Explore every episode of the podcast Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever After

This week I share the fastest way I can tell whether a couple will make progress, and it has little to do with how messy the problems look. I break down the E.V.A framework, three ingredients that turn stuck fights into real intimacy: empathy, vulnerability, and accountability. 

• how repeating arguments form a painful loop of pursuit and shutdown 
• why “communicate better” advice fails without the right emotional foundation 
• what empathy actually sounds like and why it is not agreement 
• how to find the softer truth under anger, sarcasm, and criticism 
• why “underneath complaints are always requests” changes everything 
• how accountability ends defensiveness and scorekeeping 
• three self-check questions to review your last argument 
• a simple weekly challenge: pick one E.V.A skill and practice it 

If this conversation encouraged you, would you do me a favor and share it with someone you love? Your spouse, a friend, or another couple who could use a little hope today.

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I'm kicking off Season 6 by turning Instagram comments and real marriage questions into deeper conversations about what actually builds a strong relationship. I'm sharing what Ben and I have learned about disagreement, repair, fun, trust, and why an extraordinary marriage doesn’t require perfection. 

• the Season 6 format shift from reels to long-form depth 
• why “You complete me” can create unhealthy expectations 
• how to disagree without destroying safety 
• patterns I see in coaching like resentment disguised as sex issues 
• choosing accountability and curiosity over fixing your spouse 
• bringing back flirting, play, attraction and sex 
• facing betrayal, broken trust, loneliness and emotional shutdown with real skills 

If this conversation encouraged you, would you do me a favor and share it with someone you love? Your spouse, a friend, or another couple who could use a little love today. 

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In this interview with Katie Runyan of Faithful Fling, we explore how faithful love gets hotter when you add playful novelty. Katie shows how role play dates can break roommate syndrome, wake up the erotic mind, and turn ordinary nights into lasting memories.

• safety and novelty as twin needs for desire
• Katie’s origin story and the first costume
• awkwardness as fuel for laughter and bonding
• tapping the erotic mind with small cues
• how to invite your partner to try it
• preventing unmet expectations with separate guides
• pursuer role swaps and first‑date butterflies
• simple follow‑ups that create inside jokes
• fringe dates for couples who prefer “themselves”
• building a cadence for pattern interrupts

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You know those moments when your heart is pulsing, your palms are sweaty, and your thoughts are racing a hundred miles a minute? That's emotion at its rawest and most powerful, and today, we're turning the tables on how we view these intense feelings. Instead of seeing them as destructive forces, we're chatting with life coach Jill Freestone about how to harness these big emotions to strengthen family bonds and deepen our relationships. 

Jill helps us explore the concept of emotional safety in our relationships - that crucial foundation that enables true vulnerability and connection. She shares a poignant family example, shedding light on how unchecked emotions can lead to a disconnect. We talk about strategies for establishing emotional safety, from learning to communicate effectively to being fully present for intimate conversations. We also discuss self-regulation, and how managing our own emotional states can create a nurturing environment for connection.

Jill addresses how to teach emotional intelligence to kids and manage big emotions in teenagers. She shares insightful tips on creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings and demonstrates how to effectively self-regulate. We also touch upon the controversial topic of screen time and its impact on emotions and parent-child communication. 

Wrapping up, we dive into practical advice from Jill on managing big emotions and their resultant behavior changes. It's a great episode that's going to change how you relate to your emotions, making them your allies rather than adversaries.

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Picture this. You’re in your 40s, married to the love of your life, and one day you decide to help an orphanage in Kenya. This is where we find our guests, Celeste and Don Mergens, founders of Days for Girls, a global award-winning organization championing women's health and menstrual equity. But how does one go from charity work in Africa to transforming lives in over 145 countries? This episode is all about that journey, their 40-year long marriage, and how the two are intertwined.

Have you ever wondered how long-lasting relationships survive the test of time? Hear Celeste and Don's heartwarming love story as they share glimpses of their vibrant life together, full of surprises, acts of kindness, and a shared mission that fuels their bond. The Mergens' secret? A shared faith and commitment to their mission. Their inspiring journey resonates with the essence of a successful partnership, often likened to a team sport that requires risk, reward, and mutual understanding.

Join us as we travel through Celeste's challenging yet triumphant voyages which led to the creation of Days for Girls. From creating washable pads in just three weeks to their unexpected expansion to India and beyond. The Power of Days, Celeste's new book, encapsulates their mission and the thrilling adventure. Not only will you be moved by the Mergens' beautiful story of love and resilience, but you'll also learn how you can get involved with Days for Girls and contribute to creating a positive global impact. 

