 2024
00:54:03
Ep 529: Unlocking the Secrets to Women's Pleasure, Empowerment, and Sexual Well-being, Embracing Pleasure with Danielle Savory - A Journey to Empowerment. In this enlightening episode, Ruan Willow is joined by Danielle Savory, a sex and intimacy coach, podcast host, and advocate for women's pleasure and wellbeing. Together, they delve into the critical importance of prioritizing sexual health and pleasure in one's life. Danielle shares her insights on how neglecting this aspect can lead to a less fulfilled life and how embracing it can lead to empowerment and personal growth.
Discover the biological and physiological benefits of pleasure, and how societal norms often hinder our natural desires. Danielle and Ruan discuss the misconceptions surrounding female pleasure and self care, the impact of societal shame, and the importance of communication with partners. They also explore the transformative power of understanding one's own body and the liberation that comes with shedding shame and embracing sexual wellness.
Whether you're looking to enhance your own sexual wellbeing or seeking to understand the dynamics of pleasure more deeply, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Danielle emphasizes the need for personal motivation and finding a "why" that resonates with you to truly embrace and prioritize pleasure in your life. Sexual health is a part of mental health. Learn more about Danielle at https://www.daniellesavory.com/
01:08 Ruan Willow says many women put their sexual health on the back burner 08:47 When we are in stress cycles, our nervous system becomes more vulnerable 14:56 Shaking is your body's way of getting rid of trauma and stress 18:15 What are some reasons women are denying the indulgence of sexual pleasure 25:29 I think we need to accept that we're gonna mess up along the way 29:59 One thing I never knew about my vulva area is color change 35:41 Women can also multiple orgasm, whereas... 40:17 Studies on how long women take to reach arousal versus climax are getting shorter 47:19 Danielle says women need a place to celebrate pleasure 51:59 Your resistance to pleasure will never stop because your life is changing
Don't miss out on this episode that could change the way you view pleasure and its role in your life. Tune in and start your journey towards a more empowered and pleasurable life today! Find Danielle Savory on Instagram at @thepracticeofpleasure and explore her podcast It's My Pleasure for more insights.
Show notes created by https://headliner.app
Quotes from Danielle Savory; "A pleasured woman is an empowered woman." "Our nervous system thinks you're a tiger right now. Let me soothe my nervous system and then we can get back to being human beings." "Find your reason, but you've got to find a why that really resonates and makes sense to you in order to actually make a change."
Quotes from Ruan Willow: "Pleasure is a birthright. This is what our bodies were meant to do." "We weren't given our taste buds to not taste foods."
Ep 528: Weekend Hotwife Surprise, Chapter 4. Written and narrated by podcast host, erotica and erotic romance fiction author Ruan Willow (me!). Scroll down to find out about the hurricane relief anthology with 40+ erotica authors and the just released spicy fiction Halloween anthology too!
Nola and Jasper have been married for many years and love to enjoy each other sexually. Due to work and family life obligations, exercising their marital sex life has been extraordinarily challenging lately. They really need a spicy weekend away, just the two of them to rejuvenate their relationship. Luckily, they found someone to watch the kids and they are heading to a hotel for the weekend. A full weekend of sex! They can't wait. Jasper has dreamt up some hot sexy surprises for Nola, including something really epic she's always fantasized about but never thought they'd ever do. Being open together sexually is taken to the next level and their marriage will never be the same once the most exciting surprise is revealed.
The full story contains spicy open door scenes, alternative lifestyle elements, wife sharing, explicit sex scenes, and hot-wife themes.
Hey y'all! Get the smut!
Enjoy this erotic audio storytelling full of steamy hot spicy sexuality and which focuses on the celebrating of open relationships! This book can be read on Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/weekendhotwifesurprise
Stay tuned for one more chapter coming next week!
CHARITY ANTHOLOGY! ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF. Not So Guilty Pleasures: 40+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, A Limited Edition Collection from your Favorite Spicy Authors. Ge the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology 40+ flavors of spice, one sweet cause.
We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
Mistress Kora Bell From Nurse to Spicy Hot Fem Dom Dominatrix
29 Oct 2024
01:16:09
Ep 526: From Lifesaver to Dominatrix, Mistress Kora Bell Shares her Spicy New Adventures! Kora Bell is a dynamic personality with a unique journey from the medical field to becoming a renowned dominatrix and adult content creator. Discover how she navigated the transition from a respiratory therapist to embracing her adventurous spirit and exploring her passion for femdom content.
Mistress Kora Bell shares her intriguing life story, from her early days in the medical field to her transformative experiences that lead to her eventual foray into the world of OnlyFans and dominatrix sessions. Listen as she discusses the challenges and triumphs of balancing personal growth, motherhood, and a burgeoning career in adult entertainment.
Explore the intricacies of BDSM, the importance of consent, and the empowerment that comes from embracing one's sexuality. Mistress Kora Bell opens up about her experiences at various adult industry and Exxxotica events, her love for motorcycle riding, swinging lifestyle, and the meaningful stories behind her tattoos.
This episode is a fascinating glimpse into the life of a woman who defies conventions and embraces her true self, all while helping others explore their own sexual identities. 00:00:33 Mistress Kora Bell shoots Fem Dom content in addition to traditional 00:01:56 I'm actually an RN too 00:02:19 Tell us a little bit about your story. 00:09:10 Why is everything so sex negative? Why do people think sex is bad? 00:10:11 When you got fired 00:15:19 You have a medical background in what you do now 00:16:05 Do you have favorite paraphernalia 00:18:02 Are there a lot of clubs near you 00:19:11 Do you feel like you miss the medical field at all or you just 00:21:22 Did you ever have any issues with people pushing back with your lifestyle 00:26:46 You split up with your husband 00:29:03 You say you learned about sexuality through experience and research 00:35:04 The importance of testing is something that needs to be promoted more 00:37:05 orgies depend on the atmosphere and your connection with people 00:38:32 Do you tend to have a connection with people you shoot with 00:41:09 Do you have specific scenarios you love to do in films 00:42:23 Would you ever take a role where you're a submissive 00:43:29 Tell us something about yourself recently that surprised you 00:51:00 Tell us about your tattoos and what they represent 00:56:41 Tell us about your motorcycle riding 00:59:33 Have you taken sexy pics on your bike? I have, yes 01:08:55 Talk about your dogs 01:10:50 Do you have any advice for people to explore their sexuality better 01:13:01 Do you have a favorite sex toy https://www.mistresskorabell.com/ Show notes with https://headliner.app Trick or Treat II anthology (affiliate links, podcast may receive a commission): https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/trickorteaseIIhalloweenanthology Not So Guilty Charity anthology: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology
Ep 525: Weekend Hotwife Surprise, Chapter 3. Written and narrated by podcast host, erotica and erotic romance fiction author Ruan Willow (me!). Scroll down to find out about the hurricane relief anthology with 40+ erotica authors and the just released spicy fiction Halloween anthology too!
