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“Eight hours of my time last week. What else could I be doing with that?”

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali pick up where the last one left off and turn the spotlight from connection back to the question we’d rather not answer: how much time is your phone actually taking from you? It starts with their podcast recordist Carl showing Kali the screen time setting on her iPhone that morning. Kali confidently guessed a couple of hours a week. The real number? Eight hours. In a single week. Steve, smugly, had his screen time tracking switched off – so he gets a free pass for now, but admits he probably wouldn’t fare much better.

From that one number, the conversation opens up into something bigger. How often do we tell ourselves we “haven’t got time” to learn something new, look for a different job, paint the spare room, do a course, get coaching – while a quiet eight hours a week disappears into scrolling we barely remember?

Steve and Kali run the maths (kind of) and the point lands: eight hours a week, every week, for a year, is not a small chunk of life. What could you write, walk, learn, finish, or simply enjoy with that time back?

The second half gets into the NLP of it. Because we are, as Kali puts it, a bunch of habits – strategies running on autopilot, including the morning grab-the-phone reflex that eats ten minutes before you’ve even stood up. NLP can’t fix that on its own. As Steve puts it, it’s like learning a musical instrument: there’s no point knowing the technique if you never pick it up and play.

They introduce the idea of a pattern interrupt – deliberately replacing one habit with another – and share a lovely tip Kali picked up somewhere: look at some sunshine before you look at your phone in the morning. Open the curtains, step outside, get the natural dopamine hit before the digital one. Steve, fairly, points out this is harder in Manchester in winter.

The point still stands: small interrupts, repeated, quietly change everything. If you’ve been telling yourself you don’t have time for the thing you actually want – check your screen time, and then decide what to do with what you find.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• Carl’s iPhone screen time suggestion – and Kali’s eight-hour shock
• Why “I haven’t got time” usually isn’t true
• The maths nobody wants to do: eight hours a week, multiplied across a year
• Why NLP only works if you actually apply it (the musical instrument analogy)
• The “pattern interrupt” – a simple NLP tool for breaking habits
• A morning experiment: sunshine before scrolling
• Why we are, fundamentally, a collection of habits – and the ones we choose

“I’m not in the concert. I’m recording it. Why am I recording it?”

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle a quiet epidemic of modern life: the slow erosion of real connection in a world built for scrolling. It kicks off with a perfect moment – Kali introducing the topic while Steve is happily filming something on his phone next to her, oblivious. That’s the whole conversation in miniature, and from there they dig into what it actually costs us when our attention is always somewhere else.

Kali opens up with her own confession – sitting on the sofa after a long day of training, scrolling Instagram reels, until her partner Matt tapped her on the shoulder and asked her to put her phone down because she hadn’t heard a word he’d said. She follows it with a beautiful contrast: a recent Italian dinner where she watched a family of four spend £120-plus on a meal while Dad scrolled, the kids were on their phones, and Mum tried gamely to hold the conversation together. On her own anniversary dinner a few weeks later, she and Matt made a deliberate pact – phones in handbag and back pocket, not touched all night – and ended up watching the young couple at the next table, where the girl scrolled almost the entire evening while a clearly smitten boy tried his best to impress her. The moment dessert arrived and her phone went down, the connection finally appeared. But it had taken the whole meal to get there.

Steve weighs in with two stories that land hard. He once paid £150 to see an artist he loved, and spent the gig watching the band through his phone screen, recording it, missing the guitarist, the drummer, the whole atmosphere – until he caught himself and asked the question that gives this episode its hook. He follows it with the football fan at Stamford Bridge, phone up, recording a free kick – and missing whether the ball actually went in. They round out with the harder edge of the conversation: how apps are deliberately designed for dopamine hits, why human wellbeing is genuinely predicted by the number and quality of our connections, and how disconnection – not just emotionally but physically – quite literally makes us sick. The takeaway isn’t anti-tech or anti-phone. It’s a simple invitation: next time you go out for a meal, leave the phone in your bag, and see what happens when you actually look up.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• Kali’s story: the sofa, the scroll, and the tap on the shoulder
• Two restaurant tales – the family of four and the young couple’s “phone-down” turning point
• Steve’s £150 concert – and the moment he asked himself “why am I recording this?”
• How apps are designed to keep you scrolling (and what to do about it)
• Why disconnection isn’t just a vibe – it has measurable effects on physical and mental health
• A simple challenge: leave the phone in your bag the next time you eat out

It wasn’t about the promotion, it wasn’t about the job title – it was about the work itself.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali turn their attention to a quietly common career predicament: the grey zone. You don’t hate your job. You’re not in crisis. The salary’s decent, you can afford a holiday a year, you’ve got Netflix, you might even have your own parking space. But something’s missing — and you can’t quite put your finger on what. It’s not bad enough to leave, but it’s not good enough to feel alive either.

