Explore every episode of the podcast Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity
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| 259. How to Stop Feeling Like a Pushover in Conflict and Stand Firm When You Feel Wronged | 01 Sep 2026 | 00:20:17 | |
In this episode, Alissa gets into why the instinct to smooth things over the second someone reacts to your boundary is actually a form of people pleasing, and why building your tolerance for that discomfort is the first step toward feeling unbotherable. Alissa traces this back to the fear of abandonment underneath it, whether that shows up as a partner flipping the story back on you or a family member waving off a hurtful comment as a joke. She shows how the pattern gets reinforced every time it's smoothed over instead of named, and why noticing what's actually driving the rush to resolution is what starts to shift the pattern. Alissa shares what it actually looks like to sit in the discomfort of a boundary instead of collapsing it, so you can source your safety and self-respect from within instead of from someone else's reaction. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 258. Why Am I So Triggered? How to Get to the Root and Feel Unbotherable | 25 Aug 2026 | 00:22:34 | |
In this episode, Alissa gets into why triggers land the way they do and why finding the root cause is the first step toward feeling steady, unshakable, and less at the mercy of what everyone around you is doing. Most triggers trace back to one of two places, an old wound from the past or an unmet need in the present. Alissa shows how naming that root pulls the charge out of it, so emotional memory stops determining your responses. Alissa walks through what it actually looks like to clean up your side of the street so you can confidently source your safety from within. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 257. "I'm the type of person who..." Shifting Your Self-Concept By Changing the Way You Talk to Yourself | 18 Aug 2026 | 00:19:29 | |
In this week's episode, Alissa shares a quick hack that quietly rewrites how you see yourself: "I'm the type of person who..." So often you pin your happiness on the outcome, the finished book, the dream partner, the number of followers. Alissa offers an alternative, letting the process itself become the proof and validation of who you're becoming. Every time you act like the person you want to be, you teach yourself to expect that version of you to show up (even when you don't feel like it). In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 256. You're Not a Burden: Advocating for Yourself with Chronic Illness or High Sensitivity w/ Celiac Coach, Jen Fitzpatrick | 11 Aug 2026 | 00:40:28 | |
For most highly sensitive people, advocating for a physical need feels like being a burden. Jen Fitzpatrick, a celiac advocate and founder of the Confident Celiac Community, joins Alissa to talk about the years she spent staying quiet about her own needs and the shift that finally changed it. The tension is one a lot of HSPs with a chronic condition know well. Speaking up is what keeps you safe, but every people pleasing instinct says stay quiet instead. Alissa and Jen unpack why that instinct runs so deep and how to move through it anyway. Pulling from Jen's diagnosis story, a study abroad trip where she watched everyone else eat what she couldn't, and Alissa's own experience navigating her daughter's recent diagnosis, the conversation moves through shame, community and self worth. In this episode, you'll learn:
Follow Jen: Website: https://www.thenomadicfitzpatricks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenomadicfitz Self-Love Toolkit: https://the-nomadic-fitzpatricks-gluten-free.teachable.com/p/celiac-self-love-toolkit-1059254 Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 255. Character Development and What Your North Node Reveals About the Person You're Becoming | 04 Aug 2026 | 00:17:47 | |
In this episode, Alissa breaks down why every hard season is building something in you that easy seasons never could, tracing the idea back to astrology, her own birth chart, and a realization that caught her off guard through her daughter Blaine's health diagnoses. She walks you through how to see every uncomfortable, triggering situation as character development and opportunities for growth. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 254. Stop Reading Silence as Rejection: The HSP Fawn Response Explained | 28 Jul 2026 | 00:19:02 | |
When someone's energy feels a little different than usual, quieter, colder, more reserved, your mind starts filling in the silence with a story about what you did wrong. This week Alissa breaks down where that hypervigilance actually comes from and why your mind rushing to assume the worst rarely has anything to do with what's actually happening. Pulling from her own patterns and stories from women in the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through how to catch the spiral before it takes over. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 253. How To Energetically Protect Yourself + Not Take It Personally When Others Project Onto You | 21 Jul 2026 | 00:13:04 | |