Nola and Jasper have been married for many years and love to enjoy each other sexually. Due to work and family life obligations, exercising their marital sex life has been extraordinarily challenging lately. They really need a spicy weekend away, just the two of them to rejuvenate their relationship. Luckily, they found someone to watch the kids and they are heading to a hotel for the weekend. A full weekend of sex! They can't wait. Jasper has dreamt up some hot sexy surprises for Nola, including something really epic she's always fantasized about but never thought they'd ever do. Being open together sexually is taken to the next level and their marriage will never be the same once the most exciting surprise is revealed.
The full story contains spicy open door scenes, alternative lifestyle elements, wife sharing, explicit sex scenes, and hot-wife themes.
Hey y'all! Get the smut!
Enjoy this erotic audio storytelling full of steamy hot spicy sexuality and which focuses on the celebrating of open relationships! This book can be read on Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/weekendhotwifesurprise
Stay tuned for one more chapter coming next week!
CHARITY ANTHOLOGY! ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF. Not So Guilty Pleasures: 40+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, A Limited Edition Collection from your Favorite Spicy Authors. Ge the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology 40+ flavors of spice, one sweet cause.
We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).
So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!
Note: Reading in public may cause spontaneous fanning, uncontrollable grins, and an irresistible urge to wink at strangers. Proceed with caution and a tall glass of water!
From Executive Protection to Adult Entertainment: Dante of Red Bottom Production's Unconventional Entrepreneurial Journey
24 Oct 2025
01:07:43
Ep 681: **When Early Retirement Led to Unexpected Career Success in Adult Entertainment** Dante, the CEO & the head of Red Bottom Productions, shares his intriguing and amazing story here!
What happens when you retire at 33, get bored, and accidentally stumble into founding a multi-brand entertainment empire? Dante, owner of Red Bottom Productions, shares his fascinating pivot from executive protection services to adult film production in this candid conversation.
After selling his business and achieving financial independence, Dante discovered that early retirement wasn't the paradise he expected—social isolation and restlessness led him down an unexpected path. What began as helping friends film OnlyFans content evolved into running his own entertainment company covering various genres and fetishes.
Beyond the business journey, Dante opens up about challenging societal taboos around sexuality, the professional standards and extensive consent processes in adult entertainment, and how his industry mirrors Hollywood's casting and production methods. He addresses common misconceptions about performer autonomy and the stark difference between fantasy entertainment and real intimacy.
The conversation also explores his current lifestyle philosophy of prioritizing travel and experiences over traditional work structures, especially after a health scare that reinforced the importance of creating memories while healthy. From budgeting tips to breaking down stigmas, this episode offers a surprisingly thoughtful perspective on entrepreneurship, personal freedom, and redefining success.
Topics:
Introduction to Red Bottom Productions
Making Sacrifices to Afford Things
Breaking Stigmas Around Adult Entertainment
Adult Industry Workers Are Regular People
Adult Industry: Choice, Investment, and Reality
Filming Preferences vs Fan Reactions
Supporting Talent and Building Community
Fifty Shades Changed Everything
Industry Testing and Safety Standards
Knowing Your Status and Industry Acceptance
Finding Red Bottom Productions Online
Can't Watch My Own Work
Key Takeaways:
• **Financial freedom alone doesn't solve social isolation** - Despite achieving early retirement at 33 through a successful business sale, Dante discovered that having money didn't address his underlying feelings of boredom and social disconnection. • **Adult entertainment production involves extensive professional protocols** - The industry operates with rigorous consent processes and professional standards comparable to mainstream Hollywood productions, contradicting common assumptions about it being informal or exploitative. • **Career pivots can emerge from unexpected opportunities** - Dante's transition from executive protection services to adult entertainment began simply by helping friends film content, demonstrating how major career changes can evolve organically from casual favors rather than deliberate planning.
Unveiling Theo Reads: The Future of Spicy Romance Storytelling
18 Oct 2024
00:56:34
Ep 523: Join Ruan Willow in a captivating conversation with Parneet, the co-founder of Theo Reads, a groundbreaking platform dedicated to publishing romance and spicy stories. This episode dives deep into the inspiration behind Theo Reads, a space that promises to break taboos around desire and provide readers with a wide range of tropes, kinks, and spice levels without the censorship found elsewhere.
Parneet shares her journey from a seasoned marketing expert to a passionate advocate for romance and spice literature. She discusses the challenges faced by authors in the current publishing landscape and how Theo Reads aims to create a safe, inclusive space for both readers and writers. Discover how this platform plans to revolutionize the way we consume and appreciate romantic and spicy narratives, catering to every fantasy from mild to extra spicy.
Explore the unique features of Theo Reads, including their commitment to well-written stories, engaging plotlines, and diverse characters. Learn about the importance of normalizing desire and intimacy across all communities and the critical role of romance and spice in enhancing personal relationships and wellbeing.
Quote from Parneet "It's 2024, people. Enough with the guilt and the shame. Can we just normalize desire and intimacy?"
Quote from Ruan Willow "Sex is natural. It's a part of being a human."
Attention all romance authors and writers, indie authors, self publishing authors, those who write about love from spicy open door themes to closed door, come join Theo Reads! https://theoreads.com/
- 02:25 - Theo says readers want well written stories and romance and spice - 08:34 - Big tech companies are telling us what to read and it needs to stop - 13:04 - Sexual health is so incredibly important to our mental wellbeing and physical well being - 15:29 - 34% of men read or listen to romance and spice, survey finds - 19:09 - Are you able to share some of the names of the authors who will be featured - 25:07 - There is a stigma about reading romance which isn't true. The average romance and spice reader is better educated than the average American - 33:32 - it's incredibly hard to publish stories on Amazon and be seen How can people join Theo Reads? You can write to us - 42:48 - A lot of romance stories come from marginalized communities - 47:37 - As authors and readers, we need a symbiotic relationship - 49:12 - There's a huge disconnect between where authors post and where readers read stories - 53:31 - You do whatever you feel you have to do, you know, Instagram, et cetera - 53:46 - There is a need amongst authors for data like up to date data
New! Over 40 spicy romance/erotica authors have joined forces to create a charity anthology! You can get spicy stories and help a cause at the same time! Get the Not-So-Guilty Pleasures: 40+ Filthy Stories for a Cause: A Charity Anthology. This is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief). https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology For a limited time only.
