This week, we dive into a painful and often unexpected aspect of dealing with a narcissistic mother: betrayal trauma. When your mom’s smear campaign turns family and friends against you, the emotional fallout can be overwhelming. It’s real and it’s another trauma. Listen in to learn how to reclaim your sense of self amidst the chaos.

If today’s topic resonates with you, remember that you don’t have to go through it alone. Join Tuesday Group, a supportive community where we navigate these challenges together. We meet every Tuesday at noon PST.

Mentioned in the credits: ⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things,⁠ a resource I created to help you manage the difficult conversations in life, love, and work.

In the second part of this difficult and vulnerable conversation, we’re diving into two more of your most pressing parenting questions. 

First, we’ll explore how to pull yourself out of a shame spiral when you’ve made your child feel bad. Then, we’ll tackle the challenge of managing your child’s big feelings when those emotions trigger you and make you want to shut down.

These are tough topics, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. 

If today’s discussion resonates with you and you’re looking for a space to connect with other daughters facing similar challenges, I’d love to invite you to join Tuesday group. 

It’s a welcoming drop-in group where we support each other through the ups and downs of recovery- including motherhood. 

Here’s the link to join—we’d love to have you with us.

Mentioned in the credits: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things, a resource I created to help you manage the difficult conversations in life, love, and work.

Too Long, Didn’t Listen: I will be traveling for most of July and am pausing new Mayhem episodes until I return, on August 7th

I have openings for your stories and questions upon my return.

You can submit a voice recording or email your story to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If you do record yourself and your story, please record directly into your voice recording app without using headphones. Recording using bluetooth, earbuds, or headphones can make for bad podcast audio.

If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing ⁠⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things⁠⁠. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.

This week, we delve into the confusing reality of having a narcissistic mother that wasn’t all bad. Many daughters grapple with the emotional confusion of having a mother who was both abusive and also the primary caregiver.

Listen in as I work to help Melanie reconcile these mixed feelings, manage the disconnect between love and abuse, and find a path towards healing.

This is the emotional roller coaster that comes with being the daughter of a narcissistic mother.

If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing ⁠⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things⁠⁠. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work. Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com

Soon after you realize your mom is a narcissist and that what you went through has a name, you can get overwhelmed in a flood of emotions, memories, and questions.

Today, we meet Kimmy as she is working to get out from under the initial pile on of realizing that her mom has been abusing her her whole life.

Listen in as I guide Kimmy on where to start and she begins her healing. I walk her through how she can begin to break free of the toxic patterns she has been trapped in her whole life. Follow along with the action steps I offer and join her on her recovery journey.

If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing ⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things⁠. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work. Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we dive deep into the work of trauma recovery. Understanding that trauma work takes time is crucial for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. 

Trauma is not just an intellectual experience but one that affects your body, memory, and how you perceive the world. 

Learn why you can't control what happened to you, but you can control your response to it. Discover how to connect your head and heart, recognize the lifelong impact of trauma, and identify your needs. 

We’re working together to turn pain into progress. If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.

In this important episode of Mayhem, we dive into the painful story of a daughter, Rae,  manipulated by her narcissistic mother through a web of lies and deceit.

Discover how she was misled about her faith and God, and the impact it had on her childhood.

Rae shares her courageous journey to uncover the truth, break free from the manipulation, and heal from the trauma.

Join us for this discussion on overcoming the scars of a narcissistic upbringing, learning to take space,  fighting your inner critic, and claiming your truth.

Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If Mayhem has helped you in your recovery from childhood narcissistic abuse, consider supporting the show by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides sample scripts for tough conversations in life, love, and work.

On this, episode 50, we celebrate Libby who has been battling so much in recent years both in life, and with her narcissistic mother and enabling father. She has been through it, my friends, and now, she is finding herself on the other side, even as she tells us she still has a little bit of work still to do.

Today, we honor Libby, all that she has been through, everything she has fought through, and how she has gotten herself to the other side.

Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com If you love what you've been hearing here on Mayhem and have found the show helpful in your trauma recovery, consider becoming a Mother Mayhem sponsor by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things. This resource provides the right words for hard conversations, covering life, love, and work.

In this episode, we delve into the complex maze faced by daughters of narcissistic mothers when it comes to making decisions about caregiving for their aging parents. 

Offering guidance on  navigating boundaries, deciding what’s best for yourselves,  and managing the emotional minefield all of this creates. 

