Our friend Nicole just dropped the trailer for her new podcast Just Rest — and we're SOOO excited!

We’re both part of the Feminist Podcast Collective, and watching this show come to life has been such a joy. Just Rest is for people who care deeply, work hard, and are tired of being told burnout is just the price of caring.

This podcast is all about rest as resistance, sustainable change, and staying human in a grind-obsessed world. It’s thoughtful, grounded, and deeply compassionate — the kind of show that feels like a long exhale.

Give the trailer a listen, then rate & review if it resonates. It makes a huge difference for indie, values-driven podcasts.

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As 2025 winds down, Becky and Taina sit with the mess—grief, burnout, political devastation, small joys, and the complicated work of staying human inside it all. This isn’t an episode about toxic optimism or shiny New Year’s resolutions. It’s about telling the truth: some years are brutal. Some losses are enormous. And still, we have to find ways to keep living.

In this end-of-year reflection, they talk candidly about personal and collective loss, fluctuating capacity, negativity bias, and the practice of holding multiple truths at once. They explore what it means to scale expectations down (way down), to let “10% better” be enough, and to build rituals that help us remember that not everything is awful—even when the world feels like it is.

This episode is an invitation to stop demanding perfection from yourself, to release the fantasy of static capacity, and to enter the new year with honesty, presence, and gentleness.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why 2025 felt like a year of loss—personally, politically, and collectively
• Grief, privilege, and the discomfort of holding both at the same time
• The myth of static capacity and why fluctuating energy is deeply human
• Spoon theory, disability wisdom, and why you can’t “borrow” energy from the future
• Negativity bias and why our brains remember the worst moments most clearly
• Micro vs. macro living: how daily life is different from the headlines
• Practices for tracking how days actually feel (not how we assume they felt)
• Holding multiple emotions at once—anger and love, grief and joy
• Why “10% better” might be the most radical New Year’s intention available
• Creating spaciousness during the holidays without disappearing entirely

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What happens when two podcasts built on honesty, healing, and humor come together?

In this special crossover between Messy Liberation and brb crying, Becky and Taina sit down with Angela (“Nins”) and Ariana (“Arns”), lifelong best friends and co-hosts of brb crying, for a heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply real conversation about what it means to feel your feelings in a world that rewards suppression.

They unpack why crying is a radical act of self-trust, how vulnerability is a muscle that takes practice, and what it looks like to de-armor yourself in a culture that treats emotions like weakness. They also talk about creative rebirth through fan fiction (yes, really), the burnout cycle of podcasting, and how anti-capitalist rest practices can help us find joy again.

This one’s equal parts therapy session, slumber party, and masterclass in liberation.

Check out brb, crying:
Website: https://www.brbcryingpodcast.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brbcrying.podcast
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCB3O5-2SWBN4AYpb061iipg

Discussed in this episode:

• The power of crying as emotional liberation
• Why vulnerability is a practice — not a personality trait
• Creative healing through fan fiction and rediscovering joy
• The burnout cycle of podcasting under capitalism
• Safety, embodiment, and learning to feel at home in your body
• The balance between vulnerability and humor
• Partnership, community, and the importance of feeling seen
• Rest and joy as acts of resistance
• Human Design, astrology, and honoring your energy type
• Releasing capitalist urgency and redefining success

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In this fiery, messy conversation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive headfirst into celebrity culture, capitalism’s endless hunger, and the idea of enough. What started as a chat about Taylor Swift’s latest grift spirals—naturally—into reflections on fascism, fire-hose overwhelm, and why local action matters more than ever.

They talk about:
• Why celebrity “side hustles” and billionaire branding keep us chasing more
• How capitalism turns “enough” into failure
• The illusion of American exceptionalism and what fascism actually looks like
• Why your local school board might matter more than Congress
• What iteration (not hustle) really means for liberation
• How collective care—and choosing one or two issues you actually have energy for—is the real resistance

Resource mentioned:
• Deepa Iyer’s Social Change Ecosystem Map

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👉 On October 9, 2025, Feminist Founders is hosting The Weight We Carry, a free, focus-group-style conversation on invisible labor. We’ll share stories, hold space, and imagine what collective relief might look like. And your stories will directly shape a white paper we’re writing to push this issue into wider conversations where it belongs. ✨ Reserve your free spot here

In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown are joined by their dear friend and collaborator Faith Clarke. Faith is a workplace culture strategist who challenges extractive systems and works to build restorative, liberatory environments rooted in belonging.

Together, the three dig into what “belonging” really means—not as a buzzword, but as an embodied experience of communal care, shared responsibility, and accountability. Faith shares stories from her corporate and nonprofit experiences, connects belonging to invisible labor, and explains why true belonging requires honesty about what spaces can and can’t hold.

This is a conversation about work, family, faith, identity, power, and the hard truth that belonging isn’t something leaders “create”—it’s something communities must practice together.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What belonging feels like and how to recognize its absence
• Why extractive work systems can never truly foster belonging
• The violence of having to self-advocate in spaces that won’t meet your needs
• Invisible labor and how marginalized folks often hold it all together
• Why belonging must be a community responsibility and not left to leaders alone
• Signs your workplace or organization lacks true belonging
• How Faith and Becky are partnering on an upcoming container to address invisible labor

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Becky’s sick, Taina’s tired, and somehow that makes for the best kind of messy conversation. From writing smut to why summer feels like winter, this grab bag episode runs the gamut of sex, TV, astrology, and systemic injustice.

Discussed in this episode:

• What it’s really like to write sex scenes (and why it’s more about logistics than lust)
• Becky’s prudish confessions about watching intimacy on screen
• Love Is Blind: Brazil – Over 50 and why watching older women date is surprisingly joyful
• British comfort TV vs. American sensory-overload reality shows
• Astrology, natal charts, and why New Year’s actually starts in Scorpio or Virgo season
• Why summer feels like winter and autumn brings the most creativity
• Becky’s son’s “welcome to capitalism” moment with a half-empty bag of chips
• Activism that disrupts power at the table, not just in the streets
• The parallels between Baltimore and St. Louis: segregation, schools, and systemic inequities
• Infrastructure failures, unsafe water, and the privilege required to access safety

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THIS IS FOR COACHES (or anyone who uses coaching skills)...

Join Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown for a free live workshop on October 30th at 2 p.m. ET where we’ll explore what it really takes to grow as a coach rooted in liberation, not just business.

🌟 In this session, you’ll learn:

• What liberation can look like for you and your clients
• The 3 essentials every coach needs for a sustainable, liberatory practice
• How community can fuel your growth with fresh ideas, accountability, and support

This isn’t just another workshop—it’s a doorway into deeper connection with coaches who share your values.

👉 Reserve your free spot today: https://evt.to/eodmahasw

(If you can’t make it live, sign up anyway—replay will be available!)

This week, Becky and Taina cut through the noise—what “compromise” really means in a deeply divided America. Triggered by Jerry Greenfield’s exit from Ben & Jerry’s, Tad Stoermer’s critique of liberal nationalism, and the recent killing of Charlie Kirk, we unpack how stories are told, how power is preserved, and who gets to be the “martyr.”