They also dig into the trap of “destination thinking” (“when I get this title / hit this salary / reach this level, I’ll feel better”), why finding the 99% of work you love matters more than escaping the 1% you don’t (Kali’s solution to her hated accounting work: hire an accountant), and a wonderful Jim Bowen “Bullseye” analogy about the 55-year-old delegate who said she wanted to be a coach — and what she’d be looking back at in ten years’ time if she didn’t take the small first steps. If you’ve been telling yourself “I should be grateful — it’s a good job” while quietly wondering if there’s something more, this is a permission slip to take that seriously.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• What the career “grey zone” actually feels like — and why it’s harder to escape than outright misery
• “Destination thinking” — why “when I get there, I’ll feel better” rarely delivers
• The Bullseye principle: what you could have won, and why small steps now matter
• How to double down on the work you love (and offload the bits you don’t)

The diagnosis is the diagnosis – but how you experience it is up to you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali introduce what Steve openly calls the single most important thing he’d teach if he only had one model to share: above the line, below the line. It’s a simple framework with a huge ripple effect. Above the line lives Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility (OAR — you’re rowing your own boat). Below the line lives Blame, Excuses and Denial (BED – you’ve pulled the duvet over your head and hidden from the world). The premise is uncompromising: you’re either in one place or the other. You don’t get to fluctuate in between.

What gives this episode its weight is Kali’s story. She shares openly about being diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis around the time she met Steve — a diagnosis that forced her to give up the dance company she’d been running five nights a week. For a long time, she sat below the line, blaming the condition for how she felt. The shift came when she realised that while the diagnosis itself wasn’t going to change, how she experienced it absolutely was within her control. Once she started taking small responsible actions for her own health, something quietly shifted – and kept shifting.

They also bring in lighter examples: Kali’s wet-weather drive that morning (left earlier, cup of coffee, music on, no panic), the manager who taught his whole team the model not by lecturing but by saying “I’m a bit below the line about this” until people got curious enough to ask, and the litter-pickers Steve spotted in Ashby on a Sunday morning – a small act of personal responsibility that quietly changes a community. If there’s one episode of the podcast worth sending to a friend, Steve thinks it’s this one. Listen, draw the line on a piece of paper, and ask yourself the question that genuinely changes everything: am I above the line about this.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The above-the-line / below-the-line model in full (OAR vs BED)
• Why you can’t sit in the middle — and how to spot which side you’re on
• Kali’s personal story: a life-changing diagnosis and the shift from blame to ownership
• How to introduce the model to a team without lecturing them
• The “cause vs effect” concept from NLP and why it’s a powerful place to live
• Steve’s pick for the one thing he’d teach above anything else

You don’t need to turn the wheel ninety degrees – one degree, held over time, will get you somewhere completely new.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle one of the biggest reasons people give up on the lives they say they want: the gap between where they are and where they want to be feels too vast to bridge. The fix isn’t a dramatic overhaul. It’s a one-degree shift – a small, sustainable change that compounds quietly over weeks and months until you look up and find yourself somewhere new.

Steve uses the analogy of a boat: turn the wheel just one degree and in fifty miles you’ll arrive at a completely different destination. They bring it to life with real examples – the learning and development manager who wanted to go freelance and was advised to start with one evening class a week rather than handing in her notice, the coaching delegates running their first small Sunday events with five attendees (two of them friends), and Steve’s own visit to see his daughter in Nassau, where the Instagram-perfect poolside photo masked the tropical storm, the flooded roads, and the nine-hour economy flight that came before it. The point lands hard: what you see on socials is one frame of someone else’s reality – not the journey that got them there.

They also unpack why instant gratification is the enemy of progress (the January gym crowd makes a cameo), how compound interest works just as powerfully on actions as on money, and why comparing yourself to someone’s curated highlight reel is a fast track to giving up on something you’d otherwise be brilliant at. If you’re feeling stuck or stretched thin, the takeaway is liberating: you don’t need to do everything right now. Move the dial one degree, set your sail, and let the compounding do the rest.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The boat-and-wheel analogy: why one degree changes everything over time
• Why January gym memberships rarely make it to February
• Compound interest – and how it applies to action, not just money
• The hidden work behind every “perfect” social media post
• A real client story of building a coaching business one Sunday at a time

A positive attitude won’t cure everything — but it certainly helps with a lot.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle something every one of us deals with… setbacks. From rising bills and stormy commutes to lost clients and the end of relationships, life has a habit of sideswiping us when we least expect it. So what separates the people who spiral from those who bounce? According to Steve and Kali, it often comes down to one deceptively simple habit – asking yourself a better question.