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Are you ready to unlock the power of sexual intimacy to bond you together?

This episode is filled with personal stories, hard-learned lessons, and practical advice drawn from my own experiences. Discover how vulnerability can actually be the most authentic expression of love and connection. We'll also discuss how practicing sexual intimacy can have a profound ripple effect, blessing your children and family for generations to come.

Being tired should never be an excuse to put off intimacy! I'm challenging this mindset and emphasizing the need to make time for your relationship, even when exhaustion hits.  As a gift for listening to this episode, I'm offering you a FREE download called 13 Alternate Times to Make Love When You're Not Exhausted Right Before Bed --> https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/13timestoconnect

If your connection isn't as strong as you'd like it to be, don't procrastinate seeking help any longer. Find ways to work with me at: https://monicatanner.com.

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What if in just a few days time, you could unlock the power of intimacy and connection in your marriage?

In this week's episode, I'm thrilled to have Tony and Alisa DeLorenzo from ONE Extraordinary Marriage, sharing their wisdom and experiences. They've spent over a decade running a podcast, learning invaluable lessons, and using those insights to save their marriage and thousands of others from the brink of divorce. We're discussing their six pillars of intimacy and how these can serve as a roadmap for couples looking to refocus, take action, and experience success in their relationships.

We're also talking about our newest project - the Unlock the Power of Intimacy Summit. We're bringing together an incredible group of experts, each with a unique skill set and a shared passion for enriching marriages. This summit is designed to equip couples with knowledge and action steps to foster stronger, more intimate relationships.  Join us on this journey, and let's create a marriage manual that will transform your relationship into something truly extraordinary!

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Are you ready to unlock the secrets of a fulfilling marriage? Do you want to experience the kind of intimacy that brings joy, connection, and passion into all your relationships? My own journey towards building this intimacy was filled with challenges, hard times, and mistakes. Yet, with understanding, commitment, effort, resilience, and stamina, I discovered the essence of a truly intimate relationship.

In this episode, I'm talking about some of my personal breakthrough moments and the secret project I promised to share with you this week! Are you ready your own breakthrough moment?

Drumroll, please.... it's called the Unlock the Power of Intimacy Summit, where I called 30+ of my favorite authors, speakers, coaches and therapists to collaborate on an incredible event for the purpose of strengthening marriages intimately.

Prepare to be swept off your feet as we share our personal experiences, valuable insights, and help you create your very own, personalized marriage manual. Check out the full line-up of speakers at:  https://powerofintimacysummit.com.

Let's embark on this journey towards happily ever after together.

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In today's episode, we explore communication, understanding your partner, and fostering mutual spiritual, physical, sexual, and recreational intimacy. It's not just about theory, but it's packed with practical steps including incoorporating daily connections into your routine and the secrets behind creating memorable date nights. Imagine dedicating just 20 minutes per day and three hours each week to yield a deeper connection with your partner. 

I've also create and cheat sheet with 51 insightful questions to help you explore your partner's inner world.  You can download this resource here --> https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/51questions

With this episode, you'll walk away with a toolkit to supercharge the emotional intimacy your marriage, which leads to increasing all the other types of intimacy. Don't miss this opportunity to enrich your relationship.

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Ever wondered about the secret weapon for a long-lasting, fulfilling marriage? It's simpler than you think, yet, powerful enough to transform your relationship. In this  episode, I will guide you through a revolutionary approach to cultivate deep connection and intimacy in your marriage. Let's unravel the natural progression of a marriage, from the all-consuming initial attraction to the mundane reality of everyday life.

Together, we'll delve into the 'magnetic marriage blueprint' and the three transformative laws that shape it. Join me to learn how you can rewrite the narrative of your marriage, and see your spouse through a brand-new lens of love and appreciation. No magic potions, no impossible demands - just the power of thought and the beauty of love. It's time to transform your marriage into an intimate, magnetic partnership.

Husbands, if you are ready for more attention, affection and appreciation from your number one fan, be sure to join me for the Offensive Playbook Challenge by clicking this link --> https://offensiveplaybookchallenge.com

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This week, I'm joined by Mike Frazier from the Stronger Men, Stronger Marriages podcast to talk about how to woo your wife, going beyond the physical and diving deep into the emotional and mental.