We talk about:

• How Christian nationalism (via figures like Charlie Kirk) has evolved — from campus provocateur to media force to mythic martyr.
• Why “compromise” is pitched as a virtue — but often functions to protect white supremacy, heteropatriarchy, and nationalism.
• How grief and the narrative around someone’s death (Kirk’s, especially) are weaponized in service of myth-making and mobilization.
• The difference between compromise and surrender—and why that distinction matters in politics and in life
• Jerry Greenfield’s choice to leave Ben & Jerry’s rather than mute his values for corporate comfort
• Tad Stoermer’s warning about liberal nationalism, American mythology, and the weaponization of compromise
• The powder keg moment America is in, and what it means for those with privilege vs. those without
• Culture as propaganda: from Star Trek to 9/11 broadcasts to the cult of celebrity
• How white liberals cling to the dream of compromise and why it only leads to deeper harm
• What legacy really means—not just what you build, but what you walk away from

This is a heavy one. We name the fear, the grief, and the hope in imagining a future beyond duct-tape solutions. And, as always, we find a little levity at the end (Cardi B, Beyoncé, and witchy weekends).

Resources Mentioned:

• Tad Stoermer video: “Why U.S. Historians Keep Reinforcing American Nationalism (Even When They Think They Aren’t)”
• “A Resistance History of the United States” by Tad Stoermer (coming 2026)

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Death isn’t something most of us are taught to face with honesty, compassion, or ritual. In this episode of Messy Liberation, hosts Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown sit down with Nikki Smith, The Death Doula, to explore what it means to navigate dying, grief, and collective loss with more humanity.

Nikki shares how her personal experiences with loss led her to become a death doula and grief coach, and why she believes grief doesn’t have to suck. Together, we talk about how our culture fails us in grief (three days of bereavement leave? really?), the myths of the “stages of grief,” what collective grief looks like in moments like COVID and global injustice, and why rituals matter.

We also touch on end-of-life dignity, hospice care, and what Nikki has learned about her own mortality from walking alongside others in their final days. This conversation is real, tender, and surprisingly hopeful—it’s about love, legacy, and finding joy even in the hardest moments.

If you’ve ever felt alone in your grief, questioned how to support someone through loss, or wondered what it means to prepare for your own death, this episode will meet you right where you are.

Discussed in this episode:

• How Nikki became a death doula and grief coach
• Why toxic positivity is harmful in grief
• The many forms of grief, including disenfranchised grief
• The limitations of bereavement leave and how workplaces fail grievers
• Rituals and cultural approaches to death
• The myth of “stages of grief” and why grief is nonlinear
• Collective grief in times of crisis (COVID, genocide, natural disasters)
• The dignity (and indignity) of dying, and hospice care
• Talking with kids about death
• Finding joy, ritual, and love inside grief

Resources:

• Nikki Smith’s website (and podcast info)
• Nikki and Taina’s upcoming session on collective grief (Sept. 25)

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What does it mean to rest in a world that’s constantly demanding more from us—and why is rest such an essential part of resistance?

In this episode, Becky and Taina sit down with Jordan Maney (aka The Radical Joy Coach) to talk about rest as resistance, how to distinguish between anger and rage, and why “rest so you can rage” is a mantra worth remembering.

Together they unpack:

• The difference between anger (short-term) and rage (sustainable)
• Why rest, joy, and care are essential for sustaining activism and justice work
• What Audre Lorde meant when she said “anger is loaded with information and energy”
• How shame and defensiveness show up when we’re called in or called out
• The tension between white women co-opting “rest as resistance” vs. acknowledging privilege
• Rest equity and who most urgently needs access to true restoration
• Why rest isn’t the absence of doing, but the presence of restoration—creative rest, social rest, emotional rest, and more

Jordan reminds us that rest isn’t an excuse to check out. It’s a strategy for sustaining ourselves in the long fight against oppressive systems. Without it, burnout wins.

If you’ve ever felt guilty about slowing down, or wondered how to balance caring for yourself while also showing up for justice, this episode will leave you with a radical new lens on why rest isn’t optional—it’s part of the work.

Jordan Maney is The Radical Joy Coach and the host of Rest Lab podcast. She helps “bleeding hearts”—people who deeply give a damn—center rest, joy, and care in their lives as an act of resistance.

Resources & Links

• RestLab Report and Podcast, Jordan’s Substack
• “Joy Is a Strategy: The White Leftist Struggle with Spirit”
• “Uses of Anger” by Audre Lorde
• “Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto” by Tricia Hersey

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Becky and Taina sit down with Tiana Dodson, a body liberation facilitator who helps people reconnect with their bodies, destigmatize fatness, and confront the oppressive systems that keep us at war with ourselves.

Together, we dig into the messy, nuanced truths about body liberation: what it really means beyond “body positivity,” why loving your body isn’t always possible (or required), and how systemic oppression—not personal failure—shapes our relationships with our bodies.

Tiana shares her four-step framework for body liberation—education, reframing, resilience/self-care, and advocacy—and we talk about the real-life challenges of living in a fat body in a fatphobic, racist, capitalist culture. This conversation unpacks how liberation isn’t a destination but an ongoing practice of resistance, reclamation, and joy.

Discussed in this episode:

• The limits of body positivity and why “just love your body” is often inaccessible.
• The political realities of having a marginalized body and why they matter.
• Tiana’s journey from engineer to body liberation facilitator (with a spreadsheet love story in the mix).
• How trauma complicates body acceptance and why neutrality can be liberatory.
• The role of storytelling and representation in dismantling shame.
• Why reclaiming pleasure—from sex to ice cubes—is a radical act of liberation.

Resources Mentioned:

• "Fearing the Black Body" by Sabrina Strings
• "Fat Girls in Black Bodies" by Dr. Joy Arlene Renee Cox
• "The Body Is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor
• "Pleasure Activism" by adrienne maree brown

Connect with Tiana Dodson:

• Instagram: @iamtianadodson
• Website: tianadodson.com
• TikTok: @iamtianadodson

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This week on Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina dive headfirst into the chaos of U.S. politics, personal rights under threat, and the culture wars playing out in real time. From the militarization of D.C. to the looming Supreme Court cases threatening Obergefell, they unpack how Project 2025 is already reshaping daily life and why “just wait and see” isn’t an option when democracy is on the line.

They also get personal: what it means to feel unsafe in your own country, how queer couples are already strategizing to protect their families, and why pride flags signal more safety than American flags these days.

And because no episode is complete without calling out cultural contradictions, Becky and Taina take on Taylor Swift and the problem with white feminism. Can you enjoy the music while still holding celebrities accountable for their choices? Absolutely—but ignoring privilege and power isn’t an option.

It’s a heated, unfiltered conversation. If you’re activated by it, you’re not alone—just don’t forget to take care of your nervous system afterward.

Discussed in This Episode:

• Trump’s deployment of the National Guard in D.C. and the playbook of creeping fascism
• Project 2025 and how it’s already reshaping policy, strategy, and daily life
• The fight to protect Obergefell and what the threat to marriage equality means for queer families
• Lavender marriages, legal loopholes, and the exhausting extra labor LGBTQ+ couples face
• How rights once granted are now being stripped away—and the chilling precedent that sets
• Taylor Swift, celebrity feminism, and why “with great power comes great responsibility” isn’t just a comic book line
• White culture, “Midwest nice,” and the expectation that women should always perform “nice” at the expense of truth

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Some days aren’t fixable. They aren’t mindset problems. They aren’t invitations to “reframe.” They’re just heavy, painful, vulnerable days—and pretending otherwise only makes them worse.

In this episode, Becky and Taina talk honestly about what it looks like to live inside a bad day instead of trying to hustle your way out of it. From chronic pain and perimenopause to caregiving, grief, financial stress, and the impossible emotional math of deciding when it’s time to let go, this conversation holds the mess without trying to clean it up too fast.

This is an episode about asking for help when it feels like failure. About how self-gaslighting drains more energy than rest ever could. About the quiet power of naming your limits—and letting them be real.