Ep 522: Weekend Hotwife Surprise, Chapter 2. Written and narrated by podcast host, erotica and erotic romance fiction author Ruan Willow (me!).
Nola and Jasper have been married for many years and love to enjoy each other sexually. Due to work and family life obligations, exercising their marital sex life has been extraordinarily challenging lately. They really need a spicy weekend away, just the two of them to rejuvenate their relationship. Luckily, they found someone to watch the kids and they are heading to a hotel for the weekend. A full weekend of sex! They can't wait. Jasper has dreamt up some hot sexy surprises for Nola, including something really epic she's always fantasized about but never thought they'd ever do. Being open together sexually is taken to the next level and their marriage will never be the same once the most exciting surprise is revealed.
The full story contains spicy open door scenes, alternative lifestyle elements, wife sharing, explicit sex scenes, and hot-wife themes.
Hey y'all! Get the smut!
Enjoy this erotic audio storytelling full of steamy hot spicy sexuality and which focuses on the celebrating of open relationships! This book can be read on Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/weekendhotwifesurprise
Stay tuned for more chapters in the coming weeks!
Erotica and erotic romance author Ruan Willow's new fiction book, a Romantasy, an open door HEA spicy story of romance and fantasy, with romance first and foremost in importance: Wingless Hunger, Book 1 in the Arching Hunger Series. ARC's will be available on BookSirens. The book Wingless Hunger releases on October 15th, 2024 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/winglesshunger Buy a copy and help with the launch! The book is LIVE TODAY! It's also available in Kindle Unlimited on Amazon.
Intimacy Evolution for Women: Reclaiming Desire and Empowering Pleasure with Coach Brianna Carey
11 Oct 2024
00:47:58
Season 4, Episode 521: 18+. Join Ruan Willow in an enlightening discussion with Brianna Carey, a relationship and intimacy coach with over 16 years of experience. Brianna shares her insights into the common challenges women face in reclaiming their desire and exploring pleasure, especially after significant life transitions like childbirth. This episode delves into the importance of communication, understanding, and the use of tools like sex toys to enhance intimacy in relationships. Brianna, along with her husband Mark, a licensed professional counselor, provides couples with the guidance needed to create deeper connections and more fulfilling intimacy in their marriage while navigating the complexities of parenthood. Discover how understanding the erotic blueprints can transform your sexual expression and relationship dynamics. This episode is packed with valuable advice on embracing pleasure, the significance of self-exploration, and the benefits of incorporating tools like vibrators into your intimate life. Women, learn why it's crucial to prioritize your pleasure and connection with your partner, and how to overcome societal stigmas surrounding female sexuality. Listen in as Ruan and Brianna discuss the power of pleasure, the journey to self-discovery, and how to break free from the constraints of guilt and shame. Whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or explore your own desires, this episode is a must-listen.
00:01:29 " Many women decide they don't want sex after having a baby 00:08:02 " External stimulation is so important during pregnancy and postpartum care 00:12:45 " You work with women who are ready to take ownership of their pleasure 00:16:11 " About 85% of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm 00:21:58 " Bullet 00:26:58 " Use lubricants 100% in the bedroom, not just vibrators 00:27:41 " The erotic blueprints help you understand each other and how to communicate 00:32:52 " The first year postpartum is so crucial for a relationship 00:36:58 " What drove you to create your podcast, and what type of things do 00:41:51 " Women need to take 30 minutes a week to relax and enjoy their bodies Connect with Brianna: https://www.intimacyevolution.com/
Quotes from Brianna: "If you don't use it, you lose it, applies to your libido and orgasms." "Every woman deserves to experience their pleasure to the absolute fullest and know what desire is and create that." "Release the expectation of an end result, and you will see how much more you're able to enjoy it."
Episode 519: Weekend Hotwife Surprise, Chapter 1. Written and narrated by podcast host, erotica and erotic romance fiction author Ruan Willow (me!).
Nola and Jasper have been married for many years and love to enjoy each other sexually. Due to work and family life obligations, exercising their marital sex life has been extraordinarily challenging lately. They really need a spicy weekend away, just the two of them to rejuvenate their relationship. Luckily, they found someone to watch the kids and they are heading to a hotel for the weekend. A full weekend of sex! They can't wait. Jasper has dreamt up some hot sexy surprises for Nola, including something really epic she's always fantasized about but never thought they'd ever do. Being open together sexually is taken to the next level and their marriage will never be the same once the most exciting surprise is revealed.
The full story contains spicy open door scenes, alternative lifestyle elements, wife sharing, explicit sex scenes, and hot-wife themes.
Enjoy this erotic audio storytelling full of steamy hot spicy sexuality and which focuses on the celebrating of open relationships! This book can be read on Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/weekendhotwifesurprise
Stay tuned for more chapters in the coming weeks!
Erotica and erotic romance author Ruan Willow's new fiction book, a Romantasy, an open door HEA spicy story of romance and fantasy, with romance first and foremost in importance: Wingless Hunger, Book 1 in the Arching Hunger Series. ARC's will be available on BookSirens. The book Wingless Hunger releases on October 15th, 2024 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/winglesshunger Reserve a copy in presale and help with the launch! GET AN ARC of Wingless Hunger: https://forms.gle/fG9pWHX8HRgXE3q5A
Dominance, Desire, & Spicy Romance with Lizzie B. Brown
04 Oct 2024
01:07:23
Episode 518: Dominance, Desire, & Spicy Romance with indie author Lizzie B. Brown! Lizzie is a romance author who packs the spice into every story. She lives in the Pacific Northwest with her family and two dogs. When she's not writing about bisexual besties or forbidden romances, you can find her by the fireplace with a book in one hand and a glass of red wine in the other. Find out more: http://www.lizziebbrown.com/
Welcome to our writing chat! We dive into the steamy world of romance and erotica. We explore the importance of including sex in romance stories to give readers the full picture of a relationship. We discuss Lizzie's book, Obedience, Volume One, (excerpt in the episode), a captivating age-gap romance where the female lead takes charge, challenging the conventional dynamics often seen in such stories. Discover how Lizzie's experiences and love for storytelling have shaped her writing process, from fanfiction beginnings to self publishing on platforms like Kindle Vella.