We tear apart the popular concept of "Happy Wife, Happy Life," and bring you a fresh, healthier outlook. You can be an attractive man to your wife, not only by helping her "close down the tabs" of her day but also by fostering trust, empathy, and understanding. We also discuss how celebrating your successes together can nurture intimacy and connection, transforming your relationship into a more meaningful bond.

For all those high-achieving Christian men out there, we've got some golden nuggets for you. We share how to take your relationship to the next level with a love-focused mindset, going beyond the physical aspects of a relationship and investing in the emotional and mental facets. Finally, we unfold the essence of creating a "happily ever after" marriage, stressing the importance of service, appreciation, and a mindset of admiration and trust. Get ready to make your relationship soar with all you're going to learn in this episode.

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Are you ready to revolutionize your approach to parenting?

This week, I'm sitting down with Sapna Rad to unpack the secrets of conscious parenting. We delve into how to maintain a strong connection with your children amidst the busyness of life, and the transformative shift from 'yelling' to 'zenning'.

Sapna offers a wealth of insight into understanding the nuances between conscious and controlling parenting and shares practical advice on navigating the early stages of parenthood as well as connecting with teenagers.

Sapna shares stories about her own parenting journey, reminding us that expertise does not mean perfection. She leans into the comforting truth that the real value lies in having the right tools and strategies.

We discuss conscious parenting and how to effectively work with your partner to acheive it. Sapna's expertise also shines a light on how fostering strong bonds with our children can enrich the parenting experience. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking to deepen their relationship with their children through conscious parenting.

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What if the secret to giving your children a brighter future was hidden in your marriage? This week, I'm excited to share my insights on the profound impact a healthy marriage can have on your children's life. Kids who grow up in intact homes are more likely to graduate high school, enroll in college, and secure consistent employment.

They're also less prone to risky behaviors like substance misuse and premature sexual activity. Let me guide you on how to create a loving environment that models positive conflict resolution, respectful communication, and prioritizing your significant other.

Imagine what could happen when you set aside sacred time for your spouse, when you make daily connections, and plan weekly date nights. How might these actions shift the dynamics within your family, teaching your kids valuable lessons about love, respect, and communication? 

I share practical strategies to help you make these changes, encourage you to spread the message that 'happily ever after' is possible and not just a fairy-tale. And remember, it's not just about your happiness. It's about laying a solid foundation for your children so they can create their own healthy relationships. 

Visit my website to learn how we can work together further, and be sure to join me next week for more!

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In this interview with Jessa Zimmerman, we reframe desire discrepancy as normal, not a defect, and show how couples can move from pressure to play with clear tools, language, and empathy. She explains proactive vs reactive desire, why “no” should be celebrated, and how to build a buffet of intimate options.

• normalising libido differences across long-term relationships
• shifting control dynamics away from pressure and blame
• identifying health, stress, and relational obstacles to desire
• understanding proactive and reactive desire patterns
• starting with higher desire partner’s mindset and behaviours
• redefining sex as shared pleasure over goal-driven outcomes
• using the playground metaphor and “maybe” starts
• broadening options between all and nothing
• handling disappointment without punishment or withdrawal
• practicing self-validation to reduce validation seeking
• creating a safe container for exploration and communication
• restoring hope through shared responsibility and small wins

You can go to www.intimacywithease.com for free resources, guides for higher and lower desire partners, and details on courses and therapy availability

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Are you drownding in the chaotic whirlwind of school supplies and extracurricular activities, and yearning for some quality time with your spouse? In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practical strategies to help you prioritize your relationship and keep that spark alive amidst the chaos. From planning regular date nights, figuring out finances together, to ensuring you always make time for each other, you'll get an insider's glimpse into my own marriage, as I recount a candid conversation with my husband that shed light on the magic of open and honest communication.

But that's not all! We also delve into the importance of setting intentions for maintaining connection and upholding happiness throughout the school year. I introduce a novel concept of establishing code words with your partner to quickly express how you're feeling after a draining day. This episode is sure to equip you with all the tools you need to balance family life and marital bliss during this busy season. And if you're eager for more, join our free Wise Wife and Hero Husband challenges and learn the secrets of getting everything you want and need out of your relationship. Learn the simple tactics you need to maintain passion and understanding, even during the busiest of times!

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Ever wondered about the secrets your body holds during perimenopause? How this stage of life affects not just your physical health, but also your relationships? Join us as we unravel these mysteries with Bria Gadd - a personal trainer, holistic health coach and integrative nutritionist with a special expertise in female hormones. Bria guides us through the facts and myths surrounding perimenopause and menopause, highlighting the critical transitions occurring during this period in a woman's life. She emphasizes the importance of understanding this stage, as it affects 40 million women worldwide, half of whom don't understand the distinctions between perimenopause and menopause.

