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I 100% owe my uncle Chet for this episode and being unbiased always, because his question will always be when I ask him for advice is...

What is stopping you?

It is a valid question and a question I always answer with, nothing. So then what is stopping you from your passion project?

xx Deana

Maybe you are channeling Elle Woods like I am right now too, but that is not today's episode topic.

What it is, is why it is so hard to be kind and so easy to be mean.

Thanks to Lindsay Walters for being so nice and helping me find my intro ways!

xx Deana

If there is no smoke, there is no fire.

So then what is holding you back?

You can copy the product, but you can not copy the creator.

This weekend and upcoming week is for sure a doozy. Let me just start with my non disclaimer mention and how we start off pretty crappy in the beginning of this episode, but I mean I am Off Duty.

Here we go back to school, back to work, and all the things on this week's episode of Off Duty.

xx Deana

We don't see it all.

We don't hear it all.

So then why do we feel we can judge it all?

xx Deana

When someone comes from a place of negativity or just taking no accountability, DO NOT MATCH THEIR ENERGY.

It will only be a back and forth to where they then paint you to be the negative person, the person that can't take any comments, or just the person who is the toxic one all because they themselves can not take accountability of their actions or words.

Lets chat...

xx Deana

Today is my birthday and I wanted to share this quick little episode with some of my favorite people in the whole world. I wanted to just have them come on and join me to talk about how thankful I have been this past year and how grateful I am to have them in my life.

To all my listeners whether it is 5 or 5,000, thank you. It means more than you know.

xx Deana

It must be something in the 40s, because I have found more peace since entering my 40s and just responding to people or things versus reacting.

My grace, more patience, but still blunt! (Sorry James).

xx Deana

You need to be in it, to win it. That is the mentality you need for this social media game, life in general, and whatever else you are wanting in life.

Amaya said it perfectly, "I never said I was perfect."

xx Deana

Quotes... what would life be without them? Sarcasm or polite, I think quotes send the direct message when needed. So I came across one that I was like yup, this is my topic for the podcast.

So here we are with our $9 coffee friends, and the ones who make it at home.

xx Deana

Hello summer, hello new beginnings, hello flowers.

Did you ever have someone throw dirt at you? Not really throw dirt, but like the kind that makes you ask what is wrong with people? What did I do? Do they need a hug?

From December until now I have had dirt thrown at me and you know what... this girl has flowers blooming, still budding, and forever growing.

So my dear listeners, let us hang up those hats and chat all about it as we are Off Duty.

This week I am all about celebrating... end of school, summer starting AND sharing our podcast event!!!

I am sharing the footage with you whether you watch or listen from our one-stop mini podcast tour at our local fav ... Roosters Coffeehouse in Ledgewood, NJ.

We had so many wonderful guests, giveaways sponsored by Olipop, GoNanas, and Provence Beauty making it unforgettable night!

Enjoy my other podcast that I host with another mom friend and see you next week here on Off Duty!

xx deana

I did something and I made it happen. I put it out in the universe and she answered. I continued to write my story the way I wanted it to be because that's what matters most.

I jumped and landed.

xx Deana

One thing I know for sure is that when you are at the highest part before you make it, it is so darn hard! I also know many are waiting to "catch" you, but the catch is more like a drop.

Change your perspective, energy level, and know that rotten fruit will fall on it's own. Allow your energy to move continuously to where you need it to go versus how those who don't want you to do well try to alter it.

xx deana

One thing I know for sure is that when you are at the highest part before you make it, it is so darn hard! I also know many are waiting to "catch" you, but the catch is more like a drop.

Change your perspective, energy level, and know that rotten fruit will fall on it's own. Allow your energy to move continuously to where you need it to go versus how those who don't want you to do well try to alter it.

xx deana

It is not always easy.

It sometimes takes forever, but it is worth it.

It is how you will finally say I DID IT!

So, take the jump, leap, or simple step for the climb.

xx Deana

What are you good at when it comes to fitness/movement? Do you know it is okay to not love every minute and each workout? It is also okay to not be a professional at what you do when working out.

Join me today always to 4.0 your life!

xx Deana

It's not for fame, popularity, or to show off. It is for proud feelings and the achievement of what once was hard to do, be done.

So if you see it as anything but that, your perception is off, you may have a jealous complex, and you need to go fix yourself.