This week's episode comes from a riff request in the Not Too Sensitive Club group chat, a question about how to stop taking it personally when someone seems committed to disliking you, especially when you're wired to feel that discomfort in your body. It's uncomfortable to sense someone judging you, and every instinct says to win them over. Alissa offers a different move: recognizing whose story this actually is. She walks through what projection usually means psychologically, the energetic practices she uses before and after being around someone who triggers this, and why she'd rather be disliked for being herself than loved for shrinking. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 252. No One Else Gets to Decide That You're "Too Much" or "Not Enough" | 14 Jul 2026 | 00:19:01 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa names the exhaustion of shape shifting to fit an imagined mold of what's acceptable, and offers the alternative: deciding, every day, who you are and how you want to show up. Sparked by comments on a viral Instagram post about owning being "too much," Alissa calls out the excuse that other's won't let you be your true self. She's not buying the narrative that other people's discomfort is proof something is wrong with you. Pulling from her own story and pattern she keeps hearing from women in the Not Too Sensitive Club, she shares ways you can take back your power and decide who you are going to be. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 251. So What if People Judge You? How to Embrace Being "Cringe" and Build Sky High Self-Trust | 07 Jul 2026 | 00:25:40 | |
Alissa recently shared a post that said "please be too much," and it went viral, reaching over 2 million people after nearly two years of feeling like her work wasn't getting seen. But this episode isn't really about going viral. It's about what happened in those two quiet years before it, and why the willingness to show up anyway, even when you feel embarrassed, judged, or invisible, is what actually builds confidence and self-trust. For sensitive people, the fear of being seen trying runs deep. Alissa offers two words that changed her life: so what? She shares the stories behind it, from being mocked by people she went to high school with, to an email that hit her most painful insecurity square in the chest, to the six years of unseen work that led to her book deal with Penguin Random House. You don't wait until you feel healed and confident to start. You start, and that's what makes you confident. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 250. The Art of Feeling Everything Without Falling Apart | 30 Jun 2026 | 00:18:00 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa shares the duality she's been living inside, where heartbreak over a forever diagnosis sits right next to genuine blessing, and offers a way to honor every feeling without letting those feelings run the show. Through real moments from her own week, the 7am overwhelm she interrupted with gratitude, the choked up drive home from the doctor, the surprise of a new car the same afternoon, she gets honest about what it really means to be steady. Being unbothered was never about feeling less. It's about feeling all of it and still choosing how you move forward. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 249. Being Seen: How to Put Yourself Out There Even When You're Afraid of Being Misperceived | 23 Jun 2026 | 00:27:55 | |
Being seen means being judged. In this episode, Alissa lays out why that's not a reason to stay small, and what it actually takes to let other people have an opinion of you without losing yourself in it. For HSPs, this isn't just a confidence issue. It's energetic. You feel it when someone misreads you, when a comment lands sideways, when the room shifts after you share something you're proud of. The instinct is to pull back, smooth it over, or shrink to keep the peace. Alissa pulls from her own experience, including a pointed DM from a stranger who made it clear she wasn't a fan, and from a client who just hit a major life milestone and immediately felt the weight of other people's reactions. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 248. Wanna Become Unbotherable? Start By Building Resilience | 16 Jun 2026 | 00:23:38 | |
For HSPs navigating a world that wasn't built for them, the default can become: everything is hard, no one understands, and discomfort is a signal to retreat. In this solo episode, Alissa challenges that frame directly. She shares how her life experience has shaped her view of challenges. So even with the newest challenge life is giving her, to raise her daughter Blaine through a Type 1 diabetes and celiac diagnosis, she knows this discomfort is not something to escape but the exact thing that is building her confidence that she can handle the life she wants. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 247. Allow Others the Dignity of Their Own Experience | 09 Jun 2026 | 00:22:57 | |