Steve shares a real example from the business: a telemarketer called during a training day to say a council client was about to cancel three leadership programmes due to redundancies. The old Steve would have panicked. Instead, he asked himself “How can I improve the situation?”, fired off a quick email during his coffee break, and turned a potential loss into an ongoing conversation. That one question – asked in the right state – changed everything. They also dig into why negativity is the path of least resistance (thanks to our built-in negativity bias), why personal responsibility is the antidote to feeling at the mercy of external events, and how setbacks often become the launchpad for the next chapter – whether that’s a new course, a new job, or a fresh start.

This isn’t about slapping on a smile and pretending problems don’t exist. It’s about recognising what’s in your control, changing your state before you take action, and being honest enough to ask for help when you need it. If you’ve been sitting with a setback and waiting for things to improve on their own, this episode might be the nudge to pick a better question – and start moving.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The one question that can shift your state in the middle of a setback
• Why negativity takes zero effort – and positivity takes just a little more
• A real-world example of turning a client cancellation into an opportunity
• Why personal responsibility is empowering, not exhausting

You can’t always change the people around you – but you can change who you choose to be around.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a question most of us never stop to ask: who are you spending your time with, and how is it shaping your energy? Steve shares a vivid story from returning to the UK after five weeks of NLP trainers’ training in Las Vegas – stepping onto an airport transfer bus and, for the first time, really noticing the low-level hum of grumbling he’d been deaf to his whole life. That contrast – five weeks of positivity followed by a wall of mumbling Brummies – became a turning point.

From there, they dig into how personal growth can sharpen your radar for the “mood hoovers” around you, why trying to change other people is a dead end, and how deliberately surrounding yourself with positive, solution-focused people quietly raises your own game. They also explore Paul McKenna’s advice about celebrating the success of others rather than knocking them – and how that simple shift lifts you just as much as them.

But this isn’t about toxic positivity. Steve and Kali draw a careful line: being around upbeat people isn’t about dependency or needing a support network to prop you up. It’s about putting your own mask on first, taking responsibility for your own energy, and then choosing to spend time with people who face problems with a “what can we do about it?” attitude rather than a sigh. If you’ve been tolerating energy-drainers at work or at home – or if you’ve never stopped to ask whether you’re the one lifting people up or pulling them down – this is ten minutes well spent.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• Why personal development makes negativity harder to ignore
• The difference between needing a support network and choosing your circle
• How to respond to other people’s success (and why it matters for your energy)
• A simple question to ask yourself: am I the energiser or the drain?

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali challenge a powerful and increasingly common narrative… the idea that we are somehow broken and need fixing. From social media highlight reels to the medicalisation of normal human emotions, they explore how modern culture can subtly convince us that sadness, frustration, grief, or comparison mean something is wrong with us. Through personal stories and reflections – from bereavement to Instagram illusions – they unpack how easy it is to measure our everyday reality against someone else’s carefully edited moment and conclude that we’re falling short.

The message is both grounding and liberating... you are not broken. Feeling grief after loss is human. Feeling frustrated at injustice is human. Having a bad day while someone else posts champagne photos is human. Drawing on NLP and the Three Principles, Steve and Kali remind listeners that comparison is often the thief of joy, and that most of what we judge ourselves against is incomplete or filtered. If you’ve ever felt “less than” because of what you see online or believed you needed fixing simply for being human, this episode offers a reassuring reset – and an invitation to return to your authentic, already-whole self.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a powerful question: is your career feeding your soul, or just filling up your schedule? They reflect on the familiar cycle of chasing the next promotion, ticking off the next goal, and constantly adding to the to-do list – only to arrive at a quiet sense of unfulfilment. Drawing on their own corporate and entrepreneurial experiences, they unpack the difference between busyness and meaning, values and validation, and why many of us never stop to ask why we’re climbing the ladder in the first place.

It’s practical and reflective, too. You’ll hear four coaching questions designed to help you pause and reassess: what would your ideal workday feel like? What would you miss if your job disappeared tomorrow – and what wouldn’t you? When did you last feel truly alive at work? And what are you tolerating that you’ve convinced yourself is “just normal”? If you’re feeling stretched, restless, or quietly questioning your direction, this episode offers a gentle reset – and a reminder that fulfilment doesn’t come from doing more, but from doing what truly aligns.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali unpack one of the most talked-about (and most misunderstood) ideas in modern psychology and coaching... The 3 Principles.

