Explore every episode of the podcast Marriage Lab
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| Don't ask triggered people BIG questions | 03 avr. 2026 | 00:21:27 | |
Ever ask gradually big relationship question in the middle of an argument… and then regretted the answer? In this episode, we break down a common (but damaging) pattern: What it often looks like 👇 →“Do you even like me?” 😬 See how fast it escalates? We unpack: And most importantly— If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation more hurt than helped, this episode will give you a better path: A week left: Click here for more info ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| How calls with your spouse go sideways (& how to fix it) | 17 mars 2026 | 00:35:40 | |
Phone calls with your spouse should be simple… so why do they so often go sideways? In this episode, we unpack the subtle dynamics that quietly derail connection: ...and the hurt that builds when your spouse can’t show up the way you needed—especially in the middle of a workday What starts as a quick call can quickly spiral into misunderstanding, frustration, or even conflict that leaks into the rest of your day. The good news? Most of this is preventable. We walk you through a simple 3-step framework to help you: So your phone calls stop feeling like landmines… and start becoming small, consistent moments of connection (or pure logistics exchange) again. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Stop Calling Strategies “Needs” | 26 févr. 2026 | 00:35:48 | |
In this episode, we unpack one of the most practical distinctions we teach: the difference between a need and a strategy. A need is a relational longing: connection, safety, being seen, being prioritized. A strategy is your idea of how that need should get met: date night, quicker texts, no phones at night, doing the dishes before sitting down. The problem is, most of us accidentally disguise strategies as needs… and that’s where control sneaks in. We talk about why that feels so painful (for both people), how “requests” turn into “demands” when there’s punishment attached, and why collaboration creates way more buy-in than prescriptions ever will. We'll talk about how to peel back the strategy to name the real need underneath, so you can fight less about the method and connect more around the longing. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Understanding Yourself Without Staying Stuck | 18 févr. 2026 | 00:28:02 | |
Sometimes self-awareness helps us grow… and sometimes it quietly gives us permission to stay exactly where we are. In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways insight can turn into self-justification—whether it’s personality types, triggers, habits, or even love languages—and how awareness is meant to become a starting point for transformation, not a comfortable resting place. We share stories from our own marriage about conflict avoidance, travel differences, stress habits, and learning how to let understanding lead to maturity rather than excuses. If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “That’s just how I am,” this conversation will help reframe awareness as an invitation to grow—one small, intentional step at a time. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Divine Intervention: Amy's story- Divorced & Remarried | 11 févr. 2026 | 01:16:14 | |
A story only God could write. 💔➡️❤️ A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Different Flavors of Comfort in Families ( feat: Rosie Zint) | 03 févr. 2026 | 00:34:36 | |
In this episode, Jenna is joined by her nine-year-old daughter, Rosie, for a sweet and surprisingly insightful conversation about what comfort looks like in their family. Together, they talk about the different “flavors of comfort” each family member needs when big emotions show up—whether that’s physical touch, someone staying close, space to process alone, or quiet presence. Rosie shares how she prefers space before reconnecting, while Jenna reflects on how having someone in the room can actually make it harder for her to notice what she’s feeling. The conversation is tender, honest, and full of Rosie’s natural charm. Toward the end, Jenna also shares a recent meaningful moment they experienced together with the Lord—offering a gentle invitation for parents to cultivate similar moments of connection, emotional safety, and spiritual openness with their own kids. This episode is both practical and heart-level, and a reminder that learning how we give and receive comfort can deepen our relationships in powerful ways. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Dopamine Hunt behind 6,7 : how to harness joy grows where attention goes | 28 janv. 2026 | 00:39:28 | |
Dopamine isn’t just about pleasure. Your brain lights up most when the reward isn’t guaranteed— This is why elementary kids around the country are stoked out of their minds when they encounter or hear 6,7. What can we learn here that could help us adults harness & grow our joy as we train our attention intentionally?? Optimism isn’t just a personality trait. In this episode, we talk about: Joy doesn’t come from forcing positivity. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Stuck in the Same Fight: how naming patterns can break the cycles | 12 janv. 2026 | 00:32:21 | |
Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage—even when the topic keeps changing? In this episode, we talk about the power of naming your patterns: the emotional and relational loops that quietly drive conflict, disconnection, and reactivity. We share real examples from our marriage, parenting, and coaching work to show how awareness creates space between a trigger and your response. When you can name what’s happening inside you—passivity, shutdown, avoidance, mind-reading, or self-rejection—you gain more self-control, clarity, and freedom to choose a different response. This isn’t about suppressing emotions or fixing your spouse; it’s about growing self-awareness so you don’t keep making the same mess. If you want practical tools for breaking unhealthy patterns, regulating emotions, and creating healthier communication in your marriage, this episode will help you slow down, get curious, and choose differently. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Rethinking Relative Visits | 11 nov. 2025 | 00:31:34 | |
