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Most men are performing in the bedroom instead of feeling.

And that performance pressure — the tension, the monitoring, the desperate need to get it right — is the very thing killing the turn on.

In this episode I sit down with Sapphire Leela — sex and relationship coach and therapist in training, working with men across Europe, Israel, and the UK — for a deep and honest conversation about what's actually happening when men struggle in the bedroom.

And here's the first thing she makes clear:

👉 It's never just about sex.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why performance pressure creates tension — and how to move from tension into turn on
• How a man's identity is tangled up in his sexuality — and what happens when that identity feels threatened
• Why the cock is often experienced as a representation of the man himself
• Why vulnerability is a turn on — and why being fully exposed takes more courage than most men realize
• Why sensitive men are often afraid to break boundaries — and what that costs them
• How to drop into the body and actually feel instead of think
• Why we need a powerful, grounded voice to counteract the manosphere — one that tells men there is another way
• The nervous system's role in sexual identity and finding the sweet spot
• The bad boy question — why women are turned on by the bad boy, and what's actually happening beneath that attraction
• The difference between activation and arousal — and why growing up around unstable masculine energy makes the familiar feel like desire
• The dichotomy that changes everything: the macho man activates. The nice guy comforts. Neither alone is enough.
• Why the sweet spot — the man who blends the grounded strength of the macho with the emotional availability of the nice guy — is what women are actually hungry for

That last point is worth sitting with.

The bad boy doesn't turn women on because he's bad.

He turns them on because he activates their nervous system — and activation gets confused with arousal.

But activation without safety isn't intimacy.

It's just familiarity dressed up as desire.

The man women actually want isn't the nice guy who abandons himself to please her.

And he isn't the macho man who uses dominance to avoid vulnerability.

He's the man who can hold both.

Strong enough to lead. Open enough to feel. Present enough to be fully there.

That's the sweet spot.

And this episode is a map to finding it.

🎧 Listen to Episode 91 now.

Connect with Sapphire Leela:

🌐 Website: https://www.sapphireleela.com/📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacy.with.sapphire/🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/sapphireleela

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What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you?

Jim Benson is having the best sex of his life in his mid sixties.

Not despite his age.

Because of the practices he's spent twenty years developing and teaching to men.

In this episode I sit down with Jim Benson — founder of Awakened Masculine, certified Tantra teacher, and a man who has spent over two decades helping thousands of men overcome performance anxiety, sexual shame, and self-doubt through practical, embodied tools that actually work.

This conversation goes far beyond technique.

It's about fundamentally changing your relationship to pleasure, arousal, and what's actually possible in your body.

The foundation Jim keeps coming back to:

Presence.

Not as a concept. As a practice.

Most men are somewhere else during sex. In their head. Monitoring performance. Anticipating the finish line. Anywhere but actually here — feeling what's happening in their body right now.

And here's what Jim has discovered after twenty years of working with men:

👉 Pleasure and sensation are one of the most powerful presence practices available. Just like yoga. Just like meditation. But the focus is on what feels good — and learning to stay there.

The other thing that will change how you think about sex:

Your turn on is an electric rod.

You can learn all the techniques in the world. But the thing that will light your partner up the most is your own genuine relationship with arousal. Your own aliveness. Your own presence in the pleasure.

That's not something you perform.

It's something you cultivate.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why presence is the foundational tool for a better sex life — and how pleasure trains it
• Why men struggle to slow down — and why slowing down is the key to everything
• The dopamine problem — why high stimulation makes subtlety feel boring and how to recalibrate
• How your own turn on and arousal directly impacts your partner's experience
• What non-ejaculatory orgasms actually are — and why they're available to every man
• Jim's three step process for becoming non-ejaculatory and multi-orgasmic:
• What you can practice on your own vs. with a partner
• How to genuinely hone your personal practices to show up better in the bedroom
• Why Jim is having the best sex of his life in his mid sixties — and what that means for every man listening

This episode isn't about lasting longer as an end goal.

It's about expanding what's possible.

A sex life where orgasm isn't the finish line. Where pleasure isn't localized to one place. Where your body becomes a full instrument of sensation, presence, and connection.

That's what Jim has spent twenty years helping men build.

And it's available to you.

🎧 Listen to Episode 90 now and begin expanding what you thought was possible.

Connect with Jim Benson:

🌐 Awakened Masculine — https://awakenedmasculine.com/📸 Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/awakenedmasculinebyjim/

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Most men think women can get anything they want.

And in some ways — they're right.

But here's what most men don't know:

There are hundreds of women paying for male companionship in Australia right now.

Not because they can't find a man.

Because they can't find the right experience with one.

In this episode I sit down with George Goulburn — a professional male escort based in Australia where this work is fully legal — for one of the most fascinating and eye opening conversations I've had on this show about what women are actually looking for, what they're not finding, and what that means for every man who is dating or in a relationship.

George has spent hundreds of hours with women — listening to them, being present with them, understanding what they need. Not from a pickup artist playbook. Not from a dating coach script.

From direct, real, lived experience.

And what he's heard behind closed doors is something most men will never get access to.

👉 Women are not lacking options. They are lacking quality.

They are lacking presence. They are lacking men who actually listen. Men who lead without dominating. Men who make them feel seen, safe, and desired — all at the same time.

In this conversation we explore:

• The truth about what women are paying for — and what it reveals about what's missing in modern dating
• Why so many women feel like they can't find what they're looking for despite having endless options
• What women consistently say they want from men — and what they're consistently not getting
• The gaps most men are leaving that a conscious man can step right into
• What real presence, attentiveness, and emotional availability actually look like in practice
• Behind the scenes stories from hundreds of encounters with women across all walks of life
• Dating tips and insights that go far deeper than technique or lines
• How to genuinely stand out as a man in a world full of men who are checked out
• What women are really saying when they pay for an experience — and what every man can learn from it

This episode isn't about becoming a male escort.

It's about understanding women at a level most men never bother to reach.

Because the man who understands what women actually need — not what dating culture tells him they want — is the man who stands out without even trying.

🎧 Listen to Episode 89 now and hear what women are saying when they think no man is listening.

Connect with George Goulburn:

🌐 Website: georgegoulburn.com📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial/

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This episode is not just for men who want to have kids.

It's for every man who is sexually active.

Because here's something most men never think about:

Most babies are oops babies.

And if you're sexually active at all — the health of your sperm matters. Not just for whether you want children someday. But for what your sperm quality is telling you about your overall health right now.

In this episode I sit down with Gabriela Rosa — Harvard trained fertility specialist, founder and CEO of the Rosa Institute, and author of The Fertility Book — for one of the most eye opening conversations I've had on this show about men's health, vitality, and what's actually happening inside our bodies in the modern world.

Here's the number that stopped me cold:

👉 Sperm quality has decreased by 60% in the last fifty years.

60 percent. In half a century.

That is not a small shift. That is a crisis. And most men have no idea it's happening — let alone that it might be happening to them.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why sperm quality is a vital sign — just like blood work — and what it reveals about overall health
• The direct connection between fertility, cardiovascular health, and sexual function
• Why a healthy body is a fertile body — and a fertile body is a healthy body
• What has driven the 60% decrease in sperm quality over the last fifty years
• How what we consume and what we come into contact with every day is either building or degrading our health
• Why most pregnancies happen by accident — and why that means every sexually active man should be paying attention
• The environmental, dietary, and lifestyle factors that are quietly impacting men's reproductive and overall health
• What men can do right now to start improving their health markers across the board
• Why this conversation goes far beyond fertility — and into what it means to be a vital, healthy man in the modern world

This episode is a wake up call.

Not to create fear.

But to create awareness.

Because the truth is — your body is already keeping score. Your sperm quality, your cardiovascular health, your sexual function — they are all connected. They are all telling the same story.

The question is whether you're paying attention.

A healthy body is a fertile body.

And a fertile body is a body that is fully alive.

🎧 Listen to Episode 88 now.

More from Gabriela Rosa:

https://www.instagram.com/gabrielarosafertility/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1q5RJSIx7M

https://gabrielarosa.fertilitybreakthrough.com/fertility-challenge/

https://fertilitybreakthrough.com/

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I asked a simple question on social media:

"Why didn't you have sex today?"

The comments exploded.

Men and women from all over — in relationships, in marriages, in situations they'd never talked about publicly — started sharing the real reasons sex keeps getting pushed to the back burner.

And what came up wasn't what most people expect.

It wasn't just busyness. It wasn't just kids or exhaustion or stress.

It was deeper than that.

Resentment that never got addressed. Touch that stopped feeling safe. Desire that quietly died while life kept moving. Two people sharing a bed who stopped truly connecting somewhere along the way — and neither one knew exactly when it happened.

In this episode I go through those comments — the real ones, from real people — and dive into what's actually keeping couples from having sex in their day to day lives.

Because this isn't a small problem.

Research consistently shows that sexual disconnection is one of the leading drivers of relationship dissatisfaction, emotional distance, and eventually — separation.

And yet most couples never have a direct conversation about it.

In this episode we explore:

• The most common reasons couples stop having regular sex — and what's underneath each one
• Why busyness is rarely the real reason
• How resentment, unspoken needs, and emotional distance quietly kill desire
• Why touch becomes loaded — and what it takes to make it feel safe again
• The difference between a relationship that has hit a dry spell and one that is genuinely disconnected
• What the research actually says about how often couples are having sex — and what that's costing them
• How men and women experience sexual disconnection differently
• What it takes to not end up there — and how to find your way back if you already are
• Why the conversation about sex is more important than the sex itself

This episode isn't about blame.