Steve takes on the challenge of explaining it simply, cutting through jargon to show how the 3 Principles describe the way we experience life from the inside out. Using everyday examples - mistaken identities, noisy cars, and instant reactions - they explore how our brains are constantly predicting reality, and how what we experience isn’t happening to us, but is being generated by us.

The real power comes in the implications. As Steve explains, once you gain an embodied understanding that feelings, reactions, and stress are created internally, life naturally begins to settle.

You become calmer, less hooked by the past, less anxious about the future, and more able to respond as your true self rather than from habit or ego.

If you’re curious about why insight can be more powerful than techniques, how peace of mind emerges without effort, and why the 3 Principles quietly transform how people relate to themselves and others, this episode is a clear and welcoming starting point. Have a watch and see what shifts when you realise the projector has always been inside you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle one of the questions they’re asked most often… what actually is NLP? Rather than a textbook definition, they offer a refreshingly human explanation – think of NLP as a user manual for your brain. Using simple metaphors (apps, habits, and updates), they break down Neuro-Linguistic Programming into how we think, how we talk to ourselves and others, and the unconscious patterns that quietly run our day-to-day lives. Along the way, they unpack neuroplasticity, self-talk, and why the questions you ask yourself matter just as much as the statements you make.

It’s practical and immediately usable. You’ll hear everyday examples of shifting inner dialogue, reframing situations with better questions, and using language to create positive expectation - in yourself, at work, and in the people around you.

The episode also gives a glimpse into the coaching and change techniques within NLP, including how deeply held limiting beliefs can be softened or removed far more quickly than most people expect.

Curious about how small changes in language can create big changes in confidence, performance, and wellbeing? This is a perfect place to start - press play and try one simple reframe today.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve sits down with Jonathan “JP” Peach for a deeply personal conversation about creating a heart’s desire - not in the fluffy, vision-board sense, but in the gritty, real-life way that emerges when you’ve been cracked open a bit. JP traces his journey from corporate retail to six months off with depression and anxiety, the “shorts and flip-flops” reset, and the unexpected mentors who nudged him toward coaching.

You’ll hear how he discovered a clear purpose - to inspire and energise people to be the most brilliant version of themselves - and why owning that purpose changed not just his work, but his entire way of moving through the world.

It becomes wonderfully practical, too. JP shares the timeline exercise he uses with clients to spot the patterns in what truly lights them up, how to notice when your wisdom (not your ego) is nudging you toward change, and why you don’t need to blow up your life to take the next step toward the work you’re meant for.

If you’re feeling stuck, restless, or caught between “this pays the bills” and “there must be more than this,” this episode is an invitation to pause, look under the surface, and tune back into what floats your boat. Press play - your future self might thank you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali chats with leadership coach Jonathan “JP” Peach about the hidden constraints of conventional coaching models like GROW. They unpack why a rigid, destination-driven approach can quietly narrow insight, create “performance of coaching” box-ticking, and pull attention away from the human in front of you.

JP contrasts that with a Three Principles way of working that feels more like a dance than a checklist: deeper presence, truer curiosity, and space for the coachee’s own insight to emerge.

Expect frank talk on goals vs. being, process vs. presence, and why the richest breakthroughs often show up when you stop trying to force an outcome.

It’s practical, too. You’ll hear how to loosen your grip on structure without losing professionalism, how to get under the hood rather than polish surface problems, and how to choose (or become) a coach who’s fluent in multiple modalities so sessions feel freer, fuller, and more human.

Want coaching that shifts identity, not just action lists? Press play and try JP’s simple tell next time you’re stuck… drop the model for a minute, get genuinely curious, and see what insight appears when you stop steering.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve Kay sits down with leadership coach Jonathan “JP” Peach for a candid debrief on how the Three Principles has added to his coaching, and his life. JP traces his shift from technique-heavy, surface-level problem-solving to an inside-out, embodied understanding – reconnecting with his “true self”. They dig into why insight beats intellect, how real coaching helps clients drop beneath goals and tactics to what’s actually driving them, and why calm, clarity and confidence follow when you stop outsourcing your state to the future. Expect pub-born honesty, coaching-room stories, and a provocative question… are you solving the right problem, or just rearranging deckchairs?