Lizzie also shares insights into her writing routine, the challenges of editing, and the significance of patience and perseverance in the writing journey. If you're a fan of romance that embraces the raw, unfiltered aspects of relationships, you won't want to miss this episode.
00:02:10 " romance is incomplete if it doesn't have sex 00:07:34 " I think erotica helps people become more open about their sexuality 00:10:43 " You started writing erotic fan fiction early on 00:12:12 " Pantser or plotter? 00:15:01 " write on my phone more often than not because I'm easily distracted 00:17:03 " I really love age gap romance. But I know some people don't like 00:22:46 " Do you find you have more female readers or male readers 00:29:11 " Reading a book together can be a great conversation starter 00:29:44 " Do you have a favorite and worst part of the writing process 00:32:55 " I actually started writing again because of audiobooks 00:41:30 " Vella 00:46:18 " Do you find you ever have to do much research? 00:47:27 " What was an early experience where you learned that language had power 00:49:01 " Do you tend to share your work with people in your life 00:54:12 " What do you define as success as an author? 01:00:29 " Is there any advice you have for someone considering doing...
ASMR Journey Daddy Dom and Sub Smut Scene, plus Relax, Arouse, Climax, Ride the Guided Pleasure
01 Oct 2024
00:32:16
Season 4, Episode 516: ASMR Journey Daddy Dom and Sub Smut Scene, plus bonus replaying of Relax, Arouse, Climax, Ride the Guided Pleasure. Enjoy a sensual sound filled experience of a Dominant and his sub as they play, pleasure, and climax. Lots of 'good girl's' are spilled as are rolling waves of bursting satiation as the two interact. Indulge in your guilty pleasures and have a listen. Also enjoy the bonus replaying of another ASMR: Relax, Arouse, Climax, & Ride the Guided Journey of ASMR Pleasure. Enoy this meditation fantasy told in Ruan's soothing yet arousing voice. You own your sexuality, your own experience, baby, take it, it's yours and yours alone...unless you want to give it away that is. Either way, you decide because you own it. No one can take your sexuality away from you. Grab the reigns in your life and search for ways of expanding personal growth in your own sexuality and sexual wellness.
Sexual health is a part of your mental health, don't ignore it. Listen to this erotic audio for self care, stress relief, and entertainment enjoyment.
This episode was sponsored by Naughty Nook PR: providing spicy romance author and reader services, find out more information at: website: www.naughtynookpr.com
Erotica and erotic romance author Ruan Willow's new fiction book, a Romantasy, an open door HEA spicy story of romance and fantasy, with romance first and foremost in importance: Wingless Hunger, Book 1 in the Arching Hunger Series. ARC's will be available on BookSirens. The book Wingless Hunger releases on October 15th, 2024 https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/winglesshunger Reserve a copy in presale and help with the launch! GET AN ARC of Wingless Hunger: https://forms.gle/WKJhu3wyQvRora6e6
Love Beyond Boundaries: Interracial and Trans Ethnic Dating and Sex with Alex K
27 Sep 2024
00:48:53
Ep 515: Love Beyond Boundaries: Interracial and Trans Ethnic Dating and Sex with Podcaster Alex K, of the Talking Kink with Alex & Ellie. We dive deep into the complex and often misunderstood world of interracial and trans ethnic relationships, dating, and sex. This episode was inspired by a listener's request, and it promises to be an enlightening conversation that tackles taboos and sheds light on the nuances of cross-cultural romantic and sexual relationships, complete with examples, self help, and self care dating advice.
Alex shares his personal experiences and insights, discussing the challenges and joys of dating outside one's culture. From the fetishization of certain races/ethnic groups to the cultural norms that shape our dating lives, this conversation covers it all. Whether you're curious about the dynamics of interracial dating or looking for ways to navigate your own cross-cultural relationship, this episode offers valuable perspectives and advice.
Don't forget to check out "Talking Kink with Alex and Ellie" on all major podcast platforms for more uncensored, educational, and entertaining discussions about kinks, fetishes, and taboos.
Disclaimer: This episode contains adult content and is intended for listeners over the age of 18.
05:56 When you date someone from another race, there are certain hurdles to overcome 11:56 Anything that even remotely looks like malice can trigger heightened sensitivity 16:34 have you found any differences in the actual mechanics 17:44 Dating in Eastern Europe depends on the culture 21:22 It depends on the family. There are some eastern European cultures that wait until marriage 25:53 And she absolutely freaked about that. And from that point on, I was a monster who corrupted her friend 27:23 Have you faced any prejudice for dating somebody from a different race or ethnic group 33:33 Some Americans feel like they don't have any ancestral history 39:41 I think where Americans views Europeans as being more permissive when it comes to sex 43:38 Alex and Ellie discuss interracial relationships on Talking Kink podcast 46:15 Servicing the workmen, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures audiobook blurb. Get the audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventuresaudiobook Show notes created by https://headliner.app
Tips for How to Find People to Date with Dr. Alison Ash
20 Sep 2024
00:49:42
Ep 512: Tips for How to Find People to Date that are a good fit for you with Dr. Alison Ash. In this enlightening episode, Ruan Willow sits down with Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator at Stanford University, and founder of Turn On Love. She shares her insights on how to find people to date and how to identify who is a good fit for you. This conversation dives into the complexities of modern dating, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of intentionality in relationships. Topics Covered: Modern dating challenges, the impact of dating apps, intentionality in relationships, the importance of community and social networks, and practical tips for finding the right person to date.
Timeline: - 00:25 - Doctor Alison Ash is a trauma informed intimacy coach at Stanford University - 01:27 - Research shows dating apps have harmed our ability to form and sustain long term relationships - 04:40 - I also think it's helpful to talk about, I think a mixed approach to finding partners - 10:15 - You should have at least one photo where you're smiling on dating apps, and.... - 16:35 - Research shows that in order to make new relationships, we need regular interactions - 24:41 - A lot of people are terrified to own what they want - 25:32 - One of the things that I talk to my clients on is this idea of outsourcing - 29:34 - What are some warning signs people should look out for when using dating apps - 35:35 - You teach a course on intimacy and dating skills at Stanford University - 41:06 - I think couples and long term relationships struggle to keep sexual spark alive - 44:15 - Is there anything that we've missed talking about that you wanted to mention - 45:10 - Making sure that you have queer and trans community is so important
Don't miss this episode filled with practical advice and deep insights into the world of dating and relationships. Guest: Dr. Alison Ash - Turn On Love PhD (she/her)
4 part course for couples in October — reserve your spot today. On-demand rental also available.