Question for the show: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Find me over on Instagram where we talk about all of things Mayhem Monday through Friday: @DaughtersNPD

70+ challenging conversations in life, love, and work.

Introducing: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.

(Link below for those that don't have a live link)

Simple Scripts gives you instant access to the words you need to say hard things in life, love, or work.

If an ebook isn’t really your thing but you want to support Mayhem and the work we have been doing, please know that I would consider any purchase of this book to be a sign of sponsorship for the show.

Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Link for those who can't open the ones above: https://heathergrayconsulting.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1064315

In all likelihood, you will feel it in your bodies when you are ready to go low contact but it can be hard to navigate what your boundary will be and how to communicate it.

Listen in for ways of organizing this decision for yourselves. 

Do you think it’s time to go low contact but are struggling with how? 

Write in with your question or situation: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

I’ll share advice and direction over on Instagram. 

You can follow me there: @DaughtersNPD

If we get a significant number of questions, I will offer a bonus episode of the show.

Today, ‘Coral’ shares her story in her own words and in her own voice.

Daughters of narcissistic mothers know all too well what it is like to always second guess yourself, to not want your mother’s opinion but to also feel like you need it. It is not at all uncommon for those who’ve experienced relational trauma as kids to suffer from chronic anxiety as an adult.
Coral shares her story, shares so much of her healing, and also shares the struggles she has today. Listen in and hear my thoughts, directions, and insights.

This week, with the vulnerability of one listener sharing her story and questions in her own voice, we’re tackling one of the most sensitive topics we can cover on the show—mothering when you are the daughter of an emotionally limited or narcissistic mother.

We’re talking about how the wounds from your own upbringing can impact your ability to nurture, set boundaries, and connect emotionally with your children.

This is generational curse-breaking stuff, ladies. You’ll gain insights and strategies to break the cycle and create healthy and loving environments for your kids. 

And if you’re feeling the need for more support as you navigate these challenges, I invite you to join our Tuesday Group. 

It’s a safe space where you can connect with other daughters, share your experiences, and find the support you need to continue healing. 

JOIN HERE.

Join us as we begin this important two-part discussion.

Question for the show? Want my two cents on your parenting conundrum? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com|

Mentioned in the credits: ⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things,⁠ a resource I created to help you manage the difficult conversations in life, love, and work.

In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we tackle the unique challenges faced by daughters of narcissistic mothers on and around Mother’s Day. 

Learn strategies for coping, finding resilience, and fostering healing during this often triggering time.

We discuss the emotional complexities and triggers that daughters of narcissistic mothers often experience during Mother's Day.

Learn coping strategies and gain practical tips to help you all navigate the day with greater ease and self-care.

Last November, I experienced a devastating friend breakup—a story I wasn't sure I'd ever share here. After finding solace in my favorite podcast, It's Going to Be OK, I opened up to their team.

I thought the story would stay there until I shared  it with a Mayhem listener and she encouraged me to let the rest of you in on it.

Then, two other listeners stumbled upon it by happenstance since I’ve recommended the podcast to all of you, a few times. They recognized me in the story and shared how meaningful they found it.

They, too, thought it belonged here. 

I knew though, that I couldn't share that episode if I didn't also share my own Mayhem story with you and that's what I am doing here with all of you today.

So here I am, sharing my Mayhem story and also:

'Already Enough and… A Bit Much.', It's Going to Be OK Podcast on Apple

'Already Enough and A Bit Much on Spotify

This episode features a poem titled 'A Bit Much' by Lyndsay Rush—a piece that grabbed my heart, helped me feel seen, and ultimately helped me accept myself a little bit more.

This is Me. All In.

Today we tackle the intricate challenge of forming and maintaining friendships as an adult survivor of childhood trauma. Navigating the complexities of trust, communication, and boundaries, we explore the unique challenges faced by individuals who have experienced childhood adversity. Learn strategies for fostering healthy friendships, gaining self-awareness, and creating a supportive community on the path to healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights on cultivating meaningful connections after surviving childhood trauma. Mentioned in this Episode:

Episode 34: Choosing Wisely: A Heartwise Blueprint for Finding Healthy Love After Neglect

Episode 4: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse

Ready or not, Narcissistic Mother's Day is Coming.

I know this is going to be a hard day for many of you but if possible, I would like to make it less hard and help it suck a little bit less.

I am not accepting your questions which I will answer in the coming weeks over on Instagram.

