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If you can bear with the awful audio quality of this recording, you are going to really enjoy this interview. Recently, I was interviewed by the BBC for their Heart and Soul podcast for a documentary about the rise of the Muslim manosphere.

When I recorded this interview, I had to do it off of a screen share. I didn’t get the Zoom recording. I asked them for the recording but they refused, it’s not something they do. So I had to ninja record it. Alhamdulillah that I did, because they used less than 5% of a 45-minute interview.

But the audio quality turned out to be really bad. So I had to manually go through and increase the levels when the host spoke. That took several hours. But it’s done now and the podcast is out on BBC too. You can listen to it here.

What I would suggest though, is that you listen to this interview first and then go listen to the Heart and Soul documentary. Because the full unedited interview will give you more context on what we talked about, the tone of the discussion and the overall vibe, as opposed to the chopped-up clips that you’re going to hear on the BBC Heart and Soul podcast, which were edited to fit the story that they were trying to tell.

So here’s the interview. Enjoy. Let me know what you think in the comments. And remember to subscribe to our newsletter.

The Boys In The Cave podcast recently interviewed Becoming The Alpha Muslim. After publishing the episode, they faced criticism and pressure from SJW Muslims online. They caved to the pressure and took down the episode. Here is the full, unedited interview for your listening pleasure. 

Full show notes are available here: http://bit.ly/boysinthecave

My guest this episode is Kyle Trouble, owner of thisistrouble.com. Kyle is a professional blogger and podcaster who earns a full-time living selling consulting services, books, and online courses. 

I invited him on to speak about niche sites: how to do market research, how to launch a website, how to find products to sell, how to create content, etc.

If you are interested in earning a side income by building niche sites, Kyle has created a detailed video course called Pro Niche Site.

He takes you through the entire process from A-Z. AND the first six-videos of the course are free. 

>> Click here to check watch the 6 FREE videos <<

Show Notes:

• [01:10] Kyle’s background and introduction to online business. His transition from a very comfortable full-time position as a computer engineer to becoming a professional blogger and podcaster.
• [02:45] The different ways of making money online: freelancing, affiliate marketing, drop shipping, creating information products, etc.
• [04:00] Is a niche site superior to the other online business models? The pros and cons of starting a niche site.
• [06:30] You are relying almost entirely on search engine traffic. There is a possibility of an algorithm change making your website’s rankings drop.
• [07:25] If you don’t like writing running a niche site will be difficult, although this can be outsourced.
• [07:40] There may not be potential for long-term sustained income. Will the niche market still exist in a few years? You likely won’t make a full-time income from one niche site only.
• [08:45] Niche sites are an excellent source of side income to supplement your salary, with the potential to transition to full-time online business.
• [10:40] You will be the one creating the content for your first niche site, so it’s important to remember to pick a topic you are actually interested in. Once you have more experience and you know the model works. you can branch out into topics you don’t have an interest in.
• [11:20] Build and launch the site with around 20 pieces of content, and optimize for Google’s search engine. You then try to sell someone else’s product on your site: this is affiliate marketing.
• [11:30] Look for affiliate commissions of 10-20% for a physical product and 50-70% for digital products. The benefit of selling Affiliate products is that someone else has done the heavy lifting of marketing research, content creation, and even writing the sales copy.
• [12:30] Kyle’s first few niche site projects failed. Here’s why.
• [14:05] You don’t need a coding or technology background to get started. Your web hosting providers actually have one-click installation for Wordpress websites.
• [15:45] Should you use a free Wordpress, Tumblr, or Medium website?
• [16:50] Kyle walks you through the process of launching your website, step-by-step, including the costs of getting started.
• [17:50] The three major niches - health, wealth, relationships - and their sub-niches are the best ones to get into because there is always demand.
• [18:20] Once you’ve found your niche you need to find products to sell so you can have a good idea of the type of content you are going to create for your website.
• [19:15] Where to go to find products to sell - highpayingaffiliateprograms. You should look for products that sell well and convert well.
• [21:30] How to understand keywords so you can decide what content you want to create. You will also want to use tools to track your and your competitors’ search engine rankings like SEMRush, Ahrefs, SEO Quake, etc.
• [23:55] You will only be able to track conversions (how many website visitors buy the products you’re selling) at a macro level. You can get some more data through Google Analytics if you know how to configure the right reports.
• [27:00] For Wordpress websites you can use a plugin called Pretty Link and tag your affiliate links with a reference to the post where the reader clicked.
• [28:20] Websites age like wine. The older your website is, the more traffic you will get over time. To scale your website further, you must create fresh content e.g. a new blog post every week or 1-2 posts a month.
• [29:24] Start collecting your readers’ email addresses with a Email Service Provider like Mailchimp (free for your first 2000 subscribers) because as your website grows, you can use email marketing to sell affiliate products or even create and sell your own product.
• [30:55] Once a website has achieved a certain amount of monthly recurring revenue, there are diminishing returns in growing it further. That is, the time and effort you put in to grow it could be better spent starting another niche site.
• [32:00] Kyle’s insights on paying for ads on Google, Facebook, etc. to generate web traffic. Not recommended for beginners!
• [34:00] The most profitable sub-niches will always come back to the big three: health, wealth, and relationships.
• [35:38] Kyle has a paid course called Pro-Niche Site and a FREE 6-video mini-course to help you get started. (I have gone through the course myself and it will save you a LOT of time and error)
• [36:00] Kyle also has a podcast, the Nomad and Nerdy Show, where he talks a lot about these topics (I was a guest recently) and also recommends reading/listening to Pat Flynn’s Smart Passive Income.