If you’re feeling raw, overwhelmed, or stretched thin right now, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we talk about:
• Why some days can’t be “turned around” without doing more harm
• Chronic pain, perimenopause, and the emotional toll of living in a body that hurts
• The vulnerability hangover that comes after creating something meaningful
• How comparison and money talk can activate shame—even in values-aligned spaces
• Why asking for help can feel like failure, concession, or loss of power
• Parenting, partnership, and the guilt of needing rest
• Caregiving grief: loving someone (or a pet) while knowing the end is coming
• The impossible responsibility of deciding when to say goodbye
• Avoidance, coping, and why comfort isn’t the same thing as denial
• Letting a day be bad—and why that can actually prevent a spiral

If today feels heavy, you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone. Sometimes the most radical thing you can do is call it a bad day, ask for help, and let yourself rest without earning it.

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Misogyny isn’t just something “other people” do. In this conversation, Becky and Taina unpack the invisible ways it shows up in our language, our friendships, our relationships, and even inside ourselves.

From judging women for wearing too much makeup to men who call women “females,” we explore the sneaky red flags we’ve normalized. And we get real about the internalized misogyny we all carry, even as feminists.

We also talk about gay male culture borrowing from Black women, the emotional labor of womanhood, and why calling women “crazy” is more dangerous than it sounds. This episode is a gut-check for anyone raised inside patriarchal systems (so, all of us).

If you’ve ever wondered “Am I being too hard on other women?” or “Why do I feel unsafe in rooms full of women who all look alike?”—this one’s for you.

Here's Becky's Thread that prompted this episode

Discussed in This Episode:

• What misogyny really is—and how it shows up beyond violence or hate
• The difference between external and internalized misogyny
• Everyday red flags in men’s behavior (even the “nice guys”)
• The harm of calling women “females” and judging women’s choices
• Why internalized misogyny makes us distrust or judge other women
• How queer spaces can reinforce misogyny—especially toward trans women
• Gay male culture and the unacknowledged borrowing from Black women
• The emotional and invisible labor women carry in families and work
• How grief, caretaking, and people-pleasing are gendered expectations
• Why it’s not “misandry” when women resist patriarchy
• Judging aesthetics like pink or plastic surgery as a feminist
• Why “all his exes are crazy” is a major red flag
• How internalized misogyny shapes what art, comedy, and leadership we value
• Building feminist friendships and communities that aren’t copy-paste
• What it really means to divest from patriarchy without hating femininity

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Polyamory isn’t what you think it is. In this episode of Messy Liberation, we sit down with Frances Crusoe to talk about ethical non-monogamy, what it really looks like in practice, and how she navigates parenting, faith, and family while living a polyamorous life. We tackle misconceptions (no, it’s not all orgies), explore how jealousy really works, and dig into the radical idea that love isn’t a finite resource. If you’ve ever wondered how polyamory intersects with feminism, religion, and raising kids, this one’s for you.

Discussed in this episode:

• Frances’s journey from church life to polyamory

• The difference between polyamory, polygamy, and ethical non-monogamy

• How she talks to her kids about multiple partners

• Deconstructing jealousy and religious conditioning

• Why consent and communication are the cornerstone of poly relationships

• Polyamory myths and misconceptions (and what’s actually true)

• The intersection of feminism, faith, and love

Resource mentioned:

• “Opening Up” by Tristan Taormino: https://amzn.to/4mfzO2x

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Pedro Pascal’s red carpet style, Malcolm Jamal Warner’s tragic passing, and the chaos around the Epstein files — this episode of Messy Liberation goes everywhere at once. Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive into pop culture, politics, astrology, and messy real-life feminism with zero polish and plenty of swearing. From debating Pedro Pascal’s “daddy energy” and Leo season’s chaos to unpacking the Cosby Show legacy and the William McNeil police brutality video, they keep it bold, irreverent, and intersectional.

Discussed in this episode:

• Pedro Pascal’s red carpet moments and breaking masculinity norms
• Malcolm Jamal Warner’s drowning and the Cosby Show’s complicated legacy
• Dating strategically vs dating for love in your 20s
• Melania Trump and Kennedy Center renaming outrage
• Ghislaine Maxwell, Epstein files, and MAGA conspiracies
• Police brutality and the William McNeil dashcam video
• Venus Williams’ comeback and U.S. health insurance issues
• Leo season, assertiveness vs aggression, and zodiac dynamics

Resource mentioned:

• William McNeil dashcam video (TW: police brutality)

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Ever feel superior for hating the mainstream? Same. In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina dig into the hidden hierarchies we create when we judge popular culture, and how that feeds into white supremacy, fatphobia, and American exceptionalism. From YouTube vlogs and Hallmark movies to queer fanfiction and Audre Lorde, they explore how internalized systems show up in even our most frivolous pleasures. This is a funny, challenging, and honest convo about how true liberation means dismantling shit inside ourselves first—without killing joy in the process.

Discussed in this Episode

• Toxic traits around rejecting popular culture

• Fanfiction as a space for safety and creativity

• Hallmark’s evolving portrayal of queer characters

• Superiority complexes and gifted child syndrome

• Exceptionalism and American individualism

• Intersectional readings of pop culture (like Christmas in July)

• Fatphobia and anti-fat bias in medical systems

• Language policing and supremacy in grammar norms

• Audre Lorde’s ‘master’s tools’ and internalized systems

• How liberation work demands internal accountability

Resources Mentioned

• Ryan Trahan's 50 States in 50 Days YouTube Series

• St. Jude Children's Research Hospital

• "Pedagogy of the Oppressed" by Paulo Freire

• "The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House" by Audre Lorde

• Somebody Somewhere on HBO Max

• "An Actress of a Certain Age" by Jeff Hiller

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Grief is always in the room—and in this raw and powerful conversation, Becky and Taina explore the emotional weight of loss, anger, and what it means to truly feel your feelings. They unpack their personal experiences with recent death, the stigma around female rage, and why American culture is so broken when it comes to grief. From pet loss to patriarchal mindsets, they dive deep into the intersections of anger and grief, why somatic expression matters, and how caretaking roles often obscure our own needs. This episode is a tender reminder that grief and joy, anger and love, can—and do—coexist.

Discussed in this episode

• Why grief is always present—even when we don’t acknowledge it
• How female anger is suppressed (and why that’s dangerous)
• The myth of the angry Black woman
• Why anger and grief are somatic experiences, not just mental
• How American culture fails at grief
• The emotional labor of caretaking and parenting during loss
• Ways we gaslight ourselves through loss
• Visualization and embodiment practices for emotional release

Resources mentioned

• "Uses of Anger" by Audre Lorde
• The Emotions Wheel
• Bernadette Pleasant, The Emotional Institute
• "Patriarchy Stress Disorder" by Dr. Valerie Rein

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What if making art wasn’t about monetizing, optimizing, or gaining followers—but about freedom? In this episode, artist and writer Krishna Kayastha joins Becky and Taina to talk about reclaiming creativity from capitalism. From journaling to fanfic, motherhood to self-trust, Krishna shares her journey of redefining what it means to be an artist in a world that demands constant output and productivity.

They explore how hustle culture and girlboss messaging warped her creativity, why she stopped making art for money, and what it looks like to reclaim joy as a daily practice. She offers insights into how her habit tracking system, morning pages, and refusal to commodify everything have helped her stay rooted in her creative process—and why rest, fun, and fanfiction are deeply radical acts. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with burnout, self-doubt, or wondering if it’s okay to just make art for art’s sake.

