Are your kids staging a rebellion against the sanity in your home? Is your child a living puzzle you can’t understand? Are you craving insight into the minds of your adopted or step-children? There is a powerful way to learn how God designed them and how to guide them to their full potential while also learning about yourself so you can overcome negative patterns that are stealing your joy. Welcome to Not So Normal Parenting’ where we unravel the mysteries of family dynamics, from toddlers to teens and everything in between, using team building tools like Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. I’m Wendy Gossett, personality prodigy and parenting coach, best-selling author, speaker and viral embarrassing dancing mom. I raised a son and daughter that are as different as Bob Ross and the Black Widow and I am definitely not normal. Let’s celebrate the beautifully not-so-normal together – because who needs normal when you can thrive in the extraordinary?
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68 | INTJ Type 1 Mother Parenting Her Opposite ENFP Daughter
Episode 69
Wednesday, June 11, 2025 • Duration 44:50
In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of order, shares her personal journey towards understanding and embracing her daughter Savannah's exuberant and spontaneous ENFP personality. This episode sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of letting her free-spirited child learn valuable life lessons through experience, while also emphasizing the importance of parental self-awareness in fostering a nurturing environment for vastly different personalities.
Gain insights into:
Balancing Thinking and Feeling: Strategies for integrating a rational, organized approach with a need for emotional and creative expression, ensuring both mother and daughter thrive.
Embracing Free-Spirited Learning: How the mother has learned to loosen the reins and allow her daughter the freedom to explore the world, make mistakes, and grow from them in her own unique way.
Parental Self-Awareness: The crucial role of self-reflection in parenting, especially when dealing with personality types that starkly contrast with one's own. Shana discusses how understanding her own biases and limitations has been key to her growth as a parent.
Navigating Opposite Characteristics: A deep dive into the day-to-day interactions and long-term planning that come with managing differing needs and desires, highlighting both the struggles and the beautiful moments of connection.
Join us for a heartfelt and practical conversation that not only highlights the complexities of such diverse personality combinations but also provides real-world advice for parents facing similar challenges. Whether you’re an INTJ, ENFP, or any other personality type, this episode offers valuable lessons on patience, understanding, and love in the face of differences.
Get a FREE Child Temperament Test when you join my Not So Normal Parenting Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/notsonormalparenting
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
67 | Highly Intelligent, Perfectionistic and Introverted. How to Parent the Rare INTJ
Episode 68
Tuesday, June 3, 2025 • Duration 21:11
Are you raising a future innovator, strategist, or systems architect? The INTJ is one of the rarest and most independent types—especially in girls—and their complex inner world can leave even the most insightful parent scratching their head. In this episode, we dive into the psychology behind the INTJ temperament, from their mysterious inner vision to their intense need for autonomy, structure, and meaning.
Learn how to parent an INTJ child with confidence by understanding their four psychological functions (Ni, Te, Fi, Se), how they show up in babies, grade schoolers, teens, and adults, and what kinds of real-world activities will light them up. You’ll also hear practical tips for helping INTJs build emotional awareness, balance their perfectionism, and adjust to life’s inevitable curveballs.
✨ Take the free temperament test and find out if your child is an INTJ.
Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
58 | Are You Too Smart for Friendship? What MBTI NT Types Really Need
Episode 59
Tuesday, March 25, 2025 • Duration 19:12
NT personality types—ENTP, INTJ, INTP, and ENTJ—are known for their sharp intellect, fierce independence, and big-picture thinking. But when it comes to friendship, their strengths can also be their biggest struggles. In this episode, we break down how NTs approach relationships using the TRUE framework: Trust, Respect, Understanding, and Encouragement.
You’ll learn:
✅ Why NTs need mental stimulation to feel connected
✅ What makes them loyal (and what pushes them away)
✅ Why emotions can feel like a foreign language
✅ How NTs support friends in practical—but often overlooked—ways
Whether you're an NT yourself or have one in your life, this episode offers clarity, humor, and powerful takeaways to strengthen your friendships with the thinkers and strategists of the world.
Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
57 | The Insecure Friend: Why MBTI NF Personality Types Feel Too Much in Relationships
Episode 58
Tuesday, March 18, 2025 • Duration 30:11
Do you have a friend who craves deep, meaningful conversations, champions your dreams, and feels emotions with unmatched intensity? If so, you might have an NF (Intuitive Feeler) friend! Known for their depth, passion, and emotional intelligence, NFs (ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP) are the visionaries, dreamers, and counselors of the friendship world.