It isn't about making anyone wrong for where they are.

It's about bringing one of the most avoided conversations in relationships into the light — because the couples who talk about it are the ones who stay connected.

And the ones who don't?

They wake up one day and wonder what happened.

The question isn't just why you didn't have sex today.

👉 The question is — what are you building toward together?

🎧 Listen to Episode 87 now and start the conversation.

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Most men think a better sex life comes from learning better techniques.

It doesn't.

The biggest thing standing between most men and a deeply satisfying intimate life isn't skill. It isn't stamina. It isn't knowing the right moves.

It's emotional intelligence.

Not having it is one of the biggest cock blockers there is.

And developing it? That's when everything changes — in the bedroom and everywhere else.

In this episode I break down one of the most powerful psychological frameworks I've come across for understanding why we do what we do, feel what we feel, and react the way we react in intimate moments:

Internal Family Systems — IFS.

The core idea is this:

You are not a single, unified "you."

You are a multiplicity. A system of parts — each with its own perspective, its own fears, and its own job to do. And until you understand those parts, they will keep running the show in your relationships, in your body, and in your bedroom — without you even realizing it.

The three core parts in IFS:

• Managers — the parts that try to keep you safe by controlling everything before anything bad can happen. In the bedroom: the part that overthinks, monitors performance, stays locked in his head instead of feeling pleasure. The part that says don't get too vulnerable, don't want too much, stay in control.

• Firefighters — the parts that react fast when pain or fear breaks through anyway. Impulsive. Extreme. In the bedroom: the part that checks out, goes numb, rushes to finish, reaches for porn, or disappears into fantasy to escape the discomfort of real intimacy.

• Exiles — the wounded parts carrying the original pain. Shame. Rejection. The memory of being too much or not enough. These are the parts managers and firefighters are working so hard to protect. In the bedroom: the part that quietly believes I'm not good enough. I'll be rejected. Something is wrong with me.

How this connects to performance anxiety:

Performance anxiety isn't a sex problem.

It's a parts problem.

A manager trying to control the outcome. A firefighter ready to shut the whole thing down the moment it gets uncomfortable. An exile underneath it all carrying a wound that was never looked at.

Until a man gets curious about those parts — instead of fighting them or being hijacked by them — the anxiety doesn't go away.

It just finds new ways to show up.

This episode goes far deeper than technique.

It's about building the kind of self-awareness, presence, and emotional intelligence that makes real intimacy possible.

Because the sex life most men want?

It starts inside.

🎧 Listen now and begin getting curious about what's actually running the show.

Want to go deeper into parts work?

I've put together a playlist of my favorite parts work videos to help you explore this further:👉 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNr3Bu5Rb3LbbulZJmL6lATkWB5icMqyH&si=dfTRQd_L4T0gFlqD

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Most men are running on empty and calling it normal.

Low energy. Flat libido. Erections that aren't what they used to be. A body that feels like it's slowly powering down.

And the answer they're given is either a pill or "that's just aging."

Both are wrong.

In this episode I sit down with Kunal Chatkara — functional health coach specializing in hormones and bioenergetics — for one of the most practical and eye-opening conversations I've had on this show about what it actually takes to build a body that is vital, vigorous, and fully alive.

Because here's what most men don't understand:

👉 A healthy sex life isn't separate from a healthy life. It's a direct reflection of one.

When your testosterone is optimized. When your nitric oxide production is strong. When your cortisol is regulated and your sleep is deep and your cells are actually functioning the way they were designed to — you don't just have better erections.

You have a better life. In every area.

And the reverse is equally true.

What you do every single day is building — or depleting — the energy reserves that determine how you think, how you feel, how you show up, and yes, how you perform sexually.

In this conversation we explore:

• Testosterone — what actually moves the needle and what's overhyped
• HRT and peptides — when they make sense and what men need to know
• Endothelial health, nitric oxide, and the direct connection to blood flow and erections
• DHEA, cortisol, and how chronic stress is quietly destroying men's hormonal health
• Why sleep is one of the most powerful testosterone optimization tools available
• Progressive overload and how training directly impacts hormonal output
• The supplement conversation — zinc with copper, magnesium glycinate, shilajit, maca, and what the evidence actually says
• Working at the cellular level — bioenergetics and what's happening beneath the surface
• How your daily habits are building your biological future right now
• Why men who focus on sexual health end up healthier in every other area of life

This episode is for the man who wants more than just to function.

It's for the man who wants to be fully turned on by his life.

More energy. More drive. More presence. More pleasure.

Not because he's chasing performance.

Because he's built a body and a life worth showing up for.

🎧 Listen to Episode 85 now.

More from Kunal-

🌐 Website: CoachKunal.com
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bioenergeticspecialist

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Most men are getting the wrong diagnosis.

Not because their doctor is incompetent.

Because the tools to get the right one haven't existed — until now.

In this episode I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — Emergency Medicine physician, Harvard and Boston University educated, serial healthcare entrepreneur, and founder of FirmTech — for a conversation that is going to change how you think about your body, your health, and what your erections are actually telling you.

Here's the reality most men don't know:

A man walks into a cardiologist with chest pain. He gets an EKG. Ultrasound. Bloodwork. A full picture of what's happening inside his cardiovascular system.

A man walks into a doctor with erectile symptoms.

He gets a pill.

No data. No investigation. No curiosity about what's actually going on.

That is a massive problem. Because erections aren't just about sex.

👉 They are one of the most accurate windows into a man's cardiovascular health available.

The frequency of your erections. The firmness. What's happening while you sleep. These are vital signs. And most men — and most doctors — are completely ignoring them.

Dr. Justin built FirmTech to change that.

FirmTech's TechRing is a wearable device that tracks nocturnal erections — the automatic erections men have while sleeping — measuring frequency, duration, and firmness. To date FirmTech has tracked over a quarter million erectile events, building a dataset that is reshaping how we understand men's sexual and cardiovascular health.

And what that data is revealing is this:

A lot of men who think they have erectile dysfunction — don't.

Their nighttime erections are healthy. Which means the issue isn't physical. It's psychological. Relational. Situational. Something that pills will never fix — and that no one ever bothered to investigate.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why erections are one of the most important cardiovascular vital signs a man has
• The difference between erectile dysfunction and erectile disappointment — and why that distinction changes everything
• Why the virility industry is worth billions and still leaving most men without real answers
• What nocturnal erection data actually reveals about blood flow, vascular health, and overall wellbeing
• How FirmTech's TechRing works and what men are discovering about themselves
• Why so many men are treating a psychological or relational issue with a physical solution
• What a real standard of care for men's sexual health should actually look like
• Why the data says this is not just an older man's issue

This episode isn't just for men experiencing symptoms.

It's for every man who wants to understand what his body is already trying to tell him.

Because your erections aren't just about pleasure.

They're about whether your heart is going to keep beating.

🎧 Listen to Episode 84 now.

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A lot of men today are walking around half dead.

Not physically.

But energetically.

Screens. Porn. Dopamine on demand. The slow numbing of a man who has forgotten what it feels like to be truly alive in his own body.

And underneath all of it — guilt. Shame. Anger turned inward.

A quiet war a man is fighting against himself.

That's where this conversation starts.

In this episode I sit down with Natalie — host of Tantra for the Soul on YouTube — after stumbling across one of her videos and immediately knowing she needed to be on this show.

Her work is simple and powerful:

Helping men release the guilt, shame, and self-directed anger that is keeping them disconnected from their own sexuality — and from themselves.

Because here's what most men don't realize:

👉 The shame isn't protecting you. It's draining you.

And the sexual energy you've been taught to suppress, medicate, or feel bad about?

That is some of the most powerful energy you have access to.

The question isn't how to get rid of it.

The question is how to transmute it.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why releasing guilt and shame is the foundation of a healthy relationship with sexuality
• How self-directed anger keeps men locked in disconnection
• The difference between building connection with self vs. staying in disconnection
• What it actually takes to stop numbing and start feeling
• How screens and porn are creating a generation of energetically depleted men
• What transmuting sexual energy into masculine power actually looks like
• How sexuality — when worked with consciously — becomes one of the most potent forces a man has
• What it takes to move from zombie to alive

This isn't about willpower.

It isn't about white-knuckling your way away from what numbs you.

It's about giving a man something so much better to move toward that the numbing loses its grip.

Alive men don't need to escape.

Because they're actually here.

This episode is an invitation to come back.

To your body. To your energy. To yourself.

🎧 Listen to Episode 83 now.

More from Natalie

https://www.youtube.com/@TantrafortheSoul

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Most men have no idea how numb they've become.

Not emotionally. Not spiritually.

Physically. Sensationally

The ability to feel pleasure — real, subtle, satisfying pleasure — is quietly being destroyed. And the culprit isn't just porn.

It's everything.

Screens. Scrolling. Notifications. Content. Noise. Information flooding in through your eyes and ears every waking hour of every single day.

We have never in human history been this stimulated.

And our nervous systems are paying the price.

Here's what's actually happening:

The more stimulation your nervous system is exposed to, the more it needs just to feel anything. Like a drug addict who needs more and more of the same substance to get the same effect — your brain is adapting. Raising the threshold. Requiring more input to register the same response.

And that threshold is bleeding directly into your pleasure.

Your sex life. Your self-pleasure. Your ability to feel turned on by a real human body in a real intimate moment.

Most men today cannot get hard without porn or fantasy pumping arousal into their body.

Not because something is medically wrong with them.