You can follow me there over at DaughtersNPD.

There, you can DM me your questions and I will answer them in an upcoming reel, post, or livestream.

If you prefer, you can email me your question. My email address is: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If you're going to email, do put Mother's Day in the subject so I know it's for this. My inbox can get quite full, as you might imagine.

Again: Find me on Instagram

Email me: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Narcissists are always going attack. That's what they do. They wouldn't be narcissists if they didn't. You can easily feel like you are being held hostage by their narrative and that there is no "right" answer or "right" response to their nonsense. You'll want responses at the ready and you'll want to neutralize the weapon. Listen in to learn ways of doing both.

We know "hurt people hurt people" What do you do when you're the person doing the hurting? In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we're looking to break the cycle of hurt after childhood trauma. "Emily" bravely shares her journey of recognizing her own problematic behavior stemming from past trauma, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and accountability in the healing process. So, we're talking about it. Listen in as I offer practical strategies for transforming pain into growth and fostering healthier relationships post-narcissistic abuse. Episodes to Revisit: Episode 40, 32, 26, and 3

Good news for daughters in Massachusetts who are navigating your recovery journey from narcissistic abuse. With openings in my schedule, I’m now offering specialized clinical consultations designed to provide targeted support for trauma recovery.

Here is the link to purchase and schedule.

-My approach focuses on helping daughters who feel stuck or uncertain about their next steps in recovery.

-The sessions are designed to address various challenges such as setting boundaries, navigating relationships, or overcoming parenting struggles due to childhood trauma.

-Unlike traditional therapy, I’m offering a block of four sessions that can be used flexibly over a two-month period, allowing for deep dives into specific concerns or goals.

*Before signing up, you should know: My office hours are scheduled for Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 1:30 PM to 8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (EST). It is crucial that you confirm your availability during these specified times.

Link to schedule.

Questions? Email me at: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Today we're talking about managing anxiety, fear, and dysregulation after narcissistic abuse. Learn to navigate these challenges and find healing as you work for your emotional well-being. Understand your anxiety and learn what you can do about it as you heal from narcissistic trauma. Discover how to cultivate resilience, regain inner balance, and thrive in the aftermath of emotional abuse Mentioned in this episode:

Grounding Techniques

Today, you get to meet "Christie", in her own voice AND in her own words! She shares her story of recovery from a narcissistic mother and enabling father and invites me to talk to her about self worth and learning how to take up space. She also generously shares an accompanying art exhibit she offers as a reflection for her healing. You can find that in the attached Google doc.

"Christie's" Art Exhibit: This Version of Love

Once you cut off contact with your mom, it can be hard to know who you are. What do you think, feel, and believe? What are your values?

You're so used to filtering them through your mother's perspective that it can be hard to know yourself.

How do you reintroduce yourself to yourself?

Start Here:

Mentioned in this show: Relationship to Self Journal Prompts

Addition questions for reflection included in today's show:

As you go through your day and you consider your interactions you had, check in with yourself:

• How did you feel? Were you regulated in your body?
• Did you feel seen and respected?
• Did you feel safe?
• Walk yourself through the same thing as you consider your decision making process for the day.

It might be worth your time to create a daily check in journal for yourself where you quickly ask yourself these questions and jot your answers down:

• Did you feel good about your decisions?
• Did you feel good about your interactions?
• What did you need more of?
• Less of?
• Where did it get hard? When it got hard, what might you have needed or what might have made you feel more comfortable?
• Were there any boundaries you might have needed to set?

• When you look at the quality of your relationships, are you satisfied? Are there other toxic connections that might perhaps need to be toned down or removed in order to feel safer?

• When you are exposed to new ideas or approaches to things, get curious with yourself. How do I feel about that? Does that feel true for me? What would feel more true?

Today, we hear directly from a daughter, in her own words and in her own voice.

We’re diving into the challenges of grieving and healing from narcissistic abuse when going no contact isn’t an option. Learn strategies for managing ongoing emotional pain and abuse while being financially dependent and feeling trapped by a narcissistic mother.

Identify ways of healing, finding strength, and setting boundaries when your narcissistic mother is still in your life. This is a difficult path that requires you to meet yourselves with compassion. I hope you find some here, too.

If you're looking for a supportive community to help navigate these challenges, consider joining our Tuesday Group.

It's a space where you can connect with others who truly understand your journey and work together on building the strength and resilience needed to heal.