It all lands practically, too. JP shares the knock-on effects he’s seeing – less anxiety, fewer limiting beliefs, bolder proposals, more authentic keynotes, and clients who say “I didn’t expect we’d go there… but that’s exactly what I needed.”

If you want coaching that sparks genuine insight (not a to-do list), or you’re curious how becoming more you can make work easier, this conversation is a nudge to go deeper. Hit play and test it this week… drop below the “what should I do?” to “who am I being?” – and watch the solutions surface on their own.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali interviews leadership expert Jonathan Peach to demystify imposter syndrome - which, spoiler, isn’t a medical syndrome at all but a learned story our brain tells to keep us safe. They link it to psychological safety at work, explain why “I’ll get found out” is a protective prediction (not a prophecy), and unpack the neuroscience: your brain is a prediction machine that believes what you rehearse. Expect fresh takes on change (“we don’t like how things are, and we don’t like change either”), why silence in meetings often masks fear, and how belonging flips performance from guarded to generous.

Then it turns practical. Jonathan shares a simple playbook: journal to spot patterns and pre-write how you want to respond next time; rehearse the new story so your brain chooses it under pressure; and use coaching to raise awareness rather than hunt for perfect answers. There’s a clean distinction between mentoring and coaching, a reality check for trainers who think they must know everything, and a humane mantra: you won’t always have the answers - and that’s okay. Want to retire the “not good enough” script and show up bolder? Press play, try the journaling prompt this week, and notice what shifts when you treat imposter feelings as data, not destiny.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali interviews leadership expert Jonathan Peach to get real about psychological safety – what it is, why leaders so often mangle it, and how it’s built (or broken) in a hundred tiny moments. Expect some strong thoughts – such as recruitment isn’t your problem, retention is; “one size fits all” leadership is a fantasy; and onboarding should create belonging, not just tick boxes.

They dig into lived experience (why teams wait for the “see, told you” moment), the heavy cost of feeling invisible, and why connection-before-content turns down the defensive walls, so the real work can start.

Then it gets practical and punchy. Jonathan reframes feedback as affirmation (be specific about the behaviour and its impact), champions peer-to-peer recognition over top-down pats, and makes a compelling case for connection, belonging, and trust – in that order. Want a team that contributes boldly and sticks around? Tune in for clear steps you can use this week and a simple starting point that changes everything… connect first, model vulnerability, and watch safety scale.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve Kay chats with Dr Andy Cope to explore the Three Principles (Mind, Consciousness, Thought) made famous by Sydney Banks – and why your experience is created from the inside out. Forget “life as a camera”… Steve argues we’re the projectionist (and explains what one of those is!). They dive into predictive brains, personal “scripts,” and why it feels like the bad driver or the red light is doing it to you… even when it isn’t.

Expect a lively debate, a challenge to over-intellectualising psychology, and a bold claim… once you truly see how experience is generated, your system self-corrects and calm follows.

It’s provocative, practical, and quietly liberating. You’ll hear why reliving old trauma can keep it alive, how anxiety only exists in present thinking, and George Pransky’s litmus test –  do you treat thoughts as real things, or as passing weather? If you want fewer triggers, more ease, and a cleaner mind, hit play – then notice what shifts this week when you remember, “It’s coming from me.”

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali sits down with Dr Andy Cope – the “Doctor of Happiness” and founder of Art of Brilliance – to ask a powerful question… is the pressure to be happy actually making us less happy? Together they explore why nobody can or should be upbeat all the time, why so-called negative emotions are vital signals, and how our modern environment – from constant busyness to screen addiction – can leave us feeling like animals in a human zoo. Expect honest insight into what happiness is and why attention has become our most precious resource.

Then they turn to action. Andy shares three refreshingly simple habits – shinrin-yoku (immersing yourself in nature), flipping the script by rolling your eyes only when good things happen, and niksen – the Dutch art of doing absolutely nothing.

It’s an inspiring, down-to-earth conversation that reminds us how to slow down, reconnect, and rediscover what feeling good really means.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com - a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore the “soap opera” effect - when negativity, conflict, and fault-finding become the dominant tone in workplaces and relationships. They contrast this with the powerful ripple effect of intentionally noticing, amplifying, and appreciating what’s going well.

Through real-life stories, including a hospital consultant’s eye-opening shift in perspective, they show how genuine praise not only boosts morale but can transform how teams and individuals perform. The takeaway? Focus on the good, big people up, and keep your own self-talk positive - because feeling good inside fuels better results everywhere.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore how to stop worrying about what others think and truly be yourself. They discuss the difference between liking to be liked and needing to be liked, and how authenticity – not perfection – attracts the right people into your life.