Because their nervous system has been trained to require extreme stimulation just to feel something.

And then they wonder why real intimacy feels flat. Why they go soft. Why they finish too fast or can't finish at all. Why sex with a real person doesn't feel like enough.

It's not her. It's not you.

It's your nervous system running on empty after years of overstimulation.

In this episode we explore:

• How overstimulation from all screens — not just porn — is rewiring the nervous system
• Why more stimulation is required to feel the same amount of pleasure over time
• How this directly impacts erection quality, ejaculation control, and sexual satisfaction
• What slowing down actually does to the body and the nervous system
• The discomfort that comes up when you remove high stimulation — and why that discomfort is the process
• What it takes to reconnect with subtle sensation and why that's where the real pleasure lives
• How self-pleasure without fantasy or porn can rebuild sensitivity and presence
• What changes in real intimacy when a man learns to feel again

This episode is for the man who finishes too fast.

For the man who goes soft and doesn't know why.

For the man who needs more and more stimulation just to feel turned on.

For the man who senses that something has shifted — but doesn't have a framework for why.

The path back isn't complicated.

But it requires something most men in this world are not practiced at.

Slowing down.

And staying there long enough to feel what's actually available on the other side.

🎧 Listen to Episode 82 now and begin the conversation your nervous system has been waiting for.

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We all hear about relationships that start with real desire.

Real heat.

Real connection.

And somewhere along the way — they fade.

Touch becomes transactional. Intimacy becomes infrequent. And the conversation about why never happens.

In this episode I sit down with Karen Bigman — midlife relationship and intimacy expert for men, certified sex educator, and host of the Taboo for Truth podcast — for one of the most practical and honest conversations I've had on this show about what actually keeps desire alive in long term relationships.

Because this isn't just about sex.

It's about connection. Communication. And understanding what's actually happening on both sides.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why younger men today are having less sex than any generation before them
• What a sexless marriage actually looks like — and how couples end up there without realizing it
• The breakdown of physical touch and what it costs both partners
• Why women become protective when every touch feels like it's leading somewhere
• How non-sexual touch rebuilds safety and reopens desire
• What women actually need to feel desire — and why novelty matters more than most men realize
• How desire and libido change over time — and what men can do about it
• Why communication about sex is the most underused tool in relationships
• What consent looks like inside long term committed relationships
• How to have the conversations most couples are too uncomfortable to start

That point about touch deserves its own moment.

When a woman feels like every time he reaches for her it's a lead-up to sex — she stops wanting to be reached for.

She doesn't pull away because she doesn't love him.

She pulls away because she doesn't feel safe enough to just be touched.

And most men have no idea that's what's happening.

This episode gives men a real lens into what their partner may be experiencing — and what small shifts in awareness and behavior can change everything.

If you're in a long term relationship and the intimacy has faded…If you've ever felt rejected and didn't understand why…If you want more connection, more desire, and more honesty in your intimate life…

This conversation is exactly what you need to hear.

🎧 Listen to Episode 81 now.

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Every relationship style has a shadow.

And most people never look at them.

They pick a relationship structure — monogamy, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy — and they tell themselves a story about why it's the right choice.

But here's the question nobody wants to ask:

👉 Are you choosing this because it helps you grow — or because it helps you hide?

That's what Episode 80 is about.

Not attacking any relationship style. Not promoting one over another.

Looking at the shadow side of all of them.

Because every relationship structure — without exception — can be used as a vehicle for growth or as a vehicle for avoidance. The structure itself isn't the problem. The unconsciousness is.

Let's talk about monogamy first.

Monogamy can be a profound container for depth, commitment, and facing yourself fully in the mirror of another person.

It can also be a place where men go numb. Where desire dies quietly. Where men stop growing because the relationship feels "stable" and stability becomes an excuse to stop showing up.

Now let's talk about ethical non-monogamy.

There is genuine gold here. Real growth. Real expansion. Men learning to communicate, to face jealousy, to move through discomfort and come out more conscious on the other side.

And there is also — let's be honest — a rising tide of men using ENM and polyamory as a sophisticated-sounding cover story for Peter Pan syndrome.

Lost boys who don't want responsibility. Who don't want accountability. Who want freedom without integrity and pleasure without depth.

Who found a community that validates endless novelty and called it evolution.

That's not growth. That's escape with better vocabulary.

In this episode we explore:

• The shadow side of monogamy — where men go to hide in comfort and complacency
• The shadow side of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory — where men hide behind freedom and avoid real depth
• What Peter Pan syndrome actually looks like in modern relationship dynamics
• The difference between choosing a relationship structure consciously vs. using it unconsciously
• How any relationship style can serve your growth — or your avoidance
• What it actually looks like to face the parts of yourself you don't want to see
• Why the shadow is where all the real work lives

The question isn't which relationship style is right.

The question is:

Are you using yours to become more of who you are — or less?

Because a man can hide in a marriage for 30 years.

And a man can hide in polyamory just as long.

The structure doesn't save you.

The willingness to look at yourself saves you.

🎧 Listen to Episode 80 now and ask yourself honestly — what is your relationship style asking you to face?

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The Epstein files.

The R@pe Academy.

The headlines keep coming.

And men are watching.

Some are recoiling. Some are angry. Some are going quiet.

But there is another response available.

Leadership.

In this episode I sit back down with Phoenix Amara — sacred sexuality guide, founder of Temple Arts Alchemy, and a woman who has spent over a decade working with men and women in the deepest terrain of intimacy, embodiment, and erotic healing.

And I asked her straight:

👉 What are women actually saying they need from men right now?

Her answer was clear. And it wasn't about men shrinking or apologizing or disappearing.

It was a call forward.

The men who are listening to a podcast like this — who are already in the conversation about conscious sexuality, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and real intimacy — are not the problem.

They are part of the solution.

And this moment in history is asking them to step up. Not back.

In this conversation we explore:

• What this cultural moment is actually asking of men
• What women are saying they need — and what they're not finding
• Why the men on the cutting edge of this work carry a responsibility to lead
• What it looks like to show up with embodied presence instead of performance
• How conscious men can reduce the divide between men and women
• What Phoenix is witnessing from her years of working with both

This episode isn't about blame. It isn't about guilt.

It's about recognizing that the world doesn't need men to disappear.

It needs men to rise.

At the end of this episode we also talk about something Phoenix and I are co-facilitating together:

The Temple Arts Alchemy Men's Practitioner Training — a 13-month immersive initiation into sacred sexuality, archetypal embodiment, ritual, and conscious masculine leadership.

This is the first cohort to welcome men alongside the women's Priestess Practitioner Training. It begins May 24th, 2026.

If you feel called to go deeper — to do this work not just for yourself but to eventually guide others — this is worth exploring.

The first step is a direct call with Phoenix to find out more.

👉 Learn more and apply here: taapractitionertraining.com/taa2026-men

🎧 Listen to Episode 79 now.

Let's get something straight.

Porn isn't the problem.

It's the symptom.

And until men are willing to look at what's underneath — the real pain, the real emptiness, the real disconnection — nothing changes.

That's where this episode starts.

I sit down with Brenton Rueger — Mankind Project facilitator, coach, father, and builder — a man who has been deep in men's work for decades. We met through The Mankind Project on the East Coast and this conversation is exactly the kind that needs to happen more.

Raw. Honest. No blame. No shame.

Just truth.

Because here's what's actually going on:

Most men aren't turning to porn because they're broken or weak or addicted.

They're turning to porn because something hurts.

Maybe it's loneliness. Maybe it's lack of purpose. Maybe it's stress they can't put down. Maybe it's touch needs that haven't been met in months. Maybe it's a disconnection so deep they don't even have words for it yet.

And porn is right there. Fast. Easy. Available.

👉 It works — for a moment.

And then the moment passes. And the pain is still there. And the cycle continues.

This is how young boys learn to medicate themselves.

And most of them never stop.

In this conversation we explore:

• Why porn is a symptom — and what the real problem actually is
• The many forms of pain men are trying to escape
• Why there is so much resistance and fear around men talking about sex
• What it actually takes to break the silence
• Healthy functional agreements and boundaries within relationships
• What it means to be truly liberated in your own skin
• The difference between pleasure that fills a void and pleasure that fuels a mission
• How sex and pleasure — when consciously directed — become a force for service and purpose
• What changes when a man stops medicating and starts feeling

That last point is the one I keep coming back to.

There is a version of sexuality that powers you. That energizes you. That connects you to something bigger than yourself and sends that energy back out into the world.

And then there is a version that just makes the pain quiet for a few minutes.

Most men have only ever known the second one.

This episode is about finding the first.

🎧 Watch Episode 78 now and explore what becomes possible when a man stops escaping and starts feeling.

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Most men are leaking their power without knowing it.

Not because they're weak.

Because they've never been taught how to build it, circulate it, and direct it.

That's what this episode is about.

I sit down with Adam Bear — martial artist, qi cultivator, and founder of Temple of the Red Cedar Fist — for one of the most grounded and rare conversations I've had on this show.

Adam has been on the path for two decades. He's the man I learn martial arts from. We sit in men's group together regularly. We practice together. And the way he sees energy, the body, and power is unlike almost anything you'll hear in mainstream men's spaces.

The central theme of this conversation:

👉 Attunement to the subtleties — and why slowing down is one of the most powerful things a man can do.

In a world built for instant gratification — next day delivery, endless scrolling, dopamine on demand — the ability to slow down, go inward, and feel what's actually happening inside you is becoming a lost art.

And that loss is costing men everything.