We break down myths like menopause being caused by estrogen deficiency while discussing the role of progesterone. We also focus on the body's need for more energy during certain periods, how this affects metabolism, and how low-impact movement can contribute to our overall wellbeing during this time. We then shift our attention to how cortisol and inflammation factor into our physical health, the significance of age and lifestyle habits, and how we can better handle and understand these changes.

Finally,  we discuss the four pillars of health: sleep & rest, nutrition & fuel, movement & exercise, and pleasure. These pillars not only form the foundation of our health but also strengthen our relationships. Bria shares valuable insights into why some women struggle more than others during perimenopause and how we can ensure we are not one of them.

Wrapping up the episode, Bria leaves us with resources and advice for women and partners to smoothly navigate this challenging, yet rewarding time in life.

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In this quick episode, I'm updating you on why there haven't been any new episodes published in July and giving you some fun, new and exciting announcements of what I have been working on in the meantime. I can't wait for you to hear them!

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In this enlightening episode, we delve deep into the world of epigenetics and family systems, exploring the profound impact of early mother-child relationships on our adult interactions. Our guest, Johanna Lynn, a leading expert in the field, discusses the profound influence that the initial five years of life have on how we show up in our relationships later on.

We examine how our early attachment patterns create a blueprint for our future relationships, dictating our communication style, emotional responses, and even our capability for intimacy. But more importantly, we explore the empowering concept that these patterns, while deeply ingrained, are not cast in stone.

This episode offers insights into recognizing these early imprints and how they manifest in our adult relationships. Through thoughtful reflection and conscious effort, we discuss strategies to break negative cycles of interaction and redefine our relationship dynamics. I get personal about how I reshaped my relational blueprint in my own marriage.

So whether you're caught in a spiral of frustrating relationship patterns, curious about the science behind your emotional bonds, or are simply looking to understand yourself and your relationships better - this episode is a must-listen. Embark on this journey with us to unravel the threads of your past and weave the tapestry of your future relationships. Don't miss this chance to reshape your relational world and navigate towards your version of "happily ever after."

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In this week's episode, I'm diving into:

• The common pain points in marriages like lack of quality time, communication gaps, declining passion, and more, drawn from the couples I work with.
• The often overlooked importance and transformative power of wedding anniversaries. It's more than a date; it's a celebration of your journey together.
• The benefits of planning for your anniversary as a team. This process improves communication, decision-making, and negotiation skills, strengthening your bond.
• A range of budget-friendly, creative ways to celebrate your anniversary, from walking down memory lane, stargazing, learning new hobbies together, to surprising each other.

Tune in to discover how anniversaries can reignite your love, foster appreciation, and breathe fresh life into your relationship. Join us and let's turn your anniversaries into a day to fall in love all over again.

Check out the Passionate Marriage Club, where you'll learn new relationship skills each month and get creative date ideas to practice what you are learning.  Go to:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/pmclub

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In this episode, I'm diving into the issues couples often face when they find themselves just going through the motions in their relationship. I'm giving you 4 tips to help you reignite that spark and feel truly connected with your partner again.

1. Rekindling the Spark: Breaking Out of Relationship Complacency - I talk about how to escape the rut of routine and bring back excitement and novelty in your relationship. Learn practical ways to inject surprise and change into your daily life together.

2. Rediscovering Your Partner: Nurturing Deeper Connection in Your Busy Lives - I explain how to continually learn about your partner as you both grow and evolve. I'll give you strategies for meaningful conversations that go beyond the surface level, fostering a deeper connection.

3. From Roommates to Soulmates: Overcoming Routine in Marriage - Learn how to create shared experiences that bring you closer together. Discover the importance of both physical and emotional intimacy and how to nurture these in your relationship.

4. Balancing Act: Managing Stress and Maintaining Connection in Your Marriage - I discuss how to navigate stress in a way that doesn't disconnect you from your partner. Get tips on shared relaxation and how to intentionally focus on each other even amidst life's pressures.

As a bonus, I'm extending an invitation to my upcoming 5-Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge. This challenge is designed to put these principles into practice and rekindle the flame in your relationship. It's the perfect next step after this insightful episode!

Join me as we dive into these topics and provide actionable steps that you can take today to start breaking free from complacency in your marriage. Don't just go through the motions - it's time for a love reboot! Listen now!