From letting go of comparisons and old beliefs, to recognising your unique strengths and multiple intelligences, they highlight how much of what holds us back is simply learned conditioning. With practical insights from NLP, they remind us that you already have everything you need – you just might need to let some unhelpful ideas fall away.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali unpack what success really means, moving beyond flashy cars, job titles and other people’s definitions. They explore how true success is about doing what you love or working towards it – aligned with your values – not just looking good from the outside.

Through personal stories and client examples, they discuss the courage it takes to make big decisions, whether that’s changing career, starting a business, or going for a promotion. It’s a reminder that the hardest step is deciding to go for it – and that if others have done it, so can you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali are joined by coach Megan O’Connor for a grounded and insightful conversation about confidence, self-doubt, and the invisible beliefs that shape our behaviour. Meg shares the kinds of issues clients bring to her—from avoiding conflict or connection, to never feeling quite “good enough”—and how coaching helps people uncover what’s really going on underneath.

Together they explore how our identities get clouded by old stories, why breakthrough days can be transformational, and what’s possible when you finally stop believing the voice that says “I’m just not that kind of person.”

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this uplifting episode, Steve, Kali and guest Megan O’Connor explore the power of childlike confidence, joy, and playfulness—and what happens to it as we grow up. Taking inspiration from the phrase “Do it with the confidence of a 4-year-old in a Batman t-shirt”, they look at how life, school, and self-doubt gradually chip away at our natural creativity and boldness.

Together, they reflect on the beliefs that hold us back, the “scripts” we unknowingly carry, and how NLP can help us dust off the layers and rediscover the courage and lightness we had as kids.

Whether it’s jumping into your partner’s arms or chasing big dreams, this episode is a reminder that you already have everything you need—you just need to remember.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali are joined by Megan O’Connor for a punchy reminder that sometimes the only thing holding us back is… us. Inspired by a phrase from Kali’s daughter – “buy the damn shoes” – the trio explore what it means to stop overthinking and start doing. From career changes to coaching commitments, it’s all about trusting your gut and taking action, even when the full plan isn’t clear.

If you’ve ever hesitated at the edge of something exciting, this episode is your nudge to leap.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali take a closer look at what real positivity means. Rather than forcing a smile through difficulty, they argue that genuine optimism often begins with being okay in the “not knowing” – those moments of uncertainty where we don’t yet have the answers, but we’re still moving forward.

They explore the idea that some of life’s best breakthroughs come not when we’re certain, but when we’re willing to sit with the unknown… and trust that something good will come.

This is a thoughtful listen for anyone who’s tired of forced positivity and wants something more honest, grounded and human.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Kali and Steve are joined by Meg O’Connor, a graduate of NLP UK Training, who shares her powerful story of transformation. From burnout and overwhelm in the corporate world to a more fulfilled life rooted in purpose and freedom, Meg talks about how NLP gave her the tools to let go of limiting beliefs and trust her inner wisdom.

Kali opens with the insight that “if you’re not changing, you’re choosing” — a theme that underpins this entire conversation. Together, they unpack what it really means to choose change, step out of your comfort zone, and listen to the quiet nudges that say, “you’re meant for more.”

Whether you’re standing at a crossroads, feeling stuck, or craving something different, this episode is an honest, inspiring invitation to take the first step.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, we’re joined by Meg O’Connor, a former business analyst turned full-time coach, who shares her remarkable journey from corporate life to complete reinvention. Meg talks candidly about career burnout, rediscovering her voice through NLP, and the impact of unconsciously taking on too much responsibility for other people’s feelings, success, and happiness.

She reflects on the moment she realised she wasn’t just burned out from her workload - but from the weight of carrying everyone else too. From spreadsheets and control to surfboards and sunshine – this one’s for anyone who’s ever felt like there's more to life than pleasing everyone around you.

A powerful conversation about inner wisdom, bold decisions, and building a life that actually feels like yours.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali are joined by Meg O’Connor, a graduate of NLP UK Training’s Practitioner, Master Practitioner and current Three Principles Coaching programme. Meg shares her inspiring journey from feeling stuck in a career she no longer loved to creating a life full of purpose and freedom – including launching her own coaching business and moving her family to Australia.

She reflects on the fears and limiting beliefs she let go of through her NLP and Three Principles journey, and how it’s positively transformed her parenting, self-belief and daily mindset.

