Are you leading from your true self or just reacting from habit? In this episode, we explore the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how to use them as a leadership check-in tool. Learn how to recognize when autopilot is running the show and what it feels like to return to calm, clarity, and confident decision-making. Sign up for my newsletter here.

Why do we interrupt, shut down, or mentally rehearse our rebuttals instead of truly listening? In this episode, we explore the hidden fear behind it all: the worry that listening might be mistaken for agreement.

You’ll learn:

• Why empathy doesn’t equal approval

• How fear of being misunderstood shuts down connection

• 4 practical tools to stay grounded and present in tough conversations

• What real leadership sounds like when you stop performing your values and start embodying them

If you’ve ever felt anxious about being “too understanding,” this one’s for you.

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Ben Maden is originally from the UK. He moved to Australia in 2006 and discovered that working at full-tilt for years on end comes with a price. When things go wrong, they cascade. Today, he's sharing his overachiever story. He's still an entrepreneur and digital marketer at Matter Solutions but has oriented his life much more around a family centric life-design.

Today I cover a worksheet I put together to help you deal with that difficult person in your life and get to a win-win.

Click here to get the worksheet.

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Do you label people at work as difficult?

What if it's just a difference in your programming?

Having this awareness helped me stress less and find it easier to get to a win win with people I had previously labeled as difficult.

I hope it helps you too!

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I often get asked how to tell the difference between being an optimal performer or an overachiever. Well, here's how.

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Are you making the assumption that you can't say no to your boss?

In this episode, I'll talk about why that is and give you a technique to use to bust that assumption.

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Are you constantly trying to prove your worth? I did this for a long time. Today I talk about my journey and how I finally got to a place where I believe that I am enough at least 80% of the time.

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I can't wait for you to hear this amazing interview with my brilliant friend Jen who coaches people over 40 with ADHD. We talk about the intersection of ADHD and overachieving/overworking and get into the nitty gritty of how we helped ourselves with this dilemma.

You might be an overachiever/overworker if you have performance issues at work, relationship issues or you just plain ignore your own health.

Jen can be found here. She's got an amazing video series here.

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Busy is seen as success. Is it really? This episode discusses busyness and why you should embrace a bit of idleness.

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I spent most of my life believing that I had to work long hours to be the most productive I could be.

I was wrong.

This episode will tell you why and give you some things to experiment with in regards to time efficiency.

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Are you addicted to work? Do you find yourself working more and more hours just to get that great feeling that you used to get?

Let's talk about it!

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Urgency is a trap that makes every decision feel like a crisis.

Learn how to pause with power, regulate your response, and lead with long-term clarity.

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Working from home has lots of great benefits, but it also has a dark side in terms of how much you work and how much energy you expend.

In this episode I'll cover 10 tips to get more control around your work day and learning to leave work at work.

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You know when you get in that loop of overthinking and you can't seem to get out? Here's an experiment to try.

Burnout can sometimes be caused because we are spending all day doing things that we hate to do. You might think that there's nothing you can do about this, but I'm here to tell you that it's quite simple to start infusing your day with things that light you up. First you have to figure out what those things are!

We all have 24 hours. Time is not to blame for us not getting things done. Our use of time is the culprit. It's so easy to get distracted and lose focus. This episode discusses some mindset changes to consider and a method to prioritize your use of time and improve your focus.

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20% of your thoughts are causing 80% of your stress responses. What you believe about work is driving the stress response you are having. This episode talks about the way to find the thoughts that are driving the majority of your stress at work.

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Overwhelm is so common these days. You feel frozen and like you are drowning in all the to dos and problems in your life. This episode covers some practical strategies to get yourself on top of things.

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I coach a lot of people on time anxiety. One way to free up time is to delegate, but a lot of people have a fear of doing so. Let's talk about 7 beliefs that might be holding you back and what to do about them.

Do you dread dealing with your boss? If this is true for you, I suspect you have a trust issue. Here are some things to think about when it comes to building trust with your boss.

PS. If you are stuck and stressed at work, I'd love to talk to you about it. I offer a free session with no strings attached. We'll talk about your issues and I'll give you some tools to get you moving again. Schedule a session here.

Do you find yourself spending a ton of time trying to manage what other people are thinking and feeling? Do you say "what if" to yourself.....a lot? I totally get it and I do this as well. In this episode, I talk about why you might do this and what to do about it.

PS: Does your work feedback include the fact that you need to be better about managing your frustration? Is it common for you to "lose it" when things aren't going your way? I can help you with this. We will find your triggers and work on changing your perspective in these situations to lessen how much frustration you feel. Schedule a call with me now to talk about what's going on for you!

Just because I'm a coach doesn't mean that I don't get triggered sometimes and act in ways of which I'm not proud. It's all about calming your nervous system and figuring out a protocol to deal with it better next time.

PS. If you are ready to reduce your work anxiety by 80% and still thrive at work, I'm ready to help you get there. Book a call with me today to discover what it looks like to work with me.

Your story isn’t just commentary. It’s the blueprint your brain follows. In this episode, I break down the neuroscience, hypnosis principles, and NLP tools behind why you create what you narrate and how to start rewriting the script for better leadership and life results.

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In 2019 I had an epiphany that I needed to change my life. I was burned out and thought it was my weight and the hours I worked. It was not. It was the way I was using my time and my energy. Here's what I changed to change my life.