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In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the complex world of emotions with our esteemed guests, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill. They are renowned experts in relationship dynamics and bring years of insight and experience to our conversation.

In this week's interview, we talk about:

Understanding Big Emotions: We kick off our conversation by discussing the nature of 'big' emotions. What are they? How do they shape our perceptions and interactions? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis provide their expert insights into how understanding our emotional responses can pave the way for healthier relationships.

Emotional Safety in Relationships: The Hills shed light on the concept of emotional safety. We explore the pivotal role it plays in fostering trust and deepening connections in our relationships.

Sexual Safety and Its Importance: In a candid discussion, we address the often overlooked aspect of sexual safety. We delve into how emotional wellbeing influences our sexual relationships and vice versa.

Practical Tips and Strategies: The Hills share actionable tips on managing our emotions and creating a safe space for emotional and sexual expression in our relationships.

Join us for this episode of understanding and managing our big emotions, and learn how to create an atmosphere of emotional and sexual safety in your relationship.

Don't forget to register for the FREE 5-Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge through this link:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/syschallenge

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In this special birthday episode, I share personal strategies that have helped me sustain the spark in my marriage. Here's a breakdown of the five tricks that we explore in this episode:

1. Think Positive Thoughts: Start your day on a positive note. It sets the tone for the rest of your day and impacts how you interact with your spouse.

2. Focus on Your Response: Often, we burden ourselves with expectations of how others should act. Let's flip that. Focus on your reaction and response to them instead. This gives you the control and can dramatically improve your relationship dynamics.

3. Flirt and Date Your Spouse: Keep the flame alive! Treat your relationship with the importance it deserves. Remember, it's not just about living together, it's about loving together too.

4. Show Gratitude Everyday: Never underestimate the power of 'thank you.' Small gestures of appreciation can help keep resentment at bay and foster a deeper bond with your spouse.

5. Mix It Up: Add a little zest to your daily routines. Unpredictability can keep things exciting and break the monotony. Remember, the joy is in the journey, not just the destination.

I hope you find these tips useful. Here's to less 'meh' and more 'marvelous' in your marriage!

If you would like to give me a very special birthday gift this year, please leave a rating review of the show on your favorite listening platform. You can also forward this episode to a friend you think would like it.

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In this week's episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Suzette Halterman, a relationship expert known for her insightful approach to navigating differences in relationships. We dive deep into the complexities of differing values and viewpoints and how these can be managed in a way that not only maintains but deepens the connection in a relationship.

Suzette brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the conversation, providing actionable strategies for couples to navigate this often tricky terrain. She addresses how to approach these differences respectfully and constructively, reminding us that differing perspectives are not roadblocks, but rather opportunities for growth and understanding.

From understanding the importance of open communication and empathy, to acknowledging our unique backgrounds and experiences, Suzette shares an empowering message of unity in diversity. Whether you're experiencing these challenges in your relationship, or simply wish to fortify your connection against potential future differences, this episode offers invaluable insights for all couples.

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One of the most important facets of building a healthy, satisfying sexual relationship in your marriage is recognizing the importance of personal sexual development. This concept can sometimes be overlooked or misunderstood, but it's vital to the long-term success of intimacy in your relationship.

Taking responsibility for your own sexual development involves understanding your body, your sexual responses, your desires, your boundaries, and your attitudes towards sex. It's about self-discovery and personal growth, which then translates into a more enriched and satisfying shared experience with your partner.

In this episode, I'm talking about why it's so important to take responsibility for your own sexuality and how you can start doing this no matter where you are starting from.

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In this week's episode, I'm talking about how to keep sex and connection from turning into a pressure-filled project by bringing back laughter, flirting, and lightness. I share why playfulness builds emotional safety and give three simple ways to create more “luck” in your love life. 

• how seriousness turns intimacy into pressure 
• why laughter signals safety and reconnects couples 
• shifting from obligation to anticipation with small playful moments 
• the lap dance story and why imperfection can spark desire 
• three practical tools: flirt more, revive inside jokes, do something silly together 

You can download the Get Lucky Guide by going to https://monicatanner.com/getlucky. 

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In this episode, we take a deep dive into the Passionate Marriage Club, a one-of-a-kind membership for couples who are ready to elevate their relationship to new heights. 🚀💞

We discuss who this club is perfect for (hint: it might be you!), and why investing time, energy, and resources in your marriage is not just important, but absolutely essential for a thriving, long-lasting relationship. 💏🌟

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This is a very special and vulnerable episode, where I open up about 5 of the most important lessons I've learned in 21 years of marriage to my best friend. It's been a crazy and wonderful ride and we keep learning and growing and it just keeps getting better with time. I'm grateful for every moment, even the hard ones.