This episode is packed with warmth, insight and proof that change is possible – even if you don’t know where to start.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali is joined again by Lorna Maskell to demystify the topic of sales – especially for coaches, trainers, and business owners who might feel uncomfortable with it. Lorna shares her personal journey from fearing sales to loving it, and how a mindset shift (plus a bit of NLP magic) completely transformed her approach.

Together, they explore how sales is simply about helping people, building rapport, listening deeply, and offering something genuinely useful – not pushing a product. It’s a brilliant listen for anyone looking to sell in a more authentic, natural way.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali is joined by the brilliant Lorna Maskell, the warm and friendly voice behind the scenes at NLP UK Training. Lorna shares what really happens when someone enquires about an NLP course, what people can expect when they speak to her, and why there’s absolutely no hard sell – just honest, supportive conversations.

They also discuss the transformational impact of NLP on their own lives, the supportive learning environment on the courses, and how every delegate becomes part of the NLP UK family.

Perfect for anyone curious about taking their first step into NLP training!

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali reveal the five key traits that define exceptional coaches and how you can identify the right one for you – or become one yourself. From fostering client insights to challenging effectively, mastering listening skills, and breaking limiting beliefs, discover the qualities that make coaching truly transformative.

Interested in becoming a coach? This is for you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, they explore the meaning of success and how it varies for everyone. Learn how aligning with your values, finding your purpose, and listening to your inner wisdom can help you achieve a fulfilling and authentic version of success.

Whether it’s about career, relationships, or personal growth, this conversation offers practical insights and inspiration to help you redefine what success means to you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle the rising issue of burnout, sharing personal experiences and practical advice to help you recognise, prevent, and recover from it. Discover strategies for setting boundaries, saying no without guilt, and aligning your actions with your core values.

Whether you’re juggling a career, family, or both, this episode offers actionable tips to prioritise self-care and regain balance in your life. Don’t miss this empowering discussion on how NLP can help you stay resilient and in control.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, they explore how NLP principles can enhance all types of relationships – romantic, familial, or professional. From understanding communication styles to overcoming mismatched expectations, discover practical strategies to improve empathy and connection. Learn how “chunking up” and “chunking down” can transform how you interact with others and even help navigate relationships with teenagers.

Packed with relatable anecdotes and actionable insights, this episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their bonds with the people in their lives.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali delve into the concept of feeling stuck, exploring how limiting beliefs and old scripts often keep us in situations that no longer serve us. They share powerful insights on recognising that being “stuck” is just a story we tell ourselves, and how removing limiting beliefs can open up new possibilities. Real-life examples illustrate how waking up to these blind spots can lead to profound personal and professional transformation.

This episode is perfect for anyone seeking clarity, motivation, and practical tools to break free from habits or behaviour they no longer want.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali introduce the concept of timeline therapy, a powerful NLP technique developed in the 1980s by Tad James. They explain how this approach helps individuals let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs, providing a “neurological spring-clean” without needing to relive painful past experiences. Working at an unconscious level, timeline therapy allows people to feel lighter, more free, and better equipped to make positive decisions for the future. Whether you’re dealing with imposter syndrome, feeling stuck, or struggling with unresolved emotions, this method offers a fast and transformative solution.

This episode is ideal for anyone curious about innovative ways to overcome emotional barriers and unlock wants to unlock their own personal growth.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali delve into the power of trusting your gut and listening to your inner wisdom. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, they explore how instincts can guide pivotal decisions, helping you align with your true passions and unlock opportunities. They also share practical insights into recognizing when it’s time to follow that quiet, intuitive voice, even when logic might suggest otherwise.

This episode is an inspiring listen for anyone looking to cultivate self-trust and take bold steps toward a more fulfilling life.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali explore the concept of “tick box culture” in modern workplaces. They share how surface-level efforts, like flashy perks and corporate buzzwords, can create a mismatch between a company’s image and its actual culture. Highlighting the importance of psychological safety, honest leadership, and embedding values through behaviour rather than slogans, this episode offers actionable insights for leaders looking to create genuinely impactful workplace cultures.

This episode is a must-listen for HR professionals, business leaders, and anyone seeking to build or evaluate authentic organizational cultures.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com—a top UK provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali discuss the concept of “cargo culture,” using a historical example from WWII to illustrate the idea of mimicking success without understanding its foundation. They apply this to coaching, emphasising that building a sustainable business isn’t about appearances, but about genuine skill, authentic service, and having solid foundations. They share insights on why attracting your first customer, investing in professional training, and avoiding superficial “cargo culture” practices are essential to thriving in the coaching field.