In this conversation we explore:

• What attunement to subtleties actually means — and why it changes everything
• The deep connection between martial arts, qigong, and sexual energy cultivation
• How all of these practices are pointing at the same thing: drawing attention inward
• Working with pleasure as a way to circulate life force — instead of building energy and losing it all at once
• What Taoism and body intelligence teach us about power and surrender
• Why slowing down feels deeply uncomfortable at first — and why that discomfort is the practice
• How what you cultivate inwardly directly shapes what you create outwardly
• Being a resource for others — and why that requires doing your own energy work first
• Adam's work with the Rainmaker community, men's events, and his connection to Sacred Sons

This isn't a conversation about hacks or quick fixes.

It's about building the capacity to feel. To sense. To inhabit your body so fully that your presence alone becomes a force.

Most men will never slow down enough to discover what lives inside them.

This episode is an invitation to be different.

🎧 Listen to Episode 77 now and explore what becomes possible when a man learns to cultivate — not just consume.

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Temple of the Red Cedar Fist

Bear Healing Arts

IG: @ temple_red_cedar_fist

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This episode was sparked by a viral video that generated over 500,000 views and a deeply divided response.

The message was simple:
That women want a man who can say no.
A man with boundaries, discipline, and self-control.

Some people resonated immediately.
Others pushed back hard.

And underneath it all… was tension.

In this episode, I sit down with Ellie Tsai, who works with women around faith, femininity, and purpose-driven leadership, to unpack what’s really being said beneath statements like this.

Because this isn’t just about dating advice.
It’s about leadership, emotional maturity, and the dynamic between men and women that so many people feel—but struggle to understand.

We explore what women actually mean when they say they want boundaries, and the difference between control and grounded leadership. We talk about why “no” can feel safe or threatening, how intention and heart posture shape how something is received, and why men often have strong reactions to this kind of messaging.

We also look at the broader tension in modern relationships—the push and pull between independence and desire for structure—and what the comment section reveals about where men and women are currently at.

This conversation doesn’t take sides.
It slows things down.

Because the real question isn’t who’s right.
It’s what is actually being asked for underneath all of this—and whether men and women can meet each other there without turning it into a fight.

If you’ve ever felt confused in dating, triggered by content like this, or unsure how to navigate modern relationship dynamics, this episode will give you a deeper lens to understand what’s really going on.

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In this episode, I continue the series of interviewing men from around the world to explore a simple but powerful question:

How does the culture, language, and people you grow up around shape your relationship to sex?

My guest for this episode is Stefan Fitzer and he grew up in East Germany behind the Berlin Wall, living under communism until he was 11 years old. His story offers a fascinating contrast to many of the experiences we hear in this series.

He shares what it was like growing up in a culture where non-sexual nudity was normalized, sexuality wasn’t heavily tied to religion, and shame around the body wasn’t part of the social conditioning he received.

One of the most surprising parts of his story is that he never watched porn or masturbated before his first intimate experiences with another person. Instead, connection and real-life relationships were the primary way he explored sexuality.

We talk about:

• Growing up in East Germany behind the Berlin Wall

• How German culture normalized non-sexual nudity

• The difference between sexual curiosity and sexual shame

• Growing up in a “hippie” cultural pocket without strong religious influence

• How his first exposure to porn at age 20 changed how he thought about casual sex

• The role of discipline and self-command in German culture

• How sexuality can become a force for good when it’s consciously directed

This conversation highlights something powerful: when sexuality isn’t buried in shame or secrecy, it can show up in a completely different way—often with more presence, connection, and responsibility.

It’s a perspective I’ve never heard before in this series, and it raises important questions about how culture shapes the way men relate to desire, intimacy, and sex.

If you’ve been following these international conversations, this is definitely one you won’t want to miss.

🎧 Listen to Episode 75 and explore how a man from East Germany learned to relate to sex.

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Why do so many relationships feel like a battlefield?

Men feel blamed.
Women feel misunderstood.
And both feel alone.

In this episode, I sit down with Harry Kloser-Pitcher, creator of She’s Not Crazy, to unpack one of the biggest sources of tension between men and women: misunderstanding.

Harry shares his personal journey with his wife — two educated, self-aware people, both trained in communication and psychology — who still found themselves struggling.

That’s the key.

It’s not about intelligence.
It’s not about being “good communicators.”
It’s about understanding differences that most of us were never taught to look at.

In this conversation we explore:

• The pain that builds when men and women misunderstand each other
• How labeling a woman as “crazy” shuts down curiosity
• Why men often feel unfairly blamed
• How defensive cycles replace partnership
• The biological and hormonal differences between men and women
• The power of learning about a woman’s monthly cycle
• The importance of men understanding their own hormones and health
• How curiosity creates closeness

We reference the book Period Brain and talk about how cyclical hormonal shifts aren’t flaws — they’re realities. And when men don’t understand them, they personalize what isn’t personal.

One of the biggest takeaways from this episode:

👉 Curiosity is leadership.

Instead of reacting.
Instead of defending.
Instead of escalating.

What if a man chose to ask:
“How is she experiencing reality right now?”

Misunderstanding between men and women has existed as long as time. But this episode offers a different path — not blame, not dominance, not withdrawal — but education and curiosity.

If you’re in a relationship…
If you’ve ever felt frustrated or confused…
If you want to stop fighting and start understanding…

This conversation will change how you see things.

🎧 Listen to Episode 74 now.

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⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes graphic discussion of circumcision and may be emotionally activating for some listeners.

This is one of the most real and confronting conversations I’ve ever had on this podcast.

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna McLelland, spiritual healer and circumcision researcher, to explore a subject that almost no one wants to look at—but nearly half the men listening have lived through.

Circumcision.

For many men, this is something that happened before we had language, choice, or consent. And because it happened so early, most of us never question it. We don’t know life any other way. We’re told it’s normal. We’re told it’s necessary. We’re told not to think about it.

This episode invites us to think about it anyway.

Jenna takes us deep into what actually happens during circumcision, the physical and nervous-system impact on an infant, and how that trauma can ripple into adulthood—affecting sensation, intimacy, emotional regulation, and a man’s relationship to his body.

I also share my own story in this episode—as a circumcised man—speaking honestly about what it’s like to wake up to this later in life and begin asking the question:

What would my experience of my body, pleasure, and intimacy be like if I had been intact?

We explore:

• The physical and neurological impact of circumcision

• How early trauma can live in the body without memory

• Why adult men often feel disconnected from sensation

• The emotional and relational consequences many men carry unknowingly

• Cultural, religious, and belief-based justifications—and why they deserve to be questioned

• Why this practice continues despite lacking necessity

This is not an episode meant to shame parents.
It is an episode meant to awaken awareness.

Outside of inherited dogma and unquestioned belief systems, there is very little reason for this practice to continue. And until men are willing to look directly at it, it will remain hidden, normalized, and unexamined.

This conversation is raw.
It’s honest.
And it matters.

🎧 Listen with care, curiosity, and self-compassion.

More from Jenna-

https://www.instagram.com/jenna_mcclelland_/

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Men Rising is a grounded community for men who want to:

• Develop a deeper relationship with their bodies

• Unpack inherited beliefs and early conditioning

• Explore intimacy, touch, and pleasure with awareness

• Heal rather than suppress

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What if some of the deepest blocks to intimacy aren’t about sex at all…
but about purity?

In this episode, I sit down with Mara, also known as Pleasure Creatress, to explore how the pedestalization of purity quietly shapes desire, jealousy, shame, and the way we relate to one another—often without us realizing it.

This conversation was inspired by my own experience supporting a Tantra event in Austin, Texas, where open temple spaces were available. We break down what a temple space is and is not:
a place where desires can be spoken openly, requests can be made honestly, and every person has full agency to say yes or no—without pressure or obligation.

What surprised me most was what came up inside me.

When I saw a woman engaging with another man, I noticed how quickly old stories around purity surfaced—and how that immediately impacted my desire and availability. That moment became a doorway into this deeper conversation.

In this episode we explore:

• What purity culture actually teaches us (and what it hides)
• How abstinence-only narratives shape desire and shame
• The “virgin” archetype and why it still holds power
• Jealousy, fear, and comparison in open relational spaces
• Why women’s sexuality is scrutinized while men’s inner worlds remain hidden
• The double standard between purity and private fantasy
• How honesty about desire can feel threatening—and liberating

Mara brings clarity, compassion, and sharp insight into how these stories live in the body and nervous system, not just the mind. Together, we explore how questioning purity isn’t about excess—it’s about truth, choice, and responsibility.

This episode isn’t about telling anyone how to live or relate.
It’s about becoming aware of the stories you didn’t consciously choose—and deciding whether they still serve you.

🎧 Listen now to Episode 72.

More from Mara

https://www.instagram.com/pleasurecreatress

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• Live calls and embodied trainings
• Tools for nervous system regulation and self-honesty
• Honest conversations about desire, shame, and intimacy
• A grounded brotherhood doing this work together

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What is it like to grow up around Orthodox Christianity, ancient culture, and modern confusion — all at once?

In this episode, I sit down with Jonathan, a 26-year-old man from Greece, who shares his story anonymously as part of this ongoing series exploring how men from around the world learn about intimacy, arousal, and relating — often without guidance.

Jonathan opens up about learning conflicting stories at a very young age: being told that God places a baby inside a woman — and then, at just seven or eight years old, hearing a very different explanation from friends. That moment alone reshaped how he understood the world.