PS: If you're stressed to the hilt and are ready to change, schedule a free session here! I can't wait to meet you.

When I ask the question what stresses you out a work, most people answer with some flavor of "the people". This episode discusses the three areas I believe are crucial to our relationships at work.

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Do you hear yourself saying "I'm so far behind" or "there's not enough time in the day to get it all done"? This is what time anxiety sounds like. Listen on for more insights about time anxiety and some suggestions on how to reprogram your beliefs around time.

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Do you find your self stuck in an overthinking loop sometimes? Do you look at the clock and wonder how hours have gone by when you were stuck what if'ing in your head?

Yeah, me too. Here's what I've tried that has worked to minimize the amount of time I spend overthinking.

PS. If you're ready to free up 90 hours in 90 days by finding and reprogramming all of your time thieves, I'm ready to help you do it. Schedule a call with me here.

Do you find yourself with back to back meetings and then working halfway into the night to catch up on your own work? My guess is you aren't saying no when you need to. Listen on to learn how to do it.

PS: Are you the person who constantly says no to impromptu invitations because you have too much work to do? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have spaciousness in your life to be able to accept these kinds of invitations with no guilt? I can help you free up 90 hours in 90 days so that this and other fun things are a possibility. Book a conversation today!

Do you go into a fight or flight response any time you get feedback? Do you start blaming other people and doing all kinds of things to defend yourself? Me too. Here's how I've toned down my automatic response and I'm sure it will help you too.

PS. Take me up on a complimentary session. Your response to feedback could be a sign of perfectionism and that may be causing you to overwork. Click here to schedule.

Are you frustrated because no one at work listens to your opinion? Listen on for 3 areas to consider when formulating your communication strategy.

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Other people's behavior can be a big trigger for stress. Here are my thoughts about that and what you can consider when it happens to you.

If you want to take me up on a free coaching session, click here. Life is too short to be burned out and miserable at work. 

Everything we do subconsciously is a habit. My intention for the year is to break up with my habit of being annoyed. Listen on to see how I'm doing it.

If you are ready to break up with your work stress, I offer a free coaching session! You should definitely take me up on it. 

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It's really important to be aware of what your default stress response is. We all have a default that we learned as children. Once you know what it is, you can choose to change it if it's not working for you. It's a beautiful thing!

If you want to stop overworking right now, schedule a free session with me so we can change that habit right now!

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Feeling stuck, frozen, or overwhelmed by your to-do list? In this episode, I break down the science and strategy behind microtasking which is a powerful tool to calm your nervous system and take action. Learn how to build momentum, reduce overthinking, and move forward with clarity.
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Have you heard of the concept of enculturation? I find it fascinating how this process influenced what I believed about work and how those beliefs were causing me a great deal of stress.

Curious about coaching and how it can help you recover from burnout and create resilience to chronic stress at work? I offer a free session where we will find one of your mindsets that is causing you stress at work. I'll give you some tools to rewire this belief so you can stress less and get back to enjoying your life! Schedule yours here!

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You have a background mindset running on repeat in your life. Is yours one of scarcity or of abundance? In today's episode, I talk about the difference between the two mindsets and how to cultivate a daily practice to keep gravitating towards the joy.

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Procrastination is not a character flaw. It's a tool that our really smart brains use to avoid a feeling. Find your pattern and redirect your brain.  

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Our brains think that urgency makes us more productive. Unfortunately, that's not true. Urgency is a habit. This episode covers some food for thought about urgency and some particular topics you can investigate to change your relationship with urgency.

If you're a burned out overachiever who is looking for ways to calm the hell down and increase the spaciousness and creativity in your life, I invite you to join the Burned Out Overachiever's Recovery Lounge here.

In this episode, we'll cover what overachievement looks like, why we do it, why it is a problem and a couple of things to consider to get you on the path to a better relationship with achievement.

Is compartmentalization a leadership superpower or a hidden emotional trap? In this episode, I unpack the misunderstood skill of mentally separating roles, responsibilities, and emotions. You can lead with clarity without disconnecting from yourself. Learn how to use this tool intentionally, not avoidantly.

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“Later” is lying to you. This episode breaks down what you’re really saying when you delay, why it’s costing you more than you think, and how to lead yourself out of the mental chaos it creates.

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Ever catch yourself spiraling over a thought like “I must avoid looking bad”? In this episode, I unpack how to challenge those sneaky beliefs using Robert Dilts' "thought viruses", Byron Katie’s The Work and nervous system awareness. Learn how to question your assumptions, calm reactivity, and lead with more clarity and confidence.

Perfect for overachievers, leaders and anyone ready to think differently.

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In this episode , I unpack the identity labels we carry as leaders that feel productive, but actually hold us back. I’ll share how my addiction to urgency wasn’t a strength, it was a stress cycle. Letting go of that label gave me access to peace, clarity, and a more empowered team.

You’ll learn:

• Why some leadership labels feel true but aren’t helpful

• The hidden cost of urgency on your nervous system (and your team’s)

• How to challenge the thoughts that create pressure

• A practical experiment to shift from chaos to calm

• How peaceful leadership begins with self-trust, not stress

Plus, I’ll give you 7 powerful journal prompts inspired by Byron Katie’s The Work to help you uncover the label that’s running your leadership.

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The first thing I had to learn how to do to get a sense of balance in my life was move from urgency to intentionality. Here are 10 ways that I did that. Feel free to take what works for you and tweak as necessary.

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