In this episode, Alissa revisits one of the most important distinctions for highly sensitive people: the difference between caring about someone and carrying their experience as your own. Using real examples from clients and her own life, she unpacks why the impulse to manage other people's emotions is actually anxiety disguised as empathy. For HSPs who grew up as the peacekeeper, the fixer, or the emotionally responsible one, this pattern runs deep. The discomfort of watching someone be disappointed, frustrated, or hurt can feel so unbearable that smoothing it over becomes automatic. But Alissa names what that actually costs: your steadiness, your self-worth, and your ability to show up with any real integrity. You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 246. How to Stop Feeling Like a Burden and Allow Yourself to "Inconvenience" Others | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:26:18 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa explores one of the most deeply ingrained patterns she sees in highly sensitive people: the belief that having needs makes you a burden. For HSPs, this is a story that gets built early, when your emotional reactions were “too big”, when your needs felt different from everyone else's, and when the people around you responded with frustration instead of understanding. That story then follows you into adulthood, into relationships, and even into restaurants where you over-apologize to the waitress for ordering plain chicken. You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 245. Why Everything You've Been Through Was Preparing You for This | 26 May 2026 | 00:20:04 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal update about her daughter's new celiac disease diagnosis and what it revealed about the way life equips you long before you understand why. Years of navigating her own severe digestive issues, strict diets, and the emotional weight of feeling different gave Alissa a toolkit she never expected to need for her child. She connects that thread to the broader truth about how sensitivity, struggle, and the discomfort of being "too much" are never wasted. You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 244. My Daughter's Diagnosis + The Spiritual Reframe That Will Change How You See Hardship | 19 May 2026 | 00:28:01 | |
Alissa opens up about the very challenging season of life her and her family have recently been thrust into. Her three year old daughter Blaine was suddenly diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, and navigating it has revealed so much about the power of sensitivity, the discipline of steadiness, and the choice to see growth inside the pain. In this episode:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 243. Throwback: The Overfunctioning Empath (How To Stop Feeling Overly Responsible for Everyone Else) w/ Matt Landsiedel | 12 May 2026 | 00:45:57 | |
This episode is one of the most downloaded episodes of the podcast, and for good reason! Alissa chats with Matt Landsiedel about the pattern so many empaths know but rarely name: feeling overly responsible for everyone else's energy, emotions, and well-being. Together they unpack the deeper reasons HSPs fall into overfunctioning, where empathy ends and codependency begins, and what it looks like to stop rushing in to save everyone around you. If you missed this one the first time or need the reminder, this is your sign to press play. You'll Learn:
Connect with Matt: Youtube: Inspired to Be Authentic Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 242. Social Anxiety, Self-Worth, and the Real Reason You Overthink Every Conversation w/ Claire Eastham | 05 May 2026 | 00:48:01 | |
This week, Alissa sits down with social anxiety coach and author Claire Eastham to unpack where that fear really comes from and what it takes to stop performing your way through every interaction. Claire shares how years of masking and people-pleasing led to a nervous breakdown, and how embracing the very traits she'd been told were "too much" became the turning point. Together they explore why sensitive, empathic people are especially prone to over-scripting social situations and why the goal was never to stop feeling uncomfortable. This conversation is equal parts honest and light, full of personal stories, practical strategies, and the kind of permission-giving reframes that change how you show up. The real shift isn't becoming someone who doesn't get anxious. It's becoming someone who doesn't need to hide it. In this episode:
Connect with Claire: Website: https://substack.com/@thatsocialanxietycoach?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5bv5ps Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claireeasthamuk/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wereallmadhere00 My new book 'Party with Panic: How to Conquer Panix Attacks (for good)' Is available to pre-order now and will be published on 11th May. For every copy sold I will donate 50p to the charity MQ . https://amzn.eu/d/06xOHhPO Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 241. Was I Enough? How To Stop Ruminating After Social Situations | 28 Apr 2026 | 00:25:22 | |
In this epsidoe, Alissa explores the post-social spiral that so many highly sensitive people get trapped in, and the surprisingly simple tool she uses to stop it in its tracks. Alissa shares two recent experiences of her own, one at a casual social gathering where she felt quieter than usual, and one at a networking event that pushed her way outside her comfort zone. She also pulls from a live coaching call inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, where a member shared her own version of this breakthrough that stopped the spiral. What you'll hear in this episode:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 240. You Might Be in an Identity Crisis and Not Even Know It | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:24:35 | |