We explore his journey through:

🧒 Early exposure to sexual information without context or mentorship
⛪ Growing up around Orthodox Christianity and internalized guilt
📱 Discovering explicit material at a young age and carrying shame alone
🧠 Innocent exploration without guidance and the confusion that followed
🧍 Not having masculine role models to help navigate desire or curiosity
💬 Learning—very late—how to talk to girls or express interest
📲 Observing modern dating culture in Greece and the loss of real flirtation
⚠️ How validation-seeking and consumption replace connection

Jonathan reflects on what he sees in men around him today — the reliance on apps, the lack of confidence, the absence of embodied presence — and how many men unknowingly use intimacy as a way to feel worthy rather than connected.

This episode isn’t about blame.
It’s about awareness.

When men hear stories like this, they often realize they’re not alone — that many of the beliefs, fears, and patterns they carry were shaped early, silently, and without support.

That realization alone can be deeply liberating.

🎧 Listen now to Episode 71.

If you’re a man committed to growth, grounded confidence, deeper connection, and reclaiming your personal power, this is where the real work happens.

Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

Inside you’ll get:
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• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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In this episode, I’m joined by Luis Mojica, somatic therapist, teacher, and author from Holistic Life Navigation, for one of the most important conversations we’ve had about arousal, embodiment, and the intelligence of the body.

We explore what somatics actually means — and why the body holds wisdom and information far beyond conscious thinking.

This conversation dives into how early exposure to porn, without mentorship or guidance, profoundly shapes the nervous system and our relationship with arousal.

We explore:

🧠 What somatics are and why the body has its own intelligence
⚡ How early exposure to intense stimulation imprints the nervous system
🔥 Why arousal becomes a powerful drug for the mind
💔 How repeated overstimulation can disconnect us from the body’s natural signals
🫀 The nervous system roots of performance anxiety, premature ejaculation & “ED” symptoms
💊 Why chemical fixes often deepen the problem by removing the body’s sense of choice
🌿 How porn conditioning trains the sympathetic nervous system to stay chronically activated
🧘 Two foundational practices Luis shares for becoming more embodied and relaxed in arousal
🌊 The surprising path from lower stimulation to far deeper full-body pleasure

Both of us share our personal journeys of facing the “sobriety” of slower, less stimulated intimacy — and discovering on the other side a far richer, more satisfying experience of pleasure throughout the entire body, not just the genitals.

If you’ve struggled with performance anxiety, tension, or feeling disconnected from your body in intimate moments, this episode offers a new map — one rooted in nervous system healing and somatic awareness.

🎧 Listen now to Episode 70.

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Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

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What does it really take to build healthy relationships — and why are so many people struggling with connection today?

In this episode, I’m joined by Tony and Cris of Awakened Amara, a community rooted in tantra, embodied intimacy, and conscious relating. Together, we explore the skills most of us were never taught — the very skills that make relationships, community, and intimacy actually work.

We talk about how modern life has quietly eroded many of the social foundations that once supported human connection:
family, culture, shared rituals, and consistent community.
In their place, we’ve inherited isolation, digital stimulation, and shallow substitutes for the deep mammalian connection our nervous systems crave.

In this conversation we explore:

🌿 Why so many people feel socially disconnected and relationally unskilled
🗣️ The power of self-expression and working through emotional suppression
🧭 How limited models of relationship leave people stuck and confused
❤️ Tony & Cris’s 12-year journey through monogamy, polyamory, and evolving relational dynamics
🤝 The essential skills of consent, boundaries, communication, and asking for what you want
🚦 How to navigate yeses and nos without collapsing or becoming defensive
🧠 Why intimacy is one of the most important training grounds for relational growth

They also share the structure of the three community experiences they host — progressive spaces where participants practice communication, consent, and embodied relating in increasingly open and self-directed ways, always rooted in awareness and responsibility.

At the heart of this episode is a powerful truth:

Relating is a skill.
And like any skill, it must be practiced.

This isn’t just about romantic relationships — it’s about how we relate to friends, family, coworkers, and community as a whole.

If you’ve ever felt isolated, confused about relationships, or hungry for deeper connection, this episode will give you language, insight, and inspiration for what’s possible.

More from Tony and Cris

✨ Instagram: @awakenedamara

– https://www.instagram.com/awakenedamara?igsh=aDNweTNnemQ4ZmNl&utm_source=qr

✨ Website

– https://awakenedamara.com

🎧 Listen now to Episode 69.

If you’re a man committed to growth, grounded confidence, deeper connection, and reclaiming your personal power, this is where the real work happens.

Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

Inside you’ll get:
• Monthly trainings & live calls
• Tools for grounding, presence & emotional clarity
• Practices for becoming stronger in and out of the bedroom
• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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What happens when a man finally stops carrying his fears alone?

In this episode, I’m joined by Alex Gear — the very first guest ever on the Men & Sex podcast — returning after nearly two years to share the profound transformation that unfolded when he made his relationship with intimacy a priority.

When Alex first came on the show, he was struggling deeply.
He felt broken.
He was facing performance anxiety, fear, overthinking, and the belief that something was wrong with him.
He had no idea where to turn.

He shares how, at that time, he searched everywhere for support — only to find almost exclusively female coaches and therapists — until he typed “men and sex” into Google… and found this work.

Since then, Alex has walked a powerful path:
from silence and isolation
to open conversation
to now becoming a certified Sacred Sex Coach in the UK, trained under Cam Fraser.

In this conversation we explore:

🗣️ Why talking about sex is one of the fastest paths to confidence
💔 How many men secretly feel broken and completely alone
⚡ The hidden charge of anxiety and overthinking around intimacy
🧭 What it took for Alex to face his fears instead of avoiding them
🔥 Why making your fears a priority is a turning point
🧠 How speaking the stories we hide dismantles shame and pressure
🌱 The common beliefs so many men carry — and how they lose power when spoken

The heart of this episode is simple and radical:

The stories you’re most afraid to talk about
are often the doorway to your greatest confidence.

If you’ve ever felt alone in your struggles,
if you’ve ever believed something was wrong with you,
if you’ve ever felt trapped in your own head —

this conversation is for you.

🎧 Listen now to Episode 68.

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Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

Inside you’ll get:
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Who decided how we should and shouldn’t experience sex?

And why do most of the teachings we inherit focus almost entirely on what not to do —
with so little clarity about what a healthy, life-giving relationship to sex actually looks like?

In this episode, I’m joined once again by Dr. Kevin Jenson — biblical scholar, theologian, and author of Sacred Not Sinful — for one of the most important conversations we’ve had on the show.

We explore:

📖 How religious teachings around sex became rooted in restriction instead of guidance
🎯 Why humans need a clear target for what healthy sex is — not just rules about avoidance
🔤 The 26 different words translated into “sin” in the Bible and what they actually mean
🧬 How mistranslation has shaped generations of guilt, fear, and confusion
🤝 Moving from a consumptive relationship with sex into a creative, collaborative one
✨ Why every intimate connection between two people is a unique act of creation
🌍 How sex becomes one of the most powerful ways humans experience unity instead of separation

Kevin brings together deep scholarship, cultural insight, and lived experience to offer a radically different lens on intimacy — one that feels grounded, intelligent, and freeing.

This conversation doesn’t tell you what to fear.
It invites you to explore what you’re actually moving toward.

If you’ve ever felt torn between desire and belief, between curiosity and conditioning —
this episode offers a new framework for understanding both.

🎧 Listen now to Episode 67.

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Inside you’ll get:
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• Tools for grounding, presence & emotional clarity
• Practices for becoming stronger in and out of the bedroom
• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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What happens when a young boy grows up split between desire and fear—
between what his body feels and what his culture tells him is dangerous?

In this episode of the global anonymous series, I interview a man from Turkey who grew up immersed in Islamic culture and social pressure, carrying a deep internal conflict around intimacy, identity, and belonging.

From an early age, desire felt risky. Fear of punishment, fear of hell, fear of being seen as “bad” lived right alongside curiosity and longing.

He shares openly about:

🇹🇷 Growing up in Turkey under intense cultural and religious pressure
⚖️ Living split between desire and fear — wanting closeness while fearing consequences
😨 A first exposure to explicit content that was frightening and left a lasting imprint
🧠 The long-term nervous system impact of early exposure without guidance
🗣️ Learning about self-touch from peers instead of trusted adults
🏫 Watching classmates pay for experiences in high school — and feeling torn between values and belonging
🚫 Growing up where homosexuality was heavily stigmatized
💔 Seeing women treated poorly and carrying guilt simply for being male
🎭 The pressure to perform, prove manhood, and not fall behind

This episode is raw, complex, and deeply human.

It shows how culture, religion, peer dynamics, and silence shape a man’s inner world—and how many men grow up feeling ashamed of their desires before they ever understand them.

This global series exists to widen our perspective.
To remind us that while cultures differ, the struggles, confusion, and longing for connection are often the same.

These conversations are rare.
They are needed.
And they help us see ourselves—and each other—more clearly.

🎧 Listen now to this powerful, eye-opening episode.

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Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

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• Practices for becoming stronger in and out of the bedroom
• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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Touch is one of the most essential human needs —
and yet most men are profoundly touch deprived.

In this episode, I sit down with Kenneth Darby, who has spent over 20 years exploring the world of touch, embodiment, and nervous system health through tantric-style bodywork and somatic practice.

What unfolds is one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about what men are actually carrying around touch.