🗣️ Quotes from Dr. Alison Ash "Dating apps have created an optimization overload dynamic where people are just surface level flipping." "Nobody's going to be able to meet 100% of your needs 100% of the time." "Touch is the most regulating thing in the world. And it doesn't make you needy. It makes you human." "Loneliness is hard and it's pervasive, and we can feel that we're stuck in it." "Conflict is an opportunity to build intimacy and to deepen trust."
Mutual Masturbation Steamy Coffee Shop Date from the Sexual Bucket List Erotic Improv Story
17 Sep 2024
00:22:09
Season 4, Episode 510: Written and narrated by author, podcaster, and audiobook narrator Ruan Willow. Steamy Coffee Shop Date from the Sexual Bucket List: Mutual Masturbation. It's another installment of the sexual bucket list series. Told in 2nd person so listeners can fully immerse themselves into the story, it's "you" and "I" who meet for a coffee date in the middle of a workday to sneak in some sexy fun. We have no plan other than we want to somehow be a little sexual in public and tickle our exhibitionistic sexual bones! We get it figured out quick, and satiation doesn't just mean a kick ass cup of coffee! Enjoy this erotica storytelling fiction entertainment, erotic romance arts to bathe you in yummy sexy self-care. You have a date--a relationship--with your sexuality & your libido! Come on in and taste the orgasmic bliss!
Enjoy erotic romance, erotica fiction, for your entertainment and self care pleasures. Your sexual health matters, and it's an important part of your mental health, don't ignore it, but pay attention to it, spend time on it, with it. Expand your sexuality and relationships by opening yourself up to sexual and relational exploration through erotic fiction, and erotic audio. Your pleasure, well-being, and enjoyment can explode if you open yourself up!
Exploring Sexual Strategies and Kink with Marla Renee Stewart: Dirty Talk, Squirting, Kink, & Seduction
13 Sep 2024
00:54:38
Ep 508: Ruan Willow with Marla Renee Stewart, Sexologist, Sexual Strategist, & Author. Join us as we discuss the intricacies of sexual health, the importance of unlearning societal norms, and the ways to foster better communication and pleasure in relationships. Marla shares her insights on sexuality, well-being, seduction, sexual tension, toys, techniques, using dirty talk, and the fascinating world of kinky play. Whether you're curious about squirting, impact play, or integrating sex toys into your love life, this episode is packed with valuable advice and practical tips to enhance your sexual experiences.
Paying attention to your sexual health is a part of your mental health and self care strategies, as is seeking sex education. Alternative lifestyles are valid options. and can give people great happiness and satisfaction. Discussion Timeline: 00:00:00 " Podcast has hit 1.1 million downloads 00:00:38 " Marla is a sexologist, author, sexual strategist 00:03:51 " Do you meet with individual clients or do you do classes? 00:04:33 " In some of your classes, you have kink classes and non-kinky classes 00:09:22 " Many people don't believe that squirting is a real thing, is it pee? 00:13:05 " Some people don't really know what the clitoris even looks like 00:17:37 " Your class helps femdoms understand their subs better 00:18:47 " One of the keys to driving sexual tension is the planting of sex seeds 00:24:26 " How about give us some tips or advice about people interested in impact play 00:26:15 " Do you find any age groups that are more open to trying new sexual 00:33:14 " Pervertibles are everyday household items that can be used for kinky play 00:34:08 " Now let's talk a little bit about sex toys--have a favorite one 00:37:39 " Do you think there are more toys available to women than 00:42:10 " Some people are scared of sex toys, but you can try them 00:45:15 " Always do the research. Munches are really great for education 00:47:16 " Why is aftercare important? 00:52:19 " Marla Stewart encourages people to try things at least three times Resources: - Velvet Lips https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/ - Sex Down South Conference - Race & Kink - The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay (affiliate link commission on sales) https://amzn.to/4ewvc3M Social media: @1marlastewart Guest Bio: Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 22 years and has given over 1000 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix's Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, which debuted in April 2020.
The Arousal Package, The Witch's Seduction, Halloween Erotic Fiction Excerpt
21 Oct 2025
00:17:34
Season 5, Episode 697: Paranormal romance, Witches, witchy romance (she's a horny one, but so is Carson!), it's a fantasy romance, a Halloween erotic fiction with fall vibes.
The Arousal Package: A Spicy Romance Open Door NSFW Short story audiobook, by Ruan Willow.
Sometimes the best surprises are the ones we almost run from.
Carson is infatuated with his mega sexy neighbor, but he's rendered mute and dumb in her presence. He can't seem to muster the guts to ask her out. He needs help. To assist him in the seduction of her, he seeks a session with a seer witch who promises a love connection spell to fix her heartbroken, but failing at love, clients. Carson is desperate for her help, but things jack knife in a whole different direction when he gets more than he expected as the meeting ends. When magic also means pleasure, getting what he came for transforms into something magical!
This is a short romance story, a Halloween themed romance fall vibes, a fall themed romance with a strong FMC. An erotic romance fiction short story to enjoy and satisfy your spooky seductive desires.
Audiobook Excerpt from Servicing The Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventure, The Masturbation Scene Older Woman with the Sexy Younger Pool Man
10 Sep 2024
00:11:29
Enjoy an excerpt from the audiobook Servicing the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures, The Masturbation Scene with the Sexy Younger Pool Man, Anderson. Laney is overcome with horniness. As she plays, she reminisces about recent sexual experiences with her dominant stag husband, John, and enjoying life as a hotwife while having sex with the trash man in front of her hubby, as she's poolside in her own backyard. When she gets peeping-tomed by their sexy lumberjack of a pool man, her lusty desires get even more satiated, to mega hot inferno levels. Plus, the encounter leads to more juicy, satiating fun to come!
Enjoy this excerpt from the Working the Work Men, Her Filthy Hotwife Adventures Audiobook. To get the get the full audiobook!! Click here: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventuresaudiobook Please help me launch this new audiobook with a purchase and review, it's a great way to support me. I also will have ARC codes available for ARC copies, join my email list below for easy access to request an ARC copy, or request here: https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow
Enjoy erotic romance, erotica fiction, for your entertainment and self care pleasures. Your sexual health matters, and it's an important part of your mental health, don't ignore it, but pay attention to it, spend time on it, with it. Expand your sexuality and relationships by opening yourself up to sexual and relational exploration through erotic fiction, and erotic audio. Your pleasure, well-being, and enjoyment can explode if you open yourself up!