Family visits are supposed to bring connection… but sometimes they bring exhaustion, awkward expectations, and a drained bank account. In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when the way you’re visiting family isn’t working anymore — and how to get creative about connection without spending a fortune. We’ll share our own story (including a few hard lessons from our in-laws 😅) and offer practical alternatives for families who live far apart: meeting in the middle, combining trips, camping, even serving together. If you’ve ever felt torn between your budget and your relationships, this episode will help you rethink what “showing up” can look like in this season. Click here to donate to our missions trip: Zint family link To grab Jenna's e-workbook>> Peaceful Christmas Planner A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| But first...Curiosity | 23 oct. 2025 | 00:36:46 | |
Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation? This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity. When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment. Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection. In this episode, we'll unpack: Listen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Can you put sex on the calendar? | 03 oct. 2025 | 00:37:12 | |
Please don't listen with your kids. Our case for scheduling sex. When life gets full—kids, work, ministry, and the endless to-do list—intimacy is often the first thing to slip through the cracks. We’re told sex should always be spontaneous, but in real marriages that can leave couples disconnected and frustrated. In this episode, we talk honestly about scheduling sex—why it isn’t cold or unromantic, but actually a powerful way to prioritize each other. We’ll unpack the myths around spontaneity, share how intentional rhythms can actually increase desire and connection, and give you practical tools for creating space for intimacy without guilt, pressure, or shame. If you’ve ever felt like the busyness of life is crowding out closeness, this conversation will help you reframe intimacy as something worth planning for—because a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When teasing turns toxic: scoffs & sarcasm- the slow drip of contempt | 26 sept. 2025 | 00:28:18 | |
We all scoff. We all slip into sarcasm. But what if those “little” habits aren’t as harmless as they seem? Research from the Gottman Institute shows that contempt — often disguised as casual teasing — is the single strongest predictor of death to connection (aka: divorce) Scoffing, sarcasm, and eye-rolling may feel small in the moment, but they send powerful messages of superiority, dismissal, and disrespect. In this episode, we unpack how these micro-habits of contempt impact the brain, erode safety, and poison connection in marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples of how scoffing and sarcasm sneak into everyday conversations, what’s really hiding underneath those jabs (hint: it’s often unspoken pain), and practical ways to replace contempt with curiosity and vulnerability. If you’ve ever said, “Oh, we’re just teasing,” this episode will help you see why even a few “drops of poison” can contaminate the well of your relationship — and how to choose a healthier, more life-giving way forward. We are giving you a 30 day Challenge: Weed out scoffing & sarcasm from your dialogue. See what a difference it makes. (Remember: don't use this challenge to start tallying how often your partner uses them- mind your half of the yard only :) A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Steps to Move From Rumination > to > Processing | 19 sept. 2025 | 00:45:27 | |
Last time we talked about ruminating vs. processing. This week, I’m walking you through the how—practical steps to move through pain even if the other person doesn’t respond well. Here’s the framework:
Looping keeps you stuck, but processing sets you free. Podcasts Referenced in this episode: A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Ruminating vs Processing | 11 sept. 2025 | 00:29:55 | |
Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. But there’s a thin line between naming our emotions and over-identifying with them. That’s where we slip into rumination—looping on the hurt, replaying the offense, and assigning meaning that keeps us stuck. In this episode, we explore the difference between processing your emotions and looping on them. We’ll look at how the brain responds when you over-identify with a painful feeling, why that keeps you in the spin cycle of stress, and how to shift toward processing in a way that actually heals and moves you forward. You’ll learn:
This episode is all about reclaiming the gift of emotion—without letting it hijack your peace. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Do's & Don'ts of Processing w/ Your Spouse | 29 août 2025 | 00:43:25 | |
In this episode of Marriage Lab, Erin and Jenna dive into the do’s and don’ts of processing with your spouse—how to share what’s on your heart in a way that invites care instead of conflict. From everyday recaps to high-stakes conversations, they unpack why intentionality matters, how to check for capacity, and why leading with emotions creates connection. Along the way, they share practical “dos” like focusing on feelings, clarifying expectations, and processing elsewhere first—and the “don’ts” that can derail intimacy, like dumping endless details, seeking commiseration, or winging it in painful moments. They also illustrate how hope, grace, and the Holy Spirit are essential for real transformation in communication and marriage. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Are you forgiving wrong? | 06 août 2025 | 00:42:49 | |