Krishna’s website | Ink Blots and Fragments on Spotify | Krishna's Substack

Discussed in this episode:

• Creative liberation beyond capitalism
• Using fanfiction as resistance and joy
• The emotional toll of monetizing your passion
• Habit tracking for personal data and self-trust
• The Artist’s Way and morning pages
• Finding boundaries between public and private art
• Self-permission to create without perfection
• Rest as resistance and lunch as liberation
• Krishna’s podcast Ink Blots and Fragments
• Her Habit Tracker journal

Resource mentioned:

• "The Artist’s Way" by Julia Cameron

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If you’ve ever wondered how a Harry Potter course can be a masterclass in teaching white supremacy, systemic oppression, and feminist critique—you’re gonna love this episode. We’re joined by Professor Julian Womble, who uses the Wizarding World to help his students explore the messy intersections of identity, power, and representation. We dig into fanfiction as reclamation, Hermione’s white savior complex, Lavender Brown’s erasure, and how to love problematic art without ignoring its dangers. Come for the Draco redemption arc, stay for the discussion on teaching critical consciousness through pop culture.

Prof. Julian Wamble (Womble), he/him, is an Assistant Professor of Political Science at George Washington University, where he teaches a popular class called Harry Potter & the Politics of Social Identity. He’s also the host of Critical Magic Theory podcast.

Tiktok: @profw  |  Instagram: @prof.jw

Discussed in this episode:

• Teaching white supremacy using Harry Potter
• Hermione’s white saviorism and gendered politics
• Fanfiction as a tool for social change
• The erasure and racism around Lavender Brown
• The problem with redemption arcs only for male characters
• Draco Malfoy as a projection for reform
• Why separating art from artist is dangerous
• Creating guides for conscientious readers
• How fanfiction rewrites justice and inclusivity

Fanfic etiquette:

• Fanfic is free; never buy or sell to protect the space and observe copyright and IP laws
• Observe the authors rules regarding sharing and personal binding
• We don’t rate or review fanfic; it’s a gift. If you don’t like a particular one simply DNF (do not finish) and move on
• Always, always leave a kudos or comment to show appreciation for the authors effort
• Don’t be an asshole.

Resources mentioned:

• “James” by Percival Everett
• Let the Dark In by SenLinYu
• The Disappearances of Draco Malfoy by speechwriter
• Manacled by SenLinYu is no longer available
• Bloody, Slutty, and Pathetic by WhatMurdah
• Save Me Again by wolfstarlover20 (all queer fic Taina read during Pride month)

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You ever feel like the world is on fire and you're holding the matches and a bucket of water? Yeah, us too. In this raw and candid convo, Becky and Taina unpack their experiences around the No Kings protest, the complicated dynamics of white allyship, what it means to show up (and what it doesn’t), and the impossible standards placed on parents, especially moms. From the emotional labor of unlearning white supremacy to the tension between safety and activism, this episode dives deep into the mess of trying to do liberation right—and how there’s no one right way. This one’s for anyone caught between burnout, rage, and hope.

📝 Discussed in this episode

• Why Becky took her son to his first protest (and why he was terrified)
• The emotional toll of being "the good citizen" in a broken system
• Why showing up looks different for white folks vs. people of color
• The white guilt and self-righteousness loop we all have to confront
• The truth about public schools and their real purpose
• Taina’s take on “anti-mothering” and emotional labor
• Generational shifts in parenting and emotional intelligence
• Why curiosity can be an antidote to judgment
• The bullshit of performative allyship (and why praise-kinks are real)
• There’s no gold star for liberation—but we want one anyway

🔗 Resources mentioned

• Deepa Iyer’s Social Change Ecosystem Map
• Trash Tuesday Podcast

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SPECIAL RELEASE: Becky & Taina on Becky's other podcast, Assigned Reading (if you like this conversation, check out this new podcast here)

Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive deep into Sylvia Rivera’s 2001 speech, "Bitch on Wheels." They unpack Rivera’s righteous rage, explore the erasure of trans voices in LGBTQ history, and reflect on the importance of solidarity and intersectionality in the fight for liberation. This raw speech from a legendary activist is just as urgent today.

✍️ “Bitch on Wheels” by Sylvia Rivera

Discussed in this episode

- Sylvia Rivera’s legacy and speech context
- Stonewall riots from a trans perspective
- Marsha P. Johnson and Rivera’s activism
- Respectability politics and performative feminism
- White saviorism, allyship, and call-in vs. call-out
- Suicide and mental health in the trans community
- The role of anger in activism
- Collective care and intersectionality

Resources mentioned
- The Trevor Project
- Lee Brewster history
- Messy Liberation podcast

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This episode dives deep into Becky and Taina’s wildly different takes on romance novels, smut, and fanfic—plus what makes storytelling feel intimate or just pornographic. We cover the books we’re reading this summer, why Becky knocks stars off for explicit content, and what Audre Lorde has to say about feeling embodied. It’s messy, it’s honest, and it might make you laugh (or blush). Whether you love fanfic, hate sex scenes, or feel somewhere in between, this conversation unpacks it all with a feminist lens and zero shame.

Discussed in this episode

• Becky's summer reading binge: 15+ books a month

• Why explicit sex scenes turn Becky off

• Taina’s love for fanfic (especially emotionally mature Draco Malfoy)

• How Audre Lorde defines pornography vs. the erotic

• Navigating parenting and productivity during summer

• How generational differences show up in language and preferences

Resources mentioned

• “Slow Dance” by Rainbow Rowell

• “First-Time Caller” by B.K. Borison

• “Careless People” by Sarah Wynn-Williams

• “I'm Glad My Mom Died” by Jennette McCurdy

• Remain Nameless fanfic

• We Read Smut podcast

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This week’s episode goes straight for the tender spots—disability, guilt, surrender, messy healing, cultural expectations, accountability, and, yes… Beyoncé. It’s one of those conversations that reminds you why we started this show in the first place: to tell the truth about being human in a world that keeps demanding performance.

Taina opens with a vulnerable (and infuriatingly relatable) mess about navigating life with a disability while recovering from intense medical trauma, and the complicated guilt that comes with needing care instead of giving it. Becky names what’s underneath it all: grief for the life we thought we’d have. What follows is a wide-open, nuanced conversation about surrender, agency, capitalism’s lies about productivity, and the lifelong work of unlearning parentification. 

From there, we spiral beautifully into:

• What accountability actually looks like (BD Wong, RF Kuang, publishing vs. Hollywood power, and why identity + industry shape what’s possible)
• How nuance gets flattened on the internet, and why that harms marginalized people most
• Jay-Z and Beyoncé attending a Brandy concert and the absolutely chaotic discourse about whether they “should” have said hi (Ray J… buddy… please log off)
• Spotify Wrapped: joy, community, surveillance capitalism, FOMO, manipulation, and why we’ll still post ours anyway
• The ways pop culture reveals our own longing to belong—and the pressure to be ethically perfect inside systems built on exploitation

It’s tender. It’s political. It’s petty. It’s deeply liberatory. In other words: peak Messy Liberation.

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Is it possible for a horror movie to teach you history? In this episode, Becky and Taina dive deep into the viral new film “Sinners,” unpacking its cultural, political, and emotional power. From Ryan Coogler’s revolutionary copyright deal to the legacy of Jim Crow and Chinese immigration in the South, they explore how this southern gothic, vampiric allegory reveals the truth about American racism, resilience, and black joy. With plenty of irreverence and a little lipstick talk to start, this episode is one for your brain *and* your heart.