Learn more and sign up.

It's infuriating when your abuser turns the tables and accuses you of abuse. That's what reactive abuse is and that is a tactic narcissists use to change the narrative. Today we're tackling it head on so you can get in the driver's seat and get back in control of a dynamic that often feels very much out of your control.

The trauma experienced by daughters in law of narcissistic mothers in law doesn't get talked about enough but it's a lot. You have your own trauma that you have experienced from her. you have vicarious trauma that comes from witnessing your mother in law's abuse of your husband, and you have her impact in your kids. In this week's episode, we are breaking all of it down so we can build you back up.

When there's so much trauma that you don't even know where to begin, it can make you feel as though you've been swallowed whole by it all. Recovery is complicated but it's possible. Listen in as I help two sisters navigate their story together and separately.

This is your invitation to join us for our next coaching call scheduled for March 6th, 10:30am 12:30pm PST.

I wish you only had to consider this to be your warm welcome to further connect but I also know that accepting an invitation like this can be challenging so we're talking about it quickly, today.

I hope you'll consider joining us by using this link.

Also mentioned in this episode: Instagram post by Healing_out.loud

When you're the child of a narcissist, the pain isn't a one-time event; it's a relentless cycle of rejection and invalidation. And when a father enables a narcissistic mother, it's a recurring betrayal that leaves scars. But where do you start to heal from such deep wounds? Join us as we explore the journey of recovering from narcissistic abuse, delving into the daunting task of learning to be seen and reclaiming space in a world that often made you feel invisible.

These are the questions we're tackling head-on today — the ones that have haunted many of us: How do we find light in the darkness? How do we learn to shine despite our past? Let's navigate this journey together, finding hope, healing, and a sense of belonging along the way. You're not alone in this. Mentioned in this episode: Episodes 3 and 15. You can listen in using the same app you have used for this show.

Encouraged reflection: Consider these journal prompts that were in the companion guide for Episode 3.

Question for the show?: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

When you're the only child of a narcissistic mother, you end up feeling like your experience exists in an echo chamber. You're the golden child one second and the scapegoat the next. When you become an adult, it can feel like everything falls on you, that you have to stay connected with her because if not you, who? Here's how to navigate all of that.

Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

It's not your picker that's broken. It's your connection to yourself. Choosing love that's better for you means choosing the love that is right for you. Here's how.

Mentioned in this episode: Episode 4 of Mother Mayhem: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse

You can find it in the podcast app you are using for this episode.

Going No Contact comes with grief. No contact also often comes with additional losses. Listen in for tools on how to navigate this tricky time, how to process your way through it, and how to find acceptance. Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Narcissistic abuse recovery work is daunting. It can be hard to know where to begin. I encourage the women I work with to start with themselves, to build better relationships with themselves. This will often mean confronting depression and anxiety, as well as learning to silence your inner critic so you can begin to hear your own voice. This is one listener's story for how she traveled the path and what "doing the work" looks like for her.

Your invitation to our next Mayhem Coaching Call.

February 7, 2024 10:30am to 12:30pm PST

$25 USD

Call will be recorded for replay access for registered members.

When registering, you will be invited to pre-submit your questions and will be offered the choice of live coaching or to post your question anonymously. Priority will be given to those who opt for live coaching.

Limiting attendance to 35, a number that hopes to respect the vulnerability and intimacy that comes with the conversation I am inviting you all to have.

We’re going to work through question volume capacity, as we go. It’s our hope to work together to insure a fair offering that’s also reasonable and respectful of the two hour time block.

Ready to work together? Let the Mayhem begin. 

Here is your link to join.

Want to join me on Instagram? Find me here.

Not able to make the call but want to submit a question for the podcast? Find me: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Have time for a quick chat? I wanted to talk to you about a confusing but important part of trauma work: Navigating the distinction between trauma brain and wise mind. 

In this mini episode, I am walking you through how to identify when trauma brain is taking over and how to reconnect with your wise mind for better decision-making and coping. 

If you’ve ever struggled with knowing which voice to trust, I’m offering practical strategies to help you navigate the maze. 

Friendly neighborhood reminder: This is hard stuff and you don’t always have to figure it out alone.

Consider this your standing invitation to join us for Tuesday Group. This is the kind of thing we will be talking about and figuring out together every week.

Group is here to support you on your journey toward healing and self-trust.