Thanks, and have the day you deserve.

xx deana

Drink Drama, a Podcast Tour, and how to 4.0 your life with failure that helps with regret.

Join me today and every Thursday as we 4.0 our life!

xx Deana

If you can understand that people are not your competition and that they truly are the collaboration team you always dreamed of, then change is no longer a problem.

If you can make a small change and say that the outcome holds so much weight of greatness, then change is no longer a problem.

If you just jump or leap and know if it doesn't work out you can...change again, then change is no longer a problem.

So then jump... or in my case I will leap!

xx deana

It's like your first relationship, when you got married, or when you had kids...it's a commitment. If you can't keep it, then what is the point?

Set goals, set expectations, but do it for you. Fitness is a way of life. Fitness is a bettering of yourself. Fitness is the "medicine" that we all need more of. So then why is it so hard to commit to yourself, when you commit so much of yourself to others and other things?

xx Deana

I don't want someone to like me because someone else said they should. I don't want someone to just follow me on instagram to "watch" me.

I want people that are interested in what I do, what I say, and actually care, because you're not my competition. Also I don't want seat fillers to have an auditorium filled of people that just don't get it.

So to the people that get me, listen, and love it all... thanks!

Maybe it's your question.

Maybe you just need to change it to get your point across, make someone not feel like garbage, or so you get more than one word answers.

Change your question.

Join me today on the podcast as we 4.0 our life by changing the question.

xx deana

With Spring happening today, I more concerned about sink holes and allergies if you ask me. For others, it is the beauty and wonderful budding of flowers.

It looks like someone sprinkled matcha everywhere and then you feel like a fire breathing dragon, so more sink hole talk? Either way, join me today as we compare tomatoes to 4.0-ing your life.

Not needing validation or one's approval is something that we don't see a lot. If we truly think about how we feel, what we want, and the way we see it, maybe we can see what we are doing is real, is great, and is everything worth congratulating ourselves for!

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A NJ Sinkhole can for sure change a person, but does it also change your driving? No, no it does not. You are either a bad driver or a good one, so no excuse there.

Any who, back with it and figuring it all out as I 4.0 my life!

xx Deana

The fear of glitter, rescuing shoes, and so much more...

When I first came across Josh's instagram page, I knew I had to follow. Josh is hilarious, on point, and just overly talented. To be honest any Kindergarten teacher needs to be rewarded for all they do.

Josh and I planned a recording and we found out how similar we are and now we are BEST FRIENDS! Seriously, that isn't me just being a stalker.

Thank you Josh for this epic episode and can't wait for a part 2!

Be sure to follow Josh on Instagram @Joshuarylesking

xx Deana

After super relating to The Hungry Fork aka Ari, I was like we are so talking about this. It is about saying no and NOT looking back!

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Ever tell someone they look great and you don't mean it? What about the person that ALWAYS says your outfit is so nice, but you know they're just fishing for their own compliments and they lie about your outfit in return... why?

Why do people do this? Does it make you feel better? Sound better? Just want to be Perfect Polly?

All I know is my face says it all, and I may have called some people out on this clownery.

xx Deana

This isn't a religious one folks, sorry if that is what you came for. This one is about letting go of all the thoughts of others, the words of others, and just loving thy self for what you bring to the table.

YOU are writing your book.

YOU are creating your happily ever after.

YOU are the one who calls the shots.

So YOU let them do what it is they want, and love thy self!

xx Deana

Is there really an answer to this? Is there a holy grail that will give us the magical pill to make us forever happy? I have no clue, but I do know that science (and I know science) has something to do with it.

Like FDA banning red dye 3 = happy.

Moving and dancing around = happy.

So why aren't you happy. Lets chat, 4.0 our life, and do we we do best on here... 4.0 our life even if it's a B-.

xx Deana

The number one resolution is to let go of unwanted weight. Lose the weight! This weight I am talking about is the weight of people in your life that are just dragging you down, not supporting you, and just taking up positive space in your life. So, let them go and lose the weight!

xx deana

In 2025, I just don't care... and I mean that respectfully. Let Them is a theory I heard from Mel Robbins and for some reason I instantly thought about cake. Maybe it is because we are always criticized if we dare eat unhealthy options. Or maybe it is because some people just can't seem to mind their own business.