Discussed in this episode:

• The movie “Sinners” and its allegorical brilliance
• Ryan Coogler’s unheard-of copyright ownership deal
• The Mississippi Free Press review of Sinners
• How horror can offer historical and cultural education
• Depictions of Black life, trauma, and joy on film
• The Chinese Immigration Act and racial context in the South
• America’s myth-making and white savior complex
• Trump’s military parade and the “No Kings” rallies
• The reality of what’s happening in Palestine
• Taina’s former life as an evangelical Republican

Resources mentioned:

• Mississippi Free Press: https://www.mississippifreepress.org
• No Kings Rallies: https://www.nokings.org

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You don’t expect to leave a conversation about death and capitalism feeling inspired—but here we are. This episode dives headfirst into the intersections of death work, money trauma, collective care, and class consciousness. Stella Gold (they/them), founder of My Gold Standard, joins Becky and Taina to talk about their journey from hospice and death doula work to anti-capitalist money coaching—and how rebirth, grief, and radical redistribution play into all of it. Whether you’ve sworn off capitalism or are just starting to untangle your money mindset from the girlboss playbook, this convo will meet you where you’re at. Get ready for real talk about financial legacy, wealth redistribution, and why slow divestment can be a revolutionary act.

Stella Gold (they/them) is a genderqueer Rebirth + Wealth Coach for changemakers and comes from a lineage of activists. They are the founder of My Gold Standard, a believer in wealth activism, pro liberation from all oppressive systems, and collective care. Website | Instagram

Discussed in this episode

• What death work teaches us about money and community
• How grief impacts financial decision-making
• Why class consciousness must be part of any money conversation
• The myth of ‘pure’ divestment and the messiness of resisting capitalism
• Spirituality, religious trauma, and their role in financial healing
• What slow divestment looks like in real life (ex: leaving Amazon, ethical investing)

Resources mentioned

• "The Sum of Us" by Heather McGhee
• Carbon Collective
• Going With Grace
• Real You Leadership

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What happens when fanfic, therapy, chronic illness, and croissants collide? This episode of Messy Liberation is a rich blend of real talk and radical self-reflection. Becky and Taina explore chronic illness, returning to therapy, and the nuances of finding a Black therapist. They also deep-dive into the power of rest, hyperfixation (hello fanfic and HTML rabbit holes), and the liberatory framework of awareness, analysis, action, and accountability. With laughter, food porn, and a dash of ADHD hyperfocus, this convo is messy, meaningful, and full of feminist flavor.

Discussed in this Episode

• Taina's return to therapy and navigating chronic illness
• Why representation matters in therapeutic relationships
• The liberatory framework from Barbara J. Love: Awareness, Analysis, Action, Accountability/Allyship
• Fanfic as a tool for dissociation and joy
• Hyperfixation, ADHD tendencies, and the dopamine drip
• Rest as resistance and modeling what liberation looks like in real-time
• Resmaa Menakem and somatic healing
• Stolen Focus by Johann Hari and the attention economy
• The superior science of laminated croissants

Resources Mentioned

• Barbara J. Love’s Liberatory Consciousness Framework
• "My Grandmother’s Hands" by Resmaa Menakem
• "Stolen Focus" by Johann Hari
• Joy Oladokun music
• Becky’s Corporate Speak or Real Talk Game

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What if creativity wasn’t about talent or output—but about liberation? In this raw and relatable episode of Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina unpack the complicated relationship adults have with creative expression, especially under capitalism and toxic productivity culture. They talk about creative hobbies like sewing, baking sourdough, painting rocks, and learning languages—and how fear of imperfection or 'wasting time' often stops us from even trying. From ego death to somatic healing, they explore how creative play can be an act of reclamation, resistance, and embodiment. This one’s for anyone who’s ever said, 'I used to be creative…'

Discussed in this episode

• How capitalism and white supremacy sabotage our creativity

• Becky’s sewing dreams (and tote bags!)

• Taina’s love of baking and flower arranging

• Why it’s so hard to try something new as an adult

• Creative play as a somatic and healing practice

• Letting go of perfectionism and monetization

• The value of co-creation and community creativity

• How creative expression can fuel innovation in business

Resources mentioned

• The Great British Sewing Bee

• Empowered Embodied podcast with Kim Romaine

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In this grab bag episode, Becky and Taina get candid about everything from perimenopause and airplane germs to religious trauma and transformative fanfiction. Taina shares how one piece of Draco/Hermione fanfic cracked her wide open, while Becky reflects on the power of feeling seen in storytelling and media. They dig deep into the Catholic Church’s history of abuse, the political theater of the new Pope’s election, and how both personal and collective healing are tied to dismantling the systems that harm us. Expect musings on community, curiosity, cultish behavior—and a few pop culture tangents along the way.

Discussed in this Episode

• The surprising diversity of Houston, TX
• Air travel fears and post-pandemic etiquette
• Cultural differences in masking and public health
• Fanfiction as feminist literature
• Chronic illness representation in fiction
• The emotional labor of facilitation and caregiving
• Perimenopause, gendered medicine, and feeling invisible
• Religious trauma from both Catholic and evangelical backgrounds
• The politics of the new Pope and abuse cover-ups
• Community vs. cult dynamics and MAGA parallels
• Why questioning matters more than being right

Resources Mentioned

• "Greenlight" fanfic by Serena Muzaffir (on AO3)
• “Real Americans” by Rachel Khong
• “Daisy Jones and the Six” by Taylor Jenkins Reid
• Just Getting Better podcast

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In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina go deep on how to stay informed and engaged without burning out. They talk about the importance of limiting your news intake, ditching moral judgment about productivity, and embracing self-care that actually nourishes you (hint: it’s not a face mask). From managing chronic illness to laughing in the face of despair, they explore how joy, pleasure, and tiny acts of resistance keep us rooted—and keep us going.

Discussed in This Episode:

• Why reducing your news intake can be life-saving
• The somatic signs of stress and how to listen to them
• Embracing tiny, doable actions over giant to-do lists
• Letting go of capitalist ideas of productivity and morality
• Why hobbies like gardening and sourdough are revolutionary
• Finding joy as a radical act of resistance
• How to build community in hard times
• Defining self-care on your own terms

Resources Mentioned:

• Bulwark Takes podcast
• “How to Keep House While Drowning” by KC Davis
• Taina’s free values guide
• Becky’s new podcast, Assigned Reading

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Becky and Taina are pulling back the curtain on the newest thing they’re building together: the Messy Liberation Coaches Circle—a community for people who coach (formally or informally) and want to practice coaching through a liberatory, feminist, and anti-capitalist lens. In this episode, they share the messy, honest backstory of how the group evolved from a free meet-up into a paid space—and why that change was necessary for sustainability and reciprocity.

They talk about what makes the circle different from other coaching programs (no formulas, no gatekeeping, no 5K price tags), and what members can expect: co-working, spotlight support sessions, book club, and a whole lot of community care. They also share their dreams for what might come next—including pop-ups, co-op style referrals, and collective funds to redistribute resources. If you’ve been looking for a coaching space that feels more real, this might be it.

💬 Discussed in this episode:

• Why community without boundaries becomes unsustainable
• The difference between commerce and capitalism (and why this isn’t capitalist)
• Becky’s Enneagram 6 “community builder as trauma response” moment
• Sliding scale pricing and our approach to equitable access
• Taina’s vision for mutual aid inside a coaching community
• Co-creating a group instead of playing expert at the front of the room
• How we’re modeling what we believe about leadership and liberation
• What you actually get in the Coaches Circle
• Building the business you want—without doing it alone
• Our shared obsession with reciprocity, co-working, and subverting norms

📚 Resources mentioned:

• Messy Liberation Coaches Circle
• “Emergent Strategy” by adrienne maree brown
• “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron
• “The Serviceberry: An Economy of Abundance” by Robin Wall Kimmerer
• Feminist Podcasters Collective
• Wandering Aimfully by Jason & Caroline Zook

Feeling helpless about the state of the world? Same. In this episode, Becky and Taina serve up a spicy mix of rage and real talk about how to practice anti-fascism and anti-capitalism without burning yourself out. From mailing junk to the White House as protest (yes, really!) to joining tool libraries and neighborhood swaps, they share ideas that are affordable, actionable, and rooted in mutual aid.