If you listen to other narcissistic abuse recovery experts they think no contact is the only solution and the only right answer. They also oversimplify the whole thing. You daughters know, though, that this is an intensely personal discussion and nothing about it feels simple or straightforward. This is how you find your way with it. Mentioned in this episode: She Used to Be Mine

Bare Bones by Ullie Kaye

Sometimes it can feel like you have a sign in your back that says: "Go ahead, use me. Abuse me. Take your best shot." For too many of you, your mother isn't the only awful thing or person that has happened to you. After more awful things happen, it's understandable why you might think it's your fault and that you're the problem. It's not your fault. You are not the problem. Listen in to one listener with an important story to share. It might sound like yours. In it with you, helping you find the healing and understanding you seek.

Question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery doesn’t stop just because it’s the holiday season. Often times, it can feel like it’s getting worse when everywhere you look, there is a reminder of your trauma, loss, and struggles. Offering you a quick check in and touchstone episode so you can remember I am thinking of you and that I am in it with you. Mentioned in this episode: Our first Mother Mayhem Workshop: No Nonsense New Year: Healing Strategy Workshop for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers has already occurred. Hope to see you at the next one.

No "New Year, New You Bullshit" here. Same you, same trauma but hopefully framed for you in a better way. Offering you a quick touchstone episode while you wait for me to return to your regularly scheduled Mother Mayhem programming. Mentioned in this episode: The Mother Mayhem Workshop: No Nonsense New Year: Healing Strategy Workshop for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers workshop has already passed. Hope to see you at our next event.

We know all about boundaries when it comes to managing your narcissistic mothers.

One of the most helpful boundaries is also one of the hardest ones to implement: Taking space.

Telling your mom you need a break and some distance can feel like lighting a match.

Here’s how to work through the nerves that comeswith doing so.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Mother Mayhem Journal Exercises and Episode Companion GuidesIt’s Going to Be OK Podcast

My email: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

DM me on Instagram

Here are the first building blocks you need to start building your life after healing.

We’ll discuss the things you should be journaling about and exercises you can begin doing to get started.

Here’s a quick look. Listen in to learn more.

This is about the blueprint and these are the strategies for crafting a fulfilling life beyond the shadows of narcissistic abuse. 

Here’s to designing a life that radiates resilience and joy after overcoming the impact of trauma.

Journal questions:

If you were already the woman you wanted to be in the life, love, and work you wanted to have, what would that life look like and how would you be moving through the world.

1. Get clear on the vision and picture, as far as you know it right now. You might always shift and change it later.

2. As you start your day, check in with yourselves about decisions you can make in your day that are consistent with that vision.

3. In moments of decision making, ask yourselves which choices take you closer to that vision and choose accordingly.

4. At the end of the day, review how you did and hold yourself accountable to any places where you moved further away and allow yourselves a do over.

Journal Two: When you are doing well and feeling good, what is a list of things that have contributed to you doing good and feeling well. Which things have you stopped? What do you need to return to? How are you going to go about doing so?

Journal Three: Climate check. What needs your attention? What is the climate of your life, love or work? What are the weather events that are contributing to a hard climate? What needs to be tended to? What needs to be increased?

Links:

List your Glimmers on Instagram

Shallow with Hannah and Ted

Best Talent Show Clip Ever (When she takes off her hat!!)

In today's episode, we’re tackling the covert world of narcissistic mothers' gatekeeping tactics. We’re confronting the closed doors and I’m offering you strategies to navigate these manipulative behaviors with resilience.

• Gain insights into the not so subtle techniques narcissistic mothers employ to maintain control and manipulate relationships.

• Learn strategies and practical tools to recognize, resist, and respond effectively to gatekeeping attempts.

• Master the art of assertive communication, allowing you to set boundaries and protect your emotional well-being.

• Discover the path to healing, self-discovery, and reclaiming your life beyond the confines of narcissistic gatekeeping.

Question for the show? Send a voice memo or email to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

In this episode of Mother Mayhem: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters, we’re talking about what to say in the moment of a narcissistic attack. Trauma brain wires you for fight, flight, or freeze.

We want to invite Wise Mind into the conversation so you can respond with calm resilience.

• Learn effective strategies and communication techniques for handling narcissistic behavior without losing yourself or cowering to your mom.

• Gain insights into assertive responses that protect your emotional well-being.