>> Click here to watch the 6 FREE videos. <<

Continuing with our theme of featuring Muslim male content creators, my guest this episode is Youtuber Abu American Little.

On his channel, Abu American teaches young Muslim and non-Muslim men about masculinity, male self-improvement, and gender dynamics. 

He joins me to teach us about modern gender dynamics and how the Muslim community is affected by it, particularly in regards to our relationships with our wives.

This interview will be a hard listen for most women and some men because very few of us have heard gender-relations spoken about this way. 

While listening, you must keep in mind what we are speaking about men and women generally, addressing the norms in our society.  

Many rulings in our religion address what is 'aadee, i.e. the norm in a community.

Our books of fiqh deal with what is generally true. Exceptions are dealt with on a case-by-case basis, by referring to scholars.

With that in mind, understand that generalizations are not universalizations.

• [01:30] There is a difference between being a good man and being good at being a man. They are not equal.
• [02:00] Abu American teaches his audience about masculinity and gender-dynamics in modern society. His background as a black convert in his 40s gives his the experience and perspective to help the young men who subscribe to his channel.
• [04:30] Asking women about how men should deal with women is like asking fish how to be a fisherman. Women have zero experience on relationships with women as a man. Only a man can tell you the male perspective on deal with women, and this comes with time and experience.
• [07:10] Solipsism and the difficulty women have with abstract thought. Women will take a statement, no matter how general, and interpret it only from her perspective and how she FEELS about it, as opposed to objectively.
• [11:05] Hypergamy and female mating strategy. Hypergamy is women’s natural instinct to pursue and secure the commitment of the highest value men available to her. This is a major reason why many Muslim women are in their 30s and unmarried: they don’t marry down.
• [16:35] Men are not attracted to women’s education and career achievement. They are attracted to youth and beauty. Muslim should get married as early as possible. Both she and her partner can grow in value and her husband will always be in a higher position than her.
• [20:30] A woman who marries down or surpasses her husband in status will start to lose respect and resent him. It is not an active thing. It’s a passive thing in the nature of women. Women don’t want to be leaders, they want to be led.
• [22:00] Who are the “Alphas” in the Muslim community? Since Islam does not allow extra-marital sex and we don’t view professional/financial success in the aspirational way non-Muslims do, the Alphas are the preachers and people of knowledge. These are the men Muslim women lust after.
• [24:05] Muslimah fangirls/groupies are OK with chasing after and getting a preacher’s romantic attention, even if it violates Islam, until they find out he’s also doing the same with other fangirls. What makes you so special, shorty?
• [26:40] Build it and they will come. The more you build yourself up as a man - socially, physically, professionally, financially - the more women will want you. And it’s going to be difficult that temptation, but you must.
• [27:10] There has been a generational decline of testosterone and sperm counts in men in the West.
• [28:10] Muslim marriage websites and apps: low-value women have developed an inflated sense of worth and unrealistic expectations of what kind of men they can get as a husband. This is due to Gynocentrism, a sociocultural phenomenon which exclusively focuses on the views, needs, and concerns of women. It pervades, politics, religion, media, and popular culture.
• [32:20] Statistics show women are at an all-time high for being unhappy.
• [34:00] Muslim preachers and public figures in the West constantly put Muslim women on a pedestal and pander to them. We are mirroring the Christian church in their being hijacked by the Feminine Imperative.
• [34:40] Increasing public statements by Muslim public figures, male and female, trying to brow-beat Muslim men who have never been married before into marrying older women (30+), divorcees, widows, etc. Female fertility falls off a cliff at 27 years old if she has not had a prior successful pregnancy.
• [37:10] From a practical stance, women with children should be taken on as co-wives, or if the husband is himself divorced or widowed. Women carry a lot of emotional baggage from previous relationships. The more prior sexual partners she has had, the greater the chance she will separate from her current partner.
• [40:00] What is a woman doing when she does or says something to deliberately disrespect you, just to see how you will react? Explaining the fitness test / congruence test / s*** test. Men should understand this is an expression of sexual interest in the man she is testing.