Think you’ve forgiven… but still feel stuck? You’re not alone. This episode will shift your view of forgiveness from a moment to a movement—one that actually sets you free. 👇 We’ll cover: This isn’t about excusing anyone. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack | 14 juil. 2025 | 00:31:13 | |
Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity. We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens: And then the spiral begins: 🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value. “Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.” If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Pain spoils into offense | 07 juil. 2025 | 00:40:36 | |
Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the moment pain hardens into judgment, and we start to feel powerful… while quietly becoming more closed off. In this episode, we unpack how offense feels like a defense mechanism—but actually keeps us stuck. You’ll learn how offense hijacks your brain’s ability to heal, why it loops like a highlight reel of your rightness, and what that reveals about identity, humility, and emotional maturity. You’ll hear real-life phrases that often sound self-protective (“I’m not mad, just done”) but are often signs of unchecked offense. You’ll also get a practical self-reflection tool to help you “spot the offense” and re-center on humility. Offense might feel like strength—but humility is where the healing begins. You’ll walk away with: A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Special Episode: Moved by Love: the secret to sharing Jesus | 30 juin 2025 | 01:09:57 | |
What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow? In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when it came to sharing Jesus. Spoiler: it wasn’t a strategy—it was being so connected to the Father’s heart that love naturally led the way. We talk about what surprised us, what challenged us, and how everyday evangelism becomes possible when we’re moved—not pressured—by love. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Passivity isn't a fruit of the spirit | 23 juin 2025 | 00:36:35 | |
What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection? In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marriages. We’ve seen it in our own relationship: moments when silence looked like patience, but it was actually fear. Times when we avoided conflict, convinced we were being kind or godly, but bitterness was the fruit. We explore:
3 self-reflection questions : 💭 Is there a situation where I told myself I was “loving” or “being patient”… but now I feel resentful, bitter, or shut down? 💭 Where am I avoiding action, conversation, or boundaries because I’m afraid of how someone will react? 💭 Am I hoping someone else will just “get it” or change, while I silently keep score or build a case in my head? A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Date Fail Debrief: Control Freak & Shut Down | 17 juin 2025 | 00:33:27 | |
What do you get when you mix a paddleboard, high expectations, and two humans with emotions? This was not our best date… but maybe it was one of our best recoveries. We went on a paddleboard date thinking it’d be relaxing and fun—but being stuck on the same board triggered us both in different ways. Instead of letting the day spiral, we each practiced managing our own emotions without blaming the other. It wasn’t a romantic home run, but it was a huge sign of growth. In this episode, we talk about how emotional flooding can happen even in fun moments—and how the real win is learning to stay connected while dysregulated. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered—it’s to grow in how you show up when you are. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| You, Me &… Nobody Else?- isolation in marriage | 30 mai 2025 | 00:28:52 | |
In this episode, we’re tackling a subtle but serious issue in marriage: isolation. What happens when your spouse becomes your only source of connection? We talk about:
If you’ve been feeling disconnected or overly dependent on your spouse for all of your emotional or spiritual needs, this episode is your invitation to make a gentle, healthy change. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| 16 Questions for your next date night | 22 mai 2025 | 00:34:07 | |
🎉 It’s our 16th anniversary, and apparently our marriage is now old enough to get its driver’s license. 😅 But let’s be real— So we decided to change that. 💬 In this episode, we:
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| Slow Miracles | 13 mai 2025 | 00:29:14 | |
Not all breakthroughs come in a flash. In this episode, we talk about the kind of transformation that happens slowly—over months or even years. The kind you don’t always see until you look back and realize, we’re not where we used to be. We fully believe in sudden miracles. We’ve seen God move in dramatic ways. If you’re in a season where growth feels slow or invisible, this one’s for you. You might be in the middle of a miracle—you just haven’t seen the fruit yet. Call to Action: And if you’re walking through a slow season in your marriage, check out our coaching options at zintsquad.com—we’d love to support you. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Welcome back, now what? | 24 avr. 2025 | 00:32:46 | |
In this episode, we talk about the often-overlooked rhythm of re-entry—what it looks like when one spouse returns from a trip and the home dynamic shifts again. We share how we’ve learned to treat that adjustment period with extra care, tweak our habits, and give each other grace instead of expecting a seamless snap-back to normal.