They also go in hard on billionaires-in-space propaganda (👀 looking at you, Jeff Bezos), talk about why libraries are the ultimate resistance tool, and share fanfic-fueled joy as an act of defiance. This isn’t doomscrolling—it’s action-based community care for when you’re feeling powerless but still want to make a damn difference.

Discussed In This Episode:

• What “anti-fascist action” actually means (spoiler: you don’t need a pitchfork)
• How to use Project Maelstorm to flood the system with snail mail resistance
• Mutual aid ideas that cost little or nothing
• Why local libraries are radical tools of liberation
• Critiquing the billionaire joyride to space
• Building community with lending libraries, swaps, and shared skills
• Saying “fuck it” to performative feminism and embracing real-life impact

In this powerhouse episode, Becky and Taina go deep on the tangled roots of American music—from Negro spirituals and funk to country and bluegrass—and how Black artists have always shaped the sounds we now call “mainstream.” They unpack Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter backlash, how misogynoir fuels that criticism, and the difference between cultural appreciation and appropriation. And yeah, they go in on white defensiveness, Trump regrets, and what true harm repair looks like (hint: “sorry” isn’t enough). If you’re uncomfortable, good. You’re probably learning something.

Discussed in this episode:

• The healing power of funk and the somatic joy of dancing alone
• The PBS documentary A History of Funk Music and Black Liberation of the 1970s
• Cultural appropriation vs. appreciation in music (Justin Timberlake, anyone?)
• Misogynoir and the gatekeeping of country music
• Why Beyoncé absolutely belongs in the country genre
• Taina’s fire analogy about AI and cultural appropriation
• The impact > intent distinction (and the $10 egg drop)
• What true harm repair actually looks like
• Why “sorry” is step zero, not step one
• The Venn diagram of justice, and why it all comes back to humanity and collectivism
• Angry grannies, Trump regretters, and FAFO energy

Resources mentioned:

• A History of Funk Music and Black Liberation of the 1970s on PBS YouTube
• “James” by Percival Everett
• Rhiannon Giddens and Carolina Chocolate Drops

Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown explore what it means to move from reactivity to proactive dreaming in business and life. They unpack how a feminist future isn't just a dream—it's a practical framework rooted in collective care, somatic awareness, and justice-based entrepreneurship.

They weave in the wisdom of Black and Indigenous feminists like bell hooks, the Combahee River Collective, Audre Lorde, and Paula Gunn Allen. This episode is for liberation-minded founders who are tired of toxic "abundance mindset" advice that ignores class, and who want to explore equity-based business practices that reflect their values.

What You'll Learn:

• Why naming what we do want is crucial for sustainable change
• How collectivist, feminist, and Indigenous wisdom informs business
• What murmurations can teach us about entrepreneurial community
• How scarcity thinking shows up even in justice-driven businesses
• A reimagining of leadership and rest through shared care

Referenced in this episode:

• Combahee River Collective Statement
• “Emergent Strategy” by adrienne maree brown
• “Proposals for the Feminine Economy” by Jennifer Armbrust
• “Braiding Sweetgrass” and “The Serviceberry” by Robin Wall Kimmerer
• My Gold Standard with Stella Gold

Listen if you're ready to stop fighting alone and start building a business grounded in mutual care and liberation.

We didn't record a new show this week, but we're happy to share this episode of The Empowered & Embodied Show with Taina Brown. It's so good! Enjoy!

In this fiery episode of Messy Liberation, feminist business coach Becky Mollenkamp and special guest Taina Brown dive into the growing generational divide around gender equality. Sparked by Cosmo's recent “Feminism Recession” article and the global study it references, this episode unpacks the backlash to feminism among Gen Z men, the weaponization of data, and the hubris of white male leadership.

Discussed in this episode:

• Cosmo's “Feminism Recession” article breakdown
• Gender equity and generational divides
• The rise of anti-feminism among Gen Z men
• Political gaslighting and SignalGate
• Why data literacy and framing matter in feminism conversations
• White male privilege, institutional power, and public accountability
• Raising white boys with emotional intelligence

Resources mentioned:
 📖 “The Great Feminism Recession” in Cosmo
📊 Gender divide study by King’s College in London
📚 “When Your Abuser is Your President” from No Trifling Matter

In this episode, neuroscientist Dr. Kaela Singleton joins us to discuss the neuroscience behind manifestation, dopamine hacking, and why happiness isn’t a sustainable state. We explore how trauma and epigenetics impact the brain, why radical self-care is essential, and the intersection of neuroscience and systemic oppression. Kaela also shares insights on neuro-racism, the effects of capitalism on mental health, and how we can shift our mindset for true contentment.

Discussed in This Episode:

• What dopamine hacking is and why it’s misunderstood
• How manifestation and neuroscience actually intersect
• The truth about happiness and why it isn’t a sustainable goal
• How social media is affecting our attention spans
• The impact of systemic racism on the brain
• Neuro-racism and the historical misuse of neuroscience
• The role of trauma and epigenetics in shaping mental health
• Why radical self-care is a form of resistance
• How capitalism manipulates our dopamine responses
• Practical ways to retrain your brain for contentment

Resources Mentioned:

• Kaela Singleton on Insta
• Kaela Singleton on Bluesky
• Dr. Jim Doty on Mel Robbins’ podcast
• Black in Neuro
• “My Grandmother’s Hands” by Resmaa Menakem
• “They Can’t Kill Us Until They Kill Us” by Hanif Abdurraqib
• “Chain Gang All Stars” by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah
• “Portrait of a Thief” by Grace D. Li
• “Universality” by Natasha Brown
• Draco Malfoy and the Mortifying Ordeal of Being in Love

Dr. Kaela S. Singleton (she/her) is a Black Samoan Queer neuroscientist whose career blends groundbreaking research, community leadership, and advocacy for diversity in STEM. Raised in Georgia, she earned a bachelor’s degree in Neuroscience and Classical History from Agnes Scott College and a Ph.D. in Neuroscience from Georgetown University. Her postdoctoral research at Emory University focused on pediatric neurodegeneration, advancing cellular and developmental neuroscience. 

She now serves as the Director of Grants Management at Cure Alzheimer’s Fund.  Dr. Singleton’s expertise and leadership have earned her recognition as a NINDS BP-ENDURE alum, NINDS D-SPAN Scholar, and Burroughs Wellcome Fund PDEP Fellow. As the President and Co-Founder of Black In Neuro, an international nonprofit, Dr. Singleton is dedicated to fostering equity and accountability in STEM, creating inclusive spaces that celebrate and empower Black scholars.

Reality TV is entertaining, but at what cost? In this episode, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive deep into The Ultimatum: Queer Love, exploring how reality TV manipulates emotions, exploits trauma, and raises serious ethical concerns. They discuss the psychology behind our obsession with reality TV, the impact on mental health, and why binge-watching these shows can leave us feeling complicit in the drama. From Love Is Blind to The Real World, they examine how reality TV has evolved and whether it can ever be ethical.

Discussed in This Episode:

• The Ultimatum: Queer Love – What made it so intense?
• How reality TV manipulates emotions to keep us watching
• The psychology of reality TV: Why do we love watching drama unfold?
• Reality TV and mental health: The emotional toll on viewers and participants
• The ethics of reality TV: Consent, exploitation, and manufactured drama
• Parasocial relationships and why we feel connected to reality stars
• The impact of editing: How producers control the narrative
• The evolution of reality TV: From The Real World to Love Is Blind
• Reality TV and capitalism: Turning human experiences into profit
• Can reality TV ever be ethical? How it could be done differently

Reality TV isn’t just mindless entertainment—it reflects deeper cultural values and ethical dilemmas. Whether we love it or question it, we need to be more conscious of what we consume and why.