From Law Enforcement to BDSM Lifestyle, Exploring the Mysteries of Kink, Fetish, and BDSM Safely with Lorenzo The Voice
06 Sep 2024
01:00:36
Ep 506: Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Lorenzo, The Voice! A deep dive into the world of BDSM with special guest, Lorenzo. With 45 years of experience in the sexuality, kink, fetish, & lifestyle community, Lorenzo brings a wealth of knowledge and unique insights into extreme impact play, sensory deprivation, and more. He also shares his experiences from over 35 years in law enforcement, offering a rare perspective on how these two worlds intersect. Discussion includes the allure of BDSM, the importance of trust and communication, and the dangers of diving in without proper knowledge. Lorenzo emphasizes the significance of understanding the anatomy and mental states involved in BDSM to ensure safe and consensual play. The talk also touches on the differences between BDSM acts and a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, highlighting the depth and commitment required for the latter. Additionally, Lorenzo shares his experiences as a voiceover artist and his involvement with ASN Lifestyle Magazine, where he recently graced the cover of the August issue and is up for a social media personality award. He also just was an announcer for the annual ASN awards! Watch the Interview Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ItNE3ZQSaxc
02:31 What do you think draws people into engaging in BDSM acts? 09:13 Do you think there's a crossover between your interest in BDSM and your work? 12:59 Types of BDSM do you enjoy the most 17:48 Contract? 21:11 What about these people saying, "I'm training my sub." 24:06 There are some fetishes that people like, that you will never see. 25:59 ASN Lifestyle magazine will host its annual awards 27:47 ASN cover 30:45 What are certain people that should not consider going into BDSM? 39:50 How do people find each other if they are interested in getting into BDSM? 43:43 Do you regret anything 54:40 You know, social media has too much control over people, right 57:30 I hear too much about suicides from bullying on Twitter Connect with Lorenzo: - Twitter/X: @lorenzo4016 - Instagram: @lorenzoG2920 - Fetlife: Sir Lorenzo
Quotes from Lorenzo "You have to learn the anatomy of a body before you start playing with a body." "A real dominant is not going to brag or advertise. You don't have to do that." "Imagine the strength that it has to take to give up everything." "If you control the mind, you control the body, but when things go wrong with the mind, that's long lasting, more than a physical." "Everyone wants everything now. Just take your time. It's no rush."
Bio: Lorenzo has 45 yrs experience in the kink, fetish, and lifestyle community...Specializing in Extreme Impact Play and Sensory Deprivation. Lorenzo has over 35 yrs of law enforcement and specialized training in hand to hand combat, special weapons, anti terror, prostitution, human trafficking, narcotics, civil disturbance, etc. Lorenzo is also a voice over artist, working with several organizations in radio, narrations, commercials, erotic readings, websites, podcasts, events.
Ep 504: Road Head Rage: After a party, Shayley and Paul are headed home. Both of their libidos can't wait, and their flirtations erupt into playful banter on the way to their truck. The steamy competitive race of edging each other to max heights is on as their hormones have them raging to get the other so hot they near explosion. Sexy fun, and a wedgie kink, on the road trip ensues and lands them in a prickly situation, but whew do they have a good time!
Erotic fiction story written and narrated by erotica author and podcast host Ruan Willow.
Enjoy this spicy erotic romance fiction short story audio erotica for entertainment and self care love purposes. Erotic fiction is a fabulous way to explore, expand, and enjoy your sexuality with stories of saucy hot intimate relationships. Exercise your sexuality health and fitness today!
Discover the Magic of Erotic Fantasy and Sci Fi Romances with Author Megan Landon
30 Aug 2024
01:06:51
Ep 503: Today, we dive deep into the world of erotic fantasy and Sci-Fi romance with the incredibly talented indie author, Megan Landon. She weaves intricate tales inspired by her Colombian and Dutch roots, linguistic training, and a touch of magic. With a PhD in linguistics and a passion for sexuality in storytelling, she crafts intelligent heroines, supportive heroes, and slightly off-center worlds that captivate and enthrall. Her erotic flash fiction has appeared in Bust Magazine.
In this episode, Megan shares her journey into writing erotica, starting from high school love letters to boyfriends to rediscovering the genre in the aughts. She discusses the evolution of erotic literature, the impact of indie writing and publishing, and how the genre has exploded with diverse voices. Megan also reads an excerpt from her series on Medium, "Grow Lights," giving us a taste of her captivating storytelling.
"Love Potion 69" Anthology featuring her "Botany and Brujería" short story (affiliate links, podcast may receive a commission on sales. Thanks for the support!) https://amzn.to/3XalUDc Of Broken Bots and Tempting Techs Audiobook https://amzn.to/4g4LHpc
01:38 What ticked your desire to start writing erotic literature 19:28 You include some bdsm in your stories 21:57 Where are your books 31:01 I think we should be celebrating sensuality and sexuality, not censoring it 34:03 What do you tend to start with when you're writing a story 37:57 Are you more of a pantser or a plotter 44:14 You've done several anthologies with erotica consortium 47:24 What was an early experience where you learned that language had power 51:17 Do you do research when writing about space or something like that 57:24 so what to you is the definition of being a success? 01:01:18 So what are you working on now that you can share with us
Quotes from Megan: "You can't turn your back on a passion, right?" "Human sexuality is kind of the essence of what it is to be a living, breathing person." "I think that success is being able to do what you love in a way that nourishes you and sustains and nourishes the people around you."
Ruan: "We are living in the most amazing time ever, because never in the history of the world have storytellers been able to disseminate to large groups of people." Ruan's books: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Episode 502: A delectable heterosexual spicy short romance story with teasing oral fun! Perfect for his and for her pleasure! It's another erotica fiction episode for your saucy entertainment pleasure! Listen for indulging in your well-deserved, and much needed self care time! It's your sexuality and it matters! Sexual health is a part of your mental health! The story: Around Her World: Marlayna and Jason are headed to their favorite hidden away resort for a long weekend of hotel intimacy and reconnection in their relationship. The teasing fun begins when Jason drops hints about a new oral technique he plans to pleasure Marlayna with once they are in the hotel room. Her anticipation runs wild as their flirting reaches inferno levels on the road trip up north. The culmination of their saucy conversation leaves both members of the couple panting heavy with satiated smiles. The resort holds repeat magic for them! It's sexual magic!