You just might walk away with a few new habits to try next time one of you heads out on a solo trip. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Avoiding Birthday Blues & Blowouts | 16 mars 2025 | 00:36:01 | |
Birthdays—love them or dread them, they can be a surprisingly tense topic in marriage. 🎂 From unspoken expectations to last-minute letdowns, these special days often carry more emotional weight than we realize. In this episode, we’re diving into the highs and lows of celebrating birthdays with your spouse, sharing our own birthday wins and major misses over the years. You’ll hear about: If birthdays have ever felt like a minefield in your marriage, this episode is for you! Plus, we share some funny personal stories—including the time Aaron got Christmas-colored storage bins for Jenna as a birthday gift. 😬 Listen in and learn how to make birthdays a joy instead of a battle! A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| You're Blocking Your Own Connection (Without Even Realizing It) | 09 mars 2025 | 00:29:58 | |
In this episode, we’re tackling the hidden ways we sabotage our own connection in marriage—especially when we expect our spouse to read our minds. No matter what it is, waiting for them to magically meet our unspoken needs is a passive approach that creates distance instead of intimacy. We’ll explore why taking the risk to express what we truly need leads to deeper belonging, even when it feels vulnerable. Join us as we break down how to move past the fear of rejection and start building the connection you actually want. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Internal vs External Processing Styles | 16 févr. 2025 | 00:37:38 | |
In this episode, we talk about our respective styles of processing how we are feeling. Aaron is an external processor, needing to externalize what's he's feeling in order to understand it. Jenna is an internal processor, needing time to internally mull over what she's feeling in order to understand it. These two different styles can make conflict unnecessarily difficult unless you know how to work with them. We'll share the growth paths for each to avoid the common pitfalls in relationship. Links from episode: That's What She Said Tool Episode A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Compassion Cup vs. The Identity Cup: A Marriage Game-Changer | 07 févr. 2025 | 00:30:50 | |
In this episode, we continue our conversation about changing how we show up in conflict by focusing on the choice we have in how we respond to our spouse’s pain. When your spouse shares hurt, are you holding out your compassion cup, or are you holding out your identity cup? We explore how defensiveness often signals that we’re interpreting their pain through the lens of our own identity and fears, rather than listening with genuine compassion. The truth is, we can only find our identity in God, not in how our spouse’s emotions reflect on us. Tune in as we discuss how to let go of defensiveness, embrace vulnerability, and choose compassion in the midst of conflict to build a stronger, more loving connection. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Ditch the "Courtroom" tactics in conflict | 25 janv. 2025 | 00:38:19 | |
Most people use Courtroom tactic when in conflict in their marriage or in other relationships. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| What to do when your spouse is triggered | 14 janv. 2025 | 00:31:26 | |
This episode is the third in a series on being triggered. So what do we do when our spouse is triggered? Well, we certainly don't tell them they're triggered. That never helps. Instead we get to offer our own peace and calm as we approach them with curiosity and compassion. And when we know we won't have that available to give, we use the "pause" that we would've agreed to back when we were both in a regulated state. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Four Typical Triggered Responses | 30 déc. 2024 | 00:49:08 | |
Following up the last episode titled, "The Science of 'Triggered'", we talk about what the four most common triggered responses are (Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn), what they look like in action and ultimately what growth and healing looks like A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Science of "Triggered" | 27 déc. 2024 | 00:46:52 | |
"Triggered" has become a buzzword in our culture in recent and it's been commonly used to describe an experience for which someone else is responsible and therefore someone else's responsibility to manage. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| What You Feed Grows: how our small choices are creating big spiritual transformation | 18 déc. 2024 | 00:45:14 | |
In this episode we talk about how our connection with Jesus has grown and been shaped over the past year through small, consistent action. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Scientist vs Judge: Curiosity over Contempt | 03 déc. 2024 | 00:59:49 | |
In this episode we talk about one of the central tenets to experiencing life-long sustainable change both within yourself and within your relationships: learning to engage your inner scientist instead of your judge. The judge is your inner critic focusing on the results, casting judgement and contempt towards who you are based on your behavior. The scientist is your inner curiosity focusing on the variables, looking for creative solutions for the underlying reasons behind your behavior. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Peaceful holiday plans for couples with different opinions | 25 nov. 2024 | 00:25:27 | |
In this episode we talk over how we intentionally plan for a peaceful holiday season when you both have different ideas about what that means. If you would like an assist in your planning grab a copy of Jenna's Peaceful Christmas Planner ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Logic Turns to Emotion | 12 nov. 2024 | 00:26:48 | |