Drawing from a recent coaching conversation inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, Alissa walks through the pattern so many highly sensitive women fall into: outsourcing their sense of self to how others respond to them. When that source gets disrupted (e.g., a boundary gets pushback, a workplace stops reflecting your value) it can feel like an identity crisis. Alissa explores what happens when the external validation you've relied on disappears, and why that unraveling is actually the beginning of something more solid. Because the real work isn't getting people to see you differently. It's learning to source your steadiness from within so that outside opinions stop running your life. What you'll hear in this episode:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 239. Coddling Keeps You Comfortable. A Higher Standard Sets You Free | 14 Apr 2026 | 00:19:28 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa explores the difference between people who tell you what you want to hear and the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth. Because validation feels good, but it can also keep you stuck. Alissa makes the case for honest, loving challenge as one of the most underrated forms of care, and reflects on what changes when you finally have people in your corner who won't let you stay small. In this episode, you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 238. The Unexpected Gift in Comparing Yourself to Others | 07 Apr 2026 | 00:23:56 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa unpacks what's actually happening when you measure yourself against someone else, and how to use those moments as information rather than evidence of your own inadequacy. The reflex most of us have when comparison hits is either self-diminishment or quiet resentment. What Alissa offers instead is a way to get curious. Alissa shares personal examples and client stories to show what it looks like to catch the comparison mid-spiral and redirect it. The more grounded you are in who you are and what you actually care about, the less comparison has to take you out. In this episode:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 237. Are Your Feelings Keeping You Stuck? | 31 Mar 2026 | 00:26:37 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa takes an honest look at why validating your feelings too much can be a problem. Your feelings can be completely valid and still not be an excuse to stay stuck. Alissa shares examples from her own life like the overstimulation of motherhood, the chaos of a busy household, the moments where snapping feels like the only option; and gets real about what it actually looks like to validate your experience without letting it run the show. She also opens up about writing her entire 70,000-word book while postpartum, not because she felt inspired and ready, but because she showed up anyway. This episode isn't about pushing through or toxic positivity. It's about the difference between having your feelings witnessed… and hiding behind them. You will learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 236. The Creative Power of People Who Feel Everything w/ Brianna Pastor | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:56:40 | |
In this episode, Alissa is joined by poet and author Bri, whose work speaks directly to the experience of being deeply sensitive in a world that often doesn’t understand it. They talk about what it actually feels like to grow up highly sensitive, and how that shapes your identity, your relationships, and your sense of belonging. Bri shares her experience navigating intense emotions from a young age, the pressure to suppress them, and the journey of reclaiming sensitivity as something meaningful rather than something “wrong.” This conversation goes into:
Connect with Brianna: https://briannapastor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/briannapastor/?hl=en https://www.threads.com/@briannapastor https://www.tiktok.com/@briannapastorpoetry Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 235. 3 Tips for Clearing Your Channel and Using Your Sensitivity to Your Advantage | 17 Mar 2026 | 00:25:08 | |
In this episode, Alissa explores how highly sensitive people can keep their “channel clear” so they can access their intuition, creativity, and natural gifts. While sensitivity comes with powerful strengths—like empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence—many HSPs feel disconnected from those gifts because their inner channel is cluttered by outside noise, old conditioning, and self-doubt. Alissa shares three ways to clear that channel so you can trust yourself more deeply, connect with your authentic perspective, and stop letting insecurity or comparison block your natural strengths. What You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 234. Emotional Trailblazers: Why The World Needs Sensitive People Right Now w/April Snow | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:49:46 | |
In this episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author April Snow to talk about writing books, being seen as a highly sensitive person, and building resilience in a world that isn’t always HSP-friendly. They share what it’s really like to write a full-length book (including the vulnerability of putting your words on a printed page), how confidence is built through discomfort, and why highly sensitive people are uniquely positioned to lead with empathy right now. From fawning and people-pleasing to navigating criticism, creative risks, and visibility online, this conversation is an honest look at what it takes to trust your voice, even when it feels scary. If you’ve ever held yourself back because you’re “too sensitive,” this episode will challenge that narrative in the best way. You’ll learn:
Connect with April: https://www.sensitivestrengths.com https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths Sensitive Circles community: an online hub for HSPs to find meaningful connection without the noise of social media. https://www.sensitivestrengths.com/sensitive-circles Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 233. Stop Avoiding Hard Things (It’s Keeping You Stuck) | 03 Mar 2026 | 00:27:27 | |
In this solo episode, Alissa dives into a core pillar of her work: expanding your tolerance for discomfort as a highly sensitive person. She shares how she is navigating an intense season of motherhood with little sleep and full emotional capacity, while also watching clients move through their own challenging chapters. She explores what it actually takes for sensitive people to build resilience and thrive through life’s ebbs and flows. Alissa unpacks how a sensitive nervous system can default to overwhelm, avoidance, and self-doubt, and how those patterns quietly reinforce the belief that “I can’t handle this.” She challenges listeners to see discomfort not as proof of inadequacy, but as evidence of growth. In this episode, she shares:
Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 232. Overcoming Victimhood Mindset, Creative Expression, & Finding Your Voice as a Sensitive Soul w/ Bailey Creativity | 24 Feb 2026 | 00:55:01 | |
In this episode, Alissa sits down with her longtime Instagram friend Bailey for a deep and honest conversation about creativity, self-worth, friendship dynamics, and what it really means to be an empowered highly sensitive person. Bailey shares her journey of feeling like an outsider growing up, watering herself down to fit in, and eventually finding her voice through poetry. This episode is a powerful reminder that sensitivity is not a life sentence of overthinking and overwhelm. It’s a strength when you take ownership of your inner world and stop outsourcing your worth. What You’ll Learn:
Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 231. "Own Your Weird", Become Magnetic, & Stop Settling in Your Relationships w/ Case Kenny | 17 Feb 2026 | 00:46:03 | |
In this episode, Alissa sits down with writer and speaker Case Kenny for a conversation about self-expression, confidence, and what it really means to stop shrinking yourself. They explore why embracing your “cringe,” intensity, and nonconforming traits is actually magnetic, and why the fear of being judged keeps so many Highly Sensitive People playing small. The conversation expands into relationships. How to know if someone amplifies you, why “low maintenance” is often code for self-abandonment, and why we should aim to “settle up,” not settle down. This episode is an invitation to raise your standards, trust your essence, and choose relationships that expand you. In this episode, you'll learn:
Connect with Case Kenny: https://www.instagram.com/case.kenny/ Join us for Sensitive & Steady! My free 3-day workshop for highly sensitive women happening March 2nd, 4th, & 6th. CLICK HERE to register for free. Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 230. Are you betraying yourself to keep the peace? An honest look at the relationships you're outgrowing | 10 Feb 2026 | 00:27:51 | |
Season 2.0 of the Not Too Sensitive Podcast is officially here, and Alissa is back after a much-needed break with a renewed vision for the show. In this episode, Alissa shares what shifted during her time away. Then from there, the conversation turns to one of the most common (and painful) patterns Highly Sensitive People experience in relationships: betraying themselves in order to keep the peace. Alissa breaks down how people-pleasing, over-giving, and self-silencing often stem from low self-worth and abandonment wounds, and why relationships that require you to abandon yourself were never sustainable to begin with. This episode is an honest invitation to take ownership of your role in relationship dynamics and to step fully into the version of yourself who no longer self-abandons for approval or safety. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 229. Living in Alignment as an HSP (A Personal Reflection, Pod Updates, + What I See Coming in 2026) | 23 Dec 2025 | 00:22:13 | |
As 2025 comes to a close, Alissa shares a reflective and personal episode about endings, rebirth, and learning how to live in true alignment, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person. This year held profound milestones and massive shifts: signing a book deal, welcoming a new baby after pregnancy loss, navigating postpartum life while writing a book, and feeling the internal pull to realign how she shows up creatively and professionally. Alissa also shares what’s been lighting her up lately, from writing long-form essays on Substack to witnessing the depth, courage, and growth happening inside the Not Too Sensitive Club. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful reminder: alignment isn’t about forcing consistency. It’s about listening closely to what feels true now. In this episode, you’ll hear:
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 228. When You Can’t Stop Worrying What People Think of You | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:25:21 | |
In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking. She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom. Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good. In this episode, you’ll hear:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 227. You’re Holding More Than You Realize: How to Be Compassionate With Yourself When Life Feels Like a Lot | 09 Dec 2025 | 00:17:55 | |
This week’s episode is a gentle reminder for all of us: you’re doing more than you realize, and it’s okay to acknowledge it. 💛 Alissa dives into a practice that she often share with her 1:1 clients and in the Not Too Sensitive Club. The practice is all about zooming out on yourself to witness all that you’re holding and doing. This is especially helpful during busy seasons (hello, holidays!) when it’s easy to get stuck in the “what’s missing” or “I’m not enough” mindset. In this episode, you’ll hear:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 226. If You’re Tired of Asking “What’s Wrong With Me?”, Listen to This | 02 Dec 2025 | 00:18:54 | |
This week’s episode is a little different in the best way! Alissa is sharing a raw, unfiltered audio drop straight from Lucky Girl Radio, the private chat inside The Not Too Sensitive Club where she opens up about her personal growth, lived experiences, and the inner work she’s navigating in real time. In this behind-the-scenes glimpse, Alissa explores what it looks like to improve yourself from a place of self-acceptance rather than shame. She shares a recent real-life moment where she noticed a part of herself she wants to strengthen, and how she lovingly coached herself through it without spiraling into “what’s wrong with me?” energy. What You’ll Learn
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 225. Life Is Your Classroom: How to Enjoy the Holidays More as an HSP | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:16:54 | |
In this episode, Alissa offers a refreshing, grounded reframe for navigating holiday gatherings, especially when you’re a highly sensitive person anticipating old triggers, complicated family dynamics, or emotionally draining interactions. Instead of bracing yourself or rehearsing every response, she invites you to see these moments as a kind of “spiritual assignment” or gentle experiment: an opportunity to practice confidence, curiosity, boundaries, and self-regulation in real time. This perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, history, or lived experience behind these moments. Instead, it provides a lighter, more empowered way to move through them so you can show up as the version of yourself you’re becoming. What You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 224. What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Small (Stop Shrinking + Start Carrying Yourself With Confidence) | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:21:42 | |
In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful behind-the-scenes moment from the very first Not Too Sensitive Club call, where the group explored how to use triggers as opportunities for healing instead of evidence that something is “wrong” with you. Through a real client example, she breaks down exactly how to move from blaming, spiraling, or shutting down to curiosity, self-validation, and empowered action. This conversation offers a grounded, compassionate reminder that being highly sensitive doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you have a deeper invitation to grow, self-advocate, and trust your own worth. What You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 223. What I've learned about people being triggered by me (& how it helped me heal my friendship abandonment wounds) | 11 Nov 2025 | 00:20:20 | |
In this episode, Alissa shares a deeply personal lesson about learning to stay grounded when others are triggered by your authenticity. From feeling like an outsider as a sensitive child to navigating judgment as an adult and business owner, she opens up about how these moments have shaped her self-trust and confidence. This is an invitation to stop watering yourself down, to let others have their reactions, and to find freedom in knowing that being true to yourself is not something you need to apologize for. What you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 222. Healing Abandonment Wounds & Feeling SAFE In Relationships w/LMHC, Jessica Baum | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:47:45 | |
In this special guest episode, Alissa sits down with therapist and author Jessica Baum to explore how attachment styles develop, how they relate to sensitivity, and what healing secure attachment actually looks like. Jessica explains why so many highly sensitive people lean anxious in relationships, what it means to internalize safety, and how to start rewiring our attachment patterns through co-regulation and safe connection. This conversation offers compassionate insight into the “too much / not enough” wound, emotional neglect, and the cultural obsession with independence that often keeps us disconnected from true intimacy and support. What you'll learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa Connect with Jessica: Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn. Grab Jessica's free gift: freebie link | |||