• [43:10] “Not all women are like that! Why are you making such broad-brush statements about women?”
• [44:30] A lot of men are ego-invested in their fantasy of what women are and how they perceive female virtue. When you disrupt this with a different model, it is jarring to their identity and worldview, and they lash out.
• [45:30] Men are the true romantics. Women are relationship pragmatists. You are never going to be loved by a woman for who you are. You will only be loved because of what you can do for her now.
• [47:30] Coconut Knights: Muslim white knights. Some of the most prominent white knights in the Muslim community are in their 30s and single. Muslim women will cheer them on but will never marry them because they are not looking for a woman with a penis as a husband.
• [48:30] Just like women don’t like feminine men, men don’t like masculine women. They want feminine, soft, gentle, caring women.
• [50:00] Psycho-simps: when a beta-male, so invested in his idea of acceptance and romantic attention from women, gets rejected by the woman he desires, he snaps and becomes violent.
• [51:15] DO NOT have a scarcity mindset with regard to women, even your own wife.
• [52:00] Are there no more traditional women left? There are, but they mostly exist in the East, not in the West. The way to get a Western woman to be traditional is to build yourself up into a high-value man, because 80% of the women want the top 20% of men. You do this by learning Game (only for the purpose of establishing and maintaining an Islamic marriage), physical improvement, and financial improvement.
• [53:20] Women are straight-up gangster when dealing with men. Machiavellian and ruthless.
• [53:40] If you become a high-value man, women will do what it takes to secure your commitment in a relationship, including behaving in a traditional way.
• [54:00] The Game never ends. Before marriage, you must build attraction. After marriage, you must build desire. The reality is your women-folk, if they are on social media, receive countless offers and solicitations from men. You can never become complacent. Women WANT you to be good at seduction and romance. They want you to use Game on them.
• [56:30] Using exceptions to negate what is generally true. Women’s casual disrespect of the Prophet when they bring up his marriage to Khadijah. There are two false premises here. The first is the claim she was 40 when she married him, while it is more authentically narrated she was 28. The second is the claim he was her employee when in fact it was a partnership; she provided the financing while he handled operations.
• [59:30] “A woman’s first directive is to defend her sex’s imperatives even before consideration of religious conviction, marriage vows, or espoused personal ideology.” - Rollo Tomassi, the Rational Male
• [1:00:10] Distorting the religion to fit their needs. Muslim women cheering events in Algeria, allowing Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men.
• [1:01:30] Competition anxiety. Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man other women want. Muslim men can use competition anxiety to improve their marital relationships by taking co-wives. Women don’t really have a problem with polygyny and sharing their man. If they do have a problem with you taking co-wives, you’re not really the man she wants, you’re the man she could get.
• [1:02:30] The onus is on men to build ourselves up and improve ourselves up until we have command over our relationships with our wives. Problems in your marriage usually stem from you not fulfilling your role as a leader.
• [1:04:30] Women view weakness with contempt. The lie we are told is women want a man who is in touch with his emotions, who isn’t afraid to cry etc., when in fact that’s not what she wants at all.
• [1:05:10] “In reality no matter how much a woman appears to have her s*** together, she is only rejection, one personal slight, one flat tire away from a hysterical episode. Despite what feminists would have us believe, women really cannot survive without the support of men. This is why women will forgive men for anything except weakness, because a weak man is to a woman what one drowning person is to another drowning person. At best useless, at worst dangerous. Women are hard-wired not only to avoid weak men but to ruthlessly be hostile towards them.” - Rollo Tomassi, the Rational Male
• [1:06:08] When your woman tells you she wants you to be more open and emotional, that’s a fitness test. She’s probing for weakness.
• [1:06:50] “I was filled with disgust and revulsion when looking at him”
• [1:07:30] Isn’t this entire discussion misogynistic and anti-Islamic? No. We love our wives and daughters, and want the best for them. Examples: all the ayahs and hadiths about the rights of the husband over the wife, gender dynamics, etc.
• [1:12:00] Please subscribe to Abu American’s Youtube channel and hit the “bell” to receive notifications when he publishes new content.