We explore:

🤲 Why men are so deeply starved for touch
🚫 The fear of platonic touch between men & the fear of being perceived as homosexual
💔 How only receiving touch from a partner creates pressure & extractive energy
🔄 Why this dynamic often closes the very connection we’re craving
🧭 How difficult it is for men to answer the question: “What do I want to receive?”
🧠 Desexualizing touch & separating it from performance and outcome
🫶 Why most men were never taught how to touch their own bodies in healthy ways
📉 How hidden habits formed in isolation impact the nervous system & long-term desire
🌿 What it means to give back to the body through nourishing, non-extractive touch
🔍 The subtle ways we manipulate touch to get something instead of truly giving

I also share a deeply personal moment of realizing that when I was touching my partner’s back, I wasn’t actually touching her for her —
I was touching her because I wanted something in return.

That insight alone changed how I relate to touch forever.

We are mammals.
Touch is wired into our biology.
And when it’s missing, the nervous system suffers — quietly, deeply, and over time.

This episode offers language, clarity, and practices that every man needs to understand if he wants healthier intimacy, more grounded presence, and a more regulated nervous system.

🎧 If you’ve ever felt lonely, tense, disconnected, or unsure how to receive — this conversation is for you.

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What happens when a boy’s brain is shaped by years of dopamine-spiking stimulation before he ever experiences intimacy in real life?

In this episode of the global anonymous series, I interview a man from Aruba, raised in a blend of Latino culture, Catholic/Protestant/Christian influence, and a family environment where exposure to adult content began far too young.

He shared openly about:

🇦🇼 Growing up in Aruba and the cultural pressure to “be the man”
📱 The combination of porn + video games and its impact on the dopamine system
🧠 Spending more than a decade exposed to high-intensity pleasure before any real connection
👀 Family members and peers normalizing explicit content long before he understood it
🗣️ Not receiving “the talk” until years after he’d already been shaped by what he saw online
👦 Learning through peers, older siblings, experimentation, and confusion
🔥 The machismo influence — where your worth is measured by how many girls you can get
🔄 The journey of breaking addiction by moving TOWARD something meaningful, instead of just away from the behavior

His story mirrors what so many men around the world experience:

Years of early exposure, zero real education, and a culture that rewards conquest instead of connection.

This episode is another raw, honest look into how environment, religion, and culture shape a man’s internal world long before he ever steps into adulthood — and how healing begins with awareness.

🎧 Listen to this moving, eye-opening episode now.

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Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

Inside you’ll get:
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• Tools for grounding, presence & emotional clarity
• Practices for becoming stronger in and out of the bedroom
• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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What happens when you grow up in a country where erotic imagery is everywhere…
but real conversations about intimacy don’t exist?

In this episode, I interview a man from the Netherlands who grew up with soft-core adult content on TV after 10pm, field trips to Amsterdam’s Red Light District, and a culture where sexuality was visible — but never explained.

Despite being surrounded by openness, he still faced the same challenges so many men around the world face:
no mentorship, no emotional context, and no one teaching him how to navigate desire, connection, or relationships.

Raised Catholic, with a Turkish father who believed that “becoming a man” meant sleeping with a woman, his first intimate experience was being taken to a brothel in Ecuador — an experience that shaped his inner world for years.

This conversation explores:

🇳🇱 The paradox of growing up in a sexually open culture with no real guidance
👀 How early exposure without context affects a boy’s development
🏠 Cultural and religious messages from family and faith traditions
🧠 Why young men chase conquest to feel belonging and approval
🔥 The hypnotic pull of arousal when no one teaches us how to relate to it
❤️ His longing for genuine partnership despite confusing early experiences

This episode is part of the global anonymous series where I interview men from different countries to reveal the shared patterns we all face — and the cultural differences that shape us.

Once again, we see the same story reflected:
Men all over the world grow up with desire in front of them… but without the education, mentorship, or emotional support to understand any of it.

🎧 Listen to this eye-opening conversation now.

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Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, leadership, and the path of becoming a truly well-rounded man — together.

Inside you’ll get:
• Monthly trainings & live calls
• Tools for grounding, presence & emotional clarity
• Practices for becoming stronger in and out of the bedroom
• A supportive circle of men walking the same path

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A conversation with a man raised in the Sikh tradition

Most men grow up navigating desire, shame, confusion, and curiosity in total silence.
And the silence changes depending on where in the world you come from.

In this powerful anonymous episode, I interview a man from Chandigarh, India, raised in a Sikh household, now living in Australia. He shares what it was like to grow up in a culture where conversations about intimacy were rare, where guidance was minimal, and where the collision between tradition and modern digital life is creating new challenges for men today.

We explore:

🌏 What it felt like to go through adolescence without guidance
📿 How religion and cultural expectations shaped his early beliefs
📱 The impact of social media and modern temptation on relationships
💔 The rising rates of divorce and infidelity in India — and why they’re happening
🧘 What ancient yogic teachings can offer men today
🧩 How moving to Australia at 19 shifted everything

This global series exists because men across the world rarely speak openly about their inner experiences — yet the patterns, pressures, and struggles are often the same. When men share honestly, we see the common threads that unite us all.

This episode will expand your perspective on how culture shapes desire, what men carry silently, and how we can begin healing through honest conversation.

🎧 Listen now to this eye-opening conversation.

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If you’re a man committed to growth, confidence, deeper connection, and reclaiming your personal power, this is where the real work happens.
Men Rising is my private community where we explore embodiment, desire, nervous system training, intimacy, and the path of becoming a well-rounded man — together.

You’ll get access to:
• Monthly trainings & live calls
• Tools for grounding, presence & clarity
• Practices to strengthen your relationship with yourself and others
• A supportive community of men on the same path

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Betty Martin, author of

The Art of Receiving and Giving and creator of The Wheel of Consent — one of the most influential frameworks in the world of intimacy, boundaries, and embodied communication.

The Wheel of Consent breaks human interaction into four quadrants — Taking, Serving, Accepting, and Allowing — and reveals the hidden dynamics underneath every moment of touch.

And for men… this conversation is vital.

We explore why so many men are touch-starved, cut off from healthy platonic touch, shamed out of softness, and pressured to only receive physical connection from sexual partners. This cultural conditioning leaves men isolated, dysregulated, and confused about what they actually want — and how to ask for it.

Dr. Betty and I dive into:

• The problem of platonic touch between men made “wrong” in North America

• The pressure men put on romantic partners to meet all touch needs

• The four quadrants of The Wheel of Consent — and the unique challenges men face in each

• How practicing “Taking” consciously can transform your confidence

• The life-changing power of speaking your desires clearly, out loud

I share my own experiences practicing the Wheel — in romantic relationships and in safe, platonic containers — and how profoundly it’s reshaped the way I touch, communicate, receive, and understand the energy behind my desires.

If you want healthier boundaries, better sex, deeper intimacy, clearer communication, and more ease in your body… this is a must-listen.

The Wheel of Consent can change your life if you let it.

Tune in, take notes, and start practicing. ✨

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What is Tantra, really?
In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Leola Watkins—best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed, host of the Talk Tantra to Me podcast, and co-creator of Tantra Love and Tantra Transformation Retreats—to explore how conscious sexuality can lead to deep personal freedom and expansion.

Leola offers the best definition of Tantra I’ve ever heard. We dive into:
🌀 The four types of sex—and how each one shapes your experience of intimacy
🔥 The difference between pleasure that leads to stagnation and pleasure that leads to transformation
💡 How men can bring more intention and presence into their sexual relationships
💓 Why sex is one of the most direct paths to liberation and spiritual expansion
🌹 How to shift from using sex as release to experiencing it as revelation

🎧 Listen to the full episode now—and discover how to transform your relationship with pleasure, power, and presence.

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📲 Instagram: @talktantratome
🌐 Website: talktantratome.com

What does it really mean to be dominant—in life, in energy, and in presence?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Justin Gottlieb—also known as @tantralovecoach—a sexual freedom coach and facilitator of tantra massage and retreats. Together, we explore how to Dom your life—to lead yourself and others with grounded strength, clarity, and integrity.

We dive into:
🗣️ Our word as bond—and how integrity is the foundation of power
💭 Thoughts as currency—why your mental energy matters more than money
⚡ How to cultivate dominance without domination
🧭 The difference between inflated and deflated (often labeled “toxic”) masculinity
🔥 Attributes of a conscious Dom: assertiveness, clarity, discernment, penetration, and groundedness
💫 Building the inner structure that allows you to command your life—and your energy—with presence

This episode is a masterclass in masculine embodiment and conscious power.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to live, lead, and love as the Dom of your own life.

Want to focus on up-leveling as a man? Start by looking at your sex life.
Inside the Men Rising community, you’ll get access to powerful tools, practices, and coaching to transform your relationship with sex, power, and presence.

✔️ Want to feel more confident when you look in the mirror? — Get direct weekly coaching.
✔️ Want to increase your stamina and lasting power? — Join live events with guided practices.
✔️ Want to stop hiding and start healing? — Tap into real conversations and real brotherhood.
✔️ Want to master your energy, pleasure, and purpose? — Dive into our exclusive online trainings and guest sessions.

This is where men rise — sexually, emotionally, and in every area of life.
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📲 Instagram: @tantralovecoach
🌐 Website: tantralovecoach.com/coaching

How can men approach women in a way that feels grounded, confident, and respectful?
And what does it take to truly master our sexual energy—not just for sex, but for life itself?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Jayde Alexandra, a feminine embodiment mentor and coach, for a powerful conversation about desire, attraction, and evolution through relationship.