| 221. Stop Letting Other People's Perception of You Define You | 28 Oct 2025 | 00:20:35 | |
Do you find yourself replaying conversations, worrying what someone thinks of you, or holding back your truth because you don’t want to be “too much”? In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest traps for highly sensitive people: overreliance on other people’s approval and perception. She shares how constantly scanning for others’ validation keeps you disconnected from your own self-trust—and how to shift into deeper self-acceptance and grounded confidence. What You’ll Learn:
For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa! Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 220. The Sneaky Reason You Still Don't Feel Self-Confident (My favorite hack for building confidence!) | 21 Oct 2025 | 00:18:26 | |
In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest reasons highly sensitive people stay stuck—overthinking instead of acting. She shares why consuming self-help content isn’t enough, why confidence doesn’t come from journaling or affirmations alone, and how taking small, messy action steps is what actually rewires your identity and builds self-trust. Through client stories, personal reflection, and her own journey from blog posts to a Penguin Random House book deal, Alissa shows how you can stop waiting to feel ready and start becoming the version of yourself who already does the thing. What You’ll Learn:
For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa! Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 219. Why You Feel Like You're "In Trouble" When People Get Upset With You & 3 Tips to Shift OUT of This | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:22:03 | |
Today Alissa is diving into a pattern she sees often in highly sensitive women—and one she's personally navigated herself—the instant sinking feeling that you’re “in trouble” whenever someone disagrees with you, gets upset, or pushes back. This episode explores the roots of this response—often tied to the fawn response, good girl conditioning, and past experiences with unpredictability or invalidation—and how it can leave you feeling frustrated, insecure, and walked over. Whether you’re 20 or 70, it’s never too late to start reclaiming your confidence, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically without letting fear or past patterns dictate your actions. What You’ll Learn:
For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa! Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 218. Growth Gap: The Tension Between Who You've Been & Who You're Becoming | 07 Oct 2025 | 00:26:56 | |
In this episode, Alissa shares a powerful reflection on the connection between personal growth and expanding your tolerance for discomfort. She explains how the moments that stretch us, challenge us, and make us uncomfortable are actually the in-between spaces where transformation happens. Using real examples from her postpartum fitness journey and her early days coaching highly sensitive people, Alissa reminds us that confidence and self-trust are built through showing up in the messy middle, not avoiding it. You’ll learn why avoiding discomfort keeps HSPs stuck in people-pleasing, how to recognize the growth hidden inside your triggers, and why the tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming is exactly where your evolution lives. What You’ll Learn:
For presale details about the Not Too Sensitive Club, DM me on Instagram @lifebyalissa! Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 217. How to Stop Feeling Self-Conscious for Being Different Than Other People | 30 Sep 2025 | 00:14:44 | |
In this episode, Alissa talks about why comparison and imagined judgment keep you from enjoying the things you love—and how owning your values (not everyone else’s) is the shortcut to feeling steady, confident, and truly free. Inspired by a conversation with a new 1:1 client, Alissa digs into how small decisions become litmus tests for self-worth. She shares honest, everyday examples and offers a simple perspective shift. When you know what you value and own it without apology, you stop performing for other people and start living from the inside out. What You’ll Learn
Take your first step to reclaiming your inner peace and self-worth with the External Validation Cleanse Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 216. How To Believe Things Are Always Working In Your Favor (even when it feels like they're not) | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:28:58 | |
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of her core beliefs: that life is always working in your favor, especially when it doesn’t feel like it. Through personal stories, spiritual wisdom, and honest reflections, she explores how setbacks, triggers, and everyday annoyances can be invitations into growth. From ancient teachings like Buddhism’s lotus flower to her own journey with chronic illness and sleepless nights as a mom, Alissa shares how challenges can become catalysts for resilience, self-trust, and transformation. This episode is a reminder that your hardest seasons often contain the very gold that will shape your most confident, unshakable self. What You’ll Learn:
Curious about the Not Too Sensitive Club? Send Alissa a DM on Instagram @lifebyalissa to get the presale details and reserve your spot! Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 215. THIS Is What's Blocking You From Using Your Emotional Intelligence As A Strength | 16 Sep 2025 | 00:18:42 | |
In this episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest blocks highly sensitive people face: insecurity. She explores how self-doubt and second-guessing can cloud your emotional intelligence—turning what should be a powerful superpower into a source of hypervigilance and overthinking. Through personal stories and practical examples, Alissa explains how insecurities often cause HSPs to take things personally, spiral into self-blame, and unintentionally block authentic connection. She shares how doing the inner work of healing old wounds allows you to show up with clean energy, hold space for others, and leverage your sensitivity as the gift it truly is. What You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 214. Being Highly Sensitive In A Broken World | 11 Sep 2025 | 00:21:33 | |
In this bonus, un-edited episode, I explore the role I believe we're called to play in the world as highly sensitive people and how we can support ourselves through challenging times. Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 213. How to Cultivate "Lucky Girl" Energy | 09 Sep 2025 | 00:28:23 | |
In this episode, Alissa explores the concept of lucky girl energy—the magnetic way of living where things seem to effortlessly work out for you. While the term has become popular online, Alissa shares how cultivating this energy is actually the natural result of healing self-worth, neutralizing triggers, and embodying your most confident, unshakable self. Through personal stories—from meeting her husband, to landing her book deal, to finding her dream home—Alissa reveals how challenges and setbacks can become doorways into expansion when approached with the right mindset. This episode is an invitation to see life’s struggles not as punishments, but as divine opportunities that ultimately make you more magnetic. What You’ll Learn:
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 212. Growth, Expansion, & Shifting Your Identity As An HSP | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:16:09 | |
In this episode, Alissa reflects on her intense season of life—transitioning to two kids, writing a book, and navigating all the layers of motherhood, marriage, friendships, and business—and how these experiences have deepened her embodiment of the Not Too Sensitive movement. She shares how identity is constantly evolving through challenges, transitions, and defining moments, and why allowing ourselves to be shaped (rather than resisting change) opens the door to growth, creativity, and new parts of ourselves we didn’t know were there. Alissa highlights the power of creating space to hear your own voice, experiment with curiosity, and rediscover joy in unexpected places. What You’ll Learn:
Join External Validation Cleanse: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/QNkTRnYQ/checkout Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa | |||
| 211. Needing Nothing Attracts Everything (A concept that's changed my life) | 26 Aug 2025 | 00:26:08 | |
In this episode, Alissa explores the powerful truth behind the phrase “needing nothing attracts everything.” She shares how relying on external validation keeps us stuck in low self-worth—and how building confidence within creates a magnetic energy that draws the right people and opportunities into your life. Questions answered within this episode:
Join External Validation Cleanse: https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/offers/QNkTRnYQ/checkout Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa The Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast | |||
| 210. The Spiritual Awakening of Highly Sensitive People: Releasing the Need for External Validation | 19 Aug 2025 | 00:26:20 | |
In this episode, Alissa opens up about her personal journey with external validation and how her identity became tethered to achievements, praise, and being the “star employee.” After experiencing burnout, illness, and a toxic work environment, she shares how it all became a spiritual wake-up call to look within. Whether you’re a high achiever, people pleaser, or someone who finds worth in how others see you, this episode invites you to explore the deeper spiritual roots of validation. Alissa introduces the idea that repeated triggers are not punishments but divine invitations to heal old wounds, shed false identities, and build true self-worth from within. She also shares a powerful four-step process to begin detaching from the need for external validation and offers a sneak peek into her new course, The External Validation Cleanse, (with an optional business add-on for sensitive entrepreneurs!) In this episode we coverered:
Join the External Validation Cleanse for 50% OFF during presale! CLICK HERE to grab it for just $33. Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop! The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount! As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)! All you have to do is:
That's it! 😊 🦋🦋🦋 Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissa The Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast | |||