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Are you insecure? Do you struggle with analysis paralysis, overthinking, or constant paranoia that people are judging you and talking behind your back? Well, you're in luck! Today, I teach you 3 psychology-backed mindset hacks to reframe your thinking and free yourself from others' opinions. In this episode, we dive into:✅ Why you actually should care what some people think (just not everyone)✅ How to use the “3% Rule” to stop spiraling over haters✅ A science-backed reason people like you more than you think✅ The exact mindset shift that’ll help you stop overthinking and start living👀 Tune in if you’re tired of shrinking yourself to make other people comfortable—and you’re ready to reclaim your confidence.🎙️ Want to be on Season 2 of No One Knows What They’re Doing?👉 Apply here: AdviceWithErin.com/SHOW💡 TAKE THE FREE CAREER QUIZ! Find your ideal career based on your personality & lifestyle: advicewitherin.com/quiz

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🔔 Subscribe for more relatable career advice!⸻Key Moments:00:00 - Let’s talk about overthinking and judgment 👀00:49 - Why “just stop caring” is terrible advice01:58 - The real trick: Pick your people02:38 - The 3% Rule04:08 - Why you shouldn’t take advice from people you wouldn’t swap lives with05:44 - The loudest boos come from the cheapest seats06:59 - The Liking Gap: Explained08:59 - FDR’s iconic advice10:00 - Final pep talk: Live with integrity, not for approval ❤️

Welcome to Season 2 of No One Knows What They’re Doing! 🎉 This season, we’re taking it LIVE—you’re calling in, and I’m giving you real, unfiltered, big-sister career advice on the spot.

And today’s caller? Michelle is ready to quit her job… but she’s TERRIFIED of how her boss and coworkers will react. Why? Because her workplace has that “we’re a family” dynamic (AKA a walking red flag 🚩).

In this episode, we dive into:
✅ How to quit a job when your workplace guilt-trips you into staying
✅ Why you don’t owe your boss a “heads up” before you resign
✅ The exact phrases to use if your boss tries to manipulate you (so you don’t get trapped in a long, awkward convo)
✅ How to stop overthinking your exit and actually just leave

👀 Tune in if you’ve ever felt guilty about quitting a job you KNOW isn’t right for you—and let’s work through it together.

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🔔 Subscribe for more relatable career advice!

00:00 - Welcome to Season 2! Taking calls LIVE 🎉
01:12 - Michelle is ready to quit… but her workplace feels like a family 🫠
02:45 - How to stay calm, confident, and professional when you quit
04:03 - The exact phrases to use if your boss guilt-trips you into staying
06:18 - Why you don’t need to “warn” your employer before quitting
08:30 - Michelle’s biggest fear about quitting—and how to handle it
10:02 - The one question you need to ask yourself before you quit
12:45 - Why your boss’s feelings are not your problem (and how to remind yourself of that)
4:30 - Final pep talk: You are NOT doing anything wrong by leaving!

Drop a 🔥 in the comments if you’ve ever felt guilty about quitting a job—let’s talk about it!

In Episode 06, Erin interviews Alex Lieberman (aka, @alexlieb) to discuss how he co-founded the wildly successful newsletter, Morning Brew, and sold it a few years later for $75 million—all before 30. We talk about entrepreneurship, being a CEO, starting a newsletter, monetizing online business, raising funds for a startup, dealing with the sudden death of his father, dating, terrible advice, amazing advice, and why Alex didn't buy a Rolex or Ferrari when he became a multi-millionaire.

➞ In this episode:

0:00-2:33 Introduction

2:34-5:39 Growing Up in Jersey

5:39-9:50 College & Caddy-ing

9:51-14:54 Starting Morning Brew

14:55-18:11 Monetizing a Newsletter

18:12-22:35 Quitting His Job

22:36-31:43 Pitching Investors & Raising $750k

31:44-34:43 Selling Morning Brew for $75M

34:44-40:20 Seeing $$$ Hit His Bank Account

40:21-51:30 Alex's Father Dying + Grief

51:31-55:55 Alex's Morning Routine

55:56-56:40 The Worst Advice Alex Received

56:41-58:48 Advice That Changed Alex's Life

58:59-1:00:28 Alex's Role Model

1:00:29-1:01:42 The Definition of Success

1:01:43-1:03:13 How Alex Met His Wife

1:03:14 Real Advice with Erin & Alex

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In Episode 05, Erin interviews Dr. Judith Joseph, MD-MBA (aka,  @drjudithjoseph ) to discuss a range of topics from high-functioning depression, workplace burnout, neurodiversity, social media, anhedonia, medical school, scholarships, MBA/business school, mental health crisis, growing up in the evangelical church, how to find a therapist, attachment styles, and much more!

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➞ In this episode:

0:00-01:44 Introduction

01:45-6:00 Background Q&A

6:01-7:10 Scholarships

7:11-10:19 First & Current Job

10:20-10:50 MBA AND Med School at the Same Time!?


10:51-13:12 Balancing 3 Companies & Mental Health

13:13-15:34 Pros & Cons of Being a Psychiatrist

15:35-19:15 Do We Really Have A Mental Health Crisis…?

19:16-21:00 Social Media & Mental Health

21:01-23:00 Mental Health Content Creators?

23:01-24:29 Pros + Cons of Social Media Mental Health Consumption

24:30-25:30 How to Find A Therapist

25:31-27:55 Advice Judith Ignored

27:56-28:29 Hardest Thing Judith’s Done

28:30-31:50 Thoughts on “Neurodiversity” & Autism

31:51-44:19 What is “Anhedonia”? Or “High Functioning Depression”?

44:20-46:34 Opinions on Mental Health Labeling

46:35-51:54 The 4 Attachment Styles

51:55-53:50 Something You Need To Know About Depression &

53:51-59:28 Advice for Burnout & Boundaries

59:29-01:00:58 Are People Attached to Their Mental Illnesses?

01:00:59-01:05:58 Real Advice from Erin + Judith

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In Episode 04, Erin interviews Hannah Williams, founder of Salary Transparent Street.

Hannah graduated from Georgetown University in 2019 and hopped 5 jobs in 2.5 years, taking her salary from $40k to $150k, creatively paying off her college loans in full. In 2021, she quit her job as a Data Analyst to launch Salary Transparent Street, a social media account that simply visits different cities across the U.S. and asks random people on the street what they do for a living and how much they make. Since then, STS has blown up into a viral sensation leading Hannah to be featured in publications such as The Washington Post, NYT, TIME, Business Insider, Good Morning America, CNBC, and 2023, Hannah was named one of Forbed 30 Under 30.

In this episode, Hannah transparently breaks down how she achieved her goals, how she makes money, and the struggles she's faced along the way.

➞ In this episode:

0:00 Intro

1:45 Forbes 30 Under 30

3:16 Background Q&A (growing up overseas, community college, etc.)

14:20 Working as a Telemarketer Post-Grad

17:24 Job Hopping

20:20 Best Career/Job Interview Advice

20:47 How Hannah Found Out She Was Underpaid

26:19 How YOU Can Find Out If You're Underpaid

28:40 How Hannah Filmed Her First TikTok

29:51 Do People Lie About Their Salaries...? $$$

31:46 Why Hannah Blocks People (Sometimes)

33:30 How Hannah Went From $150k to $1m in ONE YEAR

35:39 Salary Transparency Trends

37:03 Can You Talk About Salary With Coworkers?

38:57 Why You Should Negotiate Your FIRST Job Offer

42:48 Thoughts On "Lazy Girl Job" or "Quiet Quitting"

48:00 Advice Hannah's GLAD She IGNORED

49:30 Hannah's Smartest Financial Decision

51:43 Highest Salaries Hannah's Documented

53:16 Lessons Hannah's Learned The Hard Way

55:18 #RealAdvice from Erin & Hannah

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💚 STS Free Market Research Guide: https://sts.myflodesk.com/marketresearchguide

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In Episode 03, Erin interviews Jim Keyes, former CEO of 7-11 AND Blockbuster (and pilot, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and author!)

Jim climbed out of poverty, being the only person in his family to go to college. He graduated with an MBA from Columbia and went on to climb the ladder to become CEO of both 7-11 and Blockbuster during the 90's into the 2000s. In this episode, Erin discusses Jim's career and the differences between their two generations—Erin straddling Gen Z and Millennials and Jim, a Baby Boomer. They discuss the importance of education, being strategic and adaptable, imposter syndrome, and what the heck happened to Blockbuster. There is so much to learn in this episode for the average worker—but especially anyone looking to forge their own path and create a new life for themselves.

➞ In this episode:

0:00 Intro

2:04 Rapid fire Q&A

6:11 From poverty to Columbia MBA in NYC

9:09 First job to 7-11

11:26 Climbing the Ladder to CEO

17:35 CEO of 80,000+ Stores

18:41 The IDEAL Slurpee

19:56 Selling 7-11 (and cashing out $$)

21:51 Jim almost BOUGHT Blockbuster!?

23:54 Taking on Blockbuster as CEO

28:09 What Could Have Saved Blockbuster?

29:10 Day in the Life of a CEO (+ leadership tips!)

31:12 Why Jim Wrote a Book about Education

33:01 What's at stake here?

35:31 The price of college in 1980 vs. 2020

38:45 Should 18-year-olds Go to College?

40:06 Jobs Don't Require Degrees? "It's a Bubble."

42:16 How Jim Would Fix Education System in America

44:53 Tuition-Free University: Yay or Nay?

46:41 Having Beliefs & Being Open-Minded

The incredible screenwriter and actress Julia Yorks joins Erin on the pod today. Julia's impressive accolades include writing the film 1UP for BuzzFeed/Lionsgate, working with Peacock and DreamWorks on several productions, and writing animated episodes for Hulu. Acting-wise she was most recently featured in an episode of Law and Order! 

Julia’s tale of navigating how to work in the film industry (i.e. if you can’t get in through the door try a window) is super inspiring! One of the double-edged sword realities of the film industry is there is no one path, so truly anything can happen. Her biggest tip here is persistence. Keep chipping away, and you will grasp the thing you want.  

Julia’s experience starting out her acting career in Los Angeles until relocating to New York City is a true insider's breakdown of what it's like to “make it” in each place. One thing COVID taught everyone in the film industry is that you don’t have to be in L.A. anymore to make your mark. Julia goes on to offer hot takes on the recent 6-month WGA and SAG-AFTRA union strikes and the overall impact they had on her career and the industry. 

During the writers’ strike, she pivoted, or rather broadened her writing skillset and passion, to include screenwriting. The essence of screenwriting is helping brands tell stories and problem-solving, which Julia is oh-so good at doing. In the spirit of transparency, one of Julia’s core values, she shares how she works with agents, managers, lawyers, and bookkeepers. Super juicy!

All New Yorkers have a quintessential living-in-NYC story and Julia’s is *chef’s kiss.* Picture this: she’s at the MET for the screening of Geroge Clooney’s latest film, wearing TJ Maxx’s chicest all-black comfy ensemble, runs into Anna Wintour, crashes the after-party at the Polo Bar and… well you’ll have to listen to find out!

Episode Outline:

1:40 Intro 

1:41 Acting in Law & Order 

4:35 Making $$ in Screenwriting 

6:02 Background Q&A 

9:08 Breaking into the film industry 

14:30 Dealing with rejection 

16:50 Networking & schmoozing 

20:35 Biz of Professional Screenwriting 

23:20 Agents vs. Managers 

23:47 Joining the WGA (union) 

26:12 Fighting Imposter Syndrome 

27:20 The 2023 Film Strikes 

31:11 George Clooney, Crustaceans  & TJ Maxx

44:15 LA vs. NYC 

45:35 Erin & Julia give Advice

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Julia Yorks Website: https://juliayorks.com/

Julia Yorks YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV4D-IAZcEyrxZfwtgQ5BTA

Julia Yorks TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/Julia-Yorks?lang=en

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Making friends as an adult can be so weird! In this episode, Erin and special guest Danielle Bayard Jackson dive into the sticky yet mega-important world of adult friendships. Danielle is a certified women's coach and friendship expert, and she's known for pairing research with real life to help women experience more joy in platonic relationships with other women. She’s become Bumble BFF's official spokesperson and has become a go-to source for the media as a guest on outlets like CBS NEWS, NBC News, and even daytime talk shows!

Danielle kicks off the episode with her story and her very nonlinear path of becoming a friendship expert. She’s so honest and vulnerable and reminds us just because she’s an expert doesn’t mean she’s perfect or that she was a nice girl in high school (spoiler, she wasn’t). 

One cause of modern friendships becoming so weird is the shift to remote work. Work is where we spend most of our time, and that proximity automatically makes it the perfect place for friendships to form. However, without that in-person work culture, now more people than ever are feeling friendless. 

The thing is, we all need friends! Just because we can go for periods of time killing it on our own doesn’t mean we should isolate ourselves 24/7, introverts and extroverts alike! Top tip: the more we are around our friends and make it normal to make new friends, the easier it gets. Knowing what qualities, values, and the time we are able to devote to our friendships, all things Danielle’s new book will help you master, are crucial to forming better relationships. 

Men and women view their friendships differently, Danielle’s got the research receipts to prove it, and the ways in which men and women friends make new friends and like to spend time together are very not the same. For instance, women tend to see friends as siblings, and men tend to see friends as cousins. The intimacy is real! 

Erin and Danielle then explore the sometimes awkward social norm of selecting bridesmaids and groomsmen, three different types of loneliness, and how to combat each. This first smash episode wraps with some #RealAdvice time! 

Episode Outline:

0:30 Introduction & Danielle’s background

2:10 Rapid fire Q&A

3:25 Why Danielle switched careers

5:11 Being the shy/mean/popular girl in high school 

7:03 How Danielle got out of teaching and into coaching

12:50 Is working from home killing our friendships?

16:22 Dunbar's Number 

18:00 Making friends as a remote worker (or else you'll get weird)

19:00 Harvard 100-Year Study on Happiness

20:35 What are "quality" friendships?

21:42 Introverts vs....

Welcome to "No One Knows What They're Doing"! A show where Erin McGoff, aka AdviceWithErin, dives into topics that are top of mind for people in their 20s and 30s. Erin, a career educator, filmmaker, creator, and classic multi-hyphenate with millions of followers, admits she's still figuring things out herself. She's here to remind you that it's okay not to have all the answers.

From surgeons to teachers to CEOs, no one was born knowing everything. But that's the beauty of it – we're all in this together, just winging it. Erin's on a mission to introduce you to people from all walks of life, exploring careers you might never have considered. And hey, she's not afraid to tackle the tough questions, like “Should I move to Europe?” or “How do I negotiate my salary?” or “How to find a work-from-home job that isn’t a scam?” 

So, grab your drink of choice, whether it's coffee or something a bit stronger (no judgment here!), and hit subscribe. There's more to life than the Sunday scaries, resumes, and the 9 to 5. In this show, you'll gain access to tangible opportunities, secret advice, and proven strategies to help you craft a life you love.

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Welcome to Season 2 of No One Knows What They’re Doing! 🎉 This season, we’re taking it LIVE—you’re calling in, and I’m giving you real, unfiltered, big-sister career advice on the spot.

In this episode, we dive into:

✅ How to handle that “OMG, is this my life now?” post-grad panic

✅ Why feeling stuck in your first job doesn’t mean you’re doomed

✅ The TRUTH about entrepreneurship (and whether or not you should make the leap)

👀 Tune in if you've ever felt like the idea of a career makes you claustrophobic—and let’s figure this out together!

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👉 Go to AdviceWithErin.com/SHOW to apply!

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🔔 Subscribe for more relatable career advice!

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Key Moments:

00:00 - Welcome to Season 2! We’re going LIVE!

01:22 - First caller: Tessa just graduated and feels stuck in her 9-5

02:35 - “Am I really going to work 40+ hours a week… forever?” 😳

04:54 - The cognitive distortion making you feel trapped

05:52 - What’s the worst-case scenario if you never take a risk?

07:03 - Signs you might actually be an entrepreneur

08:42 - Step 1: Find 5 people doing what you want to do and study them

10:22 - Why working for someone else first can help your future business

11:00 - BIG takeaway: You’re not stuck. You’re just getting started.

11:29 - FREE Career Quiz & Weekly Newsletter Signup

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Want to apply to be on the show? Go to AdviceWithErin.com/SHOW to apply! 🎙️