We dive into:
🔥 How to approach attractive women from authenticity, not performance
💬 Why practicing communication around desire is essential—and what to do when a woman isn’t open to your approach
💔 The hidden roots of sexual shame in both men and women
⚡ The importance of men mastering their sexual energy and learning to hold it consciously
🌹 How relationships are not obstacles but portals—sacred spaces that mirror our growth and support our evolution

This conversation is real, practical, and deeply inspiring.
Whether you’re navigating dating, deep partnership, or your own inner relationship with desire, this episode will expand your understanding of what it means to love and lead with awareness.

🎧 Listen now and learn how attraction, honesty, and surrender can transform your path as a man.

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What’s it like to grow up as a man in Canada, navigating sex, shame, rebellion, and relationships?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Raven, a Canadian man sharing his raw experiences and reflections. Together, we explore the universal challenges—and uniquely Canadian perspectives—on sexuality and manhood.

We dive into:
⚡ The awkwardness and confusion of spontaneous erections as teenagers
🙏 How religion offered only “no sex until marriage” but never gave the tools to deal with real, animal desire
😈 The rebellion of adolescence—trying to figure out sex while pretending to know more than we did
💔 Early relationships marked by cheating and betrayal, and how they shaped trust moving forward
🌀 The struggle with anxious attachment and how early wounds carry into adult intimacy
🔍 The unspoken realities most men face but rarely talk about

This episode is honest, vulnerable, and packed with insights about how culture, religion, and experience shape men’s sexuality across generations and geographies.

🎧 Listen now to hear Raven’s story—and see just how much of it mirrors your own.

We’ve made nudity so complicated.
Sexualized. Shamed. Hidden away.

But in nature? Everything is nude. No hiding. No judgment. No shame.

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Kerry Kott, known as Nature Is Always Nude on Instagram, to explore the human-made complexities of nudity—and the deep medicine of returning to it.

We dive into:
🌱 Why being nude is the most natural expression of being human
💔 How culture has twisted nudity into something messy and shameful
🌸 The nude retreats Kerry leads with women, and the healing that unfolds there
🔥 The importance of de-sexualizing nudity and learning to feel safe in our own skin
🪞 How being naked reveals the voices of shame, judgment, and “not enough”—and how to listen to them with compassion

At the end of our conversation, I opened up about something I’ve never shared publicly before—revealed through the power of this dialogue.

This episode is an invitation to strip back the layers of shame and remember what it means to be human, whole, and free.

🎧 Listen now and discover the potency of nudity as medicine.

-UPDATE-

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🌐 Website: nakedhuman.com
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/natureisalwaysnude
📸 Instagram: @natureisalwaysnude

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📸 Instagram: @thenakedhumanpodcast
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What happens when you dedicate seven years of your life to uncovering the truth about sex?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Alex Liu, the filmmaker behind the groundbreaking documentary A Sexplanation. His mission: to confront shame, take responsibility for a lack of sexual education, and bring honesty back into how we talk about sex.

We dive into:
🙏 The impact of religion on sexuality and shame
📚 The cost of growing up uneducated about sex—and how that continues to affect men today
👀 Alex’s bold visit to Pornhub headquarters to ask what they really know about our viewing habits
💡 Why shame is one of the biggest barriers to sexual health, intimacy, and confidence
🔥 What it takes to move beyond silence and create a culture of openness

This conversation is raw, thought-provoking, and absolutely packed with insights.

If you’ve ever felt the weight of sexual shame or the confusion of not being taught the truth—this is a must-listen episode.

🎧 Click play and join us in this eye-opening conversation about sex, shame, and freedom.

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Sexplanation - https://www.herraproductions.com/a-sexplanation

In this episode of Men and Sex, I’m joined by Lona—a sexual bliss coach and neo-tantra teacher—for a deep conversation about roles, polarity, and stepping into more assertive, embodied energy as men.

We dive into:
🎭 The power of playing with roles in the bedroom—specifically D-D-L-G (Daddy Dom / Little Girl) dynamics
📚 Why No More Mr. Nice Guy struck such a chord with men, and how we’re now living in an era where many recoil from masculinity altogether
⚡ How exploring the Dom or Daddy role can help men reclaim healthy masculine traits like assertiveness, leadership, and presence
💓 Why dominance doesn’t mean harshness—it can be caring, nurturing, and deeply connected
🌹 How polarity in relationships generates energy that benefits both partners when practiced consciously

Both Lona and I share our personal experiences with these dynamics, offering stories, insights, and practical advice for men ready to step into stronger, more confident roles—without falling into manipulation or toxic patterns.

This episode is about learning how to embody strength with tenderness, clarity with care, and power with devotion.

🎧 Listen now to explore how role-play, polarity, and presence can transform your sex life and your relationships.

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More from Lona:
📲 Instagram: @lonateachesbliss
🌐 Coaching & Offerings: lonateachesbliss.com/coaching

What happens when you grow up in a culture that almost never talks about sex?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with RD, a 21-year-old man from Ukraine, to hear his raw and unfiltered story. This is part of my series interviewing men across the world to uncover the common threads in how we were shaped around sexuality.

We talk about:
🇺🇦 Growing up in a post-Soviet culture where “no one was ever having sex” was the running joke
🛑 The silence and shame around sex—and how it shaped identity and relationships
📺 Being exposed to porn at just 6 years old and the impact on desire, intimacy, and expectations
🌐 What it’s like to grow up in a generation where access to porn and sexual content is instant and constant
⚡ The fear of homophobia and how it shaped his early experiences

This episode is raw, eye-opening, and a reminder that no matter where we come from—our stories around sex carry striking similarities.

🎧 Listen now and hear what the next generation of men is really facing.

Most men have never been taught how to truly touch themselves—let alone how to touch a partner.
And it shows.

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down again with Victoria Angel Heart to explore:
💔 The difference between genuine giving and manipulation disguised as generosity
⚡ How rushing to the finish or “taking” without awareness erodes connection
🛏️ Why your self-pleasure practice is the training ground for every touch you share with someone else
💓 The power of devotion—bringing reverence and presence into how you touch your own body
🧘‍♂️ How to fill your own cup so you’re not starving for connection or pleasure from others

I share my own experiences of where I’ve fallen into these patterns, and Victoria brings insight from a woman’s perspective—on what it feels like to receive from a man who is truly present vs. one who is just trying to get something.

Every time you touch your body, you’re programming how you touch others. This episode is about making that programming conscious—so your touch creates connection, not distance.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to rewire your relationship with your own pleasure.

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Desire is more than just wanting something—it’s a mirror for how we live, love, and create.

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Melody Lubin—a mentor of feminine arts and embodiment—for a deep dive into desire, capacity, and sexuality.

We explore:
🌹 The subtle layers of wanting—and why most men miss them
💡 How fear of not getting what we want keeps us playing small
🛠️ The responsibility that comes with truly owning our desires
🛏️ Why your desire in the bedroom reflects your potency in life
⚡ The difference between being a conscious creator… and a sleepy bystander

I share my own personal exploration of desire, my weak spots, and the insights that came from facing them. This conversation is about much more than sex—it’s about waking up to the creative force that runs through every part of life.

🎧 Listen now and discover how desire can become your most potent teacher—in and out of the bedroom.

More from Melody Lubin:
📲 Instagram: @melodylubin
🌐 Website: www.melodylubin.com

For centuries, sex was seen as sacred.
Not sinful. Not shameful. Not shallow.
But somewhere along the way—we lost that connection.

In Episode 50 of Men and Sex, I sit down with Hannah Haazal—a sacred sexuality educator, ritual artist, intimacy coach, herbalist, and death doula—whose work is about restoring the holy power of erotic energy and helping men become deeply embodied, present lovers.

We explore:
🌬️ How most men have been living (and having sex) from the neck up
🌹 The ancient world of temple arts and ritual erotic practice
🕯️ Why sex has always been sacred—and how it was distorted into something sinful
💀 The role of ceremony, ritual, and even death as initiations into deeper aliveness
💓 How to move from shallow sex into full-bodied intimacy
🔥 The courage it takes to feel again—and reclaim your vitality

This conversation is for any man who knows there’s more to sex than friction and release—
And who’s ready to step into a new relationship with his body, his heart, and the sacred fire of his sexuality.

🎧 Listen now and return to what was never meant to be lost.

Explore More from Hannah:
🌐 The Temple of Sacred Arts
💫 Sacred Eros Profile & Offerings
🔮 Witch Eye Awakened

Sex isn’t just physical.
It’s spiritual. Subtle. Mystical.

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Jessica Bird—a powerful speaker, intuitive healer, and erotic channel—to explore the deeper truths of erotic energy and what it means to return to our erotic innocence.

We dive into:
🌬️ The subtle, sacred nature of sex—and how to become attuned to its presence in all of life
💓 What it means to be a heart-centered erotic man in today’s world
🌿 How sexual energy exists all around us—in nature, in creativity, in our breath
🧘🏽‍♀️ Jessica’s journey of discovering that her intuition was most powerful when rooted in eroticism
💡 The freedom that comes when we shed inherited shame and limiting beliefs about sex
💌 The potency of dating yourself, romancing your own being, and deepening your connection to source through pleasure

This episode is an invitation to slow down, open up, and remember that your erotic energy is not something to fix or hide—it’s something to honor, listen to, and live from.

🎧 Listen now and rediscover sex as a path to wholeness, reverence, and real power.

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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/itsjessicabird/

Website - https://www.jessicabird.co/

This episode is a doozy—and one of the most eye-opening conversations I’ve had on Men and Sex.

I sat down with a deeply informed anonymous guest, a man who has dedicated himself to understanding the full impact of circumcision—physically, emotionally, sexually, and culturally. And he came ready to share what most people never hear.