In this episode we discuss how often our logical conversations can turn into emotional ones and what to do when that happens. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Best Way to be Heard by Your Spouse | 04 nov. 2024 | 00:46:23 | |
In this episode, we dive deep into the art of sharing pain with vulnerability and compassion. We also address the common challenge of feeling a deficit after sharing and how to turn to the Lord to fill those emotional gaps. This episode is packed with practical exercises and guidance to help you speak your pain effectively while maintaining love and connection in your relationship. Tune in for powerful strategies that can transform how you and your spouse communicate during difficult moments. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Successful Order of Navigating Conflict | 28 oct. 2024 | 00:36:44 | |
How many times has conflict in your marriage led to a huge blow up? One person starts off by trying to share their heart and an hour later you're both left with more hurt than where it started? There's a reason this happens. Most of the time it can be found when the order of operation is broken. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Connection for Empty Nesters | 21 oct. 2024 | 00:50:28 | |
In this episode, we interview Jill & Mitch Martin who’ve been empty nesters for the past 7 years and what connection has looked like for them before and after their kids left the house. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 2 | 07 oct. 2024 | 00:32:36 | |
In this episode we talk about the culture shifting power of apologies; offering them freely and frequently. This is different than fawning which is apologizing for anything and everything in an attempt to appease or placate. This also different than admitting guilt or wrongdoing. The kind of freely-given, frequent apologies we're talking about are those that begin with a recognition that my actions affect my spouse. And there are plenty of scenarios in a given day when I miss the mark. Not because I sinned or had ill-intent, but because I'm human. It's an exercise in radical ownership that my actions and words are powerful and even when they are pure-intentioned, they may affect someone in a way they weren't meant to. Offering frequent and freely-given apologies, nurtures empathy and tells your spouse, I care how I affect you. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 1 | 30 sept. 2024 | 00:40:44 | |
This episode shares one of the simplest and yet most profound keys to changing the culture in your marriage. Gratitude. Now hear us out! We will share how gratitude provides one of the greatest ROI's in relationships, how we will face internal resistance to it, what it looks like to create practical habits and real life stories of it at work in our marriage. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Change your marriage: what your spouse needs the most | 26 sept. 2024 | 00:36:16 | |
In this episode, Jenna and Aaron share the secret sauce to seeing change in your marriage. It's simpler than you think. Just more humbling. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Is your spouse pushing your buttons? Conflict & Boundaries in Action | 23 sept. 2024 | 00:43:49 | |
In this episode, Jenna and Aaron talk through a conflict they had that morning. This particular one was not a new dynamic in their relationship and had created disconnection many times before. However, this time they successfully paused in dysregulation, intentionally moved towards connection and set some boundaries.
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| Behind the Highlight Reel: not falling for comparison in social media | 16 sept. 2024 | 00:36:10 | |
In this episode we explore the pitfalls of comparing your spouse to others and the negative impact it can have on your relationship. This comparison can create feelings of judgment and inadequacy, leading to a decline in positive affection and increasing resentment. By idealizing other people's spouses, you set unrealistic expectations and can inadvertently foster a sense of longing or even lust for qualities that are not present in your partner. This pattern is dangerous for creating, healing or maintaining connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of focusing on the positive attributes of your spouse and being mindful of how comparisons can erode the foundation of your relationship. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Breaking Free from Passivity: Empowering Your Marriage with Intentional Action | 09 sept. 2024 | 00:35:36 | |
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| Reconnecting Through the Everyday: Small Habits, Big Impact | 02 sept. 2024 | 00:29:29 | |
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| Unmasking Defensiveness: Identify your protective patterns | 26 août 2024 | 00:47:00 | |
In this episode, we talk about our tells around defensiveness. What are the signs that we are becoming defensive as a listener, specifically when our spouse is sharing pain? Here are a few we identify within ourselves:
These are signs that our defenses our up and our ears and empathy is off. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Will my needs ever get met? w/ Jordan & Claire | 19 août 2024 | 01:02:30 | |
In this episode our good friends, Jordan and Claire, share with us how they each grew in the ability to care for each others needs despite the fear that their own would never get met. Jenna and I (Aaron), have done a number of Couples Coaching sessions with them in which we witnessed a masterful use of the communication tools in the midst of processing pain and feeling defensiveness. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Control in Marriage | 12 août 2024 | 00:46:09 | |
It's been both our experience of ourselves and of many other marriages that we've coached, that there is one spouse who has a propensity towards Control. We define "control" as one person's attempt at manipulating the outcome through managing another person's actions. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||