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In this enlightening and candid episode, I sit down with Tammy Hill, an Adjunct Faculty member at BYU, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Noted Speaker, Author, and mother of 12 in a blended family with her husband Jeff. Tammy shares groundbreaking insights from her new book, "Replenish: Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage, A Guide for LDS Couples."

Join us as we explore the essential ingredients for a satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship within marriage, discuss the challenges faced by couples in creating this, and uncover practical advice for nurturing intimacy and connection. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from Tammy's vast experience and expertise to help you build a stronger and more passionate bond with your spouse.

Find Tammy's book on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Replenish-Creating-Sexual-Fulfillment-Marriage/dp/1611661781/ref

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In this episode, we delve into the wonderful world of kissing and explore its remarkable benefits for couples in long-term relationships. We all know that passionate and intimate kisses can sometimes fade as daily routines take over, but we're here to remind you just how important kissing is for maintaining a strong and vibrant connection with your partner.

Here's a sneak peek of what you can expect:

• Discover the science behind the feel-good chemicals released during kissing and learn how they can strengthen the bond between you and your partner.
• Uncover the psychological impact of kissing on our sense of self and well-being.
• Gain insights  on reigniting the passion in your kisses and maintaining a loving connection in your long-term relationship.
• Learn some creative and fun ways to keep the sparks flying with different kinds of kisses you can enjoy together!

So, whether you've been with your partner for two days or two decades, this episode is packed with valuable information to help you unlock the secrets to a more passionate and connected relationship.

Attention husbands who want more attention, affection and appreciation from their wife and are ready to be the HERO of their family, check out the Become the Hero Husband Challenge HERE: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/herohusbandchallenge.

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On today's episode, I'm chatting with Katie Runyan, wife of 24 years, mother of 4 grown children and creator of Faithful Flings, a role playing service for married couples.  We talk about what role playing is, why it's important to bring novelty to the bedroom, how to approach this topic with your spouse, how to get into character and how Faithful Fling started.

Katie wants everyone to have an explorative, vibrant, fun and passion filled sex life!  She thinks that role-playing with your spouse can be just what you need to have a connecting and pleasurable experience together!!  

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This week's episode is all about talking about your sexual relationship and how to ask for what you want, need and prefer. I'm giving you 5 tips to open the conversation and keep it ongoing so you can collaborate, cooperate and create a sex life that both of you enjoy.

If you would like help with this, be sure to book a complimentary relationship breakthrough call with me while I still have slots available. You can do that through this link:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply

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In this week's episode, I'm sharing 2 very important ways to increase the intimacy level in your marriage immediately. After examining the results of thousands of intimacy quizzes, I was surprised and delighted by the findings and the questions you have asked about how to increase your intimacy level.

If you haven't taken this 3-minute quiz yet to find out the intimacy level in your marriage, you can do that HERE.

These 2 tricks are simple and will give you incredible results. And, if you want to see these tricks in action, rent Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere for date night this weekend.

Learn more about my 12-week program, Training in the Art of Connection where you will get all of the cheat codes to create an intimate friendship and a bulletproof marriage at.  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/gettrained

Get all the details for our 2-day, in-person Gottman workship in Salt Lake City, Utah HERE.

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In this episode, I'm talking with my good friend, Nate Bagley. Nate has been a marriage researcher for over a decade. He talks about the challenges he's been facing in his own marriage and how the training he has recieved and taught over the years has really helped him navigate these challenges.

Nate shares his favorite researchers including Dr. David Schnarch and Dr. John Gottman. We have both been trained in Dr. Gottman's 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work and have decided to host a workshop for couples who want to learn how this groundbreaking marriage research can help them develop the skillsets to deepen their intimacy and trust and create a truly meaningful connection.

You can get all of the details about our upcoming workshop on March 31st and April 1st in Salt Lake City, Utah by clicking on this link:  https://www.eventbrite.com/e/seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work-tickets-571932554667

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In this episode I'm walking you step-by-step through how to create a weekly date night ritual that will increase your intimate connection and why this is crucial to creating your happily ever after love story.

I've heard all the reasons why couples don't prioritize date night or let weeks go by without going out together, but after listening to these 10 tips, you won't have any more excuses. This is a must-listen if you want to reignite the spark in your relationship.