Rachel Kramer Bussel on the Art of Writing Erotica, Creating Anthologies, and Erotic Fiction Excerpt The Big Book of Quickies
23 Aug 2024
00:58:40
Writing about Love, Sex, Relationships: Rachel Kramer Bussel, an accomplished erotica author and editor, shares her inspiring journey into the world of erotic writing. Starting in 1999 while in law school, her first published story "Monica and Me" launched a successful career exploring diverse sexual fantasies and desires through short stories, anthologies, and teaching. Bussel highlights the joys of writing erotica fiction, from creative exercises with word limits to collaborating with other authors for varied perspectives and anthologies & fiction books (affiliate links below, podcast may receive commissions, thank you! "The Big Book of Quickies" https://amzn.to/3YL9dB9 Enjoy the excerpt read by Rachel her story in the anthology "Mile High Hotness")
She celebrates normalizing diverse sexualities through the genre while lamenting external efforts to restrict its accessibility. The speakers discuss erotica's nuances, challenging perceptions of it being a "lesser" form, which it's not! They emphasize its diversity in exploring fantasies safely, its potential for self-discovery, and the pains authors suffer from some societal attitudes dismissing its literary merits.
Writing intimate scenes requires developing characters' emotions & motivations beyond just physical details. Researching unfamiliar experiences brings authenticity, exposing authors and readers to new perspectives. The speakers advocate understanding that personal tastes vary, but skilled writing can engage readers regardless of specific content. Summary cleanvoice ai
Rachel Kramer Bussel (rachelkramerbussel.com) is the author of craft guide How to Write Erotica https://amzn.to/4dLcFA4 as well as Lap Dance Lust: A Collection of Erotica Stories https://amzn.to/3X5iV06 She is the editor of over 70 erotica anthologies, including 10 volumes of the Best Women's Erotica of the Year series, The Big Book of Quickies, The Big Book of Orgasms Volumes 1 and 2, Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, and more. Her anthology Surrender won the National Leather Association Samois Anthology Award and she won the 2021 National Leather Association John Preston Short Fiction Award for her short story "Necessary Roughness" in her anthology Best Bondage Erotica of the Year, Volume 1. Rachel's essays and journalism have been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Glamour, Marie Claire, Salon, The Village Voice, and many other publications. Follow her @raquelita on X @rachelkramerbussel on Instagram. Website https://rachelkramerbussel.com/ Substack newsletter https://rachelkramerbussel.substack.com/ Twitter/X https://x.com/raquelita Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelkramerbussel/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelkramerbussel Ruan's books & audiobooks http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Head in the Woods, Forest Magic, The Strangers Hookup
20 Aug 2024
00:45:51
Episode 499: Head in the Woods, Forest Magic, The Strangers Hookup, an erotica, erotic romance fiction short story for entertainment, erotic arts purposes, celebrating and enjoying sexuality, and relationships, plus taking self care time. Take it baby, it's yours! Make sure you come today!
The story in a nutshell: A common male fantasy of primal horny sex in the woods, complete with a surprise hookup with a female cock worshiping partner. Logan gets his ultimate fantasy of bumping into a sexy stranger, Meredith, in the woods who is an athletic friendly woman who loves sex. He is elated when she comes on to him. She steps up her game even more when she drops to the forest floor for some sensual cock worshipping. All this hotness explodes before they both launch into juicy big O's from their spicy spontaneous union.
How does this stranger meetup start? Meredith has spent the afternoon playing tennis and was walking home on the walking path. She spied something in the woods--someone moving in an odd way. She entered the forest with trepidation, but her curiosity propelled her on and came upon Logan. They met face to face and found each other intriguing. They decide to hike together. Things turn spicy when Meredith's libido erupts, and she gets bold.
Enhancing Intimacy: The Rise of Non-Surgical Penis Augmentation, Making Dicks Bigger!
16 Aug 2024
00:56:20
Dr. Joel Pash, an expert in penile enlargement procedures, discusses his work at The Upsize Clinic using a more natural process using dermal fillers to safely and reversibly increase penis girth. He compares the growing acceptance of these procedures to breast augmentation for women.
The fillers are made of hyaluronic acid and typically last around 2 years before needing a refill. Doctor Pash shares insights into patient motivations, comparing it to getting interested in getting more tattoos. He discussed relevance of augmentation in men's mental health, sexual health, and relationships.
While not directly impacting sensation, the procedures can indirectly enhance sensation for patients and partners. He explains his journey into this field after initial skepticism. The speakers discuss treating porn stars and those interested in OnlyFans, describing the injection process and how it can address issues like Peyronie's disease.
They emphasize that while surgical implants carry risks, injectable fillers are a safer option with easier treatment of complications. Various penis enlargement methods like injections, tissue expansion, and weight hanging are discussed, noting potential risks and the importance of consulting medical professionals. The use of procedures like Botox for treating erectile dysfunction in older men is also covered. We're never too old for sex!
The growing acceptance and safety of non-surgical procedures, such as dermal fillers, to increase penis girth.
The use of Botox and other treatments for erectile dysfunction, even in older men.
The importance of safety and consulting medical professionals before pursuing any enhancement procedures.
What to watch out for and be aware of in hacks and enlargement procedures in penile enlargement. Get the education to be safe and mindful of your health. Get Dr. Pash's men's health tips on this topic.
Teasing Her Swollen Bean, and Ruan's Secrets of Making Women Climax
13 Aug 2024
00:36:38
Episode 494: Teasing Her Swollen Bean Erotic Fiction Short Story+Ruan Shares Secrets of Making Women Climax!
Josie and Mason, a heterosexual couple who just moved in together, both had a long day & planned a fuck sex session, but Josie fell asleep before Mason got upstairs. When she wakes early, she's tempted to wake him for sex, but opts for playing with her clit sucker toy next to him in bed instead--because he's sleeping so peacefully. When he wakes to her moans, the flirty teasing sexy fun erupts as he enjoys teasing her clit with the toy. Her arousal peaks as they continue to flirt in bed, and their passion ignites! Mason knows just how to get her hot with clit teasing, and it launches her, and him into the juiciest satisfying satiating, and wonderfully gratifying mutual big giant O's! Her in the multiple!
Then stay tuned in for after the story as Ruan shares how to make a woman climax, and how to make her cum using clit teasing! There are so many ways! Clit teasing is edging that intensifies female orgasms. These toys below are her favorites for such wonderful sexy times! Also learn why orgasming is your birthright! Ruan speaks out on sexuality, sexual health, & relationships!