So with that, I am eating my cake and not caring. 4.0 life with me and I am still trying to find the perfect intro so bare with me.

xx deana

Shout out to Sophia Silverman's dad on Tiktok because what he said changed the game for sure!

Join me as we wrap up 2024 as next week I will be enjoying some much needed time out with the family. Don't you worry because I will be back in the new year and already getting all the content and guests to share all things 4.0-ing Life.

Happy Holidays ya'll and THANK YOU for listening and tuning in always.

xx Deana

With one more episode after this one to release for 2024, I was a little lost on what to talk about today. I found myself wondering if I should record at all, but then I thought about how when I wrote my book...it helped at least one person. So today, I recorded and wasn't sure what the topic was until I started talking.

Thank you all for always tuning in and listening...

xx Deana

It is all in the title...so lets chat.

I've have continued on with my manifestation and over the year have found one golden rule to manifest minus negativity, and actually 4.0 my life. That rule is to NOT take things personally. No matter what you think, we can look past the clowns, the impersonators, and the "friends" that are just listening in to wait or watch for the failure.

DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.

So lets chat, and tackle this one ...together!

xx Deana

Making time to show up, being there to show up, loving what you do in order to show up, makes you stand out.

It isn't just about having a podcast for me, it is about showing up. It is about doing what I love, and making sure it continues to make me happy each and every time.

So that is why I show up.

xx Deana

I needed...I still do need a time out. A mental break, a mindful moment, or just taking time for me.

We all need it in this crazy, go quick world, so then why don't we?

xx Deana

Not only is the title of this podcast the contest I am in and loving all those that are supporting me so far (THANK YOU), but it is also what I am giving off as I entered my 40s. I felt renewed, alive again, and happy to be busy versus bored.

I took this episode this week to dig into why I am always busy, and why it is such another level to be busy and successful. So join me this week as we talk all about it...and send me your daily votes!!!

Head on over to VOTEFAB40.COM/2024/DEANA

1 vote a day and that will keep me in the lead, or please donate to the National Breast Cancer Foundation.

xx Deana

Last night marked the very last Posche Fashion Show... and it was a goodie. I journey down memory lane of all things with Kim D. and finally say goodbye to the fashion show that made reality TV so buzzworthy.

xoxo Kim love you forever.

Deana

Most commonly we associate burn out with being overwhelmed or doing too much... but what about not doing enough that makes you happy?

Time to explore it all on another great episode here on the podcast 4.0-in Life!

xx Deana

I had an amazing second life...fashion and music. For those of you who don't know me...this episode is a goodie. From the day I knew singing was for me, and now wanting so badly to do it again.

Welcome to the "late" edition (I took a pause last night whoops) and enjoy another great episode on the podcast!

Besides Olipop making my Monday.... they are making my life with the coolest gear ever!!! So yes, dreams do come true, thanks Olipop.

How fitting also for today's chat with fearing what? Think about the last time you had a situation and you spent time to pre-plan the outcome without even knowing if there truly was an issue at hand. Why do we spend so much time doing this, and less time building our dreams, goals, and what we really want in life.

So what fear? Find the future in the success you already know, already built, and keep swimming!

xx Deana

Was it really all that great?

Did we do better?

I do miss mud pies and hanging out until the street light came on, but what was life before it?

Dive in with me as we 4.0-ing our Life (or try) and throw back to the days prior.

xx Deana

Welcome back and hello September! It has been a week, and yes I am back at work, moving and grooving, and ready for the weekend...

So sorry I kept you hanging, but hey now tonight or tomorrow on the way to work, you get to listen to me! So join me as we talk all about Mom Jeans, Crop Tops, and balance. I know ... I know.

In order to 4.0 your life, you need to be not just okay, but doing what you can. And let me be 100% transparent over here... I DO NOT A+ my life.

So after a lot of social media action, some shows portraying hard moments, lets dive in and do a mental health check!

xx Deana

Know your worth they say. Known your value. Does it come with experience? Does it come with knowledge and schooling? Does it come with time and effort?

Join me on this chat with some book talk, La La Leaf lip balms, and just me being me!

xx Deana (TheQueenBuzzdotcom) -- Instagram

New skin for this fab 41 year old, a new virtual therapist, and the amount of times the wifi went out on me was annoying!!! Follow, subscribe, and hit me up on the instragram TheQueenBuzzdotcom.

xx Deana