In this episode, we explore the challenges of staying engaged in activism without burning out. We discuss the emotional toll of activism, the importance of balancing activism and self-care, and how to navigate political exhaustion while maintaining momentum. We also unpack the role of joy in activism, strategies for self-preservation in social justice work, and why finding community in political resistance is essential. If you’ve been struggling with activist energy management, political fatigue, or feeling overwhelmed by the news cycle, this conversation offers tangible ways to stay hopeful and engaged.

Discussed in This Episode:

• How to stay engaged without burning out in activism
• Strategies for managing activist burnout and avoiding burnout as a changemaker
• The emotional toll of activism and how to handle it
• Why resisting white supremacist urgency culture is essential for sustained activism
• The role of joy in activism and how to stay hopeful in a chaotic world
• Navigating political exhaustion and self-preservation in social justice work
• How to find community in political resistance and why it matters
• Mental health and activism: managing activist energy and avoiding despair

Resources Mentioned:

• Indivisible
• Working Families Party
• “How to Keep House While Drowning” by KC Davis

In this episode, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive deep into how the fragile male ego shapes business, politics, and social structures. From toxic masculinity in business to the role of male fragility in politics, they explore how gender and power dynamics reinforce exploitation, scarcity, and entitlement. They also discuss the myth of ethical billionaires, how capitalism thrives on scarcity, and why feminist entrepreneurship offers a better path forward.

Discussed in This Episode:

• How the fragile male ego shows up in business and leadership
• Toxic masculinity in business and how it impacts decision-making
• Why billionaires and exploitation go hand in hand
• Can you be an ethical billionaire? The real cost of extreme wealth
• Male fragility in politics and its consequences on policy and society
• How capitalism thrives on scarcity and fuels individualism
• The entitlement of white men and why white women uphold patriarchy
• Feminist entrepreneurship as a model for ethical business practices
• How to challenge male fragility and create meaningful change
• The dangers of hyper-individualism vs. the power of collective thinking

Resource Mentioned:

• No, You’re Not Entitled to Your Opinion by Patrick Stokes

In this episode, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown are joined by Dra. Nicole Cabrera-Salazar, a former astrophysicist turned social impact consultant, to discuss the challenges women of color face in STEM, the problem with DEI in science, and the complexities of leaving academia for activism. Dra. Cabrera-Salazar shares her experience as a Latina scientist navigating systemic barriers, her transition from astrophysics to social justice work, and why marginalized communities drive innovation. 

The conversation explores perfectionism, self-sabotage as self-protection, and the radical act of asking for help in leadership. They also dive into how fear and confusion are used to control progress, why academia needs more diversity, and how resisting capitalist norms in business can lead to meaningful change.

Discussed in This Episode

• The intersection of science and social justice and why it matters
• Breaking barriers in STEM as a Latina and the reality of DEI in science
• How trauma shapes leadership and overcoming perfectionism as a leader
• Why asking for help is radical and the importance of community in business
• The truth about pre-compliance in activism and how fear is used for control
• Resisting capitalist norms in business and why science needs diversity
• The role of marginalized communities in driving innovation

Resources Mentioned

• Movement Consulting with Dra. Nicole Cabrera-Salazar
• Dra. Nicole Cabrera-Salazar on Instagram
• “Don’t Believe Him” by Ezra Klein
• “On Tyranny” by Timothy Snyder

In this episode, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive into the emotional and political turmoil of the current moment, discussing RFK Jr.'s appointment, Project 2025, and the SAVE Act's potential impact on voter suppression. They explore the balance between political despair and activism, the importance of self-care as resistance, and how communities can organize in the face of systemic attacks. With a focus on economic activism—including the upcoming February 28th no-spend protest—they discuss ways to resist burnout while staying engaged. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the state of the world, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone.

Discussed in this episode:

• The emotional toll of political anxiety and how to manage it
• RFK Jr.'s appointment to Health and Human Services and why it’s concerning
• Project 2025 and its potential impact
• The SAVE Act and how it could suppress voter rights
• Title IX rollbacks and the future of women’s rights
• How to fight political burnout and stay engaged
• The role of self-care as political resistance
• How mutual aid and community support can help in times of uncertainty
• The February 28th no-spend day protest and how to participate
• The importance of economic activism as a form of resistance

If you’re looking for ways to navigate the current political landscape without feeling paralyzed, this episode is for you. Tune in and join the conversation.

What’s a hall pass, and who would be on yours? In this episode, Becky and Taina dive into the fun (and slightly messy) world of celebrity crushes and the famous faces that make their lists. From Paul Rudd’s dad bod appeal to Charlize Theron’s effortless elegance, and even the surprise pick of Jeff Goldblum, they unpack the psychology of attraction, the cultural fascination with hall passes, and whether they’re just harmless fun or something more. Plus, do we really have a type, or is attraction totally random? Let’s get into it!

Discussed in This Episode:

• What is a hall pass in a relationship?
• Our ultimate celebrity crush picks (and why we chose them)
• Paul Rudd, Robert Downey Jr., and Jeff Goldblum – crush-worthy or not?
• The allure of Charlize Theron and Emma Stone
• The hottest male and female celebrities we’d put on our lists
• The psychology behind attraction—do we actually have a type?
• Is a hall pass considered cheating, or is it just harmless fun?
• Why we love funny, confident, and slightly rebellious people
• Our audience’s favorite celebrity crushes (send us yours!)

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📧 Email us at messyliberation@gmail.com with the subject line Hall Pass.
💬 Comment on YouTube to share your picks!

Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one—it’s also about losing a sense of security, hope, or the future we envisioned. In this episode, we explore collective grief, political trauma, and how to navigate grief in uncertain times. Whether you're dealing with election grief, managing stress and burnout, or struggling with systemic trauma, we share practical strategies for self-care during political turmoil, coping with overwhelming news, and finding comfort when the world feels heavy.

We’ll also discuss how grief manifests in the body, somatic healing techniques, and the surprising connection between burnout and grief. If you’ve been wondering how to survive grief in tough times and keep going despite everything, this episode is for you.

Discussed in this episode:

• Processing political and social grief and why it’s more than just about death
• How political changes impact mental health and everyday life
• The relationship between burnout and grief (and how to manage both)
• How to navigate grief in difficult times without shutting down
• Self-care strategies for dealing with election grief and political overwhelm
• Somatic healing and grief: How our bodies hold onto stress and trauma
• How to find comfort during uncertain times and create safe spaces for healing

Resources mentioned:

• “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” by Emily & Amelia Nagoski
• SmashingPatriarchy.com - feminist merch
• Taskmaster on BBC
• Follow Becky on BlueSky
• Follow Taina on BlueSky
• Taina’s post about the Lunar New Year

In this episode of Messy Liberation, hosts Taina Brown and Becky Mollenkamp welcome guest Marina Daldalian, a software product manager, health coach, and passionate advocate for fat liberation and mutual aid. Marina shares her journey into mutual aid, including how it intersects with fat liberation, and explores the power of direct giving over traditional charity models. The conversation delves into how systemic inequities in capitalism and healthcare impact marginalized communities, the principles of Health at Every Size, and the importance of ethical health coaching. Marina also reflects on COVID realism, its connection to disability, and her approach to community care that centers values of equity, mutual aid, and intersectional feminism.