• Learn how to establish boundaries and maintain your inner strength when confronted with narcissistic behavior

Question for the show? Send an email or recorded voice memo to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Welcome back to Mother Mayhem: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters! In this holiday episode, we’re tackling the challenges you daughters face when dealing with your narcissistic mothers during this stressful season.

Explore practical strategies, learn ways of managing your mom, and listen in on sample scripts you can use with your mother during this time. 

Journal prompts to consider: 

• If you could create the perfect holiday for yourself, with all things being equal…after all your mother is always going to be narcissistic, what is the holiday you would design for yourself?

• Who would you need to be to have that kind of holiday?

• What would you have to do to preserve that kind of holiday?

I know who needs to hear this today. You do.

Love, Heather

Have a question for the show? Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

Fawning is a common response for those who have experienced childhood narcissistic abuse. I’ll review what it is, how it can show up in relationships, and how to address it.

Then, we talk about how to stop attracting people who take advantage of your fawning tendencies.

Listen in for practical strategies you can use to stop fawning behaviors and how to replace fawning with healthy boundaries.

Learn to protect your mental health and emotional well-being.

With tools, insights, and new strategies, you can break free from patterns that have held you back and kept you down for your whole life.

If Mayhem has helped you in your narcissistic abuse recovery journey or if you appreciate the dedication and effort behind episodes like this one, consider becoming a sponsor. Support the show by purchasing Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things, a resource I created to help you navigate tough conversations in life, love, and work.

Today’s conversation on Mother Mayhem: The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast for Daughters is a  dive deep into strategies you can use to stop second-guessing yourselves and regain your confidence. 

Learn practical techniques like tuning into your wise mind, using journaling to discover your truth, and telling your trauma brain to take a break. 

Discover how to surround yourself with supportive people, challenge negative beliefs, and practice self-compassion. 

Plus, explore the power of creativity, finding positive role models, and celebrating your wins on the journey to self-empowerment.

Mentioned in the show:

Self Doubt to Self Love: Journal Prompts for a Better Relationship With Yourself

Slow & Steady Strategies for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Superpower by Caroline Jones

All I Know So Far by Pink

Drew Barrymore being my role model

In this episode, we dive into the intricate web of financial entanglement between daughters and their narcissistic mothers. Join us as we explore the complexities of how narcissistic mothers use money, financial control, and housing as tools for manipulation and control. Then, learn what you can do about it.

Have a question for the show? Send a recorded voice memo or email to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If you value Mother Mayhem and have found the show helpful in your trauma recovery, consider becoming a sponsor by purchasing 'Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.' This resource provides the right words for difficult conversations, covering all aspects of life, love, and work.

In this episode, we’re tackling the messy middle that comes when you’re managing your mom’s narcissism and her ailing health.  We already know that boundaries will be crucial but how do you set them when they may go up against what your mother seemingly needs?

How do you take care of her without losing yourself?

Do you really have to take care of her when she failed repeatedly to take care of you?

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics: Explore the unique challenges that daughters face when caregiving for a narcissistic mother, including manipulation and guilt trips.

• The Importance of Boundaries: Learn why setting clear boundaries is crucial for your emotional and mental health and for defining the path forward.

• Practical Boundary-Setting Strategies: Discover actionable tips and strategies for establishing and maintaining boundaries in caregiving situations.

• Navigating Family Dynamics: Explore how to handle differences in siblings' responses and roles when it comes to caregiving and managing a narcissistic mother.

Your well-being matters, too. 

Question for the show? Send in an email or recorded voice memo to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If you value Mother Mayhem and have found the show helpful in your trauma recovery, consider becoming a sponsor by purchasing 'Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.' This resource provides the right words for difficult conversations, covering all aspects of life, love, and work.

In this week’s Ask Me Anything episode, we’re tackling what to do when your mom breaks your No Contact boundary, Learn: 

• Strategies for maintaining your boundaries when a narcissistic mother tries to break them.

• How to respond when she ropes in people outside of the family with her tales of woe or a good, old fashioned smear campaign.

• Get clear on your decisions, get sample scripts for what to say, and get clear on what you need to see happen next.

If you're a daughter dealing with a narcissistic mother who just won't give up, you belong here. 

Question for the show? Email or send a recorded voice memo to: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

If you value Mother Mayhem and have found the show helpful in your trauma recovery, consider becoming a sponsor by purchasing 'Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.' This resource provides the right words for difficult conversations, covering all aspects of life, love, and work.