But with their high expectations, sensitivity, and desire for novelty, friendships with NFs can be both deeply rewarding and occasionally challenging. In this episode, we break down the NF friend using the TRUE framework (Trust, Respect, Understanding, Encouragement) to explore:
✅ Why NFs form soul-level connections but can struggle with feeling unseen or lonely.
✅ How their idealism and deep emotions impact friendships—for better or worse.
✅ Their love for novelty and growth—and how boredom can create restlessness.
✅ How to be a great friend to an NF—and what they need in return.
If you’re an NF, this episode will help you understand your friendship patterns and challenges. If you have an NF in your life, you’ll gain insight into what makes them such inspiring and devoted friends.
Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
56 | Are You a Controlling Friend? Strengths and Struggles of the MBTI SJ Personality
Episode 57
Tuesday, March 11, 2025 • Duration 28:53
Are you looking for a steady, dependable friend who always remembers birthdays, follows through on commitments, and shows up when it counts? Then you need an SJ friend! In this episode, we explore the Guardian temperament (SJ types: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)—the friends who hold everything together with their structure, loyalty, and strong sense of responsibility.
But just like every type, SJs have friendship strengths and struggles. While they’re incredibly reliable and thoughtful, they can also be overly rigid, controlling, or struggle with emotional connection and encouragement.
Join me as we break down the SJ friend using the TRUE friendship framework:
✅ True – Their unmatched loyalty and dependability—but also their struggles with control and holding grudges.
✅ Respect – How SJs show up for others but sometimes struggle with boundaries or taking on too much responsibility.
✅ Understanding – The difference between emotionally attuned SFJs and logical, solution-focused STJs (and how that impacts listening and empathy).
✅ Encouragement – Why SJs show support through actions rather than words—and why SFJs may need reassurance but struggle to ask for it.
Whether you’re an SJ, have an SJ friend, or just want to deepen your understanding of different friendship dynamics, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical takeaways. Tune in now!
Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy
55 | Are Your Friendships Too Shallow? Strengths and Struggles of the Free-Spirited MBTI SP
Episode 56
Tuesday, March 4, 2025 • Duration 26:06
SP's or Sensory Perceivers in the Myer's Briggs system, are the thrill-seekers, the spontaneous adventurers, and the friends who can turn an ordinary Tuesday into a legendary night. But are they reliable friends, or just here for a good time?
In this episode, we break down:
Different types of SP friends—from the Party Starter to the Flaky Friend
Why SPs struggle with commitment and deep listening
How to appreciate their energy while setting healthy boundaries
The TRUE framework—where SPs shine and where they struggle
If you’ve ever been frustrated by a last-minute cancellation or loved a friend who pushes you out of your comfort zone, this episode is for you!
🔊 Tune in now!
Set up a FREE Chat: https://wendygossett.as.me/ChatwithWendy
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
54 | Love Personality Tests? Recognizing the Four People Patterns in Yourself and Others
Episode 55
Thursday, February 27, 2025 • Duration 40:34
In this episode, we delve into the age-old debate of nature versus nurture and its impact on our temperament.
Discover the findings of an eighty-year Harvard happiness study, revealing that 50% of our happiness capacity is determined by our temperament, which is set at birth. Despite this, we often focus on changing our circumstances rather than accepting our inherent strengths. We explore how temperament influences our reactions to life's challenges and how understanding our children's temperament is crucial for effective parenting.
Drawing from real-life examples and psychological research, we examine how temperament manifests from infancy and shapes our experiences and interactions. From fussy babies to strong-willed toddlers, each child exhibits unique traits that remain consistent throughout their lives.
Join us as we explore the four main personality patterns: Cooperators (Ox), and (Human) Challengers (Lion), and (Scarecrows). Through anecdotes and character analyses from literature, such as "The Wizard of Oz," we gain insight into the characteristics and motivations of each personality type.
Don't miss out on practical tips for parenting and fostering harmony within your family, tailored to the specific needs of each personality pattern. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of nature versus nurture and its profound impact on our lives.