Marina's Website

Discussed in This Episode:

• What mutual aid is and why it matters
• The intersection of fat liberation and mutual aid
• Direct giving vs. charitable donations: What's the difference?
• How mutual aid circles work and amplify impact
• The challenges and rewards of setting boundaries in mutual aid
• Health at Every Size and its principles
• Ethical health coaching and navigating systemic barriers to health
• COVID realism and its connection to chronic illness and disability
• How systemic oppression shapes access to healthcare
• Choosing belief, compassion, and community care

Resources Mentioned:

• Marina DalDalian
• Association for Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH)
• Angel Austin of Sacred Space for Fat Bodies
• Episode 27 of Messy Liberation: "Beyond Charity"
• You Need a Budget (YNAB)
• Marquisele (Mikey) Mercedes
• Lindo Bacon Accountability controversy

This week’s episode of Messy Liberation is exactly what the name promises: deeply human, a little chaotic, politically charged, creatively fueled, and threaded with the kind of vulnerability most people only share with their therapist.

Becky opens up about the messy joy and stomach-turning self-doubt of writing her first book — including imposter syndrome, fears of co-opting liberatory work, the ethics of citation, and the tension between wanting to be seen and fearing the inevitable rejection that visibility invites.

Then Taina dives into her own mess: the viral rumor about Donald Trump allegedly performing a sexual act on Bill Clinton (yes, really), the cultural fallout, the misogyny underneath homophobia, and the horrifying normalization of sexual violence in politics and media.

It’s an episode that moves from book-writing anxiety… to Brene Brown… to Epstein… to consent… to cult dynamics… to “underage women” as a media phrase… to slow-burn lesbian jokes… to the existential absurdity of trying to hold nuance in a collapsing empire.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• The behind-the-scenes process of writing Becky’s liberatory business book
• Imposter syndrome, power, privilege, and the fear of getting it wrong
• The ethics of citation, accountability, and writing through a white lens
• Why visibility feels both intoxicating and terrifying
• How to engage in liberatory work without replicating harm
• The alleged Trump/Clinton sexual scandal and why it’s blowing up online
• Misogyny, homophobia, femininity-as-weakness, and power dynamics
• Why the phrase “underage women” is a dangerous media trap
• The GOP’s terrifying attempt to normalize sexual violence
• Laughing at the absurdity as a survival strategy
• Updates from last week’s messes (the school-board situation + relationship boundaries)
• The difference between mess that moves us forward and mess that destroys democracy

Resources + Mentions

• "Emergent Strategy" by adrienne maree brown
• The Messy Liberation Coaches Circle

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Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown discuss what’s bringing them joy amidst the chaos of 2025. The duo explores topics ranging from the emotional weight of MLK Day coinciding with the inauguration of a second Trump presidency to personal tools for finding balance, like Becky’s “sexy-ass spreadsheet.” They also dive into the cultural phenomenon surrounding Red Note, the platform rising from TikTok's potential ban, and their favorite media that brings light to dark times. This episode offers equal parts levity, resilience, and actionable inspiration to navigate a complex world.

Discussed in This Episode

• MLK Day Reflections: The emotional complexities of celebrating Martin Luther King Jr.’s legacy during a politically charged inauguration.
• Protecting Peace: Balancing self-care and civic engagement during tumultuous times.
• Red Note vs. TikTok Ban: The political and cultural implications of shifting platforms, including the risks and ironies involved.
• Finding Joy: Becky’s 100-rejections challenge and how her spreadsheet is helping her stay organized and motivated.
• TV and Media Highlights: Shows that brought joy, including Shrinking, Ghosts, and Survival of the Thickest, contrasted with critiques of shows written by men about women.
• Book Recommendations: Becky’s delight with Frozen River by Ariel Lawton, a surprising find focusing on women’s resilience and justice.
• Joyful Acts of Service: Stories of grassroots aid efforts, like replacing wedding dresses for brides impacted by California fires.
• Upcoming Guests: A sneak peek at the podcast’s first guest, Marina, discussing mutual aid and health equity.

Resources Mentioned

• ”Frozen River” by Ariel Lawton
• “Miss Benson's Beetle” by Rachel Joyce
• Shrinking (Apple TV)
• Ghosts (CBS)
• Survival of the Thickest (Netflix)
• Kelly Mosser’s initiative to replace wedding dresses for fire victims
• Email Becky and Taina at messyliberation@gmail.com
  
  
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In this episode, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive deep into current events and societal issues that intersect with politics, education, and media literacy. Starting with Trump’s shocking comments about taking over Greenland, they explore the deeper implications of colonialism, geopolitics, and the myths surrounding the American Dream. They also tackle the growing distrust in mainstream media, the controversy over Meta dropping fact-checking, and how critical media literacy is vital for the next generation.

Through their discussion, Becky and Taina share insights into why Denmark is consistently rated one of the happiest countries in the world and what the U.S. could learn from its policies. From Canada’s hypothetical 51st state status to TikTok’s role in modern journalism, this episode offers a mix of humor, hard truths, and actionable advice for navigating today’s media landscape.

Discussed in This Episode

• Trump’s Greenland comments and their colonial undertones
• Why Greenland and Canada are geopolitically strategic
• The legacy of colonialism and its modern manifestations
• Why Denmark is happier than the U.S. (hint: universal healthcare and equality!)
• Socialism vs capitalism: A global perspective
• The myths of the American Dream and how they perpetuate inequality
• Meta’s decision to drop fact-checking: Opportunity or disaster?
• Media conglomerates and their impact on democracy
• TikTok’s role in journalism and citizen journalism explained
• Why critical thinking and media literacy need to be taught in schools
• The flaws in the U.S. education system and how it impacts future generations
• Freedom of speech and the fourth estate: Why the media matters

Resources Mentioned

• National Association for Media Literacy Education
• Under the Desk News on Tiktok
• 1984 by George Orwell
• Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury
• To book a coffee chat with Becky or Taina, email messyliberation@gmail.com

Becky and Taina dive into the reality that everything is political. From the "boy mom" TikTok trend to the everyday choices we make as parents and consumers, they unpack the systemic forces that shape our lives and decisions. Together, they explore how privilege influences parenting, the ethics behind makeup and toys, and why small, intentional changes can create ripples of systemic change. This conversation challenges listeners to see the political implications of even the most mundane decisions and take actionable steps toward building a more equitable world.

Discussed in This Episode

• What "everything is political" really means
• The "boy mom" TikTok trend and normalized violence in toys
• White privilege and its influence on parenting decisions
• How systemic racism shapes the way children of different races are raised
• Gender norms in parenting and the erasure of non-binary identities
• Ethical consumerism and the politics of makeup and toys
• The challenges of parenting within systemic oppression
• Strategies for raising socially conscious kids
• Small, daily political choices that contribute to systemic change
• The intersection of parenting and politics and its impact on society

Resource Mentioned

• Cheekbone Beauty

In this episode, Becky and Taina reflect on the challenges and lessons of 2024, offering insights into resilience, community, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of learning from failure, navigating systemic issues, and embracing joy and self-care amidst chaos. Whether you're looking for practical business lessons, inspiration for 2025, or simply some thoughtful conversation, this episode has something for you.

Discussed in This Episode

• Resilience in hard times and overcoming anxiety in challenging years
• Lessons from 2024: personal, business, and community insights
• The value of interdependence and community support during a crisis
• Joyful living in 2025 and setting intentional goals
• Navigating a “shit show” year with grace and strength
• Prioritizing self-care in chaos and cultivating belief in oneself
• Moving toward collective liberation and rejecting toxic capitalism

Resources Mentioned

• Savage Inequalities by Jonathan Kozol
• Erica Courdae on interdependence
• “Rethinking Social Media: Balancing the Attention Economy with Entrepreneurial Success” episode of Messy Liberation