Todd Baratz on Navigating Conflict in Relationships, Love, and Sex
09 Aug 2024
00:27:23
Ep 493: Unlocking the Secrets of Relationships to get more fulfilling ones with Todd Baratz. Ruan Willow welcomes the renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz. Todd's innovative approach to mental health, sexual health, and relationships has made him a leading figure in his field. He joins the podcast to discuss his new book, "How to Love Somebody Without Losing Your Mind: Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real," which offers a nuanced portrait of relationships and love. (Get the book! affiliate book link, https://amzn.to/4fwLc7b commissions on sales through the link support this podcast, thank you!)
Todd and Ruan dive into the complexities of romantic relationships, communication challenges, and the unrealistic societal expectations that often surround love, intimacy, and sex. We need a more realistic approach to relationships than the one our culture feeds us. Ruan and Todd explore how to navigate these challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, meaningful communication, and the willingness to work through discomfort for the sake of growth and connection.
Whether you're looking to improve your current relationship, understand the dynamics of love better, or simply enjoy a thought-provoking conversation, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice.
Guest Bio: Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense.
Quotes from Todd: "Life is mindfuck at times, especially love and relationships."
"No one is a good communicator because communication is a skill, especially when talking about our feelings."
"The idea of a forever relationship is appealing, but the reality is relationships now are ending more than ever before."
"Sex is a really big deal, especially at the beginning of a relationship."
"Learning how to talk about sex is so important, even if it feels excruciatingly uncomfortable."
"A relational ending is not a failure; it's a huge learning opportunity and the beginning of a new life."
More from Podcast Host Ruan Willow: Get the podcast hosts erotic fiction/ erotic romance books and audiobooks to spice up your love life, your libido and sex life, and your personal intimacy: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
The Wild World of Sex, Sensual Empowerment, and Hormones, Carissma DeLuca's Juicy Journey
17 Oct 2025
01:44:57
Season 5, Episode 678: When harnessing your midlife sexuality becomes your superpower! Join in to listen and to find more about Carissma DeLuca, Rizzi's, juicy journey into sexual and sensual empowerment where she's made a career for herself in creating content, films, and a podcast!
Quotes from Carissma Deluca: "I feel like I've always been the glue in every situation." "What better way to like be body positive than to get into plus size porn, right?" "I try and create stuff that like couples would enjoy together." "You either are going to jump on the train and ride this motherfucker till it's dead, or you're going to have to back out." "I just want to set the bar."
Summary: Ruan Willow sits down with the vibrant Carissma DeLuca, a multi-talented creator who dives deep into the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and the transformative power of embracing one's desires. She shares her unexpected journey into the world of the adult films entertainment, revealing how her personal experiences shaped her perspective on body positivity and self-acceptance. From navigating a challenging relationship during the pandemic to discovering her passion for OnlyFans and adult films, Carissma's story is one of resilience and empowerment. She discusses the importance of representation in the adult industry, emphasizing the need for body positivity and inclusivity. As they explore the intricacies of sexuality, Ruan and Charisma tackle topics such as the impact of aging on desire, hormones, the liberation that comes with self-discovery, and the unique challenges faced by women in midlife. Throughout the episode, listeners will be treated to a candid conversation about the realities of working in adult entertainment, the importance of consent and communication in sexual relationships, and the joy of finding one's voice in a world that often seeks to silence it.
Key Takeaways: - Carissma's journey from a traditional life to embracing her sexuality and body positivity. - The significance of representation in adult entertainment and its impact on viewers. - Insights into the changing dynamics of desire and libido as women age. - The importance of consent, communication, and safety in sexual relationships. Join Ruan and Charisma for an enlightening discussion that encourages listeners to explore their own sexual journeys and embrace their true selves. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, connection, and the beauty of being unapologetically you.
Ep 492: Hot Spontaneous Car Sex, They Couldn't Wait, an erotic audio, erotic fiction. This couple is hot for each other after their dinner date and their flirty banter raises their turn on level even higher, so much higher that they have to pull the car over for some sexy intimate fun! Enjoy this 2nd person POV narration, where as the listener of this erotic romance fiction narrative, this deliciously yummy erotica, you will experience the heights to ignite your passion for a personal and satisfying good time! Come on in...lend me your ear and let's get hot!
Written and narrated by author, narrator, and podcast host Ruan Willow
Ep 491: Blow Job at the restaurant date night narrative, in second person. Immerse yourself in a sexy scenario where a BJ and an orgasm are on the menu! Nothing like orgasms as appetizers! Am I right? Sneaking beneath the tablecloth and getting half naked is not on the short order list, it's on the long agenda! Enjoy this saucy satisfying tale of a quickie oral sex treat, where orgasms abound for both! An erotic improv fictional narrative for self care and entertainment. Sexual health is important to mental health! Erotica straight from Ruan's brain in an impromptu on the spot free flowing narrative she created right off the top of her head!
Be sure to marinate in your sexuality everyday! You own it, it belongs to you!
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Erotic Literature Featuring Powerful Women with Author John Stone
02 Aug 2024
01:04:17
Ep 490: Erotic Literature Featuring Powerful Women with Author John Stone. John Stone, an author of erotic novels, joined the podcast to discuss his writing process, storytelling, and the exploration of themes like powerful women, BDSM, femdom, and cuckolding. He drew parallels between these themes and classic literature, appreciating Ruan Willow's podcast and publisher Fanny Press for supporting erotic authors. Stone shared his motivation for incorporating explicit sexual content, noting that erotica readers often desire higher intensity.
He discussed the process of getting his books published and distributed, emphasizing the importance of compelling stories centered on human relationships and conflicts. The conversation delved into Stone's foray into writing cuckold fiction, exploring the genre's appeal in its taboo and naughty nature. He discussed finding the right publisher for erotica and shared plans for upcoming projects, including a book featuring a couple exploring the cuckold lifestyle and a mystery novel about a retired detective investigating cuckold incidents.
Stone highlighted the appeal of writing and reading erotic fantasies, particularly those involving workplace or taboo scenarios, while acknowledging the importance of creating engaging storylines and character development. He also shared his approach to writing sex scenes, aiming to build sexual tension and mystery rather than being overly graphic, except where warranted. The discussion touched on the challenges and creative process of writing fiction, including non-linear timelines, unexpected plot developments, and the importance of humor and levity, even in risque subject matter like BDSM.
Key Lessons:
John Stone, an author of erotic novels, explores themes of powerful women, complex relationships, BDSM, femdom, cuckolding, erotica, erotica romance, and sexuality in his writing.
He notes that these themes have long been explored in classic literature, indicating that they are not as niche or taboo as they may seem.
He expressed his appreciation for Ruan Willow's podcast and the publisher Fanny Press, which has published his work, suggesting a growing acceptance and interest in this genre.