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In this week's episode, we're talking about seduction. There are a ton of benefits to seducing your spouse and keeping your marriage hot and spicey, and we're going over why it's so important.

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This week I explore why desire differences are normal, how pressure shuts things down, and how pursuit and emotional safety rebuild connection. I share the Yes And method, practical scripts, and a simple weekly check-in to help couples design intimacy that works for both of them.

• naming the rejection–pressure cycle
• spontaneous desire vs responsive desire
• why pressure kills desire and pursuit builds it
• safety, choice, and autonomy as turn-ons
• the Yes And method for intimacy talks
• sample pursuit phrases and script swaps
• a 20-minute weekly intimacy check-in
• using green-light lists to set context

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Are you ready to go from being stuck and complacent to courageous and capable of creating a business offering you the time and financial freedom you never dreamed possible? I’m excited to introduce you to Amy Porterfield, host of top-rated podcast, Online Marketing Made Easy, and a 9-to-5 escapee who built an 8-figure online business on her terms.

In this week's episode, I'm sitting down with Amy Porterfield and her husband, Hobie to talk all about how they used entrepreneurship to create the 'good life' together after Amy exited her corporate 9-5 job. We discuss:

                     -How and why Amy left her cushy, corporate job

                     -How Hobie supported her dreams to start her own business and write the book

                     -Rituals that keep them connected even in the busy seasons

                     -And, their BEST advice for aspiring entrepreneurs and their spouse

Trust me, you do not want to miss this very special interview!

Amy's new book, Two Weeks Notice, releases February 21! Order now at www.twoweeksnoticebook.com

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This week's episode is borrowed from an interview I did with Authority Magazine about how to fall in love with your spouse again. We all go through seasons of marriage where we feel more or less connected to each other. Use these 5 tips to rekindle a love that has grown cold.

You can read the full article HERE or by searching Monica Tanner on Medium.com.

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In this week's episode, I'm talking about keeping commitments to yourself and how that simple practice improves all of your relationships. I give you 3 tips for forming healthy habits and suggest you join us for the 21-Day Lose Weight and Love Yourself Challenge. Experts say it takes 21 days to form a habit, so why not join us and let us encourage you to do just that.

Join the LadyBoss Lose Weight and Love Yourself Challenge here:  https://monicatanner.ladyboss.io/challenge

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This week's episode is designed to help you avoid the BIGGEST mistake I see couples make around Valentine's Day every single year. I'll tell you what the the mistake is and exactly how to avoid it, so you can enjoy a stress free Valentine's Day and get everything you want from your partner.

This episode is packed with resources to make Valentine's Day special this year and strengthen your relationship and deepen your intimacy in the process. I promise, you're going to love this one!

If you haven't confirmed your partner's primary love language in a while, check out my FREE Love Language Challenge Here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/lovelanguagechallenge

Check out the Offensive Playbook Challenge for Husbands and the Complete Intimacy Challenge for Wives, both 25% off until Valentine's Day. https://offensiveplaybookchallenge.com  or  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/14daychallenge

Give your Sweetheart the gift of your time and attention by committing to dating every single week and document your love story one date at a time with a Date Night Journal here:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/journal

Join the Sextimacy Challenge for fun intimacy building prompts and the opportunity to win great prizes by downloading the app here:  https://r.intimately.us/otbs

Join us for Training in the Art of Connection starting on Monday, February 13th. Get all the details here:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/gettrained

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In today's episode I'm revealing the truth of why so many couples are unhappy and the common misconception that is fueling this unhappiness. Make sure you tune in so you don't make this costly mistake in your marriage.

With Valentine's Day coming up, we're offering 25% off our 2 most popular challenges. Learn more here:

Offensive Playbook Challenge for Husbands:  https://offensiveplaybookchallenge.com

Complete Intimacy Challenge for Wives:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/14daychallenge

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In today's episode, we're celebrating National Hugging Day a little early. Did you know that there is tons of research showing the benefits of hugging on your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health? A simple 20 second hug each day has the power to transform your health and your relationship. Take my hugging challenge and see how you feel this time next week.

Join us for the Become the Hero Husband Challenge starting on Monday, January 23rd. Get all the details and register here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/husband-challenge.

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In today's episode, I'm talking with Jennifer and Christopher Vos about thier experience going through my 12 week program, Training in the Art of Connection (formerly known as Sexpionage). Chris and Jen have been married for 29 years and have 9 children. Jen works full-time for the school distict and Chris is an entrepreneur with a passion for relationship building.