Full show notes are available on my website: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/abu-american-little 

In this episode I speak to SIM, Mort, and Mahin, of the Mad Mamluks podcast. They've been podcasting for around a year and a half and I wanted them to tell the story of their journey as content creators.

We talk about:

• What motivated SIM to start the show,
• their views on the quality of production required to get the attention of a Muslim audience,
• their strategies for growing the podcast and where their main growth comes from,
• how they present themselves to the world in a Muslim community that is not used to open and frank discussion on controversial issues,
• how they deal with criticism and haters and how they differentiate between the two,
• the people who support their show and how they can best support them,
• and how they plan to make the show sustainable over the long-term. 

You can find the Mad Mamluks on: 

• Their website - themadmamluks.com
• Twitter - @themadmamluks
• Facebook - @themadmamluks

Full show notes are available at Becoming the Alpha Muslim: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/becoming-muslim-content-creator 

My guest this episode is Ali Abdul Razaq Akbar. He's a political consultant and digital media strategist for the Republican party.

He joins me to talk about the origins of the Alt-Right and the New Right, and the differences between the two. We also talk about a bunch of related topics ranging from Donald Trump to postmodernism, to 4Chan. 

• [00:25] What is the Gell-Mann Amnesia effect and why it is screwing up the way we Muslims understand reality?
• [04:10] How does someone with a name like Ali Abdul Razaq Akbar end up a) a Southern Baptist Christian and b) a Republican political consultant?
• [06:25] What is Ali's pedigree and credibility in the Republican party and how did he become a VIP with a massive network?
• [10:02] What is the true story of the founding of the Tea Party movement and what did Ali have to do with it?
• [13:36] How Ali went from actively opposing Donald Trump's entry into Republican politics in 2011, to meeting and hanging out with him in 2014, to not supporting him in the 2016 Republican primaries, to finally becoming a Trump supporter
• [21:48] Why Ali thinks Feminism and other postmodernist movements are a greater threat to America than terrorism
• [23:00] Ali and I take a deep dive into the origins of the Alt-Right...Where did it come from? Who coined the term? What is its ideological or political make-up?
• [25:30] Who are the major Alt-Right public figures?
• [28:35] How are Neo-Nazis, White Supremacists, the Ku Klux Klan etc. connected to the Alt-Right?
• Why do Neo-Nazis, KKK, and White Supremacists in the Alt-Right reject Donald Trump?
• [35:00] Why do the Alt-Right have a love-hate relationship with Jews and Muslims?
• [37:06] Who are the "New Right"? Are they an off-shoot of the Alt-Right or are they something completely different?
• [43:10] Why did some New Right figures associate with the Alt-Right before distancing themselves from the group?
• [49:15] Branding is everything...the media is everything...why no one cares if the Alt-Right really are Neo-Nazis
• [53:10] If reality is a social construct, whoever controls the media controls reality
• [55:45] Who are the major New Right public figures?
• [59:05] Why are foreigners (non-Americans) like Milo Yiannopolous, Paul Joseph Watson, Stefan Molyneux, and Lauren Southern so influential in the New Right and Alt-Right?
• [1:03:50] Ali and I break down the meaning and significance of memes, memetic warfare, and meme magic
• [1:07:30] Was Hillary Clinton really sick or did Trump supporters give her the Evil Eye? 
• [1:10:10] Where does /pol/ (4chan) fit into all of this?
• [1:15:00] The grand social experiment being conducted by /pol/
• [1:15:53] Why Ali and I are agents of controlled chaos, and how we operate as interdimensional travelers on the internet.
• [1:18:46] Why are living in the era of "based" thinking - the great mistake of believing Nationalism is spreading around the world
• [1:20:45] Where can you find Ali online?