We dive into:
🔍 Why do we circumcise? Religious tradition, cultural habits, and outdated medical myths
📉 The truth behind the so-called “health benefits”—and why countries like the U.S. circumcise 80% of boys while Europe is under 20%
💔 What we actually lose in the process: sensitivity, function, and trust in our own bodies
💥 How circumcision is tied to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation
🧬 What is keratinization and meiosis—and how they affect your pleasure
🔄 Real steps men can take toward foreskin restoration—yes, it's a thing, and it’s been around for decades
💸 The billion-dollar industry behind it all—from the selling of foreskin to the explosion of lube and ED meds

We also ask:
❗ Why is this not called male genital mutilation—while the same practice in other cultures is?
❗ Why are men so unaware of the lingering impacts of this one early trauma?

If you're a man who’s ever wondered why your sexuality feels off, limited, or numbed—this episode could be the missing piece.

🎧 Listen now—and prepare to rethink everything you thought you knew about your body.

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Resources Mentioned:🧰 Mantor DS – Direct Stretch Device – The personal device I’m using for foreskin restoration, designed for dual tension📘 Beginner’s Guide to Foreskin Restoration – A practical and detailed overview for men exploring restoration

🎭 ⁠Eric Clopper’s One-Man Show – Sex & Circumcision: An American Love Story⁠ – A bold, brilliant 2-hour performance at Harvard that exposes the cultural, scientific, and political truths around circumcision

🔹 ⁠Intact America⁠ – Education and advocacy working to end routine infant circumcision in the U.S.🔹 ⁠Intact Global⁠ – Legal action and men’s rights defense, actively challenging circumcision through the courts (highly recommended)

If you are a heterosexual Male that wants deeper intimacy, better sex, and more embodied connection in your relationships—this episode is for you.

I sat down with Ashley Jones, a gifted love, intimacy, and embodiment coach who works with women, couples, and men to rewire the way we relate—inside and outside the bedroom.

Together, we explored:
💡 What’s actually required to create a deeply nourishing dynamic between a man and a woman
💦 How understanding a woman’s pleasure changes everything—emotionally and physically
🧘🏽‍♀️ Why many women struggle to fully receive pleasure due to unresolved insecurities and shame
🔄 The importance of receiving feedback from your partner without collapsing into “bad boy” self-judgment
💓 How the cervix connects to the vagus nerve—and why true feminine surrender requires emotional safety and presence
And we challenged the myths that keep so many people feeling stuck in performative or disconnected sex.

Want more fulfillment in the bedroom?
It starts with presence, communication, and the courage to actually learn what brings your partner—and yourself—into full-body “yes.”

🎧 Listen now and open the door to more nourishing, real-deal intimacy.

More from Ashley Jones:
💥 Men’s Sexual Mastery – A deep dive into understanding pleasure and embodiment:
👉 uplevellove.kartra.com/page/menssexualmastery

🌹 Reclamation – A powerful program for women reclaiming their sexuality and feminine essence:
👉 uplevellove.kartra.com/page/reclamation

💞 Intimacy Upgrade – Explore tools and practices to strengthen connection and communication:
👉 uplevellove.com/intimacy-upgrade

In this potent episode I sit down with Tyson Adams—a leading expert in porn addiction and semen retention—to explore one of the most urgent issues men are facing today.

We talk about:
📺 How porn has rewired our brains to crave novelty and disconnect from real intimacy. We've been trained to "bond" with screens
🤖 The rise of AI influencers and why more men are falling in love with digital women
💸 Why this conditioning is making us more likely to give our money—and our attention—to robots
🧠 The mental health fallout: ED, depression, loneliness, and even suicide

This episode takes us beyond porn.
It’s about what’s coming next—and what men can do now to stay human, whole, and awake in a world that’s becoming more synthetic by the day.

🎧 Listen now to hear the truth about where this is going—and how to take your power back.

More from Tyson -

Instagram - @tysonadams__

Working with Tyson - https://www.thriive.life/lifeforce

Most men were never taught how to touch themselves with intention.
They use masturbation to release pressure—not to build power.

In this live training, Victoria Angel Heart and I guide you through a whole new approach to self-pleasure: one that expands your nervous system, sharpens your focus, and strengthens your capacity to hold more sensation, emotion, and energy.

We cover:
🛑 Why most masturbation patterns are based in anxiety, shame, and quick escape
🛠️ 5 powerful tools—breath, sound, movement, intention, and awareness/touch—to rewire how you relate to arousal
🧘🏽‍♂️ How to use edging as a training ground for presence, stamina, and creative power
💥 The difference between masturbating to cope… and masturbating to grow

If you’re tired of feeling drained, stuck in habits that don’t serve you, or disconnected from your own body—this episode will shift the way you touch yourself forever.

This is about using pleasure to build strength—not just to survive.
🎧 Listen now and start training your nervous system for more power, more clarity, and more choice.

Purchase the V.A.H. audio - https://buy.stripe.com/4gM14n6lSeXxeWv2IX9MY0h

Purchase the package of all 3 audios - https://buy.stripe.com/6oUaEX5hO8z915FdnB9MY0i

Let’s be real:
A lot of the talk around semen retention is rooted in shame-based marketing.

Buy this course. Follow this guru. Stop ejaculating or you’re wasting your life force. Don't be a weak beta male.
Sound familiar?

In this episode of Men and Sex, I sit down with Cam Fraser—a certified sex coach, sexologist, and men's work facilitator who brings real depth, skill, and compassion to this conversation.

We dive into:
🔍 How semen retention is often preached from a place of shame—not empowerment
🧠 Why negation-based thinking (“don’t do this”) doesn’t work for the brain
💦 Reframing semen retention around reverence, not repression
🌱 Why curiosity about your body beats trying to follow a one-size-fits-all standard
📊 The danger of clinging too tightly to studies instead of tuning into your unique body and energy

Cam has helped hundreds of men untangle their sexuality from guilt, pressure, and confusion—and this conversation is a breath of fresh air for anyone tired of rigid, performative teachings.

🎧 Listen now to reclaim your relationship with your body, your pleasure, and your power.

Follow Cam Fraser:
📲 Instagram: @thecamfraser
🌐 Website: https://cam-fraser.com/

Tapping Into Trust: Healing Performance Anxiety with Victoria Angel Heart 🧠💥🫀

This episode is action-packed and full of tools every man needs. I’m joined by Victoria Angel Heart, an incredible guide in nervous system regulation, emotional healing, and embodiment.

We dive deep into:
👐 EFT tapping as a practical tool for reducing performance anxiety and calming the body
💔 How many men have unknowingly broken trust with their own bodies—and what it takes to rebuild it
🧘‍♂️ Why mindful masturbation is key to reconnecting with sensation, pleasure, and presence
🔊 The importance of making noise, opening the vocal channel, and honoring the body’s boundaries
🚫 Learning to recognize when the body is giving a “no”—and how to respect it

This episode isn’t just talk—it’s transformation.
Victoria closes the conversation with a powerful 15-minute EFT tapping session specifically for performance anxiety that you can come back to anytime.

🎧 If you’re dealing with ED, PE, anxiety, or simply want to trust your body again—this is a must-listen.

Want to focus on up-leveling as a man? Start by looking at your sex life.
Inside the Men Rising community, you’ll get access to powerful tools, practices, and coaching to transform your relationship with sex, power, and presence.

✔️ Want to feel more confident when you look in the mirror? — Get direct weekly coaching.
✔️ Want to increase your stamina and lasting power? — Join live events with guided practices.
✔️ Want to stop hiding and start healing? — Tap into real conversations and real brotherhood.
✔️ Want to master your energy, pleasure, and purpose? — Dive into exclusive trainings and guest sessions.

This is where men rise — sexually, emotionally, and in every area of life.
👉 Join the Men Rising Community

More of Victoria Angel Heart Heart ♥️

Instagram: @victoria.angel.heart

Spotify music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4pNTeoeP0F3ug7DbRa30bz?si=alhNg3kyTi6qc6MBcDJVGw

Website: http://www.tapintofreedom.love/

“I am the POWER.”
These words have become a daily mantra for me since meeting Kevin Walton, aka Source Radiance.

Kevin is one of the most energized, creative, and aligned men I’ve ever encountered—a true embodiment of activated masculine presence.

In this episode, we dive deep into:
🧱 Facing guilt and shame as the gateway to reclaiming personal power
🔥 The razor-thin line between healthy desire and unconscious craving
🧘🏽‍♂️ How to walk in full ownership of your energy without becoming consumed by it

This conversation is potent. Raw. Expansive.
If you're ready to step into your power with clarity, responsibility, and purpose—this one’s for you.

🎧 Listen now and awaken the fire that’s already inside you.

Want to focus on up-leveling as a man? Start by looking at your sex life.
Inside the Men Rising community, you’ll get access to powerful tools, practices, and coaching to transform your relationship with sex, power, and presence.

✔️ Want to feel more confident when you look in the mirror? — Get direct weekly coaching.
✔️ Want to increase your stamina and lasting power? — Join live events with guided practices.
✔️ Want to stop hiding and start healing? — Tap into real conversations and real brotherhood.
✔️ Want to master your energy, pleasure, and purpose? — Dive into exclusive trainings and guest sessions.

This is where men rise — sexually, emotionally, and in every area of life.
👉 Join the Men Rising Community

Follow Kevin Walton / Source Radiance:
🌐 Website: https://unlimitedcreativepotential.com/aboutkevin/
📲 Instagram: @source.radiance