Listen in to find out all about Training in the Art of Connection and the power of Return on Relationships, which is how Christopher and Jennifer have been able to turn their heros into their real-life friends. Christopher shares some touching stories at the end about how his business came to be and a relationship saved his life...literally.

If you are ready for more attention, affection and appreciation from your wife, make sure you join us starting January 23rd for my 5 Day Become the Hero Challenge. Register HERE: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/husband-challenge.

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This episode is based on an article published in Bestlife which featured a quote by me. I loved the article and thought it would be a great tool to use to prioritize our marriage this year. I go over the 7 things divorced people wish they had done differently when they were married as compiled by journalist, Lauren Jarvis-Gibson.

If you are interested in participating in a Gottman 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work Workshop lead by me, please reach out via email or social media and let me know, so I can schedule a workshop in your area.

Husbands who are ready for more attention, affection and appreciation from their wife, sign up for my 5 Day Become the Hero Husband Challenge. Register HERE: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/husband-challenge

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In this week's episode, I'm talking about the BEST gift you could ever give your children on this holiday or any other time of the year. That gift is a blueprint of a healthy, thriving marriage and a glimpse at your happily ever after.

I go over 4 ways you can give that gift to your children, your grandchildren and their children for generations. This episode is a step by step guide to creating that blueprint and a wonderful way to check the progress you are making as you strive to give your children the best possible chance for a happy, healthy relationship in the future.

If you are struggling with any of the concepts we talked about in this episode, please sign up for a complementary relationship breakthrough by going to https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/apply.

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In today's episode, I'm debunking the myth that sacrificing more of what you want will eventually bring you happiness. In fact, the opposite is true. If you keep sacrificing for the sake of your marriage or your family, you will just get resentful and that kills any chance you have of ever being happy.

If you want to know what to do when you have sacrificed too much and you feel resentful, be sure to register for the Ditch Decades of Resentment Webclass I'm hosting on Thursday, December 8th. Get all the details and sign up here: https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/resentmentwebclass.

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I'm kicking off a March series on “getting lucky” by showing why great intimacy isn’t luck at all. Real emotional safety and compassionate curiosity create the right context for desire to grow, and I'm giving you my Green Light Conversation tool to help you start.

• debunking the myth of effortless, spontaneous intimacy
• how stress, resentment, and distraction cool desire
• why desire needs safety and play to thrive
• what blocks safety: criticism, pressure, feeling unseen
• the rejection–pressure spiral between partners
• shifting from obligation to compassionate curiosity
• green light questions that build anticipation
• listening without fixing or defending
• emotional safety as real foreplay
• practical ways to reduce pressure and increase appreciation
• preview of desire discrepancy and upcoming interview

Go to https://monicatanner.com/getlucky to download the Get Lucky Guide

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In today's episode, I'm talking about how compromise is holding you back and destroying your intimacy and connection. Everytime you compromise, you are giving away a small piece of yourself or something that is important to you. Compromise doesn't honor you or your partner. Nobody wins and the result is resentment, the number one killer of all intimacy and connection.

So, what do we do instead of compromise when we are dealing with a disagreement or conflict? I'm teaching you what to do instead and exactly how to do it. Tune in for a step by step process where everyone wins.

Join us on Thursday, December 8th for a live webclass on Ditching Decades of Resentment and Get Busy Writing Your Happily Ever After. Register here:  https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/resentmentwebclass

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In today's episode, I'm talking about the power gratitude has to change the way we feel about another person. We don't even need to share our gratitude with that person in order to benefit from feeling it and looking for ways that person is blessing our life.

My favorite quote from this episode is to imagine if we could only have tomorrow the things we were grateful for today. That one sentament would forever change the way we thought about our blessings. I challenge you to think about all the ways in which your partner is blessing your life and share that list with them this Thanksgiving.

Check out my new YouTube channel for more great, FREE tips and trainings and interviews on how to improve the intimacy and connection in your marriage.  https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafter

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In today's episode, I'm sharing 3 ways you can make sure you have more pease and joy rather than stress and overwhelm this holiday season.

You can start by setting your intentions. Ask yourself how you really want to feel. Then planning with your spouse around traditions, budget and schedules ensures that you are both on the same page. Finally maintaining your regular routines and rythms such as working out and date nights will help ease the tention between you.

If you haven't already, you can save $500 by grabbing your tickets to the Valentine's Day Power Couple Retreat in McCall, Idaho by December 1st. Spots are filling up fast. https://secretsofhappilyeverafter.com/vdayretreat.

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