You can find complete show notes here: http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/new-right-vs-alt-right

9 THINGS YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS TWITTER MASTERCLASS:

• One, why Twitter is hands-down THE best platform for growing a loyal, engaged audience
• Two, how often you need to tweet to see results and can you automate them?
• Three, why growing an audience is like raising an army
• Four, the 6 crucial lessons for Twitter success you absolutely CANNOT do without
• Five, why getting verified might actually be a bad thing
• Six, why having an overall theme is essential for consistent growth
• Seven, how to select who you follow and how to get good at crafting tweets
• Eight, the two biggest mistakes people make on Twitter
• Nine, how to deal with TROLLS

My guest today is professional heavy-weight boxer, personal-development blogger, and self-published author Ed Latimore.

Full show notes at http://dropkickcopy.com/grow-your-twitter

In this podcast, we are going to do a deep-dive (sort of) into halal dating.

As surprising as it sounds, 20% of my readers are women.

Some of them even e-mail me asking for help with their boy problems.

They're usually a hot mess (as women are when they catch feels) but Alhamdulillah I was able to help them avoid potential disasters.

On top of that, as you know, I review matrimonial apps for Becoming the Alpha Muslim.

I would say about half, or a little more than half, of the women looking to get married, are in their 30s and 40s.

A lot of these women are divorcees but as just as many have never been married.

Which is a little weird, honestly.

This being the case, I was SO glad when Soraya Soobhany-Chohan contacted me asking if I'd like to have her on my podcast.

Soraya is a relationship and marriage coach for single Muslim women in their 30s and older.

She herself got married well into her 30s AFTER 14 years of looking. We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I

We plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I

And Allah is the Best of planners. Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I

Ordinarily, I would have said "no" because my audience is mostly male. However, when I

However, when I internet stalked her researched her business I noticed we both have similar ideas on gender roles, masculinity, femininity, marriage, and relationships. The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that.

The pre-interview phone call we did confirmed that.

• What does Single Muslima Solutions offer women? How many women has she helped and are there success stories?
• Why did it take Soraya so long to get married? What did she do wrong? And what did she do to fix it?
• What's the right way to look for a husband? What do single Muslimas need to look for?
• What is Halal Dating? Is it even halal? What are the boundaries of interaction? How do you avoid bad situations? When do you involve the male guardian?
• On men being men and women being women. Halal dating tips for guys and girls
• What are guys REALLY looking for in a spouse?
• Why should guys go for older women (in their 30s and 40s) as opposed to younger women (18s and early 20s)? What benefits do older women bring to the table?
• Why aren't more of these women considering polygyny as an option? Does it make sense for a 40-year old divorcee to say "I don't want to be a second wife?"
• Soraya's top tip for single Muslimas on their first meeting with a guy: DO NOT fall into this trap

AND get details about a FREE e-mail course Soraya offers single Muslim women...

AND find out where you can find more of Soraya's work...

Click on this link- http://becomingthealphamuslim.com/halal-dating/

For those of you who don't know, Shaykh Amir Saeed is a Seeker of Sacred Knowledge and the co-founder of the Mad Mamluks podcast. 

He also has a great sense of humor and is a talented impersonator.

Here's a short clip of Shaykh Amir doing his best impersonation of me. 

I thought it was hilarious, so I decided to publish it. 

Shaykh Amir graciously gave me permission to mention his name.

May Allah raise his rank. Ameen.

What do you think of his impersonation? Let me know in the comments.

Let me know in the comments.

By the way...

The Mad Mamluks are raising money to pay for Shaikh Amir's son Dihya's leukemia treatment.

I announced it to my email list and Facebook page during Ramadan.

After going back and forth with doctors for a few months ago 3-year-old Dihyah was diagnosed with leukemia. Since then he has been undergoing chemotherapy and multiple hospital visits. Help Commander Dhihya by raising funds for medical expenses.

After I sent out my announcements you all donated several thousand dollars, Alhamdulillah.

Jazakumullahu khairan.

Haven't donated yet?

Would you like to?

Clink on this link to donate to Dihya's medical fund.

In this video I recommend 5 almost effortless things you can do to keep your Ramadan spiritual high going.

What you'll learn:

• The relationship between hunger and spirituality.
• Why does Allah select fasting to teach us taqwa?
• The relationship between our nafs (psyche,) our ruh (soul,) and our spirituality.
• What deeds are most beloved to Allah?
• The characteristics of sticky habits.
• What to do next after watching this video.

FREE EBOOK ON THE ETIQUETTE OF SEEKING KNOWLEDGE

Clink on the link below to download your copy.
http://becomingthealphamuslim.pages.co/seeker/

FULL SHOW NOTES

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