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Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
53 | Feeling Lonely or Isolated? How to Find Community and Build Friendships as an Adult
Episode 54
Tuesday, February 18, 2025 • Duration 23:05
Making friends as an adult is harder than anyone ever warned us about. Unlike childhood, where friendships formed effortlessly on the playground, or college, where connections were built into dorm life, adulthood throws us new challenges—busy schedules, shifting priorities, and the reality that making (and keeping) friendships takes effort.
This is a topic I love and have spent a lot of time thinking about. Years ago, I led a seminar on friendship and connection, and despite facing plenty of obstacles, I’ve been able to build an incredible, supportive group of friends. But it wasn’t by accident—it was by understanding what makes friendships work and taking intentional steps to cultivate them.
Recently, I came across Mel Robbins’ Three Pillars of Friendship—Proximity, Time/Phase of Life, and Energy—and I found myself nodding along because, yes, these are the things that make or break friendships. I also love her Let Them Philosophy, but what I’ve also embraced is the ‘Let Me’ Approach—the idea that Let me be the one to reach out, Let me be the one to host the party, Let me take responsibility for building the connections I want in my life.
In this episode, I’m diving into all of this—why making friends in adulthood is hard, how to navigate it, and how to take action to build real, meaningful relationships.
And stay tuned, because in upcoming episodes, I’ll be exploring the different types of friends based on personality—what strengths they bring to relationships, where imbalances may show up, and how to cultivate deeper connections by understanding temperament.
If you’ve been struggling to find or deepen friendships, or just want to be more intentional about the relationships in your life, this episode is for you.
52 | Raising Resilient Kids with Lee Benson. Building Grit, Confidence and Financial Skills
Episode 53
Monday, February 10, 2025 • Duration 22:43
Every parent dreams of setting their kids up for success—protecting them from pain, offering them opportunities, and giving them the tools to thrive. But what if, in trying to shield our kids from struggles, we’re actually limiting their potential?
What if you could give your child a superpower—a mindset that turns challenges into opportunities, builds confidence through healthy struggles, and equips them to create value for themselves and others? I had my first paper route in the 3rd grade! Getting up early, rain or shine, instilled a work ethic in me and taught me so much more than an allowance ever did. That was back in the days when you had to collect the money from your customers by going door to door.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the principles of Value Creation Kid, a proven roadmap to raising financially competent, responsible, and resilient kids. Joining us is Lee Benson, a seasoned entrepreneur with over 25 years of experience as a CEO. Lee grew and sold his company, Able Aerospace, for 9-figures and now helps low income families thrive.
Lee shares practical insights, including:
How letting kids have healthy struggles builds resilience.
Lee’s childhood was rough and full of Ace’s Adverse Childhood Expereinces, but despite this he learned how to turn struggles into capabilities and confidence. (See the 10 Ace questions below.)
55+ “Home Gigs (jobs)” to help kids earn, save, spend, and learn financial independence.
Lee’s struggles and expertise, combined with actionable steps for parents, will inspire you to equip your kids with the confidence and grit to succeed in the real world. Get ready to join the movement toward raising 50 million financially capable kids! And don’t forget to take a free personality test for your child at wendygossett.com
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
The 10 ACE Questions
Here’s a general breakdown of the questions:
Abuse
Emotional Abuse:
Did a parent or other adult in the household often insult, humiliate, or put you down? Did they make you feel afraid you might be physically hurt?
Physical Abuse:
Did a parent or other adult in the household often push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? Or ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
Sexual Abuse:
Did an adult or older person ever touch you inappropriately, try to make you touch them sexually, or force you into sexual contact?
Neglect
Emotional Neglect:
Did you often feel that no one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? Or that your family didn’t look out for or support each other?
Physical Neglect:
Did you often feel that you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, or had no one to protect you? Or that your parents were too drunk or high to care for you or take you to the doctor if needed?
Household Dysfunction
Parental Separation or Divorce:
Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
Domestic Violence:
Did your mother or stepmother (or another household adult) often get pushed, grabbed, slapped, or have something thrown at them? Or did they ever get hit, kicked, or threatened with a weapon?
Substance Abuse:
Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used drugs?
Mental Illness:
Was a household member often depressed, mentally ill, or suicidal?
Incarceration:
Did a household member go to prison?
How the ACE Score Works
Each "yes" response equals 1 point, resulting in a total ACE score ranging from 0 to 10. Higher scores indicate a greater exposure to childhood adversity, which is associated with an increased risk of long-term health, emotional, and behavioral challenges.
Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids. Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
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