This episode is a must-listen for aspiring coaches aiming to build a genuine, effective practice from the ground up.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali dive into the essential topic of building a solid coaching business from the “inside out.” Kali shares her journey of shifting from focusing solely on outcomes and processes to embracing her identity as a coach. This mindset shift transformed her business and client relationships, demonstrating the power of aligning actions with a strong sense of identity.

This episode is particularly valuable for anyone looking to create an authentic and impactful foundation for their coaching or training practice.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali tackle the topic of sales – an area that many NLP practitioners and coaches find challenging, especially when it comes to feeling authentic and confident. They discuss how to move past the discomfort of “selling,” offering practical strategies to help practitioners embrace their identity as coaches and trainers, connect meaningfully with potential clients, and establish themselves in the field.

This episode is particularly valuable for anyone looking to overcome sales-related anxieties and develop a more genuine approach to client engagement.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali Fraser explore the topic of anxiety—a common challenge many of us face and  share a practical and straightforward visualization technique that Kali taught her daughter, who finds it extremely useful in managing her anxiety.

This episode is particularly insightful for anyone looking for effective, simple strategies to handle situational anxiety.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali address the common pitfalls of perfectionism and paralysis by over-preparation.

They emphasise that starting (and finishing!) is more important than being perfect and share personal stories and insights on how embracing imperfection can actually lead to growth and success.

This episode is particularly valuable for those who hesitate to take the first step towards their goals due to fear of not being fully prepared or perfect.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

This episode delves into the complex theme of maintaining authenticity while adapting to various social roles or “masks.” Steve and Kali discuss the challenges and strategies of staying true to yourself across different contexts without losing your core identity.

They explore how NLP techniques can aid in shedding these masks to reveal and live as your true self. The discussion is a must-listen for anyone seeking to align their professional persona with their personal values, providing insights that are applicable both in and out of the workplace.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali explore the unique story behind the pink dot in the NLP UK Training logo, a symbol now central to their branding and workshops.

They share a touching anecdote involving family inspiration and practical applications in workshops to help attendees maintain a positive mindset.

This episode offers a fascinating look into how small, visual cues like a pink dot can serve as powerful reminders to maintain a positive mental state, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in personal development or the power of branding within your own coaching business.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali tackle the challenge of the seemingly never-ending to-do list, particularly focusing on why we often procrastinate on our most daunting tasks.

They share personal strategies and insights into organising and prioritising daily tasks to enhance productivity. Their discussion reveals practical tips for tackling the ‘big frogs’—the tasks we dread but which hold significant importance in our work and personal lives.

This episode is ideal for anyone looking to break the cycle of procrastination and maximise your daily achievements.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali explore how to navigate the common challenge of being pulled into others’ dramas.

They discuss the use of dissociative techniques that help maintain personal equilibrium and prevent emotional drain. They share insights from personal experience, illustrating how imagining oneself as a detached observer, like watching a drama unfold on TV, can effectively shield one from negative energy and maintain focus.

This episode is especially useful for anyone struggling to stay unaffected by interpersonal conflicts at work or in personal relationships. It offers practical advice on preserving mental well-being and staying productive amidst potential chaos.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore the common triggers of anger and irritation, delving into everyday annoyances and the deeper, psychological roots of our reactions. They discuss how personal habits, such as how one loads the dishwasher or manages space in a shared fridge, can become sources of irritation.

The conversation also covers strategies for managing these feelings effectively by understanding and changing our internal responses. This episode is a useful for anyone looking to manage their anger a bit more effectively, whilst understanding the underlying principles that cause these emotional reactions.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In today’s episode, Steve and Kali ask a big question... why should YOU become a NLP practitioner. They delve into the myriad of reasons people enrol in their NLP practitioner programs and discuss the motivations of their customers, from those seeking relief from burnout to desiring a career change or needing to boost their sales confidence.

The episode explains how the NLP courses not only address these initial motivations, but often lead to profound personal transformations. Attendees find themselves setting more ambitious goals, aligned with their true selves, as a result of the insights and techniques gained from the program.

On the fence about learning to study NLP? This episode is for you!

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

Today, Steve and Kali delve into the intriguing analogy of the "sausage machine," introduced by Richard Wilkins, to explain the principle of input and output in personal and professional development. The discussion explores how the quality of what you put into your life directly influences the results you get out, mirroring the process of making sausages with specific ingredients to achieve the desired product.

They emphasise the importance of feeding positive inputs into our lives to foster happiness, success, and good relationships. This episode is essential for anyone looking to enhance their mindset and achieve better outcomes in all aspects of life by consciously adjusting what they 'feed' into their personal sausage machine.