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How to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93
09 Jan 2025
00:37:32
Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your partner laughs a little too hard with someone new? Or that tightness in your chest when they're excited about a fresh connection? Jealousy can be an unwelcome guest in our emotional landscape, especially in non-monogamous relationships. But what if I told you that this intense feeling isn't your enemy, but potentially one of your most powerful allies?
In this episode, I'm sharing a perspective that completely changed my approach to jealousy. We're looking deep into why jealousy feels so primal, what it's really trying to tell us, and how we can transform it from a source of pain into a tool for growth and deeper connection.
Key Insights:
Understanding the evolutionary roots of jealousy and why it feels so intense
Decoding the three core messages jealousy typically carries
Practical strategies for working with jealousy instead of against it
How to communicate about jealousy without creating conflict
Transforming jealousy into an opportunity for personal growth and stronger relationships
Learn how to recognize jealousy as a signal from your nervous system, and discover a three-step process to turn that gut-wrenching feeling into a powerful tool for growth. We'll discuss the importance of curiosity, self-reflection, and open communication in navigating these intense emotions.
"Jealousy isn't about being irrational or dramatic. It shows up because it touches on things that matter to us really, really deeply. Our sense of love, connection, belonging, trust, and safety."
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, Ep. 92
02 Jan 2025
00:14:59
Are you tired of jealousy hijacking your relationships? Imagine stepping into 2025 with the power to transform those uncomfortable feelings into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. In this episode, I'm sharing three powerful tools to help you navigate jealousy in non-monogamous relationships with confidence and grace.
What You'll Discover:
How to identify jealousy in your body before it spirals in your mind
The art of uncovering hidden triggers that fuel jealous thoughts
A game-changing approach to reframing jealousy as a helpful signal
Key Insights:
Why suppressing jealousy only makes it stronger
The surprising connection between curiosity and relationship growth
Real-life examples of transforming jealousy into deeper intimacy
Whether you're new to non-monogamy or an old pro, this episode offers practical strategies to help you create lighter, more loving relationships. Learn how to turn jealousy from your enemy into your ally on the path to personal growth.
As a relationship coach with over a decade of experience in non-monogamy, I bring both personal insights and professional expertise to help you navigate the complexities of open relationships. My approach combines practical tools with deep emotional work to foster genuine connection and personal growth.
Ready to make 2025 the year you finally break free from jealousy's grip? Tune in now and take the first step towards more fulfilling, confident non-monogamous relationships.
Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Shuffling Relationship Dynamics with a Deck of Cards, Ep. 83
05 Sep 2024
00:45:57
Imagine a game that sparks deep conversations, fosters understanding, and strengthens your relationships. That's exactly what the brilliant minds behind The Non Monogamy Card Game have created. This innovative tool is designed to help you explore the complexities of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships in a fun and approachable way.
In this episode, I sit down with Ayala & Kristen, the creators of this game-changing resource. As professional psychotherapists from Northern California, they've poured their expertise into crafting 150 thought-provoking questions that encourage players to explore their values, desires, and needs within non-monogamous relationships.
Discover how the Non Monogamy Card Game can help you:
Initiate difficult conversations with ease and curiosity
Explore your personal values and how they align with non-monogamous relationships
Create living agreements that evolve with your relationships
Foster deeper understanding between partners and within polycules
Navigate the complexities of non-monogamy with more confidence and clarity
Join us for this eye-opening chat and learn how a simple deck of cards can open up a world of possibilities for your relationships. Whether you're looking to enhance your current non-monogamous partnerships or curious about exploring new relationship structures, this episode offers practical guidance and actionable steps.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Fluid Bonding and STI Awareness Navigating Sexual Health in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Susan Bratton
22 Aug 2024
01:16:11
In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the incomparable Susan Bratton, a true pioneer in sexual wellness and non-monogamy. With decades of experience under her belt, Susan shares her wealth of knowledge on everything from STI testing to hormone replacement therapy, offering insights that could revolutionize your sex life.
Susan's candid approach to discussing her personal journey, including her current throuple arrangement and experiences with over a thousand threesomes, creates a safe space for exploring the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships. Her expertise in sexual techniques, communication skills, and intimate health paints a comprehensive picture of what it takes to cultivate a fulfilling sex life at any age.
Key Insights:
• The importance of understanding female arousal and desire • Strategies for maintaining sexual health and pleasure as we age • The lowdown on STI testing and safe sex practices in non-monogamous relationships • How to navigate the emotional aspects of disclosing STI status • The potential benefits and risks of new sexual health technologies and treatments
Susan's Top Tips for Better Sex:
1. Embrace "non-negotiables" in the bedroom 2. Prioritize relaxation for better arousal 3. Explore regenerative therapies for sexual health 4. Communicate openly about STI status and testing 5. Continuously educate yourself on sexual wellness
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Monogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura Boyle
08 Aug 2024
00:54:10
Let’s explore the complexities of living in polyamorous relationships with relationship coach Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of shared living, finances, and parenting in multi-partner households.
From cohabitation logistics and financial planning to co-parenting strategies and managing breakups, Laura offers practical advice and candid insights. We also dig into the social stigmas and legal challenges faced by polyamorous families.
Discover how real people are navigating the intricacies of polyamory and creating fulfilling lives with multiple partners.
Laura Boyle is a relationship coach, educator, and the voice behind the blog at readyforpolyamory.com and the accompanying podcast. She has been an expert voice on the topics of polyamory and parenting for the Boston Globe, the Economist, Parents Magazine, and Cosmopolitan, as well as being polyamorous herself for nearly 20 years. Her coaching practice is largely focused on helping non-monogamous folks through major life transitions, and she's based in New Haven, CT.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Navigating Consent and Pleasure in Non-Monogamy with Jamie Love
25 Jul 2024
00:45:11
This episode gives you a peek into the remarkable journey of Jamie Love, from a conservative religious background to leading a thriving, international sex-positive community, Sex Positive World. You'll hear how Jamie fosters spaces where people can explore intimacy and sexuality openly and shame-free.
Key Discussion Points:
The Power of Consent in Everyday Life: We explore the power of small consent practices like cuddle parties and massage nights for fostering healthy connections and healing pleasure disconnects.
Creating Safe Spaces for Exploration: Discover how Sex Positive World's legendary Hawaiian retreats create environments where people feel truly safe, seen, and free to reach new depths of pleasure and connection.
Building Healthy Relationships: We delve into Sex Positive World's orientation classes, where participants practice setting boundaries, saying no, and having those crucial (but sometimes awkward) conversations. Learn how Jamie emphasizes real transformation through supportive community.
Exploring Non-Monogamy: Whether you're curious about ethical non-monogamy or simply looking for a supportive community, this episode is for you!
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The benefits of joining sex-positive communities.
How to ethically explore non-monogamy.
Tips for hosting inclusive massage parties.
Strategies for building a culture of consent in your relationships.
Jamie Love is the Executive Director of Sex Positive World (https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/), a global organization dedicated to spreading inclusive radical sex positivity and empowering individuals to build their own sex-positive communities. A self-identified ethical slut and non-monogamous person, Jamie teaches workshops ranging from relationship discussions to cuddle parties, massage-a-trois, and self-pleasure circles.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Polyamorous Elders: Planning for Your Future
11 Jul 2024
00:51:04
Intrigued by polyamory but unsure how it translates to long-term relationships? Especially as we age?
Today, we're venturing into the world of thriving polyamory in your golden years. Joining us is the amazing Kathy Labriola, a therapist, nurse, and author who's been living the poly life for 50 years! Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, One of my fav's , The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book: Causes, Survival.
Kathy's new book, "Polyamorous Elders," tackles the unique joys and challenges of navigating polyamory as we mature. We'll be diving deep into communication, legal considerations, and even keeping your sex life sizzling!
Whether you're a seasoned polyamorist or curious newcomer, this episode offers invaluable insights for building strong, fulfilling connections as you age.
Get ready to learn about:
The surprising benefits of polyamory for older adults.
Essential communication tools to avoid misunderstandings.
Strategies for navigating jealousy in poly relationships.
Planning for your future, legally and financially.
And fostering new forms of intimacy as your life changes.
Ready to explore the vibrant world of polyamory at any age? Buckle up and join our conversation with Kathy Labriola!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
The Alchemy of Pleasure: Transforming Relationships with Sasha and Moritz
27 Jun 2024
01:11:16
Let's be real: navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can be thrilling, confusing, and sometimes downright messy. But no worries! We've got power couple Sasha and Moritz on deck to spill the tea on building a strong ENM connection.
With refreshing candor, they peel back the layers on cultivating extraordinary intimacy. You'll discover practical strategies for courageously expressing desires, setting boundaries, and managing the inevitable ups and downs with grace. Their approach transcends relationship structures, providing a roadmap for deeper vulnerability and growth within yourself and your connections.
Here are just a few of the invaluable gems you'll gain:
Powerful communication techniques to foster trust and understanding
Mindset shifts to take full responsibility for your emotions
Reframing jealousy as a gateway to intimacy instead of a roadblock
Using sex as a sacred practice to accelerate personal evolution
Staying true to your authentic self amidst societal pressures
And don't forget to check out Sasha and Moritz's website, Kerkmann Hood Coaching https://www.kerkmannhoodcoaching.com/ to learn more about their work and explore the world of passionate, non-monogamous relationships.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
First Date Fun: Navigating Non-Monogamy with Humor and Insight
13 Jun 2024
01:01:40
First dates in the non-monogamous world? We've got you covered!
Join Ellecia and Danny for a hilarious and informative exploration of navigating this unique dating scene. From conversation starters (forget the weather!) to open communication, this episode equips you with the tools to feel confident and empowered.
What to expect:
Break the ice with questions that spark real connections: Learn how to ask engaging questions about someone's journey into non-monogamy and their existing relationships.
Ditch the "what do you do?" routine: Learn thought-provoking questions that spark genuine connection and go beyond the surface.
Our not-so-perfect dating moments (Waterworld, anyone?): Laugh along as Ellecia and Danny share their personal dating mishaps, proving you're not alone in the awkwardness.
Rejection stinks, but you won't: How to handle the inevitable "no" with grace and bounce back stronger.
Boundaries & Polycule Talk: Tips for navigating important topics without the awkwardness.
Laugh-out-loud stories: Ellecia and Danny share relatable anecdotes that will leave you nodding along (and maybe snorting a little).
This episode is your one-stop shop for making non-monogamous dating fun, fulfilling, and full of laughter.
Want More?
Want to become a master of navigating conversations about ethical non-monogamy? Download your free copy of my ebook, Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-monogamous Conversations! This comprehensive guide provides even more in-depth strategies, conversation prompts, and practical tips to ensure your non-monogamous relationships thrive.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
From Strict Religion to Ceremonial Celebrations: Dan's Story
30 May 2024
01:06:08
Imagine growing up in a world where love had strict rules, only to break free and discover endless possibilities. This is the story of Dan and Jennie, a married couple who defied societal norms to embrace ethical non-monogamy.
For over 30 years, Dan and Jennie have navigated the challenges of leaving behind their conservative religious roots and exploring swinging and polyamory. In this honest and heartfelt conversation, Dan shares their journey, from dealing with shame and judgment to tackling the emotional rollercoaster of jealousy and breakups. His insights give us a rare look into the highs and lows of living life on their own terms.
Here’s what you can expect from this inspiring episode:
Letting Go of Old Beliefs: Discover strategies for shedding outdated beliefs and building real connections.
Effective Communication and Boundaries: Learn how to communicate better and set healthy boundaries in non-monogamous relationships.
Managing Triggers and Embracing Vulnerability: Get practical tips for handling emotional triggers, embracing vulnerability, and focusing on personal growth.
Redefining Love and Sexuality: Gain a fresh perspective on love, sexuality, and the freedom to design relationships that reflect your true values.
With honesty and hard-earned wisdom, Dan dives into the transformative power of confronting personal traumas, embracing all parts of oneself, and living authentically. Whether you’re experienced in non-monogamy or just curious about different relationship structures, this episode is a must-listen. It’s a powerful reminder that love has no limits.
Join me, Ellecia, and Dan on this eye-opening journey, and find the courage to create a life that’s full, passionate, and true to yourself.
Want to connect with Dan? email watersedgeceremonies@gmail.com
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Unpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-Monogamy
16 May 2024
00:45:54
What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was wrong? Our guest today has been openly non-monogamous for over 20 years, challenging assumptions about love and intimacy every step of the way. Get ready to question societal rules and create connections that actually work for you.
Over the past two decades, Brandon has navigated the intricacies of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. He shares his journey - one filled with hard-won lessons on communication, self-awareness, and letting go of expectations. Brandon explains key concepts like relationship anarchy and the "relationship escalator" in plain terms anyone can understand. He's painfully honest about handling jealousy, avoiding common pitfalls, and why you must know yourself before inviting others into an open dynamic.
Tune into this taboo-busting episode to:
The Art of Communication: Brandon will share how he helps people improve their conversation skills to better manage new relationship energy (NRE).
Self-Discovery and Emotional Intelligence: We'll talk about the importance of understanding yourself to better navigate the complexities of polyamorous relationships.
Breaking Free from Social Expectations: Brandon will discuss how stepping outside conventional relationship models can lead to more authentic connections.
What part of Brandon's story are you curious about? Have you faced similar challenges in non-monogamy? I'd love to hear your experiences, so feel free to share!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
No Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex Magic
02 May 2024
00:46:59
Can sex magic really help you manifest your desires and enhance pleasure? In this candid conversation with Lona, a neo-tantra teacher and sexual bliss coach, we unravel the mysteries behind this esoteric practice. Lona shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, kink, and somatic therapy as gateways to deeper fulfillment.
We explore the challenges of her transition from a decade in a monogamous relationship to forging her own path of "no rules" polyamory. Lona explains how she discovered tantra while studying witchcraft, and became fascinated by its power to merge sexuality and spirituality. She offers insight into missteps within past relationships, and how those experiences ultimately strengthened her connections. Lona also discusses techniques for moving beyond trauma triggers using the wisdom of the body over that of the mind.
By tuning in you’ll:
Gain perspective into a teacher's evolution with non-monogamy and polyamory
Learn foundational concepts of neo-tantra, sex magic, somatic therapy
Pick up strategies for communicating needs and embracing vulnerability in relationships
Find inspiration to explore your most authentic sexual and spiritual self
Join us for an eye-opening, taboo-busting conversation that will teach you how to unlock the magical power of pleasure. Hit play now to start manifesting your desires.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Polyamory Explored: Jealousy, Communication and Coming Out Strategies With Kathy Labriola
26 Dec 2024
00:55:57
Are you grappling with jealousy in your non-monogamous relationships? Curious about the differences between solo polyamory and relationship anarchy? In this eye-opening episode, I'm joined by the legendary Kathy Labriola, a counselor, nurse, and author with decades of experience guiding polyamorous and non-monogamous folks.
Mastering Jealousy
Understanding why jealousy arises and how it differs from envy or coveting
Practical strategies for addressing the root causes of jealousy
Solo Polyamory vs. Relationship Anarchy
Exploring the nuances between these relationship styles
How different approaches impact emotional dynamics
Building Trust and Communication
Techniques for creating more honest, deep communication in your relationships
Strategies for emotional growth and embracing openness
Coming Out as Polyamorous
Kathy's unique "platform release strategy" for navigating this process
Balancing personal authenticity with potential consequences
About Kathy Labriola:
Kathy Labriola is a counselor, nurse, and author with extensive experience in guiding polyamorous and non-monogamous individuals. Her recently updated book, Love and Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, offers a wealth of wisdom gained from decades in the field. www.kathylabriola.com
Whether you're dealing with feelings of insecurity, navigating new relationship dynamics, or simply curious about the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships, this episode provides valuable perspectives to enhance your understanding and practice of ethical non-monogamy.
Join us for this thought-provoking discussion that challenges conventional notions of love and relationships, encouraging listeners to explore what authenticity and connection truly mean to them in the context of non-monogamy.
Don't forget to leave a review if you enjoy this episode – it's the best way to help the podcast grow and reach more people interested in exploring non-monogamous relationships!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Beyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies Unveiled
18 Apr 2024
00:59:36
Today, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head.
Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships.
Adam has a fascinating journey into polyamory and a rich background in both psychology and business, and hes outspoken in his desire to reshape our understanding of romantic relationships. Living in a polyamorous throuple and raising a family within this dynamic has given him a unique perspective on love's complexities. Today, he's here to debunk the myths we've been fed—from fairy tales to Hollywood romances—and to offer practical advice for navigating love in today's world.
Prepare to have your perceptions of love and relationships profoundly challenged and enriched. Let's dive into a conversation with Adam Lyons about redefining love beyond the conventional.
Want to Connect with Adam?
Visit askthedatingcoach.com to take the free personality test and gain insights into your dating life and self-sabotage patterns.
Connect with Adam Lyons on Instagram at @theadamlyons for more dating and relationship advice and tips.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
The Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72
04 Apr 2024
01:05:23
Welcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you.
Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voice for those in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous (CNM), open relationship, or swinging communities. Their commitment to the development and support of the 'Poly' community shines through their podcast and now, in our conversation.
In This Episode, We Cover:
Mastering the Transition: Hunter and Butcher share their personal experiences of moving into non-monogamy after divorce, offering wisdom on navigating this significant life change.
Unveiling Polyamory: Discover how embracing polyamory can open a new chapter of sexual and emotional exploration, and what it means to truly open up after a traditional monogamous marriage.
Embracing Empowerment: Dive into the world of sexual empowerment coaching. Learn how this approach can transform your relationships and personal confidence within a non-monogamous context.
Conquering the Green-Eyed Monster: Jealousy is a common challenge in any relationship, but it holds particular prominence in polyamorous dynamics. Hunter and Butcher discuss strategies for managing jealousy and fostering secure attachments.
Thriving in Non-Monogamy: Uncover the keys to successful non-monogamous relationships. From communication to boundaries, hear how to navigate the complexities and joys of loving multiple partners.
Whether you're new to the concept of non-monogamy or have been on this path for some time, Hunter and Butcher's insights offer valuable guidance and support. Join us as we navigate the intricate, rewarding journey of non-monogamy.
Connect with Hunter and Butcher:
Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major podcast platforms.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71
21 Mar 2024
00:48:18
Welcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness.
In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed from exploring polyamory to finding her sweet spot in what she calls a "monogamish" relationship. It’s all about discovering what truly clicks with your heart and values.
Here’s What We’re Getting Into:
Finding Your Non-Monogamy Fit: Shelby talks about figuring out which form of non-monogamy feels right, because one size definitely doesn’t fit all.
Jealousy: The Green Monster: How do you deal with jealousy and insecurity as you open up your relationship? Shelby's got some solid advice.
Trust Talks: The importance of laying down a strong foundation of trust through open talks about needs and setting clear boundaries.
Self-Growth is Key: Shelby stresses the importance of working on yourself to find security and fulfillment in any relationship.
Healing with Reiki: Discover how Reiki can help clear those stubborn emotional blockages that keep you stuck.
Shelby’s insights on building intimacy through being real, vulnerable, and sometimes just plain silly with your partner are gold. She also tackles how letting anxiety run the show can throw a wrench in making those deep connections. No matter where you stand on the relationship spectrum, Shelby's wisdom is like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who’s seen it all.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Polyamory Pitfalls: Handling Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Ali Hendry, Ep. 70
07 Mar 2024
00:46:37
Jealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling block to a stepping stone in our intimate connections.
You'll discover: - Why jealousy gets a "bad rap" in monogamy and how non-monogamy takes a more compassionate approach - Tangible tips for mapping where jealousy originates from your past - The key to transmuting jealousy into curiosity - Hilarious and insightful stories of Ali's thruple dynamics
Ali's vulnerability and wisdom left me feeling seen, understood, and ready to approach jealousy with more self-love and patience.
Ali Hendry is a certified relationship coach specializing in non-monogamous relationships, with a particular focus on LGBTQIA+ women, non-binary individuals, and trans folks. Her extensive experience extends to working with singles, duos, and non-monogamous pods, offering valuable guidance in navigating the complexities of diverse relationship dynamics. As a contributor to Diva magazine, Ali's expertise and insights provide a credible perspective on embracing individual love styles and managing non-monogamous dynamics, making her a highly knowledgeable and esteemed voice in the field.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
How I Learned to Embrace Abundance in Non-Monogamous Relationships, Ep. 69
22 Feb 2024
00:50:28
Hey friends! We’re going on a journey with Nicoletta Heidegger, therapist, sexologist, and host of the "Sluts and Scholars" podcast, as we chat about the world of non-monogamy on my latest podcast episode. Nicoletta opened up about her 7-year exploration from monogamy to embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle, sharing the raw challenges she encountered along the way. From aligning with partners who share her vision to battling the need to feel "special" and dismantling a scarcity mindset, Nicoletta's story is both vulnerable and profoundly relatable.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Some of the joys and challenges of navigating non-monogamous relationships.
Some Strategies for overcoming common hurdles in the transition to non-monogamy.
The importance of building connections with seasoned individuals in the non-monogamous community.
Techniques for nervous system regulation to achieve relationship harmony.
The critical role of self-awareness in cultivating healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Check out the book The Polyamory Paradox by Irene Mourning for insights into somatic nervous system healing and finding confidence in non-monogamy.
Explore the concept of Circles of Sexuality by searching online for resources and tools to understand your sexual narrative, beliefs, and values.
Learn about equine-assisted psychotherapy and its benefits by researching local therapy centers or practitioners who offer this unique form of therapy.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Self-Love, Jealousy, and Somatic Healing in Non-monogamous Relationships
08 Feb 2024
00:49:03
In the depths of Orit Krug's personal journey, she discovered an unexpected truth about love and relationships. As she bravely embraced polyamory, she unearthed the transformative power of self-love in navigating the complexities of multiple partners. But just when she thought she had it all figured out, a new challenge emerged, leaving her questioning everything she thought she knew. Stay tuned as Orit's emotional narrative unfolds, revealing the unexpected twist that shifted her perspective on love and self-acceptance.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Explore the nuances of polyamory and non-monogamous relationships for a deeper understanding of diverse connections.
Experience the transformative power of dance movement therapy in healing past traumas and unlocking emotional freedom.
Master the art of navigating jealousy in polyamorous relationships to foster trust and emotional resilience.
Embrace the importance of self-love in polyamory to enhance personal well-being and strengthen relationship dynamics.
Cultivate a healthy connection with your body to promote self-awareness, confidence, and overall wellness.
Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist who has helped transform the lives of more than 5,000 clients for the past 13 years. Orit specializes in helping individuals & couples strengthen their relationships by working through past trauma stored in the body. As Orit practices polyamory in her own life, she uses her experience and platform to ensure that partners can safely expand beyond normal boundaries, experience deeply satisfying love, and enhance pleasure without sabotage.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Shedding Resentment and Finding Freedom in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Daisy Sky
25 Jan 2024
00:49:48
Do you desire emotional healing and inner peace in your non-monogamous relationship journey? My guest today will be revealing the key to finding forgiveness and experiencing profound emotional growth. Unlocking the pathway to inner peace and healing is within your reach, and Daisy Sky will show you how to achieve this transformation.
Daisy Sky, a seasoned practitioner of polyamory, has been exploring non-monogamous relationships for over a decade. Describing herself as a chaotic femme, she infuses her gender expression with an element of delightful disorder.
Daisy Sky's journey into polyamory began in her junior year of high school, and since then, she has embraced a relationship anarchy approach. Throughout her experience, she has been an advocate for open communication, mindfulness, and mental health.
Daisy Sky's willingness to share her experiments with monogamy and her ultimate return to a more open way of loving, founded on personal sovereignty and ethical fulfillment, offers a unique and insightful perspective on the challenges and rewards of non-monogamous relationships.
In this episode:
Embrace the beauty of polyamorous relationships and their unique dynamics.
Discover effective strategies for navigating multiple relationships with grace and understanding.
Overcome scarcity mindset in relationships and cultivate abundance and fulfillment.
Join a transformative non-monogamy coaching program for support and guidance.
Explore the forgiveness process and experience deep emotional healing in relationships.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Embracing Your True Self: The Journey Through Non-Monogamy, Jealousy, and Sacred Rage with Sandra Possing
11 Jan 2024
00:51:50
If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conformity.
My guest, Sandra Possing, is an advocate for living authentically and embracing non-conformity and the host of the podcast "Oh Hi, Self". With a wealth of personal experience, Sandra has dedicated her life to helping others break free from societal expectations and live on their own terms. Her mission is to empower individuals to create relationships and lifestyles that align with their true selves. Through her open and honest approach, she aims to normalize unconventional relationship dynamics and inspire others to explore beyond traditional boundaries. Sandra's candid and relatable insights make her a valuable voice in the journey towards authenticity and self-discovery.
In this episode, we talk about:
Embracing Non-Monogamy
Living Unconventionally
Normalizing Open Relationships
Radical Honesty and Boundaries
Embracing Change and Permission to Explore
Surprising Challenges: Dealing with Jealousy
Navigating Jealousy and Self-Judgment
Unleashing Inner Feminine Power
Honoring Emotions
Cathartic Movement and Communication
Unique Path in Sexuality
Embracing Authenticity and Self-Exploration
Relaxing into Who You Are
Embracing Wholeness and Inner Peace
Permission to Explore and Embrace Unconventional Paths
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Thriving in Non-Monogamy: Deana Tanner's Guide to Healthy Humaning, Ep. 65
26 Dec 2023
00:55:36
Does this sound familiar? You're in a non-monogamous relationship, seeking to improve communication and openness with your partners, but you find yourself hitting roadblocks. Maybe you've been told that the solution is to just talk more, but deep down, you know that's not enough. The pain of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, and unfulfilled is all too real. It's time to break free from ineffective actions and unlock the power of healthy communication and openness, transforming the way you connect with your partners.
Deana Tanner, our guest on this episode, is a dynamic and knowledgeable voice in the world of non-monogamous relationships. With her down-to-earth and relatable style, Deana offers a fresh perspective on the importance of healthy communication and openness. As someone who has personally navigated the complexities of polyamory, Deana brings a wealth of experience and insight to the table. Her warm and friendly approach instantly puts listeners at ease, making her the perfect guide for individuals seeking to improve their relationship dynamics.
Tune in to this episode for an engaging conversation with Deana Tanner and gain valuable insights into enhancing your own non-monogamous journey.
💨 TLDR;
Embrace the beauty of polyamory and multiple relationships.
Discover effective strategies for raising children in non-monogamous relationships.
Master the art of healthy communication and openness in relationships.
Unlearn unhealthy relationship patterns for a more fulfilling love life.
📚 The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Listen to episode 16 of the show to hear Deana Tanner's previous interview.
Check out Deana Tanner's website or social media profiles for more information about her and her businesses. https://healthyhumaning.com/
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Finding Balance in an Unconventional BDSM Triad, Ep. 64
14 Dec 2023
00:48:52
Curious about unconventional triad relationships and BDSM dynamics?
In this episode, we explore Hannah's journey from swinging to polyamory, the challenges of managing multiple partners, and the significance of setting boundaries and valuing personal time. Discover how Hannah copes with the demands of balancing two partners, work, family, and personal time, and the importance they place on clear hierarchy and boundaries within their unconventional triad setup with a BDSM dynamic. We also discuss the emotional impact, self-discovery, and constant learning within non-monogamous relationships. Delve into a candid conversation that emphasizes the ongoing nature of this journey, the rewarding moments, and the transformative power of non-monogamy on personal growth and self-discovery.
Hannah is an Empowerment & Relationship coach, delighting in the fringes of traditional society. Bisexual, Non-monogamous & kinky, she brings the topic of sexuality and taboo out into the light, to help others shift societal shame and live as their true selves. Hannah is a published author and hosts her own podcast "Kinky & Unpopular" which follows her BDSM journey alongside her partner and her submissive, in their triad type dynamic.
💨 TLDR;
Embrace the freedom of non-monogamous relationships and polyamory to explore deeper connections and personal growth.
Establish clear boundaries and prioritize personal time to foster healthy and fulfilling relationships within a non-traditional dynamic.
Overcome the challenges of managing multiple partners by navigating communication and individual needs with compassion and understanding.
Create a strong foundation for an unconventional triad setup with BDSM dynamics, fostering trust, intimacy, and mutual respect.
Cultivate the importance of open and honest communication to strengthen connections and promote emotional well-being in non-traditional relationships.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Graceful Rejection: The Art of Saying No Without Burning Bridges
12 Dec 2024
00:29:53
How do you turn someone down romantically without creating awkwardness or burning bridges? In this episode, my partner, Danny, and I tackle one of the trickiest aspects of non-monogamous relationships: rejection. Inspired by a question from one of our Patreon supporters, we explore how to say "no" in a way that’s respectful, kind, and true to your own boundaries.
Key Topics We Cover:
Why Over-Explaining Hurts More Than It Helps: Learn how to set boundaries without feeling the need to justify yourself.
Handling Social Dynamics After a Rejection: Discover strategies for maintaining positive connections in your community.
Balancing Honesty with Kindness: Find out how to express your needs without hurting others unnecessarily.
Practical Tips and Personal Stories
We both open up about our own experiences with rejection, sharing valuable advice on how to:
Stand firm in your boundaries and desires.
Communicate with clarity and confidence.
Handle rejection with grace when it happens to you.
A Conversation Rooted in Self-Worth
We also discuss how to deal with the sting of being turned down. From navigating feelings of hopelessness to rebuilding self-worth, this episode provides actionable insights for building resilience and honoring your authentic self in all interactions.
"What I want matters more than what others want for me."
Bonus Segment for Patreon Supporters:
Want an extra does of insight? For our dedicated Patreon friends, we've included an exclusive "Just the Tip" segment with additional insights and a spicy tidbit you won't want to miss. Head over to patreon.com/notmonogamous to to unlock ad-free episodes, Q&A calls, and more perks.
Whether you're new to non-monogamy or been on this ride for years, this episode offers tools for navigating rejection with confidence and compassion. Tune in for a conversation that will transform the way you approach saying—and hearing—"no."
🎧 Don’t miss this episode. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Sexual Safety in Non-monogamy with Evalene Dacker-MD
30 Nov 2023
00:59:40
Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set boundaries, and communicate their relationship intentions effectively.
We're not stopping there. The conversation takes a turn towards the often-overlooked issue of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and the role they play in sexual relationships. Shedding light on the importance of pleasure and owning our bodies, concepts often neglected in traditional sex education, Evalyn provides critical insight on the necessity of regular testing and the misconception that condoms are the only form of protection against STIs. We also tackle the evolving views on common infections like herpes and HPV.
It's time to confront the discomfort around sexuality in the medical field, emphasizing the need to normalize non-monogamy and other forms of sexuality. We discuss the concept of hierarchy and couple privilege, reinforcing the importance of individual choice and non-conformity to societal standards. Laced with personal experiences, our dialogue concludes with an empowering perspective on self-image and compassion. After this episode, you'll be ready to engage in healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships. Tune in, and let's redefine love together!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Unlocking Desire: Exploring the Transformative Power of Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine
16 Nov 2023
00:56:16
Astonishing revelations await as we journey into the realm of desires and sexual fantasies with the luminary, Artemisia De Vine. Imagine peeling back the layers of desire, treading into territories unexplored, and gaining a profound understanding of your own erotic wiring. This is not just about sex or fantasy; it's about self-discovery, connection, and pleasure in its purest form.
Dive into the world of stories; the narratives that fuel our fantasies, the scenarios that make our hearts race, and the characters that come alive in our minds. Let's dissect the power dynamic of predator and prey, a trope common in casual sex encounters, and the subconscious desires that control us more than we realise. The influence of these narratives extends beyond the bedroom to shape our relationships, experiences, and perceptions.
Finally, let's turn up the heat with Artemisia as she delves into the world of sex tips. This isn't just a list of 'do's and 'don'ts'; it's a guide to understanding your and your partner's erotic wiring. From communication to exploration, Artemisia shares insightful tips to help you unlock your desires and enhance your sexual experiences. Get ready to redefine pleasure as we navigate the captivating world of desire.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Radical Honesty and Responsibility in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Leslie Tavernier
02 Nov 2023
00:56:38
Get ready for some real talk about relationships in this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous with guest Lesley Tavernier. We dive deep into the concept of radical responsibility and how it can transform your non-monogamous relationships. Lesley shares her personal journey and sheds light on the importance of not relying on your partner for happiness. Discover how taking control of your own well-being can create a more harmonious and fulfilling connection. If you're looking for practical advice on personal growth and increasing happiness in non-monogamous relationships, this episode is a must-listen!
Leslie, a love coach, takes us on an enlightening journey through her personal experiences – from growing up in an unofficially non-monogamous household, living with strict monogamy, and finally embracing her true self in the realm of non-monogamy.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Explore the freedom and fulfillment of non-monogamous relationships.
Challenge societal expectations and create a relationship that works for you.
Take radical responsibility for your feelings and actions in relationships.
Learn strategies to navigate and overcome jealousy and insecurity.
Embrace change and personal growth through non-monogamy.
Discover new levels of communication, trust, and intimacy in your relationships.
Find happiness and fulfillment by embracing alternative relationship structures.
As we wrap up our heart-to-heart with Leslie, we address the elephant in the room – the radical responsibility each individual carries in a relationship. Speaking to those with self-esteem tied to their partner's actions, Leslie underscores the power of non-monogamous coaching. We uncover the courage required to admit attractions outside your relationship and the challenges of raising kids in a non-monogamous setting. So buckle up, and get ready for an eye-opening exploration of love and relationships beyond societal norms.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Polywise - A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships with Jessica Fern and David Cooley
18 Oct 2023
01:05:38
Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth. From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights for individuals in non-monogamous relationships. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships!
We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations.
Writing a book is a herculean task. Writing a book together? Even more so. Jessica and David share their journey of co-writing, discussing how they unpacked and developed ideas, managed critiques, and the crucial role of accountability in their creative endeavor. We also delve into the complexities of identity and relationship choice when it comes to polyamory and non-monogamy, exploring the power of frames and metaphors in public decision-making. From discussing the importance of living out one's orientation, to the best strategies for fostering intimacy, it's a conversation you don't want to miss. Tune in and let's navigate jealousy, autonomy, and the struggles of becoming ethically non-monogamous together.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Long-Distance Love: Non-monogamy Across Continents with CJ
05 Oct 2023
00:50:24
Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles.
Navigating jealousy and exploration in a relationship, especially in a non-monogamous one, can be tricky. CJ opens up about their journey of confronting the fear of being replaced and how they managed their anxiety without letting it hinder their partner's experiences. We discuss the delicate balance of sharing feelings without spoiling the partner's experience, and CJ reveals how they turned their partner's experience into something erotic, showcasing the exciting opportunities non-monogamy can offer.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
The Art of Setting Boundaries in Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Dirty Lola, Ep. 58
21 Sep 2023
01:12:47
Get ready for a compelling discussion that charts the high seas of non-monogamy. I'm thrilled to have the inimitable Dirty Lola aboard with us, an accomplished sex educator and media personality you may recognize from Netflix's Principles of Pleasure and HBO's the Sex Diaries. Her insights are not just enlightening, but deeply grounded in her personal journey, lending an air of authenticity and relatability that is invaluable.
"I always said that. I am very much a polyamorous person in my heart as part of my identity. I view it as part of my sexuality. It's how my brain works." - Dirty Lola
This discussion takes us through the emotional whirlwind associated with navigating non-monogamous relationships. Together with Lola, we uncover the necessity of open dialogue, the art of setting boundaries, and the intricate layers of different forms of non-monogamy. This journey isn't for the faint of heart, as we tackle challenging issues such as managing anger, confronting double standards and comprehending the intricacies of opening up a relationship.
To round off, we delve into the life-altering power of having a partner who validates emotions, listens attentively, and takes responsibility for their behavior. Lola generously shares her wisdom on the concept of compersion and the crucial role boundaries play in nurturing it. Whether you're just dipping your toes into the non-monogamy pool or are a seasoned swimmer, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. So, tune in, sit back, and join us on this enlightening journey into the realm of non-monogamy and polyamory with Dirty Lola.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Navigating Polyamory and Parenting
07 Sep 2023
01:02:50
Listen to this episode if you're a non-monogamous parent or part of a non-traditional family who wants guidance on how to navigate the challenges and celebrate the unique aspects of your family structure. Koe's insights will inspire and empower you to create an environment where your children feel supported, loved, and accepted for who they are.
Koe, a second-generation sex educator, shares her journey growing up in a polyamorous family and provides insights from her intriguing book, This Heart Holds Many: My Life as a Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family. Koe's raw and honest storytelling paints a vivid picture of the challenges faced by children in non-monogamous families and how they're navigating societal structures and perceptions.
This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family by Koe Creation (You can get a copy of the first edition from Koe’s website)
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Crushing Stereotypes: Exploring the Realities of Non-Monogamous Relationships with Rich and Siobhan
24 Aug 2023
01:09:42
This week we have an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, from the Poly Podcast, about their experiences with non-monogamy. They reveal how they embraced polyamory, nuanced their relationship structure and even broached this subject early in their relationship. They'll also be talking about their podcast, Polypodcasts, giving you a chance to be a part of their extended community.
As we go deeper into their story, we see how non-monogamy, like any other relationship, is a dynamic, evolving entity. Rich and Siobhan share how their relationship has grown over the past 18 months, including the need to explain to new partners that they live together and parent a child. Their insights and experiences provide a fresh perspective on the fluidity of relationships and the importance of revisiting boundaries and rules.
But, like any relationship, we get upfront and personal with the tougher aspects. From managing jealousy, to keeping insecurities at bay, Rich and Siobhan share their journey of love and growth. We also touch upon how they handle the inevitable oddball questions about their relationship and misunderstandings about non-monogamy. Tune in for an episode that takes a deep dive into the realities of non-monogamous relationships and gives you a chance to explore and understand an alternative facet of love and companionship.
Rich and Siobhan are the hosts of The Poly (Pod)Cast where they answer common questions, debunk misconceptions and contribute to the growing conversation around ethical non-monogamy (ENM). They are non-monogamous and live in London, UK.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Shedding Labels and Overcoming Societal Expectations with Alex Cox
10 Aug 2023
01:19:44
Get ready to embark on an enlightening journey with our guest, Alex Cox, as he gives a candid account of his polyamorous lifestyle. Since 2018, Alex has been navigating the intricacies of multiple partnerships, parenting, writing poetry, and battling PTSD while living a polyamorous life. In our heart-to-heart conversation, he highlights the significance of communication, especially while dating someone who isn't neurodivergent, and the vital role of labels in dictating our lives.
As we chat with Alex, we delve deeper into his story, unpacking his personal transformation, overcoming societal expectations, and embracing his true self. You'll also hear about his journey of shedding labels, exploring masculinity, and managing a non-romantic relationship. Moreover, he shares his inspiring journey of creating a thriving polyamory community. So tune in to our enlightening conversation as we explore polyamory, creativity, and relationships, and uncover an alternative way of experiencing love and life.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Navigating Polyamory with Emotional Intention with Victor Salmon
27 Jul 2023
00:42:47
The non-monogamous relationship journey is brimming with complexity and profound self-discovery. This episode opens a window into this world, as we chat with Victor Salmon, who walks us through their journey from their initial exposure to polyamory to their experiences within the BDSM community. Victor offers a fresh perspective on managing jealousy and understanding human connections.
We get real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We delve into emotional maturity and celebrate the growth that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning.
Finally, we discuss how to set boundaries, understand our own attachment styles, and be sensitive to our partner's needs. By the end of our chat with Victor, you'll be equipped with a wealth of knowledge on crafting healthier, more satisfying relationships, whether you're venturing into polyamory or simply looking to understand it better.
Victor Salmon, is a beacon of inspiration for those searching for a healthier emotional and relational outlook. Victor's initial exposure to non-hierarchical polyamory and subsequent experiences within the BDSM community have shaped their nurturing approach to emotional well-being. Victor excels at translating complex emotions into relatable insights that encourage self-reflection and cultivate healthier relationships.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Beyond Swiping Finding Authentic Connections in Seattle
28 Nov 2024
00:31:07
Are You Ready to Rethink How You Date?
Tired of endlessly swiping on dating apps and feeling like you're spinning your wheels? In this episode, I sit down with Rozie Erlewine, a compassionate matchmaker and polyamorous community organizer who’s been helping people connect in the Seattle polyamory scene since 2017. Rozie, the founder of Seattle Inclusive Matchmaking and host of polyamorous speed dating events, brings fresh ideas to creating real, intentional connections outside the apps.
Here’s What We Talk About: ✨ How Seattle’s polyamory scene has evolved over the years ✨ Why polyamorous speed dating is changing the game for non-monogamous folks ✨ The power of slowing down and dating with purpose ✨ Honest tips for navigating jealousy and insecurity in non-monogamous relationships ✨ How to build a solid support network within the polyamorous community
Why Rozie’s Approach Stands Out: 💡 She takes the time to understand people’s unique relationship goals and styles 💡 Her events and services focus on shared values and long-term compatibility 💡 She’s all about fostering community and creating spaces where people can truly connect
If you’re new to polyamory, curious about alternative ways to meet people, or just looking to refresh your approach to dating, this episode is packed with practical tips and heartfelt insights.
"Finding that balance between commitment and independence in polyamory can be tricky, but it’s magical when you meet people who align with your values."
Join me for this fun and thought-provoking conversation, where we explore how to make dating more meaningful in the world of ethical non-monogamy.
Oh, and don’t forget to check out Rozie’s affordable, inclusive matchmaking services—you might just find your next connection waiting for you! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566891230288
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
A Journey of Liberation and Empowerment with Casey Donatello
13 Jul 2023
00:43:27
In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Casey Donatello opens up about the challenges and dynamics of striving for equity in non-monogamous relationships. But just when it seems like they've found the perfect balance, a shocking twist threatens to unravel their carefully built connection. Tune in to find out what happens next.
Meet Casey Donatello, a passionate advocate for boundary pushing and exploring dynamics within non-monogamous relationships. Throughout her personal journey that spans almost two decades, Casey has published three compelling memoirs, navigating the captivating landscape of alternative relationships with a raw, unfiltered perspective. Bridging the gap between fantasy and reality, her experiences enrich her candid discussions on equity, equality and the complex nuances that shape non-monogamous partnerships.
Gain a fresh perspective on relationships by exploring Casey Donatello's real-world adventures in non-monogamy.
Discover the indispensable role of open dialogue and trust, extending beyond non-monogamous relationships into all interactions.
Understand the psychological impact of non-monogamy, providing insights into human vulnerabilities and open discussions on emotional challenges.
Unwrap the concept of equity versus equality in non-monogamous relationships, setting the stage for thinking outside of traditional relationship norms.
Empower yourself with effective techniques to navigate through the complexities of non-monogamy, enriching your understanding of emotional intelligence in relationships.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Delighting in Self-Connection with Lee Harrington
29 Jun 2023
01:04:55
Are you tired of feeling disconnected from yourself and others? What if there was a way to build a unique web of relationships that truly support your well-being and growth? Well, we're here to tell you that it's possible! In my discussion with internationally known author and educator, Lee Harrington, we uncover the secrets to creating intentional, supportive relationships and fostering self-love.
Discover how finding a balance between hyper-independence and codependence can lead to flourishing connections within communities. Lee shares their journey to self-love and self-connection through their new book, Become Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting and Self-Connection. We also dive into the concept of New Relationship Energy, discussing how it can be experienced during various stages of relationships and the courage it takes to embrace new possibilities.
Lastly, we explore the importance of listening to all voices within our relationships, including our own, as we navigate the world of polyamory. Learn how changing our minds can help build relationships more compatible with our lives, and the significance of self-love in these connections. Don't miss this enlightening and inspiring conversation that will leave you with a new perspective on self-love, relationships, and community.
An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eighfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com.
Want to connect with Lee? PassionandSoul.com IG:@passionandsoul FB: passionandsoul
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Healing and Reclaiming Power in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Lucy Price
15 Jun 2023
01:01:23
This week, I am talking with relationship coach, Lucy Price. Join us as we discuss the power of non-monogamous relationships and the importance of understanding our own feelings and desires before following someone else's lead. Lucy shares her experiences, mistakes, and valuable lessons she learned along the way, highlighting the concept of monogamish relationships and how to navigate open relationships while respecting everyone involved. We also touch on the challenges of finding authenticity in relationships, the impact of unresolved wounds from our past, and the importance of healing and reclaiming power after toxic relationships.
Gain invaluable guidance and learn how to improve your communication, elevate your intimacy, and confidently explore your relationship preferences. Listen now and embrace the journey to better understanding yourself and your relationships!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Celebrating 50 Episodes: Exploring Relationship Escalators, Jealousy, and Growth in Non-Monogamy
01 Jun 2023
00:52:10
Today we are celebrating a major milestone for our podcast, Nope, We're Not Monogamous: our 50th episode! To mark this occasion, I was joined by Danny, my producer, boyfriend and fellow non-monogamous adventurer. As we reminisced about our favorite episodes, we couldn't help but feel grateful for the incredible support we've received from our private Facebook group and Patreon patrons.
Our journey through non-monogamy has been a rollercoaster, and we were excited to revisit episodes that covered topics like decolonizing polyamory, relationship anarchy, overcoming the challenge of being vetoed, and experiencing personal growth through jealousy. We also delved into the complex world of emotions, discussing the importance of jealousy, compersion, and creating a sense of safety when opening up or transitioning into non-monogamy.
We also explored the concept of the 'relationship escalator' and the societal pressure to follow a traditional trajectory in relationships. By taking things slow and avoiding the pitfalls of this prescribed path, we've found that our connections become stronger and more secure. So join us as we celebrate 50 episodes of candid conversations, learning to live life outside the box and embracing the world of non-monogamy!
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Embracing Compersion in Your Relationships with Marie Thouin, Ep 49
18 May 2023
00:55:52
Today I am speaking with Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach with a passion for understanding the intricacies of non monogamous relationships and a PhD researcher on compersion.
Her experience with questioning the social norms around monogamy led her to exploring alternative relationship dynamics, and conducting research to help others find harmony in their own relationships. We get into what compersion is and the factors that help you achieve it and even block you from it. You're gonna hear so many good tips around compersion, including how metamours and overcoming jealousy plays into it.
Dr. Marie Thouin is the founder of Love InSight, a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coaching practice where she helps people of all backgrounds and relationship styles create vibrant & intentional love lives. She is also a leading scholar and researcher on the topic of compersion in consensually non-monogamous relationships. She shares her research on her website, www.whatiscompersion.com. 💨 TLDR;
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Health, Happiness, and Safe Relationships in Non- Monogamy with Nurse Dynamite, Ep 48
04 May 2023
00:58:31
My guest Christina Dynamite and I are chatting about our intimate journeys through non-monogamy and polyamory as we share personal experiences, challenges, and triumphs in navigating their unconventional relationships. We dive deep into relationships, sexuality, and even STIs, offering practical advice and invaluable resources for listeners.
Christina B. Dynamite (she/her) is a vibrant Mental Wellness Coach, Educator, Nurse, and Artist who fiercely believes that being authentically yourself and chasing your passions are non-negotiable needs for a meaningful life.
Dynamite is a human perpetually seeking growth and recovery from trauma, ADHD, addiction, and societal programming including white privilege. She is a bisexual polyamorous kinky queer who rides motorcycles, scuba dives, occasionally performs music & cabaret, and also serves on the board of the Oregon Holistic Nurses Association. She is deeply grateful for the encouragement, support, and love from her wife, 5 cats, 3 dogs, many mentors, muses, and friends.
💨 TLDR;
Journey to Non-Monogamy
Building a Non-Monogamous Relationship
Introducing Metamours
Destigmatizing STIs and Getting the Right Testing
Defining Sex and Being Safe
Recognizing Your Needs and Patterns
Making Time for Connection
Dealing with Jealousy
Meeting Your Basic Needs
Finding Your Community
The Benefits of Therapy
The Importance of Practicing and Using Communication Tools
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The Journey Through NRE to the Relationships You Desire, Ep. 47
20 Apr 2023
00:35:28
I am talking to life and relationship coach, Randi Robbins, about some of the various forms of non monogamous relationships and how to manage the exciting and sometimes overwhelming emotions that come with NRE, new relationship energy.
Randi is a therapist turned life and relationship coach for polyamorous people. Randi often heard therapy clients share about judgmental and hurtful things that had been said to them about their relationships, sometimes from therapists! This led Randi to diving into coaching as a way to help polyamorous people around the world, providing support as a person who really gets it.
Randi has been polyamorous for over a decade, and has previously been an organizer in kink communities. She has a husband, a non-nesting life partner, a toddler, and two goofy dogs.
💨 TLDR;
Polyamory vs. Monogamy
The Pros and Cons of Non-Monogamy
How to Prolong New Relationship Energy
How to Deal with Jealousy in Non-Monogamy
Following Your Why in Relationships
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237
Reclaiming Your Power Through Self-Love and Pleasure with Kim Coffin, Ep. 46
06 Apr 2023
00:37:26
In today’s episode, I talk with Kim Coffin, a trauma informed body based empowerment coach who's paving a new way for women to discover their inner sexual and sensual confidence. Through her own journey of breaking through societal conditioning, and healing deep trauma, Kim has become an expert in female sexuality, tantric sex, and relationship transformation.
Kim and I chat about our combined insights on non monogamy and polyamory and the power of pleasure and sacred sexuality practices in empowering women, and how to break free from societal conditioning to discover true sovereignty and personal truth. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of Kim's work and learn how to reclaim your own power and your own voice.
💨 TLDR;
Connecting with Yourself Through Sexuality
Exploring the Patriarchy in Monogamy
Recognizing Trauma in Our Coping Mechanisms
Following Your Pleasure
Non-Monogamy as a Choice
Free Tools to Approach Your Relationships
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Intimacy and Non-Monogamy: Embracing Embodied Choices, Ep. 44
09 Mar 2023
00:48:10
After 28 years of pure monogamy, my guest today dove into a sexuality community to explore something different during what one might call a midlife crisis, only to find herself with a primary relationship that created a load of freedom and challenged her to know the difference between her edges and her boundaries. My guest today is Kim Holden. Kim and I chat about exploring sexuality and relationship dynamics after you've been through a divorce, practicing tools to recognize your own personal yes and your own personal no when you're making decisions, and examining the difference between your edges and your boundaries in relationships.
Kim Holden is an intimacy and relationship coach. She guides singles and couples to untangle feelings of unworthiness, shame, and invisibility and connect with their power, confidence, and unique flavor. She holds exquisite space for clients to open up and access their authentic pleasure and truth. As a breast cancer survivor, she is dedicated to helping other survivors renew their joy through connection to body, mind and soul in a new and meaningful way.
💨 TLDR;
The Journey from Monogamy to Non-Monogamy
Tools for Reconnecting with Yourself
Finding Your Embodied Yes
Having Multiple Stories Be True
The Importance of Community
Defining What Your Relationships Are
Tools for Co-Regulating
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Catapults and Consent: When Kink and Polyamory Overlap with Still
14 Nov 2024
01:04:25
Are you ready to get an in-depth look into navigating kink and non-monogamy together? This episode is your ultimate guide to understanding the fascinating intersection of kink, polyamory, and non-monogamous relationships. I’m sitting down with Still, a veteran kink community organizer and co-host of Tasty!—South Seattle's monitored monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar. Together, we unpack what it really takes to create safe, trusting, and authentic experiences in these diverse communities.
What You’ll Learn:
How Kink, Polyamory, and Swinging Communities Overlap: Discover the surprising similarities and shared practices that bring these communities together.
The Power of Clear Boundaries and Pre-Negotiation: Why setting expectations before play is key to building trust and avoiding misunderstandings.
Managing Jealousy and Embracing Compersion: Get practical tips on how to navigate the tricky emotions that can arise in non-monogamous dynamics.
Safety Tips for Newcomers to Kink Events: From vetting events to understanding the role of dungeon monitors, learn how to make your first kink experience a positive one.
The Role of Dungeon Monitors in Creating Safe Spaces: Explore how community support and safety protocols help protect everyone involved.
About Our Guest: With over a decade of experience in kink organizing and event production, Still brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. As the co-host of South Seattle’s Tasty! Kink Night at The Lumber Yard Bar, they’re passionate about creating inclusive, educational, and safe spaces for exploring alternative relationship styles. If you’re curious about BDSM or interested in broadening your understanding of non-monogamy, this episode is packed with valuable insights and expert advice. Visit the Lumberyard bar in White Center every first Thursday of the month to attend the public monitored kink night event co-hosted by Still.
Listen Now: This episode is for anyone, whether you’re new to the world of alternative relationship structures or a seasoned participant. Tune in for an honest, insightful, and judgment-free discussion that offers fresh perspectives on trust, communication, and self-discovery.
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Kitchen Table Poly: Unpacking Metamours and Breakups, Ep. 43
23 Feb 2023
01:01:46
Sara and I are talking about her experiences with polyamory and some of mine too! We cover coming out to family and friends as polyamorous, how polyamorous people might handle breakups of their partners, and how to deal with metamour relationships. Dr. Sara Sohn, DPT, PT, WCS is a highly accomplished and experienced pelvic floor physical therapist, sex counselor, and mentor for leaders working in taboo areas.
Sara holds a strong belief that pleasure is a fundamental right and dedicates her efforts to mentoring health and wellness providers to become courageous leaders in sexual literacy. With over half a decade of experience as a leading pelvic health provider, Sara has dedicated herself to educating the community, speaking nationally, and preparing others to lead in areas that are often stigmatized or taboo. Additionally, she has a personal lifestyle of polyamory, long-term partnership with two partners, and enjoys solo backpacking and singing. To learn more about Sara and her work, visit the links provided.
💨 TLDR;
Kitchen Table Poly
Handling Partner Breakups in Polyamory
Integrating Metamours
Polyamory as an Identity vs Choice
The Coming Out Process
Metamour Relationships
Poly Check-in
Building a Supportive Community
Jealousy as a Catalyst
Labbing
The Importance of Understanding Sexuality for Health and Wellness Providers
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Relationship Vetos: The Process of Relationship Grieving, Ep. 42
09 Feb 2023
01:17:35
Today, I’m chatting with Kyra Gilchrist, a relationship anarchist and solo polyamory advocate. Kyra shares with us how she coped with the aftermath of being vetoed from the relationship that she was in when she was last on the show in episode nine. She describes how being vetoed can be traumatic, how she coped with it, and the tools and skills that she learned working through it.
Kyra is a childcare and birth worker of color living in Seattle with her two cats and turtle. In her spare time she grounds herself with reading, nature and loved ones. She is passionate about social justice and hard cider.
💨 TLDR;
What is Being Vetoed/ Couples Privilege?
Deconstructing Monogamy for Polyamory
How Trauma Can Shape Your Experience
How to Deal With the Emotions That Come Along with Memories
Why Friendship and Community Are Important
Healing Comes From Within
Honoring Your Grief
Honoring Yourself and Your Progress
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About Us Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives
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Finding Your Inner Dom(me), Ep. 41
26 Jan 2023
00:38:52
Domina Anne Shirley coaches people on how to be the Dominant in their own lives. Today, she shares her struggles with the idea of non-monogamy and we talk about the different facets of dominance and submission as well as how empowering non-monogamy can be. We discuss the importance of finding safety and trust within oneself, and I share my own exploration of power dynamics.
Domina Anne is a Dominatrix Life Coach who supports individuals at owning who they are, so they can create a life, relationships, partnership finances or business they deeply desire from a kink perspective. She supports individuals and couples at exploring kink in safer ways. And she teaches, coaches and mentors individuals at becoming a Dominatrix.
💨 TLDR;
Accepting Non-Monogamy as a Relationship Style
What It Means to Have Dominant Energy
What is a Dom(me)?
Playing with Power Dynamics
Generational Gap of Acceptance
The Importance of Being Connected to Your Body
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Navigating Polyamory as a Pagan, Pansexual, Parent
12 Jan 2023
00:59:55
Emily Otto is a healer for healers and an intuitive business coach who helps women listen to their heart's desires and create it through business and wild abundance. She is also a pagan, polyamorous pansexual parent who I adore. She shares her story of non-monogamy, what it's like to find other polyamorous people to connect with, and we talk about how important it is to discuss the wants and needs of each partner, and figure out how to fulfill them in a way that's mutually satisfying!
💨 TLDR;
The Journey to Polyamory
The Benefits of Coaching in Polyamorous Relationships
Opening Back Up With Small Children
Where Paganism and Polyamory Meet
Finding Clarity on Boundaries and Communicating Them
Being Unquestionable Authentic
Practicing Self-Consent
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Want to connect with Emily? www.emily-otto.com @emilyottorebelle on TikTok, Instagram and Facebook Business Coaching for Healers and Spiritual Entrepreneurs with Emily Otto on Facebook Groups
Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in g
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Finding Community and Authenticity in Polyamory, Ep. 39
29 Dec 2022
00:38:53
Today I am talking with Delphine Lumen. Delphine is someone who has a passion for learning about what makes happy, healthy relationships and has spent the last year or so creating social events like coffee socials, speed dating, and friending events for non monogamous folks. She creates spaces where genuine curiosity is welcome and heteronormativity, cis normativity, and mono-normativity are challenged.
We talk about her story from growing up in a non-traditional household to spending seven years intentionally celibate before then starting to date and engage in polyamorous relationships. She talks about how people in polyamorous relationships deal with their jealousy and the challenges that are involved in untangling your genuine feelings from societal programming so that you can be authentically yourself in relationships.
💨 TLDR;
What does it mean to be polyamorous?
What it was like to start dating again as a polyamorous person
The challenges of being non-monogamous
Jealousy and non-monogamous conditioning
The spectrum of non-monogamy
Coffee socials, speed dating, and friending events
Being authentically you
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